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Real Adult Wisdom
Introducing RAW with Becky Shaffer
Who Am I?
Becky Shaffer is a life and fitness coach, Educator, and Author. I will bring a different perspective with Real Adult Wisdom from life experiences and guest speakers.
Here, on RAW, I will drop the fake talk and talk about honestly the hard experiences and life lessons gained from surviving childhood abuse, abusive relationships, and much more. I will share with you the work I did to overcome and heal in my personal life experiences.
Investing in yourself means putting your time, effort, and resources into your personal development and well-being – with the expectation that those investments will yield a positive return in all aspects of your life.Becky discusses different categories of personal growth and inventing in yourself while sharing her personal journey because investing in YOU doesn't come naturally for some.
Leaving your comfort zone can have multiple meanings. Comfort and growth are like oil and water. We are wired to seek comfort and certainty because it means safety and security. Retreating to our comfort zones can recharge our batteries. The lack of risk-taking holds back any type of growth. Join Becky Shaffer as she shares her story on leaving her comfort zone and the 4 stages of the zone.
There is no point in denying so-called aging--it's something I wasn't always convinced I'd be here to witness---but I can't help getting my real age number stuck in my throat when I have to say it.
Join Becky and Niki as they discuss their wisdom with aging.
There's no point in denying so-called aging -- it's something I wasn't always convinced I'd be here to witness -- but I can't help getting my real age number stuck in my throat when I have to actually say it.
Age is a peculiar thing; the number itself doesn't define us, yet society often attaches unwarranted expectations and limitations based on it. Embracing the aging process involves accepting both the physical and emotional changes that come with it, while recognizing the wisdom and experience gained along the way. It's a journey of self-discovery and personal growth, where the true essence of a person transcends the mere numerical representation of their years lived.
Join Becky and Niki as they discuss their Wisdom with aging.
"What if" questions are bound to come up during certain points of our lives, especially during major life decisions and these can be useful. What is not useful is living in the past, in a negative space wondering "what if" from past situations. Shaff and Shay talk about living in the moment and using the "what if" as growth and appreciating lessons learned along the way.
Shaff and Shay wrap up 2023 together and discuss biggest lessons learned this year and how not to carry your mistakes into the new year, but place them under your feet and use them as stepping stone to rise above.
Becky Shaffer talks about Embracing change as a fundamental aspect of personal growth and development. It allows us to break free from our comfort zones, learn new things, and discover hidden potential within ourselves. Instead of fearing change, we can choose to view it as an opportunity for self-improvement and self-discovery. Each new beginning brings with it a chance to redefine ourselves, set new goals, and create a brighter future.
Who ever thought we would be here? Life has a way of going 100 mpg on some days and slower than a snail on others, but this midlife came fast and hard like a head-on collision, and boy have I felt every bump and bruise along the way along with every emotion one can feel.
As we face midlife, all the changes in life, it is time to find our purpose and joy as we start this next phase in our life.
The holiday season is upon us, and no other time does it feel like we are “expected” to be joyful and happy, however, how can we bring in gratitude from our life experiences? Becky Shaffer talks about being thankful through all the "stuff".
Being human is pretty complicated. There are the vulnerabilities that exist at our edges with realness and a rawness that can feel overwhelming at times. It is easy to feel as though we are the only ones who wade into the messiness of them all but we’re not. We never are.
Join Becky Shaffer as she digs into this topic and shares some of her own RAW life experiences.
Sunsets are usually regarded as a symbol of completion, good, evil, mystery, and magic. They’re also strongly related with endings and can have various other meanings, both positive and negative. In this podcast, I take a look at what sunsets mean, taking into account the emotions you felt, as well as the location and color of the sunset. Here’s a closer look at sunset meanings.
Becky dives into her new chapter and the changes that have been rewarding, yet challenging..
Do you wish to gain some clarity of this "second" half of life feels? Are you struggling? You are not alone.
"An empty nest is not just about the people who have left, but also the person who has come back which is you.
When the kids leave, they leave that behind feel and rhythm in the house that took years to evolve.
The sting of the empty nest is the sharpest when that feeling still exists after the activity from which it evolved is over".
