The Bear Comes Home From The Bar: Recent Episodes
Terrance Fleming
We are survivors of childhood alcohol adversity. We are resilient. We are no longer silent. These are our stories and how we can recover from Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and toxic stress.
ACEs are a public health crisis in the US. A child living with an alcohol-addicted parent can end up with cumulative ACEs and a dysregulated nervous system; as adults, we are at high risk for chronic health problems, mental illness, and substance addiction -- but together we can heal. Inspired by the work of pediatrician and the Surgeon General of California, Nadine Burke Harris.
In the final episode of season 1, Terrance interviews the head coach of This Naked Mind, Scott Pinyard. This Naked Mind is a science-based and compassion driven approach to changing our relationships to alcohol. https://thisnakedmind.com/
Check out Terrance’s other podcast, Alcohol Free Biography! https://anchor.fm/alcohol-free-biog
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Terrance shares his story of childhood alcohol adversity. This is the second to last episode of season 1. Want to hear more content from Terrance? Check out Alcohol Free Biography! https://anchor.fm/alcohol-free-biog
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This is part 2 (of 2) of Terrance’s interview with Anne: an advocate for children and families who have or are experiencing Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). Anne is also an educator and moderator of the ACEs Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/PorterACES/
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This is part 1 (of 2) of Terrance’s interview with Anne: an advocate for children and families who have or are experiencing Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs). Anne is also an educator and moderator of the ACEs Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/PorterACES/
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Terrance talks to Jen about her experience and recovery from childhood alcohol adversity. He also shares some findings from a study featured in Nadine Burke Harris’ book The Deepest Well about the effects of early and prolonged stress during childhood. Resources: https://www.amazon.com/Deepest-Well-Long-Term-Childhood-Adversity-ebook/dp/B01N7HZ73B
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Part 2 of Terrance’s interview with Susan Wendelborg of Oregon EMDR on eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, or EMDR. Susan talks about the evolution of the nervous system and brain, our ancient flight, fight or freeze response and how they are impacted by childhood trauma. Check out her work! https://www.oregonemdr.com/
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What are some of the biggest obstacles for people to begin healing from ACEs? How does one begin healing from childhood adversity? Terrance is joined by Elissa, a Mindfulness-based Health and Wellness Coach, and founder of Wise Mind Wellness Coaching, who answers these questions and more!
Check out Elissa’s work! www.wisemindwellnesscoaching.com www.instagram.com/yourwisemindcoach https://insighttimer.com/wisemindwellnesscoach Healing From Adverse Childhood Experiences Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1967570210003924/
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Terrance talks to Susan Wendelborg of Oregon EMDR about eye movement desensitization and reprocessing, or EMDR. In part 1 (of 2) Susan talks about what EMDR is, it’s origins, and how it can help people from childhood adversity. She also helps us understand what happens to the brain and nervous system when someone experiences trauma. Check out her work! https://www.oregonemdr.com/
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Terrance talks to Tyler about his experience and recovery from childhood alcohol adversity. He also talks about how one safe, stable adult can be a protective factor that buffers a child from Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and their consequences.
Resources:
https:/ /www.centerforchildcounseling.org/aces-how-to-be-a-buffer-for-a-child/ https://donnajacksonnakazawa.com/childhood-disrupted/
Need more support? Join our free, private Facebook group Survivors of Childhood Alcohol Adversity! https://www.facebook.com/groups/survivorsofchildhoodalcoholadversity/
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Terrance is joined by Elissa, a Mindfulness-based Health and Wellness Coach, and founder of Wise Mind Wellness Coaching and the Healing From Adverse Childhood Experiences private Facebook group. Terrance also talks about childhood poverty which can damage the brain and cause unfavorable health and life outcomes in adulthood. Childhood poverty is a "bear den": a risk factor where ACEs can accumulate.
