The Gutsy Ladies Podcast: Recent Episodes
Bella Reynolds
Are you ready to plan and live your next chapter with clarity, confidence and ease?
As a qualified life coach, I support midlife women to design a life they don’t even want to retire from. It’s time to stop grinding your way through, and start the glide.
Ask yourself: what else could I achieve? Because I’m going to show you that there is more waiting for you.
What actually isThe Gutsy Ladies Club?
You hear me talk about it all the time in my podcast and in this newsletter, so in this week's episode, I wanted to really explain to you what The Gutsy Ladies Club is (and isn't!).
To claim your free 48 hour trial to The Gutsy Ladies Club, go to bellareynolds.com.au/gutsy-ladiesand click on the very first link when you arrive.
In this episode, I share:
- a live snippet from one of our group coaching sessions, so you can listen to a real coaching conversation
- the reasons I think The Club has been so transformational for the Gutsy Ladies inside it
- a breakdown of exactly what is included in the membership
To claim your free 48 hour trial, go to bellareynolds.com.au/gutsy-ladies
I want to continue the conversation where my episode on financial shame left off.
So many midlifers come to me saying they don't have enough money to live their best midlife and beyond, and my first port of call is to encourage them to change their mindset and ask "How can I afford my dream midlife and beyond?"
In this episode, I talk about:
- Moving from the statement "I cannot afford" to a questionL "How can I afford?" and how this is the key to getting unstuck
- Making sure you do your numbers – "affording" is all about information and choices
- The number one habit to make this all happen
To claim a time for a free discovery call, go to bellareynolds.com.au/chat
To download my free guide on dealing with retirement denial, go to bellareynolds.com.au/retirement
To find a copy of my Statement of Position template, go to bellareynolds.com.au/net-worth
I've mentioned in previous episodes that about five years ago, I had such severe burn out that I literally couldn't get up off the couch.
I've never fully shared the story though, not in detail, so in this episode, I talk about:
- the three reasons I think burning out was one of the best things to happen to me
- the number one symptom to watch out for in yourself and others, because this one is easy to miss
- the first three things to do if you think you're burning out, or have been there and not fully healed
To claim a time for a free discovery call, go to bellareynolds.com.au/chat
To download my free mini ebook on burn out, go to bellareynolds.com.au/burnout
To register for my free webinar series on getting unstuck, go to bellareynolds.com.au/get-unstuck
About a year ago, I started working with a running coach in preparation for my ultramarathon – and he gave me some tools that changed my life.
You've maybe heard me talk about epigenetics on this podcast before, but in this episode I want to go a bit deeper, because I have decided to incorporate this tool into my business (as well as my personal life)!
So in this episode, I talk about:
- how the generic, one-size-fits-all approach to health is finally disappearing
- the #1 reason to consider using epigenetic profiling in midlife
- 3 ways my epigenetics profile continues to help me glide in midlife
To register for my free webinar series on getting unstuck, go to bellareynolds.com.au/get-unstuck
To find out more about my group coaching program that kicks off in September, the Grind to Glide Accelerator, go to bellareynolds.com.au/accelerator
If you've been around for a little while, you will no doubt have heard me talk about "grinding" and "gliding" through midlife.
I've had a few women reach out for some clarity on this idea, so in this episode, I talk about:
- three signs that you're grinding your way through midlife
- how gliding (the opposite of "grinding") feels
- the three things to do to stop grinding and start gliding from today
To register for my FREE webinar series on getting unstuck, go to bellareynolds.com.au/get-unstuck
Limiting beliefs are what keep us from having the life we want. I honestly truly, truly believe that. And a huge part of limiting beliefs – where I see this come up again and again for my clients – is about money.
So in this episode, I talk about:
- the two reasons negative money beliefs can keep you grinding your gears
- the five most common negative money beliefs to watch out for and why they are so insidious
- the number one money belief to change to and why it is such a game changer
To register for my webinar series on getting unstuck, go to bellareynolds.com.au/get-unstuck-webinar
To find out if you have retirement denial, go to bellareynolds.com.au/retirement
I get told by a lot of Gutsy Ladies, "I don't know what I want... I just don't want this any more." And honestly, that's great!
