Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast: Recent Episodes
LeAnn Austin
Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast shares ways to create more fun and connection with your daughter-in-law or anyone else you care about. As well as insights and ideas that will increase the love you feel, and beautiful perspectives about love and relationships.
Brooke Snow has a beautiful gift for helping us see ourselves through the lens of love and acceptance. Her insights have blessed by life, and I'm so grateful to share this conversation with you~
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One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Why do we overdo, shut down, procrastinate, people-please, and get stuck in the same loops?
Take a listen to hear what to do about it...
Resources~ Climb Your Everest Experience HERE Free Download: Lovin Check-In https://leannaustin.com/lovincheckin/
Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Often the strongest thing you can do isn't push harder ~ it's pause long enough to catch your breath.
Here are 3 simple tools of how to do it...
Resourses~ Climb Your Everest Experience HERE Free Download: Lovin Check-In https://leannaustin.com/lovincheckin/
Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Your nervous system may be running the show more than you realize ~ and understanding it can change everything!
In this first episode of Your Calm, Strong Climb, we're exploring...
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Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
One of the greatest gifts from my 29029 adventure was meeting the incredible Colleen Rue. She has a beautiful way of seeing people, speaking their names, and making everyone feel like they matter.
Take a listen as Colleen shares powerful reminders about connection, kindness, and why adventure & love are always better when shared.
Resources~ Climb Your Everest Experience HERE Free Download: Lovin Check-In https://leannaustin.com/lovincheckin/
Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What's been calling to you lately ~ that dream, goal, or next step that feels exciting, but also a little scary?
Join me for Climb Your Everest experience on July 7th HERE
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Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
My two-year-old grandson loves to say, "I did it!" When's the last time you celebrated by saying that too?
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Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
If Father's Day feels complicated... you're not alone. Take a listen to hear how to navigate this day.
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Sometimes the best reminders about love, come from the sweetest people ~ Meet Sam
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
In that tiny space between what happens and how you respond ~ is your power! Resources~ Free Download: Lovin Check-in https://leannaustin.com/lovincheckin/
Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What if you didn't have to fake it? Here's another alternative...
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Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-in-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Have you ever wished you could rewind a moment and try again?
This episode is all about second chances and learning from the "oops" moments...
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Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Healing doesn't happen alone, it happens in connection.
Take a listen to this beautiful conversation with the incredible Bethany Lewis ~ an occupational therapist, mama of six, and founder of The Concussion Coach.
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One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Not a mom? No problem! Mothering is love in action, and we all do it.
Take a listen to the mothering that is happening in your world...
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
You're not meant to do life alone.
Here are 3 simple ways to create more connection in your life. Bonus, my favorite connection song!
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One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What if nourishment didn't come with rules, just helpful tools?
Take a listen to 3 simple nourishment tools to try this week...
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One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Trent Straub, aka DJ SkyRocker, shares some incredible things about listening, resilience, connection and much more... plus an old favorite song! Resources~ Free Download: Lovin Check-In https://leannaustin.com/lovincheckin/
Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What if one of the simplest ways to feel better... was just stepping outside?
Take a listen to all the things sunlight can do for you!
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Resurrection isn't just a story. It's an experience. It's the moment when life comes back online.
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LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Movement isn't about "fixing" your body. It's about reconnecting with it.
Take a listen to hear why movement is one of the most powerful tools for...
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
The incredible Jennifer Knight ~ a creative entrepreneur, voice actor, rock singer, coffee company owner, and more shares some tender insights.
What happens when you stop trying to fit in... and forge your own path?
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Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What if the most powerful thing you could do to fix your mood, your cravings, and your patience isn't trying harder... but sleeping more?
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One-on-One Coaching Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-on-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Rules tighten. Tools support. Take a listen to this idea I heard from Jody Moore...
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Do you have siblings who remember everything you wish they'd forget?
If sibling relationships feel sweet, messy, distant, or complicated ~ this is for you...
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Linda Tanner is one of those souls who carries quiet strength, deep wisdom, and an open heart.
Take a listen to this beautiful conversation...
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What in your life feels brutal... and beautiful at the same time?
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P.S. stands for my favorite nervous system tool, the Physiological Sigh. If life has felt full, braced, or tight lately, take a breath with me on today's podcast...
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LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Sometimes our kids see our giants clearer than we do...
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LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
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If you've ever felt the unconditional love of a pet, this conversation with Julie Squires will speak right to your heart.
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LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
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Borrowed belief is when someone sees your potential before you can see it yourself ~ and their belief becomes a bridge until yours catches up.
Listen to 4 simple ways to borrow belief...
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LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
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The things that change our lives aren't big or dramatic ~ they're the little things we do again and again, that's how More Lovin grows... Resources~
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LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
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Every feel like you're yo-yoing through life?
Let's change that right now...
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Candace Matson shares beautiful insights about resilience, forgiveness, and faith ~ how she's faced unimaginable loss yet still radiates peace, connection, and light.
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Kindness, compassion, giving and connection are so beautiful at Christmas.
And underneath all the lights and hustle, there's love ~ the kind that reminds us why we celebrate the birth of Jesus.
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Do you check your phone more than you check in with yourself?
Take a listen to discover how to check in with you...
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New Name ~ Same Heart...
The podcast formerly known as Lovin My Daughter-in-law is now More Lovin... Because it's time for more laughter, more calm, more connection ~ and lots More Lovin!
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Episode #200 is here ~ 200 podcast episodes of love, fun, and connection!
And who better to celebrate with than my lifelong friend, Lisa Van Otten. Lisa shares what it really means to lead with love ~ in family, work, and life.
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Let's be real, life feels heavy often.
But even in the mess and stress... joy is still possible.
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Do you ever look at an old photo and think... "Wow, she was so full of life!"
She's still in there, and this week's episode is all about inviting her back out to play~
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Do you have china sitting untouched in your cabinets?
Relationships are like china. Take a listen for 5 ways to "use the china" in your relationships.
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Jalyn de Moors is a singer, performer, and recording artist.
Her voice and wisdom blew me away! Take a listen...
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
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Ever wish you could rewind a tough conversation? No need to, simply be ready for The Next Conversation.
Let's explore Jefferson Fisher's powerful book together...
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Ever notice that more isn't necessarily better? That's diminishing returns.
Here are 3 simple steps to avoid doing too much...
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Have you ever noticed how a quick kitchen dance, walk to the mailbox, or even 10 jumping jacks can totally change your mood?
Here are 3 steps you can do today to use motion to shift emotion...
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Meet the incredible Dr. Vijay Patel ~ world-class surgeon, teacher, grandpa, and one of the kindest souls.
Take a listen to Dr. Vijay's beautiful insights on love, empathy, culture, family dynamics, why presence and intention matter, and much more!
Resources~
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Grief is a part of every human story, and it often brings along an unexpected companion...
Take a listen to hear what that connection is.
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Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Have you ever tried to control a situation, a person, or an outcome?
I'm guessing we all have at times.
Control often comes from fear, anxiety, or wanting things to feel safe.
Take a listen to the game changer and antidote to control...
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Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Ever feel like you're running on a hamster wheel ~ working so hard, but not really getting anywhere?
Take a listen to what happens when we break the old patterns that keep us stuck.
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Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Meet Cheryl Turner, a 40+ year fitness instructor, joyful Gigi (grandma), and living proof that love, health, and connection go hand-in-hand.
Cheryl believes in more than just strong muscles. Take a listen to hear her beautiful balance and wisdom.
Resources~
Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Membership: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book Details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
You can't connect well when your nervous system thinks you're in danger.
Listen in and let's help your nervous systme feel safe and fully YOU. Because connection starts inside.
Resources~
Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/ Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Membership: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Ever feel stuck? In a mood. In a relationship. In an old story you keep telling yourself?
You hold the most powerful tool in your healing and connection journey: CHOICE
Resources~
Free Download: Nervous System Tool https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/ Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Membership: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book Details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more important information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Today we're celebrating smudged ink, wonky scissors, and the beautiful quirks that makes you you!
It's Left-Handers Day, and whether you're a lefty, a righty, or somewhere inbetween - this Lovin My DIL episode is for you.
Resources~
Free Download: Nervous System Tool: https://leannaustin.com/nervoussystemtool/ Free Download: Connection Blueprint: https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Membership: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What if there's nothing to fix about you or them?
The amazing comedian, Darcy Christ, shares her wise, funny, and freeing thoughts about connection and love.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Membership: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Program: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book Details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Feeling frazled lately? We're getting real about stress: how it piles up and simple, doable ways to hit reset.
And if you're craving more calm and community, Connection Crew is where it's at. Join by August 4th and get my brand new Stress Reset Kit - packed with easy tools to help you feel lighter, clearer, and ready to take on life again.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
When was the last time you let yourself be new at something?
Tune in for the 5 things I share about beginners. Because that's where the growth happens. And it's a whole lot more fun too!
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Ever feel like you're waiting for permission to start? For clarity? Confidence? The "right time"? Spoiler alert: it's never coming.
The growth you're craving is waiting for you in the going. Tune in for powerful ways to get yourself "going" when life feels heavy, confusing or overwhelming.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What if there isn't one "right" way to live, love, or believe?
Laura Plauche Johnson, a wife, mom, and current city council member, shares some beautiful wisdom on love, relationships, and leading with compassion.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Freedom isn't just for the 4th of July. It's for every day you decide to stop people-pleasing, overthinking, or waiting for permission.
What would you do if you didn't care what anyone thought?
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Confidence doesn't come before the thing. Confidence comes from doing the thing.
Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law podcast for one idea that will change how you think about yourself.
We're flexin confidence muscles all July in Connection Crew - Join us HERE
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Summer is here... but are you soaking it up? Or racing through it?
This week's Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast is your official permission slip to slooow down and savor the small stuff.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Meet Luke ~ a walking ray of love and light! Luke has Williams Syndrome, and his beautiful smile lights up every room he walks into~
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Ever look back at a total oops moment and realize... it was exactly what you needed?
Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law podcast to hear how cringey choices, detours, and totally unplanned situations somehow turn into life's best lessons and blessings.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
June is about to be journal-icious! Take a listen to hear 7 perks of journaling...
2 amazing bonuses if you join Connection Crew by June 2nd - a brand new workbook Write Here, Write Now*, and a special guest, Ashley Wright, teaching our June 3rd call. Come journal, laugh, and grow with us~
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Ever arrived somewhere and realized you don't remember the drive?
That's autopilot mode - you brain's way of saving energy, but it can make life feel like a blur.
Tune in to Lovin My Daughter-in-law podcast for 3 simple ways to wake up from autopilot and enjoy life more!
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
The amazing Ashley Wright @strokesoffreedom is a journaling coach, lover of life and queen of all things fun!
Ashley shares beautiful love and relationship insights on Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast today. You don't want to miss this heartfelt conversation.
Ashley will be teaching us in Connection Crew on June 3 and answering all your journaling questions. Join Connection Crew today for Ashley's wisdom and much more!
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Mother's Day can bring up all the emotions, and the idea of a "perfect" day? Total myth.
In this episode of Lovin My Daughter-in-law, I'm sharing 3 simple ways to make Mother's Day feel good for you. Let's ditch the pressure and create a day that actually fits!
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
This powerful poem by Cassie Phillips called Let Them, is a beautiful reminder to let others live their own lives, without trying to control or fix anything.
This aligns so well with The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins, a book full of insights on releasing control and careting more peace in our relationships.
Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law podcast to hear Cassie's awesome poem, insights from Mel and much more!
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book Details HERE
LeAnn Austin's Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Ever caught yourself in full-blown panic mode over something small?
What if we could break free from this reactive cycle and handle life's challenges with calm urgency instead of crisis mode?
In this Lovin My Daughter-in-law episode, I'll share simple yet powerful tools to help you respond instead of react~in your relationships, work, and everyday life.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What if the hardest moments in your life were actually the ones bringing you closer to love, connection, and faith?
Join me on the Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast as the amazing Dan Worthington shares his heartfelt wisdom on love, relationships, and faith.
As a pediatric physical therapist, Dan has worked closely with kids and parents, including his own journey of raising a son with disabilities. His insights on forgiveness, resilience, and the unseen ways God shows up in our lives are truly inspiring.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
How do you Bloom when life doesn't go as planned?
Maybe the "soil" isn't ideal, and you're wondering: How do I grow and thrive right here, right now?
In this Lovin My Daughter-in-law episode, I share 3 simple but powerful steps to help you grow, adapt, and flourish - no matter where life has placed you.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Children's books are more that just stories, they're first windows into wonder, kindness and endless possibilities.
Listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law podcast for 3 powerful reasons why children's books leave a lasting impact, along with 3 fun ways to celebrate International Children's Book Day.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Spring is here and it's time to clear the clutter inside and out!
If you're ready for more clarity, peace and space, join Connection Crew today. Our focus for April will be on practical tools that will help you stop procrastinating and create a calm, organized environment ~ so you can finally breathe and focus on what truly matters.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
The incredible Michelle Keil shares her beautiful love and relationship insights.
Take a listen to hear Michelle's in-law adventure and what true humility is~
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What do traffic lights have to do with relationships?
Ever wonder what differentiation really means?
Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast to discover how understanding this concept can create stronger bonds!
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Are you chasing the Wow and missing the Now?
It's easy to get caught up in life's big moments and overlook the beauty right in front of us.
Take a listen for 5 simple, powerful ways to shift your focus from the wow to the now.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Are you in a situation where you feel stuck or like you have no choice in the matter? You're not alone.
Safety is central to our survival. When we don't feel safe, it leads to trauma.
Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast where I share Dr. Gabor Maté insights about trauma and safety.
March Connection Crew focus is on anchoring yourself in safety, understanding your trauma, and implementing the three C's. Join us there today! Details HERE
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Patty Englin is a 72-year-old woman who has been married for 50 years next month! Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast as Patty shares how she's learned to love her daughter-in-law completely and discover true freedom.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Love brings things out into the open, but fear keeps things hidden.
What are you hiding that love could reveal?
Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast for ways to lessen your fear and increase your love.
*Be sure to check out my sweet deal at the end!
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
February is the shortest month packed with perks!
Ever thought of the advantages of keeping things short and sweet?
Be sure to catch the short & sweet thing that will no longer be available after February.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Ready to create more love and appreciation for Your Body than you ever imagined possible?
My new Lovin My Body Course will teach you 7 simple ways to make this happen!
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
The incredible Molly Zemek (a professional chef, author and coach) shares her beautiful love and relationship insights on Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast.
Tune in as Molly discusses how to listen to your body and much more!
Molly will be teaching her expertise and answering all your questions in Connection Crew on February 4th. Join us HERE
I've been blessed to work with Molly over the past year and it has been life changing. She has helped me shift from an all-or-nothing mindset around eating, reduce binging, lose weight, and embrace a much healthier relationship with food.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Persistence is a skill you can practice doing pleasantly if you'd like.
Here are 3 ways why being pleasantly persistent matters. And an awesome acronym to help with this!
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Do you or someone you love get offended easily and blow things way out of proportion?
Do you often feel like a victim and that life is chaotic most of the time?
Let me help you resolve a lot of those painful feelings, and create more connection and love with yourself and others. Take a listen to hear how...
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What if, instead of stressing over goals, we approach them like a journey to uncover hidden treasure?
Take a listen to hear what the treasure map approach looks like...
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
My Incredible Dad shares his beautiful love and relationship insights.
Take a listen to hear just a few unique things he does for our family...
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What if you don't need a huge goal every year to make progress? For 2025, let's get Back to the Basics...
Here are the 5 fundamentals that will set the stage for everything else. If you're ready to embrace the basics and feel more connected in 2025, Connection Crew is here for you!
For just $45 a month, you'll get access to multiple courses with short, engaging videos and worksheets that you can fit into your schedule, practical tools to help reduce stress and create more joy, and coaching opportunities to work through whatever's going on in your life. Plus, you'll be part of a supportive community that's cheering you on every step of the way.
Join Connection Crew HERE
Here's to a new year filled with simplicity, connection and love~
Resources:
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/work-with-me/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What does faith mean to you?
Faith is a deeply personal journey, and there are universal practices that help cultivate trust, belief and connection.
Take a listen to Lovin My DIL Podcast to hear 5 ways to nurture and grow your faith.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes anddd more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Could conflict really be connection? 100% yes!
Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast to hear how...
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
The incredible Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife shares her love and relationship insights. Love, honesty, faith, trust and intimacy are just a few things we touched on in this beauitful conversation. Take a listen to hear Jennifer's wisdom.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprint https://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Question https://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What do you value? Values are especially important during the holidays when you're connecting with family and friends.
Join Connection Crew before December 2nd and you'll get access to everything in this amazing program, opportunities for group coaching & to connect with other amazing humans, and an awesome worksheet filled with values and ways to remind yourself just how important you are.
Wrap up 2024 feeling confident about your values and so much more!
Sign up for Connection Crew HERE today ~ endless value for only $45. Best gift to yourself ever!
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprinthttps://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Questionhttps://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program:https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details:https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: Book Details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Are you a human doing or a human being?
If you're not sure what the difference is, or how you may be both, take a listen here...
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprinthttps://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Questionhttps://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program:https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details:https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website:https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Does life throw you curves and swerves?
I'm guessing the answer is yes and probably more than you'd like.
Take a listen to hear 3 key things that will help you navigate life's curves and swerves...
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprinthttps://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Questionhttps://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program:https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details:https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website:https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Are you willing to be in for all of it? So fun to explore this and much more with the beautiful Jill Pack.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprinthttps://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Questionhttps://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program:https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (one-on-one coaching) Details:https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book:book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website:https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Want to feel more connected, especially during the holidays?
What about saying "no" to the things that drain you. And honoring the commitments you've made to yourself, instead of waiting until next year.
My Inner Connection Blueprint gives you 3 easy steps to connect with yourself and others.
Get your Free Connection Blueprint HERE
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprinthttps://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Questionhttps://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program:https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details:https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-in-law Book:book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website:https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What is one goal that you're working on? Do you think about being at that specific achievement often? What if you were to Begin with the End in Mind? Take a listen for 5 simple ways to contemplate your end goal and how to get there.
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprinthttps://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Questionhttps://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program:https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details:https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book:book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website:https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Do you notice yourself saying: "Here I go again?" Maybe you're a little frustrated because it's the same old thing and you're not looking forward to the typical outcome.
What about changing the word Go to Grow...Here I Grow Again?
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprinthttps://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Questionhttps://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program:https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (one-on-one coaching) Details:https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin my Daughter-In-Law Book: book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website:https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Glenn Lovelace shares so many awesome analogies and stories that have changed the lives of thousands. Take a listen~
Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprinthttps://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Questionhttps://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program: https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (one-on-one coaching) Details: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website: https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What do you think about money?
Whatever your thoughts are, money is extremely useful for lots of reasons. Take a listen to hear more...
I have a special guest, Liz Carroll sharing her expertise in my Connection Crew Program on October 1st. If you'd like to talk to Liz live, ask your money questions, and get her financial wellness checklist, join Connection Crew by September 30th. You'll also have access to everything in Connection Crew Program for 30 days - best deal ever!
Sign up for Connection Crew here: https://leannaustin.com/register/ and let's make cents of your finances. Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprinthttps://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Questionhttps://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program:https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details:https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book: book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website:https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Have you ever heard a phrase and been upset or offended?
Then later when context was included, you better understood what was said.
Context matters. Take a listen for 5 reasons why... Resources~
Free Download: Connection Blueprinthttps://leannaustin.com/connectionblueprint/
Free Download: The One Questionhttps://leannaustin.com/the-one-question/
Connection Crew Program:https://leannaustin.com/register/
Hybrid (One-on-One Coaching) Details:https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Lovin My Daughter-In-Law Book:book details HERE
LeAnn Austin Website:https://leannaustin.com/
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What do you think about the in-laws in your family?
Daughter-in-law, mother-in-law, sister-in-law, son-in-law, or whoever you're thinking about. Some you may love, and others not so much.
Take a listen as I share 3 benefits of using the term in-love rather than in-law.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
The amazing Liz Carroll shares her beautiful love and relationship insights. Learn more about Liz HERE
Liz is a former corporate executive that achieved financial independence, and then was able to retire early and focus on her encore career as a financial life coach and a yoga meditation teacher.
Liz shares how she won the lottery with her daughter-in-law, and much more.
Liz will be teaching in Connection Crew Program on October 1st. If you want to learn all about financial wellness and ways to plan for your finances moving forward, join us HERE
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Do you procrastinate, overcommit, don't plan, or multi-task?
Take a listen for 3 quick tips you can use right now to create more time.
This is our focus for September in Connection Crew Program. Now is the perfect moment to learn more about one of the most valuable assets we have...time.
I'll help you manage it, so you create more with the time you do have.
Join us in Connection Crew today HERE Now is the time to master your clock.
Get the full show notes and more information: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Do you focus on the what to be done rather than the who?
Take a listen for why the who is more important.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What have you been rejected from?
And then later come to realize that the redirection was so much better.
Take a listen for 3 simple ways to transition from rejection to redirection.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
The incredible Ria Story shares her beautiful love and relationship insights.
Ria is a worldwide speaker, author, and trainer. She was sexually abused by her father from age 12 until she left home at 19, and trafficked by him to men he would meet off the internet. When Ria left home, she didn't have a job, money, or a high school diploma. She could have spent her life being a victim, but instead chose to be proactive in the face of adversity.
Ria shares her amazing story, compassionate thoughts about her mother-in-law (a phrase I want to use too!), and how she's chosen to be better rather than bitter.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
How does getting "your ducks in a row" help you organize your life?
Take a listen for the 4 steps to organize the things you've been putting off, and finally get them done.
Organization is the Connection Crew Program focus in August. If you join Connection Crew by August 5th, you'll get a hard copy of my organizational process to write down and complete for yourself. You'll finally complete the thing you've been putting off for months or years.
When you see this process on paper, and insert your unique tasks that you want organized, you're much more likely to complete them versus when you just have it in your head.
In Connection Crew, we'll walk through this process together ~ identify YOUR ducks, prioritize their order, create a clear plan, and take action one duck at a time.
Join Connection Crew HERE today and you'll have immediate access to everything in the Program, have a simple organizational worksheet to use for everything you want to do, and finally get the things done you've been putting off.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What is one thing you want to try?
Take a listen for 3 simple words to help you get it done!
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Which do you like better, the cake of the frosting?
Maybe you like the cake and the frosting, and want a little bit of both?
Hybrid means you combine two different things to create something new, and often better and more versatile.
Like cake and frosting, they are good on their own, but together they are so delicious.
I recently started a Cake AND Frosting 3 Month Hybrid program where you get the best of both worlds: Group Coaching AND One-on-One Coaching.
Group Coaching AND One-on-One Coaching is truly the best of both worlds ~ hybrid at its finest.
I guarantee you that coaching with me will be one of your most valuable investments. Sign up here: https://leannaustin.com/one-to-one-coaching/
Get the full show notes and details here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
The amazing Renae Clarke Kinghorn shares her beautiful love and relationship insights.
As a multiple state champion coach, a type one diabetic, and one of the most loving and kind women on the planet, Renae explores the importance of building others and ourselves.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Have you ever wanted to get back at another person? You're thinking they hurt you, so you want to hurt them back.
This is called retaliation, and at times it totally makes sense that we'd feel this way.
Here are 4 alternative ways to approach a difficult situation.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Do you spend a lot of time worrying about the number on the scale and what your body looks like?
I have, and thankfully have learned that we are so much More Than Our Body.
Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast, where I share some beautiful insights from Lexie & Lindsay Kite and their book More Than A Body.
For the month of July in Connection Crew we will focus on knowing how to feel, and what we want to do and experience in our bodies. We will also gain more appreciation and love for the magnificent instruments that our bodies truly are.
I'll teach you how to use your body, regardless of how it appears, as a beautiful instrument for your own experience and benefit.
As a special bonus ONLY for July, if you sign up for Connection Crew by July 1st, or are already in Connection Crew, you get a 10 minute one-on-one session with me to talk about your unique body and the specific steps that you can take to turn your focus inside your body rather than it's outside appearance.
Let's explore being More Than Our Bodies and Connection Crew is the perfect place to do this together. Join HERE Look forward to seeing you there~
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What would you do if you knew?
Here are 7 quick things to improve your relationships and not walk on eggshells around those you love.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
My dear friend Liz Bunker shares her beauitful love and relationship insights💗
As teacher of the year, very self-disciplined, a daughter-in-law, and much more, Liz shares how doing a little bit consistantly can have a huge impact.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
When's the last time you were together with your entire family?
It's been over a year for me and I was so grateful for our 20 minutes together💙
Take a listen as I share 5 impactful ways to help you strengthen the bonds and create meaningful connections with your family, even with limited time.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What does the old telephone system and our nervous system have to do with each other?
Take a listen to hear more☎️
Reminder: Leah Davidson will be teaching us how to befriend your nervous system, and somatic practices that you can implement into your life right now.
This is happening on June 4th in my Connection Crew Program. Not only will you get Leah's expert insights, you'll also get complete access to everything in Connection Crew for 30 days. The cost is only $45 for everything ~ best deal ever! Join HERE
Hope to see you there💙
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Have you ever withdrawn from a relationship?
Take a listen to hear how I withdrew from my daughter-in-law and then reconnected, as well as 5 tips that will prevent further distance and potential misunderstandings.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
The incredible Leah Davidson shares love and relationship insights about mothers-in-law, daughters-in-law, our nervous system, and much more.
Leah will be teaching us how to befriend our nervous system in my Connection Crew Program on June 4th. Now is the perfect time to join Connection Crew, get Leah's expert teaching about your nervous system, as well as somatic practices that you can implement into your life right now. Plus 30 days in Connection Crew Program with access to everything for only $45, which is the best deal ever!
Hope to see y'all there~
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What does holding a plank have to do with our emotions?
Take a listen to hear how to feel and hold our emotions, and how practicing our ability to hold our emotions, as well as a plank, can be life-changing.
Discomfort is the price of growth. Let's get real comfortable doing the uncomfortable things that strengthen our body, mind, and spirit.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
I created an equation: Love=Connection+Fun Give it a try. Notice if you incorporate fun and connection in your relationships, do you feel more love?
There are many formulas and equations in our world. Take a listen to hear more about them. Let me know how my equation (Love=Connection+Fun) works for you~
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What do you want to flush? Letting go of things can be challenging, but it feels so much better.
Take a listen to hear 5 simple ways to flush the stuff you no longer want to keep.
*Join us in Connection Crew today and I'll teach you how to become the hero instead of the victim, and to flush away the junk.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
The beautiful Heidi Allsop shares love and relationship insights about her 5 sons, 4 daughters-in-law and much more~
Take a listen as Heidi gives some excellent ideas to connect more with your son.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Is it possible that there could be Something Better, especially when things aren't working out the way you wanted?
Here are 5 ways that entertaining the thought "This or Something Better" can help you~
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Cabrini is one of the best movies ~ I highly recommend!
Listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast to hear a quick review, as well as my 5 favorite quotes from Cabrini💙
If you've seen this film, I'd love to hear your favorite takeaway~
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Are you ready to Hone & Own a goal you'd like to accomplish?
Join us in Connection Crew where our April focus will be Hone & Own. You'll pick one thing to work on, and hone in on getting closer to that goal, as well as own where you're at. Together we'll hone & own your true desires.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Take a listen as the amazing attorney Jordan Jewkes shares his expertise, wisdom, and beautiful examples of compassion and love.
Learn more about Jordan here: Website Instagram Facebook
How can you put yourself in someone else's shoes to better understand where they're coming from?
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What do you think of March Madness?
Take a listen to learn 5 valuable lessons anger can teach us.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Does your mind spin?
Take a listen to hear 3 easy ways to help your mind spin to win🚴🏼♀️
BONUS: If you want to do less mind spinning and more mind winning, join Connection Crew and I'll help you connect the dots to make that happen💙
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
When is the last time you had fun?
Hopefully it was today or very recently. If not, I want to help you create more fun in your life and your relationships right now.
Take a listen to hear all about fun🥳
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
My beautiful sister-in-law Lesly Austin shares her love and relationship insights, noting how smiles, love, and forgiveness can make your life more beautiful~
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Not a huge fan of Valentine's Day?
Here are 3 ways to make the holiday you dread not a flop...
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Do you often push yourself to do something, especially when you don't want to?
Take a listen to hear my crazy push experience and 7 Simple Things to do to help push yourself forward.
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Want to learn more about love through a scientific, objective lense?
Love 2.0 by Barbara L. Fredrickson, Ph.D. is a fasinating book that teaches how.
Take a listen to hear more about the science and 4 nonverbal cues of love.
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
My beautiful colleague and friend Katie Pulsifer shares countless gold nuggets throughout this podcast.
Take a listen to hear Katie's wisdom, insightful question, her relationship with 2 mothers-in-law, the song she played at her wedding, and much more~
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
I wrote and published a book and it's ready for you to read right now.
Take a listen to hear the details, as well as a free reading companion that may be used side by side wtih the book to practice and reinforce some of the skills I teach.
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What is not working for you?
Take a listen to hear 3 tips that I've found helpful in not working situations.
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Do you have a word for 2024?
Take a listen to hear about our word, Connection, and 3 areas that will help you create more connection in your life~
Find a free resource to write down your goals for body, mind, and spirit in the shownotes. Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
100 Episodes! Thanks to my incredible husband Jeff for doing all the behind the scenes to make my podcast happen.
Jeff shares love and relationship insights today on our 100th podcast.
How can you do it your way?
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What do you think of when you hear the word Shame?
Wondering how to strengthen your relationships as well as receive a $50 Amazon Gift Card?
Listen to hear more, as well as Brené Brown's wisdom on shame and an awesome acronym to help.
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
What does a Rose, Thorn & Bud have to do with our life? Wondering how to get a $50 Amazon Gift Card?
Listen to hear more, and how our highs and lows are evolving into those 3 explorative words...Rose, Thorn & Bud.
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Have you ever heard of Special Pops? Wondering how to get a $50 Amazon Gift Card?
Take a listen to hear more, what happy feet is, and the 5 ways that serving others blesses our own lives💙
If you're looking for ways to serve in your community, check out JustServe.org
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
My beautiful friend Chris Rich at https://www.chrisrichcoaching.com/ shares some love and relationship insights about mixed faith relationships.
Listen to hear Chris' insights and her thoughts about her mother-in-law and her daughter too.
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Give yourself the present of being present🎁
Take a listen to hear 3 easy ways to be present now at https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
🌟Black Friday and Cyber Monday are this week. From NOW - November 27th, you can join Lovin My Daughter-in-law Program for only $29. This gives you access to everything in the program for an entire month, which is perfect timing for upcoming family events.
The offer is only good until Monday, and I won't be offering the program at this price again. If you've been on the fence about joining Lovin My Daughter-in-law Program now is the time to do it (and no you don't need to have a DIL to join).
Go to my website: https://leannaustin.com/register/ Click: Join Now Enter the discout code: MoreFunAndLove
I'll hep you create more fun and connection with anyone you care about, especially your daughter-in-law💙
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Have y'all seen the movie A Million Miles Away? So Good!
Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast to hear how a migrant farmer become an astronaut, and his Dad's 5 life ingreadients that he believes are necessary items for success.
🌟Black Friday and Cyber Monday are coming next week. For the week of November 20th-November 27th, you can join Lovin My Daughter-in-law Program for only $29. This gives you access to everything in the program for an entire month, which is perfect timing for upcoming family events.
This offer is only good next week, and I won't be offering the program at this price again. So if you've been on the fence about joining Lovin My Daughter-in-law Program now is the time to do it.
Go to my website: https://leannaustin.com/register/ and enter the discount code MoreFunAndLove if you're ready to create more fun and connection with your DIL or anyone you care about💙
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Brené Brown shares, "comparison says be like everyone else, but better. It's not be yourself and respect others for being authentic. It's fit in, but win."
🌟Listen to these 5 Tips for making comparison a positive force rather than a negative force in your life.
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
My beautiful friend Kim Weinreb shares love and relationship insights today on Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast.
Kim helps parents who have teens with special needs transition from childhood support & services into adult support & services, which in the special needs world is very complicated.
More information at: https://www.transitionallyspeaking.com/
Listen to hear Kim's insights and how love is the foundation for everything she does💙
Get the full shownotes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Is there someone that you struggle to love?
Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast to hear how to love someone with no strings attached, as well as my favorite love quotes from @natalieclaycoaching @byron.katie and @brenebrown 💙
Unconditional love will be our November focus in Lovin My Daughter-in-law Program. By the end of the month, you'll know how to love that person you've struggled to even remotely like for years.
Join us in Lovin My DIL Program ~ such an amazing community of people strengthening their relationships with others and themselves, as well as their mental and emotional muscles.
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Choosing between a whole pan of no bake cookies and a few of them, has become a little bit easier when I pause to ask myself this question.....
Does this help me or harm me?
🌟Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast to hear why this question matters in relationships with others and ourselves.
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🌲My sowing tree experience was not what I had planned. Jeff & I were soaked and muddy and.....
Take a listen to Lovin My Daughter-in-law Podcast to hear 5 simple ways to Sow & Grow your relationships💙
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My beautiful guest Alisa Mortensen shares love and relationship insights.
Take a listen as Alisa tells some fascinating ways that Undo and Redo has transformed her life💙
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I was sharing my frustration with my husband, and he asked me if I'd like some coaching on that😂
I thought this would be very entertaining, so I agreed. He then asked me a question that I'd never heard before...
Do you suffer or buffer?
Buffering and Urges will be our October focus in Lovin My DIL Program (perfect time for the holidays which are fast approaching). I will be sharing an awesome acronym I created for urges - how to allow them and how to minimize your buffering🙌🏼 Come join this amazing community of people strengthening their relationships with others and themselves, as well as their mental & emotional muscles💙
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Where in your life are you a guide? And where do you have or would like a guide?
Take a listen to hear the 5 reasons why a guide matters.
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Have you ever been thrifting?
I recently had 2 dear friends take me thrift shopping. They are experts at this! I had no idea that thrifting is an art, and that you can find so many treasures🌟
Why is this important LeAnn? And what does thrifting have to do with relationship?
Well, take a listen and find out~
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My amazing guest, Maren Rasmussen, shares some beautiful love and relationship insights.
Maren is an energy awareness coach and shares details about this gift she has in Lovin My DIL Podcast. Follow Maren on Instagram @livingawakewithmaren
Join us this month in Lovin My Daughter-in-law Program, where we're focusing on energy and emotions. Maren will be teaching and coaching a September Group Call. If you'd like to experience energy awareness coaching, sign up for Lovin My DIL Program today. For only $45, you'll have the opportunity to be coached by Maren, along with an entire month in Lovin My DIL Program🙌🏼
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Energy is not just a scientific concept; it's the hearbeat of our existence.
Take a listen to hear how energy is the driving force behind everything we do.
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What does it mean to Lift Where You Stand?
Take a listen to hear a beautiful story and song that share how~
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Have you ever been deep sea fishing?
Fishing for halibut in Alaska is an incredible experience that I highly recommend. Take a listen to hear how this activity strengthens relationships too.
