The Break Up Break Down: Recent Episodes
Abby Murphy
When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story....Abby is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it's even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing...especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We'll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way.
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After eight years, the least your boyfriend can do it break up with you properly. So why did this guy ditch his lady at a gas station for another woman seemingly out of nowhere? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(04:30): How they met
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(11:44): When she caught him
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(14:10): How did she know something was up before catching him?
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(17:24): Moving on
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(20:28): Advice
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(26:17): Teaser
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If your friends are telling you to hire a PI to look into your husband, chances are he's doing something shady. So why did this marriage officially end over a disagreement over having kids and not...something else? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.
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This week we're raising awareness for Genesis Women's Shelter in Dallas: https://www.genesisshelter.org/
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(04:26): How they met
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(11:12): The first signs something was wrong
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(15:13): Why she asked for a divorce
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(17:01): What she found out when looking for closure
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(26:24): Their secret engagement
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(24:24): Reflecting with the hindsight she has now
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(34:46): Reflecting on the relationship
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(37:05): Advice
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(47:40): Teaser
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When you feel like your partner is cheating on you, you usually have an idea as to who that person is, so how do you not feel crazy when you think they're stepping out on you...with their sibling? We'll find out when we break down this week's break up.
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This Week We're Raising Awareness for Hubbard House in Jacksonville, FL: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(04:43): How they met
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(08:12): Introduction of the biological family
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(10:53): Finding the photos in his phone
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(17:33): The final straw
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(25:32): Reporting the incest
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(28:44): Reflecting on the relationship
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(34:18): Healing from the relationship
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(39:05): Advice
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(41:25): Teaser
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[CONTENT WARNINGS: abuse, sexual assault]
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Thank you to Candice from The Christian Closet for coming on!: https://www.thechristiancloset.com/
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The BUBD Live Podcast Recording release has been postponed- will be available June 18th, 2024
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This week we're raising awareness for Friends of Yates in Kansas City: https://friendsofyates.org/FOY/?page_id=55
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(04:52): How they met
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(09:58): The first break up
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(12:01): When they got back together
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(15:53): The second break up
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(19:37): Their secret engagement
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(24:24): The end of their relationship
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(30:07): Why her friends were concerned about their relationship
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(34:46): Reflecting on the relationship
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(37:05): Advice
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(40:57): Teaser
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Saying we have a lot to unpack from S3E11 would be an understatement. Trauma therapist Katherine Ripley joins the podcast again to explain the difference between Intimate Partner Violence and Domestic Violence. She explains how to identify it and how to plain a safe exit strategy if you or someone you love finds yourself in an abusive relationship.
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Intro
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(00:27): Defining the difference between domestic violence and intimate partner violence.
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(04:18): Early signs that your partner may become abusive
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(09:24): How to create a safe exit plan if you're in an abusive relationship
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(11:48): Why victims may return to their abusers
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(13:55): How to accept that the person you love is abusive
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(16:17): First steps for victims of IPV
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(18:12): Words of encouragement for victims
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CW: Domestic Violence/Abuse
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This episode originally aired on March 21st, 2023.
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(06:08): How they met
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(11:04): Introducing Sarah
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(12:27): How the couple became a throuple
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(22:28): When she decided she wanted out of the throuple
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(29:38): When the police were called
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(32:10): When charges were pressed
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(43:08): When she went to jail
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(53:01): When she went to trial for the first charges
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(01:05:00): Reflecting on what she's learned
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(01:14:00): Teaser
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CW: This episode discusses domestic violence, thoughts of suicide, child abuse, sexual assault, and gun violence.
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(01:05): Submission #1
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(03:32): Submission #2
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(05:29): Submission #3
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(07:24): Submission #4
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(12:49): Submission #5
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(14:24): Submission #6
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(15:57): Submission #7
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(17:09): Submission #8
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(20:01): Submission #9
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(22:58): Submission #10
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Your sugar daddy of 3ish months goes MIA right before your big vacation...when all of a sudden you get a ransom note from his # asking for 500k. Obviously a scam right?! This week's guest got way more than she bargained for when he finally came back into her life....and revealed the months long investigation he as a part of. What went down?! Let's find out when we break down this week's break up.
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This Week We're Raising Awareness for Green House 17 in Lexington, KY: www.greenhouse17.org
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(03:45): How they met
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(18:24): When the went MIA
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(27:24): When he came back
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(32:00): Where did he go for all those months?
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(49:33): Looking back on her sugaring experiences
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(54:46): Advice/reflection
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(58:00): Teaser
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When you and your new boyfriend have to shack up with your ex, things are bound to get uncomfortable. This week's guest says her shared lease with her ex turned into a shared nightmare with her new boyfriend after her break up. How did they get here?! Let's find out when we break down this week's break up.
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(04:32): How they met
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(12:16): Her last straw
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(16:40): The break up
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(20:52): When he wouldn't move out
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(24:51): Reflecting/Advice
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(27:40): Teaser
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This week we're raising awareness for Friends of Yates in Kansas City: https://friendsofyates.org/FOY/?page_id=55
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Timestamps:
(00:00): Episode Intro
(04:52): How they met
(06:58): The first break up
(09:01): When they got back together
(12:53): The second break up
(16:37): Their secret engagement
(21:24): The end of their relationship
(27:07): Why her friends were concerned about their relationship
(31:46): Reflecting on the relationship
(34:05): Advice
(37:57): Teaser Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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This week's main episode also touched on SA. Hear Amy and I's conversation on codependency and SA here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5KjJ9fJRkAwYE0Z4PMn0af?si=ILYLEbUyQRWN60z407amBQ
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This week we're raising awareness for The Salvation Army DV Center in NWFLI:
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Timestamps:
(00:00): Episode Intro
(03:51): How they met
(05:31): The cracks in their relationship
(08:29): When the relationship really started to fall apart [CW: sexual assault]
(11:52): The final straw
(14:11): Reflecting on her SA
(16:46): Reflecting on reasons why she stayed in the relationship
(19:23): How his family played into the break up
(23:37): How she moved on from the relationship
(27:56): Healing from her SA
(33:02): Advice
(36:33): Teaser
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This week we're raising awareness for The Dwelling Place in Minneapolis: https://www.tdpmn.org/donate
YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator / Use code HOTGOSS8 for 10% off (only on Aug 15th!) - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (05:29): How they met - (07:26): The trauma bond - (09:13): When she knew things were off in the relationship - (15:33): How she met her current BF - (18:46): The start of the final breakup w/ her Fiancé - (27:51): The falling out between her and her ex fiancé - (34:13): Reflecting on the relationship/the trauma bond - (47:37): Advice - (57:06): Teaser - [CONTENT WARNINGS: Intimate partner violence, eating disorders, suicidal ideation] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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This week we're raising awareness for East LA Women's Center: https://www.elawc.org/how_you_can_help
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National Sexual Assault Hotline: https://www.rainn.org/resources
This week we're raising awareness for One Safe Place in Redding, CA: https://ospshasta.org/donate/
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Timestamps:
(00:00): Episode Intro
(08:54): How they met
(11:34): The SA incident
(21:08): How the relationship was after the SA
(26:21): When the romantic relationship ended
(28:45): How she tried to work through the infidelity
(35:27): Coming to terms with the SA
(38:41): Reflecting on the relationship/advice
(50:29): Teaser
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This week we're raising awareness for La Casa de Las Madres in SF: https://www.lacasa.org/donate
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Timestamps:
(00:00): Episode Intro
(05:03): How they met
(08:05): When her gut told her something was off
(11:00): How the infidelity affected the relationship
(12:12): When more details about the infidelity came out
(17:28): How she tried to work through the infidelity
(22:47): When she knew it was time to end the marriage
(30:00): Reflecting on the relationship/advice
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SEPTEMBER 23RD BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator
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This week we're raising awareness for New Beginnings in Seattle: https://connect.clickandpledge.com/w/Form/eb4fcb02-785e-43c9-a3d9-ab2daca2f700
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Timestamps:
(00:00): Episode Intro
(03:50): How they met
(07:58): When the ex GF Called her
(11:03): How she confronted him
(15:17): How "the incident" affected her relationship
(16:51): The second "incident"
(19:58): What ultimately ended the relationship
(21:39): Dealing with the heartbreak
(23:30): Advice/reflecting on the relationship
(26:48): Teaser
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Amy Head, LCSW, joins the podcast to talk self-esteem, self-worth, and how to build yours from the inside out to have healthy relationships!
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This week we're raising awareness for SafeHouse in Denver: https://safehouse-denver.org/get-involved/donate/donate-form.html
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Timestamps:
(00:00): Episode Intro
(04:33): How they met
(06:59): When the infidelity was discovered
(10:11): The divorce party
(14:44): Her new relationship
(17:20): Reflecting on the relationship
(24:10): How the relationship affected her future marriage
(28:38): Rebuilding self-esteem discussion
(34:57): Advice
(36:54): Teaser
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This week we're raising awareness for First Step in Detroit, MI: https://www.firststep-mi.org/donatenow/
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Timestamps:
(00:00): Episode Intro
(03:45): How they met
(05:51): His father's death
(09:25): How his father's death affected the relationship
(13:39): The signs that something was wrong
(25:51): When she started to realize she wanted out
(27:58): The phone call from the detective....
(33:43): Reflecting on the relationship/advice
(41:20): Teaser
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Amy Head, LCSW joins the podcast to talk all about controlling partners in relationships. What does control abuse look like in relationships? How do I identify when I'm not sure if it's a problem or just controlling tendencies? What tools can I use to leave relationships that show signs and evidence of control issues?
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This week we're raising awareness for Safe Alliance in Charlotte, NC: https://www.safealliance.org/donations/
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Timestamps:
(00:00): Episode Intro
(05:20): When she first noticed things were unhealthy....
