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Sandy Linda
Elevate Human Experiences is a platform that gives our listeners ways to improve their lives. Human existence can be challenging yet fun. Our focus is to unravel, illustrate, and go deep into understanding the things that make us human. We also explore special topics on mental health, grief journeys, and lifestyle enhancements. Our aim is to empower you, our listeners, with practical, usable advice to enhance your lives.
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Hello Fabulous Folks;
Hello! I will take a break this summer to recover and prepare for the relaunch of my podcast show. Remember to subscribe to my email list so you can stay updated on the exact date of the relaunch.
Here are ways to stay connected so you will be informed about my upcoming podcast show:
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"We recall our terrible past so that we can deal with it, to forgive where forgiveness is necessary, without forgetting; to ensure that never again will such inhumanity tear us apart." Nelson Mandela
In today's episode, I will share my personal journey of mourning the loss of my sister and how forgiveness played a crucial role in my healing process.
It is a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or revenge toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they deserve your forgiveness. The only thing forgiveness requires is to stop feeling resentment towards a person.
When do you need to forgive someone? When you want to let go of bitterness and be the person, you want to be.
Learn how to release resentment and take small action steps to develop the skill of forgiveness.
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I have learned so much about how grief is treated within society but also about my fears and strengths. I hope that what I have learned will help others and that they can see through the trees that others are walking beside them.
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What did I learn about resilience in the depths of my grief?
Resilience is a personal quality without the presence of a traumatic event. The process of adjusting when facing a tragedy. We all go through challenging and even overwhelming situations. However, some people handle these situations better and recover emotionally quicker than others. Nevertheless, everyone has some level of internal resiliency.
While resilience is the process of enduring a personal life crisis, post-traumatic growth is the positive changes that occur during or after the crisis has passed.
Resilience means returning to your true self after experiencing trauma that may have caused a disconnection from your identity. Resilience is meeting your own needs.
Let me share my story: "It's never okay to tell people that our trauma is a blessing when we have yet to dissect our emotional wounds from a tragic event."
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Navigating through grief is indeed a challenging journey. Holidays and anniversaries, particularly within the first year following the loss of a loved one, have a way of intensifying this pain. As Father's Day approaches, it is natural to experience a sense of dread and uncertainty when facing this significant milestone without your father's presence.
By embracing coping strategies and meaningful tributes, you can cope with your grief and pay a heartfelt tribute to the special bond you shared with your dad.
- Connect with one or two people who know grief well. Do you have a particular safe person to share your upcoming special day with them? Listen to their wisdom, ensuring your feelings are normal and expected.
- On this particular day, be prepared for those grief triggers. It will be an emotional day, but you can use it for good to help you grieve and to honor your father.
- Once you get through this first holiday without your father, you can create a plan next year with grace and compassion for yourself. You have an idea of your concerns, worries, and special memories to prepare.
I can provide expert coaching and support for those experiencing grief and can help guide you toward becoming a fearless leader in your own life. Let's work together to move from functional to highly functional behaviors and take on new adventures after the storms.
Contact me for coaching services or inquire about topics you want me to share on this show.
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“In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice.” Viktor Frankl
In today's episode, we'll dive into Post Traumatic Growth, particularly from the viewpoint of growing through grief.
"PTG is a theory that explains this kind of transformation following trauma. It was developed by psychologists Richard Tedeschi, Ph.D., and Lawrence Calhoun, Ph.D., in the mid-1990s, and holds that people who endure mental struggle following adversity can often see positive growth afterward."
During times of stress, crisis, or trauma, individuals often question the benefits that can arise from hardships. 2020 was marked by a pandemic that led to numerous fatalities, job losses, rising divorce rates, and a global economic decline. This has caused many to question their fundamental beliefs, personal identity, and spirituality, as the future remains uncertain.
Traumatic events must be significant enough to force individuals to reassess their representations of themselves and others, their world, and what the future may bring. It has been discovered that negative experiences can bring about positive transformations. However, it may take some time before the benefits of life's challenges become apparent, as growth and development often require effort and perseverance.
