Unlock Your Confidence with Clare Walsh: Recent Episodes
Clare Walsh
Unlock Your Confidence with Clare Walsh brings you inspiration, advice, stories, tools and techniques that will help you to unlock your confidence, gain clarity and find the courage to create the life that lights you up. Your life, your way.
Today’s episode is a celebratory one. As well as catching you up on my news, I have a big birthday this week and want to share some of my favourite life lessons as I hit the big 50! I also have a really big announcement about the podcast so make sure you listen to the end.
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We’re celebrating reaching 60 episodes with a round up of useful resources and advice to help inspire confidence and joyful living. Helping us to believe in ourselves and live with intention so that we make the most of the opportunities that life presents us with.
In this episode I share:
- two books that I’ve found really helpful over the last couple of months,
- a podcast I really enjoy and think you’ll find thought provoking too
- and some of my top tips for staying confident, intentional and enjoying life.
Books:
- Know your worth: How to build your self-esteem, grow in confidence and worry less about what people think by Anna Mathur
- Ice Cream for Breakfast: How rediscovering your inner child can make you calmer, happier, and solve your BS adult problems by Laura Jane Williams
Podcast:
- Don’t Ignore the Elephant – Dr Liz O’Riordan
This podcast:
- Episode 42 Let’s Slow Down this Summer – The Importance and Benefits of Slowing Down
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In this episode I’m opening up a conversation around menopause and confidence. It’s a topic that I’ve been speaking about a lot in my personal life and work but we haven’t touched on here. I asked myself why? Why have I not talked about something that has coloured my daily life for the last 18 months and is still causing me daily difficulties? It’s complicated is the short answer. Unless you’ve had your head in the sand over the last couple of years you will have heard the wider conversation that is finally taking place about menopause. And if finally dawned on me – or rather I had a bit of a light bulb moment when I realised that I don’t need to be an expert in hormones or women’s health to be part of that conversation. I need to bring my expertise as a coach and my lived experience to the table. My lived experience combined with the conversations I’ve been party to and the expertise I have in helping women with their confidence.
In this episode you will learn:
- The difference between perimenopause, menopause and post-menopause
- The physical and mental symptoms
- Ways of tackling both the physical and mental symptoms if you can’t or don’t want to take HRT
- Ways you can boost and support your confidence during this period
Resources mentioned:
- Menopause cafes – www.menopausecafe.net
- Book - The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer: How to Feel Empowered and Take Control –by Professor Trisha Greenhalgh and Dr Liz O’Riordan
Get in touch: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
Come and join my free and supportive facebook group for more inspiration, advice and live training. https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
This episode explores the very common experience of having a huge confidence wobble when we start a new role. It’s one of those things that is really common but when it’s happening to us we feel like we’re the only one going through it and if we’re not careful we’re undermining and second guessing ourselves at every step.
In this episode we’ll explore why this happens and what we can do to get us through this new starter stage feeling so it’s as painless as possible and you don’t end up feeling like an imposter. I share ten practical tips for getting through this confidence rollercoaster.
Other episodes you may find useful:
- Episode 5 What would happen if you were kind to yourself? Taming your inner critic.
- Episode 12 How good are you at accepting compliments?
- Episode 39 What’s stopping you? Replacing limiting beliefs with more empowering ones.
- Episode 56 Overcoming imposter syndrome: Strategies and stories
My calendar has spaces for Confidence Jump-starts. If you are struggling at the moment this is your opportunity to access one-to-one coaching and support. We'll have a really powerful 90 minutes of coaching identifying the mindset shifts and changes that will create the change you so desire. You'll finish the session with your unique action plan and have two weeks of unlimited email support to help keep you accountable and on track before we meet for a 30 minute session to see how far you've got and work out next steps!
So as many women as possible get to experience the power of believing in themselves and taking action towards the life they truly desire I have priced this at just £189. https://bit.ly/Confidencejumpstart
This episode, I delve into the topic of introversion, which is often misunderstood. Being an introvert myself, I can relate to the confusion surrounding this trait, and I've noticed that many of my clients also identify as introverts. Unfortunately, society tends to view introversion negatively and often implies that extroversion is the only path to success and happiness. In this episode, I would like to dispel some of these misconceptions and showcase the superpowers that introverts possess.
This episode we'll cover:
- What introversion truly means and doesn't mean
- Ways to support yourself and the introverts in your life
- How to harness your introvert superpowers to your advantage.
Come and join my free facebook community for more inspiration, advice and live training. https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
Today’s topic is something that comes up regularly in my work with women and is a very real cause of lack of self-confidence and self-belief – imposter syndrome.
In this episode we explore:
- What imposter syndrome is
- The different ways it manifests and affects us
- Five ways we can deal with it effectively
My lovely client whose story I share booked herself a Confidence Jump-start because of her imposter syndrome. My calendar is open for these mini but powerful coaching packages. We have a 90-minute session where we deep dive into what is going on for you and you finish with your unique action plan to move yourself forward and create the change you want to see in your life. This is followed by two weeks of unlimited email support to help you keep on track and accountable. Then we have a further 30-minute coaching call to reflect on how far you’ve come and to work out your next steps.
Book your Confidence Jump-start here https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching/jump-start
https://clarewalshcoaching.com/work-with-me
This episode we’re considering whether or not we’re surrounding ourselves with the right people to support us in having the happy and fulfilling life we desire.
In this episode we’ll consider
- Why it matters so much
- What we mean by the right people
- How to deal with the wrong people and
- What we can do to make sure that we surround ourselves with the right people
Womanifest It’s no boring conference or exhibition – it’s a full-on FESTIVAL! – it’s all about women having fun, learning how to put themselves first, get what they want, surround themselves with other fantastic women and have access to a huge range of learning and expertise that can help them to make changes in their life and feel inspired and empowered.
Taking place on the 15th & 16th July at Lady Heyes Park in Cheshire, it’s about bringing everything a woman needs to live the happy, fulfilling and successful life she deserves into one place for an epic weekend of liberating experiences!
Last year as well as talks there was a fashion show, a silent disco, a gong bath, a pamper tent, lots of female owned businesses selling their products. The list goes on and on. This year an amazing Little Mix tribute band has been booked for for the brand new entertainment area. There’s also going to be a burlesque class, jewellery making workshops, wim hof ice dipping is back, nude body painting, body positive sessions, confidence classes, loads of different types of yoga & meditations, Fit Camp, gong baths and soooo much more! That really is just a little taste to whet your appetite.
I’ll be on the stage in the life lessons tent the morning of Saturday 15th July and I couldn’t be more honoured or excited to be part of such an amazing event
Get your tickets here: https://buytickets.at/womanifest?ref=clare-w
Work with me:
Book a Confidence Jump-start – an hour of powerful coaching followed by a week of support to help you start taking action and create the life you desire. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour
https://clarewalshcoaching.com/work-with-me
This episode goes live the day after International Women’s Day and as a coach specialising in helping women with their confidence I wanted to focus particularly on women this episode. The theme for this year’s celebration of International Women’s day is embracing equality by, amongst other things, celebrating women forging change, by elevating the visibility of women creatives and by building workplaces where women thrive.
This episode we’re going to explore some of the issues around how we treat each other, especially in the world of work and look at ways that we can make things better – starting with us. Because the only person any of us can truly change is ourselves! I will share five ways we can embrace equality and break the bias against women.
Articles mentioned:
https://www.internationalwomensday.com/Missions/18471/Race-to-the-top-Women-face-limited-window-of-opportunity-to-reach-leadership-roles
Womanifest It’s no boring conference or exhibition – it’s a full-on FESTIVAL! – it’s all about women having fun, learning how to put themselves first, get what they want, surround themselves with other fantastic women and have access to a huge range of learning and expertise that can help them to make changes in their life and feel inspired and empowered.
Taking place on the 15th & 16th July at Lady Heyes Park in Cheshire, it’s about bringing everything a woman needs to live the happy, fulfilling and successful life she deserves into one place for an epic weekend of liberating experiences!
