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Not knowing the answer can feel unsettling, but what if uncertainty was actually something to embrace? In this episode, Michael sits down with Elizabeth Weingarten to explore that idea. Elizabeth, whose work spans top publications and research programs, shares insights from her book How to Fall in Love with Questions: A New Way to Thrive in Times of Uncertainty. Their conversation unpacks why we often resist uncertainty and how curiosity, community, and authenticity can transform the way we approach life’s biggest unknowns. She also reflects on the role of genuine self-expression in relationships, inviting listeners to see how asking better questions might open the door to a more fulfilling life.
Listen and Learn: * Why certain uncertainties unsettle us most, and how our brains and biology shape our struggle to live with the unknown * Elizabeth’s powerful “question tree” metaphor that categorizes the types of questions we ask in life, from quick-answer “peach” questions to lifelong “heartwood” questions, and how letting go of “dead leaf” questions helps us grow * How our search for quick answers can keep us stuck in uncertainty, and why learning to sit with unanswerable questions and ask better ones is key to real growth and self-understanding * Embracing open-ended questions instead of binary ones for deeper self-understanding, growth, and freedom from the need for control * What it truly means to “live” and “love” life’s big questions, moving beyond the shallow advice to “embrace uncertainty” and instead learning how our questions can guide growth, clarity, and connection to our future selves * Recognizing and refining the right questions in your life, ones that lead you back to your values, open new possibilities, and move you forward instead of getting stuck in fear, “shoulds,” or rumination
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Resources: * Elizabeth’s Book, How to Fall in Love with Questions: A New Way to Thrive in Times of Uncertainty: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780063335134 * Elizabeth’s Website: www.elizabethweingarten.com * Elizabeth’s Substack: Time Travel for Beginners * Yael’s Article: How Practical Wisdom Helps Us Cope with Radical Uncertainty (By Yael Schonbrun and Barry Schwartz)
About Elizabeth WeingartenElizabeth Weingarten is a journalist and applied behavioral scientist who works at the intersection of science and storytelling. She has been part of the editorial staffs of The Atlantic, Slate, and Qatar Today, and also served as managing editor of Behavioral Scientist. Her writing has appeared in outlets including The Atlantic, Slate, CNN, Financial Times, Harvard Business Review, and TIME. Beyond journalism, she has led research programs at the think tank New America, the consultancy ideas42, and the tech companies Torch and Udemy. Elizabeth lives in Northern California with her husband and son. You can learn more about her work at www.elizabethweingarten.com.
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If you’re a parent navigating the ups and downs of your child’s food allergies, you know firsthand how anxiety can sneak in, whether it’s worrying about safety at school, birthday parties, or just trying to give your child some independence.
In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Tamara Hubbard joins Emily to talk about her new book, May Contain Anxiety: Managing the Overwhelm of Parenting Children with Food Allergies.
Their conversation doesn’t just stop at allergies, though; they dive into the bigger picture of parenting with anxiety and uncertainty and explore how anxiety, while a completely normal human experience, can sometimes take over if we don’t keep it in check. Tune in with us for practical strategies to help parents move away from over-controlling tendencies and toward building skills and confidence in their kids.
Listen and Learn: * Understanding the medical and emotional side of food allergies from what actually happens in the body, why they create such high anxiety for parents, and how uncertainty around reactions fuels guilt and fear * Balancing fear with perspective and the difference between everyday vigilance and anxiety that takes over * The “certainty trap” many allergy parents fall into, why control seeking feels protective but actually creates burnout, conflict, and limits a child’s growth, and how shifting from control to skill building can better support both parents and kids * The “over-avoidance trap” food allergy parents can fall into, how anxiety can push families to restrict more than is medically necessary, and why finding a realistic, personalized sense of “safe enough” (with support from an allergist) is key to breaking free from constant fear * Practical strategies for allergy parents to balance safety with living fully by shifting from fear-driven “what if” thinking to action-focused “if then” plans * The “Goldilocks principle” for food allergy parenting and finding the just right balance of caution and calm that keeps kids safe without overwhelming anxiety * How parents can start building confidence and safety skills in young children with food allergies (or other health conditions) from an early age, setting the foundation for independence and calm navigation as they grow * Why the middle childhood years can help kids build self-advocacy and take ownership of their allergy care, so they are ready for adolescence * How parents balance safety with flexibility can shape teens’ confidence and independence in managing food allergies while keeping anxiety in check
Resources: * Tamara’s Book, May Contain Anxiety: Managing the Overwhelm of Parenting Children with Food Allergies: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781421449579 * Tamara’s Websites: https://www.foodallergycounselor.com/ and https://www.tamarahubbardlcpc.com/ * Connect with Tamara on Socials: @FoodAllergyCounselor and @TherapistTamara.
About Tamara HubbardWith more than 20 years of experience and a marriage and family therapy degree, Tamara Hubbard, MA, LCPC is a licensed clinical professional counselor helping women and parents of children with food allergies find their “just right” balance between feeling overwhelmed and living fully.
Tamara created The Food Allergy Counselor in 2018 to fill a much needed resource gap by offering evidence-based food allergy anxiety management, mindset, and parenting content. She also founded the Academy of Food Allergy Counseling and its Food Allergy Counseling Directory, and currently serves as its Chief Advisor.
An active allied health member of professional allergy and immunology organizations, Tamara is a national speaker and holds advisory roles within the allergy community. Finally, her first book, May Contain Anxiety: Managing the Overwhelm of Parenting Children with Food Allergies with Johns Hopkins University Press comes out September 30th, 2025.
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College life can be exciting, but it’s also full of unique challenges that can really take a toll on mental health.
In this episode, Debbie sits down with Colleen Ehrnstrom, Audrey Gilfillan, and Alison West to break down what’s really going on with students’ mental well-being.
They talk about the ups and downs of transitions, gaining independence, and handling academic pressure, all while navigating bigger societal stressors like the pandemic. The conversation highlights why it’s so important to have mental health support built right into academic departments, and the guests share practical tips that both students and faculty can use.
You’ll also hear about topics like college culture expectations, the Dunning-Kruger effect, imposter feelings, and why showing yourself self-compassion and understanding your emotions matters. By the end, you’ll come away with insights that can help anyone in a college community foster better mental health and overall well-being.
Listen and Learn: * Why college is such a challenging transition for students, who must create structure, discover their values, and learn through mistakes while adapting to new freedoms and pressures * Understanding individual stress matters in college counseling, which can help normalize challenges and guide appropriate mental health support * How young adulthood is a powerful time for growth * Embracing uncertainty and connecting through shared human experiences helps us navigate overwhelming and unpredictable times * Embedding mental health clinicians directly in university departments helps faculty support students effectively, bridging academic and emotional needs * Understanding and “decompiling” your thoughts and emotions helps you work with them instead of against them * Why the imposter phenomenon is widespread, especially among high achievers and those stepping outside their comfort zone, and how comparing your inner doubts to others’ outward confidence can intensify it * True growth comes from building competence, not chasing confidence, and feeling uncomfortable is part of the learning process * Tips for navigating college including managing your expectations, giving yourself grace for mistakes, seeking support when needed, and starting small with healthy habits
Resources: * Decompile Your Mind: An Engineer’s Guide to Thoughts and Emotions: https://www.amazon.com/Decompile-Your-Mind-Engineers-Thoughts/dp/B0DPXB17MV * Connect with Colleen Ehrnstrom, Audrey Gilfillan, and Alison West + https://www.colorado.edu/counseling/about-caps/our-providers/colleen-ehrnstrom + https://www.colorado.edu/counseling/about-caps/our-providers/audrey-gilfillan + https://www.colorado.edu/counseling/about-caps/our-providers/alison-west * Imposter No More: Overcome Self-Doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781538724804
About Dr. Colleen EhrnstromDr. Colleen Ehrnstrom, PhD is a licensed clinical psychologist and one of the managers of the Embedded Program at the Counseling and Psychiatric Services (CAPS) at the University of Colorado Boulder. She specializes in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and enjoys working with college students, supporting their mental health during a critical time of personal and academic development. She is the co-author of End the Insomnia Struggle: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Get to Sleep and Stay Asleep and regularly presents and trains on ACT and behavioral sleep strategies. Dr. Ehrnstrom is dedicated to supporting mental health through evidence-based, mindfulness-informed care.
About Audrey GilfillanAudrey Gilfillan is a licensed professional counselor and works as an Embedded Therapist in the College of Engineering and Applied Science at the University of Colorado at Boulder. With a background in academic coaching, career counseling, and college mental health, Audrey specializes supporting college students as they navigate the intersection of their academic goals and mental health. Audrey co-authored Decompile Your Mind: An Engineer’s Guide to Thoughts and Emotions. She co-founded Applied Wellness Initiatives to help educators and managers effectively support mental health and performance in the workplace.
About Alison WestAlison West is a licensed professional counselor and addiction specialist who works as an Embedded Therapist in the College of Engineering and Applied Science at CU Boulder. Prior to working in higher education, Alison worked in community mental health, providing direct support through ongoing therapy, crisis response, and case management. Alison is passionate about supporting young adults as they navigate the challenges of an ever-changing world. She is the co-author of Decompile Your Mind: An Engineer’s Guide to Thoughts and Emotions and the co-founder of Applied Wellness Initiatives. She finds fulfillment in helping professionals bring mental health awareness and practices into their work and academic communities.
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Can you truly change your personality in ways that make your life feel fuller and more in line with who you want to be?
In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill sits down with Olga Khazan, author of Me But Better, to explore that question in a way that feels relatable and inspiring. Olga shares her journey of becoming more outgoing and less anxious, mixing scientific insights with honest reflections on the challenges she faced, showing that real change is possible and something you can actively pursue.
They also explore the Big Five personality traits and how intentional shifts in your personality can boost your happiness and overall well-being. Olga offers practical strategies you can start using right away and reminds you that the goal is not to impress anyone else but to create a version of yourself that feels healthier, more authentic, and more satisfying to live with every day.
Listen and Learn: * How personality, once thought to be fixed, can actually change over time * How personality is shaped by both genetics and environment * The Big Five personality model—what each trait means, how factors like conscientiousness overlap with neurodivergence such as ADHD, cultural caveats to the model, and how personality can shift over time through intentional habits and mindset * How practicing new behaviors, like being more extroverted, can expand your authentic self rather than diminish it * Why stepping outside of your comfort zone, even if it feels “inauthentic” at first, is actually part of growth, showing how personality is fluid * How mindfulness, meditation, and acceptance practices can reduce anxiety and neuroticism * The Personality Assessor Test and why results can sometimes surprise us, and how to embrace both strengths and limitations while exploring change or acceptance through openness, flexibility, and values
Resources: Olga’s Book, Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change:* https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781668012543 * Olga’s Website: https://olgakhazan.com/ * Connect with Olga on Social Media: + Instagram: @olganator, https://www.instagram.com/olganator + X: https://x.com/olgakhazan * Olga’s Substack: https://olgakhazan.substack.com/ * Find More of Olga’s Writing at https://www.theatlantic.com/ * Free Personality Test: https://www.personalityassessor.com/
About Olga KhazanOlga Khazan is a staff writer for The Atlantic and the author of Weird: The Power of Being an Outsider in an Insider World and ME, BUT BETTER: The Science and Promise of Personality Change. She has also written for The New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, The Washington Post, Vox, and other publications. She is a two-time recipient of the International Reporting Project’s Journalism Fellowship and winner of the 2017 National Headliner Award for Magazine Online Writing. She lives with her husband and son in Northern Virginia.
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Anxiety often feels overwhelming, but at its core, it’s your mind and body working hard to protect you.
In this episode, therapist and author of Anxiety Unpacked, Noelle McWard Aquino, unpacks the complex nature of modern anxiety, from the body’s nervous system responses to the thought patterns that fuel it.
Noelle introduces her framework of three root causes: catastrophizing, control, and distorted beliefs, and explains how these show up in daily life. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between anxiety and intuition, and why getting more comfortable with uncertainty can help you build real resilience.
You’ll also pick up practical tools like breathwork, reframing distorted beliefs, and focusing on your values so you can navigate anxiety with more clarity and confidence.
Listen and Learn: * A fresh, accessible perspective on anxiety that goes beyond diagnoses, showing how it’s a universal human experience with practical tools to help anyone navigate it * Why anxiety is not a personal failing but an understandable response to today’s constant threats, information overload, and technology-driven pressures * How to reframe anxiety, not as a flaw to eliminate but as a signal to honor, by creating space for it, discerning facts from “what if” stories, and guiding it toward purposeful action rooted in values, capacity, and connection * The five universal truths of anxiety * How to tell the difference between anxiety’s fear-driven, questioning voice and intuition’s calm, steady, and certain inner knowing * The three root causes of anxiety: catastrophizing, control, and distorted beliefs, and how understanding these patterns helps address anxiety at its root for lasting change
Resources: * Noelle’s book, Anxiety Unpacked: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781960876898 * Noelle’s Website: https://noellemcwardaquino.com/ * Noelle’s Psychology Today article: When Anxiety Makes Sense: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/unpacking-anxiety/202506/when-anxiety-makes-sense * Connect with Noelle on Social Media: + https://www.linkedin.com/in/noelle-mcward-192473b + https://www.instagram.com/noellemcwardaquino/
About Noelle McWard AquinoNoelle McWard Aquino is a Chicago-based therapist who specializes in the treatment of anxiety disorders. She is the author of Anxiety Unpacked: Discover Your Type and Recover Your Peace, a bestselling book that helps readers identify and work with the specific patterns driving their anxiety. Her work has been featured in publications including Psychology Today and Psychotherapy Networker. Noelle speaks regularly to both clinical and general audiences, training therapists in her framework for understanding anxiety and helping individuals develop more effective, compassionate responses to it.
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Why do some groups spark energy and creativity while others feel draining and tense?
Taking on this topic, we sit down with Colin Fisher, the author of The Collective Edge: Unlocking the Secret Power of Groups. We dig into what really sets groups apart from one-on-one partnerships, how social norms and psychological safety shape the way groups function, and why synergy can feel so unpredictable yet incredibly powerful.
Colin shares stories and research from his book, busting some common myths about group dynamics, the risks of trying to “sort” people into roles, and how relaunching a team can reset unhealthy patterns. From jazz improvisation to Nobel Prize-winning teams, this conversation is packed with insights and practical takeaways for anyone who wants to get the most out of working and living with others.
Listen and Learn: * What makes a group different from a one-on-one relationship, and why does that difference matter? * Why relying on “sorting hat” thinking like personality tests or rigid categories can limit group success and fuel unhelpful divisions * Why we often overlook the power of groups * Canyou spot the invisible norms shaping your group before they push you toward extreme or unhealthy behaviors? * How can bringing in new perspectives or encouraging psychological safety keep your group balanced and open-minded? * What is psychological safety? * How can groups achieve that magical sense of synergy? * Creating high-performing teams * Relaunching groups to reset unhealthy patterns and improve team dynamics
Resources: Colin’s Book: The Collective Edge: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593715345 * Colin’s Website: https://colinmfisher.com/ * Colin’s Substack: https://colinmfisher.substack.com/ * Connect with Colin on Social Media: + https://www.linkedin.com/in/colinmfisher?originalSubdomain=uk + https://www.instagram.com/trumpetfisher/ * Undoing Project by Michael Lewis: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780393354775 * Work, Parent, Thrive* by Yael Schonbrun: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781611809657 * Social Intelligence Test: https://socialintelligence.labinthewild.org/mite/
About Colin FisherSince his days as a professional jazz trumpet player, Colin Fisher has been fascinated by group dynamics. As Associate Professor of Organizations and Innovation at University College London’s School of Management, Colin’s research has uncovered the hidden processes of helping groups and teams in situations requiring creativity, improvisation, and complex decision-making. He has written about group dynamics for media outlets including BBC, Forbes, Harvard Business Review, NPR, and The Times.
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Think about the times you’ve assumed someone’s behavior revealed exactly what they were thinking. Nicholas Epley, our guest for this episode, explains this as correspondence bias and, through his book, Mindwise, teaches us about the concept of correspondence bias and explains how we often believe that a person’s actions correspond directly to their mental state.
You’ll hear about his research into social cognition and how it reveals that while humans are generally adept at reading others, we frequently overestimate our accuracy.
The episode also covers practical experiments on how engaging with strangers can significantly boost our happiness, despite our fears and misconceptions, and the importance of curiosity in overcoming social anxieties and making positive first impressions.
Listen and Learn: * How our unique “sixth sense” of mind reading, our ability to understand, predict, and connect with others’ invisible thoughts, shapes human connection and survival * Why our ability to read other people’s minds is far less accurate than we think, and what makes understanding others such a difficult challenge * Why we often overestimate how well we understand those closest to us, and how even long-term partners are not as accurate at reading each other’s thoughts and feelings as they believe * What drives our brains to form first impressions in an instant, how overconfidence shapes the way we read others, and why moment-to-moment cues like facial expressions play a bigger role in social interactions than we often realize? * How can you make a great first impression without overthinking body language or tricks, simply by staying curious and genuinely interested in the person you’re talking to? * How correspondence bias makes us assume people’s actions reflect their true thoughts and feelings, why this can lead to misjudgments, and how showing confidence, curiosity, or kindness can positively influence how others respond to you * Can striking up a conversation with a stranger boost happiness more than staying to yourself, even though we usually expect the interaction to go badly?
Resources: * Mindwise: Why We Misunderstand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780307743565 * Nicholas’ website: https://www.nicholasepley.com/
About Nicholas EpleyNicholas Epley is the John Templeton Keller Distinguished Service Professor of Behavior Science and Director of the Center for Decision Research at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. He studies social cognition—how thinking people think about other thinking people—to understand why smart people so routinely misunderstand each other. He teaches an ethics and wellbeing course to MBA students called Designing a Good Life. His research has been featured by the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, CNN, Wired, and National Public Radio, among many others, and has been funded by the National Science Foundation and the Templeton Foundation. He has been awarded the 2008 Theoretical Innovation Award from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, the 2011 Distinguished Scientific Award for Early Career Contribution to Psychology from the American Psychological Association, the 2015 Book Prize for the Promotion of Social and Personality Science, and the 2018 Career Trajectory Award from the Society for Experimental Social Psychology. Epley was named a “professor to watch” by the Financial Times, one of the “World’s Best 40 under 40 Business School Professors” by Poets and Quants, and one of the 100 Most Influential in Business Ethics by Ethisphere. He is the author of Mindwise: How We Understand What Others Think, Believe, Feel, and Want, and of a forthcoming book to be published in the fall of 2026 tentatively titled, Dare to connect.
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Parenting often means walking a fine line between setting boundaries and showing warmth, all while managing your own feelings in the process. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Emily chats with Dr. Alissa Jerud about her book Emotion-Savvy Parenting and how recognizing and working with both your emotions and your child’s can build stronger connections and a calmer home life.
Dr. Jerud shares her approach, Emotion Savvy Parenting, which draws from evidence-based methods such as exposure-based treatments and dialectical behavior therapy skills. She breaks down what makes up our emotional experiences, offers tools like the CARE skills for navigating intense situations, and explores topics such as the limits of gentle parenting, why mid-meltdown logic usually falls flat, and how differing parenting styles between caregivers can create challenges.
Listen and Learn: * How can parents respond skillfully and effectively to their children while managing their own strong and uncomfortable emotions? * Combining respectful parenting and evidence-based therapies to help parents manage their own emotions, maintain firm limits, and model emotional regulation for their children * The ways parents navigate the gray areas and overlaps between gentle parenting and autonomy-supportive parenting while avoiding the black-and-white thinking often seen on social media * Parents often step in to fix their child’s struggles, but noticing and accepting their emotions and behaviors as they are can help children build resilience and support more effective parenting * The primary and secondary ingredients of emotions, their triggers, how thoughts shape them, and how they show up physically and behaviorally, help parents regulate their own emotions by targeting these different aspects of feelings * Quick, practical ways to manage intense emotions by regulating the body’s physiological response * Why rigid beliefs that children must always obey can create frustration and disconnect, while accepting their emotions and allowing authentic expression supports both kids’ and parents’ emotional well-being * The importance of accepting and validating a child’s emotions during emotional storms rather than trying to immediately fix or suppress them * Recognizing that each child’s emotional needs are unique, and effective parenting often means staying present and supportive without trying to immediately fix or validate the emotion
Resources: * Alissa’s Website: https://www.alissajerud.com/ * Emotion-Savvy Parenting: A Shame-Free Guide to Navigating Emotional Storms and Deepening Connection: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781032544946 * Connect with Alissa on Social Media: + https://www.instagram.com/emotionsavvydoc/?hl=en + https://www.facebook.com/emotionsavvydoc/ + https://www.linkedin.com/in/alissa-jerud-210764174 * Emily’s Articles: + What’s Wrong with Gentle Parenting? Psychology Today + The Truth About Parents Who Yell at Their Kids, Psychology Today
About Alissa JerudAlissa Jerud, Ph.D. is a mom of two kids, a licensed clinical psychologist, a Clinical Assistant Professor at the University of Pennsylvania, and author of Emotion-Savvy Parenting: A Shame-Free Guide to Navigating Emotional Storms and Deepening Connection. She has a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Washington and completed her postdoctoral fellowship at the University of Pennsylvania’s Center for the Treatment and Study of Anxiety. In her private practice, Dr. Jerud specializes in exposure-based treatments for anxiety-related disorders, including obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD), social anxiety disorder, panic disorder, specific phobias, and generalized anxiety disorder. Additionally, she specializes in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) skills training and particularly enjoys helping other parents learn research-backed strategies for accepting, regulating, and tolerating their emotions, as well as their children’s. Dr. Jerud also trains other clinicians in exposure-based treatments and frequently gives workshops on anxiety, stress, mental health, parenting, and social support to companies large and small.
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If you’re stuck in an unhealthy relationship and wondering whether it’s right for you or you’re recently facing the pain and confusion of a breakup, we invite you to tune into this episode with John Kim, also known as the Angry Therapist, to explore his viewpoint on relationship endings.
John lays out how breakups or ‘relationship expirations’ as he coins them, can serve as powerful catalysts to kickstart your own personal growth, and highlights the importance of self-reflection, healthy boundaries, and meaningful connection with yourself and others.
Speaking from his own experiences, as well as insights and stories from his latest book, Breakup on Purpose, you’ll hear why John sees breakups as not just painful endings but meaningful rites of passage that can offer space to learn and evolve.
Listen and Learn:* Breakups, while painful, can be a powerful catalyst for personal growth when approached with reflection and ownership * Shifting how we view breakups from failures to “expired relationships” helps us embrace healing and rewrite the narrative around endings * How to balance knowing when to work through relationship challenges versus when it’s healthy to walk away * Why breakups are a natural rite of passage and essential for personal growth * Why humility and self-reflection are essential but often difficult steps toward personal growth * Healing from a breakup involves embracing the pain with compassion, finding purpose beyond the relationship, and transforming personal loss into growth and a greater meaningful journey * How society places too much importance on romantic love as the sole source of meaning and fulfillment, and relying on one romantic partner to fulfill all needs is unrealistic and sets people up for disappointment * Breakups have distinctive types that require different responses and healing strategies * How to balance self-comfort with avoiding behaviors that hinder healing after a breakup by setting personal limits and gradually re-engaging with life * The importance of meaningful connection, whether through community, close relationships, or personal passions, as a vital part of recovery, especially for introverts * The cycle of rupture and repair in relationships is essential, teaching us how to build deeper connection, resilience, and emotional safety
Resources: John’s Website: https://www.theangrytherapist.com/ * John’s Books: * Break Up On Purpose: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780063275331 * Single On Purpose: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780062980731 * Connect with John on Socials: * https://www.facebook.com/john.kim.1650/ * https://www.linkedin.com/in/theangrytherapist * https://www.instagram.com/theangrytherapist/ * Power of Discord by Ed Tronick and Claudia Gold: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780316488877 * Man’s Search for Meaning* by Victor Frankl: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780807060100
About John KimJohn Kim, widely known as ‘The Angry Therapist.’ John is a licensed therapist, engaging speaker, fellow podcaster, and best-selling author whose works include ‘It’s Not Me, It’s You,’ ‘Single. On Purpose,’ and ‘I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck.’ What makes John’s approach unique is how he shares therapeutic wisdom through his blog and Instagram, using authenticity and transparency to connect with and support people on their personal journeys.
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Could the stories you tell yourself be shaping how you see yourself? Sometimes those stories build us up, but other times, they are just quietly tearing us down. In this episode, Michael talks with Dr. Phil Lane, a licensed clinical social worker and the author of The Narrative Therapy Workbook for Self-Esteem, about how we can start to shift those inner stories in a healthier direction.
Phil shares what led him to narrative therapy and why storytelling can be an incredibly powerful tool for healing. He talks about how many of us carry around dominant narratives, which are beliefs about ourselves that sometimes we may not even realize we’ve absorbed. And explains how you can learn to question and rewrite those beliefs, helping us reconnect with who we really are.
You’ll also benefit from the core techniques behind narrative therapy, like scaffolding and deconstruction, and explore what it’s like to share your personal story in different settings.
Listen and Learn: * How the power of storytelling in a safe space can transform self-perception and healing * Changing the story you’ve been telling yourself and beginning to see who you truly are, more fully and clearly * Uncovering hidden parts of your life story beyond the dominant narrative you’ve accepted * How inherited beliefs shape your story and how to consciously rewrite it for yourself * Identifying faulty beliefs and clarifying your values helps rewrite your personal story for self-acceptance * Understanding your past to shape your present story empowers your daily life choices * How to rebuild your personal story by carefully scaffolding and deconstructing it for true self-accuracy * Embracing curiosity to uncover and challenge the beliefs you’ve always seen as true * How acceptance and reframing your story can empower you to embrace life’s challenges and thrive * Viewing your life story as multi-genre can bring richer healing and balance * How narrative therapy reveals deeper meaning beyond surface explanations * When and how to share your sacred story meaningfully beyond small talk and surface talk
Resources: * The Narrative Therapy Workbook for Self-Esteem: Rewrite Your Story, Overcome Imposter Syndrome and Feelings of Inadequacy, and Build Lasting Confidence: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648485312 * Phil’s Website: https://www.phil-lane.com/ * You 2.0: Change Your Story, Change Your Life: https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/healing-2-0-change-your-story-change-your-life/ * Connect with Phil on Social Media: + https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100087891174326 + https://instagram.com/therapist_phil
About Phil LanePhil Lane is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, psychotherapist in private practice and author of the books Understanding and Coping with Illness Anxiety, The Narrative Therapy Workbook for Self-Esteem and Overcoming Panic and Panic Attacks. Phil practices and writes from a humanistic point of view with a goal of normalizing and de-stigmatizing commonly experienced problems and challenges. Phil and his family live in the central part of New Jersey where he enjoys gardening, reading, writing, watching baseball, and model railroading. Phil can be found on Instagram at @therapist_phil and online at phil-lane.com. You can also find his author pages on Amazon and Goodreads.
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Kick off the New Year with us in this special cohosted POTC episode! We’ve got a MAJOR announcement for 2025 and we’re also chatting about the ups and downs of decision-making – all backed by psychology. We’re also reflecting on our 2024 highlights, sharing what we’re all hoping for in the new year, and talking about how community, flexibility, and staying true to your values play into making some of life’s tough choices. Plus, we’re giving you a sneak peek at what’s coming up on the podcast this year, including some awesome insights on relationship science and our personal goals for the future.
- Our exciting POTC New Year announcement
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- How acceptance and commitment therapy can be applied when making decisions
- Making values-driven decisions and the importance of community and connection
- Cohost 2024 reflections and highlights
About Emily Edlynn Emily (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children’s Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children’s hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019. Emily’s writing has also appeared in the Washington Post, Scary Mommy, Good Housekeeping, Motherly, and more. She recently added author to her bio with her book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent Confident Children and has a Substack newsletter. Emily lives with her husband, three children, and two rescue dogs in Oak Park, IL where she can see Chicago’s skyline from her attic window.
About Debbie Sorenson Debbie (she/her) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. She is author of the upcoming book ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She loves living in Colorado, her home state, with her husband, two daughters, and dog. When she’s not busy working or podcasting, she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, traveling, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Rocky Mountains! You can learn more about Debbie, read her blog, and find out about upcoming presentations and training events at her webpage, drdebbiesorensen.com.
About Jill Stoddard Jill Stoddard is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive. She is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. Dr. Stoddard is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Her writing has also appeared in Psychology Today, Scary Mommy, Thrive Global, The Good Men Project, and Mindful Return. She regularly appears on podcasts and as an expert source for various media outlets. She lives in Newburyport, MA with her husband, two kids, and disobedient French Bulldog.
About Michael Herold Michael (he/him) is a confidence trainer and social skills coach, based in Vienna, Austria. He’s helping his clients overcome their social anxiety through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and fun exposure exercises. (Though the jury is still out on whether they’re mostly fun for him). He is also a certified therapeutic game master, utilizing the Dungeons&Dragons tabletop roleplaying game to train communication, assertiveness, and teamwork with young adults. Or actually, anyone ready to roll some dice and battle goblins in a supportive group where players want to level up (pun!) their social skills. Michael is the head coach of the L.A. based company The Art of Charm, running their confidence-building program “Unstoppable” as well as workshops on small talk, storytelling, vulnerability, and more. He is the scientific advisor and co-producer of their large podcast with more than 250 million downloads. As a member of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), Michael is the current President of the ACT Coaching Special Interest Group with nearly 1,000 coaches worldwide, and the co-founder of the ACT in Austria Affiliate of ACBS, a nationwide meetup for ACT practitioners in Austria. He’s a public speaker who has spoken at TEDx, in front of members of parliament, universities, and once in a cinema full of 500 kids high on sugary popcorn. In a previous life, he was a character animator working on award-winning movies and TV shows such as “The Penguins of Madagascar” and “Kung Fu Panda”. That was before he realized that helping people live a meaningful life is much more rewarding than working in the film business – even though the long nights in the studio allowed him to brew his own beer in the office closet, an activity he highly recommends. Michael grew up with five foster kids who were all taken out of abusive families. His foster sisters showed him how much positive change is possible in a person if they have the love and support they need.
Parental stress has been declared a public health crisis by the U.S. Surgeon General—and it’s a conversation we all need to have. In this episode, Emily sits down with Debbie and our dear friend and guest Yael Schonbrun, a clinical psychologist and author of Work, Parent, Thrive, to explore what’s behind the overwhelming stress so many parents are feeling and, more importantly, what we can do about it.
We’re talking about all the things that pile up: money worries, the constant rush, and that pressure to “do it all.” Plus, we dive into what parental burnout actually is (and why it’s not your fault) and share simple, science-backed tips to make life a little easier.
This isn’t just about managing parental stress—it’s about showing up for yourself and your kids in a healthier, more sustainable way. If you’ve ever felt like you’re drowning in the demands of parenting, this episode is for you. It’s a conversation that matters—and one that can truly make a difference.
Listen and Learn: * What is parental stress, why it matters, and how we can lighten the load together? * How can we turn overwhelming parental stress into something manageable? * Parenting burnout is skyrocketing—what’s fueling it, and how can we reclaim balance in modern life? * The pressures of modern parenting, how to find balance and break free from the stress. * How working parents can shift from feeling torn between roles to using tension for enrichment * What are the causes and consequences of parental burnout, and how driving awareness can help * Why your well-being as a parent is crucial for your child’s mental health, yet it’s often overlooked—and learn how to break this unhelpful cycle * How self-compassion and mindful check-ins can help ease your burnout and stress in daily life * Supporting your child’s autonomy to reduce parental burnout and strengthen your connections
Resources: * Yael’s website: https://www.yaelschonbrun.com/ * Connect with Yael on socials: + https://www.linkedin.com/in/yael-schonbrun-a26a5229/ + http://x.com/DrYaelSchonbrun + http://instagram.com/yaelschonbrun/ * Our Substack Q&A, Is Parent Stress Breaking News? Three Clinical Psychologists Discuss the Surgeon General’s New Advisory: https://emilyedlynn.substack.com/p/is-parent-stress-breaking-news
About Yael SchonbrunYael Schonbrun is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, author of Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like too Much), past Psychologists Off the Clock co-host, and parent of three. In her research, private practice, and writing, Yael draws on science, philosophy, and clinical practices to share practices proven to foster healthier relationships between partners, parents and children, and between our most important life roles. Yael is a frequent contributor to The Washington Post and her writing on work, parenting, and relationships has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Greater Good Science Center, Behavioral Scientist, Tricycle, among others.
ScreenshotRelated Episodes: * 306. Screaming on the Inside: The Challenges of American Motherhood with Jessica Grose * 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn * 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun * 338. ACT for Burnout with Debbie! * 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne * 382. The Anxious Generation? The Conversation We Should Be Having About Kids, Technology, and Mental Health * 379. Toxic Striving with Paula Freedman-Diamond * https://offtheclockpsych.com/be-mighty/ * 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard * 267. You are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg * 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz
Life can feel so overwhelming sometimes, especially with the nonstop pace of the modern world. But what if you learned to embrace the messiness that comes with life and concentrated more on what really matters to you rather than attempting to control everything?
Building on the themes from his previous bestseller, Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals, Michael is joined by returning guest Oliver Burkeman to break down his new book, Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts.
Oliver and Michael dig into key ideas, such as the limits of control, the traps of overachievement and information overload, and how to face life challenges with a proactive, value-driven mindset. You’ll love Oliver’s powerful metaphors, like navigating a kayak instead of steering a superyacht, which really brings home the beauty of going with life’s flow while staying grounded and intentional. This is an incredible resource that offers daily insights designed to inspire action, so join us for this empowering conversation and start your journey of embracing imperfection and living a more meaningful life.
Listen and Learn: * Oliver’s philosophy behind ‘Meditations for Mortals’ * The Evolution from 4,000 Weeks to Meditations for Mortals * Embracing the concept of imperfectionism by being finite, taking action, letting go, and showing up * Embracing life’s chaos with the kayak vs. superyacht metaphor * The insecure overachiever and learning to break free from productivity guilt * Dealing with the overflow of information and discerning what truly deserves your attention * The paradox of life’s endless problems and the freedom found in embracing them * How to apply imperfectionism in your daily life * Balancing empathy with boundaries and why other people’s problems aren’t yours to solve
Resources: Oliver’s books:
- Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time for What Counts
- Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals
- Oliver’s Website: https://www.oliverburkeman.com/
- Connect with Oliver on X: @oliverburkeman
About Oliver BurkemanOliver Burkeman is the author of the Sunday Times bestselling Four Thousand Weeksand The Antidote, and for many years wrote a popular weekly column on psychology for the Guardian, ‘This Column Will Change Your Life’. His work has also appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Psychologies, and New Philosopher.
Related Episodes* 242. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management with Oliver Burkeman * 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel * 321. Imposter No More with Jill Stoddard
What if we started seeing grief as a form of trauma—could it help us make sense of the confusing ways our mind and body react to loss?
In this conversation, Debbie sits down with Meghan Riordan Jarvis, a psychotherapist who’s spent her life helping people navigate the heartbreak of loss. She’s here to talk about her new book, Can Anyone Tell Me? Essential Questions About Grief and Loss, and to share her personal and research-based wisdom on this tender subject.
We look into the messy, complicated emotions that grief can bring—like anger, guilt, regret, and anxiety—and Megan offers simple, meaningful ways to cope. We also tackle the bigger picture: why we need more honest conversations about death and how we can show up better for each other in times of loss.
We hope you’ll join us for this meaningful conversation that might just give you a little clarity, hope, and comfort wherever you, or even the loved ones you are supporting, are on your grief journey.
Listen and Learn: * Why grief education is key to feeling less alone, less afraid, and truly understood * How we can reconnect in the face of profound loss * Loss, grief, and mourning: uncovering the nuanced definitions and how they shape our healing journeys * How Meghan’s two very contrasting losses shaped her approach to grief and healing * The varying emotions of grief and why anger and anxiety might be more common than expected * The shifting waves of loss, unexpected triggers, and lasting connections * The idea of signs from loved ones * Could the signs we receive from loved ones beyond death be more than just coincidence?
Resources: * Can Anyone Tell Me?: Essential Questions about Grief and Loss: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781649632593 * Meghan’s Website: https://meghanriordanjarvis.com/ * Connect with Meghan on:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/meghan-riordan-jarvis-ma-licsw-071051142
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/griefismysidehustle/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meghan.riordan.jarvis/?hl=en
Books Meghan Mentioned in the Episode: * The Grieving Brain: The Surprising Science of How We Learn from Love and Loss by Mary-Frances O’Connor: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780062946249 * How Emotions Are Made, by Lisa Feldman Barrett: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781328915436 * Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781250212832 * Anxiety: The Missing Stage of Grief: A Revolutionary Approach to Understanding and Healing the Impact of Loss byClaire Bidwell Smith: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780738234786 * Grief Works: Stories of Life, Death, and Surviving (A Practical Guide to Grief and Loss) byJulia Samuel: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781501181542
About Meghan Riordan JarvisMeghan Riordan Jarvis, MA, LCSW, is a podcast host, TEDx speaker, and trauma-trained psychotherapist specializing in grief and loss. With 20 years of experience, she speaks on the importance of understanding grief and supporting grievers. Meghan hosts the popular blog and podcast Grief Is My Side Hustle and offers a free writing workshop, Grief Mates. She is founder of the Grief Mentor Method: Six Core Concepts to Creating a Personalized Grief Process and is the author of End of the Hour, a memoir on trauma, loss, and healing. Her new book is called Can Anyone Tell Me? Essential Questions about Grief and Loss.
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How can you begin to heal from complex PTSD?
In this episode, Jill sits down with Stephanie Foo to explore her memoir, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma, a deeply personal account of her healing journey through complex PTSD (CPTSD). Stephanie shares what it’s like to carry the weight of complex trauma, offering insights into how you can begin to heal too.
Through her story and experience, you’ll learn how CPTSD differs from PTSD and why understanding those differences can help you (or someone you love) feel less alone. Stephanie opens up about her therapy journey—EMDR, yoga, and meditation—and how relationships and community became her anchors in the storm.
Whether you’re a therapist, someone walking your own healing path, or supporting a loved one, this conversation is full of wisdom and practical advice to inspire hope and compassion.
Listen and Learn: * Meet Stephanie and find out why she wrote What My Bones Know, a memoir about healing from complex trauma. * Understand what makes CPTSD different from PTSD and how that knowledge can help you or someone you love. * How writing and creativity can be powerful tools for processing trauma and finding meaning. * The role of community, relationships, and support in recovering from trauma. * The complexities of abusive relationships and how they shape the healing journey. * Practical therapeutic methods like EMDR, yoga, and meditation, and why they worked for Stephanie. * How social support can make therapy more effective and healing more sustainable. * The importance of facing suicidal thoughts with connection and support from loved ones. * How journalism and purpose helped Stephanie move forward after trauma. * How to begin your own healing journey and the three key elements that helped Stephanie recover from complex trauma. * How therapists can create compassionate, validating spaces for clients dealing with trauma.
Resources: * What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma * Official Website: Stephanie Foo * Facebook: Stephanie Foo on Facebook * Twitter: @stephaniefoooo on Twitter * Instagram: @foofoofoo on Instagram
About Stephanie FooStephanie Foo is the NYT Bestselling author of What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma. She has written for Vox and The New York Times. She worked as a radio producer for This American Life and Snap Judgment, and her stories aired on Reply All, 99% Invisible, and Radiolab. A noted speaker and instructor, she has taught at Columbia University and has spoken at venues from the Sundance Film Festival to the Missouri Department of Mental Health.
Stephanie FooPhoto by Bryan Derballa
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In this very special roundtable episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, our cohosts Emily Edlynn and Debbie Sorensen gather a panel of experts—including Tracy Dennis-Tiwary, Ellen Galinsky, and Devorah Heitner—to discuss an issue many parents face today: the impact of smartphones and social media on children’s mental health.
Bringing their unique perspectives together, they look at the often-alarmist messages surrounding technology use in youth, offering a balanced and hopeful perspective rooted in evidence-based science and field and personal experience.
Some of the key topics they talk about include addressing parental stress around technology, shifting from rigid monitoring to supportive mentoring, and how cultivating digital literacy and independence in our children.
Please tune in for thoughtful, evidence-based strategies that prioritize your children’s well-being and growth and reassure you that healthy digital citizenship is within reach without having to resort to fear-based tactics.
Listen and Learn:* Meet the experts – Emily Edlynn, Tracy Dennis-Tiwary, Ellen Galinsky, and Devorah Heitner * What are the effects of alarmist tech narratives? * How do extreme views impact youth mental health? * Lessons from public health campaigns on tech use * Parents and community roles in digital literacy: How can we work together? * Navigating the pressures of intensive parenting around tech * Understanding the complex link between tech and mental health * What science really says about technology’s impact on kids * Recognizing data cherry-picking in tech research * Teen suicide and the importance of careful data interpretation * Key findings from the National Academy on social media * How do teens really feel about tech? * Harnessing positive peer influence on tech habits * The critical role of sleep in teen well-being * School tech policies: What can parents do? * Ways to involve kids in creating tech solutions * How fear-based messaging affects kids * Parental roles: Monitoring vs. mentoring * Building executive function skills through balanced tech use
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iwmmWmWqg8I&feature=youtu.beResources: * Tracy’s New York Times review of The Anxious Generation: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/03/26/books/review/jonathan-haidt-the-anxious-generation.html * Devorah’s Newsweek article: https://www.newsweek.com/everyone-wants-save-children-social-media-what-about-rest-us-opinion-1922435 * Emily’s debate with Jonathan Haidt: + You can watch it in its entirety here or this clip on YouTube. + You can follow the story of her participation in the debate on her Substack newsletter here: https://emilyedlynn.substack.com/p/david-meet-goliath and here https://emilyedlynn.substack.com/p/sextortionist-rings-and-other-fear * The Surgeon General’s advisory on Parental stress: https://www.hhs.gov/surgeongeneral/priorities/parents/index.html * A commentary by Emily, Debbie, and Yael on the advisory: https://emilyedlynn.substack.com/p/is-parent-stress-breaking-news
About Our Panelists:
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Tracy A. Dennis-Tiwary, Ph.D. is a professor of psychology and neuroscience and Director of the Emotion Regulation Lab at Hunter College. She is the author of the book Future Tense: Why Anxiety is Good for You (Even Though it Feels Bad). She co-founded the digital health company Arcade Therapeutics where she translates neuroscience and cognitive therapy research from her lab into clinically validated game-based treatments for mental health. She’s been featured throughout the media from the NYTimes and Wall Street Journal to the Today Show and Bloomberg television.
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Ellen Galinsky is President of Families and Work Institute and the elected President of the Work and Family Researchers Network. She also serves as senior research advisor to AASA, the School Superintendent Organization. Ellen’s research has focused on work-life, child and adolescent development, youth voice, and parental development. Her most recent book is The Breakthrough Years: A New Scientific Framework for Raising Thriving Teens. She’s been a presenter at five White House Conferences,the parent expert for the Mister Rogers Talks to parents television series, and is featured regularly in the media, including the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, Newsweek, Good Morning America, the Today Show, and The Oprah Winfrey Show.
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Devorah Heitner, PhD is the author of Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital Worldand Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive and Survive in the Digital World. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, The Washington Post, CNN Opinion and The Atlantic. She has a Ph.D. in Media/Technology & Society from Northwestern University and has taught at DePaul and Northwestern. She is delighted to be raising her own teenager.
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Emily Edlynn, PhD is a psychologist and the author of Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children and the emotions journal for kids, In Your Feels. And of course you all know her as a cohost of Psychologists Off the Clock.
Past episodes with our panelists: * Devorah Heitner: https://offtheclockpsych.com/growing-up-in-public/ * Tracy Dennis-Tiwary: https://offtheclockpsych.com/266-future-tense/ * Ellen Galinsky: https://offtheclockpsych.com/good-news-about-adolescence-with-ellen-galinsky/ * Emily Edlynn: https://offtheclockpsych.com/autonomy-supportive-parenting/
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We have an insightful discussion with Ruth Whippman this week, who urges us to rethink masculinity and nurture boys in a way that honors their mental health and emotional depth. A mother of three and the insightful author of Boy Mom: Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity, Ruth brings a personal and societal viewpoint to the intense pressures that often shape modern masculinity.
She sheds light on the cultural forces that define “being a man” and shares her journey in challenging these norms.
We also learn about Ruth’s experiences as a mother, how society’s expectations affect boys from an early age, and the importance of fostering boys’ emotional development and accepting their complete human complexity.
We hope you join us for this compassionate and in-depth conversation and broaden your understanding of how we can change how we see and raise boys today.
Listen and Learn: * The impossible expectations facing boys and men today—how do they find their way forward? * How Ruth, a mother of three boys navigated feminism, fear, and future masculinity in a conflicted cultural moment * Are we burdening boys with blame from the past? * The science behind why boys need more nurture early on but often receive less and how it creates an emotional gap with lasting effects * How early affection shapes moral growth and how gender impacts this * Are boys being deprived of friendship lessons that promote emotional depth and connection because of the way they are portrayed in the media? * Precarious masculinity: how shifting ideals are creating a public health crisis for boys and men * Hyperconnection and disconnection and how masculinity ties into mental health risks for boys * The dark online world of ‘incels,’ where toxic masculinity and vulnerability collide in horrific ways * The need to rethink how we approach boys’ emotional growth beyond “masculinity” norms
Resources: * Boymom, Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity * Website: https://www.ruthwhippman.com/ * Substack: https://substack.com/@ruthwhippman
Social Media: * https://www.instagram.com/ruthwhippman/ * https://twitter.com/ruthwhippman * https://www.facebook.com/RuthWhippman/
About: Ruth Whippman is an author, journalist and cultural critic and the mother of three boys. A former BBC documentary director, she has written for the New York Times, Time magazine, The Guardian, HuffPost, and other publications. She is the author of the book America the Anxious, which was a New York Post Best Book of the Year and a New York Times Editors’ Choice and Paperback Row pick. Her latest book isBoymom, Reimagining Boyhood in the Age of Impossible Masculinity.
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What if the relentless push for productivity is actually standing in the way of a truly fulfilling life?
Join cohost Michael Herold and guest Ross White, author of The Tree that Bends: How a Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive, as they redefine balance and purpose, challenging societal pressures to stay constantly “on.”
Using the wisdom of nature and the anatomy of a tree, Ross explores how psychological flexibility—grounded in rest, resilience, and self-awareness—can empower us to find strength in slowing down.
And discover how “relenting” can open doors to a balanced, purpose-filled life.
Listen to the full conversation to uncover how embracing rest could be your greatest asset!
Link to Survey: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeCtaljb-QMHXl6651OdUrK6Zwt5QeDckw6dCoDYszC-0XpyA/viewform?usp=send_formListen and Learn: * Are mantras like ‘no limits’ actually harming us? Hear from Ross why relenting, not relentless, may be key * Finding a balance between ‘get,’ ‘threat,’ and ‘reset’ modes—are you tuned to your true needs? * Is purpose found or formed? * Small steps that could lead you closer to your purpose * The ‘reset’ formula to shift from burnout to balance by cultivating mental flexibility * How you can thrive amid the ‘uncontrollables’ in life with the mindset shift high performers swear by * What price would you pay for emotional well-being against mastery? * How you can balance strong intention and light attachment in pursuit of a purposeful life * What is the distinction between confidence and self-efficacy in high performance?
Resources: * The Tree that Bends: How a Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive * The ‘Strive2Thrive’ webpage: https://www.strive2thrive.co.uk/ * Instagram: @RossGWhite – https://www.instagram.com/rossgwhite/ * X: @RossGWhite – https://x.com/RossGWhite * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/prof-ross-g-white/
About Ross WhiteProfessor Ross White is an award-winning clinical psychologist who specializes in supporting the mental health and wellbeing of adults working in high-performance environments, including elite-level athletes in football, rugby, track and field, and tennis. He has collaborated with the World Health Organization and the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees on projects to reduce distress experienced by refugees and other populations in the aftermath of humanitarian crises. He is currently Professor of Clinical Psychology at Queen’s University Belfast, and is a director of Strive2Thrive, a clinical psychology consultancy firm that provides interventions and training to help individuals and organizations thrive.
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Stuck in the never-ending grind but still feel like it’s not enough?
Paula Freedman-Diamond, Psy.D., a clinical psychologist and author of Toxic Striving: Why Hustle and Wellness Cultures are Leaving Us Anxious, Stressed, and Burned Out– and How to Break Free breaks down how hustle culture and wellness fads can mess with our sense of self-worth and add to our stress.
She talks about how perfectionism and the pressure to constantly achieve can leave us feeling anxious, and why it’s so important to tune into what you need, not what society tells you is right.
Dr. Paula shares ideas like intuitive eating and flexible living, encouraging us to prioritize our own values over external expectations. She also touches on the importance of setting boundaries and using social media mindfully, so it doesn’t drain us. Her hope? To help people-pleasers and over-achievers find more balance, self-compassion, and ease in their lives.
Listen and Learn: * How the pressures of perfectionism and toxic striving can manifest in every season of life from childhood to adulthood * The harmful impact of hustle culture and how society glorifies relentless productivity and ties self-worth to achievement * The fine line between healthy ambition and toxic striving and how burnout, perfectionism, and societal pressures intersect * How wellness culture ties our worth to shifting health trends and body image, making people feel like they’re constantly chasing unrealistic ideals instead of real wellness * Blending intuitive eating and ACT helps break free from toxic striving and find balance * How rigid rules around food, time, and behavior quietly shape our lives * Shifting from rigid rules to self-compassion can transform habits like sleep, exercise, and eating * How shame can fuel rigid behaviors, toxic striving, and the liberating power of self-compassion * Embracing pleasure, rejecting guilt, and recognizing that enjoying life enhances our well-being and the value we bring to others * How reclaiming your intuition and setting media boundaries can transform your daily life
Resources: * Toxic Striving: Why Hustle and Wellness Cultures are Leaving Us Anxious, Stressed, and Burned Out– and How to Break Free * Paula Freedman-Diamond, Psy.D. * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindfuldrpaula/
About Paula Freedman-Diamond Paula Freedman-Diamond, Psy.D., is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. She is the owner and clinical director of HumanKind Psychological Services in Chicago, IL and the author of Toxic Striving: Why Hustle and Wellness Cultures are Leaving Us Anxious, Stressed, and Burned Out– and How to Break Free, and The Addiction Recovery Workbook. Dr. Paula specializes in perfectionism, anxiety, and eating disorders. She enjoys helping high-achievers and people-please rs learn to stop chasing external approval and start living according to the wisdom of their own bodies and minds.
Dr. Paula is on a mission to take down the toxic systems that make people feel like they’re not good enough, no matter how hard they work. She is especially passionate about making healthcare more welcoming and respectful for all bodies. She provides education and supervision for clinical psychology doctoral students. She is a strong advocate for size inclusivity in health, fitness, and wellness spaces.
Dr. Paula has been featured in the New York Times and is a featured expert for Reebok, Bark Technologies, and A Sweat Life. She is on the advisory boards for Medical Students for Size Inclusivity and Fat Torah. You can follow her on Instagram at @mindfuldrpaula.
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How does happiness fuel productivity and success?
Join Michael Herold in an empowering chat with Mary Anderson, the author of The Happy High Achiever, who gives her expertise on how high-achievers can turn the tables on stress and anxiety, unlocking powerful tools that can lead you to greater success and fulfillment in life.
You’ll discover how to identify cognitive distortions, including what Mary coined the ‘Troublesome Trifecta,’ learn techniques to challenge those pesky, unhelpful thoughts and uncover personalized strategies for building your confidence, tackling perfectionism, embracing your authentic self, and forging meaningful connections with others.
If you want to learn how to become a happy high achiever and unleash your full potential, listening to this episode and getting your copy of Mary’s book is a step in the right direction!
Listen and Learn: * What inspired Mary to write a guide for high achievers struggling with anxiety * Redefining achievement and optimizing mindset to reach your best self * The “Troublesome Trifecta” of thoughts that can sabotage your progress and fuel anxiety * Why striving for excellence, not perfection, could unlock your potential without all the stress * Embracing your mistakes to achieve true excellence and balance high achievement * Why celebrating victories fuels your success and happiness
Resources: * The Happy High Achiever: 8 Essentials to Overcome Anxiety, Manage Stress, and Energize Yourself for Success–Without Losing Your Edge * Website: https://maryandersonphd.com/ * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/people/Dr-Mary-Anderson/100063517721186/ * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_maryanderson/ * Link to POTC Listener Survey: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeCtaljb-QMHXl6651OdUrK6Zwt5QeDckw6dCoDYszC-0XpyA/viewform
About Mary AndersonDr. Mary Anderson is a licensed psychologist and sought-after speaker with over a decade of experience helping patients become happier, healthier, and sustainably high-achieving. Dr. Anderson earned her PhD in clinical psychology, with a specialty in health psychology, from the University of Florida and completed her internship and post-doctoral fellowship at the VA Boston Healthcare System, with appointments at Harvard Medical School and Boston University School of Medicine. She currently lives in Boston, Massachusetts.
