Ingari Video Confidence: Recent Episodes
Jonathan Mahan
This is a show for people who see the power video has to elevate their brand, increase their exposure, and deepen their professional relationships, but are held back by a lack of confidence on camera. In this podcast you'll hear interviews with people at all stages in their video journey sharing what's held them back, how they worked through their discomfort, and what benefits they've seen as a result of showing up more through video.
James is a professional actor and stand up comic who you will recognize from his work in Dr Squatch and William Painter ads. In this interview he shares with us how the techniques he uses as an actor and as a stand up comic can help business people in their video messages, Zoom calls, and even cold calls.
You’ll learn techniques for managing nervousness, making your pitch sound fresh even when it’s the 100th time you’ve said it, and how a good presentation (like a good stand up routine) can be a form of hypnosis.
If you want to watch the video recording of this conversation you can find that here: https://youtu.be/2JxH_BrQF20
How vulnerable should we be in our professional relationships? and why is vulnerability even brought up in a professional context? What are the pros and cons of being vulnerable at work? These are just some of the questions that Kehsi Iman and I talk through in this week's episode.
Definitely give this a listen if you've been struggling to know when, where, how, and how much vulnerability to bring into your work relationships with bosses, colleagues, or customers.
If you want to watch the video of this conversation you can find it here: https://youtu.be/BGQVDypskFE
Sean wrote the book "Mind Hacking Happiness" and in this interview applies many of those same concepts to the task of gaining confidence on camera. He is a fascinating person to talk to because he can help us understand our minds in a way that allows us to control (hack) them to achieve truly amazing outcomes!
These techniques have been used by people to overcome PTSD, cure their own addictions, and end depression. In this episode you'll get to hear how to use them to work through your discomfort on camera.
If you want to want to watch this episode you can find the video version of it here: https://youtu.be/3n8bjWAdgjQ
Most people feel uncomfortable being on camera, and most can't really explain why beyond a generic "I just don't like being on camera" or maybe "I don't like the way I look and sound". Like most things though, better understanding of what's going on can allow you to more effectively manage and work through it.
Ethan has spent the last 6 years working with people who are starting to use video in their email communication and has come to understand a lot of what is going on "under the hood" when people start using video. In this interview he'll help you understand your discomfort better as well as giving you some practical steps you can take to begin to minimize your discomfort.
If you want to watch this conversation you can find the video version here: https://youtu.be/dbBlLZNMFWs
When you believe you don’t deserve your success and when you feel like you’ve spent your whole career putting on an act to keep everyone fooled into believing you’re capable and competent the idea of using video can be terrifying. It exposes the “real you” to the world in a way that you will be uncomfortable with.
For today’s conversation I brought on internationally recognized expert and best selling author Valerie Young to discuss impostor syndrome. We talk about things like where it comes from, how to train yourself to think like a non-impostor, and what steps to follow to allow yourself to take action despite feeling like an impostor.
If you'd like to see the video for this interview you can find it here: https://youtu.be/5InjHZ39Vxc
Most of us are either yearning for the body we had in the past or one we want to have in the future, rarely are we content with the body we have now and that is often a major source of discomfort on camera.
Natascha is both a physical trainer and a life coach who helps women over 50 reclaim their sexiness and live passionate lives. In this interview we discuss why we care so much about how our body looks, what steps you can take to cultivate a more positive view of yourself, how to use that positivity to inspire even greater change, and more!
If you want to watch the video version of this interview you can find that here: https://youtu.be/kNsnefGDEGM
Confidence is not something you’re born with, and you’re not stuck with the level of confidence you have today.
Madeline is an executive coach who specializes in helping people grow their confidence and came on the show today to discuss how to go about growing your confidence over time.
We discuss many topics including overcoming a negative body image, what to do when you feel like you have nothing valuable to say, and how to use the smallest of habits to “hack” confidence in larger areas of your life.
If you want to watch the video of this interview you can find it here: https://youtu.be/7hIqOV2fAEg
Allan used video to increase sales at the company he works for while others in their industry were downsizing. Jon used video to land a better job 1 week after being unexpectedly fired from his last role. All of this in the midst of a pandemic and the worst economy in years.
In this interview you’ll hear them talk about what they did with video pre-pandemic that set them up for success, as well as what they started doing recently that led to such great results. Whether you’re a job seeker, responsible for bringing in revenue, or just looking for some inspiration to start using more video you will find a lot of value in this conversation.
Tom Vick of Dark Horse Marketing recently did an interview with me where I shared with him my best advice on using video effectively in email marketing.