Last year as well as talks there was a fashion show, a silent disco, a gong bath, a pamper tent, lots of female owned businesses selling their products. The list goes on and on. This year an amazing Little Mix tribute band has been booked for for the brand new entertainment area. There’s also going to be a burlesque class, jewellery making workshops, wim hof ice dipping is back, nude body painting, body positive sessions, confidence classes, loads of different types of yoga & meditations, Fit Camp, gong baths and soooo much more! That really is just a little taste to whet your appetite.
I’ll be on the stage in the life lessons tent the morning of Saturday 15th July and I couldn’t be more honoured or excited to be part of such an amazing event
Get your tickets here: https://buytickets.at/womanifest?ref=clare-w
Work with me:
Book a Confidence Jump-start – an hour of powerful coaching followed by a week of support to help you start taking action and create the life you desire. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour
https://clarewalshcoaching.com/work-with-me
Over the last fifty plus episodes we’ve covered lots of topics to help us lead happier, more confident lives so it surprised me when I realised that we have never talked about today’s topic – self-worth. We’ve covered topics related to it but never looked at it on its own so that’s what we’re going to do today. Why? Because in my work with a counsellor after I finished cancer treatment it became apparent that I had a real issue with my self-worth. Embarrassing to admit as a confidence coach but also unsurprising giving what I’d just lived through. It’s also something that comes up regularly in my one-to-one work with clients.
In this episode we will examine
- What self-worth is
- How most of us measure it
- How we should actually measure it
- How we spot that our self-worth is low and
- What we can do when our self-worth needs a boost
Episodes mentioned:
- Episode 5 – What would happen if you were kind to yourself? http://bit.ly/3kU9kJ6
- Articles mentioned:
- https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/self-esteem/why-self-worth-matters-and-how-to-improve-it/
- https://positivepsychology.com/self-worth/
Work with me:
Book a Confidence Jump-start – an hour of powerful coaching followed by a week of support to help you start taking action and create the life you desire. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour
https://clarewalshcoaching.com/work-with-me
This episode we are focusing on the importance of fun to a happy and healthy life. I was recently asked to consider how I could bring more fun into my life and realised that I was slightly stumped by the question. I struggled to identify how and when I allow myself to have fun. And as usual that got me thinking and noticing, and here we are with an episode devoted to the importance of having fun.
In this episode we are going to explore:
- what fun is;
- why it’s so important – what it does for us;
- the three elements essential for fun;
- and how we can have more fun.
Previous episode mentioned:
- Episode 47 – The power of play to light you up https://bit.ly/3QvQrrz
- Book - Play: How it shapes the brain, Opens the imagination and invigorates the soul by Stuart Brown https://bit.ly/3GZaBHd
- TED talk: Catherine Price – Why having fun is the secret to a healthier life https://bit.ly/3XsIJRl
Stay in touch:
- Join my free Facebook group www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
- Email: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
- Ways to work with me: www.clarewalshcoaching.com
This time of year can be hard. Christmas is behind us and it seems a long way off until the clocks go forward and the days begin to get noticeably warmer and lighter. Decades ago a travel company came up with the gimmick of calling the third Monday in January blue Monday – supposedly the most miserable Monday of the year. Gimmick or not I know a lot of us feel a little blue on January Mondays as we head into the new working week. I have to confess that there have been January Mondays when, despite being in a job I loved, I started the day with a little cry at home! With this in mind I decided that this would be a great week for us to focus on being happier at work. So I’m sharing my 10 pretty simple ways for a happier and more confident you at work.
Episodes mentioned:
Episode 8 – Saying no with confidence and without the guilt https://bit.ly/3CFuCQx
Episode 6 – Letting go of perfectionism https://bit.ly/3W2gM1A
Episode 12 - How good are you at accepting compliments? Learning to accept compliments really boosts confidence https://bit.ly/3GDi5hU
Episode 4 – Let’s celebrate https://bit.ly/3jZNe7f
Download my free guide to saying no with confidence and without guilt https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/saying-no-with-confidence-and-without-guilt
Book a Confidence Jump-start – an hour of powerful coaching followed by a week of support to help you start taking action and create the life you desire. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour
https://clarewalshcoaching.com/work-with-me
Not only have we reached 50 episodes, but it’s also our second podiversary!
50 episodes feels like a significant achievement that deserves to be marked and celebrated. In this episode, I’m going to remind you of some of the quick, easy but effective confidence boosters that we’ve explored over the last two years, signposting some great episodes along the way and we’re going to explore choosing our word for the year for 2023.
What You’ll Learn:
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What to ask yourself if you're feeling anxious
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Why you should just do the one minute jobs
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Why the phrase “Tell me more” is so useful
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The importance of being intentional
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How having an intention or a word for a whole year works and what's the benefit
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The steps to take once you've got your word
I sincerely hope that you've got some ideas to start using yourself. Let me know what your intention for 2023 is going to be, I always love to hear from you.
Have a wonderful Christmas and I’ll see you in the New Year!
Episodes mentioned:
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Episode 012 How Good Are You at Accepting Compliments? Learning to accept compliments boosts confidence. https://apple.co/3XjYF92
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Episode 014 The Power Of Believing “I Am Enough” – learning to believe this is transformative. https://apple.co/3Avb0gP
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Episode 027 Building Resilience – we never know what life is going to throw at us so learning to build resilience whilst times are good really helps us. https://apple.co/3EOaDkh
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Episode 032 The Dark Side of People Pleasing – How to Create Healthier Boundaries and Still Be a Caring Person! So many women think that being a people pleaser is a good thing but what it actually creates is burn out and resentment. Have a listen and learn to change that story. https://apple.co/3VcTRAI
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Episodes 36 and 37 – Cultivating Self-Esteem – the title says it all! https://apple.co/3Eq1ixB and https://apple.co/3EOaQnz
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And finally Episode 042 Let’s Slow Down This Summer - The Importance and Benefits of Slowing Down This is one of my most downloaded episodes! The need to slow down obviously hit a nerve. https://apple.co/3hWpbVX
Resources:
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Find out more about the Confidence Jump-Start here. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour
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Check out my website: www.clarewalshcoaching.com
Like it or not, we are all changing all of the time but sometimes it takes a big life event – good or bad – or perhaps a big birthday – one with a zero on the end, for us to take stock and acknowledge that change and what it means for our life.
In this episode I will share some of my learnings about change and ways that we can learn to embrace it even if it’s been brought about by a life event we hadn’t planned, expected or wanted. I will leave you with 10 actions that have helped me and I know will help you too if you are going through major change.
What You’ll Learn:
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What you can do to make change feel much easier and be easier to deal with
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How to ask for help to process everything that you've been going through
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What you can choose to do when you have to go through unwanted situations
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10 things that have helped me to go through a major change
Sometimes I feel like it's one step forward and two steps back but I pick myself up again and carry on. If you've been through something huge recently, and you feel changed by it, know that it's normal. You're not the same. And that's okay.
I want to let you know that my calendar is currently open for Confidence Jumpstarts. This is for anyone feeling stuck or even hacked off by life right now.
Episodes mentioned:
- Episode 35 Using Your Values to Live a Happier, More Confident Life https://apple.co/3T6bBfr
Resources:
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Find out more about the Confidence Jump-Start here. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour
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Check out my website: www.clarewalshcoaching.com
What can we do in the moment when we’re having a bad day?
We all have bad days. Sometimes because of external factors and sometimes for no apparent reason – we just feel like we’ve got out of the wrong side of bed and can’t put our finger on why our mood is low and it feels like the world is out to get us. But there are things that we can do about it.
I’m going to share 10 ways you can fix a “bad day” and improve your mood!
What You’ll Learn:
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How science backs up the fact that green spaces give our brain space
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Why you should not underestimate the power of music your love
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The ways you can make your environment a little bit more inviting
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Check in on yourself! When did you last eat or dink?
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How to make a plan to do something that you know you'll look forward to
While the things I've suggested today may not fix the root cause of your bad mood, they can help fix your response and lift you out of it. Give them a go and write yourself your own What do you need list.
I want to let you know that my calendar is currently open for Confidence Jump-Start. This is for anyone feeling stuck or even hacked off by life right now.