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My incredible guest, Eilat Aviram, shares some beautiful love and relationship insights.
Eilat has written 2 amazing books that I highly recommend reading:
If You Loved Yourself What Would You Do Now?
You Have Permission To Exist
She is a daring decision's teacher and shares what self-love actually is, and how it's different than self-romance.
Eilat tells of the journey and process of loving her mother-in-law before she died. And how looking after your needs is not selfish, it actually is a gift.
Learn more about Eilat here: https://ifilovedmyself.com/
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What were your childhood goals?
Listen to hear mine😬
Goals play an important part in the relationship we have with ourselves ~ which also effects our relationship with our daughter-in-law and everyone we care about.
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What does the word boundary mean to you?
I believe a boundary is something you do for yourself from a place of love. It doesn't create distance, instead it allows for a more honest connection between you and your daughter-in-law.
In Lovin My Daughter-in-law Program for August, I'll help you create and implement boundaries with your DIL or anyone you care about.
Get the full show notes and more information here: https://leannaustin.com/podcast/
Ideal versus Perfect ~ there are some big differences and kudos to @corinne_crabtree for teaching me the distinction💙
Take a listen to hear some "ideal" ways to improve the relationship with your daughter-in-law or anyone you care about.
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Julie Balkman shares some beautiful love insights about hair on fire, maps, dating, and much more. If you're ready to tune in to the idea that there is love all around us, take a listen.
Learn more about Julie here: https://www.juliebalkmancoaching.com/ and https://www.instagram.com/lifecoach.julie/
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Have you ever mowed a lawn in the dark?
Listen to hear why I was doing this and what I learned🤔
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Who do you have a manual for?
Manuals can be useful for things, but they are not useful for other people.
Join Lovin My Daughter-in-law Program today, and come find out how to tweak the manual you have for your DIL, for yourself, or for anyone you care about.
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How do you feel after getting a haircut?
A little re-energized and seeing things a bit more clearly?
💇🏼♀️I'm giving my business a haircut. A small name change for the same great program.
Lovin My Daughter-in-law Program is now everything all in one. No longer is the course seperate than the program, you get it all!
But wait LeAnn, I don't have a daughter-in-law. No problem. This program is filled with ways to improve your relationships with anyone, while focusing on you!
If you're ready to go all in on your relationship with your daughter-in-law, or anyone you care about. To feel more energized and see things a little more clearly, Lovin My Daughter-in-law Program is for you!
✂️Give your relationship a haircut ~ you deserve to attend your next family get-together as yourself and worry free. Join HERE today.
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Aaron & Kelen Emens have made it their life's mission to help the children in Brazil. Check out sunshine-life.org and listen to this podcast to hear how this all came about.
What a beautiful opportunity to help bring education to every child in the Amazons.
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When you're irritated, what do you feel and do?
I often react, rather than simply be irritated and feel that vibration in my body for a few minutes. I do appreciate the times when I slow down and sit in whatever emotion I'm feeling in the moment.
Take a listen to hear more about this, as well as an irritating quote that I love.
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Eilat Aviram wrote an amazing book that is the perfect question to ask ourselves every day: If you loved yourself what would you do now?
In my Lovin Me program for June, we'll be honing in on the specifics of Eilat's book and exploring what loving ourselves has to do with work, body, health, food, money, sex, and parenting. Would love to have you join us!
Take a listen to here more...
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I was blessed to witness the changing of the guards at the Tomb of the Unkown Soldier and celebrate two World War 11 veterans, one was 99 and the other 100 years old.
I'm beyond grateful for the sacrifice of countless men and women who have served our country and the hallowed grounds of the Arlington National Cemetary.
Take a listen for more of this beautiful experience...
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Tiffany Wade shares some beatiful love insights.....everything from the cochlea, her Mother-in-law, finding the lesson, and Amavi Vici~
If you're ready to be more curious amidst whatever your life experiences, take a listen.
Learn more about Tiffany here: https://www.tiffanystreamwade.biz/
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Do you dread Mother's Day? So many people I talk to do, and I must admit, it's not my favorite holiday either.
Countless reasons why we just want to get through Mother's Day. Maybe our mom is no longer with us, or we don't have the relationship we'd like to have with her. Maybe we aren't able to have children, or have lost a child. Maybe we are really struggling with choices our children have made, and don't feel like we're a very good mom.
Whatever the reason, you're not fond of Mother's Day, let's make this one a little bit better.
Take a listen for my Mother's Day gift to you....
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Do you ever do all the things, and it turns out not even close to what you expected?
Sara Payne's Book I Did All That For This?! will help you navigate the frustration, resentment, and disappointment that we all feel. I highly recommend this book.
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sided tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin.
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #66: I Did All That For This?!
Have you ever felt like you've worked so hard and done all the things to arrive at some certain dreamy place, and then it wasn't at all what you'd hoped for?
My friend and colleague Sara Payne, wrote a book entitled, I Did All That For This?! that I highly recommend. The target audience is spouses of physicians, but I think Sara's insights, stories, and prescriptions will benefit everyone.
One of the most intriguing takeaways for me was Sara's chapter on resentment. She mentioned "resentment is interesting because it's a mix of anger and silent superiority. It often shows up as passive aggressive behavior. It feels terrible, but it also feels powerful. Much more powerful than vulnerability, failure, disappointment, or fear. So we choose it, and it completely disconnects us from ourselves and our spouses."
Sara goes on to talk about ways to cure resentment in your marriage. And notes how it will free up so much space in your brain to focus on what you want to contribute to the world.
Another of my favorite chapters is your relationship with yourself is the one that matters most. I totally agree that creating a loving relationship with yourself will be the foundation of every other relationship you have.
Sara shares lots of great stories, fun quotes, and easy activities and writing prompts throughout her book. She also hones in on your relationship with your spouse, your kids, friends, time, money, and your future. And I love Sara's prescription takeaways at the end of every chapter.
The time chapter was so interesting to me as well, and reminded me of sneaky thoughts I sometimes have about time. That there's not enough of it, and that I'm not using it as effectively as I could or should. And Sara shares more great examples of comparing time schedules, and why it's important to put self-care first when planning our schedule.
Again, I highly recommend the book, I Did All That For This?! I love this quote from Sara, "Taking time to appreciate yourself instead of waiting for others to do it first, is a really loving thing to do for yourself." Hmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to "I did all that for this" exploration, and love.
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You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #65: Take Back Your Power
I recently had a client share with me that her daughter-in-law is coming for Mother's Day, and daughter-in-law's going to ruin the whole day for her.
I didn't fully understand what she was talking about and asked her to tell me more. My client said, well, when daughter-in-law comes to visit, she doesn't say much, or seem to want to interact with me. I can't tell if she's upset about something. I spend the whole time daughter-in-law is around walking on eggshells, and not even sure how to act, fearing that she won't have a good time and will come over even less than she already does. It's Mother's Day and I want to enjoy the day, but my daughter-in-law seems to mess that up, and other days I'm with her as well.
Hmmm, well this got me thinking, how often do we let other people ruin our experience, whether it's on a holiday or any day? How do we keep our peace when someone isn't behaving in the way we want them to, or think that they should?
I catch myself doing this sometimes, especially with my kids. Things would be so much better if they would, fill in the blank. A few things that I've heard of and have happened to me, you may relate to as well. Our dinner would be so much nicer if they would help me clean up. If they would just stop looking at their phone or playing video games, we could actually have a conversation like a normal family. Things would be so much better if they would spend more time or less time with me, depending on the situation. Now you get the picture.
Notice how we're giving the other person power over our life, as if they're in charge of how we think, feel, and act. What if we take back our power? Meaning, what if we take responsibility for how we show up, despite what everyone else around us is doing, hmm?
One quick tip to help with this. Show yourself some love. When I notice myself in situations like this, and getting really frustrated, I put my hand on my heart, take a few deep breaths, and remind myself, of course I'm upset that so-and-so did whatever. Every human wishes other people would do things differently. Slowing things down and giving myself a little space and grace, brings the power back to me.
I know some of you are worried that your daughter-in-law is going to ruin Mother's Day or some upcoming event. I can help you with this. Join me on Wednesday, May 3rd at 1:00 pm eastern time for my free mini workshop. In less than 30 minutes, you'll learn how to take back your power. And not let other people, especially your daughter-in-law, ruin your day. Free Registration HERE
And in my Lovin Me program for May, we'll be focusing on how you keep your peace when someone isn't doing what you'd like them to do. We'll explore many ways to take your power back, and I have an awesome acronym that I created and will share to help with this as well. So join our Lovin Me community, and together let's create more peace and love despite what may be going on around us.
I love the quote by Debbie Ford: "Now is the time to take back your energy, your power, and your peace." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to taking back your power, peace, and love.
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You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sizes tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #64: Helping Others with Shaina DeFichy
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their lives.
We have the amazing Shaina sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Shaina, briefly introduce yourself.
Hey LeAnn, so my name's Shaina DeFichy. I'm a wife, a dog mom to two amazing rescue pups, and a business coach for coaches, where I help them sell out their programs organically in five hours a week, and doing it in a way that feels amazing for them. So that's it.
That is awesome. And Shaina helps me with my business, so I'm so lucky, and I love that she's a dog mom too. So fun. That's awesome. Alright, so I've got three questions for you. The first one is, how do you incorporate love into your business and or your life?
Okay, so I'll speak to business specifically, but this also applies to life as well. And this is not something that I just did naturally, or started doing when I first started my business. It really wasn't easy at first, but it's doing what I really love in business, and doing it a way that I love to do it. Not just doing what the experts say to do, or that you should do, but really asking yourself, Hey, what do I want to do? What do I love to do? And doing it that way. So that's really how I incorporate, or I use that question to incorporate more love into my life and then into my business as well, and what my clients do that in their businesses as well.
I think that is just so key because often we think there's like a certain way it's supposed to be done or whatever. And I don't know if it sounds like for you too, it just feels better when you're kind of doing it your way and not the should way or whatever.
Yes. And it causes so much like resistance and stress and like I think leads to a lot of burnout when we try to do it maybe someone else's way, which is never fun. No one wants to do that. Definitely not more loving. And right, so when you're able to really tap into what do I love, what feels good for me, right? There is so much more fun there. There's so much more success as well that I see, and much easier to do it that way. So why not try it that way?
Ah, I love that, and you've got me thinking too, cuz I think about times when I've told you Shaina, I just can't do this. I keep trying to do something over and over. I just have so much resistance. But you're always so good to be like, wait, what do you love to do? Let's like hone in on that, rather than doing these things that I don't necessarily love.
Yes, exactly. And might be beautiful for somebody else. Right? And we see them and be like, oh, it looks so easy for them because maybe that's what they love, but maybe it's not necessarily what's right for you. So always checking in, I think is key.
Oh, that's so good. Yes, totally agree. Okay, so number two: What is something you love about you and why?
Okay. So I really love that I love helping others. It's always been something that I've just naturally loved doing since I was little. And it's a little bit of like a selfish reason because it's just so much fun for me to see people completely change their perspectives of themselves, and truly see how amazing and incredible that they are, and like just blow their minds. So that's something that I really love and I think just really drives me to do what I do and, you know, and help as many people as I can.
And you know, sometimes people say that and it's like, oh yeah, whatever. They like to help people, and that's why I wanted you on here because no, you genuinely do. Like you get excited when I tell you things about whatever. It's like I know you really wanna help me, and like it just radiates and I so appreciate that. And I'm sure all of your clients feel the same way too, because it's like that genuine, I really wanna help you. I really wanna, you know, and even if it's following me or commenting on Instagram stuff or whatever. It's like just that true, genuine, that is such a gift. I'm so grateful that you have that, and that you recognize it as well. Like, that's so cool. I love it.
Thank you. Yes, I love seeing my people do, like I get so much happier when I see other people and my people doing amazing, than for myself. It's fun.
Ah, I love that. Alright, so before I ask you the last question, is there anything else you'd like to share? And also where can our audience go to find out more about you?
I don't think anything else specific that I wanna share, but you can definitely find me on Instagram @LifeCoachShaina, and then also on TikTok, where I like to do lots of fun videos @CoachForCoaches.
Oh, so good. And I'll put those in the show notes as well. And you've got some really cool reels and videos. Oh, thank you. So fun. So, last question: What is your favorite question or quote about love?
Okay, so this is actually a question that comes from a book that I love and highly recommend if you or anyone in your audience hasn't read it yet, but the book is called, and the question is, "If you loved yourself, what would you do now?" And this question I just think is so powerful and kind of goes back to what we were talking about earlier, but it just makes everything so much easier when I ask this question, because it just brings it back to if I really loved me, what would I want to do? And it kind of clears out like all the junk or the shoulds or whatever someone else might say, and really takes me to, okay, what do I wanna do next? And just brings in a lot of magic. So that's my favorite question.
I love that question too: "if you loved yourself, what would you do now?" Hmm, something to think about.
Thank you Shaina, for sharing your tidbits of love with us.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to helping others and love.
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What is the story of your dog?
So many tender mercies connected us with Nutmeg ~ maybe that's why Dog is God spelled backwards.
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sided tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #63: Nutmeg
About seven years ago, an amazing woman named Richie was driving on the interstate from Alabama to Georgia, and she thought she saw something moving out of the corner of her eye and she wasn't sure what it was. So she circled back around, took the next exit, drove back around, and pulled off on the side of the road. And there she discovered two baby puppies and a mama dog. Now, she loaded up the baby puppies into her car because she wasn't sure if the mama dog was still alive. But then she saw her move just a little bit at the very end, so she scooped her up as well and put her in her car, and took all three dogs home to her already two dogs that she had there. And she nursed those three dogs back to health throughout the next year.
Well, fast forward a year and LeAnn decided that maybe it was time for her to get a dog. Remember, I have four boys and they had been asking all their lives for a dog, and Jeff had too. Now they had never really pressed me on it, but they had wanted a dog, and I'm like, no, four boys is enough, we don't need a dog. But I was starting to think, maybe we do. My second son was getting ready to graduate from high school and I thought, if we're gonna get a dog, we need to do it soon, or these boys are gonna be all out of the house.
So anyway, apparently when you need a dog, there's a lot of places you can find one, but Jeff found a dog on Petfinder and so we made an appointment and we drove out to take a look at this dog.
Now we had seen a couple other ones before then, and we went to see this one and both of us just fell in love with her. She is, I don't know what kind of dog, cuz I don't know all my dog names, but she's a rescue dog kind of part lab, could be part pit bull, kind of a mix, that kind of a dog. And she was excited to see us and we were excited to see her.
We talked about it on the way home, and I thought, alright, I think we can get a dog. So we did. We've had her for almost six years, and what a ride it has been. So lots of learning and training took place, especially at the beginning. Just understanding her and helping her do things. I think it's so fascinating the things that we learn from dogs.
So a couple things that I learned from Nutty is the sniffing; dogs love to sniff, and when I take her on walks or runs, she wants to sniff at everything. And it used to really annoy me, I'm like, come on, let's go, no sniffing. But now it really creates curiosity for me. I'm like, huh, maybe I need to slow down and smell the roses. Just like she takes time to sniff everything on the side of the path. So just the curiosity from her and watching her do that and also the nice balance between her sniffing things and then, alright LeAnn, I'm right by you walking or running, whatever we're doing. And then sometimes she'll pause and sniff and then back to whatever we're doing, like running and walking and it's just fun to watch her do that. So her taking time to sniff everything really has helped me pause and be like, okay, here's some time to slow down. Here's some time to appreciate all the things around us. So I'm so grateful that she's taught me that.
One other thing that I've learned from Nutmeg is unconditional love. She loves me no matter what. When I'm frustrated that she's chewed up the fence, or an object in our house, or whatever she's done, unconditional love. She always loves me, always no matter what, and she's excited to see me. So what has your dog taught you, and what do you love about your dog? It's fun to think about what we've learned from dogs and what we love about them.
Oprah Winfrey shares: "Over the years I have felt the truest, purest love - the love of God, really, I imagine that's what God's love feels like - is the love that comes from your dog." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to our dog, and unconditional love.
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Do you believe in miracles?
What if we looked for and expected them?
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sided tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #62: Miracles
I just finished reading a beautiful book by Brent C. Satterfield called Faith To Produce Miracles. There is so much insight and love woven throughout this book, and written for intentional reflection, not a read through and done kind of book. So, if you want to expand the miracles that you see, better understand your emotions, increase your self-love, and grow your faith from action to power, I highly recommend this book.
Brent shares that "a miracle is generally defined as that which occurs for which we have no rational explanation. And there is no limit to the types of miracles that can occur."
Do you believe in miracles? I certainly do. There are countless tender mercies around us every day, when we have the faith to produce miracles.
My dad posted the following on his Facebook page last week:
We were privileged to be invited to attend Jeff and LeAnn's 50th birthday family trip to San Juan, Puerto Rico, where we saw a never-ending string of miracles. 10 people, three different airlines, multiple cities actually made it with significant divine help.
Miracle #1: Grandma and Grandpa and six grandkids traveled from St. George to Las Vegas, in TWO separate cars, at night, found the little airport offsite motel offsite parking 25 minutes away, got on the SAME every-30-minute shuttle, traveled to San Juan on two different airlines, with extended layovers in different cities arriving at different times.
Miracle #2: Grandma and Grandpa (second and third to arrive) dutifully followed Apple maps to the air-bnb in their rental car, ended up in a remote San Juan jungle at night. Miraculously, there was barely enough cell service to reach Jeff (the only person who had arrived), who was able to enable "Find me" and guide us to a meeting place.
Miracle #3: Later that night, in two separate cars, we were able to navigate to the San Juan airport, recover the 6 grandkids and returned to the air-bnb. LeAnn arrived even later.
Miracle #4: The two cars were able to follow each other through narrow old San Juan streets, at spring break with a huge cruise ship in port, find a sketchy parking garage, see El Morrow, return to the garage where the cars were still there, and return to the house.
Miracle #5: Jeff and LeAnn signed up their family for a waterfall hike and tour an hour and a half away. Arriving at the tour meeting place and expecting to caravan to the falls, grandparent's rental car dies (but got three family members to the meeting place). LeAnn's family crams into the remaining car and other tour members and leave. Roadside service completely unavailable, phone kept hanging up. After repeated attempts by an angelic construction worker who went to his house, got jumper cables, and worked on charging the battery until it finally caught. We were able to drive to the airport, change cars, return to the meeting place, and then navigate 30 kilometers in the jungle to a tiny clearing where we found the tour cars and arrived 15 minutes before the family returned from their 4 hour tour.
A little side note on this. I didn't think there was any way they could ever find us, and I was totally surprised when we walked out of our hike and there was Grandma and Grandpa. Such a miracle.
Okay, so miracle #6: On the tour, there was climbing rock faces involved. Kristen was directed to jump to a different place and really smacked her head hard. Miraculously, the tour group's helmet protected her from what could have been a really serious injury.
Miracle #7: Attended the brand new San Juan Temple.
Miracle #8: Returned on different airlines at different times to Las Vegas. Kurt and Kristen waited, were able to retrieve our car and were driving by the exact moment we were exiting the airport, and drive us back to St. George at 4:15 in the morning.
"Seek and expect miracles." They happen. Every day.
I'm so grateful that my dad documented some of the miracles from our fun and adventurous week together.
Take time to notice and share the miracles in your life. It's so beautiful to have to remember and simply to notice.
I love the suggestion from Russell M. Nelson: "Seek and expect miracles." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to miracles and love.
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What if it is possible to achieve your unrealistic, impossible goals?
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #61: What Is Possible?
Do you remember being asked as a kid, what do you want to be or do or have when you grow up? I heard things such as, I want to fly to the moon. I want to be a star baseball player in the NBA, or have millions of dollars.
And then, we get a little older and our dreams change. And we think we need to be a little more realistic. But what if there are some benefits of being unrealistic?
When we set a goal, especially one that may seem very unrealistic, our brain likes to tell us why it's a bad idea and won't happen. Often, we listen to our brain and scale back our goal to be more realistic. We do this with most of our goals and end up making very little progress on those big possibilities that we still want to achieve. Many times we won't even set the goal because we don't want to be uncomfortable or disappointed knowing that we won't follow through.
But, what if it was possible to achieve our unrealistic, impossible goals? When you think about a way out there possibility, just a little bit differently, your brain doesn't try to scale back your goal. You are thinking that the goal is impossible and you will fail, and then your brain doesn't have anything to argue with.
Your brain might tell you if you know you're going to fail, why would you do it? Well, because the alternative is also failing, most of us just fail ahead of time. We don't even start to move towards what's possible because we think it's too hard and we can't do it. And then, when we aren't moving towards what is possible, we miss out on all the learning that happens when we mess something up and try it again.
Failure is defined as a lack of success or the inability to meet an expectation, but I don't think we ever fail at anything unless we stop trying all together. You're either succeeding at something or you are learning. So let's take failure off the table.
Think about something you've done in your life that you thought was impossible, and then through a variety of quote "fails", it became possible. Jeff mentioned to me 17 years ago, "Hey, why don't we go do a triathlon?" I couldn't even swim the length of the pool at the time, and we didn't have bikes. But there was a short little triathlon in our town and we began training for it. I took swim lessons, we found some used bikes, and we did our first triathlon.
Well, we were hooked. It was very hard, but we loved the challenge and we wanted to get faster, and we kept training and doing more. We ended up preparing for and completing two half Ironman races, which is a 1.2 mile swim, a 56 mile bike, and a half marathon, a 13.1 mile run. Now, 20 years ago, I would never have thought that was even remotely possible, but it was.
What is something you've been wanting to do, but keep putting it on the back burner? What do you really desire but think it's too hard and would take up too much time.
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I love the quote from Audrey Hepburn: "Nothing is impossible, the word itself says, I'm possible." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to what's possible and love. If you're enjoying this podcast, please share and leave a review to help others hear tidbits of love.
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Welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #60: Boundaries and Sensitivity with Angela Veesenmeyer
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their lives.
We have the amazing Angela sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Angela, briefly introduce yourself.
Hi, I'm Angela Veesenmeyer. I am a full-time practicing pediatric infectious disease physician, and also a life coach for physicians.
Oh, that is amazing. Like those two things together - wow. How did you combine that?
Okay, well I've been a physician for almost 20 years, and I got to a point in my career where I was sort of struggling with burnout and wondering what I should do next. But I didn't really want to leave medicine, but I couldn't figure out how to stay in medicine and be happy.
So then I hired a life coach, and I learned that I could be happy in medicine by changing the way I think about my job, and the way I think about my role as a physician. The way I think about my time, and questioning a lot of the beliefs I had about what it means to be a physician.
And so once I went through that process and realized what an impact it had on my life and my overall happiness and job satisfaction, I felt like I wanted to do the same for other people. So then I went and got certified as a life coach, and now I teach other physicians how to do what I learned to do.
Oh, that is amazing. So cool, I love knowing a doctor too. Alright, so three questions for you today. The first one, how do you incorporate love into your business and/or your life?
Okay, so this is one that I had to learn and I work really hard at. The way that I do that is through setting boundaries. So, setting boundaries is really key to work/life balance and sustainability with a full-time career and a personal life. So what I discovered initially was that when I tried to set boundaries, actually felt terrible. I felt guilty, I felt ashamed, I felt selfish, and what I figured out was that I had to consider myself worthy of a person setting a boundary for.
So I had to consider myself worth it to work through those uncomfortable feelings, to be able to still set and hold the boundary, because I knew if I could get through those uncomfortable feelings, that on the other side was a life that I wanted to create for myself.
But I had to love myself enough to stay with that discomfort and not just say, oh well screw it, I'm not gonna set that boundary. I'm just gonna keep giving and giving and giving. So that's how I incorporate love. And so even though from the outside, it might look like I am being rigid. Some people might consider me selfish. Some people might not agree with the boundaries that I set, but from the inside it feels like I am setting those out of a deep love and respect for myself.
That is so beautiful, and I'm sure that trickles into how you're setting things up for your family, and your patients, and everything, right?
Oh yeah, for sure. And it's reflected in how I show up at work too, both as a physician and as a coach. Because when I hold myself in the highest regard, then I can also hold other people in that same highest regard.
When we take care of ourselves, it's so much easier to take care of everyone else, right?
It is. And you know, as a physician, we are conditioned to always put the patient first, put the patient before ourselves. And that doesn't work in the long term. And that is why so many physicians are burnt out, and the physician's suicide rate is much higher than the general population, because we are taught that it's a hierarchy. That it has to be a hierarchy, that there's somebody above somebody else. Our patients are supposed to be above ourselves.
What I have learned is that when I take care of myself, as well as I take care of my patients, then both of us get to win. Both of us get to benefit from that.
Yes. Oh, I love that you've discovered that, and you're helping other physicians with that as well. Yeah. So good. That's key. Yeah. Excellent. Alright, number two, what is something you love about you and why?
Okay, so the thing that I love about me is also the thing that I used to not like about myself. So I've actually turned it into a positive. I am super, super sensitive. And so when I was growing up, I always hated that cause I was like, ugh, I always get my feelings hurt. I always find myself very uncomfortable when other people are hurt or upset or uncomfortable. It was like I felt those same emotions, and I always wished that I could just be less sensitive. Because it would've been so much more comfortable, right? Like going through adolescence.
You know, when I became an adult, it was the same thing. I just felt everything so deeply and I wished that I didn't. Through coaching though, that's actually become something that I love about myself, because along with the deep, uncomfortable feelings that I feel because I'm sensitive, I also feel the deep love and connection and empathy and joy, not only for myself, but I get to feel that for other people around me too, because I'm so sensitive and in tune with those emotions.
So some people would say that I'm an empath. And so it's that like, just this deep connection and recognition about other people's feelings and what they're going through. And so now, I love that about myself. I love that I'm so good at reading a room. I'm very good at picking out who is feeling out of place or uncomfortable. Or who's feeling shy, who's feeling a bit slighted, who had their feelings hurt, like I'm very aware of that, and I actually really like that about myself now, because then I can seek those people out and connect with them in a loving way.
That is so amazing that you made that your superpower. Yeah, it was something that you didn't like so much, but now it is your superpower because what an incredible thing to be able to read a room like that, and to seek connection with those that you feel drawn to.
Yeah. I just, I love it. And it's funny because my son has that same trait, he's very sensitive. So now I'm trying to teach him, to feel his feelings, and try not to get overwhelmed by them. But that it's okay to feel all the feelings, and that it's actually a good thing for him. So I'm trying to sort of pass on the lessons to him cuz he's the same way.
Yeah. Learn it a little bit sooner than you did as well. That's so great. Yeah. Okay, so before I ask you the last question, is there anything else you'd like to share, and where can our audience go to find out more about you?
Yeah, so I would just love to share that loving yourself looks so different than you think it's going to, and it looks so different than you think it maybe should. I don't think that loving yourself means necessarily like getting massages every week, and taking bubble baths, and getting your nails done, and going shopping. Like to me, loving yourself means checking in with yourself first and foremost, and having your own voice be the most revered voice that you hear.
Ah, I love that. The most revered voice. That is so good, Angela. Yeah. So you can find me, my website is themindmanagementcoach.com, so don't forget to put 'the' at the beginning. Okay. And on Instagram, angelaveesenmeyermd. And then my Facebook business page is also angelaveesenmeyermd.
Excellent, and I'll put these in the show notes as well. Okay, great. Alright, so last question. What is your favorite quote about love?
My favorite quote, it's actually my favorite quote currently. I'm sure it will change as time goes on and I learn more, but it's, "may we be excited by the impossible and move through any cynicism or hopelessness to emerge on the other side, steady with love, persistence, and hope." Hmmm, something to think about.
Thank you so much, Angela, for sharing your tidbits of love with us. Of course. Thank you, LeAnn. Have a good one y'all, and here's to sensitivity and love.
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When's the last time you criticized something or someone?
What about the last time you advocated for someone or something?
Hear more about both, and one of my favorite quotes...
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Welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #59: Advocate versus Criticize
We frequently hear a lot of advocating and criticism with anything related to politics, religion, and a myriad of other things.
I stopped watching the news a couple years ago, so I don't hear as much as I used to, but I do find it fascinating to hear people advocating and criticizing various things. We all have different perspectives, and I'm so grateful that most of us have the freedom and agency to advocate or criticize.
To break this down a little more, let me share some definitions.
To advocate is to publicly recommend or support a particular cause or policy.
To criticize is to indicate the faults of someone or something in a disapproving way.
I remember back when my boys were little and in elementary school. I was talking to Jeff about how over the top I thought some of their classroom parties were. Criticizing the amount of money and time I thought was wasted on a couple of these events. The interesting thing was, I was not volunteering to help. I was not advocating for what I thought would be more useful in these classroom settings. I was just whining to Jeff about them, which wasn't helping anything.
I love the thought I heard a while back: advocate from the inside rather than criticize from the outside. I think about this a lot. If I'm not willing to be a part of something and advocate for change, then me criticizing from the outside is not very useful.
You may have noticed this in yourself or in others doing the same thing. Expressing disapproval of someone or something, rather than getting involved and helping to implement an idea, a suggestion, or a better way to do something.
Now, I'm not saying we need to get involved in everything, but I do think it's helpful to notice when we are criticizing something or someone. What's that about? Why aren't we willing to get in and advocate for what we believe in, and instead stand back and criticize.
I appreciate this quote from Dale Carnegie. "Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn - and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving." Now, I'd add to this, it also takes love for ourselves and the people around us, to advocate for what we believe in.
So the next time you notice yourself criticizing from the outside, ask yourself if there's a way you could be a part, you could get involved, and you could advocate from the inside to make the changes you and probably others would appreciate as well.
Advocate from the inside, rather than criticize from the outside. Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to advocating and love.
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We can learn a lot about trauma from a polar bear, and Peter Levine.
How do you handle tramatic or challenging experiences?
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Welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #58: Unspoken Voice
Last year I completed a trauma informed coaching certification with Candice Toone. I was so intrigued when she started out sharing a polar bear video. This polar bear was out in the wild, and when he experienced a traumatic experience, he would shake and then take deep breaths.
Think about wild animals. They easily recover from trauma. They lay down, and they shake, and they bellow, and sleep, and do whatever they need to do. This is a natural way for animals and humans to process traumatic experiences. But we humans set up rules to curb the body's natural healing techniques. Humankind instinctively knows how to heal, but sometimes we get in our own way.
I've been reading the book In An Unspoken Voice - how the body releases Trauma and Restores Goodness by Peter Levine. If you or your loved one have experienced traumatic things in your lives, I highly recommend this book. Peter shares his own experience of being hit by a car and how he worked through that.
Peter states "trauma is caused when we are unable to release blocked energies, to fully move through the physical/emotional reactions to hurtful experience. Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness."
I've experienced some tough things in my life, and I'm guessing you have too.
It doesn't make a lot of sense to try and differentiate between what is actual trauma and what is not. If someone believes something to be traumatic, then it is to them. What's traumatic for one person may be a minor thing to someone else and vice versa. And there's no wrong way to handle a traumatic experience.
The important part here is to listen to the body in the present and support the body in releasing traumatic energy, just like it was designed to do, just like the wild animals. Now Peter shares numerous examples and exercises that you can try if you'd like to learn more. Awareness is a key factor for trauma experiences and for anything.
Peter sums up his book with this quote from D.H. Lawrence. He says, "My belief is in the blood and flesh as being wiser than the intellect. The body-unconscious is where life bubbles up in us. It is how we know that we are alive, alive to the depths of our souls and in touch somewhere with the vivid reaches of the cosmos." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to our unspoken voice, awareness and love.
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Have you ever been stuck in the middle of something, and been comtemplating...do I go back to where I was, or simply go through it?
I found myself in the middle of inches of yellow road paint...ugh! 2 years later, the evidence is still on my tires.
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Welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #57: Go Through It
I had a friend recently ask, "why are your wheel wells on your car bright yellow?" He kind of snickered and said, I think "I may know what had happened." Oh, the memories of quite an adventure that made me chuckle.
So almost two years ago, I was driving out to the airport to pick up my son and almost daughter-in-law for their wedding. I was hurrying really quickly to get there, and one lane of traffic was pretty backed up, so I went to the lane next to it and turned on to get onto the freeway.
Well, lone behold, right there was a huge pile of paint. There apparently had been a truck, and all the yellow paint that they paint road lines with was all over. Buckets, spilled all over the ground, like a huge, probably a couple inches thick, of just all of this paint. And they were trying to shut the road down, but hadn't quite gotten it shut down.
And there I was, there was a jeep in front of me, and then me right in the middle of the paint, before I even could stop. So I was like, oh dear, this is not good. I can't really back up. I mean, all I can do is go forward. I need to get to the airport. So that's what I did. I just kept on going.
Have you ever been in the middle of something and then contemplating, wait, do I go back? Do I go forward? Do I go through it? What do I do? I've heard of this referred to as the River of Misery by Brooke Castillo and also the Messy Middle by Brené Brown. For me, in that moment of bright yellow paint, I knew going backwards wouldn't take the paint off, and I needed to get to the airport. So I may as well go through it and I'd figure out the paint mess later.
Well, as you can see, it's been almost two years and I haven't really done anything about the paint. And a great thing because of having yellow wheel wells is, it's really easy to find my car. I can look around and I can spot it from quite a ways away. So there are perks to yellow wheel wheels. It makes me laugh and smile, and when I see the yellow paint as I'm getting on the freeway every time, it's still there. I definitely just chuckle and realize that, you know, sometimes we're in the messy middle. It probably happens quite a bit, at least for me it does. I'm in that messy middle a lot and, what can I learn from this?
It's really helpful for me to think where do I ultimately want to be? Where do I wanna be long-term, even though in this messy middle, it feels terrible, what do I want on the flip end of this? Life can be really hard, and accepting that, and even finding a little humor in it, makes things easier, and actually brings some relief.
One other example, last week I was out running. It had been raining and I was dodging a lot of puddles. It was dark and my headlamp wasn't working very well, and all of a sudden I noticed that my feet were getting very cold and wet. My headlamp had missed the puddle, until I was there right in the middle of it. I could have turned around and gone back, but why? My feet were already wet. I wanted to move forward and get to the other side of the puddle, not go backwards and have to figure out how then to get around it. So I finished my run with wet feet.
And just a little side note, lifesaving tip for anyone who has wet shoes. When you have wet shoes, take newspaper and bunch it up and shove it in your wet shoes. It dries them out faster than anything ever. This is a tip/trick that I learned years ago and I love it. So if you need to dry out your shoes, shove newspaper in them, and that helps them dry.
I love this quote from Tyrese Gibson: "You will always grow through what you go through." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to going through it and love. If you're enjoying this podcast, please share and leave a review to help others hear tidbits of love.
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How does this beautiful mom and grandma of 10 and 10 incorporate love into her business and life?
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number 56: Soul Stories with Kim Job
We have the amazing Kim sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Kim, briefly introduce yourself.
