The Alienator's Chess Game: Recent Episodes
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Have you ever questioned how you ended up in a relationship with someone so toxic, when you try so hard to be a good person? Jenni McBride-McNamara, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & Co-parenting Coach, identified how five values can be used against us and become our vulnerabilities. This episode explores these values and how the alienator can manipulate our good qualities, as well as discusses action plans you can take to protect yourself from these values being violated.
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The worst thing that can happen as a parent is to be alienated from your child...but there is hope. Janet Price is an expert in the field, a target parent, and previously an alienated child. She blended her personal experience and intelligence and identified three phases of alienation, the mindset, and strategies needed to make it through the phases and reconnect with your child.
Janet Price offers a free strategy call for Target Parents. Contact Janet at www.jpcoachingandconsulting.com
Emily Cochran, an attorney who specializes in Complex Family Law Cases, discusses the breakthrough decision of the Kentucky Supreme Court in a case of parental interference, psychological abuse, multiple false allegations, and children's protective service stepping in to protect the child. Emily is licensed as an attorney in Ohio and Kentucky. If you would like to hire her to help with your case she can be contacted at emily@rittgers.com.
As the Target Parent, it feels like the alienator strips you of everything...your kids, your dignity, your money, your power, and the list goes on. Charlie McCready of Personal Authority discusses the keys to take back your power and start putting things back in place to win back everything you have lost, including your kids!
For more information about Charlie's program: https://m.facebook.com/charlie.mccready.39/
The psychological twists and turns create a mind mess for the alienated parent. Tracy Poizner is an expert in parental alienation and has personal experience with alienation occurring within her family. She discusses with us how we can be truthful with our children when we are caught in the alienator's web of lies, how you can be authentic with your child and whether there is a time to let go. Listen to this podcast to help you take control and clean up the mind mess the alienator has created and rescue the parent-child bond. Checkmate!
Your child has shut down and will not talk to you. You try every angle to connect with him(her), but nothing. You just want to know what is going on, but all efforts lead to a dead end. Lisa Leanos Goodpastor was one of those children. Shut down and cut off from her parent. Now as an adult, she has the introspection to identify and educate the rest of us on what is imperative for target parents to know and how to help their kids. Listen to understand what it is like for your child and how you can better connect to them.
Do you know enough about psychological evaluations used in domestic relations court? Sean Kuhlmeyer, experienced this firsthand and came out of the experience with pointers and knowledge for the rest of us. Listen to this week's podcast to ensure you have all the information you need as you go into the courtroom for the battle of your life to rescue your child!
Hello Target Parent Warriors, Support Tribe, & Allies,
You feel it...the alienator targets you in every direction, including your bank account! It is heart-wrenching to see parents spend their savings, their retirement fund, and their children's college fund and it still is not enough. Tracey Bee, attorney and family court strategist created a solution for target parents to be able to keep fighting for their children even when the funds run out. Tune in to this week's episode, where Tracey discusses what your next move is; and outsmart the manipulator and rescue the parent-child bond. CHECKMATE!
Did you know we have to make 35,000 decisions a day? And when you are parenting with a high conflict co-parent it results in new problems being dodged at you every hour on the hour. That exponentially increases the number of decisions that you have to make each day! You might as well become a pro at responding to these problems by strategically making decisions. In this episode, Sarah K. Ramsey, author of the newly released book Problem Solved: Simple Habits for Complex Decisions joins the podcast to give us some quick tips to make those strategic decisions to the complex problems our co-parent throws at us daily!
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The alienator's goal is to subdue the target parent making him/her weaken to the point of throwing up the white flag, and falling out of the child's life. Whether it is through draining time, energy, self-esteem, mental health, and/or financial resources. Brian Humenuk has been challenged by the alienator but his approach has not only been victorious in maintaining the above resources but also winning back his children's hearts. Listen to this episode to find out the strategies he used and can help you too!
The alienator is a psychological pyromaniac. Whether it is explosions or tiny flames, they are trying to set fires in every area of the target parent's life. Putting out all of these infernos often distracts the target parent from the good moments and the healthy people in their life. This can indirectly cause the spark in the new relationship to fade, and now your new relationship is being ruined by the same person who ruined the last relationship. Stephanie Sylvia Costello, relationship expert, discusses strategies to help target parents take care of their new relationship in the midst of this alienation firestorm. Make block sure you block their move and protect your current King (Queen). Checkmate!
The alienator chess game keeps target parents caught in what feels like a constant life and death game of dodgeball. The constant manipulation and allegations sweep in, to the point you feel you are stuck in a conflict cyclone, that is destroying all areas of your life. If we let the alienator do this to our life-they win. We cannot let that happen. We have a counter move that- Compartmentalize the Conflict. Listen to Episode #9 of The Alienator's Chess Game to find out how you can make this your next move to protect yourself in the Alienator's Chess Game and work towards rescuing the parent-child bond. Checkmate!
In Parental Alienation, it feels like an attack from all directions and you are not even sure what to tackle first. Kristoffer Hays has been enduring parental alienation for the past six years. He has used his skills to objectively evaluate what is the first step a target parent should take in this process and how to effectively navigate that first step.
Alienators are mean people. Mean people are not happy people. Do not let them steal your joy. It is another one of their tactics to steal your child's mind. In this episode, we discuss how you can become titanium when the alienator is using words as weapons.
When our children's minds are being kidnapped from us, it can cripple us emotionally. Rachel Strivelli, Emotional Personal Coach gives us three techniques to help us create emotional balance and show up mentally healthy for our children.
For journal prompts and daily motivational quotes sign up for Rachel's email at soulpioneer.com. For daily tips, find Rachel on YouTube at youtube.com/rachelstrivelli.
Do you ever feel alone in what are you experiencing with Parental Alienation? Despite the overwhelming feelings of loneliness PA causes, there are so many parents experiencing the exact same nightmare. It is like the alienators all use the same playbook. Matthew Heusser has experienced the alienation and the trials and tribulations of going through court. He has thoroughly educated himself to help himself through the process and he shares his knowledge with us; including how alienated parents can tell their story when asked. Matthew runs a virtual support group for parents on Tuesdays at 9:30 PM/EST. To obtain more information about the support group, you can contact him at matt.heusser@gmail.com.
If you are dealing with a toxic co-parent there is no doubt he/she has been an obstacle when it comes to getting things done for your child or being able to participate in your child's activities. Toxic Relationship Specialist and author of Becoming Toxic Person Proof, Sarah K.Ramsey discusses her technique "around the house" on how you can get around the obstacle your toxic co-parent puts in your way!
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Badmouthing is the #1 Play the alienator's use, but what do we do when we are not sure if badmouthing is occurring because our child is shutting down? The same thing we would do if our child was shutting down for any reason at all. We get them to open up! But this has to be done very strategically or it will only cause our child to double down on the shutdown. Listen to Episode #3: Conquering the Shutdown to find out how you can strategically respond to the child shutdown.
It has been reported this occurs in 80% of divorced families; with some well-intentioned parents doing it unintentionally. Join us to find out the alienators' #1 play and learn how to identify it and the counter strategy you can use to counter their move, ultimately strengthening the bond between you and your child. CHECKMATE!
Welcome to the first episode of The Alienator's Chess Game Podcast! In this episode, we explore what Parental Alienation is, who can be an alienator, and who can be the target of the alienator. I discuss the mission of the podcast and the motivation to rise up and make it happen. Last, we identify the very first strategy we need to use in order to rescue the parent-child bond and accomplish the podcast's mission. Thank you for listening!