Health & Wellbeing Archives - Let's Parent on Purpose: Recent Episodes
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What do you when fear grips you up in the middle of the night? Pastor Louie Giglio joins me today for a transparent conversation on anxiety, depression, and worry. He shares his personal struggles, research on real and imagined fears, and most importantly, the pathway to peace through Jesus. We talk about our own seasons of anxiety and how Jesus gives us worship as a tool to combat the doubts in the night. Finally, Louie shares about the confidence we can have in Jesus to carry our worries, since he has already carried our sin.
Louie Giglio is Pastor of Passion City Church and Original Visionary of the Passion movement, which exists to call a generation to leverage their lives for the fame of Jesus. Since 1997, Passion Conferences has gathered collegiate-aged young people in events across the US and around the world. Most recently, Passion 2022 hosted 55,000 students and leaders.
Louie is the national-bestselling author of over a dozen books including his newest release, Winning the War on Worry. An Atlanta native and graduate of Georgia State University, Louie has done post-graduate work at Baylor University and holds a master’s degree from Southwestern Baptist Theological Seminary. Louie and Shelley make their home in Atlanta.
Resources Mentioned:
- Louie Giglio’s recent trilogy of books:Winning the War on WorryDon’t Give the Enemy a Seat at Your TableAt the Table with Jesus
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Today we are celebrating episode 300 of Let’s Parent on Purpose! I am joined today by both of my sons, Elijah and Micah Holland. The boys share what it was like to go through leukemia, relapse, and then bone marrow transplant together. We talk about worries, struggles, and the picture of Christ we find in bone marrow transplant. Additionally I share about the future of Let’s Parent on Purpose, including the beginning of the 127 Project to grow the outreach of Let’s Parent on Purpose and to take care of orphans. On this day of celebration, I want to say a big Thank You to every listener, supporter, and guest I’ve spent time with in the last 300 episodes. Parenting is a marathon, not a sprint, and we are all better with intentional investment in our marriage, parenting, and walk with Jesus. Thanks for sticking around for the first 300, I look forward to the next 300!
Elijah and Micah Holland are the sons of Jay and Emily Holland. In 2014 Elijah was diagnosed with Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia. After 3.5 years of treatment and 4 years off of chemo, Elijah relapsed in September of 2021. By God’s grace, his brother (and bunkmate) Micah was a Perfect Sibling Match as a bone marrow donor. In the spring of 2022, Micah gave over one liter of his bone marrow to save his brother’s life. Today both boys are healthy and thriving as they catch up on school, play in the church band together, and try to avoid emptying the dishwasher and cleaning their room.
Resources Mentioned:
- LPOP 1 It’s a Marathon
- Episode 235 Finding a Mission in Chemotherapy with Elijah Holland
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There is a general principle that states that 70% of our learning comes from experience, 20% from the people in our lives, and 10% from formalized instruction and book education. Today I reflect on how these truths might impact the way we parent and approach spiritual development in our households and churches.
Resources Mentioned:
- What is the 70 20 10 Model in Learning and Development?
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How do you measure a good day? What are the things you can control when everything feels out of control? As we walked through a month of ICU hospitalization with our son for his bone marrow transplant, he was unable to even leave his room for 28 days. To keep from focusing on the isolation and sickness, we developed a plan to measure a “good day”. No matter what happened in a day, if we could do most of these things, we can say that it was a day well spent. A good day. On todays episode, I walk through the following list, explaining how these items helped the doctors describe my son’s mindset as “the model patient”. If these items work for you in an isolated hospital, you can trust they will help you make the most of the blessedly “normal” days in your life as well!
What makes up a Good Day?
- Time with God
- Train my body – move!
- Eat intentionally
- Encourage someone
- Learn something
- Play
- Talk to a friend
- Tell people I love them
This is the third episode in my “Upside Down Insights” series. Birthed out of our bone marrow transplant journey, these are insights God has given me as our world turned upside down.
Resources Mentioned* Sign Up for My Things For Thursday Email * If you like this episode, check out Centering on Christ in the Midst of Chaos with Virgil Tanner
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Fear of failure as a parent can paralyze a mom or dad. In my new “What if…?” series I look at the reality of our parental failure through the lens of the gospel. We talk about:
- Why many of our failures don’t matter
- The reality that there will be many times when you really blow it
- How to view your failure in the light of the gospel.
