Pinoy Love Language: Recent Episodes
Roanne de Guia-Samuels, LMFT
Roanne is a licensed Psychotherapist mom and an immigrant twice in America. She has frequented 500 Filipino homes and is the author of the book: 5 Pinoy Love Languages. Episodes include a deep dive into cultural nuances rarely talked about in Filipino American Psychology, trauma-informed conversations AND her fav Pinoy Love Languages, the unique ways Filipinos seek and express affection.
Are you running with an old, outdated edition of your story that keeps you safe but limits your life to be the greatest-story-ever-told? In this episode, let's explore:
- why you will need more than changing your thoughts to change your story
- the power of your imagination, for better or worse
- aligning your imagination to your desire
- and more....atbp
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What do you do when you want to evade or can't completely remember your childhood memories? You want to transform your inner critic, your wounds, but at a loss of words.
In this episode, let's explore:
- the hurting child turned hurting adult
- why you need more than talk therapy
- how to give voice to your inner woundings or trauma
- and instill hope for your brighter future.
Links mentioned:
5 Day Inner Child Prompts (free)
https://tinyurl.com/innerchild5day
Set up a complimentary consult with Roanne
https://tinyurl.com/consultwithRoanne
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https://bit.ly/lovenotesfromRoanne
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When culture is a better explanation than not giving an explanation or feeling what needs to be felt.
This is part 2 of Culture as Excuse episode.
In this episode, let's explore
- the purpose of culture
- is it me or my culture?
- who's behind the mask of culture
- atbp...many more
To read the blog article:
https://kalamansijuice.com/culture-as-excuse-using-culture-as-a-fallback-for-unprocessed-trauma/
To see Roanne's offerings:
https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/
Masterclass on Pakikiramdam
https://tinyurl.com/pakiramdammasterclass
salamat po sa pakikinig (thanks for listening)!
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When culture is a better explanation than not giving an explanation or feeling what needs to be felt.
In this episode, let's explore
- the purpose of culture
- is it me or my culture?
- who's behind the mask of culture
- atbp...many more
To read the blog article:
https://kalamansijuice.com/culture-as-excuse-using-culture-as-a-fallback-for-unprocessed-trauma/
To see Roanne's offerings:
https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/
Masterclass on Pakikiramdam
https://tinyurl.com/pakiramdammasterclass
salamat po sa pakikinig (thanks for listening)!
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Why does the word "loob" often use in the Filipino language?
Is it indicative of the inner workings of the Filipino psyche?
In this episode, let's explore-
- the concept of loob
- What does it say about the worldview of the Filipino?
- What is kusang loob?
- How does the concept of kusa cause conflict in the Filipino/x homes?
- Ways to reconnect with this indigenous trait while adapting to the call of the times.
Links you might be interested in-
Kalamansi Juice Blog
Pakiramdam Masterclass: Filipinos on Affection Beyond Words
5 Pinoy Love Languages E-Book
Kultura Cards
Salamat sa Pakikinig (thanks for listening),
Roanne
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Why does the word LOOB appear so often in the Filipino lexicon? The English language do not do justice in its translation. At best, I translate it as the innermost workings of the Filipino psyche/soul.
In this episode, let's explore:
- the concept of loob and its indigenous qualities
- what it means to be Malakas ang Loob
- How this trait is useful to the Filipinos in the motherland
- How this trait can be useful to the Filipinos in America/diaspora
- ...atbp
Links Mentioned by Roanne in the show-
Pinoy Love Language Ebook
https://tinyurl.com/5PinoyLoveEbook
Masterclass on Pakikiramdam
https://tinyurl.com/pakiramdammasterclass
Kalamansi Juice Academy (Other Offerings)
https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/
To receive Roanne's weekly (almost) love notes;
https://www.subscribepage.com/kjblogupdate
Salamat sa pakikinig (thanks for listening),
Roanne
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In this episode, we explore, how to support a Filipino mom in her healing journey through accessing therapy for herself.
