Is It Me? with Coach Cathy

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Have you ever tried to set a personal boundary and have it backfire so badly that you never want to do it again? You did everything right, but it still went wrong, and you're thinking, what the hell just happened? On this week's show, we're going to tell you how to prepare for the inevitable push back.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like you need to set a personal boundary with someone in your life.

There's that part of you that thinks they'll agree with your point of view, and it's keeping you from preparing for a confrontation.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why it's so hard to set boundaries and how to be prepared for the other person's pushback, including:

Why setting a boundary is so difficult
Why preparing what you want to say isn't enough
How to check your motives for why you want to set a boundary
How to prepare yourself for the other person's pushback and still stand your ground

Are you ready?

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We read a lot about finding "life balance," but do you really know what that FEELS like? It's not about being everything to everybody. It's more about giving a little here and a little there and still being okay.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like your life should be fairly balanced, but something is out of whack.

There's that part of you that feels like you have to take care of everyone else first, and it's keeping you from taking care of yourself.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why you're so stressed out, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

How to slow down and reevaluate where you spend your time and energy
How to prioritize your life so it feels like you're doing things you want to do
How to stop doing things that no longer serve you
How to deal head-on with neglected parts of your life, including taking care of yourself

Are you ready?

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Is it really your problem or are you just trying to avoid feeling guilty? On this week's show we're talking about what motivates us to fix everyone else's problems and how to stop picking up the slack.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

Your friend is making you feel guilty about something that isn't even your fault.

There's that part of you that feels like the lesser person in this friendship, and it's keeping you from seeing that you're being manipulated.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why you're always taking on other people's guilt and what you can finally do to stop, including:

Why someone is trying to pass their guilt onto you
Why we feel so overwhelmed in these situations
How to trust your gut and ask the right questions
How to say no to taking on someone else's responsibility

Are you ready?

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What happens when you decide to break a long-standing family tradition? On this week's show, we're talking about how to get the family on board and stay in the will.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

Everyone expects you to carry on the family tradition, but it's too much work and nobody is enjoying it anymore. You think you might want to stop doing it, but you're afraid that all hell will break loose.

There's that part of you that constantly feels like you should just leave it alone so no one's feelings get hurt, but it's making you dread the holidays.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to break a long-standing family tradition and still keep the peace, including:

How to assess the importance of the tradition
How to tell your relatives that you're making a change
What to do when others threaten to boycott the family get-together
How to start new traditions that everyone enjoys

Are you ready?

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Ever wonder why you don't have the perfect life? Enough money, the perfect marriage, kids that adore you. On this week's show we're going to talk about how jealousy and envy can suck the happiness right out of you.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like you're not good enough to have the marriage, the friendships, the job that you have.

There's that part of you that constantly feels angry and jealous, and it's keeping you from seeing that you have everything you need to be happy.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why jealousy makes you feel insecure, and how you can finally get what you need, including:

How jealousy and envy are normal human emotions
How insecurity can drive your jealousy and leave you feeling out of control
How to separate desire from need
Why you're not missing anything you need to be happy right now

Are you ready?

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How can you mend a broken heart? We tend to blame ourselves when a relationship ends, but it's not always your fault. On this week's show, we're learning how to reframe rejection as a lesson learned and how to move forward towards something better.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like something must be wrong with us for someone to reject us.

There's that part of you that blames yourself for what happened, and it's keeping you from accepting the truth about what happened and move on with your life.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why it's not all your fault when you've been rejected, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

Why rejection is so painful
Why rejection doesn't mean that something is wrong with you
Why blaming yourself when you've been rejected doesn't make anything better
How to change the story you're telling yourself about why the relationship ended

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Betrayal is devastating because it can only be done by someone you trusted. It's hard to recover from that pain, and what's worse is you're now constantly guarding your heart. On this week's show, we're talking about why it's so important to let go of the anger caused by betrayal and begin making our way towards forgiveness.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like it's ridiculous to trust anyone because eventually they'll break your heart.

