Anecdotes by Nin: Recent Episodes
Nina Khalil
On a beautiful self discovery journey, that is hopefully, relatable to you. On a mission trying to be as spontaneous as possible to “let go”. Sharing stories, thoughts, motivation, healing process and with a side of humour! This is a spot where you can have casual conversations about life with your friends. Occasionally will bring in guests! Nothing too fancy. Listen with an open mind & heart. Good vibes only ❤️ Enjoy! Here’s the link for you to record and send me a message : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message . Let’s have a conversation.
On this episode i will be talking about rejection ; not being chosen. Most of us, when we get rejected by someone, we feel unworthy or unwanted. As if we are not good enough. Most of the time, it has nothing to do with you but more about them. Also, there is a possibility there is an unhealed emotional wound that gets you addicted to certain types of ppl. If you know what you want and who you are, what your emotional wound is, what your boundaries are, chances are you know your direction. If they reject you, sometimes it doesn’t mean you’re not good enough. It just means you’re not in alignment with him. He is not at the same phase as you are in life. Don’t be confused like he is. He is chosing convenience over consistency. He is chosing in the moment rather than long term. Chances are, he is doing it to other girls too, to seek validation. If that’s not what you want or where you are at, do not settle for less, just to be liked. What are you doing, betraying yourself like that? After all the hardwork you put in yourself to become better? Get moving forward to finding your alignment. Stop the “addiction” and focus on your intention & direction. You will thank yourself once you take yourself out from that addiction loop. Don’t forget to give ratings and review on my spotify page (at the top page of my main podcast titles). And don’t forget to follow me on my social media : TikTok (Nina Khalil/@ninkhalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin and YouTube : Nina Khalil (@AnecdotesByNin). You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
On this episode, i will talk about self-reflection. How i normally would self reflect on myself and situations in life. Even when i fumble. I will talk about our triggers, what are our triggers, how to understand yourself from it and accept the situations that happens in our life, is there for a reason. Triggers will tell things about you more than about others and it’s up to you how you want to deal with it. Healing and doing the innerwork takes alot of work and it is a process. That’s why not many people are willing or want to do the work. You need to feel in order for you to heal and most of us are just numbing ourselves because it’s the easy way out. Is it? Or does it come back in waves & hit you when you least expect it? Working on yourself is the biggest & most valuable investment that you will be making in life. You won’t regret it. Don’t forget to give ratings and review on my spotify page (at the top page of my main podcast titles). And don’t forget to follow me on my social media : TikTok (Nina Khalil/@ninkhalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin and YouTube : Nina Khalil (@AnecdotesByNin). You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
In this episode, i will be talking about how we should pick our battles, what we should fight for. Focus on our intentions on why. And to make peace & leave behind those who are not aligned, the “one track mind” or set in their ways, not open to understanding or seeing a different perspective. And to find your alignment. What you believe in, your core values, what make sense to you, what you stand for and where’s your direction. Once you know all this, find the people who shares the same values & principles you uphold. Once you find your alignment, you are more focused on your direction and purpose in life. Don’t forget to give ratings and review on my spotify page (at the top page of my main podcast titles). And don’t forget to follow me on my social media : TikTok (Nina Khalil/@ninkhalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin and YouTube : Nina Khalil (@AnecdotesByNin). You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
On this episode, i will be sharing about my hijab journey. You will see a more deeper side to me and i poured my heart out like i’ve never done before 🥺. For those who have been following my social media will understand why i speak up about Palestine so much 🍉. This journey, although has only been a short one so far, has opened up my eyes, mind and heart to a much bigger purpose and view on life & myself. How i overlooked at my religion, how i practised it before compared to now and how i’ve learnt to appreciate it even more. Life is a test, and all the heartbreaks, betrayals, failures, rejections etc only leads you back to our creator, Allah SWT the AlMighty, Ar-Raheem (The Most Merciful) and Al-Ghafur (The All-Forgiving) 🤲🏻❤️. Don’t forget to give ratings and review on my spotify page (at the top page of my main podcast titles). And don’t forget to follow me on my social media : TikTok (Nina Khalil/@ninkhalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin and YouTube : Nina Khalil (@AnecdotesByNin). You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
In this episode, i will be talking about how sometimes we question ourselves on why we need to be good and do good things for those who don’t value or appreciate us. Isn’t it a waste of time? Or is it in our nature to do good without getting anything in return? Do we like to take people as “projects” to fix them so we feel good about ourselves or is it to see more good in the world? Whatever that you are, be it. If you are a good person, be it, do it, even if other’s treat you poorly. Because genuine kindness is fading in this world. Don’t be bitter, be better.
