Living With Addiction: Recent Episodes
Heather Ross
You have more power than you realize when it comes to helping your child, but you need access to tools that work. Heather is a mother who spent years trying to figure out how to help her daughter. No matter what she did, things always got worse. Her daughter hated her, her life was in chaos, and her daughter’s addiction was escalating. Desperate for answers she became willing to try a new approach. She repaired her relationship with her daughter, created peace in her life, and supported her daughter through active addiction and into recovery. Change is possible. You can make a difference.
What happens when compassion, science, and family come together to reshape the way we understand addiction?
In this powerful episode, I talk with Dr. Carrie Wilkens co-founder of the Center for Motivation and Change (CMC) and co-author of Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change.
We talk about the origins of CMC and how that created a blueprint that challenged the “tough love” approach so many families have been told is their only option. Together, we explore what has changed in addiction science over the past decade, what remains misunderstood, and how kindness continues to transform lives.
You’ll hear us dig into:
• What’s new in the 10th Anniversary Edition of Beyond Addiction—and how the science has evolved in the last decade.
• Why relapse doesn’t erase progress and how parents can reframe it in ways that bring more peace of mind.
• The harmful oversimplification of “choice” in addiction and how to think about it in a more accurate and compassionate way.
• How parents can move beyond the paralyzing fear of “enabling” and make decisions that truly serve their family.
This is a conversation filled with wisdom, validation, and forward-looking hope for families who want a different path. One based on connection, science, and love.
CMC Resources and Links:
Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change (10th Anniversary Edition) https://cmcffc.org/resources/books-and-workbooks
Support the Center for Motivation and Change: https://motivationandchange.com https://cmcffc.org/ways-to-give
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Boundaries That Create Connection Masterclass
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/boundaries-that-create-connection-masterclass/
How to leave a podcast review
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/5xkPZM8mj-E
Heather talks with author Jackie Jackson about her new book, Holistic Trauma Healing: Strategies to Integrate the Body, Mind, and Spirit. Jackie shares her personal journey and what she’s learned about healing beyond traditional approaches and integrating different healing modalities.
You’ll hear:
•How trauma shows up in everyday ways like anxiety, people-pleasing, and exhaustion.
•Why healing the body is just as important as healing the mind.
•What post-traumatic growth and emotional resilience can look like.
This conversation is both heartfelt and practical, offering encouragement, wisdom, and gentle guidance for anyone navigating their own path of healing.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
How to leave a podcast review
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/5xkPZM8mj-E
Connect with Jackie
Website: jacquelinejackson.net
Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0738779555
Download her free parent guide
https://www.jacquelinejackson.net/podcast-landing-page
When you’re parenting a child who struggles with substances, it can feel like you don’t have a choice. The options in front of you often feel terrible, and the weight of helplessness colors everything.
I know this firsthand—during the years of my daughter Helanna’s substance use, I felt like my life was completely at the effect of hers. Without a sense of agency, everything felt horrific, like there was no “in-between”—just unbearable.
But the truth is even when you don’t like your options, you are still choosing. And recognizing that changes everything. It shifts you from powerless to empowered. It brings back agency, softens the edges of the pain, and helps you move forward instead of feeling consumed by chaos.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
•Why it feels like you don’t have a choice (and the real difference between “I don’t like my choices” and “I don’t have choices”).
•How every decision has both a cost and a benefit—and how naming those trade-offs can ease resentment and regret.
•The concept of choice stacking.
•Why waiting for certainty keeps you stuck, and how clarity actually comes after you decide.
If you’ve been feeling stuck, powerless, or waiting for your child to change before you can breathe again, this episode will help you take your power back in a compassionate, grounded way.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
How to leave a podcast review
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/5xkPZM8mj-E
Guest Colleen Freeland opens up about her 20-year struggle with daily drinking, even while maintaining what looked like a “perfect” high-achieving life. She shares the pivotal moment when she realized alcohol wasn’t the real problem—it was what she believed about herself—and that what she truly needed was to do less, not more.
That insight led her to create a whole new approach to change. In this episode, Colleen explains why emotional sobriety matters more than willpower, why drinking less doesn’t mean giving up joy, and how she helps women cut back by up to 80% with tools that calm the nervous system and rebuild self-trust.
This is not another story about “just quitting.” Colleen shows why emotional sobriety is the missing piece for so many women, how cutting back can feel empowering, and what it really means to get happy, not sober.
If you’ve ever felt stuck in shame, perfectionism, or the belief that alcohol is the only problem—you’ll walk away from this conversation with hope, clarity, and a whole new way to think about change.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Boundaries That Create Connection Masterclass
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/boundaries-that-create-connection-masterclass/
How to leave a podcast review
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/5xkPZM8mj-E
Connect with Colleen Freeland
https://emotionalsobrietycoaching.com/
https://www.tiktok.com/@hangoverwhisperer
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/its-not-about-the-alcohol/id1654335817
You’re told to “hold them accountable” but what if that’s not moving them toward change? Heather shares the science behind why constant confrontation often creates more shame, hiding, and resistance. She offers a clear two-step framework to help you shift perspective and use a balanced approach that’s proven to increase motivation. This isn’t about ignoring reality, it’s about using strategies that actually work, and it can completely change how your child responds to you.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Boundaries That Create Connection Masterclass
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/boundaries-that-create-connection-masterclass/
How to leave a podcast review
https://www.youtube.com/shorts/5xkPZM8mj-E
In this heartfelt conversation, Heather sits down with Pam Lanhart from Thrive Family Recovery Resources to explore how to keep living with purpose, joy, and connection when life throws everything at you—family challenges, health scares, and the unpredictable ups and downs of a child struggling with substance use.
Together, Heather and Pam discuss:
•How to reclaim moments of joy without feeling like you’re betraying your child who is struggling
•Why mental and emotional health require daily, intentional “work”
•The power of routines, gratitude, and small daily practices to anchor you in the hardest seasons
•What it really means to model emotional health and resilience for your children
•How living in alignment with your values brings peace of mind, even when life feels uncertain
Pam also shares the practices that have carried her through her darkest moments, including journaling, movement, gratitude, and creating opportunities for connection and fun, reminding us that it is not only okay to be okay, it’s essential.
If you’ve ever felt like life’s waves were too relentless to find your footing, this conversation will inspire you to anchor in your own healing, reclaim the small joys, and show up in a way you can feel proud of, no matter what life brings.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Pam's links
https://www.togetherfamilyrecovery.com/watch-the-film
https://www.thrivefrr.org/
When your child is struggling with substance use, it can feel like every interaction is high-stakes. You want to help, but even well-meaning conversations can backfire. That’s why today’s episode is all about a simple but powerful tool: The Connection Bank Account.
You’ll learn:
•What the Connection Bank Account is and how it works
•Why connection is your most effective parenting tool
•Real-life examples of deposits and withdrawals
•What to do when your balance is low
•A small challenge you can take on today to start building connection
Whether your relationship with your child feels strong or strained, this concept can help you create more safety, trust, and influence - one small deposit at a time.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
In this heart-opening conversation, Heather is joined by Debby Kerr-Henry who is the sponsor of The Unlimited Gavel Club, a Toastmasters group where approximately 60 incarcerated men learn to write, speak, debate, and reclaim their sense of purpose. In this episode,Debby shares why she believes their stories - especially about substance use and recovery - belong in the conversation far beyond prison walls.
Together, Heather and Debby explore:
•What it’s like inside an incentivized prison and how The Unlimited Gavel Club works.
•Who these men are beyond their sentences and the humanity and hope they bring to their work.
•Why voices we often ignore hold vital wisdom about substance use, resilience, and change.
This episode is an invitation to challenge stigma, open your heart, and discover how healing is possible in places you might never expect.
Join the Free Virtual Event: Living Beyond Our Walls: Substance Use Presentations with Testimonials and Q&A.
Featuring the men of The Unlimited Gavel Club at Tomoka Correctional Institution.
Open to anyone impacted by substance use or curious to learn.
Register here https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/EBwwNt0oRMynqiO6QhPnig
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you’ve ever decided not to give your child money and still felt like your heart was being ripped out so you said yes anyway… this episode is for you.
In this episode, I’m unpacking what really happens when we stop giving from a place of survival, and why that decision can feel so excruciating, even when we know it’s right.
Learn:
• Why saying no can feel like you're severing the last thread of connection
• What your child might be experiencing at a nervous system level when you say no
• The Survival Cycle that keeps moms stuck in guilt, resentment, and exhaustion
• And the new pattern I call the Connection Cycle that helps you relate in a way that’s aligned with true connection, love, and your values
This episode is not about judgment.
It’s not about telling you what to do.
It’s about helping you understand why it feels so hard to stop, even when you’ve already decided that giving isn’t truly helping.
And it’s about offering a new path forward where you don’t have to choose between your peace and your child.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
A New Perspective About Enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Helanna Johnson Memorial Scholarship
https://forms.fillout.com/t/rzzgZmhYMKus
If you’ve ever felt stuck between loving your child and losing yourself, this episode will help you see that taking your life back doesn’t mean letting go. It means leading the way with compassion, clarity, and strength.
Heather shares how years of fear, guilt, and hopelessness kept her stuck — and the exact moment she found a path forward. She introduces the two-part approach that helped her feel hopeful again: healing herself first and learning the skills to support her daughter in a way that built connection.
You’ll walk away with a new perspective on what it really means to help your child — and the power you already have to change your experience, no matter what they choose.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
A New Perspective About Enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Helanna Johnson Memorial Scholarship
https://forms.fillout.com/t/rzzgZmhYMKus
Guilt is one of the most common emotions parents face when their child is struggling with addiction, but is it always telling the truth?
In this episode, I’m sharing some personal reflections and hard-won realizations about guilt: how it became my default emotion, how it blocked me from feeling what was actually true, and what happened when I finally stepped out of guilt and into my true emotions that guilt was covering up.
You'll learn:
- The difference between helpful guilt and default guilt
- Why guilt keeps you from meeting your needs
- How guilt dysregulates your nervous system and keeps you stuck
- A practical 3-step process to work through guilt
- Why releasing guilt doesn’t mean you’re excusing the past, it means you’re free to grow from it
If guilt has become your constant companion, this episode will help you begin to untangle it from the truth. You don’t have to punish yourself to prove you care.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
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Today we’re tackling one of the most painful questions parents face when their child is struggling with substance use - "Should I kick them out?"
You’ll hear why this question is far more complicated than it’s often made out to be and why it deserves careful thought, not quick advice based on outdated, stigmatized ideas like "tough love" or "rock bottom."
In this episode, Heather shares:
- Why the words we use when making hard decisions affect how we feel and show up
- What factors to consider before asking your child to leave, including safety, emotional health, and recovery capital
- How to recognize when fear, guilt, or pressure might be influencing your choices
- What it looks like to thoughtfully create a transition if your child can’t safely stay at home
- Why honoring your own values and your child's right to self-determination leads to decisions you can live with
If you’ve ever felt trapped between two terrible options, letting chaos continue in your home or kicking your child out into the unknown, this episode will help you decide what’s best for you and your family.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
For years, I lived with my peace tied directly to my daughter Helanna’s addiction. When she struggled, I felt powerless, sick, exhausted, and consumed by fear. But everything began to shift when I realized that peace isn’t something that can be stolen—it’s something we either protect or give away.
Even in the most heartbreaking moments, I discovered that I still had agency over how I related to my emotions. That realization didn’t erase the pain, but it gave me something solid to stand on. And I want that for you, too.
We’ll talk about:
•How to stop bracing for impact and start standing in your power
•The “yes for a no” strategy that filled my needs as a mom
•What emotional intelligence really means in parenting through addiction
•How staying grounded gives your child the best possible chance at change
Peace of Mind Group Scholarship Opportunity
Email the answers to the 5 questions below to heather@heatherrosscoaching.com by the end of the day April 14th, 2025.
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Why do you want to be part of the Peace of Mind Group Coaching Program for Mothers?
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What would it mean to you, personally, to find peace of mind and joy in the midst of your child’s struggle?
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How do you currently cope with the stress and fear that come with your child’s substance use?
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What do you most want to feel or believe about yourself as a parent by the end of this program?
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Is financial support the missing piece that would allow you to say yes to getting the help you want?
