Podcast Show Notes: Forgiving Ourselves and Moving Forward

In this episode, Amanda, Laura, and Kendra discuss the importance of forgiving oneself and moving forward. We address the tendency to hold onto mistakes and regrets, how these feelings can lead to negative emotions and even depression, and strategies for self-forgiveness.

Introduction:

Amanda introduces the show and reminds listeners to rate and review the podcast.
Laura introduces the topic of forgiving oneself and its importance for personal progress and well-being.
The hosts acknowledge that mistakes are inevitable in a medical career and can lead to carrying negative emotions.

Importance of Forgiving Ourselves:

Laura discusses the significance of forgiving oneself and the impact of past mistakes on self-perception.
Kendra highlights the connection between self-forgiveness, shame, guilt, interpersonal relationships, and decision-making.
They emphasize the link between not forgiving oneself and increased risk of depression and anxiety.

Personal Stories and Learning from Mistakes:

Amanda shares a personal story related to self-forgiveness and recalls the idea from "The Four Agreements" about humans punishing themselves for mistakes.
Kendra narrates a medical case that weighed heavily on her and led to changes in her practice and decision-making.
Laura talks about the necessity of mistakes in shaping medical practice and improving patient care.

Overcoming Negative Self-Talk:

The hosts discuss the inner critic and the inner protector as sub-personalities within the mind.
Laura provides insights from Dr. Rick Hanson on cultivating the inner protector to counter the critical voice.
They explore how acknowledging caring relationships and one's own good qualities can help build self-forgiveness.

Steps to Self-Forgiveness:

Start with the feeling of being cared about and cultivate the inner protector.
Consider moral faults, unskillfulness, and other aspects of the situation.
Sort the situation and assign feelings of guilt or remorse where appropriate.
Take responsibility and feel it, then reflect on lessons learned.
Make amends and seek forgiveness from the inner protector.
Repeat these steps to rewire the brain and promote self-forgiveness over time.

Conclusion:

The hosts emphasize the need to release the grip of the past and forgive oneself to move forward and be the best version.
They encourage self-forgiveness not only for personal well-being but also to set an example for others.
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Choosing your Habits

Housekeeping: Encouragement for listeners to review, rate, and share the podcast for visibility.
Announcement of upcoming webinar on anti-burnout mindset techniques.

Discussion: Atomic Habits by James Clear

Key Principles:

Small Habits Make a Huge Difference:
- Emphasis on small habits and their significant impact over time.
- The analogy of a ship's rudder to illustrate tiny course corrections leading to substantial changes.
- Importance of small, consistent improvements (1% better each day) to yield remarkable results.
- Focus on Systems Instead of Goals:
- Highlighting the difference between goals (results) and systems (actions).
- The need to focus on creating effective systems that lead to desired results.
- Encouragement to shift attention from goals to actions and processes.
- Learn Identity-Based Habits:
- Discussing the power of self-identity in shaping behavior.
- The idea that current actions reflect one's self-perceived identity.
- Encouragement to challenge negative self-labels and adopt a positive self-identity.

The Four Laws of Behavior Change:

Make It Obvious:
- Exploring cues that trigger habits.
- Examples of cues for positive habits, like placing fruit in a visible location.
- Make It Attractive:
- Exploring the craving phase of habit formation.
- Tying desired actions to enjoyable activities, creating positive associations.
- Make It Easy:
- Emphasis on simplicity and automation in habit formation.
- Starting with small, manageable actions and gradually building on them.
- Make It Satisfying:
- Discussing rewards and dopamine reinforcement.
- Using rewards, habit trackers, and positive self-talk to reinforce desired behavior.

Breaking Bad Habits:

Strategies for breaking bad habits using the four laws of behavior change in reverse.
Making bad habits less obvious, less attractive, more difficult, and unsatisfying.
Importance of changing the story and self-identity associated with bad habits.

Shifting Mindset:

Highlighting the significance of changing the perspective on habits.
The concept of avoiding the "all or nothing" mindset.
Promoting self-compassion and gradual change over perfectionism.

Neuro Cycle App and Habit Formation:

Mentioning Dr. Caroline Leaf's Neuro Cycle app for habit formation.
Explaining the 21/42/63-day process to build and strengthen new neural pathways.
Encouraging consistent practice and patience for habit transformation.

Webinar Announcement:

Announcing the upcoming webinar: "What's the ICD-10 Code for Injuries Sustained in a Dumpster Fire."
Details about the webinar's focus on anti-burnout techniques and personal growth.
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Your Future Self

Show Notes:

Introduction to the Topic
- Laura introduces the topic of "future you" and its importance.
- Reflects on the perception of time and how we imagine our future selves.
Visualizing the Future
- Discusses an article by Mariana Pogosyan, PhD, about future self.
- Considers the shortness of life in terms of weeks lived.
- Talks about the challenge of imagining our future selves realistically.
Importance of Future Self
- Relates the concept of future self to achieving career goals (e.g., becoming a physician).
- Explores the idea that many people perceive their future selves as distant and not real.
Balancing Present and Future
- Discusses the concept of "myopia" (overfocus on the present) and "hyperopia" (overdelaying gratification).
- Explores examples of present indulgence at the expense of the future.
- Highlights the need to make decisions that benefit both present and future selves.
Strengthening the Connection with Future Self
- Discusses strategies to connect with the best version of your future self.
- Mentions the importance of imagining and feeling the best version of oneself.
Advice from Future Self
- Encourages listeners to seek advice from their future selves for present decision-making.
- Offers examples of how future self's advice can guide actions and choices.
Living in the Present
- Emphasizes the significance of living in the present and finding happiness now.
- Discusses the concept of happiness being in the present rather than at a future destination.
Manifesting and Empowerment
- Explores the practice of manifesting and raising one's vibration.
- Discusses how embodying the best version of yourself leads to different actions and results.
Accountability to Future Self
- Talks about using future self as a source of accountability.
- Reflects on the benefits of making choices that support future happiness.
Taking Control of Your Story
- Describes the process of taking control of one's life and creating a fulfilling narrative.
- Emphasizes the importance of intentional decision-making for a better life story.

Click here to read the referenced article:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/between-cultures/202307/becoming-friends-with-your-future-self

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Join us as we interview Dr. Atashi Mandal, med/peds hospitalist and amazing human as she describes her experience in Wellness 911, our coaching plus CME course. She also shares with us some thoughts about the book The Four Agreementsby Don Miguel Ruiz, which are:

1) Be impeccable with your word.
2) Don't take anything personally.
3) Don't make assumptions.
4) Always do your best.

We discuss the application of these agreements, and how they integrate with our program. Atashi is an incredibly kind, wise, insightful, and brave person--you won't want to miss hearing her story!

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In this episode we discuss why it matters to what your brain is paying attention. There are several terms we discuss including:

selective attention: tuning out unimportant details in order to focus on what matters
mental filtering: focusing on the negative rather than the whole picture, negativity bias
disqualifying the positive: minimizing the good things in our lives

Reframing and changing perspective is key, but is NOT the same as toxic positivity. It is acknowledging that there is both good and bad in the world, but choosing to focus on the good parts on purpose.

If you're stuck in negativity, we discuss ways to challenge your point of view. Eventually, with enough practice, neuroplasticity allows our default thoughts to be much more positive.

Some quotes:

George Lucas: "Your focus determines your reality."
Tony Robbins: "Your life is controlled by what you focus on," and "energy flows where your attention goes."

Invisible Gorilla Experiment

Medical Resident Anti-Burnout Mini-Course

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In this episode, meet Tony Overbay, LMFT, Laura's favorite podcaster (besides Amanda and Kendra, of course). In addition to being a licensed marriage and family therapist, he is a popular podcaster and host of The Virtual Couch and Waking Up to Narcissism, as well as cohost of Murder on the Couch. Tony is also the developer of the The Path Back, an online course to help people recover from unhealthy coping mechanisms, in addition to his Magnetic Marriage workshop and course.

In this episode Tony:

shares his journey to becoming an LMFT from a career in the computer software industry
how he became interested in narcissism
describes narcissism and emotional immaturity
explains the difference between Narcissistic Personality Disorder and narcissistic traits
defines gaslighting and confabulation
gives his rules for engaging with narcissists
discusses trauma bonds, and so much more fascinating narcissism information!

To reach Tony, visit his website at https://www.tonyoverbay.com/.