Let's talk about:
- How to be supportive from the lens of an immigrant Filipino receiving therapy
- How to ask questions about mental health care while giving space to save face
- What potential questions to ask to without asking direct questions
- ...atpb
If you're interested in scheduling a complimentary consult with Roanne, schedule here-
https://tinyurl.com/consultwithRoanne
FREE 5 Day Inner Child Journal Prompt
https://tinyurl.com/innerchild5day
READ THE BLOG
www.kalamansijuice.com
Salamat sa pakikinig,
Roanne
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Healthy boundary setting is essential but when its not culturally responsive can bring more harm to the relationship than good.
In this episode, let's explore-
- What does boundary mean to you?
- Cultural nuance of boundary setting and space in the Western vs Filipino culture
- Blessing and Curse with the concept of interdependence
- Reframing your boundary setting to a more culturally responsive approach. Your improve your agency and continue to honor your elders and relatives along the way.
Links mentioned by Roanne:
30 Days Inner Child Playground: 30 Days to Playful Restoration Journal Prompts
Read the Blog https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/
Schedule a 30 minute complimentary consult with Roanne here.
Salamat sa Pakikinig (thanks for listening),
Roanne
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DECOLONIZATION is not a linear process but a route that is similar to a rotonda (round-about) where there are multiple entry points and exit routes.
In this episode, let's explore:
- the Myth around a linear path to DECOLONIZATION
- the difference between (the mindset) UNCOLONIZED vs COLONIZED Filipinx
- The Path to UnCOLONIZE to DECOLONIZE and the many in-betweens
- The Eastern teaching on UN-Colonizing to DeColonize
- ...atbp!
Mentioned links in this episode:
The Inner Child Playground Course: 30 Days to Playful Restoration
https://tinyurl.com/innerchildheal
The Kalamansi Juice Blog
https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/
To schedule a complimentary 30 minute consult with Roanne
https://roannelmft.theraplatform.com/#/scheduler/ui
Maraming Salamat po sa pakikinig (thanks for listening)!
Roanne
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There is no doubt the years of colonization has deeply influenced the Filipino but has it completely colonized the Filipino psyche?
In this episode, let's explore:
- the uncolonizable Filipino
- his practice and ancestral leaning to pre-colonial knowing
- how the uncolonizable Filipino manifests itself in everyday life
- the myth that the Filipino today can be wholly understood by his colonized mind
- atpb...
Links mentioned by Roanne:
PAKIRAMDAM MASTERCLASS
https://tinyurl.com/pakiramdammasterclass
INNER CHILD PLAYGROUND: 30 DAYS TO RESTORATION
https://tinyurl.com/innerchildheal
TO READ THE BLOG
https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/
TO SCHEDULE A COMPLIMENTARY CONSULT WITH ROANNE
https://tinyurl.com/consultwithRoanne
Please leave your stellar review so that others can find our message!
Salamat sa pakikinig (thanks for listening),
Roanne
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This is Part II of Island Talk , the first part is the very first episode of the Pinoy Love Language podcast. thank you po for listening!
In this episode, we will explore-
- Ancestral communication style of early (indigenous) Filipinos
- Why the Filipino speaks in codes
- When what is conveyed is the opposite of what they mean. Ay sus!
- How to listen in to stories beyond what is articulated
- ...atbp.
Links mentioned by Roanne
To purchase your KULTURA CARDS
https://bit.ly/kulturacards
To schedule a complimentary consult with Roanne
https://tinyurl.com/consultwithRoanne
To read the Kalamansi Juice Blog
https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/
Share our feedback and your thoughts with Roanne at info@kalamansijuice.com
Marami pong salamat sa pakikinig (thank you for listening),
Roanne
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Kapwa is the value of deep interconnected-ness from which a Filipino traditionally navigate his world from. It is the ability to see someone as a part of you and you in them. In today's episode, we will explore the light and shadow side of this core value & why it can be a challenge to adhere to with our kapatids that are in diaspora.
