Held and Healed with Heather Elizabeth: Recent Episodes
Heather Elizabeth
Held. Healed. Looking back over my life, I see the evidence of God’s presence. I have always been held. In recent years, I began a journey of healing. Healing takes time. I have come so far and there is so much to learn. Join me as I share my story and the stories of others who are held and healed. I am surrounded by a village of fellow warriors. We are using our voices to raise awareness and advocate for survivors. We will explore the realities of sexual abuse, domestic violence and spiritual abuse and glean from resources that will bless you on your healing journey.
Sometimes grief comes in waves. Sometimes it comes as a wall of water—a tsunami—and forces us to the ground. Gasping, we barely come up for air before the next wave hits. In this episode, I share an update of my current experiences and offer some of my favorite grief resources. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Eight and a half years ago, my life came to screeching halt. I contracted a dangerous and mysterious virus that “woke up” many other viruses and diseases that were dormant in my body. Since that time, I have fought with all my might to heal. In this episode, I share some of the things I wish others understood about chronic illness. https://themighty.com/topic/chronic-fatigue-syndrome/cell-phone-battery-spoon-theory-fatigue/? Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Many survivors of spiritual abuse may never feel safe attending traditional church again. I invite you to extend curiosity and compassion, not condemnation.Learn more about the Nervous System Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
A new year is here and my ONE WORD for 2024 is GENTLE. I’m learning to offer myself gentleness, kindness, and compassion.If I would not say something to a good, safe, and trusted friend, I should not say it to myself. I invite you to join me on this journey. Learn more about the Nervous System Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
In Episode 6, Jimmy Hinton shared some of his story. In this episode, we unpack what forgiveness is and what it is not. Too often, the burden of forgiveness is placed on the shoulders of victims while abusers are not held to account. We hope that this conversation brings hope and healing to many. Find Jimmy Hinton Author on Facebook, or at his website: https://jimmyhinton.org/. Learn more about the Nervous System Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Tom Pryde (Psalm 82 Initiative) and I discuss the true signs of a repentant abuser. I share this resource with survivors every week and it was meaningful to talk through the seven signs with Tom. From Psalm 82: A Letter on Showing Repentance https://psalm82initiative.wordpress.com/2019/07/06/a-letter-on-showing-repentance. Learn more about the Nervous System Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Regardless of the label, Parental Alienation/DV by Proxy/Child and Mother Sabotage is hell on earth. It only takes one abusive patner to destroy a relationship. The abuser often uses DARVO and turns their children against the victim parent. In this episode, I share this reality so that helpers can understand what survivors are going through. I will update these notes when I find additional resources. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Did you know that lonliness, isolation, fear, and trauma can weaken your immune system? In this episode, I share some ways to boost your immune system after trauma. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) and I invite you to DO SOMETHING to support DV survivors. Become informed. Support her in tangible ways. Give without strings attached. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
In this episode I share some more thoughts on how to determine if a helper is safe, including a post from Tom Pryde of Psalm 82 Initiative. Be safe, dear ones! Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
In this episode, I share some concerns I have about those who call themselves pastors, leaders, counselors, therapists, coaches, advocates, etc. I share practical ways to vet these helpers and determine if they are truly trauma-informed. I refer to Wilderness to Wild’s article, Trauma-Inforned: Are Your Helpers Actually Helpful https://www.wildernesstowild.com/community/public/posts/332570-trauma-informed-are-your-helpers-actually-helpful. The Four Tools Framework by Psalm 82 Initiative: https://www.psalm82initiative.org/4-tools-framework/. The Speaking Out On Sex Abuse Podcast (Episode 248), and Held & Healed Podcast (Episode 53). Register to receive the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat (Rest, Regulate, and Reset) Videos here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
In this episode, I share dozens of healing resources to help you on your healing journey. If you are a survivor and/or someone who wants to know better and do better, this list is a great place to begin. I share some of my favorite books, podcasts, and social media accounts. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
In this episode, I address three groups of people: survivors, church people, and spiritual leaders. Survivors, if you no longer feel safe in church, you can leave. Church people, if you attend a church that is harming others, you are endorsing abuse. Spiritual leaders, God sees all, hears all, and knows all. You may be getting away with abuse now, but you will give an account sooner or later. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
In this episode, I continue to share about my experiences in spiritual institutions. I have been a part of a DOZEN different institutions and have had close encounters with HUNDREDS of spiritual leaders and have experienced tremendous abuse and trauma for over four decades. I fought long and hard to address harm in a Biblical manner. (Note: There is some overlap between part 2 and 3. I apologize for repeating myself. Also, I referenced Matthew 25, but I meant Matthew 18. I think I need a nap now.) I spoke up on behalf of others who were being harmed. My voice was ignored and silenced. My spirit grew weaker and weaker. Three years ago, I left corporate religion and pursued safety and freedom. I now experience peace and joy that I never knew before. Ladies, you are invited to the third annual Held & Healed Retreat: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat?mibextid=Zxz2cZ. Please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
