Life in Align podcast: Recent Episodes
Lorraine Stone
Listen in every week as I invite you to step away from fear of judgement and shame, and to step into your truth and reclaim your sense of power and alignment to change what you believe is possible for happiness and fulfilment on YOUR terms as I share tips, tricks and techniques that I have developed and have empowered me as I have fought to reclaim my life from a chronic illness spanning more than a decade.
Do you feel like your family and friends don’t support you with your illness?
I’ve been there.
We all want the world to give a monkey’s when we get sick. We’ve had a life-altering experience, why isn’t the world feeling this too?
Episodes mentioned in this episode:
Episode 113
Episode 114
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When we are kind to ourselves, it can help us to respond more effectively when we face challenges as it can help us to feel what we are feeling, and by being kind to ourselves it can make it easier to be kind to others. When we are kind to ourselves it can seem like we’re making excuses. For instance, when we are exhausted and feeling unwell the kind thing to do would be to rest, but instead we see this as laziness.
We wouldn't do that to others.
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I don’t know about you, but I’ve never been the type of person that keeps my house immaculate, almost to show home level.
Pre-illness I used to get home from food shopping on a Saturday morning, and would blitz my way through the entire house in a couple of hours. But when I got sick, it could take all day to work through the smallest room, let alone the whole house.
When I got sick I really struggled with how unclean the house felt. In some ways, I was too unwell to care. In others, having an unclean house made me feel worse.
So these are the 3 shifts I had to make.
Do you ever feel like the world is against you? You just want one thing to be simple and straightforward so you can cross it off the list.
We all have moments when one problem comes after another, leaving you feeling like the world is against you. You try to stay on top of things but it feels like the harder you try, the worse things get, and the problems just keep on coming. The worry brings the anxiety, which brings the sleep problems, which brings eating the crappy food, and the cycle continues.
But in order for you to believe that the world is on your side, and not against you, to get your thoughts and emotions back under control, you take small steps, one at a time.
These are my favourite small step strategies to do just that.
Today I talk about 5 energy vampires that can cause mental, physical and emotional fatigue.
Today I talk about the healthy ways you can get those happiness hormones. Happiness hormones are the chemicals that our body naturally produces to increase our wellbeing.
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Today I want to talk about the things that can happen when our nervous system comes out of survival mode.
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Quick-fire round of a few questions for what springs to your mind, not mine, on what you can do to bring more calm than chaos to bring a bit of happiness into your day
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I want to talk about journaling, because, quite frankly, I am rubbish at it.
I have been terrible at journalling my entire life. It’s as if there's a perfectionism to it that I just do not achieve.
So I made my own rules....
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Aaah rest. Something we no longer seem to know how to do. Our hustle culture has expectations that we have to be on the go constantly, and rest is a reward for working yourself to exhaustion, causing us to feel guilty when we take a break. So today, I want to ponder on what rest really is, and different ways we can add it to our day.
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Today I want to ponder on some warning signs that you’re pretending to be happy, and what you can do about it. From someone who knows. We all have those moments when something doesn’t feel right. We can get sick and/or we go through a period of grieving, and everyone understands it. For a while. But there’s something you can’t shake, and as everyone around you expects you to be moving on by now, you instead start to put on a happy face.
It’s normal in a setting of strangers, you don’t always want to tell complete strangers what you’re going through so you pretend that you’re fine.
However.
When it comes to friends and family, feeling like you can’t truly express your emotions leads to resentment and anger. What are some of these signs?
Welcome to season 2 of the Life in Align podcast
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I am sure you’re already aware of the benefits of decluttering. An uncluttered home and life promotes mental clarity, and less stuff through choice means less likely to spend money on things you don’t need. Less stuff also means less mess can be created so less mess to be tidied up. Which is an absolute win for spoonies, because it means less work and less feeling like we’re not getting anything done. But, as with all things, it can be overwhelming to get started, so here’s my top 5 areas in life to declutter and how to do so spoonie-style.
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If given the choice, which would you rather be in? A relationship where you dismiss yourself, minimise yourself, and be mean to yourself, get irritated with yourself, sabotaging all of your hopes and dreams? Or would you rather be in one where you cultivate self love? Every day you are kind, gentle and you work towards your hopes and your dreams and you go to bed every night knowing that it doesn't matter what anyone else says, you love you.
So if the second option is your preferred option, here are five ways that you can begin that journey.
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Today I want to talk to you about a not-to-do list when chronically ill. I absolutely love having a to-do list, I love making lists. I love crossing things off lists.
When I got sick, my to-do list had to become streamlined and batched. Long gone were the days of being able to do all the things on all the days. One list I had to create, and probably stuck to the most, was a not-to-do list.
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100 episodes!! Wow. I didn't realise that when I was recording, but here we are. 100 episodes. What a milestone.