Episodes mentioned:
- Episode 16 The Power of Walking https://apple.co/3FuNTq0
Books:
- Thinking on My Feet: The small joy of putting one foot in front of another, a book by Kate Humble https://amzn.to/3U7prPC
Resources:
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Find out more about the Confidence Jump-Start here. https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour
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Check out my website: www.clarewalshcoaching.com
In this episode we’re exploring the power of play to light us up. It’s the beginning of November. The clocks have gone back and the nights are well and truly drawing in and I know that I’m not alone in being tempted to withdraw and hibernate as the weather worsens and the light retreats. But while I know that rest is important and I’m all for a bit of hygge, I also know that I still need to seek daily joy and things that energise and light me up if I want to feel like the best version of myself. The version of myself that has the energy and confidence to grow, thrive and enjoy life.
In this episode we’ll explore
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The benefits of play
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What it means to let go and have fun and play
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The different play personalities and how play looks different to each of us
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The importance of making time for play
Have a think about what things are playful to you. Make time to play for being playful and remember that it's okay if the things that are fun and playful to you aren't to everyone else. Get to know yourself on what you enjoy. Encourage those around you to play and have fun to in whatever way is playful for them. See it as part of your self care, giving yourself the time to be playful.
Episodes mentioned:
- Episode 42 – Let’s Slow Down This Summer - The Importance and Benefits of Slowing Down https://apple.co/3SOFtxf
Books:
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The Gift of Wonder, a book by Christine Aroney-Sine https://amzn.to/3RquRDz
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Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul, a book by Stuart Brown https://amzn.to/3RzgM6S
Email me at : clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
Ways to work with me: www.clarewalshcoaching.com
In August I celebrated nine years of self-employment. It has been nine years since I listened to my inner wisdom and made the leap from employment to working for myself. And it was a big leap. I was sick of redundancies and layoffs and wanted to take back control. As I reflected on those nine years, I realised that I've learnt a lot of confidence lessons that are worth sharing whether you have your own business, are considering self-employment or are happily employed.
In this episode I will share my top six confidence lessons that you can apply to your own life
What You’ll Learn:
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Why you need to learn to trust your wise self
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How to value yourself and what you offer
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What you get by being comfortable talking about money
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What it means to get comfortable being uncomfortable
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Why to stop treating networking like a dirty word
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Why it’s important to celebrate your successes big and small
I know these lessons work because I applied all six of them to my new venture and it made life a lot easier than it would have been. I still had to get out of my comfort zone into the stretch zone, but these lessons stood me in good stead for a solid start to a new venture. So choose to apply some of these lessons to your own circumstances.
Episodes mentioned:
Episode 5 – What Would Happen if You Were Kind to Yourself? Taming Your Inner Critic! https://apple.co/3UEXCz5
Work with me:
www.clarewalshcoaching.com
- Join my free Facebook group here for daily inspiration and support https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
It’s October and so it’s breast cancer awareness month and I thought it would be a good opportunity to share my learnings from being diagnosed and treated. What has this got to do with confidence? More than you would think- I promise you.
This episode we’ll talk about the importance of checking your breasts monthly and the five lessons I learnt that will help you too! One in two of us will get cancer in our lifetime which means that the majority of us will at some point have someone close to us going through cancer treatment. I hope that these five lessons will help you navigate your way through.
What You’ll Learn:
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How often you should be checking your breasts and where to find instructions
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Why being there for the person who needs you is far more important than having the right thing to say
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The importance of asking for help and accepting it
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Why letting go of the guilt is a life lesson for all of us at all times
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How changes that cancer treatment caused to your body can knock your confidence
Know your body. Go and get anything unusual for you checked out. It could save your life.
Resources mentioned in the episode:
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Coppafeel https://coppafeel.org/
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Macmillan Cancer Support https://www.macmillan.org.uk/
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Breast Cancer Now https://breastcancernow.org/
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Cancer Hair Care https://www.cancerhaircare.co.uk/
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Look Good Feel Better https://lookgoodfeelbetter.co.uk/
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Ticking off Breast Cancer https://www.tickingoffbreastcancer.com/
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Victoria’s Promise https://www.victoriaspromise.org/
On Instagram:
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Dr Liz O’Riordan @oriordanliz
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Dr Tasha Gandamihardja @drtashag
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Rad chat @rad_chat
Books:
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The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer: How to Feel Empowered and Take Control, a book by Professor Trisha Greenhalgh and Dr Liz O’Riordan https://amzn.to/3d6ITfA
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Get Your Oomph Back: A Guide to Exercise after a Cancer Diagnosis, a book by Carolyn Garritt https://amzn.to/3B6ryeP
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The Cancer Misfit: A Guide to Navigating Life After Treatment, a book by Saskia Lightstar https://amzn.to/3RWBWfF
Contact me: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
There is so much more to faith than religious faith. Choosing faith over fear can transform our relationships with life's challenges and make us more resilient.
In This Episode You Will Learn:
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That there is so much more to faith than religious faith
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How choosing faith over fear can transform our relationship with life’s challenges
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How having faith can make us more resilient
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How having faith can increase our confidence
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How to build that faith in yourself
Every single one of us has many reasons we can have faith and belief in ourselves. You get to choose and rechoose every day, every hour, to choose faith over fear.
Resources:
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Episode 11: Make it Work! https://apple.co/39c0mB8
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Episode 2: What is Confidence? https://apple.co/3x8KpUw
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You've Got This!, a book by Margie Warrell https://amzn.to/3xhDolF
Email me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com.
This episode I’m diving straight in with a challenging question for us all – are you being truly you? Are you being the you that you really want to be or the you that you think is expected of you by family, friends, colleagues, society?
I’m asking because I realised during my many weeks of enforced convalescence that I’m not.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
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How to spot if you’re not quite being you
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A reminder of why you should let go of people pleasing and how to do it
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Why your opinion of you is the one that matters the most.
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How to stop worrying about what other people think and start doing what truly makes you happy!
If we want to be true to ourselves, then we have to get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable. Start moving towards who you are by picking one small thing and making that change.
Resources:
- Episode 032: The Dark Side of People Pleasing – How to Create Healthier Boundaries and Still Be a Caring Person! https://apple.co/3mcXUNK
Email me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com.
This episode we’re exploring the benefits of slowing down. We can choose to slow down at any time of year but often the things that can be done at any time can end up being done at no time. In other words they just don’t happen. I hope that this exploration of the many benefits of slowing down will encourage you to consciously decide to take steps to slow down this summer.
In This Episode You Will Learn:
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What slowing down has to do with confidence and why it’s so important
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The many benefits of slowing down including deepening relationships and sparking creativity
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How to explore ways of slowing down especially if you are currently over-timetabled and stressed
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Ways of resting and slowing down loved across the world
I’m practising what I preach and will be taking the summer off but worry not, I’ll be back in September raring to go. In the meantime sign up for my newsletter so you never miss an episode http://eepurl.com/gvC0Pf
Resources:
- The Art of Rest by Claudia Hammond https://amzn.to/3PXK5AD
Email: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
Email me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
This episode we are dealing with overwhelm. There is so much of it around at the moment and when we are feeling overwhelmed it can be difficult to see a way out. In this episode I will share six methods you can use to deal with overwhelm today.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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Why you should let go of some of the things on your to do lists
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The steps you can take during times when everything feels too much
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Why being kind to yourself can make a big difference
When we're feeling overwhelmed, it is important to remember that done is always better than perfect, because perfect does not exist. What we are looking to do is our best and best means the best we can do in our particular circumstances with the time, resources, skills and knowledge we have available to us.
Episodes mentioned:
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Episode 6: Letting Go of Perfectionism https://apple.co/3MXwiYl
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Episode 8: Saying No With Confidence and Without the Guilt https://apple.co/3LMG4wh
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Episode 32: The Dark Side of People Pleasing – How to Create Healthier Boundaries and Still Be a Caring Person! https://apple.co/39C3PZD
Email me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com.
I want to share 4 books that have enriched my life and made me think about what it takes to be happy and content. Since there are lots of little gems on my blog to help you to grow confidence, clarity and courage in very concrete ways, I'll also point you to some of my own writing.
My Blogs:
- It’s the little transformations that make a massive difference “It’s not all about massive transformations, little transformations make a massive difference!”