There's that part of you that's constantly on guard against emotional pain, and it's keeping you from having a healthy relationship with anyone new.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to heal old emotional wounds and learn to trust others again, including:

Why it's so hard to forgive someone else's betrayal
How to take back responsibility for our own emotions
Why it's so important to learn how to trust again
How to decide if we want the person who betrayed us back into our lives

Are you ready?

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Oh, no. Here they come. Whether it's a friend, relative, neighbor, or coworker, we've all been the victim of a chronic complainer. You want to be sympathetic, but you're losing time and patience with someone who seems completely uninterested in solving their problem. On this week's show, we'll discuss why a chronic complainer is so exhauting and how to get your life back.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like your friend calls you constantly to complain about everything.

There's that part of you that wants to be there for them, but their problems are keeping you from dealing with your own. And now you're mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why a chronic complaniner is so exhausting and how to get your life back, including:

What a chronic complainer really wants and why trying to help them never works
Why you feel so physically, mentally and emotionally drained after you talk to them
How to limit your interactions with them without being rude or unkind
How to tell the difference between a chronic complainer and a friend who's truly in need

Are you ready?

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Whether you're an adult daughter or you have an adult daughter, you know how complicated that relationship can be. And lately it may feel like childhood pain is a frequent conversation topic. On this week's show, we're talking about how to see our mothers as real women and to start healing old wounds.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You blame your mother for the hurt she caused you as a child.

There's that part of you that wants her to feel the pain that you felt when you were younger, and it's keeping you stuck in blame and resentment.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why we bring up childhood pain to our mothers, and how you can start to move past it, including:

What we want to accomplish by telling our mothers about our pain
How to speak to your mother in a way that will bring you resolution, without anger
How to stop blaming your mother for your failures and forgive her for her mistakes
How to change your thinking about who your mother is and what she did

Are you ready?

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Are you a caregiver to your aging parents? If you are, then you might have given up a lot of things to make sure you're there for them all the time. Learn why we overcompensate as caregivers, and how to find balance again.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like something will happen to your elderly parent if you're not always there to care for them.

There's that part of you that's afraid of the emotions that come with this enormous life change, and it's keeping you from your marriage, your job, and the things you used to enjoy.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why we overcompensate as caregivers, and what we can do to find balance again, including:

Why it's vital to recognize that our needs are important too
How to determine what those needs are and what you realistically able to do
How to manage your own emotions and give yourself a break for not being the perfect child
How to have hard conversations with siblings about their role in your parent's care

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How's your ego? If you're too aggressive or too passive, then might make you feel out of control. The trick is to find yourself in-between these two extremes. Learn why a healthy, balanced ego is the key to your lifelong happiness.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like your self confidence is very low and that people walk all over you.

There's that part of you that thinks having a healthy ego makes you a bitch, and it's keeping you from saying (or knowing) what you really want.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why a healthy, balanced ego is the key to your lifelong happiness, including:

Why a lack of self confidence makes you feel out-of-control
Why it's important to learn how to set boundaries
How to find the balance between aggressive and passive behaviors
Why it's so scary when we put our authentic selves out there

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Are you constantly worried about everything? It might be having a negative effect on your relationships. Learn how and why we justify our behavior and how you can learn to manage your stress instead.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like your constantly worried about something, and that if you don't act on it something bad will happen.

There's that part of you that justifies that behavior by telling yourself that's just how you deal with things, but it's keeping you from really effective coping strategies that could give your life meaning and purpose.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why we justify our constant worrying and how you can manage your stress instead, including:

What triggers your negative behavior
How you justify your behavior and why
What you're really afraid of and why you're trying to avoid it
How to determine what you need and how to ask for it

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Are you dealing with a troll? On this week's show we're talking about who trolls are, why they exist, and what you can do about them.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like someone is talking about you behind your back and it's not good. Whether it's a social media troll or a disgruntled co-worker, you're the subject of gossip.

There's that part of you that really wants to find out why they hate you so much, and it's keeping you upset and agitated.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn all about trolls, and what you can do to cope with the drama, including:

Who trolls are and why they heckle and gossip
What trolls want from you and what you can do about it
And what to do if a troll goes too far

Are you ready?