Trauma can help forge new relationships and make people more grateful for the ones they already have. Coming through a crisis together is a bonding experience.
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Resources:
Man Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
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Are you in a place where you don't know what to think, believe or do about your spiritual connections with our Creator (God, Universe)?
Are you exhausted, and your soul is tired?
Today I wanted to talk about overcoming spiritual fatigue after experiencing the death of loved ones, friendships, and marital breakups.
When loss hits our souls, the results can be profound and lasting. One of the most immediate results is a sense of spiritual fatigued.
If you are wrestling with deep spiritual inquiries after experiencing devasting losses, this episode is intended for you. It is essential to recognize that feeling this way is typical and widespread, and it's acceptable to you may not be okay. Grief has the power to stir our innermost beings.
Identifying the signs of Spiritual Exhaustion:
- Disconnection from inner guidance and intuition
- Lack of joy, purpose, and fulfillment
- Mental and emotional fatigue
Integrating Spirituality into Daily Life
- Bringing spiritual principles into relationships and interactions
- Embracing gratitude, compassion, and forgiveness
- Setting intentions and aligning actions with values
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As Mental Health Awareness Month draws to a close, I want to share my experience with taking a break from social media. I took a 30-day digital detox to improve my mental well-being, and I want to highlight the benefits of doing so. While I will continue to discuss mental health topics in my newsletters and podcast show, this month was dedicated to raising awareness that mental health should not be ignored.
Reducing digital distractions can lead to better mental health and more meaningful human interactions. Do you ever notice people's faces buried in their smartphones when you walk through the park or cross the street? It can be nerve-racking to see people not take a quick look up before crossing the street. Some are anxious to get that text or anxiously awaiting a response.
After thirty days of social media detox, journal your heart out to answer these two questions:
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Would the last thirty days have been notably better if I had been able to use this service?
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Did people care that I wasn't using the service? Please share your insights on how you were able to take time off from social media.
Resources:
The book that inspires me to do a social media detox is Deep Work by Cal Newport. https://a.co/d/29d38R1
The Netlfix Movie mention: https://www.thesocialdilemma.com/
If you are in crisis, please reach out immediately for help. There are several resources for help in a crisis:
- Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to reach a 24-hour crisis center;
- Text MHA to 741741;
- And/or call 911.
- Call the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) HelpLine at 800-950-NAMI (6264) Monday through Friday, between 10:00 AM and 6:00 PM EST for mental health resources.
- Utilize the Crisis text line for mental health support.
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On today's show, become socially fearless and overcome social Anxiety. I will discuss social Anxiety's effects on the loneliness factors that impact your grief journeys, whether from death or divorce.
- Do you experience excessive and continuous panic attacks when placed in social or performance situations?
- Do you feel extremely self-conscious meeting unfamiliar people?
We all have scars from relational brokenness. It's important to remember that your scars have a story to tell and are an essential part of your skin. While wounds require attention and care to prevent infection and promote healing, scars represent the healing process. Allow your wounds to heal and embrace the story your scars have to tell.
Yes, it can be complicated because we are complex, intricate human beings with a past. Still, we also have an unwritten future and an opportunity within this present moment to begin to forge new pathways.
Resources:
If you are in crisis, please reach out immediately for help. There are several resources for help in a crisis:
- Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to reach a 24-hour crisis center;
- Text MHA to 741741;
- And/or call 911.
- Call the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) HelpLine at 800-950-NAMI (6264) Monday through Friday, between 10:00 AM and 6:00 PM EST for mental health resources.
- Utilize the Crisis text line for mental health support.
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In today's show, the focus is on the topic of anxiety and how it is related to cumulative grief. I will discuss how to manage anxiety as it arises after experiencing heartbreaking losses and suffering. I provide helpful tips and strategies for coping with these difficult emotions. Overall, the discussion offers valuable insights and guidance for anyone struggling with grief and unraveling the shadow of anxiety.
