Taming Dragons: Recent Episodes
Aimee Worlds, Self Mastery Coach
Self Mastery is about taming the dragons within. We all have dragons to be tamed. I say tamed because we don't ever get to a point wherein we totally distinguish our dragons, I'm not sure if were even supposed to. Dragons exist to be understood, to be accepted and to many ways be appreciated. Our dragons are tamable only when we acknowledge they exist. Together we will explore, discover, learn and master our inner dragons. The process of taming is our door toward living, loving and thriving fully in Life.
What does “healthy bonds” look like?
• Quality relationships
• Reliable Support Groups
• Organic connections
• Energetic Reciprocity
Just to name a few….
So many of us struggle in this area and lack loving, sustainable relationships.
We may know a lot of people, have large families, but our personal circles tend to run small for a reason.
The quality of our bonds can be non-reflective or even irrelevant to our genuine authentic needs and inward growth.
Staying in relationships due to time or history, lacking substance, makes for fragility and unwanted stress when these relationships are tested in the slightest way.
How we bond with ourselves and the world, needs to be further evaluated.
I’m excited to share some tips on how to ensure your bonding endeavors mirror your personal values, overall goals and your worth; in this podcast episode of Taming Dragons.
Escapism is a tool.
It's a tool that helps us to regulate our emotions, in most cases.
We've used these tools every since our imaginations could take flight at an early age.
Challenge is that some of us are not choosing the healthiest tools as adults; we can misuse what may have worked previously.
Think about which forms of escape you choose on a daily basis; and which sense are being tapped into when doing so.
It is music? food? alcohol? work? Yes, I said work. (Many of us choose "busy" as a form of escape)
These sensory gates represent safety and comfort even when its temporary or in some cases, are not real.
What if you used your senses to navigate healthier options to escape, to remove yourself from Fight or Flight.
This week's Taming Dragons will inspire you to explore what that looks like, for you.
Not everyone knows HOW to protect.
Protect themselves and or others.
Believing otherwise is a flawed assumption that ignores the human condition and personal development.
Why talk about Protection?
Because a lot of adult trauma is experienced from a subconscious reaction of feeling unsafe as a Child.
Unprotected.
If this was you, at a very early stage learned a emotional condition that would sit with you for years to come.
You either learned how to protect yourself to survive by closely navigating human behavior, (which may have birthed hyper vigilance) taking subconscious notes as you went along.
Or you internalized a hold pattern of powerlessness, mentally forfeiting the weight and pressure of protection, as a survival mechanism.
This can cause you to haphazardly protect yourself and inefficiently take on the responsibility of protecting others, as an adult.
Can you be someone in between? Of course you can. So let’s unpack it.
Join me on Taming Dragons, as we consider how to approach this Dragon in a far more healthier, and empowered way.
This weeks episode tackles the behavior we have all picked up in some aspect along the way.
Many of us have attuned ourselves to a lifestyle of coercion.
The narrative that gives ourselves very little if any options and closes the doors to true opportunities.
In this talk I explain why this even happens, why are so many of us wired to subconsciously move about Life this way?
We quietly tell yourselves; I need to stay at this job, because no other job will accept (Insert Perceived lies) about me.
I have to remain in this marriage because (Insert Perceived lies) and this demonstrates how devoted I am.
COERCION.
No options, zero opportunities; just Do it, or Else.
In order for you to walk in the full grace of your growth and expansion, you must begin to recognize when you're doing this to yourself.
A liberated mind will always see options and opportunities.
When those options and opportunities are anything but obvious, a free thinker will ultimately CREATE them.
How? Through the power of extending choice.
I hope you will enjoy this episode and share with anyone who may be performing this kind of self sabotage on themselves.
You must tame the Dragon of self imposed suffering and fear of doom, to move toward better days.
Until next week, Tame your Dragons.
If you are odds with the notion of Acceptance, get in line, many of us are.
This imbalance in consciousness occurs due to how we perceive Acceptance in action.
Growing up, I learned that Acceptance meant admitting defeat, and giving in, in one way or another.
It was this concept of defeat that kept me wrestling with anything and anyone who did not reflect myself, my belief system and my moral codes.
To many of us, Acceptance is perceived as a personal weakness.
Back then, I viewed Acceptance as surrendering my position, and embracing ideas, events and even people that I held deep opposition to.
Acceptance felt yielding, unnatural.