Related Episodes* 122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson * 346. Self-compassion Daily Journal with Diana Hill * 360. The Laws of Connection with David Robson
Are kids learning enough about how the world really works?
This week, Emily hosts Lindsey Cormack, a thoughtful political science professor and author of How to Raise a Citizen (and Why It’s Up to You to Do It), to talk about how we, as parents, can play a big role in raising engaged citizens.
They delve into Lindsey’s experiences and research, demonstrating how schools frequently fail to teach students the fundamentals of government. They also look into what it means to be a ‘citizen’ and how we can encourage our children to be interested in politics.
You’ll hear tips on having age-appropriate political discussions, tackling misinformation, and helping kids feel empowered to participate.
This conversation is a heartfelt reminder for all of us parents to step up and help guide our kids into becoming informed, active voters.
Listen and Learn: * Lindsey’s journey to writing a parenting book that empowers kids to understand politics * Why young adults struggle with politics—and how family conversations can change the future * Raising politically empowered kids with the autonomy to shape their communities * How you, as a parent, can shape future citizens to strengthen democracy in an age of political disengagement * Protecting your kids from misinformation by helping them understand politics better * Developing non-cognitive skills through civic engagement and how this can empower your kids for life * Can engaging in politics boost your kids’ college prospects and help them become impactful leaders? * How engaging in local politics can boost kids’ mental health and empower them to create change * Ways you can engage your kids in politics positively and navigate tough discussions about leaders * How to model open-mindedness and flexible thinking for kids in political discussions! * Should more states have the constitution test for kids? * Nurturing political understanding in your kids, from ages 5 to 18 * Why equipping kids to navigate politics is crucial for a better future, not just party loyalty
Resources: * How to Raise a Citizen (and Why It’s Up to You to Do It) * https://www.lindseycormack.com/ * https://twitter.com/DCInbox * https://www.instagram.com/howtoraiseacitizen/
About Lindsey CormackLindsey Cormack is an associate professor of Political Science and Director of the Diplomacy Lab at Stevens Institute of Technology. She has authored two books, How to Raise a Citizen (And Why it’s Up to You to Do It) and Congress and U.S. Veterans: From the GI Bill to the VA Crisis. She created and maintains the digital database of all official Congress-to-constituent e-newsletters at www.dcinbox.com. She earned her PhD in Government from New York University. She currently serves as the Secretary for Manhattan Community Board 8.
Her research has been published in Political Behavior, Congress & the Presidency, Legislative Studies Quarterly, Political Science Research and Methods, American Politics Research, Politics & Policy, Politics Groups & Identities, Politics & Gender, The Journal of Gender Studies, Energy Economics, The Legislative Scholar as well as in popular outlets including the Bloomberg Businesswire, The New York Times, The Washington Post, FiveThirtyEight, ProPublica, Roll Call, The New York Post, NBC News, the LSE USCentre, and The Hill, The Conversation, The San Francisco Chronicle, and more.
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This week on Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill takes on the dynamic blend of science and art in therapy with our amazing guest, Dr. Michael Alcee, a mental health educator and the author of Therapeutic Improvisation: How to Stop Winging It and Own It as a Therapist.
Michael sheds light on the vital balance between left-brain logic and right-brain creativity that makes for effective psychotherapy, shares thoughts on the power of humor, metaphor, and emotional connection, and reveals how therapists can embrace their creative side while staying rooted in scientific principles.
With fascinating examples from Miichael’s professional experience, he presents practical strategies to help therapists enhance their intuitive skills, boost their therapeutic presence, and build stronger connections with their clients.
Please join us for an intriguing discovery of how blending science and art can elevate your therapeutic practice and transform the outcome of your client sessions!
Listen and Learn: * How the art of therapy and music intertwine to create healing conversations that inspire growth * The surprising encounter with Irving Yalom that revealed profound insights into the art of therapy and led Michael to write his book * How therapy becomes an art, blending science and creativity to help clients find their true selves * Embracing intuition, creativity, and improvisation as a therapist to enhance your practice * Understanding left and right brain dynamics and how it enhances therapy, fostering creativity and insight * How the concept “mindsight” and “wise mind” blend logic and emotion in therapy * How therapists can embrace metaphor and intuition for deeper client connections and transformative outcomes
Resources: Therapeutic Improvisation: How to Stop Winging It and Own It as a Therapist * https://michaelalcee.com/ * https://michael-alcee.com/ * https://www.linkedin.com/in/michael-alcee-14417755/ * https://www.instagram.com/mike_drop_/ * https://www.facebook.com/livelifecreatively2/ * Mentioned in this episode: The Courage to Create: https://www.amazon.com/Courage-Create-Rollo-May/dp/0393311066*
About Michael AlceeMichael Alcée, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in Tarrytown, NY, and is a Mental Health Educator at the Manhattan School of Music. In his first book, Therapeutic Improvisation: How to Stop Winging It and Own It as a Therapist (Norton, 2022), Michael demonstrated how all clinicians are artists, reading the changes like well-versed jazz musicians, finding the poetic turns in their client’s stories like skilled writers, and reveling in the creative act that emerges in the humanistic encounter of psychotherapy. His forthcoming book is entitled The Upside of OCD: Flip the Script to Reclaim Your Life (Rowman & LIttlefield, 2024) and aims to add depth to the exploration and understanding of the OCD experience. Michael has been a TEDx speaker and organizer and is a regular contributor at Psychology Today along with contributions to NPR, The Chicago Tribune, and The New York Times, among others. You can also find him on The Psychology Podcast with Scott Barry Kaufman and on Shrink Rap Radio.
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Are you in the midst of a midlife transition, grappling with big questions about purpose, change, and self-discovery?
For this week’s episode, cohost Debbie Sorensen celebrates her 50th birthday with a discussion on the transformative period of midlife with her friend, Dr. Meg McKelvie.
A period rich with psychological shifts, existential questions, and challenges in finding deeper meaning, they get into acceptance and commitment therapy, emotional, psychical and cognitive changes, ways to overcome people-pleasing habits, and much much more.
With practical exercises and writing practices, this episode is a gift to anyone navigating midlife transitions and relationships, offering insight, reflection, and a path toward deeper understanding and fulfilling connections. We hope you enjoy this heartfelt and poignant conversation!
Listen and Learn * Opportunities that midlife brings for deeper understanding and transformation * Confronting body changes and the aging process * How your relationships can become deeper in midlife; letting go of surface-level bonds and embracing genuine honesty and shared experiences * The myth of the midlife crisis and how, contrary to what stereotypes lead us to believe, it frequently involves a sharp internal existential shift rather than a dramatic upheaval * Living with unanswered questions and learning to sit with the discomfort of uncertainty * Ways you can cultivate a personal space that nurtures self-reflection and self-sufficiency * The lessons that regret can teach us * The value of sitting with challenging emotions such as anger and grief, and how these feelings can provide critical insights into your life * The difference between body neutrality and body positivity and how stepping back from the internal debate about your body can lead to a more peaceful relationship with yourself
Resources: Meg’s website: https://www.drmegmckelvie.com/ * Link to the “Soul-Searching Questions” handout on Meg’s website and Debbie’s website. * More writing resources from Meg and Debbie: + Meg’s writing workshops: https://www.drmegmckelvie.com/workshopsgroups + Debbie’s Instagram for journaling prompts: https://www.instagram.com/drdebbiesorensen/ + Debbie’s Guided Journaling substack: https://guidedjournaling.substack.com/ + 345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock * A Substack essay Debbie wrote on her 50th birthday * A commentary on the Surgeon General’s recent advisory on parental stress, by co-hosts Debbie and Emily, and former co-host Yael Schonburn! * Books mentioned in the episode: + Finding Meaning In the Second Half of Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781592402076 + The Heroine’s Journey*: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781611808308
About Meg MckelvieDr. Meg McKelvie is a therapist, consultant and trainer specializing in acceptance and commitment therapy, and a co-founder of Impact Psychology Colorado. She earned her PhD in clinical psychology from the University of Colorado at Boulder. Prior to her work in private practice, she was a psychologist in the family program at the Rocky Mountain VA Medical Center, and she served as a nationally recognized trainer and consultant in cognitive processing therapy for trauma in the VA healthcare system. She’s committed to decreasing suffering through a lens of act and understanding our yearning to belong. And she leads writing groups called Belonging from the Inside Out
About Debbie Sorensen Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado, who has a PhD from Harvard University and a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder. She specializes in working with individual adults who are experiencing chronic stress and burnout. In addition to being one of the co-hosts of Psychologists Off the Clock, she is the author of ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.
EvotoRelated episodes: * 199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie * 345. Writing for Personal Growth with Maureen Murdock * 315. Hot & Bothered: Menopause with Jancee Dunn * 291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy * 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel * 242. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management with Oliver Burkeman * 351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman * 274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock * 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser * 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune * 285. What Do You Want Out of Life? Values Fulfillment Theory with Valerie Tiberius
If you are craving deeper, more meaningful connections in life then you’re in for a treat with our latest guest, Dr. Adam Dorsay.
Adam, also affectionately known as EnthusiAdam, is a licensed psychologist and executive coach who walks us through the core ideas from his upcoming book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the Four Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love, set to release on October 1st (mark your calendars!).
We touch on the essential connections we need in life—to ourselves, others, the world around us, and something greater.
Throughout our chat, Adam offers plenty of practical, heart-centered tips on how to break down barriers like FOMO, embrace vulnerability, and start building truly meaningful connections.
From shared learning experiences to local adventures, we talk about ways to actively foster those deeper bonds we all long for. Please join us for an inspiring and actionable conversation that’ll leave you feeling more connected than ever!
Listen and Learn: * The true meaning of connection—beyond relationships * The hidden barriers to connection—why FOMO, distraction, social media, and conformity are keeping us apart * Using Adam’s Driveaway Test to reveal the true impact of your connections * How creating a must-haves list can lead to lasting, fulfilling connections and relationships * Examples of how you can strengthen your connections and build lasting bonds through shared experiences and learning together
Resources: * https://dradamdorsay.com/ * Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the Four Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love * https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/adam-dorsay-san-jose-ca/47721 * https://www.instagram.com/dradamdorsay/ * https://www.linkedin.com/in/adam-dorsay-psy-d-a582a2/
About Adam DorsayDr. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and executive coach in Silicon Valley where he serves high-achieving adults. Adam is a TEDx speaker and the host of SuperPsyched, an award-winning podcast with over 200 episodes which we at psychologists off the clock love. And his book by the same name, Superpsyched: Unleash the power of the 4 types of connection and live the life you love will be available on October first and is what we are here to discuss today. Adam has provided keynotes and trainings to multiple corporations and organizations, including Microsoft, Linkedin, and the California Psychological Association. He is happily married, the father of young boys, and he has a hypoallergenic 33-pound Australian Labradoodle therapy dog named Raffi, who lives at his home and works at his office.
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Do you feel like you are constantly on an emotional rollercoaster with your children?
Get stuck into this lively chat with Dr. Carla Naumburg, a licensed clinical social worker, and the mind behind ‘How to Stop Losing Your It with Your Kids‘..
Carla introduces us to her new book, ‘How to Stop Freaking Out‘, which is written specifically for kids, and talks about how a mix of compassion and humor can make all the difference.
Whether you’re a parent looking for ways to stay calm or a kid trying to understand your own feelings, Carla shares practical tips and fun mindfulness techniques that you can learn and introduce to your family in a gentle and impactful way.
Give it a listen and discover how you can bring more calm and connection to your family. You never know—you might just find the perfect strategy to make those daily challenges a little easier!
Listen and Learn: * How Carla turned her hit advice for parents into a playful, illustrated guide for kids * Why kids’ emotional freakouts are not only normal but essential for their development * The four core features of a freakout using Carla’s FART acronym * The “Safety Squirrel”: a playful way to explain the brain’s fight, flight, freeze, and freak-out responses * How the simple act of “noticing” can gently guide your mind out of a freakout * How to help your child recognize their emotional “buttons” and guide them with compassionate strategies to navigate their big feelings * Playful strategies that you as a parent can experiment with to turn challenging moments into opportunities for growth and connection * Self-compassion for kids and how this can help them handle tough times better * Clara’s clever way to introduce her book How to Stop Freaking Out to your kids without them feeling pressured and making them eager to explore it
Resources: How to Stop Freaking Out: The Ultimate Guide to Keeping Cool When Life Feels Chaotic * How to Stop Losing Your Sht with Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent * Website: www.carlanaumburg.com * Email: carla@carlanaumburg.com * Instagram: @carlanaumburg * Facebook: Carla Naumburg
About Carla NaumburgCarla Naumburg, PhD, LICSW is a clinical social worker and the author of five books, including the bestselling How to Stop Losing Your Sht With Your Kids and its forthcoming middle-grade companion How to Stop Freaking Out*. Her writing has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, CNN, and Mindful Magazine, among other places. Carla lives in Massachusetts with her husband and two daughters.
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What if there’s more to happiness and fulfillment than what you’ve been taught? Speaking about her book The Art of the Interesting, Lorraine Besser questions accepted notions of what constitutes a fulfilling life. She doesn’t just explore happiness and meaning; she challenges their dominance, exposing how chasing these ideals can sometimes leave us feeling empty and disillusioned.
Lorraine invites us to consider a different path: pursuing a psychologically rich life. This isn’t about endless joy or a sense of fulfillment that’s always just out of reach. It’s about diving into experiences that are novel, complex, and challenging—experiences that make us think deeply and feel intensely. Drawing from her own life and philosophical reflections, Lorraine shows us how to find interest and meaning in the every day, and she offers practical advice on how to weave psychological richness into the fabric of our lives.
This is more than just a conversation; it’s an important call to rethink what it means to live fully.
Listen and Learn: * Challenging the traditional notions of happiness and meaning as the sole keys to a fulfilling life * Why the pursuit of constant happiness is unrealistic and how understanding the limits of pleasure can lead to a more fulfilling and realistic approach to a good life. * The elusive nature of fulfillment and why achieving your dreams often leads to unexpected feelings of emptiness * The historical evolution of the concept of individual purpose * The roles of philosophers and psychologists in exploring happiness * The concept of “the interesting” as the third pillar to a fulfilling life * How embracing unexpected moments of curiosity and novelty can subtly enrich your life * Distinguishing “Mindfulness 2.0” from traditional mindfulness * How embracing “psychologically rich moments” can turn your everyday struggles and mundane tasks into powerful opportunities for personal growth and deeper insight * Finding “psychologically rich moments” to help you engage with and grow from challenging situations in life * How being open and honest in your friendships can transform your connections * The biggest misconception about achieving a psychologically rich life
Resources: * The Art of the Interesting: What We Miss in Our Pursuit of the Good Life and How to Cultivate It * https://www.instagram.com/lorbesser/?hl=en * https://lorrainebesser.com/ * https://twitter.com/LorraineBesser * https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/lorraine-besser-ph-d/the-art-of-the-interesting/9781538743201/
About Lorraine BesserLorraine Besser, PhD, is a professor of philosophy at Middlebury College, who specializes in the philosophy and psychology of the good life and teaches popular courses for undergraduates on happiness, well-being, and ethics. An internationally recognized scholar, she was a founding investigator on the research team studying psychological richness. She is the author of two academic books (The Philosophy of Happiness: An Interdisciplinary Introduction and Eudaimonic Ethics: The Philosophy and Psychology of Living Well) and dozens of professional journal articles on moral psychology.
Related Episodes* 351. You Only Die Once with Jodi Wellman * 357. Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas and Christopher Wong Michaelson * 336. Mindfulness and Living Expansively with Sharon Salzberg * 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka * 328. How to Navigate Change with Brad Stulberg
What if the key to healing our fractured society lies not in silencing our differences, but in harnessing them?
In this conversation with Diana M. Smith, a renowned thought leader in conflict resolution and organizational change, we’re not just talking about the pressing issue of political divisiveness—we’re talking about the power to reshape our society by rethinking how we engage with one another and transform conflicts into constructive forces for societal progress.
Drawing from her extensive career, including her newest book ‘Remaking the Space Between Us,’ Diana touches on compelling insights on how collaboration across groups can solve today’s complex problems.
Tune in to explore practical steps individuals and communities can take to foster understanding and unity in a polarized world and learn about the importance of shifting from an outrage mindset to an engaged mindset.
Listen and Learn: * How Diana’s journey from political activism and organizational learning led to groundbreaking insights on resolving lateral conflicts and preventing the rise of authoritarianism in a rapidly changing world * How the media’s focus on extremes distorts our perceptions and fuels division and what we can do to transform our fractured democracy * The rise of solutions-focused journalism and how the shift from outrage to engagement can reshape the way we consume news and empower communities to tackle real-world problems * The evolutionary history of in-group cooperation and out-group competition and how it has shaped today’s divisive world * The inspiring groups leading us towards a new evolutionary step in building a multi-group democracy—one that could finally bridge our divides and meet the challenges of the 21st century * America’s deep-rooted identity crisis, shaped by the historic tension between equality and liberty * Actionable steps to bridge divides and foster meaningful connections across groups, overcome isolation, challenge biases, and collaboratively address societal issues * Focusing on changing patterns rather than blaming individuals to transform adversaries into partners
Resources: Diane’s books: * Remaking the Space Between Us: How Citizens Work Together to Build a Better Future For All * Action Science * Elephant in the Room * Divide or Conquer
Follow Diana on social media: * https://www.remakingthespace.org/ * https://www.linkedin.com/in/diana-smith-bb8b505/ * https://www.instagram.com/dianamclainsmith * https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555850530104
Referenced in this episode: * The Old Man Who Saved American Democracy. Twice by Jonathan V. Last: https://substack.com/@jvlast/p-147892467 * Solutions Journalism Network: https://www.solutionsjournalism.org/ * https://onestepinc.org/ * https://startswith.us/ * https://storycorps.org/ * https://braverangels.org/ * https://citizenconnect.us/
About Diana McLain SmithDiana McLain Smith is a renowned thought leader who has led change efforts for thirty-five years in some of America’s most iconic businesses and cutting-edge non-profits. A former partner at the Monitor Group and a former chief executive partner at New Profit, Smith developed an approach to conflict and change called Leading Through Relationships (LTR)TM. Smith’s frameworks and tools, captured in The Elephant in the Room (Wiley), Divide Or Conquer (Penguin), and dozens of articles, have been used around the world to turn intergroup conflict into a powerful force for change. She shares her life with Bruce Patton, coauthor of Getting to Yes and Difficult Conversations, in Vermont and Massachusetts with their two rambunctious dogs, Atticus and Scout.
Related episodes: * 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us * 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie * 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen * 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer * 353. Ask Great Questions with Jeff Wetzler * 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado * 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune
Are you truly living the life you desire, or are hidden patterns holding you back?
Challenging us to rethink our understanding of freedom and personal fulfillment, we bring you a fascinating conversation with Dr. Emma Seppälä, a renowned psychologist, bestselling author, and Yale lecturer who introduces her latest book, Sovereign, which delves into the profound concept of sovereignty—not just as a political term but as a personal journey toward breaking free from the self-imposed barriers that keep us from reaching our fullest potential.
Combining cutting-edge research with practical wisdom, she guides us in uncovering the often unseen obstacles that prevent us from living our best lives. You’ll hear how to overcome mental and emotional traps and about the transformative power of stepping into your greatest self. Join us for an enlightening discussion that is jam-packed with insights that could change the way you approach your daily life.
Listen and Learn: * What it truly means to be sovereign * How a bound self can sabotage your success and how cultivating a sovereign self can transform everything * The key difference between self-criticism and self-awareness and how it could be impacting your resilience * Techniques to transform bound emotions into creative energy and reclaim sovereignty * The meditation session that helped Emma transform bound emotions and break a destructive habit * Are hidden imprints shaping your life? * How to stay sovereign and resist imprints and unhealthy messaging at work and in life * What is “positive relational energy” and how can it transform your relationships and work? * The ways food, sleep, nature, and intuition profoundly impact mental health and decision-making
Resources: * Sovereign: Reclaim Your Freedom, Energy, and Power in a Time of Distraction, Uncertainty, and Chaos * emmaseppala.com * iamsov.com * https://twitter.com/emmaseppala * https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCB4RsignHJRDo8r4IWW1Glg * https://www.facebook.com/emma.seppala * https://www.linkedin.com/in/emmaseppala/ * https://www.instagram.com/thehappinesstrack/
About Emma SeppäläEMMA SEPPÄLÄ, Ph.D., is a best-selling author, Yale lecturer, and international keynote speaker. She teaches executives at the Yale School of Management and is faculty director of the Yale School of Management’s Women’s Leadership Program. A psychologist and research scientist by training, her expertise is the science of happiness, emotional intelligence, and social connection. Her best-selling book The Happiness Track (HarperOne, 2016) has been translated into dozens of languages. Her new book is Sovereign (Hay House, 2024). Seppälä is also the Science Director of Stanford University’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education.
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Imagine seeing teenagers not as a bundle of challenges but as a wellspring of untapped potential. That’s exactly what our guest Ellen Galinsky, President of Families and Work Institute, invites you to do in this episode through her book ‘The Breakthrough Years: A New Scientific Framework for Raising Thriving Teens,’ which challenges the negative cultural narratives about teenagers by presenting a new scientific framework that underscores teens’ strengths and capabilities.
Guiding us in understanding adolescent brain development, Ellen talks about the advantages of positive risk-taking, the role of executive function skills and offers a fresh perspective on adopting an approach to problem-solving that promotes autonomy. You’ll also hear how to navigate the turbulent waters of social media. Curious about how you can make the most of your teen’s toughest years? Tune in to learn some game-changing wisdom that could totally shift your perspective—and theirs!
Listen and Learn: * Challenging the negative stereotypes of teenagers * Insights from the “Breakthrough Years” study on teens’ voices and development * Why risk-taking in adolescence is crucial for growth * How risk-seeking in teens fosters bravery and examples of how you can encourage positive risk-taking * Using autonomy-supportive caregiving to transform parenting and problem-solving with teens * Why shifting from an adversity mindset to a possibilities mindset can transform your parenting * How executive functioning—focus, working memory, reflection, and self-control—shapes success * Finding a balance of autonomy and structure in social media use and how this can support healthy teen development
Resources: * The Breakthrough Years: A New Scientific Framework for Raising Thriving Teens * Ellen Galinsky: https://ellengalinsky.com/ * The Great Rewiring of Our Lives: Have We Ruined Childhood Forever? https://iai.tv/video/the-great-rewiring-of-our-lives?time=420 * Connect with Ellen on Social: + https://www.facebook.com/ellen.galinsky/ + https://twitter.com/ellengalinsky + https://twitter.com/ellengalinsky
About Ellen GalinskyEllen Galinsky is President of Families and Work Institute. She’s conducted research on child-care, parent-professional relationship, parental development, work-family issues and youth voice. She also serves as senior science advisor to AASA, the School Superintendent Organization and as senior advisor to the Immediate Office of the Assistant Secretary of Youth Mental Health at the Administration for Children and Families, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Ellen is the author of the best-selling Mind in the Making, more than 100 books/reports and 300 articles.
Other highlights include serving as a parent expert in the Mister Rogers Talks to Parents TV series; as child care expert on Dr. T. Berry Brazelton’s TV series What Every Baby Knows; being the elected President of the National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC); and being elected to the National Academy of Human Resources. In 2018, the Work and Family Researchers Network established the ongoing Ellen Galinsky Generative Researcher Award. She holds a Master of Science degree in child development and education from Bank Street College of Education and a Bachelor of Arts degree in child study from Vassar College.
A popular keynote speaker, she has been a presenter at five White House Conferences, including the White House Conference on Teenagers in 2000. She has been featured regularly in the media, including appearances on Good Morning America, the Today Show, and The Oprah Winfrey Show.
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Discover the keys to mastering any skill with Scott Young. Bringing us his latest book, Get Better at Anything: 12 Maxims for Mastery, Scott retells his fascinating journey of self-studying MIT’s computer science curriculum and breaks down the essential process of learning: seeing, doing, and receiving feedback. You’ll find out how learning from others, effective practice, and receiving feedback can accelerate personal and professional growth. If you want to enhance your own learning journey, we invite you to hear Scott’s inspiring story and unique perspective and gain actionable insights from his book.
Listen and Learn: * How Scott self-studied MIT’s computer science curriculum in a year, transforming a personal challenge into a widely recognized success story * Mastering any skill by seeing, doing, and getting feedback * Debunking the misleading learning myths that could be holding you back * Learning a skill from the ground up * How to identify the most effective and credible resources for mastering new skills * Is it true adults have a harder time acquiring skills compared to kids? * The process of unlearning * Is AI helpful or a hindrance to learning? * Strategies for empowering your young child’s learning * How exposure therapy could transform your fear into confidence in just two weeks
Resources: * Scott’s website: https://www.scotthyoung.com/ * Get Better at Anything: 12 Maxims for Mastery * Connect with Scott on socials: + https://www.facebook.com/AuthorScottYoung/ + https://www.youtube.com/user/ScottHYoungVid + http://twitter.com/scotthyoung/ + https://www.facebook.com/AuthorScottYoung/ + https://ca.linkedin.com/in/scott-h-young-867ab21 + https://www.instagram.com/scotthyoung/
About Scott H. YoungScott H. Young is the Wall Street Journal bestselling author of Ultralearning, a podcast host, computer programmer, and an avid reader. Since 2006, he has published weekly essays to help people learn and think better. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Pocket, and Business Insider, on the BBC, and at TEDx among other outlets. He doesn’t promise to have all the answers, just a place to start. He lives in Vancouver, Canada.
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If you feel overwhelmed by chronic disorganization, struggle to maintain focus, or wonder if your adult challenges might be linked to ADHD, we’re sitting down with Michaela Thomas, a brilliant clinical psychologist and the mastermind behind The Thomas Connection, the author of “The Lasting Connection,” host of the Pause Purpose Play podcast, and a leading expert in ADHD support.
Through Michael’s extensive and personal understanding of ADHD in adulthood, you’ll discover why seeking a diagnosis can be transformative, how ADHD manifests differently across genders, and the benefits of understanding your neurodivergent brain for your relationships. Trust us, she’s a powerhouse of knowledge and empowerment! Want to find out how to navigate your own ADHD journey with clarity and confidence? Tune in with Debbie and Michaela!
Listen and Learn: * The myths about ADHD, why professional assessment matters, and how it impacts attention, energy, and motivation * Why ADHD in women is frequently overlooked and how it presents differently in girls and women * Michaela speaks about her own journey of being diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and how it has allowed her to live authentically * The reasons why Michaela sought out an ADHD evaluation * Why getting an ADHD diagnosis has advantages and disadvantages, as well as how developing self-awareness can improve your relationships and general wellbeing * Why the ADHD assessment process is far more complex than many think * Is ADHD really overdiagnosed? * The distinctions between ADHD and autism in women and girls and why understanding these differences can affect both diagnosis and support * The paradox of hyperfocus in ADHD
Resources: * The Thomas Connection * Pause Purpose Play * The Lasting Connection * Instagram @TheThomasConnection
About Michaela Thomas Michaela is a Senior Clinical Psychologist and managing director and lead psychologist of The Thomas Connection. As well as her role as managing director and lead psychologist of The Thomas Connection, she is also the author of couples and compassion book called The Lasting Connection and the host of the podcast Pause Purpose Play. She posts on Instagram under The_Thomas_Connection. Michaela specialises in perfectionism, helping high-striving women let go of the pressure of perfection, to find the balance to burn bright, not burn out. She offers online courses, and ADHD evaluations and support. She lives in London. She
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If you’re unsure about life’s big decisions and tired of making endless pros and cons lists, we’ve got a bonus co-host episode just for you! We’re helping you break down complex decisions into easy-to-follow exercises that you can do right along with us or on your own time. From understanding your comfort zone to making tough choices based on values rather than fear or external pressures, we’ve got it all covered. It’s like having your very own therapist in your earbuds. So join us, grab a pen and paper, and let us guide you in living a more purposeful life!
Resources:* Jill’s Newsletter archive:https://jillstoddard.com/newsletter-archives * Go with Your Gut: * https://jillstoddard.mykajabi.com/e/BAh7BjoWZW1haWxfZGVsaXZlcnlfaWRsKwhzfBVgAwA%3D–474f34703358236832a89a99e3d07f24cb493f21?skip_click_tracking=true * Decision-Making:https://jillstoddard.mykajabi.com/e/BAh7BjoWZW1haWxfZGVsaXZlcnlfaWRsKwiOXf2cAgA%3D–fe7bdba30eb4f5f3cf33c61f944ca6a6fc5b1458?skip_click_tracking=true
Debbie Sorensen, PhD, Co-hostDebbie (she/her) is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. She is author of the upcoming book ACT for Burnout: Recharge, Reconnect, and Transform Burnout with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She loves living in Colorado, her home state, with her husband, two daughters, and dog. When she’s not busy working or podcasting, she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, traveling, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Rocky Mountains! You can learn more about Debbie, read her blog, and find out about upcoming presentations and training events at her webpage, drdebbiesorensen.com.
Jill Stoddard, PhD, Co-hostJill Stoddard is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive. She is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, bariatric coach, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. Dr. Stoddard is the founder and director of The Center for Stress and Anxiety Management, an outpatient practice specializing in evidence-based therapies for anxiety and related issues. She is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Her writing has also appeared in The Washington Post, Psychology Today, Scary Mommy, Thrive Global, The Good Men Project, and Mindful Return. She regularly appears on podcasts and as an expert source for various media outlets. She lives in Newburyport, MA with her husband, two kids, and disobedient French Bulldog.
Michael Herold, Co-HostMichael (he/him) is a confidence trainer and social skills coach, based in Vienna, Austria. He’s helping his clients overcome their social anxiety through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and fun exposure exercises. (Though the jury is still out on whether they’re mostly fun for him). He is also a certified therapeutic game master, utilizing the Dungeons&Dragons tabletop roleplaying game to train communication, assertiveness, and teamwork with young adults. Or actually, anyone ready to roll some dice and battle goblins in a supportive group where players want to level up (pun!) their social skills. Michael is the head coach of the L.A. based company The Art of Charm, running their confidence-building program “Unstoppable” as well as workshops on small talk, storytelling, vulnerability, and more. He is the scientific advisor and co-producer of their large podcast with more than 250 million downloads. As a member of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), Michael is the current President of the ACT Coaching Special Interest Group with nearly 1,000 coaches worldwide, and the co-founder of the ACT in Austria Affiliate of ACBS, a nationwide meetup for ACT practitioners in Austria. He’s a public speaker who has spoken at TEDx, in front of members of parliament, universities, and once in a cinema full of 500 kids high on sugary popcorn. In a previous life, he was a character animator working on award-winning movies and TV shows such as “The Penguins of Madagascar” and “Kung Fu Panda”. That was before he realized that helping people live a meaningful life is much more rewarding than working in the film business – even though the long nights in the studio allowed him to brew his own beer in the office closet, an activity he highly recommends. Michael grew up with five foster kids who were all taken out of abusive families. His foster sisters showed him how much positive change is possible in a person if they have the love and support they need.
Emily Edlynn, PhD, Co-HostEmily (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children’s Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children’s hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019. Emily’s writing has also appeared in the Washington Post, Scary Mommy, Good Housekeeping, Motherly, and more. She recently added author to her bio with her book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent Confident Children and has a Substack newsletter. Emily lives with her husband, three children, and two rescue dogs in Oak Park, IL where she can see Chicago’s skyline from her attic window.
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Money talk can be a real minefield in relationships, especially if you and your partner or spouse have totally different spending habits. If this sounds familiar, then you’ve got to check out our latest episode with Dr. Scott Rick, a behavioral scientist and the author of Tightwads and Spendthrifts. We tackle questions like whether tightwads and spendthrifts can actually find harmony together and uncover insights from his original research on the psychology of money management in relationships. Tune in to discover how your financial mindset could be impacting your love life and get actionable tips to transform your money management anxieties!
Listen and Learn: * How our psychology not only influences how we handle money, but the way we handle money also influences our psychology * Defining tightwads, spendthrifts, and unconflicted consumers * Does research suggest who is more likely to be a tightwad or spendthrift, and are there differences beyond how much money they make? * The most harmonious versus more conflictual pairings among Tightwads and Spenthroots * Are couples with joint accounts and some financial translucency more likely to have higher marital satisfaction than full transparency? * Scott’s strategies for both tightwads and spendthrifts to manage their spending anxieties * Why letting the tightwad parent handle toy purchases and the spendthrift plan vacations can lead to lasting family happiness * How to teach your kids about money and responsibility while balancing their hobbies and preparing them for real-life financial decisions
Resources: scottrick.com * Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships* * https://www.instagram.com/likelyshopping/ * https://www.linkedin.com/in/scottianrick/ * https://twitter.com/scottianrick
About Scott RickScott Rick is a marketing professor at the University of Michigan’s Ross School of Business. He holds a PhD in Behavioral Decision Research from Carnegie Mellon University, where he was a National Science Foundation graduate research fellow. He has published research in premier journals spanning marketing, psychology, economics, and neuroscience. At the University of Michigan, he has won awards for both research and teaching. Rick’s research has been covered extensively in outlets such as The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and NPR. His first book, Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships, was published in January 2024 by St. Martin’s Press.
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If you want the best guidance for your GI issues without exclusive access to a top-tier medical team, join us in this episode with Megan Riehl, co-author of Mind Your Gut: The Science-based, Whole-body Guide to Living Well. You’ll discover how this book brings science-based strategies, and exercises straight to your home, offering tools rooted in cognitive behavioral therapy to manage GI symptoms effectively. Learn about accessible resources and the profound impact of a multidisciplinary team on your health. Tune in to unlock these valuable insights and improve your well-being!
Listen and learn: * The expansive scope of the gastrointestinal (GI) system and the spectrum of GI conditions * Why the gut is often called the second brain, and how its powerful connection with the brain influences our health in surprising ways * How stress and anxiety fuel GI symptoms and create a cycle of worsening health * The “Dream Team” of GI care * Treating GI with cognitive reframing and decreasing behavioral avoidance * Is clinical hypnotherapy effective for treating IBS and how does it work? * How a “gentle diet cleanup” can transform gut health—before you dive into restrictive diets * The risks of gut pseudoscience on your gut health * How the gut microbiome could revolutionize precision medicine
Resources: https://www.drriehl.com/ * Mind Your Gut: The Science-based, Whole-body Guide to Living Well* * https://www.instagram.com/mindyourgutofficial * https://x.com/DrRiehl * The Gut Health Podcast Kate Scarlata and Megan Riehl * https://opbmed.com/ * Nerva: IBS & Gut Hypnotherapy
About Megan Riehl Dr. Megan Riehl is a clinical health psychologist, an Associate Professor of Medicine and Director of GI Behavioral Health at the University of Michigan. Her research and passion for education have resulted in numerous peer-reviewed publications, leadership roles, and lectures. This year, together with digestive health expert Kate Scarlata, they co-authored Mind Your Gut: The Science-based, Whole-body Guide to Living Well with IBS and launched The Gut Health Podcast.
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If worry is your constant companion, take heart—you’re in good company. Let’s clear something up: worrying is as human as breathing. Everyone does it, and sometimes it even helps. But when worry transforms into a monster that steals your sleep, scrambles your thoughts, and holds your decisions hostage, that’s when we’ve got a problem. If this sounds familiar, you’ll want to hear this conversation with Ben Eckstein where we unpack his book, Worrying Is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck. Tune in to learn how to navigate the cycle of worry and find a balanced approach to life’s uncertainties.
Listen and Learn: * The fundamental distinction between “worry” and “worrying” * How did worrying become part of our human operating system, and when does it stop being helpful? * Why don’t our brains dismiss anxiety and focus solely on problem-solving, instead of reinforcing fear patterns? * How to master the skills to coexist with anxiety and thrive despite it * Unexpected insights from “Legend of Zelda” to explain the nuanced approach needed to treat anxiety * The importance of having compassion for the future version of you
Resources: * Worrying Is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck * Website: www.bullcityanxiety.com * Instagram: @bullcityanxiety * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/bullcityanxiety
About Ben EcksteinBen Eckstein, LCSW is a therapist specializing in the treatment of OCD, Anxiety, and OC-Related Disorders. Ben honed his specialty in OCD while working at McLean Hospital’s OCD Institute in Boston. He’s now the owner and director of Bull City Anxiety & OCD Treatment Center in Durham, North Carolina. Ben is the vice president of OCD North Carolina, the NC state affiliate of the International OCD Foundation. In addition to his clinical work, Ben is a speaker, trainer, and author. His first book, Worrying is Optional: Break the Cycle of Anxiety and Rumination That Keeps You Stuck, was published in 2023.
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Ever had to deal with someone who just seems impossible to reason with? You know, the kind of person who always blames others and seems to turn every minor disagreement into a conflict? If you’ve been there, you’ll want to check out this episode with Bill Eddy, Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute and an expert in understanding high-conflict personalities and dealing with adult bullies. We talk about the characteristics of high-conflict individuals, the psychological impact on their victims, and effective strategies from his book Our New World of Adult Bullies: How to Spot Them — How to Stop Them to navigate these relationships. Tune in and empower yourself with concrete tools and expert advice to diffuse high-conflict behavior effectively and change how you handle bullies in your life!
Listen and Learn: * Identifying the four main traits of high-conflict personalities * Do all individuals with personality disorders fit the high conflict profile? * How to identify if you have a relationship with someone with a high-conflict personality * The differences between adult bullies and child bullies * What is the primary motivation for bullying behavior? * The surprise attack tactic bullies often use and how you can be less vulnerable to them * What is a negative advocate, and how do people end up in that role? * Using the BIFF method in communication to avoid blame cycles and maintain constructive dialogue * Why you should never label the behavior of a high-conflict person or bully? * Combating bullying in political and online realms and why this demands societal action through education and setting boundaries
Resources:* highconflictinstitute.com * Connect with Bill @highconflictinstitute on socials: + https://www.linkedin.com/company/high-conflict-institute + https://twitter.com/highconflict?lang=en + https://www.instagram.com/highconflictinstitute/ * It’s All Your Fault! The High Conflict Institute Podcast * Psychology Today Blog: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/5-types-people-who-can-ruin-your-life * Bill’s books: + https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780757325106 + https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780143131366 + https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781936268726 + https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781684036110
About Bill Eddy: Bill Eddy is Chief Innovation Officer of the High Conflict Institute based in San Diego, California. He trains lawyers, judges, mediators, and therapists throughout the United States and a dozen other countries in managing high-conflict family, workplace and legal disputes. He is the author of over 20 books and manuals and has a popular blog on PsychologyToday.com.
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We know how demanding fatherhood can be and how often your mental well-being takes a backseat. For this episode, we bring you the practical advice and encouraging perspectives of Dr. Danny Singley, an award-winning psychologist, to discuss the often-overlooked topic of men’s mental health and fatherhood. Danny, who is the director of the Center for Men’s Excellence, helps us understand the unique mental health challenges men face, especially during the transition to fatherhood. Expect valuable insights into men’s help-seeking behaviors, the importance of addressing emotional needs, and strategies for fostering deeper male friendships. Whether you are a man, a father, or simply want to learn how to support the men in your life better, tune in to learn how we can all take steps toward promoting mental well-being in men.
Listen and Learn: * Why discussing men’s mental health, challenging stereotypes, breaking through societal expectations, and promoting a more inclusive understanding are crucial in today’s cultural climate * How men’s mental health presents differently * The balance between independence and interdependence for adult males and the challenge of seeking emotional connection beyond their partners * How societal expectations influence men’s reluctance to seek help until prompted by others * How today’s fathers are pioneering new ways to be engaged parents despite lacking role models and battling societal standards and cultural norms to be more present and engaged parents * The surprising hormonal changes in new fathers, the realities of postpartum depression and anxiety, and why paternal mental health deserves much more attention
Resources: * The Center for Men’s Excellence * APA Division 51 * Chat with an Expert | Postpartum Support International (PSI) * The Postpartum Game Plan * Man Park SNL
About Daniel B. Singley, Ph.D., ABPP Bio:Danny Singley is a San Diego-based board certified psychologist and Director of The Center for Men’s Excellence. His research and practice focus on men’s mental health with a particular emphasis on reproductive psychology and the transition to fatherhood. Dr. Singley won the American Psychological Association’s 2017 Practitioner of the Year Award from the Division on Men & Masculinities. He is Past President of the APA’s Section on Positive Psychology and is currently the President of the APA’s Society for the Psychological Study of Men and Masculinities and the President’s Advisory Council for Postpartum Support International. He conducts trainings and presentations around the country to assist individuals and organizations to enhance their level of father inclusiveness and founded the grant-funded Basic Training for New Dads, Inc nonprofit and Padre Cadre social networking application just for dads in order to give new fathers the tools they need to be highly engaged with their infants as well as their partners. In his free time, Dr. Singley likes to cook, surf, read, and trick his two teenage sons into activities so they can’t escape his annoying shrinky questions.
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Feeling disconnected in a world that’s more connected than ever? Then our guest David Robson’s insights couldn’t be more timely. Through over 300 high-quality studies, he uncovers the scientific explanations behind building strong social bonds. Join us to hear about the shared realities that truly bond us, discover why authenticity is key to forming genuine connections, learn practical tips to navigate the complexities of social interactions, and how to overcome the fear of sharing too much. Tune in for a deep exploration of building a strong social network as we uncover David’s book, The Laws of Connection.
Listen and Learn:* How David’s outgoing nature conflicted with his shyness, hindering his ability to make new friends, and new research on optimizing connections motivated him to write a book on social connections * The concepts of shared reality and the liking gap, and how these phenomena form the foundation of effective communication and connection * Moving beyond superficial conversations to forge meaningful connections through intentional shared realities * Embracing “defocusing” to improve interactions by recognizing external influences beyond your control * Balancing curiosity and self-disclosure in conversations for genuine connection * The dynamics of requesting help and the mutual benefits of genuine altruism
Resources: * https://davidrobson.me * The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network * https://www.instagram.com/davidarobson * https://twitter.com/d_a_robson * https://uk.linkedin.com/in/david-robson
About David RobsonDavid Robson is a science writer and author based in the United Kingdom. A graduate of Cambridge University, he has worked as a feature editor at New Scientist and as a senior journalist at the BBC, and his writing has appeared in the Guardian, the Wall Street Journal, the Atlantic, and many other publications. His previous book, The Expectation Effect, won the British Psychological Society Book Award for 2022. His latest book is The Laws of Connection: The Scientific Secrets of Building a Strong Social Network (Pegasus)
Actor headshot photographer, Kirill Kozlov, London 2021Related Episodes* 353. Ask Great Questions with Jeff Wetzler * 310. The Expectation Effect with David Robson * 329. The Power of Curiosity with Scott Shigeoka * 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard
What is the meaning of life? And what role does evolution play in our search for purpose? Join us in a conversation with Dr. Samuel Wilkinson, author of “Purpose: What Evolution and Human Nature Imply About the Meaning of Our Existence.” We cover some big, philosophical questions that don’t have clear answers but are so important to ponder. Our modern fears, our overactive stress responses, and the age-old struggle between good and evil—all these layers make up the complex human experience. Sam’s take on how our evolutionary history impacts our present-day lives is fascinating. So, wonderful listeners, tune in and reflect on these big ideas, and as always, we invite you to share your thoughts and takeaways.
Listen and Learn: * How Sam’s personal struggle with the meaning of life intersected with scientific inquiry and ultimately led to him writing Purpose * Can you believe in evolution while maintaining religious or spiritual faith? * The importance of understanding genetics in the context of evolution * Exploring multi-level selection by redefining “survival of the fittest” across genes, individuals, kin, or groups, and discussing the implications for social traits and human nature * The tension between altruism and selfishness * How much of human aggression is rooted in biology versus culture? * Do environmental factors and expectations influence testosterone levels? * Compelling evidence from psychology that our thoughts influence our behaviors * The significance of family relationships in shaping our sense of meaning and purpose
Resources: * SamuelTWilkinson.com * Samuel Wilkinson, MD – Yale School of Medicine: https://medicine.yale.edu/profile/samuel-wilkinson/ * Connect with Sam on Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/samuel-wilkinson-1863875a
About Samuel T. Wilkinson, MDSamuel T. Wilkinson, MD, is Associate Professor of Psychiatry at Yale University, where he also serves as Associate Director of the Yale Depression Research Program. He received his MD from Johns Hopkins School of Medicine. His articles have been featured in the New York Times, the Washington Post, and the Wall Street Journal. He has been the recipient of many awards, including Top Advancements & Breakthroughs from the Brain and Behavior Research Foundation; Top Ten Psychiatry Papers by the New England Journal of Medicine, the Samuel Novey Writing Prize in Psychological Medicine (Johns Hopkins); the Thomas Detre Award (Yale University); and the Seymour Lustman Award (Yale University). He is the author of Purpose: What Evolution and Human Nature Imply about the Meaning of Our Existence (Pegasus; March 5, 2024).
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Burnout from endless household chores? Meet KC Davis, the brilliant author behind How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing who we had to get on the podcast to share her wisdom with you!
Most of us constantly juggle house cleaning, personal grooming, and what can feel like a million other responsibilities. It can feel like a relentless backdrop to our lives. But KC, who you may have seen making waves on social media, gives us a whole new way of looking at domestic labor. Her insights are transformative and so much more than just chores—they’re about life-changing perspectives and even touch on social justice issues.
If you’re overwhelmed by endless household to-do lists, this episode and KC’s book are invaluable. Tune in and revolutionize your approach to household tasks. Trust us, your future self will thank you!
Listen and Learn: * Balancing a normal daily life with the unexpected recognition and success of her new book, How to Keep House While Drowning * Why did KC make her book so accessible and simple to read? * Why basic self-care like doing the dishes or taking a shower is often overlooked * KC recalls her daily struggles as a new mom facing postpartum depression during the pandemic, with escalating exhaustion and an unmanageable household * The common feeling of failure when overwhelmed by basic care tasks and why these challenges don’t reflect one’s character * How mainstream self-help often leads to initial motivation but ultimately causes shame when people can’t sustain the impractical systems * Navigating domestic work and fairness in shared living spaces and making sure that everyone gets time to rest and recharge
Resources: * https://www.strugglecare.com/ * How to Keep House While Drowning: A Gentle Approach to Cleaning and Organizing * Listen to KC’s Podcast: https://www.strugglecare.com/podcast-rss * Follow KC on social media: * Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strugglecare * Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StruggleCare/ * TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@domesticblisters * Article on scruffy hospitality referenced by Debbie: https://www.treehugger.com/in-priase-scruffy-hospitality-4868485
About KC Davis:KC Davis is a licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, and the person behind the mental health platform Struggle Care. KC’s compassionate and practical approach to self and home care for those dealing with mental health, physical illness, and hard seasons of life has drawn over a million followers on social media in less than a year. Her book, How to Keep House While Drowning, has sold over 300,000 copies and is currently an Amazon bestseller.https://www.treehugger.com/in-priase-scruffy-hospitality-4868485
KC Davis began her therapy journey at 16 when she entered treatment for drug addiction and mental health issues. After getting sober she became a speaker and advocate for mental health and recovery. Professionally, KC has worked most of her career in the field of addiction in roles such a therapist, consultant, and executive director. She lives in Houston with her husband and two daughters.
Learn more about the radical philosophy of Struggle Care that’s changing lives here.
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If you’ve ever pondered questions like, “Should I follow my passion or chase after money? How can I strike the right balance between work and life? What legacy will my work leave behind?” then this episode with the insightful duo of Christopher Wong Michaelson and Jennifer Tosti-Kharas, coauthors of the terrific book Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work, will not only challenge your perception of work but also spark an exploration of deep introspection into the role of work in your life.
Listen and Learn: * The story of how Christoper and Jen merged their backgrounds in psychology and philosophy to come together to coauthor Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work * What Christopher and Jen learned about the meaning of work through studying The New York Times Portraits of Grief * What are the lasting effects of COVID-19 and how are they shaping how we work? * What are the traits of work and how does social construction come into play? * Fairness in work * Are there downsides to working in a field that’s a “calling” and what toll might that take on a person? * What would we do if we weren’t working?
Resources: * Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work * Christopher’s Website * Connect with Christopher on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-wong-michaelson-41b85611/ * Connect with Jen on: + LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jentostikharas + Twitter: https://twitter.com/jentosti (@jentosti)
About Christopher Wong Michaelson Christopher Wong Michaelson is co-author, with Jennifer Tosti-Kharas, of Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work. He is a philosopher with 25 years of experience advising business leaders pursuing meaning and providing work with a purpose. He earned his Ph.D. from the University of Minnesota and then joined the New York office of Price Waterhouse (now PwC) as one of the first five consultants in a business ethics practice. When he accepted a full-time faculty position teaching corporate ethics at the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, he kept a foot for several more years at PwC working on its Global CEO Survey and as its first Strategy Officer to the World Economic Forum. Christopher went from Wharton to NYU’s Stern School of Business, where he still teaches, and later joined one of the largest business ethics faculties in the world at the University of St. Thomas, where he is the Opus Distinguished Professor and Academic Director of the Melrose and The Toro Company Center for Principled Leadership. He lives in Minneapolis with his wife, three kids, and two dogs.
About Jennifer Tosti-KharasJennifer Tosti-Kharas is co-author, with Christopher Wong Michaelson, of Is Your Work Worth It? How to Think About Meaningful Work. Jen is the Camilla Latino Spinelli Endowed Term Chair and Professor of Management at Babson College. Her research on meaningful work, work as a calling, and employee sustainability efforts has been published in top journals, covered in international news outlets, and recognized with Best Paper awards by academic publishers and the Academy of Management. She has co-authored a digital, interactive textbook, Organizational Behavior: Developing Skills for Managers and co-edited The Handbook of Research Methods in Careers. A former management consultant, Jen works with both companies and individuals to craft meaningful careers and appreciate the risks and rewards of work as a calling. She holds a B.S. in Economics from the Wharton School of the University of Pennsylvania, and a Ph.D. in Management with an emphasis on Organizational Behavior from the Stern School of Business of New York University. She lives outside Boston with her husband and two kids.
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In this episode, we talk about a topic that touches so many of our lives: caregiving. Whether it’s something we’ve already experienced or might face in the future, caring for a loved one with a disease or illness is a profound journey.
Allison Applebaum, who is the founder of the Caregivers Clinic and Author of the beautifully titled, Stand By Me: A Guide to Navigating Modern, Meaningful Caregiving comes on board to enlighten us about the realities of caregiving—the stress, the work, the emotional burden—but also the unexpected rewards. She talks about discovering strengths you didn’t know you had and finding deeper connections with those you care for.
Allison’s perspective is holistic and empathetic, offering a well-rounded view of caregiving. We cover everything from the emotional impact to practical tips and the broader societal issues like ageism and bias against those with neurocognitive challenges. It’s a conversation full of perspectives that you may not have even considered before. Let’s dive in!
Listen and Learn: * The Allison Applebaum definition of family Caregiving * How Allison founded a clinic to support caregivers, cared for her father, coped with her mother’s unexpected death, and dealt with the challenges of illness and loss in the healthcare system * The moving tale behind the title of Allison’s book, Stand by Me * Recognizing the significance of a person’s identity and dignity in healthcare * Combating ageism and elder speak in the health system * Tips for beginning the caregiving journey for a loved one facing a health decline * Navigating through conflicts and disagreements within families regarding care for a loved one * What is caregiver burden? How can we prevent or address it? And, is it the same as caregiver burnout? * The challenge of uncertainty for caregivers and helpful strategies for dealing with this * Can meaning and suffering coexist?
Resources: * Allison’s website * Stand By Me: A Guide to Navigating Modern, Meaningful Caregiving * Connect with Allison on Instagram and X
About Allison ApplebaumDr. Allison Applebaum is an Associate Attending Psychologist in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center (MSK), and an Associate Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medicine. She is the Founding Director of the Caregivers Clinic at MSK, the first program of its kind in the United States to provide comprehensive psychosocial care to family members and friends of patients who are in the caregiving role. Dr. Applebaum is also the author of the recently published narrative nonfiction book, Stand By Me: A Guide to Navigating Modern, Meaningful Caregiving.