Most of us deal with anxiety daily. Some people have had difficult upbringings, and experiences in childhood may lead to persistent feelings of anxiety.
Grief anxiety is a common experience for many people who have lost a loved one. It is a natural response to a major life change and can be challenging to manage. Dealing with grief anxiety involves finding healthy coping mechanisms like exercise, meditation, or therapy. It is important to allow yourself time to grieve, process your emotions, and seek support from loved ones or a mental health professional if needed. Remember that everyone's journey with grief is unique, and there is no right or wrong way to deal with it. Take care of yourself and be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate this difficult time.
Resources:
If you are in crisis, please reach out immediately for help. There are several resources for help in a crisis:
- Call 1-800-273-TALK (8255) to reach a 24-hour crisis center;
- Text MHA to 741741;
- And/or call 911.
- Call the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) HelpLine at 800-950-NAMI (6264) Monday through Friday, between 10:00 AM and 6:00 PM EST for mental health resources.
- Utilize the Crisis text line for mental health support.
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You're not alone if you're struggling with Mother's Day grief. Take all the time you need to honor and remember the motherly women you love and miss. Then bring yourself into the present, look around, and celebrate all the nurturing, wise, funny, and fabulous women who remain by your side.
As we approach Mother's Day and celebrate those very special people in our lives, it's essential to understand, and remember, that not everyone can celebrate in person with their parents.
I created a virtual safe place event for motherless daughters willing to deepen relationships and develop a support network for continuous healing. If you lost your mother early or late loss through death, this event is for you.
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Details: Celebrating Mother's Day while still mourning her loss is tough.
At this Exclusive Free Live Webinar, you'll be able to Become fearless and create space for grief and joy.
You can Self-Discovery, Love Yourself, and even Gain Clarity to know Grief is Love!
Heck, you may even Discover how to express grief without fear of other people's opinions!
But you must register for this Exclusive Free Live Webinar now.
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When: May 13, 2023
Time: 1:30 PM Eastern
As we approach Mother's Day, I wanted to take a moment to acknowledge those who may be struggling with the loss of their mothers. I would greatly appreciate it if you could share this information with anyone you think might be interested in attending.
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On today's show, the topic is approval addiction, the disease to please others. I want to discuss how people-pleasing can lead to approval addictions that can negatively impact one's personal and professional life.
By understanding the harmful effects of people pleasing, individuals can learn to set healthy boundaries and prioritize their own needs.
Here are the three steps to Overcoming Approval Addictions:
- Identify and challenge your people-pleasing behaviors: Practice saying "no" to requests or demands that don't feel right, and set boundaries to protect your time and energy.
- Learn to tolerate discomfort: Overcoming people-pleasing often involves accepting uncomfortable feelings such as guilt, fear, and anxiety. Practice self-care to help you manage stress and anxiety.
- Develop self-compassion and self-acceptance:
I encourage my fabulous listeners and inner circle community to start your journey towards self-acceptance and self-love.
I want to leave you with this message:
"Do things for you, not for the approval or satisfaction of others. You'll attract the people who matter."
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A fearless adventure refers to an experience that involves stepping outside of one's comfort zone, taking calculated risks, and embracing the unknown with a courageous and confident attitude. It may include exploring new places, trying new activities, or facing personal fears and challenges. A fearless adventure requires mental and physical preparation, including developing a positive and resilient mindset and adaptability to unpredictable situations. The goal of a daring adventure is not just to achieve a specific outcome or reach a destination but to find joy, personal growth, and a sense of fulfillment in the journey itself.
One example of the importance of stepping outside of your comfort zone is in personal growth and development. When you stay within your comfort zone, you limit your potential and miss out on opportunities to learn and grow.
Similarly, if you never try new things or take risks, you may miss out on opportunities for personal growth and discovering new passions. Stepping outside your comfort zone can help you gain confidence, learn new skills, and broaden your perspectives, all of which can contribute to a more fulfilling and successful life.