Today I want to talk to you about coming home to yourself.
Sometimes life dismantles the self you’ve known and you have to begin the seemingly complex task of starting over, rebuilding, and finding your new compass and anchor.
It can be a shock to the system. I often hear “I didn’t see this coming. What do I do now?!”
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Also, along with the birdsong, today I share the 7 ways we overthink, and the super-simple strategy on how to stop it
Tune in for an unedited episode, because I couldn't bring myself to edit out the birds tweeting away in the background...
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I got to this point in early 2012, and thanks to the proverbial onion layer, again in autumn of 2022, but didn’t want to face up to it until I had to earlier this year. What point am I talking about? Being sick of my own sh*t.
Today I share a few questions for you to ponder on to help move you forward.
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Today I want to ponder on trusting the process, and ask you if you can. Honestly, for years my answer to that would be “what does that even mean?!”
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Today I want to talk about habits that are actually signs of resentment.
Holding on to resentment can be bad for your mental and physical health. It can cause stress, anxiety, depression, and it can cause chronic health problems.
Do any of these bahaviours resonate with you?
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Recently I had to ask myself, do I want to do more, or do I want to keep thinking I’m doing enough. Listen in for the thing I'm referring to, but in the end I have to decide that I am doing this for me. It makes grief easier to deal with. It makes my illness easier to deal with.
The reason I called this episode Ask More of Yourself is because to get better it requires you to do more.
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After many years of tears, hatred, and basically mistreating myself, I made a vow to be kind to my body, and owed it an apology.
There’s plenty of research around the body keeps the score, and how suppressed emotions around trauma can manifest into illnesses. So the path along the healing journey also includes befriending our bodies. For when we can like our bodies, we can start to feel safe in them to listen to them, and to feel what we are feeling.
Listen for my body apology, and I hope it inspires you to do the same.
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An episode about believing in yourself. Even when.
Even when you are feeling scared.
Even when you are feeling overwhelmed.
Even when you are doubting that you can get better.
And I get it.
Over 10 years ago, after living with my illness for nearly 3 years, I had to believe that I could either figure out my health struggles, or I could keep on feeling rubbish about it.
I decided that my self-doubt was no longer a valid reason for missing out on my life, on being a runner, for something more than existing. Everything changed.
I’m asking, what about you? Are you ready?
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When was the last time you felt lucky? I’d hazard a guess that most of the time you think that others are lucky, and the only luck you tend to find is bad luck. Fate. Destiny. Kismet. Serendipity. Whatever you want to call luck, it’s as if it’s always connected to our most happiest moments. Sometimes, it turns out our most difficult times were a wonderful stroke of luck too. And what about when it comes to making your own luck? Or manifesting? Just wishing for something doesn’t make it so. Creating a journal based upon looking for surprising and valuable discoveries can help to spot you have more good in your life than you realise. And I know that you can do this, because if you can pick apart a couple of not-so-great events to connect the dots on what went wrong, then you can definitely do the same for connecting dots of what went right!
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A super-quick episode this week, even by my standards, mainly because sometimes we just need to be told some things to do to get moving out of the overwhelm to a space where we can then look at the whys.
If you’re feeling sad, overwhelmed, anxious, helpless, frustrated, please know that you’re in good company, and you are not alone.
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I get asked all the time “I want to get better, but why do I sabotage myself? I think I know what I need to do, but I don’t do it”. Variations on this are lacking willpower, unmotivated, even scared.
It’s not as if the internet isn’t full of solutions to google. If you want to lose weight or increase your fruit and veg on a daily basis, there’s a ton of suggestions. If you want to try increasing your steps, or feel ready to try running, there’s plenty of plans that are a variation on couch to 5k.
Once you choose, you then go through four stages dictating what we do. When it comes to recovery from a chronic illness, we have the exact same four stages, and that’s what I’m talking about today.
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I talk a lot about life with a chronic illness, and for this episode I want to share for those who support us, and are not always sure what to say or do.
It’s not just one life that changes.
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Decluttering a home can be difficult, especially if you have years’ worth of memories stored up. Equally, a lot of those memories could also be causing you stress.
Mindfulness has been proven to be an essential practice in managing stress, lowering blood pressure and helping to increase focus.
If you think about how much information you take through your eyes for your brain to process, the more stuff you have around you the harder your brain has to work, increasing fatigue, and making you feel like you have a million more things to do because you’re constantly shoulding on yourself by saying I should load the dishwasher, I should do the washing, to I should tidy that drawer, I should put those things away etc etc.
So what is the connection between decluttering and mindfulness and self-love?