Listen to this insightfulness as Becky moves forward in this new chapter of life.
Turning 50, moving and becoming an empty nester all in a 4 month period of time has proven to be a great opportunity with many new journeys' ahead. Shaff and Shay discuss how life brings about opportunities and how we can take the positive and enjoy this ride we call life.
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Digging into a controversial topic in functional medicine with Dr. Stone. Dr. Stone has been practicing for 30 years and has helped heal many with Functional and Eastern medicine. Redefining Healthy with functional medicine.
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Dr. Todd Stone is a Natural Medicine Healer / Doctor who practices practice Functional Medicine and Eastern Medicine. He has helped many people turn around their health over the last 30 years, some pretty remarkable! This unique combination has prepared Dr. Stone for meeting the needs, diagnostically and therapeutically, of the “chronic walking wounded”…those people suffering from pain, fatigue, and disability who have found no solution, or even adequate diagnosis.
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Founded in 2021, Turtleback Ridge, aka TBR, is a place for family and friends to gather and grow in a mindful and healing environment. TBR came to life when Mia DiMola and Ashley Hermes met in 2020 and combined their dream careers of wanting to operate a therapeutic retreat center. TBR was developed to provide a sanctuary for family and friends to reflect, practice gratitude, cultivate self-love and empower one another to learn and grow in harmony.
There are twelve books - one to introduce each Ridget as they join the expedition to restore calm to Turtleback Ridge. The Ridget friends help each other learn coping tools and accept their challenges as part of their dynamic personalities that are part of the beauty of the fabric that makes up their friendship.
The Ridgets will encounter obstacles which will help kids learn skills to utilize in common stressful situations such as bullying, peer pressure, boundary-crossing, talking about feelings, problem-solving, and more.
To get more information and to order your first book go to: https://turtlebackridge.org/
Thank you to Kim Smith Music for her music for the soul in the RAW podcasts as well. To hear more go to : https://www.reverbnation.com/songspourout
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My goal for 2023 is to accomplish the goals of 2022 which I should have done in 2021 because I made a promise to myself in 2020 and planned in 2019, sound familiar? I talk about setting small goals that are attainable v's resolutions that sadly in time fade away.
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Jenny Fleece joins RAW to share her spirtual path to a happier and healthier life.
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Continuing the series on Trauma to Healing, Heidi McKenzie joins me to share her story of a car accident that left her following a journey she never expected. It is an honor to have Heidi as a friend and for those she teaches daily on her journey, she teaches though her courage. Life is full of twists and turns, however, we all have hope anchored within us which in turn gives us motivation to take steps for a better future.
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Shaff and Shay bring the Trauma to Healing series to their show. Walking the journey as a survior can sometimes be lonely, yet rewarding in how powerful your story can be for someone dealing with these powerful issues. Our show brings RAW experience and how we can live today to appreciate our past, our healing and where we are as healthy adults in life today.
Being Vulnerable and sharing the RAW steps of this life transformation Shaff and Shay share the process of the critial steps of working thorugh self-love, worthlessness and getting rid of your false self and allowing others to see you for your true authentic self as a survior.
Being Vulnerable is taking a chance and sharing their stories is a calling and passion to help others walking a journey that has already been walked by these two amazing strong women.
Trauma comes in many forms: Sexual Abuse, Physical Abuse, Domestic violence, Medical Injury, Death, Intimate Partner Abuse, Early Childhood Trauma and of course bullying and much more.
YOU deserve to feel your value in life. This is REAL RAW talk and Shaff brings a powerful voice of her abuse to survior to her experiences while healing.
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Healthy relationships are your birthright and you can achieve them. It is your right to have a healthy, safe, and respectful relationship. We will discuss Narcissist Behavior, Stonewalling and Self-Sabotaging behaviors in todays episode.
Shaff and Shay bring RAW (Real Adult Wisdom) to you. Don't be afraid of being yourself or exploring until you find peace within yourself.