I want to leave you with an inspirational quote to live boldly.
"Cultivate a fearless approach to life, attack everything with boldness and energy." – Robert Greene.
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The podcast "From Grieving Hearts to Contribution" will explore various personal and professional growth topics and how individuals can transition from focusing on growth to making meaningful contributions to their communities and the world.
Grief is a complex and difficult emotion to navigate, and it can be challenging to find ways to move forward after experiencing a loss. However, one way to cope with grief is to focus on making meaningful contributions to others.
You can channel your grief into something positive and meaningful by focusing on contributing to others. Volunteering at a local shelter or community center. You can also consider donating to a charity or non-profit organization close to your heart. Remember that every act of kindness can make a difference, no matter how small it may seem.
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"FROM GRIEVING HEARTS TO GROWTH." I am going to explain how grief can be a catalyst for personal growth. I will share my personal story, discuss emotional challenges and give you practical tips for using grief as a path to personal growth. Join us as we discover how to turn grieving hearts into expansion.
When facing real tragedy in life, we can react in two ways. Lose hope that falls into unhealthy habits, or use the challenge to develop your growth mentality. As I discuss growth, I want to challenge my listeners to gain personal growth after heartbreaking losses.
Engaging in growth is a deep-seated level of commitment to self-improvement. There is a fork in the road, and the right path is unclear—what do you do? Develop growth by establishing a bond within yourself. Braving through the wilderness can be messy, but a way to expose our hidden pain that requires special attention to heal.
Can you face grief within to develop a heartwarming relationship with yourself and others? What actions are you open to taking on healing and adapting in a way you and others can enjoy and benefit from in various situations?
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I will discuss going from grieving hearts to self-love in today's episode. We'll discuss self-love and how to release self-doubt to embrace yourself. I know many other shows offer self-love conversations, but on this show, I want to embrace self-love when you experience a heartbreaking loss.
Are you experiencing a heartbreak loss from the deaths of beloved people, significant relationships ending, or betrayal from others and yourself? If you said yes to any of these questions, let me share how to mend those broken hearts to recognize the pain and grow through our grieving hearts. Let's go on a journey of grief and self-love.
Self-love is the energy that permits you to reach your full potential, filled with elegance, kindness, and patient endurance.
True self-love must come from within and not external validations from others that are not real.
Where does a lack of self-love show up for you? Please share your answers in the comments below.
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I am a human: Flawed and Beautiful, aching for love.
Bittersweet is a tendency to states of longing, an acute awareness of passing the time, and a curiously piercing joy at the world's beauty.
How should we cope with lost love?
Where is your particular pain or separation pointing you?
What matters most deeply to you?
"The wound is the place where the Light enters you."
― Rumi
How can we show up in a flawed, beautiful world that is aching for love? I will discuss how to respond to pain by acknowledging and transforming it into your creativity and healing that nourishes your soul.
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Here is a quote from Brene Brown's book Braving the Wilderness
"Belonging so fully to yourself that you're willing to stand alone is a wilderness -- an untamed, unpredictable place of solitude and searching. It is a place as dangerous as it is breathtaking, a place as sought after as it is feared." Brene Brown
Isolation can be harmful, but it can be a reaction to circumstances and surroundings that are not intensifying or valuable. Isolation is never replenishing. Isolation offers no such promise, creating devastating mental distress outcomes.
Being in solitude can build up mental strength. Research studies have found that people who spend time alone are happier. They report better life satisfaction and lower levels of stress.
Solitude allows you to plan your life.
Solitude increases productivity.
Solitude sparks creativity.
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"Where there is anger there is always pain underneath." Eckhart Tolle
Have you ever experienced expressing your anger after a heartbreaking loss of a loved one? Were you blocked from expressing your anger because of society's standards? I am going to talk you through having positive patterns of acknowledging, embracing, and acting constructively as you process grief with emotional anger.