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
There is a crucial difference between pity and compassion—and this distinction can deeply impact your relationship with your child. When we pity our kids, we see them as helpless victims, stripping them of their agency and reinforcing our own feelings of hopelessness.
But compassion is different—it sees their struggles without defining them by them, offering support in a way that preserves dignity and connection.
Heather shares personal experiences that have shown her the stark contrast between pity and compassion. We’ll also explore how parents often unknowingly judge their child’s struggles, assuming they are solely a result of poor choices while overlooking the massive role of other factors.
If you’ve ever thought, “I would never end up in that situation,” this episode will challenge that belief and help you shift from judgment to true understanding.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
•How pity and compassion create completely different dynamics in your relationship with your child
•Why pity makes your child feel disconnected, unseen, and incapable of change
•How compassion fosters trust, safety, and a stronger bond
•7 simple ways to shift from pity to compassion in your daily interactions
Plus, don’t miss my free Boundaries That Create Connection Masterclass on Tuesday, March 25th—where I’ll teach you how to set boundaries that actually strengthen your relationship rather than pushing your child away. Sign up using the link below!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/boundaries-that-create-connection-masterclass/
If you found this episode helpful, please leave a 5-star review—your feedback helps other parents find the support they need.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with Heather using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
In this episode, Heather interviews Jeremy French, the founder of Making Whole, an organization that fills a critical gap in the addiction recovery treatment system. While traditional recovery programs often focus on short-term stabilization, Making Whole provides the missing piece—long-term support through meaningful work, mentorship, and personal growth.
Jeremy shares his journey of asking a pivotal question: Why do some people thrive in long-term recovery while others struggle or don’t survive?
Through his exploration, he identified key elements that support sustainable recovery—mentorship, creativity, problem-solving, and the ability to navigate uncertainty.
These insights became the foundation of Making Whole, where men in recovery not only learn to craft high-quality custom furniture but also rebuild their lives and develop the skills necessary to thrive.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
•The importance of creating an environment of change where people want to stay and get better.
•How meaningful work and mentorship create a foundation for sustainable recovery.
•The role of passion, creative problem solving, and embracing uncertainty in healing.
Tune in to hear how Making Whole is changing lives—one handcrafted piece at a time.
Resources & Links:
Learn more about Making Whole: https://makingwhole.com/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
In this heartfelt episode, Heather shares her perspective on the damaging labels of codependent and enabler that are often placed on parents. She explains why these labels are not only unhelpful but also undermine a parent's natural instincts—instincts that are, in fact, a powerful tool for connection and support.
Heather emphasizes that parents don’t need warnings about what not to do. Instead, they need clear, actionable guidance on how to help their child struggling with substance use while staying connected in a meaningful way.
Listeners will discover:
- Why parental instincts are not the problem—they are the key.
- How small, intentional shifts in communication and boundaries can create meaningful change.
- The importance of questioning harmful labels and trusting their own 'why.'
- How having their own back and honoring their values is a vital part of helping their child.
This episode is a powerful reminder that a parent's love is not a disorder, and they are never powerless.
With the right tools and support, parents can show up effectively for their child and themselves.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below.
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
The truth about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
In the last episode, we explored why our kids can excel in unexpected areas—like chess, gas prices, or mental math—but struggle with everyday tasks like making a phone call or getting to an appointment on time. We looked at the brain science behind these inconsistencies and how substance use impacts different cognitive functions.
But now comes the next step: How do we work with these realities instead of fighting against them?
In this episode, we’ll focus on practical ways to help your child follow through on tasks, build new skills, and gain confidence—without creating more conflict or frustration.
We’ll cover:
- How to help your child make a phone call when avoidance and anxiety get in the way
- How to get them to an appointment on time without endless reminders and frustration
- How to support long-term planning in a way that makes sense for their brain
- Why small, achievable steps matter more than big expectations
When we stop seeing their struggles as defiance and start seeing them as brain function, everything shifts. We can adjust our expectations, reduce conflict, and set them up for success in ways that actually work.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below. https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Have you ever felt completely baffled by your child’s behavior? Maybe they can play chess skillfully but can’t seem to get ready for an appointment on time. Maybe they have zero concept of time but can tell you the gas prices at every station in town. These inconsistencies can feel frustrating and even personal—like they don’t care or aren’t trying.
But what if there’s a scientific explanation?
In this episode, we dive into the brain science behind these confusing behaviors. I’ll break down how substance use affects different areas of the brain, why some skills stay intact while others decline, and how understanding this can reduce frustration, increase compassion, and help you better support your child.
We’ll explore:
- How the prefrontal cortex, dopamine system, hippocampus, and amygdala all play a role in motivation, memory, and decision-making
- Why time blindness makes planning and follow-through so difficult
- How survival-based thinking can cause hyperfocus on things like gas prices but not daily responsibilities
- Why understanding these brain changes can help you find peace of mind and set realistic expectations
When we understand the why behind their struggles, we can stop fighting against reality and start working with it.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below. https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you! https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
When we have a child struggling, it’s easy to feel like our happiness is tied to theirs. That belief, often summed up in the phrase, "You’re only as happy as your unhappiest child," can leave us feeling powerless and overwhelmed. Butwhat if letting go of that belief could create more peace, joy, and connection—not just for you, but for your child as well?
In this heartfelt episode, Heather dives into three powerful questions inspired by a mom from her Facebook group:
- How do you live a happy life knowing your child might die?
- Are we really only as happy as your unhappiest child?
- How can you be happy when your child is so unhappy?
Through her own experiences and hard-earned wisdom, Heather shares how shifting our focus inward, questioning unhelpful beliefs, and embracing acceptance can lead tohealing and peace of mind.
Recommended episodes:
- EP102 How To Accept The Unacceptable
- EP103 Acceptance meditation
- EP03 What to do When You're Paralyzed With Fear That Your Child Will Overdose & Die
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Guide about enabling -If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
In this episode, Heather welcomes Dominique, founder andhost of the podcast For Love of Recovery, which focuses on helping siblings navigate the challenges of having a brother or sister struggling with substance use. Together, they dive into the unique experiences that siblings face, which are often overlooked.
Dominique shares her personal journey, the inspirationbehind her podcast, and insights into the sibling perspective on addiction and recovery.
The conversation explores topics like the pressure to be the"perfect child," the effects of stigma, how parents can bettersupport siblings, and the emotional complexities of navigating a family member's substance use.
This heartfelt discussion offers valuable insights forparents and siblings alike, shining a light on the importance of understanding and support for all family members.
Website: https://www.forloveofrecovery.com/
Podcast: https://www.forloveofrecovery.com/podcast
IG: https://www.instagram.com/forloveofrecovery/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Guide about enabling -If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - Be the first to get details. https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
The holidays can be one of the most challenging times of the year, especially when your child is struggling with substance use. The stress, uncertainty, and longing for things to be different can feel overwhelming—but it doesn’t have to define your holiday season.
In this episode, Heather shares simple yet powerful strategies to help you take care of yourself, honor your emotions, and create moments of peace, connection, and even joy. These practical tips are rooted in compassion and intention, helping you navigate this time of year with greater clarity and resilience.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- How to plan ahead to meet your emotional needs and set the tone for your holidays.
- The power of acceptance and how it can bring a sense of peace.
- How to be present with your pain without adding to it or minimizing it.
- How to embrace the "AND," making space for both grief and joy.
Heather also shares personal insights from her own journey, offering hope and encouragement for parents navigating similar challenges.
Resources Mentioned:
- Download the Free Holiday Reflection Guide
- Listen to Episode #102 on Acceptance
- Listen to Episode #38 on Self-Compassion
The holidays may never be perfect, but with these steps, you can take back control of your experience and find moments of peace and possibility.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
In Person WeWomen Retreat Information https://wewomenretreat.com/registration/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery callwith me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Guide about enabling -If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - Be the first to get details.https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Heather explores the complex topic of manipulation in the context of addiction and family dynamics.
When your child is using substances, it’s common to experience behaviors that feel manipulative or self-serving. However, Heather emphasizes the importance of stepping back to see these actions through a compassionate lens, which can empower parents to respond with clarity rather than react out of frustration or hurt.
Heather covers:
- Understanding Manipulation:What manipulation is and isn’t, and how labeling behaviors as manipulative can reduce loved ones to harmful stereotypes.
- Influence vs. Desperation: Howto distinguish when behaviors stem from true manipulation versus desperation or an attempt to meet a basic need.
- A Compassionate Perspective:Shifting from a “victim-perpetrator” mindset to a more empowered approach, recognizing manipulation as a universal human behavior rather than one solely tied to addiction.
- Strategies for IntentionalResponses: Tips for responding thoughtfully, using the CRAFT approach (Community Reinforcement and Family Training).
With insights drawn from her own experiences, Heather shares the importance of language, self-awareness, and finding less charged ways to label challenging behaviors. This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to navigate difficult behaviors with compassion and maintain peace of mind in the face of addiction.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
In Person WeWomen Retreat Information https://wewomenretreat.com/registration/
Guide about enabling -If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery callwith me using the link below https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
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Description: In this episode, Heather offers gentlesupport and guidance for those days when it feels like you can’t stop crying. If you’re feeling overwhelmed by emotions and unsure of how to move forward,this episode is here to help.
Heather shares tools for self-awareness, honoringyour feelings, and finding the willingness to sit with discomfort. She also provides practical tips for managing the really hard days. Whether you’re navigating grief, sadness, or anxiety, this episode offers comfort andreassurance that it won’t always feel this hard.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and yourchild Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - Bethe first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
In Person Retreat Information
https://wewomenretreat.com/registration/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried aboutenabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
In this short meditation (pairs with ep#102), Heather guides you through a calming practice designed to help you embrace acceptance.
Remember, acceptance is a practice—listen to this meditation as often as you need to regain clarity and find peace.
Let this be your go-to tool whenever you need a moment of stillness to process and reset.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - Bethe first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
In Person Retreat Information
https://wewomenretreat.com/registration/
In this episode, Heather delves into the concept of acceptance, highlighting that it's not a final destination but a continuous practice requiring intention and effort—especially when life unfolds in ways we never anticipated and find unacceptable.
We'll define what acceptance really means, why it’s socritical for your peace of mind, and provide three actionable steps to help you move closer to it. You’ll also hear about the role of grief in acceptance and the importance of separating facts from the stories we tell ourselves. Plus, discover how self-compassion can help you let go of resistance and step into a space of empowerment.
If you find this episode helpful, please considersubscribing, rating, and reviewing the podcast to help other parents find it too!
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and yourchild Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - Bethe first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
In Person Retreat Information
https://wewomenretreat.com/registration/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worriedabout enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
In this episode, Heather welcomes Debby back for another deep conversation about wellness and the overwhelming pressures many women face today. They discussed why so many women are on the edge ofburnout—juggling multiple roles like mother, spouse, friend, and employee while feeling unseen and disconnected from themselves.
Heather and Debby dive into how living in a state ofoverwhelm has become the norm for so many, and how this sense of losing oneself can actually be a turning point for rediscovery and empowerment.
They reflect on their personal experiences with overwhelm and how strategies like redefiningrelationships with personal roles, the 8 dimensions of wellness, core values, and boundaries can help women take back control of their lives without feeling the need to run away.
If you’ve ever felt like you’re drowning in responsibilities, this episode will provide insight, compassion, and actionable steps toward finding balance.
In Person Retreat Information
https://wewomenretreat.com/registration/
Contact Debby:
Website: https://momentousliving.com
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - Bethe first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
In this episode, you’ll learn six impactful changes that cantransform your approach to loving your child through their addiction. These insights will help you reduce the chaos using practical tools. You’ll also learn the value of shifting your focus from trying to control the situation or your child to controlling what is within your power—you. By reducing the chaos and taking charge of your ownresponses and behaviors, you can create a more stable and supportive environment for your whole family.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching Invitation To Change Group For Parents Enrolling NOW
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/itcgroup/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM FOR MOMS - Jointhe waitlist - New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
This episode offers a heartfelt exploration of Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and their far-reaching impacts, providing valuable insights for parents, caregivers, and anyone impacted by these experiences. Through this lens, we explore the often-overlooked trauma that ACEs represent and the importance of understanding these experiences. Join us as we navigate these complex issues with compassion and a commitment to healing.
