CADA Matters: Recent Episodes
Gracilis
CADA is an acronym for "Church Against Domestic Abuse".CADA Matters is a series of discussions with various professionals & people from all walks of life. Our discourse is centered around matters related to domestic abuse with a faith perspective. We also discuss how to have and maintain healthy relationships in order to avoid or stop unhealthy relationship patterns that lead to .We learn and unlearn here and invite you to join us weekly
Clara Alexander of Clara Alexander TV joins Gracilis to discuss this topic examining dating , safe dating, dating after abuse and dating in a way that ensures you are not being abused
The holiday season is sadly another time a lot of abusers use to exert power and control and make their victims feel bad/left out. From not adhering to the arranged holiday arrangement to not returning the children after a pick-up, the season could become very stressful. In this episode, we discuss how best to navigate the waters without allowing anyone steal our joy and peace
Gracilis continues this talk and is once again joined by Dr Abimbola Oyedokun ,a mental health psychiatrist to discuss how Child Sexual abuse can affect our lives and the need to face the past in order totruly livein the present . This talk is filled with practical wisdom for adults who have undergone sevual abuse as a child
Gracilis is joined by Dr Abimbola Oyedokun ,a mental health psychiatrist to discuss how Child Sexual abuse can affect our lives and the need to face the past in order totruly livein the present . This talk is filled with practical wisdom for adults who have undergone sevual abuse as a child
Gratitude is a command .It is not if we feel like or when it is convenient .It can be learnt and it goes a long way .This episode with Remi Obasohan is sure to set you on the path of gratitude.
Most times people remain in abusive relationships as they have developed an attachment with the perpetrarors of abuse . Understanding this phenomenon of Trauma Bonding can help us respond correctly.
Female Genital Mutilation is another form of abuse that is culturally encouraged .Our guest discusses the practice and the evils associated with it .
Rastor Olusegun Akinkugbe, resident Pastorof City of God Glasgow joins Gracilis to look at the matter of Domestic abuse and the role of a Pastor.
November 25th is the International Day for Elimination of Violence Against Women and in this episode, Gracilis discusses with GBV activist who is also a pastor;s wife, Leah Umueokeke to mark the day
Still celebrating our men, Dr Uvoh Onoriobe, the CEO of Healing HandsHealth Society joins Gracilis on this episode to look at what it relly means to be a man, debuling myths about what it means to being a man, toxic masculinity and much more.Dr Uvoh is a christian with a passion for spreading God;s love through medical care to all people around the world and he currently serves as anofficer in the United States Army Reserve Dental Corp.
We celebrate the International Men's Day this year in a very vibtrant, entertaining and enlightening discussion discussing "Celebrating Manhood" with Chiedu Uraih
Conflicts are a vital part of relationships and a healthy relationship is one where those involved know howto navigate conflicts, understanding the principles, patterns of conflict resoution is what this episodeis about .
Research has shown that people who are abused also have abuse done to their pets and for some of them, leaving is not an option as they do not want to leave their pets with their abusers, Moreso most domestic abuse shelters do not cater for pets. Understanding animal abuse and the implications is what this episode is about
Abuse is not just physical and using words is a very potent form of abuse that has been recognized to have harmful effects .Join Gracilis as she looks again at Verbal abuse in this episode of CADA Matters .
Graciis continues the discussion on Stalking with Himo , giving attention to how to respond and where to get help
The Social Worker also has a role in dealing with domestic abuse. Mr Isaiah discusses with a heart of passon what social workers do and his experience so far , especially demystifying the myths about what social workers do
Stalking is another technoque that abusers also use and in this episode. Graciilis begins the discussion on what Staking is, recognizing it and lots more
There are many causes of homelessness and in this eposode, Lere Idowu tackles the subject of domestic abuse s it relates to Homelessness and what we can do about it
Gracilis is joined today by a solicitor, Leslie Charles who looks at what the Law states in regards to the family, helping us to understand what we can and cannot use amidst several other questions
Pastor Shirley Roberts digs further on the matter of Forgiveness and Domestic abuse discussing the role of feelings, memory , how the church has dealt with this matter and some other practical aspects of forgiveness as well as forgiving, keeping safe and stil being able to do what the law requires .
Pastor Shirley Roberts, author of "Stop, who are you hiding from?" joins Gracilis to discuss on the issue of forgiveess as regards to domestic abuse, demystifying some myths as well as looking at the various ways it affects the perpetrator and the victim as wellas why forgiveness is necessary amidst sevral other things
Intimacy Coach,Pamela Evbota joins Gracilis to discuss how our homes can be abuse free as well as developing the kind of intimacy in our relationships that will keep abuse far away. She reiterates the need to be intentional about love and intimacy in our homes as well as setting and reviewing our goals
We continue our series on Elder Abuse as we look into this subtle form of abuse .It is another form of abuse that can take place in our homes and something we must all be aware of , whetehr we are parents or have eldderly parents. We want to live long and enjoy the period of old age . Learn from this episode about Elder abuse
Elder Abuse is another form of abuse that can take place in our homes and something we must all be aware of , whetehr we are parents or have eldderly parents. We want to live long and enjoy the period of old age . Learn from this episode about Elder abuse .