Can you relate???
If you are challenged in processing and practicing this as a discipline, you too must expand how you define Acceptance.
This week on Taming Dragons, I’ll walk you through why this mental stronghold even exists within you, and why it could be limiting your overall healing and growth.
Also, why it’s so important for you to redefine how you practice Acceptance, for your mental and emotional health.
I'm looking forward to growing old.
For some time now, I see age as the highest compliment of a blessing.
Perhaps it's the awareness that a few years back, I lost a sister two weeks after her 50th birthday to breast cancer.
Or maybe it's the mindfulness that came with being a caretaker to my Mother who passed away at age 75.
Whatever it is, it allows me to embrace the blessing of being alive all while noticing the narratives myself and other women around me, tell ourselves.
Today, I discuss three narratives that need desperate reformation in the minds of BW everywhere.
How we view Prioritization
How we see ourselves in the world perceptively
and How we view the aging process
As you well know, stress isn't going anywhere, however our narrative around stress has to shift.
Otherwise, we will all continue to experience internal dis-ease at astounding rates, impacting our families, communities and most importantly ourselves.
Share this episode with the woman in your life that needs an internal adjustment.
Let's Tame this Dragon, together.
We are more complex than we give ourselves credit.
All of us have triggers, idiosyncrasies and awww hell no's - that should be acknowledged, assessed, evaluated for relevancy and lastly owned.
Doesn't mean we leave it where it is when we do this work; it can however create opportunities for us to grow and mature in any particular area.
Recently I was challenged to take a good look at a major trigger for myself. What was it, you may wonder?
I have serious issues standing by silently when someone is being manipulated, bullied or grossly taken advantage of.
I have a visceral response one may say. My reaction to this behavior can be one to be remembered and also creates enormous amounts of risk based on the impulse to protect and to destroy.
This would actually fit all three for me: It's a triggers, it's a pet peeve to even pick up on and it would be a deal breaker to nonchalantly participate in.
Yet, part of Self Mastery is noting the complexities of our emotions, shadows, and inner dragons.
When are our dragons activated?
When do they come out of the shadows ready to insight justice?
Know your triggers, list them even. Take a good look at the root cause, memory, experience.
Be aware of your pet peeves. Are they petty? What happens to your mind? your body in those moments?
Deal breakers help us to deploy boundaries. Know what they are. Take on the responsibility of articulating them and respecting them.
Tame those inner dragons. Seek assistance when necessary, but do know - it's necessary.
I hope you enjoy and grow from this episode. See you next week!
Aimee, Self Mastery Coach
Do you navigate disagreements well?
Or do you tend to clash and as a result, relationships fall apart?
Some of us are not comfortable with having a firm stance, holding a particular position, voicing objection or presenting an opposing point of view.
Other's of us may feel equipped, however the process of any argument can awaken inward agitation, anger or an overly aggressive defensive style.
Matter of fact, I'd weigh that most of us feel like a disagreement is in some way doomed to be unfavorable resulting in distress.
This week's episode is a reflection and share of tips discussed during a recent Men's Group interaction, which I host every Saturday morning.
These days, with so many people living on edge, especially when discussing hard topics. Navigating an argument can seem impossible.
If you ask me, navigating disagreements is an Art form, very few have Mastered for the benefit it can bring toward the expansion of individuals willing to listen, learn and share.
It's extremely helpful to be self aware while initiating or responding to uncomfortable dialog. There's a saying, don't raise your voice, improve your argument. It takes a Masterful individual to remain mindful of this wisdom while being triggered for instance.
So notice your personal communication style, also notice how you respond to someone else's communication choices that may be the complete opposite of yours.
Pay attention to your body language and the language of the individual or audience you're speaking to.
One of the most important goals of navigating an argument is to end it respectfully and tactfully without loosing one's self.
The tips that are shared will assist you toward effectively managing this and managing You.
Enjoy taming the Dragon of your mind and your disciplines. This particular Dragon has taught me so much about the complexity of myself.
Depending on the subject matter, it still makes an unforgettable entrance from time to time.
Rest assure, taming some Dragons are consistent for a lifetime.
Takes courage to explore and discover the fullness of what makes you, You.
Question: Should unhealed people pursue relationships?
My instinctual answer is one that I've found comfort in, due to my healing style. Yes, we all have a healing style. Perhaps we'll explore that in another episode.