Check out Elissa’s work!
www.wisemindwellnesscoaching.com
www.instagram.com/yourwisemindcoach
https://insighttimer.com/wisemindwellnesscoach
Healing From Adverse Childhood Experiences Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1967570210003924/
Resources:
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/04/07/upshot/stimulus-children-poverty-brain.html?referringSource=articleShare
https://www.ncmedicaljournal.com/content/79/2/124
https://www.amazon.com/Deepest-Well-Long-Term-Childhood-Adversity-ebook/dp/B01N7HZ73B
Need more support? Join our free, private Facebook group Survivors of Childhood Alcohol Adversity!
https://www.facebook.com/groups/survivorsofchildhoodalcoholadversity/
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Did you know healthy relationships can change our brain and even our DNA? That we can develop a healthy attachment style through stable relationships in adulthood? Join Terrance and Sofya as they discuss why survivors of childhood alcohol adversity are at higher risk for difficulty with relationships; the importance of healthy relationships and how it’s never too late to learn to cultivate them.
Check out Sofya’s new book! https://www.amazon.com/Misery-MASTERY-Straight-Worksheets-Alcoholic-ebook/dp/B08XYK21SM/ and Workshop for Adult Children of Alcoholics https://www.workshopforadultchildrenofalcoholics.com
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Terrance talks to Lauren about her experience and recovery from childhood alcohol adversity. He also talks about the importance of co-regulation when we're children and how it can help us now to develop the ability to self-regulate and self-soothe.
Resources:
https://austinintimacysolutions.com/2019/01/29/vital-skill-4-discover-the-gift-of-co-regulation/
Need more support? Join our free, private Facebook group Survivors of Childhood Alcohol Adversity! https://www.facebook.com/groups/survivorsofchildhoodalcoholadversity/
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Terrance chats with nuerotransformational coach, Honey Grace. He also talks about mommy wine culture and how alcohol is killing more women than ever.
Resources: http://www.honeygrace.com/ https://www.instagram.com/honeygraceholistic/
Need more support? Join our free, private Facebook group Survivors of Childhood Alcohol Adversity! https://www.facebook.com/groups/survivorsofchildhoodalcoholadversity/
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2021/03/16/973684753/sharp-off-the-charts-rise-in-alcoholic-liver-disease-among-young-women https://www.nytimes.com/2020/01/10/health/alcohol-deaths-women.html?0p19G=2103
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Terrance talks with Amy about her experience with childhood alcohol adversity and her recovery. He also talks about neuroplasticity and how to rewire our brain’s through a kind inner voice.
Resources: https://books.apple.com/us/book/hold-on-to-yourself/id1145820909
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Terrance chats with Alex Kelly and talks about toxic stress. Toxic stress is how Adverse Childhood Experiences (or ACEs) can accumulate, get under our skin and cause long-term damage on biological and even genetic levels.
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Terrance chats with Kelsey and talks about how Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) can have negative, lasting — with often seemingly mysterious origins — effects on health that include heart disease and autoimmune disorders.
Check out Kelsey’s birth course! https://themovementdoula.com/birth-course/ http://call2parentworkshop.com/
Resources: https://www.focusih.com/trauma-autoimmune/ https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4430378/ https://drhedberg.com/adverse-childhood-experiences-hashimotos-disease/ https://www.heart.org/-/media/files/about-us/policy-research/policy-positions/social-determinants-of-health/aces-policy-statement.pdf?la=en
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Terrance and Sofya talk about the positives of being an Adult Child of Alcoholics and how we can build resiliency now. Our adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) can be our superpowers!
Check out Sofya’s new book! https://www.amazon.com/Misery-MASTERY-Straight-Worksheets-Alcoholic-ebook/dp/B08XYK21SM/
and Workshop for Adult Children of Alcoholics https://www.workshopforadultchildrenofalcoholics.com
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Terrance interviews Larry and talks about child maltreatment and abuse from parental alcohol addiction. Resources:
https://www.who.int/violence_injury_prevention/violence/world_report/factsheets/fs_child.pdf
https://www.drugabuse.gov/sites/default/files/audit.pdf
https://centerforyouthwellness.org/advancing-clinical-practice/
https://centerforyouthwellness.org/aceq-pdf/
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Terrance talks about protective factors and chats with Kate about developing resiliency to adverse childhood experiences (ACEs).
Resources:
https://developingchild.harvard.edu/science/key-concepts/resilience/
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Terrance interviews Beth and, in honor of International Children Of Alcoholics Week, talks about what children can do when they are living in a home of parental alcohol harm. Beth lives in upstate New York, is a marriage and family therapist and an advocate for ending the stigma of mental illness.
