The Lily Pod: Recent Episodes
Linneah Shanti
Welcome to The Lily Pod! -- The podcast that seeks to explore the layers of social conditioning in connection to gender, sexuality, political “wokeness”, relationships, and identity. Settle in and get cozy as we dive into the facets of intersectional feminism, the polarity of modern politics, and learning to question literally everything!!! /// Artwork by Katherine Forsyth /// Hope for Tomorrow by Tokyo Music Walker, Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Music promoted by Audio Library
from exploring the ambiguities of platonic intimacies, to unpacking the depths of mistrust stemming from circumstances of boundary-breaking in the name of male desire, this episode is here to make space for all the feelings around what it means to be in friendship with men.
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time to grab a warm cup of tea, put on your favourite socks, and tend to your heart by slowing down for a minute.
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girl dinner: normalized self-neglect or a liberated expression of feminine chaos? girl math: a reproduction of sexist stereotypes or an assertation of desire for youth and irresponsibility? find out in this week's episode that explores the entangled depths of meaning surrounding the online discourse that is 'girl theory'.
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this week i'm here to chat with you about all the hot topics, including but not limited to: my favourite autumn rituals, femininity and armpit hair, how to cope with burnout, and brainstorming love confessions.
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this week's ep is a jumble of thoughts ranging from existential oversharing over coffee with friends, the manic-pixie-dream-girl (but make her mentally unstable) characters of the 2010s, and mermaid erotica book recommendations.
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this week we're taking a look at the construction of feminine archetypes as patriarchal measurements of womanhood; exploring their empowering potential; and how this gets complicated when gender essentialism comes into the mix.
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this episode is just 25 minutes of me gushing over greta gerwig. come hang out!!
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this episode tackles the worldwide phenomenon of the "girl crush" -- exploring her connection to the fetishization of queer women, the wide world of queerbaiting, and responding to the age-old sapphic question: do I want to BE her or be WITH her?
Walking with Purpose
Powerful conversations and discussions regarding social issues, relationships, life...
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this episode pulls its inspiration from Erin Wunker's 2016 book Notes from a Feminist Killjoy: Essays on Everyday Life - a literary portal through which we may all enter for the next 30 minutes in an honest discussion about the nuances of female friendship under patriarchy, the limitations of hetero-relational messaging, and our collective obligation to confront internalised misogyny.
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this week's episode is centered around the cultural devaluation of femininity, with a splash of commentary on modern vigilantism, the nuances of reclaiming the 'slut' phase, and the politics of being un/desirable.
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welcome back for another little mix n match convo of this week's most potent reflections - from dyeing my hair pink to bringing sacred intention to each passing moment... happy to be here with you.
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this episode explores the cinematic history of the queer monster, centering the figure of the lesbian vampire in an analysis the trope of the 'monstrous other' fundamental to the horror genre. particularly focusing on the 1971 film Daughters of Darkness, this episode shares a queer interpretation of cinematic tropes while highlighting the critical role of camp as a subversive tool of reclamation.
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cozy up for a hodge-podge of this week's reflections!
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this episode can be summed up in a single quote:
"did you ever have an intense homoerotic years-long friendship in your early to mid teens that culminated in a dramatic friend breakup or are you straight?"
(quoted from @permutedgravity on twitter)
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this week's episode is answering all your questions around familiarizing ourselves with intimacy, the importance of context, navigating nerves around queer sex, and locating our desires outside of compulsory sexuality.
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Talk Dirty To Me
Four different friends with four different perspectives on kink, fetish, and sex,...
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hey! let's curl up and chat about the clarity of aloneness, winter embodiment practices, and nurturing self intimacy :)
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Talk Dirty To Me
Four different friends with four different perspectives on kink, fetish, and sex,...
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this ep is a little farewell to 2022, hello to 2023, and an ode to understanding home, self, reflection, and love.
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Talk Dirty To Me
Four different friends with four different perspectives on kink, fetish, and sex,...
Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify
have you taken a deep belly breath yet today? .........take this as ur sign. <3
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Talk Dirty To Me
Four different friends with four different perspectives on kink, fetish, and sex,...
Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify
This episode is released as part of a university project for SSDB 425: Ethics in Community Engagement at Concordia University
This week's episode centers around an interrogation of the principal elements of rape culture, drawing from the work of scholars who aim to understand the structure, functioning, and reinforcement of a culture of sexual violence. In it, we will explore the nuances of understanding consent, relations, and agency within spaces, structures, and dynamics of coercion, all in attempts to re-work understandings of consent within a culture of naturalized violence.