Hi LeAnn, I'm Kim Job. I am a life coach. I coach business with my husband and then I also have a side passion project called Soul Stories, which is my heart project. I'm also a mom. We have a busy blended family with 10 kids and 10 little grandkids. So family is my heart. I love my family. It's my favorite.
Wow. 10 and 10. I can't even imagine that many and that many. I was gonna say, that many bigs and that many littles. That's so fun. I love it. Alright, so tell me, how do you incorporate love into your business and or your life?
So I love routines, and the way that I incorporate love into my life and my business is through my morning routine, and I actually call it my Morning Soul Align time, because it reminds me who I am. It connects me with heaven. It connects me with my higher self. It like connects me with my soul, connects me with love for me, first thing in the morning, and that sets me up for a powerful day for myself, but also a powerful day in my business because then I operate from that place.
That is so beautiful. You said Morning Soul Align time? Oh my goodness. Because it just like aligns me with me, you know, with my soul, with my higher self, that we all have inside of us that sometimes we can't quite access. So I make sure that I intentionally access her every morning.
Ah, is there any, like one particular thing that you do on a regular basis for your routine that you wouldn't mind sharing? Yeah, so I have what I call a heaven journal and I just write down a question that I want and then I read or study. Sometimes I'll listen to a podcast, but I have a question in mind and I'm listening with that question in mind. I always, always find an answer. I listen to, I find an answer, and then I find an answer, and then I implement it in my life that day, whatever the answer is.
That is glorious. I'm gonna have to remember that. Nice. Alright, second question. What is something you love about you and why?
I really love my compassion for other people. I have compassion for the victims because I've been a victim, but I also have like an uncanny compassion for the villains. The villains, so called villains, but it's because I know they only did what they did because they were hurting. And I can always see that in people. I don't know why I can, but I can. And I love that about me. It really helps in my work with helping people through healing, cause we all have stuff that we're ashamed of, not proud of, and none of it defines you. Like none of it says a single thing about you. So I just have compassion for people.
You so do, because I got to meet you for the first time in November, and people are drawn to you. You really do have a tender, compassionate heart, and that is why I wanted to have you on today because you are just so compassionate and loving, and we can feel that. So thank you. That is beautiful. I love that you recognize that in yourself as well.
I haven't always, like I have lived most of my life from the neck up using only my brain, and I didn't even tap into my feelings or know that I had them. It was like a coping mechanism to be the strong one, to be the smart one. And once I tapped into my feelings, now I can't turn them off. And it's magic, but it took some work to realize that I even had feelings.
Ah, so there's benefits into feeling things, huh? Yeah, there is. They're magic. I'm with you, I didn't even know what a feeling was five years ago, and it's like, wait, we do have feelings. Even though we like to shove 'em away, it's kind of a magical thing. Yeah, I like that.
Alright, so before I ask you the last question, anything else you'd like to share? And also where can our audience go to find out more about you? The best place to find me is on Instagram. So my passion project is probably the one that I would wanna share with you, and that Instagram handle is @soulstoriescoaching. So you can always find the latest there. I have some free offers there in the bio, and then I always have stuff going on, but you can find the latest information always there. Okay @soulstoriescoaching, and I'll put that in the show notes as well. Yeah, okay, excellent. And then last question, what is your favorite question or quote about love?
Okay, so I'm cheating cuz I have a question and a quote. I love it, perfect. So my favorite question also has to do with routines. So I love journaling. I have a journaling routine every night. And my favorite question that I ask myself every night is, "what felt the most like me today?" And what that creates is more of that, more of loving me because what felt the most like me is self-loving to me. You know, so when I answer that question, what felt the most like me today? Then I do more of that and then my life just feels better. Mmmm. That's my question.
And then my quote, it just came to my mind because my husband literally said it to me a couple days ago. I recently made a mistake, kind of a big one, and this was what he said to me. "I don't beat me up. You don't beat you up. We don't beat each other up. We just love." Oh, that is beautiful. That's what I thought. I'm like, oh, I love the man I married, he's the best. Yeah. Just when he said that to me, I'm like that, that is what we all need and want to be, right? Yes. We all wanna be soft and loving with each other. We never wanna be hard. Yes. You know, and recognizing that and not beating each other, ourselves, or anybody else. Ourselves or anyone. Yeah. Ah, that is glorious. Okay. And "what felt the most like me today?" Something to think about.
Thank you Kim, so much, you're welcome, for sharing your tidbits of love with us. Have a good one y'all, and here's to love.
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Do you ever feel like you don't belong?
I used to as well, but using the acronym I created to practice belonging (yes, there are some key ways I teach to strengthen this skill), you can belong wherever you truly desire, and most importantly, belong to yourself.
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, Episode #55: Belong
Community is an important part of the human experience. We desire connection, love and belonging. Think about things you belong to. Maybe you belong to a team, a book club, a church, a choir, a neighborhood, a community. There are endless things we belong to.
Belonging is defined as the feeling of security and support when there is a sense of acceptance, inclusion, and identity for a member of a certain group. Notice that belonging is a feeling. We know that feelings come from what we're thinking.
So if we're thinking; "I'm included, they get me, I'm understood, I'm at home." Then we feel love, accepted, and that we belong. On the flip side, if we're thinking; "they don't understand me, they don't respect me, they don't trust me," we often feel unworthy, unloved, and that we don't belong. And when we keep thinking these thoughts, we end up not respecting or trusting ourselves, as well as feeling that we don't belong.
Now, everyone has things that they belong to, like we mentioned before, and I'm guessing most of you have also experienced times when you feel like you don't belong. So how can we be more intentional about creating a sense of connection and belonging in our lives?
I created an acronym for BELONG to help us remember things that we can do right now to feel that sense of belonging. In my Lovin Me program for March, we will explore all about belonging. There I will teach my awesome acronym BELONG, so that you will have simple ways to not only belong to a particular group you'd like, but also to belong to yourself.
If you're ready to belong wherever you truly desire, join my Lovin Me program. Come belong to a community of incredible humans, who are strengthening their mental and emotional muscles. Come belong to a group filled with love & compassion, explore what's happening in your beautiful brain, and improve your relationships with yourself and others. Link is in the show notes and in my bio. I'd love to have you belong to Lovin Me and journey together to where you want to be.
Brené Brown has some beautiful information on belonging in her book Atlas of the Heart. She shares, "True belonging doesn't require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are. Belonging is a practice that requires us to be vulnerable, get uncomfortable, and learn how to be present with people without sacrificing who we are.
When we sacrifice who we are, we not only feel separate from others, but we also feel disconnected from ourselves. Our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to belonging and to love.
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Love the book Unblended by the amazing Mindy Neal
Highly recommend reading this book and enjoy a little tidbit about it...
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin.
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #54: Unblended
Most of you have probably used or seen a blender. You put individual larger items in, push a button, and it mixes everything together into tiny particles, or a drink, or whatever.
Well, I just finished reading an amazing book called Unblended. I love that title by the way, by Mindy Neal. Mindy wrote this book for women who are blending families, who have kids, have been divorced, remarried someone with kids, and are stepmoms. However, I think this book is extremely valuable for anyone who puts marriage and family at the top of their priority list.
I love Mindy's analogy about unblended versus blended, and how often keeping things unblended can be a beautiful thing. Mindy is real. She shares heartbreaking and hilarious stories. She gives simple exercises for us, the reader, to implement wherever we are in our family journey.
Mindy teaches about the Model, created by Brooke Castillo. This is a foundational tool that I too use, to create awareness and acceptance with our thoughts and feelings. Loving ourselves is intertwined throughout the book, which y'all know that I love talking about.
Mindy mentions, "when someone loves you exactly as you are without trying to change you or make you better, without criticizing the way you do things or who you are, it feels so good that you want to be better, to try harder, to love more. When someone loves you this way, it brings out the best in you." Mindy gives specific ways to help you do this for yourself and for others. So if you want to read an excellent book, I highly recommend Unblended.
Now since it's love month, and I get so excited talking about love and relationships, especially with our daughters-in-law, I have a complimentary 20 minute class to help you create more fun, love, and genuine connection with your daughter-in-law or with anyone.
So if you're listening to this podcast, the day it's released or the morning after, join me Thursday, February 9th at noon eastern time. Register HERE and let's increase the connection you feel with those you love or you want to love more.
One of my favorite quotes from Mindy; "When you embrace your separateness, you get to look for how you are better together in both your marriage and your family." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to unblended and love.
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What does Sticky Tack have to do with Love?
Listen as my cute nephew CJ shares a beautiful analogy telling us how.
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number 53: Sticky Tack
Have you ever used sticky tack before? It's quite a magical thing. You can stick little random things everywhere with this sticky stuff, and then when you pull it up, there's no evidence that anything was there.
I have some amazing nieces and nephews, and one in particular, is on a mission. His name is CJ and he's in Bosnia right now. He shared a video recently relating sticky tack to love. He showed how he had taken his sticky tack and put pictures of people and things that were important to him all over his wall.
CJ noted, "that love is the sticky tack that connects us all together." What a beautiful analogy. I've been thinking about this a lot and pondering which relationships in my life do I want to add more sticky tack to, or freshen up the stuff that's getting old and I'm not connecting as well as I'd like.
For me right now, it's my relationship with Jesus, with a particular member in my family, and my relationship with my business. Three very different things, but all that I'm intentionally increasing the sticky tack, or the love I feel to strengthen the bonds with these particular people and things.
What about you? Is there someone in particular that you want to strengthen your relationship with? Is there someone you want to feel more love for?
I get so excited talking about and coaching on relationships, especially with our daughters-in-law. I have a lot of great tools, and tips, and sticky tack to increase the love you feel for her and for you. Now you may be like, wait LeAnn, I don't have a daughter-in-law, but I'm guessing there is someone in your life that you'd like to strengthen your relationship with, and I can help you with the sticky tack, or the love, to make that happen.
February is the perfect time to increase the love we feel for people in our lives. So join me on Thursday, February 9th, for a complimentary 20 minute class. In these few minutes together, I'll help you create more fun, love, and genuine connection with your daughter-in-law, or anyone you'd like to increase the sticky tack with. Click on the link in the show notes or in my bio to sign up. *Sign up HERE
My favorite quote from my sweet nephew CJ is: "Relationships are everything. Sticky tack bonds us together in love." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to sticky tack and love.
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, Episode #52: Phases of Love with Mike Houghtaling
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their lives.
We have the amazing Mike Houghtaling sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Mike, briefly introduce yourself.
Hi LeAnn, and thank you for the invitation. We have lived in Fayette County for 35 years. We have five kids, seven grandkids, and I've been married to my wife for 42 years.
So beautiful. I love that. Alright, so first question. How do you incorporate love into your business and or your life?
Well, I'm retired now, so let's talk about my life. I was an addict for 38 years, and what pulled me out of my addiction about 16, almost 17 years ago, was finally understanding the true nature of God's love for me.
I thought that I had done so many terrible things that I could not be lovable. I couldn't look in the mirror and value myself. I couldn't say you are a good person to myself. So in all these decades of struggling, I finally got engaged with a 12 step program, and I began to understand God's love in four phases.
First, I came to believe that, to really believe that he did love me, that he didn't just love you and everybody else, but that he did love me, and that was huge. And so I began to believe that and to accept his love.
Phase two for me was I was able to love him back with a part of that love. So I came to understand his true love for me, and I began to love him back in a way that I never had before.
And then the third step for me was, after four decades, I was finally able to learn to love myself. Because if I'm good enough for God, then I'm good enough for anybody, including myself. And for the first time in many years, I could look in the mirror literally and say, I like you, and you're a good person. You know, you are enough and you're worth all of His love and all of these blessings.
And then the fourth step of understanding God's love for me, was with God's love, being able to feel a true, purer love for other people. And so I accepted God's love. I loved him back. I began to love myself, and then I was able to truly love my fellow man.
Oh wow, what an incredible journey that you've been on. Oh my goodness.
Well it took long enough. I'm a slow learner.
No, not at all. And I love just each part of that, and just looking in the mirror and telling yourself, hey, you're amazing. I love you. Whatever. You know, that's so cool. And how incorporating God and others and everything, that's just so beautiful.
Well, I kind of thought that God's love was conditional for me. That I got more love when I did more right. And I was less worthy of love and received less love when I did more things wrong. And I came to learn that you don't earn God's love, it's just there. You either accept it or you don't, but you don't earn God's love.
And knowing too, that you're a hundred percent valuable, and lovable all the time, no matter what.
That's right. Because love is love, and I like to say there's nothing you can do to make God love you more. And there's nothing you can do to make God love you less. Yes. He loves you because he is love. Ah, so beautiful. I stole that from a preacher. That's a good one to steal.
Alright, so question number two. What is something you love about you and why?
Well, that's hard, because in all these years of self-loathing, it's difficult to place value on yourself and accept praise from others, or even, heaven forbid, praise yourself. But you know, I like people, and I like my ability to try to relate with them, and to try to love them, and try to connect with them. And so I think I have a pretty good ability, most of the time, to connect with other people.
Yes, I totally would agree with this, and that's how I've been blessed to connect with you through different things. And that is one thing that I admired and why I wanted you on this podcast is because you radiate love. You are just, everyone is so excited to see you and be with you. And that is such an amazing characteristic. So yes, I agree.
I can give you a list of people that are not always excited to see me, if you would like one That's okay. No, we don't need that. There's always going to be some people, but that's alright. The majority of them, I'd say yes, they do. So that's great, alright. And I love seeing them. No doubt.
Okay before I ask you the last question, is there anything else you'd like to share? And where can our audience go to find out more about you. The only social media I'm really active on is Facebook. And so I'm there as Michael, m i c h a e l Houghtaling and there's a, believe it or not, with a name like that, there's a bunch of Michael Houghtalings on Facebook.
It might be easiest for a viewer or a follower of yours, to go to your Facebook page and then look me up as your friend. Perfect. Instead of just going to Michael Houghtaling and wondering which one. So since we're friends, they could find me that way. Okay, excellent. And I'll also put your link in the show notes as well, so that'll be great. Alright, so the last question. What is your favorite quote about love?
When I was in high school, a high school English class, my teacher, Ray Powell, a queen among queens of English literature, had this poem on the wall of her classroom. And I wrote it down and memorized it, and still reflect upon it, from time to time. But for me, this describes the way that we interact with each other. The way that we show love for each other by being vulnerable and then by showing respect for that vulnerability.
This is by Yates, William Yates, and he said: "Had I the heavens' embroidered cloths, Enwrought with golden and silver light, The blue and the dim and the dark cloths Of night and light and the half light,
I would spread the cloths under your feet. But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams." Hmmm, something to think about y'all. Thank you, Mike. Thank you LeAnn. Thanks for sharing your tidbits of love with us.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to love.
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Do you wish you were different than you are? What if you could enjoy being you, exactly as you are right now?
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, Episode #51: Enjoyable You
Most of us want to be different than we are. We want to change this, or be better at that, or stop doing whatever. Sometimes in our quest to be or do things another way, we miss out on enjoying the beautiful experience of being ourselves.
What if you were excited to wake up every morning, and get to be who you are right now, without any changes? This is what we'll be focusing on in February in my Lovin Me Program. Join us there if you're ready to enjoy being you right now.
Do you sometimes have thoughts like these... I should be smarter. I should be more athletic. I should be better looking. I should be more outgoing, or less outgoing. I'm too fat, lazy, tall, short, awkward, skinny. I'm not organized, or I'm too organized. I should have had different parents, different teachers, or different friends. There are things in my life that are terribly wrong.
Notice how it's so much easier for us to believe these things, than it is to celebrate what is, as if it was meant to be that way.
All humans have an idea of how it's "supposed" to be. We know what "should" be going on with our lives. We have an image of how we are supposed to look. We know how the world should work. We believe there should be more good and less bad. We spend a lot of time upset that our life isn't matching up with how we think it should be in our heads.
A little side note here. Notice how many times I just said the word "should". Take a listen to my Should Podcast Episode #37, to discover how to stop shoulding all over yourselves.
Okay, back to where we were. Notice when we have an image in our minds of how our spouse should treat us, or our parents should have raised us, or how the government should be different, and how everything is ruined. Ruined compared to what? To the idea of what life should be and how we should be? Hmmm
This tends to be a little, well, a lot more exaggerated when you compare your life to other people's. Often you will have the story that their life is better than yours. You will think that because they have the things, or the look, or the business, or the family. They are doing their life right and enjoying their life more than you are.
But guess what? That is not true. I have learned this myself and coached hundreds of clients on this. We think it's better there, but really it's the same as it is here. Life is 50/50. The topics may be different, but the misery still exists. No one really has a "better" life than you. No one.
What if we let go of the idea that life is supposed to be easy and happy and good, and instead expected it to be hard?
What if we stopped arguing with the way it is and started enjoying the way it is? What if we stopped rejecting the way we are, and started enjoying ourselves the way we are right now?
In my Lovin Me Program for February, we'll be exploring the value of enjoying you and your life right now. Noticing and eliminating some of the shoulds that create a lot of judgment and disappointment.
Could it be possible that you could be excited to wake up every morning and get to be who you are right now, without any changes? Yes, it is! Join me in Lovin Me and I'll show you how.
Katie McGarry shared some great questions we can ask ourselves: "How many more of us are faking the facade? How many more of us are pretending to be something we're not? Even better she said, how many of us will have the courage to be ourselves regardless of what others think?" Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to enjoying you and to love.
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Why are high fives and light switches the perfect way to start your day?
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #50: High Five
When's the last time you gave someone a high five? Mine was a few weeks ago when I saw a cute kid I worked with years ago, when he was getting his Eagle Scout Award. I like high fives. They're a fun way to greet or congratulate people. It feels good to me to high five someone. And I really like The High Five Habit book by Mel Robbins.
Y'all have probably heard about my light switch trick, where you turn on a light and tell yourself something that you love about you.
Well, Mel has something similar, where she gives herself a high five in the mirror every morning. When we start our day off with a high five or a light switch, and comment what we appreciate about ourselves; we cheer ourselves on, we give ourselves encouragement, we celebrate us, we self-validate what we're doing, and guess what? When we're loving and caring for ourselves, we're so much better able to love and have compassion for others.
Now, Mel says, there are two reasons we want to do this first thing in the morning. First, it will impact your productivity and how you show up all day. And second, it teaches you to put your own needs first from the moment you wake up.
Her High Five Challenge is something she encourages us all to try for five days and see what happens. You've had a lifetime of high fiving friends, teammates, and even strangers, now let's create a habit of doing it to yourself. See if it doesn't improve your mood and help you achieve your goals. The High Five Habit is an awesome book and I recommend reading it if you want to learn more.
One of my favorite quotes from Mel is this: "Your relationship with yourself is the foundation for everything in your life. How you talk to and treat yourself sets the tone for everything you do. It determines how you feel, what you think, and what actions you take. If you look in the mirror and don't see a person worth celebrating, it's time to change that." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to high fives, light switches, and love.
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Do you have a word of the year?
If not, here's one to explore ~ 2023 Impeccable Me
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #49: Impeccable
Some of you may pick a word for the year, and some of you don't. I've done both ways and we've really enjoyed doing a family word the past few years.
Our word for 2023 is impeccable. I'd only heard that word a couple of times until this past summer when I was in master coach training. Corinne Crabtree taught us about the difference between impeccability and perfectionism. After her insightful lesson, impeccable became one of my most favorite words.
Impeccable means free from fault or blame, which sounds a bit like perfectionism. However, perfectionism means displeasure with anything that is not perfect or does not meet extremely high standards. So basically, when you are impeccable, you take responsibility for your results. And when you're operating from perfectionism, you find fault and blame and make excuses.
Corinne beautifully shared, that showing up impeccably has nothing to do with being perfect. It's knowing how to be your impeccable self no matter what happens. It's a state of being, not an action or a result.
We were talking to our kids last week about what impeccable would look like in each of our lives. We have four boys and two daughters-in-law, all young adults, some in college, each have some type of job, and they all live far from home. It was interesting to discuss what being impeccable meant to each one of us. A few thoughts we shared:
Being impeccable is taking responsibility for where we are in our lives right now. We ask ourselves what is our next best step? We figure it out. We don't blame others and make excuses.
As we're impeccable, we try different things, and we don't quit when something doesn't work out the way we wanted. We keep going and understand that messing things up is part of the experience. Failing is not even a thing, unless you completely stop trying.
Now, I have struggled with perfectionism in the past, and it still comes up now and then. It's not possible to be perfect, so why do I sometimes beat myself up trying to be that way?
Impeccable, however, is so much more intriguing and attainable. I get to make the choice. I get to figure out the solution. I get to use my mind and heart to move towards wherever I want to go, and as I mess it up, it's not a problem. I get to tweak things and try again and again and again.
What would impeccable look like in your world? It may be a word worth exploring. I am so excited for 2023 and how I'm becoming impeccable me.
I'm pondering this question by Kris Carr: "What if your purpose is to take impeccable care of yourself so that you have the energy and joy to serve others?" Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to being impeccable and to love.
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Connect with Amanda Louder at amandalouder.com
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #48: I'm Just the Right Amount with Amanda Louder
We have the amazing Amanda Louder, sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Amanda, briefly introduce yourself.
Hi LeAnn, I'm so happy to be here. So yes, I'm Amanda Louder. I am a sex coach for conservative Christian women and I help them learn to embrace their sexuality and love their sex life. So I love to help women really incorporate a better sex life into their relationships.
On a personal side, I've been married to my amazing husband Kevin, for 10 years. It's a second marriage for both of us, and we have a blended family of five kids that range in age from 14 to 23. And we live in Salt Lake City.
Awesome. And you are helping women everywhere. I love that you've helped me, and I know you've helped so many. So cool. Yes. I love it. Thank you. Alright, so first question, how do you incorporate love into your business and or your life?
Well, I think my entire business is about love. I would have to agree. That's a lot about love. Yes, so I always talk to women that in order to have a good sexual relationship, they need to first have a healthy relationship with themselves, which means loving themselves and all parts of themselves, including their sexuality. To have a healthy relationship with their spouse, which means loving their spouse and really seeking to not just love them, but know them and be willing to be open and vulnerable themselves with their spouse. And then love their sex life. And that means understanding their bodies, understanding what sex looks like for them, what it means to them, creating deeper meaning in their sexual relationships so they can truly love that part of their life and their relationship. So love goes into every aspect of what I do.
Oh, that is beautiful. So business and personal life, it's in everything. It totally is. I mean, my whole life is about love too. Loving my husband, loving my kids, loving my friends, loving everybody around me. And I love that coaching has really taught me how to actually love people unconditionally, and to stop judging them, and to really embrace them and whoever they are. Like I've found that I don't have problems with as many people because I've learned how to actually love them despite all of our inadequacies I guess, we all have them.
Absolutely. We all have them, and I love that we can still love unconditionally and be humans and have all this stuff. Yes. Awesome. Alright, so what is something you love about you and why?
So this has been a really interesting journey for me, in coming to love myself. So, my entire life I've been told that I'm too much. I'm too bold, I'm too loud, I'm just too everything. And it's something that I have not loved about myself for a very long time because I saw other people not being able to love me because of that. And so it's something that I tried to change about myself for a very long time, and really tried to play small and not be so much, in so many aspects of my life.
But as I have been learning to love myself more, I've actually realized what a gift that is for myself. That God created me that way, so that I could speak boldly about this message that I give to my clients and to my community. And without that too muchness, I wouldn't be able to speak the way that I do. And so it's really become an asset instead of a liability, and it's something that I've actually learned to really love about myself.
And I love that about you too, because there are not very many people that would speak as boldly as you do about sex and everything. And I thank you for having the courage to do that and to be too much or whatever we want to call it.
Well, I don't think I'm too much anymore. I think I'm just the right amount for the message that I need to give to people. Yes, I totally agree. That's awesome. Alright, before I ask you the last question, is there anything else you want to share, and where can our audience go to find out more about you?
Yeah, I love the work that you do LeAnn, because I think that really loving ourselves and loving others is just essential to our life here on earth. And so I love that about that. But I, if you're interested in what I have to offer, learning more or working with me, so I have a few different options. I have a podcast called Sex for Saints. We have almost 250 episodes, so it's crazy. And they're good. Yeah, and that's been really an exciting part of my journey with this is having this podcast available to anyone who wants to listen.
I've also recently just launched a new subscription podcast where you can actually hear me coaching other women and maybe even couples on sex, so that you can hear it and start to incorporate those things into your own life. And I've just learned that people love to interact with me because it's about sex from the privacy of their own homes or cars or wherever they are with their phones. And so the podcast is just another, the subscription podcast is another way for them to interact with me in a different way.
And then, in addition to that, I have my Embrace You Elite Society membership. Which is a membership for women who want to better their relationship with themselves, and their sexuality, and their spouse. So the doors are currently closed right now, but I will be running some specials coming up, so they'll open and close. So if you want to get on the wait list for when they open, you can go to amanda louder.com/membership. And in there there's video courses. We do weekly live coaching where you can volunteer to be coached or you can just come watch others be coached. There's classes every month, and you get the backlog of everything that I've ever done in the membership. So there's plenty to keep you going for as long as you want.
Excellent, and I know you do some retreats now and then too, that I was able to come to with my daughters-in-law. That is so good. So if anyone gets an opportunity to do that as well, those are fantastic. Yes, so if you want to come to a retreat, you can just go to my website and go to events and the retreats are there. The next retreat is in February and it is already sold out. So you'll have to get on the wait list for the next one. Super. I love it. Alright and I'll put this information in the show notes as well. Awesome, thank you.
Okay and the last question, what is your favorite quote about love?
So, I mean, it's about love, but it's not about love, but it's; whatever you're missing in your relationship is what you are not bringing. So really, like so many times we want our spouse to be the one to change, and we're like this is missing in my relationship. And so it really just turns it back to you, like what are you not bringing to the relationship that's actually the missing piece. Hmmm, something to think about.
Thank you Amanda, for sharing your tidbits of love with us, so appreciate it. Thank you LeAnn.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to discovering what you want to do with your relationship, and to love. If you're enjoying this podcast, please share and leave a review, to help others hear tidbits of love.
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What valuable lessons can you glean from the luckiest animal of the Chinese calendar? Join Lovin Me and find out...
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #47: The Year of the Rabbit
I was talking to Jeff about something a little more original to talk about in January than goals, and he mentioned the Chinese New Year might be fun to learn more about. Now, sad to say, I knew almost nothing about the Chinese New Year, but it sounded intriguing, so I did a little googling.
Did you know that the Chinese New Year falls on a different day each year? It's usually in late January or February, and the day is determined when there is a new lunar cycle, and it is in the first phase of the moon shaped as the crescent.
In China, each year is linked with a different animal, and the Chinese calendar goes in a cycle of 12 years, each year symbolized by a different animal. It is believed that if you are born in a particular year, then you will have some of the characteristics of that animal. This year, 2023, is the year of the rabbit, starting from January 22nd, 2023, and ending on February 9th, 2024.
The sign of rabbit is a symbol of longevity, peace, and prosperity in Chinese culture. 2023 is predicted to be a year of hope. You may ask, why is the rabbit the luckiest sign? Well, in the Chinese culture, the rabbit is known to be the luckiest of all the 12 animals because it symbolizes mercy, elegance, and beauty. People who are born in the year of the rabbit are calm and peaceful. They avoid fighting and arguing at all times, but are artistic and have good taste in life.
Are rabbits loving animals you ask? Why yes, rabbits are very loving and social animals, which means they not only love to spend time with their humans, they require it. Without human interaction, rabbits can get bored, even to the point of becoming lonely and depressed.
Rabbit's personalities vary greatly from one rabbit to the next, even among the littermates. Hmmm, sounds like humans. Rabbits can be silly, timid, shy, curious, and high spirited, regardless of sex or breed type. They show affection by choosing to sit near you, climb on your back, or nibble at your socks. I also remember some great stories about rabbits growing up. What about you?
Well, in my Lovin Me Program for January, we'll be discovering more about the Chinese New Year and what we can learn from the Rabbit, also known as the luckiest of the 12 animals of the Chinese calendar. Come join us in finding out some fascinating and valuable lessons we can glean from rabbits, and integrate into relationships with others and ourselves. Go to leannaustin.com to sign up.
A quote that I found and really appreciate says, "This New Year, do not live in the past for it may make you depressed. Do not live for the future for it shall only make you anxious. Live only in the present for that alone will bring you peace. Happy Chinese New Year. Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to the rabbit and to love. If you're enjoying this podcast, please share and leave a review to help others hear tidbits of love.
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One of my new favorite books Wife On Purpose ~ A great marriage how-to handbook by Candice Toone that I highly recommend.
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #46: Wife on Purpose
I recently finished a Trauma-Informed Coach Certification with Candice Toone. I have always admired Candice and her incredible coaching. Working closely with her has taken my coaching to a whole new level and I'll forever be grateful.
I also discovered she wrote a book called Wife on Purpose, and I just finished reading it. What a fantastic book. If you're wondering how to be more intentional as a wife, to get what you truly desire, and to improve your relationship with your spouse, no matter what situation you're in, I highly recommend reading this book. I like to highlight main points in books I'm reading for later reference. There is so much in here that I highlighted, I had to stop, it's one of my most yellow books.
Anyway, Candice helps women stop wondering if they married the wrong guy, and start building the marriage they thought they'd had when they said, "I do." Even if you're sure that you married the right guy, this book has tools that will help everyone. Candice has so many fun and relatable analogies. One of my very favorites was this one. Candice shares that when something in your marriage seems to need fixing, and you're believing that the problem shouldn't be happening at all, you often feel some version of fear. To illustrate this, she talks about a baby teething...
Teething hurts. The baby cries. No one responds with, "oh no. How could this happen? We gotta make it stop." If we did respond that way, we would have a terrifying first couple years of the child's life. Most of us expect the pain of teething as part of human development, so we keep our sense of control and don't normally freak out when we see our baby swollen gums. We may question the teething process, but we don't normally go on a wild defensive crusade to make teething stop all together. We know it's coming, and we get ready to ease the baby suffering with cold chewy things, medicine and snuggles. Because we accept that teething is supposed to happen, we spend very little time trying to prevent it or change it. We anticipate it, stock up on comfort tools, and love on our littles through it all. We don't blame ourselves or the baby because teething isn't our favorite thing. Instead, we take responsibility for handling teething like a pro. Candice shares, that it is our option to view the challenges of married life through the same lens we use for teething.
If marital scuffles were openly acknowledged to be as non-threatening as teething, it's likely that we'd move through them more easily, and feel more curious and confident as we go. We'd spend very little time trying to prevent or change them. We'd anticipate them, stock up on comfort tools, and love ourselves through it all. So good. Thank you, Candice!
Now, if you're wondering how in the world do I love myself when my relationship with a spouse, or my daughter-in-law, or someone close to me is a mess? This is what I do in my Lovin Me Program. I help you increase the love you feel for yourself, which strengthens your relationship with everyone else.
One of my favorite quotes from Candice's incredible book, Wife on Purpose is this: "You always have a good reason for everything you think, feel and do. Take responsibility for figuring out what your reasons are, then follow those reasons with courage and conviction." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to being a wife on purpose and to love. If you're enjoying this podcast, please share and leave a review, to help others hear tidbits of love.
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What words to you like to use that help you feel more empowered?
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, Episode #45: Unless And Yet
There are three words that I like to use: Unless, And, Yet. Let me tell you why... these are empowering words that open our minds up to new possibilities and solutions.
Let's start with the word Unless. Do you notice yourself thinking or saying...I can't because (fill in the blank). For example, I can't because I don't have enough money. I can't because I don't have enough time. I can't because people...whatever. Now hear what happens when we say the same thing with Unless at the end. I can't because I don't have enough time unless. I can't because I don't have enough money unless. I can't because other people, whatever we're talking about other people, unless. As soon as you add the word Unless, your mind and heart start wondering about all the possibilities. I love adding this word to things I think I can't do and seeing what comes up.
The next word that can be very empowering is And. This is a great word to use when you're about to say But. We're so used to seeing things as one way or the other way, but not as both-at-once. When we're thinking it's either this or that, we unconsciously choose a side and live there. We don't have to do this. There can be room for both, And everything in between.
I talk more about that, everything in between, in my podcast Play the Gray, Episode #9, if you want to hear more about that. So the word And helps us rectify how something can have good and bad elements. It gives us the opportunity to dig a little deeper, to figure out how we feel about things.
The word But often discounts everything that was said before, however, when we use the word And it gives room for both. So the next time you're about to say But, say And instead, and notice what happens.
Now the last word that can be empowering for me is Yet. This word can be used in both a negative and positive connotation. However, I'd like to use it to show enthusiasm or excitement. For example, that was her greatest performance yet, or 28 minutes was my best time yet. Using yet this way celebrates where we're at and gives us the opportunity to think about more.
Another way to use it is to let others or yourself know that a situation or event is the present and not finished yet. For example, there's a lot more time yet, or I have yet to figure it out that way, so I'm going to try this. I like using yet when working on goals, meaning that I expect it to happen, even though it hasn't yet.
So what are the words that you like to use to help you feel more empowered? I'd love to hear what they are. And if you're not already, try giving the words Unless, And, and Yet a try, and let me know what you discover.
I like this quote from Yehuda Berg: "Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate, and to humble." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to, Unless, And, Yet, and love.
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You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sided tidbit of love - I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #44: Put Yourself in Their Shoes with Trish Meek
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they fill and implement love into their lives.
We have the amazing Trish sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Trish, briefly introduce yourself.
T: Well, my name is Trish Meek. I live in Georgia. I've also lived in South Dakota and Colorado. I'm in my mid fifties. I enjoy going to church and I love doing things for people, and I like to bake when I can.
L: I love it, and I've been the recipient and seeing Trish doing lots of things for people, and I love that about her. Trish is filled with love, so thank you. Alright, so I'm going to ask you three questions. The first one is, how do you incorporate love into your business and/or your life?
T: Well, the questions that you gave me ahead of time so I could think about my answers, I found very difficult and thought provoking, and I really had to think about my answers because I really don't think about what I do, I just kind of do what I do. So my answer is, I try to put myself in other people's shoes. That way it helps me understand them better and so I can relate and connect with them on their level if I can.
And in return, it also helps me become a better person because I can only go by what I have experienced in my life. And there's so many other experiences out there that I haven't had the chance to experience, good or bad. And I think by trying to put their shoes on, you can find more compassion, more patience and empathy. So I think for me, that is really important. And honestly, that's something, wow, I forgot about that. A very long time ago I was having a conversation with the Lord and I had asked to try to help me with that actually. I'd forgotten about that, but it has served me well. So that's my answer.
L: That's so beautiful. So served you well in trying to put yourself in other people's shoes.
T: Yeah, so it's been able, because whether you're homeless or famous, you know, we're all the same. You know, we're all the same people. And you know, I've never been famous and I thank God I haven't been homeless, but I could have the same conversations and get to know the beauty in their heart. And so, yeah, it has served me quite well, as in being able to relate with my fellow man.
L: That's so beautiful, Trish, thank you. Alright, the second question, what is something you love about you and why?