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In this episode, meet Dara Kass, MD. She's an Emergency Physician who now works as Regional Director for Region 2 of the US Dept of Health and Human Services. She's here to talk about how she pivoted from working in traditional clinical medicine to working in government.

In this episode Dr. Kass:

shares the inspiration behind FeminEM
tells the story how she first got started in government
explains how working in government can impact in healthcare access for all
highlights different tasks she might do in a workday
explains the difference, including ethical requirements, between elected, career, and appointed positions
suggests different ways one can get started working in government
explains common misconceptions that clinical docs might not have considered
advocates the importance of not politicizing access to equitable and safe healthcare, medications and treatments
highlights the healthcare workforce crisis and the need to revisit the sustainability of our careers

To reach Dr. Kass, email: Dara.Kass@hhs.gov

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As we continue in this part 2 of our conversation with Rebel Physician founder, Dr Kristin Yates, she explains "Five Ways Your Medical Training Has Failed You."

Highlights:

The hustle culture
Lack of emphasis on mental health
No individualization
Denial of play time
Forced reliance on external validation

Whew, these are some hot topics and Dr Yates is not afraid to back down from any of them! Enjoy!

Contact Dr Yates:

Instagram: @kristinyatesdo

Rebel Physician Podcast

rebelphysician.com

Rebel Physician Community

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In this episode, Kristin Yates, DO joins us to talk about Inappropriate Things Doctors Brag About (and why we keep doing it).

The reason we do this is likely because of both external and internal pressures, she says. External pressures in that it's what everyone else is doing. And internal pressures in that many of us have replaced our sense of inherent worthiness as a human with having to earn our worthiness through performance.

On the list of misguided badges of honor:

Exhaustion
Being Busy
Time without a Vacation
High Patient Volume

Versus what we SHOULD be proud of:

Spending quality time with fewer patients
Resting every day and using our vacation time
Cutting back hours if we need/want to
Getting a full night of sleep
Having a day of doing nothing

Doing this is seemingly an act of rebellion in our current medical system. But the more we start doing it, the more inroads we'll make in creating a better place for ourselves and those who follow.

Dr. Yates' Instagram

Dr. Yates' Rebel Physician Website

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On today's episode we talk with Dr Christina Shenvi who candidly helps us understand that we can't buy more time, but we can be wise about the time we are given. She comes with an incredible academic pedigree including Princeton, Berkeley, Yale, and UNC. She’s a mom of 4, a practicing emergency physician, educator, keynote speaker, and leader. She’s going to talk with us about how she gets everything done with tips for time management.

Here are some highlights:

Effort has three components: direction, intensity, and perseverance.
Reflecting on if you are moving in the right direction and applying the right amount of intensity and persevering for only a given amount of time.
How to approach a challenge:
- 1. Priority: Spend time on the right things. (Can always make more money or invest money and earn interest. Can never make more time, yet we’re often more careful with our money than with how we invest our time.) Get clear on personal priorities and big values. Make sure you’re going the right direction.
  2. Strategy: Work in the right way. Architect your day/time. Deep work, shallow work, allocating time and deciding ahead of time what you will work on.
  3. Efficiency: Anything that requires little brainpower or that you do repeatedly, find ways to outsource, delegate, make efficient, or create shortcuts.
  4. Reflection: Activation barrier, and why managing time is all about managing emotions.

How to find Dr Shenvi:

website: timeforyourlife.org

email: shenvi@timeforyourlife.org

Twitter: @clshenvi

Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/shenvi/

Books mentioned:

https://gregmckeown.com/books/essentialism/

https://comeupforair.com/

https://thework.com/instruction-the-work-byron-katie/

https://calnewport.com/writing/

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Meet Dr. Bradley Block, otolaryngologist, husband, father, and the host of the Physician's Guide to Doctoring Podcast. We interviewed him today to get some of the best pearls he's learned over the years regarding physician wellness. He's gleans from personal experience as well as the phenomenal guests he's interviewed over the past 5 years.

We cover:

the motivation behind his podcast (hint: "everything we should have been learning when we were memorizing Krebs Cycle")
getting to the heart of what the patient is really worried about
how to use humor
some of his favorite guests so far
"knowing what's important to you and making sure you're living your life consistent with that"
the basic secrets to charting
negative visualization
a quick and dirty summary of vertigo/dizziness from an ENT's perspective

Resources:

Dr. Block on Twitter, Instagram, & LinkedIn

Physician's Guide to Doctoring Website

Dr. Block's Podcast Episode with Scott Dikkers

Dr. Block's Podcast Episode with BJ Fogg #1

Dr. Block's Podcast Episode with BJ Fogg #2

Dr. Block's Podcast Interview on Discussing Weight

Dr. Block's Podcast Interview with Drs. Jordyn Feingold and Sanj Katyal

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We are honored to host a special guest that is so brave to advocate for such a special topic. In this episode, Dr Michelle Chestovich shares her beautiful and heartbreaking story of how she lost her sister to death by suicide. She has become a voice and an advocate for not only awareness but "normalizing" this conversation. She is bringing it out of the darkness that is usually hides it and illuminating it with the amazing tools she learned by certifying as a physician coach. We are so glad she is with us on this episode and join her as allies in the quest to bring physician mental health to the forefront of every wellbeing initiative.

Favorite moments from Dr Chestovich:

The work that you are doing is certainly helping people because I think it begins, number one, raising awareness, and number two, normalizing that we too are human and we can have problems with our brain. Just like we can have kidney stones and back problems, our brains can get sick too, and in fact, we're at higher risk for such things.
And again, this is like my town cry. Not only are we all at risk, but number two, children aren't gonna save us.
I mean, I get it that it's part of our culture that we so identify with our profession, particularly physicians, but maybe we can realize like we are amazing humans outside of that. When we take that hat off, we're still pretty badass.

Where to find Dr Chestovich:

Re-Mind Yourself Podcast

11 Exhaustion

https://www.mamadoclifecoach.com

Instagram: @Mamadoclifecoach

988 - Physician Support Line

Medscape Article - https://www.medscape.com/slideshow/2023-lifestyle-burnout-6016058?icd=login_success_email_match_norm

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Today Kenton Allen, MD, MBA, FASA joins the show to talk about starting Doc2Doc Lending with another co-resident. After experiencing his own difficulties within the existing banking systems, he helped re-write the script for how doctors can get funding for transitions, side-hustles, fertility journeys, credit card consolidation, and more. He shares:

why they started their own lending program to fill a void
the difference between secured and unsecured loans
the importance of developing positive financial habits and educating yourself
the importance of understanding your own financial priorities, which can widely vary from person to person
the importance of being proactive about financial conversations with significant others to prevent significant discontent later
be choosy with opportunities for side hustles:
- is it with the right people?
- is it something you really believe in?
- is it the right timing?

Mentioned:

The White Coat Investor

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Today the three of us sat down to talk about judgment within medicine. This conversation started at a conference we recently attended. We listened to an amazing lecturer give his account of what keeping empathy looks like and how it helps us care for our patients and others, like our colleagues. It is also a way to take care of ourselves. We are taught and modeled this idea that what ever service you are on or whatever your role is in taking care of a patient, that if something isn't done or said how you think it should be said, then we immediately judge that person. We judge management of patients, outcomes of patients, etc. We also judge the people that are on the same team as us working together to achieve the same goal! So we introduce another side to consider and ways to keep ourselves in the judgement-free zone.

Favorite moments:

And so when we judge, we tend to dehumanize each other and we can also do it in our, in our own patient care. But really, we have to normalize this conversation and we have to be able to kind of take a step back and consider that. Hmm. I wonder what's going on today. We talk about in coaching, like maybe try to be a little more curious than furious.
So this is just a conversation just to start bringing awareness because I would argue it would be a much better culture if we could start being allowed to be vulnerable, if we could stop going instantly to judgment, because we weren't even there in the room
Curiosity keeps us open to the possibility that there may be more to the story.
This is between me and me and how I wanna show up and I wanna show up as the most empathetic, non-judgmental person that I can. Realizing that my brain's default is going to be judging.

References:

https://sholarichards.com/judging-others/

https://brenebrown.com/book/atlas-of-the-heart/

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Limiting beliefs, or this idea of learned helplessness, is a thought or belief about yourself that restricts you in some way. Usually these beliefs are actually false accusations that we make about ourselves. Usually they start somewhere in that non-conscious or subconscious mind. Sometimes we're not even aware that we have them because they've been a belief we've had maybe since our childhood or some other programming in the past. Which may have served us then, but are not serving us now.