Sexual Violence Resources
National (Canada)
https://endingviolencecanada.org/sexual-assault-centres-crisis-lines-and-support-services/
MTL based
https://centredesfemmesdemtl.org/en/personal-support/psychosocial-support/
https://www.cvasm.org/en/
https://sexualviolencehelpline.ca/cvasm-1/our-organization
https://www.hoodstock.ca/
References
Henry, N., & Powell, A. (Eds). (2014). Preventing Sexual Violence: Interdiscplinary Approaches to Overcoming a Rape Culture. Palgrave Macmillan.
Johnson, D., & Johnson, N. (2021). An Empirical Exploration Into the Measurement of Rape Culture. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 36(1-2), 70-95. https://doi.org/10.1177/0886260517732347
Morgan, C. (2022). Visions for Justice and Critiquing Consent: On Taking Performativity Out of Performance. Journal of Consent-Based Performance 1(2), 80-110.
Radtke, L., Barata, P., Senn, C., Thurston, W., Hobden, K., Newby-Clark, I., & Eliasziw, M. (2020). Countering Rape Culture with Resistance Education. In D. Crocker, J. Minaker, & A. Nelund (Eds.), Violence Interrupted: Confronting Sexual Violence on University Campuses. McGill-Queen’s University Press.
here's a soft little episode to welcome in november <3 cozy on up for a mixed jumble of chats about uni, making queer friends, and the ambivalence of defining love.
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all in the festive spirit of spooktober, this ep is dedicated to unravelling the relationship between queerness, feminine sexuality, and the horror genre. if you didn't see Carrie as a closeted lesbian on your first viewing, you will now :-)
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Smart Passive Income Podcast
Weekly interviews, strategy, and advice for building your online business the smart way.
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today's ep is brought to you by nostalgia™ ~ here to have a cozy chat about comfort zones, alone time, and how easily we can get in the way of our own peace.
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Smart Passive Income Podcast
Weekly interviews, strategy, and advice for building your online business the smart way.
Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify
is it enjoyment, or just escapism? find out in today's ep on love island, normalised misogyny, and the slippery slope of reality tv viewing.
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The Short Box: A Comic Book Podcast
Join four lifelong friends for entertaining discussions about comics and culture.
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hello flowers! <3 i'm back from my break with a short n sweet ep to ask the question ~ what in your life makes you feel like you need to reset? ....and why are you letting it stick around?
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in honour of the last few hours of pride month.... this one goes out to all my kehlani listening femmes out there..... i see u! ;) & i'm here to ramble for 30 mins on behalf of those of us who are all still carrying around a little invisible backpack of internalized heteronormativity, queer imposter syndrome, and feminine shame (despite thinking we may have escaped it once we left high school!). cozy up and get ready to feel gay.
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this week's ep is a collaborative convo with a dear friend and recurring Lily Pod guest, Hannah Thiessen <3 we're here to answer all your sweet questions about everything from attachment styles to boundary-setting, friendship idealization, and compulsory crushes. get cozy!
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Pullback
Pullback digs into the everyday ethics behind goods and services, consumer movements,...
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The Capricorner
Dating, relationships, psychology, and copious controversy - Capricorn style!
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think of this episode as an unofficial former-not-like-other-girls group therapy session - the one we all know we need.
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Create Content with Confidence
Listen to The Proffitt Podcast for the best content tips, strategies, and resources.
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this one goes out to all my fellow people pleasers....... i'm calling us all out in this one xoxoxox
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Create Content with Confidence
Listen to The Proffitt Podcast for the best content tips, strategies, and resources.
Listen on: Apple Podcasts Spotify
welcome back to another chat where we're busy figuring out how to enjoy a good summer frolic without the company of the internalized male gaze; what it means to name compulsory (sexual/gender) performances; and how to escape the trap of personating desirability.
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welcome back to another week <3 your gal is back and more vulnerable than ever in this episode focused on the troublesome-to-navigate world of self-compassion, forgiveness, and sensitivity. from the gifted kid to burnt-out adult pipeline to the rocky road of overthinking disguised as self-reflection, this episode is ready to make you feel secure in all your insecurities.
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y'all ready to get up close n personal??? this week i'm answering all your questions about the gal on the other end of your screen ~ am i a fruit or a veggie? an introvert or extrovert? someone who knows wtf she's doing or the complete opposite? cozy up and come listen to me talk about myself for (way) too long <3
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feeling unhinged?? GOOD. this episode is all about unhinged female characters ~ and we why we're completely obsessed with them. whether you see Amy Dunne as a feminist icon or a psychopathic villain (or both???), we're here to unpack what it is about characters like her that makes us so captivated. hint: your level of captivation may coincide with the amount of female rage stored in your body. saddle up and get ready to let loose of those hinges!!!!
