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Linda Milun
Welcome to the live & lead Podcast! This podcast is dedicated To ALL leaders and entrepreneurs – and those to be – who want to live & lead with a positive impact & mindset. I am your international life & leadership coach Linda Milun! I will share with you insights & tips that will inspire & empower you to translate your intentions into actions. It's your opportunity to create your future while being fully present. This podcast will help you gain clarity, cultivate Personal Mastery & grow in Leadership - no matter if you have been a leader for many years or just starting!
There is no denying it, you and I are confronted with change daily!Technology, politics, society, trends... on every corner lurks the change and demands your attention. Being a leader is already a huge responsibility, so how to be a great leader in a world like this?Don't worry, there are things you can do to make sure that you stay on course and give your team what they need - vision, security and confidence!Listen to this episode to learn all you need to know to get started right! Ready to grow & invest in yourself? Book a free discovery session: https://calendly.com/refractioncoaching/coaching-session
Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-milun/2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refractioncoaching/ My Website: http://www.refractioncoaching.com My Credentials: https://www.credly.com/badges/0294e6f7-45c6-4cd3-897c-52467281bacc/public_url Listen to the live & lead - Podcast: https://anchor.fm/s/8f4102a0/podcast/rss Read the live & lead - Blog: http://www.refractioncoaching.com/blog
Every leader will face a temptation that can cause their "downfall". One cause for that is often pride! The good news is that you can do things to keep you on track or get you back on track! In this episode, you will learn three simple but powerful skills that will help you to remain with both feet on the ground! Ready to grow & invest in yourself? Book a free discovery session: https://calendly.com/refractioncoaching/coaching-session Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-milun/2
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Everyone experiences in their lives setbacks. We don't like it or enjoy it, but it happens. This episode will look at three tips that can help you turn setbacks into growth boosters. Do you feel like setbacks send you into a self-doubt or self-criticism spiral? Don't worry, we will address that in this episode too!Ready to grow & invest in yourself?
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Every leader has asked themselves at some point on their leadership journey which style is best for them! It is almost like a secret battle: "My style is better than yours", which indirectly implies "I am a better leader than you".In this episode, you will learn the most commonly "used" or "named" leadership styles. You will find out my conclusion after over a decade of leadership experience and mentoring and coaching leaders.At the end of the episode, you will have more clarity on what you need to do to find the perfect leadership style.Ready to grow & invest in yourself?
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The struggle with confidence is not just for young leaders a reality, but also for experienced leaders. You won't believe how often I talked to people who seemed confident but didn't feel like it - which was only visible in subtle ways. Of course, there are those leaders who are embarking on new terrain. For the majority, confidence was and is a challenge.
I am very grateful to see how all my clients improved their confidence tremendously so they could see and experience change! That's why I share in this podcast some essential aspects and what you can do to work on them!
Ready to grow & invest in yourself? Book a free discovery session: https://calendly.com/refractioncoaching/coaching-session Connect with me: LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-milun/2 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refractioncoaching/ My Website: http://www.refractioncoaching.com My Credentials: https://www.credly.com/badges/0294e6f7-45c6-4cd3-897c-52467281bacc/public_url Listen to the live & lead - Podcast: https://anchor.fm/s/8f4102a0/podcast/rss
"I don't want to be a leader", "I don't like being called a leader" or "I don't see myself as a leader" are just a few statements leaders I met or worked with made. Through my work with them, they were able to shift their perspective and embrace the responsibility they had and have without negative emotions. Join me in this video to look at various causes for rejecting your responsibility and how to move on.
Ready to grow & invest in yourself? Book a free discovery session: https://calendly.com/refractioncoaching/coaching-session
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A hot topic for every leader! Managing your emotions is extremely important to be the leader your team, environment, family and even you need. Being someone who lets emotions rule you will cause losses in the long run. Be it valuable team members, friendships, business deals, etc. People often claim that they are not ruled by their emotions and consider themselves rational human beings. My experience has shown me that the majority struggle or even lack very important skills to manage their emotions. In this video, you will learn what three major skills you need to work on in order to become someone who is able to lead yourself and others.
Ready to grow & invest in yourself? Book a free discovery session: https://calendly.com/refractioncoaching/coaching-session
Connect with me:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-milun/2
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refractioncoaching/
My Website: http://www.refractioncoaching.com
My Credentials: https://www.credly.com/badges/0294e6f7-45c6-4cd3-897c-52467281bacc/public_url
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Position, leadership style, connections, etc.? What makes really a great leader? Over decades leadership has primarily been defined by a title or position. The "The greater the position the greater the leader"-Mindset is outdated and unhealthy.