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Everyone seems to be at a default mode of constantly stressed, so much so that it’s not often I hear other emotions get mentioned. It also seems easier to tell ourselves that we’re stressed than to have to think about how else we might actually be feeling, and stress is usually easily blamed on external sources and not ourselves whereas admitting feeling something else might mean we have to acknowledge our own responsibility in something.
When I went back to my day-job after surgery last year, I felt anxious. I was given an extra role to take on for a few months, which definitely caused stress, this increased the anxiety, and yet I now know that anxiety was actually sadness because I was grieving. We all know that long-term stress and anxiety can be detrimental for both physical and mental health. We all know that when we have a chronic illness, both will follow. It’s a vicious cycle.
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Today I want to chat about something that can be very detrimental to your recovery and that’s how you talk to yourself, about yourself. Both in what you say out loud, and what you say in your head.
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Today I want to chat about how routines can help to structure healing.
Having a plan that you consciously decide upon and more or less stick to regularly is extremely helpful physically with the emotional turmoil.
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On the previous episode, episode 83, I talked about how I mis-read the signs of grief, and my trauma, and would often mistake them for M.E. symptoms. How I shut myself down, numbed myself, to the pain I was feeling, to the shame and self-hatred I was feeling.
I said that I’ll talk more about what healing looks like for me on the next episode, so here we are.
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Today I'm talking about how symptoms can hide deeper feelings you really need to process.
AKA - I'm grieving a lot more than I thought.
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Today I'm talking about how to mentally declutter to be able to move on.
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Today I'm talking about why you really need to let go of the guilt for self-care and putting yourself first.
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Today I'm talking about the first step to creating your ideal life.
All of my coaching is about empowering you to live life on your own terms. Not mine. Not someone else’s. Yours.
Every step of the way is about finding clarity, allowing and creating intention, and taking action.
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Today I'm talking about what running taught me about recovery from a chronic illness. Basically, that the first mile always sucks. Even before I got sick, the first mile, was always rubbish.
It didn’t matter if I was planning for a 3 mile run, or a half-marathon, that first mile was always a struggle between my mind and body.
Today’s episode is for anyone wanting to get better, but has trouble following through consistently.
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Today I'm talking about how I quit listening to the crappy thoughts.
If you are like me, you can spend a lot of time worrying and wearing yourself out, using up energy that you just don’t have. I felt helpless and hopeless.
It took a while to figure out that I was doing all this to myself. That I was the one standing in my way.
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In this episode I'm talking about if your past could prevent you from getting better.
There’s one big common denominator amongst all the women I have spoken with who have chronic illnesses. Including myself. We all have tremendous hurt in our past..
If you’d like to know more on how to shift your stories, reach out to me to see if my SHIFT to alignment coaching programme is a fit for you.
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In this episode I'm talking about why you doubt recovery is possible.
Recovery isn’t about going back to the life you had before diagnosis. That just isn’t possible. The same as you couldn’t go back to how life was before a relationship, or having children. You can get some semblance to it, but you can’t get back exactly the same.
If you’d like to know more on how to shift your self-doubt, reach out to me to see if my SHIFT to alignment coaching programme is a fit for you.
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In this episode I'm sharing with you the reasons behind my unexpected month off, and also sharing an update of a completed goal.
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This week I'm talking about redefining happiness, on your terms.
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This week I'm talking about getting a better handle on your feelings because emotions will come knocking, but you can choose which ones you let in, and which ones you park for dealing with at a more appropriate time.
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Today I’m asking what do you do when you feel terrible and talking about noticing your habits you default to when you’re not feeling great, learn how to pause, and work out what it is you really need so you can rule your day and not let it rule you.
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Today I’m sharing how to decode your attitude to the skin you’re in.
I am all for body confidence. I think a huge part of the healing process is to love and appreciate the body you’re in now.
Episode 65 is here
Episode 64 is here
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Today I'm asking you - do you pre-fail? Please do share your key takeaway from this episode. You can email me. You can also find me on Instagram.
You can’t quite put your finger on it, but whatever that thing was that used to give you get up and go, has definitely gotten up and left. From the mood of your partner to your iron intake the things that zap your precious already limited energy are everywhere.
But if you can learn what they are, and which ones you are most affected by, you have a good chance of stopping them from stealing any more time from you.
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On today’s episode I’m talking about chronic health and the menstrual cycle, and how the two affect each other.
One of the things I learned very early in my illness is how much having a period exhausts my body.
Since my operation, I can no longer control how often these symptoms are coming. I can no longer control how exhausted I feel and how the simplest things that could seem difficult enough with my illness, for a few days become near-impossible.
So I thought I’d share a little more info about the menstrual cycle, and what you can do to still feel somewhat in control of your body.
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There’s always those big times of the year when we are prodded to make changes towards better health, New Year and pending summer holidays being the two prominent ones.
And so often we hear people say after they get sick that they took their health for granted.
