We can take the fears, anxiety and guilt and learn from it. Becoming a mother is the perfect time to heal old wounds, resolve issues, release old thought patterns, get to know ourselves and what we really want on a whole new level.
So I set about working out how to fit in everything I knew to do - self-care, inner reflection, therapy and meditation with being a mum.
This week’s guest is Dr. Tara Swart. Tara is a medical doctor, a neuroscientist, a psychiatrist, a lecturer at MIT, a business coach - and she’s also the author of the best-selling book, ‘The Source’.
Tara teaches people how to apply lessons from neuroscience and behavioural psychology in simple and achievable ways to enhance our everyday lives for the better.
In the episode, Tara shares about how we have the power to create whatever we want in our life through understanding how the brain works. We talk about how so many of us are living on autopilot and not asking ourselves the profound question, 'What do I really want out of life?'.
We also talk about the science behind the law of attraction, manifestation, journalling and gratitude, which are all tools we explore regularly here on the podcast.
This felt like such a timely conversation to have - here in the UK, we have just gone back into lockdown so speaking with Tara was a real gift. I hope you find it helpful.
As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.
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ABOUT DR. TARA SWART
Dr. Tara Swart is a neuroscientist, medical doctor, executive advisor, Senior Lecturer at MIT Sloan, and author of best-seller ‘The Source’ which has translations in 36 global territories.
Tara is passionate about disseminating simple, pragmatic neuroscience-based messages that change the way people live and work. She personally advises a small number of individuals via personal recommendation only, and speaks at major conferences globally.
You can find out more about Tara and her work via her website. You can also connect with Tara on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
I have a fantastic episode for you this week. I’m speaking with Laurie Gerber, who is an Executive and Senior Coach at the Handel Group, which is one of the world’s leading coaching businesses. The Handel Group work with some of the world’s top celebrities, including Eva Longoria and Hugh Jackman.
Laurie works with clients to maximise their ability to thrive across every single area of their life. Laurie shares her own story and how she came to this work after realising there was an area in her own life that needed unlocking before she could be fully empowered to live the life she dreamed.
We talk a lot about empowerment during the episode and how to become the person you were meant to be. We also talk about how we can ‘alchemise’ the way that we were parented and show up for our children differently.
I was really inspired by Laurie’s message – I think you’ll be able to hear the symmetry and energy between us in our conversation and I hope you enjoy the episode! As always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so do come and join us there.
You can download a transcript of this week’s episode here.
Key takeaway’s from this week’s episode:
How Laurie Started Her Coaching Career:
Going Back to Your Roots:
The Problem with Lying:
The Lack of Sense of Humour:
How to Start Becoming Self-Aware:
How Laurie’s Parenting Changed:
Laurie’s Realisations from The Handel Method:
On Mass Awakening:
Thoughts About the Pandemic:
Laurie’s Relationship with Her Kids:
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ABOUT LAURIE
Laurie Gerber is an executive and senior coach at the Handel Group. Her coaching career started when she tried out The Handel Method herself. She is passionate about maximising her clients’ ability to thrive across all areas of life through the Handel coaching process.
To know more about Laurie and her work at Handel Group, check out her page. You can also connect with her through LinkedIn.
After reading The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did), I knew I had to get Philippa Perry on the podcast. She is a renowned psychotherapist, author, journalist, and television presenter, and the wife of artist Grayson Perry.
In this episode, she helps us unpack what gets in the way of connecting with our children.
She would like children to be able to tell their parents absolutely anything. And, as parents, she says it could be dangerous to close that down. If we can have a strong healthy connection with our kids, the future can take care of itself.
We dig into:
There is so much heart and wisdom in this exchange with Philippa. I hope you can feel it too.
CHILDREN REMIND US OF WHAT HAPPENED TO US AT THE SAME AGE
- Philippa PerryAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.
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ABOUT PHILIPPA PERRY
After volunteering with the Samaritans, Philippa trained as a psychotherapist. She worked in the mental health field for several years before writing her graphic novel, Couch Fiction which lays bare the process of psychotherapy. Her recent book, The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will Be Glad That You Did), was a Number One Sunday Times bestseller.
As well as continuing her psychotherapy work with an organisation called Talk for Health, Philippa is also an agony aunt for Red Magazine and contributes to The Guardian newspaper. She has presented several documentaries including The Truth about Children Who Lie for BBC Radio 4, Being Bipolar for Channel 4 and How To Be A Surrealist with Philippa Perry for BBC Four.
I have a beautiful conversation for you today with Dr. Jessamy Hibberd. She is a clinical psychologist, a speaker, and best selling author.