In this episode, I conclude sharing about my experiences in spiritual institutions. I have been a part of a DOZEN different institutions and have had close encounters with HUNDREDS of spiritual leaders and have experienced tremendous abuse and trauma for over four decades. I fought long and hard to address harm in a Biblical manner. I spoke up on behalf of others who were being harmed. My voice was ignored and silenced. My spirit grew weaker and weaker. Three years ago, I left corporate religion and pursued safety and freedom. I now experience peace and joy that I never knew before. Ladies, you are invited to the third annual Held & Healed Retreat: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat?mibextid=Zxz2cZ. Please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
In this episode, I continue to share about my experiences in spiritual institutions. I have been a part of a DOZEN different institutions and have had close encounters with HUNDREDS of spiritual leaders and have experienced tremendous abuse and trauma for over four decades. I fought long and hard to address harm in a Biblical manner. I spoke up on behalf of others who were being harmed. My voice was ignored and silenced. My spirit grew weaker and weaker. Three years ago, I left corporate religion and pursued safety and freedom. I now experience peace and joy that I never knew before. Ladies, you are invited to the third annual Held & Healed Retreat: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat?mibextid=Zxz2cZ. Please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
In this episode, I share about the first 24 years of my life inside spiritual institutions. I have been a part of a DOZEN different institutions and have had close encounters with HUNDREDS of spiritual leaders and have experienced tremendous abuse and trauma for over four decades. I fought long and hard to address harm in a Biblical manner. I spoke up on behalf of others who were being harmed. My voice was ignored and silenced. My spirit grew weaker and weaker. Three years ago, I left corporate religion and pursued safety and freedom. I now experience peace and joy that I never knew before. Ladies, you are invited to the third annual Held & Healed Retreat: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat?mibextid=Zxz2cZ. Please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
This episode comes straight from my heart to the hearts of stay-at-home mamas. I share a bit of my story and some things I wish I had known 25 years ago. I celebrate ALL good, loving, and safe mamas and want to offer SAHMs some things no one offered me. Check out the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat (Rest, Regulate, & Reset) here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Glimmers are the opposite of triggers and they can be cues of safety, beauty, healing, joy, and peace. In this episode I share about my journey of glimmer hunting, and invite you to join me. Intentionally seeking out gratitudes and goodness glimmers has been very regulating and healing for me. For more info about the 2023 Held & Healed (Online) Retreat (Rest, Regulate & Reset): https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
I have experienced religious institutional abuse and trauma as a child, as a teen, and as an adult. My hope and prayer is that we can learn from past mistakes and know better and do better to keep our kids safe. Blog post: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/35558/is-your-vbs-kids-camp-safe-?. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.
Father’s Day is another special occasion that can be very painful for survivors. Instead of saying “Happy Father’s Day,” I pray for a Gentle Father’s Day for you and yours. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. Sarah McDugal created a resource that outlines 18 forms of abuse. In this episode and the previous one, I share examples of each form. For the full list, go to https://www.wildernesstowild.com/. Ladies, you are invited to join us for the third annual (online) Held & Healed Retreat. Our theme is Rest, Regulate & Reset and Sarah McDugal is our guest speaker. Register at https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. Sarah McDugal created a resource that outlines 18 forms of abuse. In this episode and the next one, I will share examples of each form. For the full list, go to https://www.wildernesstowild.com/. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
If you are battling chronic illness, you have limited amounts of energy to complete daily tasks. The Spoon Theory helps to explain how to plan your days so that you don’t run out of energy (“spoons”) and take from tomorrow’s reserve. This concept, along with the cell phone battery analogy, will help you and your loved ones understand your limitations. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Mother’s Day can be difficult for survivors of domestic violence. In this episode, I share encouragement for survivor mamas and offer practical ways for helpers to bless those sweet mamas. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
In this episode, I discuss the link between abuse, trauma, and chronic illness. Emotional abuse is physical abuse because it forces us to live in a constant state of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Our bodies wear down over time and every system suffers. I invite you to join us for the third annual Held & Healed Retreat. This year we will meet online. Our guest speaker is Sarah McDugal and our theme is Rest, Regulate, and Reset. We will be offering practical tools for nervous system regulation. Register now, space is limited! https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse is an active Facebook group for women. In this episode I share the goals of the group as well as the resources we offer. Ladies, please join us at https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