One of my clients said this and it really got me thinking. My client hit the nail on the head. It is those little transformations – the changes in your thinking, behaviour and understanding of yourself - that added together make a massive difference to life.https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/its-the-little-transformations-that-make-a-massive-difference
- Worrying about what other people think. There are lots of things that hold us back from doing what we really want to do but the one that comes up so often in coaching sessions is worrying about what other people think.
https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/worrying-about-what-other-people-think-1
- September - Lets’s take action – it doesn’t matter what time of year it is – in the words of one reader “it’s like a free coaching session”! https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/september-lets-take-action
- Why do we procrastinate? Lots of people think that procrastination is a form of laziness but in fact when we keep putting off the thing we want or need to do it’s rarely because we’re lazy.https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog/why-do-we-procrastinate
Books:
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The Comfort Book by Matt Haig https://amzn.to/3OwGBEl
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How to Heal a Broken Heart: From Rock Bottom to Reinvention by Rosie Green https://amzn.to/3MwKyXX
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The Joy of Simple Things by Hannah Jane Parkinson https://amzn.to/3MuXNrQ
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The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse by Charlie Mackesy https://amzn.to/3rN0Xzo
Thank you if you've listened to every episode of the 40 we've done so far. If you have book recommendations or ideas for future episode topics, feel free to drop me an email at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com.
This episode is all about letting go of the limiting beliefs we all carry around with us, and replacing them with empowering ones.
We carry around beliefs like:
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I’m shy
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I never finish anything
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I’m not clever
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I’m boring
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I’m not creative
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I’m really bad at public speaking
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I’m no good in a crisis
And they disempower us. They hold us back.
So today I share my own experience in changing a limiting belief I carried around as my truth for decades, and I also share the experience of one of my clients, taking you through the same method we both used to shift our thinking and beliefs and create real change in our lives.
In this episode you will learn:
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how to recognise these beliefs
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how to question your "evidence" of their truth
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how to formulate an empowering alternative belief
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how to recognise that this is your truth and to start to believe and live it on a daily basis
Resources:
- Email me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
This episode is all about the importance of forgiving yourself. The theme was prompted by a Guardian headline. It quoted the journalist John Simpson saying, “Like most men, I am amazingly good at forgiving myself.” And that really got me thinking about myself and the women in my life. Are we amazingly good at forgiving ourselves? Are you?
In This Episode You Will Learn:
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What self-forgiveness is and its benefits
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Why we find it hard to forgive ourselves
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The limitations of self-forgiveness
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The four-step process to self-forgiveness
It's time women too can say we are good at self-forgiveness. And if you find this episode helpful, please rate and review the podcast and help other listeners find it!
Resources:
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Article The benefits of self-forgiveness https://scopeblog.stanford.edu/2019/08/02/the-benefits-of-self-forgiveness/#
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Article Taking the Steps to Forgive Yourself https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-forgive-yourself-4583819#
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Email me at: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
This is the second part of the episode about cultivating self-esteem.
In Part 1 we learnt:
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What self-esteem is
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The signs of low self-esteem
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How to tackle negative self-talk
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The importance of speaking about yourself positively
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The power of compliments and the importance of accepting them
I hope that you've begun to put these things into practice.
This episode you will learn:
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How to detach yourself from the criticism and praise of others and start measuring your self-worth by your opinion of yourself – and the measure of that is your best in your unique circumstances
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How to stop clinging to perfectionism and believe that you are enough
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How to accept that failure is a normal part of daily life even for successful, super-confident people
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The importance of stopping blaming yourself when things go wrong.
Previous episodes mentioned during this episode:
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Episode 22 – Dealing with Criticism and Praise! Detaching ourselves from what other people think. https://apple.co/3HTrHn2
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Episode 6 – Letting go of perfectionism https://apple.co/3MB3yFm
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Episode 14 – The power of believing “I am enough”! https://apple.co/3vP11Bz
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Episode 31 – Is it time to stop saying sorry? https://apple.co/3MwpEZN
Resources:
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The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance - What Women Should Know https://amzn.to/3w6hIsz, a book by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman
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Email me at: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
This episode we're tackling how to cultivate self-esteem. This is such a big topic that I've split it in two parts. But don't worry, you'll end this episode with concrete ways you can begin to grow your self-esteem now - you don't have to wait for Part 2 to get started!
In this episode you will learn:
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What self-esteem is
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The signs of low self-esteem
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How to tackle negative self-talk
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The importance of speaking about yourself positively
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The power of compliments and the importance of accepting them
Previous episodes mentioned in today’s episode:
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Episode 5 – What would happen if you were kind to yourself? Taming your inner critic. https://apple.co/3tZIIr1
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Episode 12 – How good are you at accepting compliments? https://apple.co/3vKi0oG
Emal me at: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
This episode we are exploring values. I'm a great believer that by living a life that is fully aligned with our values we can be happier and more confident. But, how many of us really stop and think about what our values are and which are most important to us?
This episode will help you to answer those questions.
What You Will Learn:
- What we mean when we talk about values
- How to work out which values are most important to you
- How to focus on the values most important to you to help you achieve the things important to you and have that happier life!
Resources:
Email me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
Instead of “fake it till you make it”, I prefer “act the way you want to feel”. That way I'm not pretending or faking anything, it's still the real me, not me pretending to be something I'm not, or trying to be like someone else. So how do we manage this?
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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When and how to soothe your inner critic
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How to practise getting into the state of feeling confident and relaxed
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What happens when you become capable of embodying how you feel
I hope that I've inspired you to act the way you want to feel. It makes a big difference and you have nothing to lose by trying.
Resources:
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Email address clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
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Join my free facebook group here for daily inspiration and support https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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Follow me for daily inspiration www.instagram.com/clarewalshcoaching
www.facebook.com/clarewalshcoaching
Today I’m talking about what your envy can teach you. By envy, I don't mean the potentially destructive feelings of jealousy. I'm talking about the feelings of discontent that envy throws up.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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How extremely uncomfortable emotion of envy can show you what you want
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Why you should examine your feelings of envy whenever they arise
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Why you should take a little time to sit with the uncomfortable feeling
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The questions to ask to find out what your envy is trying to teach you
Once you have identified what's making you envious, make sure you start with small steps and take action. There's no point identifying what we want if we don't actually move into action.
Resources:
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Email address clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
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Join my free facebook group here for daily inspiration and support https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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Follow me for daily inspiration www.instagram.com/clarewalshcoaching
www.facebook.com/clarewalshcoaching
Do you tell yourself and others that you're a people pleaser?
I hear people equate being people pleaser to being a nice person, a decent friend, a kind person, a loving, caring human being. All of these are lovely things, but I would argue that you can be every one of those things without having to label yourself as a people pleaser.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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What's wrong with being a people pleaser?
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How to stop being a people pleaser
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How you could describe yourself instead of saying I'm a people pleaser
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Rethinking your values and setting your boundaries
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How to get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable
You can have boundaries and say no to the things that you neither have the time or the energy for and still be caring. You can be authentically you without offending other people. Stop giving yourself the 'I'm a people pleaser' label and choose something more empowering. Remember that every time you say yes to something, you're saying no to something else.
Resources:
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Email address clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
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Join my free Facebook group here for daily inspiration and support https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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Follow me for daily inspiration www.instagram.com/clarewalshcoaching
www.facebook.com/clarewalshcoaching
I'm a great believer in owning up to my mistakes and making a genuine and heartfelt apology if I've hurt someone, done something wrong or let someone down. I'm also a great believer in manners, but why then have I called this episode “Is it time to stop saying sorry”?
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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How to use guilt in a constructive way
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Why you should ask for all the help that you need and not feel guilty about it or apologise for it
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How to adopt a daily practice to reframe your feelings of fear from guilt to gratitude
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How to practice self-awareness of how we're thinking, how we're behaving and how we're speaking
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What a more helpful way to see things is instead of feeling guilty about everything
There is no such thing as perfection. All you can ever do is your best. And your best is the best in your unique and particular circumstances each day.