In this episode, we will explore-
- the beauty of the core value of kapwa
- why it's both a survival and a thriving mechanism
- the shadow side of kapwa
- the cause of scarce cultural whisperers
- ...atbp
Links mentioned by Roanne
To get weekly love notes from Roanne
Read the KJ Blog
5 Pinoy Love Language Ebook
Pakiramdam: Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words Masterclass
If you'd like to receive 1:1 support/therapy, you can schedule a complimentary consult below:
https://tinyurl.com/consultwithRoanne
Maraming salamat for listening,
Roanne
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What's an artful way to respond to tita and her intrusive questions and comments?
In this episode, we will explore-
- Why Filipinos asks personal questions
- How to enter spaces so that you can have a better cultural and familial experience
- Strategies to artfully and gracefully respond to tita so you can both have a win-win interaction with each other
- When to bring your shield in Filipino potlucks
Links mentioned by Roanne
Pakiramdam (Attunement) :Filipinos on Affection Beyond Words Masterclass
Kalamansi Juice Blog
For other Offerings
Kalamansi Juice Academy
Consider Subscribing to Get Weekly Love Notes from Roanne. Subscribe here.
Salamat po sa pakikinig (thank you for listening)!
Sa uulitin,
Roanne
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Why do Filipinos like to ask personal questions? Why do they greet by posing a question which feels more like an interrogation?
In this episode, let's explore-
- the cultural function of asking questions for a Filipino
- difference between task oriented and relationship oriented questions
- the downside of social support groups
- how to be culturally ambidextrous rather than rigid
Links shared by Roanne
Kalamansi Juice Blog
https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/
5 PINOY LOVE LANGUAGE EBOOK
https://tinyurl.com/5PinoyLoveEbook
KALAMANSI JUICE ACADEMY
https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/
TO SCHEDULE A 1:1 CONSULT WITH ROANNE
https://tinyurl.com/consultwithRoanne
Sa uulitin,
Roanne
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What's the difference between shame and guilt and is there any evolutionary function for each? Does culture influence our feelings of shame?
In this episode, let's explore-
- the evolutionary function of guilt
- guilt in a collectivistic culture vs in America
- how the focus on function and productivity can influence self-inflicted guilt
- antidote for guilt
- at iba pa...(and many more).
Mentioned links in this podcast
The KJ Blog: www.kalamansijuice.com
The KJ Academy
The Inner Child Playground: 30 Days to Playful Restoration
Maraming salamat for listening, please feel free to leave me your comments or topic suggestions @info@kalamansijuice.com
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Honoring our elders and those who came before us is a beautiful gesture. When does the concept of utang na loob and the expectation to be grateful create harm in ourselves and in our relationships?
In this episode, let's explore:
- the difference and adaptive use of being grateful versus gratefulness from fear-based intention
- how do you know if you have repressed your emotions in the name of utang na loob or being grateful
- why people prefer to be just be grateful than to heal from their own woundings
- what to do if you have repressed emotions in the name of utang na loob and being grateful
- ...and many more.
Helpful Links-
30 Days to Inner Child Playground Course
https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/inner-child-playground-30-days-to-restoration
Read the Kalamansi Juice Blog
https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/
Other self-paced courses on Inner Child Healing & Filipino Culture Nuances
https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/
Kalamansi Juice TV youtube Channel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy-yhqsVB81QHHI18o011gA
Thank you po for listening. If you have any questions for this Filipina Therapist, feedback, suggestions for a topic, leave me a message at info@kalamansijuice.com.
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Are Catholics/ Christians the same elsewhere?
In this episode, let's explore:
- Filipino religiosity in the motherland vs in America
- how immigration can transform the Filipino spirituality/religiosity
- how folk Catholicism is a buffer to colonized form of religiosity
- how do you see your God?
- ....and many more
Check these out:
Kalamansi Juice Blog
https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/
Self-paced Courses/ E- Book in the Kalamansi Juice Academy
https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/
Love Mapping Course for Couples
https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/love-mapping-for-couples
Thank you po for listening and if you enjoy this podcast, please leave a review!