T: This was the hardest one. I finally learned how to truly forgive people who have hurt me, especially for painful things. Because especially when it's like friends or family, you know, that you love and trust and put them on a pedestal. Even though they're human, you know, you kind of forget that when you do that, just because you know, we do that with people you know, unintentionally. And when they disappoint you or hurt you, your feelings really get hurt because you don't realize, it's like, how could you do that to me? cuz I wouldn't do that to you. But because we're human. And it took me many years to totally learn how to forgive cuz you can forgive, but you're always harboring something.
But once you can achieve that, your heart is, transformed for a better word. It's like you no longer have that pain or that irritation when you see that person. Or if it was something that they did that you see someone else do, it doesn't bring up those anger issues or that hurt issue that you might have.
But there's a trick to that I found out that recently happened to me, cuz you get tested on that, and for example, somebody hurt me again, same person, and I know it wasn't intentionally, but it was just like, okay, can I forgive them right away? You know, it's like, are all those feelings from the past, from another incident? Is that going to take and start on fire again? Thank God it didn't. You know, I'm very grateful for that. But, I found out that can be a multi-level learning lesson.
L: Absolutely. And what a superpower to be able to forgive others.
T: It is, but I meant it took me, probably a couple decades to learn how to really fully forgive, where you can truly love that person for the person that they are, and not remember the pain that they caused you, which can take a long time.
L: And was there some, like you said, some little trick or something that's helped you do that?
T: No, just not wanting to have that in my life because, when you thought of that person, you always had that, for lack of a better way, an irritation. And, I'm one of those people that my heart and my mind have to be in the same place, otherwise I'm not okay. And so I didn't like not having that, my heart and my mind not being at the same place with that, so it was something I had to work on with that particular person.
L: So it's more like being in alignment with yourself, and really the forgiving others is helping you.
T: Yeah. It totally helps you, because that person may or may not know they hurt you. And it did help me because then I'm at peace now. I'm at peace with that person and that's what I want because, you know, I love this person. It's just, you know, it's sometimes it's very hard to love someone when you're angry or hurt. And it's not a place I like to be.
L: Ah, that's beautiful. What an amazing superpower, Trish. That's great. Alright, so before I ask you the last question, anything else you'd like to share?
T: Just always try to love people. You know, I, some people are hard to love, but you know, I think if you take time to see where they're coming from, or look through their glasses, or their pain or hurt, I think it can help you love that person more.
L: Yeah, and you've had some pretty tough experiences in your life and I think that's amazing how you still, you still choose love.
T: Yeah, because for me, that's the only way to be. I mean, when I love someone, I love with my whole heart, you know, and how do you half love somebody? I mean, I don't understand that, you know, cuz isn't that, that's just not right. So it's either all or nothing when it comes to love for me, and it should be love for everyone, all the time.
L: You're all in on loving. Oh that's beautiful. Alright, so what is your favorite quote about love?
T: Well, I found this in Guidepost. I used to get Guidepost, let's see, I told you I was in my mid fifties, so probably my late twenties, early thirties, I was reading Guidepost and I found this quote from Norman Vincent, and I'm probably trashing his last name, Peale. I don't know how to say the right name, so I'll spell it, p e a l e. I don't know how you say his last name. Perfect. Sorry Norman. But I have made this my mission statement, pretty much since the day I read it, because it pretty much is who I want to be, and I try to strive on this at a daily basis in one small way or another, or bake. But the quote is, "to be successful is to be helpful, caring, and constructive. To make everything and everyone you touch a little bit better. The best thing you have to give is yourself."
L: Hmmm, something to think about y'all. Thank you Trish, for sharing. You're welcome. Thank you. Your tidbits of love. So beautiful. Thank you.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to love. If you would like to become an expert at Loving Yourself, check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com.
Embrace the gift of time with my black friday offer~
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #43: The Gift of Time
Time is a measurable period during which an action, process, or condition exists or continues.
Another definition of time that resonates more with me; time denotes our existence here on earth. It's the space, or the dash, between the date of our birth to the last day of our life. It contains a personal history of who we were, how we lived, who we knew, and what we did with our lives.
Henrik Edberg continues: "Time is filled with memories of love, joy, laughter, pain, sorrow, anger, forgiveness, emotions all entertained, some internalized, some expressed, and some exploded. In the midst of our living, time continues on its endless journey. Time is a gift, though we rarely stop and acknowledge it as such. With every day time is equally allotted to everyone - 24 hours, and what we do with that time is totally up to us. We can spend our time wisely, or worthlessly, we can squander it, or invest it, we can enjoy it, or abuse it, we can live it, or retreat from it, but it moves on regardless."
Y'all may remember the analogy that I've used and seen many times. Where you place large rocks in the jar first, then you add the pebbles, and then the sand. This simply illustrates how to use our time wisely by doing the important tasks first, and then filling in with other things where there's space available.
Time is something that I've always tried to maximize. I like to get a lot done in the shortest amount of time possible. My cute son shared with some of his friends, "my mom can get more done by 10:00 AM than I do in a whole month." Now, this can be a good thing and a not so good thing, because what I have also struggled with is taking time to slow down, to not be in a rush, and to truly be present and enjoy where I'm at.
Thankfully, over the past few years, I've learned better ways to create space and time for the things I really love and really want to do.
In my Lovin Me Program for December, I'm going to teach some amazing tools to help you organize your time in whatever way works best for, to become more intentional about what you're doing with your time, and spend it doing things you really love and want to do.
If you're ready to give yourself the gift of time this holiday season and throughout your whole life, I have a Black Friday special, today through Sunday, that you won't want to miss. If you go to my website, leannaustin.com and sign up for my Lovin Me Program, enter the code Black Friday, and save 50%.
So for a full month, you'll be able to come on my calls (or watch the recordings) and learn all about time. You can get coached if you'd like. You'll have complete access to all my videos, worksheets, grounding exercises, bonus material, private Facebook group, and everything else in my Lovin Me Program.
The cost to you today (November 23rd through Sunday, November 27th) is $14.
$14 for an entire month in Lovin Me. Come join me in learning how to better manage your time. What a beautiful gift to give to yourself and to your family. The link to purchase a month of Lovin Me is in the show notes or in my bio.
Again, my special Black Friday offer is 50% off, available now until Sunday. An entire month in Lovin Me with all the bells and whistles included.
Share this with your friends and family, what a perfect gift for them too. Hope to see y'all there.
And in closing, I love this quote by Philip Zimbardo: "The greatest gift that you can give to others and to yourself is time. Embrace the gift of time, whether you give it or receive it." Hmmm, something to think about. Have a good one y'all, and here's to time and love.
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What input is getting your output?
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #42: Atomic Habits
I read the book Atomic Habits by James Clear years ago, and recently I've been reading it again. I forgot what an amazing book it is. I could talk for days about this book, but I'm just going to share a few things from the beginning that I love. I highly recommend that you buy this book and use it for a reference often.
James teaches us to forget about the goals, focus on systems instead. Goals are about the results you want to achieve. Systems are about the processes that lead to those results. Goals are good for setting a direction, but systems are best for making progress.
James says, achieving a goal only changes your life for the moment. We think we need to change our results, but the results are not the problem. What we really need to change are the systems that cause those results. When we solve problems at the result level, we only solve them temporarily. In order to improve for good, we need to solve problems at the systems level. Fix the inputs and the outputs will fix themselves.
This is sooo good. This is where my Lovin Me program and mind management comes in. When we become aware of and tweak what we're thinking, meaning our input, the results, or the output, that we truly desire will come.
Another thing you may have noticed as you are working on your goals is that sometimes we have an assumption with our goals. Once I reach my goal, then I'll be happy. So basically we're putting off happiness because of this thought, when actually happiness is available to us anytime. And also we're creating an either or conflict. Either you achieve your goals and are successful, or you fail and you're disappointed.
This is how a system first mentality helps. When you enjoy the process rather than the product, you don't have to wait to be happy. You can be satisfied anytime your systems are running. We also practice this in my Lovin Me Program, how to become aware of our feelings, and spoiler alert, it's coming from our thoughts. And then how rather than waiting until some event happens, we can choose the way we want to think and feel about something now.
Well there's one more thing I've noticed in my life that James was talking about. He said a goal-oriented mindset can create a yo-yo effect. Many runners, he said, work hard for months, but as soon as they cross the finish line, they stop training. The race is no longer there to motivate them. When all of our hard work is focused on a particular goal, what is left to push you after you achieve it? It totally makes sense then why we find ourselves reverting to our old habits after accomplishing a goal, hence creating the yo-yo effect. I've noticed this with my weight, where I go back and forth with the same 20ish pounds, but as I'm rereading this book, I realize I've been focusing on the goal or the result, rather than the systems to get me there.
The goals that I've accomplished in the past and I've maintained, have been those where I've focused on the process rather than on the outcome. James says; the purpose of setting goals is to win the game. The purpose of building systems is to continue playing the game. True, long-term thinking is less goal thinking. It's not about any single accomplishment. It is about the cycle of endless refinement and continuous improvement. It is our commitment to the process that will determine our progress.
James said, If you're having trouble changing your habits, the problem isn't you. The problem is your system. Bad habits repeat themselves again and again. Not because you don't want to change, but because you have the wrong system for change. You don't rise to the level of your goals, you fall to the level of your systems.
So as we're finishing up this year, let's complete a goal or two by looking at the process or system rather than the outcome. If you'd like some help accomplishing a goal, this is what I do in Lovin Me Program. We figure out the input that's keeping you from getting the output you want.
Well, one of my favorite quotes from the book is: "Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all. And here's to focusing on our systems and love.
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What do you have plenty of?🤔
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number 41: #PlentyProject
What do you think of when you hear the word plenty? Right now, I think of leaves. We have more than enough leaves. Definitely plenty. And as I'm raking and mowing up the leaves, I like to think of leaves as blessings. There are so many things to be grateful for, especially during this Thanksgiving season. I'm pretty sure that's why all the leaves fall now, so that we remember, there are plenty of so many things that we can be thankful for.
Well, my dear friend Sara Payne started a hashtag plenty project (#plentyproject) that I want to share just in case you'd like to do it too. We receive so many messages that there's not enough, not enough time, not enough money, not enough resources, or even I'm not enough. Well, what if instead we look for examples of where there is plenty.
So, for example, there are plenty of songs for me to listen to, or movies for me to watch. I don't think I'd ever run out of either of those. There are plenty. So what do you notice in your life where there is plenty? If you'd like to share, use #PlentyProject, and if you're on Instagram, tag @SaraPayneCoaching in it and she'll share it there too. And I'll put that in the show notes, you can tag her in there as well.
Well, I love this quote from Frank McKinney: "Approach life knowing there will be plenty to go around. Be generous." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all. And here's to plenty and love.
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You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, Episode #40: Love Feels Good with Camille Scow. I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their lives.
We have the amazing Camille Scow sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Camille, briefly introduce yourself.
So I'm the youngest of nine in my family, grew up in Mapleton. My parents had, and they still have an orchard, and mostly peaches, mostly apples, because my dad was like, I'm gonna teach my children to work. And as we grew up, he has this phrase now of "I taught my kids to work and they taught me how to play." So we like to have fun. We have a cabin up Spanish Fork Canyon, and we go there. We have family reunions there and it's always super fun.
I went to BYU Idaho for three and a half years, two and a half years, I don't know, a couple years, and then transferred to BYU, got my degree in education with a minor in music, and then got my masters from UVU after teaching for a couple years in Jordan School District.
And then got married in 2017. Both my husband and I were 28, and it was kind of perfect. I was hoping to get married sooner, but it was perfect cuz I learned a lot about myself. I learned a lot about love really, and like what it feels like, and the real love, cuz I'll be honest, kind of grew up with the fairy tale mentality of, you know, you do all the things, and then you find your prince, and then it's all just happy. And it's just supposed to be happy all the time.
So, I was glad for that time alone to just kinda connect more with myself before I entered into the marital stage. And we've been married for five years. I have an 18 month old and expecting next baby end of November, so that's pretty exciting. That is exciting. And January, went through the Life Coach School. Certified in May. You're a coach now. Awesome. Yep, so trying to pursue that, it's kind of the next chapter of my life and yeah, that's about it.
Awesome. Well, so many fun stuff. I love it. It's fun to hear the experiences of what you've had. So I'm going to ask you three questions, and let's tell our audience the first one: How do you incorporate love into your business and/or your life?
So, my business is helping wives whose husband's view pornography. And the love part is all over. It's in every aspect. It's in being able to love who you are, and being able to love who your husband is, as he is now, and as you are now. Because oftentimes we get in a relationship, or maybe there's some, you know, unexpected information, there's unexpected things that we might learn about our spouse. And then we feel trapped. And it's kind of a dangerous place to be because you're giving away your power in a sense. You're kind of giving away your situation to your circumstance. And what I mean by that is like, especially in like the LDS culture of like, you know, if you get married in the temple, it's like forever and ever, and you kind of feel trapped of like, oh I made this choice, even though I didn't necessarily know this information, and so I have to stay in this situation, which then prevents, or this marriage, that's what I mean, like I have to stay married cuz that's the right thing to do.
And the reason why that's damaging is because it doesn't leave room for love, really, because there's this mentality of necessity. And so it's like, I have to be in this marriage. I have to stay in this marriage cuz that's the good thing. That's the right thing. But being open to getting out of the marriage has the opposite effect, what you might think. Because being open to leaving the marriage. Then leaves you open for love, leaves you open for loving yourself, leaves you open for loving your husband, which then puts you in a situation where you are able to make that choice, if you wanna stay or leave.
And it's kind of mind blowing because there's more love no matter what you choose. And the decision doesn't seem so black and white. The decision doesn't seem so doom and gloom, either to stay or to go. Because it can feel doom and gloom to stay. It can feel doom and gloom to leave the marriage. But when you're open, like genuinely open to both scenarios, you're genuinely open for love. And so that's what I try to help my clients reach. Like that's the point of where I want to help them see. How love has, like, love actually creates the result they want. When they are like negative or down on themselves. Cause they think if, if they're down on themselves, if they're angry at their spouse, if they're feeling strong negative emotions, then it'll potentially get them what they want, which is a happy marriage. Which is weird what our brains do. It's like, oh if I'm so mad at my husband, he'll see that I'm mad, and then he'll want to change. But that's not how it happens.
So once we have such a strong love for ourselves, then it helps us let go of the control that we feel like we need to have in a relationship. And then, like I said, leaves room for love, which then helps you get out of your emotional state in your brain, which then helps you use more of your prefrontal cortex, which then that is the decision making part of your brain. So it's like the loving yourself exactly as you are, loving your husband exactly as he is, opens that portal of love and appropriate decision making. And I think it's a beautiful thing.
That is a beautiful thing. Yes Camille, I love that. I love how you're willing to talk about it. Some people don't want to talk about pornography. I love how you're willing to talk about it. You're willing to bring that to light, to talking about making a choice whether to stay or go. That's so beautiful and I love that you're honing in and focusing on that. Alright. Well, thank you. Nice. Okay. Definitely have my ups and downs. For sure, part of life, huh? Yes. Alright, question number two: What is something you love about you and why?
So, as I was thinking about this question, I realized I have a tendency to say the good, but then also say the opposite of the bad. Cause like, I think many people kind of have a hard time thinking positively about myself. Cause I was, my answer to that question is I love that I am quick to forgive, because the whole idea of not forgiving someone is like drinking poison and expecting another person to die. That kind of thing, and realizing that the forgiveness is for me, like I selfishly forgive because it's for me. Like I want to feel better, so I'm going to forgive.
And then right after I had that thought, the next thought I had was, well I'm not so good at forgiving myself , and that's what I'm hoping to get better at. So I'm hoping my skills of being quick to forgive others will translate, of course, with work to forgiving myself quickly too. Cause that's definitely something that I've noticed that I'm not always the best. But I also see how it can benefit my life.
Absolutely. And just that awareness of it, that you do recognize that you are really good at forgiving others, and your practicing being good at forgiving yourself as well. That's beautiful. Alright, so before I ask you the last question, where can our audience go to hear more about you?
Well, I have a podcast. It's called Choosing Love. And it's cultivating relationships. What is it? My little tagline, it's cultivating self-compassion in relationships with unwanted pornography use. So you can find that on Apple Podcasts, on Amazon Music, on Google Podcasts, or Google, whatever the Google one is called.
And I have a website, it's camillescowcoaching.com. And then Facebook and Instagram are both camillecowcoaching. Perfect. And I'll put those in the show notes as well. Excellent. Alright, so last question: What is your favorite quote about love?
Alright, so I recently came up with this quote, I mean, discovered this quote. My first thought was, love feels good, and I'm not sure who said it. I think maybe Brooke Castillo might have been the first person where I heard it from and I love that.
But then I was like, wait a minute, I want to share something different, which goes along with that, of that love feels good. And this is from Brené Brown's book, Atlas of the Heart, in her chapter about love, and it says, "We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known. And when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness, and affection. Love is not something we give or get. It is something that we nurture and grow. A connection that can be cultivated between two people only when it exists within each one of them. We can love others only as much as we love ourselves."
I love the part about being vulnerable, and how that openness with ourselves and others is what can cultivate that love. As well as the idea of, we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. I think that goes to, like if we can't feel love for ourselves, then we have this deeper underlying belief of in question and doubt of how can someone else love me even if I don't love me. And so there's always that blocking us from loving others.
So when we cultivate that self-compassion, that love within ourselves, it generates more capacity to love others. And then the idea that love feels good, is like enough motivation to do it. And it can help shut out all of the drama of love, cuz sometimes it's like oh, I shouldn't love this person, because if I love this person then it means I approve of their behavior. So that's not the case. Right. But it's kind of like forgiveness and that we love and we forgive because it feels good for us. Yes. And we can do it regardless of anyone else's behavior. Yes. Such beautiful thoughts.
I love that we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. Hmmm, something to think about. Well, thank you Camille for sharing your tidbits of love with us. Thank you for the opportunity. My pleasure. Have a good one y'all, and here's to love.
If you would like to become an expert at Loving Yourself, check out my Lovin Me Program, at leannaustin.com
See what comes up, when you say So What?
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #39: So What?
Do you have someone in your life that you struggle with? It may be a spouse, your kids, your daughter-in-law, or anyone. Do you notice yourself not liking what they do or say? Well, I've got a trick for you to try that works well for me and my clients.
Start using the phrase, So What? Someone says or does something that you disagree with. Try thinking in your mind, so what? Your mind may then go to, that wasn't very nice. Again think, so what? Whatever is coming up for you, keep asking yourself, so what?
Let me give you a specific example. My son didn't call me back. My mind started spinning about this and I quickly stopped it and said, so what? Well, he's rude, he should call his mama back. And then I'd think, so what? It doesn't really matter. Maybe he's doing something. All of the thoughts, but I would just respond with, so what? Then my brain went to, why can't he communicate with me more? And I thought, so what? Maybe he is communicating with me, just different ways. Doesn't mean he has to call me. So notice what I'm doing here. Everything that my brain is thinking is wrong. I just respond with, so what?
So what is an informal way of saying it doesn't matter. It's not relevant. It's not important. Don't worry about it. See what comes up for you, when you say, so what?
I love this quote by Richelle Goodrich: "Take a step back. Draw in a deep breath. Now ask yourself, 'so what?' Then, after answering, ask yourself again, 'so what?' And then a third time - 'so what?' Chances are you'll come to realize that the issue at hand is not as dire, detrimental, or important as you first thought." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and hears to 'so what?' and love.
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Are you ready to make the big leap? Listen to Hendrix's tips to make this happen.
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, Episode #38: The Big Leap
I just finished reading The Big Leap by Gay Hendrix, and highly recommend it. Hendrix starts the book stating that his desire is to remove your last obstacle to ultimate success in wealth, work and love. I'm very interested when someone tells me a way to remove an obstacle from my ultimate success, so I read the book.
Now the one problem that holds us back, Hendrick says, is called the upper limit problem. And he's never met anyone who didn't suffer from it, at least a little bit. So the upper limit problem is this basic pattern: enjoy a period of feeling really good; then do something to mess it up.
Most of the world operates like this, enjoy a period of peace, then plunge into war, create a time of economic expansion, then go into recession or depression. So there's lots of evidence of this pattern.
How do we solve the upper limit problem? Hendrick suggests asking ourselves these questions:
Am I willing to increase the amount of time every day that I feel good inside?
Am I willing to take the big leap to my ultimate level of success in love, money, and creative contribution?
How much love and abundance am I willing to allow?
How am I getting in my own way?
Really, the only relevant question, is whether you will let it be a possibility for you. If you're willing to accept the possibility that things can go well all or most of the time, then you're on your way to making that happen.
Each of us has an inner thermostat setting that determines how much love, success, and creativity we allow ourselves to enjoy. When we exceed our inner thermostat setting, we will often do something to sabotage ourselves, causing us to drop back into the old familiar zone where we feel secure. One of the biggest drivers of the upper limit problem is a false belief that says, I'm fundamentally flawed and don't deserve success.
If you have a deep old feeling that there's something wrong, bad, or flawed about you, you will find yourself grappling with that issue every time you break through to greater love and financial abundance. When you surpass your upper limit thermostat setting, a little voice in your mind will say, You should not be happy or rich or creative because you are fundamentally flawed. This thought creates cognitive dissonance, the mind rattle that occurs when you try to hold two opposing thoughts at the same time. Given that I'm fundamentally flawed or wrong or bad, how can I possibly be this happy or rich or creative?
The cognitive dissonance must be resolved in one of two ways Hendrick says: by returning to your previous thermostat setting, or by letting go of the old limiting belief, which allows you to stabilize at the new higher level. Now the best way to shine the light of awareness on the thought that you are fundamentally flawed, and label it as what it is.
It's an upper limit bug. Hendrick uses bug in two senses here. It's like a computer bug because it's a false line in your code that causes a breakdown in your operating efficiency. And it's like a bug in the mosquito sense too, because it bites you when you're going to higher levels of love, abundance, and creativity. You start slapping at the bug and bringing yourself back down to your previous level, and then guess what? The bug wins and you lose.
If you want to eliminate your upper limit problem, simply be aware that it's there. Hendrick says, you dissolve the upper limit problem by shining a light of awareness, the false foundations that hold your upper limit problems in place. When you shine the light of awareness, you then are free to soar and explore.
This is what I do in my Lovin Me Program and my Daughter-in-law Course. I help you become aware of the thoughts that are keeping you from what you truly desire. I teach you the model so you can become aware of what you're thinking and feeling, and how it's showing up in your results. Then, if you want to change your results and live your best life, you can do that simply by becoming aware of the thoughts and feelings that are holding you back, and keeping you stuck. As you tweak your thinking, and practice thinking and feeling what you want to instead, you create more love in your life, love for yourself, your daughter-in-law, and everyone around you.
To sum up, one of my favorite quotes by Hendrix is: "The essential move we all need to master is learning to handle more positive energy, success, and love. Instead of focusing on the past, we need to increase our tolerance for things going well in our lives now. If we don't learn how to do this, we suffer in every area of our lives." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to taking the big leap and to love!
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This course that I created includes years of experience with my daughters-in-law, life coach training, and lots of love and inspiration. Everything I've used to have a beautiful relationship with my daughters-in-law, and I'm sharing it with you.
These five secrets will allow you to stop walking on eggshells, be less worried and anxious whenever you're with or even thinking about your daughter-in-law, and have the loving relationship you truly desire. Click the link in the show notes. And if you purchase now, you'll receive a special bonus. Here's to Lovin My DIL y'all ~ have a good one.
Are you "shoulding" all over yourself?
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #37: Should
I've noticed the word should come up often in conversation with other people, and I used to use it a lot on myself as well. Often it's used as a way to motivate ourselves or to express feelings such as frustration, guilt, and regret. I used to should all over myself about countless things, until I realized that telling myself I should be doing more, or being more, wasn't actually helping me do more or be more. In fact, it did the opposite. It left me feeling like I wasn't enough.
I noticed when I used the word should when talking to myself, it wasn't loving me, and accepting me right where I am now. I also realized that when I told my boys or husband that they should or shouldn't do something, I wasn't appreciating their ability to make the best decisions for themselves. And this is not the kind of mom or wife I want to be.
When we think we should do something, it often feels like we don't have the choice to do what we want to do. I like that we have agency to do countless things, and using the word should seems to lessen our ability to choose for ourselves.
So my challenge to y'all, notice how often you tell yourself you should be, or should say, or should do something. And notice too, if you tell others they should as well. As you become aware of this word in your vocabulary, try changing should to I could, or I choose. Let me know what comes up for you, and how this increases the love you feel for yourself and others, as we replace our shoulds with what we truly desire and choose.
I love this quote from Kelly Corbet: "Shoulds' come only from leftover thinking. If we are truly in this moment (the only one there really is), we don't should on ourselves. It's a great freedom. Next time you feel a should coming at you, ask yourself if it really belongs to you!" Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to not shoulding yourself or others, and to love.
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Ways to connect with Tyson:
inherentidentity.com
@tysonbradleycoaching
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
We have the amazing Tyson Bradley sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Tyson, briefly introduce yourself.
Yeah, so my name is Tyson Bradley. I am the father of two redheaded little girls, and soon to be a boy in December. So that's super fun. And I have a business where I focus on helping people change their identity, so that they can accomplish their goals. Because I think that everything is, that's the core of everything, is who we really are.
So I'm writing a book right now and it's going to be a New York Times bestselling book, and the working title is "Discover Your Inherent Identity: The Simple and Effective Way to Create Change and Make It Last." So that's what I'm doing. That's who I am.
That is so cool and so exciting, and a new little boy on the way. That's awesome. So fun. Alright, so I've got three questions for you. The first, how do you incorporate love into your business and or your life?
I think that love unifies everything in everyone. And I know you're going to ask this later about what my favorite quote is, and I don't know if I can go out of order. Yes, you can. This totally applies, but my favorite quote on love comes from 1 John 4:8, which in the shortest version of it is just "God is love". And when I talk about helping others and helping myself discover our inherent identity, what I'm really talking about is that inherently we are children of God.
We are his sons and daughters. We're born of heavenly parents. We have spiritual bodies, and as crazy as that can be, or may sound to some people, if he is love and I'm made with his DNA, then I am love too. And it's like, for me, it's like I want to be love and I also want to be loved. And I love the word beloved, because it's like, it's just be-loved. How can I just be loved, as well as be love to other people?
So when I incorporate it into my business and my life, one example that comes up is with my kids. I have normally been the frustrated parent . That was my, that still comes up at times because I've got a seven year old and a four year old, and they test me and they test my patience. And I feel like love is, the access to, it's the access point to my heart. And it is what naturally comes out of me when I connect to my heart versus my head. Because if I'm in my head, and I'm thinking that they need to do something and they're not doing it, then I'm getting into, they should. It's like they should go to bed and they're not, or they should eat their dinner and they're not. And at a very like brain space thought level, that creates frustration.
But when I tune into heart, and when I tune into love, and I tune into how do I show up to my kids and who do I want to be, then it's almost like those things don't really matter, and all I want is just to be with them and to love them. And so these are like pretty recent, but that is how I feel like I'm incorporating love into my life
And in terms of business, it's one of my dreams that I want to always act from love, that not the, I'm reaching out to you, for example, it's like this podcast. LeAnn, I'm going to reach out to you, because I want my message to spread. It is purely selfish. You know, that could be the way. That could be the motivation driving my actions for my business, is that I reach out to a bunch of people, try and get a bunch of podcasts so that, it's for my growth. But where I want to come from, and the thing that I feel is more powerful, is when I'm just sincerely care about people and know that this is what I have to share will help people, and that it is all for love. That if you said no to me, or if someone said no, it wouldn't matter because I would just be like, Listen, I'm just here to share this amazing message with people, so if you like it, great. If you don't, it's also great. I love you, kind of thing. So that's how I incorporate it.
Ah, that's so beautiful. And I love the beloved. Be-loved. That's a beautiful way to look at it too. Thank you. Alright, question number two. What is something you love about you and why?
I thought about this and I just love myself a lot, and so I was just like, well, I love that I keep moving forward no matter what. I just can't stop. I can't not seek for further learning and understanding and further growth for myself, and I love that.
I also love that I can yodel, and sing, and do impressions, and that I'm good with an audience on the stage. And I love how I combine art and science in new ways that brings clarity and power to my life. And so I think about all these things, and I'm grateful for the question, just because we don't really think about it very often. To just say, what do you love about yourself? Cause when you really think about all these things that you love about yourself, it's like, that's where my heart gets full. Because I think wow, I am cool. I do like myself. I do like what I can do and what I've been gifted in terms of talents and abilities. So those are some things I love about myself.
That is so good. And I was lucky enough to go to a mastermind event that Tyson was the MC at, and it was amazing. So fun watching him in action. So yeah, kudos to you for all you do with that. That's cool. Alright, before I ask you the last question, where can our audience go to find out more about you?
So I would tell them to go to inherentidentity.com, because there's an amazing worksheet and kind of a walkthrough that will help them to incorporate what I mean when I say, you need to be love. There's a being that comes before doing. And so if you're struggling loving other people in terms of how you act, we first have to address, how do you become a loving person? How do you be a loving person, and how do you be loved even? And so whether it's habits of thought or whether it's habits of action, this process that I've created there is among the most powerful tools that I've done for myself, that has created some amazing changes for me and my clients. So that's where I would go. And if you want to follow me on Instagram, I'm @tysonbradleycoaching there.
Okay, and then you also have a podcast as well, correct?
Yeah. Inherent Identity Podcast. So it's all the same, all that kind of stuff. But yeah, I would go to those places because it's all good and helpful stuff.
Excellent. And I'll put those in the show notes as well. Alright, last question, and I know you mentioned this before, but if you have anything else you want to say about it or sum it up, we'll do that. What is your favorite quote about love.
Okay, I'll just reference it again. It's 1 John 4:8, and the very last phrase in it says, "God is love." And he's always been love. And the way we often think about God is that it is an unconditional love. You don't have to do anything. You don't have to be anything special. You could sit on the couch all day. And it's just love for you, and everything that you do, everything that you don't do, every mistake that you make, because he sees the end from the beginning. Like our whole life story is just one eternal, like now before him, he has read your story and he already knows you're going to win.
And, it's like to be able to look at someone and know that they're inherently amazing, because God didn't create anything that's not perfect. Like people are born with deformities and mental issues, and that's a physical thing. But in terms of our spiritual bodies, those were created perfectly, and they reside within us, in these physical bodies. And so there's no deformities within you, inherently. There's nothing wrong with you. There's nothing going on. It's just you are made with his DNA. And if he is love, then you are love, period. And so that's probably what I would add to that quote.
What a beautiful quote and scripture, "God is love."
Hmmm, something to think about y'all. Thank you Tyson, for sharing your tidbits of love with us. Have a good one, and here's to love.
Do you have a daughter-in-law? I have two. They are amazing, and I love and adore them, but that wasn't always the case. Whether you love your daughter-in-law already and know their space for the relationship to become even better than it is. Or you're really struggling with your daughter-in-law, and you feel anxious, worried, or angry every time you're together or even thinking about her. This Lovin My DIL Course is for you.
This course that I created, includes years of experience with my daughters-in-law, life coach training, and lots of love and inspiration. Everything I've used to have a beautiful relationship with my daughters-in-law, and I'm sharing it with you. These five secrets will allow you to stop walking on eggshells, be less worried and anxious whenever you're with or even thinking about your daughter-in-law, and have the loving relationship you truly desire.
Click the link in the show notes, and if you purchase now, you'll receive a special bonus. Here's to Lovin My DIL y'all. Have a good one.
My acronym to improve any relationship💗
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #35: Improve Any Relationship
Y'all know I'm passionate about the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship, and I love acronyms. So, I created an acronym to increase the love you feel for your daughter-in-law, mother-in-law, or really anybody. I'll be using the daughter-in-law examples today. But you can apply this to any relationship you like.
Basically relationships are simply our thoughts about the other person. You might have a daughter-in-law you love dearly and someone else might not like her at all. Why? Well, your daughter-in-law hasn't changed. The other person has a different experience of your daughter-in-law because the other person thinks different thoughts about her. That person's relationship with your daughter-in-law depends on that person's thoughts about her. So again, your relationship with anyone depends on your thoughts about them.
So, if you want to improve your relationship with anyone, I want you to think daughter-in-law, which is abbreviated D I L.
The D in my daughter-in-law acronym stands for Discover. Discover, find out, learn about, get curious about the other person.
For example, one of my daughters-in-law likes Cheerios for breakfast, the other one hates tomatoes and okra. They both have an eye for beautiful things, and they love their dogs, and they love my sons. If there is a relationship you want to improve, discover everything you can about that person.
The I in our daughter-in-law acronym stands for Intuition. Intuition is defined as the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. It's instinctive. It's that feeling in your gut.
What's your intuition telling you about the other person? Listen to it. Sometimes I'll get the intuition to text my daughters-in-law, or to say something, or do something. And I never regret listening to my intuition.
And lastly, the L is for Love. Love, I love the question, What would love do? If you were feeling love, what would you do? Sometimes that's saying no, sometimes love is setting boundaries, and love is always telling the truth.
Well, that's it. If you want to improve your relationship with your daughter-in-law, or anyone, remember the acronym I created D I L ~ Discover Intuition Love ~ Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all. And here's to daughter-in-laws, relationships, and love. If you're enjoying this podcast, please share and leave a review to help others hear tidbits of love.
Do you have a daughter-in-law? I have two. They are amazing, and I love and adore them, but that wasn't always the case. Whether you love your daughter-in-law already and know there's space for the relationship to become even better than it is. Or, you're really struggling with your daughter-in-law, and you feel anxious, worried, or angry every time you're together, or even thinking about her. This Lovin My DIL course is for you.
This course that I created includes years of experience with my daughters-in-law, life coach training, and lots of love and inspiration. Everything I've used to have a beautiful relationship with my daughters-in-law, and I'm sharing it with you.
These five secrets will allow you to stop walking on eggshells, be less worried and anxious whenever you're with, or even thinking about your daughter-in-law, and have the loving relationship you truly desire.
Click the link in the show notes, and if you purchase now, you'll receive a special bonus. Here's to Lovin My DIL y'all, have a good one.
A tidbit of my coaching journey ~ Thank you Jody Moore💗
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #34: Better Than Happy
In 2018, I had a friend suggest that I listen to a podcast. Now back then, I didn't even know what a podcast was. So I was trying to figure out how to get this podcast, she said, "Better Than Happy" by Jody Moore. And I figured it out and I loved it. I binged listened to all the podcasts that Jody Moore had created. And I went to her Be Bold event in Spokane, Washington. And I decided I wanted to be a life coach because she taught me what it.
So she started my amazing journey that has led me to where I'm at now. That has led me to having my own podcast "Love Tidbits". So many things have happened because of the things Jody Moore has done and taught me. And I will forever be grateful to her.
Well, recently she wrote a book called "Better Than Happy". I love this book. This book is one you want to buy and highlight and read multiple times, because there are countless gold nuggets in this book.