In this episode, i will be sharing about FOMO (fear of missing out). We live in a world where we allow society to dictate : you should be married at the age of 25, you should be a CEO at 40, you shouldn’t be a Stay at Home Mom; you should go to work. We should mute these narratives that’s been “planted” in our minds since we were kids. People nagging in our ears and shoving their beliefs & thoughts unto us. Stop it. Allow yourself to go through these phases and stages in life at your own timeline & pace! Focus on yourself to be better first and the rest will be aligned at the right time. Do not fear, missing OUT! Don’t forget to give ratings and review on my spotify page (at the top page of my main podcast titles). And don’t forget to follow me on my social media : TikTok (Nina Khalil/@ninkhalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin . You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
On this episode, i will be sharing about my healing journey, my emotions journal, amongst other things i try to apply in my life. Finding ways that works for your own healing is therapeutic. It gets you in the zone similar feeling to when you’re praying. And praying makes you forget about worldly matters and focusing on your internal state & Allah SWT. Which is your ultimate healing. The definition of healing is different for everyone. For me, healing is mainly just observing yourself to see what works for YOU. Observing your thoughts, your behaviour, your triggers and most importantly, it’s applying “The Pause”. The pause will create a way for you to take a pause, take a deep breath and then figure out your next step to overcome whatever you’re going through. This will buy you time from doing or saying stupid things you might do/say at the heat of the moment when emotions run high. That you’ll regret later. Emotions come and go. Let it. We’ve all been there. I hope by me sharing all the process of my journey will help you find what works for your own healing. Do things at your pace. No one should force you to do anything that you’re not ready to do just yet. I got YOU! Don’t forget to give ratings and review on my spotify page (at the top page of my main podcast titles). And don’t forget to follow me on my social media : TikTok (Nina Khalil/@ninkhalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin . You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
On this episode, i will be talking and sharing about how we shouldn’t let compliments get to our heads, and criticism get to our hearts. Treat compliments and criticism like emotions. Let them come and go. Take what’s good to make you grow and leave the bad that’s weighing you down. Moderation is key. I think we get too attached with these things to acknowledge our self worth a lot. So it’s time to separate them so we understand that compliments, criticism, emotions, our past, our mistakes, is NOT WHO WE ARE. And not to link them with who we are. Once we see things in a different perspective, our lives will change. And don’t be too hard on yourself. You’re doing your best. I got you! 🫶🏻. Don’t forget to follow my TikTok : @ninkhalil (Nina Khalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin. You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
On this episode, i will be sharing on how we can learn to fight with our partners or the people we love in a more healthy manner, a different approach, a different perspective and direction. Ways to navigate a difficult conversations or disagreements. Find what works for you. What’s your intention and end goal in that fight. Finding the right partner to fight with is also important. Someone who understands that you are a team and the end goal is love and conflict resolution for better understanding not against them. Finding people who understands this concept of fighting is crucial in your relationship/marriage and for your mental health. That is why it’s best to see people how they handle conflict when they don’t get what they want, how they think and behave if it is aligned with yours. Your values etc. These will help you become better people, better partners for each other. Don’t forget to give ratings and review on my spotify page (at the top of my main podcast title). And don’t forget to follow me on my social media : TikTok (Nina Khalil), Instagram : @anecdotes_by_nin . You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
On this episode, i will be sharing about how we look at our past mistakes in life especially when it comes to relationships. These romantic relationships are often what will trigger our traumas, thoughts, reactions & behaviours as it is the closest to us & affects us deeply. We often blame the ppl who have hurt us but have we actually looked at it differently? How we play a part in the break up. And what are our own toxic patterns, why we attract certain type of ppl that don’t appreciate/value us. And why we are reactive to certain situations/ppl. Ppl will treat you at the level you treat yourself. And ppl will treat you at the level they love themselves. Hurt ppl, hurt ppl. Read that again. You allowed however they treated you. Time to reflect upon mistakes into a much healthier light to be a better version of ourselves and stop blaming others for the hurt they have caused us. Ppl are ppl, let them be. Don’t try to fix them. We can stop the cycle by setting boundaries, stopping your own vicious cycle of attracting ppl who don’t appreciate or want to commit to you etc. We are an active participant and we need to be more mindful and aware of our own patterns. So that we don’t project our past pain unto others and vice versa. Show ppl how you should be treated by loving yourself and putting yourself first. Being selfish at this point, is necessary ❤️.
