How To Stop People Pleasing: Recent Episodes
Rachael Lyon
Going to lunches you don’t want to go to? Staying in relationships you don’t want to be in? Working insane hours to cover for colleagues you don’t even like?
Then you are in the right place.
People Pleasing is a dilemma. Get what you want and feel guilty, give others what they want and feel resentful. Both mean a miserable life. But how do you stop without upsetting others?
I’ll show you.
Listen in weekly and see your life go from people-pleasing hell to a life filled with everything you want. And the best bit? No one gets upset along the way.
Today we explore the final step in the path out of people-pleasing! Saying the words to give you both what you really want. Why is this a step? Why can we not just tell them what they want? Because the words that we say matter. But the thoughts we are thinking when we say the words matter more. Listen in and find out how to become the ultimate people-pleaser.
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© 2022 Rachael Lyon
Today we look at how we prove the people-pleasing dilemma wrong by finding a way that gets the other person what they want and, at the same time, gets you what you want. It is the essence of true people pleasing. And how do we do this? We look behind what the other person is saying to discover what it is that they really want. We then see how this is the same thing as what we really want. Listen in to discover why people don’t ask for what they really want and how all humans really want the same things.
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© 2022 Rachael Lyon
We cannot fix a problem until we have identified what is causing it. Today we look at the cause of our people-pleasing - the dilemma. Why is it so important to name the dilemma we are in, and why is it important to name it precisely? Find out today as we delve into the people-pleasing dilemma.
Referenced in today's episode - The Home Edit Show
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© 2022 Rachael Lyon
Did you know that your over-drinking problem may be down to people-pleasing? Or your over-eating issue? Mine was. Today we look at situations that may not at first appear to be people-pleasing but are in fact just that! This is important, as to solve a problem, we need to know what is causing that problem. And if it’s people-pleasing, we have the solution in the 5-steps.
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© 2022 Rachael Lyon
In this episode, we start to delve into the steps I set out last week, beginning with step 1, How to Know If You Are in a People Pleasing Situation. Before doing this, I recap the steps and explain why they work so well. Our exploration into step 1 looks at how we can differentiate between people-pleasing and kindness and thereby dissolving the fear that if we stop people-pleasing, we will turn into horrible people who have no friends.
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© 2022 Rachael Lyon
Today I share with you the 5 action steps that dissolve any people pleasing situation. To illustrate the steps at work, I apply them to an episode of Friends and show how Phoebe could have saved a lot of (very amusing) effort if she had followed them!
People pleasing is funny on TV, but in real life it isn’t. These 5 steps will get you out of the people pleasing dilemma to get what you want without losing your friends.
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© 2021 Rachael Lyon
People pleasing is a dilemma and if we are to stop, we need to find a way out of that dilemma. In this episode I tell the story of how I discovered the way out. But I soon realised that stopping people pleasing wasn’t just about getting me what I wanted but it was also about getting those I cared about what they wanted.
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© 2021 Rachael Lyon
No one is born a people pleaser, we have just developed these behaviours to deal with circumstances in our lives. In this show I tell the story of how I became a people pleaser and how it helped me get so much that I wanted in life. Until it didn’t.
It started when I was young and felt like I never fit in. I figured out a way to behave that got me lots of friends, a great job and an amazing life. But I started to find it harder and harder to keep everyone happy and it started to unravel.
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Go to https://www.rachaellyon.co.uk/podcast for the transcript of the show.
© 2021 Rachael Lyon
Going to lunches you don’t want to go to? Staying in relationships you don’t want to be in? Working insane hours to cover for colleagues you don’t even like?
Then you are in the right place.
People Pleasing is a dilemma. Get what you want and feel guilty, give others what they want and feel resentful. Both mean a miserable life. But how do you stop without upsetting others?
I’ll show you.
Listen in weekly and see your life go from people-pleasing hell to a life filled with everything you want. And the best bit? No one gets upset along the way.