However, there are parts of ourselves that are highlights & discovered within relationships; moments of which otherwise, we'd never know.
Why? Because we all have the tendency to normalize behaviors that grant us comfort and familiarity. Doesn't mean those behaviors are exactly functional, or healthy for that matter, just that we've normalized them.
Takes a high level of bravery to pursue most relationships these days.
Not only intimate relationships, but career associates, friendships, spiritual advisors, all of it.
Takes an ability to approach each attempt to connect, with a curious and adventurous mindset. An ability to allow our human experience to evolve as we go and to practice techniques and tools we've mindfully put in place to be successful.
Ask yourself; How do I practice setting ethical boundaries (for example), if there is no one around to apply the practical stance of instilling that boundary?
We have to be willing to stretch ourselves beyond our hermit tendencies to test what we have learned. All while allowing ourselves the opportunity to explore, expand and learn a helluva lot more.
Let's discover the unhealed parts.
I can really appreciate what growth looks like in myself, I mean TRULY appreciate it.
I discuss how Growth showed up for me recently and how I was able to truly honor my energy, voice and the apology I made to myself years ago.
There is something beautiful about noticing your Own growth and spirit expansion. It's amazing when you embody the power you've had all along. This week's episode remind listeners how important it is that you check in old Self and old behaviors. How important it is to stand in WHO you've become and not allow people or circumstances to time-warp you back into your old ways.
Self control and discipline is a wonderful tool that is energized by how deeply and sincerely we choose to honor and love our existence and how we show up in the world.
I'm hopeful this episode inspires you to transcend all things that recycles to bring you down. Use the "test of time" to level up! Tame that Dragon!
Most people who struggle with Forgiving wrestle with it due to internalized hurt, betrayal and undeniable trauma.
To the person who has endured such abuse; oft times, to forgive "feels like" letting the offender completely off the hook.
It can also be challenging because they believe in the concept that true forgiveness means forgetting. This belief system is embedded by those who were brought up in deeply religious circles.
It's even harder to release recurring events that has played out in this persons life, over and over, numerous times.
There is no forgetting our experiences really, we may avoid, ignore or suppress them to survive; but the pain associated with unhealed trauma can easily resurface when triggered.
Not all triggers express themselves externally by impulsiveness, some people who become triggered go internal with their pain by shutting down, both are reactions.
When fortunate enough to remove themselves from the particular situation, gleaning the lesson and releasing the pain that came with it; seems like quite an abstract concept, a dream, considerably unrealistic.
This episode outlines what "Protecting" ourselves may look like when "moving forward" without truly forgiving in a healthy way.
A good friend of mine has coined this phase as "The Walking Wounded" --
While it is understandably unhealthy to pretend that you're OK and moving along, when you really haven't; its even more unhealthy to define this act as self protection when in fact it's silently eating away at your core.
Healing is about acknowledging and releasing the pain. Effectively managing the triggers.
Its the ability to be the observer of our own wounds.
Forgiveness doesn't protect you from ever getting hurt again; forgiveness provides the clarity of heart and thought to navigate the landscape of hurt as being apart of our human experience.
Forgiveness promotes an advanced self healing mechanism that is supernatural to some.
Forgiveness grants you the grace for oneself to trust, find compassion for and protect, all while being courageous enough to release the portal in time that desires to hold you hostage.
This is how we Tame the Dragon of Unforgiveness. If you can relate, this week's episode is just for you.
Wheeewww.... What - A - Week!
In this episode I share a recent event I had, Taming a particular Dragon that got the best of me, for a minute.
For anyone who tells themselves that they cannot perfect the Art of Meditation, yet they tend to overthink, ruminate and worry about numerous things consistently -- I want to tell you, you are a Master meditation expert! Most of have this tendency to meditate on negative things with focus, concentration, creativity and devotion.
I've known for sometime that worry in itself was a form of meditation, but somehow I found myself backed into it's very familiar cave once again.
In this episode you will learn the name of the Dragon associated with Worry and why / how it's given its power.
That's the thing about Taming Dragons, from time to time, they ease out of the caves to wreak havoc, yet again. It's our responsibility to recognize and to capture it as quickly and proficiently as possible, before it becomes too destructive.
Episode 5: Identifies Abusive Leadership, by routinely practiced behavior and its harmful results.