We chat about her approach to happiness and managing the mind, and we take a deep dive into her new book The Imposter Cure and how to challenge our imposter voice.
I wonder if you experienced imposter syndrome? I know I have. I actually think many of us experience it whether at work or home or both.
The ideas we discuss feel transformational, moving us past this idea that we are a fraud and into this idea that we are just a human doing your best with good days and bad days as everyone else.
If you are listening and thinking about a friend who is perhaps experiencing imposter syndrome and you wish they could see how untrue that is, please do share this episode. I really hope you enjoy it.
We chat about:
Is this is a thought or a feeling rather than a fact?- Dr. Jessamy HibberdAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.
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FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.
Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.
ABOUT DR. JESSEMY HIBBERD
Dr Jessamy is a clinical psychologist, author and mother of three. She lives in Hove by the sea and loves spending time on the beach with her family and dog Nellie, as well as cycling in the South Downs.
Jessamy has written eight books, including The Imposter Cure described by the Sunday Times as “the definitive guide to tackling and understanding the psychological mind trap” of imposter syndrome. Her work has been translated into 17 languages and her books are sold all over the world. It was during her clinical psychology training that she realised the need to make psychology more accessible, writing the This Book Will series after qualifying. Most recently Jessamy co-authored Stars Before Bedtime, the first in a new series of before bedtime books. She is a mental health expert for Women’s Health and works as a media psychologist, regularly contributing content to popular newspapers, magazines, podcasts and radio.
Her motto is: “What we do every day makes the biggest difference. It’s small steps that lead to the greatest changes.” Something she puts into practice (you guessed it) every day. She shared this message, as well as her personal and professional experience of how to find happiness, in her TEDx talk ‘Adventure of a Lifetime.’
My guest today is internationally acclaimed meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins.
I’ve been looking forward to this conversation for a really long time having followed Light’s work for a while now. I think you’ll agree with me that he has an incredibly calming and grounding energy that I hope in turn helps you feel those qualities while you listen.
Light explains how he committed to sending out a daily dose of inspiration everyday to his email list beginning from 2016. Some of those emails have now come together in Light’s new book, Knowing Where to Look, 108 daily doses of inspiration.
We talk about the power of consistency and what it took to send out a daily email like that. And also how it is possible to find inspiration wherever we look. Light shares how we can all find inspiration just by training ourselves to look for it. I talk about that a lot, that what we focus on gets bigger. This isn’t about ignoring those challenging feelings and the hard stuff at all. We have to process that. We just also need to be able to hold the duality of focusing on what is good as well.
We chat about:
Follow the expansive voice over the contracted voice.- Light WatkinsAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.
Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.
ABOUT LIGHT WATKINS
Light Watkins first began attending yoga and meditation classes in the late 1990s in New York City while working as a fashion model. In 2003, after a chance encounter with a very gifted meditation teacher, Light felt inspired to become a meditation teacher himself.
He apprenticed with his teacher for several years in Los Angeles, and in 2007, he joined his teacher in India to be trained in the ancient ways of teaching meditation.
Since 2007, Light has personally taught thousands of people from all walks of life how to enjoy a daily meditation practice in a self-sufficient way, and he's positively impacted many more practitioners through his books, videos and popular TEDx talk on the 5 Most Common Meditation Myths.
His current book Knowing Where to Look: 108 Daily Doses of Inspiration is based on the popular daily inspiration emails that light has been sending out each morning since 2016.
This week’s guest says that we can start to feel better, more alive, and more vital in just one minute.
Richie Norton is an ex-professional rugby player turned yoga and breathwork practitioner. An injury sadly ended his sports career, but then he discovered the transformative power of yoga and breathwork and has spent the past 10 years working alongside sports teams, entrepreneurs and celebrities to help them maximise every aspect of their physical and mental health.
You might be thinking his current life set-up feels very far from ours, he is not a parent and his time is still somewhat his own, but the reason I was so keen to speak with Richie is his incredible way of making powerful well-being intentions really accessible.
I think that Richie really gets what it is like to be time-poor yet wanting to feel different and better. I love his energy and I hope you do too. Speaking with him really connected me to this incredible power that we all have to feel differently and do something no matter how short on time we are to help us feel better.
I hope after listening to this episode you feel inspired to take even just a minute to do something for yourself today.
We chat about:
Take the little moments to take a break.- Richie NortonAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.
Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.