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Are you always looking to other people for approval? On this week's show we're talking about how to give yourself permission to make your own choices. It's time to trust your instinct about what's right for you.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like you're relying too much on other people to make major life decisions.

There's that part of you that's afraid to make a mistake, and it's keeping you from taking responsibility for your life choices.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to stop looking to other people for approval, and what you can finally do to overcome self doubt, including:

The difference between asking for an opinion and asking for approval
The problem with looking for outside validation
Why we're so afraid to make our own choices
How to trust your instinct about what's right for you

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Are you beating yourself up over things that happened in the past? On this week's show we're talking about how to use regret to motivate ourselves towards taking positive action. It's time to use what you've learned to move forward.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like you're stuck in regret and you can't get out.

There's that part of you that feels like you deserve to pay the price forever, and it's keeping you from learning from your mistake and moving on with your life.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to forgive yourself, and what you can finally do to use regret to motivate yourself towards positive action, including:

How to avoid using regret to justify negative actions
How to stay focused on the present and what you have rather than dwelling on what you think you lost
How to forgive yourself for what happened
How to learn from the lesson and use it as a tool for moving forward

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Sooner or later we all fail, but do you know how to do it gracefully? On this week's show we're talking about how to use failure to your advantage. It's time to stop making excuses, take a chance, and achieve your goals.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like life has become really boring.

There's that part of you that knows that you're terrified to make a mistake, and it's keeping you from trying anything new and interesting.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to redefine failure, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

How fear of failure is just a way to avoid unpleasant emotions
Why we need both certainty and uncertainty in our lives to feel happy
How to redefine mistakes as learning experiences
How being uncomfortable in the short term can open a world of new opportunities

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Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to forgive someone who has hurt you? On this week's show we're talking about what forgiveness really means. It's time to take steps to release yourself from emotional pain.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like you'll always have this deep anger and resentment towards someone who hurt you.

There's that part of you that feels like you can never forgive them for what they did, and it's keeping you from being truly happy.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn what forgiveness really means, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

Why hating someone only keeps you in emotional pain
Why forgiving someone doesn't mean that you condone their actions
How you can forgive someone who's no longer in your life
Why forgiveness is not a sign of weakness but a tremendous act of courage

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Are you blaming everyone else for how you feel? On this week's show we're talking about we're going to talk about how blaming others will never solve your problems. It's time to get out of the blame game and take responsibility for your emotions.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like you need a strategy for dealing with your anger, but nothing quite seems to work.

There's that part of you that blames everyone else for your behavior, and it's keeping you from taking responsibility for what's really bothering you.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to deal with anger, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

How to notice who you're blaming and how to take back responsibility for how you feel
How blowing things out of proportion usually indicates that something else is going on
How to uncover what's really bothering you

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Are you sleep deprived? On this week's show we're talking about the the lies we tell ourselves about why we're so tired. It's time to tell the truth about getting a good night's sleep.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like you're sleepy all the time, but it seems easier to make excuses than to go to bed at a reasonable hour.

There's that part of you that knows you’re a nicer person when you've had a good night's rest, but you still don't make sleep a priority.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn the lies you tell yourself about why you're not sleeping, and what you can finally do to get some rest, including:

What the most common lies are about why you can't sleep
How society rewards those who brag about how little sleep they get
How sleep deprivation affects your emotional and physical health
Why your stress and irritibility are likely linked to how little sleep you get

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On this week's show we're talking about why we think we need closure, and why it's time to learn how to stop obsessing over what happened and to start feeling better.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like if you could just figure out the moment things went wrong in your relationship that you could fix it.

There's that part of you that knows you're obsessing about the past because you don't want to feel the pain of rejection, and it's keeping you from healing and moving on.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to deal with rejection, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

How to deal with the flood of questions about what went wrong immediately after we've been rejected
How to set aside your need for closure and focus on feeling better
Why thinking that something's wrong with you can keep you stuck and unable to move on

Are you ready?

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On this week's show we're asking what you can do to cope when you're dealing with a narcissist.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like you're crazy. Everything you thought was right now seems to be wrong. If you say the sky is blue, then they tell you it's purple.