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You may have heard whispers about EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) therapy, which has gained popularity for treating symptoms of trauma, anxiety, and depression. Although the eye movement component of EMDR is still not fully understood, it involves stimulating the brain through bilateral eye movements, sounds, or taps. Despite several studies finding no evidence that bilateral stimulation improves therapy, anecdotal evidence suggests that EMDR can be very effective in certain cases, and has been a real game changer for some. Here to chat with us and shed some light on this form of therapy, we are excited to have Jamie Marich, a leader in trauma recovery. Curious about EMDR therapy’s transformative potential for healing trauma and mental health challenges? Tune in!
Listen and Learn:* The origin story of EMDR * The skepticism around EMDR * Are trauma and PTSD related? * Distinguishing between “big T” traumas and “small t” traumas * Why might talk therapy not work well for treating trauma and/or PTSD? * What are the phases of an EMDR session? * Can EMDR be done through video therapy?
Resources:* Jamie’s website: https://jamiemarich.com/ * Visit: https://redefinetherapy.com/ * Connect with Jamie on social media: + https://www.instagram.com/drjamiem/ + https://www.facebook.com/drjamiemarich + https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamiemarich/
About Jamie MarchDr. Jamie Marich (she/they) inspires people and systems to heal the wounds that keep them stuck, allowing for authentic transformation free of shame and stigma. A TEDx speaker, clinical trauma specialist, expressive artist, lay spiritual director, short filmmaker, Reiki master, yoga teacher, and recovery advocate, she unites all of these elements in her mission to redefine therapy. She is a woman in long-term recovery from an addictive disorder and lives with dissociative identities. As a queer woman who survived multiple spiritually abusive experiences in childhood and adulthood, Jamie is passionate about helping people to recognize where religion and spirituality may be causing harm in their lives so that they can chart a course for personalized healing.
Jamie began her career as a humanitarian aid worker in Bosnia-Hercegovina from 2000-2003 teaching English and music. Jamie travels internationally teaching on topics related to trauma, EMDR therapy, expressive arts, and spiritual abuse while maintaining a private practice and online education operations in her home base of Akron, Ohio. Marich is the founder of the Institute for Creative Mindfulness and the developer of the Dancing Mindfulness approach to expressive arts therapy. From her college days until 2012, Jamie was a high school speech and debate coach, and she still enjoys mentoring professionals in the art of public speaking. Jamie led two individual students to Ohio state titles, and she was a coach on two state championship teams (2009, 2011) with Howland High School.
Marich is the author of EMDR Made Simple: 4 Approaches for Using EMDR with Every Client (2011), Trauma and the 12 Steps: A Complete Guide for Recovery Enhancement (2012/2020), Creative Mindfulness (2013), Trauma Made Simple: Competencies in Assessment, Treatment, and Working with Survivors, Dancing Mindfulness: A Creative Path to Healing and Transformation (2015), EMDR Therapy & Mindfulness for Trauma-Focused Care (with Stephen Dansiger, 2018), Process Not Perfection: Expressive Arts Solutions for Trauma Recovery (2019), Healing Addiction with EMDR Therapy: A Trauma-Focused Guide (with Stephen Dansiger, 2022), The Healing Power of Jiu-Jitsu: A Guide to Transforming Trauma and Facilitating Recovery (with Anna Pirkl, 2022), Dissociation Made Simple: A Stigma-Free Guide to Embracing Your Dissociative Mind and Navigating Life (2023), and Trauma and the 12 Steps: The Workbook (with Stephen Dansiger, 2023). Her long-time publisher, North Atlantic Books, is releasing her memoir of spiritual abuse and recovery, You Lied to Me About God, in October 2024.
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Dementia is a complex topic that requires a delicate balance of understanding, compassion, and expertise. With the prevalence of dementia on the rise, healthcare providers, caregivers, and individuals themselves must have a solid grasp on how to navigate these challenging conditions. Our guest Brent Forester is an expert in geriatric psychiatry and dementia care, bringing almost three decades of experience supporting individuals with dementia and older adults facing mental health challenges. Discussing his co-authorship with Tom Harrison of “The Complete Family Guide to Dementia: Everything You Need to Know to Help Your Parent and Yourself“, we hear about his proactive approach to caregiving and education for families and his journey into geriatric psychiatry. Through his insights into the nuances of dementia care, early diagnosis, treatment, the importance of distinguishing between various types of dementia, and grief in caregiving, Brent guides us in developing resilience and adapting to the emotional complexities of caring for a loved one with dementia.
Listen and Learn: * The admiration for his role model grandmother and fascination with problem-solving in medicine that influenced Brent’s career in Geriatric psychiatry * The process of diagnosing dementia and the benefits of early diagnosis * The difference between the clinical syndrome, which we call dementia, and the disease of dementia * What are the causes and symptoms of dementia? * The multifaceted challenges dementia presents and the need for comprehensive healthcare approaches that consider these complexities * Goal setting and the importance of self-care for caregivers of people suffering from dementia
Resources: * https://www.tuftsmedicine.org/doctor/brent-forester * The Complete Family Guide to Dementia: Everything You Need to Know to Help Your Parent and Yourself: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781462549429
About Brent P. ForesterBrent P. Forester, MD, MSc. is the Dr. Frances S. Arkin Professor and Chair of Psychiatry at Tufts University School of Medicine, Psychiatrist in Chief and Chairman for the Department of Psychiatry at Tufts Medical Center and Director of Behavioral Health for Tufts Medicine.
Dr. Forester spent a quarter of a century of his professional career at McLean Hospital and Mass General Brigham where he served as the Chief of the Division of Geriatric Psychiatry at McLean Hospital and Senior Medical Director for Value Based Care Solutions in the Population Health Management department at Mass General Brigham. Dr. Forester is an expert in geriatric psychiatry, specializing in the treatment of older adults with depression, bipolar disorder, and behavioral complications of Alzheimer’s disease and related dementias. He is a Past President of the American Association for Geriatric Psychiatry (AAGP), a distinguished fellow of the American Psychiatric Association, and has previously served on the board of directors of the Alzheimer’s Association of Massachusetts/New Hampshire and chair of their Medical Scientific Committee.
Dr. Forester’s research focuses on novel treatment approaches to manage the disabling behavioral complications of dementia, such as agitation and aggression. Dr. Forester’s work also includes the implementation and evaluation of collaborative care models for comprehensive dementia care within primary care medical settings
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Ever think about how powerful asking questions can be? It’s kinda mind-blowing when you think about all the insights, knowledge, and experiences we can tap into just by asking. So in this episode, we’ve got Jeff Welzer on board to talk about his book ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life. Jeff enlightens us on how asking thoughtful and well-crafted questions that seek to learn can unlock a treasure trove of wisdom, ideas, and deep understanding. And it can even help you achieve your goals in both your personal and professional lives! You have to check out this awesome chat! Trust us, it’s packed with gems that’ll shift how you connect with others and enable you to grow as a person!
Listen and Learn: * Are you missing out on valuable insights and hidden wisdom by not asking questions? * How asking well-crafted questions can help you achieve your goals and benefit you both in your personal and professional lives * Why do we withhold information? * Tips to navigate speaking up when you might fear the reaction you could get * How Jeff’s ASK Approach can help you tap into other people’s knowledge, thoughts, wisdom, and ideas * Ways you can make it safer for someone to open up more * Transforming crummy questions into quality questions that promote meaningful discussion and insight * How you can get better at listening to learn * How can we pass the skillset of curiosity onto our kids?
Resources: * Jeff’s website: https://www.askapproach.com/ * https://transcendeducation.org/ * ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780306832697 * Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781250235374
About Jeff Wetzler JEFF WETZLER is co-CEO of Transcend, a nationally recognized innovation organization, and an expert in learning and human potential. Wetzler combines unique leadership experiences spanning more than 25 years in business and education, as a management consultant to the world’s top corporations, a learning facilitator for leaders around the world, and as Chief Learning Officer at Teach For America. Jeff earned a Doctorate in Adult Learning and Leadership from Columbia University and a bachelor’s in psychology from Brown University. Based in New York, he is a member of the Aspen Global Leadership Network and is an Edmund Hillary Fellow.
https://www.askapproach.com
Book: ASK: Tap Into the Hidden Wisdom of People Around You for Unexpected Breakthroughs in Leadership and Life
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Our 20s are a time of great change and transformation. But many people overlook this and label them “snowflakes” for not having certain things, like partners, houses, mortgages, big jobs, or kids. The truth is that trying to achieve all those milestones at once without any guarantee of success can leave us feeling insecure and stressed. For this episode, we bring you guest, Meg Jay, a clinical psychologist who joins us to chat about her new book, The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age. Her insights are valuable for anyone in their twenties, about to enter their twenties, or even in their early thirties. Even If you are a parent with young adult children or a therapist who works with young adults, her book offers a solid foundation to help you understand the experiences of individuals at this developmental stage.
Listen and Learn: * Are we being too hard on twenty-somethings? * What do evolution and science tell us about the role of uncertainty for humans? * The impact of technology, particularly the internet and social media, on the difficulties faced by individuals in their twenties * Is medication always the best medicine? * Your default mode network and your task-positive network * Why your twenties may not be the best years of your life (and why that’s okay!!) * Is work the leading cause of stress and anxiety in 20-somethings? * Finding your purpose as a 20-something
Resources: Meg’s website: https://megjay.com/ * The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age*: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781668012291 * Connect with Meg on social media: + https://www.threads.net/@drmegjay + https://twitter.com/drmegjay + https://www.tiktok.com/@drmegjay + https://www.linkedin.com/in/meg-jay-phd/ + https://www.instagram.com/drmegjay/
About Meg JayMeg Jay, PhD, is a developmental clinical psychologist who specializes in twentysomethings. She is the author of The Twentysomething Treatment: A Revolutionary Remedy for an Uncertain Age, Supernormal: The Secret World of the Family Hero and the cult classic The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now. Her books have been translated into more than a dozen languages and her work has appeared in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Harvard Business Review and on NPR, BBC and—maybe most important for her audience—TikTok. A recent New York Times profile called Dr. Jay “the patron saint of striving youth, a prophet-like figure for a generation of young people buried under mixed messaging,” and her TED talk “Why 30 Is Not the New 20” is among the most watched to date. Dr. Jay earned a doctorate in clinical psychology, and in gender studies, from the University of California, Berkeley. She is on faculty at the University of Virginia and maintains a private practice in Charlottesville.
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As humans, we face this dilemma of wanting to live life to the fullest but also taking everything for granted, including time. We often only realize the importance of time when we have little time left. Don’t let that be you! In an episode with Jodi Wellman, we dive into her phenomenal book, You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets. We have about 4,000 Mondays in our lifetime, and if we’re halfway through, we have roughly 2,000 to go. The good news is that you are in charge of how you spend those days. Drawing upon principles of positive psychology, practical tips, and research-backed data, Jodi’s book will provide you with a fresh perspective and renewed appreciation for life!
Listen and Learn: * The impetus that made Jodi aware of her deep-seated fear of dying with regrets and that inspired her book, You Only Die Once * Why do we only realize the importance of time when we have little left? * How the Grim Reaper is a prominent character in Jodi’s book and message * Regrets of commission vs regrets of omission * What is death reflection? * Ideas for gaining vitality in your life * Finding meaning in life * The value in pre-savoring and savoring the things that bring you joy in life
Resources: Visit Jodi’s website: https://fourthousandmondays.com/ * You Only Die Once: How to Make It to the End with No Regrets* * Connect with Jodi on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fourthousandmondays/ * Connect with Jodi on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fourthousandmondays/ * If you are interested in working with Michael: herold.coach/book
About Jodi WellmanJodi Wellman is a former corporate executive turned executive coach. She has a Master’s in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she is an instructor in the Master’s program and a trainer in the world-renowned Penn Resilience Program. She is a Professional Certified Coach with the ICF and a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach from CTI. She has coached and spoken with clients like American Express, Fidelity, pwc, Royal Bank of Canada, BMW, and more, and runs her own business, Four Thousand Mondays. She lives between Palm Springs and Chicago with her husband and cat, Andy. You can watch her inspirational TEDx Talk on how death can bring you back to life.
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Are you seeking effective strategies to help your anxious child thrive and grow? In an interview with clinical psychologist and best-selling author, Regine Galanti about her book, “Parenting Anxious Kids, Understanding Anxiety in Children by Age and Stage“, we talk about the importance of differentiating between “normal” and problematic anxiety in children, spending one-on-one time with kids to build self-esteem, and the use of praise. Regine also describes how parents can focus on changing behaviors rather than controlling feelings. Her book is an incredibly empowering resource and offers many strategies and guidance on creating realistic parenting goals for anxious kids. Whether you’re a parent, work with children, or plan to have kids in the future, this conversation is full of valuable tips and science-backed insights!
Listen and Learn: * What inspired Regine to write Parenting Anxious Kids: Understanding Anxiety in Children by Age and Stage * Why our brains are wired to feel anxiety as an emotion and why it can be a good thing * How have cultural shifts informed parenting, and what role does anxiety play in this? * Examples of typical parental worries and fears at different ages and stages that don’t mean a child has an anxiety problem * What behaviors cross into problematic anxiety in children? * Explaining accommodation, a fundamental concept in childhood anxiety and parenting * What is reassurance giving, how can this be a problem for your child’s anxiety, and how can you respond differently to interrupt the loop? * If a magic button made your child’s anxiety completely disappear, how would your child’s life be different? How would your life and your family’s life be different, if at all? * Introducing the principle of special time and why it’s so key to parenting anxious kids * Are anxious kids more sensitive to experiencing shame? * What is the HALT acronym, and how is it helpful? * Parental strategies for dealing with frustration tolerance issues in the 6-10 age group * Supporting middle and high schoolers with anxious thoughts
Resources:* Long Island Behavioral Psychology: https://www.longislandbehavioral.com/team * SPACE Treatment: https://www.spacetreatment.net/ * Connect with Regine on: + https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.galanti + https://www.instagram.com/regine.galanti/reels + https://twitter.com/reginegalanti?lang=en
About Regine GalantiRegine Galanti is a clinical psychologist and best-selling author with expertise in anxiety and OCD in kids and teens. Dr. Galanti started writing in order to share the tools she teaches families in therapy with a wider audience. She also enjoys speaking to parents, schools, and media outlets to share information about effective mental health information in children. She has been quoted in the New York Times, Washington Post, Buzzfeed, and other sources. When she’s not working, or writing, she lives in Long Island, NY with her husband and 3 daughters.
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Want to change your relationship with food? This incredible interview with Judson Brewer, a pioneer in the field of habit change and author of The Hunger Habit: Why We Eat When We’re Not Hungry and How to Stop, will not only deepen your understanding of your eating behavior patterns and triggers, but you’ll also learn how to completely shift your habits with kindness and curiosity. Listen in for a slew of actionable tips, modern science, and ancient wisdom from Judson; discover which foods are best for your body while still enjoying the foods you like; and strengthen your understanding of how your brain works and how to make permanent changes in your life based on that knowledge.
Listen and Learn: * How his struggle to help patients with binge eating and overeating led Judson to write The Hunger Habit * What’s the issue we’re facing as a society and culture with eating and food in general? * Why keeping a healthy diet by measuring what you eat comes with its own set of challenges * How our food consumption instincts have evolved and gotten mixed up in modern times * Identifying the patterns that bring us to eat * How you can practice kindness to facilitate openness and learning from experiences * Recalling past experiences before engaging in habitual behavior to make better decisions and avoid repeating negative experiences in the future
Resources: * Visit Judson’s Website: https://drjud.com/ * The Hunger Habit: Why We Eat When We’re Not Hungry and How to Stop * A simple way to break a bad habit | Judson Brewer | TED * Connect with Judson on Instagram, Twitter, YouTube, and Facebook
About Judson Brewer Judson Brewer M.D., Ph.D., is an internationally renowned addiction psychiatrist and neuroscientist. He is a professor in the School of Public Health and Medical School at Brown University. His 2016 TED Talk, “A Simple Way to Break a Bad Habit,” has been viewed more than 19 million times. He has trained Olympic athletes and coaches, government ministers, and business leaders. His first book, The Craving Mind, was published in more than sixteen languages. His second book, Unwinding Anxiety, was an instant New York Times bestseller.
Related Episodes:* 188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer * 167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer * 231. Eating Skills and Emotional Eating with Josh Hillis * 264. Raising Intuitive Eaters with Sumner Brooks and Amee Severson * 31. DBT for Binge Eating with Debra Safer
Are you prioritizing quick fixes over lasting joy in our pursuit of health and wellness? With a focus on promoting long-term health behavior changes rather than short-lived fitness programs that quickly lose momentum, we welcome award-winning researcher and sustainable-change coach Michelle Segar. We are honored to interview Michelle, who is the author of the acclaimed book, The Joy Choice: How to Finally Achieve Lasting Changes in Eating and Exercise. Her thirty years of expertise and science-backed research are sure to inspire and enlighten anyone looking to make positive, sustainable changes in their health and lifestyle.
Listen and Learn: * The main reasons people give for wanting to engage in exercise and health behaviors and why they can get us into trouble * Reasons that would be more effective in helping you get active * The limitations of habit formation when it comes to changing complex behaviors like exercise * Permitting yourself to prioritize self-care * How perfection can become problematic * Practical strategies for incorporating sustainable exercise into your life
Resources: * Michelle’s website: michellesegar.com * The Joy Choice: How to Finally Achieve Lasting Changes in Eating and Exercise * No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness * Online beginner ballet: https://brocheballetonline.com/ * Connect with Michelle on X and LinkedIn
About Michelle SegarMichelle Segar, Ph.D. is an award-winning, NIH-funded researcher at the University of Michigan with thirty years studying how to help people adopt exercise and other self-care behaviors in ways that can be sustained within the unpredictability of the real world. Her research on creating sustainable change is widely recognized as uniquely pragmatic for real-world applications. An advisor to the World Health Organization on their global physical activity initiatives, Michelle was also selected to be the inaugural chair of the United States National Physical Activity Plan’s Communication Committee. She consults with leading organizations, including Kaiser Permanente, Walmart, WW, Anytime Fitness, Adidas, and Business Group on Health. Michelle’s synergistic combination of academic research with real-world sustainable-change curriculum design and coaching permit her to create engaging and practical sustainable-change systems for digital health and individual coaching/counseling. She certifies professionals in her sustainable-change methods and licenses them to large organizations. Michelle is frequently interviewed about how to help consumers and patients change their mindsets, cultivate lasting motivation and sustainable physical activity in major media outlets including The New York Times, NPR, The Atlantic, Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Prevention, Real Simple, and TIME. Michelle’s training and experience is uniquely comprehensive, including a doctorate in Psychology (PhD), a master’s degree in Health Behavior/Health Education (MPH), a master’s degree in Kinesiology (MS) and fellowships in translational research and health care policy from the University of Michigan. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympics in Barcelona.
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Almost all of our quality of life is impacted by our careers because we spend so much time at work. As psychologists, we see a lot of anxiety-based patients in our practice. Often, the root of stress or anxiety is having a lot of struggles at work and knowing that something needs to change, but having no idea how to go about it. Here to help you understand and effectively transition in your career no matter the reason is career coach and author of The Purple Parachute: A Woman’s Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change, Paula Brand. If you could benefit from some soul-searching and structured guidance around decision-making as you transition into a new career or even if you want to make some changes in your current career, this interview is an empowering listen!
Listen and Learn: * A glimpse into the ASTER model: Access, Seek, Test, Execute, Repeat * Why your values are important to the assessment phase of a career change and what you can do to clarify them * How are interests different from values and how you can start identifying what interests you? * The distinctions between the types of professionals who can help you with career transitioning * Discovering your exceptional qualities * Why your time is better spent uncovering your strengths and finding ways to put them to use, than wasting your energy trying to mitigate a weakness * How to identify and prioritize your skills * Looking for themes within your VINES (Values, Interests, Natural disposition Exceptional Qualities, and Skills) to help you pursue new roles
Resources: The Purple Parachute: A Woman’s Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change * You can access my webpage at paulabrand.com or www.brandcareermanagement.com which shares more information about my services and book. * Specifically to purchase and find out more about my book, visit landing page for The Purple Parachute: A Woman’s Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change is http://www.purple-parachute.com/. * You can download a free copy of The Purple Parachute* workbook that contains all the exercises and questions from the book. https://www.brandcareermanagement.com/the-purple-parachute-free-work-book/ * If you go to the bottom of my homepage at https://www.brandcareermanagement.com/, you can enter your e-mail to gain access to a PDF download to Uncover Your Work Values.
Two great USDOL sites: 1) For career research is Onet found at https://www.onetonline.org/. * 2) To find your Holland Code (measures your interests) https://www.mynextmove.org/explore/ip * To find your Myers-Briggs personality type for free go to https://www.16personalities.com/ * Marcus Buckingham created the Standout Assessment to uncover and name your best talents (currently free). https://www.tmbc.com/standout-assessment/ * You can purchase a personal brand audit report from CareerBlast, which gives insight into your superpowers based on anonymous feedback from people you select. https://careerblast.tv/personal-branding-products/360reach-personal-branding-survey/?openform
For BCM:* YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/c/BrandCareerManagement * LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/brand-career-management/ * Twitter: Twitter.com/brandcareermgmt * Facebook: Facebook.com/BrandCareerManagement
For the book* Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paula_purple_parachute/ * LinkedIn.com/in/paulabrandcareers
About Paula Brand Paula Battalia Brand, founder of Brand Career Management, is a Global Career Coach & Consultant, LinkedIn Expert, Speaker, Trainer and Author with a background in human resources, workforce development, training and career counseling. She speaks to groups and provides individual career coaching on using LinkedIn effectively, managing a successful career and navigating through career transitions with a focus on empowering mid-career to executive women to achieve career satisfaction. Organizational clients have included the World Bank Group, the Caribbean Development Bank, and the Executive Educations programs at Johns Hopkins University (JHU). Paula released her first book in November 2022 on navigating career transitions titled The Purple Parachute: A Woman’s Guide to Navigating the Winds of Career Change.
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How often do you criticize yourself? Whether you torture yourself with negative thoughts about body image, career goals, or parenting, our conversation with guest and former cohost Diana Hill is sure to change that! Drawing from mindfulness, acceptance and commitment therapy, and compassion-focused therapy, Diana shows you how to liberate yourself from harmful self-criticism by cultivating forgiveness and kindness. We are grateful to Diana for her work in shifting the way people think about self-compassion, and we know you’ll take a tonne of wisdom from this conversation and her latest book, The Self-Compassion Daily Journal to help you live a fulfilling and impactful life.
Listen and Learn: * What is self-compassion? * How does the inner critic evolve within us? * Why you might have fears of giving, receiving, or self-compassion and how these fears can interfere with your ability to cope and be resilient during difficult times * How you can practice self-compassion * Is there a way to know which response is the most self-compassionate for yourself? * The three half-truths of self-compassion * Turning self-compassion from a momentary thing to a lasting trait
Resources: * Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more. * The Self-Compassion Daily Journal: Let Go of Your Inner Critic and Embrace Who You Are with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy * Podcast: Wise Effort: Wise Effort Podcast * Website: drdianahill.com * Instagram: @drdianahill * Facebook:@drdianahill * YouTube: @drdianahill * LinkedIn: @drdianahill * Email: diana@drdianahill.com * Learn how to practice Process-based Therapy with Diana Hill, Joseph Ciarrochi, and Steven Hayes * Mindful article: A Love Letter To Yourself * Psychology Today: Three Half-Truths About Self-Compassion * Self-Compassion and ACT Meditation with Diana on Insight Timer * 3 Half-Truths About Self-Compassion
About Diana Hill: Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in Process and author of ACT Daily Journal, The Self-Compassion Daily Journal and the upcoming book Wise Effort, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can grow fulfilling and impactful lives. Integrating her over 20 years of meditation experience with yoga and psychological training, Diana guest teaches at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education, Yoga Soup and Insight Timer Meditation. She is on the board for the Institute for Better Health, and blogs for Psychology Today and Mindful.org. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two boys and bee guardian. Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more.
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If you are someone who finds comfort and healing in writing, you’ll already be familiar with the therapeutic benefits of journaling. But, have you ever thought about exploring memoir writing? You may think, ‘What have I got to write about?’ or wonder if your life experiences are worth sharing. That’s where our guest, Maureen Murdock, is here to prove you otherwise. In an episode where we talk about her latest book, Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir, Maureen inspires and guides us in discovering the untold stories of our lives through the craft of memoirs with the help of original writing advice and creative prompts.
Listen and Learn: * How can writing be therapeutic and help us with healing and growth? * The difference between memoir writing and journaling * Mythological themes and archetypes: How do they come into play with individual memoirs? * What was it like for Maureen to study under American writer Joseph Campbell? * What is the heroine’s journey, and how is it unique and specifically important? * Where to begin with memoir writing
Resources * Maureen’s website: www.maureenmurdock.com * Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir, * Connect with Maureen on social media: + https://www.facebook.com/maureenmurdockauthor/ + https://twitter.com/murdockmaureen * Jill’s essay about her brother: https://www.scarymommy.com/brother-pedophile-oblivious-trust * Writing groups, workshops, and communities: + Maureen’s upcoming memoir workshop in Santa Fe in April + A writing group (You Belong Here, Now: A Wholehearted Writing Group) offered by our previous guest, Dr. Meg McKelvie + Writing Down the Soul + International Women’s Writing Guild + Writing Class Radio
Books and ArticlesOn Mythology: * The Heroine’s Journey by Maureen Murdock * The Power of Myth by Joseph Campbell: * The Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell:
On Expressive Writing: * Expressive Writing: Words that Heal * https://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/expressive_writing * https://hbr.org/2021/07/writing-can-help-us-heal-from-trauma
On Written Exposure Therapy: * The therapist manual on Written Exposure Therapy * https://www.ptsd.va.gov/professional/treat/txessentials/written_exposure_therapy.asp * https://www.health.mil/Military-Health-Topics/Centers-of-Excellence/Psychological-Health-Center-of-Excellence/Clinicians-Corner-Blog/Quick-Start-Guide-to-Written-Exposure-Therapy-How-Can-I-use-it-This-Week * https://www.nytimes.com/2023/08/23/health/ptsd-writing-therapy.html * https://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamapsychiatry/article-abstract/2808302
Other Books for Writing Inspiration: * Writing Down the Bones * Bird by Bird * The Artist’s Way * The Artist’s Way Morning Pages Journal * The Art of Slow Writing
About Maureen Murdock, Ph.D.About Maureen Murdock, Ph.D. is the author of her new book Mythmaking: Self-Discovery and the Timeless Art of Memoir and the author of the best-selling book, The Heroine’s Journey, which explores the rich territory of the feminine psyche and has been translated into twenty languages. Maureen is also author of Unreliable Truth: On Memoir and Memory; Fathers’ Daughters: Breaking the Ties that Bind; Spinning Inward: Using Guided Imagery with Children; and The Heroine’s Journey Workbook. She is the editor of an anthology entitled Monday Morning Memoirs: Women in the Second Half of Life and teaches memoir for the International Women’s Writing Guild and in Pacifica Graduate Institute’s program, Writing Down the Soul. Maureen was Chair and Core Faculty of the M.A. Counseling Program at Pacifica Graduate Institute. She has written pieces for the Huffington Post on the criminal justice system.
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Parenting neurodivergent kids can be a unique journey full of challenges and triumphs. For this discussion, we have the pleasure of being joined by Debbie Reber, the author of a book that is breaking the mold! Differently Wired: A Parent’s Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope takes an innovative approach by focusing solely on the parent’s experience and empowering them with the tools to take care of themselves while responding to their neurodivergent child in ways that are better for everyone involved. Debbie breaks down why nurturing a foundation of understanding with your child makes it so much easier to work through the challenging times and shares an important message: being neurodivergent is a difference that’s worth celebrating.
Listen and Learn:* The philosophical shift Debbie has encouraged from viewing neurodivergent kids as a problem that needs fixing to a difference worthy of celebrating * What does being differently wired encompass? * How learning more about her neurodivergent child has transformed Debbie’s parenting * Self-conscious versus conscious parenting in the context of raising differently-wired kids * How to become better attuned to your kid and use this deeper level of understanding to capitalize on skill development and learning opportunities * Meaningful ‘conscious maintenance’ for parents to shift their thinking mindset and expectations * How mainstream parenting guidance can be frustrating for parents of differently-wired kids and where Debbie feels they could do better?
Resources: Debbie’s website * Differently Wired: A Parent’s Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope * Tilt Parenting * Tilt Parenting Podcast * Connect with Debbie on Twitter and Facebook * Connect with Tilt Parenting on X, Instagram, and Facebook * Parenting, the New Teen in the Age of Anxiety*by Dr. John Duffy (referenced in this episode)
About Deborah ReberDebbie Reber, MA is a parenting activist, bestselling author, speaker, and the CEO and founder of Tilt Parenting, a resource, top-performing podcast, consultancy, and community with a focus on shifting the paradigm for parents raising and embracing neurodivergent children. Her most recent book, Differently Wired: A Parent’s Guide to Raising an Atypical Child with Confidence and Hope, came out in June 2018. After living abroad in the Netherlands for five years, Debbie, her husband, and differently wired teen moved to Brooklyn, NY in 2019. Debbie is an avid runner, traveler, and hiker, and claims reality shows as her guiltiest of pleasures.
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Heartbreak, a universal experience that can leave us feeling lost and questioning ourselves. We’ve all been there. It’s a painful journey, that’s difficult to process and navigate. In a conversation everyone can relate to, we bring in the author of Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey. Florence Williams reflects on her personal experience facing divorce and draws upon science to explain the negative impacts of rejection, loss, and loneliness. We also unravel the mystery behind our actions during heartbreak—actions that seem to defy our values and norms. Whether you are a therapist treating clients going through heartbreak or experiencing heartbreak yourself, Florence will transform your understanding of health and love by combining scientific research with self-discovery.
Listen and Learn: * What transpired in Florence’s personal life that led her to write Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey * Tapping into the fundamental human emotion of awe * The healing properties of nature, and its integral role in Florence’s journey * Is divorce diabetes a thing? * Do men and women have different experiences recovering from divorce? * Can Takotsubo syndrome (also known as broken heart syndrome) be linked to postmenopausal women? * How nature immersive experiences can lead to transformation, connection, and healing, and Florence’s recommendations in your area!
Resources: * Visit Florence at her website * Get your copies of Heartbreak: A Personal and Scientific Journey and The Nature Fix: Why Nature Makes Us Happier, Healthier, and More Creative * Connect with Florence on X, Facebook and Instagram
About Florence Williams: Florence Williams is a journalist, author, and podcaster. Her first book, BREASTS: A Natural and Unnatural History received the Los Angeles Times Book Prize in science and technology and the 2013 Audie in general nonfiction. The Nature Fix was an Audible bestseller and was named a top summer read by J.P Morgan. Her latest book, Heartbreak, was called “show-stopping” and “courageous” by Publisher’s Weekly. She is a contributing editor at Outside Magazine and a freelance writer for the New York Times and numerous other publications. A fellow at the Center for Humans and Nature and a visiting scholar at George Washington University, Florence’s work focuses on the environment, health and science. A certified forest-bathing guide and experienced workshop leader, Florence loves leading groups through nature-immersive experiences and watching the transformation, connection, and healing that results.
Credit: Casie ZaludRelated Episodes* 325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet * 289. Happily Even After with Jonah Paquette * 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen * 251. Wonder with Frank Keil * 249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz * 225. Psychedelics with Brian Pilecki and Nathan Gates * 126. Surviving Break-Ups and Divorce: How to Mend a Broken Heart, with Yael and Debbie * 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana * 199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie
Children nowadays have the luxury of being able to choose from a wide range of athletic activities. Though this is fantastic for their long-term development, youth sports have become more intense and competitive than ever before, which can pose a risk to our kids’ mental health and overall well-being. So, how can we raise happy, healthy athletes while nurturing them into kind, compassionate, confident, and well-focused young adults who are empowered to passionately pursue their goals? Introducing Kirsten Jones, Peak Performance and Sports Parenting Coach and author of ‘Raising Empowered Athletes’. Packed with actionable advice, this episode is the ultimate roadmap if you’re a parent trying to navigate the challenges, decisions, and pressures of youth sports!
Listen and Learn: * What are the advantages of our kids engaging in sports? * What are the biggest pitfalls of our modern-day youth sports culture? * How can we support instead of pressure our athletes? * Ways to help increase internal motivation in your kids * How do you identify if your child is participating in sports solely to please you?
Resources: * Kirsten’s book, Raising Empowered Athletes: A Youth Sports Parenting Guide for Raising Happy, Brave, and Resilient Kids * Please sign up to receive updates, hear the podcast, or schedule a call at kirstenjonesinc.com * @kirstenjonesinc (Facebook and X) * @kirstenjonescoach (Instagram and LinkedIn)
About Kirsten JonesKirsten Jones, Peak Performance and Sports Parenting Coach, is a co-host of the #RaisingAthletes Podcast (with Susie Walton) and a motivational speaker. Her first parenting book, Raising Empowered Athletes, launched August 8, 2023 from Triumph Books.
Kirsten, a Hall of Fame DI volleyball player from William and Mary and fifteen year NIKE executive, clients include teen athletes (and their parents), where she helps them learn how to reach their goals by releasing their limitations.
Kirsten and her husband are raising three athletes themselves (ages 23, 20, & 17) in Los Angeles. Her boys are both DI basketball players and her daughter plays high school volleyball. Kirsten also coaches club volleyball and enjoys traveling anytime she gets the chance.
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Grant Dewar shares how to develop mindfulness and compassion skills to overcome self-blame and find true self-acceptance.
Emily Nagoski presents a fresh perspective on enjoying sex and how to maintain healthy sexual connections in long-term relationships.
Marla Deibler and Renae Reinardy offer evidence-based tools for recovery from body-focused repetitive behaviors (BFRBs).
Burnout: What is it, how does it show up, and most importantly, how can we overcome it with Debbie Sorensen!
Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett provide a comprehensive roadmap for all things puberty-related.
Sharon Salzberg on how mindfulness is a trainable quality and principles from her latest book, Real Happiness.
The POTC cohosts gather for sharing, laughter and lessons in the final episode of 2023.
Stephen and Seth Porges on why the sense of feeling safe is crucial to our mental and physical health and happiness.
Michelle P. King reveals her framework to get ahead in your career while staying true to your authentic self.
Phyllis Fagell shares science-backed strategies to help middle schoolers become more resilient and thrive in a chaotic and anxiety-inducing world.
Sociologist Michèle Lamont helps us understand the importance of recogniton in shaping a more inclusive and compassionate society.
Megan Connell joins us in a conversation on the advantages and potential of RPGs in therapy.
Brad Stulberg discusses how to start thinking about and responding to change in more thoughtful and healthy ways.
Ross Dawson covers the challenges of information overload as well as strategies for navigating the noise.
Dr. Sarah Pegrum discusses the affects of weight stigma in today's society and breaking free from body image struggles using ACT.
A guide to managing loneliness and a loss of connection with clinical psychologist and best-selling author, Dr. Janina Scarlet.
Jennifer Wallace addresses the root causes of toxic achievement culture and offers a framework for fighting back.
POTC begins a fresh chapter as we welcome new cohosts, Emily Edlynn and Michael Herold.
Join us for a special episode of POTC as we bid a bittersweet farewell to our extraordinary cohost, Yael Schonbrun.
Understanding the root causes of anger, how to mange it and find forgiveness with Robyn Walser.
We all want to raise our children to be self-sufficient and to explore their own identities, but it can be difficult to strike a balance between control and support. For this episode, we enlisted the guidance of Clinical Psychologist Emily Edlynn, who, through her book ‘Autonomy Supportive Parenting’, provides parental strategies that encourage your kids to have autonomy while also establishing boundaries.
We love how Emily’s compassionate, very non-judgmental approach alleviates some of the responsibilities that parents take on. You’ll get so many helpful on-the-ground tools for instilling independence in your children and fostering motivation without imposing control. She also touches on questions about giving children allowances, navigating privacy, and how to reward your children in a positive way. Listen in to find out more about Emily’s powerful parenting framework!
Listen and Learn:* How Emily’s book stands out by translating evidence from parenting research into a digestible practical guide * The internal and external factors that might contribute to controlling parenting * Adopting autonomy-supportive parenting as a way to step away from controlling behavior without giving up the responsibility of engaging in parenting that helps shape your children in healthy ways? * Strategies for encouraging active participation in chores * Why academic achievement has become a real pitfall for controlling parenting * Are there advantages to giving your child an allowance? * Navigating privacy from an autonomy-supportive parenting perspective when you might be concerned about your child’s safety
Resources: Emily’s website * Emily’s book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children* * Emily’s substack The Art and Science of Mom * Ask Your Mom * Follow Emily on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn
About Emily EdlynnEmily Edlynn, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice with specialized training in pediatric health psychology. She’s the author of parenting blog The Art and Science of Mom, as well as the upcoming book Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children. Dr. Edlynn has worked as a pediatric health psychologist in two large urban hospitals and was previously an assistant professor at University of Colorado Denver School of Medicine. She’s currently the Director of Pediatric Behavioral Medicine at a private practice in Oak Park, Illinois. Dr. Edlynn writes a parenting blog, The Art and Science of Mom, and has penned the advice column, Ask Your Mom, for Parents since 2019. Dr. Edlynn has been featured as a parenting expert across national outlets and is the author of Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children.
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Dr. Michelle Drapkin shares how to achieve sustained change through motivational interviewing strategies.
Devorah Heitner shares research-backed and practical strategies to guide children as they grow up in a digital world.
A scientific exploration of the complexities of addiction with Professor of Psychology, Judith Grisel.
Unpacking the whirlwind of changes women experience as they go through menopause with Jancess Dunn.
In this special bonus episode, we are bringing our listeners the very first episode of Nobody Should Believe Me.
Understanding Munchausen by proxy syndrome and how to support those affected with Andrea Dunlop and Marc Feldman.
Dr. Brian Thompson and Dr. Brian Pilecki uncover the transformative impact of blending traditional exposure therapy with the principles of ACT for treating anxiety disorders.
Discover how to view the world through the lens of illusions and how our perceptions can be deceived.
Cognitive scientists, Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons provide us with valuable insight into how to navigate the treacherous world of deception.
David Robson opens our minds to a fun and transformative look at the fantastical power that the mind has in making expectations a reality.
Dr. Robin Stern offers guidance on how to recognize the different stages of the gaslight effect, indicating who is most susceptible and offering strategies to escape from it.
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Join Debbie and Jessica Grose, as they jump deep into the systemic and cultural challenges of modern motherhood.
Teenagers naturally experience a rollercoaster of emotions, making everyday pressures and transitional changes overwhelming for parents and adolescents alike. Our guest Lisa Damour, a clinical psychologist, and best-selling author of ‘The Emotional Lives of Teenagers’ emphasizes the integrality of validating teenagers’ emotions while also providing a framework on how to understand and support them.
In this episode, Lisa reveals what to expect from teenage emotional development, and why we need to change the way we approach adolescent mental health. Learn effective ways to maintain open lines of communication, clearly articulate values, cope with common challenges such as too much gaming time and disengaging at school, and foster deeper bonds. With research-informed explanations and real-life examples, this episode gives parents the tools needed to support their teens through this difficult stage in life.
Listen and Learn: * From where does the reputation of teenagers derive, and is it justified? * Why do teenagers experience such powerful emotions as they transition from childhood to adolescence? * The distinction between hot and cold cognition, and how parents can use this knowledge to help their teenagers prepare for situations where they may become overwhelmed or not be able to think clearly. * Is it a myth that difficult emotions are damaging or should be avoided? * How to help teenagers with expressing their feelings. * Why distraction can be an effective coping strategy for teens to regulate their emotions. * How communication and a sense of safety can have a meaningful impact on adolescent behavior. * Why do teenagers find their parents so ‘annoying’? * Are there gender differences in emotion?
Resources: * For more on Lisa’s work, visit her website * Check out the Ask Lisa podcast * Follow Lisa on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter * Order your copy of Lisa’s books:
The Emotional Lives of Teenagers
Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions Into Adulthood
Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls
About Lisa Damour Dr. Lisa Damour is the author of three New York Times best sellers: Untangled, Under Pressure, and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers. She co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, works in collaboration with UNICEF, and is recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Damour is also a regular contributor to The New York Times and CBS News.
Dr. Damour serves as a Senior Advisor to the Schubert Center for Child Studies at Case Western Reserve University and has written numerous academic papers, chapters, and books related to education and child development. She maintains a clinical practice and also speaks to schools, professional organizations, and corporate groups around the world on the topics of child and adolescent development, family mental health, and adult well-being.
Dr. Damour graduated with honors from Yale University and worked for the Yale Child Study Center before earning her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at the University of Michigan. She has been a fellow at Yale’s Edward Zigler Center in Child Development and Social Policy and the University of Michigan’s Power Foundation. She and her husband are the proud parents of two daughters.
Related Episodes: * 78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud * 79. Thriving In Adolescence with Louise Hayes * 159. Challenging Times During Adolescence with Louise Hayes * 194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims * 205. Thrivers with Michele Borba * 213. Back To School! How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance and A Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson * 240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance (EFFT Part 1 of 2) * 241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon (EFFT Part 2 of 2)
Life is an incredible journey full of paradoxical demands that can sometimes feel overwhelming. But what if we could embrace both sides of the equation and turn these tensions into opportunities for growth? This is exactly what our guest Marianne Lewis teaches us in the groundbreaking book Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems that she coauthored with her colleague, Wendy Smith.
Delving into the risks of either-or thinking and the vicious cycles that can arise, Marianne and cohost, Yael discuss how binary thinking affects our lives. Packed with tools and lessons that will help you see the world with fresh eyes, you’ll learn tips on how to reframe questions, embrace paradoxes, as well as navigate complex tensions. If you’re interested in exploring new ways of thinking and solving tough problems, this episode is for you!
Listen and Learn: * Why do we have difficulty escaping “either/or” thinking, and what impact does it have? * Why is it important to understand and embrace paradoxes in order to move away from binary thinking? * Question framing with the word ‘how’ * Negotiating conflict in a constructive way * The ways in which identifying a higher purpose can lessen friction between opposing factions * A few tips for setting guardrails to help you do your job and all your roles more sustainably * The impact of shifting from a scarcity mindset into an abundance mindset * Tools for responding to tensions in a positive way
Resources: * Learn more about Marianne * Follow Marianne on Twitter * Order Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems at our bookshop * Strangers to Ourselves by Rachel Aviv * Think Again by Adam Grant * Why We’re Polarized by Ezra Klein * Love Your Enemies by Arthur C. Brooks * The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt * A piece written by Yael that includes a quote from an evolutionary psychologist on conflict
About Marianne LewisMarianne W. Lewis is dean and professor of management at the College of Business, University of Cincinnati. She previously served as dean of the Business School at City, University of London. A thought leader in organizational paradoxes, she explores tensions surrounding leadership and innovation. Lewis has been recognized among the world’s most-cited researchers in her field and her work has appeared in media outlets, such as Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, and Newsweek. Her latest book Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems is co-authored with her colleague, Wendy Smith.
Related Episodes: * Episode 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie * Episode 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer * Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance
In today’s world, society is more polarized than ever before. With people taking positions on issues related to identity, diversity, and justice, engaging in these conversations can seem like a daunting task. Yet, this is precisely what we need to do if we want to build a more just and equitable society.
In this regard, our latest episode where Jill Stoddard interviews author David Glasgow is a must-listen. Glasgow’s book, “Say the Right Thing: How to Talk About Identity, Diversity, and Justice”provides valuable insights on how to approach these sensitive topics in a way that fosters understanding, empathy, and positive change.
The discussion delves into the controversial “cancel culture” and the need to show compassion and understanding towards those who make mistakes. Additionally, he emphasizes the importance of embracing a growth mindset and illustrates strategies to overcome conversational traps and navigate disagreements respectively. Take advantage of this opportunity to learn how to engage in challenging and compassionate conversations. Listen to the episode now!
Listen and Learn: * How David’s background as a lawyer and personal struggle with belonging influenced his interest and career in social justice, equality, and inclusion. * What makes conversations surrounding identity so difficult and why do we shy away from having them in today’s society? * Why we should welcome the democratization of discomfort in social conversations. * Cancel culture – why we should use this as an opportunity for growth, not villainization. * How to respond to conversational traps. * What privilege is and is not? * Why misunderstandings arise in identity conversations. * How to ‘right-size’ feedback in relation to privilege or bias. * Tips for respectfully disagreeing. * How to apologize effectively using the Four R’s. * Is cultural sensitivity helping or hindering the conversation around diversity and identity?
Resources: * Learn more about David’s work as a diversity and inclusion specialist by visiting his website * Get your copy of Say the Right Thing: How to Talk about Identity, Diversity, and Justice at our bookshop * The Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging. * Follow David on Twitter (@dvglasgow) * Find out more about Deconstructing Karen referenced in the intro of this episode * Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well * The Apology
About David Glasgow David Glasgow is the executive director of the Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging and an adjunct professor at NYU School of Law. He has written for a range of publications including the Harvard Business Review, HuffPost, and Slate, and served as an Associate Director of the Public Interest Law Center at NYU School of Law. Please visit him at david-glasgow.com.
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Join host Debbie Sorensen and former co-host and guest Diana Hill as they discuss the power of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and introduce their new resource: The ACT Daily Card Deck. Through personal anecdotes and examples, they emphasize the importance of living in the present moment and taking committed action that aligns with personal values. They also touch on the concepts of self-doubt, impermanence, and the role of emotions in our lives.
With their creative exercises, like visiting their younger selves and the watering seeds exercise, they help listeners break down complex therapeutic concepts into everyday language that is easy to understand. Discover practical tools for leading a more fulfilling life that bridge the gap between theory and action. Listen now and learn how you too can benefit from ACT and become the master of your mind.
Listen and Learn: * Diana and Debbie update us on what they’ve been up to and why they are joining forces for this special episode. * The importance of making ACT more accessible in our daily lives. * Debbie and Diana demonstrate the six processes of ACT through examples of skills from their new ACT Daily Card Deck – from choosing thoughts, controlling your emotions, and the power of impermanence, to taking committed, value-based action, compassion, perspective taking, and mastering the art of being present.
Resources: * Order your ACT Daily Card Deck: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648481239 * Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more * Visit Debbie’s website http://www.drdebbiesorensen.com/ for more information and resources * Follow Debbie on Twitter or Instagram
About Diana and Debbie Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in Process and co-author of ACT Daily Journal, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can take wise action toward fulfilling and impactful lives. Integrating her over 20 years of meditation experience with yoga and psychological training, Diana blogs for Psychology Today, and guest teaches at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education, Yoga Soup and Insight Timer Meditation. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two boys and bee guardian.
Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a clinical psychologist with a private therapy practice in Denver. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults experiencing burnout, chronic stress, and anxiety. Debbie has a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University, and a bachelor’s degree from the University of Colorado, Boulder. She is a co-author of the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, anda co-founder and co-host the popular psychology podcast Psychologists Off The Clock. She speaks and gives workshops nationally and internationally to mental health providers, schools, and organizations. She loves living in her home state of Colorado and enjoying the Rocky Mountains with her husband, two daughters, and dog.
Related Episodes: * 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard * 195. ACT Daily with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen * 237. Farewell to Diana Hill: Appreciations, Regrets, and Hopes
Let’s raise a glass to Debbie, Jill, and Yael as they reach a milestone of 300 episodes on the fabulous Psychologists Off The Clock podcast! Can you believe it? Six-plus years of incredible conversations, phenomenal guests, mind-blowing ideas, and moments have uplifted us all.
As they share their reflections on this journey, we get a glimpse of how POTC has transformed their understanding and application of psychology, impacted their lives, and connected them with listeners from all corners of the world. And can we stop to appreciate the wisdom, dedication, and passion they bring to this amazingly valuable show?
We are so grateful to be part of this incredible community, and we know Debbie, Jill, and Yael share the same gratitude for all of us listeners who have supported them along the way.
Listen and Learn: * Yael, Debbie, and Jill marvel at the profound impact the podcast has had on their personal and professional lives * The early beginnings of POTC * From guests to co-hosts, Jill and Yael share their story * Debbie, Jill, and Yael rave about their adoration for the POTC Book Club * Stories of positive changes POTC has brought to both listeners and co-hosts * A look back at some of the most memorable and meaningful episodes * The time Debbie invited Michelle Obama to the podcast
About Jill, Yael, DebbieDebbie Sorensen, PhD, Co-host
Debbie (she/her) is a psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. She is co-author, along with Diana Hill, of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She loves living in Colorado, her home state, with her husband, two daughters, and dog. When she’s not busy working or podcasting, she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, traveling, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Rocky Mountains! You can learn more about Debbie, read her blog, and find out about upcoming presentations and training events at her webpage, drdebbiesorensen.com.
Yael Schonbrun, PhD, Co-host
Yael (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist who wears a number of professional hats: she a small private practice specializing in evidence-based relationship therapy, she’s an assistant professor at Brown University, and she writes for nonacademic audiences about working parenthood. She has a B.A. from Washington University in St. Louis, a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and completed her postgraduate training at Brown University. In all areas of her work, Yael draws on scientific research, her clinical experience, ancient wisdom (with an emphasis on Taoism), and real life experiences with her three little boys. You can find out more about Yael’s writing, including her book, Work, Parent, Thrive, and about her research by clicking the links. You can follow Yael on Twitter or Instagram where she posts about relationship science or subscribe to her newsletter, Relational, to get the science of romantic partnerships, parent-child relationships, and the relationship between life roles straight to your inbox. Subscribe to learn how to unlock a happier, healthier relational life!
Jill Stoddard, PhD, Co-host
Jill (she/her) is the director of The Center for Stress and Anxiety Management in San Diego. She got her PhD in clinical psychology from Boston University where she trained at the Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders; it was there that her passion for treating anxiety using evidence based methods took root. She also loves to write, speak, and now podcast! She’s written two books based on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance. When she’s not writing, counseling her fierce clients, speaking, or podcasting, she’s spending time with her amazing family, friends, and dogs, and feeling grateful for her mighty life.
Related Episodes:* 19. Keeping Children Safe from Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower * 24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Yael Schonbrun * 29. Nutritional Psychology: How food impacts mood, cognition, and brain health with Diana and Debbie * 45. Rest with Alex Pang * 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry Schwartz * 57. Evolution and Behavioral Science with Steven Hayes and David Sloan Wilson * 76. Gender and Sexual Minorities with Aisling Leonard-Curtin and Matthew Skinta * 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard * 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown * 84. Courageous Conversations to Prevent Childhood Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower * 294. Yes And: Improve in Psychology with Kelly Leonard * 259. Rethinking Delusions with Victoria Sheperd * 117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A Conversation about Grief with Joanne Cacciatore * 132. The Joy of Movement with Kelly McGonigal * 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky * 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky * 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky * 230. The Laziness Lie with Devon Price * 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times * 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez * 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz * 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomrisky * 232. Grounded to Soar with Brad Stulberg * 192. Happier with Tal Ben Shahar * 289. Happily Even After with Jonah Paquette * 242. Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management with Oliver Burkeman * 253. Free Range Kids with Lenore Skenazy * 194. How to Raise an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims * 279. ACT for Healing Black Racial Trauma with Jennifer Shepard Payne * Mending Racial Trauma with Carynne Williams and Jennifer Shepard Payne (Special Bonus Feature) * 279. ACT for Healing Black Racial Trauma with Jennifer Sheperd Payne * 182. Do More with Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein * 78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud * 161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Leahy * 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun * 293. Quit with Annie Duke * 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth * 248. Let’s Talk about Sex & Intimacy with Zoe Kors * 266. Future Tense with Tracy Dennis-Tiwary * 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance
Welcome to this exciting bonus episode where POTC co-host Yael Schonbrun joins the incredible Child Psychologist, Cara Goodwin, for an empowering conversation exploring the artful science of working parenthood on Cara’s podcast, The Parenting Translator.
Discover how to use parenting science to guide healthy choices and transform guilt into a powerful tool that aligns with your core values. You’ll also gain insights into developing self-compassion and cultivating a growth mindset. Get ready to be inspired to take your parenting journey to the next level. Don’t miss this incredible opportunity to learn and grow!
Listen and Learn: * The concept of work-family enrichment * The different pathways in which your competing roles as a working parent can feed each other * How an exotic dancer’s experience negotiating with her own children helped her deal with her clients at work * Is it possible to achieve the perfect work-family balance? * Yael’s tips for managing guilt as a working parent * Intentional activities that can improve your life as a working parent * Does working parenthood get easier as your children grow older?
