The Daily Grind can become the perfect blend of life leadership by taking ownership of your current situation, embracing critical thinking and emotional responses to improve daily actions. Discover the art of sustainability and survivability.
When we understand our emotional reaction and emotional response we can blaze our own trail. Until then we continue to fluff our lines.
All or nothing thinking- • If you're not with me, you'r against me. • So-and-so is all good/bad. • Because this wasn't a complete success, it is a total failure.
This is extreme thinking- associated with depression and frustration. Oh, and make your God damned bed. If you change your story, you can change your life.
An altercation, a whisper of discontent, "he said" "she said" What exactly? Do you look at things pragmatically? Or like most, create a thousand reasons to be anxious and angry.
Oh, and make your God damned bed. If you change your story, you can change your life.
Say yes, then figure out how. Oh, and make your God damned bed. If you change your story, you can change your life.
Oh, and make your God damned bed. If you change your story, you can change your life.
If its humanly possible you can do it. Oh, and make your God damned bed. If you change your story, you can change your life.
"Silence is a lesson learned from the many sufferings of life." - Seneca
Oh, and make your God damned bed. If you change your story, you can change your life.
"You must stop blaming God, and not blame any person. You must completely control your desire and shift your avoidance to what lies within your reasoned choice. You must no longer feel anger, resentment, envy, or regret."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
My Dad glanced over his shoulder, smiled and waved.
I said goodbye, but changed it to 'cheerio' as goodbye felt like forever.
For some reason I was scared. I was 11 yrs old.
He never came home.
Tony King died that day.
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Top of your game, world at your feet.
You wake up clinging to life and your dreams in a hospital bed.
If things go pear shaped have you an ability to carry on?
You have, but it's quite possible you don't know it.
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Will there ever be a perfect time? Perfect day? Perfect weather? Perfect way?
Action beats perfection hands down.
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Dead at 33. Did the President die? No, that's my Dad, Tony King.
Why was his funeral such a grand spectacle?
Simple, the impact one man had on others.
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
The candles are blown out to a loud cheer, followed by a weak attempt at 'hip hip hoor-fukn-ray'
Then we all go back to our internal shit storm.
The word 'Joy' is thrown around casually.
I'm overjoyed..
She is a joy to be around..
It's a joyous occasion..
That's not true 'Joy' it's more like cheer.. and cheer is like a candle in a snow storm, lasts no length.
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Are you broken? No you are not
"The person who has practised philosophy as a cure for the self becomes great of soul, filled with confidence, invincible- and greater as you draw near."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Are we condescending on purpose?
Do we allow others to lord privilege over us?
"Some people are sharp and others dull; some are raised in a better environment, others in worse, the latter, having inferior habits and nurture, will require more by way of proof and careful instruction to master these teachings and to be formed by them - in the same way that bodies in a bad state must be given a great deal of care when perfect health is sought."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
When good men do nothing.
It's not enough to just not do evil.
"Often injustice lies in what you aren't doing, not only in what you are doing."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
What's on your tombstone?
You are a human 'being' not a human 'doing'
Workaholic's always make excuses for their selfishness.
"When you see someone often flashing their rank or position, or someones whose name is often bandied about in public, don't be envious; such things are bought at the expense of life.. Some die on the first rungs of the ladder of success, others before they can reach the top, and the few that make it to the top of their ambition through a thousand indignities realize at the end it's only for an inscription on their gravestone."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
We have a reasoned choice.
A proper response is not to not care.
What will mindless, meaningless sympathy bring us?
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Pull the covers over your head, hide from your purpose. When will you realise people depend on you. You might be in turmoil, a dark place but you have a purpose. You have a reason to get out of bed every day. Life is not about you, it's about your positive impact on others.
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Forgive them because they don't know. Does forgiveness empower you?
Does forgiveness strip the power of the aggressor?
"As Plato said, every soul is deprived of truth against its will. The same holds true for justice, self-control, goodwill to others, and every similar virtue. It's essential to constantly keep this in you mind, for it will make you more gentle to all."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
You try something.
Your circle-
• Laugh, you can't do it
• Its not for you
• You don't need change
• Your useless
• I don't agree
• Do it (Please fail)
• You won't succeed
Self doubt, you give up.
Your circle-
• Told you so
I record off the cuff.
Why?
I speak with emotion, self belief, I try and stay humble despite sometimes wanting to scream, grab you and shake the life out of you.