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in this episode, I'm joined by my most special guest yet, my darling mum and registered psychotherapist, Jeffi Farquharson. in perfect alignment with our iconic conversational style we've coined as "snack night", we're jumping all over the place in this one! join us as we explore the reality of generation gaps in learning, the gender playfulness of dress-up boxes, backyard bra-burning, informing our intuition, and the magic of naps.
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welcome back to another week of The Lily Pod! <3 in this week's episode, we're here to dissect the ~potentially problematic~ aspects of today's culture of sex positivity. we're questioning how dominating social norms of sexuality serve to disempower us from our individual agency, dissecting the impacts of purity & hookup culture, taking into account the nuances of personal experience in regards to gender, sexuality, and desire, and ultimately arguing why we should all be pro pleasure!
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i'm joined this week with El (@fey.fatale on ig), a queer Pākehā Tangata Tiriti activist from Aotearoa (New Zealand) who's here to talk with me about the personal and political components of fashion. we're covering topics such as how to liberate ourselves through style expression, the interconnectedness of fashion and queer identity, & the history of gendered fashion as a colonial tool for reinforcing hierarchy.
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welcome back to The Lily Pod! <3 here we are, starting off season 2 with a good old fashioned discussion about gender, desire, and validation. here to unpack the baggage of identity curation rooted in the desire for male validation, we're starting off the new year with big questions about what it means to be feminine, how this is shaped by gender segregation, and society's obsession with pinning women against each other. cozy up and get ready to ask yourself if you even know who you are outside of gendered categories.
here to bring you hot takes about the nuances of boundaries, what it really means to ~protect ur energy~, understanding accountability, and why we need to stop labelling things as 'valid', this ep's wrapping it up for the year with a mixed bag of opinions ready to rock the boat.
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this episode is revisiting everyone's fav topic of discussion ~the male gaze~ ! we'll be chatting about the internalized male gaze in the context of the panopticon; how they operate as similar systems of power, why they're so effective, and how we might(?) be able to escape them(????).
this episode is an introduction to the concept of compulsory heterosexuality as defined by Adrienne Rich (1980). we'll be diving into the deep end of heteropatriarchy, exploring how it shapes our relationships, our decisions, our sex lives, and our understandings of queerness. from chatting about childhood crushes, to internalized homophobia, to the infamous 'Am I a Lesbian' masterdoc, this ep is here to guide you in questioning whether your choices are intentional or compulsory.
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joining me on the pod this week is my dearest friend Rose!! come n hang out with our chaotic giggly energy as we chat about everything from friendship, to boogying, to queerness, to reimaginations of romance.
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this episode is a get-to-know-me intro of the guy we all know as the green-eyed monster (+ maybe get into how we misjudged him???) - there'll be chats about how jealousy manifests, how it's romanticized, what behaviours it perpetuates, and how to confront it with the radical act of ~self-compassion~! let's get into it babes!!!!
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this episode is unpacking all the baggage that comes with the over-romanticization of life --- somewhere we've all probably been, but might not even be aware of. we'll be talking about everything from main character syndrome, to the dangers of seeing your life as a movie, to the insidious nature of social media trends (~that girl~ morning routine, anyone???). can we come to a conclusion on how to distinguish authenticity from performance? let's find out.
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in this episode, we'll be talking about all the ways in which sex ed curriculums set us up for failure, with particular focus to their perpetuation of sexual shame, exclusions of queerness, and biiiig lack of understanding consent. with a bite-sized consent education introduction, some discussion around heteronormative-centered sex ed, and answering some of your sex-related questions, this one's got a lot going on!
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this episode is a little exploration of the female gaze in film -- what it is, how it appears, and how it differs from the male gaze. we'll also be digging into some critiques of how these two gazes reinforce binaries of identity, gender, and personal experience, all while taking into consideration the subversive role of queer desire!
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this episode is a fun little collab with my partner of (almost) 4 years, Marco! come hang out with us as we chat about all things ~lurv~! from handling conflict/resolution with opposing communication styles, prioritizing playfulness, exploring love languages, dealing with relationship FOMO, and navigating queer identity in a straight passing relationship, we're digging it allll up baby. join in! xoxoxo
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this week's episode is a collaboration with the wonderful Lori (connect on Twitter @doingthemost__ !), who is here to talk about the role of whitewashing in celebrity and pop culture, with particular consideration to the infamous Kardashian family as the new faces of modern white feminism. from discussions of appropriation, aesthetics, racial ambiguities, and accountability, Lori guides us in a conversation that allows us to question our position in the idolization of celebrities.