Resources: * To learn more about Yael, visit her website * Visit the Parenting Translator website * Tune in to the Parenting Translator Podcast * Follow Yael on Instagram and Twitter * Follow Cara on Instagram
About Cara GoodwinCara Goodwin, is the founder of Parenting Translator, a mother to three young children, and a licensed psychologist with a PhD in child clinical psychology. Before she had her second child, she spent her days doing research in child psychology and neuroscience, assessing children for developmental problems, doing therapy with children of all ages, and training parents on how to use the most recent scientific findings to help their children. After taking some time off to be with my own children, she became desperate for an intellectual outlet so, on the brink of the COVID-19 pandemic and pregnant with a third child, she decided to start an Instagram account (@parentingtranslator) and website (www.parentingtranslator.com) with the purpose of taking recent scientific research and translating it into information that parents can use in their everyday lives. That IG account has taken off, with considerably over 100K followers, a newsletter, a podcast, and she’s also the author of a kids book titled, What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting: A No Hitting Book for Toddlers.
Related Episodes:* 87. Cribsheet with Emily Oster * 245. Family Firm with Emily Oster * 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun
Over the past few decades, the workplace has undergone tremendous changes. With the rise of technology and globalization, companies operate in a more complex and interconnected world. This has created new challenges for leaders, who must now navigate a wide range of cultural, technological, and economic factors to succeed.
We are privileged to have Chris Shipley as our guest on this episode. As a Technology Analyst and Future of Work Strategist, she has honed her expertise in developing effective leadership strategies in today’s rapidly evolving and unprecedented workplace. Her recent book, The Empathy Advantage: Leading the Empowered Workforce, provides valuable guidance for leaders at all levels. From how to cultivate empathy and emotional intelligence, build trust, and lead a diverse, and multi-generational workforce.
Whether you’re an entry-level manager or a seasoned executive, her insights are invaluable for anyone looking to improve their leadership skills. We’re delighted to have her share her wisdom with us, and we’re confident that you’ll be left feeling empowered, inspired, and resilient.
Listen and Learn: * Some of the significant shifts we’re seeing in the workplace * The relationship between psychology and leadership * Why driving performance rather than productivity builds more economic value * The psychological importance of autonomy and flexibility in the workplace * How to keep employees engaged and sustain retention in our ‘new normal’ * The unique challenges younger generations face when entering the workforce * What can be done to help different generations work together better * The qualities of an empathic leader * The changes needed to build a quality team
Resources: * Learn more about Chris by visiting her website * Order your copy of The Empathy Advantage: Leading the Empowered Workforce * Follow Chris on Twitter and Instagram
About Chris ShipleyChris Shipley has documented, influenced, and predicted the impact of technology on business and society for more than 30 years. As a journalist, she covered the tech industry for leading publishing companies. As an analyst, she identified innovative startups and gave them a stage to launch their market-making products. As a catalyst, she has advised hundreds of early-stage companies on positioning, business modeling, and innovation practices. Today, Chris focuses her work on the human and organizational challenges in the face of technology-and economically-driven disruption.
Related Episodes: * 130. Working Less with Alex Pang * 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett * 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith * 207. Burnout with Debbie and Jill * 230. The Laziness Lie with Devon Price * 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren * 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen * 290. Shared Sisterhood: Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work with Tina Opie and Beth Livingston
Dysfunctional family relationships can be complicated and extremely challenging to navigate, but it’s essential to remember that we have the power to change the narrative. Whether you’re dealing with overbearing or abusive parents, toxic siblings, or any other form of unhealthy behavior, it can be difficult to know how to break free from these patterns and create more positive connections.
This is where our guest Nedra Tawwab, a renowned therapist, New York Times bestselling author, and relationship expert, comes in. We are thrilled to welcome Nedra back to Psychologist’s Off the Clock to discuss her latest book, Drama Free. A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships.
With her relatable and practical guide, Nedra provides valuable tips on identifying and managing unhealthy family relationships that may be causing distress and turmoil in your life.
Her expertise will empower you to take control of your life, move away from toxic behavior, and build stronger, healthier connections. Remember that you have the strength and resilience to overcome any obstacles. Don’t let your past define your future!
Listen and Learn: * Nedra introduces us to what unhealthy patterns of a dysfunctional family can look like * How to identify dysfunctional patterns within your own family * How childhood dysfunction can impact people and their adult relationships * Why trust issues commonly result from dysfunctional family relationships * The importance of boundary setting, especially for those who come from dysfunctional environments * The line between enabling versus helping * The most common obstacles to making changes within dysfunctional relationships * Strategies for boundary setting * Nedra’s advice for people handling the guilt and the grief that comes with change within a family system * How to handle pushback when dealing with unhealthy patterns of behavior
Resources: * Visit Nedra’s website * Order your copy of Nedra’s book Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships * Learn more about Group Therapy practice Kaleidoscope Counseling * Follow Nedra on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter
About Nedra Glover Tawwab Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others.
Nedra earned her undergraduate and graduate degrees from Wayne State University in Detroit, MI. She has additional certifications in working with families and couples and in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, plus advanced training for counseling adults who’ve experienced childhood emotional neglect.
Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Good Life Project, Sofia with an F, and Therapy For Black Girls. She runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As.
Related Episodes: * 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen * 179. How to Be An Adult in Relationships with Dave Richo * 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab * 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson * 264. Raising Intuitive Eaters with Sumner Brooks and Amee Severson * 292. Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers with Stephanie Kriesberg
If you find yourself struggling to connect with the adolescents in your life, don’t worry, you’re not alone! The truth is, building relationships with teens and young adults can be challenging, but with the right mindset and approach, anything is possible.
Get ready to be inspired by our guest, Emily Kline, a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist who has written a practical and research-backed guide called “The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids”. Whether you’re a parent, teacher, mentor, or just someone who wants to connect better with the younger generation, this book is a must-read for improving communication and building stronger relationships with young people. So, let’s dive in and explore some of the key insights and tips that Emily has to offer.
Listen and Learn: * The guiding principles of motivational interviewing for adolescents * How is motivational interviewing helpful * What we know about expressed emotion and how it can empower parents * Why adolescents are often more willing to follow the advice and direction of supportive parents than those who demand obedience * Emily breaks down the foundational skills needed for hard conversations with young adults using clinical scenarios
Resources: * Visit Emily’s Website * Order your copy of The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids * Follow Emily on Instagram and TikTok @learnaboutmilo * Psychology Today Blog * A Minor Revolution: How Prioritizing Kids Benefits Us All by Adam Benforado * Influence is Your Superpower by Zoe Chace
About Emily Kline:Emily Kline is a clinical psychologist and writer who has held faculty positions in psychiatry at Boston University and at Harvard Medical School. She created a simple motivational interviewing curriculum for family caregivers and The School of Hard Talks Online free e-course, and her book, The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with You Almost Grown Kids is now available. Emily lives with her husband and children who graciously beta-test her experiments in family communication and a dog who can’t be reasoned with at all.
Related Episodes:* Episode 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing with Nadine Mastroleo * Episode 78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud * Episode 135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick * Episode 205. Thrivers with Michele Borba * Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chanc
When it comes to money and love, the two are inextricably linked. Whether it’s choosing where to settle down, starting a family, or taking that new job opportunity, our financial situation and our relationships always come into play.
Thankfully, with the expert guidance of our guest Abby Davisson who co-authored the brilliant resource, “Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life’s Biggest Decisions“ we can navigate these tricky waters with grace, ease, and confidence.
Using Abby’s 5Cs framework, she offers guidance on how to strike a harmonious balance between love and money. With research-based insights and real-life examples, we learn how to holistically make value-driven decisions that are both financially sound and emotionally fulfilling. So let’s dive in and discover the easy and practical steps to make strategic decisions that yield better results, without having to compromise your professional or personal life.
Listen and Learn:* How money and love are so intimately intertwined and why this was the catalyst for the book Abby co-authored with Myra Strober * The 5Cs framework for big making decisions that involve money and love * What is mimetic desire and why you should be aware of this * The importance of identifying your core values in helping you to align your decisions with those values * Examples of when it is a good idea to get input on decisions you are making and when is it not * How to fairly decide who does what in a relationship using the 5Cs as a guide
Resources: Visit Abby’s website for more information * Purchase Abby’s book, “Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life’s Biggest Decisions“* * Follow Abby on Instagram or Twitter
About Abby Davisson Abby Davisson is a social innovation leader and career development expert. Most recently, she spent nine years at global retailer Gap Inc., where she served as president of the Gap Foundation and co-founded the company’s employee resource group for parents. You can find more information on her book “Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life’s Biggest Decisions” at https://www.moneylovebook.com. Press information is available at https://www.moneylovebook.com/press-kit.
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When it comes to self-help, it’s important to be cautious of information that seems too good to be true. Especially, in today’s world of digital wellness influencers where there is a lot of misinformation out there that could cause you more harm than good. Subsequently, it’s essential to thoroughly research products and services before making any decisions or commitments.
To raise awareness about this issue, we (Debbie, Jill, and Yael) got together to co-host an episode dedicated to this very important conversation. We also invited Pooja Lakshmin, a board-certified psychiatrist and author of the book ‘Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness’ to discuss the nuances of pseudoscience and what it means to practice real self-care. Expect evidence-based self-care methods, in addition to tips on how to do your due diligence as a consumer.
Listen and Learn:* What led Pooja to make some pretty drastic decisions in her own quest for self-care * The differentiators between faux self-care and real self-care * The idea of using ‘pauses’ when making decisions and boundary setting * Pseudoscience and the challenges it poses to the field of psychology * Examples of scientists behaving badly * Red flags for identifying faux self-care * Suggestibility: we can be easily influenced in ways that are problematic
Resources: Guest Learn more about Pooja and her work as a psychiatrist, author, founder, and speaker * Order your copy of Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included)* * Follow Pooja on Instagram and Twitter
Articles* Controversy Over Ego Depletion/Decision-Fatigue
Books* Quick Fix: Why Fad Psychology Can’t Cure Our Social Ills by Jesse Singal * Gospel of Wellness: Gyms, Gurus, Goops, and the False Promise of Self-Care by Rina Raphael * American Detox: The Myth of Wellness and How We Can Truly Heal by Kerri Kelly * Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know by Adam Grant * Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion by Paul Bloom
Podcasts* Maintenance Phase * Conspirituality * The Daily: Women Have Been Misled About Menopause
About Pooja LakshminPooja Lakshmin is a psychiatrist, New York Times contributor, an assistant professor at George Washington University, and a leading voice at the intersection of mental health and gender with a focus on helping individuals escape the tyranny of self-care. In 2020, she founded Gemma, a physician-led women’s mental health platform centering on impact and equity. She also maintains a private practice where she treats women struggling with burnout and perfectionism, as well as clinical conditions like depression and anxiety. Her new book which we are here to discuss, Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths not Included) is out now.
Related Episodes:* 65. Self-Care, Kindness, and Living Well with Kelly Wilson * 105. The Self-Care Prescription with Robyn Gobin * 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak * 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff * 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us
Let’s talk about the magic that is improvisation, or what us cool kids call “improv.” It’s an art form that’s all about unleashing your creativity and performing without a script or plan. Sure, you may have heard of it as a side-splitting comedy act, but improv goes a lot deeper than that. From acting to business to mental health, improv skills can be applied in various areas of life.
EnterKelly Leonard, the VP of Creative Strategy, Innovation, and Business Development at the infamousSecond City in Chicago. Kelly, who over the decades has produced hundreds of original revues with comedians such as Stephen Colbert, Tina Fey, and Seth Meyers (to name a few) has a unique understanding of behavioral science through the lens of improv.
Regaling us with lessons and stories from his career and book,‘Yes And’, we learn how to utilize improv to help us adapt, empathize, communicate, trust, and collaborate better. We are reminded that saying ‘yes’ to new ideas and experiences sparks creativity and can lead to beneficial outcomes. From deepening our relationships with others by practicing active listening and learning to accept and appreciate new ideas, regardless of their origin. It also teaches us to think on our feet and work together to create innovative solutions to problems.
Listen and Learn: * How Stephen Colbert came to write a blurb for Kelly’s book,Yes, and: How Improvisation Reverses No, But Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration * Why so many successful comedy performers have an improv background * How improv skills can help us to empathize, communicate and collaborate * The idea of the ‘Yes And’ exercise * Why Kelly prefers to use the word ensemble vs. team * Improv’s positive impact on caregiver burden and depression * An introduction to the ‘I Am Somebody Who’ exercise * Why adopting a Yes And mentality helps create a psychologically safe environment * How improv can be applied in therapy * If improv were an animal, what animal would it be? * What’s next for Kelly’s work in science and the arts
Resources: * Learn more about Kelly * Get your copy of Yes, And: How Improvisation Reverses No, But Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration * Check out The Second City website * Follow Kelly on LinkedIn, Twitter, or Instagram * Listen to Kelly’s podcast, Getting to Yes And
About Kelly Leonard Kelly Leonard is the Executive Director of Learning and Applied Improvisation at Second City Works. His book, “Yes, And: Lessons from The Second City” was released to critical acclaim in 2015 by HarperCollins and was praised by Michael Lewis in Vanity Fair who called it “…an excellent guide to the lessons that have bubbled up in Second City’s improv workshops.” Kelly is a popular speaker on the power of improvisation to transform people’s lives. He has presented at The Aspen Ideas Festival, The Code Conference, TEDx Broadway, Chicago Ideas Festival, The Stanford Graduate School of Business, and for companies such as Coca-Cola, Microsoft, Twitter, Memorial Sloan Kettering and DDB Worldwide.
Kelly co-created an initiative with the Center for Decision Research at the Booth School at the University of Chicago, The Second Science Project, that looks at behavioral science through the lens of improvisation. He also hosts the podcast, “Getting to Yes, And,” for Second City Works and WGN radio that features interviews with academics, authors and leaders such as Brene Brown, Adam Grant, Michael Lewis, Lindy West, Ash Carter and Amy Edmondson.
For over twenty years, Kelly oversaw Second City’s live theatrical divisions where he helped generate original productions with such talent as Tina Fey, Stephen Colbert, Amy Poehler, Seth Meyers, Steve Carell, Keegan Michael Key, Amy Sedaris, Adam McKay and others. In 2019, Arts Alliance Illinois awarded Kelly and his wife Anne Libera with their Creative Voice Award.
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Quitting is often viewed as a sign of failure, but in some cases, it might be the best decision. Whether it’s quitting a bad habit, a job, or an unhealthy relationship, it is always important to know when to call it quits.
Annie Duke, an expert in decision-making and author of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away, inspires us to feel empowered and proud when we choose to quit. She encourages us to embrace the freedom and opportunity that comes with knowing when to let go and move on to something better. So, let us be bold and confident in our choices to quit, and relish the journey of growth and self-discovery that follows.
Listen and Learn: * Annie’s thoughts on Tom Brady’s repeated retirements * Why is there such a stigma around quitting * Defining expected value decisions * How to wisely use expected value decisions * The sunk cost fallacy and some ways that we can manage this * Asso Teller’s monkeys and pedestals tool for quitting * Growth mindset and quitting goals
Resources: * Learn more about Annie’s work on her website * Get your copy of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away * Alliance for Decision Education * Connect with Annie on Twitter or Instagram
About Annie DukeAnnie is an author, corporate speaker, and consultant in the decision-making space, and a former professional poker player who is the only woman to have won the World Series of Poker Tournament of Champions and the NBC National Poker Heads-Up Championship. Annie’s previous book, Thinking in Bets, is a national bestseller, and her latest book Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away is, in our humble opinion, nothing short of transformative. We are here to discuss Quit today.
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Having a narcissistic parent while growing up can be incredibly difficult and painful. The emotional instability of the relationship can be detrimental to one’s sense of self-worth, making it hard to trust others and form healthy relationships. Furthermore, the lack of consistent support and nurturing can lead to feelings of insecurity and the fear of being abandoned.
Be inspired by our guest Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg, a clinical psychologist and author of ‘Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve’. Through her research on narcissistic parenting, Stephanie has dedicated her work to helping adults lead healthier and happier lives. If you experienced a childhood with a narcissistic parent, let Dr. Kriesberg guide you in managing the difficulties of this complex relationship so you can live life on your own terms.
Listen and Learn: * Stephanie’s experience working with women who are impacted by narcissistic parenting * The significance of the relationship between daughters and mothers * The core features of narcissism * How narcissism impacts the parent-child dynamic * What does gaslighting look like * How does growing up in a home with a narcissistic mother impact other relationships within the family * Examples of the patterns female adults who grew up with a narcissistic mother might exhibit * The work involved in grieving the parent you had versus the parent you wanted * Setting boundaries with a narcissistic mother
Resources: * Visit Stephanie’s website * Buy Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserveat our Bookshop page * Connect with Stephanie on Twitter, IG, and Facebook
About Dr. Stephanie KriesbergDr. Stephanie Kriesberg brings over twenty-five years of experience to her practice. She has extensive training in the treatment of anxiety disorders and in the use of clinical hypnosis. Recently she was honored to be elected as President-Elect of the New England Society for Clinical Hypnosis. She is the author of the book Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve.
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We have all experienced a feeling of regret at some point in our lives. It can be a deep sadness and disappointment that results from realizing how we could have done things differently or a feeling of guilt or shame that we experience when we make a mistake. Regret is a powerful emotion, one that can send us spiraling. However, it is possible to move beyond it and not become stuck in the feeling of despair.
Discussing his remarkable guide, If Only…: Finding Freedom from Regret, we are honored to be joined by renowned psychologist and the Founder of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy, Dr. Robert Leahy. As we explore the impact of regret, we gain insight and actionable exercises from Robert on how it can be utilized as a valuable tool to create opportunities and inform our decisions in more productive ways. Listen in to understand and manage regret, so that it doesn’t control your life!
Listen and Learn: * What is regret? * Using the multiple selves concept to avoid regretful decisions * How different styles of decision-making lead to more or less regret * What distinguishes productive regret from unproductive regret * How to identify when you are caught in an unproductive cycle versus using regret productively * Existential perfectionism and regret * Why is regret a more dominant experience in modern times * The negation exercise * The importance of risk assessment in managing regret
Resources: Visit the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy website * Watch Barry Schwartz’s, The Paradox of Choice TEDx Talk mentioned in this episode * Grab your copy of If Only…: Finding Freedom from Regret*
About Robert L. LeahyRobert L. Leahy is the Founder and Director of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy in NYC, Clinical Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, and Past-President of the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, The Academy of Cognitive Therapy, and The International Association of Cognitive Therapy. He is the recipient of the Aaron T. Beck Award for outstanding contributions in CBT, is the author of 29 books, and is a frequent keynote speaker and presenter of workshops worldwide. His new book isIf Only…Finding Freedom from Regret.
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To make our world a more harmonious and equitable place, we must take the time to build bridges across the divides of race and gender. This can be challenging, but it is an essential step to take in order to remove bias, reduce tensions, forge deeper connections, eliminate disparities, and create respect, trust, and greater understanding among all people.
Dr. Tina Opie and Dr. Beth A. Livingston, co-authors of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work, join us for this episode to discuss how they are driving gender and racial equity in organizations. Their groundbreaking book provides leaders and individuals with effective guidance and tools on how to establish a safe, and equitable work environment.
Learn why gender equity cannot be realized without also striving for racial equity, and how we can move beyond individual solutions toward collective action to effectively bridge the gap. Hear first-hand stories and get practical tips on how we can work together across challenging divides and develop collaborative approaches that can transform the workplace and our lives.
Listen and Learn:* What brought Beth and Tina together as friends, colleagues, and co-authors * A history of the divide between black and white women * Inauthenticity surrounding the conversation on racism * The shortcomings of feminist movements that white feminists should be aware of * The overarching goal of the shared sisterhood approach and what it has to offer * The three-step process for individuals to build Shared Sisterhood
Resources: * Grab your copy of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work * Learn more about Opie Consulting Group * Visit Tina’s website * Visit Beth’s website * Connect with Tina on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook * Connect with Beth on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook
About Tina Opie and Beth A. LivingstonDr. Tina R. Opie is an associate professor of management at Babson College, and an award-winning teacher, researcher, and consultant. She is a sought-after speaker and has advised large firms in the financial services, entertainment, media, beauty, educational, and healthcare industries. Her research has appeared in such outlets as O Magazine, the Washington Post, the Boston Globe, and Harvard Business Review, and has been published in multiple academic journals.
Dr. Beth A. Livingstonis an Associate Professor in Management and Entrepreneurship at the University of Iowa’s Tippie College of Business. She is a researcher, speaker, and consultant, working with large companies and nonprofits. Her research has been highlighted in the New York Times, Harvard Business Review, and on NPR and has been published in several top academic journals.
Together, they have co-authored the book Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work.
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It can be hard to find feelings of happiness in our lives. After all, life is unpredictable and we’re all facing our own unique challenges. Nonetheless, it is possible to find happiness, even during difficult times.
Specializing in the science of well-being, Clinical Psychologist, Jonah Paquette is dedicated to helping us understand the significance of positive psychological principles in achieving happiness. Drawing from learnings in his book, Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak, Jonah offers us practical exercises to strengthen our ’emotional fitness’, reduce suffering and build resilience even amid challenging times.
Whether you’re facing a challenging situation in life, or simply want to know how to cultivate more happiness and peace, this episode will provide you with actionable steps on how to do just that.
Listen and Learn: * How can we expect to build happiness in the face of hardship, heartache, or heartbreak * Why Jonah uses the term ‘emotional fitness’ and how this skill can help you in challenging times * Distinguishing between happiness and toxic positivity * Practices to help you cultivate emotional fitness * What is awe and how it relates to happiness * How can we access the experience of awe in times of hardship * Creative ways to find connection when you feel the most isolated
Resources: Get to know more about Jonah or subscribe to his newsletter * Check out Jonah’s books: Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak and Awestruck: How Embracing Wonder Can Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Connected * Connect with Jonah on Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter, or Facebook * Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive*! * Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Jonah PaquetteJonah Paquette, PsyD, is a psychologist, author, and speaker who specializes in the science of well-being and emotional fitness. He is the author of four books including Happily Even After, Awestruck, The Happiness Toolbox, and Real Happiness. Jonah’s writing aims to provide readers with practical, research-backed strategies to foster greater well-being and connection in our everyday lives. In addition to his clinical work and writing, Jonah offers training and consultation to organizations on the promotion of well-being and conducts professional workshops for clinicians around the country and abroad. He is a sought-after media contributor, having been featured regularly in print, online, radio, and podcast outlets. To learn more about Jonah and his work, visit www.jonahpaquette.com.
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We all want to live a fun and fulfilling life, but the hustle and bustle of everyday life can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. That’s why it’s so important to make time for fun, even as an adult. From reducing stress to better relationships and improving mental and physical health, carving out time for fun activities can have a transformative impact on many aspects of our lives.
Mike Rucker, an organizational psychologist, is here to share his best practices for incorporating fun habits into our day-to-day lives. Illustrating scientific evidence from his book, The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life, we discover why fun is beneficial and what fun habits you can create to make life more enjoyable. So, let’s dive in and learn why fun isn’t just for kids—it’s an essential part of adult life too.
Listen and Learn: * Fun: what is it all about? * What makes fun different from happiness * Why is it beneficial for us to prioritize fun as busy adults? * Finding time for fun * The importance of reminiscing on fun experiences * The question of friendship or parenting * How to create and maintain fun habits * The Rucker-PLAY model * How to incorporate more fun into our friendships
Resources: * To learn more about creating fun habits, visit Mike’s website * Visit the POTC Bookshop to purchase The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life * Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! * Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Mike Rucker Dr. Mike Rucker is an organizational psychologist and charter member of the International Positive Psychology Association whose work has been published in the International Journal of Workplace Health Management and Nutrition Research. His ideas about fun and health have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Fast Company, The Telegraph, Psychology Today, Forbes, Vox, Thrive Global, mindbodygreen, and more. Named one of ten digital changemakers by the Healthcare Information and Management Systems Society, he currently serves as a senior leader at Active Wellness.
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Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a powerful practice that has been proven to effectively reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. But, while CBT can help bring us relief in the short term, it doesn’t always create lasting change. That’s why many mental health professionals are now combining CBT with another technique – mindfulness. By combining the two practices, we can start to create long-term improvements in our behavior, thoughts, and attitudes.
Here to discuss research-based practices from his recently published book, Mindful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, A Simple Path to Healing, Hope and Peace, is best-selling author and psychologist, Seth Gillihan. Seth offers a model of fresh and practical strategies that build upon traditional techniques of CBT to transcend our capacity to control negative thinking and take the right steps to live in the present and enjoy life. Tune in to learn how these powerful practices can unlock a new path to healing.
Listen and Learn:* Seth’s experience sharing so much of his personal mental health struggle in his book * What mindfulness can do to help transcend the limitations of cognitive behavioral therapy * Why mindfulness has lost its essence and how we can use mindfulness in a way that’s beneficial * An introduction to mindfulness for someone who might be resistant * Acceptance vs. passivity * Seth’s thoughts on psychiatric medication as a form of mental health treatment * The relationship between cognitive behavioral therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy
Resources:* Learn more about Seth here * Check out Seth’s podcast * Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! * Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Seth GillihanSeth Gillihan, PhD, is a licensed psychologist who specializes in mindful cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). He was a full-time faculty member at the University of Pennsylvania from 2008 to 2012, and taught in the Psychology Department at Haverford College from 2012-2015. He has been in private practice since 2012. Seth completed a doctorate in psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. He is the author of multiple books on mindfulness and CBT, Therapy Advisor with the self-therapy app Bloom, a medical reviewer for Everyday Health, and host of the Think Act Be podcast.
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Alcohol is a pervasive part of many of our lives, but have you ever questioned your relationship with alcohol? Taking an honest look at the way we use alcohol can be a powerful tool in identifying our motivations behind drinking, allowing us to make more conscious decisions and better manage our consumption.
Therapist, Author, and Founder of Therapy for Women, Amanda E. White is determined to challenge the traditional “black-and-white” outlook on “alcoholism” by encouraging people to unlock a deeper understanding of their relationship with alcohol.
Exploring practices from Amanda’s books Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician’s Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol, we examine how to identify the purpose alcohol serves in your life and how to use this knowledge to recognize patterns of unhealthy behavior, develop boundaries and create a healthier lifestyle.
Listen and Learn: * Amanda’s own journey with alcohol * Why people don’t have the language to explore their relationship with alcohol * Why Amanda’s books are geared toward people who don’t necessarily meet the criteria for an alcohol use disorder * Why the black-and-white mentality of alcohol is problematic * What makes us feel obligated to give the right reason for not drinking alcohol * How therapists can examine the issue of alcohol use with their own patients * Why do emotional relationships with alcohol make it increasingly harder to cut ties * Why Amanda coined the term ‘disordered drinking’ * How mindfulness practices can be helpful for people who want to change their drinking habits * The importance of self-care in cutting down or quitting drinking * What to do if we think a loved one’s relationship with alcohol is problematic, but they don’t agree or they don’t see it
Resources: * Learn more about Amanda and her work here * If you are looking for modern approaches to therapy, visit Therapy for Women * You can buy both of Amanda’s books here: Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician’s Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol * Follow Amanda on Instagram * Check out Debbie’s blog post on cutting back on alcohol here!
About Amanda E. White Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating A Sober Life You Love,” and the corresponding workbook by the same title. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. In her clinical work, she specializes in substance use disorders. People are drawn to Amanda’s unique expertise, accessible approach to healing and mental health. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Self, Shape, Women’s Health Magazine, and more.
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Taking the time to reflect on our values and goals is an essential practice for living a meaningful life. By considering what is most important to us, we can gain a greater understanding of our place and purpose in this world. It can help us to determine what direction to go in and how to prioritize our time and energy. Reflecting on our values and goals can also help us to stay motivated and inspired as we work towards achieving them.
Valerie Tiberius, Professor of Philosophy, is here to provide us with a practical look at how to define and fulfill our values and goals. Through illustrative examples from her book, What Do You Want Out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters, Valerie guides us in finding our true purpose in life and how to get there. With her wise words and actionable advice, you’ll unlock the power to create the life you want and overcome obstacles to achieving it. Don’t let this opportunity pass, take the chance to define your aspirations and make the most out of life!
Listen and Learn: * How psychology and philosophy intertwine to improve well-being * An introduction to values fulfillment theory of well-being and what it has to offer * Defining values and goals from a philosophical perspective * Are some values better than other values? * Managing conflict between competing goals * Reinterpreting values * When is it time to give up a goal that is important to you? * Strategies for figuring out your values and what you want out of life * How our moral values harmonize with our other values * Real-world barriers that prevent us from realizing our goals
Resources: * Learn more about Valerie * Get Valerie’s book, What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters * Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! * Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Valerie TiberiusValerie Tiberiusis the Paul W. Frenzel Chair in Liberal Arts and Professor of Philosophy at the University of Minnesota. Her work explores the ways in which philosophy and psychology can both contribute to the study of well-being and virtue. She is the author of The Reflective Life: Living Wisely With Our Limits (Oxford 2008), Moral Psychology: A Contemporary Introduction (Routledge 2015), Well-Being as Value Fulfillment: How We Can Help Others to Live Well (Oxford, 2018), and What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters (Princeton University Press, 2023). She has published numerous articles on the topics of practical reasoning, prudential virtues, well-being, and moral psychology, and has received grants from the Templeton Foundation and the National Endowment for the Humanities. She served as President of the Central Division of the American Philosophical Association from 2016-17.
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We often form deep emotional relationships with things that are important to us, from cherished items to hobbies and more materialistic possessions. But why do we become so emotionally attached to the things that we love and how does this affect our lives?
Here to delve deeper into the topic and talk about his book, The Things We Love: How Our Passions Connect Us and Make Us Who We Are, isauthor and expert on non-interpersonal love, Dr. Aaron Ahuvia. We explore the psychology of how passions shape our identity and connect us in meaningful ways, as well as offer advice for optimizing how we love and use our things to live more value-aligned lives.
Listen and Learn: * Is the word ‘love’ accurate in describing how we feel, or is it just hyperbole? * The parallels that exist in relationships between people and the relationships between people and the objects that they love * Why do we get more frustrated with objects we love than the people we love? * The ability to love things isn’t a flaw in human nature, but rather a useful trait * Loving things can detract from loving people – how to find the balance * What can materialistic people do to love things more deeply? * Letting go of objects that you are emotionally attached to * How attachment styles with people translate to our attachment style with objects * Tips for using our things in more value-aligned ways
Resources: Visit Dr. Aaron Ahuvia’s site for more on his work * Sign up for Aaron’s blog * For even more insights on the things we love, check out Aaron’s article on Peace, Love, and Happiness (and Marketing) * Grab your copy of all our favorite books atbookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive!* * Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Dr. Aaron AhuviaDr. Aaron Ahuvia is the most widely published and cited academic expert on non-interpersonal love.
A scientific study listed him as one of the top 20 most influential scientists studying consumer behavior, out of thousands US researchers working on related topics.
Dr. Ahuvia has been at the forefront of this research since he published the first major scientific study on this topic entitled I Love It! Towards a Unifying Theory of Love Across Diverse Love Objects, over twenty years ago. Professor Ahuvia has over 100 academic papers and conference presentations. His research has been quoted in Time, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Glamour, and major publications in Europe and Japan. Dr. Ahuvia has also appeared on public radio talk shows as well as popular Television shows such as the Oprah Winfrey Show.
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Happy New Year, dear listeners! As we begin this new year, it’s a great time to start developing some new healthy habits. It may seem like a challenge, but we can do it! Let’s make this year a time for taking care of ourselves and striving for the best version of ourselves.
If you’re serious about your health but don’t feel the urge to jump out of bed, drag yourself to the gym, and reward your progress with a kale smoothie, this episode is for you! We all know what constitutes a healthy lifestyle, but it can be hard to stay consistent, especially when it feels like a chore!
Join Debbie for an engaging discussion with Dr. Dayna Lee-Baggley, author of Healthy Habits Suck: How to Get Off the Couch and Live a Healthy Life….Even if You Don’t Want To, about evidence-based strategies on how to overcome the internal obstacles that make behavior change hard, and how to sustain lifelong healthy habits.
Listen and Learn:* Why healthy habits violate the hard-wiring of our “caveman brain” * How linking health habits to values can make them more meaningful and build motivation * The benefits of focusing on behaviors rather than outcomes to foster success * What is a “smart goal” and how to make them work for you * How to work with the thoughts and emotions that makes healthy habits hard
Resources: * Visit Dayna’s website: https://drleebaggley.com/about/ * Get your copy of Dayna’s book, Healthy Habits Suck: How to Get Off the Couch and Live a Healthy Life….Even if You Don’t Want To * Listen to the interview Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam mentioned in this episode here: https://offtheclockpsych.com/time/ * Grab your copy of all our favorite books atbookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent,Thrive! * Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Dayna Lee-BaggleyDr. Dayna Lee-Baggleyis a Registered Clinical Psychologist in Nova Scotia, British Columbia, Ontario and Alberta with reciprocal agreements for clients in Atlantic Canada and Quebec. For close to 15 years she worked as a Clinical Health Psychologist for medical, surgery, and cancer care units at the hospital. She has taken all this experience to open Dr. Lee-Baggley and Associates, a virtual health psychology clinic offering clinical interventions, training for healthcare providers, and educational courses on health related topics. She holds an Assistant Professor appointment in the Department of Family Medicine and a cross-appointment in the Department of Psychology and Neuroscience at Dalhousie University and an Adjunct Professor appointment in the Department of Industrial and Organizational Psychology at Saint Mary’s University. She is an internationally recognized trainer in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.
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POTC co-host and author Yael Schonbrun offers strategies to help stressed out working parents to thrive!
If you're trying to navigate this whole adulthood thing, and maybe even do some personal growth along the way, check out our conversation with Satya Doyle Byock, author of Quarterlife!
In this episode, Dr. Dolly Chugh shares tools from psychology that can help us both reckon with a painful history and build towards a more socially just future.
A psychology podcast episode about the key skills kids need to thrive in middle school and how parents can help
A psychology podcast episode featuring Debbie, Yael, and Adam Dorsay talking about making and keeping friends in adulthood.
Daniel Pink talks about regret with cognitive scientist Maya Shankar in this brief bonus episode!
In this episode, Doc Cory talks with Yael about the importance of having conversations with ourselves and offers questions to get the conversation started.
A personal and vulnerable conversation about connection, community, asking for help, and harnessing psychological flexibility to live a full size life and be a badass
It's Suicide Prevention Awareness Month! Dr. Katie Gordon, author of The Suicidal Thoughts Workbook, offers ideas and coping tools.
In this episode, Yael and Carla swear a lot while talking about self-compassion for parents.
Developing a mindset that anxiety is good for you (even though it feels bad) can help you better respond to it in healthier ways.
Karla McLaren shares her ideas for using emotions to create a healthy and humane workplace culture.
Jill interviews two experts on how to raise kids to reject toxic diet culture and develop a healthy relationship with food and their bodies.
In this episode, Yael talks with therapist Lindsay Gibson about how to heal from distant, rejecting, or self-involved parents
Debbie, Yael, Jill, and Michael come together to discuss the psychological impact of today's difficult times, how to foster hope, and practical advice for navigating our challenging world.
On this episode, Yael and Michael Slepian discuss the value in sharing as well as the impact on wellbeing and relationships of keeping secrets.
If you feel anxious about health (your own or someone else's), you're not alone! Learn about Health Anxiety with Dr. Karen Lynn Cassiday, author of Freedom from Health Anxiety!
On this episode, Victoria Sheperd joins Psychologists Off the Clock to explain why delusions often serve an important function and why we should get curious and compassionate about them.
Parenting expert Erika Souter and Jill discuss the challenges mothers often face in their parenting journey and provide practical, realistic advice for facing those challenges.
In this episode, Yael talks with Dr. Ron Siegel about the addiction to self-esteem, what genetic analysis says about social comparison, practices for embracing and savoring your ordinariness.
Debbie talks with Dr. Traci Baxley about her book on Social Justice Parenting and how to create a pro-justice home.
On this episode, Zoe Chance shares science-backed tips for becoming more influential and using your influence for good.
Jill and Michaela discuss the role of giving and receive compassion to build a healthy committed relationship
On this episode, Yael and Lenore Skenazy discuss the data behind how trusting your kids more and giving them more independence allows them to better grow into capable, confident, and happy adults.
In this co-host episode, Yael, Debbie, and Jill discuss identifying appropriate help, asking for help, and overcoming common barriers to asking for help.
Jill interviews psychologist Frank Keil about the experience of wonder: why we lose it and how to get it back.
A conversation with Dr. Clarissa Ong, co-author of the book The Anxious Perfectionist: How to Manage Perfectionism-Driven Anxiety Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.
In the past decade, online dating has become a multi-billion dollar industry with three in ten adults in the United States claiming to have ever used a dating app. But despite all this dating, experiences of loneliness are on the rise, and three out of five U.S. adults report lacking companionship or feeling left out or poorly understood. Dr. Jenny Taitz, author of How to be Single and Happy, is passionate about helping others live meaningful, value-based lives, regardless of their relationship status. On this episode of POTC, she and Yael discuss the central challenges faced by unhappily single people and evidence-based methods for overcoming them. Join us today for practical advice related to dealing with big emotions in dating, creating long-lasting relationships, dating throughout the life-span, and finding happiness no matter your relationship status!
Listen and learn:
Katy and Yael discuss living meaningfully even when dating and relationships feel imperfectPractical advice for those who are in an unhappy partnership or those who struggle with dating and finding a partner (regardless of your age, gender, or experiences!)Dr. Taitz’s personal experience of being unhappily single and her journey to write her bookTaitz’s expert opinion on if you can be single (not by choice) and happy Expert-approved strategies the unhappily single can use to thriveThree central challenges faced by the unhappily single and evidence-based practices you can use to unhook yourself from themPractical strategies for helping those who feel shame and regret about dating experiencesDr. Taitz’s words of wisdom for staying hopeful when you’ve been on the dating scene for a long timeProblematic emotions that can arise with dating struggles and how to respond to themSpecific, expert-approved advice for dating when you want to have a childThe problem of loneliness and how to manage itDr. Taitz’s thoughts on dating apps, meeting people, and starting conversationsPractical advice on creating long lasting relationshipsHow to live well, regardless of your relationship status
Resources:
Read Dr. Jenny’s books, End Emotional Eating and How to be Single and Happy!Check out Dr. Jenny’s website, and while you’re there, take advantage of her resources! Find Jenny's New York Times pieces here, here, and hereRead Daniel Pink’s book, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward.Read Matt Haig’s book, The Midnight Library.Read Chris Wilson’s book, The Master Plan: My Journey from Life in Prison to a Life of Purpose. Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Jenny Taitz:
Dr. Jenny Taitz, is board certified in cognitive behavioral therapy by the American Board of Professional Psychology and a Diplomate in the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. Dr. Taitz is one of the first psychologists to merit Linehan Board Certification in DBT. She is the founder of LA CBT DBT, a discrete, boutique, private therapy practice prioritizing compassionate, effective, and time-sensitive therapy. Dr. Taitz is grateful to offer secure telehealth appointments to clients residing in New York and California. In her work, she aims to coach her clients to achieve their life goals. Dr. Taitz practices the acceptance and values-based living she teaches and recently ran the LA Marathon (postpartum!) for suicide prevention. Additionally, Dr. Taitz serves as an Assistant Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at U.C.L.A. and her writing appears in numerous prominent publications including the New York Times and Wall Street Journal.
Jenny is the author of End Emotional Eating: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Cope with Difficult Emotions and Develop a Healthy Relationship to Food, an award-winning popular audience book on managing emotions to eat mindfully and live flexibly. Most recently, inspired by her clinical work and research, Dr.
It's hard to talk about intimacy and sex. Cultural norms around intimacy work their way into our minds when we’re young, causing us to have rigid (and often completely incorrect, unworkable, or dysfunctional) views about how we should express ourselves sexually. Zoë Kors, author of Radical Intimacy, is a sex and intimacy coach who is passionate about opening up this conversation to help people develop healthier sexuality and intimacy. On this episode of POTC, Yael and Zoë discuss the stigma and awkwardness we often feel around discussions about sex, Zoë’s Radical Intimacy model of sexual wellbeing, strategies for getting un-hooked from ideas about how you should be when it comes to sex and intimacy, and so much more. Join them for a conversation about sex and intimacy that can help you build towards greater fulfillment in your relationships!
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Debbie’s thoughts on our first episode on sex (and the stigma that prevented us from doing it earlier!)Expert-advice on how to start conversations with your partner or ask for help from a therapist or intimacy coach about sexZoë’s Radical Intimacy model of sexual wellbeingPractical advice for couples with mis-matched levels of comfort in different areas of intimacyImportant differences between desire and arousalZoë busts some common myths and misconceptions about intimacyAnswers to age-old questions about the importance of sex and interest in a relationshipEvidence-based advice on rekindling your sparkStrategies for getting un-hooked from ideas about how you should be when it comes to sex and intimacyThe role of power in intimacyHow to support vulnerable partners in feeling safe during intimate momentsEnergetic intimacy - what it is and why it’s so importantWhat it’s like for Zoë’s husband to live with a sex guru!
Resources:
Buy your copy of Zoë’s book, Radical Intimacy: Cultivate the Deeply Connected Relationships You Desire and Deserve!Read Zoë’s viral article, 6 Ways to Have Radically Intimate Sex.Listen to Zoë’s podcast, The Radical Intimacy Podcast!Learn more about Sensate Focus Therapy.Read Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages.Esther Perel’s advice for turning a spark into a flame. Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Zoë Kors:
Zoë Kors holds a BA in Art History from University of Pennsylvania. Her post graduate work includes certification as a Co-Active Coach with the prestigious Co-Active Training Institute in San Rafael, CA, as well as dozens of programs and courses in sexuality and spirituality. She is the resident sex and intimacy coach and contributor at sexual wellness app Coral. Zoë is the former Senior Editor and Creative Director of LA Yoga Magazine and is a contributor to Elephant Journal, MindBodyGreen, Avocado Green Mattress and Fabletics blogs. In addition to a thriving private practice, Zoë offers her services through Center for Relational Healing, which specializes in the treatment of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. As a member of the CRH team, Zoë works with clients to reintroduce healthy sexuality and intimacy after the trauma of betrayal. Make sure to read her book, Radical Intimacy: Cultivate the Deeply Connected Relationships You Desire and Deserve!
Related Episodes:
Episode 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana Episode 61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values And Schemas With Avigail LevEpisode 76. Gender and Sexual Minorities with Aisling Leonard-Curtin and Matthew SkintaEpisode 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Daphne de MarneffeEpisode 179. How to Be An Adult in Relationships with Dave RichoEpisode 184. Getting Past Affairs and Other Relationship Betrayals with Kristina Coop Gordon
In this psychology podcast, Jill interviews Eve Rodsky about carving out creative time separate from being in the roles of parent, partner, and professional
Dr. Emily Oster, author of The Family Firm, Expecting Better and Cribsheet, has dedicated her career to discovering the hard, data-backed truths about parenting strategies. In this episode of POTC, she delivers some of those parenting truths to you. Emily then delights Yael by going beyond the world of data-driven parenting to discuss how to ask good questions in complicated parts of life (and how to answer them!). Emily also shares tools for gathering good information from the media—even if you aren't someone with a science background. Join the conversation as Yael and Emily discuss The Family Firm and making wise choices within very complicated life roles.
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Jill discuss strategies to approaching thorny parenting decisionsDifferences between parenting in early versus middle years of childhoodThe benefits to thinking about family, co-parenting, and marriage as a firmHow Emily’s family has applied this data to their personal lives (and her family’s mission statement!)Practical advice for staying engaged as a parent while maintaining a demanding careerThe importance of framing good questions and evidence-based strategies for doing soThe Family Firm approach to making decisions: The Four F’sWhat the data says about social pressure and extracurricularsConsideration of how scientists should be interacting with systems outside of science Emily’s personal experience with being outspoken about data with people who have strong feelings otherwiseHow those interested in evidence can interact with media in ways that are less biasedThe inside scoop on Emily’s data-driven newsletter
Resources:
Pick up your copy of Emily’s book, The Family Firm: A Data-Driven Guide to Better Decision Making in the Early School Years!Sign up for Emily’s newsletter, Parent Data.Check out this article on AlloparentingLearn about the Sunk Cost Fallacy. Read Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Emily Oster:
Emily Oster, PhD, is a Professor of Economics at Brown University and the author of Expecting Better, Cribsheet, and The Family Firm. She holds a PhD in Economics from Harvard. Prior to being at Brown she was on the faculty at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. Oster’s academic work focuses on health economics and statistical methods. She is interested in understanding why consumers do not always make “rational” health choices — why do people not eat a fully healthy diet, or pursue all recommended preventative health behaviors? Her work also concerns methods for learning causal effects from observational data. Sign up for her newsletter and check out her website for all the most recent updates on data related to pregnancy and parenting!
Related Episodes:
Episode 33. Couples with Young Children: Relationship Challenges and Strategies with Yael SchonbrunEpisode 86. Mom Brain with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarcoEpisode 87. Cribsheet with Emily OsterEpisode 143. Happier Parenting KJ Dell’AntoniaEpisode 149. How Not Lose It with Your Kids with Carla NaumburgEpisode 200. Growing Grit with Angela DuckworthEpisode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner MoyerEpisode 223. Mom Brain Returns with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarcoEpisode 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher
Dr. Aprilia West shares how to respond to emotions effectively and become a boss-level choice maker!
Learn about the science of goal setting, building motivation, and how to get things done in this conversation with Dr. Ayelet Fishbach.
Join this meaningful conversation with Oliver Burkeman about how to make the most of your time in the roughly 4,000 weeks you'll live!
We continue the conversation on Emotion-Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) with Dr. Mindy Solomon on Emotion Coaching Skills.
Dr. Adele LaFrance shares skills from Emotion-Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) to help parents and caregivers handle big emotions effectively.
An interview with best selling author, Lori Gottlieb, about how to edit our unhelpful narratives so we may grow in our relationships, lives, and well being.
In this episode, Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen bring it back full circle to chatting over coffee about their time together as friends, co-authors and co-hosts. Listen in to learn how they continue to apply ACT strategies to their lives and where Diana Hill is headed on her new podcast Your Life in Process.
Dr. Margaret Chisolm, professor of psychiatry at Johns Hopkins, talks with us about mental illness, stigma, and pathways to flourishing.
According to the National Center for Drug Abuse Statistics, since 2000, the United States has experienced over 700,000 deaths due to drug overdose. Addiction and substance use disorders are at the root of this enormous loss, and about half of people who struggle with substance use disorder will experience some mental health disorder during their life. And vice versa—many individuals struggling with mental health disorders also struggle with various forms of addiction.
Carl Erik Fisher, author of The Urge: Our History of Addiction, has expertise in law, ethics, and policy related to psychiatry and neuroscience. His personal struggle with addiction in combination with his professional expertise converges to help us understand the forces that have shaped addiction throughout our history. On this episode of POTC, Carl and Yael discuss the social contingencies and historical contexts that lead to addiction, substance use disorder, and co-morbid mental health issues. Join us in this episode to learn more about commonly held beliefs about addiction, prescribers’ blind spots to certain medications, and much much more!
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Debbie discuss the importance of contextualizing human behaviorHow society tends to neglect the historical context of addictive behaviors (and why it’s so important to overcome this neglect)The issues that come with treating addiction differently than other mental health disordersPractical advice for clinicians and patients working with co-morbid addiction and other mental health disordersCarl provides insights on how addiction has been weaponized to serve corporations and politiciansAn important, historical example of what happens when scientists and researchers rigidly adopt a particular view (read: biases) but find information that conflicts with that viewThe expert-approved definition of harm reductionCarl answers commonly held beliefs about addiction (e.g., is addiction a brain disease?)How Carl, a practicing psychiatrist with an in-depth knowledge of the history of addiction and mental health, approaches prescription by balancing values, change, and harm reduction Things consumers should know about prescribers’ blind spots to certain medicationsCarl’s personal story of addiction and recoveryWhat to consider when balancing evidence- and RCT-based treatments with clients’ individuality and choicesPractical advice for helping those who are in denial of their substance abuse problem
Resources:
Read Carl’s book, The Urge: Our History of Addiction! Check out Carl's recent New York Times piece, Why It's misleading to call addiction a diseaseListen to Carl’s podcast, Flourishing After Addiction! Read RAND reports on drug policy research, prescription drug abuse, and substance abuseGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Jill’s, Yael, and Diana, websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Carl Erik Fisher:
Carl Erik Fisher (USA), psychiatrist and author of The Urge: A History of Addiction, New York, May 24, 2021. Photograph © Beowulf Sheehan
Carl Erik Fisher, M.D., is an addiction psychiatrist, bioethics scholar, and author of The Urge: Our History of Addiction. He is an assistant professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University, where he studies and teaches law, ethics, and policy relating to psychiatry and neuroscience. He received his B.A. in Music (vocal performance) and Biology from the University of North Carolina, his M.D. from the Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons, and completed psychiatric residency at Columbia University. He then completed fellowship training in forensic psychiatry in the Columbia/Cornell Residency in Psychiatry and the Law. Carl’s scholarly work addresses the role of neuroscience and psychiatry in society, primarily as reflected in ethics, law, and policy.
Dominic Packer talks with Jill about the power of shared identity to impact human thought, feeling, and behavior.
In this episode, Dr. Lembke and Diana redefine addiction, discuss its consequences, and provide practical advice on addressing it in all its forms.
As we venture into the New Year, many of us are striving to reach new goals and maintain resolutions. It's easy to default to focusing solely on succeeding or attaining those goals, striving to feel the “high” that accompanies that success. But this kind of approach can unwittingly interfere with healthy and sustainable success.
Brad Stulberg, author of The Practice of Groundedness, has dedicated his career to understanding and fostering a healthier, more sustainable model of success. An expert in organizational behavior and public health, Brad suggests that constantly striving for and focusing on reaching the peak is neither a healthy nor sustainable way to actually reach it. In this episode of POTC, Brad and Yael discuss healthier methods of feeling the “highs” that accompany success. Listen in to this episode where we redefine “peak performance”, get in touch with your “lows”, and discover tip that work to remain grounded as you journey towards success in 2022 and beyond!
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Diana discuss groundedness and striving The mental health journey Brad endured while writing his booksBrad’s expert definitions of groundedness and successThe core values guiding Brad’s workHow principles from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy can help you engage in more grounded behaviorPractical advice for developing a healthy association with your ego (even in harsh or toxic environments)The relationships between non-duality and groundednessImportant differences between vulnerability and performative vulnerability in social media and digital spacesExpert-approved tips for building nurturing communities that foster ongoing health and sustainability, accessing alone time, and balancing the twoBrad’s personal experience with groundedness and fatherhood
Resources:
Read Brad’s books, The Practice of Groundedness: A Transformative Path to Success That Feeds--Not Crushes--Your Soul and Peak Performance: Elevate Your Game, Avoid Burnout, and Thrive with the New Science of Success! Check out Brad’s coaching practice and online platform, The Growth Equation, dedicated to defining and attaining a more fulfilling and sustainable kind of successRead this New York Times article discussing social media following and book salesBrad's article from Outside Magazine that shares his personal story with how a stress expert manages mental illness Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Brad Stulberg:
Brad Stulberg received his undergraduate (organizational behavior) and graduate (public health) degrees from the University of Michigan. He is an avid strength trainer, reader, and outdoor enthusiast and does almost all of his best thinking in the gym, while reading, or on the trail. Brad’s books are The Practice of Groundedness and Peak Performance. They have sold more than 250,000 copies and have been translated into more than 20 languages. His work has appeared in The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Wired, New Yorker, Forbes, GQ, Time, and more. He is also a contributing editor at Outside Magazine, where he writes a regular column on the science and art of sustainable success. In his coaching practice he works with executives, entrepreneurs, physicians, and athletes on their performance and overall well-being. He is also co-creator of The Growth Equation, an online platform dedicated to defining and attaining a more fulfilling and sustainable kind of success.
Related Episodes:
Episode 102. A Liberated Mind with Steven HayesEpisode 122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson Episode 193. Heal Unhealthy Striving with Diana and Yael Episode 196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman Episode 200. Grit with Angela DuckworthEpisode 205. Thrivers with Michele Borba
Ring in the new year by learning about flexible eating skills with fitness expert Josh Hillis!
Dr. Devon Price, author of Laziness Does Not Exist, talks about the "laziness lie," where it came from, and why it can be harmful to our wellbeing.
Alice Kearney joins Jill for a discussion about teaching kids to build resilience in a challenging world.
Radhule Weininger and Diana discuss how and why we engage in painful patterns, how to transform them, and how to use mindfulness and psychology to find freedom today.
Most people would agree that happiness is one of the most salient and significant dimensions of human experience. After all, wouldn't we all like to be happy? But what exactly is happiness? And how do we get more of it? Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., has dedicated her career to studying human happiness, and on this episode of POTC, she joins Yael to answer this question and more! Join us in this episode to learn the empowering practice of cultivating your own happiness through practical, evidence-based strategies today!