We covered topics such as how to choose relevant and engaging topics, 3 ways to make people glad they opened your email, and what to say in your video to drive more people to respond or take action.
You can watch this interview on Youtube here: https://youtu.be/9DbBkkSBvlA
Jessica has been using video in her communication for 3 years now and has seen dramatic changes to her confidence, her ability to communicate clearly, to think on her feet, and has even seen some significant aspects of her personality change for the better as a result of her regular video usage.
Many guests have mentioned how other areas of their lives were changed as a result of getting comfortable on camera but we’ve never had a whole episode to dive so deeply into this topic. I realized things during this conversation I hadn’t realized even after sending over 10,000 video messages.
If you want to watch the video for this interview you can find it here: https://youtu.be/XRG1-mYK9XQ
Precious Williams is a highly successful entrepreneur, coach, and author who recently started using video and had ZERO problems with her confidence and was totally comfortable in front of the camera.
What's interesting though is that Precious used to have a very low view of herself and hated her body. In this interview you'll get to hear what her self talk sounds like now that allows her to be so confident as well as what changes she had to make in her life to get to the place of confidence that she is in now.
This is one of the best interviews I've ever posted here so you'll definitely want to listen to it through to the end. You can even watch the video for this interview on Youtube here: https://youtu.be/I7nvKG-A7HU
Elizabeth had dabbled in video emailing before but never felt like she was getting good enough results to justify the amount of time and effort she was putting into creating the videos.
In this coaching session we talked about how to harness her perfectionism and have it help her create better videos simply by redefining what a “perfect” video was, you’ll hear us talk through choosing a compelling topic her outreach, and you’ll even get to watch us create a complete cold email from scratch that she’ll be sending to prospects.
You can watch this full interview on youtube here: https://youtu.be/mm59lIRF7Lg
Most people who experiment with video in their sales and prospecting efforts have the same problem; "no one is watching my videos!".
While you'll probably never get as many videos played as you'd think you would, there are definitely ways you can improve your email open rate, video play rate, and response rate through the way you structure your message.
That's what you'll learn by listening in on this real life coaching session.
Many people want to start using video more often but feel like they don’t have the budget necessary to get a good recording setup so they end up not using video at all. If you’ve ever felt held back by a lack of equipment then this episode if for you!
Manuj is the host of the popular Bootstrapping Your Dreams podcast and has spent most of his career figuring out how to grow a business on a shoestring budget. In this episode he shares how to get a good low cost recording setup (including camera, microphone, lighting) as well as affordable video editing software and some free marketing strategies to get more views.
You can find this interview on Youtube here: https://youtu.be/8nDfy5kAm-w
Many people these days are realizing the power video has to help their sales efforts. However, many are also realizing that cold prospecting with video isn't as easy as they thought it would be.
Jason is a true genius in the world of prospecting and runs a training organization called Blissful Prospecting and in this interview you'll get to hear his best tips for leveraging video effectively in your cold selling process.
I have used his techniques and can personally attest to their effectiveness!
3 Years ago Karin was just starting over with her business in a new state and decided she would give Youtube a try as a way to generate leads. Today she runs a hugely successful real estate business, has a coaching program that has trained hundreds of people, and has spoken on many national stages.
In this interview you'll learn about her 7 step process for getting your Youtube channel started including using keyword research tools to plan your videos, setting up channel art, and the time management needed to stay consistent. You'll also get to hear a few things Karin has learned about adjusting your mindset and working through your discomfort on camera.
Debbie struggled with a bad stutter in her speech from a young age and was repeatedly told all the things she couldn’t do because of it. However, through years of dedication and practice in the form of acting, public speaking, and of course video content creation she has gained control over her voice.
In this interview you’ll hear about the mindset required to work through such a significant obstacle, her strategies for not losing focus of her message while focused on controlling her stutter, and the benefits video has brought to both her business and her personal life in the last 4 years alone.
“If you build it they will come” may work in Field of Dreams but it’s a crappy content strategy. To get your content viewed on Youtube, ranking in Google, and engaged with on social media your strategy needs to factor in how to various ranking algorithms of the internet function and craft your content accordingly.
Harrison has made a career of SEO and content strategy and in this interview shares with us which keyword research tool he uses, how to create content for topics before they’re trending, how to boost engagement on social media, and how to get your videos to rank better in search results.
Watching one of your videos and realizing you hate the way you sound is a very common experience for someone getting started with video content. Until recently I thought there was nothing you could do to alter your voice, but after talking with John Scott, a vocal coach who's worked with singers and public speakers for years I now know that you can adjust and control your voice.
In this interview you'll learn how to get the right mindset, manage your nervousness, warm up your voice before a video, and even change aspects of your voice (including an accent!) through repeated vocal exercises.
