Chaplain, Can We Talk?: Recent Episodes
Robert A Terrell & Eric Nobrega
An initially monthly, and hopefully eventually bi-monthly, podcast of chaplains from the North Central Team of Corporate Chaplains of America discussing the one subject they most wish they could discuss with their employees that month.
In this episode of Chaplain, Can We Talk we discuss friendship with Head Coach at Vibrancy Unlocked. What is friendship, why is it so important, why does it seem to be in such a shortage, and how to we increase it within our life.
If you would like to talk with Brent or consider using his coaching services, you can contact Brent at brent@vibrancyunlocked.com or find out more about his coaching at vibrancyunlocked.com
Articles referenced during the discussion:
- Surgeon general lays out framework to tackle loneliness and ‘mend the social fabric of our nation
- The friendship recession
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Caring for people takes a great deal of energy. What do you do with it starts to fatigue you? In this episode Eric, Jared, and Robert talk with Jeff Thomson about Compassion Fatigue.
Jeff's model that anyone can use:
- Recognize
- Relate
- Refer
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In this episode of Chaplain, Can We Talk Eric, Jared, and Robert talk with Chaplain Derek Arnold concerning how our bodies respond to trauma. We're normal people going through normal responses to abnormal circumstances.
Books referenced during the episode:
- The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D
- In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts by Gabor Maté M.D.
- Good Anxiety: Harnessing the Power of the Most Misunderstood Emotion by Dr. Wendy Suzuki
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Our emotions and money are more entangled than we usually recognize. How we spend (or don't) is often mixed up with our emotional well-being. In this episode of Chaplain, Can We Talk with discuss this with Retirement Advisor Clancy Cramer.
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In this bonus episode of Chaplain, Can We Talk Eric Nobrega talks about a specific time when forgiveness was difficult for him but also exactly what he and his family needed to be able to recover from a circumstance.
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Jared shares his desire for a reset button in life and the realization that there are seasons within our lives and years and those seasons offer us the chance to make new choices.
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We all get hurt and we all hurt others so forgiveness is an essential thing in our lives. Yet we often don't know what it means to forgive and how to do it. In this episode of Chaplain, Can We Talk we discuss forgiveness with our fellow chaplain Carl Griffin.
Carl's practical steps:
- Decide
- Follow through
- Accept
HERE's the episode on forgiveness from the Russell Moore Podcast that is mentioned during the episode.
The book Free of Charge by Miroslav Volf is mentioned in the episode. You can find that book HERE.
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We have to edit down our episodes each time. This bonus episode is a part that we cut out of the main segment but feel is still full of good information.
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What is rest and why is it so important for us as humans? We talk with Melvin Swafford about this and how we can better incorporate rest into our lives. Melvin defines rest as "a healthy perspective and practice of disconnecting and connecting - not just unplugging but also plugging into things that you give you life."
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A quick thought on the power of the non-anxious presence within a system and our need for it within our families during the holidays.
An OODA loop is:
- Observe
- Orient
- Decide
- Act
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Eric, Jared, and Robert talk with Sarah Nobrega, Director of Clinical Services at a Mental Health Hospital, concerning the importance of leadership versus management and how everyone in any position within an organization can be a leader.
The podcast that Sarah references during the Creating Space question is Everything Happens with Kate Bowler.
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This bonus episode contains a discussion cut for time from our last episode. It concerns modern funeral practices and how they can help with grief.
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In this month's episode of Chaplain, Can We Talk Eric, Jared, and Robert talk with Bereavement Counselor and Thanatologist Hillary Furnish concerning grief, its goal, how to grief well, and went to seek help.
Here are the two books Hillary mentions:
- Advice for Future Corpses (and Those Who Love Them) by Sallie Tisdale
- Disenfranchised Grief: New Directions, Challenges, and Strategies for Practice by Kenneth J. Doka
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Lessons we learned from our conversation with our friend and fellow chaplain Joe Pietrangelo concerning being an encourager. Why is being an encourager so important right now? What practical actions can we do to be more encouraging?
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This month Robert and Jared talk about dealing with your Inner Critic and encouraging your Inner Coach.
Jeff's main points are:
*Bring the Inner Critic out of the shadows.
*Watch for the comparison trap. We very often compare what we know of ourselves with what we don't know about others.
*Practice constructive self-talk.
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Sometimes it is difficult to keep our first things first and it can feel like we are trying to keep too many plates spinning. In this episode of CHaplain, Can We Talk we speak with Chaplain, and also our Regional Manager, Jeff Thomson concern Work/Life Balance and specifically if we should be focused on integration rather than balance.
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Humans are relational beings. Therefore it is hugely important that we work toward healthy relationships. In this episode of Chaplain, Can We Talk Eric, Jared, and Robert talk with Jenny Buckman about healthy and unhealthy relationships. While the majority of the discussion concerning romantic relationships the advice is good for so many different relationships.
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The end of the year is a time where we often spend a great deal of time with family. Sometimes that is good and other times it can be very taxing. In this bonus episode Chaplain Robert Terrell talks through ways to plan to not only survive your family time but also keep it an enjoyable time with family members that may be difficult when you find yourself spending a great deal of time with them.