We need to pay attention to these clues, because what we want is simply the opposite of what we don't want – it's just that we often cannot see that! So in this episode, I talk about:
- the three reasons why not knowing what you want is a great starting point
- how "I don't know" is just another way that we keep ourselves stuck
- four examples of turning a "don't want" into a "want"
To register for my webinar series on getting unstuck, go to bellareynolds.com.au/get-unstuck-webinar
To find out if you have retirement denial, go to bellareynolds.com.au/retirement
As a Big Zero Birthday gets closer, we can start to think of it as a line in the sand. But if we haven't met our own expectations of who we'd be by that birthday, then these birthdays can hold a lot of extra weight.
So in this episode, I want to show you how to think of these birthdays (or any milestones) with enthusiasm, not something to get down about. I talk about:
- the three reasons we find Big Zero Birthdays either really motivating or really depressing
- the biggest mistake I find grinding midlifers are making as they approach big birthdays (or any milestones)
- the three things your plan must include to glide into your next decade
To find out more about my minicourse on figuring out what you want to be "when you grow up", go to bellareynolds.com.au/real-goals
To find out if you have retirement denial, go to bellareynolds.com.au/retirement
Thinking you can't afford to retire brings forward actions that only lead to that exact result. Financial shame is keeping far too many midlife women stuck and grinding!
So in this episode, I want to show you how to use one simple tool to start getting unstuck and start to glide through midlife with financial dignity. I talk about:
- how the shame about not having enough money stops so many women from making plans that will get them where they want to be
- the three ways financial shame could be showing up in your life, so that you can identify if this is what's going on for you
- the tool I personally used to start taking control - and a free downloadable for you to take you from shame to dignity
To download the free Statement of Position template, go to bellareynolds.com.au/net-worth
I often say that knowing where you want to go is more than half the battle, but truth be told, having a plan doesn’t fix everything!
I want to introduce you to Ms. Frustrated, a client of mine. Ms F, as I call her in this episode, came to me when she started to feel like life was getting in the way of her reaching her new goals – and wanted some coaching on what to do about that. So in this episode, I chat about:
- the critical difference between being the driver of the bus and being the conductor of the bus
- the six key habit-change elements I want you to reflect on and understand so you can tackle your own goals
- the tool I invented for my own habit change journey, and the one I introduce all my clients to in our first session
To download the free New You Triad worksheet, go to bellareynolds.com.au/new-you-triad
When I hit that "empty nest" phase of my life, I realised that this niggling feeling in the back of my head was actually loneliness.
Loneliness isn't something we talk about a lot – most of us don't really want to admit that we feel lonely, especially when we're surrounded by friends and family and stillfeel lonely. So in this week’s episode, I talk about:
- the three reasons I felt lonely when I realised I wanted to live differently in midlife
- the three ways you can address the feeling of loneliness (including my own story of working through this journey)
- my one key tip to minimise the feeling of loneliness
For my freebie all about burn out, go to bellareynolds.com.au/burnout
To find out more about my upcoming Biology Reset retreat, go to bellareynolds.com.au/biology-reset and book in for a free discovery call to learn if it's right to you.
I've had a lot of questions about epigenetics – what is it, why I swear by it – so I wanted to use this episode to address your FAQs.
You may have heard in previous episodes I often speak about how much learning about my epigenetics profile has changed my life. So in this week’s episode, I talk about:
- what epigenetics actually is and why it's so exciting for midlife women wanting to take charge of their health
- the three key areas where the knowledge of epigenetics has already improved my life – and how easy it has been to implement some changes
- where to go if you're keen to learn more about your own epigenetics
To find out more about the Biology Reset retreat, go to freedominvestornetwork.com/biology-reset-vip and feel free to book in for a free discovery call to learn if it's right to you.