Key Takeaways:
- ACEs defined
- Their impact on physical and emotional health
- How ACEs can affect parenting styles and children's development across generations.
- How to mitigate the effects of ACEs for healing and healthier family dynamics Resources From Heather Ross Coaching GROUP COACHING PROGRAM FOR MOMS - Jointhe waitlist - New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
New season, new name, and Heather’s unfiltered perspective.
Topics covered in this episode:
- The significance of creating a supportive and non-judgmental environment.
- The impact of stigmatized language and beliefs.
- The concept of "rock bottom" vs. "turning point" inaddiction recovery.
- The double standards in labeling parental behavior as codependent inaddiction cases vs. other illnesses.
- Offering practical skills rather than telling parents to stop “enabling.” Resources From Heather Ross Coaching GROUP COACHING PROGRAM FOR MOMS - Jointhe waitlist - New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
In this podcast episode, guest Mike Brown, president and founder of the Never Use Alone Hotline (NUA), shares his journey from substance use to becoming a recovery advocate. Mike started NUA in response to his experience with the treatment industry, focusing on harm reduction and overdose prevention. NUA operates as a peer-led nonprofit, offering support to individuals using substances alone through human connection and non-judgmental assistance. NUA operates nationwide and has partnered with emergency services to ensure timely assistance if needed.
Mike addresses common barriers to calling the hotline, such aslack of trust, and emphasizes the importance of trusted sources sharing information about NUA. He also discusses misconceptions about harm reduction and enabling, highlighting the service's focus on providing connection, support, and hope to callers.
Throughout the discussion, Mike emphasizes the critical role ofhuman connection and compassion in supporting individuals struggling with substance use, challenging traditional approaches to addiction treatment, and advocating for harm reduction practices.
In this episode you will learn:
- The importance of human connection and non-judgmentalsupport in harm reduction and overdose prevention.
- Details about the services provided by NUA and how callersare assisted during substance use.
- Misconceptions about harm reduction and enabling, are clarified through Mike's perspective.
- Success stories from NUA, showcasing the impact of thehotline in saving lives.
Contact Never Use Alone
https://neverusealone.com/
Call Never Use Alone 877-696-1996 your Overdose Prevention Lifeline.
Resources From Heather Ross CoachingGROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Peace of Mind Group for momshttps://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link belowhttps://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecoveryInvitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting.https://heatherrosscoaching.com/invitation-to-change-group/Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
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Licensed Clinical Social Worker Lara Okoloko and Heather discuss the delicate balance of influence and autonomy in parent-child relationships, particularly in the context of addiction. Lara empathizes with parents caught in the bind of being blamed for the negative aspects of enabling without receiving any credit for the positive influence they may have.She shares personal insights, reflecting on the power dynamics and responsibilities that come with being a helper, the importance of respect and autonomy in relationships, and the need for a balanced approach to supporting loved ones with substance use disorder. Her passion for reducing stigma and respecting self-determination in supporting individuals with substance use disorders is evident. With Lara's expertise and relatable experiences, this episode offers valuable insights and a fresh perspective on navigating the complexities of parent-child relationships and supporting loved ones through their recovery journey.In this episode, you will be able to: Uncover the impact of mixed messages when supporting aloved one with substance use disorder, and how to navigate them effectively. Embrace humility and respect in relationships tostrengthen your role in your loved one's recovery journey. Explore the influence and autonomy in parent-childrelationships, and how to strike a healthy balance. Discover the profound impact of helpers' words andactions on the recovery journey of their loved ones. Contact Lara: https://www.caresnw.com/Resources From Heather Ross CoachingGROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Peace of Mind Group for momshttps://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link belowhttps://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecoveryInvitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting.https://heatherrosscoaching.com/invitation-to-change-group/Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/The key moments in this episode are:00:00:02 - Introduction to Laura Okoloko 00:01:26 - Mixed Messages for Parents 00:02:52 - Lack of Positive Influence Recognition 00:05:43 - Influence vs. Control 00:16:36 - Balancing Autonomy and Support 00:18:57 - The Importance of Humility in Coaching 00:22:04 - Finding the Balance of Influence 00:23:36 - Using Influence Deliberately 00:26:33 - Understanding Power Dynamics 00:29:51 - Defining Success in Relationships 00:36:39 - The Power of Words in Helping Relationships 00:38:53 - Power Dynamics in Relationships 00:40:12 - Normalizing Control in Uncontrollable Situations 00:41:45 - Redesigning Support for Substance Use Disorders 00:43:16 - Closing Thoughts and Reflections --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/heather-ross9/message
Your Questions Answered. A few months back, Heather reached out to her Facebook group to inquire about their burning questions on eating disorders. Why? Because navigating a child's struggle with both substance use and an eating disorder can feel like playing an endless game of whack-a-mole. Just as you address one issue, another one seems to surface. Eating disorders are often as misunderstood as substance use, which is why Heather has been on the lookout for the perfect expert to address your concerns.
Our guest, Alice Baker, is a seasoned professional in the field of eating disorders and is a registered dietitian, licensed therapist, and certified eating disorder specialist with more than 27 years of experience. Alice's personal journey of recovery has fueled her unwavering commitment to supporting individuals on their path to healing. She embraces a weight-inclusive approach and trauma-informed practice, advocating for a peaceful relationship with food and body. Additionally, Alice has adapted the Invitation to Change approach to provide education and support to the families she works with.
From this episode you will:
- Understand different approaches to eating disorder treatment and find what works best foryour loved one.
- Discover the impact of parental influence on eating disorders and how to supportpositive change.
- Learn how to model healthy behaviors for children to promote a positive relationshipwith food and body image.
- Prioritize self-care as a parent to better support your child's healing process.
Alice Baker contact information:
Provides therapy for residents ofArizona and Florida.
As a dietician, she can work withanybody in Arizona, Florida, Colorado, Virginia, and Michigan.
AliceLBaker@gmail.com
Website: https://alicelbaker.com/
Instagram: @alicebakerrd
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
BOUNDARIES THAT CREATE CONNECTION MASTERCLASS
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/boundaries-masterclass/
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The ITC Group
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
The key moments in this episode are:
00:00:00 - Introduction to Alice Baker's background
00:02:59 - Adapting "Invitation to Change" for eating disorders
00:04:12 - Personal experience with daughter's eating disorder and substanceuse
00:09:48 - Importance of supporting those with co-occurring eating andsubstance use disorders
00:18:11 - Eating disorders in boys and men
00:19:17 - Underlying Causes of Eating Disorders
00:21:35 - Effective Treatment Approaches
00:22:43 - Empowering Parents
00:29:48 - Overcoming Malnourished Brain
00:35:31 - Supporting Families
00:37:41 - Changing Relationship with Food
00:38:29 - Setting Boundaries
00:39:42 - Tailoring Approach for Older Children
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Do you want regret free interactions and a stronger connection with your child? The art of authentic communication takes you from resentment to connection. You can find out how to achieve this result while taking care of yourself.
This podcast episode takes an emotional turn, as the host shares her journey of self-awareness and vulnerability. The episode doesn't just offer valuable advice for parents; it's a deeply personal exploration of the nuance of connection.
In this episode, you will:
- Learn how nurturing personal needs cultivatesself-awareness and helps us deal with discomfort without reacting negatively.
- Uncover the key to building meaningful connections withyour child.
- Understand your child's unique definition of connectionand how it can strengthen your bond.
- Learn how to communicate your feelings respectfully andresponsibly.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Get answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The ITC Group
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Timestamped summary of this episode:
00:00:00 - The Power of Connection
Heather discusses the importance of connection in relationships, especially when dealing with a loved one struggling with addiction. She emphasizes the art of connection and its influence.
00:02:25 - Updates to the Peace of Mind Program
Heather shares updates to her group coaching program, making it more accessible and accommodating for members in different time zones. She also highlights the added benefits for members, including recorded calls and a free boundary masterclass.
00:06:14 - Redefining Connection
Heather explores a mother's guilt about not connecting with her son and sharesher own experience with her daughter, Helena. She emphasizes the importance oftaking time for oneself and sharing feelings from a clean space to foster ahealthy connection.
00:08:24 - The Power of Vulnerability
Heather shares a personal story about expressing her disappointment and worryto Helanna in a calm and loving manner, which led to a deeper connection andopen communication. She contrasts this with unhealthy ways of expressingemotions, highlighting the power of vulnerability in building connections.
00:19:24 - The Impact of Words on Connection
Heather reflects on how her past words and actions affected her daughter, Helanna, and acknowledges her responsibility in managing her emotions for a deeper connection.
00:22:07 - Definition of Connection
Heather shares her definition of connection, emphasizing trust, respect, and self-awareness in maintaining a meaningful bond with a child struggling with substance use.
00:23:32 - Importance of Self-Care in Connection
Heather highlights the importance of self-care and authentic communication in maintaining a strong connection with a child, even in challenging circumstances, and understanding their perspective on connection.
00:26:35 - Acceptance and Support
Heather discusses the importance of accepting a child's behavior and providing unwavering support, even during times of substance abuse, to establish a connection based on love and understanding.
00:27:46 - Compassion and Awareness
Heather encourages self-compassion and self-awareness, urging parents to acknowledge their areas of improvement in connection with their child and to show compassion for themselves in this difficult situation.
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The pain of feeling disconnected from your child can be overwhelming, but there are powerful ways to shift your approach and create the deep, meaningful connection you desire. Empathy, compassion, and effective communication are at the root of human connection. They’re also a critical component of shaping your experience of your child’s addiction.
When you access painful memories with feelings of guilt, blame, and shame you block connection because that creates cycles of defensive behaviors, avoidance, negative self-perception, and emotional withdrawal. Every time you access a memory you distort it. That means you can increase the negative emotional charge of a memory as you ruminate about it creating a profoundimpact on your relationship with your child, your past, present, and your future. In this episode, Heather illustrates how to break free from those negative patterns and shape your experience intentionally to create a connection with yourself and your child.
In this episode, you will learn:
- How distorting your painful memories perpetuates suffering and what to do instead.
- Why your brain likes to blame.
- How to take control of your own experiences to positively influence your relationship with your child.
- The power of thoughts, beliefs, and memories to transform your parenting approach.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The ITC Group
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting soon! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Timestamps:
00:00:00 - The Power of Thoughts and Memories
Heather discusses the power of thoughts, beliefs, and memories, especially in the context of processing trauma, such as the loss of her daughter, Helanna. She emphasizes the impact of memories on our experiences and the potential for distortion.
00:01:00 - Distorted Memories and Trauma Heather delves into the idea of distorted memories, highlighting how recollections of events can become less precise with each retrieval, potentially leading to the formation of false memories. She also discusses how trauma amplifies this distortion.00:06:43 - The Impact of Thoughts and Beliefs Heather explores the connection between thoughts, beliefs, and memories, emphasizing their influence on our recollection of past events. She highlights the potential for changing past perceptions and how it can shape our present and future experiences.
00:17:41 - Transforming Memories with Compassion Heather encourages intentional thought choices to infuse past experiences with empathy, leading to a more optimisticpresent and future.
00:20:31 - Managing Emotional Triggers Heather discusses the impact of negative memories triggering emotional responses. She contrasts two scenarios, highlighting the importance of curiosity and compassion in managing emotional triggers.
00:21:38 - Reliving the Past Heather explains how reliving negative memories can perpetuate anger and emotional turmoil.
00:22:58 - Shifting Perspectives Heather delves into the power of intentional thinking and reflective processing.
00:23:40 - Taking Control Heather emphasizes the control individuals have over their experiences, despite not being able to control their children's behavior. She highlights the importance of intentional thoughts, feelings, and actions in effecting positive change.
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Does this sound familiar? As a parent of a child struggling with addiction, you may have been told to use tough love and set strict rules to help them recover. However, this approach can often lead to feelings of guilt, frustration, and helplessness as you watch your child continue to struggle or get worse. It's time to discover a more effective and compassionate approach tosupporting your child in their recovery journey.
Join us as we explore Kathleen Cochran's journey of navigating her child's addiction. Find out how her maternal instincts led her to embrace harm reduction principles. Kathleen's story offers a unique perspective that resonates deeply with parents facing similar struggles. Listen in to uncover the powerful impact of Kathleen's journey and discover how her newfound understanding can offer support and empathy to parents navigating similar paths.