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How Do I Deal With The Loneliness I Feel?
As a person who has lived experiences with grief, I've come across folks who lost their husband, wife, and child. It was challenging to grieve with them as I come from parental and sibling loss. To talk through our negative feelings about each other's loss was nerve-racking. There was little to no connection with others who had experienced one loss.
Grief is a normal and natural process that takes work. Dealing with emotions requires time and energy to heal those unimaginable losses. Do what you can to express the feelings and thoughts running around your pretty mind. Write it out and share it with a safe person who can be an empathic listener.
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Unconditional love is a term that means to love someone regardless of the loved one’s qualities or actions. The pattern of unconditional love is a mother’s love for her newborn. To honor my mother's birthday month, I wanted to share my story of unconditional love and how I experienced growth without her physical presence. Grief is love when you have such a valuable relationship with that person.
Mom, you have taught me so much about unconditional love no matter how good or bad my qualities; you gave me your love and undivided attention. As I worked on this terminology, it’s incredible how it has affected me in the long run. How do I show up when I come across people who have hurt me in the past?
We can love without expectations because we don't live with the fear of being taken advantage of.
Though things change, the future's still inside of me
We must remember that tomorrow comes after the dark
So you will always be in my heart, with unconditional love. Song by Tupac, Unconditional Love
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Define Jealousy by Brene Brown-
"Jealousy is when we fear losing a relationship or a valued part of a relationship that we already have."
Jealousy happens in all areas of our lives, whether in romantic or co-worker relationships. You may feel ashamed, intimidated, doubtful, or rejected, depending on the circumstances.
This type of jealousy I am referring to is grief jealousy which I don't hear often, and I would like to share my input on how it came about in my world. I hope this will inspire you to acknowledge it and learn how you can reframe it with peace and love.
When you are feeling jealous of other groups, what do you do?
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When you are struggling through an unimaginable painful event, do you have the mental capacity to set limits and still be a loving person? Do you fear setting boundaries with others because of rejection or guilt?
This episode is for you if you are struggling with unresolved grief and loss and trying to manage a way to set healthy and appropriate boundaries.
A boundary is something you create for yourself, so you can be in peace and balance when relating to others.
It's not a way to control other people that would separate us from others.
Quote: By Dr. Henry Cloud
"Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end, and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership."
Why this quote. It gave me a lesson on how to set healthy boundaries. The relationship erupts in the end because of build-up bitterness and hatred for my lack of boundaries. I walked away learning to develop proper boundaries from a place of love and self-kindness with a relationship authenticity and without resentment.
Establishing boundaries for yourself will be challenging, especially after an emotionally traumatic experience with grief and loss. However, I hope these tools will help you get mental clarity on setting healthy boundaries. The reward for setting wise boundaries is the joy and desires fulfilled in life.
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“Grief and sadness can be part of a transformational process, one that should not be automatically labeled negative. Difficult emotions are at times appropriate; they can be exactly what we need to experience in order to truly heal, grow, and get to the other side of our suffering with meaningful lessons learned.” Marianne Williamson -Tears of Triumph
How do you process grief in a healthy way? Acknowledge the unwanted emotions that you have suppressed for a while. Welcome sorrow and begin to feel it linger throughout your body.
Did you have a death of a loved one? A parent or sibling?
Did you have a life-changing diagnosis for yourself or your loved ones?
Did you have a loss of social connection during quarantine?
I provide the three step strategy on processing your grief with love and compassion to really step into your emotional wound that requires special attention to heal mentally and emotionally.
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I want to share how writing has healed me through my many losses and failures in life—going through multiple losses in a short time. Missing friends that were active for 15 years and, in a matter of 15 minutes, blocked on FB or did not know how to be friends during the emotional storms.
-Losing my family to death at a relatable disease
-Disappearances of friends who could not withstand the downfall of my life. I had an epiphany on that stance.