In this video, we will discover the reality of outstanding leadership and what skills are needed.
I am Linda Milun your Life and Leadership Coach. I work with leaders, for leaders and as a leader in various countries and cultures. I believe it is time for leaders to own up to their responsibilities and those entrusted to them. Become the best version of yourself and translate your intentions into actions.
Ready to grow & invest in yourself? Book a free discovery session: https://calendly.com/refractioncoaching/coaching-session
Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/linda-milun/2
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/refractioncoaching/
My Website: http://www.refractioncoaching.com
My Credentials: https://www.credly.com/badges/0294e6f7-45c6-4cd3-897c-52467281bacc/public_url
Listen to the live & lead - Podcast: https://anchor.fm/s/8f4102a0/podcast/rss
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Personal Mastery is often misunderstood as self-coaching or just self-management. and sometimes it is mistaken as a perfectionistic lifestyle. In this episode, you will discover what Personal Mastery is, clear some misconceptions, and talk about why it is the real deal for every leader and entrepreneur who cares about the quality of their life! Plus you will get to know how you can start to implement it!
Just a hint: Personal Mastery will enable you to understand who you are, who you want to be, and how you envision your life or accomplish your goals. It is about taking ownership of your life and responsibility for your decisions.
Do you want to be able to translate your intentions into actions, have a positive impact and create your future with a healthy mindset? Then you won't be able to avoid Personal Mastery!
Check out www.refractioncoaching.com to get the best support for your personal and professional growth!
Setting goals effectively is an essential life skill! Not just for your professional life, but also for your personal life. In this episode, you will learn what goals are, what kind of goals are there and how to set goals that are "SMART"!
Types of goals:
a. Process goals - What do you need to do to achieve the desired standard?
b. Performance goals - What is the standard you need to reach to produce the end result?
c. Outcome goals - What is the main/final goal you are targeting?
- How to set smart goals
a. Be specific
b. Measurable
c. Achievable
d. Realistic
e. Timely
If you would like help with reassessing your current goals or setting goals that align with your "Self", then feel free to contact me for a first free consultation.
My homepage: www.refractioncoaching.com
E-Mail: Linda.Milun@refractioncoaching.com
The enemy of your effectiveness and productiveness seems to be procrastination.
It’s the thing that holds you back and keeps you from progressing. It's like fighting an invisible person that wants to keep you right where you are.
Procrastination is – to put it very simple – conscious delay of something that needs to be done, even though you know the delay can cause a negative result.
In this episode you will learn about:
- The causes of procrastination
- How to increase your motivation & productivity.
If you want to effectively work on decreasing procrastination in your life, feel free to contact me.
I love to help leaders and entrepreneurs to step into their purpose, create the life they truly want and live a lifestyle that is in alignment with you!
linda.milun@refractioncoaching.com
www.refractioncoaching.com
Boundaries are something that blows the mind of many people - because most of the time they either don't respect them or they don't have them. It is important to understand that boundaries are actually your friends! It is extremely important to learn to befriend them!
Indeed, many people do not have healthy boundaries - due to cultural and sociological expectations. e.g. not being "able" to send someone away even though they ignored all social cues that indicated it's bad timing and visited you unannounced anyhow.
Some people are extroverts, others ambiverts and other introverts. Therefore, some love to socialize, others don’t and for ambiverts, it at all depends on their situation.
Even small children are often forced to interact with others if they want to or not. They have to give a hug or shake hands as a sign of respect, even though they don't understand that yet. It is expected of them to violate their own boundaries in order to please adults. That is something that sticks with them for a lifetime if not unlearnt at some point. How to prevent it? Well if the child says no, respect it. You could ask the child if it wants to shake hands, wave or just say bye. The child learns to be polite without having to violate personal boundaries.
As you can see bending your own boundaries to please others is a very common thing that is taught. Therefore, learning healthy boundaries is for the majority very difficult and challenging. Boundaries can have different forms and contexts. There are physical boundaries, mental boundaries, emotional boundaries, professional boundaries and so on. e.g. You are not responsible for every aspect of your employee's life! They are responsible for their marriage. They are responsible for their kids. You can create a work environment that is making sure that your employees don’t work overtime, but what your employees do in their free time WITH their free time is their responsibility.
In this podcast you will get to know the answers to the following questions:
Why do we need healthy boundaries?
What kind of issues can unhealthy boundaries cause?