In this episode, you will be able to:
- Discover effective addiction recovery and support strategies for parents.
- Learn how to apply a harm-reduction approach to support your child.
- Explore the benefits of online support for parents in similar situations.
- Learn how to guide your child through addictionwith love.
Kathleen's FB Group Moms for All Paths to Recovery https://www.facebook.com/groups/momsforallpaths
Kathleen's blog https://momsforallpaths.substack.com/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in January! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting or sign up for the waitlist.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Do you have a child or loved one struggling with addiction or mental health issues? Are you dreading the holidays?
Happy Enough Holidays is an interactive workshop hosted by Heather Ross and Beth Syverson on Tuesday, November 14th, 4:30 -6:00 pm PST / 7:30 - 9:00 pm EST $20 for a 90-minuteinteractive workshop.
Here's What You Get:
- A Supportive Immersive Experience: Curate your holidayexperience with other parents who face similar challenges and understand you during this live workshop. Custom exercises tailored to your needs and situation to help you create a clear vision for supporting yourself and your child through the holidays.
- Reimagine Your Holidays: Rewrite the rules and set your own standards for the holidays. Uncover newfound clarity, embrace realistic expectations, and let your holiday season be a uniquely crafted experience that’s entirely your own.
- Unlock Your Inner Strength and Resilience: Resilience isn't a fixed trait It's a muscle that can be strengthened. Together we will unlock the power within you to face holiday uncertainty head-on.
- Two Inspiring Coaches: Heather Ross and Beth Syverson are your seasoned guides through this journey. They bring years of expertise and a wealth of knowledge in helping families navigate addiction.
Register at https://heatherrosscoaching.com/happy-enough-holidays-2/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about theInvitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in January! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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In a world full of responsibilities and societal expectations you may find that instead of the self-discovery and empowerment you crave, you're left feeling disconnected and unseen. It's all too common for women to lose themselves in their various life roles, especially under the immense pressure of helping a child struggling with substance use. Yet, this journey of being lost can often serve as the catalyst for finding your true self, awakening to your heart’s desires, and ultimately unleashing your empowerment as you embrace the path aligned with your true desires for yourself.
Author and speaker Debby Kerr-Henry empowers women to embrace their true selves and live a life of authenticity with embodied storytelling. Through her own personal journey of self-discovery, she has gained valuable insights into the challenges and rewards of embracing one's identity. Debbie's dedication to personal growth and her commitment to continuous learning make her a trusted resource for women seeking self-discovery and empowerment.
In this episode:
- Cultivate a healing environment in your familyby embracing personal stories and fostering understanding and empathy.
- Release your conditioning about self-care being selfishand experience the benefits of daily wellness practices and receiving support.
- Discover your inner strength and unlock your full potential through self-empowerment and personal growth.
- Step out of the scripted narrative about who you're supposed to be and embrace embodiment as a transformative tool for self-discovery.
Contact Debby:
Website: https://momentousliving.com/momentous-health/debby-kerr-henry/
Embodiment: https://momentousliving.com/embodiment/3/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
September Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about theInvitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in January! Bethe first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide isfor you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
Follow Heather on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Join the free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
Important moments in this episode are:
00:00:00 - Introduction
00:01:27 - Empowering Others
00:03:39 - Losing Yourself in Caregiving
00:07:34 - Identity and Awakening
00:11:02 - Daily Practices and Support
00:16:58 - The Importance of Personal Change
00:18:23 - Learning from Mistakes and Seeking Self-Improvement
00:19:35 - Balancing Self-Reflection and Self-Acceptance
00:21:47 - The Importance of Family Recovery
00:25:28 - Overcoming Beliefs and Conditioning
00:33:34 - Importance of Prioritizing and Decluttering
00:34:13 - The Wholeness of Embodiment
00:37:14 - Scars as Symbols
00:40:08 - Empowering and Supporting Others
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Heather and Pam Lanhart from Thrive Family Recovery Resources dive deep into a topic that's often misunderstood in the world of recovery: ambivalence. It can be one of the most challenging aspects that families face when dealing with a loved one's journey towards change. Ambivalence is complex but often oversimplified and stigmatized which leads to shame, blame, and labeling. Open and honest conversations about ambivalence are crucial in normalizing it within the change process. It’s important to look at our own struggles with ambivalence to help us understand the struggles and the challenges faced by our loved ones.
Some topics covered in this episode include:
- When your child asks for treatment but doesn’t follow through
- How to respond to the call that your child wants to leave treatment early
- What drives the motivation for change
- Strategies for responding to a return to use
Learn more about Pam and Thrive Family Recovery Resources
https://thrivefamilyrecoveryresources.org/support
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
September Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in October! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
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Living your life fully and wholeheartedly even when you're in a challenging place. That's the focus of part 2 of Heather's conversation with Barb Klein, Family Recovery Coach and the Author of 111 Invitations Step Into the Full Richness of Life.
Topics covered in this episode:
- How not to abandon yourself
- Honoring yourself
- Cultivating a heart that can hold it all
- The importance of daily practices that work for you
Learn more about Barb Klein
Website https://www.inspiredpossibility.com/resources.html
Book https://www.amazon.com/111-Invitations-Barb-Klein/dp/1504355261/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1470745309&sr=8-1&keywords=111+invitations
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
September Invitation to Change Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting in October! Be the first to get details.
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
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Author of 111 Invitations Step Into the Full Richness of Life and Family Recovery Coach Barb Klein shares her experience loving and supporting her son Nate through his struggles with substances and an eating disorder for over 13 years. She shares how it’s important to live your life fully and independent of your child’s experience and find peace and possibility beyond the pain.
Topics covered in this episode:
- Barb’s son Nate and her experience parenting him
- The significance of the words you use to describe your child
- Viewing your child as an empowered adult rather than a sick child
- The challenges of eating disorders
Learn more about Barb Klein
Website https://www.inspiredpossibility.com/resources.html
Book https://www.amazon.com/111-Invitations-Barb-Klein/dp/1504355261/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1470745309&sr=8-1&keywords=111+invitations
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Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist - New Group Starting Soon!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
New Learning/Support GroupUse the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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Mary Tilson is a Certified Professional Recovery Coach, Trauma-informed Yoga and Meditation Teacher, the Founder of Sun & Moon Sober Living, and a person in long-term recovery. There is so much you can learn by listening to Mary's journey from substance use to recovery. Instead of focusing on your differences, Mary’s story offers a chance to recognize our shared human experiences. Look for your common ground, and discover the similarities that connect us all.
In this episode, you'll uncover valuable insights on healing, support, and connecting with your child to create lasting changes within your family.
Topics covered in this episode:
- Mary’s journey to recovery
- How to create the space between impulse and action
- Supporting someone through a reoccurrence of use
- What makes Mary feel supported in recovery
Contact Mary
Website: https://sunandmoonsoberliving.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sunandmoon.soberliving/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sun-moon-sober-living-podcast/id1603805157
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
New Learning/Support GroupUse the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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Learn the unique advantages of using Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) to support your child’s recovery journey with guest Gail Embt, a Certified CRAFT Clinician. CRAFT offers powerful tools, yet many professionals and parents who need it don’t know about it. Whether you’re seeking solutions or understanding, this episode offers valuable insights to support your family.
Topics covered in this episode:
- CRAFT overview
- The benefits of CRAFT for you and your child
- Using existing knowledge to support change
- Navigating setbacks
Contact Gail/Recovery Club America to learn more about Parent Inner Circle
Recovery Club America Website
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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In this episode, we hear from Susie Armstrong, a multi-talented writer, healer, actor, artist, mother, and one of the key figures in Heather’s recovery journey for 8 years. Every time you've heard Heather refer to her counselor, she’s talking about Susie.
Susie's journey has been shaped by her unique experiences and her commitment to sharing love through various mediums. As a Life Coach, Certified Hypnotist, and Certified EFT Practitioner, she has guided countless individuals on their paths to self-discovery and personal growth.
Some of the topics discussed in this episode are:
- The difference between reactions and responses and why that matters
- How to regulate your emotions when you feel reactive
- How to identify when you’re triggered and how it affects your relationships
- How triggers relate to beliefs about ourselves
This episode offers a rich tapestry of wisdom and practical advice, meant to inspire you to navigate life's challenges with love, mindfulness, and authentic self-discovery. Whether you're seeking to deepen your connections, overcome triggers, or start your journey of self-forgiveness, Susie's insights provide valuable guidance for all aspects of personal growth.
How to Contact Susie or Find Her Books:
Website
Amazon Store
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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Heather talks to Michelle Weidenbenner the founder of Moms Letting Go and the All-Mighty Mom Tribe. Michelle is a passionate advocate, podcaster, and author dedicated to stopping the stigma of substance use disorder and providing hope, courage, and support to moms with addicted loved ones. Her latest book, "Unhackable Moms of Addicted Loved Ones, Closing the Gap between Havoc and Hope," offers a 30-day program for healing.
Topics discussed in this episode:
- Coping with relapse and supporting long-term recovery
- Helping your child see you aren’t blaming or shaming them
- Raising grandkids while also maintaining a connection with your child
- Taking a team approach to recovery
- Self-leadership for moms finding their true purpose
Contact Michelle
Michelle’s free guide https://michelleweidenbenner.com/momslettinggo/
Amazon store https://www.amazon.com/stores/Michelle-Weidenbenner/author/B00E21RMNG?ref=ap_rdr&store_ref=ap_rdr&isDramIntegrated=true&shoppingPortalEnabled=true
TEDx talk 1 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cnhupByVZew
TEDx talk 2 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V-FBPjseJPM&t=8s
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Join the waitlist
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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In this episode, we have the pleasure of speaking with author Pamela Brinker, whose book "Conscious Bravery: Caring for Someone with Addiction” explores the intersection of parenting and substance use. Pamela shares her personal experiences and insights, starting with her journey that led her to write the book. We dive into the concept of conscious bravery and how it relates to her work, emphasizing the importance of personal growth even when faced with a child struggling with substance use. We explore the profound impact that her experience with her son's substance use had on her parenting style and the transformative power of waking up to a more conscious way of living.
A few of the topics covered in the episode:
Cultivating conscious bravery
Building discomfort tolerance
Discovering and connecting with your essence
The impact your personal growth has on your child
Pamela's website
Purchase the book on Amazon
Pamela's Instagram
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GROUP COACHING PROGRAM - Doors close July 10th so click the link to get all the details and sign up!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/peace-of-mind-community/
Guide about enabling - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
New Learning/Support Group Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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In this episode, Heather discusses the misunderstood emotion of anger and explores its valuable purpose. The discomfort that anger causes can lead to numbing and distracting behaviors that keep you from tapping into anger’s powerful messages. Heather offers 5 insights about anger to help you embrace and learn from it, and a 3 step process to move through your anger. Listen and gain a new perspective on anger and learn to unlock its hidden wisdom.
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
New Support Group Starting in June Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
If you're interested in working with me Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
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Join Heather and guest Andrea Seydel from the Saving You is Killing Me podcast as they delve into the challenging world of supporting loved ones struggling with addiction. In this episode, they share their experience with the stigmatized beliefs surrounding the term "enabling" and offer alternative perspectives that prioritize compassion, support, and understanding.
Together they explore the negative connotations associated with the term "enabler" and challenge the beliefs that perpetuate shame and judgment. Heather and Andrea invite listeners to reframe their perspectives in order to create an environment that fosters healing, growth, and positive change for both their loved ones and themselves.
Tune in to discover how shifting our mindset and embracing compassionate support can transform the way we approach recovery. A few topics covered in this episode:
· Rethinking the term enabling
· Heather and Andrea’s personal experiences
· The dangers of shame, silence, and stigmatized help
· Helpful vs unhelpful helping
· Normalizing the desire to help
· The importance of self-care
Previous episodes Andrea was on :
Episode # 15 Saving You is Killing Me
Episode # 48 The Struggle is Real, How to do it Well
Learn more about Andrea & SYKM: https://www.savingyouiskillingme.com/starthere
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
New Support Group Starting in June Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
If you're interested in working with me Sign up for a 45-minute $17 Road to Recovery call using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/RoadtoRecovery
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
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Heather and guest Marcie Steinberg discuss her journey of reliance and transformation. Hear her heartfelt account of learning that attending a wildernessprogram was just the first step in her son’s recovery journey and how she pivoted to learn the skills she needed to walk beside her son on her own recovery journey.