Cynthia Barnes helps women sales professionals get to the top 1% in their field, Elyse Archer works with people to help them grow their brand and gain confidence on camera. In this conversation they discuss what barriers they’ve seen hold back the women they work with from confidently showing up on camera and growing their brand through video. You’ll hear them cover topics like not feeling that what you have to say is important enough, how to make boldness a daily habit, how to work through body image issues, and the ways our vulnerability helps people connect with us.
Lee runs the Simple Video School and came on the show today to talk to us about getting started with video editing. He shares some basic editing tools both for desktop and mobile, where to go to learn editing skills, where to go to hire out good editing help, and what things are worth taking the time to edit and what things really aren’t. This interview will be perfect for you if you’re new to the world of editing and don’t know where to start or even if you’ve done some editing but don’t feel confident that you’re getting the most “bang for your buck” from your editing efforts.
Working through your discomfort on camera (or doing anything bold, ambitious, and scary for that matter) requires you to develop some strong emotional intelligence skills. Teresa is a professional “EQ” coach, trainer, and speaker who reviews 4 EQ skills that are key to gaining confidence on camera including; Emotional self awareness, reality testing, problem solving, and self regard.
This is the first interview I’ve allowed to go over 40 minutes and every minute of it is rich with valuable information that will help you work through your fears, understand yourself better, and live a more emotionally balanced life.
There’s a role people expect us to play in life and oftentimes people’s view of us isn’t flexible enough to allow us to act outside of that role. In fact, sometimes our own view of ourselves isn’t flexible enough to allow us to do radically new things either. Perhaps no one knows this better than Dame Stirling who has had to make many changes in her life that have required the world to change its view of her, and for her own view of herself to expand also.
In this interview we talk about how to get internal clarity, how to muster the courage to act, how to deal with other people’s negative reactions, and what the benefits are of being bold and living a life in alignment with who you were meant to be instead of who the world wants you to be.
Marlana is a professional photographer and visual strategist who came on the show to talk to us about how to make your videos look as visually appealing as possible. We cover the basics of lighting, angles, and background as well as more advanced material like choosing locations that capture the essence of your brand and how to navigate the “polish vs authenticity continuum” in your video content strategy. If you want to get the best look for your videos I recommend you check out this episode.
Miguel has been passionate about spreading awareness of and starting conversations around mental health since 2010, but he only started actually sharing anything publicly in 2017, and only started doing it consistently in 2019. In this interview we discuss what held him back for so many years, how he eventually worked up the courage to start sharing, and what his life has been like since he finally took action.
At the end you’ll also get to hear Miguel’s views on what it will take to see improved mental health as a whole society, what schools could be doing differently to help kids develop better mental health, and what mistake many parents makes when it comes to discussing mental health with young children.
Vanessa is the best seller author of the book Captivate, runs an organization called Science of People, and has taught hundreds of students in her People School. In this interview she shared with us what her years of research have taught us about how to make strong positive impressions in our video content.
You'll learn how to conduct yourself in your videos so that you come across as more competent, more likable, more trustworthy, more interesting, and less nervous. Never before have I had so much valuable information packed into so short of an interview.
Vanessa's book can be found here: https://www.amazon.com/Captivate-Succeeding-Vanessa-Van-Edwards/dp/0399564489
Her website is www.scienceofpeople.com and the vocal warm up exercises she mentioned can be found here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7eDcHZZn7hU
Diane opens up in this interview about her experiences being a Youtuber in her 50’s. We discuss why she got started, what resistance she faced in the early days, how she’s managed to stay consistent over the last two years, as well as her continued struggle to find the purpose for her channel and stick with it.
You can find Diane's Youtube channel here: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC6qwfDbMS3UMouq2HhyZn-Q
and her Facebook group for older Youtubers here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/olderyoutubers/
Courtney Harring and Shanee Moret are both women of color who decided to start their own business a little over a year ago. They used Linkedin video content as a major part of how they grew their audience and their business during that time. In this interview we discuss what drew them to entrepreneurship, how they used the doubters to motivate them, and even some of the unique challenges faced by black and latina women who are business owners and content creators.
April is the creator of The Generosity Culture and an expert in how leaders can strategically incorporate more generosity into their organizations. In this interview we discuss how focusing on generosity can help us be bolder and do many of the things that intimidate us (including working through the discomfort of being on camera). We also get into a lot of the mindset changes that you can make to live a more generous life and what growth you can see as a result of it.
