In Service To Love

Dating can be fun, right? It can be adventurous & exciting.

But, let’s be REAL.

Dating can also be awful & disappointing.

So, what can you do to make it better for yourself and those you’re dating?

This is what I’m getting into today and I’ve invited my good friend Bryn Williams to join me! She’s a fellow artist and mom, but she’s also happily married. So, what went right for her?

If you’re currently dating, currently married, or just down for a good time, you won’t want to miss this one! Plus, I’m sharing some of my own dating lessons, so you know what red flags to watch out for on your next date! (I’m talking machetes, taxidermy & declined credit cards!)

I’m diving into:

How I figured out my worth on the dating market & my advice when it comes to values
My history of attracting broke men & what I learned from that
Details from my Summer of Dating Fun - post separation
Learning to communicate what it is you want & don’t want
The unrealistic standards women set & how men lie to achieve them
What dating advice we give to our teenage children (boys & girls)
And much more!

Connect with Bryn:

IG: https://www.instagram.com/brynwilliamsart/?hl=en

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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What is good sex and how do you know if you’re having it?

Is sex required to have a healthy, successful relationship?

Are there other forms of intimacy?

This is a juicy one today folks and you won’t want to miss it! I’m welcoming Michelle Vogel, a fellow marriage and family therapist, on the show today to talk ALL things sex.

If you’re wondering if you need sex to be happy, listen up!

If you’re curious about polyamorous relationships, tune in!

Are you feeling unfulfilled sexually in your monogamous or open relationship, then come join the conversation!

Michelle has so much expertise to help YOU get your groove back, so let’s get into it!

We’re diving into:

Consent culture & sex positivity: Where have they helped and where do they fall short?
How to begin to access vulnerability & why it’s important
What to ask yourself before exploring new sexual avenues
Polyamory & ethical non-monogamy: Do we really know what those are?
How to engage in sexual media with a critical eye & what tools can be useful
Why consent doesn’t mean the sex will be good
And so much more with Michelle!

Read more about Michelle’s work: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/michelle-vogel-valley-village-ca/746675

Email Michelle:

michellevogeltherapy@gmail.com

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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How can you enter into and continue to show up in your multicultural or multiracial relationship?

How can you approach your partner’s culture & background with curiosity and love?

If you’re in this type of relationship (or you just want to be!), listen up!

I'm going over 5 questions to ask yourself so you can honor your background as well as your partner’s. I’m getting into how you can support your children in their experience and how you can stay curious and learn to love the diversity that your relationship holds. This is important stuff and you chose your partner on purpose! So, let’s dive in!

I’m diving into:

If opposites really do attract & how this usually plays out
How you can blend the cultures you each bring & start new traditions together
Why finding core values within the diversity is crucial
My background & how it’s informed my work as a therapist supporting blended families
If diversity allows for more assumptions or less
Why we all need to broaden how we define culture
And much more!

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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Are you taking steps to deal with it or release it? Or has it taken over?

In today’s episode I’m getting into why we feel stress and anxiety, what’s happening in our body when we do, and what we can do about it moving forward. And you’re not alone, I feel it too.

But we don’t have to live in a constant state of stress or panic. I repeat - You DON’T have to live in a constant state of stress or panic.

Stress has its purpose in our life at times and I won’t even say anxiety is bad, but it shouldn’t be with you all day, everyday. So, join me for today’s episode and let’s learn what stress and anxiety can teach us about ourselves. Let’s learn how to be present, find safety within, and start living with less stress, less anxiety, and a lot more joy & pleasure!

I’m diving into:

Fight, flight, freeze, fawn: What they are & how they show up
The difference between stress & anxiety
Why rest, breath, & grounding exercises can help (Plus easy ways to ground yourself!)
My experience with anxiety & hypervigilance
What anxiety is telling you & what happens when you ignore the message
When anxiety shows up as drive & the need to achieve (But when is it enough?)
My advice with anxiety medication
How to find your peace, your balance, & your limits
And much more!

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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Are you struggling to set boundaries in your life - in your partnerships, your friendships, your family, or maybe at work?

Are you stuck in a pattern of people pleasing thinking that if you’re just good enough, people will respect you and boundaries won’t be an issue?

Listen friend, the rules of engagement must be set. And YOU have to set them.

Yes, it’s hard. Yes, it’s uncomfortable. But, it’s SO worth it and it DOES get easier.