Ingat,
Roanne
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Grief is not something you get over with, for it is from the seed of love that grief sprouts from.
In this episode-
- explore the concept of GRIEF through the eyes of two friends: Snail and Ant
- How grief can be a challenge to those supporting the Griever
- How the Griever can facilitate his own support and how it looks like to him/her.
- How support people can sit with the GRIEVER in times of intense pain.
I'd so appreciate if you can leave a stellar review to this podcast, if called to do!
Check out the blog
www.kalamansijuice.com
Offerings of Self-Paced Courses
https://kalamansijuiceacademy.com
Salamat po for listening,
Roanne
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There is a misconception that you have to be diagnosable Mental Health condition to seek therapy.
In this episode, let's explore-
- myths about therapy vs coaching
- common reasons Filipinos seek therapy
- what to do next if you find yourself needing support,
- and more
Lean more about Story Therapy Here.
To schedule a 30 minute complimentary consult, access Roanne's calendar here.
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Thank you po for listening! If you have any topic or question for this Filipina Therapist, please write with the subject line #askthisFilipinatherapist @ info @kalamansijuice.com.
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Honoring the wisdom of your body through the art of slowing down. Slow is fast.
In this episode, let's explore
- how productivity mindset can wreck a havoc on your mind and body
- using your calendar to remind you to slow down
- the art of noticing, what you forget to do when you're moving too fast
- the real exercise for the mind/body to accelerate your happiness health
Mentioned links and helpful resources:
Slow Down to Accelerate Your Happiness Health
5 PInoy Love Languages Ebook Download
Story Therapy/Coaching with Roanne
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Salamat po for listening! if it speaks to you, please leave a review so that others can find this podcast.
sa uulitin,
Roanne
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Do you decide on your own accord? Social Psychologist and anthropologist tells us that culture is like water to fish. You can't deny its existence absent of noticing it.
In this episode, let's explore-
- How culture influences your decision-making
- how shared identity is an invisible thread that connects us all
- the independence paradox of American mindset
- how to belong and initiate alignment with your core values
Mentioned links and helpful resources:
How Culture Influences Your Decision-Making Blog
The 5 Pinoy Love Languages Ebook Download
Masterclass: Pakiramdam-Filipinos on Affection Beyond Words
Interested with working with Roanne 1:1?
Learn more about Story Therapy/Coaching
Salamat po for listening. If you like this podcast, please share with others!
Sa uulitin,
Roanne
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What’s the cost of being the “good one,” the one expected to follow the path promised with lavish confetti and head nods of approval in the family?
In this episode, let's explore-
- Who is the good child?
- the conditions that raise the good child
- the curse of the good child, manifestations and cost
- good to neither good or bad but just is
Mentioned and /or other helpful resources:
Blog Post: The Curse of the Good Child
Masterclass on Pakiramdam: Filipinos on Affection Beyond Words
Kalamansi Juice Blog
Want to consult with Roanne, follow this link for a complimentary consult.
Learn more about Story Therapy/Coaching here.
Remember that you can ask a question to the PInay therapist by sending me a direct email of your questions and feedback @info@kalamansijuice.com
Maraming salamat for listening,
Roanne
This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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Were you well-provided for- a roof over your head, meals that don't go out of style, went to a good school but feel emotionally malnourished?
In this episode, let's explore:
- how immigration for a Filipino immigrant may aggravate this malnourished cycle
- manifestations that you are emotionally hungry
- tips on how to feed your hungry parts
- and many more...
Mentioned in this episode-
Kalamansi Juice Blog
5 Pinoy Love Languages EBook
If you're interested in transforming your Story, learn more about Story Therapy/Coaching here.
The Masterclass on Pakiramdam: Filipinos on Affection Beyond Words
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: info@kalamansijuice.com
salamat po for listening,
Roanne
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EP 22 What is Pasalubong and why is it so endearing to many Filipinos?