We don’t have to wait til then to be motivated to make a change.
But it doesn’t have to be so hard. For some of you, it can’t be that hard.
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I’m talking about loneliness, and sharing my five fave things to help. Well, there’s really six, but I know you’re not all crazy cat/dog lady as I am.
For some of us, we can blame lockdown. But for others, lockdown only enhanced what we were already feeling and possibly didn’t want to admit to, or know that it’s even a thing we could admit.
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I’m sharing why you can’t hate yourself to the body you want, and why we think we need to hate ourselves in the first place.
All day, every day, we are exposed to the media full of fixes for our flaws. We have become so brainwashed by it many of the times we just don’t question it, and instead start to question ourselves.
Something we may have liked previously about ourselves suddenly appears on the subconscious list to pick fault with. But if you can believe your body has no flaws, that we’re all meant to look different, then you can get to work on accepting your body for the powerhouse that it is.
Once you accept it, you can choose to change it. And that change is going to be a lot easier, a lot less painful, and a lot more satisfying, when you come at it from love.
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I’m sharing something that has happened in my life that led to me creating a story for myself that has eroded my confidence ever since. It’s something we all do on some level or another. Something happens to you, you create a story from it, you ding your own confidence. Creating stories like this is your brain’s survival instinct. Now it no longer has real lions to worry about eating you, it creates illogical lions in your day to day world, sometimes for very logical reasons. Stories that will have you thinking you can’t do something again.
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Today I’m talking about what people can expect of you now you live with a chronic illness.
When we get sick we go to a place of no longer knowing what life can hold for us.
With an invisible illness, so many people don’t believe we’re sick and it can feel there’s a constant battle trying to prove that we are. Especially when it comes to making plans.
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Today I'm talking about my five tips for planning a healthy week to help you take back your life from chronic illness.
Many of us with chronic illnesses are overwhelmed and feel out of control, with too much to do, too much in our heads, too many people telling us we can no longer do the things we want to still try and do, and with past experiences leaving us feeling judged and shamed for our lives being different now.
But, it doesn’t have to be that way.
It’s disempowering when a plan is built on I can’t or I shouldn’t. I hate to tell you this, but it doesn’t work… do you really want to spend your life avoiding all the stuff society has said you can’t and shouldn’t do?
We must make plans that are realistic when it comes to making changes towards living with our chronic illness instead of surviving with it.
This is the process I follow to make empowered plans for myself.
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At the time of recording it’s early April, and April is Stress Awareness month, so on today’s episode I’m talking about should you press pause?
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On today’s episode I’m talking about how to feel abundant when your health really sucks.
Because let’s face it, when we’re feeling awful it’s not that easy to see the wood for the trees. If you believe in like begets like, or manifestation, this is a really important thing to deal with so that you don’t start to manifest more negative things into your life that you feel you can’t handle right now, and make the situation worse.
You can’t stop everything that life is going to throw at you, but you can be prepared for how you deal with it.
Control feels snatched away from us when chronic health interferes, and I’m all for getting any of it back.
This isn’t about overnight, silver bullets. This is about a foundation for lifelong happiness, abundance, and all the rest you want. But, remember, you have to do the mental work first. Start with your mindset and it will be much easier to take those actions to feel abundant when your health really sucks.
Morecambe and Wise is here
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On today’s episode I’m talking about your confidence secret weapon – what it is, how it works, how to discover it, and how to use it to your best advantage.
Scent plays a huge role in how you feel and can trigger emotions such as feeling happy, relaxed, sexy, and confident. This is because your sense of smell, the olfactory system, is directly connected to the limbic system, the primitive part of the brain, that interprets memories and emotions.
When you smell a scent that you connect to positively, it can instantly make you feel confident and in a great positive mood. You literally light up, stand a little taller and have a smile on your face when it happens.
So, how can you know which scent will make you feel like you can conquer the world? Or, just help you go out through the front door?
I’m really excited to share with you that I have created a quiz for you to answer a few questions to reveal your perfect match power scent, intrinsically echoed through your many varied choices in life.
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I’m back from a period of recovery following my surgery back in January, I can’t believe it’s nearly 9 weeks ago already. My body has a way to go, but I’m getting there, and as expected following major surgery, which has a tendency to disrupt everything in your body, I am also going through a flare with my illness, so today I’m talking about the chronic health cycle and how you can begin to break it and take control of it again whenever you need to. If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
Every year I pick a word to represent what I want for the year ahead. All decisions lead towards this word.
As I was thinking about the word I want for 2022, I realised that I’ve only ever chosen positive words. I very much believe in choosing positivity, and looking forward, and looking for the good in things.
I also believe that we should not avoid the negatives, or pretend they don’t exist. Sometimes we just have to sit with discomfort.
But how?