Failure is not the last word, and God can use our worst moments to shape some of the best character qualities in our children.
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According to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, about 74 percent of adults in the United States are overweight. After 10 years of marriage and five pregnancies, Amber Lia, a former college athlete and recreational bodybuilder, found herself to be one of them. Feeling ashamed of her physical state and knowing that she could and should do better—for herself, her husband, and her children—she embarked on a journey to reclaim her health, one unhealthy pattern at a time. We discuss her journey to spiritual and physical health, understanding the importance of your “why”, identifying food triggers, and learning to replace unhealthy habits with healthy ones.
Amber Lia is an independent certified health coach who has been on her own transformative health journey. She has written and coauthored several books, including Marriage Triggers and the bestselling parenting book, Triggers. A former high-school English teacher, Amber is a sought-after mentor for women and a regular contributing writer for The Better Mom. Amber and her husband co- run the faith-friendly production company Storehouse Media Group, and they live in Southern California with their four boys. To learn more, visit AmberLia.com.
Resources Mentioned* Sign Up for My Things For Thursday Email * www.amberlia.com * https://www.instagram.com/therealamberlia/ * Your Future Self Will Thank You with Drew Dyck * Food Triggers: Exchanging Unhealthy Patterns for God-Honoring Habits by Amber Lia
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Hopefully this summer allows you time to rest, relax, and recuperate. But it also provides a season to grow, improve your walk with Jesus, your health, or your relationships. This week Jay provides a Summer Growth Worksheet as well as a set of reminders on what sets us up for successful transformation. Remember the following:
- If you have too many goals, you’re more likely to fail across the board.
- An end of summer goal should be challenging, but reasonable.
- Your goal should consist of daily (or multiple) very doable baby steps.
- Reward yourself every day you take your daily step.
- Find a partner or family member to share your plan.
- Success gives momentum for success.
Resources Mentioned Resource: Summer Growth Plan * Previous episode: Your Future Self Will Thank You with Drew Dyck * Previous episode: How to Start or Stop Any Habit * Previous episode: The Surprising Power of Small Changes * Previous episode: Falling in Love with the Process Sponsor Affiliate Become a Supporter of Let’s Parent on Purpose!
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Every year we make goals that never happen. The problem is not our goals, it’s our systems. As the saying goes “your habits are perfectly suited to give you the life you have.” By learning to focus on our systems, we open the door for radical change in our spiritual life, families, and personal health.
Resources Mentioned* Episode 207 Your Future Self Will Thank You With Drew Dyck * Episode 208 Cultivating Self Control In Your Children With Drew Dyck * Episode 209 Routines for Faith Formation In Our Children with Kenneth Kuhn
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We’re starting off the New Year with a discussion on willpower and self-control and the Bible and science behind it, with author Drew Dyck.
Show HighlightsDrew Dyck is an editor at Moody Publishers and the former managing editor of Leadership Journal. His work has been featured in USA Today, the Huffington Post, Christianity Today, and CNN.com. Drew is the author of Generation Ex-Christian and Yawning at Tigers. He lives with his wife Grace and their three children near Portland, Oregon.
As we all prepare for the New Year, Drew reminds us, don’t despise the small resolutions. Start with two or, even better, just focus on one. You only have so much willpower. Start small but consistent, and if you can power through that 30-60 days of habit formation, it will be cemented in your life. That’s when you can start forming another habit. If you approach it in their incremental way, you’ll have far more success.
Drew was moved to write his book because he realized that he himself needed to grow in the area of self-control. As he start reading about willpower and building healthy habits, he started wondering what he was reading could also help others, especially from the scripture perspective.
Where does scripture play in to self-control and willpower? Drew says, most secular self-help books can be effective, but they do not address one major thing: your priorities. As Christians, we want to have our faith and values, to love God and love our neighbor, as the core motivation for everything that we are doing, even the mundane things should be tied to their spiritual significance.
Drew also points out that though the scripture is filled with stories of struggle, of difficult things that we have to go through, God is always with us. This is not something we can do ourselves. We need the empowerment of God, striving with His spirit, not against it.
Try nailing down where you want to use your willpower by identifying your keystone habits. A keystone habit is one that is not only beneficial in and of itself, but a habit that is beneficial across the spectrum of your life.