In this episode, explore-
- the definition of pasalubong and why it's valuable in the Filipino culture
- the light and shadow side of this Pinoy Love Language
- a case example of using pasalubong to ease up tension in a relationship
- ...and much more.
Roanne mentioned the following-
THE 7 PINOY LOVE LANGUAGE COURSE
READ THE BLOG
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: info@kalamansijuice.com
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EP 21 Why is it that when you asks a Filipino sometimes that they go around the bush rather than telling you straight up what’s on their mind? What is the Pinoy Love Language of Ligoy?
In this episode, let's explore-
- what is ligoy?
- What is the cultural and social implications of this Pinoy Love Language?
- How to respond to someone who is using this PLL?
- Using the RULER Method, a culturally responsive way to deepen your Pinoy Relationships.
If you want to deepen your cultural knowledge about yourself, learn more about the 7 PINOY LOVE LANGUAGES COURSE
Want to consult with Roanne? follow this link for a complimentary consult
Remember that you can ask a question to the PInay therapist by sending me a direct email of your questions and feedback @info@kalamansijuice.com
Maraming salamat for listening,
Roanne
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EP20 What is collective co-regulation?
In this episode, we will explore-
- What's the difference between self-regulation (self-soothing) and co-regulation
- Is coregulation the same as co-dependency? If not, how are they different?
- How the Filipino culture hone coregulation over self-regulation
- the case of example of Junjun to learn how co-regulation is activated in a cultural and practical setting.
If you're interested in transforming your Story, learn more about Story Therapy/Coaching here.
The Masterclass on Pakiramdam: Filipinos on Affection Beyond Words
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Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
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Why is sumbong a language of love for Filipinos and how do you love someone back who's using this love expression?
In this episode, we will explore-
- the PInoy Love Language of Sumbong. What is it?
- How does it manifest?
- The shadow and light side of this PLL
- how to set healthy boundaries
Don't forget that you can ask a question to this Pinay Therapist @ info@kalamansijuice.com
Visit the blog at www.kalamansijuice.com
Access the FREE Pinoy Love Language webinar
Masterclass on Pakiramdam: Filipinos on Affection Beyond Words
Consult with Roanne here
Salamat po for listening!
Please don't forget to leave a stellar review below.
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Are Filipinos coregulators (someone who finds soothing in reaching out proximity with others)?
In this episode, we will explore:
- what coregulation means
- codependency vs coregulation
- what happens to Filipinos in immigration & theis soothing strategies
- how to coregulate in a healthy manner with Filipino loved ones.
Don't forget to visit the blog at www.kalamansijuice.com
Access the FREE Pinoy Love Language webinar
Masterclass on Pakiramdam: Filipinos on Affection Beyond Words
Consult with Roanne here
Salamat po for listening!
Please don't forget to leave a stellar review below.
This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
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How does self-soothing strategies vary between individualistic and collective cultures?
In this episode, explore-
- what self-regulation is and how our caregivers tend to you influence our ability to self-soothe
- how you learn to cope as children when caregivers do not fulfill your emotional need
- the connection between the Pinoy Love Languages and how Filipinos seek and express affection
- ...and many more.
Roanne mentioned the following-
Masterclass on Pakiramdam: Filipinos on Affection Beyond Words
Kalamansi Juice Blog
Want to consult with Roanne, follow this link for a complimentary consult
Remember that you can ask a question to the PInay therapist by sending me a direct email of your questions and feedback @info@kalamansijuice.com
Maraming salamat for listening,
Roanne
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Met anyone who was taught to be namaligno? This is one disease causality that is used in the motherland to explain an unexplained phenomenon.
In this episode, let’s explore-
- What is namaligno?
- What use does this concept play in the Filipino culture?
- Does namaligno help heal or delay health care access?
- ...and many more.
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: info@kalamansijuice.com
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Why is it important to culturally understand how Filipinos explain the cause(s) of diseases? Does this still influence in diaspora?