(09:27): The situation with her BFF and her husband
(14:18): When she decided to divorce him
(19:44): The miraculous birth of her daughter
(26:09): Life after the traumatic birth
(29:47): Reflecting on her friendship with her ex-BFF
(34:11): Reflecting on her marriage
(35:46): Advice
(37:30): Teaser
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(psssttt Season 4 starts JUNE 27th!) Marriage and Family therapist Kati Morton joins the podcast to redefine "daddy issues". What are they and how do you know if you have them...and spoiler alert....it doesn't always have to do with your relationship with your father!
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Timestamps:
(00:00): Episode Intro
(02:38 ): Submission #1
(06:10): Submission #2
(08:58): Submission #3
(11:58): Submission #4
(15:24): Submission #5
(17:51): Submission #6
(19:05): Submission #7
(20:53): Submission #8
(22:17): Submission #9
(24:56): Submission #10
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Are you having a hard time trusting your new partner after your last relationship? Your ex may have damaged your ability to trust again, but you don't have to live in fear forever. Dr. Margaret Rutherford joins Abby to talk about what you can to have a healthy relationship with your new partner.
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(00:00): Introducing the episode
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(00:42): The key to learning to trust again.....
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(06:45): How to not use relationships for validation
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(09:47): How to build up your own self-worth
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(11:54): How to trust a new partner after getting cheated on
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(13:44): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?
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(14:33): When do I draw boundaries OR when do I leave if I feel like I'm being gaslit?
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(19:05): Final piece of advice for building a strong sense of self
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[CW: Abuse]
This week we're bringing awareness to the New Life Center in Phoenix, AZ: https://fundraise.givesmart.com/form/voQ1ig?vid=xaqjj
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(03:55): How they met
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(05:27): Introducing her best friend
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(07:40): When the gaslighting began
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(11:55): When they finally broke up
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(14:44): Reflecting on the relationship
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(20:25): Lessons learned/advice
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(24:15): Teaser
If your partner's parent's are narcissists, chances are, they are too. Celeste the Therapist comes on to talk about what to do if you have difficult in-laws, how to identify narcists in your relationships, and what to do about it!-Check out Celeste the Therapist: https://www.celestethetherapist.com/-Follow the podcast-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Introducing Celeste-(00:34): Help- I think my partner's mom/dad hates me-(09:32): How do narcissists act in relationships?-(07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries?-(09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation?-(12:50): Is it possible to have a healthy relationship with someone who is a narcissist? -(16:56): How do to move on after a narcissistic relationship? -(18:27): Advice for this week's interviewee
[SCROLL FOR CW] This week we're bringing awareness to One Place Family Justice Center in Birmingham, AL: https://oneplacebirmingham.com/donate-now/-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(05:00): How they met-(07:25): When their relationship got more complicated-(12:19): How her pregnancy complications led to their biggest fight-(18:01): Why the pregnancy caused tension in their engagement-(22:56): How she's advised her friends from her experience-(27:54): Reflecting on the behavior she witnessed in the relationship/advice-(29:38): Teaser-[CW: Domestic Violence, Abortion]
We're talking about dating and heartbreak through the lens of men who date women! Our dude correspondent Coworker Justin joins us to react to S3E6 and talk about where he relates, what he would've done different, and even share his own personal experiences with heartbreak.
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Timestamps:
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(01:17): What do straight guys look at when they're on dating apps?
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(08:57): Justin talks about his long-distance relationships
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(13:10): Do men wait for 'the one'?
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(18:48): The first time Justin was truly heartbroken
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(22:45): Justin's general guy heartbreak advice
This week we're bringing awareness to Bradley Angle in Portland, Oregon: https://bradleyangle.org/give-support/donate/
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(04:36): How they met
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(07:31): When problems arose
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(11:32): When they finally broke up
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(15:13): When his golf career took a hit
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(17:20): Reflecting on the relationship
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(22:56): Teaser
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Have you ever felt manipulated by your partner? Did you try to break up with them, but they kept luring you back in? Abby brings on LMSW Vernique Esther to talk about how to recognize manipulation, set boundaries, and leave if necessary.
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Website: https://www.verniqueesther.com/
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The Wholeness Academy: https://www.thewholenessacademy.com/
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Introducing Vernique
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(00:56): How do I know I'm getting manipulated?
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(04:06): Why do people manipulate?
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(07:07): Why do I feel bad for setting up boundaries?
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(09:18): How do I handle religious manipulation?
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(12:10): What if my partner threatens me w/ self-harm to keep us from breaking up?
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(14:04): How do I leave a manipulative relationship?
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(15:00): Can you ever work through manipulation?
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(18:24): How to set boundaries in a relationship with someone who has manipulative tendencies?
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(20:55): Why do I want to go back to someone who manipulated me?
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(23:08): How do I convince myself I deserve better?
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[CW: This episode briefly discusses: self-harm/suicide, domestic violence, religious trauma]
This week we're bringing awareness to My Sister's House in Charleston, SC: https://www.mysistershouse.org/give-Follow the podcast!-Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/-Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/-The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/-Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8-Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9-Timestamps:-(00:00): Episode Intro-(05:26): Episode intro/her first marriage-(06:57): Introducing Anthony (her second husband)-(10:17): Introducing the The Boss (the third husband)-(11:27): The Affair-(13:29): Her second divorce-(17:01): When her 3rd marriage/relationship started going downhill -(20:46): When she started to realize this marriage was unhealthy-(25:32): Reconnecting with Anthony-(33:23): When she finally decided to leave The Boss-(34:29): Reflecting on these relationships-(40:51): Teaser
I don't know about you, but I often feel like a huge part of my identity is wrapped up in what I do. If you feel like if you lost a job, got ousted from a friend group, or left an organization, you'd lose a part of yourself- this episode is for you. My bestie from UF opens up the episode with me to talk about her experience not getting accepted to med school and then expert Shavonna Nicole jumps in to talk about how to find your identity in things other than your career.
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(00:00): Why do we put our identity into what we do?
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(09:51): Interview with Shavonna Nicole
This week we're bringing awareness to Family Violence Prevention Services in San Antonio: https://fvps.org/donation-center/
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(07:10): Sorority Rush
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(10:46): When things started to get toxic with her chapter
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(16:02): The story about the cops getting called on her
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(21:58): Why she decided to stay in her chapter
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(23:08): When she caused a "commotion" at a sorority mixer
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(29:13): Why sorority life just wasn't for her
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(30:39): When her sorority randomly 'broke up' with her
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(34:57): How her college life changed when she was dismissed
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(37:35): How she became a better person after leaving/advice
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(43:37): Teaser
Why was S3E3 deleted? Will it ever be reposted? Also what was the story even about? Then, Lexi and Justin join in to talk about the craziest things they've ever done for love and the double standards they notice in relationships.
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(01:56): Crazy things we've done for love
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(07:27): Double standards in dating
Science might be able to explain why you got cheated on. Scientist Macken Murphy joins Abby and Lexi to explain through research studies and data what influences people to cheat. He explains why your genetics may make someone more likely to cheat, why you're always dating serial cheaters, and how you can set yourself up (statistically) for a committed relationship.
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Website: www.mackenmurphy.org
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Macken's Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/5hhlSiS1hFW1pRWh8wfRy5
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Meet Macken
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(02:08): What factors make someone more likely to cheat
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(05:07): Once a cheater always a cheater?
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(07:27): Factors that make you more likely to get cheated on
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(16:05): Can a relationship continue after infidelity?
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(18:19): Why do men statistically cheat more than women?
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(21:58): Are humans built for monogamy?
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(23:13): Things you can do to statistically reduce your risk of getting cheated on
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(29:32): How studying infidelity affects his relationships
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(33:22): PTSD after infidelity
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(36:36): How Lexi felt about this convo, having been cheated on
This week we're raising awareness for the Georgia Coalition Against DV: https://gcadv.org/
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Check out this week's bonus guest, Macken Murphy, before the episode airs!: https://pod.link/1334821500
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Justin's brother who does Drag Yoga in Charleston!!: https://instagram.com/miss_amy_g_dala?igshid=Zjc2ZTc4Nzk=
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(03:02): This week's submission
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(7:08): How they got together
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(09:35): First signs that the relationship would end
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(12:27): Should you go through your partner's phone?
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(13:42): When things started to go south
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(17:35): When she decided to end the relationship
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(20:01): Why did he cheat?
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(22:02): Why it was so hard to end the marriage
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(23:58): The aftermath/reflecting on it
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(26:29): Advice for people listening
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(35:50): Teaser
Abby and Coworker Justin are back at it again and comment on this week's episode! They talk about how mental health affects relationships and the beauty of walking with your partner when they're really going through it (obviously, when they're not deceiving you about their condition). Dr. David Puder joins Abby at the end to talk about the impact of factitious disorder and other mental health concerns in relationships and how you can be the best partner for someone when they're in the trenches.
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On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.davidpuder/?hl=en
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Learn more about factitious disorder/Munchausen Syndrome on his podcast: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1W-lzI_nzUU
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): S3E1 Break Down
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(26:42): Interview with Dr. David Puder
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(05:32): How they met
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(12:30): When their relationship got more serious
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(15:01): When she wanted to end the relationship
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(18:21): "The Cancer Thing"
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(24:47): Why they decided to get married
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(30:00): When she started to get suspicious
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(42:28): When she and her wife separated
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(54:35): When she heard the truth from B's godmother
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(01:01:00): Advice
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(01:10:00): Teaser
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CW: This episode discusses suicide, eating disorders, mental illness, and homophobia.
Sometimes people don't want to come on the podcast!!! Shocking, right?!?! Listen to a few of the submissions where Abby reached out and either got ignored, blocked, or politely declined. Then, coworker Justin helps her come up with some theories to what they think happened!
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Meet Stacie and Alicia!