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It's Dots’ Gotcha Day today so there’s a special episode cover photo, I’m sharing a bit about our story, about the love of animals, and the incredible health benefits that they bring, and suggesting what you can do if having an animal doesn’t fit for your life at the moment.
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Today, I want you to play a game with me. It doesn’t require any energy, only your imagination. Maybe a bit of writing if you want to journal on it. I want you to disconnect from what you think you know, and wander off into that world of what life could be and how you want it to be.
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Can you believe that in a couple of weeks we’ll be in the midst of the Christmas into New Year celebrations? Today, I’m talking about how, as we head into the New Year and thinking about those New Year resolutions, we can set goals that can be realistic and achievable when living with a chronic illness, and the stage of recovery you are in. Plus a few ideas that you can use.
If you'd like some help with the ideal resolutions to set, or any support with working through what's getting in the way of you reclaiming your life from chronic illness, you can email me. You can also find me on Instagram
I’m keeping this short to avoid the potential for a very long episode as this is a real annoyance for me. I was in a meeting recently where quite a few people interrupted each other to ask questions, and only the women apologised for it as they started to speak. Why are we doing this? I do know some guys who do too, but I’ve noticed it’s mainly women.
When we have something to truly apologise, then yes, apologise. But we seem to throw this word around so easily in everyday life saying sorry for the tiniest thing. And when we don't actually have anything to apologise for.
What are you apologising for?
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I’m keeping this short to avoid the potential for a very long episode as this is a real annoyance for me. I was in a meeting recently where quite a few people interrupted each other to ask questions, and only the women apologised for it as they started to speak. Why are we doing this? I do know some guys who do too, but I’ve noticed it’s mainly women.
When we have something to truly apologise, then yes, apologise. But we seem to throw this word around so easily in everyday life saying sorry for the tiniest thing. And when we don't actually have anything to apologise for.
What are you apologising for?
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Today, I’m talking about 3 ways to get yourself out of a rut. It’s so easy to fall into a settled or established habit or course of action, and we usually say we’re in a rut when it’s a boring one.
As we approach December, it’s very common for people to realise the end of the year is upon us, the last few months have flown by, and you’ve done pretty much naff all with that time.
It’s understandable to want to pin the blame for the rut on outside sources, but most of the time, you can’t change anything except yourself. Focussing on things you can’t control doesn’t help. Neither does crossing your fingers, hoping for the best, or sitting back and waiting for things to magically improve.
Instead, consider things from a realistic perspective. Ignore the external factors and consider which of your actions (or lack of actions) contributed.
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On today’s episode I’m talking about how to identify your zone of confidence, and how to push past it.
Confidence affects us in everything. Confidence is one of the key factors in taking back control from a chronic illness. You might know what you need to do, but without confidence you’re unlikely to do it.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
Today I’m talking about pests. Those day to day annoyances. Things that drain our energy or play on your mind or irritate you.
Follow this link to download the complete list to work through the exercise.
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Today I’m sharing the 3 ways to build a more resilient mindset that I’ve needed to rely on recently, to deal with some very difficult news.
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Today I’m giving a sneak peak into a coaching session with me. This is at its most basic, because you’re not with me for my intuition to pick up on what you’re saying, to ask different questions, or to call you on your crap you tell yourself and others, which is my fave part of coaching and being coached, seeing the blind spots and shadows of what we don’t see or don’t want to see.
You may have noticed that I like the Life in Align podcast episodes to be bite-sized, so I’m also not covering all the questions I’d typically ask so that we can still keep this bite-sized giving you time to answer the questions for yourself as we go through.
We will get creative and come up with a few ideas of what you could do to help you with your one thing. This is not what you WILL do, but about what you COULD do, even if it seems a little crazy or impossible. Some of my biggest achievements have come out of the crazy.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I’m talking about how to feel more in control of your daily life by grouping tasks together, to reduce repetition, the constant thoughts and feelings of always having things to do and it seeming like it’s out of control, and in some cases, reduce the amount of movement because you’re not constantly going back and forth, helping you to increase rest and recovery time.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I’m asking you to don’t worry that you worry and my tips on how to reduce some of it.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I’m talking about The Five P’s of Self-belief. I’m usually switching things around to the positive, as I believe that positivity can be more motivating, but the flip side of self-belief is self-doubt. So I will be talking about avoidance tactics, and their subsequent P of self-belief to empower you and help you move forward.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I’m talking about how to enjoy the journey and loving your life exactly as it is now, because soon enough, it will change again.
You can download the questions I mention here
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I’m talking about 3 ways to push past fear.
When it comes to fear it’s not always possible to add 2 and 2 together and get 4.