In this episode, let’s explore-
- Meaning of Sumpa
- The difference between Sumpa and Gaba
- How this disease causality renders delay in care (physical and mental health)
- How shame plays a role in accessing care
- ….and many more.
INTERESTED IN STORY THERAPY? Learn more HERE
LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words
FOLLOW ME ON
Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u
Email: info@kalamansijuice.com
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Lihi is one way Filipinos in the Islands may use to explain a cause of a disease/ deformity based on maternal deprivation during pregnancy.
In this episode, we will explore-
- What is Lihi?
- How Lihi affects our help-seeking behaviors
- How Lihi still influence our modern Filipino mind-set
- ...and many more.
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LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW
Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog
Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words
INTERESTED IN STORY THERAPY? Learn more HERE
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Naku, manang-mana ka sa tatay mo! (you're just like your father)
In this episode, let's explore-
- the disease causality of Mana. what is it?
- How does it affect the way Filipinos perceive care and treatment
- how does Mana continue to manifest in our modern world and recommendations on how to bridge the cultural gap on seeking treatment/care.
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Related Blog Post: 9 Filipino Misconceptions about Counseling/Therapy
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Your mental health is your health. There is a deep stigma in seeking mental health services that lies in the veins of many Filipinos.
In this episode, let’s explore-
- Why Filipinos don’t (easily) access mental health care
- Filipino mental health and why the language we use especially with our children is important
- How we reinforce “toughness” in the Filipino culture
- How you can pivot your narrative to embrace your wholistic story.
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From the Blog: 9 Filipino Misconceptions About Therapy & Counseling
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In this episode-
- Discover the antidote for the PLL of TAMPO which is SUYO.
- What is suyo?
- How can you attune with your loved one while negotiating a new way of speaking a language you both understand
- And many more....
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Have you experienced mom upset but not quite angry and when you try to speak to her she claims she’s fine. You give her more distance because you think that’s what she needs and her upset feeling becomes lethal….
In this episode, let’s explore-
- The PLL of Tampo. What is it?
- Why someone uses this PLL and their secret longing
- Tips on how to read TAMPO and recommendations on how to respond to it a culturally-responsive manner.
- Self-regulation vs co-regulation. How Filipinos in the Philippines and in America differ in their affection-seeking strategies
- ...and more
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Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages
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Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words
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Why can’t you just say what you mean? Many times, socio-political, geography and many other variables that influence culture including history of colonization influence cultural norms and behavior.
In this episode, let’s explore-
- How/Why history shapes our language
- Why the cultural context of how we use language in the Philippines and in America/diaspora differ and matters
- How culture and the environment can shape our parenting strategies
- Adaptive versus Toxic shaming in parenting
- How Filipinos express and seek love uniquely
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Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages
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You might ask when does utang na loob OR debt of gratitude ever gets repaid. Many children of immigrants feel the burden to not just pay but to overpay I debt they are grateful for but never asked for.
In this episode, let’s explore-
- The concept of utang versus utang na loob
- What is utang na loob and why its a more salient concept in diaspora
- The expectation to Re-Pay and how it’s loss in translation
- What happens to immigrants when they immigrate leaving their emotional resources behind
- What our elders really need and mean regarding the concept of utang na loob
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What is a tagapamagitan and why are their roles scarce in the diaspora?
In this episode, explore-
- The role of cultural mediators in the everyday life of a Filipino
- How the breakage in communication between immigrant Filipinos and their offspring can be harmed or bridge by a tagapamagitan
- The different roles of a tagapamagitan
- Learn ways to demystify Filipino cultural nuances
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Filipinos are known to have “mataas na pakikisalamuha,” which means the depth of relationality with others goes skin deep. Children in the motherland are taught to heighten their cultural sensing of the other beyond words.