There's that part of you that keeps trying to correct your "mistakes," but it's leaving you emotionally and physically drained.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and what you need to do next, including:

Why being with that person is leaving you so emotionally and physically drained
What gaslighting is and how to tell if it's happening to you
How to tell the difference between a true narcissist and a master manipulator
What steps you need to take to protect your emotional well-being

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On this week's show we're going to talk about how to let go of resentment by setting clear boundaries without the guilt.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like you keep saying "yes" when you really mean "no," and now you're completely stressed out.

There's that part of you that's afraid to speak up, and it's keeping you overwhelmed, overworked, and underappreciated.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to set boundaries, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

What a personal boundary is and what it feels like when it's been violated
Why we assume other people should "know better"
Why we're so afraid to speak up and declare our boundaries
How to plan for and have a brave conversation

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On this week's show we're going to talk about the importance of feeling uncomfortable...and why this is a good thing. Especially when you're working on breaking bad habits. Situations like:

You want to make your life better, but you don't know how to start a new habit and stick to it. The fear of being uncomfortable is keeping you from getting started.
Life used to feel a lot easier, and you have no idea when things became so difficult. There's that part of you that knows you're living in the past, and it's keeping you from dealing with issues you need to resolve right now.
You're still in love with your ex, and if you got back together it would be different this time. But maybe romanticizing the past is keeping you from remembering the very real issues that drove you apart.

And you want to know...is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why we allow fear to hold us back, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

Why we tend to quit when things get a little uncomfortable
How to avoid becoming a victim to get attention
What actions you need to take to push through your discomfort
How to accept where you are and really start to transform your life for the better

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On this week's show we're going to talk about fear, and why we allow it to hold us back. Situations like:

You don't know how to communicate honestly with your husband:You're afraid to tell him what you really need, and it's keeping you from having the marriage you want.
You're stressed out all the time, and you have no idea why: You know that you're carrying around some deep-rooted fears, and it's keeping you from being happy.
You felt justified when he left, but now you want him back: You send him away, you miss him, and you try to get him back. You know you're just afraid to be alone, but you don't know how to break this pattern.

And you want to know...is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why we allow fear to hold us back, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

How fear shows up in our lives as stress and pain
How we use our fears to justify our actions
How uncovering deep-rooted fears can help relieve our stress
How to trust your gut and take appropriate action

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On this week's show we're talking about our perfectionist, peacemaker, and drama queen personality traits, and how these personality traits tend to show up. Situations like:

When you're angry all the time: You know that deep down your anger is about something else--something you need to resolve--but it's easier to just force others to do what you want than to deal with your issues.
When you can't stop worrying:You know that your worries need to be dealt with directly, but you'd rather tie yourself in knots than have a hard conversation.
When you're bored with your life:Everything is going pretty well, but...isn't that a little boring? But your version of controlled chaos is making everyone else crazy.

And you want to know...is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why what's really bothering you, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

Why it's easy to identify when we're upset, but why it's so hard to identify what's really bothering us.
How an out-of-control personality trait can indicate the root cause of your anger.
How to diffuse an ongoing argument with someone you love.

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On this week's show, we're going to talk about letting go and all those temporary fixes you're using to feel better. Situations like:

When you're still in love with your ex: You're still holding on to what was, and it's keeping you from finding the relationship that you want.
When you're too afraid to try anything new: You're so uncomfortable in new situations that you don't do things you know you'd really enjoy.
When you want to lose weight but think you have no willpower: You feel like no matter what you do you can't lose the weight, so now you have no motivation to take control of your health.
When you can't seem to get over your divorce: You're still holding onto the anger and resentment, and it's keeping you from being happy.

And you want to know...is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why you can't seem to get let go and move on with your life, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

How to let go of old thoughts and beliefs you have about yourself
How to take responsibility for your life and stop blaming others
How to make a plan of action so that you can move forward
How to get used to change until you start feeling better

Are you ready?

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Have you ever tried to set a personal boundary and have it backfire so badly that you never want to do it again? You did everything right, but it still went wrong, and you're thinking, what the hell just happened? On this week's show, we're going to tell you how to prepare for the inevitable push back.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like you need to set a personal boundary with someone in your life.