In this episode I share the physical and emotional benefits of crying. So many have been taught that tears make us weak, manipulate, or unwell. In reality, there are many benefits to tears and they can help us to heal and regulate our nervous systems. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Trigger Warning: This episode focuses on child sexual abuse. Two takeaways I hope every listener hears: Let’s stop calling it child pornography and call it what it is: child sexual abuse material. And, convicted child sexual predators do not belong in churches. I share resources to help individuals and institutions know better and do better (from Jimmy Hinton, Clara Hinton, Sarah McDugal, Daron Pratt, Exodus Cry, Operation Underground Railroad, RAINN, Rachael Denhollander). Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
As a follow up of last week’s episode, I share practical ways to support DV survivors. This episode speaks to helpers who are walking with survivors. I pray that this will encourage many to step up and represent the hands, feet, and heart of Jesus to others. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
When abuse is a factor, neutrality is always choosing the abuser. Fact. If your loved one has been abused (there are many forms of abuse) and you don’t stand with her, you are siding with the abuser. In this episode, I unpack common responses that lack care, compassion, and empathy. In my next episode, I’ll share practical ways to love and support survivors. Register for the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat (with guest Sarah McDugal): https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
March 21 was National Single Parent Day. In this episode, I share encouragement for survivor single mamas who are doing the hard work of healing while pulling quadruple duty with you kids. I see you. Join our third annual online retreat where we will focus on Rest, Regulate, and Rebuild. Learn more here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
We need your help! Honor Project Movement is empowering women who are rebuilding after abuse. Through 1:1 resource coaching, Financial Freedom Coaching Groups , and DV Crisis Response Counseling Groups, we are helping women feel seen, heard, understood, and equipped. We matching needs to resources (groceries, clothing, furniture). WE NEED YOUR HELP! Please share this podcast with anyone who may be interested in our mission. Please give if you are able. $5 or $5,000, every gift is appreciated. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing are common responses to abuse and trauma. They add layers of trauma onto trauma and cause great harm. In this episode, I share definitions and examples of each and offer suggestions for words that heal. If we know better, we can do better. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
In this episode, I share twelve truths that I desperately needed to hear 25 years ago. If you are in an abusive marriage or are walking with someone who is, this episode is for you. Here is a list of books that are not abuse/trauma-informed, books that communicate unhealthy, or abuse-enabling messages and have been rated or reported to be very harmful to Christian women. https://www.amazon.com/shop/sarahmcdugal/list/1G6MN69AXZB6L. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
You are one person. You have a limited amount of time, energy, and resources each day as you rebuild after abuse, trauna, and chronic illness. Taking care of yourself and your kids is a lot. It may be time to say no to others. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
I pray that 2023 is gentle with you. I pray for peace, healing, and freedom. In this episode I share three books that offer gentleness, compassion, and care. All three are written by therapists who have survived trauma and/or abuse. They offer tools for regulating your nervous system. I have been blessed by these: It’s OK That You’re Not OK (Megan Devine), The Lord is My Courage (KJ Ramsey) and Try Softer (Aundi Kibler). Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
Holidays are not easy for survivors. I wrote “A Gentle Christmas Prayer” on Christmas morning to share with survivors. In this episode I also share some tips from the Held & Healed Holiday Help Workshop. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
In this episode, I chat with a dear survivor/advocate/counselor/warrior sister. Megan founded Give Her Wings and Give Her Wings Academy which is where I received life-changing training and certification. She has since handed that torch over and founded Mountain City Christian Counseling where she provides care for survivors. We chat about domestic violence, spiritual abuse, deconstruction, and so much more. Honor Project Movement partners with MCCC to offer DV Crisis Response Groups. Learn more at https://www.mountaincitychristiancounseling.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
In a recent conversation with my friend Indie, she said, “People being indifferent to your suffering is harm.” In this episode, I define indifference and apathy and offer ways to become curious and compassionate about others. The holidays should be a natural continuation of doing life together. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
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In this episode, I give some updates on life, Held & Healed, and Honor Project Movement. I also share about the power of “and,” as we can simultaneously face and feel emotions that seem contradictory. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
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What is spiritual abuse? After enduring this reality for over forty years, I finally learned it had a name. In this episode, I ask some hard questions and invite you to consider if your spiritual institution is abusive. These questions are also written in a blog: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/35557/are-you-experiencing-spiritual-institutional-abuse-. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement. Please excuse the abrupt ending, my alarm went off and finished the episode prematurely. I may re-record later, but for today, please accept “done over perfect.”