In this episode, i will be talking about beliefs, morals, values. How we should stand firm on our beliefs. What we were taught (practises in our religion), how we were raised, the environment we are in, what we consume, what we believe is true, knowing what is right & wrong, what is good & evil etc, all play a huge part in how we turn out to be as adults. Humanity is dying. It is up to us to create better human beings for ourselves, our future generations & for a better world.
Men & Women perceive love and emotions differently. We were raised differently in our thought process when it comes to emotion. No matter how much you disagree, it is true. Women are raised in this fairy tale of “Happily Ever After”. Beauty & The Beast, Cinderella etc. A woman connects emotionally with a man. However, a man connects differently with a woman. They connect emotionally with a woman but it takes awhile and it’s slightly different than how a woman connects emotionally. Take a listen to this episode and let me know if any of it is true (in the comment section) and if you have any thoughts 😆. You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
Having a crush is fun, exciting, refreshing. But when we get infatuated with someone, it’s NOT! Especially when you are self aware. Because infatuation is not real! They’re not true feelings. It could be an obsession or might be an attachment. And it usually lasts for about 4 months or so. This is also the “honeymoon phase” where everything is exciting. You need time to understand your feelings. It fluctuates. Stop creating the character in your mind that they are perfect! Stop creating their characteristics made in your head based on your selected criteria. They’re not perfect and same goes to you. Once you like someone, take your sweet time being friends with them. Allow them to be vulnerable at their own time to see who they truly are. But before even thinking about this person or getting into a relationship, reflect, dive deep and see if you are repeating an old toxic pattern of attracting same toxic partners. If this is trauma bonding. Remember, once you do the internal work, the right ppl will gravitate towards you that’s aligned with you. Just don’t get into your head too much. Good luck! You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
Forgiveness is a process. Forgive and forget. Can you? As easy as it sounds, it’s not. Not until you go through a stage/process before forgiving someone. A stage called emotional release. This is where you need to fully immerse and understand the hurt and pain you’ve suffered all these years. Acknowledge and be aware of it. Not blame but to understand. To grieve the person that was in pain and was betrayed (you). You are allowed to feel the pain and release it from your body. You may not like it, but it is necessary in order to move forward. You can’t fully forgive someone until you’ve understood the emotion that was pent up inside. Address it in a loving way. Once you’ve gone through this process, you are ready to forgive someone & fully move on from this person. The reason for doing this is that your body needs to release that pent up emotion so you can fully heal. Give yourself patience and kindness while you do so. Once done, you can forgive and move on with your life and be free from the pain. You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
Do you realise, that everyone we meet, will bring out different sides of us. Some bring out the worst and some bring out the best version of us. It depends on what stages/phase in life we are at. And how we perceive it.“Leave traces of you in ways they’ll think of you. Leave memories that can be cherished that only you can create.Leave words that will be planted for them to grow in the most beautiful ways.Leave in peace, knowing that YOU are in everyone you meet”.You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
How do you want to be loved? What is love to you? What makes you feel loved, seen and heard? In this episode i will be sharing about our love languages and how each of us give and receive love differently. And how loving yourself, isn’t necessarily as easy as it sounds. It takes commitment and consistent work. Start observing yourself, what triggers you, your patterns in relationships & how to self soothe without attaching yourself with others. You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