So two things that I just want to scratch the surface on today from this book are, well, first of all, let me tell you. Basically Better Than Happy, it also says, "connecting with divinity through conscious thinking."
So Jody basically says, "thinking consciously means taking a look at your thoughts and then deliberately choosing what you want to think instead of settling for the default thoughts your brain offers." So this is a faith based book, whatever religion you are. There's so many faith concepts tied into this, and conscious thinking. So again, highly recommend it.
But the two things that I wanted to mention from this book are; the first, agency. Robert D Hales said, "Agency is the catalyst that leads us to express our inward spiritual desires in outward Christlike behavior. Agency permits us to make faithful, obedient choices that strengthen us so that we can lift and strengthen others. Agency used righteously allows light to dispel the darkness and enables us to live with joy and happiness in the present, look with faith to the future, even into the eternities, and not dwell on the things of the past. Our use of agency determines who we are and what we will be."
So most of us understand the importance of agency. Now, sometimes we like having agency and sometimes not so much, especially sometimes we wish other people in our life didn't have agency, but we do. And so Jody shares ways to help us get better at focusing more on controlling our own agency, and less on trying to control the agency of others. Cause we can't do that. We can't control others.
She says, "we can be so focused on how other people are using their agency, that we neglect to consider how we want to use ours. We can delegate our choices to the automatic, unconscious part of our brain and just react to life and the people around us, or we can deliberately choose who we will be in any given circumstance."
We get to decide if we're going to judge others, or if we're going to love others. We get to choose whether we're going to be critical or curious. So think about who do we want to be?
The other little nugget I wanted to touch on is forgiveness. How do we forgive people? And how do we forgive ourselves? One of my favorite questions that I love and use often, and Jody shares as well is, What would love do?
Love is considering everyone involved. Sometimes love says no. Sometimes love sets boundaries. Love is wise and kind, and love always tells the truth. Love says, "sometimes I feel hurt when I think about what happened in the past." But love also says, "I just want to let it go."
So forgiveness is not something you do. It's something that happens internally because it comes from your thoughts. Forgiveness is a belief system that creates a feeling of love, or at least curiosity. Remember, trying to love someone who you believe has wronged you in some way, will be challenging if you aren't loving yourself first. Again, consider asking the question, What would loving me and loving everyone involved do?
Y'all know that loving ourselves is dear to my heart. And it's the focus of my life and my business. I believe the two great commandments, which technically there's three: Love God, Love Others. Love Me., encompass everything we need to do in this life.
Jody shares a quote that I love, "Once you get good at being compassionate with yourself, loving other people is easy." Hmmm, something to think about.
This is what I do every day. I help people get good at being compassionate with themselves. Join my Lovin Me program, and become an expert at loving you.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to Better Than Happy and love.
Do you have a daughter-in-law? I have two. They are amazing, and I love and adore them, but that wasn't always the case. Whether you love your daughter-in-law already and know there's space for the relationship to become even better than it is. Or, you're really struggling with your daughter-in-law, and you feel anxious, worried, or angry every time you're together or even thinking about her.
This Lovin My DIL course is for you. This course that I created includes years of experience with my daughters-in-law life, coach training, and lots of love and inspiration. Everything I've used to have a beautiful relationship with my daughters-in-law, and I'm sharing it with you.
These five secrets will allow you to stop walking on eggshells, be less worried and anxious whenever you're with, or even thinking about your daughter-in-law, and have the loving relationship you truly desire. Click the link in the show notes, and if you purchase now, you'll receive a special bonus. Here's to Lovin My DIL y'all, have a good one.
Listen to how a race car pit crew can help discover your purpose~
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ 'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #33: Pit Crew & Purpose
Have you ever heard the quote: "Comparison is the thief of joy?" I think that's a pretty common one, that is credited to Theodore Roosevelt. And I agree, when we compare, we despair. Comparison blocks inspiration, clouds our judgment, and feels discouraging.
I recently heard Brooke Snow talk about comparison in a way I'd never heard before, and it really resonated with me. It also reminded me of going to the drag races with Jeff. So those of you who have an appreciation for fast cars, this is a fascinating perspective.
Think about a race car pit crew. Apparently at some point in the course of a long car race, a race car driver wears down the tires of the car and the tires need to be changed. The changing tires doesn't stop the clock from ticking. The driver needs all four tires changed as fast as possible, so they can get right back on the track.
Enter the pick crew. A team of 20 guys and gals, at the ready, who astonishingly change all four tires of the car in less than two seconds. This is a magnificent display of teamwork, focus, and precision. Every person has a very specific purpose. Each member of the pit crew does one job.
On each tire, one person removes the bolt, another removes the tire, another puts the new tire on, one person jacks the front, another person jacks the back, one person on each side holds the car steady, and there are spare people in place in case something fails. They work as a team. It is beautiful and brilliant. What they accomplish all together is far better than what they can accomplish separately.
But just think how fast this would all fall apart, if the front tire person started watching the rear tire person. Just glancing away would cost precious time for everyone. What if the guy or gal started saying, "Hey, that guy yanks off the tire so much better than I do." What if the tire person looked at the person holding the car steady and thought, "wow, their job is better than mine, all I do is yank off a tire."
Every single one of these jobs is completely vital to success. Every single one. If one person gets distracted, or starts to doubt or compare, then it's downhill for everyone. You can't do all the jobs, but you can do your part really well.
What if we look at other people as teammates, rather than competitors? What if we're all in this together and we need each other? What if the part we play matters and we matter? It's human nature to compare ourselves, but the more we are aware of what we're thinking, and we accept ourselves right where we are, meaning we know the part we play and we know our purpose. That gives us the power to get out of the stuck, to stop beating ourselves up, and to appreciate all the wonderful things we do now.
I love the quote by Bob Goff: "We won't be distracted by comparison if we are captivated with purpose." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to knowing our unique purpose, that we matter, and love. If you're enjoying this podcast, please share and leave a review to help others hear tidbits of love.
Do you have a daughter-in-law? I have two. They are amazing, and I love and adore them, but that wasn't always the case. Whether you love your daughter-in-law already and know there's space for the relationship to become even better than it is. Or, you're really struggling with your daughter-in-law, and you feel anxious, worried, or angry every time you're together, or even thinking about her. This Lovin My DIL course is for you.
This course that I created includes years of experience with my daughters-in-law, life coach training, and lots of love and inspiration. Everything I've used to have a beautiful relationship with my daughters-in-law, and I'm sharing it with you.
These five secrets will allow you to stop walking on eggshells, be less worried and anxious whenever you're with or even thinking about your daughter-in-law, and have the loving relationship you truly desire. Click the link in the show notes. And if you purchase now, you'll receive a special bonus.
Here's to Lovin My DIL y'all, have a good one.
Ways to connect with Arda Ozdemir~
https://www.rise2realize.com/
https://www.instagram.com/rise2realize/
https://www.youtube.com/c/Rise2Realize?app=desktop
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #32: Realize Love with Arda Ozdemir
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their lives.
We have the amazing Arda Ozdemir sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Arda, briefly introduce yourself.
Hi LeAnn. I am a spiritual mentor, a life coach, a founder of rise2realize organization and balance organization. We help people transform their lives, find their highest potential, find their callings, find deeper connections in their lives.
So that's what rise2realize is about. And I'm the founder, as well as the creator, of a five step power method that we follow to help people accomplish those wonderful things in their lives.
Ah, nice. So I'm going to ask you three questions. The first is: how do you incorporate love into your business and/or your life?
Well, first of all, I don't differentiate them. Life and work are the same to me. I used to be in the corporate world. I started, I left the corporate world about 12 years ago and started pursuing my calling and so therefore love became part of my life. And the work that I do became basically work of love. Helping people achieve their highest potentials. So therefore work, life, it's all the same now. And every day is, every session, every interaction became a manifestation of love.
That's so beautiful that there's not a disconnect. They're just intertwined. I love that.
That's life, LeAnn that's life.
It is. Yeah, oh, I love that you incorporate love so much into everything that you do. Beautiful. Alright, so what is something that you love about you and why?
There are many things that I love about myself. After I kind of did my own personal transformation journey after I left the corporate world, I realized a lot of weaknesses about me turning, which I again loved. Turning into something that I can use today. For example, I was very curious about people, and I call it maybe weakness or something that I haven't really worked on when I was in the corporate world. All of a sudden that something that I ignored, but that was something in me, became a point of love and connection within myself. With myself, investigation. I love how much investigative I am. I love, as I said, curiosity and investigation, as well as taking failure as a opportunity to grow. If I have to point out and that's why I started with weakness, I think I have this tendency to fail to learn. So I don't go for success. I go for failure or I should say I attempt, I jump in, and that side of me, I really came to embrace more and more over the years.
What a beautiful thing that you embrace failure because that's where the growth is. I love that. Ah, I love it.
Exactly, I think it's a shift in perspective and when I bring, and now I have a team of life coaches who are really incredibly connecting with people and growing their practices. Everybody, everybody talks about how I made them feel comfortable by saying failure is an option. Even we bring that to our clients, and all of a sudden the perspective shifts.
Everybody's now enjoying life, loving life, loving themselves, loving others, because there is not much of that survival instinct remaining in them. We are not in that fight or flight response system anymore. We are in that flow, in that connection, that deeper connection with life.
Oh, that's so beautiful. And that curiosity that you love and appreciate that investigation, so yeah, that's beautiful. Thank you. Alright, so before I ask you the last question, is there anything else you want to share and where can our audience go to find out more about you?
So, thank you. Thank you for the opportunity LeAnn. So the website is rise2realize.com and I think you can share the link. So it's number two between rise, and realize. So R I S E number two, R E A L I Z E.com. Rise2realize and where they can find some information about me there.
Most importantly, I don't know when you're going to release this podcast, but we are offering two incredible life changing workshops. One of them is emotional mastery. We are all stressed, but we don't know how to regulate our emotions, as well as how to respond to triggers. Kind of getting out of our fight or flight system, defense system, but becoming more in touch with our own power and stepping up and setting our boundaries.
So there is a five week course called emotional mastery that I teach starting October 4th. Tuesdays, five Tuesdays. We are meeting from 6:00 to 7:30 pm pacific. So if anybody wants to get some information, go to the website and there's a contact form. Reach out to me through that. The message goes straight to my inbox, and I will make sure that they are signed up for, or I'll give more information about the course.
The second one is the life coaching school. We started life coaching school. About two years ago, we have 30 graduates. Nine of them are active and seeing clients. Within six months, they started within last six months. LeAnn just, they started just opening. I don't know what's happening in the world, but there was this opening and we have a referral program and they have two, three clients already. They are on their way to open their practice. They open their practice, grow their practice, expand their practice. It is an incredible, fulfilling and rewarding journey for anybody who wants to help others. And we have incredible tools to share with, with prospective life coaches. And it's been incredible. It's a 12 week program, very interactive, very practical. So again, they can go and look at, look for that information on the website.
Okay excellent. And then you also wrote a book, The Art of Becoming Unstuck, correct?
Oh yeah. Thank you for mentioning.
Yeah. I want to hear a little, so many things. Yes.
Thank you. Yes, The Art of Becoming Unstuck. Okay, it touches all of the methods that we teach at rise2realize, and it takes you from your emotions, your emotional reactions, all the way to mastering them and, going beyond that, giving you different alternatives of communication strategies.
Excellent. Alright, well good, we'll put all this in the show notes and thank you so much for sharing that. Alright, so the last question: what is your favorite quote about love?
So, I mean, you and I had a quick email exchange about this. I don't know whether it's about love for anybody who will be just listening to this quote, but it is all about love in my own life. And the quote it: "We are not the human beings having spiritual experiences, but the spiritual beings having human experiences." by Pierre Teilhard de Chardin.
So a french philosopher looked at life and saw that the life is basically a manifestation or reflection of our spiritual side. So we are human beings having spiritual experiences because life is spiritual. Meaning life is love. When I say spiritual, that's what I feel; love, the connection, deeper connections. And through these experiences, we learn about ourselves. And by learning about ourselves then we get to know ourselves and love ourselves, the weaknesses and the strengths. And we combine them together. We integrate them together and we become better human beings.
Yes. Ah, I love that. And yes, "we are not human beings having a spiritual experience, we are spiritual beings having a human experience." Hmmm, something to think about.
Thank you Arda, for sharing your tidbits of love with us. Have a good one y'all. You're welcome. And here's to love.
Do you have a daughter in. I have two. They are amazing and I love and adore them, but that wasn't always the case. Whether you love your daughter-in-law already and know there's space for the relationship to become even better than it is. Or, you are really struggling with your daughter-in-law, and you feel anxious, worried, or angry every time you're together, or even thinking about her.
This Lovin My DIL course is for you. This course that I created, includes years of experience with my daughters-in-law, life coach training, and lots of love and inspiration, everything I've used to have a beautiful relationship with my daughters-in-law. And I'm sharing it with you. These five secrets will allow you to stop walking on eggshells, be less worried and anxious whenever you're with, or even thinking about your daughter-in-law and have the loving relationship you truly desire. Click the link in the show notes. And if you purchase now, you'll receive a special bonus. Here's to Lovin My DIL y'all. Have a good one.
If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself, check out my Lovin Me program at leannaustin.com
Could breath be used as a tool?
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #31: Just Breathe
What do you think when someone tells you, hey take a breath. That's the last thing you want to hear or to do.
Well, I've been taking some incredible certification classes from Brooke Snow and Candice Toone. I now have a whole new understanding of breathing, and the powerful effect it has when we're a little more intentional about our breath.
I took a few classes in high school and college about our bodies, but didn't remember that the respiratory system is the only system in the body that can be regulated both consciously and unconsciously. You can breathe without thinking about it, and you can breathe on purpose. You can control your breath. And breath is one of the most amazing tools we have for being happy and healthy.
I find it interesting that many of the books I read and have spoken about on this podcast, mention breathwork or meditation in some form. I used to think that was a little woo, woo. But now I completely agree that breathing does make you feel better.
There's lots of scientific evidence to prove it. Breathing helps to release tension, increase creativity, helps your body detoxify, reduces anxiety, helps you relax, and makes way for clearer thinking.
I've also learned that nose breathing is better than mouth breathing, who knew? And most of us are mouth breathers. Very simply, mouth breathing is shallow and causes us to over breath. Nasal breathing or nose breathing, allows for more oxygen to get to active tissues, provides a sense of calm, and allows us to function better.
So a really easy way to practice nose breathing is, breathe in through your nose, into your belly, and exhale a little bit longer than you inhaled.
Some of you also may have heard of grounding exercises. Grounding exercises are things you can do to bring yourself back to the present moment. They could be quick strategies, like take three deep belly breaths, or longer, more formal exercises like meditation.
I have a section now available in my Lovin Me program with some simple breath and grounding exercises. If you want to learn more, join us anytime.
If you're breathing, you're feeling, and if you're feeling you're pausing to take better care of yourself. That's what it's all about y'all, loving and taking care of you so that you're well equipped to help other people in your life.
I love to just put my hand on my heart, breathe in through my nose, and out through my nose. Just breathing and pausing with my hand on my heart, brings me back to the present and fills me with love.
I appreciate this insightful quote by Dan Brule: "Breath is the link between mind and body." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to breathing and love.
If you're enjoying this podcast, please share and leave a review, to help others hear tidbits of love.
Do you have a daughter-in-law? I have two. They are amazing, and I love and adore them, but that wasn't always the case. Whether you love your daughter-in-law already, and know there's space for the relationship to become even better than it is. Or, you're really struggling with your daughter-in-law, and you feel anxious, worried, or angry every time you're together, or even thinking about her. This Lovin My DIL Course is for you.
This course that I created includes years of experience with my daughters-in-law, life coach training, and lots of love and inspiration. Everything I've used to have a beautiful relationship with my daughters-in-law. And I'm sharing it with you.
These five secrets will allow you to stop walking on eggshells, be less worried and anxious whenever you're with, or even thinking about your daughter-in-law, and have the loving relationship you truly desire.
Click the link in the show notes. And if you purchase now, you'll receive a special bonus. Here's to Lovin My DIL y'all. Have a good one.
What is essential to you?
I believe choosing the essentials is loving ourselves~
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #30: The Essentials
Summer is wrapping up, school is back in session for some of you, and reading the book Essentialism by Greg McKeown, has got me thinking a lot about what are the essentials?
Greg starts his book with a quote from Lynn Yutang: "Besides the noble art of getting things done, there is the noble art of leaving things undone. The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials."
We've been exploring this in my Lovin Me program. It's fascinating to me how taking care of and loving ourselves, is honing in on what is essential to each one of us.
We're really good at loving others and doing what they want, but when we don't prioritize our lives, someone else will. Have you noticed this in your life, maybe with your kids, your partner, a friend, your work, your church, or whatever? When we're not intentional about what is truly essential for us, the non-essentials take over. Like Greg says, "We can either make our choices deliberately, or allow other people's agendas to control our lives."
This may look like saying no a lot more often. Thank goodness Rosa Park's quiet, but resolute refusal to give up her seat on a segregated Montgomery bus, propelled the civil rights movement. As hard as it can be to say no to someone, failing to do so can cause us to miss out on something far more important.
Greg's book Essentialism, has lots of amazing quotes and practical tips to create an essentialist life. I highly recommend reading this book.
A couple of other things that he mentions that I love:
The power we have to choose. Choice is at the very core of being a human. We don't have to do most things. We have agency. What if we chose to do the things that are most essential and loving for us? What would that look like?
Greg talks about the impact of play. He says, "Play has the power to significantly improve everything from personal health, to relationships, to education, to organization's ability to innovate. Nothing fires up the brain like play. When we play, we are engaged in our purest expression of humanity, the truest expression of our individuality. Is it a wonder that often the times we feel most alive, those that make up our best memories, are moments of play."
And lastly, Greg talks of sleep. This is an asset we want to protect. This is something I've been thinking so much about, and getting more of. It makes a difference when we get our sleep.
My favorite quote from Greg's book is this: "The best asset we have for making a contribution to the world is ourselves. If we underinvest in ourselves, and by that I mean our minds, our bodies, and our spirits, we damage the very tool we need to make our highest contribution." Hmmm, something to think about.
I believe loving ourselves is choosing the essentials in our lives. This is why I created the Lovin Me program. This beautiful community is a space where we learn and practice countless skills, discover what is essential in our lives, strengthen our mental & emotional muscles, and truly become experts at loving ourselves.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to the essentials and love.
If you're enjoying this podcast, please share and leave a review, to help others hear tidbits of love.
Do you have a daughter-in-law? I have two. They are amazing, and I love and adore them, but that wasn't always the case. Whether you love your daughter-in-law already and know there's space for the relationship to become even better than it is. Or, you're really struggling with your daughter-in-law, and you feel anxious, worried, or angry every time you're together or even thinking about her. This Lovin My DIL course is for you.
This course that I created includes years of experience with my daughters-in-law, life coach training, and lots of love and inspiration. Everything I've used to have a beautiful relationship with my daughters-in-law, and I'm sharing it with you.
These 5 Secrets will allow you to stop walking on eggshells, be less worried and anxious whenever you're with, or even thinking about your daughter-in-law. And have the loving relationship you truly desire.
Click the link in the show notes. And if you purchase now, you'll receive a special bonus. Here's to Lovin My DIL y'all ~ have a good one.
What is one decision you can make today?
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #29: Make 1 Decision
Growing up, remember when you learned that you just needed to make a decision, to not take drugs or to not smoke. So when you make that one decision, if things came up later on and you were at a party or you were offered drugs or a cigarette, you'd be like, wait, no, I already made the decision. So I'm not going to do that.
This is something similar to that. You make one decision. Now often we have a hard time making decisions, and we spin in confusion, and we ask everyone else what they think that we should do. And we see what social media is doing. And all this procrastinating is happening in trying to make a decision.
And you know, indecision is a decision. So what if we stopped this hamster wheel that we have going on, and we simply make one decision? Oprah says, "Nothing happens until you decide, make a decision and watch your life move forward."
Now this doesn't have to be a big thing. I'm not talking about a super big decision that you want to spend a lot of time on. I'm simply talking about making a decision. Which big decisions you don't have to spend a lot of time on, just a little side note there. But what about just deciding something, anything? Sending a text, smiling at two people, drinking some water, being outside, whatever you want, make the decision and do it.
Sometimes you make one decision, and then you're not going to want to do it. For example, in my business, I made the decision to make some videos. And I don't necessarily love that, but I know it helps me grow my business. So I know that I'm not going to want to do it. I put it on my calendar. I know it's coming and at the time, I'm like no I don't want to do that. I made a decision to make a video, but now I don't want to.
Well part of making one decision, is doing it anyway. Even when you don't want to do it. It's a skill. As we practice making one decision and doing it, we get better and better at honoring our decisions. So we're building the skill of making a decision, and following through with it.
So let's make one decision, something you'll do no matter what. Something that when you're questioning it, you know that the decision is already made and you don't need to decide again. Even if you don't want to, you do it anyway.
I love the quote, "In the end, we only regret the chances we didn't take and the decisions we waited to make." (by Lewis Carroll) Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to making 1 decision and love.
If you're enjoying this podcast, please share and leave a review to help others hear tidbits of love. If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself, check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com
I'm so excited to tell you about a new course I created, and is now available to purchase. Years of experience with my daughters in law, life coach training, advanced certifications, and lots of love and inspiration are beautifully woven together in the Lovin My DIL course.
So, if you're ready to build a connection with your DIL that you never thought possible, purchase Lovin My DIL course today.
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #28: Lovin My Daughter In Law (DIL).
On to the podcast. I have two special guests: my daughters in law. I love and adore these cute girlies. And I'm excited to share with you how they implement love into their lives.
We have my amazing Sarah, my first DIL, sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Sarah, briefly introduce yourself.
Okay, I'm Sarah. I married LeAnn's first son, Brandon. We got married two years ago in June. And I'm a master student at Utah State studying human development and family studies.
Yea! Alright, our first question: How do you incorporate love into your business and/or your life?
So I don't have a business, so I don't know if that question applies, but as far as my career I would say, I think I actively seek to make sure that everyone around me feels loved and accepted for who they are.
I think in past work experiences, I've met a lot of people whose experiences were very different than mine. And so it took some time for me to ask the right questions, and get to know them on a deeper level, so I could not only understand them, but grow in love for them and accept them for who they are, and not seek to change them, which I think in the past I've been that way. And so it's good for me to practice unconditional love for people.
And then that kind of transcends into my personal life as well, of just not only accepting other people outside of my family, but also making sure that I accept myself. I accept my husband for who he is. I accept my in-laws, and I accept my family members.
And as much as sometimes conflict happens, I think it's just making sure to resolve it as best as you can, and understand that we all have different emotions, and we just need to accept them, do the best we can, and just be kind to each other. I think there's a lot of, a lot of hate in the world, so it's good to be kind to everyone.
I love watching you do this, and as you've, you know, really reached out to other people, when you said asking the right questions, is there a particular question that you've learned that you'd like to ask people now that maybe you didn't in the past that might help our audience know how to be more inclusive like that?
I think the best phrase I think is: Tell me more OR What has your experience been like? And just from there, you can be more specific. Like at one time I was working at a treatment center, and we had some individuals who aligned with the LGBTQ+ community. And at the time, I honestly didn't understand too much about gender and sexuality. And so it was asking them experiences to understand their point of view. So that I could learn, but also to just get to know them, and being able to see people's experiences, you can't deny what other people feel, or what other people have seen or heard in their life. And so it kind of helps me identify what my own truth is. And in seeing in asking for other people's experiences, it helps keep your mind more open to the fact that other people just have different views of the world. And I think it makes it a more diverse and beautiful place.
Ah, so good. I love those questions. Tell me more. Beautiful, thanks for sharing that. Alright, so our second question, you alluded to a little bit, but what is something you love about you and why, I want something specific.
OK, this is actually fun, I got to hear the questions before coming here. And so, in pondering on that question, it was good for me to reflect and do that self-evaluation of what kinds of things I do love about myself. I would say I love how passionate I can be. I love learning. I love sharing knowledge too. I love being creative. And I also just love my body. I think it's great. I obviously, I think there's always things you could hate about yourself in terms of your physical appearance. But I think for me, it's been helpful for me to just reflect on what things my body can do. Certain features about myself, that I actually do love about me. And in doing that, it's let me let go of a lot of external pressure and that's been so, so helpful.
And I also appreciate just, I think I'm a fairly kind soul. I think I do really well with people. And I think having that natural talent has been very helpful in my life and getting to know people and, it leads me to have other service opportunities to help other people as well.
Ahhh, I totally agree. Yes, so beautiful Sarah, thank you. Okay, so before I ask you the last question, is there anything else you want to share, and where can our audience go to find out more about you if they'd like?
So I have an Instagram account. It's @saraheaustin_, and a little space at the end. So you're welcome to come follow me. You're welcome to message me. If you need a friend, I live in the Logan, Utah area. So if you need a friend, come hang out. And yeah, I feel like I've shared pretty much everything I wanted to say. So, but if you ever have more questions for me, feel free to ask.
Excellent. And we'll put your Insta in the show notes too, thank you Sarah. Alright, so last question. What is your favorite question or quote about love?
Yes. Let me pull it up because I've already forgotten. Okay so, this is also a fun experience, cause I didn't have one that popped up in my head right away. And so I did some searching online for things, and I really wanted a quote that resonated not only with myself, also with the concept of self love and self acceptance. Cause I think that's something I'm working on mastering right now. I feel like I do really well at loving other people, but I want to learn to do better at loving myself.
And so the quote that I found says, "How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you." I don't know who said it, but it really resonated with me because ultimately we have the most control over our lives. And we're going to be with ourselves for the rest of our life, where this is the relationship you're going to have forever. And so it's important to protect yourself from other people, protect yourself from stressful situations, and treat yourself well. Like go get the new swimsuit you've been wanting, or go hiking and enjoy just feeling the sunlight on your skin. Like do things for yourself that make you feel good, and treat yourself like you would treat anybody else.
Try not to say negative comments about yourself. And ultimately we can't control what other people think about us, but we have control over our own thoughts, our own feelings. And along those lines too, it's like, we are the main character of our story. And so if you are always paying attention to other people, you're giving them the power to be a main character in your story. But they're not main characters, you are. So, and if other people are saying negative things about you, that just means they're giving you more attention than they're giving to themselves. And you know, what's most important is just you get to lead the life that you want to lead. And no one else can say anything about it. So, yeah.
Sarah, I need to have you come teach in Lovin Me program, that's awesome. Y'all know I'm...Yes, exactly...I'm all about self love. And I love that you are noticing this at a young age and really implementing it into your life. So thank you so much. That thought, "How you love yourself is how you teach others to love you" is beautiful. Hmmm, something to think about.
Alright Sarah, my amazing, beautiful, daughter in law, thank you so much for coming on and sharing your tidbits of love with us. Yes, of course.
We have the amazing Kristen, my second daughter in law, sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Kristen, briefly introduce yourself.
Hi, my name's Kristen. I'm from Tennessee. I live in Logan, Utah with my husband Kurtis. We have a one year old lab, his name's Kato. So we did the little K A family. I went to school at BYU, Idaho, and graduated in healthcare administration, and so I work for an ENT office. I do scheduling. And then I love to be outside and run and my main things.
Ah, awesome. Alright, how do you incorporate love into your business or your life?
I would say in a few different ways. So like I mentioned, I work for an ENT clinic, so it's a medical office. And we see lots of patients every single day, and they all have different things going on and different problems. And I deal a lot with surgical scheduling and so people are, you know, kind of in a situation where they're scared or they're going under, going for a procedure. And so I feel like I incorporate love there, because I try to show kindness and compassion and listen. Usually when people have health problems, and they're coming to you, they're nervous themselves, and they just need a smile. So I try really hard to smile at work, and just make people feel like their problems are being heard. And that they have someone to go to and someone listening.
And then, you know, at home, I try to with my husband and my dog, I feel like quality time is kind of a fun way to show up, and so we, I try to plan activities, and do a lot of things, with one on one time to show Kurtis that he's loved and that I care for him. So we do like date night each week on just a Friday. And we set aside time Friday and Sunday to just hang out with each other. We don't usually have our phones with us. So I feel like showing and giving attention, makes people feel loved.
I love that. And you are such a great example of that. It's so fun to watch you and Kurtis do so many things. And when we're together to get to join you as well. And yes to the health issues because we've had some in our own family and I call Kristen frequently saying, "Hey, help me with this" and she's an expert at figuring that all out. So I know you help a lot of people with that. Awesome, I love that.
Alright, so the second question: What is something you love about you and why?
I would say I love that I'm very driven and goal oriented. Because it makes me proud of myself and gives me something to look forward to. So I love progress, and you know, getting better every single day, so I try to be better than I was yesterday. And I love that about myself, just cuz I can see how far I've come, and it's something that I feel like makes the world better and makes me better. And so I kinda like that I set goals and work towards something.
And you're very, very good at doing what you say you're going to do. I admire that as well. And it gives me a little kick in the pants too, when I'm like, oh, Kristen's doing it. I better kick it into gear. So yes, that's an amazing quality, I love that. Alright, anything else you want to share before I ask you the last question?
No, I think that's all I've got.
Alright, you don't want to tell about fishing or anything like that?
Oh well, I did. So this year with being driven and like goal oriented, I just decided I was going to set a goal. Well last year, actually, after we left our family reunion, I had been talking to LeAnn about how I wanted to run a half marathon. And I couldn't even run a mile when I told her that I just, I ran in high school and wanted to eventually run again. So I set a goal that we were going to run a half marathon, paid for it, picked a date. And then I was like, crap, I guess I should learn how to run . So I worked towards it every single day, and we did run our half marathon in April.
And then since then, I have just added running into my schedule and working out every single day, and I've seen huge changes in my life, and just how motivated I am. And so then I was able to add in other goals. So I added in not drinking soda, and I've gone basically the whole year, I think I've had two sips of soda this whole year.
And then I was like, oh well, let's make time for hobbies. And, you know, get better in other areas. So then I picked up fishing. So now I'm all into fishing and I go pretty much every week, once a week, and work on my casting, and I research it, and have a goal to, you know, catch a bigger fish every time.
That is so awesome. And we love that, and Jeff loves that his daughter in law loves to fish too, so that's super fun to do that as well. So great. Alright, so tell us, what is your favorite question or quote about love?
So I picked one by Laura Pexton, and she says, "Every day no matter what I face, I can smile and love others." And I picked that one cuz in high school we had to pick a word in our art class, to write down and decorate and do something artistic out of. And so I picked the word saunder, which is the realization that everybody around you, even strangers, are living a life just as complex as yours. And so it made me think that with everybody having something going on, sometimes other people are hurting. Sometimes they're going through the best phases of their life, but you never know what's going on. But no matter what you're going through, you can at least smile and love others.
I love that, and your smile. Hmmm, something to think about y'all. Thank you Kristen. Sure love and appreciate you. And thanks for sharing your tidbits of love with us.
If you're ready to strengthen the connection with your daughter in law, and show up as the mother in law you truly want to be, purchase my brand new Lovin My DIL course today. Details in the show notes, or at leannaustin.com. Have a good one y'all, and here's to Lovin My DIL.
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3 questions to ask yourself about your neighbors...
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #27: A Fire and Neighbors
This morning, I went for a run with my dog Nutmeg, and when we got home, I looked over at my neighbor's house and there was smoke coming out of the back roof. And I was like, okay, wait. What's happening here. And I ran back out into the front yard, and ran over there to make sure he was alright. And his house was on fire.
So thankfully some other neighbors were walking by as well, and we got him out and his animals out, and I called 911. And we had a lot of fire trucks come, and they were able to put out the fire. It was a pretty significant fire, and I don't know what all the damage will be, but as I was able to just sit and visit with my neighbor, and lots of neighbors came out, it just got me thinking about how important it is to me to know our neighbors. And I love connecting with my neighbors and the opportunity that I have to live near people. And I think it's really helpful to know a little bit about them so when situations like this arise, we know a little bit about what we can do to help.
So, I've tried to ask myself three general questions when I think about my neighbors. The first: What's something interesting about my neighbor? I like to know just some little thing about them that's interesting.
The second: What is important to my neighbor? There's things that are important to them. And they may or may not be important to me, but it doesn't matter. I like knowing what's important to them.
And then my third question is: How can I love my neighbor? What can I do to love them? In this moment, this morning, loving my neighbor was going and helping him get out. Was going and contacting some of his family. And it was just being there with him and loving him. And I was so grateful that I was able to do that.
I truly have the best neighbors in the whole world. And I am so grateful for each of them and how they are a part of our lives. And I just challenge you, wherever you live, whatever situation you're in, to take time to get to know your neighbors.
And I love this beautiful quote from Fred Rogers. He said: "All of us at some time or other need help. Whether we're giving or receiving help, each one of us has something valuable to bring to this world. That's one of the things that connects us as neighbors. In our own way, each one of us is a giver and a receiver."
Hmmm, something to think about. Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to amazing neighbors and to love.
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Here are a few tidbits from an amazing book ~ enjoy!
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tibit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #26: Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It
One of my favorite books is titled: Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, by Kamal Ravikant. Kamal takes us on his fascinating journey and I highly recommend reading this book.
He was, before he wrote this, very concerned about what will other people think, and even to share this. He was terrified. And yet, he did it anyway, which makes this so much sweeter. Kamal shares a vow he made to himself and the importance of keeping this vow. Often we keep commitments or vows to others, but he teaches us the importance of keeping these vows to ourselves.
Kamal understands the importance of the mind and love. He knew it was an inside problem and he needed to find an inside solution. So he created a practice to work on his mind. He started with telling himself that he loved himself. Simply beginning with this thought, and then noticing how he felt. At first he said it felt fake, but very quickly it became real.
I love how this telling himself that he loved himself, reminds me of what I teach my clients and what I practice myself. This light switch trick. Every time we turn on a light, telling ourselves what we love about us. It can seem really corny and really fake, but if we keep practicing it and reinforcing that love with light, it becomes easier and we're really honoring this truth for ourself.
Now, the next part of Kamal's practice was a simple meditation. Noticing what we're breathing, how we're breathing. He talks about taking ten breaths, inhaling: I love myself, and exhaling: whatever comes out.
The third part of his practice was to stand in front of the mirror. Really close to the mirror, so your nose is only a few inches away. He said to focus on your eyes and say: I love myself. Repeat it and watch your eyes, he says. And he suggests doing this for five minutes. Repeating: I love myself, and pausing occasionally to watch how your eyes are reacting. Smile at the end, Kamal says, of the five minutes. I love how he shared, if anyone looked in your eyes, knowing that you love them, this is what they saw, and give yourself that same gift.
Then the last part of Kamal's practice, is to ask yourself one question. "If I love myself truly and deeply, would I let myself experience this?" Hmmm. There's so much more valuable information in this book that you can incorporate into your life. And again, I recommend reading and trying what Kamal shares.