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(03:18): Episode superlatives
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(08:20): Submission #1
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(09:03): Submission #2
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(13:48): Submission #3
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(15:22): Submission #4
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(16:30): Submission #5
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(18:28): Submission #6
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(21:23): Submission #7
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(22:36): Submission #8
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(25:33): Submission #9
You already know Abby, Lexi, and Coworker Justin are already a bit messed up...so we decided to make a whole episode talking about their attachment issues! LCSW Kat Schneider joins the podcast as well to give a professional take on attachment styles and even relates them to 'The Office' characters!
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(02:26): Episode break down/our personal attachment problems
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(16:15): Conversation with LCSW Kat Schneider
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(05:28): This week's submission
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(7:03): How they met
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(10:39): Introducing her best friend
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(12:01): When her boyfriend confessed their betrayal
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(15:05): Why she stayed with her boyfriend
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(18:27): How the relationship developed after the infidelity
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(23:48): The final straw for her
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(32:14): Healing after the breakup
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(36:26): Advice for "starting over" after a long-term relationship
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(37:52): Teaser Clip
The Holy Trinity of people pretending to be relationship experts are BACK! Lexi, Coworker Justin, and Abby got together to discuss going through your partner's phone, the nuances of cheating, and COSTCO.
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Intro
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(02:04): Tinder/Dating Apps
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(05:42): Should you go through your partner's phone?
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(13:14): Why do cheaters deny at first?!?!
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(15:46): Can your relationship survive cheating?!
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(18:05): Girl #2 predictions
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Intro
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(03:11): Submission for the week
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(06:00): How they met
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(06:45): When things started to fall apart
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(08:20): When she first suspected that something was up
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(10:19): When she confronted him
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(14:02): The end of the relationship
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(16:01): Moving on/advice
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(19:15): Episode Teaser
Want more BUBD? Check out last year's holiday episodes!
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"Blackout Wednesday" Break Down: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/fksBHgns9ub
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Surviving the Holidays with @SoMyMomsATherapist: https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/CTkekKps9ub
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Timestamps:
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(00:00): Episode Break Down
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(02:09): Lexi's Lessons
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(08:09): Coworker Justin's Singular Lesson
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(12:40): Abby's Lessons
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(16:24): Listener Lessons
Wanna be featured on our Thanksgiving special? Tell us what relationship lesson you're thankful for: https://anchor.fm/abby-murphy5/message
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Abby and Justin chat about this weeks episode and talk about relationships ending out of nowhere, introducing your partner to your family, and why you should never share a dog with someone lol.
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-05:01): Why don't men cry?? And sharing pets with your s/o
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(05:01-07:58): Straight male friendship dynamics
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(07:58-14:55): Breakups that come out of nowhere
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(14:55-20:22): When you don't gel with your s/o's parents
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(20:22-23:25): Rebuilding your life after ending a long-term relationship
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(23:25-25:43): Hanging onto hope during a breakup
Support Safe Alliance in Charlotte, NC: https://www.safealliance.org/donations/make-a-donation/
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-07:00): Episode Intro
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(07:00-8:12): How they met
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(8:12-11:19): Problems that came up in the relationship
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(11:19-17:05): When the relationship ended out of nowhere
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(17:05-20:56): How therapy helped him heal from this relationship
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(20:56-24:28): Lessons learned/advice
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(24:28-24:56): Episode Teaser
PODCAST MERCH (OPEN UNTIL NOV 14): https://order.universitytees.com/bird_banks/99778/signups/new
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Coworker Justin joins Abby this week to react to S2E15. They talk about how upbringing may affect your relationship, the sliding scale of compatibility, and even the new Love is Blind season!
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-02:08): Intro
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(02:08-08:32): Getting back together after breaking up/"marriage material"
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(08:32-11:28): Breaking down their relationship dynamic
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(11:28-14:52): Can you be compatible with anyone?/ Is love REALLY blind?
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(14:52-16:02): Closing out the episode
Support SAFE Shelter in Savannah, GA: https://safeshelter.org/donate/
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-07:25): Episode Intro
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(03:47-09:03): How they met/engagement/postponing the wedding
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(09:03-12:47): Their relationship dynamic
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(12:47-13:55): How postponing the wedding changed their relationship
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(13:55-18:54): When their relationship came to an end
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(18:54-22:34): Unplanning a wedding
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(22:34)-27:53): How this relationship changed how she dates
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(27:53-29:25): Reflecting on her new/old relationship + advice
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(29:25-29:45): Teaser
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Coworker Justin joins Abby this week to react to S2E14. They talk about getting back together after breaking up, the rules of "going on a break", friends helping friends get over break ups...and....should she tell the husband about the affair?!
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-01:23): Intro
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(01:24-09:52): Getting back together after breaking up/"marriage material"
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(09:52-13:20): The rules of "going on a break"
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(13:20-15:52): Being controlling vs. boundaries in relationships?
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(15:52-17:52): Do you tell someone they're getting cheated on?
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(17:52-19:58): Girl vs. Guy Friends helping each other through break ups
Support The Bridge in Houston, TX: https://tbotw.org/support-us/
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-06:10): Episode Intro/Merch Info
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(06:10-10:18): Reading the Submission
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(10:18-11:36): How they met
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(11:36-15:21): When red flags popped up/the first breakup
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(15:21-18:04): The relationship continues to get worse
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(18:04-23:18): The truth finally comes out
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(23:18-30:27): Dealing with the aftershock of the breakup
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(30:27-32:07): Reflecting on the relationship
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(32:07-35:07): Advice she'd give others
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(35:07-35:51): Episode Teasers
[SCROLL FOR CW] - LCSW Kat Schneider joins Abby at the end of this episode to talk about what it was like being a part of a religious cult! Kat also explains the mental health side of why people join, choose to stay, and some of the complications of leaving. Lexi and Coworker Justin help open up the episode to talk about the merch that is scheduled to go live this Tuesday!
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Timestamps:
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(00:00)-(05:26): Heartbreaker Merch
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(05:26)-(14:24): Episode break down
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(14:24)-(25:22): Conversation with LCSW Kat Schneider
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Sensitive topics in this episode/CW: Religious trauma, mental health (anxiety), mention of homophobia
[SCROLL FOR CW] Support WEAVE in Sacramento, CA: https://interland3.donorperfect.net/weblink/WebLink.aspx?name=weave&id=265
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(00:00-06:52): Episode Intro
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(06:52-08:37): How they met
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(08:37-11:35): Learning about his history being in a cult
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(11:35-13:59): Problems coming up in the relationship
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(13:59-15:05): The actual breakup
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(15:05-21:06): The aftermath of the breakup
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(21:06-23:30): Words of wisdom/things she's learned in the relationship
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(23:30-24:05): Episode Teasers
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CW: Mental Illness, Suicide
Coworker Justin hops on another episode to talk about this week's episode! We'll react to the episode, talk about the significance of engagement/marriage, and share the craziest thing we've done to get over an ex! Also!!!! In honor of Midnights coming out tonight, the Heartbreakers & Abby/Justin share what TSwift song describes a breakup they went through the best!!
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Timestamps:
(00:00)-(14:19): Episode 12 reaction
(14:19)-(17:06): Abby/Coworker Justin share what TSwift songs they relate to
(17:06)-(14:27): Heartbreaker's talk about what TSwift songs they relate to
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-06:54): Episode Intro
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(06:54-11:44): How they (and their parents) got together
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(11:44-23:43): Challenges when dating someone in the family/main conflict
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(23:43-24:41): What the family dynamic is like now
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(24:41-27:47): Her step-brother's new relationship/when friends(?) date your ex
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(27:47)-35:00): Advice from our interviewee
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(35:00-35:30): Episode Teaser
Who knew Coworker Justin was such a casanova!! We're talking about the grey areas in friendships, how different situations change friendship dynamics, and why we tend to prioritize love interests over our friends.
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Timestamps:
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(00:00)-(00:43): Intro
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(00:43)-(03:16): Friendship dynamics as you age
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(03:16)-(14:27): Male friendship dynamics
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(14:27)-(17:00): Abby's "yellow starburst friend" theory
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(17:00)-(17:41): Closing out
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-06:42): Episode Intro
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(06:42-08:26): Introducing the people involved in the story
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(08:26-14:16): When problems started to arise in the friendship/marriage
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(14:16-18:37): The final straw in the friendship(s)
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(18:37-21:35): The aftermath of their confrontation
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(21:35-25:43): "Where are they now"
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(25:43-32:27): Advice for difficult family situations/getting through it all
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(32:27-28:59): Reconnecting with her ex-BF
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(31:23-33:11): Episode Teasers
[SCROLL FOR CW]: We're diving deeper into the conversation surrounding domestic violence and verbal abuse on today's break down. LCSW Amethyst St. Thomas came on to react to this week's main episode and help us understand why victims choose to stay in abusive relationships and how we can help our friends and family escape a dangerous situation!
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(00:00-04:09): Episode Intro
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(04:09-06:20): How they got together
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(06:20-07:37: When the red flags started to show
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(07:37-10:16): When things started to take a turn for the worst
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(10:16-11:49): Why she decided to stay when things got violent
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(11:49)-13:09): When the relationship finally came to an end
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(13:09-14:18): Why she wanted to stay in this relationship
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(14:18-17:36): The aftermath of the relationship
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(17:36-20:25): When she finally identified that this was abuse
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(20:25-24:17): Advice she would give to people in her situation
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(24:17-25:12): Thursday Episode/Next Tuesday Tease
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[CW: Sexual Assault, Domestic Violence, Miscarriage, Mental Health]
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Do you need help moving on from an ex? Do you feel like you still need closure? Abby and Justin talk about why it's so hard to get over them (and tell you what to do about it). Plus they react to this week's main episode and share stories about families/friends ruining their relationships! AND there's a fun little announcement right in the beginning of the episode as well.
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(00:00)-(03:14): Intro/merch
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(03:14)-(06:29): When are you going too far to get closure?