Listen and Learn:
The evidence-based strategies Yael and Diana use to foster happiness in their livesSonja expertly breaks down what different studies are telling us about predicting and maintaining happinessSonja’s goals for your happiness and how she can help you build those through evidence-based strategies and practicesThe empowering practice of cultivating your own happinessHedonic adaptation and how it fits into the scientific art of cultivating happinessPractical advice for taking charge of your own happiness right now!Fostering happiness in the presence of positive and negative memories and experiencesWhich happiness-building activities work better for specific dispositions and temperamentsThe erroneous beliefs and myths about what makes us happy or unhappy
Resources:
Read Sonja’s books, The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want and The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, But Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, But DoesLearn more about Barbara Fredrickson Read Danny Kahneman’s study on parenting and happiness Paul Bloom's recent Atlantic piece on parenting and happinessGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Sonja Lyubomirsky:
Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., is a Distinguished Professor and the Vice Chair of the Department of Psychology at the University of California where she currently runs the Positive Activities & Well-Being Lab. She earned both her A.B. in Psychology and her Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Stanford University. She has dedicated her career to studying human happiness, focusing on three main questions: 1) What makes people happy? 2) Is happiness a good thing, and 3) How and why can people learn to lead happier, more flourishing lives? Sonja has published numerous studies and made multiple media appearances exploring and discussing the answers to these questions. She has also published multiple books about happiness including The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want and her most recent work, The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, But Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, But Does. Learn more about Sonja at her website, sonjalyuobmirsky.com!
Related Episodes:
Episode 2. Hygge – Happiness and the Danish Art of Cozy Connection Episode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry SchwartzEpisode 97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKayEpisode 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji SchoendorffEpisode 192. Happier with Tal Ben-ShaharEpisode 224. The Sweet Spot with Paul Bloom
Tired of the pressure to be perfect? Learn all about perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp, author of the ACT Workbook for Perfectionism!
Paul Bloom and Diana discuss the pleasures of suffering and the intersection of meaning and pain. Learn about why humans so frequently choose pain and how suffering and meaning are connected.
Moms are frequently expected to wear many hats. While juggling the numerous responsibilities, mothers must also deal with the cognitive overload many refer to as “Mom Brain”. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco, Ph.D., author of Mom Brain, is a clinical psychologist specializing in working with moms struggling with the overwhelm that comes with parenting young children. On this episode of POTC, Yael and Ilyse discuss evidence-based strategies mothers can use to overcome some of the innumerable challenges of parenthood. Listen in today for expert-approved strategies to managing feelings of overwhelm, clarifying your newfound values as a parent, and much, much more!
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Debbie’s personal experiences using their values and evidence-based strategies to juggle the different stressors that come with parentingWhy Ilyse’s book focuses on exclusively on momsIlyse’s response to criticisms about focusing on the individual, working parent rather than society at largeAn evidence-based, expert approved definition of mom-brainTips and tricks (read: evidence-based behavioral strategies) for managing when you’re feeling tired and overwhelmedRecommendations for clarifying your values as they change throughout parenthood Expert-approved strategies for approaching difficult conversations with your partnerHow to distinguish between the “big stuff” and the “small stuff” when it comes to disagreements with your partner
Resources:
Buy Dr. DiMarco’s book, Mom Brain: Proven Strategies to Fight the Anxiety, Guilt, and Overwhelming Emotions of Motherhood--And Relax Into Your New Self Read Dr. DiMarco’s blog! Everything you need to know about The Gottman InstituteLearn about the DEAR MAN strategy The Bullseye worksheet for clarifying valuesGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco:
Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco, Ph.D., is a Clinical Psychologist specializing in working with stressed moms. She received her B.A. from Yale University and her Ph.D. from Rutgers University. She has received extensive training in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and is a Diplomate of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. As Dr. DiMarco navigated her own personal parenting journey and worked with other moms in her practice, it occurred to her that she had the tools—cognitive-behavioral therapy strategies—to help herself and other moms face the everyday challenges of motherhood. She also came to understand that moms often won’t make time to see a therapist, but will make time to read their favorite mom blog on their phone. So she decided to create DrCBTMom.com, a site combining the expert advice of a CBT self-help book with the warmth and readability of a mommy blog. Since starting the blog, she has written a book, Mom Brain and other, shorter pieces for numerous publications (including The Washington Post, Parents.com, Today Parents, Motherwell, Scary Mommy, Psychology Today, The Week, and Motherly). Check out her work for strategies for managing all kinds of motherhood stresses, from how to cope when you feel like a hot mess to how to cope with your neighborhood “hot moms;” from dealing with pressure from overzealous PTA reps to dealing with pressure from meddling in-laws, and much more! Follow her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.
Related Episodes:
Episode 33. Couples with Young Children: Relationship Challenges and Strategies with Yael SchonbrunEpisode 86. Mom Brain with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Episode 87. Cribsheet with Emily OsterEpisode 137. The Complexities of Motherhood with Daphne de MarneffeEpisode 149. How Not to Lose it With Your Kids with Carla NaumbergEpisode 176. Fair Play with Eve RodskyEpisode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer
On this psychology podcast, learn how to thrive living with food allergies or supporting a loved one with food allergy.
Birth trauma and maternity care expert Dr. Jan Smith shares about the psychological impact of traumatic birth experiences.
Co-host Diana Hill shares her story of stillbirth and how she grappled with applying the processes of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to her own loss. Alexis Bachik, a professor of positive psychology, shares how hard it was to stay positive in the face of years of exhausting and devastating infertility treatments. Anne Cushman reads from her powerful memoir about love and loss in motherhood.
Diana Hill talks with Sunita Osborn, a clinical psychologist and expert in reproductive trauma about strategies to navigate the loss and unpredictability of infertility, miscarriage and stillbirth.
If you’re a frequent listener of the show, you may wonder what makes this team tick? Behind the scenes, we are a team that spans 5 time zones, two countries, 6 states, and lots of interests. Join us in a special episode celebrating our off-mic team members, 1.5 million downloads, and discussing what we are up to and what matters most to us.
Listen and Learn:
What the team is really like behind the scenesWhat the team looks for in a good podcast episodeWhat the team is readingThe different ways co-hosts prepare for interviewsHow each time member would spend their days if they knew they were the last!
Resources & Recommendations:
Yael’s recommendations: Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy: A George Smiley Novel, I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Winnie-The-Pooh, Part of Your World: A Twisted Tale, The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less, Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz TEDx TalkKaty’s book recommendations: We Were Never Here, Reese’s Book Club Picks, The Paper Palace, Be Mighty: A Women’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance, Written Exposure Therapy for PTSD: A Brief Treatment Approach for Mental Health Professionals, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse Diana’s book recommendations: Harry Potter Illustrated, Home Body, Never Good Enough, episode with Stephen PorgesDebbie’s book recommendations: “heavy” fiction book (part of Hillary Mantel’s series about Thomas Cromwell), The Mirror and the Light Michael’s recommendations: ACT On Your Business, Stephen King books, Terry Pratchett Discworld novels, Unwinding Anxiety, Man’s Search for Meaning.Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat and her free online summit From Striving to Thriving (coming up October 15th and stream anytime after release date)Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Our Team
Diana Hill, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get unstuck and live fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She offers regular teachings in compassion and ACT through Insight LA , Mindful Heart Programs and her blog on Psychology Today Through her online teachings, executive coaching, clinical supervision, and private therapy practice Diana encourages clients to build psychological flexibility so that they can live more meaningful and fulfilling lives. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two, homesteader, and yoga teacher. Learn more about her latest offerings here and follow her on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter to get tools to build psychological flexibility into your daily life.
Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University and a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder. She works with adults in her private practice in Denver, Colorado, and is a part-time clinical research psychologist at the Rocky Mountain Regional VA Medical Center. She is a co-host of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, and has co-authored the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She loves living in her home state of Colorado with her husband, two daughters, and dog, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Rocky Mountains.
Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a licensed clinical psychologist who wears a number of professional hats: she a small private practice specializing in evidence-based relationship therapy, she’s an assistant professor at Brown University, and she writes for nonacademic audiences about working parenthood. She has a B.A. from Washington University in St. Louis, a Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and completed her postgraduate training at Brown University.
We haven't spent much energy discussing money on POTC, yet richness in all its forms is a dominant force in our modern well-being. Not surprisingly, richness serves many functions. At its best, wealth-growing can be incredibly rewarding and lend itself to an enriched quality of life. But there's another side to wealth. Striving for richness can hook you into an unsustainable cycle of overwork, unfulfilled desire, stagnation, and even persistent unhappiness. Shannon Hayes, Ph.D., author of Redefining Rich, is a sustainable farmer, entrepreneur, cafe owner, and the Chef and CEO of Sap Bush Hollow Farm, LLC. She has spent her career researching (and growing her own) sustainable wealth. In this episode of POTC, Shannon and Yael discuss the importance of balancing your practical and psychological desires and relationship with wealth. Listen in today to learn how to redefine rich for yourself.
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Diana dig into the research behind dimensions of psychological wealth and predictors of happinessHow the work of Alex Pang impacted Shannon’s philosophical stanceFlexible ways to approach wealth in order to foster sustainability both personally and globallyShannon explains Money Paradox and why it’s integral in redefining richness for yourselfYael’s expert application of ACT to getting “unhooked” from unhelpful, traditional views of wealthThe strategic balance of meeting both your practical and psychological needs that leads to a deeply enriched lifeHow Shannon uses napping, rest, and boundaries to enrich her quality of life and grow sustainable wealthPractical advice for saying “no” (even when feelings of guilt show up!)The role of diversification in defining and redefining wealth and in supporting ongoing richness throughout your life
Resources:
Buy Shannon’s book, Redefining Rich: Achieving True Wealth with Small Business, Side Hustles, and Smart Living!Listen, rate, review, and subscribe to Shannon’s podcast, The Heart of Sap Bush Hollow.Check out Shannon’s weekly essays on her blog, and support her research by visiting her Patreon.Read the research behind becoming Psychologically Rich.Antifragile, by Nassim Nicholas Taleb Rest, by Alex PangThe Power of a Positive No, by William UryAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat and her free online summit (coming up October 15th) where you’ll learn how to go from striving to thriving! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Shannon Hayes:
Shannon Hayes is a sustainable farmer, entrepreneur, cafe owner, and the Chef and CEO of Sap Bush Hollow Farm, LLC. She holds a Ph.D. in sustainable agriculture and community development from Cornell University and a bachelor’s in creative writing from Binghamton University. Shannon is the host of The Heart of Sap Bush Hollow podcast and the author of several books. Her work is frequently used in college classrooms and has been featured on national television as well as in the New York Times, New York Times Magazine, Brain, Child magazine, U.S. News and World Report, the Atlantic, National Public Radio, Grit magazine, YES! magazine, Elle magazine, JUNO magazine, and many national newspapers across the globe. Shannon also speaks nationally, teaching about sustainable business and inspiring rural and urban families alike to live creative lives in harmony with community and planet. Learn more about Shannon by visiting her website, http://theradicalhomemaker.net, and make sure to buy her latest book, Redefining Rich!
Related Episodes:
Episode 45. Rest with Alex PangEpisode 130. Working Less with Alex PangEpisode 182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein Episode 196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince GhumanEpisode 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz
Anger and irritability are running high, and we're here to help! Learn strategies for managing anger, and listen to Dr. Russell Kolts talk about compassion and anger.
Behavioral Scientist Katy Milkman provides evidence backed strategies for initiating and maintaining behavioral change.
Worried your kid is an asshole? Or that he or she is well on the road to becoming an asshole? You're not alone.
Bad behavior (read: assholery) is no fun to be around, let alone to parent around. In this episode of POTC, Yael and Melinda Wenner Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes, discuss what kinds of behavior to be concerned about, the risk factors for assholery, and evidence-based practices for intervening with asshole behavior. Listen in to this episode for practical advice on identifying the function of asshole behavior, instilling theory of mind, setting the stage for empathy, responding to sibling rivalry, and much more!
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Jill’s personal experiences and struggles raising kids in a world of too much parenting adviceThe conflicting responses to Melinda’s book’s titleA science-based explanation of why kids act like assholes Melinda’s personal experience managing parenting and work (and practical advice on how you can too)Expert-approved recommendations for teaching kids to take responsibility for their behaviorPractical advice for teaching kids to consider others’ perspectives and how their own behavior impacts othersMelinda explains growth mindset, fixed mindset, how the two differ, and why they’re important for your child’s developmentPractical advice for utilizing rewards without fostering assholeryWhat the science says is an effective approach to curbing sibling fightsHow to approach kid screen time with younger kids and teensHow to know when assholery is code for needing additional support from a parent or an expert (like a psychologist)And much, much more!
Resources:
Melinda’s book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens!Check out Anders Ericcson’s and Robert Pool’s Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Melinda Wenner Moyer:
Melinda Wenner Moyer has a master’s in Science, Health & Environmental Reporting from NYU and a background in cell and molecular biology. She is a contributing editor at Scientific Americanmagazine and a regular contributor to The New York Times, Washington Post, and other national magazines and newspapers. She is a faculty member in the Science, Health & Environmental Reporting program at NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Melinda was the recipient of the 2019 Bricker Award for Science Writing in Medicine, and her work was featured in the 2020 Best American Science and Nature Writing anthology. Buy Melinda’s most recent book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens! Keep up-to-date with Melinda’s work by subscribing to her newsletter, here!
Related Episodes:
Episode 58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin Episode 83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance with Tod Perry and Carl TottonEpisode 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan PollakEpisode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Rebecca Schrag HershbergEpisode 149. How Not to Lose it With Your Kids with Carla NaumbergEpisode 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah ArgenalEpisode 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley Episode 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth
Parenting and education experts, Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson, discuss how to talk with kids about anxiety, stress, motivation and technology.
OCD and Anxiety experts Dr. Lisa Coyne and Dr. Ben Sedley talk about ideas from their book, Stuff That's Loud: A Teen's Guide to Unspiraling When OCD Gets Noisy!
At the beginning of Dr. Seuss’s The Lorax, the Once-ler says, “I meant no harm. I most truly did not. But I had to grow bigger. So bigger I got.” Biggering, it turns out, is the default setting for most of us. For years, Leidy Klotz, author of Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, has studied how we transform things from how they are to how we want them to be. Both his research and the Once-ler’s tale relay similar sentiments: we gravitate towards adding and systematically neglect subtracting. This remains true even when subtracting might add considerable value to our lives!
On this episode of POTC, Yael and Leidy discuss the science supporting addition by subtraction. Listen to this episode today to learn how to be deliberate in your choices, subtract what’s no longer serving you, and add value to your life in the process!
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Diana discuss the role of values and subtraction in their personal lives The values reinforcing Leidy’s life journey to “less”The important distinction between “less” and “subtraction”What happens to subtraction options when we're under pressureWhy we tend to add when subtracting is the better optionPractical advice for being more deliberate in your choices Important differences between saying “no” and subtractingThe story behind Leidy’s interdisciplinary approach to behavioral scienceEvidence based advice for subtracting in your personal lifeHow to be more deliberate about making subtractive changes at a global level
Resources:
Buy Leidy’s book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of LessCheck out Leidy's experimental findings in his Nature paper, "People systematically overlook subtractive changes."Learn more about the KonMari Method Check out Dr. Seuss's book, The Lorax Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Find out more from the co-hosts, Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s by heading to their websites where you'll get access to their offerings, can sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Leidy Klotz
Leidy Klotz, PhD, studies how we transform things from how they are to how we want them to be. His research on the science of design has appeared in both Nature and Science, and he has written for The Washington Post, Fast Company, LitHub, The Globe and Mail, and The Behavioral Scientist. Leidy’s work applies whenever we are designing and problem-solving, whether for climate change, art, parenting, or personal finance. The range of implications of Leidy’s research have been highlighted in outlets including The Wall Street Journal, Grist, The Boston Globe, and national newspapers on five continents.
A professor at the University of Virginia, Leidy has authored more than 80 original research articles and secured more than $10 million dollars in competitive funding to support his and others’ work in this area. Recognized nationally as a professor who inspires, Leidy has taught thousands of students, including 21 Ph.D. advisees, whose designing and teaching shapes the world. Before becoming a professor, Leidy designed schools in New Jersey and before that he played professional soccer. Buy his latest book, Subtract: The Untapped Science of Less, and follow him on Twitter @Leidyklotz!
Related Podcast Episodes:
Episode 45. Rest with Alex PangEpisode 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeownEpisode 99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura VanderkamEpisode 130. Working Less with Alex PangEpisode 182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott Sonenshein
In recent years, mindfulness has become a buzzword in Western culture. A recent study by the CDC found that mindfulness was the fastest growing trend in complementary healthcare, and more than merely a buzzword, mindfulness is currently a multibillion dollar industry. Deirdre Fay, author of Becoming Safely Embodied, has dedicated her career to exploring the intersection of trauma, attachment, and yoga and meditation. In this episode of POTC, Diana and Deirdre discuss her radically positive approach to healing trauma and provide practical strategies for becoming safely embodied. Join us in this episode for real-time yoga practices, evidence-based mindfulness skills, and more!
Listen and Learn:
Diana and Debbie discuss different approaches to connecting to our bodies and emotionsDeirdre’s personal experience becoming safely embodied and expert definition of what that meansThe evidence-based skills involved in Deirdre’s skills-based approach to embodiment How Deirdre cultivates a sense of belonging (and why this is so important!)Seven fundamental attachment needs and practical advice on fulfilling themReal-time yoga practices to become more safely embodiedThe evidence behind physicalizationDiana and Deirdre’s experiences integrating practice into their personal livesMindfulness, the risks involved, and how to mediate them
Resources:
Grab a copy of Deirdre’s books, Becoming Safely Embodied, Attachment-Based Yoga, & Meditation for Trauma RecoveryAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Attend Diana’s Weekly, FREE, Live Online Talk and Meditation Read Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art by James NesterGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Deirdre Fay:
Deirdre Fay
Deirdre Fay, MSW, has decades of experience exploring the intersection of trauma, attachment, yoga and meditation, and teaches “a radically positive approach to healing trauma”. Deirdre’s most recent book, Becoming Safely Embodied became a best-seller before it was published. It’s based on the BSE groups she started in 1996 and continues to lead online. She is also the author of Attachment-Based Yoga & Meditation for Trauma Recovery, co-author of Attachment Disturbances for Adults, as well as the co-author of chapters in Neurobiological Treatments of Traumatic Dissociation. A former supervisor at The Trauma Center, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute trainer from 2000–2008, certified in Internal Family Therapy, qualified trainer in Mindful Self-Compassion, former board member of the New England Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation, and trained in Self-Awakening Yoga and LifeForce Yoga, Deirdre is a respected international teacher and mentor for working safely with the body. She currently resides in France.
Related Episodes:
Episode 53. Yoga For Trauma With Deirdre FayEpisode 129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Jennifer WebbEpisode 15 (Part 1) and Episode 16 (Part 2) of Embodiment Episode 37. Post-Traumatic Growth with Diana and Debbie
The Olympic Games provide excellent examples of people under pressure. This pressure has led to some inspiring wins, and one can only imagine the pride parents of Olympic medalists must have when watching their child succeed. However, pressure can also negatively impact one’s performance - leading to disappointment, anxiety, and hopelessness. In this episode of POTC, Yael and Dr. Hank Weisinger, author of The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure, discuss how “stress” and “pressure” are often used synonymously but lead to very different outcomes. In fact, the APA defines stress as the physiological or psychological response to internal or external stressors and pressure as excessive or stressful demands, imagined or real. Join Hank and Yael for a conversation about how to think about stress and pressure, how to manage them, and much more! Give your Olympic-hopeful a squeeze, and join us to learn value-based approaches for pushing yourself and your loved ones to be their best!
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Debbie discuss workable aspects of stress Dr. Weisinger’s expert break-down of pressure, what it is, how it interferes with our performance, and how to manage itThe evolutionary function to our pressure responseImportant differences between pressure and stress“Pressure traps” and how they can trip you upDr. Weisinger’s thoughts on the Yerkes Dodson CurveHow to befriend a stressful momentPractical advice on connecting to your values to improve your performanceDr. Weisinger’s pressure solutions, from thinking about multiple opportunities to shrinking the importance of a momentReframing how you think about your performance using Ranking Mindset vs. Excellence MindsetPractical advice for parents who fear their kids aren’t doing their best (even when they say they are!)Dr. Weisinger’s thoughts on applying pressure to our kidsExpert-approved tips and tricks for upping your parental performance
Resources:
Buy Dr. Weisinger’s The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure Lib/E: A Positive Approach to Pushing Your Child to Be Their Best SelfCheck out Dr. Kelly McGonigal’s The Upside of Stress: Why Stress Is Good for You, and How to Get Good at It Learn more about the Gottman Institute Understand the Yerkes-Dodson Curve Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Hank Weisinger
Dr. Hank Weisinger is a creator, innovator, practitioner, influential psychologist, and two -time New York Times bestselling author. Performing under pressure, giving and taking criticism, managing emotions, responding effectively to the feelings and emotions of others, motivating oneself and others, and resolving conflict are all “emotional intelligence skills” that are part of Dr. Weisinger’s expertise that has been recognized and sought out by leading business schools, influential government agencies, Fortune 500 Companies and dozens of professional organizations such as The Young Presidents’ Organization.
With the publication of his recent New York Times Bestseller Performing Under Pressure, Dr. Weisinger introduces the concepts of “pressure management” and “pressure coaching” to the corporate world and executive education programs with the major revelation that contrary to conventional wisdom, nobody performs better under pressure – not even Jordan, Jeter and Brady! To bring this knowledge to more people, Dr. Weisinger has transformed Performing Under Pressure into a state of the art empowering E-Course Workshop Experience for businesses and students! For more information on Dr. Weisinger, visit his website at hankweisingerphd.com. Buy his most recent book, The Unlikely Art of Parental Pressure Lib/E: A Positive Approach to Pushing Your Child to Be Their Best Self here!
Related Episodes:
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When it comes to serious illness, we might assume that medical treatment is where it's at. And of course, when it comes to medical illness, medical treatment is central. But research also shows that talk therapy can help improve health, extend life, and make it easier to tolerate many of the challenges of illness. On today’s episode of POTC, Yael and Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz, co-author with Marsha Linehan of Coping with Cancer, discuss the usefulness of one such talk therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). DBT offers concrete, simple skills to deal with serious medical illness. From managing pain to communicating with providers and loved ones, Liz offers on-the-ground strategies that you can put into action today to help manage health, prolong life, and make meaning. Listen in for an expert-breakdown of evidence-backed skills and practical advice you can put into practice to help yourself or loved ones struggling with serious illness.
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Debbie discuss the usefulness of skills like emotion regulation for extreme, stressful, or scary health-related situations The role of evidence-based psychological interventions in the world of medical treatmentWhy DBT is particularly useful for managing severe medical illnessesExpert definitions and explanations of DBT basics The DBT practices Liz has used in her personal lifePractical advice for dialing down emotions when they become too intense How to use your Wise Mind to make values-rich choicesHow you can wisely and flexibly select from a menu of useful skillsExpert-advice for those who struggle with self-critical narratives that interfere with interpersonal functioningLiz’s favorite DBT skills for practicing self-kindness and helping others How to be effective in relationships with medical providers and loved onesConnecting with meaning while struggling with illness DBT training resources for clinicians, patients, and loved ones
Resources:
Read Liz’s book, Coping with Cancer: DBT Skills to Manage Your Emotions--and Balance Uncertainty with HopeSign up for more information on Liz’s DBT training for clinicians, patients, and loved onesAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz:
Elizabeth Cohn Stuntz, LCSW-R, trained in social work at Smith College prior to earning her psychoanalytic certification. After this, she studied Zen, Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and the application of neuroscience to psychotherapy, integrating these perspectives into her clinical practice and the ways she teaches coping with adversity. She frequently presents on topics related to coping skills, psychoanalysis, and DBT. Liz currently works as a psychotherapist and teacher in Mamaroneck, New York. Make sure to grab a copy of the book she co-authored with Marsha Linehan, Coping with Cancer: DBT Skills to Manage Your Emotions--and Balance Uncertainty with Hope.
Related Episodes:
Episode 108. Is Your Self-Control Out of Control? Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 1)Episode 109. How to Loosen Up and Be Less Overcontrolled: Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 2) Episode 117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Joanne CacciatoreEpisode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Matthew McKayEpisode 157. The Art of Dying Well with Katy Butler
The World Health Organization includes burnout in its International Classification of Diseases and defines it as work-induced stress leading to exhaustion and cynicism. If you find yourself experiencing symptoms of burnout, you might try many things to get rid of them. For example, you might try engaging in large amounts of rest, meditation, or relaxation exercises. In contrast, you might try to rid yourself of burnout symptoms by engaging in even more work. Each of these strategies would likely provide you with some short-term relief, but eventually the symptoms of burnout would reemerge, leaving you just as exhausted and cynical as before (if not more!). In this episode of POTC, co-hosts Debbie and Jill discuss the causes of burnout and provide practical approaches to preventing and finding relief from its symptoms. You’ve fought the good fight. Now, put your feet up and listen in to learn more about finding peace and joy in your work today!
Listen and Learn:
An expert-approved definition of burnoutThree hallmark signs and symptoms of burnout The pandemic’s impacts on burnoutPractical, pragmatic approaches to self-careOverlaps and distinctions between compassion fatigue and burnoutDebbie and Jill’s personal experiences with burnoutActionable steps for professionals, caregivers, and parents who are experiencing burnout but still have bills to pay Skills for preventing burnoutShort- and long-term consequences of burnout-related behaviorsHow and why certain exercises fail to "fix" burnout in the long runDebbie defines institutional betrayal and talks about the impact of minority stress on burnoutHow you can push against, and work toward changing, the systemic issues that cause burnout
Resources:
Check out Debbie's website and buy her book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Attend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Look here for more information on the work of David Whyte Try some of these exercises to identify and move toward your valuesFind out more about Christina Maslach, the original investigator of burnoutAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Debbie Sorensen and Jill Stoddard:
Debbie Sorensen, co-founder and co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock, is a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. in psychology from Harvard University and a private therapy practice in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for adults. In addition to private practice, she holds a part-time appointment as a Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. She currently lives in Colorado, her home state, and where she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, travel, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Colorado Rockies with her family and dog. Check out her and co-host Diana Hill’s book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.
Jill Stoddard earned her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University where she trained at the highly regarded Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders under the mentorship of Dr. David Barlow and Dr. Stefan Hofmann. She is founder and director of The Center for Stress & Anxiety Management, co-founder and vice president of the non-profit San Diego Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Consortium, and member-at-large for The Association of Contextual and Behavioral Sciences (ACBS). Dr. Stoddard specializes in the treatment of anxiety and related disorders and has expertise in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She is an award winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, author of two books, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off The Clock podcast.
Eve answers listener questions about creating partner equality at home in this follow up Fair Play episode.
Children and their parents have struggled mightily with mental health during the pandemic. Now, in this new phase of the pandemic, we are beginning to rebuild and re-envision our lives with bravery and resilience. Michele Borba, Ed.D. is an internationally renowned educator, award-winning author, and parenting child expert recognized for her solution-based strategies to strengthen children’s character, resilience, and reduce peer cruelty. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Michele discuss Thriving and the character strengths it takes to be one. Join us to learn practical strategies proven to help children build those character strengths and thrive in their lives.
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Jill’s personal experiences with thriving and how they approach this topic with their kiddosMichele’s expert-based definition of what it means to be a ThriverThe character strengths of Thrivers How to thrive in real life (warts and weaknesses in tow!)Practical advice to foster bravery and resilience in childrenOn-the-ground, proven strategies parents can apply to help ALL kids develop the characteristics of thriving (read: even those with hormonal imbalances or de-stabilizing life experiences)Michele and Yael’s thoughts on creating environments where your children might most easily thriveFollowing your kids’ passions and allowing them to develop hobbies and how to set up useful boundaries in the meantime (we see you, Fortnite and Minecraft parents!)The usefulness of cutting one thing out of your activity list for the weekEverything you need to know about the important differences between self-confidence and self-esteemMichele’s expert tips on praising your kids in ways that support the development of self-confidence rather than inflating their egoPractical strategies for what to do in real-life, tricky situations where you must balance fostering perseverance or “bubble-wrapping” How to best support thriving and the development of resilience in children who have experienced varying forms of traumaMichele’s (surprising!) favorite movie and book recommendations for inspiring your kids
Resources:
Michele’s book, Thrivers: Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine Alison Gopnik’s book, The Gardener and the Carpenter: What the New Science of Child Development Tells Us about the Relationship Between Parents and Children and its accompanying workbookMichele’s book recommendation, Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad DayAttend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Dr. Michele Borba:
Michele Borba, Ed.D. is an internationally renowned educator, award-winning author, and parenting child expert recognized for her solution-based strategies to strengthen children’s character, resilience, and reduce peer cruelty. A sought-after motivational speaker, she has spoken in 19 countries and five continents, and served as a consultant to hundreds of schools and corporations. She offers realistic, research-based advice culled from a career working with over one million parents and educators worldwide. Dr. Borba is an NBC contributor who has appeared over 150 times on the TODAY show and countless others. Michele is recognized globally for her work in bullying and youth violence prevention and is currently a media spokesperson for several major corporations. She is the award-winning author of 24 books translated into 19 languages including her latest book (spring 2021) Thrivers: Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine and its accompanying workbook.
Michele is a former classroom and special education teacher with a wide range of teaching experience, including work in a private practice with children with learning and emotional disabilities.
In 2020, the global market for anti-aging products was estimated at US$52.5 Billion and is projected to reach US$83.2 Billion by 2027. Some of this market is certainly due to ageism, pseudoscience, and harmful marketing practices. However, ideas around aging (and the way it’s portrayed in media and marketing) seem to be changing for the better, and some anti-aging techniques are showing great promise. Dr. Andrew Steele, author of Ageless, has dedicated his professional career to identifying factors that age us. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, he and Diana discuss the science behind why we grow old and the evidence-based approaches individuals of all ages can use to target those aging factors. Join us in this episode to learn basic strategies you can implement to inhibit the aging process and enhance your quality of life today!
Listen and Learn:
Diana and Debbie’s thoughts on the pseudoscience and fear that typically fosters ageism and the evidence-based approaches to healthy agingAndrew’s expert description of the humanitarian science of aging (and why it’s so important we study this right now!)Ten key factors that contribute to aging and evidence-based ways to target themWhat evolutionary neglect is and why we have evolved to grow oldAndrew’s expert explanation of senescent cells and practical advice for targeting them Basic strategies you can implement today to inhibit the aging process and enhance your quality of lifeNew and incoming interventions designed to increase telomere lengthThe psychological impacts of living longer The values underlying Andrew’s mission of building respectful, supportive communities for the elderlyEasy anti-aging practices young people can implement into their daily routine
Resources:
Andrew’s book, Ageless: The New Science of Getting Older Without Getting Old Elizabeth Blackburn and Elissa Epel’s book, The Telomere Effect: A Revolutionary Approach to Living Younger, Healthier, Longer Attend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
Dr. Andrew Steele
About Andrew Steele:
After obtaining a PhD in physics from the University of Oxford, Dr. Andrew Steele decided that ageing was the most important scientific challenge of our time, and switched fields to computational biology. He worked at the Francis Crick Institute, using machine learning to decode our DNA and predict heart attacks using patients' medical records. He is now a full-time science writer and presenter based in London. He has appeared on Discovery and the BBC. Follow him on instagram @andrewjsteele, twitter @statto, and facebook @DrAndrewSteele. Read his Psychology Today interview, and check out his Today Show appearance
Related Episodes:
Episode 125. Why We Age and the Science of Longevity with David SinclairEpisode 13. Healthy Aging and the Brain Episode 194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-HaimsEpisode 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-Levin
For many years now, college students have been experiencing a mental health crisis. The events of the past year have only worsened this crisis, and according to experts, it’s not getting better. Transitioning from adolescence into adulthood while simultaneously transitioning from high-school to university living is never going to be easy, but that doesn’t mean it can’t be meaningful and worthwhile. Dr. Nic Hooper, an expert in clinical psychology, wrote The Unbreakable Student as a guide to help students navigate these transitions in meaningful, value-informed ways. On this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Nic and Debbie discuss the unique challenges university students face and how values can help students overcome those challenges. Join us for practical advice on embracing your university adventure today!
Listen and Learn:
Debbie and Diana's thoughts about the unique challenges of the college student phase of lifeThe sweet story behind Nic’s book, The Unbreakable StudentNic’s evidence-informed list of the unique challenges that arise during the transition from adolescence to adulthoodSix areas of wellbeing and how they impact university studentsPractical, evidence-based, advice for overcoming common university hurdles like procrastination, test anxiety, and more!Self-care strategies for the high-achieving student and how to talk about self-care to the beloved high-achievers in your lifePractical, expert-approved, advice on how to fully embrace your university adventureThe one piece of insightful advice Nic would give to his younger self
Resources:
Buy Nic’s books, The Unbreakable Student: 6 Rules for Staying Sane at University, The Acceptance and Commitment Diary (published annually), and The Research Journey of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.Check out Nic’s website nichooper.co.uk, and follow him on twitter @nichooper7!Attend Debbie’s webinar on ACT for Burnout!Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more!
About Nic Hooper:
Dr. Nic Hooper is an expert in clinical psychology and a senior lecturer at the University of the West of England in Bristol. He has authored many scientific articles, book chapters and books, including The Acceptance and Commitment Diary (published annually) and The Research Journey of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Nic is also a co-director of Connect, which is an organization that offers a psychological wellbeing curriculum for primary school children. In 2017, inspired by his students, Nic began to write a book of life advice to his son, Max, which was to be given to him on his eighteenth birthday. Over time, that book slowly transformed into The Unbreakable Student. Visit his website, nichooper.co.uk, and follow him on twitter @nichooper7 for updates, resources, and more!
Related Episodes:
Episode 189. Imposter Syndrome with Jill and DebbieEpisode 193. Heal Unhealthy Striving with Diana and YaelEpisode 182. Do More With Less: How to Stretch in Work and Life with Scott SonensheinEpisode 172. Performing Under Pressure with Sian BeilockEpisode 65. Self-care, Kindness, and Living Well with Kelly Wilson
Kristin Neff is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, teaching us that compassion involves kindness, mindfulness and common humanity. In her new book, Fierce Self-Compassion, Kristin explores the balance between tender self-compassion and action oriented self-compassion.
“Sometimes compassion means standing up, saying, ‘no, you are treating me unfairly’ and setting boundaries.”Kristin Neff
In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Diana and Kristin discuss the duality of self-compassion, women and anger, and the inner power needed to stand up and protect what you care about. Listen in and harness your kindness, claim your power, and thrive today!
Listen and Learn:
A breakdown for beginners - Diana defines “Yin”, “Yang”, “Kali”, and “Durga” and discuss their metaphors for self-compassionKristin Neff’s expert description of the yin and yang of self-compassionThe role the feminist movement has played in racism and oppression and what this has to do with fierce self-compassionNuances of feminine energy and how those nuances are embodied in different goddesses How to access and embrace your feminine energy (read: how to balance your yin and yang and why it’s important to do so!)Kristin’s personal experience finding wholeness and developing self-compassion amidst divorce, single parenthood, and tumultuous work experiencesWhen and why emotions traditionally dissociated from femininity (e.g., anger) are usefulThe functionality of fierce self-compassion and practical advice for embracing it in your own lifeKristin and her friend, Angela Duckworth’s (check out our episode with her where we discuss Grit) thoughts on the bind women find themselves in when it comes to likeability and competenceKristin’s expert, research-based definition of self-compassionWhy self-compassion is so difficult to achieve How Kristin’s personal experiences have informed her perspective on women, relationships, compassion, and wholenessPractical advice on how to use your values to inform your balancing behaviorWhat it means to be a compassionate mess and why it should be your goal
Resources:
Kristin’s book, Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and ThriveLearn more about goddesses who embrace feminine energy: Kali, Durga, Sekhmet, and Diana The Origins and Nature of Compassion Focused Therapy by Paul GilbertDiana and Debbie’s book, ACT Daily Journal Diana will be hosting a workshop on Compassion and ACT: Acceptance, Allowing, & Making Space where you will learn to use journaling, meditation & embodied yoga practice to explore Acceptance through compassion
Dr. Kristin Neff
About Kristin Neff:
Kristin Neff is currently an Associate Professor of Educational Psychology at the University of Texas at Austin. She is a pioneer in the field of self-compassion research, conducting the first empirical studies on self-compassion almost twenty years ago. In addition to writing numerous academic articles and book chapters on the topic, she is author of the book Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself. In conjunction with her colleague Dr. Chris Germer, she has developed an empirically supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion, which is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. They co-authored the Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook and Teaching the Mindful Self-Compassion Program: A Guide for Professionals. Her newest work focuses on how to balance self-acceptance with the courage to make needed change. In June 2021, she will publish Fierce Self-Compassion: How Women Can Harness Kindness to Speak Up, Claim Their Power, and Thrive.
For more information on Kristin Neff please visit her website, self-compassion.org.
Related Episodes:
Episode 145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Paul GilbertEpisode 147. Extending Compassion with Janina Scarlet and Sara Schairer Episode 198. Break the Good Girl Myth with Majo Molfino Episode ...
As co-hosts, this podcast has provided many opportunities to interview incredibly high-achieving people. Our line-up has included authors, designers, artists, academics, scientists, doctors, lawyers, CEO’s, and more! We’ve had these individuals on the show to discuss topics such as humans' yearning to belong, steps we can take to begin mending racial trauma, and femininity in the modern world, and throughout these interviews, a common question arises: What does it take to become the kind of high-achieving individual we frequently interview?
In this special 200th episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Angela Duckworth, founder and CEO of Character Lab and author of Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, and Yael discuss grit and how it’s associated with high achievement. By combining passion and perseverance in the pursuit of a singular goal, many have found success. Join us in this episode to learn more about what it takes to succeed and how you can grow grit in your own life today!
Listen and Learn:
The joy we feel in reaching our 200th episode and the passion and perseverance (read: Grit) it took to get hereDiana’s personal experience using her values to guide her grit (and when and how you can do the same!)The values that continue to guide our podcast’s growthA peek inside Angela and Stephen’s podcast, No Stupid QuestionsAngela’s expert definition of grit and how it is associated with achievementHow grit and parenthood can build upon and strengthen one anotherThe importance of values in your relationship with perseverance Some differences between how interpersonal skills, likeability, and grit each lend themselves to successPractical advice for knowing “when to grit” and “when to quit”Yael’s expert break-down of how grit works with principles of ACTAngela’s simple, evidence-based recommendations for growing grit
Resources:
Angela’s book, Grit: The Power of Passion and PerseveranceAngela’s TED talk (one of the most-viewed TED talks of all time!)Angela and Stephen Dubner’s podcast, No Stupid QuestionsKaty Milkman’s book, How to Change: The Science of Getting from Where You Are to Where You Want to BeRobert Cialdini’s book, Influence, New and Expanded: The Psychology of PersuasionAdam Grant’s book, Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't KnowDaniel Kahneman’s book, Noise: A Flaw in Human Judgment Elizabeth Nyamayaro’s book, I Am a Girl from Africa Esther Wojcicki’s book, How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results
About Dr. Angela Duckworth:
Angela Duckworth, PhD, is the founder and CEO of Character Lab, a nonprofit whose mission is to advance scientific insights that help children thrive. She is also the Rosa Lee and Egbert Chang Professor at the University of Pennsylvania, faculty co-director of the Penn-Wharton Behavior Change for Good Initiative, and faculty co-director of Wharton People Analytics. Angela completed her undergraduate degree in Advanced Studies Neurobiology at Harvard, graduating magna cum laude. With the support of a Marshall Scholarship, she completed an MSc with Distinction in Neuroscience from Oxford University. She completed her PhD in Psychology as a National Science Foundation Graduate Fellow at the University of Pennsylvania.
A 2013 MacArthur Fellow, Angela has advised the World Bank, NBA and NFL teams, and Fortune 500 CEOs. Prior to her career in research, Angela founded a summer school for underserved children that was profiled as a Harvard Kennedy School case study and, in 2018, celebrated its 25th anniversary. She has also been a McKinsey management consultant and a math and science teacher at public schools in New York City, San Francisco, and Philadelphia.
Angela’s TED talk is among the most-viewed of all time. Her book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance is a #1 New York Times best seller. Angela is also co-host, with Stephen Dubner, of the podcast No Stupid Questions.
Related Episodes:
Episode 34.
When our innate yearning for belongingness is unmet or mismanaged, we might question or worthiness or act inconsistently with our values. Dr. Meg McKelvie talks to us about how to cultivate a sense of belonging from the inside out, and outside in.
On the one-year anniversary of the murder of George Floyd, we share a powerful poem by Dr. Jennifer Shepard Payne, and Carynne Williams tells the story of her mission to help clinicians of color access trauma trainings.
For generations, girls have been taught a certain set of rules. These rules are rooted in harmful, patriarchal ideas about what it means to be feminine. Followers of these rules may be referred to as “Good Girls,” and though following these rules makes us more palatable for society, it makes us quieter, less powerful members of society as well. In fact, inflexibly following these rules can prevent women from engaging with the full extent of their feminine power. Join Jill and Majo Molfino, women’s leadership expert and author of Breaking the Good Girl Myth, as they talk about five “Good Girl” myths, why we continue engaging in them, and how to break them today!
Listen and Learn:
What Jill and Debbie were like as little girls before society’s rules and myths impacted their behaviorWhy and how Jill and Debbie have re-embraced some of the behaviors they engaged in as little girlsWhat Majo was like as a little girl and why she asks each of her podcast guests what they were like as little girlsThe “Good Girl” Myths, how they’re rooted in the patriarchy, and how they impact girls and womenWhich “Good Girl” Myth might be impacting your behavior right nowMajo’s expert explanation of the spectrum of “Good Girl” MythsHow to recognize and break behavioral cycles rooted in myths about being a “Good Girl”Why the edge of vulnerability is the sweet spot for growthPractical advice for breaking preconceived, gender-related rules that are no longer serving you (read: stepping into your feminine power)The complex web of relations between imposter syndrome, capitalism, and the patriarchyHow Majo uses design principles to influence change in people’s livesSome big rules Jill and Majo have broken that have changed their lives for the betterThe positive aspects and strengths related to the “Good Girl” Myths and how to use them for your benefit
Resources:
Check out Majo’s podcast, Heroine where she interviews top female leaders, creatives, and visionariesTake Jill’s imposter quiz to find out exactly what kind of imposter YOU areBuy Majo’s book, Break the Good Girl Myth: How to Dismantle Outdated Rules, Unleash Your Power, and Design a More Purposeful Life Buy Jill’s book, Be Mighty Participate in Majo's meditations here.
About Majo Molfino:
Majo Molfino is an Argentine American author, designer, and women's leadership expert. She's the host of the Heroine Podcast, featuring top female leaders, creatives, and visionaries. Her leadership program, Ignite, guides women to design and share a creative dream with the world. With a master’s in Design from Stanford University and a bachelor's degree in psychology with a minor in cultural studies from McGill University, she supports women in designing their creative purpose without quitting their day jobs. She lives in California with her husband. Buy her book, Breaking the Good Girl Myth, take her free feminine power quiz, and take advantage of her free meditations through her website, majomolfino.com.
Related Episodes:
Episode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill StoddardEpisode 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez Episode 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David SmithEpisode 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky
Debbie talks with behavioral scientist Jon Levy about his new book You're Invited: The Art and Science of Cultivating Influence.
Today’s world is more digitally-based than ever before, and in this digital world, brands are constantly marketing their products to you. This constant, often covert marketing can negatively impact vulnerable consumers. In fact, this has become such a problem that in recent years the Federal Trade Commission has cracked down on influencers and celebrities disclosing their relationship with brands. Now more than ever it is important that we as both consumers and marketers be conscientious and knowledgeable of our marketing practices. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman, founders of Pop Neuro and authors of Blindsight, talk with Diana about the neuroscience of marketing. Take a break from scrolling, and join us in this episode to learn more about the neuroscience of marketing and how it impacts you, today!
Listen and Learn:
Diana and Jill’s take on neuromarketing and how psychology influences our lives through mediaThe history behind Matt and Prince’s collaboration Why Matt and Prince chose to combine their knowledge of neuroscience and marketing and how they did itWhat a mental model is (and how marketing capitalizes on them!)Practical advice for making your marketing more memorable A sneak peak inside Matt and Prince’s bookHow Matt and Prince used principles from neuroscience in the creation of their book and why those principles keep you interested in reading itLife hacks on why some products more or less addictiveWhy Matt and Prince are passionate about educating consumers on marketing practices and how they put that passion into practice in their bookHow and why branding is impactfulWhat in marketing makes us like some things more than other thingsThe positive (and negative) ways we communicate through marketingWhat neural coupling is and how it affects you The future of marketing, where it’s going, and where it is right nowExpert-approved skills and strategies that Matt and Prince use as both consumers and marketers for their ‘digital well-being’
Resources:
A 4-1-1 on what the Coke vs Pepsi Challenge was all about Take The Big Five Personality Test Check out Prince’s Ted Talk Make sure to grab a copy of Prince and Matt’s’ book, Blindsight: The (Mostly) Hidden Ways Marketing Reshapes Our BrainsInterested in becoming certified in neuromarketing? Sign up for their bootcamp!Read their blog to stay updated on all the recent news with neuromarketing Follow Pop Neuro on Twitter (@Pop_Neuro) and on Instagram (@Pop.Neuro)
About Pop Nuero, Matt, and Prince:
Pop Neuro reveals the deeper, neuroscientific, and psychological blueprint behind consumer behavior and neuromarketing. Based on 25+ years of combined experience, it’s the brainchild of consumer neuroscientist Matt Johnson, PhD, and neuromarketer Prince Ghuman.
Matt Johnson, PhD is a professor at Hult International Business School, where his research focuses on the application of neuroscience and psychology to marketing. He received his BA from UC San Diego, and his PhD in Cognitive Psychology from Princeton University. A contributor to major news outlets including Forbes, Entrepreneur, Business Insider, and VICE and writer for Psychology Today, he regularly provides expert opinion and thought leadership on a range of topics related to the human side of business. He advises both start-ups and large brands in his native Bay Area, and has served as an expert-in-residence to Nike’s Innovation Team in Portland, Oregon. Along with co-author Prince Ghuman, Johnson founded PopNeuro.com for anyone interested in approachable consumer psychology. Follow Matt on Twitter (@MattJohnsonIsMe) or LinkedIn!
Prince Ghuman’s journey into marketing started during his studies at the University of California at San Diego. His first startup, Potenza, was the first of its kind, a brand of caffeinated water. He went on to be the founding head of marketing at BAP, one of the first digital automotive platforms and current l...
Our mission at Psychologists Off the Clock is to bring evidence-based psychological treatments and practices to the public. One of our favorite treatments is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (or ACT, pronounced as one word).
In this episode, ACT experts, authors, and POTC co-hosts Diana and Debbie discuss how you can use ACT to get unstuck and thrive! Diana and Debbie's new book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, breaks ACT processes and strategies down into simple, fun, and actionable steps. Yael chats with Debbie and Diana about how you can start implementing ACT strategies into your life starting today.
Join the conversation to learn ACT as a beginner or to beef up your existing ACT toolbox!
Listen and Learn:
POTC’s resident Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) experts’ definition and break down of this therapeutic approach All about Diana and Debbie’s book and how it can help you thrive in your own life. here and nowDebbie and Diana’s personal experiences with ACT, writing, and the development of their bookPractical advice on fostering psychological flexibility and building value-based habits into your dayWhy this book is different than any other book you’ll find on ACTHow Diana and Debbie packed empirical, evidence-based information into digestible, bite-sized stories and exercises for the ultimate ACT-informed self-help book Practical advice for folks who feel they might lack the discipline to engage in self-help workWhy self-compassion is so important to building psychological flexibility Some examples of the six core ACT processes in actionWhy it’s so challenging to be present and expert-approved tips and tricks to engage in present-moment awarenessThe personal elements Debbie and Diana (including insider information on the egg-related stories that got cut)About some of the biggest challenges you might face when putting ACT processes into practicesA goodie for you! Diana and Debbie each read a vignette to give you a taste of what’s inside their book!
Resources:
Make sure to grab a copy of Debbie and Diana’s book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and join the Facebook group to get active in learning and discussing: https://www.facebook.com/ACTDailyJournal
And if you’d like to win a free copy of their book, make sure to enter our book giveaway! To enter, write us a review on Apple Podcasts and send us an email (with "Book Giveaway" in the subject line) letting us know you did so at offtheclockpsych@gmail.com.
For more information about ongoing and upcoming giveaways, follow us on Instagram at @offtheclockpsych.
About Dr. Diana Hill and Dr. Debbie Sorensen:
Dr. Diana Hill specializes in evidence-based and compassion-focused approaches to living well. She helps her clients build a values-rich life and unpacks the science of ACT through the cutting-edge podcast Psychologists Off the Clock, online teachings, and her book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, co-authored with Dr. Debbie Sorensen.
Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado with a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder, and a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University. In addition to private practice, Debbie works part-time as a clinical research psychologist at the Rocky Mountain Regional VA Medical Center and is a nationally-recognized VA trainer in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). Make sure to grab a copy of her book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, co-authored with Dr. Diana Hill.
Related Episodes:
Episode 41. Kissing The Frog: How To Establish a Morning Routine with Diana and DebbieEpisode 75. Mindful Self-Compassion with Christophe GermerEpisode 77.
A psychology podcast about how to be an adult ("adulting") and how parents can help raise an independent adult.
Throughout the past year, many of us have redefined what it means to “work hard” or “strive” in our own lives. The pandemic and the accompanying social distancing mandates have challenged us to work and live much differently than ever before. For many, this has meant striving more than ever to simultaneously be the perfect employee, parent, partner, or etc. Though striving can often be healthy, many times we engage in unhealthy striving that can leave us feeling exhausted and chronically burnt out. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Diana, co-author with Debbie of ACT Daily Journal, discuss healthy and unhealthy striving. They explain the neuroscience behind this behavior and provide some practical advice for noticing and changing unhealthy striving in your life. Reconnect with your values and take the first step toward healthy striving by listening to this episode right now!
Listen and Learn:
Why exploring healthy vs unhealthy components of striving is important to Yael and Diana How Diana and Yael started exploring the topic of strivingThe signs and symptoms of unhealthy vs. healthy striving The neuroscience behind strivingSome examples of what healthy striving might look like in your lifeDiana’s expert definition of effortless action and what it means to embody a balance of effort and surrenderPractical advice for moving from competition to collaborationWhat the striving cycle looks like as a process in many different domains of lifeHow values clarification can help break your striving cycle and orient you towards healthier strivingA few red flags that might indicate unhealthy striving patterns (and some resources for when you notice them)Engage in an experiential exercise with Diana and Yael, and start breaking your pattern of unhealthy striving today!
Resources:
Check out Diana's blog posts for her wisdom on ACT, mindfulness, and much, much more Make sure to pick up Debbie and Diana’s book, ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment TherapyJoin Diana for her free Tuesday Teachings for a live, online talk, movement, and meditation practice led by the master herself
About Diana and Yael:
Dr. Diana Hill
Dr. Diana Hill specializes in evidence-based and compassion-focused approaches to living well. She helps her clients build a values-rich life and unpacks the science of ACT through the cutting-edge podcast Psychologists Off the Clock, online teachings, and her book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, co-authored with Dr. Debbie Sorensen and coming in May 1, 2021!
Dr. Yael Schonbrun
Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a practicing clinical psychologist and a professor at Brown University. In her clinical practice and in her research, she brings effective treatments to those who are struggling with the transition to parenthood, with relationship problems, depression, anxiety, general unhappiness, substance use, and life stress.
Related Episodes:
Episode 31. DBT for Binge Eating with Debra Safer Episode 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar Part #1 and Part #2 of our episodes on Neurodharma with Rick Hanson Episode 156. The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective with Helen Neville, Hector Adames, Bryana French, and Grace Chen Episode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Rebecca Schrag Hershberg
Happiness is tricky. Poets, philosophers, and musicians have written about this emotion throughout history, yet most of us would struggle to define it if asked. In fact, psychologists and other mental health professionals often abandon the topic for pathology. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Tal Ben-Shahar, happiness expert and author of the best-selling book, Happier, discuss happiness and what it means to be happy in today’s world. Pause a moment and take inventory of your emotions. What shows up? What’s missing? Join us in this episode, and take a step toward embracing and making room for all of your emotions today!