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In this episode, I share about the journey we’ve been on in Held & Healed. For two years, we’ve been learning, growing, and healing together. Survivors have felt seen, heard, understood, and validated. I invite you to purchase the Safer Spaces Summit here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. Register for the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/held-and-healed-retreat-2023. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
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In this episode I share some basics about nervous system regulation, as well as some of my favorite resources. I have learned how to rest and restrict, but regulation was the missing link. Over the past year, I’ve been learning so much and I want to pass these gems on to you. During the final ten minutes, I also discuss ways that we can be a life-line to other survivors, and pull them under the water. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
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Rebuilding after abuse is exhausting. Give yourself grace, dear one. This episode is a message from my heart to yours. I invite those who are able to give generously at https://honorprojectmovement.org/ to help survivors with mental health resources. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org.
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We have a HUGE ANNOUNCEMENT to make! Our nonprofit, Honor Project Movement, has officially launched! You can give TODAY to help meet the needs of survivors! Go here to give your tax deductible donation: paypal.com/us/fundraiser/charity/4601668. We are raising funds for Domestic Violence Crisis Response Groups, financial and safety coaching, benevolence, and so much more. The needs are great and we have many women waiting for resources. Thank you for your consideration and generosity. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
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In this episode, I tackle this huge question. I also reference several other resources which offer more questions to ask. I share from this blog post and encourage you to pass this info on to others who need it: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/35393/how-do-i-choose-a-safe-counselor-or-coach. For more info about Held & Healed Haven, Rebuilding: Finances, Safer Spaces Summit, or our upcoming retreat, visit https://heatherelizabeth.org.
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Do you find yourself grieving, feeling agitated, on edge, and extra triggered? You may be experiencing a traumaversay. Your body remembers things your brain may not be able to process. Awareness and preparedness can help us face these painful memories. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
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Debra is a separation/divorce/life renovation coach who has a lot of wisdom about navigating finances during these transitions. We discuss financial abuse, spousal starvation, parallel planning, waiting with intention, financial planning, mediation, choosing a lawyer, and more. Learn more about Debra’s book, coaching, and courses at: https://www.debradoak.com/. Join my Rebuilding: Finances Course at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/rebuilding-finances. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
In this episode, I talk with my dear friends, Luke & Lauren Smallcomb. They have combined their skill sets (trauma therapist and mind-body practitioner) to create Flourish Therapy. I learn new things from them every week and am excited to introduce you to them. Find their contact info for Facebook, Instagram, YouTube or their podcast through https://flourishtherapy.co/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
In this episode, I share some tips for setting and holding boundaries. As you rebuild after trauma and abuse, you will find your voice. Setting boundaries is a way to respect yourself and honor your healing journey. I offer Boundaries Group Coaching where we discuss these truths and apply them in everyday situations. For registration information, go to Heatherelizabeth.org and choose the Boundaries Group Coaching option. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
What a heartbreaking and gut-wrenching week for the survivor community. Everywhere we turn, there are stories that shake us. In this podcast, I share about a Round Table discussion I participated in with Thomas Pryde (Psalm 82 Initiative) and Sarah McDugal. We went through the video from the Indiana pastor’s “confession” of “adultery” with a 16 year old girl. Watch here: https://www.facebook.com/sarahmcdugalauthor/videos/686921625944312/. The releases of this video, the sexual abuse data base by SBC, and the docu series “Sins of the Amish” and the Josh Duggar sentencing all occurred within three days. I offer suggestions for taking care of ourselves, honoring boundaries and limitations, and practicing self-care during these trying times. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For a list of my services: https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Moving forward, I will be recording twice a month on this podcast. I am adding more services and invite you to go to HeatherElizabeth.org and click on tabs to learn more. I offer group coaching, a rebuilding finances course, a retreat, and a summit. Coming soon, I will launch the Held & Healed membership group. We will create community, learn more about rebuilding the body, mind, and spirit and hear from guest speakers. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
What makes you feel alive, energized, and excited? What gifts and skills do you enjoy using to bless others? What is one thing you’ve dreamed of doing? Learning to recognize and stay in your lane is so freeing! Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For info about the Safer Spaces Summit, Held & Healed Retreat, Held & Healed Haven, Boundaries Group Coaching and more: https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
In this episode I share nine of my favorite healthy habits and encourage you to choose one to focus on. Little steps taken over time create big changes. You matter and your health matters. Take care of yourself, dear one. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
“He’s a bad husband, but he’s a good dad” is not true. If a man abuses the mother of his children, he abuses his children. Period. In this episode, I discuss the heartbreaking, gut-wrenching reality so many women and children are facing. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Andrew is the Founder & Director of the Christian Counseling Center: For Sexual Health & Trauma. In this episode we discuss some of his story, his work and his most recently released book, How Not to Be an *ss: Essays on Becoming a Good and Safe Man. To learn more about his counseling services go to https://christiancc.org/. For his personal website go to https://andrewjbauman.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, register for my group coaching or the Safer Spaces Summit at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
From an Open Letter to Christian Authors, Bloggers, Podcasters, Influencers, and Leaders,
I come to you on behalf of countless women who are suffering from destructive marriages…
My first plea is that you become familiar with the patterns and systems of abuse…
Based upon my personal experience and the hundreds of women that I encounter daily, my gut tells me that 50-75% of women within faith communities are experiencing multiple forms of abuse on a regular basis.