There's that part of you that thinks they'll agree with your point of view, and it's keeping you from preparing for a confrontation.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why it's so hard to set boundaries and how to be prepared for the other person's pushback, including:

Why setting a boundary is so difficult
Why preparing what you want to say isn't enough
How to check your motives for why you want to set a boundary
How to prepare yourself for the other person's pushback and still stand your ground

Are you ready?

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We read a lot about finding "life balance," but do you really know what that feels like? It's not about being everything to everybody. It's more about giving a little here and a little there and still being okay.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like your life should be fairly balanced, but something is out of whack.

There's that part of you that feels like you have to take care of everyone else first, and it's keeping you from taking care of yourself.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why you're so stressed out, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

How to slow down and reevaluate where you spend your time and energy
How to prioritize your life so it feels like you're doing things you want to do
How to stop doing things that no longer serve you
How to deal head-on with neglected parts of your life, including taking care of yourself

Are you ready?

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Is it really your problem or are you just trying to avoid feeling guilty? On this week's show we're talking about what motivates us to fix everyone else's problems and how to stop picking up the slack.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

Your friend is making you feel guilty about something that isn't even your fault.

There's that part of you that feels like the lesser person in this friendship, and it's keeping you from seeing that you're being manipulated.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why you're always taking on other people's guilt and what you can finally do to stop, including:

Why someone is trying to pass their guilt onto you
Why we feel so overwhelmed in these situations
How to trust your gut and ask the right questions
How to say no to taking on someone else's responsibility

Are you ready?

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What happens when you decide to break a long-standing family tradition? On this week's show, we're talking about how to get the family on board and stay in the will.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

Everyone expects you to carry on the family tradition, but it's too much work and nobody is enjoying it anymore. You think you might want to stop doing it, but you're afraid that all hell will break loose.

There's that part of you that constantly feels like you should just leave it alone so no one's feelings get hurt, but it's making you dread the holidays.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to break a long-standing family tradition and still keep the peace, including:

How to assess the importance of the tradition
How to tell your relatives that you're making a change
What to do when others threaten to boycott the family get-together
How to start new traditions that everyone enjoys

Are you ready?

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Ever wonder why you don't have the perfect life? Enough money, the perfect marriage, kids that adore you. On this week's show we're going to talk about how jealousy and envy can suck the happiness right out of you.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like you're not good enough to have the marriage, the friendships, the job that you have.

There's that part of you that constantly feels angry and jealous, and it's keeping you from seeing that you have everything you need to be happy.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why jealousy makes you feel insecure, and how you can finally get what you need, including:

How jealousy and envy are normal human emotions
How insecurity can drive your jealousy and leave you feeling out of control
How to separate desire from need
Why you're not missing anything you need to be happy right now

Are you ready?

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How can you mend a broken heart? We tend to blame ourselves when a relationship ends, but it's not always your fault. On this week's show, we're learning how to reframe rejection as a lesson learned and how to move forward towards something better.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like something must be wrong with us for someone to reject us.

There's that part of you that blames yourself for what happened, and it's keeping you from accepting the truth about what happened and move on with your life.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why it's not all your fault when you've been rejected, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

Why rejection is so painful
Why rejection doesn't mean that something is wrong with you
Why blaming yourself when you've been rejected doesn't make anything better
How to change the story you're telling yourself about why the relationship ended

Are you ready?

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Betrayal is devastating because it can only be done by someone you trusted. It's hard to recover from that pain, and what's worse is you're now constantly guarding your heart. On this week's show, we're talking about why it's so important to let go of the anger caused by betrayal and begin making our way towards forgiveness.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like it's ridiculous to trust anyone because eventually they'll break your heart.

There's that part of you that's constantly on guard against emotional pain, and it's keeping you from having a healthy relationship with anyone new.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to heal old emotional wounds and learn to trust others again, including:

Why it's so hard to forgive someone else's betrayal
How to take back responsibility for our own emotions
Why it's so important to learn how to trust again
How to decide if we want the person who betrayed us back into our lives

Are you ready?