Join me today as we look at boundaries: why they’re necessary, how to define them, where to set them, and what it looks like when we don’t. I’m walking you through ALL of it because I want you to feel safe and confident. I want you to step into your power and draw the lines and I want you to enjoy your life! So, let’s get into it!

I’m diving into:

What to do with boundary crossers
Guilt around boundaries: Why do you feel bad defining them?
What needs to happen BEFORE consent can be given
Why defining consequences of broken boundaries is just as important
Examples of boundaries at home, at work, at play, with visitors & friends
Why establishing the rules helps build trust in yourself
And much more!

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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How can you know if it’s time to separate, get divorced, or recommit to working on your partnership? How can you know if you need to change or if they do?

Tricky questions, right? But, I can help!

Today’s episode is all about the process of making these decisions. I’m walking you through how I knew it was time to separate from my Ex and how you can decide for yourself. I’m breaking it down into a few simple steps and they’re packed full of practical questions so you can better know what it is you want and how to get it. As 2022 ended and your New Year began, were you taking stock of your relationship? Were you questioning if your partnership was worth committing to still? If so, this episode is for you! Let’s get into it.

I’m diving into:

Why I suggest you talk to a lawyer and how soon (It doesn’t have to break the bank!)
Questions to ask yourself to evaluate your relationship & your role within it
Abusive relationships: Why separation is key even if hope for change exists
Why you deserve time apart from your relationship in your life NOW
How to accept your ex-partner’s new life & my take on my Ex getting remarried
Why intimacy is a MUST in your relationship
How to decide what’s worth fighting for in YOUR life
And much more!

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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Are you feeling the urge to make some resolutions? Feeling the pressure to set some new goals? Really wanting to kick 2022 to the curb and start over?

I bet you are, because it’s that time of year! Happy New Year friends!

BUT before you rush into it, before you end up with the same 10 resolutions as last year, let’s take a moment. Let’s take a pause and really think about this. On today’s episode I’m walking you through a different process for setting those resolutions. I’m breaking it down into 5 easy, but thoughtful steps so you can end up with a list of goals that’s doable, meaningful, and deeply connected to what it is that you really want. Let’s get into it!

I’m diving into:

Why resolutions are actually commitments & how to set yourself up for success
Releasing what’s no longer needed & making space for what you want 2023 to hold
Some of the most common resolutions & what’s beneath them
Deciphering what’s at the root of our goals & addressing that instead
Why those weight loss goals don’t typically stick around
How to know if your goals align with your priorities & what to do if they don’t
Why you NEED a clean slate before starting in on 2023
How to unlink your goals so you can experience more freedom & lightness
And much more!

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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Where do you turn to in moments of grief and in seasons of loss? What or who do you look to for guidance when you don’t know the way forward?

On today’s holiday episode, I invite you into a vulnerable and honest exploration. We all face loss at some point in our lives and we all want to be carried through it. But what can tether us? What can hold us as we grieve and mourn what no longer is? Faith looks different for everyone and I won’t tell you what or who to believe in, but the message remains the same: we all need something. We all desire love and connection through our grief. We all want grace to be extended. We all want to be cared for without judgement. But, how do we get there? Let’s get into it, so you can find out how your answers come to you.

I’m diving into:

How grief has showed up for me: the loss of my mother & marriage
What I’m searching for: my history of exploration with faith
Why it’s GOOD to challenge your belief system
How grief grows our faith & provides us with freedom
When bad things happen to good people & how faith gets shattered
How grief can wake you up to life & abundance
And much more

Get caught up on the episode with my brother, Christ, Crystals, and Siblings, OH MY!: A Conversation About Christianity HERE.

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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Frustrated with dating? Tired of trying to navigate single life, only to be let down again?

I get it!

The world of dating can often feel full of pressure, rejection, and disappointment. All you want is love and connection, but it never seems to work out. But, WHY?

It might be that you’re following the WRONG rules!

But not anymore! Today, I’m excited to welcome Chris Calandra to the show to discuss ALL things dating and relationships. Chris is a marriage and family therapist, life and dating coach, and most recently, the founder of The Therapy Bro, a platform for helping men educate themselves and connect with their emotions. We’re not wasting any time getting into what is going wrong for so many of us. Should you make the first move? Is it OK to have a type? Is there really just one person out there? And, to what degree should you give someone a chance when that attraction isn’t there? Let’s find out!