In this episode, we discuss what it would look like to become aware of where we have limiting beliefs and what we can do to challenge them for a better result. Once you become aware, we can actually do something about it. As humans, we do things that are comfortable or known because they require less energy and less energy means it's not a lot of effort and it just occurs. In our natural state, we're risk averse. We don't even try cause it'd be too much effort and energy. And so we take the path of least resistance. We choose this option because of the results that it has produced in the past. And the fact is, we believe that that same result will continue to happen. But in reality, we are choosing that option.

With the help of Tony Robbins and his “What do you believe? 16 limiting beliefs that are preventing you from thriving”, we can become aware and begin to change the thoughts that we have had and then work toward overcoming this to produce more positive results.

If you want to work with us, visit our website: www.thewholephysician.com. We have private coaching and CME courses available. Additionally, we're happy to lecture for your institution. Sign up for our Weekly Well Check by clicking the link. The Weekly Well Check is your weekly dose of encouragement and your only access to secret insider sales on our products.

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References:

Tony Robbins book, “What do you believe: 16 limiting beliefs that are preventing you from thriving”
https://core.tonyrobbins.com/limiting-beliefs-3
"Captain Snout and the Superpower Questions" by Dr Daniel Amen
- https://brainmd.com/captain-snout-and-the-super-power-questions

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This week we are excited to introduce you to our friend, Dr. Arpita Gupta-DePalma. A pediatrician by training, she now specializes in coaching for anger. Today she gives some tips on what to do when anger is negatively affecting your life.

Highlights:

Many times anger is a secondary emotion. We feel angry because it feels more powerful, more protective, than something like disappointment or sadness. It can feel better than embarrassment or shame, for example.
While most of the time anger gives us results that we don't want, it CAN be used to harness energy for change.
Changing from anger as a default requires a lot of grace. A lot of people have shame around it.
The first step is building awareness around your anger.
The second step is recognizing where it shows up in your body.
Next, Dr. DePalma recommends pulling yourself out of the situation. She many times will excuse herself to the bathroom.
Then you can process the anger and decide what you want to do.
There is tremendous power in pausing before responding to anger. Anger creates an imaginary sense of urgency.

Resources:

To reach Dr. Arpita DePalma or find out more about her new course on anger, visit her website www.thoughtworkmd.com

Follow her on Facebook, Instagram or LinkedIn

Brene Brown's Atlas of the Heart

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Did you know that every thought that comes into your mind is not true? This was a mind-blowing revelation! Get it? Ok, well just because we capture a thought in our conscious mind doesn't mean that we need to keep it, especially if it isn't a thought that serves us. In this episode, we talk about where thoughts come from and how they form into a belief and what we can do to change them if they aren't serving us anymore! Good news is there is decades of research on neuroplasticity and we just touch the surface of it on this show. Enjoy!

we have tens of thousands of thoughts daily, 95% of those are on a nonconscious level. And so once you become aware of them and realize what is giving you your feelings, that then drives your actions and results, gives you a whole lot more explanation for why you are, where you are in life and what to do to change it...the idea of neuroplasticity
beliefs are really thoughts that we have thought over and over again
sometimes our beliefs and our reality reflect each other and they kind of compliment or coincide with each other and that's comfortable or that is what we've created so that we don't feel tension. When they contradict, on the other hand, tension is created.

People/places/things mentioned:

Byron Katie - https://theageofideas.com/byron-katies-four-questions/

The Hiding Place - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Hiding_Place_(biography)

Brooke Castillo - https://thelifecoachschool.com/?utm_medium=cpc&utm_source=google&gclid=Cj0KCQiAsdKbBhDHARIsANJ6-jdqPhxYwUAAK2zRMCdh0O0z0FaFvCIwqpB1A0uxjicK0rQ2rnUXPxMaAsf_EALw_wcB

Bob Ross - https://www.bobross.com/

Dr Caroline Leaf, "Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess" - https://drleaf.com/products/pre-order-cleaning-up-your-mental-mess

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In this episode, you get to meet one of our favorite humans, Dr. Hani Chaabo. He's a family doctor with integrative medicine training, now serving as the medical director of wellbeing at his hospital in Ridgecrest, CA He speaks with us about organizational wellbeing.

Some highlights:

70-80% of burnout is actually institutional - related to high workload and job demand that are disproportionate to the available resources to the clinician
burnout is the highest in healthcare, more than any other helping profession
burnout leads to decreased quality of care
the bureaucratic admin burden of healthcare is uniquely to the United States
prioritizing wellbeing is actually lucrative to an organization in many ways
some things that organizations do that don't work:
- scapegoat physicians
- many of the typical things done in the Era of Distress
some things that organizations do that DO work:
- incorporating people's voice
- allowing more autonomy
- give a sense of meaning and purpose
- allow workers to feel like they're growing in their work environments
- leaders being led by the changes the team wants to see
- compassionate communication and culture
- appoint wellbeing leaders
"Everybody who has traveled through their suffering and found healing was able to change the world somehow." - Dr. Hani Chaabo

Resources:

Joy in Medicine Framework

AMA Steps Forward Modules

Wellbeing 2.0 Framework

Hani Chaabo - Mindfulous

hello@mindfulous.com

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We are all very familiar writing a prescription. But did you know that you actually have prescription for people? You have a name (label), instructions on how they should act or behave and how much they should behave that way in a given situation. This contributes to why we have the kinds of thoughts we have in certain situations. This can be positive or negative. Most of the time when a feeling is negative, it is because we have created a negative script about this person. What can we do about it? In this episode, the team candidly describes many examples of our effects of the prescriptions we have for people and how to change them to serve us in a more productive and positive way!

Favorite quotables:

...the circumstance is neutral. It's our thoughts about it that give us our feelings.
And here's the curious thing is that most of the time, we've never told these people that we have this prescription for them. They don't even know. We just think that they should somehow be able to read our minds and respond in the way that we want to.
The biggest bottom line of everything that we're gonna try to teach you is that we are in control of our own experience. We're in control of ourselves. We are not in control of anyone else.
We have to accept that people come in a package and that is them. That is on them, their choices to act how they're acting comes from their thoughts, which causes their feelings, which causes their action, which gives them their result. None of that has anything to do with our happiness or our desired result.
But getting curious is something that's usually available to me. Like I wonder what they're thinking, or I wonder why they said that...
But what a lot of our clients are realizing is that, what serves us so well in the hospital building, many times is the same thing that is ruining our experience outside of the hospital building.
We can just realize that our own experience is up to us and we can have a good experience whenever we choose to. That's always available to us. We can always be at peace. We can always feel gratitude. We can always feel some excitement. Sometimes it's harder than others, but these things are all available to us because they're just coming from our thoughts.

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Relationships are strange because they're just the thoughts you have about someone. You can have a long distance relationship with someone and still feel close, and in comparison, you can have another person sitting next to you and feel lonely. It is your thoughts about the other person that is the experience of your relationship.

A lot of our relationship problems stem from wanting someone to be different. When we can drop that and accept reality as it is, it frees up a lot of energy to serve ourselves better.

While we can't change another adult person's behavior, we CAN change our own thoughts about it to better serve us. It's never the thing (eg. socks left on the ground) that upsets us - it's the meaning we assign to it (I'm being disrespected v This is low priority for my spouse but isn't necessarily about me).

We can make requests and set boundaries and have consequences, but another person's behavior is ultimately up to them and doesn't cause emotions in us. Even with requests and boundaries, we remain responsible for our own feelings and reactions.

Our most important relationship is the relationship with ourselves. This is the basis upon which all of our other relationships are founded. Loving and appreciating yourself is NOT the same as arrogance. We are all infinitely worthy. There is no "earning" your worth.

This episode also discusses having grace with our family relationships. The principle is the same. We can have boundaries and consequences, but their behaviors and choices don't cause our emotions. And dropping our "prescriptions" for how another "should" be is key in getting our own emotional power back. We teach others how to treat us, and in turn, our children are watching us as the example for how to treat themselves.