Resources:
https://nacoa.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/Kit-for-kids-NACoA-2019.pdf https://www.amazon.com/When-Body-Says-Understanding-Stress-Disease/dp/0470923350 https://www.amazon.com/Unspoken-Voice-Releases-Restores-Goodness/dp/1556439431 https://www.amazon.com/Healing-Trauma-Pioneering-Program-Restoring/dp/1591796580 https://www.amazon.com/Trauma-Memory-Practical-Understanding-Traumatic/dp/1583949941
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Terrance talks about complex post-traumatic stress disorder and chats with Sofya Vasilyeva of Workshop for Adult Children of Alcoholics: https://www.workshopforadultchildrenofalcoholics.com/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC9SJv8x9XpSODZYnkw9_vXQ
Resources:
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/complex/ https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-complex-ptsd-2797491 https://www.beautyafterbruises.org/what-is-cptsd https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/322886#behaviors https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/stuck-not-broken/id1452037362?i=1000470730888
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Terrance talks to Dr Sheila Gilheany, the CEO of Alcohol Action Ireland about their efforts to reduce alcohol harm in Ireland, including their incredible Silent Voices campaign. Resources: https://alcoholireland.ie/ https://www.irishtimes.com/news/social-affairs/parents-who-regularly-take-three-or-more-drinks-a-day-may-be-abusing-children-1.3761625
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Terrance interviews his partner, Shannon, about her childhood experience of growing up in parental alcohol harm and her recovery. Resources https://www.amazon.com/Hold-Yourself-Stay-Cool-Conversations-ebook/dp/B0794TT4PR
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Terrance talks to Linda about growing up in a home of parental alcohol addiction and how she is healing from her childhood experiences.
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Terrance talks about healthy relationships, exercise and nutrition in part 2 of a toxic stress healing toolkit.
Part 1 (episode 4) covered sleep, mental health and mindfulness.
Together, we can heal from childhood adversity and a dysregulated stress response!
Resources:
https://exploringyourmind.com/insecure-attachment-3-different-types/
https://www.verywellmind.com/marriage-insecure-attachment-style-2303303
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4959333/
https://kripalu.org/resources/how-yoga-helps-heal-trauma-qa-bessel-van-der-kolk
https://www.amazon.com/Deepest-Well-Long-Term-Childhood-Adversity-ebook/dp/B01N7HZ73B
https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748
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Terrance chats with Ashley Teeters. Ashley is a social worker who also teaches trauma healing and inner guidance at The Source which offers guided meditations and energy healing sessions here in Eugene, OR. You can check out the awesome work she’s doing at http://thesource541.com/
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Terrance talks about some of the ways we can alleviate the harm of a dysregulated stress response: Sleep, mental health, mindfulness, healthy relationships, exercise and nutrition. He covers sleep, mental health, mindfulness in this episode and healthy relationships, exercise, nutrition will be in part 2. Resources Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity by Nadine Burke Harris, https://www.apa.org/science/about/psa/2017/04/adverse-childhood want to volunteer or share your story? Email us at bearlivesathome@gmail.com.
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Terrance talks alcohol which is responsible for 3 million deaths a year. 5 people die every minute from alcohol. In the United States alone, there are an estimated 28 million children — or about one-in-three people under the age of 18 — who have alcohol-addicted parents. This is a toxic stress crisis. want to volunteer or share your story on the podcast? email us bearlivesathome@gmail.con
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Terrance provides a brief description of a complicated process that is a normal response to stress stimuli. Then we ask what happens when the stress is too severe, too frequent and occurs during childhood? Answer: toxic stress.
Toxic stress refers to persistent adversity that a child experiences — without the buffer of a safe, stable adult or other protective factors — which can result in a dysregulated stress response.
Resources
The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity by Nadine Burke Harris
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Terrance introduces Adverse Childhood Experiences, or ACEs, and toxic stress. Resources The Deepest Well: Healing the Long-Term Effects of Childhood Adversity by Nadine Burke Harris https://centerforyouthwellness.org https://resilienteducator.com/classroom-resources/this-is-a-students-brain-on-trauma/ Want to volunteer or share your story on the podcast? Email bearlivesathome@gmail.com
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I answered what felt like a call-to-action to tell the largely untold story of toxic stress, growing up in a home of harmful alcohol addiction, and what happens to the adults who come from this adversity.