Listen and Learn:
About how Debbie first came to know Tal Yael and Debbie’s happiness hacks and the practices they use to build happiness in their busy livesHappiness expert Tal’s definition of happinessThe differences between well-being and pleasureWhy it might be important to make room for all types of experiences (even the negative ones!)How Tal’s life experiences have informed his work in the field of happinessPractical advice for teaching your kids how to embrace and make room for uncomfortable emotionsTal’s wisdom for choosing your responses in uncomfortable situationsOn-the-ground practices you can use to build happiness into your busy lifeTal’s evidence-based thoughts on perfectionists, optimists, and performance-based happinessAbout the most influential books Tal has read in the past year
Resources:
It's Okay That Your’e Not Ok (Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand) by Megan Devine The Paradox of Choice: Why More is Less by Barry Schwartz The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, but Does by Sonja LyubomirskyTal’s personal book recommendations: Aristotle’s Nicomachean Ethics, The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem by Dr. Nathaniel Branden, and The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart Tolle
About Tal Ben-Shahar:
Tal Ben-Shahar is an author and lecturer. He taught two of the largest classes in Harvard University’s history, Positive Psychology and The Psychology of Leadership. Today, Tal consults and lectures around the world to executives in multi-national corporations, the general public, and at-risk populations. The topics he lectures on include leadership, happiness, education, innovation, ethics, self-esteem, resilience, goal setting, and mindfulness. His books have been translated into more than twenty-five languages, and have appeared on best-sellers lists around the world. Tal is a serial entrepreneur, and is the co-founder and chief learning officer of Happiness Studies Academy, Potentialife, Maytiv, and Happier.TV. An avid sportsman, Tal won the U.S. Intercollegiate and Israeli National squash championships. Today, for exercise, he swims, dances, and practices Yoga. He obtained his PhD in Organizational Behavior and BA in Philosophy and Psychology from Harvard
Book Giveaway!
POTC is doing another book giveaway, this on e accompanying Yael’s interview with happiness guru, Tal Ben-Shahar. You can enter the drawing for a free copy of his inspirational book, Choose the Life You Want: The Mindful Way to Happiness, by:
Going to Instagram and locate, like, and SAVE the giveaway postIf you don't yet follow us, please do!For an EXTRA entry, share the post to your Instagram story and tag @offtheclockpsych
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Episode 2. Hygge – Happiness and the Danish Art of Cozy ConnectionEpisode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry SchwartzEpisode 97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKayEpisode 85. Emotion Efficacy with Aprilia WestEpisode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Matthew McKayEpisode 143. Happier Parenting with KJ Dell’AntoniaEpisode 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett
Meaningful social connection does not always come naturally. And during the pandemic, it has been extra challenging to learn how to connect while at a distance. AJ Harbinger offers strategies to relate in deeper ways, on and off the screen. Many of us have felt isolated during the pandemic, and yet, it’s anxiety-provoking to re-open again! In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Diana and AJ Harbinger, co-founder of The Art of Charm, Inc, provide expert insights on connecting with people through vulnerable, authentic conversation. Together they discuss the importance of sitting with silence, how to let your values guide your behavior in relationships, and much, much more. Take some pressure off yourself, step into a more meaningful connection, and listen to this episode today!
Listen and Learn:
Diana and Debbie apply AJ’s wisdom to reopening and reconnecting with people after the pandemic Practical advice for building more comfortable, relaxed connections with others How to captivate people using conversational skillsRules, recommendations, and practical tips for being a more captivating presenter on non-traditional presentation platforms (looking at you, Zoom!)AJ’s ultimate tips and tricks for getting your audience to remember your materialHow to engage in meaningful connection with people onlineWhat it means to ‘filter people’ in or out How to use emotion as a way to connectAJ’s personal background with connecting to people and the history behind how his values guided him to this point in his careerPractical advice from the current AJ to the past AJ (and for all of us struggling with major decisions)About John Gottman’s work and how it has influenced AJThe four horsemen of relationships and how they might be impacting your relationships with others and with yourselfThree types of captivating questions that can help you explore another person more meaningfullyWhy it’s so important to sit with awkward silencesSome emotional avoidance strategies that can be problematic in building meaningful connectionHow AJ implements these strategies with his teamOn a scale from 0-10 how awesome is Michael HeroldAJ’s answers to all of your questions including ones about tone and conflict in relationships, mirroring as a communication tool, and much more!
Resources:
Check out AJ’s podcast, The Art of Charm on iTunes or Google PodastsMore information on John Gottman and The Gottman Institute Make sure to take a listen to The Art of Charm’s episode with our very own, Jill Stoddard, and their episode with Michael Herold on making deeper connections as well Pre-order your copy of ACT Daily Journal today!Sign up for Diana and Debbie’s webinar with Praxis Continuing EducationJoin Diana’s April events to help you bring ACT into your daily life
About AJ Harbinger:
AJ Harbinger
AJ Harbinger is a relationship expert, podcaster, public speaker, Fortune 100 executive consultant, and co-Founder of The Art of Charm, Inc. Over the last 13 years, AJ has trained thousands of people on how to unlock and channel their inner charisma to effortlessly connect with others, and harness the power and opportunities that come with building high-value relationships.
Related Episodes:
Episode 173. Confidence, Self-Doubt, and Overcoming Limitations with Michael HeroldEpisode 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana Episode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji Schoendorff
Mental health clinicians want to alleviate human suffering and do what we can to help prevent suicide. And yet, like many stigmatized topics, suicide is often avoided in conversations - including clinical conversations. Basic behavioral science tells us that we humans tend to avoid painful stimuli, and thanks to the double-edged sword of verbal behavior, painful stimuli (like conversations about suicide and suffering) can be both physical and psychological. Suicide stigmatization, as well as uncomfortable thoughts and feelings, can keep even the most experienced clinicians and providers from effectively helping their clients who are experiencing suicidal thoughts and behaviors.
In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Sean Barnes, clinical research psychologist and principal investigator of the ACT for Life study, discuss suicidal behavior, ways suicide is challenging for clinicians, and how to effectively engage with clients who have thoughts and feelings related to suicide. As clinicians, we often have limited behavioral repertoires around suicidality in our clients. We often tend to focus on helping clients ‘not die.’ However, there is more to life than ‘not dying,’ and suicide prevention is only the first, albeit vital, step in recovery. Join us in this episode to learn how to help your client build a life worth living!
Workshop for Therapists: Join Sean, Debbie, and their colleagues for ACT for Life: Experiential training on a Contextual Behavioral Approach to Suicidal Ideation and Behavior at the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science’s virtual pre-conference workshop, June 12-13, 2021.
Listen and Learn:
Why it’s important to talk more openly about suicideThe plethora of resources available for suicide prevention, postvention, and safety planningSome of the challenges for therapists in managing suicide risk and working effectively with suicide (and some insight as to why it can be so challenging)Sean and Debbie’s expert, experienced-backed opinions about talking to clients about suicidal behaviors, risk, and safety planning.An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) conceptualization of suicide and why this approach to conceptualizing suicide is unique compared to more traditional approachesThe function of suicidal behavior and why it’s important to explore function as a clinicianAbout Sean’s intervention, ACT for Life, and how he is targeting suicidal behavior from a contextual behavioral approachWhat creative hopelessness is, how to use it, and why it can often feel scary for cliniciansHow to implement mindfulness and acceptance into your clinical work with suicidal clientsWhat it means to expand someone’s behavioral repertoire in the presence of suicidal thoughts and feelings
About Sean Barnes:
Sean M. Barnes, Ph.D. is a clinical research psychologist at the Rocky Mountain Mental Illness Research, Education, and Clinical Center (MIRECC) for Veteran Suicide Prevention and an assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Colorado Denver School of Medicine. Sean is a consultant for the Department of Veterans Affairs Suicide Risk Management Consultation Program and an Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) for Depression provider and training consultant. He is also the principal investigator of the ACT for Life study, testing a brief ACT protocol for maximizing recovery after suicidal crises. Other aspects of Sean's research focus on the use of contextual behavioral interventions for moral injury, and the study of suicide risk assessment, but all his projects share a common goal of alleviating suffering and helping others build vital meaningful lives.
Sean's MIRECC Webpage: https://www.mirecc.va.gov/visn19/staff/barnes.asp Sean's ResearchGate Page: https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Sean-Barnes-2 Twitter: @Sean_M_Barnes
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
Prevention Resources for People at Risk of Suicide & T...
Imposter syndrome involves doubting your abilities or skills, and can often leave high-achieving people feeling fraudulent or undeserving of their achievements. In fact, this syndrome has affected some of the most renowned celebrities (e.g., Lady Gaga), CEO’s (e.g., Howard Schultz), and a few of our favorite podcast co-hosts. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, two of our high-achieving co-hosts, Jill and Debbie, rely on both their personal experiences and empirical evidence in their discussion of imposter syndrome.
Fellow imposters and frauds, please join us to learn more about imposter syndrome, and get some practical advice for dealing with it!
Listen and Learn:
About the ACBS panel that inspired Debbie and Jill to do this episode on imposter syndrome togetherSome of Jill and Debbie’s personal experiences with imposter syndromeTheir empirically-backed, expert definition of imposter syndromeCommon thoughts and emotions that show up with imposter syndromeWhen, why, and how imposter syndrome currently shows up for Debbie and JillPractical advice on what to do instead of “comparing and despairing” and information on how that behavior impacts imposter syndromeEmpirical evidence on why marginalized groups are disproportionately affected by imposter syndrome Actual statistics on imposter syndrome and who it affectsThe evolutionary, social implications behind imposter syndromeAbout the subtypes of imposter syndrome (and how to find yours!)Some practical advice from our co-hosts for dealing with imposter syndrome
Resources:
The Art of Charm Podcast’s episode with Jill on Imposter Syndrome Suzanne Imes and Pauline Clance’s paper on The Imposter Phenomenon in High Achieving Women More information on David Barlow and his Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders Valerie Young's book, The Secret Thoughts of Successful WomenAlicia Menendez’s book, The Likeability Trap Eve Rodsky's book, Fair Play Jill's book, Be Mighty and her Imposter Syndrome Subtype quiz More information on Janet Helms and her work on WHMPS Dr. Bessima Tewfik - MIT professor who researches Imposter Syndrome
About Jill Stoddard and Debbie Sorensen:
Total Imposter, Jill Stoddard
Jill Stoddard earned her Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Boston University where she trained at the highly regarded Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders under the mentorship of Dr. David Barlow and Dr. Stefan Hofmann. She is founder and director of The Center for Stress & Anxiety Management, co-founder and vice president of the non-profit San Diego Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Consortium, and member-at-large for The Association of Contextual and Behavioral Sciences (ACBS). Dr. Stoddard specializes in the treatment of anxiety and related disorders and has expertise in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. She is an award winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, author of two books, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off The Clock podcast.
Complete Fraud, Debbie Sorensen
Debbie Sorensen, co-founder and co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock, is a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. in psychology from Harvard University and a private therapy practice in Denver, Colorado. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults. In addition to private practice, she holds a part-time appointment as a Clinical Research Psychologist at the Rocky Mountain MIRECC for Suicide Prevention. She is also a co-founder of ImpACT Psychology Colorado, a psychotherapy collective in Denver/Boulder, and the Healthcare Wellbeing Collective, which provides mental health support and resources for Healthcare Professionals. She is a nationally-recognized trainer and training consultant in ACT for the VA. She currently lives in Colorado, her home state, and where she enjoys reading fiction, cooking, travel, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Colorado Rocki...
Anxiety can be an exhausting cycle. When you worry, you have a false sense of control and a feeling that you are “doing something” about what you fear, but it only leads to more anxiety and stress in the long term. In this episode Diana sits down with Dr. Jud Brewer, neuroscientist and author of Unwinding Anxiety, for a second time! They explore a fresh, science-backed perspective on anxiety. According to Dr. Jud, anxiety is a habit loop, and there are simple strategies to break the cycle. Listen in for some practical advice on how to unwind your anxiety today!
Listen and Learn:
How Diana and Debbie approach anxiety from an ACT perspectiveSome of the intricacies of exposure-based therapy with ACTWhy Dr. Jud dedicated his book to the “Amazon addict” About Dr. Jud’s model of anxiety as a habit loopThe three gears to shift out of anxiety and how it is linked to reward-based learning What to do when all you can think about are your worriesHow to identify the point of diminishing return and form new habit loops (and what both of those things are!)Practical advice on working with curiosity amidst anxietyJud’s research-backed wisdom on when (and if) anxiety improves your performanceDr. Jud’s personal experience with anxiety Jud’s hopes for the future in helping people with anxiety
Resources:
Jud’s book, Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind Don't Shoot the Dog!: The New Art of Teaching and Training by Karen Pryor To find out more about Jud’s Unwinding Anxiety App, look here Jud’s programs, TED talks and videos, and clinician resources Pre-Order Diana and Debbie’s new book: ACT Daily Journal and get some freebies!
About Jud Brewer:
Dr. Jud Brewer is an internationally renowned addiction psychiatrist and neuroscientist. Dr. Jud is the director of research and innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University, as well as the executive medical director of behavioral health at Sharecare. His most recent book is Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind.
Related POTC Episodes:
Episode 167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer Episode 139. Neurodharma with Rick Hanson (Part 1)Episode 140. Neurodharma with Dr. Rick Hanson (Part 2)Episode 131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Stephen Porges
Parenting is challenging. Some of the challenges—like effective disciplining and present moment awareness—are ubiquitous to parenting. No matter who you or your kids are, moments and experiences will test your patience and your wisdom. But while no parent has it easy, parenting children with special needs, neurodiversity, or mental or physical health issues comes with unique, extraordinarily trying experiences, and big questions to which it can be hard to find reliable answers. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael talks with Dr. Russell Barkley, an international authority on ADHD. Russ is also author of many books, including the bestselling Taking Charge of ADHD and his recently released 12 Principles for Raising a Child with ADHD. Using principles from his books and decades of research, Russ takes on questions Yael collected from friends, family, and peers about parenting children with ADHD. Join us to hear in-depth and reliable answers to our most pressing questions about how to raise neurodiverse children! Listen and Learn:
The seven executive functions and how they’re impacted by ADHD Russ’ expert, in-depth answers to your questions about parenting and loving people with ADHD! What ADHD is and why the label can be misleading About some misconceptions parents often have about ADHD How to better parent a child with ADHD How to be compassionate towards yourself and your child as you parent Key differences in behavioral markers of ADHD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) About the long-term data on medication for children How to find, appreciate, and reinforce strengths that show up in neurodiverse children Effective parenting and discipline strategies for children with ADHD Russ’ hopes for his legacy, and the future of ADHD
Resources Discussed on this Podcast Episode:
Dr. Barkley’s book, 12 Principles for Raising a Child with ADHDFind some of Dr. Barkley’s lectures on his websiteFind other interviews with and lectures by Dr. Barkley on YouTubeEmily Perl Kingsley’s poem, Welcome to HollandJon Kabat Zinn’s book, Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful ParentingAlison Gopnik’s book, The Gardener and the Carpenter
About Dr. Russell Barkley:
Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized authority on attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD or ADD) in children and adults who has dedicated his career to widely disseminating science-based information about ADHD. Dr. Barkley retired as a Professor of Psychiatry and Neurology from the University of Massachusetts Medical Center (1985-2002) and subsequently worked as a Professor of Psychiatry and Health Sciences at the Medical University of South Carolina (2003-2016). He is currently a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Virginia Commonwealth University Medical Center (2016-present). In semi-retirement, he continues to lecture widely and develop continuing education courses for professionals on ADHD and related disorders, as well as consult on research projects, edit The ADHD Report, and write books, reviews, and research articles.
Related Podcast Episodes:
Episode 14. Mindful ParentingEpisode 48. Practical Wisdom with Dr. Barry SchwartzEpisode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Dr. Schrag HershbergEpisode 149. How Not To Lose It with Your Kids with Dr. Carla NaumburgEpisode 161: The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey
Setting healthy boundaries can be challenging, whether it is with someone you love or someone you dislike. Sticking with your boundaries once you set them, is also difficult. Relationship expert Nedra Tawwab, author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace, has the insight and tools you need to set boundaries so that you can thrive. In this episode, Diana and Nedra discuss strategies to overcome barriers to boundary setting so that you can set boundaries and find peace today!
Listen and Learn:
Diana and Jill’s take on the importance of boundary setting Nedra’s expert definition of boundaries and explanation of how they impact mental healthThe science behind how setting healthy boundaries can provide peace and freedom from anxietyPractical advice on how to set boundaries with toxic individuals, narcissists, your parents, your in-laws, your children, and yourself!Barriers that might be affecting your ability to set a healthy boundaryWhat to do with the feeling of guilt when it shows up during the boundary-setting processNedra’s practical advice on how to be a clear communicator and set effective boundaries in particularly toxic dynamicsThe differences between a soft boundary and a rigid boundary (and when to be flexible with them!)What clear boundaries sound likeThe subtle differences between assertiveness, aggressiveness, and passivityNedra’s take on setting ultimatums (and why they aren’t always a bad thing)Why it’s important to set boundaries with your kids and how to teach them to set their own Nedra’s personal experience with boundaries and how setting them has changed her life
Resources:
Nedra’s book, Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself Nedra’s website which has TONS of FREE resources including worksheets, a relationship quiz, a boundaries quiz, and Nedra's book recommendationsCheck out co-host Diana’s workshop, An Introduction to ACT: Growing Psychological Flexibility through Acceptance, Caring, and Tiny Daily Practices on February 28th from 2pm to 5pm Pacific Standard Time
About Nedra Tawwab:
NEDRA GLOVER TAWWAB, a licensed therapist and sought-after relationship expert, has practiced relationship therapy for twelve years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice Kaleidoscope Counseling. She has been recently featured in The New York Times, The Guardian, Psychology Today, Self, and Vice, and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Don't Keep Your Day Job, Do the Thing, and Therapy for Black Girls. Tawwab runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As about boundaries and relationships. She lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, with her family. Connect with Nedra Tawwab on Instagram @nedratawwab. Find out more about her book, here.
Related Episodes:
Episode 98. Narcissism with Dr. Avigail Lev and Dr. Robyn Walser Episode 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-LevinEpisode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah TannenEpisode 134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine
Being an ally in the workplace involves a willingness and personal commitment to take action in pursuit of justice and equality for the disenfranchised. Too often, the burden of attaining equality is placed on marginalized individuals. A good ally takes on that burden instead. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill is joined by Brad Johnson and David Smith, co-authors of Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the Workplace, to discuss how men can be better allies to women in the workplace. Together, they discuss good ally behavior including educating oneself about different identities or experiences, challenging one’s assumptions and beliefs, and learning and practicing the skills necessary to make lasting change. Engage in some good ally behavior right now, and listen in to this episode to learn how to be a better ally today! Listen and Learn: -Brad and David’s take on the problem of gender equality and whose job it is to solve it-How to practice situational awareness and make invisible workplace issues more visible-What the zero sum bias is and how to use the most current research on it to inform your behavior-All about EQ, IQ, and how they can work for you (or against you) in the workplace-How to be a ‘good guy’ in the workplace and how to inspire other ‘good guys’ to take action-What a likeability penalty is, who it affects, and why-Expert-approved steps you can take to be a more proactive ally at home and at work-Why the global economic benefits to eliminating the gender pay gap aren’t more of a concern and who to hold accountable for eliminating that gap-Brad and David’s views on the pandemic and gender in the workforce Resources:
Brad and David’s books, Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the WorkplaceAlicia Menendez’ book, The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed As You AreEve Rodsky’s book, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)Brad and David’s most recent article on Harvard Business Review about male allyshipKimberle Crenshaw’s article, Demarginalizing the Intersection of Race and Sex: A Black Feminist Critique of Antidiscrimination Doctrine, Feminist Theory and Antiracist Politics
About Brad and David:
Dr. Brad Johnson is Professor of psychology in the Department of Leadership, Ethics and Law at the U.S. Naval Academy, and a Faculty Associate in the Graduate School of Education at Johns Hopkins University. Dr. Johnson is the author of more than 130 journal articles and book chapters—many on the topic of mentoring—and 14 books, in the areas of mentoring, gender in the workplace, and professional ethics. He speaks around the globe on the topics of mentorship and cross-gender workplace relationships.
Dr. David Smith is Associate Professor of sociology in the College of Leadership and Ethics at the U.S. Naval War College. As a sociologist trained in military sociology and social psychology, he focuses his research in gender, work, and family issues including bias in performance evaluations, retention of women, dual career families, military families, and women in the military. Dr. Smith is the author of numerous journal articles and book chapters—many on the topic of gender and the workplace—and 2 books in the area of gender in the workplace and inclusive mentoring relationships. He speaks around the globe on the topics of mentorship and cross-gender workplace relationships.
They are co-authors of Athena Rising: How and Why Men Should Mentor Women and Good Guys: How Men Can Be Better Allies for Women in the Workplace. Learn more about being a workplace ally, here at workplaceallies.com.
Related Episodes:
Episode 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez Episode 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky Episode 165. How We Talk and Why It Matters with Katherine KinzlerEpisode 96.
Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love. But this holiday can be challenging for anyone that’s been stung in their relationships. And it's especially difficult for individuals who’ve experienced an affair or other significant relationship betrayal. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Yael and Dr. Kristina Coop Gordon, co-author of Getting Past the Affair and Helping Couples Get Past the Affair, discuss affairs, major relationship betrayals, and how you CAN (contrary to a common cultural message) heal and get past them. So grab your a box of Valentine’s candy and join us to learn about using emotions for good, effective listening, forgiveness, and much more! And speaking of celebrating those we love, we at POTC want to celebrate you, our listeners! We’re giving away Dr. Gordon’s book Getting Past the Affair to a few lucky listeners! If you, someone you care about, or those you treat are dealing with an affair, you'll want this book in your arsenal of tools. This book teaches an assortment of crucial strategies for coping, healing, and moving forward that have been proven to work. For details on how to enter our #bookgiveaway, check out our Instagram, @offtheclockpsych. Listen and Learn:
Yael and Debbie’s thoughts on anger and other emotions and when and how they’re useful (and when and how they’re not!) How Kristina's research on forgiveness helps couples Dr. Gordon’s expert definition of forgiveness and how to grant it Why affairs are so common and how couples can recover from them If there are times to not tell your partner about an affair and how to decide if it’s one of those times About the three stages of healing from an affair What might be happening psychologically for each member of a couple after an affair Practical (game-changing!) advice on how to effectively listen to your partner during tough conversations The difference in how guilt and shame impact relationships Dr. Gordon-approved tips on working through big emotions in ways that serve your values Exercises for communicating more effectively with your partner, even in the face of painful feelings How to talk about the details of an affair Common reasons that partnerships become vulnerable to affairs Examples of how Dr. Gordon would approach therapy with couples at various stages of healing How Dr. Gordon guides couples through the decision to stay together or not
About Dr. Kristina Coop Gordon:
Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD, is Associate Professor and Associate Director of Clinical Training in the clinical psychology program at the University of Tennessee at Knoxville. Her research focuses on forgiveness, infidelity, and couple’s therapy. In Knoxville, she maintains a private practice specializing in couple’s therapy. She is coauthor of the self-help resource Getting Past the Affair and of the related book for professionals, Helping Couples Get Past the Affair.
Resources Mentioned in this Podcast Episode:
Dr. Gordon’s books, Getting Past the Affair and Helping Couples Get Past the AffairYael and Dr. Gordon’s paper from 2007, Predicting sexual infidelity in population-based sample of married individuals.Dr. Gordon’s paper investigating forgiveness in women who were in domestic abuse situations, Predicting the intentions of women in domestic violence shelters to return to partners: Does forgiveness play a role?
Related Episodes:
Episode 25. Resilience: Bouncing Back After DifficultyEpisode 28. Maintaining And Healing Romantic Bonds With Relationship Expert Dr. Yael SchonbrunEpisode 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de MarneffeEpisode 126. Surviving Break-Ups and Divorce: How to Mend a Broken Heart, with Yael and DebbieEpisode 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett
Emotional Intelligence is not really about feeling better but, rather, it’s about getting better at feeling. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Dr. Marc Brackett, founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and author of Permission to Feel, discuss practical skills you can use to better understand your emotions, and respond to them effectively. Emotional intelligence is often neglected in pursuit of what some refer to as “rational thinking.” However, emotional intelligence skills can actually help with thinking - and might even save you time and money. Find out how in this episode, and learn more about naming, understanding, and expressing your emotions in healthy ways!
Listen and Learn:
Diana and Debbie’s break down of “stress” and “overwhelm” and how they practice emotional intelligence skills in their own livesPractical skills you can use to get better at feeling right now!A real-time example of Marc Brackett and Debbie naming their emotionsWhy children and adults struggle to understand and express their emotions in a healthy way (and how problematic that can be)How Marc is working to make sure everyone receives an “emotion education”The emotion expert’s explanation of how emotional intelligence actually helps with “rational” thinking An overview of the RULER emotional skill set, and the contexts where those skills show upHow learning some emotional skills might save you time and money in the futureWhat a “Meta-Moment” is, and how to do it in four stepsWhether the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence thinks children will be okay after the pandemicMarc’s practical words of wisdom for parents, teachers, caregivers, and anyone else invested in helping kids make it through tough times like the pandemic
Resources:
Marc’s book, Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive Find out more about Marc at his website, www.marcbrackett.comGet access to the recorded version of POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit here, https://www.accelevents.com/e/POTCSummit#about
About Marc Brackett:
Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine at Yale University. His research focuses on the role of emotions and emotional intelligence in learning, decision making, creativity, relationships, health, and performance. Marc is the lead developer of RULER, an evidence-based, systemic approach to SEL that has been adopted by over 2,000 schools across the United States and in other countries. He has published 125 scholarly articles and received numerous awards. Marc consults regularly with corporations like Facebook, Microsoft, and Google on integrating emotional intelligence principles into employee training and product design and is co-founder of Oji Life Lab, a digital emotional intelligence learning system for business. His research has been featured in popular media outlets such as the New York Times, USA Today, Good Morning America, and NPR. He is the author of Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive, published by Celadon Books, a division of Macmillan. Find out more about Marc on his website, www.marcbrackett.com.
Related Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast Episodes:
Episode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Dr. Matthew McKayEpisode 85. Emotion Efficacy with Dr. Aprilia West Episode 69. Emotional Intelligence and the Science of Meditation with Dr. Daniel Goleman Episode 9. Children’s Emotions: Understanding and Responding to Your Child’s Feelings
There's a common belief that to be more successful we need more resources — that we should earn more money, acquire more resources, accomplish more, spend more time, and expand our network of people. But when we focus on chasing down additional resources rather than using those already at our disposal, we are rarely satisfied with our work, and may in fact be less successful in the long run. Instead, could it be possible to do more with less? In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Debbie and Dr. Scott Sonenshein, author of Stretch and coauthor with Marie Kondo of Joy at Work, discuss the ideas of "chasing" and "stretching." Scott shares some practical wisdom for how to stretch in work and life. The conversation adds a whole new meaning to TLC’s lyric “don’t go chasing waterfalls!” Listen and Learn:
How Debbie and Jill are trying to stretch in their personal lives How Scott Sonenshein, an expert in organizational psychology, applies principles from organizational psychology to other domains of life About a potential silver lining of the pandemic and our "new normal" (and Scott’s practical advice for creating your own silver lining anytime!) Debbie’s delicious example of constraint leading to resourcefulness in her own life Scott’s breakdown of the two mindsets that can help or hinder our efforts to be flexible Scott’s personal experience with the chase mindset in Silicon Valley and the lessons he learned in the dot com era The benefits of the stretch mindset — and practical advice on how to get into that mindset today The ultimate question for starting your growth journey Why it’s okay to not be an expert and how dabbling in many areas can be useful Practical examples of how to move from a chasing mindset to a stretching mindset The most important thing Scott learned from collaborating with Marie Kondo What ‘activity clutter’ is, how it might be impacting you, and three questions you can use to prioritize
Resources
Scott Sonenshein’s book, Stretch: Unlock the Power of Less and Achieve More than You Ever Imagined. Scott’s and Marie Kondo’s book, Joy at Work: Organizing Your Professional Life Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times
Dr. Scott Sonenshein
Scott Sonenshein, Ph.D. is the Henry Gardiner Symonds Professor of Management at Rice University and New York Times best-selling author whose books have been translated into over 20 languages. His award winning research, teaching, and speaking has helped Fortune 500 executives, entrepreneurs, and professionals in industries such as technology, energy, healthcare, retail, education, banking, manufacturing, and nonprofits. He holds a PhD in organizational behavior from the University of Michigan, an MPhil from the University of Cambridge, and a BA from the University of Virginia. His research appears in the very top academic journals and has contributed to several topics in management and psychology, including change, creativity, personal growth, social issues, decision making, and influence. Scott sits on five distinguished editorial boards and is a former associate editor of his field’s top publication, the Academy of Management Journal. Scott also worked as a strategy consultant for companies such as Microsoft and AT&T and lived the rise and fall of the dotcom boom while working for a Silicon Valley startup. He serves on the External Advisory Board of McKinsey & Company’s implementation practice. Scott has written for the New York Times, Time Magazine, Fast Company and Harvard Business Review. He has been interviewed on national and local television, NPR stations throughout the country, and has been featured in most major newspapers. To find out more about Scott’s work, visit his website, https://www.scottsonenshein.com/. You can also view Scott’s academic biography or Rice University page. Check Scott out on Twitter at @ScottSonenshein or on Instagram at scott.sonenshein.
In today’s world, it’s easy to stay on-the-go. Sometimes, on-the-go behaviors are necessary and functional. But often we engage in these behaviors to avoid discomfort. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Jill and Matt Boone, co-author of Stop Avoiding Stuff, discuss avoidant behavior and how to address it with skills from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Make a committed action and join us in this episode to learn more about what you might be avoiding and how to respond instead! Listen and Learn:
Jill and Debbie’s personal encounters with “doom scrolling” and other behaviors that feel good in the moment but cost us in the long-run Matt’s breakdown of what his book, Stop Avoiding Stuff, is about and how you can benefit from it Why Matt decided to write about avoidance in a digestible (bathroom-book) format About Matt’s professional understanding of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Other places where Matt can train you in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy How to effectively use your understanding of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to practice the skills in Matt's book Why Matt’s accessible explanations of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy are particularly useful right now The inside-scoop on what’s inside Matt's book Practical advice on how to identify and become more mindful of your own avoidant behaviors Exercises for practicing awareness and willingness right now! How Matt came to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and what role it plays in his personal life
Resources:
Matt’s book, Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway, and the editor of Mindfulness and Acceptance in Social Work Jill’s books, Be Mighty and The Big Book of ACT Metaphors Matt’s webinar on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times
About Matt Boone:
Matt Boone is a social worker, psychotherapist, and public speaker who specializes in translating mental health concepts for the general public. He is the co-author, with Jennifer Gregg and Lisa Coyne, of Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway, and the editor of Mindfulness and Acceptance in Social Work. He is the director of programming and outreach at the student mental health services of the University of Arkansas for Medical Sciences, where he’s an instructor in psychiatry.
At Lyra Health, a mental health tech startup, he led the clinical development of Lyra’s mental health coaching program and gave talks on subjects like stress and stigma to audiences at Facebook, Uber, and Genentech. At Cornell University, he oversaw the development of Let's Talk, an outreach program to underserved students that has since been replicated at nearly 100 colleges and universities.
He is an Association of Contextual Behavioral Science peer-reviewed acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) trainer and a former consultant for the VA ACT for Depression training rollout. He regularly provides ACT trainings for professionals and the general public.
He lives in Little Rock with his wife, cat, and guitars, and he loves talking about mental health with people who think psychotherapy and self-help are a bit cringy. Find out more about Matt on his website, matthewsboone.com.
Related Episodes:
Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji SchoendorffEpisode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeuneEpisode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven Hayes Episode 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran
It’s only the second week of the New Year, and many of us have already failed at (or given up on) achieving our New Year’s Resolutions. We often rely on sheer willpower to achieve these types of goals. However, willpower simply isn’t enough. On this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Diana and Benjamin Schoendorff, co-author of The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion, discuss the Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) matrix. The matrix is a complex therapeutic tool used to help clients contact experiences which keep them from living in ways that serve their values. In this episode, Benjamin breaks down the ACT matrix in a way that is accessible for all. Grab a cup of coffee, and join us to learn, practice, and grow today!
Listen and Learn
Diana and Yael’s take on the ACT matrix, what it is, and how it’s helped them to live in ways that serve their valuesBenji’s expert definition of psychological flexibility Some practical exercises you can use to become more psychologically flexible right nowBenji’s breakdown of each quadrant in the matrix and what they represent About Diana’s personal experience working through the matrixHow the ACT matrix can be helpful for couples, parents, organizations, achieving New Years Resolutions, and much more!What the “Dead Man Rule” is and how it might be impacting your mental healthWhy values are often more important than willpower when it comes to achieving your goalsWhat ‘loops’ and ‘hooks’ are and how we get stuck in them (and how to behave in service of your values instead!)Benji’s personal explanation of how moving through the ACT matrix influenced his spiritual practice
Resources
Books Benji co-authored, The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix : A Step-by-Step Approach to Using the Act Matrix Model in Clinical Practice and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion: Tools for Fostering Psychological Flexibility Paperback – Illustrated, December 1, 2014 Connect with The Contextual Psychology Institute Read more on what the ACT matrix is (and see what it looks like) here: https://contextualscience.org/act_matrix Register for Diana’s free, weekly meditation course here: https://drdianahill.com/tuesday-teachings/ Sign up for POTC’s First Annual Wise Minds Summit: How to Adapt and Thrive in Today’s Challenging Times
About Benjamin Schoendorff
Benji Schoendorff
Benjamin Schoendorff is a licensed psychologist and international trainer living near Montreal. Benji has a passion for helping people get unstuck and move toward valued living and travels the world over to train clinicians from all backgrounds in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Functional Analytic Psychotherapy (FAP). In addition to his clinical and training practice, he currently researches ACT in the treatment of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder as part of the Montreal university mental health institute.
As an author and trainer, Benji is renowned for his down-to-earth, authentic, relationship-centered and deeply compassionate style. He believes effective science-based methods to get unstuck are too precious to remain confined to academia and has made it his life mission to disseminate them in an engaging and easily accessible way. Simple, but not simplistic. Benji dreams of a scientific psychology in the service of spreading love, peace and understanding.
He has written books and chapters in French and English including co-authoring The Essential Guide to the ACT Matrix and The ACT Practitioner's Guide to the Science of Compassion.
Related Episodes
Episode 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeuneEpisode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven HayesEpisode 167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Dr. Judson BrewerEpisode 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Jill Stoddard
Attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing. These five words (Richo's "Five A’s") are necessary ingredients to any healthy relationship, but many of us don’t start off with them in our relationship pantry. In this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, co-host Yael is joined by Dr. Dave Richo, author of How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving. Join us as Yael and Dave discuss the power of the Five A’s. You'll learn how fulfilling these needs affects both our personal growth and our behavior in relationships. So grab your partner (and your ingredients!), and join Yael and Dave today to learn more about how to be an adult in your relationship.
Listen and Learn:
Yael and Debbie’s real life hacks to meeting “The Five A’s”What makes Dave's, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving, so enduringly helpful for peopleDave’s expert breakdown of the ideal goals for adults in relationshipsProfessional, evidence-based advice for how to (healthily) orient around “The Five A’s” in your relationshipHow your childhood experiences may be impacting your relationship The way mindfulness applies to relationshipsDave's approach to productively reframing and working with blame and feelings of rage towards your partnerAbout avoiding landslides of grief in relationships when years-old mountains of ill will loom nearby (and why it’s important to fully experience that grief instead!)Practical exercises for reframing your orientation in unhealthy relationships How Dave and Yael might apply “The Five A’s” and some of Dave’s tools in therapy with a couple (READ: free thought-exercise for therapists listening in!)What to do when you’re feeling unloved or unlovable
Resources:
Dave’s book, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful LovingDave's book, Triggers: How We Can Stop Reacting and Start HealingAnger: Wisdom for Cooling the Flames by Thich Nhat HanhThe New York Times breakdown of Harry Potter, So You Know Nothing About ‘Harry Potter’? Let’s Catch You Up
About Dave Richo:
David Richo, PhD, MFT, is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader, and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco California. He combines Jungian, poetic, and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. One of his best sellers, How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving, is going to be coming into its 20th anniversary this fall. Find out more about Dr. Richo on his website, davericho.com.
Related Episodes:
Episode 61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values And Schemas With Dr. Avigail Lev Episode 120. Use DBT Skills To Regulate Emotions And Be More Effective In Relationships With Dr. Matthew McKayEpisode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah TannenEpisode 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky
Ending a tumultuous year like 2020 calls for slowing down and reflecting. In this episode, Diana and Debbie take a pause to answer some end of year questions. Then they share their hopes for the New Year. Afterwards, Diana chats with Dr. Stephan Rechtschaffen who is the author of Timeshifting. He is a co-founder of the Omega Institute and Blue Spirit Costa Rica. During the conversation, we explore slowing down, finding intention, and trusting the process. Happy holidays and blessings for a healthy New Year in 2021 from all of us at Psychologists Off the Clock!
Resources for Slowing Down and Reflecting:
Check out Diana’s 20 Journal Prompts to Close 2020 on Instagram @drdianahillTimeshifting by Stephan RechtschaffenHow to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. KendiThe Brave Learner by Julie BogartNeurodharma by Rick HansonSlow by Brooke McAlaryAnne Lamott on business and how to find timeResearch on time perception and the pandemicNPR story on how the pandemic has changed our sense of time
Stephan Rechtschaffen M.D.
About Stephan Rechtschaffen, M.D.:
Stephan Rechtschaffen, M.D. founded Blue Spirit Costa Rica and co-founded the renowned Omega Institute in Rhinebeck, NY. He is a nationally recognized holistic physician who lectures on health, wellness, nutrition, longevity, and time. For decades, he has been involved in developing communities that model sustainable and spiritual dimensions of living a more wholesome and authentic lifestyle.
He is a coauthor of Vitality and Wellness and author of Timeshifting, a book that focuses on one’s relationship to time and stress amidst the quickening pace of modern life. These interests have drawn him to living and working in the more mindful and slower paced environment of Blue Spirit in Costa Rica.
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We humans are pretty good at learning from experience, and it turns out, it’s not all in our heads — it’s in our bodies too! In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Rebekkah LaDyne explains how both our minds and our bodies learn from stressful experiences. Rebekkah talks with our co-host, Debbie, about how undersupported, overwhelming, and unwanted life events can dictate how we respond to future stress and overwhelm. The learning that takes place in those events can get in the way of effective responding for years to come. Bring your mind and your body, and join us in this episode to learn some body-based practices to help you more effectively respond to stress and overwhelm!
In this Podcast You'll Learn:
About Rebekkah, Diana, and Debbie’s personal experiences with stress and overwhelm How day-to-day stress is different from overwhelm About the process of becoming overwhelmed and what to do when/if you’re thereRebekkah’s expert breakdown of hyper-activation, hypo-activation, and functional activationWhat’s actually happening and what to do when it feels like you’re spinning out The important differences between freeze, fight, and flight mode and how they affect you physiologicallyWhy “thinking your way out” of overwhelm doesn’t work and a few (expert-approved) methods that doRebekkah’s empirically-based approach to dealing with stress and overwhelm Practical exercises for returning to a felt sense of ease and well-being
Resources
Rebekkah’s book, The Mind-Body Stress Reset: Somatic Practices to Reduce Overwhelm and Increase Well-BeingCheck out our First Annual Psychologists Off the Clock Wise Minds Summit for all sorts of self-care goodness!
Rebekkah LaDyne
About Rebekkah LaDyne
Rebekkah has spent twenty-five years in the field of embodied well-being. After working in therapeutic mindfulness for 15 years, she studied Mind-Body Medicine at Saybrook University and conducted clinical research in somatic self-regulation. Based on her research in mind-body medicine, her comprehensive training with the Somatic Experiencing Institute, and her decades of professional experience, she authored The Mind-Body Stress Reset, with a foreword by Kathy Kain and endorsed by Peter Levine.
In addition to her book, she has recorded several wellness CDs, appears on the radio, and YouTube. As a somatic wellness specialist, she meets with clients online from all over the globe in her. Rebekkah lives with her husband, two daughters, and their puppy-dog in the San Francisco Bay Area. You can learn more about Rebekkah on her website.
Episode 145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Dr. Paul Gilbert Episode 142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) With Patrick McGinnisEpisode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 170. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing (re-release)Episode 131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges
For far too long, women have been held responsible for completing an unfair share of work (especially invisible labor) at home. Even if a woman works a full-time job outside of the home, she is often also expected to complete the majority of domestic and emotional labor. What’s to be done about all the “invisible work” women do to keep partnerships afloat? In today’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Eve Rodsky, author of Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live), and co-host Jill answer that question. Women have been held to an unreachable standard for too long. Now, take a breather, and join us to learn about creating equal partnerships at home, navigating unmanageable demands, and much, much more! Listen and Learn:
About Jill, Diana, and Eve’s personal struggles with trying to be the perfect partner, mother, and worker How an invisible “I should do” list might be affecting your life and your relationship Some important (and shocking!) statistics on how motherhood affects women Why women’s invisible workload matters and how you can help shift the system that supports it Eve’s breakdown of Fair Play - her empirically based, step-by-step system for impacting lasting change in your partnership The important differences between playing fair and keeping score with your partner How modeling good-partner-behavior might impact your kids for the better About Jill’s experience playing Eve’s card-game, The Fair Play Deck (and Eve’s tips-and-tricks for playing fairly) How to connect your work-time balance to your values through a minimum standard of care
Resources:
Eve’s book, Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) The accompanying card deck for Eve’s book, The Fair Play Deck: A Couple's Conversation Deck for Prioritizing What's Important Marianne Cooper’s work on women in the workplace and more Jill’s 2020 report on women in the workplace
About Eve Rodsky, J.D.
Eve Rodsky is working to change society one marriage at a time by coming up with a new 21st century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering the brunt of childrearing and domestic life responsibilities regardless of whether they work outside the home.
In her New York Times bestselling book Fair Play, she uses her Harvard Law School training and years of organizational management experience to create a life-management system to help couples both rebalance all of the work it takes to run a home and reimagine their relationship, time and purpose.
Eve Rodsky received her B.A. in economics and anthropology from the University of Michigan, and her J.D. from Harvard Law School. After working in foundation management at J.P. Morgan, she founded the Philanthropy Advisory Group to advise high-net worth families and charitable foundations on best practices for harmonious operations, governance and disposition of funds. In her work with hundreds of families over a decade, she realized that her expertise in family mediation, strategy, and organizational management could be applied to a problem closer to home – a system for couples seeking balance, efficiency, and peace in their home. Rodsky was born and raised by a single mom in New York City and now lives in Los Angeles with her husband and their three children. Visit her website to learn more!
Related Episodes:
Episode 137. The Complexities of Motherhood with Daphne de MarnEpisode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah TannenEpisode 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 174. How to Work and Parent Mindfully with Lori Mihalich-LevinEpisode 107. Playing Big With Tara Mohr
Sleep is a hot topic right now, and many health experts argue your sleep is as important as eating well and exercising for your mental and physical health. Sleep medicine research has advanced a lot, and there is new information about what it is and why we do it, and strategies that work for insomnia. We can all rest easy because in this episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, co-host Diana is joined by one of the top experts -- Dr. Rafael Pelayo from Stanford Health Care Sleep Medicine Center. In this episode, Dr. Pelayo, author of How to Sleep, provides an overview of sleep, sleep’s function, and strategies to help you get a better night’s rest tonight. Get cozy, and join us to take a deep dive into the world of sleep and change yours for the better!
Listen and Learn:
The different stages, the cycles within the stages, and what happens when any of those are interruptedWhat the function of dreams might beThe indications of remembering (or not remembering) your dreams What happens when we experience insomnia and how to put it to bedHow our phones (or, as Dr. Pelayo calls them, our handheld computers) are impacting our sleep and what to do about itWhat to do when you wake up in the night (Hint: It’s not what you think!)How to get your kids to fall asleep and stay in bedDr. Pelayo’s expert opinion on co-sleepingAbout Diana and Dr. Pelayo’s personal experiences with winding down before bedtimeWhat to look for and when it’s the right time to visit a specialist Why you should probably go visit a doctor if your snoring every night
Sleep Resources:
Dr. Pelayo’s book, How to Sleep: The New Science-Based Solutions for Sleeping Through the NightVisit Diana's website to get her FREE meditation to help you fall asleepCheck out our First Annual Psychologists Off the Clock Wise Minds Summit where Dr. Paleyo will offer a live question and answer session!
About Rafael Pelayo, MD:
Dr. Rafael Pelayo
Dr. Rafael Pelayo, author of How to Sleep, is a clinical professor at Stanford University where he co-authored the textbook for and continues to teach the popular Sleep and Dreams undergraduate course (where you may get squirted with a water gun for sleeping!). Since 1993, he has worked with the Stanford Health Care Sleep Medicine Center. His initial exposure to sleep medicine was as a medical student working with Dr. Michael Thorpy at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine. He joined the Stanford Sleep Disorders Clinic in 1993 as a fellow and never left. In 2013, he was appointed as a clinical professor at the Sleep Medicine division of the department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Science at Stanford University. Dr. Pelayo’s clinical focus has been the treatment of sleep disorders in patients of all ages. He has lectured nationally and internationally and has appeared frequently in television, radio, and print. He has served as chair of the Sleep Disorders Research Advisory Board of the National Center for Sleep Disorders Research at the National Heart Lung Blood Institute at the NIH. He has also chaired the pediatric special interest section of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. You can find out more about Dr. Pelayo on his Stanford profile or at the California Sleep Society webpage.
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Working parenthood is hard, and even the most Instagram-perfect parents and professionals have their fair share of tears, overwhelm, guilt, and anxiety. Though there are no simple solutions, learning how to work and parent more mindfully can help you build greater success and have more joy. Join our conversation with Lori Mihalich-Levin, author of Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave, founder of Mindful Return, and Working Mother Magazine's “working mama guru.” Lori talks with co-host Yael about the ins and outs of mindful working parenthood. When you tune in, you'll learn tips that can help you work and parent more successfully and more joyfully, even in the face of the day-to-day challenges working parents experience. So go ahead and snuggle your nearest kiddo while you learn how to more mindfully enjoy your baby and your career! Listen and Learn:
What motivates Lori and her personal tips on how to take on the impossible in work and parenting Why companies fail to retain women after they have children How to be a psychologically flexible working parent About the strategies Lori uses in her personal life to navigate parenting, her career, and her sanity What mindfulness is, what it involves, and how to be mindful in your own life Recommendations for parents who struggle with the guilt that often accompanies juggling multiple roles How to plan effectively (even if you aren’t a self-proclaimed planning nerd like Lori!) Why boundaries are necessary and how you can establish them Lori’s tips for using your parenting skills to become a more effective leader at work How to build community, and why you should About the importance of passion projects for your work as a parent and your work at work! About Lori’s work in diversifying her Mindful Return courses to meet the needs of more individuals, including dads and parents of children with special needs
Work, Parenting, and Mindfulness Resources Mentioned in This Episode
Lori’s Mindful Return Program (and the mom-specific, dad-specific, and parents of children with special needs versions, as well as a course for employers) Lori’s book, Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave The Free Meditation App - Insight Timer Emily Oster’s book, Cribsheet: A Data-Driven Guide to Better, More Relaxed Parenting, from Birth to Preschool Lori's podcast, Parents at Work Parenting in a Pandemic support groups for moms and dads
About "Working Mama Guru" Lori Mihalich-Levin, JD
Lori is the founder of Mindful Return, author of Back to Work After Baby: How to Plan and Navigate a Mindful Return from Maternity Leave, and creator of the Mindful Return Maternity Leave E-Course. She is mama to two wonderful red-headed boys (ages 7 and 9), is the co-host of the Parents at Work Podcast, and is a partner in the health care practice at Dentons US LLP. Her passion is empowering new parents by providing them with the strategies and tools they need to be present with their babies and in their careers. Lori’s work has appeared in the New York Times Parenting, The Washington Post, Thrive Global, and The Huffington Post. And just recently, she was featured in The Female CEO Magazine.
Lori holds a law degree from the Georgetown University Law Center and completed her undergraduate studies at Princeton University’s Woodrow Wilson School of Public and International Affairs. She has been committed to promoting women’s equality and leadership throughout her career. Most recently, she founded and Co-Chaired for two years Dentons’ Parent Professional Network (now ParentsLEAD). In her prior job, she founded both the Returning to Work Community (RWC) for mothers at Association of American Medical Colleges (AAMC) who return to work from maternity leave and a D.C. Health Policy Lean in Circle. As an undergraduate at Princeton, she wrote her thesis on immigrant women in France who were victims of domestic violence...
In his TEDx talk, Michael Herold, public speaker, confidence coach, and podcaster extraordinaire, says, “Things you will achieve in your life, you will achieve because of your disability, not in spite of it.” In this week’s episode of Psychologists Off the Clock, Michael talks with Debbie and Yael about confidence, self-doubt, and overcoming limitations. Limitations are all around us. These might be thoughts about how unqualified we are, feelings of anxiety, or even physical disabilities such as spinal muscular atrophy, but Michael Herold has some good news. We can overcome the limitations that come from our own heads, by taking Comfort Zone Challenges! Join us in this episode to learn about how to work with those limitations, instead of against them, to achieve the life you want. The Psychologists Off the Clock are excited to welcome Michael aboard as our new Strategic Consultant. Join us to for this episode to meet Michael and learn about our new team member! Listen and Learn
How to build confidence and step outside your comfort zone About Michael’s transition from animator to public speaker, coach, and podcaster Why Acceptance and Commitment Therapy resonates with Michael and how it changed his life How Michael’s disability, spinal muscular atrophy, has shaped his unique perspective How you can use values to overcome your limitations About motivational porn and the microaggressions we often use when discussing people who have ‘overcome’ disability-related limitations Why it’s so important to connect with people and how to do that Inside information on how Coach Michael works to build his clients’ confidence Tips and tricks from the master himself on how to build your own confidence
Resources from this Podcast Episode
Michael's TEDx talk Michael’s website Michael's podcast: The Art of Charm The Art of Charm Podcast's Episode featuring Michael The Art of Charm Podcast's Core Confidence Program Viktor Frankl's Book: Man's Search for Meaning Michael’s Short Film “When I grow up” All of Michael’s short animated films
Michael Herold
About Michael Herold
Early in his life, doctors told Michael Herold’s parents that his severe disability would keep him from living a normal life. The doctors were right. Michael’s life has been anything but normal. In fact, he is quite a renaissance man. For over a decade, Michael was a successful animator for Nickelodeon and worked on a variety of shows including Penguins of Madagascar and Kung Fu Panda. He currently does public speaking around the world and has recently spoken in front of parliament and given a TEDx talk. Michael also uses skills and exercises from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to provide coaching on a variety of life-skills including public speaking, self-doubt, communication, and, primarily, confidence. Visit Michael’s website to find out more!
Episode 91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin AndrewsEpisode 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica WilliamsEpisode 102. A Liberated Mind with Dr. Steven HayesEpisode 72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ MoranEpisode 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy
Performance pressure is pushing down on us and Queen was right - that pressure is terrifying! In this Psychologists Off the Clock podcast episode, Yael speaks with Dr. Sian Beilock, an expert on performance and brain science, and author of Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to. Listen in to hear Sian's insights and about her research into how our experiences, neurology, emotions, and thoughts interact to both foster and stump our ability to perform under pressure. You'll learn about how mind-body communication leads to sub-optimal performance. And you'll gain knowledge and strategies to make high pressure situations work to your advantage! Performing under pressure is a skill, like any other, Sian tells us. Tune in to learn how to build it. Listen and Learn:
Why Sian started studying choking in the first place (hint: it was a bit of 'me-search') Sian’s definition of choking What types of situations and personal characteristics lend themselves to choking What’s going on physiologically and neurologically when you're choking under pressure Strategies, tips, and tricks from Sian for dealing with choking About embodied cognition, rest, and relaxation How perfectionism and role switching might be involved in choking Why self-compassion is so important when you’re performing under pressure How prejudice, stereotypes, diversity, and evaluative apprehension impact the likelihood of choking
Performing Under Pressure Resources Mentioned:
Sian’s book - Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to Sian’s book - How the Body Knows Its Mind: The Surprising Power of the Physical Environment to Influence How You Think and Feel Alex Pang’s book, Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less Jessica Lahey’s book, The Gift of Failure Carol Dweck’s book, Mindset: The New Psychology of Success Deborah Spar’s book, Wonder Women: Sex, Power, and the Quest for Perfection
About Choke Expert Dr. Sian Beilock: A cognitive scientist by training, Dr. Sian Beilock earned her Bachelor of Science in cognitive science from the University of California, San Diego, and doctorates of philosophy in both kinesiology and psychology from Michigan State University. Sian has served as the eighth President of Barnard College at Columbia University since 2017. Her work as a cognitive scientist revolves around performance anxiety and reveals simple psychological strategies that can be used to ensure success in everything from test taking and public speaking to athletics and job interviews. Sian is one of the world’s leading experts on the brain science behind performing under pressure and the brain and body factors influencing all types of choking (from test-taking to public speaking to your golf swing). She has authored two critically acclaimed books published in more than a dozen languages - Choke: What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal About Getting it Right When You Have to and How the Body Knows Its Mind: The Surprising Power of the Physical Environment to Influence How You Think and Feel, as well as over 100 peer-reviewed publications. Her 2017 TED talk on why we choke under pressure has been viewed over 2 million times. You can find out more about Dr. Beilock here. Related Episodes from The Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast:
Episode 34. Strengths, Goal Setting, and Grit with Dr. Alexis Karris Bachik Episode 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang Episode 75: Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer Episode 88. Perfectionism with Sharon Martin Episode 161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey Episode 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah Argenal
Compassion is not a passive process, but an active one. It means being aware that someone (including you) is suffering and moving toward that suffering so that you can offer help. Compassion takes courage, wisdom, and strength. And, we can build more compassionate minds with practice. In this episode, Diana talks with Dennis Tirch and Laura Silberstein-Tirch about Compassion Focused Therapy, how they apply the principles of compassion to their family and in their work as founders and director of the Center for Compassion Focused Therapy. Listen in to hear heartfelt insights for a more compassionate future.