I also mention episode 12, which you can find here.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I’m talking about the big stuff, and how we can deal with it when we’re having to deal with an illness that seems to have taken over our life.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I’m talking about finding confidence with movement and how adding movement into your day can give you a sense of control you may have lost since being diagnosed and sharing the three things you can do to prepare yourself for success.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I’ll be talking about why your life is not over, just because you’ve been diagnosed with a chronic illness, and how you can stop viewing it as such.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I am talking about whether your path to recovery is all or nothing. If we have to fix absolutely everything in our lives to get better.
If you’ve been on any self-development journey, you know that by the time you come out the other end, there’s a whole load of other issues that have popped up. The onion theory. Keep peeling away those layers. We then feel that we must then start working on those new issues too. If we don’t, have we somehow failed, or we’re not good enough?
Episode ten can be found here
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I’m talking about if your happiness is non-negotiable.
As women, we’re expected to put others first.
I’m always saying that you get to choose. Because it’s true - you do!
Of course, you can choose to do what someone tells you to do.
But, you don't have to think, feel, say or do anything that you don’t want to. Or anything anyone tells you to. You get to choose.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On this week’s episode I’m talking about how to shift your identity from the one your illness gave you, to one you get to choose, and giving my tips on how you can get further along that journey of the identity you truly choose for yourself.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I’m talking about how you can calm your mind to drift off to sleep. These are ideas I have tried for a few years now. I’m sharing with you to choose from and try and see what works for you, and you’ve probably heard them all before, but as Tony Robbins says – knowing it and doing it are two very different things.
Episodes mentioned -
35 - Three ways to begin your day feeling calm, positive and empowered
21 - How you can keep it simple
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me. You can also find me on Instagram
On today’s episode I’m talking about 3 ways to begin your day feeling more positive, calm, and empowered because how you get up and start your day, sets the tone for the whole day.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me lorraine@lifeinalign.com. You can also find me on Instagram, at lifeinalign
On today’s episode I’m talking about the five P’s of recovery.
The 5 P’s were introduced to me before I got sick. In fairness, these apply to absolutely any goal you want to achieve for yourself, not just getting your life back from illness, and I’ve since used it with my running too
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me lorraine@lifeinalign.com. You can also find me on Instagram, at lifeinalign
On today’s episode I’m talking about feeling empowered in the face of diagnosis, the fear around diagnosis and my 10 tips that you can do when you are feeling anxious or afraid.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me lorraine@lifeinalign.com. You can also find me on Instagram, at lifeinalign
On today’s episode I’m talking about creating home away from home to feel more relaxed, secure, and comfy and sharing some of my tips for how can you help yourself feel more settled and what you can take to help you feel safe and reasons why I do the things I do.
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them, please do email me lorraine@lifeinalign.com. You can also find me on Instagram, at lifeinalign
Mental Health First Aid kit episode - https://lifeinalign.com/episode-24/
Following on from episode 23 about saying yes to you where I talk about making yourself a priority so you can start experiencing life on your own terms, today we’re talking about the right way to listen to your body to create a calming response.
I'd love to hear how you feel about this episode, and if you’d like to know more about working with me one to one, please do email me lorraine@lifeinalign.com. You can also find me on Instagram, at lifeinalign
Episode 23 - https://lifeinalign.com/episode-23/
On today’s episode I’m talking about making peace with your old self, your pre-diagnosis self and knowing when to give up on her, how there is power in letting go, and how to do it.
I'd love to hear how you feel about this episode, and if you’d like to work towards letting go of your old self, please do email me lorraine@lifeinalign.com. You can also find me on Instagram, at lifeinalign
On today’s episode I’m talking about getting excited and getting ready to getting stuff done again. Not just those bigger longer term goals, but the general day to day ones. The general getting stuff done. To help you have less of those “I didn’t achieve anything today" or "I didn’t get anything done today" type thoughts and moments.
If you have something you want to work towards, or want to feel that excitement for looking forward, please do email me lorraine@lifeinalign.com. You can also find me on Instagram, at lifeinalign
On today’s episode I’m talking about what is within your control, and sharing one of my simple empowering questions to ask yourself.
Plus, controversially, stating that you have absolute control of your day…
This is a brief snippet of one of the pillars that we look at on my SHIFT to alignment programme. If you’d like to feel more in control, sign up to the masterclass waiting list at lifeinalign.com/shift
Today I’m talking about the fear of losing yourself because of illness, and why it might be a good thing. I’ll look at causes, symptoms and behaviours, and my 5 top tips to reclaim your life.
This is one of the pillars that we look at on my SHIFT to alignment programme. If you’d like to stop feeling lost with who you are now, sign up to the masterclass waiting list at lifeinalign.com/shift
You can do something about it! Just because right now you don’t know what to do, it is possible to find a solution.
On today's episode I’m continuing on from the last, episode 25, of the most toxic word we use – should – to discuss the danger of maybe.