For instance, nightly family dinners are observed to have benefits for marriages to last longer, kids to have better grades and more. Exercise is another keystone habit. You not only get healthier, but you also start eating better and your productivity will increase. Another keystone habit, just five minutes of prayer and meditation, can increase your self-control for the day. Bible reading and church attendance are other keystone habits.
Resources Mentioned Website: www.hopegivers.org * Website: drewdyck.com * Twitter: @drewdyck * Book: Your Future Self Will Thank You*
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Parents are often hesitant to talk to their children about sex and money on a personal level. The lack of serious money talk leads to kids who don’t know what their parents make and much worse, what things cost. This often gives our kids a skewed perspective of the reality of money and finances.
Show HighlightsIt is important to be intentional in teaching your kids about money. Financial wisdom doesn’t come from a lesson, but from hundreds of experiences wisely processed. It is not just important to go through certain experiences, but to process them and learn from them.
Don’t automatically bail your kids out of foolish decisions that they make when it comes to money. Praise God for foolish decisions! There’s nothing better for a young person to go through than a foolish decision that they own. It will teach them better than most anything else.
There are 5 principles that you should teach your kids to help them to be smart and wise with money:
- Working – When we talk about finances, the first thing to talk about is working. Emphasize the importance of earning through honest work. Establish a good work ethic in your children. Try not giving them an allowance. Instead, replace it with a commission system in your household to set them up with a mindset that when they put in the hard work, there is a reward to be earned.
- Giving – Part of your child’s hard-earned money should be allotted for giving. This goes to the Church collection, teaching them to give back to the Lord and be involved in the work of God.
- Saving – Teach your children to be the best friend of their future selves by allotting money for their savings. Motivate them by setting a goal or item they are saving up for.
- Spending – Guide your children in making wise decisions when spending their money and making their own purchases.
- Debt – This is harder for children to understand, but is no less important in your child’s financially literacy. Start talking to them about debt when they are young to ease them into an awareness of what it is.
Teach your kids to pay the Lord first, their future selves next, and live off of what is left. Strive to raise children who are wise, generous, and smart in the way they handle their money.
There's nothing better for a young person to go through than a foolish decision that they own.
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Resources Mentioned* Sponsor: Perfectly Imperfect, Oct 23-24 * Sponsor affiliate: Hopegivers * The Christian Parenting Podcast Network on www.christianparenting.org * Things for Thursday and free e-book: Text THINGS to 66866 * Book: Financial Peace Junior Kit by Dave Ramsey * Previous episode: Anthony Oneal: Debt Free Degree
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Finances are either going to strengthen your marriage or tear them apart. As parents, your family depends on you developing your financial literacy. Raising a child with a disability, Donna Hosang learned that the more organized they were as a family in their daily lives, especially in the financial lives, the easier it was for them to handle any unexpected crisis that might arise.
Show HighlightsDonna Hosang Certified Financial Coach with the Dave Ramsey Financial Group. She’s also is the retired mother of three and member of Covenant Fellowship Baptist Church. Donna and her late husband John navigated multiple unexpected health and family challenges in their marriage, including raising a special needs child who is now in heaven. By God’s Grace, they got their financial house in order early in their marriage, allowing them to thrive in situations where many families drown. Donna has a passion for helping families with wise financial planning to protect themselves from Murphy’s Law.
The first step to getting your finances in order is to establish your budget each month and actually write it down so that you know that it is real. Work on this together with your partner. Both should understand what is going on.
But, despite all your planning, there can always be an unexpected crisis, whether big or small. To prepare for that, establish an emergency fund. Donna suggests setting aside $1,000. This will be there for you if you have a medical emergency or an accident, anything outside of the budget. If you know you’re prepared for it financially, you’ll worry less.
Ultimately, Donna says what will really make you financially stable is getting yourself out of debt – and if you are not in debt, stay out of it.
Tackle your debt by listing everything down, with the smallest debt first. Instead of paying a little of each every month, systematically knock out your debt by paying the smallest in full first, and so on.
To really be able to finish paying all your debt, you will have to make changes in your daily habits. But, know that as a couple and a family, you do this together.
Though it may seem difficult, Donna says, “It doesn’t matter how much debt a family has. There is always a way out.”
Once you are out of debt, work on accumulating 3 to 6 months of living expenses set aside.
As you get yourself on more stable ground, work on paying down your mortgage. It will give you even more financial freedom.
