Sex and the System: Recent Episodes
Lara Szabowski
What does BDSM have to do with Human Rights? How does Kant help us navigate multiple relationships? How do I start to understand the complicated world of polyamory and kink? Sex and the System is your new favorite podcast that will give you interesting insights, fun facts, and mind-blowing concepts to help you understand and navigate your relationships.My name is Lara. I have a degree and Human Rights, with a thesis about Human Rights and BDSM. Now I want to bring this interesting world closer to you.
How is our everyday thinking influenced by economics? And how does this affect our love life?
In this episode, I unpack and discuss the way we think about love is influenced by economics. I discuss starvation economy (from the book "the Ethical Slut"), unconditional love, and transactional relationships. I will show you why it is so important to take a moment and reflect on those topics, and how this can combat jealousy and insecurity in ethical non-monogamy.
In this episode, I touch on the importance of kink-aware therapists. I discuss Foucault's concept of knowledge and power, to explain where conflicts between a Sadist or Masochist and a therapist can come from. What are the consequences? And what can we do to bridge this gap?
In this Episode I discuss the intimacy of body fluid exchange and the paradox surrounding latex. If you have thoughts, feedback or would like to help me with my exam paper please reach out to me. Send me an email at sexandthesystem@gmail.com, or a message on Instagram @sexandthesystem
What do the BDSM and the LGBTQ community have in common? How does their fight for acceptance work from a sociological perspective? And how can the two communities fight alongside each other?
Who is my girlfriend's girlfriend? And what is a metamour?
In this episode, I discuss the different styles of relationships that you can have with your partner's partner. I talk about the differences in parallel poly, kitchen table polyamory, and the in-betweens. And I will tell you why tolerance for conflict can be essential to a working poly relationship
In this episode, I am discussing the difference between rules and boundaries. Why is this difference so important? How can we determine when a boundary becomes a rule? And how does the Philosophie of Freedom help us navigate conflicts?