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
What are you doing? Actually how are you doing it?
"To what service is my soul comited? Constantly ask yourself this and thoroughly examine yourself by seeing how you relate to that part called the ruling principle. Whose soul do I have now? Do I have that of a child, a youth.... a tyrant, a pet, or a wild animal?"
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
"When you've done well and another has benefited by it, why like a fool do you look for a third thing on top- credit for the good deed or a favour in return?"
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
"Every great power is dangerous for the beginner. You must therefore wield them as you are able, but in harmony with nature."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
A 'life leader' leads. Are you always copied? Your dress? Your hairstyle? Your sayings? Your social media? Have you considered yourself to be a leader? "One person, on doing well by others, immediately accounts the expected favour in return. Another is not so quick, but still considers the person a debtor and knows the favour. A third kind of person acts as if not conscious of the deed, rather like a vine producing a cluster of grapes without making further demands, like a horse after it's race, or a dog after it's walk, or a bee after making its honey. Such a person, having done a good deed, won't go shouting from rooftops but simply moves on to the next deed just like the vine produces another bunch of grapes in the right season."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Don't be lazy, choose your hard.
"In your actions, don't procrastinate. In your conversations don't confuse. In your thoughts, don't wander. In your soul, don't be passive or aggressive. In your life, don't be all about business."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
"But was does Socrates say? 'Just as one person delights in improving his farm, and another his horse, so I delight in attending to my own improvement day by day.'"
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
"Love the humble art you have learned, and take rest in it. Pass through the remainder of your days as one who whole-heartedly entrusts all possessions to the gods, making yourself neither a tyrant nor a slave to any person."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
The Philosopher King.
Are you a leader? Yes.
"For I believe a good King is from the outset and by necessity a philosopher, and the philosopher is from the outset a kingly person"
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
This is what life is all about, I'm buzzing, read the first line and watch the video.
"Enough of this miserable, whining life. Stop monkeying around! Why are you troubled? What's new here? What's so confounding? The one responsible? Take a good look. Or just the matter itself? Then look at that. There's nothing else to look at. And as far as the gods go, by now you could try being more straightforward and kind. It's the same, whether you've examined these things for a hundred years, or only three."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
This touched me, deep and thought provoking.
Each day we shatter dreams, destroy imagination, restrict positive thinking.
Our kids crave amazement and endless possibilities of fairy tales and legends.
We kick that idea into touch with facts.
Are we missing the moral of the story?
"This is what you should teach me, how to be like Odysseus- how to love my country, wife and father, and how, even after suffering shipwreck, I might keep sailing on course to those honourable ends."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
You want to achieve your dream, your family frown, your circle grunt, your haters sneer, give up, or be different. Oh, and make your Goddamn bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Every one of us has a flame burning inside us.
As they extinguish the world becomes a darker place.
It is our duty to keep our flame burning brightly.
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
To do? Or get to do?
That 'To do' list you keep making, ticking off bit by bit, it keeps growing, quite often it's incomplete. It started out positive, now it's negative.
Imagine adding a single word to it, GET.
"The task of a philosopher : we should bring our will into harmony with whatever happens, so that nothing happens against our will and nothing that we wish for fails to happen."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
What's in it for me?
Will this make me rich?
Will people be impressed?
How hard do I need to try?
How long will this take?
Should I do this, or that?
"Never shirk the proper dispatch of your duty, no matter if you are freezing or hot, groggy or well-rested, vilified or praised, not even if dying or pressed by other demands. Even dying is one of the important assignments of life and, in this as in all else, make the most of your resources to do well the duty at hand."
Oh, and make your Goddamn bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
"Whatever anyone does or says, for my part Im bound to the good. In the same way an emerald or gold or purple might always proclaim: 'whatever anyone does or says, I must be what I am and show my true colours.' "
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Self loathing and self hate allow us to self destruct, slip into anxiety, depression and a desire to leave this world.
"Philosophy calls for simple living, but not for penance - it's quite possible to be simple without being crude."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Our emotional reaction to daily challenges define us as a person.
"How does it help, my husband, to make misfortune heavier by complaining about it? This is more fit for a King- to seize your adversities head on. The more precarious his situation, the more imminent his fall from power, the more firmly he should be resolved to stand and fight. It isn't manly to retreat from fortune."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
After our coffee you leave for home with a mind full of rainbows, fluffy clouds and happy bunnies.