For my freebie all about burn out, go to bellareynolds.com.au/burnout
This is one of the most commonly uttered statements for midlife! Does that surprise you?
Well, I have a slightly different way of thinking about this – I want to challenge you to park this fear if you are not in your peak physical health, and address that instead. So in this week’s episode, I talk about:
- three key reasons why our physical health is linked to our overall life satisfaction (even though you know these already!)
- the quickest way to kickstart your physical health journey
- why I believe in "retreating" and how to include it in your life
To find out more about the Biology Reset retreat, go to freedominvestornetwork.com/biology-reset-vip and feel free to book in for a free discovery call to learn if it's right to you.
For my freebie all about burn out, go to bellareynolds.com.au/burnout
The things we consider "mistakes" or "failures" often stop us from moving forward – and the fear of maybe failing is just as lethal!
So in this week’s episode, I talk about:
- one of my own fairly monumental stuff-ups!
- the one practice that will change how you live and see yourself in the wake of a mistake
- three failsafe tips for helping you deal with a mistake
To find out more about my new minicourse, go to bellareynolds.com.au/real-goals – why not spend an hour this weekend having a play? It may be the best hour of your week!
For my freebie all about retirement denial, go to bellareynolds.com.au/retirement
Wow, this topic! Every time I talk about retirement with my midlife women, it unleashes a slew of emotions – mostly negative ones.
While some women are excited about the prospect of retirement, others are sure they never want to stop working or can't stop working. So in this week’s episode, I talk about:
- checking your mindset about retirement (or as I like to call it, my "freedom years")
- how preparation and reflection are the opposite to denial – and a few limiting beliefs you may face
- my three tips for thinking about your own freedom years
To do some of my free reflection activities about retirement denial, go to bellareynolds.com.au/retirement
The old adage that "seeing is believing" may be true, but I also know the power of believing in seeing – that is, in the power of visualisation.
Over the thousands of hours I have coached people, helping them to actually see what it is they want is at least half the battle... maybe more than half!
So in this week’s episode, I talk about:
- how we are so sure that we don't know what we want – and how that's rubbish!
- how to tap into our subconscious to realise our deep desires (it's not as "woo woo" as it sounds!)
- three things to build into a visualisation exercise to ensure it's effective
To find out more about my new minicourse, go to bellareynolds.com.au/real-goals Why not spend an hour this weekend having a play? It may be the best hour of your week!
For my freebie all about burn-out, go to bellareynolds.com.au/retirement
The smoke screen behind me doing this ultramarathon was actually all about my confidence.
A common reason I hear from my grinding Gutsy Ladies about why they are feeling stuck is because “I don't have the confidence to make the next step”. I recognise this – I've said it and felt is myself.
So in this week’s episode, I talk about:
- the ironic first step in rebuilding your confidence after a set-back or just time wears you down
- reframing opportunities and dreams in a way that you feel confident about
- my model of REAL Goals and how it's going to be a gamechanger for your confidence levels
To find out more about my affordable new minicourse about R.E.A.L. goals, go to bellareynolds.com.au/real-goals
For my freebie all about burn-out, go to bellareynolds.com.au/burnout
When I work with clients, it’s always interesting to hear how long it takes for them to use the word “should” – as in “I should just go to the gym” or “I should really be happy with what I have”.
The word “should” is so pernicious because it shows that we have outsourced our goals and desires – we’ve let other people become the expert of our life.