We’re diving into:

Which dating rules are detrimental & which one is MOST important
Why you shouldn’t be looking for “your other half” & what to look for instead
Chris’ journey from addiction to therapist & how he found his way to Los Angeles
Why an abundance mindset is crucial for the dating scene
How Disney screwed us when it comes to relationship expectations
Why being different is often misunderstood as “crazy”
Boundary setting: Why it’s necessary & when to set them
Why he thinks statistically, it will work out for you
And much more with The Therapy Bro!

Connect with Chris:

https://www.thetherapybro.com/

Instagram: the_therapy_bro

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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As an artist, it can be hard to separate work from life, creating from being, in order to leave room for relationships and love. Inspiration is all around and the drive to create is ever present! But sometimes it overpowers everything else.

So, what can you do about it? How can you work through it? What can you be mindful of so your relationships don’t take a back seat to your art? And how can you make room (not leave room) for love before love decides to leave you?

This is what I'm diving into today and I’m honored to be joined by Melissa Shepherd-Williams. Melissa is a former colleague at CalArts, a fellow marriage and family therapist, author, and teacher. She is here to share her wisdom and experience with us from working with artists and being a creative herself. This is such a rich conversation, full of insight and warmth and I hope you’ll join us, listen in, and then leave inspired to love while you create.

We’re diving into:

The uniqueness & depth that comes from working with artists
Why it can be hard for young artists to say no (But why it’s necessary!)
The tortured artist: Myth or reality? Does it have to be a struggle to be good?
What’s driving artists to seek therapy
Can two artists make it work together? Is there hope for these relationships?
How to develop an intimate relationship with rest
Art as an expression of you, not ALL of you
Melissa’s books, Living Deliciously & From Burnout to Bliss (linked below!)
And SO much more

Connect with Melissa:

https://www.melissamshepherd.com/

Check out Melissa’s books!

Living Deliciously: https://www.melissamshepherd.com/shop/p/living-deliciously-recipes-to-welcome-joy-into-our-lives

From Burnout to Bliss: https://www.melissamshepherd.com/shop/p/living-deliciously-recipes-to-welcome-joy-into-our-lives-l2ct5-5njpz-n5jj7-zldwk

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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Do you know what’s on your relationship menu? Are the options different if you’re dating someone, getting exclusive with them, or married? Should they be different?

Have you thought about your values and boundaries within your relationships? What you’re planning to say Yes to and what will get a No?

It’s time my friends. No matter what stage your relationship is in, and especially if you’re not in one at all, it’s time to figure out what you want, what you’re willing to offer, and how that will change as the relationship evolves.

And I can help you do it!

Today, on In Service To Love, I’m getting into an exploration of roles in relationships and specifically how our role changes between phases: from dating to becoming exclusive to then committing long-term to each other, often through marriage. I’m talking about intentions. I’m talking about expectations. I’m talking about values. These things matter! So, let’s get into it!

I’m diving into:

An easy exercise in deciding what your top values are
The difficulty of dating outside of your own faith group, is there room for compromise?
Why I encourage everyone, especially women, to date more than one person at a time
How you can date from a place of intention, no matter what your values are
A look at the structure within relationships
The different levels of commitment between men and women
Why exclusivity should look vastly different from dating
And more!

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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What is the difference between spirituality and religion - are they the same, do they go hand in hand, or are they worlds apart?

How does Christianty fit into the modern world?

I’m getting into ALL of this today. And I’m not doing it alone!

I’m excited to welcome my brother, Roosevelt Dorn, to the show today as my first guest on In Service To Love. Roosevelt is a devout Chrsitian, preacher, and author of the upcoming book Oops, I Forgot About God. Join us for a powerful discussion on religion and spirituality, where love fits into both, and his perspective on religion’s relationship to Spirit. We’re not holding back! So, come listen in and then join the conversation!

We’re diving into:

Religion v. spirituality: What’s the difference? Does one have more value?
Is there still a point to religion these days?
Where does religion fit within therapy: Does it even have a place?
What will draw people back into the church to stay
Where the search for non-stop pleasure may lead
How faith in God means waiting on God’s timing, not yours
Roosevelt’s take on reincarnation, crystals, and energy after death
How love is defined in Christianity and the attributes it produces
And much more!

Connect with Roosevelt: SaintRoose@gmail.com

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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It’s the holiday season, friends! Food, family, and fun! But not always, right? Holidays can be messy, even with the ones you love. Especially with the ones we call family.