If we are going to have healthy relationships,it is important to identify toxic people so we don't enter toxic relationships.
Gracilis shares some tips on recognizing toxic people in this episode
It is dangerous to underestimate the enemy &sometimes domestic abuse thrives because of misconceptions .Gracilis joins Sandy from CAHN ,Manchester to discuss some of the common myths held about Domestic abuse
Emotional abuse is another form of domestic abuse which can occur on its own or with other forms of domestic abuse .This form of abuse can occur without physical bruises.Gracilis & Himo in their usual and practical way , discuss the what, why,who , where & how to deal with Emotional abuse
In honour of World Prevention Suicide Day(Sept 10th), Gracilis is joined in this episode by Dr Osagie Omofuma,the Senior Pastor of Grace Community Church,Manchester & a GP with a special interest on Mental health &Reproductive health.
Dr Osagie who sheds light on dealing with threats of suicide, the relationship between domestic abuse &suicide, the factors to consider as well as the role of the church in the prevention of suicide .
In this entertaining and educative episode with a focus on adults, you are sure to listen to a balanced approach from both medical & Christian perspective .
September 10th is World Prevention Suicide Day & in this episode, Gracilis is joined by a non-stipidenry priest in the Anglican Communion who is also a Consultant Child & Adolescent Psychiatrist ,Revd .Dr Suki Osunsami who sheds light on Self -hatm ,Suicide in children looking at signs, warning signals ,facing the challenges &dealing with families who have list someone to suicide .
A balanced approach from both medical & Christian perspective and an episode definitely worth listening to
The need to look good is something we all share.Sometimes this need can be used by abusers and body shaming is another tactic that can dage our self worth .
Gracilis is joined by Margaret Ayeni who is a specialist Public health nurse practitioner and has a passion for healthy living.She also works in the Juice Plus company helping to promote organic health supplements through inspiring healthy living.
Margaret in this episode discusses what it is to have a good body image and consequences of having a wrong body image as well as being in a balance with lots more.
There is definitely a relationship between Self esteem and Domestic abuse.The way we see &feel about ourselves will largely determine our tolerance & response to Domestic abuse.Pastor Eyum of "My Pain ,Your Gain"ministries joins Gracilis to discusses the several factors that affect our self-esteem,recognizing signs of low self -esteem ,with many more including how to build a healthy self-esteem.
Here at CADA Matters, we make it out business to enlighten,educate ,&encourage healthy relationships.Most times,domestic abuse could play out in some forms that might make it difficult to identify .Join Gracilis in this episode as she sheds some light to help us recognize various forms in which domestic abuse may occur .
The Silent Treatment is a refusal to communicate verbally with another person. It can occur both in romantic & non-romantic relationships.
Gracilis in this episode discusses with Himo the how,why ,the ills,effects of silent treatment and how best to respond to it in our relationships.
Sometimes we are not just sure where we are in a relationship and it seems just when we are about to take a bow, we have a little attention again, just enough to keep us hopeful., almost like getting crumbs. In this episode, Gracilis sheds light on Breadcrumbing
Gracilis answers s, ome pratical questions on Male victims of domestic abuse, Medical Gaslighting, Emotional Safety Planning and Spiritual abuse .
This is the concluding part of the discussion with parent and author of the book, "Raising Today's Teens,Are you Ready?" , Aima Awenliobor onthe issue of Bullying. Dont forget to grab your copy of the book using the link https://www.amazon.co.uk/Raising-Todays-Teens-Are-Ready/dp/B09GZDT5N8/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1660729145&sr=8-3
Gracilis is joined by Juliet Popoola , the convener of "Energize Youth " as they discuss and throw more light on Teen Dating Violence, the several ways to recognize, protect the teens as well as usuful thimgs parents can do . Join them and learn so that intentionally we can help our teens avoid Teen Dating Violence
Author of "Raising Today's Teens" , Aima Awenlimobor jpins Gracilis to discuss Bullying . Bullying is a source of worry to both parents and children and during this season, we ast CADA Matters have decided to focus on our children in such a way that we can help in some common relationship problems. This episode looked at bullying, what ot is and it is not, statistics, common signs of bullying and what a parent can do as well as other matters as pertaining to Bullying. A very insightful session
Following our discouse on Adverse Childhood Experiences, Dr Amaka Obadeyi , a CBT practitioner & counsellor with eperience in both children and adult counselling joins Gracilis to discuss the role of counselling for children affected by Domestic abuse
Mary Morka Osadume, the founder of the charity "The Confident Women Network" joins Gracilis to discuss the issue of Confidence in woman and its relation to domestic abuse. She speaks with a passion in her heart to see women rebuild their confidence and get on a trajectory move from t pain to purpose.