You can connect with April on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/aprilshprintz/ or her website: https://drivenoutcomes.com/
4 years ago Mark had crippling social anxiety, was suicidal, and never left his dorm room. Today he is a paid speaker, hosts one of the world’s top 100 podcasts (Humans 2.0), is a best selling author, runs his own company, and is only 22 years old. In this interview we discuss his journey and how he worked through his social anxiety to become the person he is today.
What I found surprising and refreshing about this conversation is that his advice went so far beyond the typical “positive self talk and daily affirmations” style advice that is usually given on the topic of overcoming shyness and becoming more confident. So if you’ve tried all that stuff and it hasn’t worked for you then this interview may be exactly what you need to begin to overcome your shyness and social anxiety.
You can find his new book "Screw Being Shy" on Barnes and Noble at: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/screw-being-shy-mark-metry/1136627272?ean=9798616393241
In January of 2019 Alan knew he needed to do video but was hesitating. He wanted to make sure he had the right equipment, the right recording location, the right editing tools, etc. Fast forward to Dec 2019 and he is being recognized as one of the top 5 Mortgage Video Influencers across all of the US and Canada for 2019.
In this interview we discuss how he got himself to break past his hesitation and “just do it!”, what mindset changes he’s gone through on his road to becoming a top influencer, as well as what he still struggles with internally to this day.
You’d think being an immensely talented and highly successful musician would somehow exempt you from the common insecurities about your body that plague the rest of us, but that is not the case. Jennifer has struggled with a negative body image for her entire career which has made getting on stage for performances and getting in front of the camera for music videos very difficult for her.
In this interview you’ll get to hear us discuss the effect her pregnancy weight gain had on her performances, why some days she almost wishes she had played the cello or been a singer instead of a pianist, and what her journey to healing and self love has looked like.
You can find all of Jennifer’s amazing music on her Youtube channel linked below. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCLJvCZ94E8B-7uxh34muQw
Rob is a perfectionist and an over-thinker. This made it very difficult for him to start using video in his business, but over the past year he’s found ways to deal with that side of himself and has seen a lot of growth personally and professionally as a result of it.
In this interview you’ll hear about his early struggles with video, how videos have helped him show up more authentically in his personal life, and the difficulties of being in a crowded market with others putting out high end videos with high production values that he can’t match.
A year ago Jennifer Beitz decided she was going to start her career as a coach. She knew that in order to succeed in that field she needed to increase her visibility by creating more video content. For the last year she has been on a journey of improving her public speaking skills, getting more comfortable talking to a camera, and ultimately breaking out of the trap of constant comparison and “never enough” self talk that had been holding her back her whole life.
Sue started using video in her real estate business years before it was the norm. She also was one of the first people in her area to use social media actively as a business owner. She even got a lot of crap from her peers for using Facebook Live to launch her own weekly series called "Pinky Knows Naples". In this interview she shares a ton of great advice for how to deal with negativity both from strangers and from those close to you.
Allan and I cover a ton of ground in this conversation ranging from how he uses video in the world of manufacturing, to the future of video in business communication, to how he deals with his insecurities about his weight when recording.
What makes Allan’s experience different from many other guests’ is that he has a rock solid sense of self worth which made it easy for him to adopt video despite his insecurities. There's a ton we all can learn from the way Allan approaches video in his business.
Manuj Aggarwal is a highly successful entrepreneur who has been able to use video content to create courses, connect with his audience and grow his brand. In this interview he opens up about his hesitancy to even start using video, how his reliance on a teleprompter held him back, and the personal growth he’s seen from working through his discomfort on video. If you’ve struggled with forgetting what you were going to say, not wanting to record videos because of your accent, or being afraid of negative comments from haters online then this will be a great video for you to watch!
You can check out Manuj's podcast at: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/bootstrapping-your-dreams-show/id1453077497
Manuj can be reached at manuj@tetranoodle.com
In this conversation Nidia and I discuss why she started using video in the first place, the feedback that helped her power through her early stages of discomfort on camera, as well as the current struggles she faces with feeling like the person in the video camera isn't the person she wants the world to see her as.
In this interview with Jeremy we talk about some specific ways he used video to get more engagement from prospects and the mindset shift he had to make in order to be more comfortable sending videos out to his leads. We even dive into how his experiences with his videos and his poetry have helped him become more comfortable in other areas of his life showing up as who he really is rather than feeling hemmed in by all the things he "should" be.
Rea Ross recently challenged herself to doing 14 days worth of live video calls and social media videos all without any makeup on! During that time she learned so much about herself, about the people in her life, and about what it takes to work through fear. This will be an awesome interview to listen to for anyone who has big goals that scare them a little (or you know, a lot!).