No matter the holiday you’re celebrating, today’s episode can help you get through it! I’m sharing 5 tips to thriving (not just surviving!) this holiday season. Listen now and save it for the future: Christmas, New Years, or even the next wedding. Trust me on this! Sad holiday gatherings are not going to fix your problems or the world’s. So, listen in and learn how to show up with more acceptance, more grace, and a whole lot less pressure! We only get so many gatherings. Let’s get you out of your own way so this holiday season can be filled with more joy and more LOVE!

I’m diving into:

The conversations you should have BEFORE you get there
Easy examples of self-care measures you can take during the planning phase and even when you’re visiting
Why expectations matter and how you can adjust yours
How you can set your boundaries and still be appropriate!
What’s to come from me: New client openings? More classes? Come find out!
Plus more!

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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Are you overwhelmed by parenting? Do you feel it taking over your whole life, leaving you tired, overwhelmed, but yet still FULL of love for those kids? I get it. Parenting is a lot. It can be demanding, emotional, joyous, messy, ALL THE THINGS, am I right? So, let’s talk about it.

Today’s episode goes out to all of you over-functioning parents and caregivers; the ones that are trying to be everywhere at once (and on time!), the ones working hard to provide and care for their children and working even harder to raise responsible, kind individuals. If this sounds like you, I can help! If you’re wanting more love and appreciation from those kids, listen up! Today I’m exploring person v. parent. I’m looking at how we can be more balanced and developed in our role as a person, outside of parenting, and how this ultimately benefits our children (and us!) now and in the future.

I’m diving into:

How kids first learn relationship skills and the language of emotions
Why it's OK GOOD to let your kids know they have an impact on you
One of the main reasons we have anxious or over-functioning children in the world
What I’ve witnessed in my work with artists and creatives: What it is they really want
Your responsibilities as a person & as a parent: Are they the same?
What your resentment level can tell you about your separation level (It’s all about that balance!)
How I can help you re-engage and connect to yourself
What teenagers need us to model for them & why
And much more!

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

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Are you wanting to practice spirituality but don’t know where to start? Maybe you’re wanting to break free from what you were taught about your intuition, the universe, or spirituality in religion, but you’re not sure how. We’ve all heard these terms thrown around, but what do they mean? What does it actually mean to connect to your spirituality or be in relationship with Spirit?

Well, look no further, because I’m getting into ALL of it today! I’m breaking it down into three parts so YOU can decide what Spirit means for you and get started TODAY on living your life with more flow, more alignment, and a much deeper connection to Love and Self. I’m here to tell you that you’re never too far away from Spirit and Love. They’re always available to you! So, let’s get you connected!

I’m diving into:

How ego can be misinterpreted as Spirit and how to tell the difference
How a lack of connection can show up in our body (Do any of these ring true for you?)
How you might be receiving (or missing!) messages from Spirit in your life
How the question of free will impacts our connection to Spirit and Self
How looking at life with a perspective of “I am loved” and “I am not alone” can change everything for you
Plus much more!

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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Sign me up for LOVE!

We all need it. We all want it. We all long to keep it. And many of us risk BIG to have it. But we can get it wrong. We can lose it. We all have missteps. And it can get messy, right? Well, that’s what I’m here to talk about. As a marriage & family therapist, I’ve seen how simple, good love can be and it’s my purpose and deepest joy to spread love and put love into action.

Join me for the very first episode of In Service to Love. I’m your host, Randé Dorn, and I’m here to help YOU get what you want out of your relationships, out of your life! Whether you’re stuck wanting more and never quite satisfied or you find yourself making big gestures only to be left feeling empty, I can help! Let’s get into the nitty gritty of it and expand ourselves through meaningful conversations. It’s a big step for me, but I can’t wait to be in service to love, here, with you.

I’m diving into:

WHY I started this podcast: my vision for the show, for my listeners, and for the world
WHO I’m here to help: If you want love, have love, or lost love - I’m here for you!
WHAT kind of love I’m talking about: Kids or spouses? Partners or parents? Friends or family?
HOW art and love are connected: How can creative couples create love together? How my background as an artist impacts my work today.
And much more!

Connect with me:

Website: https://www.randedorncoachingcreatives.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/RandeDornTherapyLA/

FB: https://www.facebook.com/randedorntherapy

Email: Inservicetolovepodcast@gmail.com

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