Some topics discussed in this episode:
Learning that addiction/recovery is a marathon, not a sprint
Coping with your adolescent child being away from home while attending a long-term recovery program
Lessons learned when her son came home from treatment without enough support
The services Marcie used to help her navigate supporting her son
Marcie’s personal journey of recovery and finding hope
Contact Marcie:
msteinberg0204@gmail.com
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
New Learning/Support GroupUse the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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In this episode, Heather speaks with Catherine Becker, founder of the nonprofit group Joys and Challenges of Relative Caregivers, along with her daughter Katie, who shares her perspective as someone in recovery from substance use disorder and a mother whose children were adopted by her parents.
Catherine shares her experience of becoming a full-time parent to her grandchildren. She explains how she started her nonprofit group to providesupport and connection for relative caregivers, and how it has grown to provide financial assistance, programs for families, and a 24/7 onlineinteractive forum.
Katie shares her emotional experience of losing her children when her parents adopted them, how her mother's love and support helped her get into recovery, and how her recent recovery has brought her back into co-parenting with her mother. Catherine and Katie also discuss how this situation affects relationships with other family members and offer advice for other relative caregivers.
Website: Joys and Challenges of Relative Caregivers
FB Group
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want answers and support to help you and your child Sign up for a 45-minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
New Learning/Support GroupUse the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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Addiction within a family can be a challenging experience, particularly when more than one family member is affected. Whether it's a child or a spouse, the common thread is the experience of stigma and shame. In this episode, guest Amanda Lockyer from Addiction Makes Three, shares her experience as a wife, and Heather shares her experience as a mother. They candidly discuss how shame and stigma made everything harder for them at the beginning of their journeys with their loved ones. Both women felt isolated without support and disconnected from their loved ones. As they reflect on their journeys, they discuss how shame, stigma, and fear caused them to stray from their values as a wife and mother. Despite these challenges, Amanda and Heather share their journeys towards self-compassion and self-forgiveness, which helped them become better support systems for their loved ones. They reflect on how getting back in touch with their values helped them tap into their internal guidance systems and support their loved ones from a place of compassion and understanding. Tune in to this episode to learn more about the challenges that families face when living with substance use, and how it's possible to overcome shame and stigma to become a better support system for your loved ones and yourself.
Amanda Lockyer is an addiction relationship coach for women. She helps women who have been impacted by their partner's addiction find inner peace and take back control of their lives. You can find Amanda and follow her on Instagram or go to her website .
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide isfor you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with meusing the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
New Learning/Support GroupUse the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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Jeff Foote, PhD co-founder of the Center For Motivation and Change and author of Beyond Addiction How Science and Kindness Help People Change answers questions submitted by members of Heather's Invitation to Change groups and Facebook group.
Topics covered in this episode:
- Talking to your child about substance use when there are no green light moments
- How parents can use Motivational Interviewing in conversations with their child
- Processing fears about relapse and helping with relapse prevention
- How to introduce mental health professionals to the concepts in Beyond Addiction
- Why your child that's using substances can't show gratitude for the help you offer them
You can download the first chapter and purchase the Beyond Addiction Workbook here: https://beyondaddictionworkbook.comLearn more about CMC Foundation For Change
Relapse prevention book mentioned in the episode
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
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Prioritizing your physical, emotional, and mental health is essential when navigating the challenges of supporting a child struggling with substances. Taking care of yourself is not selfish, but rather necessary for your own well-being so you can support your child in a sustainable way. Today's guest Corinne Crabtree is a master weight and life coach. Her program isn’t about WHAT you eat, it’s about WHY you eat when you’re not hungry and how to take better care of yourself. Self-care encompasses various aspects, including how you eat, sleep, and think about yourself. It's important to practice self-compassion, forgive yourself for any perceived failures, and cultivate positive self-talk. Your mindset and self-perception play a crucial role in your overall well-being. Developing a healthy self-concept can greatly contribute to your ability to manage the difficult circumstances you face when you have a child struggling with substances.
Topics covered in this episode:
- How to take care of yourself during hard seasons in life
- What emotional eating is and why we do it
- How eating and thoughts are connected
- Why it's hard to stick with behavior changes
Link to Corinne’s Free Weightloss Course & WebsiteListen and Subscribe to the Losing 100 Pounds Podcast
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
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Heather and guest Cordelia Kraus talk about addiction, recovery, and parenting while challenging traditional beliefs and exploring alternative perspectives and approaches to what “it works” means. Their hope is to provide insights, information, and support while encouraging thoughtful reflection and understanding in navigating the complexities of addiction and recovery within a family context.
The statement "it works" generally implies that a particular approach or strategy is effective in achieving its intended outcome. Many parents’ only intendedoutcome is for their child to achieve and maintain abstinence or sobriety. This may not be applicable or effective for everyone though. Recovery from substance use disorder is a complex and individualized process, and different approaches may be more appropriate for different people based on their uniquecircumstances, motivations, and preferences.
It's crucial for parents to be open to understanding and respecting their children's perspectives and desires, and to consider a range of approaches that may be appropriate for their child's unique needs, rather than imposing a one-size-fits-all approach based on preconceived notions of what "it works" means. An effective response to substance use involves flexibility, adaptability, and a willingness to collaborate with your child to find approaches that truly work for theirwell-being and growth. Cordelia Kraus, LPC, CADC- became passionate about working with families struggling with their loved one's substance use after going through her own experiences as a mom. Cordelia runs the website HelpingFamiliesHelp.com: a website that connects families with CRAFT-based resources and offers community and support for the providers who serve them. She has a private practice in Portland, Oregon.
Topics discussed in this episode:
- What “it works” means
- How to show up with love in times of fear
- What the CRAFT 70% number really means
- A more inclusive definition of recovery
- The pitfall of wanting to go back to your pre-substance use life
Check out the website Helping Families Help
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Some topics discussed in this episode:
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Heather Interviewed parent coach Cathy Taughinbaugh. As a result of her journey with her own child's drug use, Cathy wanted to become an advocate for parents and create awareness about substance use disorder. Cathy is the author of The Compassion Antidote: A Path to Change for You and Your Child Struggling with Substance Use. She is also the creator of the Regain Your Hope online course. Cathy has Level 1 Certification in Invitation to Change and facilitates ITC groups. Her mission is to support parents through the struggle of having a child misuse drugs or alcohol.
A Few Topics Covered in This Episode:
- What family recovery is
- The unique perspective of Cathy's book The Compassion Antidote: A Path to Change for You and Your Child Struggling with Substance Use
- How Cathy helps parents work through their fears about enabling
- Lessons Cathy has learned over the many years she's been parent coaching
- What to do when nothing has helped your family so far
Learn more about Cathy Tuaghinbaugh:
Website: www.cathytaughinbaugh.com
Book: https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/books/
Course: https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/regain-your-hope/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
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Addiction is a bio-psycho-social disease, yet biology has been mostly left out of treatment considerations - until now. Dr Evelyn Higgins from wired for addiction created a genetic test that measures brain chemicals, hormones, and specific genes linked to risk taking, impulse control, addiction, depression, and anxiety. Measuring those risk factors takes the guesswork out of treatment and make it specific to each person’s individual needs.
In this episode you will learn:
How the Wired For Addiction getnetic test works
How the results of the test are used to form an individualized holisitc approach to treatment
How our environment impacts our genetic expression
Find out more about Wired For Addition:
Website https://www.wiredforaddiction.com/
Resources From Heather Ross Coaching
NEW GUIDE ABOUT ENABLING - If you've ever worried about enabling, this guide is for you!
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/perspective-about-enabling/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
Learn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
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Adoptees are almost twice as likely to develop substance use disorder. That statistic gave Beth Syverson insight into why her adopted son Joey was struggling with substances. Beth is using her lived experience to help adoptive parents who are coming "out of the fog" and realizing the adoption that created their family also created trauma for their child. Even if you haven't been touched by adoption this episode will give you insight into the impact of trauma and mental health struggles.
Learn more about Beth Syverson, the Unraveling Adoption podcast, and APtitude support group:
https://www.unravelingadoption.com/
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There's a new parent support group in Town. Use the link below to find out about the Invitation to Change support group Heather is hosting.
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3 Steps To Create Holiday Peace & Maybe Even Some Joy Blog Post
Additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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Shame doesn't just show up in your mind, it shows up in your closet too. When you're struggling with your child's addiction and life is throwing challenge after challenge your way; self-care and what you put on your body might not be a priority. Heather talks with master certified coach and personal stylist Judith Gaton about how your thoughts and feelings about yourself are reflected in what you wear and how you care for yourself.
A few of the topics covered in the episode:
- Nothing is wrong with you if the pants don't fit
- Going through your closet & thoughts to decide what to keep
- It's not about dressing up, it's about taking care of yourself
Want to learn more about Judith?
Website
Podcast
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3 Steps To Create Holiday Peace & Maybe Even Some Joy Blog Post
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Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
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Do you feel guilty or blame yourself a lot? Forgiving yourself is the path to emotional freedom and connection. If you feel guilty about something you did or didn't do or you're blaming yourself for your child's substance use then forgiving yourself is how you work through it. If you don't forgive yourself, the guilt and blame keep you stuck. In this episode, Heather gives you 5 steps to self-forgiveness.
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3 Steps To Create Holiday Peace & Maybe Even Some Joy Blog Post
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Every parent experiences anxiety worrying about their kids, but parents who are watching a child struggle with substance use experience even more intense levels of anxiety and more instances of it.
It doesn't have to be that way though. You can start changing your anxiety experience today. All you have to do is take the time to bring yourself into the present moment so you can define the emotion under the anxiety, listen to what that emotion is telling you, process it, and reframe your thoughts about it.
In this episode you will learn:
- What anxiety is and why it's important
- The four ways we react to anxiety
- The source of anxiety
- The steps you can take to manage it TODAY
This episode was previously published 1/21/21
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3 Steps To Create Holiday Peace & Maybe Even Some Joy Blog Post
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Heather talks to guest Gillian Tietz who is the host of Sober Powered, a top 50 mental health podcast, and the founder of Sober Powered Media, a podcast network with 5 other top mental health podcasts. Gill was Heather's first guest on the podcast for episode #9. In that episode, they talked about some of the science behind substance use. This time Gill is here to talk about her Living a Sobered Powered Life support group. Many parents feel like they are their child's only support person. Family support is critical, but your child needs additional support options from people who understand them if they are struggling.
In this episode we discuss:
- Details about the Living a Sober Powered Life support group
- Why all paths to recovery are valid and important
- The value of support on the recovery journey
- A peak behind the scenes of Sober Powered Media
Episodes To Listen To Next:
Episode 9 The Science and Psychology of Addiction with Gill from The Sober Powered Podcast
EP 58 How To Remove Barriers To Your Child's Recovery
EP 56 Rehab Expectations VS Reality From A Mother's Perspective
Learn More about the Living a Sober Powered Life Support Group
https://www.instagram.com/sober.powered/
Listen to the Sober Powered Podcast on Apple
Listen to the Sober Powered Podcast on Spotify
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3 Steps To Create Holiday Peace & Maybe Even Some Joy Blog Post
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Today marks one year since Helanna died from a fentanyl overdose so her interview is being released again to honor her memory. This episode is one of the most listened-to episodes on the podcast. Heather also shares some of the realizations she's had since Helanna died in the intro to the episode.
Link to find Naloxone
If you can't find Naloxone using the link, search for a recovery alliance or harm reduction organization in your county.
Original Episode Show Notes:
This week I got to interview my daughter. You've been hearing my experience of her addiction so I think that it's important to hear what her experience was like. Some of the questions I asked:
· What was it like when I looked to her to be ok to make me feel better instead of me being stable for her?
· What else did I do that wasn’t helpful to her?
· What did I do that was helpful to her?
· Is there anything I could have done differently to help her not struggle with addiction?
· What did she get out of using substances?
· What made her want to get sober?
· What has relapsing taught her?
· What makes her feel supported in sobriety?