Resources:

Louis Anderson's book- Dear Dad: Letters from an Adult Child

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On today's show, we talk about GOALS and what it is to set them and what we need to get started and KEEP GOING! We talk about how we get in the way of just starting and how every excuse in the book sabotages us into staying stuck. Using the acronym, SMART, we give you a guideline of setting the goal and how to go about taking the small steps to accomplishing it! Also, learning how to celebrate accomplishing the small actions steps on the way towards achieving our SMART goal. Here are a few of our favorite comments:

Happiness is a feeling that comes from the thoughts that we have about our circumstances.
Happiness can happen regardless of our circumstances.
We set goals to help us to bloom into the next version of ourselves.
Setting goals helps us see ourselves more fully.
It's more about the journey, but it gives you direction.
Your priorities are what's important to you. The goal is the result that you want to create for yourself.
That is dreaming and goal setting from a place of abundance.
S.M.A.R.T, is one that's used frequently for goal and action planning.
- Be specific.
- Make it measurable.
- Action-oriented.
- Realistic.
- Timed.
But a small adjustment on the rudder of a boat over time leads to a completely different direction.

References:

The Hiding Place: The Triumphant True Story of Corrie Ten Boom

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A priority is a thing that is regarded more important than another. So are you living your life in alignment with your own priorities?

In this episode we discuss the importance of really looking at what is important to you in your own life and the questions to ask yourself in order to start your "do over" today.

Highlights:

Treat the minutes you have each day as if they were dollars.
Steven Covey: "Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent and not enough time on what is important."
A little planning goes a long way to spend more time on what's important rather than what's urgent.
"Having our priorities in order will help us make those decisions in a way that is most in alignment with how we want to live and how we want to show up in the world."
"Having priorities helps us identify the things that are truly needed in our life versus what someone else thinks is important."
"If our goals are specific results that we want to achieve in our lives, then priorities are the things that we need that help to say yes or no in order to reach our goals."
Alexander den Heijer: "You often feel tired, not because you've done too much, but because you've done too little of what sparks a light in you."
We don't actually HAVE to do anything. We have free agency.
Priorities in life change, but the goal is to be spending enough time on the priorities that matter to you now.
Common priorities include: work, family, health, home, relationships, friendships, hobbies, recreation/fun, self-care, personal growth, sports, spirituality, religion, money, volunteering, etc.
Questions to ask from Brooke Castillo at The Life Coach School:
- If you had 6 months to live, how would you live it?
- If you have 5 years to live, would you make any changes from how you're living now?
- When you're 100 years old, looking back, what will you regret most NOT doing? Are you willing to live with that regret?
- The beautiful part of doing this exercise is that you can start your do over now.

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On today's podcast, we host a special guest, Dr Joan Naidorf. We had the pleasure of meeting her at a conference we attended in South Carolina hosted by Physician's Mom Group. She has recently published a book and several articles. She also writes a weekly blog that you can find on her website. She has done many lectures on this topic and we hope you enjoy all the little nuggets of wisdom she brings to us today on the topic of "The Difficult Patient".

Works cited:

https://www.drjoannaidorf.com

Changing How We Think about Difficult Patients: A Guide for Physicians and Healthcare Professionals: 9780996663212: Medicine & Health Science Books @ Amazon.com

https://www.kevinmd.com/post-author/joan-naidorf

https://www.washingtonpost.com/health/2022/06/30/patients-difficult-doctor-relationship/

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In this episode we continue the discussion on the Self Determination Theory, originally presented by Deci and Ryan in 1985. It suggests intrinsic motivations lead to higher fulfillment than extrinsic motivations (see episode #28). For continued motivation, engagement, psychological growth and development, the following three components are necessary:

competence - the feeling of mastery or being effective in one's environment
relatedness - connected to others with a sense of belonging
autonomy - the sense of feeling in control of the direction of one's life

For many working in medicine, the sense that one or more of these essential components is weak or missing leads to disengagement, lack of fulfillment, burnout, and possibly even leaving medicine altogether. We discuss how using thought work can nourish what we may not have even realized we were missing.

Resources:

https://www.simplypsychology.org/self-determination-theory.html

Deci and Ryan,1985 article, "Self-Determination and Intrinsic Motivation in Human Behavior."

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Today's show introduces this concept of the self-determination theory originally written about in a book by two psychologists in 1985. It focuses on how it's so important for our psychological well being that we can do things from a place of wanting growth rather than wanting reward. Self determination theory is a theory of human motivation and personality. That suggests that people are able to become self-determined when their needs for competence, relatedness and autonomy are fulfilled. Check out part 2 for more discussion on this theory and how it relates to physicians and working in healthcare.

Referenced website:

https://www.simplypsychology.org/self-determination-theory.html

Deci and Ryan,1985 book, "Self-Determination and Intrinsic Motivation in Human Behavior."

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This episode we talk with Dr. Laura Fortner, an OB/Gyn, about medical malpractice, the distress associated with it, some statistics, and how physicians can get support if needed.

Highlights:

Statistics:
- Average malpractice cases last around 5 years
- ~75% of primary care will get sued
- ~99% of surgical specialties will get sued
- Most cases don't go to trial
- The ones that do go to trial are usually won by the physician
Biggest myths surrounding MedMal:
- you cannot talk about it
- it's normal to be sued (see statistics above)
Definitions:
- Litigation stress is intrusive thoughts, buffering behaviors, taking things out on spouses, etc, but still going about your day. Around 95% of physicians get this.
- Medical Malpractice Stress Syndrome is in the DSM! It a depressive state characterized by depression, anxiety, and apathy.
Common reactions to being sued:
- wanting to quit medicine
- feeling alone and isolated
- second guessing your decisions
- equating this with some judgement about yourself as a doctor or a human
- avoiding feelings about the situation
Helpful charting tips:
- Include your differential and plan
- Inlcude "not limited to" for risk/benefit discussions
The number one reason people sue is they think something has been hidden or they were not told everything about what happened and why.
- So be honest, empathetic and open about complications
- Patient's want to heard - so LISTEN way more than you talk when there is a complication
If you get sued, DO NOT to a chart review or even look up related topics on Up To Date from the work computer. Everything is electronically time stamped on these systems. If you must do a Google search, do it from your home computer.
If you get sued today:
- Don't look at the chart until your lawyer talks to you and has a copy
- Don't read the language in what you're served - your lawyer will help you
- Write down the caring advice you'd give a best friend in this situation and carry it around with you. Give yourself this same advice.
- Repeat as often as you need: "It's okay to be sued. It's normal to be sued."
- Go to TheMedMalCoach.com for more information. There is a free mini-course and group coaching classes available. It isn't reportable, can be very anonymous, and most importantly, can give you the support you likely need in this stressful time.

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This episode highlights the idea that when we go through life desiring a different result, we need to start by asking better questions. We discuss what questions we have always been asking and which ones have delivered our present situation. Then we go through what we can do to change the questions we are asking in order to move forward to a better future! Credit to Dr. Caroline Leaf and her podcast guest, Lori Gottlieb, for describing the phases that our brain goes through in getting us from thought to action! Enjoy!!

Favorite Moments:

Kendra: Sometimes when we're going through life on autopilot, we take into consideration some programming we have from our childhood, either from the way we were raised, maybe programming from our parents, maybe our church, maybe our school, our neighborhood, whatever it is. But we do not continue to question it as we move into our adulthood. We consider the circumstances that we have as facts and the thoughts we have are not able to be changed, but that is actually not true.
Laura: That primitive brain job is to keep us alive. If something feels hard, it doesn't wanna think about it. It doesn't want to come up with a new way through or around a problem. It wants to avoid responsibility and it wants us to blame others for the problems we are having. So, if we come up with those emotionally charged, “why me?”- kind of questions. Ask instead something like, I wonder… or I'm learning… or what would it look like if… and if the answer to something is, I don't know. Maybe ask, what if I did know, or what would I tell my child If they asked me this question? Taking a guess oftentimes is the thing that allows our brain to open up to new thoughts and see potential solutions that we might not have seen before.
Amanda: Maintaining the change once you've made it. During this stage, you should expect that sometimes there will be hard days and sometimes there will be easy days. Some days you will fail and you will fall. It's in these moments that what you need the most is self-compassion, not to rip yourself apart. And we tend to be so good at ripping ourselves apart and like, see, I knew I would never do it. No, self-compassion is what you need. You cannot hate yourself into loving yourself.