After experiencing rock bottom, I came across my sister's journal, which had massive emotional wounds that allowed me to start writing about my life circumstances and how it has been a lifesaver. Some people will pass on writing and want to talk it out with someone who can provide guidance and support. However, I did not have the most excellent folks yet to dive into my life circumstances. I dove into my sister's writings and read some of her emotional wounds, but she is no longer physically present. Now I want to share a journal entry about avoiding pain.
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In this episode of the Elevate Human Experiences, I would like to take the time to talk about one of my teachers that has had a significant impact on me. We are talking about no other than one of the most popular life coaches and motivational speakers, Tony Robbins. When I bring up Tony Robbin's name, most people know who he is because he was so popular back in the 90s. He has those big teeth with Saturday infomercials.
As I gathered my sister's belongings, she left a lot of personal development books and had unlimited literature on Tony Robbins and CD and audio programs that I dive in to prepare my mind to handle unexpected life circumstances.
Tony has written some amazing books. He wrote a book called Unlimited Power. He wrote a book called Unleash the Power Within, Awaken the Giant, Money Masters, and Unshakeable. Money Masters was the book that I studied and listened to the most to strategize on how to handle all the financial legalities after the death of my family members.
"Trade Your Expectations for Appreciation" During your grief journeys, acknowledge those painful moments and allow yourself to make the necessary changes that will fulfill your new life.
I will always thank Tony Robbins for teaching me to go from emotionally broken to financial literate. Thanks, Tony. I will always be a student of Tony Robbins, and I highly recommend you join me.
I want to thank my sister for leaving behind lifelong learning materials to help me navigate a new life.
Tony Robbins Books:
Money Masters: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1476757860/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_DXBV8C7S355KYWX5JB84
Unshakeable: Your Financial Freedom Playbook
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Adam Grant says there are "Givers" and "Takers." Some people give credit. Others take credit. The ones who take credit are transactional.
Transactional is practical and useful, but the relationship ends when it's no longer beneficial. Arms Length
Agenda-driven is going to try to achieve this thing it wants, rather than being focused on pleasing others.
Solve the immediate needs such as going to Costco to grocery shop to fulfill our fridges.
Limited interactions with people. Transactional relationships ruin intimacy when creating the most profound and most important connections. It's just business, and the relationship is a thing. Nothing more profound or more in-depth. In those transactional relationships just a constant reminder of fault-finding. All the missteps the other person has made.
Transformational may start as a transaction but can further support each other's social wellness goals.- Closeness
It's all about growth and contribution to keep each other's accountable in personal and business. It's all about asking, don't assume. Work on connecting before correcting. Yes, maintain high standards while focusing on compassing. Get curious, not furious, understand, don't blame. Get Fascinated, not frustrated.
You start to develop friendships where you set a long-term relationship, and it comes across as business transactions. As you begin to create social bonds with diverse individuals, you want to understand the difference between transactional vs. transformational relationships.
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"Attachment is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another person across time and space."- John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth.
Do you worry a lot about your relationships or fear losing people's love or place in their lives?
Today's episodes will discuss how to develop a more sophisticated way of building up a secure attachment with our loved ones and incorporating new relationships during our grieving process.
Experiencing multiple losses has brought sudden collapse to having a secure attachment. Once my attachment figures were gone, I used hyper-activating strategies such as crying and clinging on to restore closeness. However, that strategy did not work and left me with the constant worry about others being unreachable or ditching me when support was much needed. That led me to develop an insecure attachment, defined by approaching relationships characterized by fear or uncertainty. It suddenly did disrupt the normal process of recovery from loss. I had no trust and denied my emotional needs.
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FORGIVENESS
Quote on Forgiveness:
As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.- Nelson Mandela
It is a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or revenge toward a person or group who has harmed you, regardless of whether they deserve your forgiveness. The only thing forgiveness requires to stop feeling resentment towards a person.
When do you need to forgive someone? When you want to let go of bitterness and be the person you want to be.
Forgiveness is not excusing poor behavior.