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(06:29)-(09:12): Dating in your 20s is totally different each year
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(09:12)-(12:38): Friends/families ruining relationships
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(12:38)-(16:08): How to move on from an ex/why it's so hard in your adult years
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-09:10): Episode Intro
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(09:10-10:25): How they got together
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(10:25-12:44): What happened after the break up?
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(12:44-14:21): Her ex BF's engagement
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(14:21-17:23): Why she thought the engagement ended
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(17:23)-18:09): The next photos that got posted on IG
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(18:09-23:35): Theorizing about what happened in her ex's relationship
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(23:35-24:18): Episode Teaser
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TikTok's @the.marchie joins Abby to talk about becoming women's rights and wrongs activists following this week's episode!!! They talk about the grey areas of getting even after a break up and making dating safer as a woman. Tune in for lots of laughs and to hear about Abby's "crazy switch" theory...and why every woman should use theirs.
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Timestamps:
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(00:00)-(02:08): Intro
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(02:08)-(04:52): Him juggling like 6 relationships lol
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(04:52)-(08:45): Getting even after a break up
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(08:45)-(11:37): 'Good for Her' Stories
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(11:37)-(11:49): Closing
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-03:29): Episode Intro
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(03:29-05:53): How they got together
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(04:37-07:30): When things started going wrong....
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(07:30-08:47): Reaching out to his ex-fiancé
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(08:47-14:00): Shady secrets he was keeping
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(14:00)-17:09): Getting the ex's in the group chat
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(17:09-23:59): The aftermath
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(23:59-24:34): Episode Teaser
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What's the PETTIEST thing you've done post-break up? We asked, you answered on IG and Spotify. Lexi & Coworker Justin join Abby to talk about their own petty break ups and read through some responses from the Spotify and IG questionnaire. Oh, and Abby vents about her bad date from this weekend too lol.
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(00:00-00:43): Intro
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(00:43-01:10): This week's main episode
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(01:10-04:57): The pettiest things Abby, Lexi, and Coworker Justin have done post-break up
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(04:57-12:30): Petty break up responses from Spotify
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(12:30-18:31): Petty Break Up Responses from IG
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(18:31-27:46): Abby vents about her date from this weekend lol
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(00:00-04:00): Episode Intro
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(04:00-04:37): How they got together
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(04:37-05:46): When things started going wrong....
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(05:32-06:33): Red flags before the engagement
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(07:58-11:27): Red flags before the wedding/the break up
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(11:27)-13:32): The aftermath of the cancelled wedding
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(13:32-15:11): Dividing finances after the cancelled wedding
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(15:11-19:33): Why she thinks his feelings changed
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(19:33-27:20): Looking back one everything/advice/words of wisdom/etc.
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(27:20-27:46): Break Down Bonus and Next Ep. Teaser
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Coworker Justin joins Abby this week to talk about getting along with your significant other's families, bringing your "baggage" into a new relationship, and debate on whether or not the BF's mom posted that FB photo on purpose!!!
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(00:00-01:02): Intro
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(01:02-02:10): Breaking up with someone for someone else- romantic or red flag?
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(02:10-03:38): What do you even do if someone says they're going to steal your partner?!
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(03:38-09:00): THE FACEBOOK PHOTO!!!! Why would the mom post it?
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(09:00-13:27): What if your parents didn't get along with your partner?
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(13:27-16:15): The Hail Mary Proposal
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(16:15-20:17): Bringing "baggage" into new relationships
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(20:17-22:33): Questions about S2E5
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(00:00-02:03): Episode Intro
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(02:03-03:44): Submission
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(03:44-05:32): When she was blindsided
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(05:32-06:33): The first red flag
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(06:33-07:28): The Facebook post that proved her suspicions
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(07:28)-09:35): When she decided to confront him about "Anna"
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(09:35-11:36): When she finally confronted him about the photo
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(11:36-12:34): Tension with the family
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(12:34-13:12): When he broke up with her and then proposed
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(13:12:16:41): The aftermath
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(16:41-18:20): "Where are they now"
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(18:20-27:02): Takeaways/Advice
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(27:02-27:30): Break Down Bonus and Next Ep. Teaser
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CW: Mention of Suicide/Self-Harm
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Stacie and Alicia from the Trashy Divorces podcast join Abby to talk about ethical polyamory, healthy relationship dynamics, and expecting more from your love life. Check out their podcast below and tune in to hear them break down this week's break up!
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(00:00-00:25): Meet Stacie and Alicia!
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(00:25-01:34): What makes a good divorce story?
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(01:34-05:08): Ethical polyamory in relationships & healthy communication
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(05:55-14:48): Expecting more in your relationships
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(14:48-16:09): Closing remarks
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(16:09-17:32): Trashy Divorces episode recs
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-03:45): Episode Intro
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(03:45-04:50): How they met
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(04:50-06:56): When she was blindsided
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(06:56-09:34): When they became a "throuple"
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(09:34-11:43): The worst part of this "three person relationship" (for her)
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(11:43)-16:09): When she started to think about leaving....
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(16:09-19:11): What led to the marriage ending
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(19:11-23:17): She decides to leave the marriage/the divorce
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(23:17-29:34): Moving on after marrying your high school sweetheart
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(29:34:31:15): Advice for leaving a toxic relationship
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(31:15-31:34): Teaser Clip
[SCROLL FOR CW] - Ex-Mormon therapist Jenny Morrow reacts to S2E4 and let's us in on what people leaving the LDS church struggle with after leaving. She talks about rules for dating, complications when one spouse wants to leave the church, divorce, and sexuality. Check out more from her at www.JennyMorrow.com.
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(00:00-00:14): Episode Break Down
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(00:14-02:22): Meet Jenny!
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(02:22-05:08): Dating as a young Mormon
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(05:08-06:19): The Mormon temple
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(06:19-07:40): Dealing with religious shame
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(07:40-10:32): Sexuality in the church
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(10:32-12:17): Divorce in Mormonism
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(12:17-13:17): What if one spouse wants to leave the church?
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(13:17-14:24): Sexism in the church
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(14:24-16:15): What do ex-Mormons struggle with after leaving?
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(16:15-18:03): Advice for "finding yourself" after a big life change
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(18:03-18:29): Follow Jenny!
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CW: Suicide, Sexism
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(00:00-03:55): Episode Intro
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(03:55-06:30): How they met
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(06:30-11:44): How they got together/dating in Mormon culture
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(11:44-15:37): "Same-sex attraction" in the church
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(15:37-21:44): Their 6-year-long marriage
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(21:44)-24:44): The start of their divorce
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(24:44-27:54): After the divorce
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(29:59-28:59): Reconnecting with her ex-BF
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(31:23-37:11): Living in a Mormon community and being Agnostic
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(37:11:38:26): BYU dating myths(?!?!)
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(38:26-38:56): Teaser Clip
[SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS] Jacqueline Trumbull from Ari's season of 'The Bachelor' reacts to this week's episode. She recently cancelled her wedding 2 weeks before the big day, so she came on to talk about her own experience and how she related/didn't relate to S2E3's interview.
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(00:00-07:35): Episode Break Down
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(07:35-12:42): Q&A Responses
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(12:42-18:34): Episode Break Down
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(18:34-35:38): Jacqueline Trumbull Interview
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-04:26): Episode Intro
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(04:26-05:55): How they met
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(05:55-09:57): When things started going downhill....
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(09:57-13:40): The incident that would eventually end the relationship
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(13:40-20:10): Confronting her fiancé
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(20:10-22:58): The aftermath of ending the relationship
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(22:58)-26:00): Dating after breaking off an engagement
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(26:00-27:39): Advice for people unsure about ending things
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(27:39-28:21): S2E3 Teaser clip
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Lily Womble from Date Brazen joins us to break down some of S2E2's key points and empower you to become "your own matchmaker" in this episode!
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(00:00-00:45): Intro
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(00:45-05:27): Reading your "hey girly" DMs
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(05:27-13:37): Abby, Coworker Justin, and Lexi React to S2E2
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(13:137-16:12): Meet Lily!
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(16:12-18:23): How soon is too soon to jump into a new relationship?
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(18:23-20:55): How do you know you're ready for a new relationship?
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(20:55-24:22): Is it 'lovebombing' or a healthy relationship?
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(24:22-27:21): Addressing the shady DMs our interviewee got
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(22:21-31:05): What does you & your partner's sex life say about your relationship?
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(31:05-32:34): Advice for our interviewee
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(32:34-35:23): Advice for dating in a small town
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(35:23-36:08)- Closing out
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Timestamps:
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(00:00-03:47): Episode Intro
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(03:47-05:37): How they met/fell in love
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(05:37-10:40): When things started going downhill....
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(10:40-13:40): How he responded to her confronting him
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(13:40-17:15): Their relationship during/right after deployment
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(17:15-20:24): The fight that ended the relationship
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(20:24)-24:39): Things that came to light after the break up
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(24:39-27:31): Things she's working through now
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(27:31-28:07): S2E3 Teaser clip
[CHECK CW] - Abby, Lexi, and Coworker Justin are back together to break down this week's main episode! We talk about some of the most SHOCKING parts of this week's main episode and hash out some of the main points from the story. We discuss pretending to be something you're not in relationships, keeping secrets, cheating, and gender roles in relationships. You know...casual, light topics of conversation!!!
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Timestamps:
(00:00) - (01:01): Intro
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(01:01) - (04:28): Discussing the season/submission
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(04:28) - (05:17): How they met/the "love" story
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(05:17) - (07:06): Red Flags
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(07:06) - (12:43): When things took a turn for the worst
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(12:43) - (15:30): Forming the plan
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(15:30) - (19:12): Executing the plan
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(19:12) - (23:18): How her ex fought back
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(23:18) - (27:20): The unexpected aftermath
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(27:20) - (33:55): Reflecting on the situation/advice/moving on
Season Two Premieres August 2nd!