Then, you can start to save up for your retirement and your kids’ college. This will set both you and your children up for a more comfortable future.
It doesn't matter how much debt a family has. There is always a way out.
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Resources Mentioned* Sponsor: Perfectly Imperfect, Oct 23-24 * The Christian Parenting Podcast Network on www.christianparenting.org * Things for Thursday and free e-book: Text THINGS to 66866 * Website: www.daveramsey.com * Contact Donna: email
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You may not even realize this, but Jesus speaks of money more than of heaven and hell combined, perhaps more than any singular topic. In fact, 11 of the 39 parables that Jesus teaches are on the topic of money and finances.
Show HighlightsFinances often trigger anxiety and stress. From what I’ve experienced, I’ve realized: my worry was not fixing my financial situation and I belong to Jesus and He is taking care of me.
Today, I want to share five over-arching heart principles on money and finance:
- God cares about you, which is why he cares about your money. God does not lack resources, He does not need your money. God knows what money does to you both in a negative and a positive way, so He is concerned about your financial situation. He cares about not only what you do with money, but how you are with money.
- Money is important because it reveals who you are. This does not just refer to status. Status in the world has no meaning in the eyes of God and does not reflect character. Money reveals a person’s character and identity. In Jesus’ parable of Lazarus and the rich man, it is the poor man Lazarus who is given a name – an identity – and not the rich man of high status in the society. Check your attitude towards money and what it reveals about you.
- Figure out your why before your what. When it comes to your money situation, ask yourself what your motivation is first. If you don’t have a significant enough why, you’re never going to make the necessary changes. Have positive motivations for improving your finances – maybe you want to live more generously or you want to live more simply and have emotional freedom when it comes to thinking about money.
- Money is either a tool or a master. Is money the controlling force in your life or can you use it as a tool?
- The 4 C’s of your relationship with money:
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- Casualness. You should not have a casual relationship with money.If you do, you are going to get swayed by whatever comes your way and you probably won’t achieve many of your financial goals.
- Crisis. Don’t be ruled by crisis. When it comes to money, you go into crisis when you don’t have a solid plan and your wants and expenditures are beyond your means.
- Comparison. Try not to compare what everyone else has to what you have.
- Contentment. You have the choice of having the ruling philosophy of contentment in your life. Know that you have Jesus and you will always have Him no matter what else comes and goes.
Jesus says, where your treasure is, there your heart will be. Reflect on this: if somebody were to look at your bank account and your purchase history over the last several months or years, where would they say your heart is?
God cares about you, which is why he cares about your money.
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Resources Mentioned* Sponsor: Perfectly Imperfect, Oct 23-24 * The Christian Parenting Podcast Network on www.christianparenting.org * Things for Thursday and free e-book: Text THINGS to 66866 * Previous episode: 142: Anthony Oneal: Debt Free Degree * Previous episode: 114: Three Ways to Grow Gratitude * Worthy Cause: Hope Givers
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Over the years, I’ve had the chance to pray with parents who are in grief over the current spiritual state of their children who have chosen the path of rebellion. My friend, Shane O’Neill gives a powerful testimony of hope after a long season of rebellion and how his parents were a steadfast witness to him as God brought him back to the faith.
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We all need a story of hope right now and Shane’s story is exactly that. Being born in the Philippines and moving all over the US as a missionary kid, Shane struggled with establishing his identity.
Shane’s experience isn’t that different from that of children who are going through puberty who are also confused about who they are. Most of the time, kids feel the need to learn how to be cool rather than learn who they are because of social pressure.
Despite being surrounded by his parents and other who loved the Lord, when Shane’s grandfather died when he was in eighth grade, together with several other unfortunate events that brought him away from his faith. He then turned to drugs and promiscuous living for several years to deal with his pain.
From going through these difficulties, Shane says, when someone is troubled or questioning their faith, they don’t need a rational response from you. Rather, you just need to be present to them. God was just present to him, Shane says. Both God and Shane’s father just waited it out with him.
Shane recalls one impactful call from his family that he answered during a party. They asked how he was and told him they loved him.
“I knew they loved me and I didn’t want them to know the condition I was in,” Shane says. This phone call made him weep. “I had just tasted this thing that I know I was made for and that was love and to be known.”
When Shane was 19 and addicted to heroin, he came face to face with Jesus. He recalls a dream where God showed him His heart. “His heart broke open my heart.”