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Healing is really just letting yourself feel. Today, I share with you a letter I wrote to my child self. This was the most healing piece of writing I have ever endured in my life. As a survivor, I realized years ago that I still had healing to go. I am not sure if the healing ever should stop, as life is a journey and digging deep, understanding your vaule and worth is always something we need to all strive for. Thank you for allowing me to be vulnerable in sharing my journey and my story.
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Shaff and Shay bring the Trauma to Healing series to their show. Walking the journey as a survior can sometimes be lonely, yet rewarding in how powerful your story can be for someone dealing with these powerful issues. Our show brings RAW experience and how we can live today to appreciate our past, our healing and where we are as healthy adults in life today.
Being Vulnerable and sharing the RAW steps of this life transformation Shaff and Shay share the process of the critial steps of working thorugh self-love, worthlessness and getting rid of your false self and allowing others to see you for your true authentic self as a survior.
Being Vulnerable is taking a chance and sharing their stories is a calling and passion to help others walking a journey that has already been walked by these two amazing strong women.
Trauma comes in many forms: Sexual Abuse, Physical Abuse, Domestic violence, Medical Injury, Death, Intimate Partner Abuse, Early Childhood Trauma and of course bullying and much more.
YOU deserve to feel your value in life. This is REAL RAW talk and Shaff brings a powerful voice of her abuse to survior to her experiences while healing.
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Not Settling- (Give and take), Wasted time, and Needle in a Haystack complete our 2-part series of "Moreness".
Shaffer and Shay bring their own personal Wisdom to the forefront with these topics.
We Are:
Becky Shaffer is a life and fitness coach, Educator, and Author. Shay Hayes is an Educator and Coach with College and High School experience in which together we bring a different perspective with Real Adult Wisdom from life experiences.
Here, on RAW, we will drop the fake talk and talk about honestly the challenging experiences and life lessons we gained from surviving childhood abuse, abusive relationships, cancer, and much more. We will share with you the work we did to overcome and heal our personal life experiences.
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Introducing RAW with Shaff and Shay!
We Are:
Becky Shaffer is a life and fitness coach, Educator, and Author. Shay Hayes is an Educator and Coach with College and High School experience in which together we bring a different perspective with Real Adult Wisdom from life experiences.
Here, on RAW, we will drop the fake talk and talk about honestly the hard experiences and life lessons we gained from surviving childhood abuse, abusive relationships, cancer, and much more. We will share with you the work we did to overcome and heal our personal life experiences.
Episode 3
5 takes on “Moreness” ( Episode 4 will talk about the last 3 takes)
- Communication-this will always be at the top of my list because without communication there is no relationship.
Depth in your relationship is important. We as adults seem to use about 5 emotions: Happy, Sad, TIred, Pissesd off or Stressed Out. These are surface-level emotions that don’t give a lot of detail about what a person is feeling. Digging deep into these primary emotions is important to share.
- Not Settling- (Give and take) Be conscious of the present, you are NOT dating to fill a space, you are dating to add to your life. You can’t seek from a partner what you don’t give to yourself. Choose experience, not optimism.
Life Coaching-Becky Shaffer @ liveinconfidence@gmail.com
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We Are:
Becky Shaffer is a life and fitness coach, Educator, and Author, and Shay Hayes is an Educator and Coach with College and High School experience in which together we bring a different perspective with Real Adult Wisdom from life experiences.
Here, on RAW, we will drop the fake talk and talk about honestly the hard experiences and life lessons we gained from surviving childhood abuse, abusive relationships, cancer, and much more. We will share with you the work we did to overcome and heal our personal life experiences.
The importance of a girl's trip, resetting, no judgment, and just a great time. We all need those days away from kids, family, and partners to just laugh, be silly, and add bonds that happen so rarely.
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Introducing RAW with Shaff and Shay!
We Are:
Becky Shaffer is a life and fitness coach, Educator, and Author, and Shay Hayes is an Educator and Coach with College and High School experience in which together we bring a different perspective with Real Adult Wisdom from life experiences.
Here, on RAW, we will drop the fake talk and talk about honestly the hard experiences and life lessons we gained from surviving childhood abuse, abusive relationships, cancer, and much more. We will share with you the work we did to overcome and heal our personal life experiences.
Life is hard at times and together we CAN DO THIS!
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