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(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS): I love an open-shut case. You know, the people that are more than happy to come on and unload all the juicy details of their break ups. But most the time, people are (understandably) not interested at all. I'm reading some of my favorite submissions I've been DYING to share...but unfortunately got no answers to. Tentative Season 2 Premiere (may come earlier yoohhoooo): August 2nd.FEEDBACK FORM: https://forms.gle/PNVzYgjCgRsa1rdX8BREAK UPS/FRIENDSHIP SPLITS FORM: https://forms.gle/AZyEA8npd6XxbbpX6FOLLOW ME???TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy?lang=enIG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/?hl=enSPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczrabaTimestamps(01:01) - Abby and Kennedy open the episode(02:05) - When they broke up after moving to Costa Rica...(04:54) - When she got married like four times....(07:07) - When an influencer went MIA after having her baby....(10:34) - When she converted for him....(12:26) - When their photographer chose sides....(14:05) - When she left him after her cancer diagnosis....(15:08) - When he dated her best friend after she passed away....(16:35) - When she came out right before the wedding....(18:30) - When she threw the promise ring out the car window....(21:02) - Closing remarks
(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS): What's it like to date multiple pro athletes and have it go TERRIBLY wrong? Abby's friend from this week's main episode hopped on a Zoom call to talk about an unfortunate break up that ended up with both of her exes on the same team (literally).FEEDBACK FORM: https://forms.gle/U9ANq5P9S58Ug2PHABREAK UP STORY FORM: https://forms.gle/b1xoCZMFLrJBcoVf6Timestamps(00:50) - Interview Begins(02:10) - How she met "Troy"(03:35) - Getting interrogated about her intentions(05:04) - His red flags(06:04) - "Was I just with him for his job?" (10:09) - "Did he put hot sauce in his condoms after?"(13:49) - "This is when I started thinking I had daddy issues."(14:24) - She meets her second pro-athlete ex (16:11) - Her ex and her other ex become teammates(17:56) - The most difficult part of the break up(s)/the aftermath(23:11) - Struggles with moving on(26:15) - The best part of a break up(27:53) - Closing announcements
(EPISODE DROPS APRIL 19TH): I love an open-shut case. You know, the people that are more than happy to come on and unload all the juicy details of their break ups. But most the time, people are (understandably) not interested at all. I'm reading some of my favorite submissions I've been DYING to share...but unfortunately got no answers to. The episode drops on April 19th!
(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - It's not uncommon for people to ignore Abby's DMs when she's like "hey do you wanna come spill your guts on this pod", but it is SO annoying when you're dying to know about their break up. Kennedy joins Abby for this episode to talk about the person Abby is dying to interview for the podcast. Kennedy also tells us about the ~messy~ split she had with Godly Golfer (and how it lost her a lot of money...) and Abby talks about the not-so-meet-cute she had this week with a Duke of Hastings look-a-like!MAIN EPISODE SUBMISSION FORM! SUBMIT YOUR BREAK UP, SUBMIT A COUPLE YOU WANT TO KNOW ABOUT! Everything is anonymous!!!!! I just need your name/info so I can contact you: https://forms.gle/XTB3N3tnsPa4yFL48Timestamps(01:02) - How & Why Kennedy and Godly Golfer Broke Up {Listen to Mini Ep. 14 for context}(03:45) - The one person we WISH would come on a main episode(05:18) - Abby and Kennedy's Summer Plans/Summer Episodes(07:05) - Abby's new Hinge love interest(10:08) - The least cute place Abby had a meet cuteFollow Abby On IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/Follow Abby on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy?lang=en
(SCROLL FOR CW/TIMESTAMPS): This week's episode is about the destination wedding from hell. We're taking you through a break up from a couple that was together twelve years and called things off the night before the wedding....but the relationship didn't end there. Tune in to hear about both weddings, the double phone deception, and all the trauma in between!SUBMIT A COUPLE/YOUR OWN BREAK UP STORY: https://forms.gle/8jqNpMXKMyKJeDZc8Timestamps(01:00) - Abby and Coworker Justin read the submission(03:50) - Interview begins/how the couple got together(04:50) - Red flags that showed up in the beginning of the relationship(05:27) - "That was the point he really started to spiral"(07:09) - "We secretly got married"(08:34) - Why she wanted to stay in this toxic relationship(11:27) - Their destination wedding in Mexico (15:30) -The aftermath of the destination wedding(16:34) - The secret he'd been keeping from her for years(18:37) - The other woman comes into the story....(21:43) - When things started to unravel with him, her, and the other woman(25:59) - The final straw(27:15) - The aftermath of the divorce(28:52) - Dating for the first time in her adult life(30:34) - Talking to her therapist about being "Codependent" in a relationship(32:50) - How she met her fiancee(34:11) - The hard part about being in a healthy relationship after a toxic one(36:48) - "When you know you know"(40:09) - The one thing you should ask yourself before getting married(41:51) - Advice she'd give to people listening(42:53) - Closing AnnouncementsFollow Abby On IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/Follow Abby on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy?lang=enCW: Abuse, Mental illness, Suicide, Substance Abuse
(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - The only man on TikTok who should be allowed to have a mic (AKA coworker Justin) stopped by the podcast to talk about love bombing. In this brief conversation, we scratch the surface on love bombing. What is it? Why do people do it? And did coworker Justin love bomb his wife?!?!SUBMIT YOUR OWN BREAK UP STORY OR A COUPLE YOU WANT ME TO DM: https://forms.gle/jVUKsu3q4Rb1SMpZ8Timestamps: (01:36) - Defining Love Bombing(02:56) - The immature love-bomber (09:12) - Narcissistic and abusive love-bombers(13:40) - When Coworker Justin thought it was appropriate to say I Love You to his wife(16:54) - Closing announcementsFollow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy) Follow Coworker Justin on IG or TikTok (@justincontheair)
EPISODE DROPS APRIL FIFTH: Next week's episode is about the destination wedding from hell. We're taking you through a break up from a couple that was together twelve years and called things off the night before the wedding. So what went wrong here? Find out next week on April 5th!
(SCROLL FOR CW/TIMESTAMPS) - Do you remember 'that couple' that got hitched right after high school? Everyone knows at lease one- maybe three or four if you're in the south. This episode looks into High School sweethearts with a divorce from hell. This episode tackles purity culture, domestic violence, and evennnn a little witchcraft.Submission form: https://forms.gle/hR4Q44tHb7LSH3CA6Timestamps(00:55) - Abby and Coworker Justin read the submission(06:15) - Interview begins/how they met(08:12) - The first red flags start to show/purity culture(10:10) - The main reason she decided to marry him(10:44) - More red flags start to show(15:18) - The beginning of their married life(22:34) - When she started to think about breaking things off(24:52) - She decides to leave the marriage(26:00) - The day she left her husband(33:52) - The aftermath of the divorce(35:51) - Her new relationship(37:50) - Recovering from toxic purity culture(39:25) - Going from Christianity to witchcraft(41:02) - Advice for women experiencing domestic abuse(43:36) - Warning to women who are dating/in unhealthy relationships(45:31) - Closing announcementsNotable Resources: Domestic Violence Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/National Mental Health Hotline: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helplineSuggested Podcasts: "I'm a Survivor", "Mental Illness Happy Hour", "Mental Health Hope and Recovery",.CW: Abuse, Self-harm, Eating disorders, Mental illness, Alcoholism
(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - Every relationship is going to have a different pace...but what are some good guideline for not giving too much too soon. How many dates is too much with someone new? When should you label things? Is it a bad idea to talk about your ex?? Abby & Lexi talk about alllllll that and more on this week's minisode.ANONYMOUS SUBMISSIONS FOR THE POD: https://forms.gle/QhGDefK6kqsTfC3V6 Timestamps(00:58) - Setting the pace of a new relationship(02:14) - Choosing a form of communication (text/snap) with a Dating App Match(03:41) - Is there a max amount of dates you should do in one week?(04:52) - When to put a label on a new relationship(08:00) - When to have the "ex talk"(10:47) - Should you ever reveal your body count?(13:12) - Are you obligated to define your sexuality to the person your dating? (14:33) - Gender Roles in Same-Sex Relationships
EPISODE DROPS MARCH 29TH: Do you remember 'that couple' that got hitched right after high school? Everyone knows at lease one- maybe three or four if you're in the south. This episode looks into High School sweethearts with a divorce from hell. This episode tackles purity culture, domestic violence, and evennnn a little witchcraft. The episode comes out on March 29th!