Here are the two articles that Robert references:
*How to Survive Holiday Family Madness
*20 Great Holiday Conversation Starters to Break the Ice and Connect with Anyone
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Chaplain Jared Furnish joins Chaplain Can We Talk again to discuss how to give and receive healthy feedback. What are best practices for giving and receiving words that help us and others to improve in what is important to us?
Here are the two podcasts that Jared references during the episode.
- The Holy Post Podcast
- Ask N.T. Wright Anything
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This month Eric & Robert talk about dealing with anxiety with Jamie Waldera an RN who works with psychiatric patients and an instructor of other nurses. The following resources are mentioned during the episode:
- The TV Show Taskmaster
- Cognitive Distortions Sheet
Episode Cover Art Photo by Elina Krima from Pexels
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In this episode of Chaplain, Can We Talk Eric & Robert talk with Dr. Pam Terrell of the University of Wisconsin - Stevens Point concerning parenting strategies and hints. The episode is full of good help but can be summarized by trying to be mindful and consistent. The book on discipline that Dr. Terrell references is 1-2-3 Magic by Thomas Phelan
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In this episode of Chaplain, Can We Talk Eric & Robert talk with Tom Gonzalez a Master Trainer for ACE Interface concerning Adverse Childhood Experiences, how they affect us, and what we can do to take back control of our lives.
During the Interview, Tom references the following links.
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Dr Feliti's Youtube video on the original research: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Me07G3Erbw8
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A link for the presentation summary: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1CJ3tbfHiUEipuCOMUMCYu8AuaIfnHr7B/view?usp=sharing
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A link for the original study: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1UsZi77F7Bus1EQ4BJpMWWBXwYJARRNh0/view?usp=sharing
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Robert talks about the steps from the article "How to Cope With 'Re-Entry Anxiety'" and how they may help with all anxiety in general.
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Try to separate caution and fear.
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Restrict your media exposure on COVID-19.
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Gather encouraging and interesting information about the medical advances and information related to this virus.
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Start small.
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Try to find a re-entry buddy.
The article can be found HERE.
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For the fourth primary episode (we have a bonus episode each month) we talk with Chaplain Jared Furnish of Watertown, Wisconsin concerning resolving conflict. Jared offers some practical help in resolving conflict and considering why we get into conflict.
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In this month's bonus episode, Eric talks about the article "Be Honest And Concrete: Tips For Talking To Kids About Death" and the helpful hints found in it.
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in the third primary episode of Chaplain, Can We Talk our very own Eric Nobrega talks about some of his personal experiences with grief when as a 6th grader he saw his father unexpectedly (at least for him) die in front of him. Eric talks about what helped and what hurt with his grief. He offers insight from his experience that will help anyone dealing with their own grief or the grief of someone they love. In addition, Eric offers up insight into helping children face their own grief.
Eric referenced three songs during our discussion. Here are those songs.
- "Those Nights" by Skillet. The lyric he paraphrases is "Stay up late and we'd talk all night, In a dark room lit by the TV light, Through all the hard times in my life, Those nights kept me alive". https://youtu.be/6vtrZQgG1uA
- "April 24, 1981" by Rick Springfield https://youtu.be/09VLIFCP3Xk
- "With Hope" by Steven Curtis Chapman https://youtu.be/JmyUgsmCzB4
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The main episode for March was an interview with Chaplain Lou Ramo on depression & anxiety. In this bonus episode Robert briefly discusses an article dealing 7 strategies for managing anxiety - https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mental-health-nerd/202101/7-strategies-manage-anxiety
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For the second primary episode (we have a bonus episode each month) we talk with Chaplain Lou Ramos of Chicago concerning Depression and Anxiety. Lou discusses the importance of being upfront about depression and anxiety and gives us a very helpful acronym for guidance in discussing the subject with loved ones. The acronym is TALK (Time to Talk, Ask directly about the situation, Listen to what they say, Keep safety in mind).
Here are some of the resources that Lou recommends:
- Switch on Your Brain: The Key to Peak Happiness, Thinking, and Health - https://smile.amazon.com/dp/0801018390/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabc_GYPRJCVD8KVYY06FNBYZ
- Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess: 5 Simple, Scientifically Proven Steps to Reduce Anxiety, Stress, and Toxic Thinking - https://smile.amazon.com/dp/0801093457/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabc_W67GXW9AVPWP0BFWMFKW
- Winning the War in Your Mind: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life - https://smile.amazon.com/dp/0310362725/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabc_DD025ADBGBZ91C2BHW6Q
The book Robert mentions during the episode is Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl - https://smile.amazon.com/dp/0807067997/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_fabc_YV5ZVPW3AR27A7G2J4J6
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The main episode for February was an interview with Chaplain Jeff Thomson on mental health awareness. In this bonus episode Robert briefly discusses an article dealing with some basic facts we should know about mental health awareness. The article is located here - https://www.cnn.com/2020/10/09/health/mental-illness-awareness-week-wellness/index.html
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For the first-ever episode of Chaplain, Can We Talk we interview Jeff Thomson, Regional Director of the North Central Team of Corporate Chaplains of America, and ask him about the importance of mental health awareness. Why is it important to talk about the subject? How can we listen and care for ourselves and others when dealing with mental health? What is the role of the chaplain and professional counseling in regards to mental health?
Jeff references Mental Health First Aid and the ALGEE acronym. You can find out more information about MHFA here - https://www.mentalhealthfirstaid.org/.
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