I learned a few new things and had some realizations while listening to her insight and I ended up sharing some things I've never shared before.
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Ambivalence is a complex emotion. It’s the simultaneous and contradictory feeling of positive and negative emotions at the same time. It’s part of the messiness of being human. When we feel complex competing emotions the last thing we want is someone to minimize how we feel by oversimplifying it, yet that’s what we do when we label our kid’s ambivalence about substances as denial or accuse them of not being serious about recovery.
3 things you’ll learn in this episode:
- Ambivalence is normal
- Ways we all experience ambivalence
- How to leverage understanding your child’s behavior
Episodes to listen to next:
EP 58 The 6 Stages of Change and Strategies for Motivating Change in Each Stage
Ep 54 Harm Reduction with guest Lara Okoloko, LICSW
EP 60 Sobriety Can't Be Your Only Measure For SuccessLearn More & Sign Up For The Invitation To Change Group
3 Steps To Create Holiday Peace & Maybe Even Some Joy Blog Post
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Additional resources:
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http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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Heather interviewed Certified Master Breathwork Facilitator Victoria Starr. Your breath is your body's only system that is voluntary and under your control. Intentional breathing can reduce anxiety, help with sleep and digestion, increase energy, boost the immune system, and lower blood pressure. You experience the most peace in the present moment, even during stressful situations. Projecting into the future, getting stuck in negative thought loops, and disconnecting from your body changes your breathing and keeps you stuck in fight or flight. Changing your breathing pattern has an immediate impact on your mind and body.
A few things you'll learn from the episode:
- What RESET breathwork is and how it is different from other breathwork
- The difference between the sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system and why understanding them matters
- How we store unprocessed emotions in our body and the problems it causes
Episodes to listen to next:
EP 29 How To Quiet Your Mind Without Meditating in Silence
EP 38 How To Have Self Compassion
How to contact Victoria:
Sign up for virtual breath work: Virtual Breathwork page
Website: victorialeestarr.com
IG: @victorialeestarr
FB: Victoria Starr
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Do you know that the amount of stress you feel and the intensity of the emotions you feel along with it are based on your beliefs about your ability to handle the situation? The amount of stress you feel comes from your thoughts rather than the situation. That means stress can be reduced by gaining the skills you need to handle the situation and being intentional with how you think about it. Otherwise, you get stuck worrying, not learning the skills you need and you increase your stress instead of regulating it. When you understand the difference between worry, stress, anxiety, and overwhelm and understand where they happen in your body and how they affect you, you are no longer at the effect of them. Understanding these nuances creates emotional intelligence. This helps you relieve stress, diffuse conflict, and overcome challenges when you're living with your child's addiction.
Episodes to Listen to next:
EP 55 90 Seconds To A Life You Love With Dr. Joan Rosenberg EP 16 The Self Coaching Model
EP 10 How To Create Authority Over Your Anxiety
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In celebration of National Recovery Month, Heather talks to guest Pam Lanhart about her own family's recovery and how she supports other families in their recovery. Pam is passionate about helping families use evidence-based best practices to help families find peace, stay regulated, create the conditions that support recovery and move their loved ones toward change. She believes that a healthy family gives their loved ones the best opportunity to activate recovery. Pam is a certified family recovery coach, peer recovery specialist, Invitation to Change and CRAFT practitioner and Arise trained interventionist.
3 topics you'll hear in this episode:
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What recovery as a parent means to Pam
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How her recovery has changed her life
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Pam's advice for parents that feel like things will never get better
Pam's Resources:
Thrive Family Recovery Resources: https://thrivefamilyrecoveryresources.org/
Pam's website and book https://pamlanhart.com/
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Heather is hosting a free CRAFT workshop about positive communication Wednesday, September 21st at 7 PM EST. Studies show that 70% of people who use CRAFT are likely to get their loved ones to seek treatment within a year. CRAFT also helps family members improve their own lives whether their loved one seeks treatment or not.
CRAFT is an acronym for Community Reinforcement And Family Training - a scientifically supported, evidence-based, clinically proven approach to helping families of substance users. CRAFT originated at the University of New Mexico and was developed by Robert Meyers, Ph.D., and colleagues. Research and clinical trials have given evidence that with the right tools, families can effect change.
CRAFT has 3 goals:
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Teach you skills to take care of yourself
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Teach you skills to help your loved one change
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To reduce substance use
Click here to find out more and reserve your spot!
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Beth, Joey, and Heather talk about how CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training) and coaching transformed their family so you can hear real-life examples of how this work can change your family too. The highlights of this episode are hearing how Joey feels about the changes he made and how Beth's mindset has shifted about Joey's substance use and the peace of mind she creates for herself. Joey doesn't know how CRAFT or coaching works, but he knows how it feels to him. That's a beautiful testament to how much impact and influence you can have as a parent.
Some of the main topics discussed:
- How taking the focus off your child and putting it on yourself impacts your family's experience of your child's addiction.
- It's important to redefine parenting when your child is struggling with addiction - what worked before will no longer work.
- Connection is the goal instead of sobriety.
Episodes to listen to next:
- Ep 40 Supporting your child's healing journey with Guests Beth Syverson, Joey Nakao, and Jan Mabie From Safe Home Podcast
- Ep 22 What if you didn't have a child struggling with addiction?
- Ep 41 Interview With My Daughter Helanna Johnson Part 1
Listen to the Safe Home Podcast
Safe Home Website
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On August 31st, 2021 Heather spoke at the Volusia County Recovery Alliance Keeping Hope event. It was their 4th annual overdose awarness and rememberance day held in Daytona, Florida. The event is in honor of International Overdose Awareness Day which acknowledges the grief felt by families and friends and remembers those who have died due to drug overdose. The day helps reduce the stigma of Substance Use Disorder (SUD), showing that recovery is possible and that overdoses can be prevented.
Heather's speech focuses on:
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Remembering and honoring Helanna
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What Heather wants others to know regarding the stigma associated with overdose
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Her encouragement and guidance for others who have lost their loved one
Link to flyer about the event
https://www.overdoseday.com/
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Heather Interviews author Susan Lynch. Her memoir Life After Kevin A Mother's Search for Peace and the Golden Retreivers that Led the Way is a story about finding meaning when life challenges you in the hardest ways, healing through community, spiritual connection, and the transformation that comes from learning how to sit with intensely painful emotions to gain answers and clarity.
Susan’s son Kevin died from multiple drug intoxication in 2015. She kept the cause of his death a secret for 2 years because of shame and stigma. Shame separates us from community and connection. It also keeps us from seeing that we need help.
3 Thing you'll learn in this episode:
- How Shame kept Susan silent and the impact it had on her grief
- How Susan's dogs helped her heal
- Connecting with and receiving guidance from someone that has died
If you would like to pre-order Susan's book use this link www.susan-lynch.com/book-order.
To learn more about Susan go to her website www.susan-lynch.com.
Episodes to Listen to next:
Ep 51 How to Stop Fixing Your Child and Start Connecting With Them
Ep 52 Why Parents Need Recovery Too
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Do you feel like you're failing because your child isn't sober yet? Supporting your child through their addiction is a marathon, not a sprint. The belief that "it's not working" can be very painful and cause you a lot of frustration. It can also make it harder for you to regulate your emotions around your child. When you have other measures for success on your journey, then you create rewards for yourself for the changes you're making and the tools you're learning and using. Those rewards give you the momentum you need to keep moving forward. They also make it easier for you to connect with your child.
Episodes to Listen to next:
Ep 5 Control - Why You Do it and How To Stop
Ep 54 Harm Reduction with guest Lara Okoloko, LICSW
EP 43 Why You Feel Rejected
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Heather shares 3 steps that will set the tone for how you and your child experience the boundaries you set. These steps will also make it easier for you to uphold the boundaries after you set them.
This episode is a prequal to episode #10 about how to set boundaries. It’s what you need to do BEFORE you set a boundary.
The 3 steps are:
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Like your reason for setting the boundary
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Decide ahead of time what you think about the boundary
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Know your yes
Episodes to Listen to next:
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Episode #11 Boundaries
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Episode #27 Approaching Addiction With Love
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Episode #21 How To Create Relationships That Serve You
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Heather talks about the stages of change model. Making major changes that last concerning substance abuse is not easy for our kids. Knowing and understanding the stage of change your child is in will help you know what to do to support them and remove barriers to make it easier for them to move to the next stage.
3 things you’ll learn from the episode:
The 6 stages of change
What happens in each stage
Strategies for motivating change and offering support at each stage
Episodes to Listen to next:
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Episode #11 Boundaries
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Episode #24 Mastering Your Response To Your Child’s Addiction
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Episode #49 Beyond Addiction How Science and Kindness Helps People Change with author Nicole Kosanke PhD
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Heather and guest Nicole Miller who is a certified drug and alcohol counselor and teaches addiction pharmacology to college students talk about how the brain is affected by substance abuse and addiction. The better we understand addiction the easier it is for us to collaborate with and support our kids. It also helps us take it less personally and have more compassion.
3 things you’ll learn from the episode:
How drug abuse affects the reward center of the brain
Why early recovery is so challenging
What Medication Assisted Treatment (MAT) is and how it helps someone in recovery.
Episodes to Listen to next:
Episode #27 Approaching Addiction with Love
Episode #7 The Difference Between Discomfort And Suffering
Episode #26 The Benefits of Making Decisions and How To Get Started
Nicole Miller’s Email - nic.triplett@gmail.com
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Heather and returning guest Kelly Hatcher talk about what it was like when their kids went to rehab. They both experienced a major gap between their expectations about what rehab and sobriety would be like vs reality. Addiction and recovery are complex. Rehab and sobriety are stops on a lifetime journey. They are not destinations. Heather and Kelly hope that that by sharing their experience it will make rehab and sobriety easier for you and help you support your child as well.
3 things you’ll take away from the episode:
The unrealistic expectations Heather and Kelly had before their kids went to rehab (maybe you have the same expectations)
Their reality check – what the experience was really like
Heather & Kelly’s advice for you based on their experiences with multiple rehabs
Episodes to Listen to next:
Episode #34 What To Do When You’re In A Funk (guest Kelly Hatcher)
Episode #52 Why Parents Need Recovery Too
Episode #30 Celebrating Your Life In The Middle of Addiction (guest Kelly Hatcher)
Kelly Hatcher’s Website:
https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/
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When you're supporting your child through addiction, there are many uncomfortable and even painful experiences. The more capacity you have to tolerate emotional pain, the more capable and confident you feel about yourself and your ability to support your child. A willingness to learn from any experience, openness to change, and the capacity to express unpleasant feelings leads to emotional strength and resilience. Being able to experience your own emotional pain also makes it easier for you to tolerate the discomfort of your child's emotional pain as well. It also makes it easier to engage in difficult conversations. Emotional mastery is an essential skill to help you through your journey with your child's addiction.
Topics Discussed In This Episode:
How emotions only last 90 seconds
Why some emotions seem to last longer than 90 seconds
How allowing and feeling your unpleasant emotions leads to a life you love
Why we use distractions to avoid feelings
Dr. Joan Rosenberg’s website
Buy 90 Seconds To A Life You Love
Episodes to listen to next:
Episode 16 Self Coaching Model
Episode 17 Processing Feelings = High Quality of Life
Episode 18 Understanding Buffering Can Help You Understand Addiction
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Harm reduction is a set of practical strategies and ideas aimed at reducing negative consequences associated with drug use. Itincorporates a spectrum of strategies that includes safer use, managed use, abstinence, meeting people who use drugs “where they’re at,” and addressing conditions of use along with the use itself. Harm reduction is critical to keeping people who use drugs alive and as healthy as possible.
Some of the topics discussed in this episode:
The 8 principles of harm reduction
Examples of harm reduction strategies for family members
How harm reduction helps with stigma
Boundaries
Links from this episode:
Lara Okolo's Website
Article by Pat Denning about Harm Reduction in The Journal of Clinical Psychology
The National Harm Reduction Coalition
Episodes to listen to next:
Episode 35 Releasing Judgement
Episode 36 What to do about all the lies
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How many times have you heard you can only help yourself? It's critical to help yourself, but it's not the only thing you can do. You can invite change in your child and create space for them to decide they want to change. We're constantly told that our kids won't change unless they want to, but we're rarely told that we can create favorable conditions for them to want to change. You can help your child.