(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - It's a jarring thing to look back on your relationship and wonder if you were really dating them, or the parts of themselves they wanted you to see. After nearly a decade together, it took a break up to her ex to see the parts of himself he was hiding from her. Are you obligated to tell your partner EVERYTHING? That's the question we're answering on next week's episode. This week's guest tells the story of her eight-year-long relationship and why it ended "out of nowhere". CURIOUS ABOUT A BREAK UP? HAVE A WILD BREAK UP STORY? SUBMIT IT HERE: https://forms.gle/NmJ664uCJfNQvb8A7Timestamps(00:42) - Abby and Coworker Justin read the submission(04:16) - Interview begins/How They Met (07:42) - How her ex's acting program influenced his wrongdoings(10:19) - The secret he was hiding from her(13:25) - The one thing she couldn't get over at the end of the relationship(15:18) - When he tried to get back with her(17:35) - The one question she wishes she could ask him now(19:12) - Red flags she noticed now that the relationship is over(20:34) - Learning to trust people in new relationships/enjoying being single(21:51) - Advice she has for people in similar situationsFollow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy)
(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - Can you measure love...that's the question we're tackling this week with Abby's friend Kennedy. SUBMIT A COUPLE/YOUR OWN BREAK UP STORY: https://forms.gle/MMnAwPAVRfuPSKTM7Topics on This Episode.1) Kennedy is dating multiple people at once...can you "measure" those feelings? Or should she dump them until she finds someone who she doesn't feel like she needs to evaluate her feelings with.2) The new Bachelorette Gabby told this year's Bachelor she felt like she was in a competition and you "Can't measure love between [the final three]". Is dating basically a competition? Are we just comparing our feelings with all these people until we just choose one?3) In relationships, just because you were with someone for years doesn't mean your feelings were stronger than a shorter relationship. If you're going to "measure" those feelings, just because the relationship was quicker, doesn't mean the love wasn't there. In Eat Pray FML, we got to see how devastating a short break up was. We compared breaking up in long-term vs short-term relationships and why we think breaking up with your situationship is more devastating. TIMESTAMPS(01:34) - Update on Kennedy's 3 internet boyfriends(11:28) - The Bachelor and Measuring Love Between The Final 3 Girls(14:35) - Eat Pray FML and break ups w/ the guys you never dated(18:45) - Eat Pray FML and Solo Travel(19:53) - Abby and Kennedy's Upcoming Europe Trip (Red light District?!?!)Follow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy)
EPISODE DROPS MARCH 22ND- It's a jarring thing to look back on your relationship and wonder if you were really dating them, or the parts of themselves they wanted you to see. After nearly a decade together, it took a break up to her ex to see the parts of himself he was hiding from her. Are you obligated to tell your partner EVERYTHING? That's the question we're answering on next week's episode. Next week's guest tells the story of her eight-year-long relationship and why it ended "out of nowhere". Tune in next week on March 22nd!
(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) When your perfect boyfriend turns into your perfect fiancé, you expect him to turn into the perfect husband. Well, if you're reading this, you'll know somethings going to go wrong here. This woman's husband was involved in a deception that didn't just pull out the rug from under her, it pulled out the whole damn floor. Tune in to hear about a break up that kicked off a wild healing journey and inspired an entire book!SUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY (YOURS, SOMEONE ELSES, OR ONE YOU WANT ME TO LOOK INTO): https://forms.gle/MMwGezrMHvL3D6XB6EAT PRAY FML (The Book): https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Pray-FML-Gabrielle-Stone/dp/1733963707Timestamps(01:10) - Abby explains how she found this break up(02:20) - Interview Begins/How the relationship started(06:52) - "Dating an actor isn't easy"/Problems start to show(10:28) - The problems that started once they got married(14:24) - Her ex's relationship with a 19 y/o girl(17:11) - The info that came out affair the book's success(20:22) - How she discovered he was cheating(22:44) - Why did he want to be in two relationships at once?(27:28) - The relationship she started 2 weeks after leaving her ex(30:03) - Lessons from her healing trip to Europe(33:03) - Tips for solo travel(38:53) - Tips for staying in hostels (40:55) - Advice for people going through rough heartbreaksFollow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy)Follow Gabrielle Stone on IG (@gabriellestone) or TikTok (@gabrielle_stone)
(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - This week's main episode tackled ~religious manipulation~ in the Christian Church. Abby brought on some of her Christian friends to hash out what it's like dating in the Christian Church. spoiler alert it do be kinda weird.Eavesdrop on this conversation between three single believers who are just tryna get that ring by spring...ya know??Timestamps(01:25) - Random banter (03:04) - Guest intros(03:35) - What's something non-Christians should know about dating in the church?(05:16) - Best/Worst Advice the Church Says about Dating(006:58) - "The Bachelor" and Sex (aka Clayton v. Susie) (07:35) - What does "guard your heart" even mean?(10:14) - Something that should change about dating in the Christian Church(15:02) - HOW DID MICHAELA'S DATE GO?!!? (and closing announcements)Submit a couple for us to investigate/your own story: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/editFollow Abby on IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/Follow Abby on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy?lang=en (Kennedy's ex bf reported me AGAIN and I'm low key banned rip me)IYKYK Dating Mixers for single Christians: https://www.instagram.com/iykyk.dating/
EPISODE DROPS MARCH 15TH: When your perfect boyfriend turns into your perfect fiance, you expect him to turn into the perfect husband. Well, if you're reading this, you'll know somethings going to go wrong here. This woman's husband was involved in a deception that didn't just pull out the rug from under her, it pulled out the whole damn floor. Tune in next week to hear about a break up that kicked off a wild healing journey and inspired an entire book! The episode drops March 15th.
(Scroll for timestamps) - When the 'seemingly perfect Christian couple' breaks up out of nowhere...you gotta wonder what went wrong. I mean, one week you're picking out engagement rings and celebrating three years together...the next...you're breaking up. This episode unpacks how faith impacts relationships, religious manipulation...and do you need to be attracted to your significant other?!?! Timestamps(00:47) - Abby reads the submission(02:33) - Interview Begins(03:18) - How they met(04:59) - Why she decided to date him(05:36) - How he manipulated her with religion (07:07) - A common problem in Christian circles(09:12) - "Pray the problem away"(10:40) - Gender Role manipulation in the church(13:51) - Why she finally decided to break up with him(16:27) - The tough break up conversation(18:34) - "Love is not about feeling in love it's about being in love"(19:26) - Advice for people with persistent exes(21:37) - Advice for people in manipulative relationships(25:46) - Closing announcements/mini episode/trailerAbby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphyAbby's Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczraba
(Scroll for Timestamps): Abby's friend Kennedy is jumping back into the dating game and has like 7 boyfriends now? She joined Abby to talk about some icks from first dates and the early stages of these new relationships. Tune in to hear about one of the guys confronting Kennedy about the TikTok Abby made about him, another guy reading her a BEDTIME STORY, and more....Timestamps(01:37) - Introduction of the two of the guys Kennedy is Dating(02:44) - YoungJFK Saw Abby's TikTok About Him(04:29) - Abby made a second TikTok about YoungJFK(05:33) - The thing he did on the second date that gave Kennedy the ick(06:46) - Kennedy didn't read between the lines on this kind of date....(09:12) - The pro athlete Kennedy is also dating(12:45) - Kennedy said THIS to the pro athlete and now he's not talking to her(13:47) - She almost dumped him because of THIS(15:27) - He wants them to read this book together...?SUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/editFollow Abby on IG (@abbymariemurphy) or TikTok (@theabbymurphy)
EPISODE DROPS MARCH 8TH: When the 'seemingly perfect Christian couple' breaks up out of nowhere...you gotta wonder what went wrong. I mean, one week you're picking out engagement rings and celebrating three years together...the next...you're breaking up. This episode unpacks how faith impacts relationships, religious manipulation...and do you need to be attracted to your significant other?!?! The episode comes out March 8th!
(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - Your friends are going to take sides if your relationship doesn't end well- but what if your story isn't the one they believe? Next week we're talking about what happens when you become the villain in someone else's story. Our interviewee got kicked out of her friend group after her friend's got half the story from her ex. Now they (and the rest of the internet) are going to hear her side.Timestamps(01:08) - Abby and CoWorker Justin read the submission(02:58) - Interview Begins(03:53) - How being closeted affected their relationship(04:52) - How moving to Nashville/moving in together affected their relationship(05:37) - The demise of the relationship(07:10) - She breaks up with her GF(07:29) - "Why do I want to break up with my girlfriend?"(08:34) - The mistake that made their relationship blow up(10:11) - Her ex confronts her about her private journal entries(14:21) - Her ex confronts her and her wife at a Pride event(17:13) - The aftermath of the relationship(20:01) - Advice for people who aren't 100% sold on their relationships(22:37) - Closing announcementsSUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/edit
(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - This week's main episode was all about cheating...and we never got answers as to WHY that person cheated. So, of course, Abby turned to the Google to get more details on cheating. She found some articles from psychology resources that explained the top reasons why people admitted to cheating. AND Lexi joined in on the conversation to talk about her personal experience with infidelity.Timestamps(02:08) - The three types of people most likely to cheat(03:14) - Reason #1 Why People Cheat(03:48) - Reason #2 Why People Cheat(04:33) - Reason #3 Why People Cheat(05:56) - Reason #4 Why People Cheat(07:15) - Reason #5 Why People Cheat(08:52) - Reason #6 Why People Cheat(09:02) - Reason #7 Why People Cheat(11:01) - Reason #8 Why People Cheat(12:32) - Lexi's experience getting cheated on(14:28) - Should cheating ALWAYS end a relationship?(15:46) - Are there worse forms of cheating?(17:41) - What do you do if your partner cheats?(21:39) - What to do if you cheated on your partner(22:57) - Once a cheater always a cheater?Follow Abby on IG @abbymariemurphy or TikTok @theabbymurphy!Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczraba
EPISODE DROPS MARCH 1ST: Your friends are going to take sides if your relationship doesn't end well- but what if your story isn't the one they believe? Next week we're talking about what happens when you become the villain in someone else's story. Our interviewee got kicked out of her friend group after her friend's got half the story from her ex. Now they (and the rest of the internet) are going to hear her side. The episode drops on March 1st!
When you've been with someone for nearly a decade, you'd assume you'd know them pretty well. The last thing you expect to feel on your honeymoon is: "I've married a complete stranger." Tune in to find out why things went wrong immediately after signing their marriage certificate.Timestamps(01:04) - Abby and Lexi read the submission(03:54) - Interview begins/how they met(04:36) - When things started going wrong....(05:57) - Why the relationship started getting rocky(06:45) - When his behavior started looking suspicious(09:53) - She finally confronts him(10:59) - She finally tells her family what's going on(12:07) - When she "ambushed" him(14:02) - "Why did you do it?!"(15:04) - How did friends/family react?(16:33) - "I didn't want to get divorced...but we had to."(19:10) - The aftermath of the relationship(23:08) - "Why do you think he chose her over you?"(25:25) - "Why do you think he proposed to you?"(28:10) - "If you could ask him one thing and get the truth, what would you ask?"(30:00) - Her advice to people in similar relationshipsFollow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) or IG (@abbymariemurphy) and check out her Spotify Break Up Playlists here: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczrabaSUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/edit
(SCROLL FOR TIMESTAMPS) - Co-worker Justin hopped on the podcast to talk all about toxic relationships. Abby brought five real relationship stories to read and discuss. Do any of these stories sound like something you've been through? Feel free to join in on the conversation on TikTok (@theabbymurphy even though she is shadowbanned!!!! rn) or on her IG (@theabbymurphy). Timestamps(00:57) - I didn't like how my dating app match started our conversation.(03:59) - Is my boyfriend gaslighting me? (06:29) - My husband gets angry time when I mention having kids. (10:24) - Am I wrong for blocking my ex-wife? (14:49) - My BF filmed us having sex w/o my consent. What do I do?
(SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS/TIMESTAMPS) - Being in a "secret" engagement should probably be the first sign you're in a toxic relationship, but when you're crazy in love...crazy just seems like love. Next week's episode has something everyone can relate to. Whether you were in a toxic relationship or just had to hear about one from a friend, we dive into the reasons why people stay in relationships that just aren't good for them.I'm verified on Spotify!!! Check out my Break Up Playlists Here: https://open.spotify.com/user/22nnbzo6iuxetz4f6dtczrabaTimestamps(01:38) - Abby and Coworker Justin Read the Submission(04:56) - Interview Begins/How they met(06:02) - The "proposal" story no one knows about(08:37) - When things started to go south....(10:46) - "I've never cheated on you but...."(11:59) - The texts that tipped her off that something was up(15:03) - When the relationship (almost) ended completely(16:13) - The humiliating public argument(17:31) - The couple tries to work things out(19:14) - Why she chose to stay in the relationship(22:22) - If she could go back and do things differently....(24:43) - The hardest thing about ending this relationship(28:23) - Closing announcementsResources:The National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) www.ndvh.orgNational Dating Abuse Helpline 1-866-331-9474 www.loveisrespect.orgThe Love and Abuse Podcast: https://loveandabuse.com/the-podcast/How To Recognize Emotional Abuse: https://www.healthline.com/health/signs-of-mental-abuseSteps to help you leave an abusive relationship: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/getting-out-of-an-abusive-relationship.htmSUBMIT A BREAK UP STORY: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1JhayC6xUgMldTWgiQRa2mfzSXfac7kY0yOSaOAu5p8M/editCW: abuse
EPISODE DROPS FEBRUARY 22ND - When you've been with someone for nearly a decade, you'd assume you'd know them pretty well. The last thing you expect to feel on your honeymoon is: "I've married a complete stranger." Tune in next week to find out why things went wrong immediately after signing their marriage certificate. The episode drops on Feb. 22nd!
EPISODE DROPS FEBRUARY 15TH - Being in a "secret" engagement should probably be the first sign you're in a toxic relationship, but when you're crazy in love...crazy just seems like love. Next week's episode has something everyone can relate to. Whether you were in a toxic relationship or just had to hear about one from a friend, we dive into the reasons why people stay in relationships that just aren't good for them. The episode drops on February 15th!
(Scroll for timestamps) Abby & Lexi are convinced - this is what ALL girls need to do for their friends on their first dates. This weekend, they followed their friend Kennedy to a bar where she was meeting a new guy for drinks. Not only was it wildly entertaining to watch....they got to look out for her in an environment where things could have gone south REAL QUICK. Tune in to hear what it was like observing their friend's date!Timestamps(00:42) - Setting Up The Date(01:37) - Why this date was so nerve wracking(02:22) - When Abby got to the bar(03:04) - "Young JFK" gets to the bar(04:42) - The date begins(05:37) - When Abby almost got caught by "Young JFK"(07:13) - Why watching the date was a great idea(08:30) - How the date ended(09:07) - Would guys mind girls doing this?(12:18) - "January Gloom" on dating apps(14:51) - The guy Abby and Kennedy have both met on the apps
(Scroll for episode timestamps) - If I told you this couple got married before dating...you'd assume this story would take place in a super conservative community. That's not where next weeks episode is centered. The Break Up Break Down is going global!! When our interviewee got divorced in another country, she and her new boo had to find a way to make their relationship work. So they took it to the courthouse! Tune in to find out if getting hitched before truly getting to date actually works....Timestamps(00:43) - Abby reads this week's submission(02:07) - Interview begins(04:00) - Her first marriage to her husband(04:56) - She meets her (soon to be) wife(06:09) - The decision to leave her husband(08:05) - The second wedding(09:05) - The decision to move to Greece(10:00) - When things start to go downhill(10:39) - Her move to hometown in Canada(13:10) - Buying a house with her wife in Canada(14:13) - When things got worse between them(15:04) - The "bagel war" Canada never saw coming(15:52) - The last straw for them(17:51) - Why they'll never get back together(21:34) - Closing announcements
Scroll to see episode timestamps - If you've have a dating app for more than two seconds, you've had some kind of weird experience. From those Hinge voice prompts that make you cringe, to dates that leave you wanting to stay single for the next DECADE, we talk about it all this episode. Here's what you'll here in the next 25ish mins....(00:40) - Abby's weird dating turn off(01:50) - This strange voice memo on some guy's Hinge Profile(03:15) - Choosing what to write on your profile(03:35) - Should you put disclaimer in your profile?(07:30) - Snapchat or Phone #?(09:36) - Our most "liked" prompts on Hinge(11:11) - What women are looking for vs. men are looking for(12:09) - Lexi's turn offs when looking for women on dating apps(12:46) - Abby's turn off on a man's dating app(15:17) - Lexi's worst Tinder date(16:19) - Abby talks about "the vibe check" theory(18:34) - Seeing people you know on dating apps(21:05) - How dating is different from when our parent's were single(21:33) - Who should make the first move?(22:35) - Paying for dating apps
EPISODE DROPS FEB. 1- If I told you this couple got married before dating...you'd assume this story would take place in a super conservative community. That's not where next weeks episode is centered. The Break Up Break Down is going global!! When our interviewee got divorced in another country, she and her new boo had to find a way to make their relationship work. So they took it to the courthouse! Tune in next week to find out if getting hitched before truly getting to date actually works....
SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS - Sex, drugs, and EDM. That about sums up this week's break up. Abby probably said "How can it get WORSE?!" about 1000 times during the recording of this episode. It's like 5 break up stories in one. When our interviewee met her (now ex) BF of six years at an EDM concert...it was love at first insert electronic dance sound here. When he asks her to pack up and move away from all her friends and family, his red flags start waving like it's the freakin Fourth of July.Episode Timestamps(01:02) Abby and Lexi read this week's submission(02:52) How the interviewee met her ex(04:13) When things started to go wrong (their move to Nashville, TN)(04:54) The universe sent her a sign... (reminds us of our Episode 3!)(06:08) The first red flag(07:44) The first strike against her ex(08:37) The first time she confronted him(09:55) What happened after that confrontation(10:36) She thought this was a turning point....(13:25) The second strike against her ex(18:56) Why she stayed with him(19:41) The third strike against her ex(20:53) The doctors visit that changed her life(22:03) How he responded to the results from her doctor(25:58) Introduction of "the other woman"(28:28) When she was finally done(30:34) When she confronted "the other woman"(32:02) The messed up news about her ex and "the other woman"(35:03) What she would tell others who feel trapped in relationships(35:20) The moment she wished she would have left(36:03) Her new relationship(38:18) End of Story/AnnouncementsCW: Abuse, animal death, Suicide
(See episode timestamps below) If you're still out dating and your friends have found the person they're going to (theoretically) be with forever...it sucks. The dynamic of your friendship is going to change. It's a natural part of life, but it doesn't make it any less unsettling. In this mini episode Abby and her friend Kennedy are back to talk about: 01:41 - Comments on Abby's TikTok video that started this discussion.01:56 - The hardest parts of going to your first wedding for a close friend.02:43 - When your friends grow up before you do. 03:18 - The worst part of being a bridesmaid that nobody talks about. 04:20 - When you don't click with your friend's significant other.06:52 - When your friends start having kids.08:38 - Do men go through this when their friends get married?11:18 - The book all of TikTok recommended for this topic.1334 - Serious college relationships are not the same as serious "adult" relationships.15:18 - The importance of community in relationships.
EPISODE DROPS JANUARY 25TH - Abby probably said "How can it get WORSE?!" about 1000 times during the recording of this episode. It's like 5 break up stories in one. When our interviewee met her (now ex) BF of six years at an EDM concert...it was love at first insert electronic dance sound here. When he asks her to pack up and move away from all her friends and family, his red flags start waving like it's the freakin Fourth of July. Tune in next week to hear this crazy story (that has a happy ending. Yay!)
Hey Upper East Siders- I mean...Break Up Break Down listeners. This is an episode that puts the new Gossip Girl reboot to shame (not that that was hard to do...). When an anonymous number tells her everything her skeezy ex-boyfriend did towards the end of the relationship...it only makes things messier. Find out what had her ex crying in the car with her after those cryptic texts got sent.TIME STAMPS01:01 - Abby and Lexi read this week's submission03:28 - Start of the Interview04:27 - When she knew something was wrong.05:35 - When she contacted "the other woman"06:45 - The first bit of evidence against him07:15- The mysterious texter let's her know the full story08:48- When his mom got involved lol09:02 - She finally confronts him in person11:45- The downfall for the "other woman"14:06 - Lessons learned from the relationship14:45 - First inkling that their relationship would fail17:45 - Discussing why men tend to cheat20:58 - Trends w/ cheaters21:47 - Importance of loving yourself first
Join Abby and Ilinca (@InkyToks) for relationship book club! Ilinca has read all the hottest dating advice books like "Why Men Love B*tches", "Act Like a Lady Think Like a Man", Get The Guy, and more! Join them for a quick convo about the advice they loved and hated from these books (and which are actually worth reading!)