In this modern world of social media that focuses on status, glitz & glam, power and materialistic things, we tend to get fixated into thinking that it’s never enough. We are never enough. We need more and we need what others have. When in reality, what you need is already in you. Rather than focusing on what’s going on around you and what others have, focus on what’s going on in your internal world and what you already have. Definition of happiness determines on how you look at things. And it differs with everyone else. So why are we too fixated in what others have? You can leave a msg or comment to me on your thoughts! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
Do you know what your personality type is? It reveals how you function in your thoughts and behaviour and how you interact with others. How it relates to your life. In a way, it helps in understanding yourself more. Google : personality test, and answer those questions as honest as you can. From there, you’ll understand why you act or think a certain way. You can leave a msg or comment to me! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
Do you look at your parents in a different light as you grow older? When we were kids, we’d view them as parents/caregivers, not really as someone who had to go through life and raise their kids & family, while being aware & caring for their mental health. That’s alot for someone to take in. Especially for young married couple and new parents. Once you go through that phase, will you only see them in that way. In a way that you had to go through. So do we still want to blame them for causing traumas or not being good parents? I think they did their best at the state they were in & emotional maturity they were at when they raised us. Once we actually go through it then we can understand what they went through. Value them that they fought for you, to raise you and care for you when in reality, they might be going through alot of stress and pressure.
For this topic, i will be talking about boundaries, and how to have them. Boundaries are different for everyone. First of all, you need to know what yours is. What’s your love language, what’s your attachment style, what’s your trigger and how you want ppl to treat you. I did something that i’m proud of this week. I stood by my boundary and i didn’t neglect myself how i used to. Healing can be a lonely journey and ppl will most probably leave you and hate you for setting those boundaries because they won’t get that “people pleaser” version of you anymore. But do what it takes to protect your mental health and well being, even when they think you’re mean. Do whatever it takes not to ever abandon yourself and your boundaries. Your inner child will thank you for standing up for her. Know that YOU matter most. Protect yourself how you would protect and defend a friend. For life ❤️. You can leave a msg or comment to me! Click on the link : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message
For this episode, i will be reading and replying feedback/comments from my lovely listeners! Based on previous topics. Thank you for writing in ❤️. Appreciate the support!
Are you having a difficult time letting go of the past and wondering what went wrong to that relationship/marriage/job opportunity/friendship? If you had done it differently? Replaying conversations just to see what went wrong? Stop. Breathe. Let Go and Let God. Time to stop seeking outward and look inward. What is it that you need, emotionally? What makes you feel safe and happy in a relationship? Does that person makes you feel seen and heard and if they are good for your mental health? Most of the time it’s not them, it’s you. There’s something missing in you that is seeking validation from others. Some inner child wound that needs attention. Once you let go of the past, things and people that are weighing you down, you will then see the potential and opportunities that life has to offer. Work on yourself. You will then see amazing people that are aligned with your energy, good opportunities that you never see coming. Be open to possibilities & good things for you and think about YOU, for once. You deserve it. Letting go is easy when you’re healing ✨.
On this episode, i celebrate my birthday and my presence for the very first time. How many of us, as we grow older, we tend to shy away or not celebrate our birthdays? Simply because we are stuck in life, we don’t feel like celebrating etc. This year, i’m celebrating the small wins, the little & big hurdles in life that i’ve overcome, the grateful things in life that i overlook because i was busy looking at the problems instead. I’m celebrating & embracing the person that i am. The person that i’ve become. You should celebrate your birthdays as well and celebrate your presence. Because you are perfect the way that you are and you should love everything about you. It all starts with you. Be kind and gentle with yourself ❤️. Celebrate yourself and celebrate your life ❤️.