Forgiveness does not mean reconciling with the offender
Forgiveness does not mean you give up having feelings
Forgiveness isn't easy, but it's vital to your mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical well-being.
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Have you ever experienced multiple losses of your loves and knew how to cope with each loss? Have you experienced a parental or sibling loss? Then, my friend, you are in for a show that conceals conversations about grief overload. I wanted to share my experience and provide you with some coping mechanisms to recover.
An increased understanding of how multiple losses can affect one's grieving process will contribute to the professional and personal field of grief and loss.
There's no timetable for how long someone can grieve a loss. If someone never addresses the loss of a loved one, the delayed healing and increased pain can derail the mourning process. We don't grieve well alone, and grief overload can occur if we hinder healing.
I went from being emotionally broken to mentally, physically, spiritually, and financially informed.
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If you want something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done before. And for a lot of people, that means taking a risk. Yet far too often, people resist taking action because they are scared.
Fear tends to sneak up and attack our attempt to try new things. It's like a cloak of protection that may harm us. The real damage comes from inaction that fear cultivates in our lives. We avoid things that make us uncomfortable, but there is no growth.
Sooner or later, caution and fears will wreak havoc on your mental and emotional well-being.
In life, you're going to encounter hard times at some point. Be prepared to endure pain and find solutions at any moment. New people, new opportunities, and possibilities.
"Get Comfortable with Discomfort."
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"Everyone deserves access to cancer care."
Everybody should have access to health care no matter the barriers of limitations. Equity is about giving everyone what they need to bring them up to the same level.
10 million people each year die from cancer - From the World Cancer Care website
Whoever you are, you have the power to reduce the impact of cancer for yourself, the people you love, and the world. The first year of the 'Close the Care Gap' campaign is all about understanding and recognizing the inequities in cancer care around the globe. It's about having an open mind, challenging assumptions, and looking at the hard facts. Only when we learn and understand can we take action and make progress. It's time to close the care gap.
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This is a short episode on keeping up with my goals as a podcast host. I wanted to share with you my experience of falling off my goals and how to get back at it again. I will continue to provide these weekly podcast shows. I have a commitment of 52 weeks of podcast shows.
I am so glad that you joined me here because hopefully, I gave you a glimpse of behind the scenes of my falling off for a bit and picking up where I left off on the show.
Thank you! Thank you for allowing me to feel safe enough to share some tips and strategies on getting back up to reaching your goals. I truly love my community — you all are such a source of encouragement to me!
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As we stumble through the pandemic, the social pain of feeling lonely and socially isolated is so deep that it may be challenging to uncover. There are certain moments when we choose to be in solitude for personal reasons. It could be obtaining emotional oxygen while refueling your mental tank. Yet, the lonely moments can't be nourishing. During those times, we must decide how to respond to minor disruptions.
Do we get lonesome during our everyday mundane life tasks?
Loneliness is a killer to one's soul. Our hearts feel broken when faced with unexpected turn events that lead us to suffer in pain. Social pain can end up being a grave we are all exposed stumbling into; as we wander through the twists and turns of life. Research states, "loneliness predicts subsequent mental health symptoms, including depression, alcoholism, suicidal behavior, and cognitive decline leading to dementia, and physical health issues, including immune and cardiovascular disease" These detrimental health effects, social pain is increasingly recognized as major public health concern within the scientific community and general media.
Has the reduced social presence influenced changes in the surrounding social environment?
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While we cannot control the world around us, we can shape how we respond to the new and challenging conditions life presents. The global pandemic had put some stresses in our lives that left most of us with uncertainty. This challenge is an opportunity to reframe our lives as an invitation to show up with presence. A learnable skill of being in the now can reduce our risk of falling ill and feeling stressed. Presence is about how we show up how we approach the people we desire to connect and influence. Presence allows us to train the mind to respond flexibly and not react impulsively. When faced with tense moments, imagine approaching them with confidence and eagerness instead of doubt and fear.
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