A few other tidbits. He says; "All freedom starts within. Even if you want to forgive others, you must forgive yourself first. Only the free can free another." And he also mentions the power of a vow. You go all in. If you stumble and fall, you get up, dust yourself off, and continue on. And there is only one way, forward.
We're wired for love y'all, and when we make our mind better, everything is better. My favorite question to ponder that Kamal continually asks himself is this: "If I love myself truly and deeply, what would I do?" Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to love. If you're enjoying this podcast, please share and leave a review to help others hear tidbits of love. If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself, check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com
Making E.A.T. an intentional part of my life, has been delicious.
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #25: Equal Air Time
Have you been in situations where someone is telling you all the negative things about everything? Most of the things coming out of their mouth are simply negative, and sometimes it's a little uncomfortable to be around.
You might have noticed this with yourself. I know sometimes I'll notice, okay and this has gone wrong and this has gone wrong. And I'm thinking, and sometimes even talking about all the things that are not going the way I think they should. Well, I've come up with a new way that I learned over the past few years in Life Coach Training, and it's called Equal Air Time - E.A.T. And what it means is the same amount of time you give to all this negative talk and these negative thoughts, you can have them, but give the same amount of time to some positive ones. What's going well, what's good about this. And even as you're listening to someone talking about negative things, it's like, huh, how could I turn this a little bit and at least spend the same amount of time on the positive, or even offering them that, that opportunity to be like, okay, great, I heard all the negative, I want to hear some positive too.
So there's a quote by Abraham Hicks that I love: "There are always choices there for you. In other words, you can look at the hole in the wall, or you can look at the beautiful painting. You can look at the light bulb that is out, or you can see the light bulb that is working. You can look at your mate in his positive aspect, or you can look at your mate in his negative aspect. You can look at your body and find something that pleases you, or find something that doesn't. You can remember your childhood and find something of pleasure, or you can find something that makes you feel discouraged. You can remember a compliment, or you can remember somebody down on you. You can remember your love. Or you can remember your hate. In other words, you have that choice in every moment."
And so I like to think about this when I'm ruminating and negativity, or listening to something negative, it's just like, alright, we can do negative, but let's also do positive.
So, final question, I like to ask myself frequently: How can I E.A.T. Equal Air Time this situation? Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to Equal Air Time and to love.
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Relatable Thoughts Podcast
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #24: Say What I Feel with Caleb Price
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their lives.
We have the amazing Caleb Price sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Caleb, briefly introduce yourself.
Hi guys, so my name's Caleb, I am 24. I turned 25 actually in two days, Thursday, so when we're recording. I don't know when this is coming out, but I turn 25, and so I'm pretty young. I'm also a guy, but I'm also a life coach, which is awesome. I love it. So I specialize in coaching specifically, college students or young adults. Really of any age, you just want to find more purpose in life, who want to break up with anxiety, and like find their version of success in the world in which we live. And so, and a big part of that is focusing on love and loving ourselves. And that's one of the biggest things that brought me into this work.
So yeah, I'm super excited to be here. And then I guess, fun facts: I also play the violin, I like to make pizza in my spare time and, I don't know, I'm a big movie nerd, which you'll see, cuz my quote is from a movie.
That is so fun. I love violin, pizza, and movies. Sounds like an awesome combination. I love it.
Alright, so first question: How do you incorporate love into your business and or your life?
For me, I incorporate it by always, reminding myself daily, why I'm doing it and reminding myself that I love myself however I'm showing up in the day. When it comes to my business or when it just comes to my day to day life.
So recently I just started a full-time job. And so I'm doing that alongside this coaching thing before it was just school and coaching, which was like also busy, but this is a new kind of busy where like I'm going to a job. And then after I'm tired and I'm like ugh. And so it can be really hard, easy to be like hard on myself, or be like, I don't want to show up this way or like this isn't worth it, or it's not gonna do anything.
But, whenever I have a conversation with someone about like, they're just like, well, how did you get into life coaching? I'm always reminded by how I felt in that moment when I was getting coached for the first time, and just how my life was dramatically changed that day. Where I was like, basically my coach told me how I wasn't loving myself, and how I was making everything about needing to change, needing to be something, needing to show up in a certain way. When the gift of life is I just get to, I don't have to be anything. And that right now I'm a hundred percent lovable. I can just show up. And it's from that place of love that we get to do amazing things and we have the possibility to change.
And so, it was that revelation that just like shocked my whole world. And it's that where like a couple months down the line, I was just like, why does no one know about this? Why do none of my friends know about the truth that you are a hundred percent loved and lovable right now. You don't have to change. And it's just our brain's getting in the way of that basically. Telling us that, you know, telling us things that aren't true, or trying to make the truth seem wrong. And so that's why I work on reminding myself that I look at myself in the mirror, and I just remind myself, hey I'm loved. However, we're showing up today. It's gonna be great. And it's not to say, it's not perfect by any means, but I think part of the goal and is just in love, is always striving towards this reminder, cuz it's so easy to forget that we're supposed to love ourselves.
Ahhh, Caleb, this is just making my heart sing because I have a 25 year old son as well. And just how you know right now, hey, I love me. I love all these things about me. I want to share that. I mean, ahhh, that's amazing, amazing stuff. Where did you even, I mean, learn about this, where did you even, and maybe you're going to talk about this later. I don't know, I mean:
I can, so yeah, my mom, she's actually a life coach. Okay, cool. April Price, and so she, so I was on my, on a mission for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in Italy. Okay. For two years. And during that time she found life coaching and was just beginning this whole transformation. So it was really cool cause I came home and I just saw a completely different person basically, like just someone who I saw was like, who loved themselves, and began like loving their life.
Not to say it was bad before, but it was just so much more now. I could just see her so much more full of life, and I kind of was like, well, that's great. And just moved on. But, and then I just kept noticing, wow, this is impactful, really different. And she started becoming a life coach and everything. And, and then it was at that point where I kind of had a downturn where I wasn't loving myself at all.
Like just noticing this pattern of feeling the need to perform, to be a perfectionist to people please, and around 2020 happened, and I was just like, wasn't in love with my classes, my major, thought, how am I going to get a job, or do anything. Like, I hate it all. And like, and I was just dealing with a lot of stress, and then like put matters, like make it even worse basically, I was dating someone and I thought that was where my anxiety was coming from. So I broke up with her and that only made me more anxious. And so it was just this like, at this very low point, I wasn't caring about myself. I wasn't on my side. And it was just at that point where I was just like, enough's enough. I gotta get, there's something that I need to do.
And so I reached out to a coach, and that's when I realized, and that's like the, for me, like the funniest thing is it's never like, oh, it's like, I expected like, oh, I'm gonna change all these things and then I'll finally be good and like, okay, and feel good about life. It's not about that. It's just like, you're just depriving yourself of feeling good right now, cuz that's totally a hundred percent available to you. You're just saying that you can't feel that way.
Um hum, well for you to realize that and know your value, like in your heart, I can see it as we're talking, is just amazing. And I love that you're choosing to share that. That's so awesome. Ahh, alright Caleb, so number two: What is something you love about you and why?
That's a hard one because, well, it's hard usually for people because it's hard to talk about, you know, why they love themselves. Um hum, and I don't know, you can come with excuses, like bragging and whatnot. For me, it's like, there's a lot of things to choose from that I do love about myself and I do care, but it's something that I have practiced it. Before this point it'd have been, been like, well, what's there to love, but just like from this transformation, it's just this change of really trying to just seek and like understand like anything about me I could love, even if it's something that's like, I don't know, kind of funny or kind of weird. Like, I don't know.
Like, one thing that I really love about myself is my laugh personally. Like I feel like I have a great laugh. It's just a lot of fun. I like to tell jokes. I like to be funny or more importantly, I like to laugh with people or at people's jokes and stuff. I remember one experience in my life, like where we were at a musical, my sister was performing at and it was a comedy. It wasn't, it was supposed to be funny. It wasn't just making fun of it. So it was supposed to be funny. And me and my friend, we were dying laughing. And later that week, or sometime, either my sister or some of her friends or someone they reached out and they were just like, I could tell you were in the audience cuz of your laugh and like you made it that much more enjoyable. And it's, and like, you know, my siblings would be like, let's go to the movies cuz like with you, it's more fun cuz you're gonna laugh and your laugh is like contagious.
And so that could easily for me be something like, oh, I'm being noticed, I'm obnoxious. And like sometimes my brain does tell me that, but I've just chosen to accept it as like, this is who I am and like really lean into like, yeah, I like this about myself. I like that I laugh. A lot of people might not like that. I know probably some people watching a movie, they're gonna be like, well, now I can't hear what's going on, we need to have the subtitles on or something like that. But that's just like one thing that off the top of my head, like, I really love my laugh and just like, and also being able to find humor in even the, I don't know, most boring or most difficult circumstances.
Um hum, so fun. Ah, I love that too, we gotta get you laughing now. Alright Caleb, so before I ask you the last question, anything else you'd like to share, and where can our audience go to find out more about you?
Yeah definitely, for me as a coach, I focus a lot on helping young adults see themselves for who they truly are. That underneath all these thoughts of anxiety and fear, I help them try to understand the truth of why their body is communicating and their brain is communicating to them in this way.
For example, last night, I think one great truth that also really goes along with this is that one reason, I think the most important reason, why we experience fear, is because we love. Is because we care. Well, I was coaching someone and he was explaining all these fears and anxieties about having a difficult conversation with his romantic partner, about his desires and was worried about being selfish and like what she was gonna say and everything. And he had all this fear and anxiety and felt like I shouldn't be this way, you know, all these thoughts and this drama. And I just loved being able to remind him. And it just dawned on me, you know the reason why you're afraid is because you care about this person. You care, and you love them so much that you want them to like you, you want them to like still be with you after you express the desire.
I mean, that seems really extreme, but that's where our brain goes. Because that's what it wants, it cares. And while that's not necessarily the healthiest place, I love reminding ourself that our base desire, our default setting in for all of us as human beings, is love. It's returning to this idea that yes, love is how we operate, love is how we can truly see ourselves. We just have a brain that challenges us. That forces us to remind ourselves that, hey love is this answer that requires us to even have faith and believe in it when we don't see it happening, when we don't see the end in sight or any way that we could even be loved by others, or it just seems like love is out of our reach, or we just can't feel that way. Even, it just doesn't feel like we have that. It's about believing it and then trying and testing and striving. And it's just my firm belief that like love is like our default. And it's the reason why we do a lot of things. Sometimes, unfortunately, but most of the time it's for good.
Mm-hmm, so beautiful. Alright so where can people hear about you Caleb?
Oh yeah, so well my website is calebpricecoaching.com you can go visit that. And if you're, you know, young adults and you're curious about working with me, even if you're a parent, I help parents. I have a free worksheet telling them how they can be there in love and acceptance for their kids, even when they don't agree. Cuz as college kids, we kind of tend to choose our own paths and our parents don't usually agree necessarily with that. And so helping them to get to a loving place. And as well as I have a podcast, so my podcast is called Relatable Thoughts. I focus on advice and you know, young people and just also tell lots of funny stories to relate to life coaching principles. And you know, it's just a, it's a good time. So that's where you can find me. And also, I mean, Instagram that's social media is on there. So @calebthecollegecoach, that's where I'm at.
Okay on Instagram, and I'll put all of these things in the show notes, but just a shout out to your podcast. I just found out about it and started listening to it.
And I send it to all my single or all my adults kiddos, and I'm like, hey y'all listen to Caleb. My married ones, my single ones. I'm like everybody listen to Caleb. So I'm excited to listen to more of those too. So well done, and I love that a 24/25 year old guy has his own podcast. That's awesome. Yeah, I love it.
Nice, alright, the last question: What is your favorite question or quote about love?
So this one, it's really good. It's I didn't, I don't usually think of it as a quote. I mean, I pulled up a quote from it, but my favorite movie is a movie called Arrival. If you've seen it. It's with Amy Adams, Jeremy Renner, long story short it's about aliens, but the big plot about it is about how love basically like is not bound by time, and how our perception of time is bound by language and our thoughts. And it's really cool.
But there's this quote at the very end of it. Because the whole idea is about thinking about time differently. And so it comes, there's like some future time travel stuff and you have to all watch it. It's a really great movie. It'll blow your mind. But the most important part is at the very end, these two are talking, and so she asked, like, if you could see your whole life from start to finish, would you change things? And then Jeremy Renner responds and says, "well maybe I'd say what I feel more often." And it's this idea that he, I mean up until this point in his life, he just realized what he was lacking was kind of focusing on love and this desire. And so, and they be, you know, become a couple and it's really wonderful. And it's really interesting cuz then Amy Adams on her part, she sees from the end, from the beginning and she sees that, yeah, they're gonna end up divorcing, and she's like, but she still chooses to be with him. Because she knows that experiencing the love is going to make it all worth it, like going through it. That's what journey of life is. It's a really great movie. You all have to watch it. It's awesome.
But I just personally love the concept of maybe I'd say what I feel more often, specifically about love. I used to, I don't know, kind of make fun of myself for wanting to say like, I love you so much. Like at the end of every phone call with my family, or even to my friends who like, you know, they're bros, they're guys. They're not saying I love you, probably hardly ever. And it was just this idea in my mind of like, I want to really just normalize love and really normalize this idea about like, if I feel a certain way then like, why am I depriving other people from hearing it? And why am I depriving myself of feeling satisfied in letting people know? And so it's just, that's my quote. It's really good.
Yes it is. "Maybe I'd say what I feel more often."
Hmmm, something to think about.
Thank you Caleb, for sharing your tidbits of love with us. Have a good one y'all, and here's to love.
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Is it T or F?
Here's a simple way to figure this out.
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #23: T or F
I'm guessing most of you have taken tests where T or F, meaning true or false, were the options. I loved quizzes like this because I had a 50% chance of getting it right. I remember my first test experience in college, all the worry about going to the testing center, what it would be like. I'd heard stories of how scary it was. It's completely different now, but for you old timers like me, who know how a testing center used to be, it was quite an experience.
Well, I remember thinking, and I think it was a science class I was taking, how hard could it be? It's multiple choice. There's lots of true or false questions. I'm sure it's not gonna be that bad. Well , I didn't do too hot on that test. And instead of just A, B, C, D, or E, it was A and B, L and M, Q and R, A, B, C; so many options that you really had to know your stuff. And I learned very quickly that I needed to study a lot more in order to pass these quizzes.
Well, back to true or false. I always thought T or F was interesting, especially when I started learning how it relates to our minds. Now, one of the very first things I teach my Lovin Me members, is to understand the difference between T or F, meaning thought or fact. Now in order to do this, you need to have some thoughts and facts to work with.
So similar to cleaning out a drawer or your closet, it's helpful to take everything out of your mind and then intentionally choose what's useful, and what you want to keep and to put back. And then also the stuff that you don't need and you want to get rid of. So, if we're going to see what's going on in our minds, we want to be aware of what's up there.
And the simplest way I've found to do this, is what I call a Thought Dump. Where you grab a piece of paper and a pen, and you write down everything that comes to mind. Even doing this for just a few minutes is helpful, to get all of your thoughts on paper. Then you can see what's going on in your mind and you notice the things you want to keep, and the things you want to toss, just like cleaning out your closet.
Well, after I do a Thought Dump, I read back through and notice, okay, which of these things are actually facts, which are true, which could I prove in court. Which are facts and then noticing, which are simply my thoughts. Often we think everything is true, but in reality, most of the things bothering us are our thoughts about the facts and not the facts themself.
So if you want a fun quiz to do, try a Thought Dump. Once you clean out your mind and have it on paper, go back and note, which is a thought, and which is a fact? Is each phrase that you wrote down a T or an F? Facts we can't change, but thoughts we can change. When we start tweaking our thinking, then we get the results we truly desire.
So if you want to play the T or F game with me, and accomplish your goals, improve your relationships with others and yourself; join my Lovin Me Program, and together we'll make that happen.
So try a Thought Dump. Distinguish between your Ts and Fs. And then, a question to ask your Ts; Is this a thought I want to keep or tweak?
Hmmm, something to think about. Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to Ts and Fs and love.
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Find out what a lobster has to do with creative living. Thank you Elizabeth Gilbert, for a beautiful book~
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #22: Big Magic & A Lobster
I just finished reading the book Big Magic, by Elizabeth Gilbert. Now, I got mixed up on this book recommendation and I thought I was getting The Big Leap, but instead I got Big Magic, and maybe it was by some big magic that that happened because what a fascinating book.
Elizabeth shares on the first page of the book.
Question: What is creativity?
Answer: The relationship between a human being and the mysteries of inspiration.
We all have jewels deep within us, and the hunt to uncover these jewels is creative living. The courage to go on the hunt in the first place, that's what separates a mundane existence from a more enchanted one. The often surprising results of the hunt, that's what Elizabeth calls Big Magic.
Well there's lots more packed into this book that I definitely recommend reading. And I want to share the story she tells at the very end...
"Little Brother was an aspiring painter. He saved up all his money and went to France to surround himself with beauty and inspiration. He lived on the cheap. Painted every day. Visited museums. Traveled to picturesque locations. Bravely spoke to everyone he met, and showed his work to anyone who would look at it. One afternoon, Little Brother struck up a conversation in a cafe with a group of charming young people, who turned out to be some species of fancy aristocrats.
The charming young aristocrats took a liking to Little Brother and invited him to a party that weekend in a castle. They promised Little Brother that this was going to be the most fabulous party of the year. It would be attended by the rich, by the famous, and by several crowned heads of Europe. Best of all, it was to be a masquerade ball, where nobody skimped on costumes. It was not to be missed. Dress up, they said, and join us.
Excited, Little Brother worked all week on a costume that he was certain would be a show stopper. He looked all around Paris for materials, and held back neither on the details nor the audacity of his creation. Then he rented a car, and drove to the castle three hours from Paris.
He changed into his costume in the car and ascended the castle steps. He gave his name to the butler who found him on the guest list and politely welcomed him in. Little Brother entered the ballroom, head held high, upon which he immediately realized his mistake.
This was indeed a costume party. His new friends had not misled him there, but he had missed one detail in the translation. This was a themed costume party. The theme was a medieval court, and little brother was dressed as a lobster. All around him, the wealthiest and most beautiful people of Europe were attired in finery and elaborate period gowns, draped in heirloom jewels, sparkling with elegance as they waltzed to a fine orchestra.
Little Brother, on the other hand, was wearing a red leotard, red tights, red ballet slippers, and giant red foam claws. Also, his face was painted red. This is the part of the story where I must tell you that little brother was over six feet tall and quite skinny, but with the long waving antenna on his head, he appeared even taller. And he was also of course, the only American in the room.
He stood at the top of the steps for one long gastly moment. He almost ran away in shame. Running away in shame seemed like the most dignified response to this situation, but he didn't run. Somehow, he found his resolve. He'd come this far after all, he'd worked tremendously hard to make this costume and he was proud of it.
He took a deep breath, and walked onto the dance floor. He reported later that it was only his experience as an aspiring artist that gave him the courage and the license to be so vulnerable and absurd. Something in life had already taught him to just put it out there, whatever it is. That costume was what he had made after all, so that's what he was bringing to the party.
It was the best he had. It was all he had. So he decided to trust himself, to trust in his costume, to trust in the circumstances. As he moved into the crowd of aristocrats, a silence fell, the dancing stopped, the orchestra stuttered to a stop. The other guests gathered around Little Brother. Finally someone asked him what on earth he was? Little Brother bowed deeply and announced, I am the court lobster.
Then laughter, not ridicule, just joy. They loved him. They loved his sweetness, his weirdness, his giant red claw, his bright spandex tights. He was the trickster among them, and so he made the party. Little Brother even ended up dancing that night with the Queen of Belgium."
Elizabeth says, "This is how you must do it people. You must stubbornly walk into that room regardless, and you must hold your head high. You made it, you get to put it out there. Never apologize for it. Never explain it away. Never be ashamed of it. You did your best with what you knew and you worked with what you had in the time you were given. You were invited and you showed up, and you simply cannot do more than that.
They might throw you out, but then again, they might not. They probably won't throw you out actually. The ballroom is often more welcoming and supportive than you could ever imagine. Somebody might even think you're brilliant and marvelous. You might end up dancing with royalty.
Or, you might just end up having a dance alone in the corner of the castle with your big red foam claws waving in the empty air. That's fine too. Sometimes it's like that. What you absolutely must not do, is turn around and walk out. Otherwise, you will miss the party. And that will be a pity because, we did not come all this great distance, and make all this great effort, only to miss the party at the last moment."
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And as Elizabeth shares in my final thought from the book, "The treasures that are hidden inside of you are hoping you will say yes." Hmmm, something to think about. Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to creativity and love.
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Sharing some of the best quotes from This Is Us
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Hey Y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #21 ~ This Is Us
I recently binge watched the last season of This Is Us. Now, if you've never seen this show, and want to watch something that is real, relatable, raw, and authentic, and brings up all the feels, this show is it. There are so many things I love about the beautiful, messy Pearson bunch.
A quick synopsis: This Is Us is a television series that follows the lives and families of two parents and their three kids in several different timeframes. There are so many takeaways from this show for me, but just want to share my favorite quote from each of the five main characters.
So Kevin says, "Sometimes you just got to do the right thing. You got to do the right thing, even if it's not what you want."
Kate says, "But the truth is I'm strong. And the things that I have been through have made me tough as hell."
Randall says, "Everyone sees their childhood with different lenses."
Jack says, "When you're young, you're always trying to be older. And when you get old, you're always trying to go back. Try and appreciate the moments, you know?"
Well, before I wrap this up with my favorite last quote; What's a TV show or a movie that you like? Why? Share that with your friend or family. Maybe even take them to a movie or watch a show with them.
I think throughout watching this series, my overall things that I've learned from This Is Us, is to be present, to appreciate the little things, to keep showing up. And as most of us are in the middle of summer right now; How could we do that? Maybe a TV show or movie remind you of something that you could share with someone you love.
Alright, well to wrap this up with my favorite quote from Rebecca Pearson, the cute mama of the show. She says, "Take the risks. Make the big moves, even if they're small ones. Forge ahead with your lives in any and every direction that moves you. I'm asking you to be fearless." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to being fearless and to love.
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Ways to connect with Jamie~
instagram.com/jmebills
jamiebills.com
twitter.com/jmebills
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #20: The Most Wonderful Thing with Jamie Bills
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their lives.
We have the amazing Jamie Bill's sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright Jamie, briefly introduce yourself.
Hi, thanks for having me here. Like she said, my name is Jamie Bills and I live in Michigan with my husband and our three girls. And I am currently working toward my dream of becoming a picture book author.
So when I'm not working on developing the craft or helping my critique partners or writing and revising my own manuscripts, I am posting reviews about other picture books on Instagram, and that's been fun. I enjoy, I've been able to get to know a lot of different authors and illustrators and reviewers from around the world. And it's also been fun to start working as an influencer. For multiple publishers, which isn't as lucrative as it sounds, but it has provided a lot of free books.
That is awesome. I love it. I'm curious, like how did you get interested in picture book author? I mean, I'm not even totally sure what that is, maybe you can explain what that is?
Okay, so when we were just in college and didn't have a lot of money and Ken was busy, my husband, I would often go to Goodwill to get books for my girls, and I would spend a lot of time and we started building up our library there, and I just started realizing like how much I love picture books and just my passion for it. Anytime we go into a bookstore, I directly go to the picture book. So there's picture book, middle-grade, YA, and adult. So picture books are just the ones that are illustrated for the littles, is specifically what I'm interested in. They're typically 32 pages. There's a very, standard, obviously there's deviations, but that's your standard, 32 page illustrated book.
I love that. I used to teach elementary school back in the day and I remember a few, I mean, picture books are pretty impactful, so that's so fun that you do that. Alright, so three questions for you today. The first one is: How do you incorporate love into your business and or your life?
Okay so with the picture books, like I was saying, when my girls were little, we would spend countless hours reading together. And in fact, at one point I made it a goal to read every picture book in the library where we were living at that time, because we were just checking out so many, I thought, well, let's just start at A and go through the whole library, which was pretty crazy, but we'd take like 30 at a time. And we did end up moving before we were able to complete that specific goal. However, we have read thousands of books together.
Those moments of just snuggling together and laughing and learning and going on these literary adventures are just priceless to me. And as I work on my own manuscripts, I try to keep that in mind. And my favorite type of picture books have both humor and heart, because I think it's really good for kids to have a funny escape from life. Like life things are hard for kids, you know. And it's just so good for them to be able to laugh, but also if a book touches their heart, it's more powerful. They'll remember it and they'll want to return to it. So that's the aim of what I'm writing and the type of books I like to read the most.
That is so beautiful, how you've incorporated that with your girls, that you're able to spend time doing something you love with them, as well as doing something you love yourself and creating that for others. I love that. Awesome. Okay. Number two. What is something you love about you and why?
So when you think about that question, sometimes it's easiest, you know, if someone has told you, and one thing that my Grandpa Lawrence used to praise me for when I was little and a teenager, he'd always say you can make anything fun. And I realized like for the most part that he was right, that I do have an ability to make the most out of pretty hard situations. And I can find excitement in small things. And I love that because it helps me feel younger I think. Because kids have the ability to be extremely excited about something as small as being line leader or having like five extra minutes of recess or, you know, just little things.
And when I was a teenager, I remember looking around and noticing that adults typically don't have that much enthusiasm and it kinda made me nervous. Then I thought, I don't want to lose this, and I actually started praying earnestly that I would always be able to keep that enthusiasm for life and feel those exciting feelings. And that's been a prayer that's been answered and I'm grateful for that.
And I totally agree with that because the time I've been able to spend with you, you totally know how to have fun. And it's so fun being with you and the things that you've taught me. So that's awesome. Okay, before I ask you the last question, where can our audience go to find out more about you?
Okay, so I'm, like I said, I'm on Instagram @jmebills is my handle on Instagram and I post multiple times a week, typically reviews, but sometimes other ideas. And then I also have a website, jamiebills.com, and there I have some booklets. I have different fun ideas of things that you can do with books, as well as just a little bit more information about my writing journey.
And if you're a writer yourself, I actually have a section where I share tips that I've learned at conferences and through some of the education that I'm going through, books or seminars or different things like that.
That's excellent. And we'll put those in the show notes as well. That's fun to have all those resources. Cool. Okay, so last question. What is your favorite question or quote about love?
Okay, so of course I'm going to use something from a picture book. And one of my favorite quotes about love comes from one of my favorite picture books that was written in 1967. It's titled Pickle Chiffon Pie, and the author's name was Jolly Roger Bradfield. And in this book, there are three princes that all want to marry the princess. So the king sends them on this journey into the forest to find the most wonderful thing. And whoever can find the most wonderful thing will get her hand in marriage. So two have them bring back extra ordinary things, but Prince Bernard comes back empty handed and it's not that he hadn't found anything wonderful. He just didn't want the oger to scare the princess. He didn't want to disturb the painting mice. And although the three, no snoozel could make really good pies, he didn't want her young snoozels to be left without a mother.
So my favorite quote comes when, the king is talking to him and in response to him not bringing anything back, he says: "You brought back a story of kindness and love and consideration for others, truly the most wonderful thing of all."
Hmmm, something to think about. I love that Jamie. Well, thank you, thank you for sharing your tidbits of love with us today.
Have a good one y'all and here's to love.
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I created an acronym for the word URGE, to help us allow the desire to be present without answering it. You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin.
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #19: Urges
Last week on my walk, I all of a sudden started thinking about no bake cookies. It was so random that this popped into my head. I didn't see food or anything. My mouth started salivating and I was having a hard time thinking about anything else besides no bake cookies. This was an urge. An urge is an intense desire caused by what we're thinking. And at that time on my walk, I was having an urge for no bake cookies.
Our brains are programmed to seek pleasure, avoid pain, and be efficient. I was sure at that moment that no bake cookies were an absolute must for me. Often our desires come from an effort to numb or avoid unpleasant feelings. Most of us are not taught how to manage our emotions, so we turned to something external to dull or distract ourselves. When we create desire or urge with our thoughts and then reward that urge by giving into the desire, we program ourselves to desire it even more.
Many times we try to react, resist, or avoid urges. Well today, I want to teach you how to allow and process an urge. So, I created an acronym for the word URGE. I love acronyms because it's an easy way for me to remember and teach concepts.
So think of the word URGE, the U stands for understand. Understand I am having an urge. It feels urgent, but I don't have to answer or reward or respond to it.
The R stands for recognize. Recognize that an urge is a feeling in our body caused by a thought. A feeling is a vibration in our body, nothing more. When we are curious and willing to experience these vibrations, we find that we can feel any emotional.
These are a few questions you can ask yourself when you're having an urge. For example, when I was having an urge on my walk for no bake cookies, I asked myself: Where is this feeling in my body? It was kind of in my chest. And I then said is a hard or soft? Well it was kind of like a ball, rock hard. And then sometimes you can ask, is it fast or slow? Mine was pretty fast. And then another question: How does this feeling make me want to react? Well, it made me want to go have some no bake cookies. And then I said: Why am I feeling this? And I recognized it was because of the thought I must have no bake cookies, and that was feeding into the desire and I thought it was going to be over if I didn't have no bake cookies.
Alright, so the G in urge stands for goal. Our goal is to unlearn desire by allowing urges to be there, without responding to them. Because we aren't used to doing this, it's going to require some practice. It simply takes time and repetition to learn how to allow urges. The goal is to have an urge, and allow that desire to be present without answering it.
So a few ways we can do that is, first pretend you're describing the experience to an alien who has never experienced an urge. What does it feel like? Where do they feel it? What are they thinking?
Watch how you experienced the urge as though you are sitting across the room, this is another way you can do it. This creates distance between the experience, including the thought, you're choosing, and the feeling that it's creating. So basically you're the watcher and you're simply watching the urge.
Another way is to hold the urge. Accept the urge, and be present with it. Allow it to be there. Pretend to hold it in your hand and approach it with childlike curiosity.
And one last way to allow the urge; to be present without answering it. And simply allow it, move toward it. Open up to that emotion.
Alright, the last letter in our URGE acronym is E. E is for evaluate. As we practice allowing urges, we get better at feeling them, and the intense desire begins to dissipate. Again, this will take time and practice just like anything new, but rather than being afraid of the urge, see it as an opportunity to get better at allowing urges.
So to do this, you could write about the urge in a notebook, or have a jar and put something visual inside each time you allow an urge. I do this, I have a jar in my kitchen, and every time I allow an urge, I'll put a bead in the jar.
Now for those of you who think you have to get this right all the time, no, this is not how it is. You don't have to start over when you quote, mess it up. Nope. We just have a jar. And when we allow urges, we stick a bead or whatever you want in the jar. And watch it grow, and it doesn't matter how quickly it fills up. You're just practicing allowing urges, and seeing something to notice when you do them.
Being able to allow an urge is a skill. By practicing this over and over and being compassionate with ourselves when we give into an urge, we'll become really good at allowing urges. So, if you want to strengthen your mental muscles and increase your ability to recognize and allow urges join my Lovin Me Program. Besides the urge acronym I created, remember that's Understand, Recognize, Goal, and Evaluate. I also have many other ways to help you get the results you truly desire.
Lastly, one of my favorite quotes is from the amazing life coach, Rachel Hart. She says, "Urges are powerless without our consent." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to allowing urges and love.
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"Being human is not a bout being any one particular way; it is about being as life creates you"....
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #18: Self-Compassion
I recently read the book Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff, countless words of wisdom in this beautiful read. Just a few gold nuggets I'd like to share. Kristin says, "Being human is not about being any one particular way. It is about being as life creates you, with your own particular strengths and weaknesses, gifts and challenges, quirks and oddities."
She shares three core components of self-compassion. The first is Self-Kindness. Self-kindness means that we stop the constant self judgment, the disparaging internal commentary that most of us have come to see as normal. It requires us to understand our failures instead of condemning them. Self-kindness involves more than merely stopping self-judgment. It involves actively comforting ourselves, responding just as we would to a dear friend in need With self-kindness, we soothe and calm our troubled minds. We make a peace offering of warmth, gentleness, and sympathy from ourselves, to ourselves. Instead of seeing ourselves as a problem to be fixed, self-kindness allows us to see ourselves as valuable human beings who are worthy of care.
One way to practice self kindness, Kristin calls, "the hugging practice". So basically what you do is you give yourself a gentle hug. It kind of seems a little bit silly at first, but your body doesn't know that, it just responds to the physical gesture of warmth and care.
Skin is an incredibly sensitive organ. Research indicates that physical touch releases oxytocin, which reduces fear and anxiety. So I've been trying out this hugging process, even just crossing my arms with a little extra pressure, hugging myself. When I do that, that can be really calming in difficult situations.
I've also heard that there are some great benefits from eight second hugs, and my boys sort of love it when I hug them for eight seconds. But give it a try, just giving yourself a hug, and then also giving those you love an eight second hug.
Alright, so the second core component of self-compassion is Common Humanity. Common humanity is feeling connected with others in the experience of life, rather than feeling isolated and alienated by our suffering. When we're in touch with common humanity, we remember that feelings of inadequacy and disappointment are shared by all.
A couple things that separate us from this feeling of common humanity, is when we play the comparison game. When we compare ourselves with others. And when we do this, we only further distance ourselves from the people whose success makes us feel bad about ourselves in the first place. The sad irony is that the very reason we want to succeed, is because we want to feel accepted and worthy, to be close to others, to feel that we belong. But when we compare ourselves with others, it does the exact opposite.
Another separation from the filling of common humanity is the illusion of perfectionism. Perfectionism is defined as the compulsive need to achieve and accomplish one's goals with no allowance for falling short of one's ideals. These unrealistic high expectations mean perfectionist will inevitably be disappointed.
It's like that black and white thinking. That one way or the other. I really like to play in the gray, to play in that middle part. And I talk more about this in podcast: Play in the Gray - episode #9. So if you want to hear more about that, check out episode #9.
Alright, so one last core component of self-compassion that Kristen shares is Mindfulness. Mindfulness is when we hold our experience in balanced awareness, rather than ignoring our pain or exaggerating it. It's a clear scene, and nonjudgmental acceptance of what's occurring in the present moment. When we're mindful, we see things as they are, no more, no less. In order to respond to our current situation in the most compassionate, and therefore most effective manner.
Mindfulness provides incredible freedom because it means we don't have to believe every passing thought or emotion as real and true. Now when I notice I'm distracted, or resisting feeling anything, it's helpful for me to take a few deep breaths, and think about what is happening right now. Staying present. This redirects me to the mindful state that I want to be in. Mindfulness provides us with the opportunity to respond, rather than simply react.
Well, that's it. So those are what Kristin teaches the three components in order to be truly self-compassionate: Self-Kindness, Common Humanity and Mindfulness. And there's lots more information in her book, if you're interested in learning more about self-compassion.
Now this is also what we do in the Lovin Me Program. There are a variety of ways we strengthen our emotional and mental muscle. Y'all are really good at loving and having compassion for others. And I'll help you further develop your self-compassion and become an expert at loving yourself. If you want to learn more, go to my website: leannaustin.com to sign up.