I can still recall experiencing my first Toxic Leadership scenario. Unfortunately due to my age, I was forced to endure it for many years until I became old enough to separate myself.
As a result of over exposure for so long, there were parts of my self worth that were deeply wounded. It took years of work and repair before I could see myself in a healthy, loving way. I'm an optimist by nature, always diligently seeking "silver linings." So in this regard, I am also able to identify Abusive Leaders with stealth like accuracy.
What breaks my heart to this day is that so many are not able to discern this particular Dragon, until they've been burned beyond recognition. This episode is dedicated to those who have survived such experiences, just like myself. As well as those who are currently forced to deal with, continuously doubting if what they see and feel is real.
Abusive Leaders have a way of turning on the charm and honing in infectious energy.
So if you're wondering why someone can be so bad, but yet be so good; I'm here to confirm, it's possible and you're not loosing it. Make notes but most importantly, please make decisions.
I'm wishing everyone who listens all the strength, insight and bravery it takes to keep this Dragon as far away as humanly possible.
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Do you say to yourself, I have a lot going on? A full plate?
I'm not here to contradict that reality of yours; however, this episode confronts the individual who willfully places everyone else's everything on their "To Do" list. Although we deem this personality type as reliable, trustworthy and the cornerstone of their communities, how many take these responsibilities on while dismissing the importance of Self Responsibility.
I know the signs, because I've done it. In this episode, I acknowledge that this mindset was how I believed care and love for others had to be demonstrated. Meanwhile, I observed that those who I desired to "Help" the most often resented by devotion in micro-aggressive ways. There was no way I could be responsible for their lack of momentum, critical thinking and motivation, right? Why couldn't they just get it together?
Sometimes - it's because we are in the way. In the way of another persons growth, progress, defining moment, self-awareness. We can stand in the way of these things for the people around us, and those we love while calling it something completely different.
My hope is that if you see yourself in this episode, you find the strength to adjust how you honor the responsibility that comes with being you. That perhaps you'll be a bit more devoted and loyal to yourself. No more misplaced responsibility, focus on bettering You.
If you've lived through trauma, you'll be able to relate to this episode. For so many who have dealt with trauma, there is a recurrence of the event that can take place which can alter the chemistry and health of your personal perspective and how you experience the world around you.
This episode reminds trauma survivors of the irrevocable power that remains within them, despite the heavy reality of any particular experience. But, What happens when we fail to use that power that is innate our own? What happens when we no longer believe in that power?
Let's examine how the power of choice is averted when we cling to old narratives, that no longer serve our present lives in a healthy way.
Too often we choose not to tame the dragon of what haunts minds and hearts, because we've grown fond of walking in Fear and reliving nightmares. With choice, active or inactively comes intention. Practicing choice, isn't an overnight switch, however the muscle of choice has to be strengthened as often as you learned to recite the nightmare you know word for word. Redirecting focus takes practice.
There's a quote I've grown quite fond of; author unknown: "Your trauma is not your fault, but your healing is your responsibility" -
Power and responsibility are expressed simultaneously and that awareness can cripple many. Let's not fear completely owning both, let's embrace it's experience fully and openly. These gifts however adverse or difficult at times, allow us the opportunity to learn, to inwardly evolve and most importantly to grow.
This weeks podcast dares you to stop abandoning You! So often we disqualify our needs, wants and desires in a quest to be revered as noble, self-self-sacrificing and good. How much do you give of yourself to ensure that you're seen as just a good person? Well guess what, loving yourself by taming the Dragon of Self-Abandonment is a mission of Love and goodness. It's giving your Dragon redirection of energy. It's ensuring your Dragon that everyone will be alright as you tend to your purpose, your goals and your needs.
This episode addresses the false messaging that has to be overridden within your consciousness and your Soul. Abandoning your purpose cannot continue. Someone needs the highest version of you but most importantly, You deserve to self-actualize the grandest parts of yourself. Let's tame this subtle but very old Dragon within ourselves.
Taming the Dragon of abandonment can be complicated due to our failure to recognize how prevalent it can be in our lives. This particular dragon can stifle our ability to show up, be present, commit to growth and to find joy in our day to day experiences. In this episode we discuss how we abandon ourselves, recycling the very pattern that traumatized us in the first place. Learn what questions to ask while attempting to override faulty wiring, as you give yourself the gift you wish to see expressed in your dealings with others.