In this episode, i will be talking and sharing about my grieving process. We all grieve and mourn in different ways. Some take months, some years and some never fully heal from the pain. How you deal and heal from it, is yours. There are at least 5 stages & emotions associated with grief. Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. Feeling this way is natural and even necessary. These emotions are steps to your healing journey and there’s no order to them. But what’s important is that you feel whatever that you’re feeling and it is valid. Find ways to cope your day to day live while grieving. And seek professional help when necessary. This is your process. Heal well ❤️. Drop me a private message to share with me your healing process if you like. Here’s the link for you to record and send me a message : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message . Follow my instagram page : @anecdotes_by_nin . Thanks for the love ❤️.
In this episode, we will be talking about the intricacy of dating. When you first start dating someone, when to invest your time and energy on someone and how to regulate and develop certain relational skills to communicate in a healthy way. And to create a safe space to have casual chats about the things both you and your partner want in a relationship and the pace that you are both at. Also to eliminate the people who don’t want anything serious with you. That will save you time and energy to move forward. Be mindful of what you need, not to focus on being liked by that person. It can be difficult but it is necessary in order to avoid getting hurt and knowing your worth. Share with me your experience in dating. Here’s the link for you to record and send me a message : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message . Follow my instagram page : @anecdotes_by_nin . Thanks for the love ❤️.
Have you ever wondered how career & relationship goes hand in hand? It’s basically about adapting to change either working environment or someone new. Learning to adapt to human behaviour and getting out of our comfort zone. Let’s face our obstacles with “what is this teaching me” phrase and go internal instead of external. Find ways to adapt and find that middle ground. At the end of the day we all want to make things work. Here’s the link for you to record and send me a message : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message . Don’t forget to follow my instagram @anecdotes_by_nin and give rating to my podcast on Spotify! Much love ❤️ TQ!
People tend to point out other people’s flaws and weakness rather than strength. That’s just human nature. But don’t take it to heart and be affected by it. Sometimes people are “uncomfortable” with your “strength”. We can turn our weakness into a strength instead and see how your life changes. A mind shift. Don’t forget to follow my podcast on Spotify, click on the bell button for new episode updates and i would appreciate if you can kindly give rating on my podcast! TQ! Here’s the link for you to record and send me a message : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message . Let’s have a conversation. Follow my instagram @anecdotes_by_nin for updates. Much love ❤️
Dating & Relationships. Have you ever taken the time to look back and reflect about your past relationship triggers/traumas? And work on yourself, before you jump into another relationship & repeat the cycle? “Love is a state of being. Your love is not outside ; it is deep within you. You can never lose it and it cannot leave you. It is not dependent on some other body, some external form”. - Eckhart Tolle. Here’s the link for you to record and send me a message : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message . Let’s have a conversation. Follow my Instagram: @anecdotes_by_nin for more updates!
Are you friends with your exes? Or do you have a tough time staying friends with them? You don’t have to hold on to your past. You don’t have to do the things you don’t want to, just to keep others happy. There’s a reason why it ended, time to conserve and reserve your energy for new ppl, new things and new experiences in your life in order to grow. Wish them well, move forward and be happy. You owe it to yourself ❤️. Here’s the link for you to record and send me a message : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message . Let’s have a conversation. Follow my Instagram: @anecdotes_by_nin for more updates!
How are YOU, FEELING, today? Sharing how i deal and process with my Bad Days. Hoping to hear your process too. Surpressing emotions and bottling up won’t do you good especially when you’re feeling down. Allow yourself to be human, just feel your emotions and express them. It’s ok to allow yourself to express negative emotions on your bad days to let it all out for ONE day so that you can recharge your energy the next day to feel better. This time, negativity is not a bad thing. Feel better ok! Here’s the link for you to record and send me a message : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message . Let’s have a conversation.
On this episode i will be talking & sharing about how being authentic and true to yourself and owning your beliefs and who you are is the key to your happiness and growth. Here’s the link for you to record and send me a message : https://anchor.fm/nina-khalil/message . Let’s have a conversation.
I will be talking about personal growth, human behaviour, psychology, reality tv shows, healing, dating, life, food, love & relationships etc. Occasionally will bring in guests to just chat and chill like how you would with your friends! Nothing too fancy or heavy. And of course, with a side of HUMOUR! Come and join me! Enjoy the show!