These women read your books, blogs, and social media posts.
These women listen to your podcasts and sermons.
These women have endured years, even decades, of heartbreaking, gut-wrenching, soul-crushing abuse.
Some are aware that they are being abused, and many are yet aware.
We can no longer say, “But my message was directed at healthy couples.”
Many marriages are not healthy.
Most women who are seeking out help are not in healthy marriages and the messages they hear cause more harm.
When you speak on these topics and do not include a warning about abuse, these women feel blamed, shamed and responsible for the abuse they are enduring…Read full letter here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/31502/an-open-letter-to-christian-authors-bloggers-podcasters-influencers-and-leaders. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For more information about Safer Spaces Summit: https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
In this episode, I share about the felt presence of Jesus that has carried me through every season of my life. I boldly speak out against spiritual abuse, and pray that survivors can distinguish who God is from the ways others have misrepresented Him and His Word. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Coaching, summit, retreat links and more are at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Compassion is a deep awareness of the suffering of someone and the desire to alleviate that suffering. Self-compassion is learning how to turn understanding, acceptance and love inward (good therapy.org). In this episode, I share practical ways to exercise self-compassion, to set boundaries and practice healthy habits. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For info about group coaching or the summit, visit https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
In this episode, I share more of my story and focus on the past six years. I have been rebuilding (body, mind and spirit) and I am passionate about helping others do the same. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find links for group coaching, the Safe Spaces Summit and Held & Healed Retreat at https://heatherelizabeth.org.
In this episode, I share some of my story. While there are many details I choose not to share publicly, I have experienced the thirteen patterns/systems of abuse in childhood and adulthood. I am grateful to God for His presence, peace, protection and provision through it all. Surely, He has held and healed me. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For Group Coaching and Safer Spaces Summit links, go to https://heatherelizabeth.org.
In this episode, I share why I chose my one word for 2022. I’ve been battling some intense anxiety over the past several months and know that I am not alone. I am pursuing peace that passes understanding. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth. (You can register for the summit and the retreat at this link)
In this episode I share some of my personal experience with exhaustion and grief. I pray that this encourages you on your healing journey. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. You can also find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. To register for the Safer Spaces Summit, go to https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. To register for Held & Healed Retreat 2022 go to https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/held-and-healed-retreat-2022. I look forward to learning and growing with you in 2022.
Each year (since 2006), I choose ONE WORD to focus on. One area I want to grow in. One word that will help me become more like Jesus. In this episode, I share the progression of my words and the outline of my story that unfolds. I invite you to choose a word for 2022 and we’ll grow together. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. On January 15, I’ll go live in that group and we’ll share our words together. You can also find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. To register for the Safer Spaces Summit, go to https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. To register for Held & Healed Retreat 2022 go to https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/held-and-healed-retreat-2022. I look forward to learning and growing with you in 2022.
For many, this is NOT the most wonderful time of the year. I am praying for you as you navigate hard things and encourage you to hold boundaries during the holiday season. To learn more about Twelve Truths Group Coaching: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/copy-of-12-truths-group-coaching-3?fbclid=IwAR1Fmag_A22WVjyu8B91k-UW__F6zx88wKRR-wMHL-S1Zj-esF504-pvtcQ. For early-bird registration to Safer Spaces Summit: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
I am blessed to call Rebecca my friend. She is my go to when I am being triggered by Bible verses that have weaponized against me. She has released the third book in her Untwisting Scriptures series, Untwisting Scriptures That Were Used to Tie You Up, Gag You and Tangle Your Mind: Your Words and Emotions. She does a fantastic job of explaining God’s word in light of context, culture and the character of our loving Father. In this episode, we unpack the first part of the book and focus on words. Grab her book on Amazon, and check out her website: https://heresthejoy.com/. Join us for Safer Spaces Summit: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Cindy is a survivor of a 20-year abusive marriage. She has so much wisdom to share with survivors and advocates. She has written several books, this episode highlights Reformulating the Christian Marriage Counseling Model Where Abuse Is Involved. This book is a valuable resource for spiritual leaders. You may find her at at http://www.hurtbylove.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
The holiday season is upon us. For many, this is NOT the most wonderful time of the year. As we are rebuilding our lives after abuse, holidays can be painful reminders of what we’ve lost. In this episode I share some tips that have helped me navigate painful family dynamics for the past 25 years. I encourage maintaining healthy habits, setting a realistic budget, blessing those in need, enforcing low/no contact with abusive people, surrounding yourself with safe people and focusing on traditions and foods that matter to you and your kids. These tips are also organized here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/29360/held-healed-holidays. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
In this episode I share twelve truths that will help you heal after an abusive marriage. These are truths I have learned over the past five years and I wish someone had shared with me decades ago. I offer group coaching for women and we unpack each truth together and find practical application for each one. If you are interested in learning more about Twelve Truths Group Coaching, please message me at info@heatherelizabeth.org. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/.