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Oh, no. Here they come. Whether it's a friend, relative, neighbor, or coworker, we've all been the victim of a chronic complainer. You want to be sympathetic, but you're losing time and patience with someone who seems completely uninterested in solving their problem. On this week's show, we'll discuss why a chronic complainer is so exhauting and how to get your life back.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like your friend calls you constantly to complain about everything.

There's that part of you that wants to be there for them, but their problems are keeping you from dealing with your own. And now you're mentally, physically and emotionally exhausted.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why a chronic complaniner is so exhausting and how to get your life back, including:

What a chronic complainer really wants and why trying to help them never works
Why you feel so physically, mentally and emotionally drained after you talk to them
How to limit your interactions with them without being rude or unkind
How to tell the difference between a chronic complainer and a friend who's truly in need

Are you ready?

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Whether you're an adult daughter or you have an adult daughter, you know how complicated that relationship can be. And lately it may feel like childhood pain is a frequent conversation topic. On this week's show, we're talking about how to see our mothers as real women and to start healing old wounds.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You blame your mother for the hurt she caused you as a child.

There's that part of you that wants her to feel the pain that you felt when you were younger, and it's keeping you stuck in blame and resentment.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why we bring up childhood pain to our mothers, and how you can start to move past it, including:

What we want to accomplish by telling our mothers about our pain
How to speak to your mother in a way that will bring you resolution, without anger
How to stop blaming your mother for your failures and forgive her for her mistakes
How to change your thinking about who your mother is and what she did

Are you ready?

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Are you a caregiver to your aging parents? If you are, then you might have given up a lot of things to make sure you're there for them all the time. Learn why we overcompensate as caregivers, and how to find balance again.

Let's see if this sounds familiar:

You feel like something will happen to your elderly parent if you're not always there to care for them.

There's that part of you that's afraid of the emotions that come with this enormous life change, and it's keeping you from your marriage, your job, and the things you used to enjoy.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why we overcompensate as caregivers, and what we can do to find balance again, including:

Why it's vital to recognize that our needs are important too
How to determine what those needs are and what you realistically able to do
How to manage your own emotions and give yourself a break for not being the perfect child
How to have hard conversations with siblings about their role in your parent's care

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How's your ego? If you're too aggressive or too passive, then might make you feel out of control. The trick is to find yourself in-between these two extremes. Learn why a healthy, balanced ego is the key to your lifelong happiness.

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You feel like your self confidence is very low and that people walk all over you.

There's that part of you that thinks having a healthy ego makes you a bitch, and it's keeping you from saying (or knowing) what you really want.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why a healthy, balanced ego is the key to your lifelong happiness, including:

Why a lack of self confidence makes you feel out-of-control
Why it's important to learn how to set boundaries
How to find the balance between aggressive and passive behaviors
Why it's so scary when we put our authentic selves out there

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Are you constantly worried about everything? It might be having a negative effect on your relationships. Learn how and why we justify our behavior and how you can learn to manage your stress instead.

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You feel like your constantly worried about something, and that if you don't act on it something bad will happen.

There's that part of you that justifies that behavior by telling yourself that's just how you deal with things, but it's keeping you from really effective coping strategies that could give your life meaning and purpose.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why we justify our constant worrying and how you can manage your stress instead, including:

What triggers your negative behavior
How you justify your behavior and why
What you're really afraid of and why you're trying to avoid it
How to determine what you need and how to ask for it

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Are you dealing with a troll? On this week's show we're talking about who trolls are, why they exist, and what you can do about them.

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You feel like someone is talking about you behind your back and it's not good. Whether it's a social media troll or a disgruntled co-worker, you're the subject of gossip.

There's that part of you that really wants to find out why they hate you so much, and it's keeping you upset and agitated.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn all about trolls, and what you can do to cope with the drama, including:

Who trolls are and why they heckle and gossip
What trolls want from you and what you can do about it
And what to do if a troll goes too far

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Are you always looking to other people for approval? On this week's show we're talking about how to give yourself permission to make your own choices. It's time to trust your instinct about what's right for you.

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You feel like you're relying too much on other people to make major life decisions.