Now, one last favorite quote from the book is by Carl Rogers. He says, "The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to self compassion and to love.
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What's one of your recent embarrassing moments?
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Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #17: My Awkward Afternoon
I recently attended a Mastermind Conference in Austin, Texas. There were 1500 other life coaches there and I was all over the place anticipating this event.
Well the day finally arrived, and I woke up nice and early, went to the airport, got on the airplane in my jeans and pink sweatshirt. Knowing that once I got to the hotel, I could change in something else. While there waiting, some very kind people from the area reached out to me and said, Hey, do you want to meet up and take an Uber over together to the hotel? I thought that sounded great. So I met up with them, made some new friends after I landed, and off we went over to the hotel.
Well, they were all staying at the hotel where the Mastermind was held, but I was staying with another friend, just around the corner. Well, I thought it was just around the corner, but I saw the name of the hotel as we were driving in, and it said Hyatt over there, the hotel. And so I'm looking around and it's probably a good three quarters of a mile away from where we were, which is fine, cause I like to walk. So we dropped their stuff off, and they offered to leave my suitcase there with theirs, but I thought, well, I'll just take it, and then after lunch, I'll go over to my hotel and check-in.
So we went to the hotel, excuse me, we went to the place for lunch and I'm pulling my carry-on behind us. And it's making, you know, those weird noises when the cart, the wheels are being crazy and it's so annoying, cause it keeps making that little clicking sound. It's doing that all the way to lunch. So here we hear LeAnn coming along, click, click, click clicking.
Well, we get to lunch. We sit down and eating, and I noticed that my phone is almost dead. It's not charged and I don't know how to charge it at this point. I don't have any way to connect and I really need that to figure out how to get to my hotel. So we're eating lunch with my new friends.
I'm totally distracted thinking about how I'm the only person in jeans and a pink sweatshirt right now, as well as how I'm going to get to the hotel, the noise this suitcase is making and all the things. Well, finally, I get up, excuse myself, and I go find my hotel. Well, I'm walking over there and it's a little farther than I thought. It's over across the bridge. It's under the viaducts, it's, you know, it's not probably the safest place for me to be traveling with my little carry on, pulling behind me and, ugh, I'm sure it was quite the sight.
Well, I go into the hotel and find out, this was not the hotel I was staying at. There apparently is another Hyatt hotel, which is right next door to the place where I was attending. I was so embarrassed that I had done this. So I get my bag. I get more directions, cause my phone at this point is not working. Have my little paper map, and I dragged myself over to walk back over. I'm sure anybody watching me thought this was very humorous as I'm pulling around my very noisy carry on. I get into the correct hotel and I go in the elevator and click on, I was on the 18th floor. So I jumped in the elevator and I start going up and it stops it's 16, and it won't go any higher. And I'm like, what in the world? I'm pushing all the buttons. It will not move. So I'm like, I am stuck in the elevator. I finally get here. I'm a little exasperated at this point. And finally I'm like, all right, well, I'll get off at this floor that I'm on, cause I can't go anywhere. I'm gonna go see if I can find stairs. Like can't even find the stairs in this place. And finally, when I do, they're all blocked off weird, and I find one of the people cleaning and I say, Hey, how do I get to floor 18? And she told me, you know, I don't know you're going to have to go talk to the front desk.
So I get back in thinking, all right, this can not be that hard to get to floor 18, and get back in the elevator. So again, feeling more embarrassed at this event-full afternoon that has taken me to get to my hotel. And I noticed there was a little thing in the elevator that says, put your card here or whatever it is, obviously I don't travel a ton.
And I didn't know that you have to show your key card in the elevator. So, finally figured that out, get to the 18th floor, get in my room, and I was about in tears at this point, it had been quite the afternoon. I was like, I don't know, what am I doing? I, you know, just craziness. So, I share that with you, just to help you know more about embarrassing things. Embarrassment, Brené Brown defines it as a fleeting feeling of self-conscious discomfort in response to a minor incident that was witnessed by others.
Now she says there's three types of events that can trigger embarrassment. The first committing a faux pas or social mistake, the second being the center of attention, and the third being in a sticky social situation. The last thing Brené shares about this is; embarrassment takes years to develop and its emergence coincides with the self-conscious ability to understand what others may be thinking of us.
So if you've ever been or raised a tween or teen, you know that they often spend more time being embarrassed than not. It's a constant cringe when we start seeing ourselves through others' eyes, and it stays that way until we get to midlife and fall apart, before we realize it takes just too much energy to try to manage perception.
I think I'm getting to the midlife point where yes, all the things happened and it was totally embarrassing. But as I sat in my hotel room after almost tears, and then chuckling about the events that had just unfolded, I remembered, you know what, this really doesn't matter. And even if all the other life coaches were witnessing me do this, it's okay.
So if you want to learn more about this embarrassing, or all the feels, and stop trying to control other people's perception of you, join my Lovin Me Program, and I'll help you make that happen. I love this quote: "Embarrassing moments create the best memories." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to embarrassment, memories, and love.
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You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin.
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #16: Connections with Aundrea DeMille.
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their life.
We have the amazing Aundrea DeMille sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. Alright, my Georgia girl, will you briefly introduce yourself.
A: It's always awkward when people, when I introduce myself, it's like tooting your own horn. But, I'm Aundrea DeMille. I've been in Utah for four years. I am the author of: Is it racism? How to Heal the Human Divide. Owner of 360 True Design Real Estate Photography. Mom of five boys, four still at home, one who has left the nest. And I do a lot of diversity equity and inclusion work. I was commissioned by the governor to do inclusion work here in the state of Utah; like a lot of trainings and speakings. And, I love all things, peanut butter and hate all things chocolate.
L: I love it, Aundrea. That's awesome! So fun all the things you do and I can relate to a mama of boys.
So three questions for you today. The first one, how do you incorporate love into your business and/or life?
A: So I would say with both, the way that I incorporate love, is leading with empathy first.
When we have clients in our real estate marketing company come to us with problems, the first thing that we do is listen with empathy and compassion, rather than getting defensive. And then we help solve that problem together. And I definitely do that personally as well. I'm not saying it's always easy, especially when tensions and feelings can get high in the DEI space.
If I'm doing a diversity, equity, and inclusion training, and there's, you know, a little bit of hostility in the audience, it can be very difficult to come from a place of empathy. But I make a conscious effort to pause, really listen and understand what they're saying, and then to empathize. I work really hard to tap into their energetic frequency, so I can feel what they feel and understand where they're coming from. And when I do that, it's easier to come together, and lead out with love. So I would say definitely with empathy, both in my photography company and when my diversity, equity, and inclusion space.
L: I love this, and I've witnessed this as I've listened to your amazing podcast; Wake Up Stories. It is so, ahh, just refreshing to hear how you do this, see how you live this, and it's beautiful. So yes, such a wonderful example of this. Thank you, I love that. Yeah. Alright, so the second one, what is something you love about you and why?
A: Again, that's hard to answer with one question. One of the things I love about myself is my God given talent to connect with people. People are naturally drawn to my energy and I've been blessed with the gift of articulation, and so I use that. I use that in all aspects of my life. I try to use it at home. It's not always as easy at home. It's actually easier with strangers. But that's one thing that I love about myself.
And I love my natural athletic ability. I'm naturally athletic, and I've always been involved in sports since I was a kid. I've always, once I hit high school, I was captain of my high school teams, captain of my college teams, just kind of a natural born leader. But my athleticism has actually led to me being more spiritual, because here where I live, I'm able to get out and hike a lot and connect with nature. And I'm not winded, I'm just naturally kind of in shape always. I know that kind of sounds arrogant, or maybe because I'm always moving my body, you know, if I don't hike, I'm doing a mile and a half walk up mountain hills with my dogs. You know, or paddle boarding in the summer, I ski in the winter. And so I use my natural athletic ability to connect with nature, which really helps me stay grounded in my spirituality, because I have my most spiritual experiences when I'm connected with nature, not when I'm in a church, or in a room, or it's just, if I'm barefoot in nature, it really helps me.
So I would say those are probably my two things and I guess it comes full circle because by using my athleticism to be out in nature and stay grounded, it helps me to let my light naturally shine and connect with other people. So, yeah, I would say those two.
L: So beautiful. I love that, and how the connectedness is, you know, with other humans as well as yourself through, I love that, connectedness, one of my favorites.
Okay. Well now, before I ask you the last question, is there anything else you want to share and where our audience can go to find out more about.
A: Yeah, for sure. If your listeners would like to connect, if you need help with business coaching, if you need a diversity, equity, and inclusion training and your environment, and your workplace, and your group, you can find me at: thewakeupstories.com That's s t o r i e s. You can also follow me on Instagram @aundrea_d_. And that's a u n d r e a. So the easiest place to find me is thewakeupstories.com, and to follow me on Instagram.
And if there's one message that I would leave with your audience is: I know it's easier said than done, but just walk the walk, you know, so many times we say, oh I love everybody. And well, I just teach people to be kind and teach my kids to be nice. But are we really? Right, when we have a difference of opinion, and we have passion behind those differences of opinions, no matter what it is, are we really coming from a place of love, and being open and listening to what others are saying from a place of empathy, or are we just defending our own points of view?
So if there's anything that I could leave, it would be; be open, because we're all here to evolve and change, and leave an impact. Everyone has gifts that God and the universe has given us. So I encourage everybody to tap into your specific gifts, and make a difference in your community and your home and your neighborhood. You don't have to write a book or have a podcast to make a difference. You can make a difference with your neighbors, your friends, your family members, just by having one conversation at a time.
L: I love the walk the walk, and I highly recommend listening to Aundrea's podcast: Wake Up Stories is fantastic. And she has so many, I mean, different backgrounds, genders, ethnicities, sexualities, everything. It's beautiful to hear all different takes on it. I enjoy listening to it too. So thank you for sharing that with our audience as well. Thank you. Alright, so the last question, what is your favorite question or quote about love?
A: Yeah, my favorite quote is, "You move towards and become that which you constantly think about and believe. And when I, I don't know who said it, I know who said it to me. I was early twenties, very well mid, actually late twenties, but very recently divorced and single mom. And I was at an event, when a fellow person in the neighborhood and from church, said this to me. And I don't know if she made it up or if it's a special quote, cause I've kind of heard it around before. But that, you know, if you move towards and become that which you constantly think about and believe, and if you do that from a place of love, your world will be amazing. Like miracles will unfold. You'll like walk with a beautiful peace and light within you, that inherently gives others permission to let their light and peace shine as well.
But it impacts everything. It impacts, you know, your academia, if you're in school and studying. Even if you're in higher ed, it impacts that. If you are wanting to grow a business, it does that. If you want to focus on being the best homemaker, it impacts that. You know, anything that you want to create, I think we forget, we have the power to create, right? If you believe in God listeners, or the universe, or creation in any shape, form or fashion, then you come from a power that created you, which means you have the power to create.
Just like if my dad was an athlete, I inherited his athletic genes. You inherit the power to create from your creator, and it's up to us to make our lives and this world a better place. And you can do that by focusing on, and I circled back to the quote, "you move towards and become that which you constantly think about and believe."
So, what are you thinking about? What do you believe? What are you becoming? What are you creating? And I encouraged to do that from a place of love.
L: Hmmm, something to think about y'all.
Thank you so much Aundrea. What a blessing you are, and it's so fun to see how you are truly changing the world. Thank you.
A: Oh, thank you. It was a pleasure. Thanks for having me on LeAnn.
L: Thanks y'all, have a good one, and here's to love.
A: We'll see ya.
L: If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself, check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com
This is one of my new favorite words! Tune in to find out what Propinquity means~
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #15: Propinquity
I recently attended my cute daughter-in-law, Sarah's college graduation. We've had our two sons and our other daughter-in-law graduate within the past year, and it was wonderful to finally be able to attend a graduation ceremony in person.
It made my heart smile, watching all these graduates. The excitement, the fear, the anticipation and anxiety, as they begin a new chapter in their lives. Everything ran seamlessly, and the four talks given where some of the best I've ever heard. I told Sarah to please graduate every year so I could come listen to these amazing speakers.
I want to share a new word I learned from the president of the university, Kevin Worthen. (Click HERE for link to full talk.) It's called propinquity, and it means the state of being close to someone or something; nearness. President Worthen shared three things to make propinquity a more positive factor in our lives, and I want to touch on two of them today.
He said, "first consciously seek in-person contact with others." So much of our lives are digital and there are some benefits to that. But being near someone in-person is so important. I felt that as I sat in graduation, the community of humans from all over the world, celebrating accomplishments, it was truly glorious. Doing that on zoom just doesn't have the same effect. We need propinquity. I challenge all of us to look for opportunities to be near other humans.
Well, the second word of advice from President Worthen, "consciously seek positive in-person interaction with those with whom you disagree." I love this. "People are increasingly polarized with respect to their views on almost every issue. But, interacting with those whose opinions are different, can foster trust and respect. Being with and learning from those whom we disagree, strengthens understanding, and creates bonds of propinquity that will help us deal positively with our differences," President Worthen said.
So I was thinking, what if we seek out interaction and learning from those whom we disagree? Hmmm. One of my all time favorite quotes is, "You either love someone or you don't understand them." What if we intentionally sought to understand those that we have a hard time loving? What if we were near them often, continually seeking to learn from and love them, no matter what our differences.
Thank you Sarah, for graduating and giving me the opportunity to hear about, and experience propinquity, meaning the state of being close to someone or something; nearness.
And a quote from Kevin Worthen to ponder, "The propinquity effect is a phenomenon, which explains the tendency of individuals to form close relationships with people they repeatedly encounter. Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to propinquity and love.
If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself, check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com
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You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast. Where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin.
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #14: Atlas of the Heart
Brené Brown has a new book called Atlas of the Heart. I love it. It's a beautiful book that I highly recommend.
It's an Atlas per say of 87 emotions and experiences that define what it means to be human. Brené says, "The anchor we are searching for is connection, and it is internal. To form meaningful connections with others, we must first connect with ourselves. But to do either, we must first establish a common understanding of the language of emotion and the human experience."
So Brené breaks down emotions into 13 sections and she starts each section off with, "the places we go when..." And then ties in all these 87 emotions. It's fascinating how she does this. Well, if discussing emotions or feelings is something that you want to avoid with a ten foot pole, which is kind of how I used to be. I didn't even know what a feeling was, let alone discuss it. But what I've learned about feelings the past five-ish years, there's actually some merit to learning about our feelings.
So let's play a game. Every day, and anytime during the day, I want you to pause for two minutes and notice what you're feeling. Just pause, anytime, every day. As you're noticing what you're feeling, give it a name. And if you're not sure what name the feelings or emotions are, you can get Brené's book, or you can Google emotions and there's a kazillion of them. But name what you're feeling. Is it, for example, stress, worry, excitement, frustration, bored, curious, hopeless, sad, compassion, guilt, lonely, anger, confusion, joy, and a million more. Whatever it is, just name it, and then feel it in your body.
What I mean by this is pretend you're describing what you're feeling inside your body, to someone who has never felt an emotion inside your body, they have no idea. Like where is it located? Is it hard or soft? What's the texture? Maybe you think of a color when you're feeling it. Be really detailed and just describe it.
That's it. So that's the game. Every day, pause for two minutes, notice what you're feeling, give it a name, and feel it in your body. Alright, so this is what I do every single day. And it has completely changed my life. This is why I created my Lovin Me Program for y'all to learn about and understand that our thoughts and feelings, end up as our results. And when we become aware of our emotions and thoughts, we can achieve the results we really want.
Many of you go to a gym to build your physical muscles. Well, if you want to strengthen your mental and emotional muscles, try my Lovin Me Program, and we will make that happen. Just come try it for a month. It's only 29 bucks and I promise it will transform your lives.
So back to Brené's book, there are lots of quotes that I love, but a favorite one is: "When we stop numbing and start feeling and learning again, we have to reevaluate everything, especially how to choose loving ourselves over making other people comfortable." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to connecting with ourselves and joining Lovin Me.
If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself, check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com.
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No matter how the people in your home show up, or don't show up. If your mom has passed on, if you don't have children, or simply don't enjoy Mother's Day, these 5 secrets I'm going to teach you, will create more compassion and less dread. So join now and hope to see y'all on May 5th.
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number 13: Out Loud Mistakes
I was filling in on the piano for a children's choir. An amazing conductor was leading these cute kiddos. They were so attentive and intrigued by all the fun activities she was doing with them to teach them the words of the song. Towards the end, she had them stand and sing the song. After it was over, she complimented them on singing loudly, even on the parts where they weren't sure of the words. And then she said something that struck a chord with me.
"An out loud mistake is better than a silent nothing." I wanted to jump up and say amen to that. How often do we stay silent? Or don't even try because someone else may hear or see us messing up. We all make mistakes and it's okay. In fact, the more mistakes we make, the more knowledge we gain.
What if we intentionally took action and made mistakes every day towards the things we really want, instead of silently doing nothing?
Y'all have heard of famous mistakes that created success, and here's just a few:
J K Rowling: her short-lived marriage imploded. She was jobless, a single parent, and so poor, she was almost homeless. She felt like the biggest failure she ever knew, but she kept learning from her mistakes and created Harry Potter for us all to enjoy.
Albert Einstein: he couldn't speak fluently until the age of nine. He was kicked out of school. He said, "I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work." His research has influenced so many aspects of our life. He also said, "Success is failure in progress."
Abraham Lincoln: his business failed. He suffered a nervous breakdown. He was defeated in his run for president. He refused to stop trying his best, and became the 16th president of the United States.
Michael Jordan: he missed more than 9,000 shots in his career. Lost more than 300 games. 26 times he was trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. He said, "I failed over and over and over again in my life, and that is why I succeed."
Think of the mistakes you've made and what you've learned from them. It's kind of like in the movie, miss-takes are planned. Those acting and filming the shows don't beat themselves or others up about the miss-takes, they're part of the process. Sometimes we're even lucky enough to see the blunders, and those miss-takes can be some of our favorite parts.
So Tiffany Wade, thank you for teaching one of my new favorite quotes: "An out loud mistake is better than a silent nothing." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to love and making mistakes.
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You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode #12: Silly Love Songs with Jenna Kim Jones
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their life.
We have the amazing Jenna Kim Jones sharing some beautiful love insights with us today. So Jenna, why don't you briefly introduce yourself.
Jenna: Hello! Well thank you so much for having me, LeAnn. You are such a great friend and I'm thrilled to be here and I'm excited about your podcast. So I'm happy to be here.
I am a professional stand-up comedian. I've been doing comedy for 10 years. I live in Georgia, and I've only lived in Georgia for four and a half years, but I love it. I'm trying to make it my home. I'm like, I don't want to go anywhere. It's fabulous. I have three kids, I'm married, and that's pretty much...Oh, and I podcast, I also podcast. So, yeah, I have a great career, and a great family, and you know, every day is just a journey. I'm just plugging along. Like everybody else.
LeAnn: I love that. Yes, we're all living the dream, right? Awesome. Alright, well I've got three questions for you today, and the first one is: How do you incorporate love into your business and/or your life?
Jenna: Okay. This is a great question. I am a comedian. Okay, and I love being a comedian. So I'll just start right then. I did not know I would be a comedian. It was not a life goal of mine. I fell into it after college and I felt like I found my love language. That is my jokes are my love language. I think sometimes people get an idea about comedy because a lot of times it's kind of edgy, or maybe it can feel mean-spirited, but I try to make sure that my comedy is fun and light. And do I make fun of things? Absolutely. But my intention is never to hurt anybody. My intention is literally just to point stuff out and have a great time. So like I said, jokes are my love language. If I'm teasing you, if I'm making jokes around you, you know, I've got you back.
LeAnn: Well, I've been able to go to one of your shows and it was amazing, the best. And I love that you do make it fun and light and so good. Awesome.
Jenna: Well, that's sort of, I just don't like to, I think comedy sometimes gets a, people get the idea like, oh, you're going to make fun of me, or you're going to, you know, step into places I don't want to hear about or whatever it might be.
Maybe I'm not expressing that well, but the idea is I try to just make it fun. Life is supposed to be fun. Life is really hard for a lot of people. Life is challenging, but I think it's important regardless of what's going on to have a little bit of fun.
LeAnn: Yes. Totally agree. I love it.
Jenna: Oh and sorry, I could just talk forever. LeAnn, you invited the wrong person on your podcast. Okay, I don't want to not say this, I took some notes so that I wouldn't forget because I just had a baby like seven months ago and I'm still in that like foggy brain space. So I do have some notes. So, I have a podcast as well. I said that already, and it's called Couple Friends and I do it with my husband and he is hilarious and he's wonderful. And I will, this is so corny to say, but he really is the love of my life. Um, I hate myself for saying it, but he is, okay.
And to the point where let's get real, I told him if I die early in some horrible tragedy, I can't have you remarrying anyone. Okay, because I'm just going to be way too jealous. I'm going to have to come back and haunt you. It's a whole thing. So we just got to hope that life is long together. But we do a podcast together, and it's purely dedicated to just being silly and lighthearted and fun. We do not take on the world's problems in our podcasts. We like to think we are a break from the world's problems. And, I think when people listen to that, you can tell that we're just here to like spread the love.
LeAnn: I so, so, so agree with that because I love listening to your podcast and listening to you and Al, and learning all these fascinating things like today when I listened, I heard that Al plays volleyball. I had no clue that he does that. So it is, I love that it's just fun and loving and light and oh, you guys are just beautiful examples of, of doing that. So thank you. Alright, so number two: what is something you love about you and why?
Jenna: Ooh, these, this is a hard one. Cause you know I just want to be self-deprecating all the time, but, that's just what I like to do. But I do, I will say that I do like an adventure, so not like put me up in the sky and throw me out of an airplane kind of adventure. No, no, no, no. I'm a huge baby. I don't want to do that. That scares me. I don't even like roller coasters. That's not the adventure I'm talking about.
I'm talking like, I like a little bit of a challenge, a little bit of a, like, can I pull this off? Will I be able to pull this off? I don't know. For example, I mentioned already that I had a baby and I had a little bit of work that I needed to do after I had the baby. So it was only two months after he was born. I was like, can I go do this work? Can I take my three children on an airplane by myself? With the two month old. Sure. Why not? And we did, and we flew and we had a great, uh, it wasn't really a vacation, but I got to do a little bit of work. I got to have my kids with me.
I had some help from my mom. Don't worry. I wasn't completely alone here. And for my husband, But, I had to fly by myself and those kinds of my husband always thinks I'm crazy, cause he'll say like, I don't know about you, you like see hard things and you're like, let's try it. Let's just see if we can do it. It'll be great, and I think that that's helped me in stand up. Especially with my career in comedy, because I, when I first started was terrified of it, like to a point where 24 hours before I knew I was going to go on stage, I would be filled with anxiety. I'd be terrified. I would, all I could think about was, I can't believe I'm going to go on stage and I would want to, and I would want to bail out. I would think to myself, like, just don't you could just not do it. You know, you could just not do it. But then I would say to myself, no no, do it, you have to do it. This is an adventure. This is a challenge. Do it. So I think in the end, it's paid off. I get to do shows now, I have comedy specials. I have a really good work-life balance with my kids. And, but it took a lot of those moments of like, this seems really hard and scary. I think I should do it.
LeAnn: Ah, I love that, because for me it's almost like if I feel like I'm going to throw up, then that means I should go ahead and do it.
It's like adventurous, like, ah, that's awesome.
It's horrible. What am I doing? I'm doing it.
I love that, what an awesome quality that you have. Alright. K, so before I ask you the last question, anything else you want to share and where can our audience go to find out more about you?
Jenna: Oh, I love that, well, like I said, I'm a standup comedian and a podcaster, so I would love for you to check out my podcast. It's called Couple Friends. Like I said, it's like a break. We, Allen and I tease that, you know, Murder podcasts are really the most popular kind of podcast and people just love a good murder mystery. And I say, you can only take so much of that. Alright, so listen to your murder podcasts, and then listen to my podcast where you'll have a light happy time. No darkness.
LeAnn: I love it. Yes.
Jenna: So, listen to LeAnn for the Love Tidbits, and then come over to mine and it's called Couple Friends. You can find out all about it at couplefriendspodcast.com. And then of course, follow me on social media. My full name is @ Jenna Kim Jones, and that's where my handle is everywhere.
LeAnn: Okay, perfect, and we'll put that into the show notes as well. Yeah, go ahead.
Jenna: I don't know when this is coming out LeAnn, is it coming out soon? Oh, nevermind then. Okay.
LeAnn: Alright. Okay, so for the last question: what is your favorite question or quote about love?
Jenna: Oh, okay. So full disclosure. I read this question and I went like, blank, crickets. I got nothing. What? I don't have any questions about love. Do I have a favorite quote about love? How do I know anything about love? So then I decided, okay, I'm going to do a little internet research. And for me, my first instinct was like, go to music, go to love songs, go to silly songs.
And then of course the comedian kicked in and I was like, oh, my favorite quote is of course Bon Jovi: you give love a bad name. No, no, no. Take out the sarcasm. Okay, what am I really going for here? So I realize, there's a song, Paul McCartney wrote it, popular song from a few decades back. And, it's called Silly Love Songs.
And the lyrics of that song, the beginning, very beginning says, "You'd think that people would have had enough of silly love songs. I look around me and I see it isn't so. Some people want to fill the world with silly love songs and what's wrong with that?" So, not only do I have a quote here, there's a question, "What's wrong with that?"
Why can't we just love and love and love? Alright, so I really love that song and I love that whole sentiment, because I don't think you can ever, stop finding reasons to feel love or be loved or, you know, find happiness in love or whatever it might be. Sometimes you just like to listen to sad love songs, because that feels good to, you know, but what I'm really trying to say is I like the sentiment of that song.
And then I thought, you know, I wonder why Paul McCartney wrote this song. So I dug a little bit deeper. And the reason he wrote this song was, he felt that this, and this is just according to the internet, maybe it's not true. I'm going to go with it's true because it feels good to me and what I'm trying to say.
But apparently according to what I researched, he wrote the song as a rebuttal to people who were critical of his music. People who had criticized him for writing what they called light-weight love songs. There's an author who suggested that this song, Silly Love Songs was written because McCartney's like inviting people to have a little bit of a laugh and to be a little bit lighthearted and silly.
I love that, I all of a sudden went like this is a fabulous song and completely feels right to me, because as a comedian, I am often criticized, because of the material that I choose. I'm very lighthearted, very silly. I tease about my husband, my kids, my life. I've had comedians, oh, and I'm a very clean comedian.
I don't do edgy or blue comedy, and I've had people criticize me for that because they say, well, you don't go like deep enough into people's problems. Your life is too happy, sunshine. You don't have any like real raw, meaty things that you talk about. And I thought, I always think like, but why do we need more of that?
And so I love this song. It actually has more meaning to me now because I go like, hey, why can't we just have lots of silly love songs? Why can't we just tell silly jokes? Why can't we just be a little bit lighthearted sometimes? So that is my new favorite go-to about love.
LeAnn: Jenna, I love that. And silly love songs. Hmmm y'all, something to think about. Thank you. Thank you, Jenna, for sharing your tidbits of love with us. Have a good one y'all and here's to love~
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What we resist persists! We want to "allow" our feelings and here's how...
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number 11: All the Feels
I have three brothers, no sisters. And we have four sons, no daughters, until the last two years I've been blessed with two amazing daughter-in-laws. So for most of my life, I've pretty much been the only girl. Not a lot of talk about feelings happened with all that testosterone in my house. However, when I started learning more about feelings a few years ago and figuring out that I actually had them, my life began to change.
Feelings may sound mystical and strange, and many people are uncomfortable talking about them, but when we understand them, they become very useful to us. Feelings are why we do everything. We define a feeling as a vibration in the body, that's caused by a thought. The difference between a feeling and a sensation; sensations are involuntary and start in the body. Feelings began in the brain in the form of a thought. We think a thought, and then the brain releases an appropriate chemical and that chemical vibrating through the body is what we call a feeling.
We all have hopes and desires for ourselves and the people around us, but what we really want are the positive feelings we believe we'll have once we get those things. Instead of looking to control or change the people and things outside of us, let's take a look at what we're thinking and feeling.
All right, think about what you want. And then go a layer deeper and ask yourself what you really, really want. Ask yourself how you believe you'll feel when you get what you want. Maybe it's accomplished, confident, proud, or whatever. In every case, it's the feeling you desire, and that's great news. When you consider that all of our feelings come from our thoughts, which we get to choose.
As humans, we typically don't like the way negative emotions feel, so a lot of our behavior is an attempt to change or avoid them. Most people are unaware of what they're feeling most of the time, and certainly unable to label or describe their feelings. That was totally me. So, if you want to change your life, you must become aware of what you're feeling in the present moment.
We're not taught to feel our emotions. Feeling is an ability that most of us need to learn because we're taught by the media and social conditioning to escape our emotions. We are even taught that positive emotions aren't enough by themselves. They need to be heightened by purchasing something or eating something or drinking something or viewing something, or a myriad of other things.
So I'm going to teach you four things we do with uncomfortable emotions or feelings. The first thing we Resist, you know when you're clench your fist really tight, or you grit your teeth. I also heard resisting a feeling described as holding a beach ball under the water. It wants to pop up, but we hold it down building the pressure around it. The beach ball continues to build that pressure until ultimately it pops way up out of the water. What we resist persists.
The second thing we do with uncomfortable feelings is React. Yelling, screaming, crying is not the same as feeling. When we act out our emotions, we seem to be releasing something and feeling something, but we're often just acting them out and not processing or feeling them at all. Feeling doesn't look like acting. A feeling is something you can do sitting in a chair and experiencing a subtle vibration. Reacting means we are allowing the emotion to drive us and we are operating at the effect of it.
The third thing is to Avoid. We escape or distract ourselves through some sort of buffer. For example, eating, shopping, working, exercising, scrolling, social media, drinking, drugs, etc.
And the last thing, the fourth thing we do with an uncomfortable feeling or emotion, and this is the thing that we really want to do, is to Allow it. Allowing a feeling or emotion is a skill that we need to learn and practice.
So how do we allow it? Well, first we name it. Just one word, for example, is it sad, glad, fear, frustrated, disappointed. If you're not sure Google emotions and you'll find a whole slew of them. After you name it with a word, you want to find it in your body and describe it. Where is it, is it in your chest and your belly in your throat? What does that feel like? Is it hot or cold? Buzzing, heavy, sticky, smooth? What color is it? Describe it.
Then you want to relax into it, take a deep breath and allow it. Relax your muscles and think about just holding that feeling inside of your body as long as necessary. And then allow it, just sit with it. Hold it, notice it until it subsides. Think about carrying around a purse or backpack of your emotion. Or if you're in a car driving, you could think about setting this feeling in the seat next to you and having it come along with you. We can still do things even when we're feeling negative emotions.
Allowing your emotions is one of the most important skills you will ever learn. Once you are good at it, it can completely change your relationship with yourself and all the people you've come in contact with, because you won't be reactive. But rather the compassionate observer. When we start becoming more conscious of our feelings, we'll spend more time observing ourselves. This may be a little awkward and might not come easily. But remember that feelings are harmless. A feeling is simply a vibration in our body and nothing more. Feelings can be felt without taking any action or reacting at all. Our feelings are like a compass to keep our lives on track. When we learn how to allow them, instead of resisting them, there is nothing we can't handle.
Sometimes in our effort to be happy all the time, we stay away from discomfort that could help us evolve and inspire us to make our dreams come true. What if we were willing to fail epically and try courageously? What if we accepted that emotional balance means that 50% of the time we'll be on the other side of happy. That is the normal experience, a balance of positive and negative emotions.
One of the most impactful quotes I've heard, that I don't always appreciate at the time, but I do believe it and have witnessed the results that happen when I feel it. Is Brooke Castillo, one of my coaches and mentors says, "Discomfort is the price of growth." Hmmm, something to think about.
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Have a good one y'all, and here's to love and all the feels.
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Doing these 3 things in the "sweet spot" of your day can change your life! You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number ten: The Gap and the Gain
I recently read this book called The Gap and the Gain by Dan Sullivan. It is an awesome book with relatable stories and practical tools to try. Quick summary, so when you're in the Gap, you lose what you have. The Gap makes every experience worse. The Gap makes any form of progress a let down. Whatever you've done isn't enough because the standard of success keeps moving.
And then when you're in the Gain, you measure your own progress. You don't compare yourself to anything external. You don't measure yourself against your ideals. When you're in the Gain, you focus on what you actually done.
I've been thinking about this as we've had some air conditioning issues going on in our house, and they've come out a couple of times trying to fix these and had to change a control panel and all of this, assuring us that this would fix the problem, but it didn't fix the problem. And so then there was something else, and I noticed myself going to the Gap; What is wrong with them? Why can't they get this figured out? Why is this happening? And not really learning or appreciating what was going on at all.
Because when I'm in the Gain about all of this, the weather has been pretty nice, so we didn't need the air or the heat, it hasn't been a problem. We're home and we can take care of it and get it fixed. So there's lots of things. Some parts are under warranty. So there's lots of things in the Gain when I choose to focus on and learn from that.
So remember, you're in the Gap every time you measure yourself or your situation against an ideal, and you're in the Gain, when you measure yourself backwards against where you were before.
Every experience can be transformed into a Gain. And you can transform anything into a Gain by creating a new lesson or insights or standards for yourself. You become better, and your future becomes bigger. An experience is only valuable and useful once you've transformed it into a Gain. And remember, everything in life happens FOR you not TO you.
I love how Dan shares in this book, that success is measured by you. So what if we changed our reference point to be internal, where we measure our own progress, rather than comparing ourselves against something or someone external.
They give a great example in the book, and they're talking about the British rowing team. Now, apparently the British rowing team had not won a gold medal since 1912, and then something changed. In anticipation of the 2000 Sydney Olympics, the team developed a useful filtering process that changed everything for them. They developed a one question response to every single decision they made. This one question allowed them to measure every situation, every decision, every obstacle, and not to get derailed, like most of us do. With every decision or opportunity each member of the team asks themselves, Will it make the boat go faster?
For example, you get invited to a late night party the night before training and ask, Will it make the boat go faster? If no, the decision is no. The rowing team used this single measure as their decision filter to quickly escalate their unity, their skills, conditioning, and training, and guess who won the gold that year? The British rowing team won the gold.
So the more you're in the Gain, the less you compare, you compete, or you even care what other people think about you. You're playing your own game. You're seeing new progress every day. You're loving you and your life.
One other quick thing I want to share from the book. So much information, so I highly recommend reading it. The last hour of the day can be a Gain Hour. One that positively transforms how you sleep, as well as your entire next day. So what you do during that hour before bedtime, Dan calls the "sweet spot" and it's critically important. It sets the tone for your next day. It's where your deepest habits are formed. How you end your day doesn't only determine how well you sleep, it also dictates when you'll wake up. It decides how committed and sold you are on what you'll do and who you'll be the next day. It defines how effective and alert you'll be the next day. Because when you end your day poorly and without a committed plan, you compromise the next 24 hours.