Citations:

https://drleaf.com/blogs/news/identifying-breaking-free-from-the-jails-we-create-for-ourselves-the-one-question-most-people-struggle-with-in-life-with-lori-gottlieb?_pos=1&_sid=3c916b637&_ss=r

https://youtu.be/W05FYkqv7hM

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On this episode we chat with Dr. Latifat Akintade, a gastroenterologist and the dynamo behind MoneyFitMD podcast and financial wellness program. She talks about her own financial journey and what physicians can do to move toward financial freedom. In a more global sense, physicians being financially secure can be a first step in changing the culture of medicine for the better.

Some common mistakes physicians make in managing their finances:

avoiding it and delegating, thinking someone else can be trusted more than our own brains
trying one way and believing the fact it hadn't worked once means it isn't going to work
only focusing on saving and not focusing on investments

She talks about the concept of being the CEO of our own lives and remembering that we are our biggest assets. In that way, you'd never overwork and not take care of your star player (you). Also if you think of yourself as the CEO of your life, it wouldn't make sense to ignore your finances and not plan for the future.

Dr. Latifat goes into the 3 components of ideal wealth:

impact
legacy
creating our own definition of a rich life

Dr. Latifat estimates accumulating money is about 20% numbers, but the rest is mindset. She talks about simple steps to get started, even if you know nothing right now about money.

Lastly, we talk about her FREE mini-course at www.moneyfitmd.com/feedom. It covers:

creating a spending plan, even if you hate numbers and spreadsheets
understanding debt
how to make more money
changing mentality regarding wealth

After hearing her, you'll want to check out her podcast here to listen more. You can also visit her website here.

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On today's episode, we discuss the importance of social connections and how they can actually positively impact our health, mentally and physically. We share candid stories from our childhoods and recall several recent memories of this in real life. We introduce the fascinating case of Roseto, PA as described in books by Dr Lissa Rankin and Malcolm Gladwell. We also talk about the Dr Alexander and his work with rat parks and addiction. Share this episode with those who make up your modern-day Roseto. Connection may just trump all.

Favorite comments:

Amanda: So the only thing that they could come up with was that there was something about this town and their social solidarity that was somehow more important than any of the things that they thought, you know, medically were important for longevity.
Laura: Loneliness is likely to increase your risk of death by 25%. Loneliness and living alone and poor social connections are as bad for your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. That is crazy to me. Loneliness is worse for you than obesity. It causes increased high blood pressure, heart disease, stroke, severe depression, early mortality and even dementia.
Kendra: And so maybe being more intentional about that village or creating that village no matter where you are to help with that. Because number one, you show up as a better mom, if you have your own back. And we've talked about this in several podcasts, just considering that you also need, you know, a connection with someone to vent with someone or someone that, you know, is going through that same stage of life.
Kendra: The challenge we want you to leave today with is, who can you call or spend time with in the next couple of days that will be good for you? That will make you feel good. That will refresh your soul and above all, make you laugh and laugh hard and laugh without restraint. Because we know laughter is the best medicine.
There's a quote from Mother Theresa. It says, “If you want to change the world, go home and love your family”. So we challenge you today. Find your people. Call or spend time with them in the next couple of days.

Works mentioned:

https://lissarankin.com/books/

https://www.gladwellbooks.com/titles/malcolm-gladwell/outliers/9780316040341/

campaigntoendlonliness.org

https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/view/what-does-rat-park-teach-us-about-addiction

https://www.escardio.org/The-ESC/Press-Office/Press-releases/lonliness-is-bad-for-the-heart

Resource:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1695733/

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This episode is part 3, the final part, of our evaluation of Signs of Emotional Adulthood according to americalbehavioralclinics.com.

Signs 8-10 of Emotional Adulthood:

Believes in him/herself
Approachability
Sense of humor

Referenced article:

americanbehavioralclinics.com: “10 Signs of Emotional Maturity”

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In part 2 of our journey through discovering what Emotional Adulthood looks like, we discuss how we can learn from every experience, seek to understand each other and how to build our resiliency. There are so many fantastic examples in this show and they are so applicable to today's modern family and relationships. So sit back and enjoy the doc's discussion on what mindsets we can develop to propel us into our emotional adulthood.

Emotional Adulthood:

1. Looks for Learning and Growth From Every Opportunity

Actively seeks out multiple points of view to help inform their own
Able to stay resilient

Next week we will wrap up the final thoughts on this topic! Enjoy!

Credit to:

Americanbehavioralclinics.com, “10 Signs of Emotional Maturity”

https://americanbehavioralclinics.com/10-signs-of-emotional-maturity/

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In this episode we start a series on the 10 Signs of Emotional Maturity as laid out in this article from americanbehavioralclinics.com. This follows our introduction on Emotional Maturity in Episode #20 explaining what it is. But here are some characteristics of someone exhibiting emotional maturity:

#1: Being Flexible - when things don't go according to plan, emotionally mature people can roll with it and come up with Plans B or even C. They don't let speed bumps derail the entire plan.

#2: Taking Ownership and Responsibility - an emotionally mature person has self-honesty and acceptance. They don't need someone to blame when things go wrong. They can objectively look at their contribution in the situation- for more understanding and a better chance to course correct.

#3: Knowing that They Don't Know Everything - an emotionally mature person is much more interested in learning than always being right.

Next week we will tackle 3 more characteristics of emotionally mature people.

Article referenced:

https://americanbehavioralclinics.com/10-signs-of-emotional-maturity/

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In this episode, we discuss how to go from emotional childhood to emotional adulthood and what that looks like as we progress from one into the other. We share some candid and real stories in our own lives of becoming aware of when we moved into emotional adulthood from a place of victimhood and blaming. Enjoy our show!

Commentaries:

Amanda, "When we stay in that disempowered place, that's called emotional childhood. When we move into an emotional adulthood, that is when we start taking responsibility and realizing that only we have control of how we feel."
Laura, "Instead of judgment, I started to look with curiosity myself and decided that I could have a relationship with my dad that was positive. And even, he passed about five years ago, I still have a relationship with him. The relationships that we have are in our minds and even the ones that we have from the past, whether they're good or bad, that's also in our minds."
Laura: "Instead, I now am Laura and I've had experiences that have changed me. But now I've allowed them to be a source of strength and a source of love and compassion and grace for other people."
Kendra, "But when we operate from an emotional childhood, we actually use a lot of blame. And so we blame others for how we're feeling or we blame others for the actions they do because in a way we're kind of trying to control their actions. Because we want the result that will make us feel better. When, in reality, we can't control other people. We can't control what they're thinking, what they're saying or what their actions are."

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In this episode we discuss the difference between confidence, self-confidence, and arrogance.

Confidence is what you gain from past experience, whereas self-confidence is trusting that you have what it takes for your future.
Self-confidence is different from arrogance in that arrogance comes from a place of lack, whereas self-confidence comes from a place of abundance.

Some of our favorite moments:

"Self-confidence is...being secure i yourself and your abilities, your ability to trust yourself, knowing that you can experience any emotion, including failure without being harmed."
"Self-confidence is...your overall opinion of yourself."
"Self-confidence is...knowing that you're gonna show up for yourself, that you're gonna have your own back. No matter what happens, you are not gonna tear yourself apart."
"Self-confidence is...giving yourself unconditional love and encouragement."
"Self-doubt is the opposite of self confidence. That's where we question our abilities." We question our value as a person. When we mess up, we criticize ourselves."
"When we have self-confidence, we know that we can try hard things- even things that have a risk of failure- because we're not afraid of how we're going to feel. And we're not afraid of how we're gonna treat ourselves in the aftermath."
"Most of the worst things that ever happened to us are just in our heads."
"You can be self-confident to have the courage to do something a little bit fearful because you're willing to feel that feeling."
"Arrogance is...the opposite of self-confidence. It's FALSE self-confidence, trying to make yourself seem bigger than somebody. Self-confidence isn't in a comparison trap."
"People who are coming from a place of abundance and wholeness and love, they don't hurt people."
"If you're coming from a place of arrogance, you're so petrified that you're going to be judged."
"Self-confidence comes from a place of abundance and safety and knowing that we aren't going to judge ourselves negatively."
"What you are today is not fixed....you have control over where you're going."
"We have to be willing to experience discomfort consistently to start building on our self-confidence...we have to be able to be comfortable in that place of discomfort, feeling those negative feelings in order to grow."
"Failure earns success...worry only pretends to be necessary."
"Bottom line is: love who you are."
"You can believe that you're doing the best you can with the knowledge you have now."