EPISODE DROPS JANUARY 18TH - Hey Upper East Siders- I mean...Break Up Break Down listeners. This is an episode that puts the new Gossip Girl reboot to shame (not that that was hard to do...). When an anonymous number tells her everything her skeezy ex-boyfriend did towards the end of the relationship...it only makes things messier. Find out what had her ex crying in the car with her after those cryptics texts got sent. Episode drops Jan. 18th!
There's two sides to every story - and this is the side exposes the harsh truth. When an influencer popped on social media to share how she met her boyfriend, she didn't share the other half of the story. Yeah, The cheating half. Find out how our interviewee discovered her boyfriend was cheating on her from his new girlfriend's social media videos.01:14 - Abby and Co-Worker Justin Read the Submission03:57- How she and her ex got together.05:27- The actual break up07:08- When social media creeping shows the truth....11:03- When things (probably) went south for him.17:25- The hard thing about moving on from High School Relationships.19:52- The first step forward after her break up.20:51- The second break up that only made things worse.20:04- Lingering effects of cheating.26:43- What she would tell her younger self during her break up.Follow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) and IG (@abbymariemurphy) for episode updates and ~relatable girl~ content.
EPISODE DROPS JANUARY 11TH - There's two sides to every story - and this is the side exposes the harsh truth. When an influencer popped on social media to share how she met her boyfriend, she didn't share the other half of the story. Yeah, The cheating half. Find out next week how our interviewee discovered her boyfriend was cheating on her from his new girlfriend's social media videos.
TikTok’s So My Moms A Therapist Joins Abby for this week’s “mini” episode! Look, I love this time of year as much as the next person, but you're lying if you don't think that the holidays bring out the worst in us sometimes. Lisa, @SoMyMomsATherapist from TikTok, came on to answer questions sent in by you!Listen to:The most common problems people face during the holidays (00:58)How do I handle the holidays as an introvert? (02:09)My family keeps joking about my singleness. I keep telling them to stop, but they don't. What do I do? (06:21)I feel extra lonely this time of year. How do I keep myself from running back to an ex or an old hookup? (10:20)All my siblings/cousins are in relationships and I'm not. How do I handle being around them at gatherings? (13:36)I'm meeting my partner's parents for the first time-and I already know their mom doesn't like me. How do I prepare for this tense situation? (17:01)Is it a bad idea to break off a relationship during the holidays? (20:22)Podcast Announcements (20:54)Follow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) or IG (@abbymariemurphy) to keep up with her and the podcast!Also check out Lisa on socials (@somymomsatherapist) and listen to her new podcast for more therapy from her perspective.
"I just don't see a future with us," is the worst thing your new spouse could say to you only weeks after you get married. Seriously- when you're crying at the altar, visibly in love, a couple months before ending your marriage- what changed? Listen to: The break up submission from a listener (01:49)How she met her ex-wife (02:51)When the relationship started to get hard (04:45)Some of their major issues (05:45)The moment that changed their entire relationship (07:48)When the divorce got petty (12:48)Why she thinks the relationship went south (16:00)The hardest part about divorce (21:19)Announcements for upcoming episodes (21:44)
Ever wish you could ask your partners mom why they are the way that they are?!?! This week, my mom joins me for a discussion about why moms want to meddle in their kid's relationships, the uniqueness of mother-son relationships, handling conflict with your partners family, and more.Episode Topics(00:54) Why do you think the mom from Episode 4 would want an apology from our interviewee for sleeping with someone while she and her son were broken up?(01:25) Why do you think some moms want to control their kid's relationship?(01:44) When your son is dating someone, do you feel like you've lost him to someone else?(03:09) Why moms cling to their sons more than daughters.(04:22) Is it weird for a son to be super close to his mom?(06:54) When should you hold back information (venting about fights, etc.) about your relationship to your mom?(07:44) Is a bad relationship with your partner's family a reason to break off a relationship?(09:44) How to handle conflict with your partner's family.(10:40) The one character trait every mother wants to see in the person their kid brings home.(12:27) What my mom would do if she wasn't a fan of someone I brought home.(13:43) What my mom would do if the whole family didn't like someone I brought home.(14:04) The one character trait my mom won't tolerate in my boyfriend.(14:32) The one thing my mom wants to tell people about dealing with families in relationships. @somymomsatherapist from TikTok will be next week's Minisode Guest! Send any and all relationship questions to Abby' IG DMs (@abbymariemurphy) and check her out on TikTok (@theabbymurphy).
EPISODE DROPS DECEMBER 21ST: "I just don't see a future with us," is the worst thing your new spouse could say to you only weeks after you get married. Seriously- when you're crying at the altar, visibly in love, a couple months before ending your marriage- what changed? We get to the bottom of the break up next Tuesday!
Break ups suck. Period. When you're trying to get over your former boo, you're already sorting through all those heartbreaking emotions. Wanna know how it gets worse? Getting a call from said ex that taints everything about that WAS good about that relationship. Abby and Lexi read this week's submission from a listener who says this is going to be a tough break up to get to (01:20) but CLEARLY they underestimated them.They hopped on a call with this week's interviewee (03:53) and talked about what happened. We touch on how they got together (04:03), some of the major issues in their relationship (05:45), where she went wrong (06:40), where he went wrong (07:45), and the phone call that tainted the entire relationship (11:04).@somymomsatherapist from TikTok will be next week's Minisode Guest! Send any and all relationship questions to Abby' IG DMs (@abbymariemurphy) and check her out on TikTok (@theabbymurphy).
The queens of cancelled weddings (Jess & Devin from DIY Break Up) help us wrap up our cancelled wedding episode with this week's minisode. We'll start off with some introductions (01:18) and then Devin spills the details on the relationship that led to the start of DIY Break Up (02:10). Jess & Devin also help solve some of our listener's relationship questions like....(04:35) - What are some signs someone is cheating on me?(05:50) - My fiancée says they cheated on me, but are remorseful. Is it worth forgiving?(07:19) - My partner is still really good friends with their ex. I want them to stop talking so much. Am I overreacting? (08:53) - My fiancée's friends aren't friendly to me. It's starting to affect how I feel about my fiancée. What do I do?(10:21) - My ex and I ended on good terms but I hate seeing their new photos on social media. Should I block them?Follow DIY Break Up on socials (@diybreakup) and check out the website DIYbreakup.com!You can check out Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) and IG (@abbymariemurphy).
EPISODE DROPS DECEMBER 14TH: Break ups suck. Period. When you're trying to get over your former boo, you're already sorting through all those heartbreaking emotions. Wanna know how it gets worse? Getting a call from said ex that taints everything about that WAS good about that relationship. Have fun talking about that in therapy (and on this podcast!) We hash it all out with some laughs, some tears, and a lot of great insight from someone who has been there.
We all know that couple that has been together for YEARS. It's a given they're going to get married, right? Well, when the bride-to-be gets a surprising text message from her best guy friend, she starts to doubt her current relationship. On this week's episode, Abby and Lexi read a submission from a listener (00:46) who wants to know what went down. They do a little shameless social media stalking (02:03) and finally get to the bottom of the break up (03:40) before closing out the episode (20:19).Follow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) and IG (@abbymariemurphy) to keep up with podcast updates!
'Twas the night before Thanksgiving...and all through your hometown...former classmates stirring- cocktails. Lots and lots of cocktails. The night before Thanksgiving (aka Drinksgiving/Black Out Wednesday) is an unspoken American tradition known to 20 somethings as the biggest party of the year. Abby, Lexi, and co-worker Justin talk about some crazy stories people DM'd Abby from their wild night out and even share some of their own!
EPISODE DROPS DECEMBER 7TH: We all know that couple that has been together for YEARS. It's a given they're going to get married, right? Well, when the bride-to-be gets a surprising text message from her best guy friend, she starts to doubt her current relationship. With two weeks left till the wedding, an eight-year relationship begins to unravel. How do you end a relationship when it's all you've ever known?
Imagine scrolling through Facebook and seeing your friend post her elopement photos. Then, barely a week has passed, and they announce their separation. UHH what went wrong? Hear from the person who submitted the story (01:48), listen in on Abby and Lexi's speculation (02:13), tune in to the full break up break down with 1/2 of the couple (03:28), and hear about upcoming episodes (21:25).Follow Abby on TikTok (@theabbymurphy) and on IG (@abbymariemurphy) for updates!
EPISODE DROPS NOVEMBER 30TH - Imagine scrolling through Facebook and seeing your friend post her elopement photos. Then, barely a week has passed, and they announce their separation. UHH what went wrong? Abby and Lexi hopped on a call to hash out everything went down. One word to describe this episode? Unpredictable. In the best way.
WE WERE ON! A BREAK! It's the iconic line that's launched debates across friend groups everywhere. What if you're not ready to break up with someone, but you don't necessarily think you should break up? Should you go on a break? And if you do...what's the best way to go about it? Abby talked to therapist, Maddie Spear, MSW, LCSW (IG: loveyourlittlevictories TT: therapy_thoughts) about how to have a successful break!
Over 600,000 people on TikTok were DYING to know what happened to these childhood sweethearts who almost called off their wedding. In this episode Abby and Lexi make their predictions (00:53), talk to the person who submitted the story (04:34), interview the couple about what happened (09:50), and break down how they felt about the whole thing (26:32).Follow Abby on TikTok @theabbymurphy and @abbymariemurphy on IG for updates!
EPI 1 TEASER (FULL EPISODE DROPS NOV. 23) - When middle school sweethearts get engaged, of course their small town acquaintances are going to be curious about the wedding! But when rumors start flying that they broke up BEFORE THE CEREMONY...we head to social media to investigate. Too bad both of them deleted their accounts! Did they break up? Are they just going on hiatus? We need to know. Here's a teaser for the first episode about these childhood sweethearts where we get to the bottom of things.