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References"How Mothering Black Children Changed the Kardashians", Boylorn & Frank (2021). https://slate.com/culture/2021/06/kardashians-relationship-to-blackness.html
"Keeping up with the Kardashians is Ending. But Their Exploitation of Black Women's Aesthetics Continues", Lang (2021). https://time.com/6072750/kardashians-blackfishing-appropriation/
"The Kardashians' Multiracial White Supremacy", Neyra (2020). https://www.publicbooks.org/the-kardashians-multiracial-white-supremacy/
"The Problematic Reason Kim Kardashian Became a Beauty Icon", Barkho (2016). https://www.teenvogue.com/story/kim-kardashian-beauty-icon-problem
feelin' like a fraud? you're not alone, baby. coming back full swing with an episode on dealing with imposter syndrome, negative internal dialogue, and perfectionistic overthinking, we'll be exploring three different types of imposters: The Perfectionist, The Natural Genius, and The Soloist. how do they show up? and how do you get them to f off??? settle on in as we do a little dive into understanding the power of insecurity combined with symptoms of systemic bias.
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References
"**Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome", Burey & Tulshyan (February 2021). https://hbr.org/2021/02/stop-telling-women-they-have-imposter-syndrome
I'm joined this week by my dear friend and Art History major, Liv Deresti-Robinson, who's here to talk with me all about the myth of the male genius within the artistic industry; how this myth preserves rape culture, sustains hierarchy, and consistently excuses toxicity. from talking about god complexes, to the ever-debated question of whether or not we can (or should!) separate the art from the artist, this episode's all about unpacking the hierarchical nature of the artistic industry in which the "male genius" is worshipped, celebrated, and immortalized.
read the article that inspired this episode! > https://www.google.ca/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2017/11/10/arts/sexual-harassment-art-hollywood.amp.html
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this episode is dedicated to unpacking the often egocentric world of manifestation, including its ties to consumerism, capitalism, privilege, and entitlement. we'll be exploring factors of trendiness, self-manipulation, victim-blaming, and discrediting reality. cozy up and get ready!!!! she's a zinger.
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joining me on the pod this week for a conversation about gender, fluidity, and personal expression is the lovely Theodore Forest (connect on Instagram at @thetransacademic), who recently spoke at a subversions conference about the effects prolonged isolation has had on gender expression during the pandemic. Theo shares with us the intricacies of navigating gender identity, expression, and presentation within the context of extensive isolation through a unique lens of lived transgender experience.
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in this week's episode, we're delving into the world of queering heteronormative narratives and characters in cinema + TV! with explanation of the history of queer coding, the role of censorship in stereotyping queerness in cinema, and Hollywood's love for queer baiting, this episode's got it alllll.
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link to Tech Colonialism Today by Sareeta Amrute: https://points.datasociety.net/tech-colonialism-today-9633a9cb00ad
this week's ep is about the surface-level bullsh*t that comes along with pride month, all thanks to capitalism, commercialization, and branding <3 lots of chats about commodification, performativity, and the one-size-fits all approach that corporations love to take when showing their "support" of the LGBTQ+ community during the month of june.
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link to Digital Colonialism: The evolution of US empire by Michael Kwet -- https://longreads.tni.org/digital-colonialism-the-evolution-of-us-empire#:~:text=Digital%20colonialism%20is%20the%20use,of%20another%20nation%20or%20territory.
this week's episode is a conversation with my good friend and singer-songwriter Josh Ritchie, who's sharing with us the creative process behind his latest EP inspired by the Black Lives Matter movement. Josh shares with us his experience of writing, recording, and producing the songs for this EP (available June 13th, 2021!), along with his involvement in leading the Black Lives Matter march in his hometown of Wiarton, Ontario back in June 2020. tune in as we talk about the complexities of engaging in activism during a pandemic, the role of social media in promoting education and awareness, and how to integrate social change in everyday life.
click the link to pre-save Josh's EP on Spotify! > https://show.co/vNyNYeT?fbclid=IwAR2JVkRq8_D64j-WBFZLU9MCiP9EXahstfWLI-BcLHIFOi2OguJzuDGxGnU
+ follow @joshritchiemusic_ on Instagram
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link to Decolonizing Technology: a reading list - Beatrice Martini: https://beatricemartini.it/blog/decolonizing-technology-reading-list/in this episode, i'll be chatting about the never-ending search for identity, the different ways we seek external validation, and how identity trends encourage us to become overly self-involved. psa: if ur an astrology peep, u may want to sit down for this one <3
Technology Colonialism by Anjuan Simmons - https://modelviewculture.com/pieces/technology-colonialismjoining me this week is my wonderful friend Antea Zivanovic, who is here with me to guide a conversation on platonic intimacy! we'll be chatting about everything from the representation of platonic vs. romantic relationships, the importance of intentional language, understanding the nuances of friendship, trauma dumping, and the beauty of saying 'I love you'. cuddle up with a cup o' tea and join in....... and don't forget to tell ur friends u love them.