Since then, Shane has been 10 years sober.
I had just tasted this thing that I know I was made for and that was love and to be known.
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Resources Mentioned* The Christian Parenting Podcast Network on www.christianparenting.org * Things for Thursday and free e-book: Text THINGS to 66866 * Event: Perfectly Imperfect, Oct 23-24 * Previous episode: Tending Your Soul with Jim O’Neill * Website: www.provenmen.org * Podcast: The Naked Gospel Podcast
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We're going to spend some time today talking about ways to take care of yourself during and then after a crisis. If you find this podcast helpful, you can subscribe and click here to find past topics and free resources. Feel free to share with others, as well! If you would like to help support Let’s Parent on Purpose,
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If your home is like mine, you've seen an uptick on the amount of time on screens and devices as we've all self-isolated. Today I'm joined by Neal Harmon, co-founder of the streaming service VidAngel. We talk about the challenges and resources for parents navigating all of the media choices for our children. Neal brings
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Today I have a dear friend joining me from Spain where he and his family of six have been in lockdown for more than three weeks. He's going to help give us wisdom and counsel on how we might set ourselves up to thrive spiritually, physically, and emotionally, while also having realistic expectations for ourselves
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It seems like every half day there's a bit of news that changes what the future feels like it's going to be. I thought we'd take a little bit of a break from the Survival Guide series that I've been doing, but today I thought we would just focus a little bit on something that
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This year I’m incorporating a new strategy to help bring accountability and focus to my days. I’m want to share it with you because if you’re like me, there are plenty of things in each of your days that are out of your control and I want to help you define a specific set of
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Today I've got five questions to share with you as you go into this new year that might help you to do less, but to do it better. If you find this podcast helpful, you can subscribe and click here to find past topics and free resources. Feel free to share with others, as well!
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We've all been there. Life gets to be so overwhelming that we start using words like "stress" and "anxiety" to describe the way it makes us feel. What can be done about it? How do we unpack, rearrange, or maybe eliminate the heavy boxes in our lives? My friend and Christian Counselor, Brian Neal, joins
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One out of every three families in the United States is some form of blended family. Many have asked for wisdom on how to make their blended families work. Today I bring in the two wisest people I know on the subject: my dad and mom! Dan and Pat Holland are 45 years into their
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What if you could figure out how to take your family around the world to experience people and culture beyond the basic tourist experience? My new friend Susan Whitehead has spent the last several years traveling the world, even living in foreign countries, with her family of 8. All of this started with a one way
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Goals are great, but goals alone don't change much. Until you have a process or a system, goals are just opportunities for disappointment. Today I am going to share why it's much more important to define and love your process than it is to live and die by goal setting. Click Here if you'd like
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As my friend always says, "your habits are perfectly suited to give you the life you are living." If you want to change your life, change your habits. In this week's podcast, I share steps for starting, starting, or replacing any habit. Learn to master this in your own life and you will be primed
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Today I share why Easter gives me hope even in the darkest days of family life. I conclude with a post I wrote at 3AM on Easter Sunday five years ago, just one week after my son was diagnosed with Leukemia. As always, thank you Patreon Supporters! You're awesome! If you want to support this
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“The remarkable thing about God is that when you fear God, you fear nothing else, whereas if you do not fear God, you fear everything else.” – Oswald Chambers Today's topic highlights the intersection between the fear of man, shame and how it's indicative of how small our God is. Learn to identify shame and
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Gratitude is a crucial component in changing our circumstances and in helping develop the character of our children. Join me today as I discuss three ways you can encourage a heart of gratitude in your household. I want to say a special thanks to my growing group of Patreon Supporters! For as little as $1
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Show Highlights Show me your friends, and I'll show you your future. Our friends determine the direction and quality of our lives. Why I should intentionally equip myself and my family on how to have the most healthy friendships How negative behaviors and bad habits become normal to us when we surround ourselves with bad
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How do you cultivate a culture of generosity in your family? Father and son Brad and Drew Formsma join me today to share how generosity has become a way of life in their household. Along with his dad, Drew recently published the book Everyday Generosity - becoming a generous family in a selfie world. Speaking
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The single most transformative Habit you can learn is the routine for mastering new habits. Today I share with you what I've learned over the years in creating consistent disciplines in my own life, and how I work to help my family do the same. If you love Let's Parent on Purpose, would you consider
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You wear a lot of hats in your life, and each of those roles has several demands. Life can feel extremely defeating when you feel like you stay overly busy but accomplish very little. Today I talk about a question that brings incredible clarity to your life, and can help massively simplify your "to-do" list.