So three things to do. Before you go to bed, that last hour, the Gain Hour, write down three wins from today. Whatever your three wins were, write them down. Then write down three wins you'd like to accomplish tomorrow. And finally, share your wins. Share the wins you've done for today. That's it. Those three things, your sweet spot, your Gain Hour before you go to bed. I've been trying this and it really is helping me create the results that I want. So celebrate your three wins of today, decide and write down what your three wins for tomorrow will be, and share your wins with someone.
One of my favorite quotes from the book is by Greg McKeown: "If you focus on what you lack, you lose what you have. If you focus on what you have, you gain, what you lack." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to love and Gain.
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What if instead of All or Nothing, we play inbetween?
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number nine, Play in the Gray
I taught a workshop recently about playing in the gray, and as I've been practicing this in my life, I've discovered it's a great place to be.
There's a thought pattern that you may have noticed in yourself or others, it's referred to as black and white thinking. Which is defined as the inability to bring together both positive and negative perceptions of self, others, or circumstances into a whole view. So black and white thinking are thoughts that make people think in absolutes, swinging from one extreme to the other, believing something is all good or all bad.
When you've been observing black and white thinking, what are some words that come up? For example, I've heard always or never, right/wrong, all in or all out, on/off, all/nothing, and good or bad.
Gray thinking is the in between the spectrum of black and white. Gray thinking is ambiguous, it's uncertain, it doesn't have clearly defined characteristics. Gray thinking is a mindset that's open to new ideas. So always and never become sometimes. All or nothing, become some. Perfect or imperfect, become good at some things and bad at others. Or becomes And.
I've been practicing this in my life. And I used to think that I had to be eating all of the sugar or none of the sugar. There was no in-between. I was either on track or off track. Now, I play in the gray where I have some sugar. And sometimes more than I want, but I'm learning not to make it a problem. As I love myself, and I love different things about my body, eating some sugar is something I'm getting better at instead of all or none.
Another thing that I've been practicing is B- work. I used to think everything had to be perfect, A work, but I discovered that there were things I wouldn't even attempt doing because I didn't think they'd be good enough. Well, now I know that it's okay if my wording isn't exact, or my picture isn't me all dolled up, B- work is like playing in the gray. And, you know what, it's sharing information and it's helping me learn and get better at things instead of doing nothing at all.
There's a quote I love by Brene Brown: "The middle is messy, but it's also where the magic happens."
Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to love and playing in the gray.
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You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love ~ I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number eight. Love is life with Tupua Ainu'u.
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their lives. We have the amazing Tupua Ainu'u sharing some beautiful love insights with us today.
Alright Tupua, why don't you briefly introduce yourself.
First LeAnn, I am so proud of you. Congratulations on your podcast. I'm so honored to one of your guests. Congratulations, thank you so much for having. Ah, thanks. Very, very welcome. This is awesome. So, yes, let me introduce myself. I just want to say Talofa LeAnn and listeners, Talofa means hello and Samoan.
My full name is Tupua Leota Alapapa Leuali'i Tumuatasi Vaipou Tony Vaea Te'o Ainu'u. Wow. That's pretty long. I am an I am an American Samoan man who loves to act, sing and dance. I am an eagle scout, an army veteran of war, specifically war with Iraq. I am a mama's boy, a doting husband to my lovely wife Jacosa, loving father to my sons TJ and Makai, a director of engagement for my sweet senior citizens at Arbor Terrace senior living. But most importantly, I am a child of God.
I love that Tupua, so many amazing things. That's awesome. Thanks for sharing all of that with us and your name. Oh my goodness. That's so cool. Alright, so I have three questions for you today. And the first, how do you incorporate love into your business and/or your life?
Love really is the reason why I do anything. When it comes to business, I've always had a love for my culture. Performing and the arts, specifically with singing and acting. So, you know, besides being an Atlanta actor, I actually own a small business called Cousin T Entertainment where I advertise my wife and I singing. I MC and I DJ for different events.
My wife is a jazz singer, and I'm a crooner. We love to perform for birthdays and wedding parties. We also love to throw authentic Polynesian Luaus with authentic Polynesian dancing and food, and outside of my nine to five job, these business ventures and acting gigs come naturally to me because they're an extension of what I already love to do.
I actually feel really blessed that I can still use my gifts and talents and abilities every day with acting and singing, to serve and enrich the lives of my senior citizens as a director of engagement or activities. Again, I love my culture. The greatest privilege in Samoa is to serve your elders. I really do love them so much. The baby boomer generation, they are the greatest generation that ever lived. And LeAnn, it doesn't feel like work. And the main reason why it doesn't is because I love to do it. It's a pleasure. So if you have to work, try finding something that you love to do and you'll find your life to be more pleasurable, joyful and happy.
I love that so much when you truly love your work. And I get to see Tupua sometimes on social media with his work and those senior citizens are so blessed to have him a part of their lives, and acting and everything that you do. So awesome. Thank you. Super cool. Alright, so question number two. What is something you love about you and why?
I am a happy go lucky person. I love people and I love making others happy. Whenever I see an opportunity to make someone smile or do something to make their day, I make sure to do it and, you know, LeAnn it's interesting, growing up, that it took a while for me to completely own that and to completely accept that I love that about myself, you know.
A lot of things, for example, on Facebook, when Facebook first came out, it would show you all the people that had their birthdays. And I would make sure when it, whenever I'm on there, if someone had a birthday, I would wish them happy birthday. Now that I have almost 5,000 friends, I can't do that anymore. I used to love saying happy birthday to everyone. And so I love giving genuine compliments. I love pointing out something good about others, giving positive feedback, comments to make people happy. If I see that you have a cute dress, I say that is a cute dress, or wow that's beautiful jewelry, whatever is good about you. I like to compliment and say it and hope that it makes you feel good and that you have a good day.
I love that you really look for compliments, ways to say things to others and really, really appreciate them and show them that love through compliments. That's beautiful Tupua. Anything else?
Yeah, I also wanted to share that sometimes it's really hard to, to own that. What you love about yourself. It took me 38 years really to fully accept that. And I just wanted to share a little bit of where my story, growing up this way of being so happy go lucky, you know, always looking at thing and lovey and rose, you know, life in the colored glass.
Throughout my teens and early childhood, my peers would think that I was being fake, or I had an agenda for being so nice all the time, but I've always been that way. And I think I get it from my father. He was a super loving, affectionate, charming, and very happy positive person. There were a few times in my life though, when I thought something was wrong with me, I saw my strengths as weaknesses because of what other said, you know, they make me think I was a suck up. I was a people pleaser and superficial with my niceness, but what saved me from negativity, depression of thinking something was wrong with me, where the reminders of who I was from people random, or those who were close to me, or even someone like you LeAnn. Positivity that you exude out there, that you put out there in the world, it attracts more positivity. It encourages people to be more positive. And so I thank you for what you do. You are a platform of happiness and positivity, so thank you for what you do.
Ahh, thanks for your kind words. And I love that that is a big focus for you and how you're showing up genuine and truly incorporating that love into everything you do. That's beautiful.
Thank you so much. Could I share with you just a few people that reminded me about, you know, accepting who I am and to be loving and just be who I am, can I share just a few examples? Yes. Alright. So one person in the army, in my early twenties, reminded me when I was in Iraq and feeling down on myself. I told him I felt like I didn't have any purpose at that time. He said, you have a great purpose. You make people happy. I thought to myself, that's weird, this person is an acquaintance. I barely knew him. And the fact that he said that, he observed that whenever I was around. That's what he observed is that I make people happy and I was like, okay. So thank you for that reminder.
My wife is a great reminder of who I am and why I should really love myself. She always reminds me it's okay to not be ashamed of being my happy, goofy, cheesy, cornball self, and she posted a few Facebook posts about my birthday. I just wanted to share what she said.
She said, today's my guy's birthday. So I want to tell you a little bit why I love this picture of him and why I love him so much. First the picture I love this genuine cheesy smile. In fact, I like making him laugh as much as I can because I love seeing it so much. Now him first, he's the kind of guy who has empathy for everyone, even including characters on a show or movie. Often while we're watching something, he'll say, oh, that's horrible or poor thing, that's so terrible. He's particularly protective of women and hates to see men be disrespectful of them. I think I can thank his mama for that. Yes, my mama raised me to be a gentleman. He really loves people and really cares about their feelings and what happens to them. Second, he loves adventure. He's always up for whatever life brings and always has the best attitude about the bad things. Third, he has big dreams and isn't afraid to go after them and work hard at them. He works really hard between school and work and always strives for excellence. I noticed and admire that more than he knows.
And the second post she shared. It was a picture of me when I was four or five years old. And I was smiling really big and really cheesy. And my cousin, Dahni, who was blowing out her candles for her 18 birthday party, my wife says, it's my honey's birthday, so I get to spoil him and brag about him. Thanks Dahni for the collage that I stole. I love all these pics, but my favorite is what of him has a little one at his cousin's birthday because that face that huge, big smile while he watches someone else enjoy their birthday. It speaks volumes about his nature. He's the kind of guy who gets so excited for good things happening to other people. He's the kind of guy who loves life, who is happy just to be anywhere. He's the kind of guy who sees good in everyone and everything, and he's the kind of guy who's so full of love, it's bursting out of him.
So I'm really, really grateful for my wife and, you know, reminding me about that because, I need that, I need to be reminded that it's okay to be me and it's okay to just be loving and just, and just accept that and just be who I am.
Alright, and the last reminder that's really important to me is my patriarchal blessing. It was given to me when I was 18 years young. So in the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we were given a special blessing that is tailor made for each person to help guide them in their lives, by a special person called a patriarch.
Now this patriarch didn't know me, but through his divine inspiration from God, he said these words about my divine character and personality that came from before this earth. It was about my spirit, the person I truly am. And if you don't mind LeAnn, I'd like to share that a little bit with you because you know, I talked about being a child of God. Is that okay? Absolutely.
Alright, so he said, and I'm 18, I've never met this guy, and this is the first time. And he said these words after he prayed, he said you are a stalwart spirit. You are to lift up the sick, afflicted, down trodden, and the weak, and those who are struggling with the trials of life. You have been blessed with a warm, friendly spirit and personality that can relate well with everyone. You have the ability to communicate effectively and make friends very easily use these attributes in giving yourself in service to others.
So LeAnn, I'm so sorry. I feel like I'm talking way too much about myself. I hope I'm not coming off too much of a bragger, but I guess the short answer to the question that you had is I love that I'm a happy-go-lucky cheesy, loving, affectionate, goofball who loves to make others happy, especially my elders. I love that about myself.
Hmm. I love that about you too, and that you radiate love, and I'm so glad you shared that with us. So beautiful. Awesome. Alright, before I ask you, the last question, tell us where the audience can reach you, how can they follow you or whatever. And I'll also put this information in the show notes, but if you just want to highlight a couple of things.
Sure, not a problem. So you can find me primarily on Facebook. I have my actress page on there. If you just look up Tupua Ainu'u actor. I also have my Cousin T Entertainment, my business on there as well. If you put Cousin T Entertainment on Facebook search, you'll see right away. It has a feather and it'll show my wife and I on the cover page.
You can also find my wife and I at Team TuCosa. We're a singing duo. You can hear us sing some of our songs on there. And as far as acting, you can go to my IMDV page to see what I've done so far. I'm also on Tiktok and I'm also on Instagram. So I think that's plenty of forums where you can find me.
Exactly, we can find you just about everywhere. I love it. That's awesome. Alright, so the last question, what is your favorite question or quote about love?
Yes. My favorite quote is, "Where there is love, there is life." And it's by Mahatma Gandhi. And I really love that because when you love something, you breathe so much life into it and whatever you do, you know, and excellence will follow, you know, perfection, meaning your absolute best effort will happen and you will be successful. But most importantly, you will be happy.
Hmm, something to think about. Thank you Tupua, for sharing your tidbits of love with us. Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to love! Aloha. You're very welcome.
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How do you like your eggs?
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number seven: Your Favorite Egg
I'm a big Julia Roberts fan. And some of you may remember the movie Runaway Bride, where Julia, acting as Maggie, would decide what kind of egg she liked based on the guy she was dating at the time. Whatever kind of eggs he liked, would then become what she liked. Julia/Maggie didn't even know what kind of eggs she liked because she was always doing what, whoever she was dating, wanted to do or what they liked. Soon she forgot what she really liked.
Well, this came up recently in my Lovin Me Program, when a member realized she was doing something because she thought it would make someone else happy, but it wasn't what she wanted at all. I noticed I used to do this with my boys, when we were picking where we'd go out to eat. I'd always go where they wanted to go, and I rarely went where I wanted to go. Which is fine sometimes, but it is also okay, and loving to ourselves, when we do what we want.
So just a few questions to ask yourself:
Have you ever said yes, when you really wanted to say no?
Do you tell little lies to avoid hurt feelings or to smooth things over?
Do you apologize often, and for things you have no control over?
Do you do things for others so they will like you?
Do you pretend to agree with people, even though you feel differently?
Do you neglect your own needs in order to do things for others?
Do you worry about what other people might think?
Or do you fill your schedule with activities that you think other people want you to do?
This is called people pleasing y'all, and it isn't love at all. It's actually lying, lying to yourself and lying to others. When we continue pushing our own needs to the side, it makes it hard to acknowledge them and recognize what we really feel and what we love.
Sometimes loving is saying no. Loving is recognizing what is true for you and honoring that. Love is not at your own expense. Now that doesn't mean we don't choose to do things we don't necessarily want for others, but we do it from love, not from lying.
One of my favorite quotes by Lisa TerKeurst says, "Whenever you say yes to something, there is less of you for something else, make sure your yes is worth the less."
Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all and here's to love.
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If you want to finish things...embrace what?
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number six: Finish
I recently completed a book called Finish by Jon Acuff. Highly recommend this book, and he also has a podcast called "all it takes is a goal".
Well, as you can probably guess the book was about finishing, and most of us don't have a problem starting things. We've started things, lots of things, but we don't always finish. So, Jon tells us how to finish. He said, "the people who increased their progress dramatically were those that took the pressure off, those that did away with crippling perfectionism that caused people to quit their goals. The less that people aimed for perfect, the more productive they became." He tells us embrace imperfection. That's it. If we want to finish, we want to embrace not being perfect.
So I want to share his four perfectionism lies as well as his secrets to finish. First one, quit if it isn't perfect. So you have a goal, you're doing your goal, and then you don't, then you mess it up per se. Well the secret to finishing is the day after you mess it up. When you go the next day and say ugh, well I'm out, I didn't do it. I ate all the things. I didn't run. I didn't do whatever it is your goal is. I didn't walk. I didn't get together with that person. The day after you weren't perfect, is where a lot of people stop. They're like, oh, I wasn't perfect, I'm done. Instead, the day after perfect, hmmm, k, didn't do what I had planned. That's all right. I'll try something else. I'll learn from that. So that's our first one. We don't have to quit if it isn't perfect.
Number two, your goal should be bigger. For whatever reason, maybe it's like, supersizing things, we think we should have this ginormous goal, that we should make this elaborate thing, or we should do this major event. Why? What if instead of making our goals so big, the secret to finishing them is to cut the goal in half. Take whatever goal we have and cut it in half. If you can't cut your goal in half, Jon suggests double the timeline, make it take double the time you thought it would. Our goals don't have to be big, and if we're going to finish them, it's very helpful when we make them bite sized.
So number three, perfectionism lie: you can do it all. Well, guess what folks, no one can do it all. Sometimes we think we can, and sometimes we try and cram everything into every second, but we can't do it all. So the secret to finishing is choosing what to bomb. What are you not going to do? Be intentional. Hey, I might not spend time with you so and so, because I'm working on this. I may not get this thing done because I have something else that is more important to me. I can't do everything, so I'm going to hone in on the things that I really want to finish, and that's what I'm going to do. So choose what to bomb. You can't do it all.
And the fourth perfectionism lie: Fun doesn't count, if you're having fun, it doesn't count when you're doing a goal. Completely not true. We want to have fun, whatever we're doing, we want to have fun and to finishing our goals, if we're having fun, we'll finish them.
So be thinking about that, as you have things that you're finishing. What are the lies and what are the secrets to finishing your goals? Embrace imperfection.
One of my favorite quotes from Jon's book Finish says, "Developing tolerance for imperfection is the key factor in turning chronic starters into consistent finishers." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all, and here's to love!
If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself, check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com
So glad I waited before throwing a tantrum!
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin.
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number five: Squirrels in my Bird Feeder
So a few years ago, I heard of this term called emotional adulthood. Basically it means that you take full responsibility for how you're feeling no matter what someone else does, their says. And you also take control of your thinking and you don't blame other people. Well, you guessed it, the opposite of this is emotional childhood, where we blame everything and everyone else for how we feel and for our results, and we don't take responsibility for much of anything.
So soon after that, my husband put a bird feeder in our backyard and we were so excited to watch the birds and see the bird feeder and he put it up. There were squirrels that started coming to our bird feeder. So he put a baffle on the bottom to keep the squirrels out and then the squirrels kept coming. So he moved a rock out of the way. Still a couple more squirrels.
We were out there trying to figure out how these squirrels were getting into the bird feeder and noticed a branch was sticking out and we were talking and he's like okay, we'll get this branch cut, hopefully that will eliminate our squirrel in the bird feeder problem.
Well, I ran in and started working, and in my office I can see the backyard. I can see the bird feeder and I'm working and, all of a sudden, I see another squirrel and I can feel myself getting hotter and madder because there is a squirrel in the bird feeder eating the bird food, wasting money. And he said he was going to take care of this and get rid of the branch. And so we wouldn't have any more squirrels and I'm like, wait, should I text him and tell him, Hey, look, there's a squirrel out there again. Why is this not being taken care of? I'm getting all in my head, getting angry about this. I'm like LeAnn, let's just finish working. It's going to be okay. If the squirrel gets one more meal, not a big deal.
So thankfully I calmed down for a little bit, finished working, and go downstairs trying to decide if I was going to say something or just go cut the branch down myself. Well, as I was walking down the stairs, Jeff said, Hey, you're finished working. Okay. I just didn't want to disturb you with the saw. So I'll go ahead and cut that cut down the branch so we don't have that squirrel anymore.
I was so glad that I hadn't said anything, that I hadn't let my emotional childhood and blame, and why hasn't he gotten this taken care of, all the stuff going on in my head. I was so glad I didn't say anything. And, isn't that interesting when we have little things come up like this, how our brains quickly go to this emotional childhood, this blame, this it's someone else's problem, rather than taking a breath and being like, wait. How can I be responsible for this? How could I be in emotional adulthood?
So my question to think about this week is, Am I being an emotional child or adult? And how could I think more like an emotional adult? Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to love!
If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself, check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com
Ways to connect with Miss Annie~
Website: missannieshomeandkitchen.com
Facebook: Miss Annie's Home + Kitchen
Instagram: missannieshomeandkitchen
YouTube: MissAnniesHomeandKitchen
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin.
Hey Y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number four: I Can Do Hard Things with Miss Annie
I love observing and connecting with other humans, especially noting how they feel and implement love into their lives.
We have the amazing Miss Annie sharing some beautiful love insights with us today.
Miss Annie, will you briefly introduce yourself?
A: Yes, I would love to. So I am a mama of three grown adult children, and I have three wonderful sons-in-laws and nine grandchildren. I have seven grandsons and then two precious granddaughters.
My husband and I, we live in Alabama and in Alabama, in the Birmingham area, I'm known as Miss Annie. I have been teaching in school field trips for 25 years. I can't believe it. Wow. Yeah. So I dress up in costume and I teach, every day I'm at a different school and I teach science. So I might be teaching penguins and polar bears and I dress up like a penguin and we do a blubber and fat experiment, and I go from classroom to classroom doing that. So I've done it for 25 years. I visit about 35 different schools and teach about 20,000 kids a year. Oh my goodness. Yes. So wonderful and so amazing and so much fun. And then just during the pandemic, when the schools shut down, then I wasn't allowed to go into the schools. And so I just tried to figure out, okay, well maybe if it never opens back up to Miss Annie, what then? So I have, in the last year, really been exploring and started a new company called Miss Annie's Home and Kitchen. And I do videos three times a week on Facebook. And anyway, I teach people just really simple, easy recipes, and that has been so much fun. So I'm doing both currently right now and just really enjoying it so that that's where that Miss Annie comes in is people know me as Miss Annie.
L: I love how you've played Miss Annie into all areas of your life, it sounds like. So that's so fun, I love it. Okay. Well, I have three questions for you today. So the first one is how do you incorporate love into your business and or your life?
A: Okay. So I learned early on with my Miss Annie business, when I would visit the schools, that it was just so important to show love and to express love to those precious, amazing teachers. And they really have become just, you know, I don't know. I have the biggest heart for teachers and educators. And so I just learned early on like, I teach these lessons, but every night I come home and I bake and I bake a cookie for all of the principals and the assistant principals. And then the front office, they all get a cookie from Miss Annie, bagged in a cute little bag that says Miss Annie with a cute little bow, and then all of the teachers get one too. And when I go in their classroom, I just take over and I always give them this little cookie. And just, it's my way of saying, take a minute, take a breath. If you want to step out for a second and grab your diet Coke, do that. And I've just found that it's my way of just showing love to them and for them and who doesn't love a chocolate chip cookie, it's like the best every, I mean, chocolate makes the world just go around a little bit better. So, you know, when I started that so many years ago, I didn't realize at the time how great of an impact that would have, not only for the teachers, but for me too.
Last year again while we didn't have COVID, I was able to send out some videos and do that sort of thing. But the part that I missed the most was that interaction with the teachers and the part of giving because in the giving, you know, it just, you know, it just shows love and love is a beautiful, beautiful feeling to feel.
I think that's the thing that I feel like overall with my business. I feel like that's the reason why it's also been so successful. I booked a year in advance and I have for years and years and years, and I think it's just that connection, that part of me being willing to just do a little extra for them. And then they, it just has come back to me so many ways. So, it's just a beautiful thing.
L: What a blessing you are to all of those schools and all of those teachers and all of those kiddos. That's amazing. I love the love connection that you're making with chocolate as well. So that's super fun.
A: I do bring a treat to every class too, so every my goodness. Every class gets a little treat from Miss Annie also. And it might be like tomorrow, I'm teaching penguins and polar bears at a school. And so each class I put all of the little kids to sleep. They're like little penguins before I head out the door. And then I leave a little bag of penguin food for them.
So there's a connection there with these sweet littles, you know? So it is a very sweet thing. It's in the, it's a beautiful exchange and I'm telling you. Just being able to be in the, in the classroom this year and be with these precious students. It is, you know, little ones don't they just give love so easily, right. And it is, it is truly a blessing for me.
L: Well, and you must love to bake because as you're doing that and as well as your other job, I know that's a lot of baking and stuff involved in a cookbook as well, right?
A: I do, you know, I do love to bake. I mean, I do it every day and I, I make all these, I make pumpkin bread in the fall for when I'm not doing cookies, I'm doing pumpkin bread in the fall and that's kind of something that I'm famous for, but yeah, it was an easy transition into the Miss Annie's Home and Kitchen. Like, if you had told me in a year ago that I would have a cookbook out and then I would be doing this, I would have just been so surprised and then yet not surprised. Because twenty-five years ago, if you've been told me that I would be Miss Annie and do this for 25 years and have this sweet, precious, successful business. I don't know that I would have believed you then, but since I've done it before, I can see how I can make it possible to do the Miss Annie's Home and Kitchen. Like, it's kind of cool, how, you know, when you've done something a little bit before and created it before, it's a little bit easier to do it the second even though it's different. Does that make sense? And I liked how you correlated that for me even just saying what you bake and then you're doing this and you're right LeAnn, it's come together.
Well, and love has been all along the way in all of it. Yes, for sure. That is beautiful.
L: Okay. Question number two. What is something you love about you and why?
A: Okay. I love this question because I've been thinking about it actually a little bit. And, so I'm 55 and when I was younger and I think it's something that we all have to think about and wrestle with and struggle with, and that's about loving ourselves, and I, in my younger years, you know, especially in my twenties, I was not very nice to myself, you know, and I think I almost felt like I was supposed to like criticize myself and look for those faults and stuff. But there came a time in my life when I was just like I'm not doing that anymore. Like I'm beating myself up and why, and I think if I could go back to my younger years. So if there's other people who are listening now that are younger, I would say if you find that the conversations that you're having with yourself are belittling and negative, like, would you ever say those things to anyone else and you never would, and being a mom of three daughters, like I would never say to them what I used to say so easily to myself.
So in the more, probably 15 ish years, I have really learned to just like, love myself, love the things that I don't really care. Like, I looked in the mirror the other day and I was like, oh, that skin is getting very thin and wrinkly underneath my, um, on my neck. And, but then instead of being not nice about that, I was like, that's part of it and that's beautiful and you're a grandmother and it's okay. And I don't know. I've just, I think that's the thing that I like about myself now is that I am willing to just love all of me and I'm, I'm good. And I'm my own best friend. I know how to support me. And how to love me and, how to cheer myself on. And while it's fun to have other people say, like, you know, your husbands say something or a friend say, or whatever, like, it really matters when you believe it for yourself. And I've gotten better at that. And good at that for myself.
L: I love that so much Annie. Thank you. Thank you. What a beautiful thing to love about you to really just truly love everything about you and notice that and thank you for sharing your journey with that. That's beautiful. All right. Before I ask you the last question, is there anything else you'd like to share? And then also, where can people go to find out more about you?
A: Okay. So I would love for people if people want to come, just kind of see what I'm up to. You can just go to I'm on Instagram, at Miss Annie's Home and Kitchen and the and it is written out. Okay. On Facebook it will be Miss Annie's Home and then a plus sign. So Miss Annie's plus Kitchen. So miss Annie's Home + Kitchen. Does that make sense?
Yes, and we'll put this in the show notes too. Yes.
Thank you. So yes, they can just go there and just kind of check out what I'm doing and, of course, I'd love to just communicate with people and just anyway, the part of the Miss Annie's Home and Kitchen, maybe I guess that I would like to share is, um, You'll see me on there wearing some shirts that say I can do hard things. And my husband and I, he had a massive stroke eight years ago, going on eight years ago. And he was supposed to die from all of the things that happened and some complications. And it's a miracle that he's here and that he has recovered so well. But during that time, during the stroke while he was in ICU and then in recovery, at the rehabilitation center, we just really relied on those mottoes: Stronger Every Day and I Can Do Hard Things.
And so while Miss Annie's Home and Kitchen is about, teaching and showing people how to do some really simple meals, cause I'm all about some simple things and easy things. And I think probably my target people who are, are probably my middle school teachers and, I had a little teacher send me some pictures today of her daughter holding up a little cookbook and so excited to cook all these things in it. And so that's fun. But the other part of my message is, just sharing with people that they can do hard things and hard things can mean really fun things like, writing a cookbook and launching it, or beginning your coaching practice or trying to run a marathon or trying to get out the door and walk two miles.
Like really good things that are hard. Like you can do those hard things, but also if you have the more devastating things in your life, like a stroke. We have a grandson with a congenital heart defect and he's had three open heart surgeries and you know, all of that there's struggle in life and it's, you know, part of it's going to be great. And part of it's not, and that wrestle that we have in our lives, like we can do those hard things. And I have a very strong faith in God, and I know that has helped me through so many things so, that might've been more than what you were asking for. That's perfect. I think, I think that's part of the message that I've been called to share and so I just, I really believe that the Lord blesses you and your lives within your life with gifts and talents and abilities and, He wants you to be successful. And He, He just, if you're willing to look, you'll see that He is just showering you with inspiration and revelation all the time, and you just have to be willing to be open to it and walk and walk through those doors. That sometimes it can be scary, but you can do hard things.
L: Yes. I love that you found the love in doing hard things and sharing that message with countless. That's amazing. Beautiful. All right. Last question, which you may have sort of answered, but you tell me, what is your favorite question or quote about love?
A: Okay. I, you know, my big quote is Stronger Every Day and I Can Do Hard Things. It's just something that is so embedded in me and part of my life. But there is another quote and it's, you know, I love, I love Reese Witherspoon. I think she's precious. And there's a quote that it has just one little sentence and it says, "You always gain by giving love." There's no downside ever right, to showing and giving love to others and to yourself, like there's just no downside to it. And so the better we are at expressing love, showing love, being willing to give ourselves love and grace, then it just, you know, it just makes our lives so much richer and so much fuller.
L: Hmmm, something to think about for sure. I love that quote as well. Thank you for sharing that.
All right Miss Annie, thank you for sharing your tidbits of love with us. So grateful that you were here with us today.
A: Thank you so much. And I am what a treasure for me to be on here with you. I have been watching your journey, and it's been so much fun to see and to watch, and I'm so grateful to be a part of it. So thank you for inviting me.
L: Ahhh, my pleasure.
All right y'all, have a good one ~ and here's to love.
If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself, check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com
What does this brain hack help you master?
You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin.
Hey y'all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number three: Brain Hack
I used to be a big time perfectionist. When my two oldest boys were little, I remember following them around the apartment and picking things up as soon as they drop them. Every where they'd go, there'd be mom behind picking stuff up. It was crazy.
In high school, college, and my early married years, my dad would tease me by coming over and turning things just a little bit. He'd shift stuff, a quarter of an inch, or turn it 90 degrees, just to see my reaction. And when he left, I'd have to go through my room and put everything back to how it was.
Well, thankfully after four boys, a husband and a dog, I've relaxed a little bit, but still have a lot of all or nothing tendencies. My life at times has been like a roller coaster or a yo-yo, major extremes and not a lot of temperance, but that has changed.
So for all you perfectionists and all or nothing thinkers, I recently created a brain hack that I've been using and it works! Every time my brain thinks something has to be one way or the other, all in or all out, on track or off track, I simply remind myself that I'm already really good at all or nothing. I've already mastered perfectionism. I'm an expert at on track or off track.
And now I'm mastering moderation. I'm mastering the middle. I'm getting really good at only having a little bit of sugar rather than needing all the sugar or none of the sugar. I'm listening to my body and doing a lot more walking and yoga instead of thinking I have to be sweating every time I exercise.
I have more love and compassion for me and others, less judgment and simply a greater sense of calm as I'm consciously practicing moderation. And when my thoughts go back to perfectionism and all or nothing thinking, I gently remind myself that I'm becoming an expert at everything in the middle, a more temperate life with rolling hills rather than steep mountains and cliffs.
One of my favorite quotes to ponder is by Brene Brown. She says, "The middle is messy, but it's also where the magic happens." Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all ~ and here's to love!
If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself. Check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com
How does listening increase your ability to love? You're listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you'll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I'm your host, LeAnn Austin. Hey, y'all welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number two: You're Not Listening
You're Not Listening is an awesome book written by Kate Murphy. So if listening is a thing for you, hear this:
Kate says, "How you talk to yourself affects how you hear other people." Basically our inner dialogue influences and distorts what other people say and thus how we behave in our relationships.
She mentions: "People who have a higher degree of self-awareness are better listeners because they know the sorts of things that lead them to jump to the wrong conclusions. Cultivating self-awareness is a matter of paying attention to your emotions while in conversation and recognize when your fears and sensitivities, or your desires and dreams, hijack your ability to listen well. If you can do this, you have a greater capacity to understand and to connect with other people." You can only be as intimate with another person as you are with yourself.
I've been thinking of a couple of takeaways to help us become better listeners. The first is to ask open-ended questions, knowing that the conversation could go anywhere. It's almost like you're on an adventure. You have no idea where it goes, but if you're just asking, curious open-ended questions with no agenda in mind, how fun to see what you can learn and where the conversation may lead.
Sometimes when we're trying to connect with people, we need little questions starters. So there was a study by psychologist, Arthur Aron, and they published this in the New York Times in 2015. And it's called The 36 Questions that Lead to Love. So if you want to Google that, they may be helpful as you're thinking about questions that lead to love.
A couple of them are: What would constitute a perfect day for you? Or, If you wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be? So asking open-ended questions.
The other thing to remember is listening is a skill. It's like playing a sport or a musical instrument that you can get better and better at it as you practice and you're persistent, but you're never going to achieve total mastery. We don't arrive at being the ultimate listeners. There's always something to learn. Some people may have more natural ability and some may have to try harder, but all of us can benefit from making the effort.
I recently heard something that is a great visual and helps me remember to listen. So I want you to visualize your hands held up in a heart, a little heart shape, touching your fingers and your thumbs together. And think about this the best way to love someone, look at your heart, is to listen. So go ahead and pull your hands apart. Put them up by your ears, listen. The best way to love is to listen. I hope that visual will help you like it's helped me.
One of my favorite Kate quotes that I've been pondering is, "Listening plugs you into life. Listening helps you understand yourself as much as those speaking to you." Hmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y'all and here's to love and listening.
If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself, check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com
How can tidbits and a switch increase love?
You’re listening to the Love Tidbits Podcast, where you’ll discover a small, tasty, delightful, bite-sized tidbit of love. I’m your host, LeAnn Austin.
Hey y’all, welcome to Love Tidbits, episode number one: Light Switch & Tidbits
A few years ago, I was having a conversation with a friend. I can’t remember exactly what she was talking about, but I do remember her saying, “I looked terrible today.” Later on, she said, “I do okay for a while. And then I mess everything up.” And then a few minutes later, she said, “I’m just not good enough.” I thought a lot about that interaction and noticed other people in my world saying mean things about themselves too. I then realized I was telling myself similar things along with, “if I was a better mom”, then my boys would do whatever it was I was thinking at the time that they should be doing.
This was a time in my life when I was learning some amazing life coaching tools and really focusing on strengthening my mental and emotional muscles. And I became very interested in the topic of unconditional love. Then, in the middle of the night, when my best inspiration comes, between 3:00 and 5:00 AM, I had a light switch moment.
What if, I was thinking, every time I turn a light on, or I see the sunshine, I tell myself something I love about me. I wake up in the morning, turn the bathroom light on and say, “LeAnn, I love your beautiful green eyes.” I’m working in my office, I turn the light on and say, “LeAnn, I love how you connected with that client.” I’m walking outside. I look at the sunshine and say, “LeAnn, I don’t know about how you talked to that adult child, but that’s okay, I love you anyway.” So I didn’t do things perfectly, but I constantly reinforced through light, all the things I love about. And so began myLovin Me journey, which interestingly enough has not only improved my relationship with myself, but also with all the amazing humans all around me.
Well, I also love the word “Tidbit”. It means a small tasty, delightful bite-sized morsel. This is how I’ve increased love for myself and love for others, through tidbits of love. This Love Tidbits podcast is a place where you’ll hear nuggets of tenderness and compassion, easy tips and ideas to increase the love you feel, and beautiful perspectives from others allabout love.
Each podcast will end with a quote or a question to ponder. Today’s quote is from John Morton. “There is no limit to the power of loving.”
Hmmm, something to think about.
Have a good one y’all and here’s to love.
If you would like to become an expert at loving yourself. Check out my Lovin Me Program at leannaustin.com