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Citizenship in a Connected Canada: A Research and Policy Agenda -- access the free pdf here: https://cdn.fbsbx.com/v/t59.2708-21/174806879_279912320434985_6679072594694315411_n.pdf/Citizenship-in-a-Connected-Canada.pdf?_nc_cat=102&ccb=1-3&_nc_sid=0cab14&_nc_ohc=tfSFIG81-7sAX9nfCbu&_nc_ht=cdn.fbsbx.com&oh=a8d3586ad94648e13c42a1323e8f1ea4&oe=60920A68&dl=1
this week's episode is a fun little collab with the oh so lovely Armaan Hashemi-Webb, who's joining me in (a slightly chaotic) conversation about bisexuality, mixed race identity, gender segregation, taking ownership of your identity, and saying a big F U to societal standards!!! cozy up and join in <3
this episode is a lil mini introduction to the Foucauldian concept of biopower -- lots of chats about institutionalized power (how it operates, how it's maintained, + how it appears), the interconnectedness of medicine and politics, and how the state regulates identity. a bit of a heavier one!! but we're still havin fun <3
references in today's episode:
"Ambiguous Sex-- or Ambivalent Medicine?" by Alice Domurat Dreger
(find the article here! > https://isna.org/articles/ambivalent_medicine/)
"Who's on Top?" by Kate Bornstein
"The Five Sexes" by Anne Fausto-Sterling
do you always have to be the hottest b*tch in the grocery store??? are you really the ~cool girl~, or are you just playing a part? tune in for a convo about performing identity, confidence, and the male gaze-y world of the imaginary audience.
in this episode, we'll be exploring the mental wellness world of Instagram in all its commercialized glory. lots of talk about mental health, the idea of "self-healing", our desire for a "quick fix", and the nuances of introspection in relation to Instagram content.
joining me in this week's episode are my two lovely friends and brilliant people, Katherine Forsyth and Hannah Thiessen! we'll be talking all about the structure of relationships, the enforced standard of monogamy, exploring polyamory, confronting jealousy, and navigating the nuances of partnerships.
not us idolizing the makeover scene in every childhood movie ever!!!!! this week's ep is all about the "glow-up": why it's there, why we love it, and why we need to throw it out the window.
]this episode's all in the title. today we're unpacking the "not all men" argument in allllllll its magnificently ignorant glory, with some conversation about male entitlement, the impact of derailing conversations, and why you should stop prioritizing men's feelings today!!!
happy international women's day!!!! this week is a continuation of last week's episode on feminism! in this one, we're talking about everything from implications that come with the word feminist, to palatable feminism, to the difference between so-called "good" and "bad" feminists, to ranting about the ever-present internalized male gaze. stay 'til the end for some book recommendations written by different feminist authors!
in this episode, we're talking allllll about feminism - the different types, some histories, and answering some of your questions about feminist issues. from chatting about the "#feminazi", the shaming of body hair, womanism, and the process of learning, this episode's a busy one!!
we're debunking the myth of the cool girl!!!! this episode is inspired by Gillian Flynn's Gone Girl monologue that sparked a mini revolution in understanding the male fantasy archetype that socializes us into constantly chasing an unattainable standard built to pin women against each other.
the title of this episode baaaasically sums it up BUT to give you a quick run-down: in this episode we're exploring the biiiiig wide confusing world of gender in ALL its nuanced glory. we'll talk about different gender models, gender components, categorization, and some ideas of how to start unravelling the layers of (sort of?) understanding gender as a concept.
let's talk about the male gaze!!! -- what it looks like, how it shows up, who it serves, & why we internalize it.
do you actually want to get married or are you just so used to complying with heteronormative rights of passage and being spoonfed capitalist values that you forgot to ask yourself if marriage is even your thing??? << BIG vibes of this episode --- unpacking the heterosexual imaginary, addressing capitalism's role in the wedding spectacle, and questioning why we ever wanted a big white wedding in the first place.
in this episode, we're diving into what it means to be bisexual in a world of binary thinking -- dealing with heteronormativity, queer imposter syndrome, internalized biphobia, and the forever haunting male spectatorship.
tune in and listen to a former 'not like other girls' gal ramble on about the projection of internalized misogyny, unrealistic patriarchal standards, and holding yourself accountable for upholding toxicity.