Make an effort to catch yourself before you say sorry. It will feel a little odd and even uncomfortable at first, but do it consistently and often, and you will create healthier habits for yourself and those around you.
Resources:
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Email address clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
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Follow me for daily inspiration www.instagram.com/clarewalshcoaching
www.facebook.com/clarewalshcoaching
- Join my free facebook group for daily inspiration and support https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
In this episode I want to talk about an action that has helped me immensely over the last few years to build the life that I desire; a life where I take action that builds confidence and is fully aligned with my values. That action is setting my intention or word for the year.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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How setting an intention for a whole year works and the benefit of that practice
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How to choose the word or phrase for our intention for the year
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What steps to take after choosing the word/phrase
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Different ways to create a visual reminder of your intention
It is so easy to get swept up in day-to-day living and lose track of what we want and need from life. It builds your confidence when you show up for yourself. Think about what your hopes are for the year. Brainstorm those words to see which ones speak to you the most, and then implement some of the tips I've suggested in this episode. And of course, enjoy the process and the outcome!
Resources:
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Check out my blog - https://clarewalshcoaching.com/new-blog
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Sign up for newsletter to get updates on podcast and the blog delivered direct to your inbox- http://eepurl.com/gvC0Pf
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Join my free Facebook group here for daily inspiration and support https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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Email address clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
This is a very special episode, as it's the first birthday of the podcast. Today I'd like to share what I've loved and what I've learned, and remind you of some of the things that we've learned together.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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Why you need to start before you're ready
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The value of taking action to build confidence
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Delegation is key to a happy and balanced life
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The importance of enjoying the journey
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Letting go of perfectionism
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Cultivating the belief that you are enough
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How to take control of your inner critic
You are enough exactly as you are. You don't have to do everything or be everything to everyone to either be enough or to be perfect. Take some time to notice your thoughts and choose to take control. Remember, you shouldn't be talking to yourself in a way that you wouldn't speak to someone you love and respect.
Resources:
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Episode 01: What are you waiting for? Learning to start before you are ready! https://apple.co/3nPnyK5
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Episode 05: What if you were kind to yourself? Learning to tame your inner critic https://apple.co/3DUnY7F
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Episode 06: Letting go of perfectionism https://apple.co/3xpFQ7P
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Episode 014: The power of believing “I am enough” https://apple.co/3nVZAgt
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Email: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
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Join the conversation over in my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
Today we're going to talk about the importance of enjoying the journey. So often we can't wait to hit our goals, but we barely take a moment to enjoy our journey and to celebrate it before we start thinking about the next thing.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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How to find ways to be happy now
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Why you need to remind yourself of everything you have to be grateful for
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How to make sure that you are present in the moment
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Finding things to anticipate and enjoy regularly so enjoying becomes a part of normal life
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Remembering your values and how those values show up in your life as you work towards your big goal
It's time to get our heads out of the future or the past because that's where anxiety and regret live, and get present in the moment. However you do it, I encourage you to be intentional and think about what you want to experience. Don't be the one who's too busy with living to actually live your life.
Resources:
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Email: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
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Join the conversation over in my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
When we are resilient, we're able to pick ourselves up from life's inevitable knocks and difficult times when we may naturally be feeling less than positive. So what, actually, is resilience?
What You Will Learn In This Episode: - What resilience is not
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What to do to make sure we become more resilient
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Four pillars for building resilience
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How to resist isolating ourselves when life is hard
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The importance of looking after ourselves all of the time
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How to build up the habit of thinking in a healthy and productive way
When we have the ability to recover from something unpleasant, it means that we've stored up the mental and physical capacity to do it. Realising that we can cope with a change, we can actually enjoy it and thrive because of it. Then we have the reserves that enable us to get through the difficult times, to bounce back and even grow from the experience.
Resources:
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Article: Building Your Resilience, American Psychological Association https://www.apa.org/topics/resilience
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Previous episodes mentioned in this episode:
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Episode 5 – What would happen if you were kind to yourself? Taming your inner critic https://apple.co/3Bq5RVd
- Episode 6 – Letting go of perfectionism https://apple.co/3EwglnX
- Episode 8 – Saying no with confidence and without guilt https://apple.co/3mjsuGl
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Episode 14 – The power of believing “I am enough” https://apple.co/3CEayMB
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Send me an email: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
Positivity is something that we can see and hear about all the time. While I think that being positive is great and has many benefits, there is also a darker side to positivity - a toxic positivity.
What You Will Learn In This Episode: - What toxic positivity is and why it should be avoided
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Why it is essential to allow yourself and others to feel all the feelings
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How its possible to experience negative or hard feelings and still have a positive outlook on life
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The benefits of having a positive outlook on life
Living a full life means that we are going to experience the full range of emotions. We all need to be allowed to be ourselves, to feel our way through life and the circumstances we find ourselves in. When we cultivate a positive attitude, it means that we acknowledge our feelings and the negative things in our life, but we don't get stuck in them.
Resources: - Positive thinking: stop negative self-talk to reduce stress
https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/stress-management/in-depth/positive-thinking/art-20043950
- Email address: clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
This week, I want to talk about acting with courage and the importance of bravery in our lives.
I am talking about calculated risk, not being reckless. These are actions like setting boundaries and starting to say no to people, whether at work or home, asking for what they really need rather than pretending everything's all right.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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How we build our confidence through taking action rather than waiting to feel confident
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What it means to be brave
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Why acknowledgement from close people and little celebrations mean so much to us
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What happens when you fail to be brave
You will not wake up with unshakable confidence one day, it will take action after action after action. Ask for help and support if you need it. And every single time you're brave and take some courageous action, no matter how small, celebrate it!
Resources:
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Join the conversation over in my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
Today we're going to dive deep into a topic I raised back in Episode 21 - finding your WHY.
Have you ever sat down and really given some thought to why you do what you do and why you want what you want? If you haven't, then of course, I'm going to suggest that you do. And if you have, I'm suggesting that you make sure you've really dug down below the surface.
Think about what you value. Values are who we are. They're not who we like to be, or who we think we should be. Values are who I am right now in my life. Values represent our unique and individual essence. They're how we relate to the world. And when we honor our values regularly and consistently, then life is good and fulfilling.
Your WHY should be deeply and firmly rooted in your values. The more it is, the stronger it will be. And the stronger it is, the more likely it is that you will keep going when life gets tough.
Think about what it is that you want to achieve, what you want to be, or to do, or to have, and dig deep into your WHY. Have fun with it. You'll learn lots about yourself and hopefully get really excited about your future.
Resources:
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Join the conversation over in my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
It's my birthday this week. For me a birthday is a time to reflect and to celebrate. In this episode we're going to do both. I will remind you of some of the many things we've learned over the last 22 episodes so we can celebrate together.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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Why the question How did you celebrate? often surprises people
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The importance of taking a moment to acknowledge and celebrate what you achieved
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The power of stopping on a bad day and asking What do I need right now?
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The importance of trusting yourself and believing that you are enough
Remember to do something to mark your little wins - something that makes you feel good in the moment, but that also serves as a reminder of how far you've come. That will keep you going when life throws you curveballs.
Resources:
- Episodes to revisit:
Episode 4 – Let’s celebrate! https://clarewalshcoaching.libsyn.com/04-lets-celebrate
Episode 22 – Dealing with Criticism and Praise – Detaching Ourselves from What Other People Think! https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/19991462
Episode 6 – Letting Go of Perfectionism https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/17679890
Episode 12 – How Good are You at Accepting Compliments? https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/18500777
Episode 21 – September – the Other New Year! https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/19853303
Episodes 10 and 20 – Roundup of Confidence Resources
https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/18267311
https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/19842209
Episode 8 – Saying No with Confidence and Without the Guilt https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/17916440
Episode 7 – Why Do We Procrastinate? And What We Can Do About It https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/17817821
Episode 3 – The Importance of Trusting Yourself - My Story https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/17195939
Episode 14 – The Power of Believing “I Am Enough!” https://directory.libsyn.com/episode/index/id/19031828
- Download your FREE Guide to Saying No with Confidence and Without the Guilt
https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/saying-no-with-confidence-and-without-guilt
- Join the conversation over in my Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
- Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
The theme for this episode is how to deal with criticism and praise from others. This is a juicy topic that I am very happy to talk about, as what other people think of us can have a huge impact on our confidence, self-worth and self-esteem.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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how to detach your sense of self-worth and confidence levels from what other people think of you whether in the form of criticism or praise
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that your opinion of yourself is the one that matters!