What do we need to internalize about healthy boundaries in order to step out of unhealthy patterns?
How do you implement healthy boundaries?
If you want to improve the quality of your life through healthy boundaries, feel free to contact me! I am happy to help you understand where you are at and how you can improve the boundaries in your life! I would love to help you!
Check out www.refractioncoaching.com
Write to linda.milun@refractioncoaching.com
Is this you: You hear the word change and you feel already uncomfortable and worried?
Or does this sound more familiar: You hear the word change and get excited and eager?
Interestingly, even if the change is something you really like it is not always as easy as you think. And even if you don’t like change does that not mean that you are condemned to always have negative experiences with change.
That is why I prepared something, especially for you on how to cope with change, no matter what your starting point is.
First of all, it is helpful to understand change itself better:
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So many forms of change
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Negative – Loss of loved one, separation, loss of job, etc
- Positive – Move, wedding, birth, new job,
- Sudden – shock, drastic, usually no preparation, etc
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Expected – anticipated, maybe eagerly awaited, prepared, action plan ready, etc.
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Facts about change
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Requires adjustments
- Too much at once?
- Good change can cause stress too
- Can increase anxiety, depression etc, because of the negative emotions caused by stress
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Increased tiredness or hyperactivity, Sleeping problems, irritability, etc
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Solutions
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Positive self-talk:
- Visualization
- Take care of the things you CAN control or influence
- Acknowledge change
- Try to keep as much of your regular schedule or daily routine as possible
- Pay attention to your physical health (nutrition, hydration, exercise)
- Seek support
- Proactive activities to prevent reactive coping mechanisms
- Train stress resilience to prevent reactive behaviour
- Relaxation (swimming, dancing, reading (light books), meeting uplifting friends, sleeping, etc
If you want to have practical help and professional support in your time of transition and change, then feel free to contact me for a free consultation to see how I can serve you in your particular situation best.
www.refractioncoaching.com
linda.milun@refractioncoaching.com
One topic that comes up with almost all clients – side note most of my clients are entrepreneurs or in some leadership position or responsibility – is the topic of feeling alone. Some might think "oh well, that is the price you have to pay!" However, that’s not the case!
Feeling isolated, alone or even lonely as a leader or as someone in a leadership position is not how things have to be or should be!
In the past decade I have interacted and worked with so many leaders and seen how they struggled with this at some point or for most of their careers.
This Podcast episode will get you started to reflect where you are at, bring awareness to the serious consequences of falling into the trap of isolation and help you take the first steps to do something about it or even prevent it.
In this podcast you will learn:
- about the causes of isolation.
- the side effects of isolation.
- what you can do to prevent it or to get out of it.
If you want to find out more or if you are looking for the right support then either check out www.refractioncoaching.com
or connect with me via linda.milun@refractioncoaching.com. I don't sell my clients some mass-produced coaching plan!
Together we create what is best for your individual journey and I will be your greatest cheerleader and support!
STAYING TRUE TO YOURSELF
Are you living what others expect of you? Are you trying to achieve what the current trend demands? Are you compromising as a leader a lot just to see fast success?
You see plenty of people online who talk about how they quit their 9-to-5 and started their own thing. It often even sounds like having a so-called „regular“job is something bad or not desirable.
You maybe see people who have a 9-to-5 job and they make much more money than someone who started their own business and can go home after work and not feel stress or pressure about what all still needs to be done.
You have all these pictures and ideas in your head about how people say life should be and with all these voices in your head, you have to make a choice! A choice about your profession, your future, your development.
First of all, do you know your values, beliefs and worldview? Do you know what kind of lifestyle you want to live? If you are still in the process of figuring that out, then that’s totally fine. Invest in your self-awareness. Grow in who you are and what you think and what you are passionate about. You may not know yet what lifestyle you want in 10 years, but you most likely know what lifestyle you want right now!
As a leader, entrepreneur and simply human being, it is important to understand who you are in order to make sound choices. Too many opinions, trends and thoughts about success are out there! However non of these will lead you to the life you really long for IF they are not in agreement with your core values, worldview and the lifestyle you truly long for!
In this episode, you will find out what makes being true to yourself so important and how you can take steps to live up to YOUR standards and dreams instead of following some trend!
Connect with me via www.refractioncoaching.com/contact
In today's significant world, everyone wants to have success. How success looks like varies from person to person. But for everyone, there is a significant key element that needs to be worked on in order to actually experience success. The mindset! In today's episode, you will realize the significants and power of your mind and how you can work on your mindset!