There's that part of you that's afraid to make a mistake, and it's keeping you from taking responsibility for your life choices.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to stop looking to other people for approval, and what you can finally do to overcome self doubt, including:

The difference between asking for an opinion and asking for approval
The problem with looking for outside validation
Why we're so afraid to make our own choices
How to trust your instinct about what's right for you

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Are you beating yourself up over things that happened in the past? On this week's show we're talking about how to use regret to motivate ourselves towards taking positive action. It's time to use what you've learned to move forward.

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You feel like you're stuck in regret and you can't get out.

There's that part of you that feels like you deserve to pay the price forever, and it's keeping you from learning from your mistake and moving on with your life.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to forgive yourself, and what you can finally do to use regret to motivate yourself towards positive action, including:

How to avoid using regret to justify negative actions
How to stay focused on the present and what you have rather than dwelling on what you think you lost
How to forgive yourself for what happened
How to learn from the lesson and use it as a tool for moving forward

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Sooner or later we all fail, but do you know how to do it gracefully? On this week's show we're talking about how to use failure to your advantage. It's time to stop making excuses, take a chance, and achieve your goals.

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You feel like life has become really boring.

There's that part of you that knows that you're terrified to make a mistake, and it's keeping you from trying anything new and interesting.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to redefine failure, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

How fear of failure is just a way to avoid unpleasant emotions
Why we need both certainty and uncertainty in our lives to feel happy
How to redefine mistakes as learning experiences
How being uncomfortable in the short term can open a world of new opportunities

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Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to forgive someone who has hurt you? On this week's show we're talking about what forgiveness really means. It's time to take steps to release yourself from emotional pain.

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You feel like you'll always have this deep anger and resentment towards someone who hurt you.

There's that part of you that feels like you can never forgive them for what they did, and it's keeping you from being truly happy.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn what forgiveness really means, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

Why hating someone only keeps you in emotional pain
Why forgiving someone doesn't mean that you condone their actions
How you can forgive someone who's no longer in your life
Why forgiveness is not a sign of weakness but a tremendous act of courage

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Are you blaming everyone else for how you feel? On this week's show we're talking about we're going to talk about how blaming others will never solve your problems. It's time to get out of the blame game and take responsibility for your emotions.

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You feel like you need a strategy for dealing with your anger, but nothing quite seems to work.

There's that part of you that blames everyone else for your behavior, and it's keeping you from taking responsibility for what's really bothering you.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to deal with anger, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

How to notice who you're blaming and how to take back responsibility for how you feel
How blowing things out of proportion usually indicates that something else is going on
How to uncover what's really bothering you

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Are you sleep deprived? On this week's show we're talking about the the lies we tell ourselves about why we're so tired. It's time to tell the truth about getting a good night's sleep. Let's see if this sounds familiar: You feel like you're sleepy all the time, but it seems easier to make excuses than to go to bed at a reasonable hour.

There's that part of you that knows you’re a nicer person when you've had a good night's rest, but you still don't make sleep a priority.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn the lies you tell yourself about why you're not sleeping, and what you can finally do to get some rest, including:

What the most common lies are about why you can't sleep
How society rewards those who brag about how little sleep they get
How sleep deprivation affects your emotional and physical health
Why your stress and irritibility are likely linked to how little sleep you get

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On this week's show we're talking about why we think we need closure, and why it's time to learn how to stop obsessing over what happened and to start feeling better. Let's see if this sounds familiar: You feel like if you could just figure out the moment things went wrong in your relationship that you could fix it.

There's that part of you that knows you're obsessing about the past because you don't want to feel the pain of rejection, and it's keeping you from healing and moving on.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to deal with rejection, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

How to deal with the flood of questions about what went wrong immediately after we've been rejected
How to set aside your need for closure and focus on feeling better
Why thinking that something's wrong with you can keep you stuck and unable to move on

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On this week's show we're asking what you can do to cope when you're dealing with a narcissist. Let's see if this sounds familiar: You feel like you're crazy. Everything you thought was right now seems to be wrong. If you say the sky is blue, then they tell you it's purple.