ABOUT RICHIE NORTON
Richie Norton is an ex-professional rugby player turned yoga and breathwork practitioner. When an injury ended his sports career, he discovered the transformative power of yoga and breathwork and has spent the past 10 years working alongside sports teams, entrepreneurs and personal clients to help them maximise every aspect of their physical and mental health. The Vibe Tribe is Richie’s online community hub where he offers training advice, coaching and life hacks
Dr. Gordon Neufeld is one of the world’s leading child psychologists. I discovered his work because he co-authored a book with Gabor Mate. Who, as you know if you have been a long-time listener, has been on the podcast and has had a huge impact on me. That episode is still one of the most downloaded that we have ever had on the podcast. Gordon co-authored a book with Gabor called Hold on To Your Kids.
Scheduling this episode has been 2 years in the making. I really want to speak with the leading authorities in their field. These people are incredibly busy and hard to schedule, including this one with Gordon.
His bio is too extensive to list it all here, but briefly, he has worked as a child therapist and consultant for over 40 years, is a best-selling author, international speaker and consultant and founder of the Neufeld Institute. Dr. Neufeld’s life’s work and his passion has been to help adults provide the conditions for children to flourish. He is a father of five and a grandfather to six.
This is an incredibly powerful episode. Especially when I asked him about how I handled a situation with Jessie just earlier this week. And I think you’ll be surprised by his answer just as I was.
Light bulbs were going off for me this entire episode and I learned so much from our conversation. My main takeaway from this episode is that emotional health is messy.
So much of what we think of as good in our children is actually them repressing their big messy loud feelings and he talks brilliantly about some of the consequences of that and what happens when children start to repress their feelings when they don’t think their parents can handle it.
We chat about:
It fools us when children are no longer complaining.- Dr. Gordon NeufeldAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.
RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:
FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.
Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.
ABOUT DR. GORDON NEUFELD
Before he retired, Dr. Gordon Neufeld had accumulated more than 40 years of experience as a clinical psychologist with children and youth and those responsible for them. A foremost authority on child development, Dr. Neufeld continues to be an international speaker, a best-selling author (Hold On to Your Kids) and a leading interpreter of the developmental paradigm. Dr. Neufeld has a widespread reputation for making sense of complex problems and for opening doors for change. While formerly involved in university teaching and private practice, he has devoted the best part of the last two decades to creating courses for parents, teachers and helping professionals. These courses are offered primarily through the Neufeld Institute – an online educational institute and world-wide charitable organization devoted to applying developmental science to the task of raising children. Dr. Neufeld’s life’s work has been to help adults provide the conditions for children to flourish. He is a father of five and a grandfather to six.
Have you heard of Sophrology? No, well, I hadn’t actually either until I started preparing for this episode. And now I’ve got to say, I’m really excited about it.
Sophrology is a form of dynamic meditation practice - the Guardian calls it the “dynamic young cousin” of mindfulness - and the Independent said “While many people try and fail to reap the benefits of meditative practices, taking up Sophrology could be the key to unlocking your mind’s potential."
Dominique Antiglio is the world’s leading Sophrologist, she is a best-selling author and founder of BeSophro, a global Sophrology platform. She is also a mum to 5-year-old Elliot.
She specialises in stress management, anxiety reduction and burnout prevention. Three things that I think every mother on the planet experiences. It can be done lying down, sitting, standing up and even whilst moving, and combines breathwork, meditation, visualisation exercises and light body movement to engage both the mind and body to bring you into presence so you can better manage daily pressures.
Generally, practising it teaches you how to become more mindful of your needs, strengths, limits and your capabilities so that we can create capacity within ourselves to better manage life’s challenges.
I loved both learning about Sophrology and getting to know Dominique. She is incredibly inspiring. I think you’ll agree I found her energy really calming and grounding.
This was a very calming episode. I hope you love it. As ever, if you did please review it. Let’s get the world out there to support more mothers.
We chat about:
What are the values I want to stay connected to throughout motherhood- Dominique AntiglioAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.
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FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.
Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.
ABOUT DOMINIQUE ANTIGLIO
The world’s leading Sophrologist (a dynamic meditation specialist), a best-selling author and founder of BeSophro, a global Sophrology platform.
Dominique specialises in stress management, anxiety reduction and burn-out prevention. Her best-selling book The Life-Changing Power of Sophrology was the first widely published book on Sophrology in English and is now the leading authority on the subject.
After running a successful osteopathy practice in Switzerland and feeling lost in her career, she made the difficult decision to close her business and move to London, UK to start a new life and start her second career as a Sophrologist – a profession people had never heard of outside of a few European countries. Single-handedly, she has built up Sophrology to become part of the health and wellness mainstream, in a similar vein to mindfulness, meditation and yoga, and she continues her mission to spread the word about how the practice can benefit the world.