Patrick Weaver is a survivor of childhood abuse. His mother endured hellacious abuse and no one intervened. As an adult, Patrick began using his voice to raise awareness and to call the church to care for the oppressed. His platform on social media reaches 70,000+ and the women in my community are so grateful for his voice. He authored He Walks With Me, which is an unforgettably heartfelt and transformational walk with God for victims and survivors of toxic, narcissistic and abusive relationships. Purchase here: https://patrickweaver.org/hewalkswithmebook/. Follow Patrick at https://patrickweaver.org/ or on Facebook or Instagram. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
In Episode 26, I shared harmful phrases that re-victimize survivors. In this episode, I share phrases that help/heal as well as offer suggestions for tangible ways to support survivors as they rebuild their lives. 13 Patterns/Systems of Abuse (Episode 19), also on my blog at https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/27114/13-systems-patterns-of-abuse. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Clara Hinton has been a grief facilitator, speaker and writer for over thirty years. She is a mother of 11 and a grandmother of 24 (so far!). She co-hosts the Speaking Out on Sex Abuse Podcadt with her son Jimmy. https://jimmyhinton.org/podcast/ Together, they educate anyone who is willing to learn about the heinous reality of sexual abuse in churches and beyond. This is a fire their family has walked out of, when her ex-husband (also an ex-pastor) was convicted of horrific crimes against children. I am grateful for this mighty woman of God. She is helping others find safety and healing. Check out her blog here: https://findingahealingplace.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.
Words are powerful. I have polled women in groups that I am a part of and asked for harmful phrases that were used by spiritual leaders when they disclosed abuse. This list is not exhaustive, but I pray that it helps us to be mindful of what we say to victims of abuse. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Dale and Faith are gentle and humble warriors who speak boldly against abuse in Faith communities. Dale has been a pastor for decades and Faith is a survivor of childhood sexual abuse. They founded Speaking Truth in Love Ministries and they educate individuals and churches on the realities of abuse inside church walls. Dale wrote Tear Down This Wall of Silence: Dealing with Sexual Abuse in Our Churches (An Introduction For Those Who Will Hear). Learn more at https://speakingtruthinlove.org/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
It was an honor and a joy to host the first annual Held & Healed Retreat in Virginia. 60 ladies from 8 or more states came together to laugh, cry, worship, learn, heal and connect. It was a beautiful sight to behold. Rebecca Davis shared a powerful message about Spiritual Warfare, as outlined in her book Prayer Armor for Defense (https://www.amazon.com/Prayer-Defense-Against-Enemys-Flaming-ebook/dp/B08P166PJS?crid=ODXOVSSTB2TB&dchild=1&keywords=prayer+armor+for+defense&qid=1631573680&sr=8-2&linkCode=sl1&tag=rebeccajoydav-20&linkId=95094a019ae48ed0809941c394c1f2e4&language=en_US&ref_=as_li_ss_tl&fbclid=IwAR1lcf--9DM6At12n_4fdYtaY3lN-UtA6iAwfu-678t8jiTuVQlvBwXzVVI). Joy Forrest of Called to Peace Ministeries shared her story and the hope and healing she found through scripture and worship (https://www.amazon.com/Called-Peace-Survivors-Finding-Domestic/dp/1948449013/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=ZMO9DEZLJC9O&dchild=1&keywords=called+to+peace+joy+forrest&qid=1631793090&sprefix=called+to+peace&sr=8-3). Ladies, plan now to attend the second annual Held & Healed Retreat September 9-11, 2022. Register here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/held-and-healed-retreat-2022?fbclid=IwAR1-v87R2kNxtRboN__ekIUPSDJHTMDppBXcULQmxyAb4GLQxZ1ERrFeedU Join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org
Setting and maintaining boundaries will accelerate your healing journey. In this episode, I share quotes and tips to help you on your healing journey. For more resources, ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org. For more about the 12 Truths Group Coaching Course, https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/12-truths-group-coaching-1?fbclid=IwAR0s_SX6V9Ojj3MXL8rmXT-k1ki6ai_1INZqdfSa7zIZP20NC-KuzRo5QbE