Listen and Learn:
Why it’s so hard to be compassionate when we feel threatenedWhy we have an inner critic and how to respond when it shoes itThe core qualities to develop to build a more compassionate mindHow compassion is different from kindnessHow we can respond to a long, dark winter with compassionHow we can heal divides with compassionWhat yoga and compassion focused therapy have in commonSuggestions to build a more compassionate future together
Resources:
The ACT Practitioners Guide to the Science of Compassion by Dennis Tirch, Benji Schoendorff, and Laura TirchHow to be Nice to Yourself by Laura Silberstein-TirchStephan Porges on the Polyvagal TheoryThe Compassionate Mind Foundation
About Laura Silberstein-Tirch
Dr. Laura Silberstein-Tirch
Laura R. Silberstein-Tirch, PsyD, is the Director of the Center for Compassion Focused Therapy., and serves as an Adjunct Assistant Professor at Albert Einstein College of Medicine of Yeshiva University. Dr. Silberstein-Tirch is a clinical supervisor and compassion-focused therapy (CFT) trainer who presents internationally on mindfulness and compassion and is an author of 3 books, including “How to Be Nice To Yourself." She is a founder and Past-President of the New York City chapter of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science and the Compassionate Mind Foundation USA. Her research interests include psychological flexibility and emotions as well as CFT for anxiety and depression.
About Dennis Tirch
Dr. Dennis Tirch
Dennis Tirch, Ph.D. is the Founder of The Center for Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) in NYC, Past-President of The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), President of The Compassionate Mind Foundation, North America and an Associate Clinical Professor at The Icahn School of Medicine at Mt. Sinai, NYC. He is an internationally acknowledged expert psychotherapist, supervisor and trainer in CFT, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Buddhist Psychology (BP). Dr. Tirch is an author of 7 books, numerous book chapters and peer-reviewed articles on mindfulness-based psychotherapies. Dr. Tirch regularly trains CFT and ACT globally, through workshops and courses in-person and online. His work has been covered by The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post and NPR among other media outlets. Through regular Twitter and other social media posts, Dr. Tirch shares compassion focused insights with tens of thousands of people each day. Dr. Tirch is an Ambassador for the Ram Dass Fellowship, and an advocate for yoga, sobriety, and vegetarian/vegan living. Dr. Tirch is a Zen dharma holder, lay teacher of Sharma.
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Microaggressions. These small, often unintentional acts of racism are probably affecting you more than you know! In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Monnica Williams, author of Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces and co-author of Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings, and our co-host Debbie discuss microaggressions in therapy spaces, race-based mental health disparities, and racial trauma. Join us for an informative episode, where we can grow and learn together!
"Good people can and do commit acts of racism."Dr. Monnica Williams
Listen and Learn:
What microaggressions are and why they’re so pervasiveThe different categories of microaggressions How microaggressions have affected Debbie and Dr. Williams personally How self-identity impacts the occurrence and aftermath of microaggressionsHow subtle, covert microaggressions impact race-based Mental Health treatment disparityThe psychological impact of microaggressions and racial traumaDr. Monnica Williams’s recommendations for the mistakes therapists make in therapyDr. Monnica-approved methods for pointing out, apologizing for, and validating the experience of microaggressions if you commit one (as we all do sometimes!)
Resources Mentioned on the Podcast:
Link to our sponsorship pageFollow Dr. Monnica on Twitter: @DrMonnica Visit Dr. Monnica’s website: http://www.monnicawilliams.com Dr. Monnica’s blog on psychology today: Culturally SpeakingDr. Monnica’s book: Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings Dr. Monnica’s book: Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces
About Monnica Williams:
Dr. Monnica Williams is a board-certified, licensed clinical psychologist, specializing in cognitive-behavioral therapies. She is an Associate Professor in the School of Psychology at the University of Ottawa, Canada Research Chair in Mental Health Disparities, and Director of the Laboratory for Culture and Mental Health Disparities. She is also the Clinical Director of the Behavioral Wellness Clinic, LLC in Tolland, Connecticut, and she has founded clinics in Kentucky, Virginia, and Pennsylvania. Dr. Williams completed her undergraduate studies at MIT and UCLA. She received her doctoral degree in clinical psychology from the University of Virginia. She was an assistant professor at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine in the Department of Psychiatry for four years, where she worked with Dr. Edna Foa who is a world renowned expert on OCD and PTSD. She was also a director of the Center for Mental Health Disparities at the University of Louisville.
Dr. Williams has published over 100 peer reviewed articles, books, chapters, and scientific reports with a focus on anxiety related conditions and cultural considerations. She was named one of the top 25 thought leaders in PTSD by PTSD Journal, and she frequently contributes to the public scientific discourse as a media expert. She is frequently featured on PBS, NPR, and the New York times, and she has a fantastic blog on psychology today called Culturally Speaking. Along with Daniel Rosen and Johnathan Kanter, Dr. Monnica co-authored the book Eliminating Race-Based Mental Health Disparities: Promoting Equity and Culturally Responsive Care across Settings. In this episode, we discussed her most recent book, Managing Microaggressions: Addressing Everyday Racism in Therapeutic Spaces. You can learn more about all of Dr. Williams’ work here.
Related Psychologists Off the Clock Podcast Episodes:
Episode 162. APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in Psychology with Dr. Karen SuyemotoEpisode 156. The Psychology of Radical Healing CollectiveEpisode 150. Immigrant and Refugee Mental Health with Dr. Sandra MattarEpisode 96.
A great wizard once said, “Words are, in my not-so-humble opinion, our most inexhaustible source of magic. Capable of both inflicting injury, and remedying it." Humans are social animals who thrive on effective communication. However, each of us has a different communication style, and sometimes, differences in those communication styles inflict injury. In today’s world, where communication looks very different than it used to, understanding differences in communication styles and learning to remedy word-inflicted wounds is of utmost importance. In this timely episode, Dr. Deborah Tannen talks with Jill about how communication styles affect our everyday relationships. Join us to learn more on the ‘best’ way to talk in different contexts, gender differences in communication styles, saying what you mean, meaning what you say, and much more!
Listen and Learn:
Dr. Tannen’s definition of conversational styleWhy communication style is important in various domains including intimate relationships, workplace relations, and difficult conversations Saying what you mean and meaning what you sayJill and Dr. Tannen’s account of gender differences in communication stylesDr. Tannen’s wisdom on the ‘best way to talk’What a double bind is and how it affects women Questions and phrases you can use to improve your communication style right nowHow different communication platforms change the intent of your words
Resources
Link to our sponsorship pageGary Chapman’s five love languagesVisit Yael’s website to find out more on her work with couples Dr. Tannen’s memoir and where you can purchase itInformation on Dr. Arlie Hochschild Dr. Tannen’s books, That's Not What I Meant! and Talking from 9 to 5Alicia Menendez’s book, The Likeability Trap Dr. Tannen’s training video on women’s language in the workplace The New York Times’ article, It's Not Just You: In Online Meetings, Many Women Can't Get a Word In
About Dr. Deborah Tannen
Dr. Tannen is a University Professor and Professor Linguistics at Georgetown University and author of many books and articles about how the language of everyday conversation affects relationships. She is best known as the author of You Just Don't Understand: Women and Men in Conversation, a book that has brought gender differences in communication style to the forefront of public awareness as a New York Times best seller. Her collected works include eight books for general audiences as well as sixteen books and over one hundred articles for scholarly audiences.
Dr. Tannen is one of only six in Georgetown University’s College of Arts and Sciences who hold the distinguished rank of University Professor. She has been McGraw Distinguished Lecturer at Princeton University and spent a term in residence at the Institute for Advanced Study in Princeton, New Jersey. She has twice been a fellow at the Center for Advanced Study in the Behavioral Sciences at Stanford in Palo Alto, California. The recipient of five honorary doctorates, she is a member of the PEN/Faulkner Foundation Board of Directors. Read her recent essays in The New York Times and The Forward or view a full list of her articles for general audiences here. To learn more about what Dr. Tannen is up to, visit her website at deborahtannen.com.
Related episodes
Episode 163: The Likeability Trap with Alicia MenendezEpisode 165: How We Talk and Why It Matters with Katherine KinzlerEpisode 62: Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu VillatteEpisode 104: You’re Doing it Wrong with Professors Bethany Johnson and Margaret QuinlanEpisode 121: Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill StoddardEpisode 28: Maintaining And Healing Romantic Bonds With Relationship Expert Dr. Yael Schonbrun Episode 72: Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran
We all have unhelpful habits, and whether you overeat, use substances, or worry, you may have noticed these habits have gotten worse lately. In this episode, Diana joins Dr. Judson Brewer (Dr. Jud), neuroscientist and author of The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad Habits, for a fascinating conversation about why stress makes our habits and addictions worse. Additionally, they talk about what’s happening in your brain when you’re caught in these habits, and how to unhook from even the trickiest ones using mindfulness and curiosity.
Listen and Learn:
Diana’s and Debbie’s pandemic habitsHow Diana’s shifting unhelpful habits to values-based ones (get her free download here!)The three core elements of a habitWhat’s happening in your brain when you are cravingWhy uncertainty and stress makes it harder to break unhealthy habitsHow anxiety and rumination are similar to smoking and eating Dr. Jud’s groundbreaking brain research on mindfulness and the Default Mode NetworkHow curiosity changes your brain and why it is key to unhooking from habit loopsWhy it doesn’t work to “think your way out of a craving” or “think your way out of anxiety”Mindfulness tools you can use right now with yourself and your kids to get groundedWhy swapping choosing kindness and generosity over self-righteous rumination is “so much sweeter”The personal values that underlie Dr. Jud’s work
Resources
Five Finger Breathing with Dr. Jud BrewerWatch Dr. Jud study Anderson Cooper’s brain in an fMRIThe Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How we can Break Bad Habits, by Dr. Judson BrewerDr. Jud’s Ted Talk: A Simple Way To Break a Bad HabitDr. Jud’s App-based behavior change programs: Unwinding Anxiety®, Eat Right Now®, and To Quit®. Get 20% off with coupon code OFFTHECLOCKChange unhealthy habits into values-rich ones with this handoutDr. Yotam Heinberg on “growing roots” practice
Listen to Diana’s interviews with Paul Gilbert here and here to learn more about threat, drive, and compassion systems in the brain
Dr. Jud Brewer
About Dr. Judson Brewer
Dr. Judson Brewer is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University, as well as a research affiliate at MIT. Before that, he held research and teaching positions at Yale University and the University of Massachusetts’ Center for Mindfulness. Read more about his research here.
As an addiction psychiatrist and internationally known expert in mindfulness training for treating addictions, Dr. Jud has developed and tested novel mindfulness programs for habit change, including both in-person and app-based treatments for smoking, emotional eating, and anxiety (Eat Right Now, Unwinding Anxiety and Craving to Quit).
Based on the success of these programs in the lab, he co-founded MindSciences, Inc. to create app-based digital therapeutic versions of these programs for a wider audience, working with individuals, corporations, and hospital systems to put effective, evidence-based behavior change guidance in the hands of people struggling with unwanted behaviors and “everyday addictions.”
- Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran103. Healthy Habits with Dr. Dayna Lee-Baggley4. Habits: The Science of Behavior Change90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy145. Caring, Compassion, and Cooperation with Dr. Paul Gilbert46. Altruism And The Flow Of Compassion With Dr. Yotam Heineberg
Dr. Seuss told us, “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose.” But what do you do when you’re in charge of many brains in many heads? What happens when you’re in charge of steering many feet (some of which have tiny shoes) traveling in many different directions? Is there any room left to choose?
In this week’s episode, Sarah Argenal, author of The Whole SELF Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode for Good, discusses her framework to escape survival mode, find balance, and defeat burnout. She explains that we often find ourselves working from problem-solving mode, moving from problem to problem and finding the quickest solution for each. As we get caught up in solving problem after problem, we experience burnout and find ourselves trapped in survival mode. Unless we get more strategic in how we approach our many life roles, life can become small and lose its vitality. Sarah provides a strategic framework for working from the inside-out so that we can allow our many purposes to better serve us, and to bring back a vitality that guide us in each of our many life roles.
Listen and Learn:
How survival mode might be affecting you right nowFour steps you can take toward creating a more vital lifeTips and tricks for escaping survival modeStrategies for including more self-care into your routinesMethods for discovering what areas of your life are most important to you (and which are less important)What gets in the way of working from the inside-out, and how you can approach this work (even if you are too busy and tired!)How to make your purposes better serve you (instead of you serving them!)How to defeat burnout, find balance, and escape survival mode
About Sarah Argenal:
Sarah Argenal attained her masters in counseling psychology with an emphasis in marriage and family therapy and adult development from the University of San Francisco. She is the founder of the The Argenal Institute LLC based in Austin, TX, host and executive producer of Working Parent Resource Podcast, and author of the book The Whole Self Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode For Good. Sarah uses twenty years of experience and her signature program, the Whole SELF Lifestyle™, to help working parents escape survival mode and enjoy their lives.
Resources:
The Whole SELF Lifestyle for Working Parents: A Practical 4-Step Framework to Defeat Burnout and Escape Survival Mode for Good, by Sarah Argenal
For more from Sarah’s work, check out the resources at The Argenal Institute.
Yael’s essay on working parenthood in the Wall Street Journal.
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Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Dr. Yael Schonbrun
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Rest with Dr. Alex Soojung-Kim Pang
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Balancing the Big Stuff with Drs. Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin
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Essentialism with Greg McKeown
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Tao of Work and Family Balance
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What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine
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How you talk informs who you are, who you group up with, and how you perceive others. But while language is a profoundly powerful influencer of how we engage in the social world, we seldom acknowledge its impact on social injustice. In this episode, Yael talks with professor and psychologist Katherine Kinzler about the role of language and accent in prejudice, empathy, identity, morality, and ingroup/outgroup formation. In Katherine’s book, How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You, she describes how language and accent are an often overlooked contributor in cultural affiliation and discrimination. Katherine offers evidence for their critical role in perpetuating injustice, and shows us why increasing awareness of linguistic biases can empower us to pave the way towards a more just and compassionate future.
Listen and Learn:
The surprising ways that language influences who we are and our cultural affiliationThe power of language in perpetuating prejudice and stereotypingHow media and film perpetuate stigma related to language and accentWhy the evolution of language can predispose humans towards prejudiceHow recent events demonstrate the overlooked role of linguistic discriminationThat language is not just about communication, but rather is about social lifeWhy common myths about monolingualism are wrongHow we can use language as a tool to increase compassion and empathy, and reduce prejudice
About Katherine Kinzler
Dr. Katherine Kinzler is a psychology professor at the University of Chicago. Her research sits at the intersection of developmental and social psychology where she focuses on the origins of prejudice and ingroup outgroup thinking with an emphasis on understanding how language and accent mark social groups. Katherine’s writing has appeared in the New York times and other media outlets and the world economic forum named her as one of the 50 scientists under 40 working to shape our future.
Resources:
How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You, by Katherine Kinzler
NPR Interview with Katherine Kinzler
NYT Book Review on How You Say It
Katherine’s University of Chicago webpage
Other Resources:
Article showcasing the work of Dr. Deborah Tannen
Link to Duolingo, a fun, game-based app that helps adults and children learn new languages
Psychologists Off the Clock
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The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez
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Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte
If you are experiencing Pandemic Stress, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) can help! This is a stressful time for most of us; the mental health aftermath of a pandemic is sometimes called a "second pandemic" because of the rise of depression, anxiety, and PTSD. And in addition to fear of the coronavirus itself, we are currently facing other major, global stressors like climate change, forest fires, systemic racism, economic uncertainty, and political divisiveness. No wonder so many of us are exhausted!
In this podcast episode, co-hosts Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen discuss Pandemic Stress and give examples of how they use ACT practices themselves, as they experience emotional ups and downs. Whether you are anxious, depressed, lonely, or irritable, Diana and Debbie have some strategies from ACT that might help you be more flexible and accepting in the face of the pandemic. As Diana says in the episode, "it's almost like ACT was made for Pandemic Stress!"
Listen and Learn About
Pandemic Stress and the "second pandemic" of mental health concerns. Diana and Debbie's own experiences with Pandemic Stress. The difference between threat, fear, and anxiety.How Psychological Flexibility and ACT offer the key to navigating pandemic stress.Why practicing acceptance is more helpful than experiential avoidance. Shifting your perspective when "doom and gloom" thoughts arise.Letting go of unrealistic personal expectations, and finding a healthy routine that supports your wellbeing. Loneliness, moral distress, and loss during COVID.How we can reconnect to our values, do the next right thing, and have a sense of common humanity.Building social connection and effectively working from home.
Resources
Diana’s 6 ACT Strategies for Transforming Anxiety & Increasing Psychological FlexibilityDebbie’s Pandemic Stress Blog PostsIf you need a good cry, here’s a link to the song The Next Right Thing from Frozen 2Diana's friend Gwendolyn's beautiful song and you can sign up for Gwendolyn's community singing newsletter
Pandemic Stress Articles
"How I used ACT to cope with COVID"Article on Pandemic-Related DistressUncertainty and Psychological FlexibilityFamily systems and Psychological Flexibility The Moderating Roles of Psychological Flexibility and Inflexibility on the Mental Health Impacts of COVID-19 Pandemic and Lockdown in ItalyResponding to Moral Dilemmas in the age of COVID Older Adults and Social Connection while Social Distancing
- Habits: The Science of Behavior Change (Part 1)5. From Awareness to Action: Behavior Change (Part 2)7. Insomnia: Strategies to Stop Struggling with Sleep with Dr. Alisha Brosse37. Post-Traumatic Growth42. Strategies to Increase Focus and Work More Effectively43. Willpower With Dr. Kelly McGonigal44. Anxiety Happens with Dr. John Forsyth52. Palliative Care and Healing with Dr. Michael Kearney59. Zzzzzz…The Science of Sleep62. Language, Suffering, and Meaning with Dr. Matthieu Villatte77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Dr. Jill Stoddard (now our fabulous co-hosts!)116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore118. Moral Injury and Shame with Dr. Lauren Borges and Dr. Jacob Farnsworth124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman131. COVID-19 Anxiety, Cultivating Safeness, and Polyvagal Theory with Dr. Stephen Porges132. The Joy Of Movement With Dr. Kelly McGonigal 133. Mental Health in the Age of COVID-19 with Dr. Robyn Walser134. What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Dr. Robyn Walser146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne149. How Not Lose It with Your Kids with Dr. Carla Naumburg152. Helping the helpers with Dr. Susan David155. Mindfulness and Recovery with Dr. Rebecca Williams159. Challenging Times During Adolescence with Dr. Louise Hayes160. Schooling at Home,
Women are told to be nice, but not too nice. Be successful, but not too successful. Just be likeable.
Join Jill for her interview with award-winning journalist and author of the book The Likeability Trap, Alicia Menendez, as they examine the impossible bind women find themselves in: to succeed, women must be competent and likeable; but the more women are seen as competent, and the more they achieve, the less likeable they become. Alicia discusses how women can let go of old rules and reimagine leadership rather than reinventing themselves.
Listen and Learn
What likeability traps areWhat the "Goldilocks Conundrum" isThe problem with focusing on women as the solutionThe need for systemic changeIdeas for where to start moving the conversation forwardHow to think about ambition during a pandemic and how to juggle the challenges of today’s difficult times
About Alicia Menendez
Alicia Menendez
Alicia Menendez is an MSNBC anchor and host of the Latina to Latina podcast. Dubbed “Ms. Millennial” by The Washington Post, “journalism’s new gladiator” by Elle, and a “content queen” by Marie Claire, her interviews and reporting have appeared on ABC News, Bustle, FusionTV, PBS and Vice News. Her first book, “The Likeability Trap” was published in November 2019. She lives in New Jersey with her husband and two daughters.
Resources
Visit Alicia's webpage
Buy the book The Likeability Trap: How to Break Free and Succeed As You Are
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Empowering Women with Dr. Robyn Walser
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Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill Stoddard
In this episode, Diana interviews Dr. Karen Suyemoto, the chair of the APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in Psychology. Race and culture are present in all of our interactions. As mental health professionals, it is our ethical responsibility to understand the ways in which race and ethnicity impact us personally, our interactions with clients, and the communities we serve. Everyone is also caught in the system of racism and oppression. It is our responsibility as mental health providers to strive towards understanding the complexities of this system and how we can contribute to systemic change.
Listen and Learn
How do race and ethnicity interact, and how are they definedWhy understanding the influences of race and ethnicity is so central to psychologyThe role personal inquiry plays in the guidelinesWhy practicing cultural humility and understanding positionality is important in the work of a psychologistHow racism and privilege has impacted the field of psychologyHow the therapy room can be a reenactment of racial traumaWhat it means to be an activist in psychologyHow we can carry out a deep commitment to changeHow to hold both race and the individual authentic relationship in our inter-racial interactions
About Karen Suyemoto
Karen Suyemoto has a joint appointment with the Psychology Department and the Asian American Studies Program and Critical Ethnic and Community Studies graduate program at the University of Massachusetts, Boston. Their research interests focus generally on Asian American psychology and issues related to social justice and anti-racist therapy/ practice/education. Their research addresses fostering awareness and advocacy for social justice through examining relations of race and racism to mental health; investigating effects of resistance and coping with racism, and exploring the complexity of relative and ascribed power and intersectional discrimination. Additional research addresses how cultural responsiveness and racial social justice can be developed through and integrated into education, training, research methods, and practice. Their current research projects include a quantitative study examining the effects of racism for people of color and how taking action to challenge racism may moderate negative psychological effects and a two-book project focused on transformative teaming and learning about oppression and privilege (with Grace Kim and Roxanne Donovan). Professor Suyemoto was the Chair of the recently released Guidelines for Race and Ethnicity for the American Psychological Association. They served as the past president of the Asian American Psychological Association and as the AAPA delegate to the American Psychological Association Council of Representatives. In 2013, they were recognized as a White House Champion of Change: Asian American Pacific Islander Woman Leader and also awarded the Asian American Psychological Association’s Distinguished Contributions Award.
Resources:
APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in PsychologyDr. Suyemoto's Web site
- Immigrant and Refugee Mental Health with Dr. Sandra Mattar156. The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019)96. Effective Conversations About Diversity Issues with Drs. Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado
Modern parenting is high stakes, leaving parents terrified of failure in their parenting and in their children. But it turns out that the overprotective behaviors driven by our fears undermine our children’s—and our own—successes throughout life. Join Yael for a conversation with best-selling author, teacher, podcaster, and parent Jessica Lahey for a thought-provoking conversation about how parents can learn to relate to failure differently for themselves and their children. And why we should.
Listen and Learn:
How overprotective parenting can undermine competence, independence, academic potential, and emotional healthWhy failure gets a bad rap and how to reframe itHow autonomy, competence, and relatedness can help our kids learn to learn betterThe importance of intrinsic motivation and how to help children build itWhat external motivators are and why they are problematicHow to “parent in place” with greater ease (what we can do less of and what we can focus on while our children are learning at home)Why it’s important to focus on process over product
About Jessica Lahey:
Jessica Lahey
Jessica Lahey is a teacher, writer, and mom. Over twenty years, she’s taught every grade from sixth to twelfth in both public and private schools. She writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Atlantic, Vermont Public Radio, The Washington Post and the New York Times and is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. She is a member of the Amazon Studios Thought Leader Board and wrote the educational curriculum for Amazon Kids’ The Stinky and Dirty Show. Jessica earned a B.A. in Comparative Literature from the University of Massachusetts and a J.D. with a concentration in juvenile and education law from the University of North Carolina School of Law. She lives in Vermont with her husband and two sons. Her second book, The Addiction Inoculation: Raising Healthy Kids in a Culture of Dependence, will be released in April 2021.
Resources from Jess:
Jessica’s WebsiteThe Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed, by Jessica Lahey #AmWriting Podcast with Jessica Lahey, KJ Dell’Antonia, and Sarina BowenParenting in Place Masterclass From The Atlantic, Why back-to-school night made me feel like a bad mom, by Jessica Lahey
Other Resources:
Yael’s essay in Rick Hanson’s Wise Brain Bulletin, How to Be a Happier Parent Under Quarantine Jessica's bibliography containing the books referenced during this episode (and many others Jess refers to in various speaking engagements and writing).The Stinky and Dirty Show on Amazon Prime
- The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud141. Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart
Parenting is stressful right now. This is because we are educating our kids at home while juggling work with limited childcare. We are also navigating difficult, important conversations about racism, the pandemic, and world events. How can we regain our sanity and parent in a way that is meaningful? Join us for a conversation with Jen Lumanlan, a child development expert and podcast host from Your Parenting Mojo. During this episode, we explore homeschooling, pandemic pods, and socially just parenting.
Listen and Learn:
How Diana and Debbie are navigating school at homeHomeschooling strategies that foster deep learning and keep kids engagedHow to form a pandemic pod in a socially just wayWhat is “patriarchy” in parenting and how it harms our childrenWhite privilege in parentingActions parents can take against racism
Jen Lumanlan
About Jen Lumanlan
Jen Lumanlan holds an M.S. in Psychology (Child Development) and an M.Ed. She hosts the Your Parenting Mojo podcast which is a reference guide for parents of toddlers and preschoolers based on scientific researchers and the principles of respectful parenting. In each episode, she examines a topic related to parenting and child development from all sides to help parents understand how to make decisions about raising their children. She lives in California with her husband and daughter.
Resources
Your Parenting Mojo Podcast Resources:
Trying to make a decision about homeschooling versus school-based programs?Looking for resources related to parenting and race?Want to start a Pandemic Pod? Try the Pandemic Pods 'in a box' courseWant to get started with Homeschooling? Check out The Confident Homeschooler
Other Resources Mentioned:
Nice White Parents PodcastYuval Noah Harari on what the year 2050 has in store for humankind Carol Gilligan on Patriarchy in Parenting with Jen LumanlanHow to Get Away with Parenting podcastUrban Intellectual Black History Flashcards
- Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart69. Emotional Intelligence and the Science of Meditation with Dr. Daniel Goleman159. Challenging Times During Adolescence with Dr. Louise Hayes78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) With Patrick McGinnis9. Children's Emotions: Understanding and Responding to Your Child's Feelings14. Mindful Parenting
Pandemic, online school, social distancing, climate change… this is an especially difficult time for adolescents, who are already in a transitional time of life. Dr. Louise Hayes is one of the world’s foremost experts on using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Adolescents. She joins us on the podcast for the second time, to talk about her new book for adolescents, and share her thoughts on helping adolescents cope with today’s challenges.
Listen and Learn
The unique challenges of the pandemic for adolescents, and how they can cope.Why losses associated with the pandemic, even seemingly small ones, are real. Why we should all be listening to what adolescents have to say.About the concept of “active hope.”Louise Hayes’s thoughts about bullying and procrastination. How to take small steps toward self-care during difficult times.How to go from “zombieland” to “vitalityland.”
About Dr. Louise Hayes
Dr. Louise Hayes is a clinical psychologist who is well known for her work using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for young people in schools and clinical settings. She is a former president of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. Dr. Hayes is an author, international speaker, a senior fellow with The University of Melbourne and Orygen Youth Health, and a peer-reviewed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy/Training (ACT) trainer. Dr. Hayes is the co-author of the The Thriving Adolescent: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Positive Psychology to Help Teens Manage Emotions, Achieve Goals, and Build Connection. Her newest book is called Your Life, Your Way: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Skills to Help Teens Manage Emotions and Build Resilience. Together with Joseph Ciarrochi, she conducts research and treatment development; her latest work uses a DNA-v (Discoverer-Noticer-Advisor-Values) treatment model for young people. Louise is also an active humanitarian, taking mental health professionals into the Himalaya to developing their mindfulness skills and raising funds for poor children in remote Nepal.
Resources:
Your Life, Your Way: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Skills to Help Teens Manage Emotions and Build Resilience https://amzn.to/3iTWEva Praxis DNA-V online training with Louise Hayes: https://www.praxiscet.com/events/dna-v/The Thriving Adolescent: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Positive Psychology to Help Teens Manage Emotions, Achieve Goals, and Build Connection https://amzn.to/31fZvsu Sherry Turkle Reclaiming Conversation https://amzn.to/3laC3VJ
Helping Adolescents Thrive with Dr. Louise Hayes: https://www.offtheclockpsych.com/podcast/helping-adolescents-thriveParental Burnout with Dr. Lisa Coyne: https://www.offtheclockpsych.com/podcast/parental-burnout
In this episode, Jill speaks with Lori Gottlieb, psychotherapist and best-selling New York Times author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, about her smash hit book and the art and heart of therapy. Join their intimate discussion about ultracrepidarianism (one of Lori’s favorite words!), vulnerability, breaking therapy rules, reducing mental health stigma, and more!
About Lori Gottlieb:
Lori Gottlieb
Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and author of the New York Times Bestseller Maybe You Should Talk to Someone which is being adapted as a television series. In addition to her clinical practice, she writes The Atlantic Weekly’s “Dear Therapist” advice column and contributes regularly to the New York Times and many other publications. Her recent TED Talk is one of the 10 most-watched of the year. A member of the advisory council of the Bring Change to Mind and advisor to the Aspen Institute, she is a sought-after expert in media such as The Today Show, Good Morning America, The CBS This Morning, CNN, and NPR’s “Fresh Air.” She is also the co-host of the new iHeart Radio Podcast “Dear Therapists”, produced by Katie Couric. Learn more at LoriGottleib.com or by following her on Twitter @LoriGottlieb1 and Instagram at lorigottlieb_author.
Resources:
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori GottliebThe Atlantic Weekly’s “Dear Therapist” advice column by Lori GottliebLori’s TED TalkiHeart Radio Podcast “Dear Therapists” with Lori Gottlieb and Guy WinchLoriGottleib.com“In Psychotherapy the Toilet has Become the New Couch” April 30, 2020, The New York Times Article by Lori Gottlieb@LoriGottlieb1, Lori’s Twitter accountlorigottlieb_author, Lori’s Instagram
- Therapy from "The Heart of ACT” with Dr. Robyn Walser
Our culture shies away from talking about death. But Katy Butler, author of The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life, argues we have an obligation to think about what constitutes a well-supported death. In this episode, Yael embarks on a thought-provoking, important, and timely conversation with Katy. In their discussion, Katy shares ways we can honor the death process relationally, practically, medically, emotionally, and spiritually, both for ourselves and those we love.
Listen and Learn:
How we can honor death in the time of Covid-19What it means to die wellThe value of longevity versus quality of lifeWhat is slow medicine?Ways to infuse sanctity, even in a hospital roomWhat is an advance directive?The importance of cleaning up our emotional legacyUsing ritual in virtual ways (The Bathing and Honoring Ritual)How we can cultivate hope when prolonging life becomes tenuous
About Katy Butler:
Katy Butler
Katy Butler is an award-winning journalist, public speaker, and bestselling author. Katy Butler has written two groundbreaking books about the end of life and is a thought leader in the national movement for medical reform. Her newest book is The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life. Her first book, Knocking on Heaven’s Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death, a national bestseller, was named one of the 100 Most Notable Books of 2013 by the New York Times.
Katy’s writing has appeared in The New Yorker; Mother Jones; Scientific American, Atlantic, Tricycle, Psychotherapy Networker; Best American Essays, and Best American Science Writing. She has taught writing at Esalen Institute in Big Sur and at Tassajara Zen Mountain Center. A Buddhist, Katy was lay-ordained by the Vietnamese monk and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh.
Resources:
The Art of Dying Well: A Practical Guide to a Good End of Life by Katy ButlerKnocking on Heaven’s Door: The Path to a Better Way of Death by Katy Butler“What Broke My Father’s Heart: How a Pacemaker Wrecked Our Family’s Life,” June 18, 2020 New York Times article by Katy ButlerKaty Butler’s websiteFive Wishes, ways to talk about advanced care directives
- Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Dr. Robyn Walser117. Bearing Unbearable Loss: A conversation About Grief with Dr. Joanne Cacciatore52. Palliative Care and Healing with Dr. Michael Kearney
Join Diana for an important and empowering discussion with Dr. Helen Neville, Dr. Hector Adames, Dr. Bryana French, and Dr. Grace Chen, four BIPOC psychologists and members of The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective, about steps we can take at the individual and community level to heal from racial oppression. Collectively.
Listen and Learn
What is radical healing?How does radical healing differ from conventional healing approaches?Why NOW’s a key time to raise the critical consciousnessWhy cultural authenticity mattersWays radical healing can help BIPOC communities weather Covid-19 Tips on how to talk about race, racism, and inclusivityHow to approach “hot moment” conversations about race to engender changeWhat is radical hope and how to cultivate it in trying timesResources, resources, resources!
About The Psychology of Radical Healing Collective
Dr. Helen Neville
About Dr. Helen Neville: Dr. Neville is a Provost Fellow and Professor at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign in the Educational Psychology and African American Studies departments. She is the former President of the Society for the Psychological Study of Culture, Ethnicity, and Race (American Psychological Association Division 45) and the lead editor of the Handbook of African American Psychology. Dr. Neville has authored, coauthored and edited 7 books and close to 90 articles. She also serves on the editorial boards of several other psychology and Black Studies journals. Dr. Neville received her doctorate in counseling psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara.
Dr. Hector Adames
About Dr. Hector Adames: Dr. Adames is an Associate Professor at The Chicago School of Professional Psychology, Chicago Campus and the Co-Director of the IC-RACE Lab (Immigration Critical Race And Cultural Equity Lab). He is also the editor of Latinx Psychology Today (LPT) and is on the editorial board of The Counseling Psychologist and Professional Psychology: Research & Practice. Dr. Adames is the co-author of Cultural Foundations and Interventions in Latino/a Mental Health: History, Theory and within Group Differences. He also co-authored two forthcoming books; Race and Colorism: Towards a Racially Conscious Understanding of Latinxs and Caring for Latinxs with Dementia in a Globalized World: Behavioral and Psychosocial Treatments. Dr. Adames received his doctorate in Clinical Psychology from Wright State University in Ohio.
Dr. Bryana French
About Dr. Bryana French: Dr. French is an Associate Professor in the Graduate School of Professional Psychology at the University of St. Thomas. She researches the psychosocial impacts of sexual coercion among racially diverse adolescents and the radical healing of black, and indigenous people. Dr. French’s work has been published in several journals such as The Counseling Psychologist, Journal of African American Studies, and Journal of Interpersonal Violence and she has held several leadership roles in the American Psychological Association. Dr. French earned her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology at the University of Illinois.
Dr. Grace Chen
Dr. Grace Chen: Dr. Chen is a licensed psychologist and life coach in Menlo Park, CA. Dr. Chen specializes in helping clients with marginalized identities to feel heard and understood and empowers them to embrace their strengths, gifts and potential. Dr. Chen also facilitates support groups for graduate women students at Stanford’s Graduate School of Business and was formerly a professor at the Palo Alto University. Dr. Chen earned her Ph.D. in counseling psychology from the University of Texas at Austin.
Resources
The Psychology of Radical Healing BlogD-Nice Instagram Live Club QuarantineAAPF and Kimberle Crenshaw’s Podcast: Intersectionality Matters! “Toward a Psychological Framework of Radical Healing in Communities of Color” by Bryana H. French, Jioni A. Lewis, Della V. Mosley, Hector Y. Adames, Nayeli Y. Chavez-Dueñas,
You are not alone if you’re feeling more stressed out and using unhealthy means to cope. Four months into the pandemic may find you Netflix binging, stress eating, or reaching for that extra glass of wine more than you would like. Or you may be struggling with addiction and/or working hard to maintain recovery in the midst of increased pandemic stress. In this episode Yael speaks with Dr. Rebecca Williams, a psychologist and co-author of The Gift of Recovery: 52 Mindful Ways to Live Joyfully Beyond Addiction and The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction. Her approach offers strategies for managing the big emotions we’re feeling now and concrete strategies to build the neural pathways in our brains to pivot toward wellness and healing (rather than of unhealthy coping mechanisms/problematic addictive behaviors) in the face of stress.
Listen and Learn:
What is addiction?Why mindfulness is key for those struggling with addictionNeuroplasticity’s role in healing and ways to cultivate it Why our feelings don’t have to change for us to be okTeasing apart cravings from commandsTips for folks with a hard time getting in touch with their valuesThe relationship between loss and addictionTips for individuals who love someone struggling with addiction
About Dr. Rebecca Williams:
Dr. Rebecca Williams
Dr. Rebecca Williams is a psychologist and award-winning author of two books, integrating mindfulness and recovery from addictive behaviors. Her first book, The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with Grief, Stress, and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors incorporates over 60 worksheets and exercises for readers and therapists to identify healthy coping strategies in recovery. And her second book, The Gift of Recovery: 52 Mindful Ways to Live Joyfully Beyond Addiction is a pocket coach of mindfulness skills that readers can practice every day to stay focused on self-care and commit to a healthy recovery. Rebecca is a lifelong yoga practitioner and brings the ancient teachings of yoga and meditation into understanding mental health and recovery.
Resources:
The Mindfulness Workbook for Addiction: A Guide to Coping with Grief, Stress, and Anger that Trigger Addictive Behaviors by Rebecca E. Williams, PhD and Julie S. Kraft, MAThe Gift of Recovery: 52 Mindful Ways to Live Joyfully Beyond Addiction by Rebecca E. Williams, PhD and Julie S. Kraft, MA, MFTA Better Chance: A non-profit organization dedicated to creating leaders of color.Untamed, by Glennon Doyle
- The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Dr. Hillary Connery
Healthcare professionals usually choose their careers because patient care is meaningful; most want to make a positive impact and help others. However, with a broken healthcare system and unending occupational stressors, burnout is all-too-common, sometimes resulting in tragic consequences. Join Debbie for Part 2 of a rich two-part series with health psychologist Dr. Abbie Beacham, a clinical psychologist/trauma expert Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd, and Dr. Bernard Chang, Associate Professor of Emergency Medicine at Columbia University, on the wellbeing of healthcare providers. Part 2 is about strategies for refueling for the deeply meaningful work providers do.
Listen and Learn (Part 2):
Strategies, strategies, strategies…The power of micro-moments - like the 20-second handwash!How to embrace the wobble board of a busy life.The importance of saying yes to basic needs, and why providers’ basic needs matter too!How to put pragmatic mindfulness to work for you.The benefits of self-compassion (and ways to sneak some in).
About Dr. Abbie Beacham:
Dr. Abbie Beacham
Abbie Beacham, PhD is a Clinical Psychologist who has spent her career working in healthcare and medical settings. She has her PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of Louisville. Dr. Beacham also completed her internship in Clinical Health Psychology at the University of Florida Health Sciences Center and Post-doctoral Fellowship at the University of Kentucky Colleges of Medicine and Dentistry. Over the past four years she has worked extensively with physicians and other healthcare professionals across the Rocky Mountain Region addressing their stress, burnout and well-being. As part of this work, she collaborated with colleagues to develop and implement evidence-based well-being programs for health professionals. Her most recent training “Cultivating Personal Resilience” has been presented to hundreds of professionals in both in-person and online formats. Dr. Beacham recently relocated from University of Colorado School of Medicine in Aurora, CO to assume the position of Director of Behavioral Science at the University of Louisville School of Dentistry in Louisville, KY. She is co-founder of Project Well-Being, where she continues to do presentations, trainings and online well-being programs to audiences large and small. A licensed psychologist in Colorado and Kentucky (provisional) she maintains a small private practice serving healthcare professionals via online consultation and therapy. In her spare time, she can be found hanging out with her family or pedaling her road bike (“Ruby”) among the birds, trees and streams in Kentucky and Colorado. Her guilty pleasure is searching the world over for the best cup of coffee (medium-dark roast please).
About Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd:
Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd
Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd is a clinical psychologist on a mission to help professionals create deep, meaningful lives. She uses evidence-based therapy and coaching to foster resilience, mindfulness, and purpose-driven work. Dr. Makin-Byrd received her Ph.D. from Pennsylvania State University, and subsequently received advanced training at the University of California San Francisco and Stanford University. She has held professional appointments at the National Center for PTSD and at New York University. She has served as a researcher and national subject matter expert on trauma and PTSD, and has authored over 30 peer-reviewed studies, Congressional reports, and clinical chapters on trauma and resilience. She received the Special Contribution Award from the Veterans Health Administration in recognition of the national impact of her policy contributions and clinical teaching on VA mental health services. Kerry is a founding board member of the Kids Compassion Project, volunteers with the Dumb Friends League, and enjoys hiking with her husband and daughter.
About Dr. Bernard Chang:
Dr. Bernard Chang
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Healthcare professionals usually choose their careers because patient care is meaningful; most want to make a positive impact and help others. However, with a broken healthcare system and unending occupational stressors, burnout is all-too-common, sometimes resulting in tragic consequences. Join Debbie for Part 1 of a rich two-part series with health psychologist Dr. Abbie Beacham, a clinical psychologist/trauma expert Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd, and Dr. Bernard Chang, Associate Professor of Emergency Medicine at Columbia University, on the wellbeing of healthcare providers. Part 1 is an exploration of issues related to healthcare professional wellbeing, both before and during the era of COVID-19.
Listen and Learn (Part 1):
About the occupational stressors and systemic factors in medicine that contribute to burnout.The impact of COVID-19 on healthcare professional wellbeing.Why mental health symptoms are higher among physicians than the general public.The physical health impacts of working in medicine.Why a multi-pronged approach to healthcare professional wellbeing is key.
About Dr. Abbie Beacham:
Dr. Abbie Beacham
Abbie Beacham, PhD is a Clinical Psychologist who has spent her career working in healthcare and medical settings. She has her PhD in Clinical Psychology from the University of Louisville. Dr. Beacham also completed her internship in Clinical Health Psychology at the University of Florida Health Sciences Center and Post-doctoral Fellowship at the University of Kentucky Colleges of Medicine and Dentistry. Over the past four years she has worked extensively with physicians and other healthcare professionals across the Rocky Mountain Region addressing their stress, burnout and well-being. As part of this work, she collaborated with colleagues to develop and implement evidence-based well-being programs for health professionals. Her most recent training “Cultivating Personal Resilience” has been presented to hundreds of professionals in both in-person and online formats. Dr. Beacham recently relocated from University of Colorado School of Medicine in Aurora, CO to assume the position of Director of Behavioral Science at the University of Louisville School of Dentistry in Louisville, KY. She is co-founder of Project Well-Being where she continues to do presentations, trainings and online well-being programs to audiences large and small. A licensed psychologist in Colorado and Kentucky (provisional) she maintains a small private practice serving healthcare professionals via online consultation and therapy. In her spare time, she can be found hanging out with her family or pedaling her road bike (“Ruby”) among the birds, trees and streams in Kentucky and Colorado. Her guilty pleasure is searching the world over for the best cup of coffee (medium-dark roast please).
About Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd:
Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd
Dr. Kerry Makin-Byrd is a clinical psychologist on a mission to help professionals create deep, meaningful lives. She uses evidence-based therapy and coaching to foster resilience, mindfulness, and purpose-driven work. Dr. Makin-Byrd received her Ph.D. from Pennsylvania State University, and subsequently received advanced training at the University of California San Francisco and Stanford University. She has held professional appointments at the National Center for PTSD and at New York University. She has served as a researcher and national subject matter expert on trauma and PTSD, and has authored over 30 peer-reviewed studies, Congressional reports, and clinical chapters on trauma and resilience. She received the Special Contribution Award from the Veterans Health Administration in recognition of the national impact of her policy contributions and clinical teaching on VA mental health services. Kerry is a founding board member of the Kids Compassion Project, volunteers with the Dumb Friends League, and enjoys hiking with her husband and daughter.
About Dr. Bernard Chang:
Dr.
How can we, as helpers, give the best care to our clients, loved ones, and ourselves during this unprecedented time? We’re being called to live through something as massive as a global pandemic while simultaneously helping others experience and process it too. In this episode, Jill speaks with Harvard Medical School psychologist and popular TED speaker, Dr. Susan David, about the importance of getting back to the basics when we feel as if we really have nothing left to give.
Listen and Learn:
What is “gentle acceptance” and why it is so important right nowHow to optimize the small moments Why achieving and striving aren’t helpful right nowWhat’s structure got to do with it? Striking the balance between structure and letting goThe power of letting ourselves be cared for
About Dr. Susan David:
Dr. Susan David
Susan David, Ph.D. is one of the world’s leading management thinkers and an award-winning Harvard Medical School psychologist. Her new #1 Wall Street Journal bestselling book, Emotional Agility based on the concept Harvard Business Review heralded as a Management Idea of the Year and winner of the Thinkers50 Breakthrough Idea Award, describes the psychological skills critical to thriving in times of complexity and change. Susan’s TED Talk on the topic went viral with over 1 million views in its first week of release. She is a frequent contributor to the Harvard Business Review, New York Times, Washington Post, Wall Street Journal, and guest on national radio and television. Named on the Thinkers50 global list of the top management thinkers, Susan is a sought-after keynote speaker and consultant, with clients that include the World Economic Forum, EY, United Nations, Google, Microsoft, NASDAQ, and many other national and multinational organizations. Her focus is on defining and executing effective strategy, especially in the areas of engagement, high-performance leadership, and culture change. Susan is the CEO of Evidence Based Psychology, on the faculty at Harvard Medical School, a Cofounder of the Institute of Coaching (a Harvard Medical School/McLean affiliate), and on the Scientific Advisory Boards of Thrive Global and Virgin Pulse. Susan lives outside of Boston with her family.
Resources:
www.susandavid.comChecking in with Susan David, a podcast with TED related to pandemic copingEmotional Agility by Susan David, Ph.D.The Gift and Power of Emotional Courage TED Talk by Dr. Susan DavidEmotional Agility Quiz, Dr. Susan David’s online quiz with a free 10-page personalized report offering specific strategies to help you become more emotionally agile
- Essentialism with Greg McKeown113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak
Many of us struggle in our relationship with food and weight. If we are going to have a chance at restructuring our relationship with food, it helps to understand the complex interactions at the individual and systemic levels. In this episode, Evelyn Tribole shares her expertise on intuitive eating, a non-diet approach to healing your relationship with your body and food.
Listen and Learn:
10 principles of intuitive eatingHow diet culture contributes to being disconnected from your body and loss of control over foodWays to cultivate your inner wisdom around eatingHow to rediscover your hunger and fullness cuesWays to get started on your intuitive eating journey todayHow to support intuitive eating in your kids
About Evelyn Tribole:
Evelyn Tribole
Evelyn Tribole, MS, RD is an award-winning registered dietitian, with a nutrition counseling practice in Newport Beach, California. She has written nine books including the bestsellers Healthy Homestyle Cooking and Intuitive Eating (co-author). Her newest book is the Intuitive Eating Workbook: Ten Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food. Evelyn was the nutrition expert for Good Morning America, appearing from 1994-’95 and was a national spokesperson for the American Dietetic Association for 6 years. She was a contributing editor for Shape magazine where her monthly column, Recipe Makeovers, appeared for 11 years. She is has appeared on hundreds of interviews, including CNN, Today Show, MSNBC, Fox News, USA Today, Wall St. Journal, and People magazine.
Evelyn qualified for the Olympic Trials in the first-ever women’s marathon in 1984. Although she no longer competes, Evelyn runs for fun and is an avid skier and hiker. She also enjoys surfing, kayaking, and white water rafting. Evelyn’s favorite food is chocolate when it can be savored slowly.
Resources:
Intuitiveeating.orgIntuitiveeatingcommunity.org; a free peer-to-peer support group Intuitive Eating Training for Health Professionals@evelyntribole; InstagramIntuitive Eating, 4th Edition: A Revolutionary Anti-Diet Approach by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch The Intuitive Eating Workbook: Ten Principles for Nourishing a Healthy Relationship with Food by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse ReschCheck out this great article and podcast on Decolonizing Beauty Standards Check out this article on the impact of weight stigma on health
Psychologists Off the Clock has had a number of experts on the show sharing their expertise in weight concerns, the neuroscience of eating, eating disorders, and movement. Check them out here!
- The Hungry Brain: Outsmarting Instincts That Make Us Overeat With Dr. Stephan Guyenet93. Effective Weight Loss with Dr. Evan Forman36. Weight Loss Strategies From Acceptance And Commitment Therapy With Dr. Jason Lillis129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Dr. Jennifer Webb132. The Joy Of Movement With Dr. Kelly McGonigal124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman, M.S.128. ACT For Food Restriction And Anorexia With Dr. Rhonda Merwin18. Appetite Awareness Training with Dr. Linda Craighead31. DBT for Binge Eating with Dr. Debra Safer
Over 40 million US residents are foreign-born. Immigrants and refugees face many circumstances impacting their mental health. These include the trauma of the immigration process and the acculturation process that follows. Additionally, many face systemic oppression and the threat of deportation. These challenges are complex and multifaceted. Therefore, therapy and psychology need to do a better job at orienting toward contextual and systemic factors in mental health treatment.
Join Diana for this inspiring conversation with Dr. Sandra Mattar, Assistant Professor at the Boston University School of Medicine and leading expert on immigrant and refugee mental health. Dr. Mattar speaks of her experience as an immigrant to the US. Additionally, she talks about the impact of trauma and health disparities in the populations she serves. Dr. Mattar also discusses how to provide compassionate, culturally sensitive treatment to support these members of our community to heal and thrive.
Immigrant mental health is American mental health. As the Informed Immigrant states: “You deserve to feel safe and empowered, no matter your immigration status.”
Listen and Learn
The individual and systemic challenges impacting immigrant and refugee mental health How the recent Supreme Court decisions on DACA and refugee asylum impact immigrant and refugee mental healthWays to shift from an individualistic therapy approach to one prioritizing contextual factors How mental health treatment with immigrants and refugees is adapting to COVID-19 Ethnocentric ways to address the ongoing trauma that immigrant communities faceHow to practice self-care and self-compassion while taking values-based action as a therapist
About Dr. Sandra Mattar
Dr. Sandra Mattar
Dr. Sandra Mattar is a clinical psychologist and an Assistant Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the Boston University School of Medicine and the Boston Medical Center Boston Center for Refugee Health and Human Rights. Her research and clinical interests include culturally informed trauma treatment, immigrants and refugee mental health, mental health disparities, multicultural psychology, and mindfulness and spirituality.
Dr. Mattar is an Associate Editor for the Journal of Psychological Trauma and a member of the American Psychological Association (APA) Race and Ethnicity Guidelines Task Force. Dr. She was also a founding member of the Division 56 (Trauma Psychology) of the APA and a Past Chair of the Committee on Ethnic Minority Affairs of APA. Dr. Mattar is a graduate of the William James College (formerly MSPP) and the Universidad Católica Andres Bello in Venezuela. An immigrant herself, Dr. Mattar was born and raised in Venezuela.