What is the mindset?
- It is how you view and perceive the world and how you make sense of everything around you and within yourself. Your mindset influences your thoughts, emotions, behaviour and so on.
- our mindset will decide to some extent your future
- It kind of describes how you walk through life: are you seeing only threats and issues or do you see potential? Do you see problems as a challenge or as an unchangeable factor that condemns you to failure? Do you focus on the disadvantages or the opportunities?
Fixed Mindset: You think that everything is already set in stone - "fixed". e.g. You are never getting a better job. You cannot get better at your skills. You cannot learn skills that are very challenging.
Growth Mindset:
- The most successful people are those who have a growth mindset
- Through time and effort, it is possible to learn new and challenging things
- Approaching life and your future by focusing on the potential, strength and options rather than dwelling on all that could go wrong is so important if you want to see progress and growth.
- That's why some people consider the growth mindset and positive mindset as the same thing or as strongly connected - at the very least!
- A positive mindset focuses on the solutions, not the problems.
- Converting setbacks into future success
The mind is in a constant battle between focusing on whats lacking or on all the potential.
The goal is to teach your mindset to be by default a positive/ growth mindset.
Self-awareness plays a key role in developing such a mindset.
Every time you get out of your comfort zone and learn something new or face diffícult situations properly your neurons can form in your brain new connections and therefore you learn something new. (Neuroplasticity)
How can you train a mindset that leads to success?
- Ask the right questions.
- Use the GROW Model
- Practice the ABCDE Model
- Add the word "yet", when you can't do something or you face challenges.
Do you want to improve your mindset and therefore experience more positivity, growth and success in your life? I am happy to help you!
Contact me via linda.milun@refractioncoaching.com or via my website www.refractioncoaching.com.
Are you reacting or are you responding? Who has control over you, the emotions, behaviour and words of others or you? In today's episode, we will dive deeper into self-regulation and self-control. And of course, I will give you some tools at hand to navigate yourself better.
Reacting
- Giving others power over you
- Blaming others for your behaviour
- Lack of self-control and self-regulation
Responding
- Taking ownership of your part in interpersonal connection
- Taking responsibility for your behaviour
- Using self-regulation and self-control
Self-regulation and self-control both have to do with handling emotions and reactions and responses. Some might consider them synonyms. However, there are distinctions in the use.
Self-regulation is a preventative approach, and self-control is more about controlling your emotions and situation when it got already out of hand or are overwhelming you. Either one is not to be confused with suppressing emotions. Self-control puts a lot of focus on willpower. Self-regulation itself focuses more on identifying and than either reducing or getting rid of the causes or impulses. In short: self-regulation focuses more on making sure that a situation or circumstances don't overwhelm you in the first place or on how to handle stressful and challenging circumstances without being overrun by emotions.
Tools to increase self-regulation and self-control skills:
- Assessing the situation - Confirming & Clarifying if you understood right – Communicating your position or boundary.
- Regular breathing exercises and some calming forms of meditation
- Take care of your physical health, because that will directly impact your mental state. A stable mind supports your ability to self-control.
- Pursue self-awareness: Understanding yourself, triggers, causes, etc. will help you face such specific situations and triggers calmer and with a sound mind.
- Find an accountability partner. That can be a friend, a coach or a mentor who will check in on you and ask you the hard questions about how you handle yourself and necessary changes.
Check out www.refractioncoaching.com to find out more!
Have a look at the live & lead blog with insightful and empowering articles.
Contact me, if you are ready to experience growth, progress and change in your life, work and mind! Leaders need to have great self-regulation and self-control skills in order to have a positive impact and implement needed change. Change and growth start with you! I am happy to help you with that!
Authentic leadership is definitely something many leaders, who want to create a powerful impact, seek to implement. In this episode, you will learn more about authentic leadership and why it is so attractive.
- What is authentic leadership?
· An authentic leader is someone who is aware of their own deficits and shows a great willingness to learn
· Being genuine looks different from person to person! You are unique!
· Most people connect with authentic leadership "integrity"
· Not pretending to be something or someone they are not
· Keeping focused on the long-term goal instead of short-term success. In a fast living and demanding world as we live in today quite a big pressure point. Authentic leaders are not static or stiff, but strategic people. They keep their eye on what outcome is desired, more impactful and useful for the team in the long run.
· Multiplication is essential.
· Taking ownership of mistakes makes the difference.
· Creating rapport and trust
· Willingness to question status quo
· Standing in the gap for your team
· Adaptability
- What makes it so attractive?
