Not My Type: Recent Episodes
Melea Irby and Jack Houser
Jack and Jessica share the difference in their findings between Attachment fixes with Frustration wings and Attachment fixes with Rejection wings.
0:56 - Attachment Types have either a Frustration wing or a Rejection wing
2:34 - Introduction of Eugene
3:05 - Commonality of Attachment fixes
3:45 - Shielded types - Attachment with Rejection wings
4:32 - Exposed types - Attachment with Frustration wings
5:27 - Eye contact
6:12 - Why Frustration types are not exposed
9:32 - 3w4 appearing self-conscious
10:23 - Jessica's experience being double exposed
13:20 - Single vs. double exposure
13:40 - Social-blindness ruining eye contact
15:44 - Exposed types feeling uncomfortable
16:51 - Jack being obsessed with eye contact
20:34 - Contrasting exposed and shielded iterations of the same type
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Jack and Jessica discuss a model of Object Relations manifesting on a quarter.
0:40 - Overview / review of Object Relations
3:00 - Assertive Types (3, 7, 8) and the Nurturing Object
4:09 - Compliant Types (1, 2, 6) and the Protecting Object
6:08 - Withdrawn Types (4, 5, 9) and the Belonging Object
7:53 - Hexad vs. Triangle
9:27 - Using a quarter as an "object" lesson: Frustration and Rejection as two sides of the same coin
13:53 - Attachment Types continuing connection to their Objects
15:54 - 7 and 8 having opposite affects toward the Nurturing Object
17:13 - Hexads per Center of Intelligence as inversions of each other
20:56 - Jack vocalizing his opinions
22:15 - Triangle types ending up somewhere they didn't intend to be
24:46 - Hexad types having already toppled / landed
25:37 - Attachment Types refusing to individuate
27:49 - Difference between the life journeys of triangle types and hexad types
30:36 - Jessica's real-time Frustration
33:40 - Sample of a past argument
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Jack and Jessica discuss the movie Saltburn, unpacking the type structures of the characters and overall Enneagram themes throughout the film.
0:40 - How actors' types distort the intended types of the characters they play
2:06 - Overall themes of Saltburn
3:11 - Summary of the film
4:28 - Emerald Fennell (director / screenwriter)
6:25 - Oliver
9:00 - Felix
12:40 - Elspeth
16:00 - Venetia
18:20 - Sir James
18:55 - Duncan
19:45 - Farleigh
23:36 - Michael
24:50 - Pamela
27:00 - sx-blind audience's reactions to Saltburn's shocking scenes
28:35 - Mythological imagery
29:57 - Attachment types in crisis
31:25 - Emerald's 7-1 link incorporating long-game foreshadowing
32:37 - Ignorance of British aristocracy
33:45 - Elspeth being double positive
34:53 - sp-blind's world being highly external / relational
35:30 - Oliver's unbelonging
36:25 - Felix's tour of Saltburn
38:08 - sx/so's singular attention in making a new friend
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Melea, Jack, and Jessica unpack the five remaining portions of the instinctual cycle, picking up from where they left off with sx/sp.
Be sure to view the diagram of the instinctual cycle while you listen!
2:02 - Overview of the terms "waxing" and "waning"
3:04 - sp/so as a singular form maturing into a broader world
6:34 - so/sx as multiplicious procreation
9:10 - How do the waxing stackings show up behaviorally?
12:15 - sx/so as advertisement of remaining fertility
16:15 - Contrasting sx/so with sx/sp
18:37 - so/sp as the mature symbol of its kind
21:05 - sp/sx as decay / death
23:20 - Contrasting sp/sx with sp/so
24:55 - Jessica leaving traces for others in the future
27:06 - How our dominant instinct feels life/death to our psyche
28:45 - GIFs for the sexual instinct as secondary vs. dominant
30:20 - Melea measuring her energy by meaningful interactions
32:05 - Jessica thinks a lot about food
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Melea, Jack, and Jessica explore NMT's discovery of the instinctual cycle, building from David Gray's original concepts of "synflow" and "contraflow."
Be sure to view the diagram of the instinctual cycle while you listen!
1:35 - Overview of the three instincts
9:30 - Wondering how the instincts relate to Maslow's hierarchy of needs
10:33 - Overview of instinctual cycle as life and death processes
13:00 - Jack failing at the self-preservation instinct
14:55 - Jessica failing at the social instinct
18:10 - David Gray's "flows"
23:09 - Why is knowing about "flow" helpful?
24:35 - Finding the sexual instinct's location in a vertical diagram
27:20 - sx/sp as conception / creation
30:32 - Self-preservation reinforcing sexual's agenda
34:35 - Renaming "synflow" as "waxing" and "contraflow" as "waning"
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Jack, Melea, and Jessica announce their long-awaited project: newly public typing services. Go visit our site to have your type identified behaviorally!
Melea and Jack dive deeper into what sexual blindness looks and feels like, as well as why we bother pursuing to strengthen the instinct to which we are blind.