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On this episode we host, Dr Kelly Casperson. Dr Casperson has a number one, best selling Amazon book that just released on June 28th. She is a urologist wife, mom, sex educator, and top international podcaster, whose mission is empowering women to live their best lives. We have such a candid, real and transparent conversation about her new book and how women can stop "should-ing" all over their sex lives!! Hope you enjoy this episode as much as we did!

Some of our favorite moments:

Dr Kelly Casperson's quotables,

We've got like Hollywood and religion and our parents and the school system, that's giving us a sex education. It's mostly like a disease and pregnancy prevention plan, but like a truly adult education is totally lacking.
“Oh, well you're not broken, 70% of women don't.” You know, so it's just like part of the normalization of these people's experience. Because where are they supposed to go?
But it's like even trying to get out medically accurate stuff is very, very difficult. Like on Instagram I have to, I have to say intimacy a lot. Like intimacy is my code word for sex. But I mean, intimacy is so much bigger than sex, but I don't feel comfortable saying sex cuz I don't wanna get blocked.
You know, don't turn sex into like, four hours of cardiovascular exercise and eight fruits and vegetables and eight hours of sleep and like, you know, two sexual things a week. It's like the whole point of this is adult play. Like it's supposed to be playful. It's supposed to be fun. It's supposed to be, you know, bring added pleasure to your life. And it's like all that shame and "shoulds" we put on ourselves.
I always like to normalize responsive desire. And what we see is again, stereotyping, which is easy to do, but it's helpful sometimes. Is that women tend more towards responsive desire than spontaneous
And if you can learn to communicate and if you can learn to like, be on somebody's team. Like at the end of the day, you're on their team and you're just trying to solve a problem. And, and what I've found in the sex coach thing that I do is like, is actually rarely about the sex. It's usually, there's usually something else going on.

To find Dr Kelly Casperson, go to:

https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com

@kellycaspersonmd (Instagram)

Podcast: "You Are Not Broken" with Kelly Casperson

Book Just Released:

You Are Not Broken: Stop "Should-ing" All Over Your Sex Life, Dr KJ Casperson, June 28, 2022.

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In this episode, we talk about processing feelings, something that many doctors tend to avoid. It makes sense when you consider our training. The problem is that not being proficient at allowing emotions can lead to negative consequences.

Four options when a feeling arises:

Resist
React
Distract
Allow

In order to process an emotion:

Notice it - notice the physician manifestations
Name it - can start with mad, sad, glad, afraid, ashamed/disgust if having a hard time
Allow it
Decide what to do now - change what you can, accept what you can't, and/or decide to leave

RESOURCES:

Feelings Wheel

https://www.shondaland.com/live/body/a32601217/what-does-processing-your-feelings-even-mean/

https://www.artofwellbeing.com/2016/06/21/processyouremotions/

Carla Marie Manly: Joy From Fear

Joy from Fear: Create the Life of Your Dreams by Making Fear Your Friend

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In this episode, we unpack Perfectionism! The good, the bad and the ugly!! We use real life examples to explain how maladaptive perfectionistic tendencies can be and the directions we can take towards a more healthy, high achieving model for our behavior. Enjoy this candid but real look into why physicians develop the former and have to LEARN the latter!!

Perfectionism:

rejects failure
rejects negative emotion
expects endless positive emotions
sets unrealistic goals and then brushes them off when achieved
expects reality to be perfect, when reality is actually messy

High Achiever:

accepts failure as unavoidable and an opportunity for growth
accepts, feels, allows negative emotions
sets challenging goals based on reality and celebrates achievements
accepts reality as it is and optimizes every opportunity to improve

Publications discussed:

Tal Ben-Shahar (2009). “The Pursuit of Perfect: How to Stop Chasing Perfection and Start Living a Richer, Happier Life”, McGraw Hill Professional.

Also check out our article published on this very topic in Emergency Medicine News:

https://journals.lww.com/em-news/fulltext/2022/05000/wellness_911_the_price_of_perfection.22.aspx

The Pursuit of Perfect: How to Stop Chasing Perfection and Start Living a Richer, Happier Life

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This episode we discuss Unconditional Love, both for ourselves and other people in our lives.

Unconditional Love:

assumes people are doing the best they can
drops unrealistic expectations
is a choice
gives grace
is for the benefit of the GIVER of unconditional love
choosing the feeling of love (in spite of human imperfection) feels so much better in our bodies than the alternatives
starts with unconditional love for ourselves. It’s hard to do something that you’ve never experienced yourself
doesn’t mean you diminish yourself. You can still choose to love someone and leave, out of love for yourself
absolutely includes healthy boundaries and consequences
isn’t people pleasing. It comes from a place without expectations of appreciation and reciprocation, and isn’t in exchange for being liked.
isn’t the norm- many of us have only experienced conditional love

Quotables:

“But the truth is unconditional love feels so good and so amazing. And we can choose it any time.”
“That feeling that you’re experiencing, when you’re judging and loathing somebody, that person’s not feeling it, only you are.”
“You’re only punishing yourself, carrying these judgemental, loathsome attitudes.”
“Humans are humans. They get to act however they are going to act. You cannot control them, but you can still choose unconditional love.”
“What is love anyway…it is the sincere and earnest desire for the wellbeing of someone.”
“I first need to allow myself to experience unconditional love, which means I have grace for myself.”
“There’s a lot of forgiveness. There's a lot of grace, and it actually is truly very freeing.”
“I love being able to look at myself and see all my own faults, idiosyncrasies, shortcomings, and still be my own cheerleader.”

References:

Lifehack.Org Unconditional Love Article

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In this episode, we introduce the idea of self-integrity. Which is identifying the values that we have and keeping the internal and external self in alignment with those values. The most important relationship we have is the one we have with ourselves. The way we honor and build this relationship is by showing up for ourselves consistently. This can be in the goals we set, the plans we make or in the way we talk to ourselves. This concept of integrity is essential to creating a steady foundation for which we build the best version of ourselves and that "self" can show up everywhere we are and in everything we do.

Take home points:

You have all the components on the inside you need to run efficiently and effectively and they match everything the way you perform on the outside.
When we're not living in alignment and not doing what we say, then we lose credibility. Most importantly, with ourselves. We stop believing anything that we say that we're going to do.
The first thing you need to do is to define your values.
The second thing we need to do is be mindful of our thoughts, and we know that our thoughts really are the source of everything that happens in our lives.
The goals that you set for yourself, do it out of love for yourself. Not as a comparison to somebody else or somebody else's expectations for you.
It's important to set yourself up for small wins. Set realistic and obtainable goals.
Use your prefrontal cortex, the planning part of your brain!

Quoted articles, books and websites:

"The Way of Integrity: Finding the Path to Your True Self" book by Martha Beck

https://crossfitmilescity.com/5-strategies-for-rebuilding-self-integrity

"Losing 100 pounds with Corinne Crabtree"

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TRIGGER WARNING: In the episode we briefly discuss abusive relationships. This is NOT meant to victim-shame. This does not apply to children. This is more a discussion of adults, with resources, who willingly choose to stay in relationships with no resemblance to anything they’d wish for another person they love.

If you are currently in an abusive relationship, please work directly with a local mental health professional specializing in abuse, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233), or text SMART to 88788.

As always, this podcast does not establish a doctor-patient relationship. It is for general educational purposes only.

In this episode, we again speak again with our favorite psychiatrist, Dr. Richa Thapa, about our most important relationship: the relationship we have with ourselves. It is the foundation for all of our other relationships.

You’ll hear:

How your relationship with yourself determines how you treat yourself, how you allow others to treat you, what you tolerate, what you keep going back to…and many times this is unconscious
Options for uncomfortable interactions with consultants, etc.
Setting and enforcing boundaries
How Dr. Thapa’s relationship with herself changed after a devastating diagnosis
Encouragement for others who have recently received bad news

Quotables:

“You want to fix your marriage. You want to fix your relationship with your children. You think it’s the relationship that you have to work on, but it’s what’s inside.”

“Where’s your parental, mama bear/papa bear instinct FOR YOURSELF?”

“I am still that young child that doesn’t need to be talked to like that. From even myself, ESPECIALLY from myself. I can’t escape my own voice. That’s the one I can’t escape.”

“I think the key with boundaries is following through.”

“Something shifted inside of me at some point. It was like, I gotta be my own friend.”