In this week’s episode, I talk about:
- where our shoulding starts and where we lose the feeling that we are the expert in our lives
- the difference between a "should" goal and a R.E.A.L. goal
- how to stop shoulding, start wanting, and become the expert in your own life
To find out more about my affordable new minicourse about R.E.A.L. goals, go to bellareynolds.com.au/real-goals
For my freebie all about burn-out, go to bellareynolds.com.au/burnout
Fearing that we are not enough often fuels us to people please or work towards certain markers of success that can lead us directly into full-blown burn out. And while many of us were raised to put others before ourselves, if you are stuck pleasing everyone else before yourself, you are not going to take the time to live your best life. And a Gutsy Lady is focused on her best life! In this episode, I talk about: * why the fear of not being enough leads to people pleasing and unattainable ideas of success * some practices that can help you recognise your patterns and change your thinking * how to start actually finding ways to please yourself in a safe and self-caring way
To download my workbook on dealing with burn out, go to bellareynolds.com.au/burnout
As a newly anointed mother-in-law, I have been thinking a lot about my own experience entering a family as a daughter-in-law and the layers of family business and succession planning. So in this episode, I discuss: * three tips for matriarchs to navigate succession planning in a family business – especially a family business on the land * what characteristics to seek out in someone who will help you through the process * why now is not the time to defer your dreams and urges for something new or different
To download my free guide about retirement planning, go to bellareynolds.com.au/retirement
Welcome to my Fear Series! I'll be sharing insights into the fears I hear most often come up with my clients... in the hope that it may show you just how normal your own are
So in this episode, I discuss:
- how deferring to others for their opinions is a habit many of us got into an an incredibly early age
- what happens when you realise you want something entirely different to your current life
- three simple tips to stop being so afraid of what other people think
- a practice you can start bringing in today to help you connect with what you want
To download my free guide about burn out, go to bellareynolds.com.au/burnout
I was blindsided in my mid-40s with the realisation I wasn't anywhere near where I needed to be financially.
With bugger all superannuation, I made a few choices that have gotten me to where I am 10 years later: well and truly on my retirement pathway. In this episode, I want to share with you five things I wish I had known at 45, and also, I want to:
- remind you that it's never too late... but that sooner is always going to better
- call out the myth that superannuation is the only way to retire, and that retirement happens at 67
- discuss how retirement is not all or nothing – I'll share about active, hybrid and phased retirements
- highlight the potency of remembering that you can choose what you want
Download my free guide to getting on the same page about retirement at bellareynolds.com.au/retirement
Most people actually do know what they need to do to be healthy. The challenge is actually not knowing how.
That's because there's so much behind the reason we want physical changes, but we stop at the surface level. In this episode, I share:
- the number one reason that wanting to just lose weight is a dead end
- what most midlife women are Googling (ie. you are normal!)
- why and how to get to the heart of your weight loss desires
To download your free 5 Whys worksheet, go to bellareynolds.com.au/5-whys
In this week’s edition of The Gutsy Ladies Podcast, I really wanted to address blindsidings that are unfortunately all too common in midlife – the things that seem to come from no where and disrupt everything we thought was true.
In this episode, I talk about:
- what I mean by "blindsiding" and why I think it hurts more in midlife
- my number one tip to get unstuck after a blindsiding
- my own story of being blindsided in midlife
To download the free guide I mention about turning your blindsiding into a blinding success story, go to bellareynolds.com.au/blindsided
When we talk about midlife, we most often hear talk of menopause symptoms, like hot flashes, weight gain and lack of sleep.
But I want to talk about three environmental things that can trip us up in midlife – and they're all well within our control.
In this episode, I talk about:
- How unrealised crap can come back to bite you in your downtime
- The concept of active boredom and how to recognise it in yourself
- Three non-woo woo mindfulness techniques that could help you
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Are you starting to think about retirement, but your husband isn't on board? Download my free guide to get on the same page with this next chapter of your lives. Go to bellareynolds.com.au/retirement
How many times have you used the phrase "first world problem" to dismiss someone's concern about something? Let me guess: you use it far more often to dismiss your OWN concerns!
In this episode, I talk about:
- Why not accepting the reality of your circumstances is leading to guilt
- 3 little things you can start doing from today to start playing bigger
- How and why to start playing your big
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In seven days, you’ll know how to make over your health, wealth and relationships.
Do you ever feel like grabbing a friend and just running away – hang the consequences?!