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how to treat yourself with compassion and deal with criticism in a proactive way
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that the only measure we should be using is our best in our current and unique circumstances
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the importance of reflecting on your day each night
I want you to reflect every single night before you go to sleep on what's gone well, as well as what hasn't. Ask yourself if you did your best in your particular circumstances that day. Every time the answer is yes, give yourself a pat on the back. And when it's no, treat yourself with compassion, and ask how you can do better next time and then move on. Remember that those circumstances change daily. Choose to be proactive and make progress.
The theme of this week's episode was suggested by a listener. You are always welcome to suggest topics that you'd like me to cover. My email address is clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
Resources:
- Confidence Launchpad - Sign up for immediate access to this ten lesson self-taught course which will:
Increase your confidence levels so that you can trust your decisions and pursue your dreams.
Create more understanding about what makes you tick and give you the tools to ensure your mind is working for you, not against you. It’s like a gym for the mind!
Help you to let go of perfectionism and truly believe that you are good enough!
Help you to launch your confident life!
https://bit.ly/3ddaCas
- Join the conversation over in my Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
- Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
Whether you've been away this year, or have spent your summer in your own garden or local park, it's often a time when we stop and consider our lives and what we want just like we do over Christmas and New Year's holiday. And as such September feels like the other New Year - a chance for a fresh start.
Are you clear about what you want, and what you need to do to get where you want to be? Are you taking action?
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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The importance of being clear on what you want to achieve, and by when
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Why you should work backwards from the date you want to achieve something by
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Identifying resources you already have that can help you
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Working out what your next stepping stone is, and how you're going to move forward to it
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How to keep yourself accountable even on dark, cold days
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How to recognise who would be a great support for you
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Finding exactly WHY you want to achieve what you want
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Why it is so important to share your WHY with others
The main thing is to keep taking action and to keep moving forward. Make sure that your main goal is broken down into monthly and weekly goals, so that you can't keep putting off action. Tell other people what it is that you're trying to achieve, and be clear about what you need from them. Be intentional and take action.
Resources:
- Join the conversation over in my Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
- Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
In this episode, I'm going to share some resources and tips that have helped me and my clients build confidence.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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Why a book or a walk is powerful when you feel low energy and low mood, whilst your mind is racing
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What does rest have to do with confidence?
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Why delegating work is such a good investment
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The power ofTell me more phrase
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Sources of happiness, how you can even buy it sometimes
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Checking in with yourself and your needs
We often attach our self-worth and self-confidence to being useful, doing something productive, or being of service to others. However, the day comes when we realise that we just can't carry on that way any more. We need to rest, as rest is as essential as sleep; and not only do we need to rest more, but rest better.
Resources:
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The Art of Rest: How to Find Respite in the Modern Age by Claudia Hammond https://amzn.to/3reiMpG
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Self Made: The Definitive Guide to Business Startup Success by Bianca Miller-Cole and Byron Cole https://amzn.to/3wOsReb
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The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin https://bit.ly/3BeN3Jy
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Confidence Launchpad - Sign up for immediate access to this ten lesson self-taught course which will:
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Increase your confidence levels so that you can trust your decisions and pursue your dreams.
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Create more understanding about what makes you tick and give you the tools to ensure your mind is working for you, not against you. It's like a gym for the mind!
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Help you to let go of perfectionism and truly believe that you are good enough!
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Help you to launch your confident life!
https://bit.ly/3ddaCas
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Join the conversation over in my facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
This is Episode 3 of a three-part series looking into the type of situations and issues my clients bring to our sessions. Today the focus is on the artists and creatives that have come to me for support.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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Where the self-doubt about your right to call yourself a professional comes from
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What right you have to charge for your work
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What difference a qualification makes and how pursuing one can actually be a form of procrastination!
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The importance of setting boundaries in your home life
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How learning to aim for progress rather than perfection can serve you
In order to better illustrate the issues I talked about in this episode, I've lifted the anonymity for two of my clients this week, Emma and Eve, with their permission. I wanted to be able to share their work with you and where you can find them, as well as their stories.
If you've been listening today and thinking you could do with a little Clare on your shoulder, I have some great news. You can access the same teaching that both Emma and Eve received during the Confidence module of the group coaching program The Confidence Launchpad for just a fraction of the price. Check all the links below!
Resources:
Confidence Launchpad - Sign up for immediate access to this ten lesson self-taught course which will:
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Increase your confidence levels so that you can trust your decisions and pursue your dreams.
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Create more understanding about what makes you tick and give you the tools to ensure your mind is working for you, not against you. It’s like a gym for the mind!
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Help you to let go of perfectionism and truly believe that you are good enough!
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Help you to launch your confident life!
https://bit.ly/3ddaCas
Emma – EJB ink
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www.instagram.com/ejb.ink
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www.etsy.com/uk/shop/ejbink
Eve - The Sweet Dub
- www.instagram.com/thesweetdub
Join the conversation over in my Facebook group
- https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
In today's episode, we're going to focus on the women who come to me when they're job seeking or looking for a complete change of career.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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How to face redundancy at work during the pandemic
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Allowing yourself to feel the feels, but then choosing to move forward to take control of the situation as much as you can
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Why person specification should be a part of your interview preparation
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Why we should be celebrating all our wins, big and small
The last 12 months have turned many people's lives upside down, because life changed so dramatically. It's helped us to question and re-examine how and why we work, our work/life balance, and what's really important to us in life.
Resources:
- Confidence Jump-Start - We’ll have an incredibly powerful hour of coaching identifying the mindset shifts and changes that will create the change you so desire. You’ll finish the hour with your unique action plan and have seven days of email support to help keep you accountable and on track as you begin to move towards that life that lights you up!
Just £97 https://bit.ly/2NaxIoD
- Join the conversation over in my facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
- Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
This July will be a three episode month, and we'll have a series of three episodes where we dive into the situations and issues that my clients bring to our sessions.
Today I want to focus on the women who come to me because they want to feel more confident at work, and there are themes that come up again and again, that I want to look at in this episode.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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Why you feel out of your depth and constantly worried that you're going to mess things up when you get deserved promotion
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How your past experiences can colour a new and exciting phase of your career
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What difference the new mindset can make in your communication with management
If you feel a lack of confidence at work, I encourage you to take steps towards the new mindset that will allow you to enter a new phase of your career, and to look forward to the challenge and the chance to learn new things. You will begin to choose to interact differently with the managers, owning your worth and abilities, and the role you have to play.
Resources:
- Confidence Jump-Start - We’ll have an incredibly powerful hour of coaching identifying the mindset shifts and changes that will create the change you so desire. You’ll finish the hour with your unique action plan and have seven days of email support to help keep you accountable and on track as you begin to move towards that life that lights you up!
Just £97 https://bit.ly/2NaxIoD
- Join the conversation over in my Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
- Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
I believe that walking is transformative for our minds, not just our bodies. And, keeping our minds in good working order is very important if we want to lead a happy, confident life.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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Walking as taking a rest
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How walking enables you to start noticing the world around you more
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Wisdom on walking from books and research
Getting out for that daily walk can help you think better, especially if you can walk in a natural environment. So take that walk in the park near your office, or on the way home from the school run, especially if you need to solve a problem.
Resources:
Confidence Launchpad - Sign up for immediate access to this ten lesson self-taught course which will:
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Increase your confidence levels so that you can trust your decisions and pursue your dreams.
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Create more understanding about what makes you tick and give you the tools to ensure your mind is working for you, not against you. It's like a gym for the mind!
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Help you to let go of perfectionism and truly believe that you are good enough!