“Treat yourself like a friend.”

“We can do hard things, and this can be the catalyst you need for creating the life you want. Because you take action when you realize that life is short. At least that was my experience.”

“In every situation, we either win or we learn.”

Recommended resources:

To reach out to Dr. Thapa: richawellness.squarespace.net

For help with domestic violence, contact a mental health professional or call the National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233), or text SMART to 88788.

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In this episode, we introduce you to our friend, Dr. Richa Thapa. She is a clinical psychiatrist who is a burnout survivor and newly certified Life Coach. Her inspirational story of beating the odds of breast cancer, surviving burnout, and discovering a passion for wellness coaching, especially topics about self-confidence and self-love. Enjoy this insightful and thoughtful episode with Dr Thapa and her journey.

*Here are some of our favorite moments:

Dr Thapa:

"I kind of had to just take a step back and reevaluate. I was really burnt out. I felt like I couldn't take care of anyone else's mental health before I could take care of my own."

"my biggest thing going through my cancer journey was, “I don't want to get depressed.” As a psychiatrist, I know what depression can do. I know what anxiety can do. And I know it would just have made everything worse."

"it was like the beginning of a freedom that I didn't know existed."

"this is like cognitive behavior therapy light. It's like a simpler version. But to me, what I liked about it is it was so accessible."

"our wellbeing and there's multiple facets to it, but my love is self-confidence coaching, self-love coaching. I feel like if you can be your own friend and learn to just love yourself in your toughest times you can get through anything."

Websites cited:

richawellness.squarespace.com

drlornabreen.org

Studies mentioned:

Mayo (2019)

Emotional exhaustion (p<0.001)

Burnout (p<0.001)

Resilience (p=0.04)

Quality of Life (p=0.005)

McLean (2020)

Burnout (p = 0.003)

Work Engagement (p = 0.023)

Psychological Capital (p = 0.002)

Job Satisfaction (p = 0.021)

Stanford (2022)

Burnout (p<.0001)

Self-valuation (p<.0001)

Sleep-related impairment (p<.0001)

U of Colorado (2022) - Group Coaching

Emotional exhaustion (p=.01)

Imposter syndrome (p=.003)

Self-compassion (p<.001)

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This episode we discuss Arrival Fallacy - the illusion that once we “make it,” once we attain our goal or reach our destination, we will achieve lasting happiness. The term was coined by Tal Ben-Shahar, Ph.D. in his book, Happier.

We discuss:

What Arrival Fallacy is, and it’s distant relative, Summit Syndrome
The Happiness Quadrants (and where you want to spend most of your time)
Rat race
Hedonism
Nihilism
Happiness Quadrant
Tips to enjoy the journey, including
Stop saying “I’ll be happy when [x]...”
Start lighting it up
Focus on what’s going right
Celebrate along the way
Concentrate on your relationships

Quotables

“You often feel tired, not because you’ve done too much, but because you’ve done too little of what sparks a light in you.” -Alexander den Heijer
Start lighting it up!
Today, if you don’t know what your hobbies are, start dreaming.
As long as you know you’re going in the right direction, you’re going to get there.
If we can be mindful of those pleasant moments and really savor them, they can help carry us along as we endure unpleasantries.
We can learn how to absorb positive experiences.
What we really need is to be able to soak in stuff that’s more positive.
There’s so much going right all the time.
So we celebrate along the way. We can mourn along the way as well. All those things together will help us to find happiness in our journey.
The number one predictor of happiness is the quality tie we spend with people we care about and who care about us. (From Tal Ben-Shahar)
Happiness is the journey, not the destination. (Attributed to a lot of people including Ralph Waldo Emerson, Buddha, & Mahatma Gandhi)

References:

Happiness Quadrants
Alexander den Heijer
Ben-Shahar, Tal. Happier. New York, McGraw-Hill, 2007
Rick Hanson, Ph.D.
Wellness 911- You've Arrived: Why Aren't You Happier? (Dinsmore, Amanda MD; Cazier, Laura MD; Morrison, Kendra DO. Emergency Medicine News: April 2022 - Volume 44 - Issue 4 - p 30. doi: 10.1097/01.EEM.0000827728.91293.5a)

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This episode looks at the relationship you have with yourself, specifically your self-talk. What kind of self talk do you use daily? Would you speak that way to a friend or a child? If not, it isn't something you need to say to yourself either.

Some highlights:

"The talk that I found myself saying to myself was more dismissive. And that is what I thought humility was, but that is nowhere in the definition of humility."
"Sometimes we're just flat out mean to ourselves and pick ourselves apart. Like, we would never talk to anyone else the way we might talk to ourselves."
"But we can approach ourselves like we would any other friend and we really do need to be our own best friend because when it comes down to it, that's the only thing we're guaranteed. We're guaranteed to have ourselves."
"...expecting somebody else to do that for us is expecting a human being to know what we need. We know best the messages that we need to hear for ourselves."
"The first step is to recognize them. The first step is to get outside of our brain and look down and observe our thoughts."

Mentioned in the podcast:

Janet Jordan Sculpture
“The High Five Habit: Take Control of Your Life with One Simple Habit” by Mel Robbins
“What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage” by Amy Sutherland; published in the New York Times on Oct. 11th, 2019
Rachel Hart Coaching (over-drinking coach)

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In this episode, we continue with the 4th of the 5 part series on the 15 most common thought errors. In episodes #3-4 we went over how to try to identify the thought that is causing your negative (or positive) feelings. After you’ve processed the feeling, it’s important to look at if the causative thought is even true, useful in any way, or if there are any other alternatives to consider. This series starts to examine the thought to consider if it falls within any of the 15 most common thought errors.

Distortions 13-15/15:

Fallacy of change - when we think others need to change in order for us to be happy. In reality, we are responsible for our own happiness. We can’t control other adults, so needing them to be other than who they are is an exercise in frustration.
Fallacy of fairness - getting stuck because something isn’t fair or equal. The truth is living on earth has rarely or ever been fair
Heaven’s reward fallacy - expecting rewards based on merit. Since in reality things are rarely fair, we need to live in accordance with our own integrity rather than expecting acknowledgement, promotion, etc for good deeds or hard work.

QUOTABLES:

“The best gift I can give myself is loving myself unconditionally in the same way that we were needing that validation from a supposed or partner…”
“One of the most important things that we could do for ourselves…was to start loving ourselves as we are.”
“When you fight reality, you lose every time.”
“We decide who we are, and that’s how we show up, whether we get reward or appreciation or not.”
“If you’re motivated to do the things that you do expecting some sort of return on it, then that’s an exchange.”
“As we do that and create our own reward, we’re less reliant on- we are less likely to transfer our power to somebody else, expecting them to make us feel good.”
"It is all about becoming the person that you know you can be."
"You are enough, and your worth is not in what you do or what you say or what you accomplish."
MOTHER TERESA QUOTE

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES

Article mentioned:

https://www.mindmypeelings.com/blog/cognitive-distortions?rq=cognitive%20distortions

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In this episode, we continue with the 4th of the 5 part series on the 15 most common thought errors. In episodes #3-4 we went over how to try to identify the thought that is causing your negative (or positive) feelings. After you’ve processed the feeling, it’s important to look at if the causative thought is even true, useful in any way, or if there are any other alternatives to consider. This series starts to examine the thought to consider if it falls within any of the 15 most common thought errors.

Distortions 10-12/15:

"should statements" - statements like "I should be exercising more" create expectations that are not likely to be met. The pressure created from the “should statements” makes it difficult to meet those expectations, when the failure occurs there is guilt and frustration, which makes you less likely to make another attempt.
emotional reasoning - any feeling must be true in their mind. The emotion is accepted as fact because all logical reasoning is blocked out and it incorrectly assumes the negative feeling is the only truth.
control fallacies - (2 subtypes)
- external control fallacy is the belief that a person's life is completely controlled by external factors and fate has already been decided. This distortion creates the feeling that we have no control over our situation.
- internal control fallacy is the belief that a person has complete control, not only of themselves, but also their surroundings. So, you can assume that you are responsible for not only the pain of yourself and others, but also their happiness.

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES
Article mentioned:

https://www.mindmypeelings.com/blog/cognitive-distortions?rq=cognitive%20distortions

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In this episode, we continue with the 3rd of the 5 part series on the 15 most common thought errors. In episodes #3-4 we went over how to try to identify the thought that is causing your negative (or positive) feelings. After you’ve processed the feeling, it’s important to look at if the causative thought is even true, useful in any way, or if there are any other alternatives to consider. This series starts to examine the thought to consider if it falls within any of the 15 most common thought errors.