It can be a real challenge to commit to future plans when we're still working on our recovery.
You don’t like to say no, so you say maybe. But saying maybe is more harmful than saying no.
If you have any questions, or would like to talk through something that came up for you in today's episode, you can contact me at lorraine@lifeinalign.com
You can find me on Instagram at lifeinalign
On today’s episode I’m talking about the most damaging word that we all use. It’s so stuck in our vocab, we often don’t realise we’re saying it, and we rarely put two and two together that how we’re feeling in that moment has something to do with one particular word. We think that it’s helping us, but is actually making things worse. In using it we make ourselves feel bad in so many ways. Today, I want to ponder how we use this word every day, the messages we give ourselves, and how we can replace it to give ourselves that choice I’m always talking about.
On today's episode I’m talking about why we need a mental first aid kit, what’s in mine to give you ideas for what to put in yours, and how to use it.
You can find me on Instagram at lifeinalign
When was the last time you took time out for yourself?
On today's episode I’m talking about SAYing YES to yourself.
We often put everybody else’s needs before ours, doing things that make others happy.
We are unwell, and we are worn out.
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Today I’m talking about if you’re afraid to feel truly happy, why feeling happy can be so terrifying for some, and why we think we’re keeping ourselves safe by limiting how much enjoyment and feelings of happiness we allow ourselves.
If you’d like to be part of my new, supportive, community where I gain as much from you as you will from me join us here Facebook community here
Today I’m talking about how you can keep it simple. This applies for if you’re unwell, if you’re moving towards recovery, or for anyone who’s feeling a little overwhelmed with what’s happening to them and/or around them.
Because one question I get asked a lot – how can I make my life simpler?
If you’d like to be part of my new, supportive, community where I gain as much from you as you will from me join us here Facebook community here
Today I’m talking about the types of people you need to have in your life, and why they’re important.
If you’d like to be part of my new, supportive, community where I gain as much from you as you will from me join us here Facebook community here
Today, I’m talking about judgemental people and what you can do to deal with them and what they say.
If judgement can be hurtful, shameful and upsetting and can impact on our emotions, confidence, identity and behaviour, it’s important then to consider how you deal with judgement so you can minimise the impact on yourself.
This is one of the pillars that we look at on my SHIFT to recovery programme. If you’d like to be prepared to deal with these judgements, sign up to the masterclass waiting list at https://lifeinalign.com/shift/
On today's episode I’m asking if you really need to make a radical change to get the life you want.
Growth is where the journey is. The journey is where you learn resilience for future challenges, find esteem, and find your happiness.
This is one of the pillars that we look at on my SHIFT to Recovery programme. If you’d like to remove the blocks of what’s keeping you in a potentially fixed mindset, sign up to the masterclass waiting list at https://lifeinalign.com/shift/
On today's episode I’m talking about why you are stuck being sick. What is stopping you from recovery?
This is one of the pillars that we look at on my SHIFT to Recovery programme. If you’d like to remove the blocks of what’s keeping you sick, sign up to the masterclass waiting list at https://lifeinalign.com/shift/
On today’s episode I’m talking about why it’s more important that you consider the how, and not the what of the things you’re doing.
When we’re living with a chronic health condition we tend to just want to be recovered and well again. We try anything and everything. Some things help, and some don’t. But, why?
You can find me on Instagram at lifeinalign
On today’s episode I am talking about spring cleaning your mind.
Traditionally this time of year is spring cleaning season.
We clean the home of all the winter rest and darkness, ready for the light of summer. So why not do the same for our minds?
When you clean your environment you feel light, and fresh, and happy so I’m focussing on spring cleaning your mind and cleaning out those thought cobwebs.
You can find me on Instagram at lifeinalign for those extra tips I mention
On today's episode I'm talking about how meeting your own needs is the key to happiness. I'll be covering how we lose sight of our own needs, why meeting our needs matters, and three steps to learn how to do so.
If you have any questions, or would like to talk through something that came up for you in today's episode, you can contact me at lorraine@lifeinalign.com
You can find me on Instagram at lifeinalign
On today's episode I’m talking about a super-important one. More of a reminder really. We all have issues. Not just those of us with chronic illnesses. Everyone. Everyone has things they are struggling with.
If you have any questions, or would like to talk through something that came up for you in today's episode, you can contact me at lorraine@lifeinalign.com
You can find me on Instagram at lifeinalign
Today on the show I’m talking about how to try to overcome fear. I’ll be talking about the irrational and learned responses, the different types of things we fear, what happens if you’re always on alert, and some tips on how to face the fear.