By the time your home the happy pil wears off and the raging storm envelops you.
Not on my watch.
We push buttons, we look into the eye of the storm.
We encourage ownership and acceptance.
It's hard, but it's the 'grown up' thing to do.
"What assistance can we find in the fight against habit? Try the opposite!"
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
The wise have it easy. We look on with envy, even spite that 'clever clogs' is so successful.
They have it easy, poor me I have it hard.
"This is why we say that nothing happens to the wise person contrary to their expectations."
Oh, and make your God damned bed. If you change your story, you can change your life.
I fail every day, because I keep trying.
I'm always right.
I'll argue until I'm blue in the face.
I always have the last word.
I never admit I'm wrong.
"The beautiful and good person neither fights with anyone nor, as much as they are able, permits others to fight... this is the meaning of getting an education- learning what is your own affair and what is not. If a person carries themselves so, where is there any room for fighting?"
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Ever spend ages looking for your glasses? Only to realise they where on your head all the time?
Freedom? A choice.
Happiness? A choice.
Respect? A choice.
"You could enjoy this very moment all the things you are praying to reach by taking the long way around- if you'd stop depriving yourself of them."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Does your blood boil at the new online fitness experts? Now the world is awakening in a new phase will you suddenly forget how to walk?
Covid has brought a new wave of online experts.
The professional 'walker'
The mountaineer
The home workout guru
The Zoom workout specialist
The list goes on.
Are these experts even qualified?
Are they in it for personal or monetary gain?
Is it positive or negative?
Does it boil your blood?
"We should take wandering outdoor walks, so that the mind might be nourished and refreshed by the open air and deep breathing."
"If you are defeated once and tell yourself you will overcome, but carry on as before, know in the end you'll be so ill and weakened that eventually you won't even notice your mistake and will begin to rationalise your behaviour."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
'Calm and Contagious' - Navy Seals The maxim that Navy Seals pass for generations is that in the midst of chaos, battle and even the fog of war their battle field advice is ' Calm is contagious'
"If then it's not that the things you pursue or avoid are coming at you, but rather that you in a sense are seeking them out, at least try to keep your judgement of them steady, and they too will remain calm and you won't be seen chasing after or fleeing from them."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Can we focus on the present and not be negatively affected by the bigger picture?
"Don't let your reflection on the whole sweep of life crush you. Don't fill your mind with all the bad things that might still happen. Stay focused on the present situation and ask yourself why it's so unbearable and can't be survived."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
It used to be better, life was better before.... life was better when I had.. life was better when I was..
You chose your path.
"Let fate find us prepared and active. Here is the great soul- the one who surrenders to Fate. The opposite is the weak and degenerate one, who struggles with and has a poor regard for the order of the world, and seeks to correct the faults of the Gods rather than their own." - Seneca. Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
What type of person will be at your death bed? How we navigate life determines self fulfilment, is attack or defence the way forward? "Fortune doesn't have the long reach we suppose, she can only lay siege to those who hold her tight. So, let's step back from her as much as possible."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Afraid to ask for help, I blamed myself for my Father's death.
"Don't be ashamed of needing help. You have a duty to fulfill just like a soldier on the wall of battle. So what if you are injured and can't climb up without another soldier's help?"
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
I don't listen, I don't give time, I don't connect or communicate on a energy level, I fail my family by not pausing and giving my full attention.
I try, and I'll continue to try.
By far my most heartfelt video. "Every event has two handles- one by which it can be carried, and one by which it can't. If your brother does you wrong, don't grab it by his wronging, because this is the handle incapable of lifting it. Instead, use the other- that he is your brother, that you were raised together, and then you will have hold of the handle that carries."
"To the youngster talking nonsense Zeno said, "The reason why we have two ears and only one mouth is so we might listen more and talk less."
A little mention for Matt Burke "Mind your little self"
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Oh and make your God damned bed.
I want to do a podcast about this podcast, it is that important.
We live to fight, that's life, a constant battle, a short sharp battle.
"Don't you know life is like a military campaign? One must serve on watch, another in reconnaissance, another on the front line...
So it is for us- each person's life is a kind of battle, and a long and varied one too. You must keep watch like a soldier and do everything commanded.. You have been stationed in a key post, not some lowly place, and not for a short time but for life."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
No plan survives contact. Can you adapt? Are you flexible or do you need constant direction?