Dominique and her work regularly features in the likes of The Guardian, Times, Daily Telegraph, Independent, BBC, Harper’s Bazaar, ELLE, Cosmopolitan and more.
Welcome to this episode of The Motherkind podcast. This week is with Alister Gray. He is a transformational coach who infuses neuroscience, intuition, psychology, mindfulness and meditation into his coaching. He is also the founder of Mindful Talent and co-founder of Mindful Talent Training Academy, which delivers coach and leadership training and workshops to some of the biggest brands in the world.
This is a special episode for me because Alister is also my coach. I did the advanced transformational coach training with Mindful Talent. It was an incredible experience, and I still work with Alister today as part of his mastermind group.
I find Alister incredibly inspiring. A few years back, Alister realised his life was out of alignment. He looked very successful on the outside but he felt totally lost on the inside. He also felt disconnected and stressed and I know many of us including myself know what this feels like. As it is with so many people, it was his body that first started showing the signs and he shares the story in this episode. If you have ever felt like your life looks good on paper, but you don’t feel joy and connection, then this episode is going to be incredibly powerful for you.
Since then, Alister has been on a path to help others realize their real potential. Including me. I challenge you not to cry over the gift he wishes for all mothers. It’s so beautiful.
We talk about:
I followed the breadcrombs, where they were taking me and trusted as much as possible.- Alister GrayAs always, we continue the conversation over on Instagram, so come and join us there.
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FREEBIES! Find out how you can take control of your life, reconnect to you and more! Download ‘10 Ways to Reconnect to You’ and our weekly and monthly check-in on Motherkind.co.
Are you ready to find freedom from guilt? Let me help you find Freedom from Perfectionism if you are a mother who has ever felt not quite enough.
ABOUT ALISTER GRAY
Alister is a transformational coach who infuses neuroscience, intuition, psychology, mindfulness and meditation into his coaching. He is also the founder of Mindful Talent and co-founder of Mindful Talent Training Academy, which delivers coach and leadership training and workshops to some of the biggest brands in the world.
LAST FEW SPACES FOR MY GROUP PROGRAMME BEGINNING 23 JUNE
I believe never before has the need for connection, sharing and support been greater for mothers.
So, for the FIRST TIME EVER I'm launching a month-long group coaching programme.
Think of it as a boost of self-love, calm and joy setting you up perfectly for the summer break.
Spaces are limited AND I'm offering it at a massive discount (in return for feedback). It will fill up very fast - click here to secure your place in the circle.
+++ As you might know, my 121 coaching is sold out with a waitlist. I'm so passionate about supporting more mothers, I've decided I'm going to launch my first ever group programme next week, there's space for just 30 of our community - find out more and register click here +++
I’m re-releasing this important episode covering Matrescence with the wonderful Amy Taylor-Kabbaz. Amy is an author, journalist and a matrescence activist. Her latest book, ‘Mama Rising: Discovering the New You Through Motherhood’ , is brilliant and was released last year.
For the last 10 years, Amy’s work has revolved around her search for an answer to the question of what happens to a woman when she becomes a mother. Amy’s search began after not being able to find anything that described the experience she had been through in her own journey to motherhood, until she came across the word ‘matrescence’.
Matrescence means the experience of becoming a mother and the radical identify shift that goes along with it. Amy describes this in such a beautiful way – she says that when we become a mother, ‘we split in two’ – the person we used to be and the mother we are becoming. And, unless we honour that shift, we can get lost in the process of trying to figure out exactly who we are now.
I know I really relate to this, and that many of you do, too. I really enjoyed my conversation with Amy and I think you’re going to get a lot out of this episode. As always, the conversation continues over on Instagram so do come and join us there.
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ABOUT AMY
Amy Taylor-Kabbaz is a journalist, researcher, author, coach and mother. She focuses on empowering women and understanding motherhood. Amy is known for her work on matrescence and the transition that women go through as a mother. Her latest book, ‘Mama Rising: Discovering the New You Through Motherhood’, was released in December through Hay House.
To learn more about Amy and her work, head over to her website or follow Amy over on Facebook.
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With the kids finally back at school and some normalcy returning, we are all keen to keep life moving. NHS Test and Trace are encouraging all adults in England to get tested twice a week using totally free rapid Covid-19 tests, which are now available for all adults in England.
Testing is going to help prevent around 1 and 3 people who have Covid-19 but with no symptoms or knowledge they are spreading it.
It’s a fast and easy way to find out if you have Coronavirus, with results in around 30 minutes. You can order tests to your home or go to a test site or participating pharmacies.
For more information and guidance online go to nhs.uk/gettested
The more of us who take part the more we can help protect each other.