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It might feel like fall just started (or if you live in Florida, that summer never left), but the Holiday season is right around the corner. Today I share some ideas for how you can set up your family to enjoy each other more, consume less, and make Jesus the true center of the season.
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Below is the full transcript of my interview with Meg S. Miller, award winning author of the new book Benefit of the Debt: How My Husband's Porn Problem Saved Our Marriage You can listen to the full interview at https://letsparentonpurpose.com/2018/10/21/how-a-pornograph…ith-meg-s-miller/ Jay Holland: I have never recorded a Let's Parent on Purpose podcast quite like this one. Now,
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What you feed will grow, what you starve will die. Understanding the way conflict and circumstances flame your anger and anxiety frees you to chose a new source of emotional fuel.
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One year, one week, and one day ago we celebrated my son's last dose of chemo. On this week's podcast I share the essay I wrote for that occasion, as well as thoughts from a dad with one full year of no treatment and no relapse under our belt. Here's my original essay: We are
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There's one thing that can rob you of your joy no matter what's going on in your life. You can live in a house on the beach with a million dollars in the bank, yet be absolutely miserable. This Joy Killer is a cancer to the soul and a destroyer of relationships. Listen to today's
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I know, this sounds like the most manipulative, self-help title I can imagine. But the principles are totally Biblical. Going a little further in my reading of Dale Carnegie's classic How to Win Friends and Influence People, I was shocked to realize that Carnegie's strategy for getting people to like you is simply a practical working
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I recently found a copy of Dale Carnegie's classic How to Win Friends and Influence People in the bargain rack at my local bookstore. Honestly I had very low expectations. And I was very wrong. The book is largely an exposition of the Golden Rule - "Do unto others as you would have them do unto
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Have you ever been driving along and experienced an accident, or even a near-miss accident? Things happen so fast, your body essentially takes over before your mind knows what's going on. Do you remember how you felt in the moments after you got through the event? As your brain begins to comprehend what happened, your
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We all go through significant times of crisis in our lives. For some it's in response to a major event, for others it can be a drawn out season of chronic challenges. On today's podcast I want to share some perspectives on self-care while going through crisis. As a parent or a spouse, you might find
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In a recent "ask anything" segment with my teenagers, I was asked "how do I removed myself from toxic relationships without being the bad guy?" This excellent question assumes that we know a toxic relationship when we see one. Unfortunately, that's not always true. We discovered principles from six verses in Proverbs 20 that gave
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Home runs are few and far between in parenting. But MASSIVE change can take place if you just keep making contact. This week's podcast gives you tips on how to make best use of the natural times of contact in your home: Morning routine, drive times, meal times, and bedtime.
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People vastly overestimate what they can do in the short-term, but vastly underestimate what can be accomplished over the long-term. This week's podcast gives tips and ideas on how to set small goals with your kids this summer that can redeem some of that free time and start them on long-term pathways to accomplish big
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Everyone wants your 100% best. But it's impossible for everyone to get your 100% best. During a time in my life when my family was suffering because of my inability to set appropriate boundaries in work, a wise friend recommended this book to me: When Work and Family Collide (by Andy Stanley) made an incredibly
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I have a question for those who think that sex is primarily a physical act: why have you never heard of someone going to a counselor for years after smashing their thumb with a hammer? I’ve done that before. I’ve also smashed a finger in a barn door, and it was one of the most
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We are one week into 2018. Have you radically changed your life yet? Me neither. I've mostly been trying to convince my body that I'm not still in India. I love mornings. But I don't love 2AM. Many people love New Year's Resolutions, and others just as passionately hate them. I mostly stay away from
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Professional Counselor and adoptive father Bradley McCallester joins me again to talk about strategies for using mistakes to train desired behaviors.
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This is such an important topic!!! When our kids do some kind of unacceptable behavior, we tend to have the immediate goal of stopping the behavior. This is like having a weed growing in your sidewalk and just cutting off the top. It's going to come back. We need to be concerned about the root
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Professional Counselor and adoptive father Bradley McCallester joins me to talk about strategies for using mistakes to train desired behaviors.