Distortions 7-9/15:

Blaming - holding others responsible for our pain, playing the victim role
Labeling - assign judgment to ourselves or others based on one negative incident
Always being right - believe our opinions are facts, NEED to be right, efforts to prove ourselves right persist well beyond when most would “agree to disagree.”

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES
Article mentioned:

https://www.mindmypeelings.com/blog/cognitive-distortions?rq=cognitive%20distortions

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In this episode, we continue our 5 part series on the 15 most common thought errors. In episode 3, we went over how to try to identify the thought that is causing your negative (or positive) feelings. After you’ve processed it, it’s important to look at if that thought is even true, useful in any way, or if there are any other alternatives to consider. This series starts to examine the thought to consider if it falls within any of the 15 most common thought errors.

Next up:

Jumping to conclusions - (2 groups)
Mind reading-you think you know what others are thinking, assumptions of their intentions occur with no evidence.
Fortune telling-which is making or make conclusions and predictions with no evidence and can have negative outcomes.
Catastrophizing - over-exaggerate and start worrying about things and escalating them to the worst possible scenario; 2 types
Magnification
Minimizing
Personalization - willingly taking just about anything and everything personally.

Recommended resources
Article mentioned:

https://www.mindmypeelings.com/blog/cognitive-distortions?rq=cognitive%20distortions

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In this episode we start a 5 part series of the 15 most common thought errors. In episode #3 we went over how to try to identify the thought that is causing your negative (or positive) feelings. After you’ve processed it, it’s important to look at if that thought is even true, useful in any way, or if there are any other alternatives to consider. This series starts to examine the thought to consider if it falls within any of the 15 most common thought errors.

First up, thought errors 1-3:

Polarized thinking - this is an all or nothing thinking, ignoring shades of gray
Mental filtering (which is broken up into 2 subtypes):
Negative mental filtering - one negative thing ruins the rest of the day, project, etc
Disqualifying the positive - dismissing an accomplishment in one way or another
Overgeneralization - making assumptions about the future based on a single interaction/event

Recommended resources
Article mentioned:

https://www.mindmypeelings.com/blog/cognitive-distortions?rq=cognitive%20distortions

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In this episode, we talk more about bringing awareness to what’s going on in your brain and how it’s ultimately creating the results in your life. Additionally, we start to discuss starting to think about changing the sticky thoughts giving us problems.

The Cognitive Thought Model

A brief review of the cognitive thought model. Anything that happens outside of you and your control is a situation or CIRCUMSTANCE (C). It is by definition neutral and a fact that everyone agrees upon. It isn’t until you have a THOUGHT (T) about the circumstance that you have a FEELING (F). It’s actually the feeling that drives your ACTION (or inaction or brain chatter). The sum total of your actions/inactions is what gives you the RESULTS (R) of your life.

Start with a daily thought dump - keep it raw and unfiltered (you can always burn the paper later). (See our handout below for a template.)
Separate out the facts, the rest are just thoughts.
For any problematic thoughts, take a close look to evaluate:
why you’re choosing that thought
how it makes you feel
if it’s serving you in any way to keep that thought
are there any other valid perspectives

Once you’ve really evaluated the thought - it’s a good time to have compassion for where the brain learned this and why it offered it up. You can become aware of it and allow it to pass in the future. And if you ultimately decide this thought isn’t helpful for your life, you can move toward an intentional model.

Link to daily Thought Model Worksheet here.

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Victor Frankl famously said, “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” In this episode, we explore that space.

Key Quotes:

“Metacognition happens anytime we have awareness about our learning, thinking and other cognitive processes. But from a deeper level, metacognition involves meta-awareness, truly detaching from the mind to get the bird’s eye view from above.”
“There is a step between all of the things outside of us and our feeling, and that’s our thoughts.”
“We all think that we want to be happy all the time. That’s not true.”
“If that feeling is working for you- feeling frustrated or disappointment or angry…no one’s taking that away from you. It’s your life; you get to do whatever you want.”
“They can still be them, and it doesn’t have to affect us at all.”
“No longer does anybody have access to what’s in between my ears.”
“Jon Kabat Zinn is the mindfulness guy. He says the point is to be aware, on purpose, without judgement. It’s just information.”
“The thoughts are not to be resisted…There are no forbidden thoughts. They’re not good or bad. If they’re getting you where you want to go, then keep it. If they’re not getting you where you need to go, you can allow it to pass….And then intentionally choose a different one that’s a little more helpful for you.”
“There’s no more judging of yourself.”

Resources mentioned:

Be the Pond | Cosmic Kids Zen Den - Mindfulness for kids
3 Brains Image https://www.hilaryjacobshendel.com/post/2018/04/09/getting-to-know-your-3-brains-part-1-how-brain-knowledge-helps
Cognitive Thought Model Image: https://www.dreamstime.com/stock-illustration-cognitive-model-situation-to-behavior-image84311712

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In this episode, Drs. Morrison, Cazier and Dinsmore introduce themselves and discuss their own personal wellbeing struggles while working in medicine (spoiler: 2 of the 3 even quit at one point to save their sanity). After the lowest points in their careers, they each began a journey back to wellness which has enabled all three to continue working clinically. Currently, after additional training in life, health and wellness coaching, they’re ready to share all they’ve learned in the hopes that some of the suffering they experienced can be avoided by others.

Get ready to meet Dr. Kendra Morrison, Dr. Laura Cazier, and Dr. Amanda Dinsmore.

Some highlights from Dr. Dinsmore:

“I had a harder and harder time forgiving myself for being human.”
“ I became a professional feeling-stuffer, and I was using food to help with feelings. I was using wine. I was using television, like binge-watching all of the Real Housewives of every city.”
“I was ruminating; I wasn’t sleeping. I was thinking about everything that went wrong all of the time.”

Some highlights from Dr. Morrison:

“At this point in my career- is this it? It can’t be it. And I can’t be this angry all the time. I can’t be this disappointed.”
“I think all of us as physician find ourselves in that position where we can not disclose. We feel that there could be some report to a medical board, or just fear of having a stigma of having some kind of mental health diagnosis.”
“Everything that we have learned over the last couple of years…has overflowed into all of my relationships and has been rewarding.”

Some highlights from Dr. Cazier:

“And I know, I know most of us have had that feeling where everyone’s just way too sick and everyone is spread way too thin. And it’s just scary. And I got to the point, I was like, what am I doing? This is horrible. I am shortening my life, and I’m miserable. I don’t like the person I am.”
“I remember the discussion I had with my medical director before I quit. She was like, you may never be able to come back. And I was like, I don’t care. I don't care if I never see this place again. And at that time I meant it.”
“We’re all resilient already. Otherwise we wouldn’t have made it through residency training, but to really come into any circumstance and know how to manage our minds around it is a tremendous skill that I’m continuing to develop.”
“There’s nothing more powerful than to create a beautiful life that is the life that you want.”

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Physicians are feeling the burn of working in medicine. In this episode, Drs. Morrison, Cazier and Dinsmore review the 2022 Medscape article, “Physician Burnout & Depressions Report 2022: Stress, Anxiety, and Anger." This survey of over 13,000 US physicians revealed:

which specialities are the most affected by burnout
male vs. female burnout rates
what physicians reported contributes most to burnout
severity of impact burnout has on their lives
quotes from doctors in their own words
most commonly used coping strategies
evidence for reluctance to seek help
willingness to seek out professional help going forward

Quotables:

“Emergency Medicine, Critical Care, OB/GYN, Infectious Disease, Family Medicine, Physical Medicine & Rehabilitation, and Diabetes & Endocrinology were all 50% or greater burned out. So being alive and being one of those doctors working, you are more likely to be burned out than not.”

“It’s no wonder that people don’t seek help when they need it.”

“I think the medical culture definitely reinforces being impenetrable. If you have a problem, don’t talk about it.”

“There are things that we can do with simple mind shifts, mindset shifts that can make such a tremendous difference. And that’s why I’m excited.”

Recommended resources:

Physician Burnout & Depression Report 2022: Stress, Anxiety, and Anger

If you are interested in physician coaching, visit our website: www.thewholephysician.com

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