Thelma & Louise is one of my favourite films, but even if you haven't watched it, I think you'll resonate with plenty of this episode!
In this episode, I talk about:
- learning emotional management skills and feeling out of control
- the single habit I would have coached Thelma and Louise through so the movie didn't have to end the way it does!
- finding ways to "run away" in a healthy, self-caring way
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Have you joined my free Habit Reinvention Challenge? If not, why not?! Go to bellareynolds.com.au/habits
In seven days, you’ll know how to make over your health, wealth and relationships.
When we get to this midlife period, we are coming into the transition when – in its most primal and basic sense – we stop producing eggs.
In this episode, I talk about:
- the actual definition of crone – and how it's been sadly usurped by the Disney world!
- the importance of being kind to ourselves during this time (and always!)
- how to move forward (and glide) whatever your circumstances – partnered, unpartnered, with children, without children
- what could be next for you if you can learn to embrace this next chapter
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Have you joined my free Habit Reinvention Challenge? If not, why not?! Go to bellareynolds.com.au/habits
In seven days, you’ll know how to make over your health, wealth and relationships.
Most of us would never dream of speaking to someone the way we speak to ourselves. So in this week’s episode of The Gutsy Ladies Podcast I wanted to cover a few things:
- the role of your inner critic and it's path to self-destruction
- where your inner critic comes from
- the role of your own best friend or inner coach (the antidote!)
- the biochemical cocktail of self compassion
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Have you joined my free Habit Reinvention Challenge? If not, why not?! Go to bellareynolds.com.au/habits
In seven days, you’ll know how to make over your health, wealth and relationships.
This is a really cool opportunity for me to share some information I get about all the time. The question I get asked is "why would I engage a life coach?" or "what's the difference between a therapist and a life coach?".
So in this episode, I'll share:
- how you might work with a psychologist and/or a life coach
- three things to watch out for in yourself that might mean a life coach is the right person to add to your team
- how a life coach could help you at this stage in your journey to levelling up
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Have you joined my free Habit Reinvention Challenge? If not, why not?! Go to bellareynolds.com.au/habits
In seven days, you’ll know how to make over your health, wealth and relationships.
It feels funny to say, but women habitually drinking alcohol after work is the best thing for my business! Because when women notice this habit in themselves, that's when they reach out for support.
This is not a criticism or judgment of drinking alcohol – I'm certainly no teetotaler! – but when it's a salve for a negative emotional habit loop, it's not doing you any favours. And that's what I want to talk about.
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Have you joined my free Habit Reinvention Challenge? If not, why not?! Go to bellareynolds.com.au/habits
In seven days, you’ll know how to make over your health, wealth and relationships.
In this episode of Gutsy Ladies, I give you a real behind-the-scenes, totally honest look at my journey with decreasing oestrogen.
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Have you joined my free Habit Reinvention Challenge? If not, why not?!
Go to bellareynolds.com.au/habits
In seven days, you’ll know how to make over your health, wealth and relationships.
This is one of my favourite topics to talk about – because when we recognise that we're doing this, it's a massive "aha!" moment. When I work with clients on this, it's often the breakthrough we need to help them get to the next level in their life.
So in this episode of The Gutsy Ladies podcast, I explore the signs that maybe you're waiting for permission to live the life of your dreams... without even realising you're doing it.
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Have you joined my free Habit Reinvention Challenge? If not, why not?!
Go to bellareynolds.com.au/habits
In seven days, you’ll know how to make over your health, wealth and relationships.
Where are the mothers groups for midlife women? Why do we have support when we're rearing our children, but in midlife, we don't naturally seek out that support?
In this first episode of The Gutsy Ladies podcast, I explore why women need other women to help them navigate midlife well – and where to start if you're looking for your midlife equivalent of the mothers group.
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Have you joined my free Habit Reinvention Challenge? If not, why not?! Go to bellareynolds.com.au/habitsIn seven days, you’ll know how to make over your health, wealth and relationships.