There's that part of you that keeps trying to correct your "mistakes," but it's leaving you emotionally and physically drained.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and what you need to do next, including:

Why being with that person is leaving you so emotionally and physically drained
What gaslighting is and how to tell if it's happening to you
How to tell the difference between a true narcissist and a master manipulator
What steps you need to take to protect your emotional well-being

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On this week's show we're going to talk about how to let go of resentment by setting clear boundaries without the guilt. Let's see if this sounds familiar: You feel like you keep saying "yes" when you really mean "no," and now you're completely stressed out.

There's that part of you that's afraid to speak up, and it's keeping you overwhelmed, overworked, and underappreciated.

And you want to know…is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn how to set boundaries, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

What a personal boundary is and what it feels like when it's been violated
Why we assume other people should "know better"
Why we're so afraid to speak up and declare our boundaries
How to plan for and have a brave conversation

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On this week's show we're going to talk about fear, and why we allow it to hold us back. Situations like: * You don't know how to communicate honestly with your husband: You're afraid to tell him what you really need, and it's keeping you from having the marriage you want. * You're stressed out all the time, and you have no idea why: You know that you're carrying around some deep-rooted fears, and it's keeping you from being happy. * You felt justified when he left, but now you want him back: You send him away, you miss him, and you try to get him back. You know you're just afraid to be alone, but you don't know how to break this pattern.

And you want to know...is it me? In this podcast, you'll learn why we allow fear to hold us back, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

How fear shows up in our lives as stress and pain.
How we use our fears to justify our actions.
How uncovering deep-rooted fears can help relieve our stress.
How to trust your gut and take appropriate action.

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On this week's show we're going to talk about the importance of feeling uncomfortable...and why this is a good thing. Especially when you're working on breaking bad habits. Situations like:

You want to make your life better, but you don't know how to start a new habit and stick to it. The fear of being uncomfortable is keeping you from getting started.
Life used to feel a lot easier, and you have no idea when things became so difficult. There's that part of you that knows you're living in the past, and it's keeping you from dealing with issues you need to resolve right now.
You're still in love with your ex, and if you got back together it would be different this time. But maybe romanticizing the past is keeping you from remembering the very real issues that drove you apart.

And you want to know...is it me?

In this podcast, you'll learn why we allow fear to hold us back, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

Why we tend to quit when things get a little uncomfortable
How to avoid becoming a victim to get attention
What actions you need to take to push through your discomfort
How to accept where you are and really start to transform your life for the better

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On this week's show, we're going to talk about letting go and all those temporary fixes you're using to feel better. Situations like: * When you're still in love with your ex: You're still holding on to what was, and it's keeping you from finding the relationship that you want. * When you're too afraid to try anything new: You're so uncomfortable in new situations that you don't do things you know you'd really enjoy. * When you want to lose weight but think you have no willpower: You feel like no matter what you do you can't lose the weight, so now you have no motivation to take control of your health. * When you can't seem to get over your divorce: You're still holding onto the anger and resentment, and it's keeping you from being happy.

And you want to know...is it me? In this podcast, you'll learn why you can't seem to get let go and move on with your life, and what you can finally do to feel better, including: * How to let go of old thoughts and beliefs you have about yourself. * How to take responsibility for your life and stop blaming others. * How to make a plan of action so that you can move forward. * How to get used to change until you start feeling better.

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On this week's show we're talking about our perfectionist, peacemaker, and drama queen personality traits, and how these personality traits tend to show up. Situations like: * When you're angry all the time: You know that deep down your anger is about something else--something you need to resolve--but it's easier to just force others to do what you want than to deal with your issues. * When you can't stop worrying: You know that your worries need to be dealt with directly, but you'd rather tie yourself in knots than have a hard conversation. * When you're bored with your life: Everything is going pretty well, but...isn't that a little boring? But your version of controlled chaos is making everyone else crazy.

And you want to know...is it me? In this podcast, you'll learn why what's really bothering you, and what you can finally do to feel better, including:

Why it's easy to identify when we're upset, but why it's so hard to identify what's really bothering us.
How an out-of-control personality trait can indicate the root cause of your anger.
How to diffuse an ongoing argument with someone you love.

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