Pakiramdam, the sensing of the other beyond words through reading non-verbal cues, sensing and feeling create polarized understanding of each other in America/diaspora. In general, American culture emphasizes direct, linear communication while Filipino culture weighs heavy on the skill of pagtitimbang (weighing things out, gauging all variables before the interaction, during and after it).
In this episode, explore-
- Why Pakiramdam is the most complex & misunderstood Filipino Core Value
- Why it causes conflict in Filipino homes
- Why do we use pakiramdam (an, verb) as a strategy to affection-seek?
- How we communicate differently in the motherland vs. in American soil.
- What is the Pinoy Love Language called Tampo?
In the masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words, I talk about Pakiramdam more in depth and the unique ways Filipinos survive and thrive. Check out the masterclass by clicking the link here.
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Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages
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Despite the fact that most Filipinos are bilingual, our ways of expression from the American language of expression differ in many ways. In this regard, Filipino immigrants and their children may experience cultural gaps and miscommunication in their relationships.
Some of these miscommunication can even result to negative imprints leading to feelings of not being good enough or unloved. To slowly change this trajectory is to inform yourself and find clarification on what is actually being said than simply interpreting what’s said.
In this episode, let’s explore:
- Linear versus circular communication
- How we teach children in a socio-cultural setting to use language
- Low context vs high context and why Filipinos value “sensing the other”
- How affection, standards and modes of expression can vary culturally
In the masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words, I talk about Collective Co-regulation, the unique way Filipinos survive and thrive. Check out the masterclass by clicking the link here.
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The blog post on 3 Differences: American vs Filipino Ways of COmmunication
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What cultural stories have been keeping your from living an abundant life? From your riches? Money is simply a manifestation of your abundant mind-set but does not end there. What stories have you heard growing up about money? About the rich? Or the poor?
In this episode, explore:
- How soap operas can shape your money mind-set
- How the concept of Togetherness or walang Iwanan can keep you from manifesting abundance
- Sibling rivalry and how it can cost competitiveness from a scarcity lens
- More Money More Problems?
- The concept of being grateful and how to be truly grateful to those who came before you.
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Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love
The blog post on PInoy Money Mind-set Blocks Keeping You from Your Riches
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What is intergenerational trauma versus the common stress? This is an introduction to more trauma talks in this podcast. It’s vital that today, you forge a path for yourself and those who will come before you by breaking the cycle of trauma or negative imprints running through your family’s lineage veins.
In this episode, explore:
- What is trauma?
- The difference between stress/depression versus intergenerational trauma
- Some tell-tale signs if your family has trauma unresolved
- Psychological primal needs and why its important to meet yours
- How to find a good-fit therapist
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CHANGE YOUR STORY through STORY THERAPY.
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The blog post on Story Therapy: The Art & Science of Healing
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Books Recommended
The Body Keeps the Score
It Didn’t Start With Me
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The sense that Filipino Americans are neither Filipino or American enough can lead to cultural inferiority and thereby influence your sense of self and worth. Where do learn these messages and how do we allow our children to redefine their cultural heritage on their own?
In this episode, explore-
- The concept of culture switching and the challenge of navigating it from a Filipino American perspective
- How Immigrant parents can influence the feeling of “not being good enough” in their children
- How Filipino American children knows enough about the culture as evidenced by their attempts to “not speak up.”
- How Filipino immigrants can perceive their children differently, see their attempts to connect through culture switching.
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The blog post on Baon: The Struggle of Filipino Amerians to Consume Both
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Why is it more confusing to be bilingual in America? Many immigrant Filipinos tend to believe that other than you have to wear your seat belt not as a fashion statement but for safety, there’s not much adjusting to do because we dig the English lingo…. or do we?
In this episode, explore:
- Words we misuse with each other
- How different meanings create confusion and hard feelings
- How tone, inflections in the way we say things matter
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The blog post on Island Talk in America
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Language is words and beyond words. Imagine if you can speak clarity, empathy and even a breath of love in your everyday conversations. How much can the world (or those around you) benefit from your gifts? Welcome to the Speak the Pinoy Love Language podcast!
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