· Be aware: It does not mean that you need to do a soul striptease in front of your whole team, like showing your deepest fears, private problems, etc.! Healthy personal and professional boundaries are a must for a healthy functioning team and leadership.
· Being authentic means that you are approachable instead of acting and leading as if you are a god or a king.
· It is not about being egocentric, self-centred, and self-absorbed… on the contrary. authentic leadership brings balance to the team, the goal and oneself!
- What do you need to learn to be an authentic leader?
· Understand yourself: weaknesses, strengths, core values, etc. and own up to your weaknesses, failures and challenges. People know when you are pretending to be something you are not.
· Invest in your Emotional Intelligence!
· Create a healthy feedback culture
· Be teachable and open to receiving feedback. If there needs to be a solution to a problem and a team member had an idea that would solve it, then don’t let your ego get in the way. Give CREDIT to that person
· Listen well to the ideas and suggestions of others. It does not mean that you have to do everything that others suggest, but it means to give it genuinely a thought. Don’t ask for the feedback and idea of others if it's already set in stone what's going to happen.
· Lead by example: The same standards, values, expectations, etc you have towards your team, you should own up to too. That means: you expect respectful interactions, then be respectful to all your staff or team members, from the cleaning personnel and intern to the CEOs and Shareholders
If you want to learn more or you are interested in working together on your leadership skills and personal mastery check out www.refractioncoaching.com or contact linda.milun@refractioncoaching.com to book a free consultation or a taster session!
What every leader should know is how to create and live interpersonal connections effectively! It is of utter importance – especially for leaders! That’s why today you will get to know what interpersonal effectiveness is and I will hand you three guidelines that will help you improve your skills.
What exactly is Interpersonal Effectiveness?
It summarizes the skills we need to attend relationships successfully:
The ability to meet your own needs while maintaining healthy relationships and self-respect!
e.g. At work, it would help create efficient interactions with, staff, employees, colleagues etc.
What we need to keep in mind is that the ideal is to accomplish all three. However, there will be situations when you will need to choose one over the other.
What can be common causes of having trouble executing interpersonal effectiveness?
- Lack of skills in interpersonal effectiveness: not knowing how to apologize
- Emotions – anger causes escalation of conflict
- Indecisiveness & ambivalence: sending mixed signals due to your confusion about what you want
- Short-term goals distract you from long-term goals
1. "Objective Effectiveness": the ability to clearly state your needs and wants and to have a satisfactory outcome of interactions. A question that can help you is: What do you want as an outcome from the interaction & how can you achieve that?” The acronym DEAR MAN presents a guide on how to accomplish that.
- Describe
- Express
- Assert
- Reinforce
- Mindful
- Appear
- Negotiate
2. Relationship Effectiveness: Maintaining and nourishing the relationship through positive interactions. A question that can help you is: How do you want others to feel about you after the interaction & how can you achieve that? The acronym GIVE will show you how to put this into practice.
- Gentle
- Interested
- Validate
- Easy
3. Self-respect Effectiveness: Staying faithful to your own beliefs, standards and values! Living and acting on your own self-respect. Treating yourself with respect will enable you to accept the respect of others. The main questions are: How do you want to feel about yourself after the interaction & how can you achieve that? You will find the acronym FAST useful.
- Fair
- Apologies
- Values
- Truthful
Have a look at each domain and acronym. Assess yourself via a scale 1-10 (1= lowest): How satisfied are you with your performance in F, A, S, T and overall in self-respect effectiveness. Then you start actively working on the area(s) where you observe a lack in skill. Don't work on it all at once. Target the one that seems to be the most relevant. Give yourself enough time and patience to work on it.
Check out my blog to have another look at the interpersonal effectiveness: https://www.refractioncoaching.com/post/how-you-can-be-more-effective-in-interpersonal-connections
I am happy to help you grow and to be for you the best possible support you could imagine! https://www.refractioncoaching.com/contact
Self-awareness is an essential part of Emotional intelligence and therefore essential for you as a leader!
Did you know that a study by Eurich in 2008 has shown that 90% of people think they are self aware, however only 10-15% of them demonstrated true self-awareness. That lets us wonder "Are we truly self-aware?" and "What can be done to grow in self-awareness?".
Investing in your self-awareness will keep a more realistic perspective on yourself and your enviornment.
Therefore in this episode we will look into the unique power of self-awareness and how you can improve it!
Check out my webpage to find out more: www.refractioncoaching.com