The hosts are revisiting a topic with plenty more to discover: the instincts. This episode covers what it is to be dominant and over-focused in one instinctual arena and what happens when we're confronted with what we'd rather ignore.
Jack and Melea welcome two former roommates and two present 9s: Anna Mayo and Nate Hopkins. Enlightening all on the neurosis of Sloth, Nate and Anna share their blurry inner worlds (the best they can).
The hosts are taking a second look at Object Relations and the way the Frustration, Rejection, and Attachment types are all orienting so differently in the world. This episode covers the problems of hyper-specificity in the hexad types (1, 2, 4, 5, 7, 8) in contrast with the overly blurred and referential problems of the triangle (3, 6, 9).
The hosts wander into Maitri’s theory of the Soul Child! The theory explores how neurosis develops as a byproduct of not being permitted to be our growth type.
The hosts interview Marissa Meizz on her experience with going viral on TikTok, having bad friends, and what it means to run with new opportunities and make the best of them.
Melea and Jack discuss all things 7 with Connor and Hannah, two 7s with plenty to say and think. Conversation ranges from optimism, excitement, commitment, to what it means to enjoy the moment.
The hosts finish assessing the Harry Potter characters, from minor to major and everything in between.
Dobby - 2:40
Kreacher - 5:15
Severus Snape - 10:41
Lavender Brown - 21:26
Minerva McGonagall - 24:14
Rubeus Hagrid - 29:34
Lucius Malfoy - 34:13
Narcissa Malfoy - 38:00
Draco Malfoy - 39:00
Fleur Delacour - 42:36
Hermione Granger - 44:04
Peter Pettigrew - 49:07
James Potter - 51:04
Sirius Black - 52:09
Dean Thomas and Seamus Finnigan - 55:38
Quirinus Quirrell - 58:37
Gilderoy Lockhart - 59:39
Horace Slughorn - 1:01:29
Xenophilius Lovegood - 1:04:00
Argus Filch - 1:07:27
Alastor Moody - 1:09:49
Bellatrix Lestrange - 1:13:05
Tom Riddle - 1:15:12
Albus Dumbledore - 1:19:23
Melea and Jack discuss everyone’s favorite franchise and the beloved characters that make it so special.
Dudley Dursley - 3:50
Harry Potter - 8:28
Neville Longbottom - 16:50
Luna Lovegood - 21:17
Petunia Dursley - 26:40
Vernon Dursley - 34:15
Ginny Weasley - 36:34
Cornelius Fudge - 44:50
Dolores Jane Umbridge - 50:24
Sybill Trelawney - 57:36
Weasley parents 1:02:32
Ron Weasley - 1:09:01
Remus Lupin - 1:15:35
Nymphadora Tonks - 1:19:39
The hosts dive into a crucial yet complex topic: trifix, the combination of a dominant neurosis in each Center of Intelligence. This episode helps unpack how we learn to handle the unknown (head fix), assert our presence (body fix), and present an image to the world (heart fix).
Uncovering lies: Jack and Melea share a confessional regarding their stance on and experience with Beatrice Chestnut’s theory of countertype.
Melea and Jack finish their series on mistyping, highlighting the essential qualities of each type that underlie neurotic structure. This episode helps to clarify what pieces can’t be compromised for each type.
Q&A episode discussing the origins of the Enneagram, its purpose, and how it applies broadly to culture and individuals alike.
A continuation to the series on mistyping, covering potential pairing confusions from 4 and 5 all the way to 8 and 9.
The hosts begin to describe in detail what differentiates some types from each other, covering easily mistaken similarities and the cardinal differences.
Self-preservation, Social, Sexual: the instincts long misunderstood are being unpacked in a new way. Jack and Melea discuss how instinctual imbalance warps one's perspective.
Jack and Melea discuss toxics ways of using the Enneagram and how you can avoid that. What and what not to say; what the intent of the Enneagram should be. How have you misused it?
Jack and Melea briefly unpack the three Harmonic Triads: Competency, Reactivity, and Positive Outlook, differing responses to conflictual situations. The shortcomings of each are discussed, as well as the ideal of all three being used at once.
Your hosts discuss the ways the neuroses are all interconnected, and what those funky arrows mean — how each neurosis accesses two others as a way of returning to the default state.
Melea and Jack talk about the theory of Object Relations and how it connects to the Enneagram. The theory outlines the dominant affects of Frustration, Rejection, and Attachment as coping responses to childhood wounds.
How quickly do we process reality? Jack and Melea open a conversation about stances, time orientations formed by repressed centers of intelligence.
Melea and Jack give a bird's-eye view of Enneagram basics: the 9 lies that form the neuroses, the vices that follow, and how wings alter our behavior.
Meet your hosts! Jack and Melea share what Not My Type is all about "at the end of the day". In this episode, the pair will discuss and define terms - neurosis, type, personality, talk about what the Enneagram is and what it's not, and hint to where the podcast is going next.