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How is your bank account doing? I'm not talking about your financial well-being, I'm talking about your love bank. If you've never heard of the love bank, it was one of the most important concepts I learned from His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair Proof Marriage. This is a fantastic marriage book by William
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Be honest, are you in control of the technology in your home, or does it control you? I recently read a book by Andy Crouch called the The Tech-Wise Family. I was anticipating a guide warning me about the dangers of this website or that ap. Instead I got a soul-convicting call to lead my
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Late this summer, my family's world was rocked as my Aunt Sue died suddenly of a massive heart attack. Within hours, whatever plans for the day had been forgotten. My parents quickly packed and headed up the road. I scrambled to find plane tickets for my family and a sitter for our dog. In just
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These are really helpful tips for navigating conflict in your marriage AND parenting without starting a war.
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In the old Star Trek TV show (I'm dorky enough to know about but not dorky enough to watch) Captain Kirk sometimes employed a nifty little gadget called a Universal Translator. It worked by scanning the brainwave frequencies of its subject and using the results as the basis for communication. I checked on Amazon to
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There's a creeping disease that's infecting the hearts and minds of several generations of men and women. It's symptoms: anxiety, loneliness, depression, inability to enjoy activities, decreased attention span, and a distorted view of reality. The disease: FOMO. In case you've never heard the term FOMO, it stands for "Fear Of Missing Out". Wikipedia says
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Fear of Missing Out is a disease that's stealing the joy out of happy times.
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As of today, we are done with all chemo treatment. I can't believe I'm actually writing this. On April 14, 2014, our family's world was turned upside down when we were told our little 5 year old boy had Leukemia. I remember the first night in the Pediatric Intensive Care Unit, watching the nurse come
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As of today, we are done with all chemo treatment. I can't believe I'm actually writing this. On April 14, 2014, our family's world was turned upside down when we were told our little 5 year old boy had Leukemia. I remember the first night in the Pediatric Intensive Care Unit, watching the nurse come
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Sometimes delaying the consequences for a while - while you collect your thoughts and make a great plan - can be much more effective than shooting form the hip. Here's why.
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"A good plan executed now is better than a perfect plan next week" General George S. Patton I am an obsessive planner. Some of them actually happen. Many don't. But I can say that I've managed to accomplish FAR more by making and working towards goals in different areas of my life than I would otherwise.
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The following is a guest post from one of my favorite human beings. Davis Price is a graduating senior from our church, and one of the best people you will meet. In addition to a fun podcast interview I did with him here, I asked Davis to share his thoughts on how being a pastor's
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Gratitude is hard work! Here are 3 ways to make it habitual.
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I have to admit, I am not a woman. I find women to be wonderfully complex. In the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, John Gray pictures the minds of men to be like waffles and the minds of women to be like spaghetti noodles. In the waffle-like mind of men, everything has
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Here's my best effort at a "simple" definition of Womanhood. Which is hard because I'm not a woman and I don't find women to be simple.
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A relatively quick overview of how to create and replace habits. This could really change your life, it changed mine!
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“Most people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.” Bill Gates I love New Years. I love being able to look back at last year, surprised by what happened, happy at some things that got accomplished that I actually planned, and recommitted to try again
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Lorem Ipsum is simply dummy text of the printing and typesetting industry. Lorem Ipsum has been the industry's standard dummy text ever since the 1500s, when an unknown printer took a galley of type and scrambled it to make a type specimen book. It has survived not only five centuries, but also the leap into
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Lorem Ipsum is simply dummy text of the printing and typesetting industry. Lorem Ipsum has been the industry's standard dummy text ever since the 1500s, when an unknown printer took a galley of type and scrambled it to make a type specimen book. It has survived not only five centuries, but also the leap into
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Lorem Ipsum is simply dummy text of the printing and typesetting industry. Lorem Ipsum has been the industry's standard dummy text ever since the 1500s, when an unknown printer took a galley of type and scrambled it to make a type specimen book. It has survived not only five centuries, but also the leap into
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Lorem Ipsum is simply dummy text of the printing and typesetting industry. Lorem Ipsum has been the industry's standard dummy text ever since the 1500s, when an unknown printer took a galley of type and scrambled it to make a type specimen book. It has survived not only five centuries, but also the leap into
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