Mike Tyson said no plan survives a punch in the face. "In this way you must understand how laughable it is to say, 'Tell me what to do!' What advice could I possibly give? No, a far better request is, 'Train my mind to adapt to any circumstance.' .... In this way, if circumstances take you off script... you won't be desperate for a new prompting." - Epictetus
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Your digging a hole. When a curve ball hits us out of the blue common sense tells us to deal with it in a positive way.
The monkey brain hands you a shovel and you start digging.
"How much more harmful are the consequences of anger and grief than the circumstances that aroused them in us."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Listen to this and tell me you can't, take 5 minutes, oh you have no time? Listen to this and see what other excuses you tell yourself.
"If you find something very difficult to achieve yourself, don't imagine it impossible- for anything possible and proper for another person can be achieved as easily by you."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
I want to run. No walk. But I want to run. No walk.
Do I go left or right?
No. I go brick by brick building my own path.
"We like to say that we don't get to choose our parents, that they were given by chance - yet we can truly choose whose children we'd like to be."
"You must build up your life action by action, and be content if each one achieves its goal as far as possible- and no one can keep you from this. But there will be some external obstacle! Perhaps, but no obstacle to acting with justice, self control, and wisdom. But what if some other area of my action is thwarted? Well, gladly accept the obstacle for what it is and shift your attention to what is given, and another action will immediately take it's place, one that better fits the life you are building."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
In the supermarket are you the person who constantly changes cashier to find the fastest route?
Or do you stick to your guns?
"Think of those who, not by fault of inconsistency but by lack of effort, are too unstable to live life as they wish, but only live as they have begun."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Man on fire.
Nobody enjoys a pity party so step up and take ownership.
Who's to blame for your current situation?
The world?
No.
You.
"We cry to God Almighty, how can we escape this agony? Fool, don't you have hands? Or could it be God forgot to give you a pair? Sit and pray your nose doesn't run! Or, rather just wipe your nose and stop seeking a scapegoat."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
The first two things before action "The first thing to do- don't get worked up. For everything happens according to the nature of all things, and in a short time you'll be nobody and nowhere, even as the great emperors Hadrian and Augustus are now. The next thing to do- consider carefully the task at hand for what it is, while remembering that your purpose is to be a good human being. Get straight to doing what nature requires of you, and speak as you see most just and fitting- with kindness, modesty, and sincerity." - Marcus Aurelius. Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Sweat the small stuff - It is not the making of your bed that counts, its the action step that breeds success. "Well-being is realized by small steps, but is truly no small thing."
It's the small daily wins that map out your life route, create momentum and breed confidence.
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
Hurt people, hurt people.
Stop caring what people think!
"I'm constantly amazed by how easily we love ourselves above all others, yet we put more stock in the opinions of others than in our own estimation of self... How much credence we give to the opinions our peers have of us and how little to our very own!"
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
If you want to find joy, get after it. Is true joy found in wealth or is it deeper than that?
"Joy for human beings lies in proper human work. And proper human work consists in: acts of kindness to other human beings, disdain for the stirrings of senses, identifying trustworthy impressions, and contemplating the natural order and all that happens in keeping with it."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
In this episode we look at the death of my father. My Dad died at 33, did he have a purpose On your death bed will you feel you fulfilled your life?
Or will you die with regret?
"Show me that the good life doesn't consist in its length, but in its use, and that it is possible - no, entirely too common - for a person who has had a long life to have lived too little."
Oh, and make your God damned bed.
If you change your story, you can change your life.
In this episode we take a peak at how in this crazy modern life we perceive the present moment, and ultimately how our perception is key to becoming more mindfully aware of how we live our day to day life.
A crushed mindset after the death of my father at 11 years of age led me on a path of emptiness and a desire to leave this world. Despite great life achievements nothing could fill the void. A fantastic 21 year military career retiring as Sergeant, a highly skilled Sniper and Military Survival Instructor, I have used my life experience to become a Psychological Motivator and Transition specialist. I lead life from the front, pulling no punches we poke the bear and take supreme ownership of exactly where we are in life right now. A blessed father of two young boys and a beautiful fiancée my passion is impacting others in a positive way.
A pivotal day in taking ownership of exactly where you are in life, we poke the bear and push your buttons to spark that internal flame, life leadership is a mindset skill, its not a given, its earned through self reflection.