Episode to listen to next:
Episode 49 Beyond Addiction How Science and Kindness Help People Change author Nicole Kosanke PhD
Episode 41 Interview With My Daughter
Links that were mentioned in this episode:
Al-Anon’s core purpose, mission, and strategic goals
CRAFT Studies
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This episode is an updated excerpt from episode 45 which is the first episode that I made after my daughter Helanna died from fentanyl poisoning. Episode 45 started off very emotional. I don’t want the really important message I had later in that episode to get lost in the heavy emotions.
I updated and re-recorded three critical messages from that episode:
- Why we all need our own recovery
- Why you need community as you go through your child’s addiction and recovery
- Connecting to your child through love instead of guilt, shame, or anger
The episode I recommend next:
Episode #37 Post Traumatic Growth
Links that were mentioned in this episode:
The Safe Home Families Podcast guest episode #40 Custom Music by Joey Nakao
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We're always dancing with the fine line between help and support that comes from a place of love and fixing that comes from a place of fear. Fear can show up in such sneaky ways that you don't realize you're trying to fix your child again. The way out of that is going to the "safe zone" of focusing on connection. In this episode I give you 4 ways to identify that you're in fear and 3 ways to stop fixing and start connecting again.
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Even I struggle with fears of enabling. For many years I was a student of the tough love approach, trying to control, and beliefs that didn’t serve me about addiction. No matter how much time I put into creating beliefs that serve me and learning healthy ways to support Helanna, the fear of enabling rather than helping her was always there.
As the result of much introspection about where things went wrong and insight from Helanna’s journal, I want to share 3 things I wish I did differently last year and why I wish I had done them differently.
This is not about blame. It’s about being open minded and learning from the past.
I went into this episode with intention and 3 important factors:
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Tons of self compassion
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Knowledge that I could have done all three of those things differently and Helanna still could have died
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Hope that sharing my experience will make it easier for you to make the best possible decision for your family when faced with similar situations
I can’t change what happened, but I can use it to give you perspective in the tremendously difficult area of navigating your child’s addiction.
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Guest Nicole Kosanke, one of the authors of the book Beyond Addiction How Science And Kindness Help People Change and I talk about the book. Hear powerful insights about using CRAFT (Community Reinforcement and Family Training), positive reinforcement, and other strategies to help yourself and your child that's struggling with addiction.
In this episode we discuss:
- What's happening in your child's brain during active addiction & during recovery.
- What CRAFT is and what people struggle with the most to implement it in their life.
- Enabling and tough love.
- Is relapse a part of recovery?
- Is using a choice?
- How we can mitigate the risks of fentanyl.
More resources about CRAFT:
https://cmcffc.org/
https://invitationtochange.com/
https://motivationandchange.com/family-services/resources-for-families/
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How you show up for yourself determines how you experience your child's addiction. We aren't wired to be happy all the time. Struggling is inevitable and it's normal. There's wisdom in all our emotions, even the most difficult ones. We need to honor all the feelings that our life circumstances are triggering. Struggling well gives us new perspective so we don't get stuck in apathy. When we embrace the growth and change that our struggle is showing us we can grow and move forward through trying and even traumatic events.
Guest Andrea Seydel and I discussed:
Honoring where you are in your individual journey
Struggling well looks different at different times in your life
How we struggle well and build resilience in the process
The 5 steps to struggling well
What to listen to next:
Episode 37 Post Traumatic Growth
Episode 38 How to Have Self Compassion
Episode 06 Your Words Create Your Quality of Life
Watch the YouTube video of the interview for episode 48
Watch the YouTube Video Andrea and I made last year about struggling well
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Andrea Seydel is the Author of the book and host of the podcast Saving You Is Killing Me We Loving Someone With An Addiction.
Andrea's website https://www.andreaseydel.com/
Saving You Is Killing Me Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-saving-you-is-killing-me-loving-someone-with/id1549250469
Saving You Is Killing Me Book https://www.amazon.com/Saving-You-Killing-Me-Addiction-ebook/dp/B08SR5WLYX
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Healing starts for us when we connect with other parents like us to hear their stories and share our experiences. When we do that we're no longer alone on this journey. Meeting and engaging with other parents gives us access to insights and resources we need. When we get the support we need, we find the safety and strength to accept ourselves and our children as we are in this moment. That's why my guest Casie Fariello is one of the founders of a new online support community called Other Parents Like Me (OPLM). In this episode we discuss:
How connection is the key to hope, help, and healing
Supporting more than one child with addiction or other challenges
Our first experiences with joining a support community and what we got out of it
Rebuilding a family after addiction
The importance of taking everything you learn about addiction, making it your own, and choosing what you want to implement in your life
The wonderful experiences we've had being a part of OPLM
Watch the video of the interview on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fkp0f5AA3zw&feature=youtu.be
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Join OPLM and get a free 7 day trial:
https://oplm.com/join/
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There’s a gap between what we expect in life and what we’re experiencing. In that gap is a loss. As parents we have hope and expectations. We expect a fulfilling relationship with our kids, family gatherings, milestones like prom and college, and we expect being a parent to feel good. When addiction shows up we experience the painful gap between what we expect and our reality. We have to grieve those losses so we can let go of what we expected. We can stop wishing the past were different and focus on what we can intentionally create in the future.
In this episode Grief coach Julie Cluff and I discuss:
· Discounting and comparing losses
· We should only compare the impact of our own losses
· What misplaced guilt is and how it affects you
· Finding forgiveness in grief
· Our experiences can be hard and also possible to move through
· We can grieve gently
· The only way to heal from trauma is to choose the empowerment of change
· You don’t have to carry grief the rest of your life
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Contact Julie Cluff:
website: buildalifeafterloss.com
free webinar: buildalifeafterloss.com/gift
facebook: Build a Life After Loss with Julie Cluff https://www.facebook.com/buildalifeafterloss
instagram: @buildalifeafterloss
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This is the hardest episode I've ever recorded and also the most important episode I ever recorded.
There's no way I can move forward helping other parents without stopping to honor Helanna's life and what her time on this earth gave to me.
This podcast wouldn't exist without her.
I wouldn't be who I am today without her.
The day that Helanna died I started wondering if I could continue my work helping other parents with their child’s addiction.
I didn’t know if I could face it anymore.
I wanted to hear Helanna’s voice and be close to her somehow, so I listened to the podcast episodes she was on & I realized that it was more important than ever for me to keep doing this work.
Having a child struggling with addiction is the hardest thing some parents will ever face.
Until I lost Helanna to fentanyl poisoning, her addiction has had more of a long-lasting impact on my life more than anything else.
So many parents are struggling alone and in silence because of shame and the stigma that goes with addiction.
There’s no way that I can step aside and not continue helping those parents.
Right now, that’s what is keeping me motivated to live a life that doesn’t include my daughter.
In this episode I share some of the things that I learned while dealing with her addiction and how they’re helping with my grief as well:
- · Why we all need our own recovery & how mine saved me from regret in my last conversations with my daughter
- · Why you shouldn't carry the pain of your child's addiction alone - Connection is a survival skill for us parents as much as it is for our kids
- · Why we need to build the skillset to have difficult conversations with our kids about their addiction & how that's helped me
- · Connecting to your child through LOVE instead of guilt, shame, or anger
Link to the episode that explains the model:
https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-16-The-Self-Coaching-Model-eref06
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Your thoughts create your reality. One poisonous thought can cause you a lot of unnecessary pain. It can be the difference between discomfort and great suffering. Recently I realized I had one thought about my future that was draining my creativity, making me feel like I had a limited time to enjoy myself, and it was setting me up to create a bad experience when I have the ability to create a really positive experience.
Link to the episode that explains the model:
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We had some great questions come up after my first interview with Helanna (episode 41) so did a second interview.
We discussed:
Suboxone - how it helped - what she wishes she knew before she started using it - why she tapered off it.
How I handled her getting off suboxone.
Fears about losing her sobriety.
What her brain says about why being sober won't work.
How she knew she would use drugs from a young age.
Why she didn't trust me for a long time and what made her start trusting me again.
What made her decide to go to sober living this time when she wouldn't go other times.
How a shift in perspective about parenting can help your child and your relationship with them.
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Healing your own emotional wounds is where the magic is when it comes to your child’s addiction. We’re all responsible for our own healing just like we want our kids to be. When you’re reactive no matter how hard you try not to be, then your child is triggering an emotional wound. The worst part about emotional wounds is we recreate them over and over again with our perception. We all want love, acceptance, and connection but the rejection wound keeps us from getting it. Today I give you 3 steps to heal the rejection wound.
Episodes I mention:
https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-16-The-Self-Coaching-Model-eref06
https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-2-How-To-Connect-With-Your-Child-Thats-Struggling-With-Addiction-en5fgd
https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-24-Mastering-Your-Response-To-Your-Childs-Addiction-evtoh7
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When you argue with reality you lose, but only 100% of the time - Byron Katie
When you accept reality, your options are limitless - Heather Ross
Your child's addiction can leave you feeling limited and hopeless. There are always more options than your brain is offering you. In this episode I walk you through moving beyond resistance into solutions.
I mentioned tapping in the podcast today. Here's a link that explains what it is:
https://www.webmd.com/balance/what-is-eft-tapping
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This week I got to interview my daughter. You've been hearing my experience of her addiction so I think that it's important to hear what her experience was like. Some of the things we talked about:
· What was it like when I looked to you to be ok to make me feel better instead of me being stable for you?
· What else did I do that wasn’t helpful to you?
· What did I do that was helpful to you?
· Is there anything I could have done differently to help you not struggle with addiction?
· What did you get out of using?
· What made you want to get sober?
· What has relapsing taught you?
· What makes you feel supported in sobriety?
I learned a few new things and had some realizations while listening to her insight and I ended up sharing some things I've never shared before.
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Guests Joey Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie share from the heart their experiences and struggles with addiction and mental health. 17 year old Joey who is in early recovery is full of wisdom about relationships and connection and what a child struggling with addiction needs during active addiction and recovery. What he shares is relevant to supporting your child of any age. His mothers share how they've responded to Joey's active substance abuse and recovery, how they worked hard at being on the same page to support Joey, and how they kept their marriage healthy and happy as well.
The 3 of them came together to create the Safe Home podcast to help other kids and families on their healing journey. Use the links below to listen and subscribe.
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SAFE HOME PODCAST: for struggling teens and their families finding their healing path. 17yo Joey Nakao and his moms Beth Syverson and Jan Mabie share from the heart their experiences and struggles with addiction and mental health.
Listen to Safe Home Podcast:
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What the heck is a subconscious limiting belief anyway? In this episode I explain it in easy to understand terms. I also explain how they keep you from getting what you want in your life and how to to clear those subconscious limiting beliefs in easy to understand steps and terms.
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
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Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
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Self compassion is a critical life skill, especially when you're dealing with a child's addiction. Learning how to give yourself compassion will help you create more peace of mind and happiness in your life. When you know how to give yourself compassion you never have to people please, sell yourself short, or manipulate to get your needs met because you can meet them yourself.
In this episode you will learn:
How self compassion creates connection
The difference between self compassion and self pity
How to create your own practice of self compassion
How self compassion affects your neurotransmitters
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
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Post traumatic growth is the positive changes that are experienced after a major life crisis or traumatic event. A child's addiction can be a traumatic event in itself, or it can be filled with traumas. Every situation has good and bad in it though. You've certainly experienced the bad, today I would like to open your mind to the good possibilities. I wasn't looking for growth when I found it, I was looking for relief from my suffering. That relief came from tremendous growth and change.
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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How mad do you get about lies? In this episode I tell you how to take the emotional charge out of lies so you can keep your peace of mind. I also tell you why it doesn't matter if your child lies or not. You're still in control.
In this episode I mentioned two podcasts that you should follow up with:
https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-23-How-To-Create-Self-Confidence-eve62m
https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/episodes/Episode-26-The-Benefits-of-Making-Decisions--How-To-Get-Started-e10qd93
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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How much time do you spend trying to avoid judgement? Do you live with the burden of shame and secrecy when it comes to your child's addiction? We don't have to tell everyone all of our story. Not everyone deserves to hear it. There's a big difference between deciding someone just doesn't need to know and being afraid they will find out and judge you. Today's episode will help you set yourself free from judgement.