In this episode, I share some of my story and self-care tips I have learned as I have been rebuilding my body, mind and spirit. Sister, you are valuable. You are priceless. You give and give and give to others. It’s time to take care of yourself. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Happie, Hippie, Healthie Hangout https://www.facebook.com/groups/2874298529497171/ and at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Bella is a survivor of every form of abuse imaginable. She wrote her story in Prisoners in the Shed (buy it here: https://www.amazon.com/Prisoners-Shed-Harrowing-Journey-Captivity/dp/1734594519/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?dchild=1&keywords=prisoners+in+the+shed&qid=1627575025&sprefix=prisoners+in+&sr=8-3). Bella is tenacious, courageous and articulate as she uses her voice to expose evil. I thank God for her life and her voice. Our prayer is that this episode helps to turn the light on for many. If you are living under an abuser’s control, we pray for you to come into the light. Reach out to the domestic abuse hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE or https://www.thehotline.org/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
(Disclaimer: this episode discusses sex, so little ears beware!) I am so grateful to Sheila for bravely tackling topics that most Christian leaders would run from. Along with her co-authors, she surveyed 20,000 women and exposes the problematic, toxic evangelical teachings that have wrecked sex for many for so long. I encourage EVERY Christian, male and female, to read this book. Process it with your spouse or future spouse. This book is helping so many and I am thrilled to be able to share this resource with you! Find Sheila at https://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/, on Facebook, on Instagram and at the Bare Marriage podcast. Ladies, join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse (https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/) or contact me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/ or info@heatherelizabeth.org.
LeAnne is energetic and passionate and she loves helping women rebuild their lives. She is a Certified Professional Coach, learn more here: https://www.thewalkyourtalkcoach.com/. In this episode, we discuss relationships, truth telling and danger assessment. DANGEROUS acronym: https://leslievernick.com/signs-danger-mean-time-flee/. Party Barge story: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/27227/party-barge. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. Today, I share 13 patterns/systems of abuse, as outlined in the book Safe Churches by Sarah McDugal, Jennifer Jill Schwirzer and Nicole Parker. For more in depth instruction, Sarah had a playlist on YouTube: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9WSC9P1z2VeGeak1Id8gsioSdaKnYGBI. You can also find helpful resources at https://www.wildernesstowild.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. I also list the systems/patterns of abuse here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/27114/systems-patterns-of-abuse.
Lauren is a survivor of domestic abuse and spiritual abuse. As a young woman, she was affiliated with Bill Gothard and the Institute in Basic Life Principles (IBLP). In this episode she shares about the brainwashing that happened in her faith community and marriage and how she was left feeling worthless and suicidal. By God’s mercy, she was led to the Recovering Grace website, http://www.recoveringgrace.org/ which is a place where Gothard victims share their stories. Lauren was also led to a therapist who introduced her to https://www.calledtopeace.org/ and her healing journey continues. I thank God for His redemption in her life and for the passion she has to help see others set free. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Elle served as the technical director for Give Her Wings and coaches women through the muddy waters of parental alienation/DV by proxy. In this episode, we discuss terminology, define the roles of alienating parent, targeted parent and victimized child and give practical advice for mamas who are experiencing this harrowing reality. We also make suggestions for what to/not to share on social media (to protect you and your children) and Elle shares some of her favorites resources. Find Elle at https://www.ellereneestudio.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Sarah is a powerhouse of passion and knowledge. She is bold and tackles topics that most Christian leaders would shy away from. She’s a wealth of information about spiritual abuse, porn addiction, sexual abuse and so much more. In this episode, we discuss how rampant porn addiction is within the faith community. We also preview two books she has co-authored, Safe Churches and Myths We Believe, Predators We Trust. To see the 37 myths that Sarah tackles, check out my blog post: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/26497/making-churches-safe-for-youth-part-1. I recommend that EVERY ministry leader, first responder, educator, medical provider, parent and grandparent read these books as soon as possible. Sarah’s website is filled with resources: https://www.wildernesstowild.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.