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Dr Wonuola Akintola, a Mind Health Consultant joins Gracilis in this concluding episode of Adverse Childhood Experiences, discussing protecting factors as well as what the church can do amongst other things .
Rachel Obaseki, a trained nurse with a special interest in Sickle Cell Disease discusses the Sickle Cell Disease with Gracilis, debunking some mth as well as highlighting all the factors that vould make this condition a risk factor for domestic abuse in the home. She also stresses the need for education and prevention.
What we go through as children eventually shape us and affect our lives. Dr Wonuola Akintola, a Mind Health Consultant and the founding director of Free-Realms UK joins Gracilis as a guest to discuss this important topic . She teaches us to recognize the incidence of Adverse Childhood Experiences, types of Adverse Childgood Experiences, effect, risks factors amongst several other things in this first part of the discussion
Child Sexual Abuse is one of the most horrific things to go through and it does leave scars . Can we heal from them and live lifeto the fullest ?Join Gracilis and Dr Abimbola Oyedokun, our guest in this episode, tackle the topic.
The conversation on Spiritual abuse continues a step further looking at religious abuse and the dynamics in a congregation/denomination. The dynamics, causes of Spiritual abuse as well as recognizing spiritually abusive ministries and what to do are some of the things Gracilis discussed with Himo in this episode
Catfishing might be a new term to some but it is another tactics that abusers use and in this episode, the what, why , how , where, why and what to do if you find out you are being catfished is what this episode is about.
Spiritual abuse is another form of abuse that could occur in intimate relationships as well as religious organizations. Join Gracilis in the first part of this series as she looks atSpiritual abuse in intimate relationships.The ability to recognize it, prevent it and how to respond correctly are some of the areas discussed in this episode
Domestic abuse cuts across all ages and the teenagers are not left out.What can we do when our teenagers are involved in an abusive relationship, can we recogize the signs and how can we prevent it. Join Gracilis and Layo Rems , the founder of Blossom Charity , who have an outreach to girls from 10 to 18. Layo caters also for mothers of uyoung girls and her insight in this episode is refreshing .
Human Trafficking has been closely linked to domestic abuse and can sometimes serve as a synergistic factor as well as a causal factor. Giving the push and the pull factors, Dr Loretta Ogboro-Okor who is currently pursuing a PhD in Criminology joins Gracilis to discuss this topic and find ways we can change the narrative for victims
When it comes to Domestic abuse, there is a lot that the Police can do . You can even contact the Police discreetly when in a dangerous situation . Do you know you can aslso check a potential partner to see if they have a record of abuse?Join Gracilis &Sergeant Michelle Enu- Ugwueze from Birmingham discuss this important topic
Understanding that our Children as young as 10 can be asked to sext , why do children sext, what are the visible signs of effects of suffering as a victim of Sexting, what the law says about minors and sexting and what to do if our children are involved and lots more are discussed in this episode. A must listen for parents, Children and Youth Church workers .
Gracilis discusses Child Sexual Abuse with Lucian Osauwagboe,looking at the risk factors,prevention, what to do with a disclosure as well as the issue of forgiveness when it comes to Child Sexual Abuse.
Gracilis continues the discussion by answering practical questions on dealing with Pornography as regards to our children, our partners and tips on what to do as well as stages of recovery after a marriage has been affected with pornography.
Join Gracilis today as she examines what Pornography is, the types,the effects and how it is linked to domestic abuse as well as what to do if pornography is affecting you and your home
The Johnny Depp is a classic example and proof that there are also male voctims ofc Domestic abuse . Men when affected do have their percularities and Gracilis discusses with Daniel Yartey, a psychotherapist and a social worker in this episode
Join Gracilis and Olive Ariotiowa of " Daily Benefits" discuss this topic.As good as Prayer is, it can become a tool for domestic abuse. So many times, prayer is used as an excuse of not taking action Does God really answer prayers and what role does prayer play in Domestic abuse situations? These and some other questions were answered in this episode .
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Gracilis continues to teach on Gaslighting , another tactic abusers employ. Gaslighting can occur in other relationships, our work places or even in the hospitals /healthcare facilities.This episode discusses another form of Gasligting that also occurs.-Medical Gaslighting- the kind of Gaslighting that occurs with a doctor or healthcare practitioner. .Don;t forget to leave your comments below