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Help you to launch your confident life!
https://bit.ly/3ddaCas
Confidence Jump-Start - We'll have an incredibly powerful hour of coaching identifying the mindset shifts and changes that will create the change you so desire. You'll finish the hour with your unique action plan and have seven days of email support to help keep you accountable and on track as you begin to move towards that life that lights you up! Just £97 https://bit.ly/2NaxIoD
- Join the conversation over in my Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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The Art of Rest – How to Find Respite in the Modern Age, by Claudia Hammond https://amzn.to/3fwbNnL
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Thinking on My Feet: The Small Joy of Putting One Foot in Front of Another, by Kate Humble https://amzn.to/3ftxzZm
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Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
Today, I'm sharing some of my thoughts on the question: What has the last year taught me? And I'm inviting you to ask yourself the same question. There were some very important lessons for me but I acknowledge that although we've all been in the same storm, we haven't all been in the same boat.
What You Will Learn in This Episode:
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Realising that you’re not in control of everything, and moving into what you can control mode
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How help can come from surprising quarters
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Why you need to do the things that scare you and act with courage
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Managing being alone and keeping occupied
Action builds confidence. Take the time to see why you were brave, where you grew, and what you learned about yourself and your ability to survive and thrive.
Resources:
Confidence Launchpad - Sign up for immediate access to this ten lesson self-taught course which will:
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Increase your confidence levels so that you can trust your decisions and pursue your dreams.
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Create more understanding about what makes you tick and give you the tools to ensure your mind is working for you, not against you. It's like a gym for the mind!
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Help you to let go of perfectionism and truly believe that you are good enough!
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Help you to launch your confident life!
https://bit.ly/3ddaCas
Confidence Jump-Start - We'll have an incredibly powerful hour of coaching identifying the mindset shifts and changes that will create the change you so desire. You'll finish the hour with your unique action plan and have seven days of email support to help keep you accountable and on track as you begin to move towards that life that lights you up! Just £97
https://bit.ly/2NaxIoD
- Join the conversation over in my Facebook group
https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
- Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
None of us arrived on this planet thinking that we weren't enough. But as we grow, as we're influenced by family, friends, teachers, the media, suddenly that I'm not enough belief is beginning to appear.
The therapist and speaker Marisa Peer says that I am enough is a statement of fact. Every single person on the planet by virtue of their existence is enough and is worthy of love. But why is it so important for our minds to accept, rather than reject this belief?
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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Why we worry that if we were to believe we are enough, it will make us arrogant
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How to cultivate the belief that we are enough
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How to remind our brain that we are enough
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The example of what difference it makes when you believe you are enough
To quote Marisa Peer again, once you know that you are enough, you won't sit back. You will acquire a drive to build the full and loving life, family and career that you know is yours for the taking. Because you will know with unshakable conviction that you deserve it and are worthy of it. And who doesn't want that?
Resources:
Confidence Launchpad - Sign up for immediate access to this ten lesson self-taught course which will:
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increase your confidence levels so that you can trust your decisions and pursue your dreams;
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Create more understanding about what makes you tick, and give you the tools to ensure your mind is working for you, not against you. It's like a gym for the mind!
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Help you to let go of perfectionism and truly believe that you are good enough!
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Help you to launch your confident life!
Sign up here https://bit.ly/3ddaCas
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I Am Enough: Mark Your Mirror and Change Your Life, a book by Marisa Peer https://amzn.to/3xZp6o3
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Join the conversation in my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
Do you believe in luck? Are you someone who classes yourself as lucky or unlucky, or you're surrounded by people who tell you that you're lucky or that you're unlucky? Let's dig into this belief!
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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What effect creates believing that you aren't lucky
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The ways we make our own luck most of the time
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Becoming aware that we have far more control over things than we give ourselves credit for
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What steps you can make if you consider yourself to be lucky
Tell yourself that you're lucky, and your mind will present you with evidence of that being true. Tell yourself that you aren't lucky, and that's the evidence that your brain will produce for you.
Listen to your inner wisdom and do your best. It takes practice.
Resources:
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Free “I am enough” masterclass series https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/freemasterclassseries
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Join the conversation over in my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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Book your Confidence Jump-Start https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/jump-start-hour
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Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
Today I want to talk about being more enthusiastic about receiving compliments, and how accepting them can build your confidence.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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How to look upon compliments as gifts and not doubt the fact that you deserve them
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Why we usually contradict or ignore when people compliment us
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The importance of accepting compliments
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How deflecting compliments can undermine your confidence and make you appear less confident to those around you
Be honest with yourself. Do you throw every compliment back because you're suspicious of the reason for it? Do you accept compliments, but you're concerned that people will think you're full of yourself? Or do you accept most compliments with a smile and thanks, and you believe them? Learning to accept compliments is an important step in believing that you are enough.
Resources:
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Free “I am enough” masterclass series https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/freemasterclassseries
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Join the conversation over in my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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Allbright article https://www.allbrightcollective.com/en-gb/edit/articles/how-to-respond-to-a-compliment
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Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
In this episode I want to share one of my core beliefs that has got me through many challenges - the belief that I can make it work when faced with a lack of funds, shortage of time or something new and unknown. I believe wholeheartedly that I'll find a way.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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How having the belief that you can make it work makes you more creative
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What a “could do” list is, and how it helps you come up with new options
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The connection between confidence and trust
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How trusting yourself to do the hard things helps build “I can make it work” attitude
I encourage you to reflect on your successes every single day. Take a few minutes before you go to sleep to reflect positively on your day. Remind yourself of the moments when you showed up for yourself and for others, of every win big and small, and of every time that you did make it work.
Resources:
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Everything Is Figureoutable, a book by Marie Forleo
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Episode 06 Letting Go of Perfectionism
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Free “I am enough” masterclass series https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/freemasterclassseries
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Join the conversation over in my Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
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Contact me at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
I can't believe we've reached 10 episodes already!
I wanted to mark reaching double digits with something a little different this week. Rather than having a big topic, I'm sharing some hints and tips along with some of my favourite books that have helped me and my clients with confidence over the last few years.
In this episode I share some of my top tips for building confidence:
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If there's a job or task that can be done in under a minute, then just do it
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If you're going into another room of your house, have a quick scan around to see if anything needs to be moved from there into another room and do it right away
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If you're feeling anxious, take a moment to ask yourself: what is happening right now, in this moment, in this room, here with me
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Make some time for yourself today
Top Books for Building Confidence:
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Playing Big: A Practical Guide for Brilliant Women Like You by Tara Mohr https://www.amazon.com/Playing-Big-Practical-Wisdom-Create/dp/1592409601/
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Thrive: The Third Metric to Redefining Success and Creating a Happier Life by Arianna Huffington https://www.amazon.com/Thrive-Redefining-Success-Creating-Well-Being/dp/0804140863/
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How to Fail: Everything I’ve Ever Learned from Things Going Wrong by Elizabeth Day https://www.amazon.com/How-Fail-Everything-Learned-Things/dp/0008327351/
Mindset: Changing the Way You think To Fulfil Your Potential (Updated edition) Carol Dweck https://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Updated-Changing-Fulfil-Potential/dp/147213995X/
Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers https://www.amazon.com/Feel-Fear-Do-Anyway/dp/0345487427/
Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert https://www.amazon.com/Big-Magic-Creative-Living-Beyond/dp/1594634726/
Resources:
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Let me know what you'd like to hear more about in future episodes at clare@clarewalshcoaching.com
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Sign up for my Confidence Jump-Start coaching call and 7-day email support https://bit.ly/2NaxIoD
What lights you up? What makes your heart sing? What makes you lose all track of time you enjoy it so much? Do you have a hobby that you love, but perhaps you haven’t been indulging in it as much as you would like to?
This episode is all about knowing ourselves better and bringing more fulfillment into our lives.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
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Why having a hobby is important
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Why our relationships and our careers should not fulfill all our needs
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The 80/20 rule in relationships
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The psychological and emotional benefits of of having a hobby
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What you can do re-introduce your hobby right now
Playing, having fun, being creative, pursuing a hobby just because you enjoy it is essential to a rich, fulfilling life.
My question to you is what are you going to commit to doing? How are you going to ensure that you're doing the things that light you up every day?