Resources
Connect with Sandra Mattar:Twitter: @Sandramattar23Website at Boston University School of MedicineAPA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in PsychologyImmigrant Mental Health Resources from the Informed ImmigrantCOVID-19 and U.S.-based refugee populations by Sandra Mattar and Linda Piwowarczyk in June’s issue of Psychological TraumaThe Undocumented Americans by Karla Cornejo VillavicencioAwakening Together: The Spiritual Practice of Inclusivity and Community by Larry YangMcMindfulness: How Mindfulness Became the New Capitalist Spirituality by Ronald PurserACBS World Conference 2020 ONLINE
- Disability as a Form of Diversity with Dr. Erin Andrews144. Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019)
Summer is here, which for parents means Season Two of pandemic parenting. Parent tempers are triggered in so many ways now and we’ve lost access to the time and space that we need to calm our buttons. If you’re a parent and losing your cool more than you’d like with your kids, join Yael for an engaging and refreshingly irreverent interview with Dr. Carla Naumburg, author of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent. Spoiler alert: This episode’s chock-full of advice for how to make temper buttons less pushable and practical skills for what to do when you’re ready to explode at your kids!
Listen and Learn:
Carla’s 5 basic truths about losing it with our kids Owning our triggersWhy kids are button pushers and not triggers Specific practices to “calm” our buttonsWhy self-compassion is key, especially now, and how to engage itBest practices to apply after losing it with your kids/after the sh*t storm
About Dr. Carla Naumburg:
Dr. Carla Naumburg
Carla Naumburg, Ph.D., is a writer, mother, and clinical social worker. She is the author of three parenting books: the bestselling How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids (Workman, 2019), Ready, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family (New Harbinger, 2015), and Parenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters (Parallax, 2014). Carla has appeared in The New York Times, The Washington Post, The Huffington Post, CNN, and Mindful Magazine, among other places. Carla lives outside of Boston with her husband, daughters, and two totally insane cats.
Resources:
How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids: A Practical Guide to Becoming a Calmer, Happier Parent by Carla NaumburgReady, Set, Breathe: Practicing Mindfulness with Your Children for Fewer Meltdowns and a More Peaceful Family by Carla NaumburgParenting in the Present Moment: How to Stay Focused on What Really Matters by Carla NaumburgSelf-Compassion for Parents: Nurture Your Child By Caring for Yourself by Susan Pollack
- Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Dr. Schrag Hershberg
Criminal Justice Reform is an important, and often overlooked element of Racial Justice. In the U.S., Black men are significantly more likely to be incarcerated. Individuals in the criminal justice system are likely to experience inhumane and dehumanizing practices, including solitary confinement. Severe social isolation can have a harmful long-term impact on physical and mental health.
In this eye-opening episode, Debbie speaks with Taylor Pendergrass, an ACLU lawyer dedicated to criminal justice reform and co-editor of Six by Ten: Stories from Solitary. The book includes a collection of the rarely heard personal stories of people who have experienced long-term solitary confinement. In the episode, Taylor and Debbie discuss mental health, incarceration, and why we need to end the dehumanizing practice of long-term solitary confinement in the United States.
Listen and Learn:
Why solitary confinement is used in the U.S, and why long-term solitary confinement is a problem.About “SHU syndrome,” and the long-lasting psychological and physical effects of isolation on humans. Why mental health units are a more effective, humane alternative.What conditions are like in solitary confinement cells. What we can learn from European prison systems.How you can help promote criminal justice reform!
About Taylor Pendergrass
Taylor Pendergrass
Taylor Pendergrass is a lawyer and activist who works on criminal justice reform for the ACLU. He has spent over a decade collecting stories of people who have been impacted by the criminal justice system. Along with Mateo Hoke, Taylor co-edited the book Six by Ten: Stories from Solitary which, through personal history narratives gives readers a better understanding of the horribly dehumanizing impact of solitary confinement on people’s lives. Taylor has a BA in Environmental Policy from Duke University and earned his law degree from the University of Colorado Law School.
Resources
Six by Ten: Stories from Solitary by Taylor Pendergrass and Mateo HokeDebbie's unabridged interview of Taylor Pendergrass on The New Books Network13th, a documentary directed by Ava DuVernay on NetflixThe New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander “I Begged Them to Let Me Die”: How Federal Prisons Became Coronavirus Deathtraps by Keri Blakinger and Keegan Hamilton, The Marshall Project, June 18, 2020 “Coronavirus Cases Rise Sharply in Prisons Even as They Plateau Nationwide” by Timothy Williams, Libby Seline and Rebecca Griesbach, New York Times, June 16, 2020 ‘People are Sick All Around Me’: Inside the Coronavirus Catastrophe in California Prisons by Sam Levin, The Guardian, May 20, 2020 NY Times articles (here and here) about solitary confinement in Colorado by Rick RaemischPen Pal program with people in solitary confinementAn overview of research on the psychological impact of solitary confinement by Craig Haney, Department of Psychology, University of California, Santa Cruz
- Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019)
Many of us are struggling during this time of COVID-19 and police brutality. It can feel hard to extend compassion to those with different views, let alone to ourselves. In this episode, psychologist and creator of Superhero Therapy, Dr. Janina Scarlet, shares her origin story that led from exposure to Chernobyl radiation as a child to immigration to bullying to discovering her calling: helping people with emotional pain become the heroes of their personal journeys. A major element of her Superhero Therapy is practicing compassion.
Remembering to apply these useful skills can be a challenge. That’s where the founder of the non-profit Compassion It., Sara Schairer, comes in. Sara shares her inspiring story of how she created a worldwide social movement to teach and spread compassion. Janina and Sara talk with us about extending compassion even to those with whom we disagree, and why this matters, especially right now. And Sara leads us in an experiential compassion practice.
Listen and Learn
What Superhero Therapy isWhat Compassion it.tm is and how we can join the compassion missionHow we define compassionWhy compassion toward others, including those with whom we disagree, is importantA helpful compassion exercise
About Dr. Janina Scarlet
Dr. Janina Scarlet
Dr. Janina Scarlet is a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, a scientist, and a full-time geek. A Ukrainian-born refugee, she survived Chernobyl radiation and persecution. She immigrated to the United States at the age of 12 with her family and later, inspired by the X-Men, developed Superhero Therapy to help patients with anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Dr. Scarlet was awarded the Eleanor Roosevelt Human Rights award from the United Nations Association for Superhero Therapy. She is the author of “Superhero Therapy,” “Therapy Quest,” “Harry Potter Therapy,” “Dark Agents” Superwomen,” and “Supernatural Therapy”.
About Sara Schairer
Sara Schairer is the founder and executive director of Compassion It®, a nonprofit organization and global social movement whose mission is to inspire daily compassionate actions and attitudes.
Sara Schairer
A facilitator of the Compassion Cultivation Training® (CCT) course developed at Stanford University, Sara has led trainings for audiences of all walks of life, from corporate executives to inmates at a maximum-security prison. She also led compassion trainings in Africa sponsored by the Botswana Ministries of Health and Education and spent a week at a Rwandan refugee camp working on unleashing compassion within its health care system.
Sara is a contributing author to the book The Neuroscience of Learning and Development: Enhancing Creativity, Compassion, Critical Thinking and Peace in Education, and writes for Deepak Chopra’s Center for Wellbeing website.
Sara gives talks and leads experiential workshops on burnout prevention, implicit bias, mindfulness, and compassion. She also created the one-of-a-kind reversible Compassion It wristband that prompts compassionate actions on six continents, 50+ countries and all 50 states.
Resources
The Center for Stress & Anxiety ManagementSuperhero TherapyCompassion ItBe An AdvocateWristbandMeditation
- Compassion Focused Therapy with Dr. Russell Kolts
Burnout. It can happen at work, and it can happen to parents, too. Nowadays, with the COVID-19 pandemic, parents are especially stressed. They are navigating new roles and demands while trying to parent, teach their kids, and provide for their families. All of this with no childcare breaks. It’s the perfect storm for Parental Burnout.
In this episode, Dr. Lisa Coyne, a parenting and child expert at McLean Hospital/Harvard Medical School, speaks with Debbie about signs of parental burnout. She offers practical strategies to help. Dr. Coyne gives suggestions for talking with children and teenagers about the emotional aspects of coping with the pandemic. She provides us an exercise to help reconnect with their big-picture parenting values.
Listen and Learn
What is parental burnout?Who’s at risk?Why pandemic parenting may lead to parental burnoutSimple practices to shift fed-up mood states and increase self-compassionThe power of treating kids as if they’re about to do the next right thingStrategies to support emotional growth in kids of all ages The crucial first response when parenting frustrating kidsPutting “values and vulnerabilities” conversations to work for youA helpful values exercise for overtaxed parents
About Lisa Coyne Ph.D.
Dr. Lisa Coyne
Lisa W. Coyne, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist, assistant professor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, and founder of the McLean OCD Institute for Children and Adolescents (OCDI Jr.). She also founded and directs the New England Center for OCD and Anxiety and is a peer-reviewed Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) Trainer.
Dr. Coyne has authored or co-authored several books on parenting, children and families including The Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years; Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: The Clinician’s Guide for Supporting Parents; Stuff That’s Loud: A Teen’s Guide to Unspiraling when OCD Gets Noisyand Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway. She is the incoming president of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS) and earned her BA in Psychology from the University of Scranton and her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the University of Mississippi.
Resources
PRAXIS: An ACT Approach to Parental Burnout Webinar with Dr Lisa Coyne and Evelyn Gould“Dr. Lisa Coyne Offers Support for Kid and Teens During the Pandemic” McLean Hospital Webinar“Dr. Lisa Coyne Offers Tips to Help Parents Prevent Burnout” McLean Hospital Webinar“Dr. Lisa Coyne Shares Coping Strategies for Families During COVID-19” McLean Hospital Webinar“What Happened to American Childhood?” The Atlantic April 17, 2020 Article by Kate JulianThe Joy of Parenting: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Guide to Effective Parenting in the Early Years; by Lisa Coyne, Ph.D. and Amy R. Murrell Ph.D.Acceptance and Commitment Therapy: The Clinician’s Guide for Supporting Parents by Koa Whittingham Ph.D. and Lisa Coyne Ph.D.Stuff That’s Loud: A Teen’s Guide to Unspiraling when OCD Gets Noisyby Ben Sedley Ph.D. and Lisa Coyne Ph.D.Upcoming book for Pre-order: Stop Avoiding Stuff: 25 Microskills to Face Your Fears and Do It Anyway by Matt Boone, LCSW, Jennifer Gregg Ph.D. and Lisa Coyne Ph.D.
- Helping Adolescents Thrive with Dr. Louise Hayes116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune
Compassion is good for your body and brain. Caring for and collaborating with others is also key for a healthy future. In this episode, Dr. Paul Gilbert, founder of Compassion Focused Therapy, offers some wisdom and action steps to harness your compassionate mind and get through this pandemic, cooperatively.
Listen and Learn
How our brains evolved to cooperateHow you can use your compassionate mind to regulate your threat systemWhat is the “Flow of Compassion” and how can we use it to navigate COVID-19 and beyondThe science behind compassion for others/cooperationTips to not let the psychology of entrapment get the best of us in quarantineA heartening take on the impact of social distancing on our childrenWays to harness our drive system to strengthen immune function
About Dr. Paul Gilbert
Dr. Paul Gilbert
Paul Gilbert, FBPsS, Ph.D., OBE is Professor of Clinical Psychology at the University of Derby and honorary visiting Prof at the University of Queensland. Until his retirement from the NHS in 2016 he was Consultant Clinical Psychologist for over 40 years. Dr. Gilbert has researched evolutionary approaches to psychopathology with a special focus on mood, shame, and self-criticism in various mental health difficulties for which Compassion Focused Therapy was developed. He was made a Fellow of the British Psychological Society in 1993, president of the BABCP 2002-2004, and was a member of the first British Governments’ NICE guidelines for depression.
Dr. Gilbert has written/edited 21 books and over 250 papers and book chapters. In 2006 he established the Compassionate Mind Foundation as an international charity with the mission statement: To promote wellbeing through the scientific understanding and application of compassion. Dr. Gilbert was awarded an OBE by the Queen in March 2011 for services to mental health. He established and is the Director of the Centre for Compassion Research and Training at Derby University UK and has written and edited many books on compassion. His latest Book is Living Like Crazy.
Resources
The Compassionate Mind FoundationLiving Like Crazy, by Paul Gilbert, PhDThe Compassionate Mind, by Paul Gilbert, PhDIn the Battle Against Corona Virus, Humanity Lacks Leadership by Yuval Noah Harari
- Healing Racial Trauma with Dr. Kristee Haggins (Re-Release from June 2019)89. A Gift For You. Soothing Rhythm Breathing90. Dr. Paul Gilbert on Tricky Brains, Caring, and Living Like Crazy
If you – like us – are prone to parental guilt, struggle with pandemic parenting, and wonder if it’s possible to satisfy your own soul while raising kiddos then this is the episode for you! Dive in and join Yael for a candid discussion with KJ Dell’Antonia, former editor of The New York Times Motherlode Blog and author of How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute. KJ offers practical advice for pandemic parenting, on mindset shifts to increase parenting satisfaction, and in raising happy, healthy, capable, and resilient kids.
Listen and Learn
Why happier parents make for happier kidsWhy you can be happy – even when your children aren’t4 things happy parents do wellHow to find success with kids and chores How to approach screen time Why not accommodate your kid’s every whim
About KJ Dell’Antonia
DJ Dell'Antonia
KJ Dell’Antonia is the author of How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute and a regular contributor to the New York Times, where she covers the personal and policy aspects of parenthood. Her research, interviews and reporting on the topic are geared towards helping all of us figure out “how it’s done” in the bits of family life we find most challenging. KJ is the former editor of The New York Times’ Motherlode blog and co-host of the #AmWriting podcast. An attorney and former prosecutor, KJ is a graduate of Kansas State University and the University of Chicago Law School. She lives in Lyme, New Hampshire with her husband and four children.
Resources
Diana's free resource "My Summer Map for Kids"How to Be a Happier Parent: Raising a Family, Having a Life and Loving (Almost) Every Minute by KJ Dell’Antonia“Why I Won’t Sacrifice My Sanity to My Kid’s Online Schooling” WBUR April 27, 2020 Commentary by KJ Dell’Antonia“What Happened to American Childhood?” The Atlantic April 17, 2020 Article by Kate Julian“Turn Your Demanding Child Into a Productive Co-Worker” New York Times April 30, 2020 Article by Michaeleen Doucleffkjdellantonia.comInstagram and the #BooksThatWon’tBumYouOut seriesTwitter: @KJDellAntoniaFacebookKJ’s irregular emails about creative family life: http://followkj#AmWriting PodcastThe Chicken Sisters by KJ Dell’Antonia (released June 30, 2020)
- Educating Our Kids at Home with Julie Bogart75. Mindful-Self Compassion with Dr. Christopher Germer 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Dr. Yael Schonbrun
Wouldn’t it be great to feel more confident, courageous, and less stuck about decision-making? In this episode, Jill talks with Patrick McGinnis, who coined the term FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) about his new book Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice. Join us for this fun and rich discussion about the causes and pitfalls of FOMO. We also talk about FOMO’s darker cousin FOBO (Fear of a Better Option). Later get tips for how to overcome indecision You'll find the power to choose what’s right for you by honing your decision-making skills.
Listen and Learn
What are FOMO and FOBO? FOMO and FOBO’s evolutionary roots FOMO’s dark tollFOBO’s darker tollWhy FOMO’s good- in moderation- and FOBO’s always badHarnessing FOMO’s upside to work for youPatrick’s hacks to squelch indecisiveness Tips to help your kids not fall prey to FOMOHow FOMO and FOBO fluctuate across the lifespan
About Patrick McGinnis
Patrick J McGinnis is an international venture capitalist and author of Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice. Patrick coined the term FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) as well as the term FOBO (Fear of a Better Option) in a 2004 article in the student newspaper at the Harvard Business School. FOMO has since been added to the dictionary and FOBO has become an increasingly popular framework to describe analysis paralysis.
Patrick is the host of the hit podcast FOMO Sapiens, which is distributed by Harvard Business Review, and the author of the international bestseller The 10% Entrepreneur: Live Your Startup Dream Without Quitting Your Day Job. He has been featured in the New York Times, Politico, The Financial Times, the Guardian, and Inc, and gave a popular 2019 TED Talk on FOBO and decision-making. Patrick has traveled to 103 countries and lives in New York City.
Resources
Fear of Missing Out: Practical Decision-Making in a World of Overwhelming Choice by Patrick McGinnisThe 10% Entrepreneur: Live Your Startup Dream Without Quitting Your Day Jobby Patrick McGinnisWebsite: www.patrickmcginnis.com Podcast: FOMO Sapiens Instagram: @patrickjmcginnisTwitter: @pjmcginnisFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/ItsPatrickJMcGinnis
- Indistractable with Nir Eyal
We have been unexpectedly thrust into the responsibility of educating our children from home. How can we survive the "wandering nomads", boredom, video games, and parental fears that our children are “falling behind”? Is it possible to find magic, a love of learning, and joy while educating at home? In this episode, Diana interviews Julie Bogart, a master in compassionate, meaningful home education. Julie shares her homeschool expertise and practical tips for thriving while learning at home. She guides us on how to harness your children’s interests, build family bonds, and create life-long learners of our children while at home.
Listen and Learn:
How to embrace the home environment and flexibly shift our schooling methods How to use a child’s interests and values to support curiosity, problem-solving skills, and buy you some more time!Answers to common concerns about math, academic standards, and social connection when educating from homeHow to use the cozy home environment to nurture learning What Diana is doing (and not doing) with her kids during this wild learning experiment!Resources to transition to homeschooling if you choose to for the short/long termWhat to do when you are exhausted from it all
About Julie Bogart:
Julie Bogart
Julie Bogart is the popular voice of common sense and compassion for home educators. Her online coaching community, The Homeschool Alliance, her podcast, and her YouTube channel are lifelines for tens of thousands of weary homeschoolers all over the world.
Julie’s the author of The Brave Learner: Finding Everyday Magic in Homeschool Learning and Life. She also the creator of the award-winning, innovative online writing program called Brave Writer and the fast-growing weekly habit called Poetry Teatime. Julie home educated her five children who are now globe-trotting adults.
Today, Julie lives in Cincinnati, Ohio, and can be found sipping a cup of tea, planning her next visit to one of her lifelong-learning kids.
Resources:
Read Julie’s book The Brave Learner: Finding Everyday Magic in Homeschool Learning and Life.Find Julie on Social Media: Instagram, Twitter, FacebookJulie's online coursesGet Julie's summer resources for parents and kids by signing up to her email listHere is Julie's online resource for math at home: Boco MathDebbie's article on Medium.com Parents: Get Ready for The Summer of Boredom
- What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Dr. Schrag Hershberg9. Children’s Emotions: Understanding and Responding to Your Child’s Feelings
Join Yael for Part 2 of a truly transformative two-part series with Dr. Hanson about his latest book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. Continue to explore what’s happening in the brains of individuals who have made it their life’s work to develop a more grounded, calm and contented sense of being and learn more concrete and accessible practices from Neurodharma to develop your own unshakable core.
Listen and Learn:
How missing “the now” diminishes happinessThe neurological basis for how mindfulness increases wellbeingSimple hacks to take things less seriously and amplify happinessConcrete practices for increased awe, gratitude, and transcendenceWhy play and exuberance help hardwire Neurodharma seven power practices
About Dr. Hanson:
Dr. Rick Hanson
Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center, and the founder of The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. Dr. Hanson is also a meditation teacher and New York Times best-selling author of several books including his newest book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. Dr. Hanson’s other books include Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness; Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom; and Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence.
Dr. Hanson has spent decades both researching and steeping himself in neuroscience, clinical psychology and contemplative practices and is deeply committed to teaching people scientifically-validated methods to help them take charge of changing their brains for the better, from the inside out. Dr. Hanson received a B.A. from UCLA and his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Wright Institute.
Resources:
Neurodharma (affiliate link): Dr. Hanson’s 8-week online program in the practical science of a steady mind, kind heart and inner peace...SAVE $40: Promo Code: OFFTHECLOCK40The Foundations of Wellbeing (affiliate link): Dr. Hanson’s yearlong online program in positive neuroplasticity...SAVE $40: Promo Code: OFFTHECLOCK40 Being Well Podcast with Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest HansonThe Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative WisdomNeurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D.Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Forrest HansonHardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence, by Rick Hanson PhD Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Richard Mendius, MD Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time, by Rick Hanson Ph.D.Mother Nurture: A Mother’s Guide to Health in Body, Mind, and Intimate Relationships, by Rick Hanson Ph.D., Jan Hanson, and Ricki Pollycove, MDThe Neurodharma of Love: Rewire Your Brain for Healthy Relationships, an audio CD by Rick Hanson Ph.D. Just One Thing, Dr. Hanson’s free online newsletter
- Neurodharma with Dr. Rick Hanson (Part 1)122: Taking in the Good with Dr. Rick Hanson
What if you could grow a little stronger, more loving, calmer, and clearer each day? Starting today? And what if you sustain these qualities even during times of stress? This is possible, according to Dr. Rick Hanson, a neuropsychologist and senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center. He offers a set of concrete practices to develop seven key qualities steeped in ancient wisdom practices and cutting-edge neuroscience. Join Yael for the first episode of a transformative two-part series with Dr. Hanson about his latest book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness.
During the episode, you'll hear a fascinating discussion about what is happening in the brains of individuals who have made it their life’s work to develop a more grounded, calm, and contented sense of being. Then you'll have a chance to try some of the very accessible practices recommended in Neurodharma to develop your own unshakable core.
Listen and Learn:
What are Neurodharma’s seven power practices? Why mindfulness meditation is so powerfulHow savoring the good cultivates equanimity (and feels great!)The neurological basis for taking in the goodThe neurological basis for why suffering tends to stick in our brainsDr. Hanson’s personal favorite compassion exercises
About Dr. Hanson:
Dr. Rick Hanson
Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center, and the founder of The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. Dr. Hanson is also a meditation teacher and New York Times best-selling author of several books including his newest book, Neurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness. Dr. Hanson’s other books include Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness; Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom; and Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence.
Dr. Hanson has spent decades both researching and steeping himself in neuroscience, clinical psychology and contemplative practices and is deeply committed to teaching people scientifically-validated methods to help them take charge of changing their brains for the better, from the inside out. Dr. Hanson received a B.A. from UCLA and his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Wright Institute.
Resources:
Neurodharma (affiliate link): Dr. Hanson’s 8-week online program in the practical science of a steady mind, kind heart and inner peace...SAVE $40: Promo Code: OFFTHECLOCK40The Foundations of Wellbeing (affiliate link): Dr. Hanson’s yearlong online program in positive neuroplasticity...SAVE $40: Promo Code: OFFTHECLOCK40 Being Well Podcast with Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest HansonThe Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative WisdomNeurodharma: New Science, Ancient Wisdom, and Seven Practices of the Highest Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D.Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Forrest HansonHardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence, by Rick Hanson PhD Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Richard Mendius, MD Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time, by Rick Hanson Ph.D.Mother Nurture: A Mother’s Guide to Health in Body, Mind, and Intimate Relationships, by Rick Hanson Ph.D., Jan Hanson, and Ricki Pollycove, MDThe Neurodharma of Love: Rewire Your Brain for Healthy Relationships, an audio CD by Rick Hanson Ph.D. Just One Thing, Dr. Hanson’s free online newsletter
122: Taking in the Good with Dr. Rick Hanson
Many therapists have had clients who question the purpose of existence, or who are waiting until things change to start living life fully. As Dr. Robyn Walser gently reminds us in her latest book, The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, each moment spent waiting is another moment of life gone by. In this episode, Dr. Robyn Walser, a frequent guest of the podcast, and Debbie explore the power of connecting with our own mortality and existence, in order to cultivate a greater sense of aliveness and remind us to do what’s most important today.
“Since you're here anyway, you're here and you're conscious… What will you do? You can close down, and shut down, and hide and be afraid. Or you can take risks, and open up, and taste life as much as possible.” Dr. Robyn Walser
Listen and Learn:
Why getting in touch with our own death can enrich life by giving purpose to our existence.How ideas from existentialism can deepen therapy sessions How we can cultivate greater meaning and purpose during times of adversity (like COVID-19)Wise words for those who are reluctant to consider their own mortalityAbout the concept of “Compassionate Immediacy”Some tips to infuse more meaning into day-to-day lifeHow to build perspective-taking skills to increase freedom and choice
About Robyn Walser
Dr. Robyn Walser
Robyn D. Walser, Ph.D. is staff at the National Center for PTSD, co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Center and is an Assistant Clinical Professor at the University of California, Berkeley. As a licensed clinical psychologist, she maintains an international training, consulting and therapy practice. Dr. Walser is an expert in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and has co-authored 5 books on ACT including Learning ACT, 2nd Edition, The Mindful Couple, ACT for Clergy and Pastoral Counselors: Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to Bridge Psychological and Spiritual Care, and The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.
Resources:
The Heart of ACT: Developing a Flexible, Process-Based, and Client-Centered Practice Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Robyn WalserDebbie's blog post on how touching mortality can help us contact values and meaning. COVID Coach: Free mobile app from the National Center for PTSD designed to help EVERYONE in the community cope with feelings of stress and anxiety in response to the COVID-19 pandemicOnline course, Treating Trauma with ACT, with Dr. Robyn Walser
- Therapy from “The Heart of ACT” with Dr. Robyn Walser116. Building a Meaningful, Values-Based Life Episode with Dr. Jenna LeJeune133. Mental Health in the Age of COVID-19 with Dr. Robyn Walser37. Post-Traumatic Growth
If you’re anything like us, parenting—and most certainly parenting under quarantine—can feel tedious, exhausting, mundane, and sometimes downright maddening! Yet time and again parents say some of their deepest joys in life stem from the time shared with their children. In this rich episode, Yael speaks with parenting expert Dr. Daphne de Marneffe, author of Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life. They discuss the challenges of parenting for women. They talk about navigating seemingly competing interests in a manner that allows you to manage the stressors more wisely and experience more pleasure, when and where you can.
Listen and Learn:
The value of parenting for our children and ourselvesHow parenthood makes us more skillful in the workplace The value in being “around and there” (even if you are distracted)The emotional complexity of childcare Making household tasks feel less chore-likeWhy time is so important in our relationship with our childrenHow to value and honor the difficulties in parentingAnd how to value, honor, and take advantage of the times when we make parenting mistakes.
Dr. Daphne De Marnefe
About Dr. Daphne de Marneffe
Daphne de Marneffe, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, couples and parenting expert, and author of Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life and The Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together. Dr. de Marneffe’s clinical work and writing are informed by developmental psychology and her decades of experience treating couples and parents. Her work has been published in academic journals and the popular press, including The New York Times, and she is a contributing editor to Parents Magazine where she writes a regular column on couple relationships. Dr. De Marneffe received a B.A. from Harvard University and her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from U.C. Berkeley.
Resources:
Maternal Desire: On Children, Love, and the Inner Life, by Dr. Daphne de MarneffeThe Rough Patch: Marriage and the Art of Living Together, by Dr. Daphne de Marneffe Daphne’s website
Other Resources for Parents During Quarantine
A preprint of the article “First Things First: Parent Psychological Flexibility and Self-Compassion during COVID-19,” by Lisa Coyne, Evelyn Gould, Mikala Grimaldi, Kelly Wilson, Gabriel Baffuto, Anthony Biglan.
- What to do When Work, Parenting, and Partnership Collide During Quarantine92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de Marneffe
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) can be paralyzing and severely affect one’s life. Successfully diagnosing and treating OCD in the teen years gives young people their lives back by helping them meaningfully re-engage with friends, school, and life in general rather than losing hours a day to awful and unwanted thoughts.
In this episode, Jill talks with OCD expert and clinical psychologist Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona, author of The ACT Workbook for Teens with OCD: Unhook Yourself and Live Life to the Full by Patricia Zurita Ona, Psy.D.about this new resource that combines the best of Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) to successfully treat teens who struggle with OCD.
Listen and Learn:
What is Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP)?Why combine ERP and ACT for teens with OCD?Fun exercises like Scrambling and Singing Your Obsessions to engage teens Why this OCD expert adds “choice points” to every exposure session
About Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona
Dr. Patricia E. Zurita
Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona, or “Dr. Z.,” is a licensed clinical psychologist, founder of the East Bay Therapy Center in Walnut Creek, California, and author The ACT Workbook for Teens with OCD. She is also a faculty member at The Wright Institute in Berkeley, California and has authored Escaping the Emotional Roller Coaster: ACT for the Emotionally Sensitive and coauthored Parenting a Troubled Teen: Manage Conflict and Deal with Intense Emotions with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. Dr. Zurita Ona specializes in treating obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), trauma, anxiety and emotion regulation issues and works with children, teens, and adults. She is passionate about helping her clients unhook from fear to live the lives they were meant to live. Dr. Zurita Ona was born and raised in Bolivia and received her Psy.D. from the Wright Institute.
Resources
actbeyondOCD.com: Dr. Patricia Zurita Ona’s online class for people struggling with OCDThe ACT Workbook for Teens with OCD: Unhook Yourself and Live Life to the Full by Patricia Zurita Ona, Psy.D.Living Beyond OCD: An Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Workbook for OCD by Patricia Zurita Ona Psy.D. (published in October 2020)Parenting a Troubled Teen: Manage Conflict and Deal with Intense Emotions with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Patricia Zurita Ona Psy.D., Matthew McKay, Ph.D., and Kirk Stroshal, Ph.D.Escaping the Emotional Roller Coaster: ACT for the Emotionally Sensitive by Patricia Zurita Ona Psy.D.
- Is Your Self-Control Out of Control? with Hope Arnold (Part 1)79. Helping Adolescents Thrive with Dr. Louise Hayes78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud54. Anxiety in Children and Adolescents with Dr. Veronica Raggi
Trying to drag people to change doesn’t work. Motivational Interviewing (MI) is a collaborative approach that increases people’s inner motivation and commitment to positive change. Motivational Interviewing is used across numerous settings including weight loss, exercise, smoking, substance use, teaching, coaching and supports people in making change for themselves. In this episode, Diana interviews the co-founder of Motivational Interviewing, Dr. Stephen Rollnick. He discusses the power of empathy and open-ended questions as he demonstrates the spirit of Motivational Interviewing. He offers communication strategies you can use as a parent, teacher, coach, health care worker, partner or friend.
“The more we try to persuade people to change, tell them why it was a good idea, tell them how to go about it, the harder they seem to kick back.”Stephen Rollnick
Listen and Learn
How to use empathy to respond to ambivalence and resistanceHow you can speak with somebody to get the best out of themWhy being a problem solver isn’t always helpfulWhy affirmation is more powerful than praise when it comes to changeHow Motivational Interviewing is used in health care, pediatric AIDS and with athletesWhy being an expert can backfireHow even the co-founder of Motivational Interviewing falls into traps of pushing for change
About Stephen Rollnick
Dr. Stephen Rollnick
Dr. Stephen Rollnick is a co-founder of Motivational Interviewing. He an Honorary Distinguished Professor in the School of Medicine in Cardiff University, Wales, UK with a research record focused on good practice in efforts to promote change and behavior change among patients, clients and the practitioners who serve them.
His work has included support to programs for pregnant teens, children with HIV-AIDS in Africa and medication adherence in different areas. He is a co-founder of PATA (Paediatric Aids Treatment for Africa) and the Motivational Interviewing Network of Trainers (MINT), an international network for trainers. He is the co-author of Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change (Miller and Rollnick, 1991; 2001 & 2012), Health Behaviour Change: A Guide for Practitioners (Rollnick, Mason & Butler, 1999) and Motivational Interviewing in Health Care (Rollnick, Miller & Butler, 2008), Motivational Interviewing in Schools (2016) and Coaching Athletes to Be Their Best: Motivational Interviewing in Sports (2020).
Resources for Motivational Interviewing
Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change by Willaim Miller and Stephen RollnickMotivational Interviewing in Health Care by Stephen Rollnick, William Miller, and Christopher ButlerCoaching Athletes to Be Their Best: Motivational Interviewing in Sports by Stephen Rollnick, Johnathan Fader, and Jeff Breckon
- The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Dr. Hilary Connery66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Dr. Nadine Mastroleo72. Committed Action with Dr. DJ Moran3. The Science of Self-Compassion
We are facing an unprecedented challenge of how to work, parent, homeschool, and partner in the time of the Coronavirus Pandemic. During this tragedy, many of us have felt overwhelmed by the nuts and bolts of maintaining our most important life roles. In this episode, Yael and Diana draw from psychology research, personal experience, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). We discuss strategies to keep our heads above water in each of our life roles while keeping an eye towards finding slivers of possibility to support our work, parenting, and relationships during this quarantine.
Listen and learn:
How to soothe your nervous system when stressed-outStrategies to engage self-compassion and psychological flexibility How to take breaks, find meaning, and explore the possibilityPerspective shifting so that you can manage expectations, mistakes, and challengesTo look for opportunities for growth and joy in our parenting, work, and relationshipsWays to make room for complex emotions How to support positive connections between work, parenting, and relationships while quarantined
Resources:
Blessings of a Skinned Knee: Raising Self-Reliant Children, by Wendy Mogel
Learn more about self-compassion and resilience:
- Mindful Self-Compassion with Christopher Germer22. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson
Ideas for Parenting Effectively and Compassionately:
- The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Dr. Susan Pollak
Ideas for Managing Work Under Difficult Circumstances
- Strategies To Increase Focus And Work More Effectively58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Drs. Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin73. Essentialism With Greg McKeown83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance130. Working Less with Dr. Alex Pang
Ideas for Maintaining Healthy Partnerships
- Fostering A Connected Partnership61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values And Schemas With Dr. Avigail Lev92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Dr. Daphne de Marneffe
Learn about Values and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT):
- Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Dr. Jenna LeJeune121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Dr. Jill Stoddard
We all know we “should” move our bodies but some of us struggle with wanting to or get caught up in complicated, negative and rule-bound messages about how to move our bodies. Join Jill for an uplifting and motivating discussion with Dr. McGonigal, author of The Joy of Movement: How Exercise Helps Us Find Happiness, Hope, Connection, and Courage about the intrinsic power of movement for everybody, and ways to change your relationship with physical exercise so your brain comes to actually like, want, and need it!
Listen and Learn:
Tips to train your brain to find joy in movementThe surprising upside of lactic acidHow exercise improves and enhances social connection/communityThe power of moving in synchrony.
About Dr. Kelly McGonigal:
Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D. is a health psychologist, a lecturer at Stanford University, and best-selling author of The Upside of Stress and The Willpower Instinct. She also helped design the Stanford Compassion Cultivation Training, a course originally developed for the Stanford Center for Compassion and Altruism, that is now offered worldwide to help individuals cultivate greater empathy, compassion, and social connection. Dr. McGonigal has spent decades researching and steeping herself in neuroscience, health psychology, and movement practices and is deeply committed to translating the latest research from these fields to help others experience improved health, happiness, and wellbeing. Dr. McGonigal received her Ph.D. in psychology from Stanford University and a B.A. in psychology and B.S. in Communications from Boston University.
Resources:
Kellymcgonigal.comThe Joy of Movement: How Exercise Helps Us Find Happiness, Hope, Connection, and Courage by Kelly McGonigal, PhD The Upside of Stress: Why Stress is Good for You and How to Get Good at It by Kelly McGonigal, PhDThe Willpower Instinct: How Self Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It by Kelly McGonigal, PhDYoga for Pain Relief: Simple Practices to Calm Your Mind and Heal Your Body by Kelly McGonigal, PhD
- Willpower With Dr. Kelly McGonigal124. Nutritious Movement and Why it Matters with Katy Bowman, M.S.129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Dr. Jennifer Webb
Stress and anxiety levels are high right now due to the spread of the COVID-19 virus. In this episode, Dr. Stephen Porges offers us a model of our physiology of threat and strategies to boost feelings of safeness, especially with COVID-19 anxiety. Through the lens of Polyvagal theory, Dr. Porges and Diana explore what it means to be human in the face of infectious disease, trauma, and global uncertainty.
“To be able to be supportive to those who are around us if they're feeling anxious or uncomfortable, we can't just say to them, ‘forget it, it's not important.’ Polyvagal Theory says our goal, our responsibility, is to support those around us so that they feel safer.”Dr. Stephen Porges
Listen and Learn:
How Debbie and Diana are responding to current their own COVID-19 anxiety.What “prosocial distancing” is, and how you can participate.Debbie and Diana’s tips for refocusing on values, improving mental health, and maintaining social connection.How the Vagus Nerve regulates our response to stress.The heart-face connection and its role in feeling safe.Why your eyes and voice matter in co-regulating others. How the Polyvagal Theory informs our current understanding of trauma and treatment.The benefits of chanting, singing, and breathing together!
Stephen Porges
About Dr. Stephen Porges
Stephen W. Porges, Ph.D. is a Distinguished University Scientist at Indiana University where he is the founding director of the Traumatic Stress Research Consortium. He is Professor of Psychiatry at the University of North Carolina, and Professor Emeritus at both the University of Illinois at Chicago and the University of Maryland. He served as president of the Society for Psychophysiological Research and the Federation of Associations in Behavioral & Brain Sciences and is a former recipient of a National Institute of Mental Health Research Scientist Development Award. He has published more than 300 peer-reviewed papers across several disciplines including anesthesiology, biomedical engineering, critical care medicine, ergonomics, exercise physiology, gerontology, neurology, neuroscience, obstetrics, pediatrics, psychiatry, psychology, psychometrics, space medicine, and substance abuse. In 1994 he proposed the Polyvagal Theory, a theory that links the evolution of the mammalian autonomic nervous system to social behavior and emphasizes the importance of the physiological state in the expression of behavioral problems and psychiatric disorders. The theory is leading to innovative treatments based on insights into the mechanisms mediating symptoms observed in several behavioral, psychiatric, and physical disorders. He is the author of The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation (Norton, 2011), The Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe, (Norton, 2017) and co-editor of Clinical Applications of the Polyvagal Theory: The Emergence of Polyvagal-Informed Therapies (Norton, 2018). He is the creator of a music-based intervention, the Safe and Sound Protocol ™, which currently is used by more than 1400 therapists to improve spontaneous social engagement, to reduce hearing sensitivities, and to improve language processing, state regulation, and spontaneous social engagement.
Resources:
The Safe and Sound Protocol by Stephen PorgesMore information about Stephen Porges Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-regulation by Stephen PorgesThe Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory: The Transformative Power of Feeling Safe by Stephen PorgesSanta Barbara Song Circles Facebook group: Community Singing Network of the Central CoastWorldwide Song Circles: singworldwide.org
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In this episode, Dr. Alex Pang is back on the podcast to discuss his new book, Shorter: Work Better, Smarter, and Less - Here's How. Last time he came on the show (Episode 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Pang), Alex told our listeners about the surprising benefits of deliberate rest on productivity and creativity. In his new book, he takes his ideas to a new level by exploring how organizations can help prevent burnout and dissatisfaction, and even increase profits, by shifting to shorter workweeks.
In an era where overworking has been the norm, many of us feel we have to put in long hours at the office, and then go home to work even more. With modern technology, many feel the pressure to be working constantly. But a culture of overworking can be costly to individuals, leading to burnout and dissatisfaction. For organizations, a culture of overwork can lead to high turnover and employees who are less productive and creative than they could be.
By taking a fresh perspective on how we structure our work into shorter workweeks, Dr. Pang offers a hopeful alternative, backed up by research and successful examples, of a new workplace culture that supports a better work-life balance for all.
Listen and Learn:
How shorter workweeks can lead to…Increased retention More creative and focused workSustained productivity and profitabilityReduced office stigma
About Dr. Alex Pang
Dr. Alex Pang is the author of four books, including Shorter: Work Better, Smarter, and Less - Here's How, and Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less. He is the founder of Strategy and Rest, a consultancy devoted to helping companies and individuals harness the power of rest to shorten our workdays while staying focused and productive. He has given talks and workshops around the world about the 4-day week and the future of work, and how deliberate rest makes creative careers more productive and sustainable.
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Episode 45. Rest with Dr. Alex Pang
How often do you find yourself relating to your body as a physical being rather than a physical object? Celebrating what it can do for you instead of fixating on how it looks in the mirror? If you’re like most people, not often! All too often we find ourselves comparing how our body looks to narrowly-defined cultural ideals that are unhealthy, unsustainable, and just plain inaccessible!
In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Webb, associate professor at UNC Charlotte, and Yael discuss strategies for responding to the cultural messages that we receive in ways that cultivate body kindness and inclusivity.
Listen and Learn:
How looking at our body as process is more useful than looking at our body as an objectHow body shaming de-motivates healthy behaviors How to integrate an acceptance and commitment therapy take on “body flexibility”Specific practices to cultivate body flexibility and kindness
About Dr. Webb:
Jennifer Webb, Ph.D., is a clinical health psychologist and Associate Professor in the Department of Psychological Sciences at the University of North Carolina (UNC) in Charlotte, North Carolina. Dr. Webb is also the Director of the MIND-BATCH Lab at UNC Charlotte, which is dedicated to furthering research about positive psychology, mindfulness, body acceptance, culture, and health. Her research is informed by multiculturally inclusive values and Dr. Webb is specifically interested in the experience of young ethnic minority women as well as the effects of weight-related body shaming and the mind-body connection on appetite, metabolism, and weight. Dr. Webb received her bachelor’s degree in Cognitive Neuroscience from Harvard University and her Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Southern California.
Resources:
To learn more about Jennifer’s research, follow these links:
https://www.researchgate.net/profile/Jennifer_Webb2https://www.researchgate.net/lab/MIND-BATCH-Lab-Jennifer-B-WebbRealizing Yoga’s All-Access Pass: A Social Justice Critique of Westernized Yoga and Inclusive MovementIs “Yoga Bod” the New Skinny?: A Comparative Content Analysis of Mainstream of Yoga Lifestyle Magazine CoversThe interview with Jennifer on the Body Kindness podcast
To learn more about yoga inclusivity resources, check out the following:
Yoga and Body Image CoalitionAccessible YogaDecolonizing YogaBody Positive YogaCurvy YogaJessamyn StanleyDianne BondyYes! Yoga Has Curves
According to Dr. Rhonda Merwin, individuals with anorexia and low weight are, “doing exactly what society has told them makes sense to be a good person.” At the same time, having anorexia and being over-controlled with food narrows your life, increases preoccupation with weight, and has negative health consequences. ACT offers a novel approach to treating eating disorders. By stepping back from eating disorder thoughts, identifying values and increasing acceptance and willingness, men and women can gain headway in recovery from one of the most difficult mental health issues.
In this episode, Diana talks with Dr. Rhonda Merwin, Associate Professor at Duke University Medical Center and lead author of ACT for Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide for Clinicians about ways to apply ACT to find freedom from anorexia and restrictive eating.
In honor of National Eating Disorder Awareness Week, this episode is dedicated to all who are seeking recovery in their relationship with food and weight. May you find peace. #NEDAwareness #ComeAsYouAre
Listen and Learn
The power of appreciating the benefits of an eating disorderWhy some people at higher risk for anorexia or restrictive eatingWhy ACT is especially effective for anorexia and disordered eatingWhat functional analysis is and how to use it to assess and treat disordered eatingWhat it means to be “emotion phobic” and how it relates to restrictive eatingWhy over-working, people-pleasing, and being compliant are often linked to anorexiaHow to create a more flexible sense of self that is not coupled with the eating disorderThe role that self-parenting plays in recovery from an eating disorderWhat is it really like to have ACT co-founder Kelly Wilson as your mentor?
About Dr. Rhonda Merwin
Rhonda Merwin, Ph.D. is a licensed psychologist and Associate Professor in the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Duke Medical Center. She conducts research on the mechanisms and treatment of eating disorders, specifically restrictive eating disorders and eating disorders in the context of Type 1 Diabetes. Dr. Merwin is also a Peer-Reviewed ACT Trainer, the Director of the ACT at Duke University Clinical and Training Program, and lead author of ACT for Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide for Clinicians.
Resources
ACT for Anorexia Nervosa: A Guide for Clinicians, by Rhonda Merwin, Ph.D., Nancy Zucker, Ph.D., and Kelley Wilson, PhDACT at Duke.org for further information about Dr. Merwin’s research and educational and clinical activitiesAppetite Awareness Training with Dr. Linda Craighead, Psychologists Off the Clock Episode #18Self Care, Kindness and Living Well with Dr. Kelly Wilson, Psychologists Off the Clock Episode #65
Diana with Dr. Rhonda Merwin
If you’re a parent you’ve likely had your buttons pushed by your toddler in the throes of a tantrum. We know we have! It’s downright difficult to handle your toddler’s distress and maintain your cool when they’re howling about you doing it “all wrong” … for the sixth time today.
In this episode Yael speaks with Dr. Schrag Hershberg, a clinical psychologist and author of The Tantrum Survival Guide: Tune into Your Toddler’s Mind (and Your Own) to Calm the Craziness and Make Family Fun Again, about what tantrums are, how to reduce their frequency and duration, and new and creative ways for parents to manage their own responses to these developmentally appropriate emotional meltdowns.
Listen and Learn:
What are tantrums and what function do they serve?Strategies to reduce the intensity, frequency, and duration of tantrumsCommon causes of toddler tantrumsHow to reconnect with that loving feeling during a meltdown or painful developmental phaseCreative ways to interrupt a tantrumWhy timeouts and tantrums don’t mixStriking the balance between love and limits
About Dr. Schrag Hershberg:
Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and founder of the Little House Calls Psychological Services which is based in New York and aimed at helping parents and families manage early childhood challenges. Dr. Schrag Hershberg is also the mother of two young boys and the author of The Tantrum Survival Guide: Tune into Your Toddler’s Mind (and Your Own) to Calm the Craziness and Make Family Fun Again. She
Resources:
The Tantrum Survival Guide: Tune into Your Toddler’s Mind (and Your Own) to Calm the Craziness and Make Family Fun Again by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, Ph.D.“Stop Posting You Child’s Tantrum on Instagram” New York Times August 22, 2019 Opinion Page Article by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg, Ph.D. and Daniel T. Willingham, Ph.D.“To Give In or Not Give in” Psychology Today Blog Post by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg“Just Another Gratitude Post” Psychology Today Blog Post by Rebecca Schrag Hershberg“Beautiful Two’s” from Joel Mitchell
Your brain is “Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones,” according to neuropsychologist Dr. Rick Hanson. What if you could re-wire your brain to be more grateful, loving, and resilient? In today’s episode, Dr. Hanson offers strategies to use self-directed neuroplasticity changing your brain for the good and developing resilience and wellbeing. Dr. Hanson is a senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center, a pioneer in the field of positive neuroplasticity, and teaches how taking in moments of good can sculpt your brain for the better.
Listen in to hear Diana and Rick Hanson embark on a heartfelt and deeply personal discussion about developing resilient wellbeing one day at a time. Dr. Hanson shares wisdom from his recent book Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness. Start developing key inner strengths like grit, compassion, and gratitude today!
The brain is continually being changed...the only question is, 'is it being changed for the better and who is doing the changing?’Rick Hanson
Listen and Learn:
What is self-directed neuroplasticityHow to shift our brain’s negativity bias toward inner qualities of wisdom, love, and enduranceStrategies to face our middle of the night fears and what Diana does to soothe her threat systemTips on matching specific inner resources and threatsHow to grow psychological resources using the H.E.A.L. practice for developing resilience and wellbeing
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About Dr. Hanson:
Rick Hanson, Ph.D., is a psychologist, senior fellow at the UC Berkeley Greater Good Science Center, and the founder of The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. Dr. Hanson is also a meditation teacher and New York Times best-selling author of several books including Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness; Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom; and Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence. Dr. Hanson has spent decades both researching and steeping himself in neuroscience, clinical psychology, and contemplative practices and is deeply committed to teaching people scientifically-validated methods to help them take charge of changing their brains for the better, from the inside out. Dr. Hanson received a B.A. from UCLA and his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from the Wright Institute.
Resources:
Being Well Podcast with Dr. Rick Hanson and Forrest HansonThe Foundations of Wellbeing, Dr. Hanson’s yearlong online program in positive neuroplasticity. Enter OFFTHECLOCK40 to save $40!!!The Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative WisdomResilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength and Happiness, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Forrest HansonHardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm and Confidence, by Rick Hanson PhD Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, by Rick Hanson Ph.D. with Richard Mendius, MD Just One Thing: Developing a Buddha Brain One Simple Practice at a Time, by Rick Hanson PhD Mother Nurture: A Mother’s Guide to Health in Body, Mind, and Intimate Relationships, by Rick Hanson Ph.D., Jan Hanson, and Ricki Pollycove, MD The Neurodharma of Love: Rewire Your Brain for Healthy Relationships, an audio CD by Rick Hanson PhD Just One Thing, Dr. Hanson’s free online newsletter
Some of us have a harder time managing our emotions. Therefore, we find ourselves engaging in destructive behaviors to cope. Enter Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). Developed by Dr. Marsha Linehan, DBT is proven to help people manage overwhelming emotions. It does so by teaching people specific change-based strategies. Because of this, DBT skills help people regulate their emotions. In this episode, Diana speaks with psychologist and author Dr. Matthew McKay. They discuss his newly revised book, The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance. In this book, Dr. McKay makes traditional DBT skills more practical and accessible to everyone. Because let’s be honest. We could all use skills to help us more effectively downregulate strong emotions from time to time!
“Helping people get down-regulation skills is really important, not only to help them feel better emotionally but to also help them lead less impulsive and dangerous lives.”Dr. Matthew McKay
Listen and Learn
Key DBT skills useful in regulating emotionsWhat three behaviors perpetuate emotion dysregulationWhy some people are better at regulating their emotions than othersTips to reduce emotional vulnerability
About Dr. McKay
Matthew McKay, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, CA. He is the co-director of the Bay Area Trauma Recovery Clinic with Robyn Walser. Dr. McKay is the co-founded Haight Ashbury Psychological Services, a low-fee community clinic in San Francisco, CA. He is the founder of New Harbinger Publications. Dr. McKay received his Ph.D. in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology.
Dr. McKay is also an accomplished writer. He has authored many books including “The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook,” “The New Happiness: Practices for Spiritual Growth and Living with Intention,” “The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook,” “Self-Esteem, Thoughts and Feelings,” “When Anger Hurts,” and “ACT on Life Not on Anger.”
Resources for Practicing DBT Skills
The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance by Matthew McKay, Ph.D., Jeffery Wood, PsyD, and Jeffery Brantley, MD The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Card Deck: 52 Practices to Balance Your Emotions Everyday by Matthew McKay, Ph.D. and Jeffery Wood, Psy.D.
- Emotion Efficacy with Dr. Aprilia West109. How to Loosen Up and Be Less Overcontrolled: Radically Open DBT with Hope Arnold (part 2)108. Is Your Self-Control Out of Control? with Hope Arnold (Part 1)
Disability is an experience that millions of people have, and yet it is often overlooked in discussions related to diversity and inclusivity. Today Debbie talks with Dr. Erin Andrews, a rehab psychologist and advocates for disabilities rights.
Listen and Learn:
Why it’s okay to #SayTheWord Disability.How our attitudes related to Disability can contribute to stigma and shame.Disability culture, and models of Disability.Disability issues Related to parenting and children.How we could do better, and why we need to!
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About Dr. Erin Andrews:
Dr. Erin Andrews is a clinical associate professor at Dell Medical School and supervisory psychologist and the co-director of psychology training at the Central Texas Veterans Health Care System. She is a board-certified rehab psychologist with her doctorate from Wright State University and a Bachelor of Science from Michigan State University. Dr. Andrews has had numerous publications and professional lectures on disability topics related to her areas of research interest in disability culture, identity and inclusion. She is a past co-chair of the APA Committee on Disability Issues in Psychology and chair of Division 22 Disability Identity Committee from its inception until 2018. Dr. Andrews has completed innovative work to address the needs of parents with disabilities. She is a co-founder of the Disabled Parenting Project (DPP), a resource for support and information for parents and prospective parents with a wide range of disabilities. Her advocacy work in this area includes representing the American Psychological Association (APA) during a 2013 congressional briefing regarding parents with disabilities and participating in a White House forum on the civil rights of parents with disabilities in May 2016. Dr. Andrews has received numerous awards for her work, most recently an APA Citizen Psychologist Presidential Citation in 2018.
Resources:
Erin’s book, Disability as Diversity: Developing Cultural Competence is now available!Article “#SayTheWord: A Disability Culture Commentary on the Erasure of ‘Disability’”Dr. Erin Andrews’s professional webpage: https://dellmed.utexas.edu/directory/erin-andrewsDisabled Parenting Project: http://www.disabledparenting.com/author/erin/Stella Young’s TED TalkRhoda Olkin’s book What Psychotherapists Should Know About Disability.No Pity: People with Disabilities Forging a New Civil Rights Movement by Joseph ShapiroAPA Division 22: Rehab Psychology Webpage: https://division-rehabpsych.squarespace.com/List of Suggested Reading in Rehab Psychology APA Citizen Psychologist