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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We all get in a funk. It's inevitable, yet we judge ourselves when it happens. In this episode guest host Kelly Hatcher talks about what to do when the inevitable funk happens.
If you want to get in touch with Kelly:
https://www.instagram.com/newdayfamilyrecovery/
https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
Sometimes we cling to things that are hurting us just because they're familiar. In this episode I share what I've been hanging on to and the effects of it on my life, and I offer some options about what you may be hanging on to and how it might be affecting your life.
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
What can you let be easier in your life? In this episode I share how I'm letting things be easier in my life and how you can too.
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
Guest Colleen Kachmann and I discuss what it’s like to work with a coach and how she helps people with her recovery coaching.
In this episode we discuss:
Why telling people what actions to take doesn’t work long term.
Her work with a recovery coach after she quit drinking.
The difference between therapy and coaching and how they complement each other.
The power of investing in yourself.
Some misunderstandings about addiction.
What it’s like to work with her as a recovery coach.
If you want to get in touch with Colleen https://colleenkachmann.com
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
Guest Kelly Hatcher and I discuss her experience being the mother of a child struggling with addiction.
In this episode we discuss:
- How Kelly reached a place of unconditional love for her son
- How she set some strong boundaries
- How she dealt with her son's homelessness & not knowing where he was
- Experiencing a child's addiction as a single parent
If you want to get in touch with Kelly:
https://www.instagram.com/newdayfamilyrecovery/
https://newdayfamilyrecovery.com/
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
Guest Lindy Romez and I talk about the benefits of a sound bath and how it can help you get into a deep meditative state. I also share how sound baths and energy work have helped me with my healing journey and how they can help you as well. It's a beautiful way to put your own oxygen mask on first.
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If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
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For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
Guests Dr. Carmen Jones Licensed Naturopathic Doctor and Kimberly Jarman M.Ed Life Coach of Thrive and Aligned Healing are my guests today. In this episode we discuss:
What living in fight or flight does to our brain chemistry
How gut health affects neurotransmitters and sobriety
What happens to brain chemistry in the early stages of sobriety
The physical effect that thoughts have on our health
If you want to learn more about Thrive and Aligned Healing check out their website:
www.thriveandalignedhealing.com
If you want coaching about your child's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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When I was struggling the most with my daughter's addiction it was because I believed all the messaging that said if my daughter was mad at me I was probably doing the right thing. Approaching my daughter's addiction with love was the only thing that felt right to me, but I didn't know how to do it. I didn't know that a shift in my belief about love would give more more power and leverage than anything else I had tried. In this episode I share that belief shift so you can use it to create an approach to your child's addiction that not only works, but also feels right.
If you want coaching about approaching your child's addiction with love, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
A lot of parents I work with struggle to make decisions. Not deciding causes a lot of unnecessary stress, confusion, overwhelm, and anxiety. Making decisions creates relief and helps you take your power back from your child's addiction.
In this episode I discuss:
· The benefits of deciding ahead of time instead of under pressure or during high emotions
· How Deciding not to decide is a decision
· How to stop Indulging in confusion
· The concept that there are no “wrong” decisions
· The 4 main benefits of making decisions
Link for the workshop:
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/moms-make-over-workshop/
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
We feel stuck because we believe “we can’t”. We can’t fix what feels broken, we don’t know how, nothing will ever work, and no one else can help us either. It's such a helpless place to be and it's so easy to get there when you're dealing with a child's addiction.
In this episode I tell you:
- how negative emotions work and what they’re signaling to us
- Why understanding your emotions creates fulfillment and happiness in your life
- How blame keeps you stuck
- Four step process to get unstuck
If you feel stuck and want coaching, I'll help you get unstuck. Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
Most parents I work with want help changing how they react to their child's addiction. If you don't like how you respond to your child's addiction, listen up because you can reprogram how you respond.
In this episode I tell you:
Why you get frustrated and depressed.
How you can resolve any emotion.
How the reaction scale that I created works.
The steps for the reaction scale reset that reprograms how you respond to all circumstances.
How our brain stores feelings and thoughts and how it effects you
If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, creating self confidence, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
Do you feel alone and isolated dealing with your child's addiction? If you do, you will continue to feel that way until you connect with yourself and have your own back. Once you do that, you will see that reflected back to you with a strong support team.
In this episode I talk about:
- How to create a connection with yourself so you're the foundation for your support team
- The difference between confidence and self confidence
- How to build confidence in yourself
- The most important thing you can do to help yourself and your child
If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, creating self confidence, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
How often do you wonder what your life would be like if you didn't have a child struggling with addiction? This seems like a harmless question to ask yourself, but it's keeps you stuck in pain if you don't have the right perspective behind it.
In this episode I walk you through three steps to create the life you think you’d have if your child wasn’t struggling with addiction:
Step 1 – Have intentional thoughts about your child’s addiction that serve you
Step 2 – Protect your precious resources of time and energy
Step 3 – Use your time and energy to create the life you think you would have if your child wasn’t struggling with addiction
If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, creating the life you want, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
When a relationship is challenging we tend to blame the difficulty on the other person. One person can change a relationship dynamic. You can decide who you want to be in a relationship and let the other person be who they are. In this episode I give you specific steps to create relationships that serve you.
Some of the concepts I talk about in this episode are:
- Addiction is a symptom of the problem, not the problem
- How to deconstruct and redefine a relationship that serves you
- Relationships are just thoughts
If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction, your relationships, or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
Do you know it's time to let go but still try to hold on to controlling your addicted child? In this episode I share about how I've had to let go and put my own oxygen mask on first.
If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
Do you feel stuck or frustrated? That's because you don't know where you're going or how to get there. You know you don't like where you are, but you're stuck there until you figure out where you're going. Dreaming for yourself will give you a destination so you can plot your course.
If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
What you will learn in this episode
- What buffering is all about and how it prevents us from fully experiencing life.
- The negative effects of artificial pleasure.
- How understanding buffering can help you understand addiction.
If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share
Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
Processing negative feelings is as important as breathing. A few minutes of allowing the pain and processing it can give you instant relief from it. When you don't process it you're just stuck with it.
In this episode I share:
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How a few minutes of processing pain frees you from experiencing it all day
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How judging your feelings makes them more painful
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The importance of knowing that each feeling is trying to tell you
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How to stop fear
If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share
Links to the blog posts about what your feelings mean:
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-1/
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-2/
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Today I’m sharing the tool with you that I use with all of my clients and in my daily life. It’s called the self coaching model. The model is how I figured out how to help myself when I couldn’t help my daughter. All the concepts I teach come from things I learned while doing models.
In this episode you will learn:
- Why recognizing the difference between a thought and a circumstance is crucial to understanding how your brain works
- How using the self coaching model will allow you to obtain full control over your life
- How you can create our own peace of mind and happiness with the model
If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
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Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
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Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
Guest Andrea Seydel, author of the book Saving You is Killing me Loving Someone With an Addiction. This episode is full of easy to implement concepts and actions to help you build strength and resilience while going through a loved one's addiction.
A few of the topics we covered:
What positive psychology is and how it can help you
The concept of struggling well
What resilience is and how to create it
If you want coaching about a loved one's addiction or anything else Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me using the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
For additional resources:
Sign up for my free guide 3 Steps To Stay Sane When Your Child Is Struggling with Addiction - How to Move Forward With Confidence TODAY
http://heatherrosscoaching.com/3-simple-steps/
Follow me on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/heatherrosscoaching
Follow me on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heatherrosscoaching/
Link to my free Facebook group for parents who are struggling with a child's addiction
https://www.facebook.com/groups/434135437166166/?ref=share
If you want to learn more about Andrea or her book you can go to her website
https://www.andreaseydel.com/savingyouiskillingme
Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/heather-ross9/message
It feels like your child's addiction has all the power, but that's not true. It just takes a shift in perspective and learning where to focus your efforts to take your power back from addiction. In this episode I give you a new perspective and approach to your child's addiction that helps you see where your power and control is.
If you have a child struggling with addiction and you want to Sign up for a 45 minute $17 call with me use the link below
https://heatherrosscoachingcalendar.as.me/SampleSession
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In this episode we talk about Jodi's before and after, how she shows up as a mom and wife when her family is in crisis, and how she handles the bad days.
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When you hear about addiction, detaching with love is often what’s recommended.
The problem with that is it’s so confusing and because of that, it’s often misunderstood and misused.
In this episode I explain what detaching with love means, when I finally did it, and how it will help you.
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When you have a child struggling with addiction understanding and implementing boundaries is life changing. Properly handled boundaries can transform your life and relationships.
In this episode I make boundaries easy by explaining:
Why we need boundaries
What they are
What they aren't
How to set them
What to avoid when setting them
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Every parent experiences anxiety worrying about their kids, but parents who are watching a child go through addiction experience even more intense levels of anxiety and more instances of it.
Taking the time to understand it, learn how to process it, and reframe your thoughts about it gives you authority over it.
In this episode you will learn:
What anxiety is and why it's important
The four ways we react to anxiety
The source of anxiety
How to manage it
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First guest episode with Gill from The Sober Powered Podcast.
Some of the things we talked about in this episode:
- Do people who have struggled with addiction have a choice?
- Why consequences aren't enough to make people stop drinking/using
- How each person's rock bottom looks different
- Different avenues to support sobriety
- Alcohol and the teen brain
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Most of us have this idea that we should feel positive emotion all the time, or that we shouldn’t feel negative emotion.
We aren't supposed to be happy 100% of the time.
The tools I share are meant to help you keep that 50/50 balance because when you're dealing with a child's addiction it's easy to get stuck in the negative 50.
Negative emotions have a purpose.
Each one is bringing you an important message.
When you know what your negative emotions are trying to tell you, then you can work through them instead of trying to avoid them or get stuck in them.
The blog posts I referenced in this episode
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-1/
https://heatherrosscoaching.com/how-to-master-your-feelings-so-you-dont-feel-so-out-of-control-part-2/
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Discomfort is necessary. Suffering is optional. In this episode I tell you exactly how you're causing your own suffering and how to stop. If you open up to what I'm saying and implement what I tell you to do, you can ease your suffering about your child's addiction - TODAY!
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The way you think and talk about your child's addiction is very powerful. It shapes your experience of their addiction and either raises or lowers your quality of life. Today I share 4 steps you can take to change how you talk and think about your child's addiction and therefore change your future instead of recreating your painful past.
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When you try to control your child, you’re doing it to create relief from your emotional discomfort. It's one of those "solutions" that often leads to more emotional pain and discomfort.
Today I give you some empowering alternatives to trying to control your child and their addiction. I also share what's behind the major difference I see in parents who are still struggling with emotional chaos because of their child's addiction and parents that are showing up calm and confident and are no longer at the effect of their child's addiction.
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The good news is you already possesses this super power, you just don't know how to put it to work for you yet.
In this episode I explain how it works and how to make it work for you instead of against you.
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How often do you send a text to your addicted child and breathe a sigh of relief because the text went through, or look on social media to see if they’ve been active, or do a drive by just so you can have a little peace of mind? That fear of all the things that can wrong can rule your life. You get stuck with horrible images and thoughts about them over dosing and no one being there to help them. You brain gets stuck looping through all the worst-case scenarios. You live your worst fear day in and day out, losing sleep, and wondering how the hell all this happened in the first place. When you have an addicted child you can’t rely on external circumstances to relieve your worry and fear. You have to develop the skillset to provide your own relief. In this episode I talk about how I help my clients provide that relief for themselves.
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How often do you intend to have a positive interaction with your child, keep it light and polite, just give them a little love, but instead it turns into disconnect, arguments, and you end up bewildered about where it went wrong?
I used to find myself in that position constantly. I would plan something fun with my daughter to make memories and connect with her and we would end up fighting, I would feel uptight, rushed & bitchy.
Today I tell you what causes that disconnect and how to change it into connection.
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In this introduction episode I talk about my journey from feeling totally powerless and thinking nothing would ever help with my daughter's addiction, to being willing to try anything. When I decided to break the mold of doing things the way I always did, I became confident in my ability to support my daughter, created a better relationship with her, and learned a process that gives me clarity and discernment in every situation.
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