Resources:
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Sign up for my Confidence Jump-Start coaching call and 7-day email support https://bit.ly/2NaxIoD
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Happiful - The 80/20 Relationship Rule - https://happiful.com/the-80-20-relationship-rule
How often do you catch yourself saying that you're really bad at saying no? This week, I've chosen a topic that got the women taking part in my free Grow Your Confidence Challenge very animated - how to say no with confidence and let go of that guilt.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
- How to change your story about saying no
- Why it's important to get clear about your boundaries and stick to them
- How to practise saying no with confidence
- Don't apologize and take time to think before saying yes or no
- Remember that every time you say yes to something, you're saying no to something else
- Why people respect someone who communicates their boundaries clearly and what to do if you get a push back
Know that saying no can be hard at first, but remember that action does build confidence. The more you do it, the easier it will get, and your comfort zone for saying no will get bigger and bigger.
Resources:
- Free download – Saying no with confidence and without the guilt https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/saying-no-with-confidence-and-without-guilt
- Come and join the conversation over in my free private facebook group, Pathways to Possibilities https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
Today we're talking about procrastination. Many of us ask ourselves why we put off the things we know we need to do, and even the things we want to do! We all procrastinate at times, including me, but why do we do it, and what can we do to stop it?
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- Is procrastination laziness?
- What are the common causes of procrastination
- How setting short-term goals can help us procrastinate less on big projects
- How to overcome the fear of rejection
- How perfectionism fuels procrastination
Procrastination can be far more exhausting than actually taking the action. So do yourself a favour and find a way to address the underlying cause of the procrastination, and then move into action. Your future self will thank you for it.
Resources:
- The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance - What Women Should Know by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00DB368AY/
- Free download – Five Easy Ways to Grow Your Confidence https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching/five-easy-ways-to-grow-your-confidence
- Join my free private Facebook group Pathways to Possibilities https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
This week we talk about letting go of perfectionism, and freeing ourselves from the burden of being perfect. If we feel confident only when we're perfect, it's holding us back, it is a confidence killer. We can't raise our confidence unless we're willing to stop trying to be perfect, and here is how.
The Five Steps to Let Go of Perfectionism:
- Admit that perfection does not exist
- Focus on the progress
- Believe that you are enough
- Accept that all you can ever do is your best in your particular circumstances
- Acknowledge and celebrate all of your successes
I'm aware that I may very well be asking you to change the habits of decades of perfectionism. It's not going to happen overnight, but if you commit to doing these five things you will get there. And remember that you're not meant to be perfect. Happy, confident people are those who aim to be the best they can be.
Resources:
- The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance - What Women Should Know by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00DB368AY/
- Sign up for my group coaching programme Your Pathway to Confidence, Clarity and Courage https://clarewalshcoaching.com/pathway-to-confidence-clarity-and-courage
Now it's more important than ever to be kind to ourselves. But so many of us women are kind to everyone else except ourselves. What would happen if we replaced that mean negative voice with a loving supportive one? Let's tame that inner critic!
What You Will Learn in This Episode:
- The impossible standards we are measuring up to and why perfect doesn't actually exist
- How to start gaining insight into your inner negative commentary
- Noticing the patterns of when your inner critic shows up
- Understanding that the role of your inner critic is to keep you safe
- How to be playful with your inner critic and give it a personality
- The steps you can take to gain more confidence and change the way you speak to yourself
I encourage you to start a conversation with your inner critic, and start replacing the negative statements about yourselves with positive ones.
If you want to dive deeper into the confidence journey, you can find details of my five week group coaching programme Your Pathway to Confidence, Clarity and Courage here: https://clarewalshcoaching.com/pathway-to-confidence-clarity-and-courage
I'm a great believer in celebrating, not just the big things like birthdays, Christmas and New Year but everything. A fun part of my job as a coach is hearing about my clients’ successes. If a woman is a step closer to the life she wants to lead, then that is worth celebrating.
What You Will Learn in This Episode:
- Why we ‘forget’ to celebrate our small wins
- How self-recognition works to bring us joy and fun
- Just because something is expected of you doesn’t mean it’s easy to do
- Why our brain is biased to negativity and how to practice focusing on positive things
We shouldn't wait until we hit our end goal before we take time to stop and celebrate. Let’s get into the habit of celebrating little wins too. It doesn't have to be costly or time consuming, just do something for you that reinforces the message that you're doing a great job.
Join my FREE Five Day Grow Your Confidence Facebook Challenge https://mailchi.mp/clarewalshcoaching.com/growyourconfidencechallenge
Join my private Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
Today I want to illustrate what difference being able to trust ourselves can make by sharing some of my own story.
What You Will Learn in This Episode:
- Having clarity vs. having courage
- Learning to trust our own inner wisdom
- The process of discernment - what is going on, what needs to be done, taking appropriate action
- Feeling driven vs. feeling drawn to something
My own story is the reason why I'm so passionate about helping other women to unlock their confidence, clarity and courage so that they can change their lives, to live a life on our terms and thrive while we do it.
Book a free 30 minute clarity call with me https://clarewalshcoaching.com/schedule-appointment
Resources:
- Free download – Five Easy Ways to Grow Your Confidence https://bit.ly/3lVvSEY
- Join my private Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
It's a rare client who doesn't tell me that she would like to be more confident. So today I talk about what confidence really is and how it’s connected with trust and intention.
What You Will Learn in This Episode:
- The definition of confidence
- How to build up trust in ourselves
- The importance of committing to ourselves before committing to others
- How to start being more intentional about what we want to achieve
- The power of the ‘word of the year’
- Setting daily and weekly intentions and writing them down
- How to set priorities and boundaries according to our intentions
To help you start taking those steps towards your dreams, download your free copy of Five Easy Ways to Grow Your Confidence here https://bit.ly/3lVvSEY
Join my private Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
Welcome to the very first episode of Unlock Your Confidence with Clare Walsh. In this episode I want to share with you my Manifesto as a confidence coach, and my passion for taking action NOW to live the lives that will light us up.
What You Will Learn in This Episode:
- Why so many of us choose to wait instead of pursuing our dreams
- Why I’ve become a confidence coach
- The importance of discovering our values and what gives us meaning and fulfillment
- What it means to live intentionally
- How this podcast came about
- Why you should start before you are ready
- Questions to ask yourself that can help you make the first step towards your goals
We're coming to the end of the year, and it's a great time to be honest with yourself about the things that you truly want from life, and to stop putting them off. I encourage you to make a list, choose one thing and start taking action today.
“Don't wait. The time will never be just right.” - Napoleon Hill
Resources:
- Finding God in the Mess: Meditations for Mindful Living by Jim Deeds and Brendan McManus SJ https://www.amazon.com/Finding-God-Mess-Meditations-Mindful/dp/1910248843
- The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance: What Women Should Know by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman https://www.amazon.com/Confidence-Code-Science-Self-Assurance-What-Should/dp/0062230638/
- Free download – Five Easy Ways to Grow Your Confidence https://bit.ly/3lVvSEY
- Join my private Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility
How many of us get to midlife, and we look at what we've got, often it's exactly what we've asked for, exactly what we've worked so hard to get, but we feel empty, and it just isn't enough?
It's not that we don't love our families, or that we're ungrateful for what we have, but life has lost that spark. We've lost our spark, and we feel guilty for wanting more.
But we shouldn't feel guilty for wanting a life that makes us excited for the week ahead.
I believe that the foundation stone to us creating the life that makes us feel really fulfilled, the life that is grounded in our values and lightens us up is our CONFIDENCE.
I’m Clare Walsh, a confidence coach who specialises in helping women unlock their confidence, clarity and courage to change their lives.
I want to start a confidence revolution. It's my goal to help a minimum of 1000 women to unlock their confidence during 2021, and this podcast is one of my ways of doing that.
You can expect a fortnightly dose of inspiration, advice, stories, tools, techniques, hints and tips that will help you to unlock your confidence, get clarity about what lights you up, what's really important to you, and the courage to start taking action.
Let's spread the word and start a confidence revolution!
Subscribe to this show and tell your friends too!
Connect with Clare Walsh:
- Website https://clarewalshcoaching.com/
- Facebook https://www.facebook.com/clarewalshcoaching
- LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-walsh-99036b71/
- Instagram https://www.instagram.com/clarewalshcoaching/
- Join my private Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/pathwaystopossibility