Grieving the living. It’s a thing. A very real thing. Because of abuse, there are times we must set boundaries with friends and family, and go low or no contact. Many mamas are experiencing parental alienation from their children. Many women are cast out by their families, churches and social communities. I pray this brings clarity to those who are hurting and gives us all greater understanding of how to walk this road of grief together. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For tips for rebuilding your physical body, join us at Happie, Hippie, Healthie Hangout https://www.facebook.com/groups/2874298529497171/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Mindy has has been advocating for woman for over twenty years. She thought she understood what abuse was, but one day a light went on and she began digging deeper. She is now trauma-informed, domestic violence-informed and she has helped her church to implement systems for helping survivors. She also serves on the board with Called to Peace Ministeries. If you and/or your church would like to receive training to help make your church safer, we highly recommend Called to Peace Ministries (https://www.calledtopeace.org/), Chris Moles with Peace Works University (https://www.chrismoles.org/coaching-with-chris) and Psalm 82 Initiative (https://psalm82initiative.wordpress.com/). Ladies, you are welcome to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse (https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/). Or, contact me at (https://heatherelizabeth.org/).
Joy shares some of her story and the hope and healing she has found through Jesus. Her book, Called to Peace, is a memoir as well as a guidebook to healing. Find more resources at https://www.calledtopeace.org/. Ladies, if you would like more information about the Zoom book club I am facilitating or the Held & Healed Retreat I am hosting, message me at info@HeatherElizabeth.org. And, find us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/.
Are you the family scapegoat? This episode defines the role of a scapegoat and offers suggestions for breaking free. I learned so much from Glynis Sherwood’s lesson in Give Her Wings Academy. Learn more at https://glynissherwood.com/12-steps-for-family-scapegoat-healing/ and https://www.giveherwings.com/curriculum. Ladies, join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. www.HeatherElizabeth.org
Rebecca Davis is an author, co-author, and editor. She has a heart for survivors and her Untwisting Scriptures series is a healing balm for the soul. In book one, she untwists passages about yielding rights, bitterness and taking up offenses. You can find her at http://heresthejoy.com/ and https://www.rebeccadaviswordworking.com. I am so grateful for her obedience to write and her compassion for the oppressed.
Neil Schori is a pastor and a survivor advocate. His life was radically changed after he walked with a couple through a harrowing situation. He has grown in his understanding of domestic violence and is available to help coach survivors. Learn more about the Drew Peterson case here: https://youtu.be/74Eb1xqaiAg Neil’s website/info on his coaching business: https://m.facebook.com/SchoriCoaching/ More about Document the Abuse (created by Susan): https://documenttheabuse.com/ My website: heatherelizabeth.org Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/
In this episode, I share three main personal takeaways from the Called to Peace Ministries 2021 Retreat. For more info about CTPM: https://www.calledtopeace.org/. I am called to help women see and speak the truth about their circumstances, connect them to resources and help them find healing community. Join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Visit my website at heatherelizabeth.org
Gretchen is the author of The Life-Saving Divorce. In this episode, she debunks some of the myths that keep Christians from pursuing life-saving divorces. Learn more at http://lifesavingdivorce.com/. Please share this episode with anyone who needs clarity and truth. If you are a woman who is rebuilding your life after abuse, join us on Facebook at Held & Healed. https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/
I met Jimmy a year ago through the Give Her Wings Academy. Since that time, I have listened to every esisode of the podcast he and his sweet mama, Clara, have recorded. This family had been through the fires of hell and chose to come out and carry back buckets of water for the masses still consumed by flames. They speak out against sexual abuse and call the church to do the same. In this episode, Jimmy shares some of his story, and speaks of the foundation of God’s kingdom (righteousness and justice). He also shares how churches should respond to abusers (wolves) based on that foundation. For more resources, go to https://jimmyhinton.org/. Episodes 33-37 give Biblical perspective on forgiveness.And, ladies, you are welcome to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/ or contact me at heatherelizabeth.org
In this episode, I describe some characteristics of bullies. It’s time to say “Enough is enough.” Find me at heatherelizabeth.org Ladies join us at Held & Healed on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/
In this episode, I share some differences between difficult, disappointing and destructive marriages. This outline comes from a lesson taught by Leslie Vernick. https://leslievernick.com/ If you would like to learn more about Give Her Wings Academy, https://www.giveherwings.com/curriculum. Join me at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, message me at heatherelizabeth.org
Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. In this episode, I break down specifics of The Power & Control Wheel. For more information, go to https://www.theduluthmodel.org/wheels/understanding-power-control-wheel/. Ladies, you are welcome to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. Or, contact me at heatherelizabeth.org
In this episode I share several blog posts I’ve written that outline some of my story, “That’s Not God,” “I Survived Spiritual Abuse” and “I Left Church to Follow Jesus. For more, go to heatherelizabeth.org Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse. https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/.
I am held and healed. I am a survivor of domestic violence and spiritual abuse and I am passionate about helping others find hope and healing. In this introduction episode, I share a bit of my story and the plan for this platform. If you are an abuse survivor, you will be blessed by the guests I interview and the stories I share. Visit my website at heatherelizabeth.org Ladies, you are welcome to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/