You'll find the free guide on how to re-frame your thoughts at https://lifeinalign.ck.page/b43eefd7e4
If you have any questions, or would like to talk through something that came up for you in today's episode, you can contact me at lorraine@lifeinalign.com
Today on the show I’m talking about your why. The reason behind why you do, or don’t do, the thing you most want to do. I’ll be covering the difference between your why and your purpose, whose why is it, one key word that must change, and how to get to the bottom of your why
You'll find the free guide, with those critical questions, at https://lifeinalign.ck.page/f155531501
If you have any questions, or would like to talk through something that came up for you in today's episode, you can contact me at lorraine@lifeinalign.com
Today on the show I’m talking about when to ignore or challenge your doctor and how to listen to your body. Many chronic illnesses have different symptoms for each of us, and this is why it’s super-important to learn to listen to your own body
If you have any questions, or would like to talk through something that came up for you in today's episode, you can contact me at lorraine@lifeinalign.com
Today I’m talking about liking yourself. Let’s see if you do, it may be that some areas are easier than others, and if you struggle sometimes, of course there’s my questions for you to ponder
You can sign up to my newsletter here - https://lifeinalign.ck.page/463f25c5b8
Today on the show I’ll be talking about grief, it’s typical steps, and, as always, I’ll be asking you some questions to ponder so you can move further along the path to acceptance
You'll find the free guide I mentioned at https://lifeinalign.ck.page/f5bd8cdd2b
If you have any questions, or would like to talk through something that came up for you in today's episode, you can contact me at lorraine@lifeinalign.com
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Today on the show I’ll be talking about how to learn to trust yourself. I’ll be covering –
- What is self-betrayal?
- Where does it come from?
- How does it impact you?
- How can we heal from self-betrayal?
- How you can learn to trust yourself
I’ll be sharing questions to ask yourself to get to your truth, and a couple of affirmations that worked for me (if they’re your thing).
You deserve to feel safe with & trust yourself.
You'll find the free worksheet I mentioned at https://lifeinalign.ck.page/b43eefd7e4
If you have any questions, or would like to talk through something that came up for you in today's episode, you can contact me at lorraine@lifeinalign.com
With ditch your resolution’s day this Sunday, 17th January, I thought it’s ideal timing to think about self-sabotage so you hopefully don’t quit this weekend.
I’ll be talking about:
- what self-sabotage is,
- preparing for boredom,
- how self-sabotage cycles,
- and looking back to look forward.
No need to take notes, I’ve created a handy guide to help which you’ll find at https://lifeinalign.com/freeresources/
When you have a hindrance in life such as an illness, setting goals with a deadline can cause more harm than good. In this episode I’ll be talking about how to view your goals differently to set yourself up for success, and I’ll be sharing my 2021 goals, which is something I don’t always do, because with my illness playing a large role in the likelihood of NOT achieving them, I can’t be judged or feel shame if I haven’t told them to anyone.
You can find me on Instagram @LifeinAlign, please pop over to let me know what you think of the episode.
Join the online conversation in my brand new Facebook community here where I'll be sharing more info, with regular Q&As and much, much, more.
In this episode I talk about:
- what you are capable of
- why you'll never reach your potential
- your limits, who defines them and how
- being future-focused
- who are you becoming and how to live it
You can find me on Instagram at LifeinAlign, please pop over to let me know what you think of the episode.
In this episode I talk a little about what it's like for me living with a chronic illness and I share some tips for those who also live with one, and because it's not just one like that changes, I also share tips if you are a loved one of someone with a chronic illness.
Join the online conversation in my brand new Facebook community here where I'll be sharing more info, with regular Q&As and much, much, more.
In this episode I talk about how we can use stress for good by looking in to the abyss instead of trying to avoid it. How we can learn from it, and how to use it to create positive change.
Join the online conversation in my brand new Facebook community here where I'll be sharing more info, with regular Q&As and much, much, more.
In this episode I talk about belonging, how it felt for me when I realised I felt I no longer belong because of my illness, the negative emotions that come with a sense of not fitting in such as judgement and shame, and some tips on how to start finding yourself and a sense of belonging again.
Find the freebie I mention here.
Join the online conversation in my brand new Facebook community here where I'll be sharing more info, with regular Q&As and much, much, more.
Welcome to the Life in Align podcast!
Join Lorraine each week as she shares the tips, tricks, and techniques for you to reclaim your power.
I feel you, I see you, and I'm here for you.
Developed from my own life experience of trauma, relational abuse, and diagnosis of a chronic disease, I'll help you to delve deeper into the why behind the what, and empower you to no longer feel you have to hide an aspect of your life or feel you don’t fit in.
I invite you to step away from fear of judgement, and to step into your truth and reclaim your sense of power and alignment to change what you believe is possible for happiness and fulfilment on YOUR terms.
If this resonates, this is the podcast for you.
Join the online conversation in my Facebook community here where I'll be sharing more info, with regular Q&As and much, much, more.