NeverNarc: Recent Episodes
Annette
If you’ve broken free from the entanglement of narcissistic abuse, congratulations! You’re part of a very special group of amazing women who dared to believe a better life was possible and who partnered with God to stand up and say, “I refuse to accept living under the control of a narcissist. I want the life God intended me to live – to be who God intended me to be, and take my place in the Kingdom, achieving what I’m called to do.” At the moment you may feel like you’re standing on wobbly legs but we promise, the best is yet to come for you! We understand and we’re here to stand with you, to comfort and encourage you, to inspire and challenge you to rise from the ashes and create a beautiful life - rich with purpose, peace, and delight. So grab a cup of your favorite brew, get comfy, and come join us for some great conversation in NeverNarc Podcast.
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Just getting away from the narcissist doesn’t make things all better.
Sure it’s TONS better to be away from that constant toxicity but that’s not enough.
We’ve talked with so many women who initially feel such relief that they think they’re fine and can move on.
But it doesn’t take long for the novelty of that to wear off and they’re caught off guard with a tangle of negative emotions tying their wrists and wrapping around their ankles, tripping them up as they try with all their will to act normal again.
What’s sad is that I’ve seen women get caught in a state like this for a long, long time, not realizing that trying to shelve all those broken emotions and painful memories didn’t make them go away.
What they need is heart healing - emotional healing.
This is very different from trying to apply logic and reason to what’s going on.
Logic and reason have an important role to play in dispelling confusion…but logic and reason can’t heal an angry, disillusioned, broken heart.
The good news is that you can partner with God to walk through a process of healing your heart AND kicking your spiritual enemy out of the equation.
Throughout this week Wendy and I are going to introduce you to the steps of this process.
It’s not a difficult process to learn or experience but it certainly is life changing!
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We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: https://annettechesney.com/make-sense
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Website:
https://annettechesney.com
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We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Just getting away from the narcissist doesn’t make things all better.
Sure it’s TONS better to be away from that constant toxicity but that’s not enough.
We’ve talked with so many women who initially feel such relief that they think they’re fine and can move on.
But it doesn’t take long for the novelty of that to wear off and they’re caught off guard with a tangle of negative emotions tying their wrists and wrapping around their ankles, tripping them up as they try with all their will to act normal again.
What’s sad is that I’ve seen women get caught in a state like this for a long, long time, not realizing that trying to shelve all those broken emotions and painful memories didn’t make them go away.
What they need is heart healing - emotional healing.
This is very different from trying to apply logic and reason to what’s going on.
Logic and reason have an important role to play in dispelling confusion…but logic and reason can’t heal an angry, disillusioned, broken heart.
The good news is that you can partner with God to walk through a process of healing your heart AND kicking your spiritual enemy out of the equation.
Throughout this week Wendy and I are going to introduce you to the steps of this process.
It’s not a difficult process to learn or experience but it certainly is life changing!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Just getting away from the narcissist doesn’t make things all better.
Sure it’s TONS better to be away from that constant toxicity but that’s not enough.
We’ve talked with so many women who initially feel such relief that they think they’re fine and can move on.
But it doesn’t take long for the novelty of that to wear off and they’re caught off guard with a tangle of negative emotions tying their wrists and wrapping around their ankles, tripping them up as they try with all their will to act normal again.
What’s sad is that I’ve seen women get caught in a state like this for a long, long time, not realizing that trying to shelve all those broken emotions and painful memories didn’t make them go away.
What they need is heart healing - emotional healing.
This is very different from trying to apply logic and reason to what’s going on.
Logic and reason have an important role to play in dispelling confusion…but logic and reason can’t heal an angry, disillusioned, broken heart.
The good news is that you can partner with God to walk through a process of healing your heart AND kicking your spiritual enemy out of the equation.
Throughout this week Wendy and I are going to introduce you to the steps of this process.
It’s not a difficult process to learn or experience but it certainly is life changing!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Just getting away from the narcissist doesn’t make things all better.
Sure it’s TONS better to be away from that constant toxicity but that’s not enough.
We’ve talked with so many women who initially feel such relief that they think they’re fine and can move on.
But it doesn’t take long for the novelty of that to wear off and they’re caught off guard with a tangle of negative emotions tying their wrists and wrapping around their ankles, tripping them up as they try with all their will to act normal again.
What’s sad is that I’ve seen women get caught in a state like this for a long, long time, not realizing that trying to shelve all those broken emotions and painful memories didn’t make them go away.
What they need is heart healing - emotional healing.
This is very different from trying to apply logic and reason to what’s going on.
Logic and reason have an important role to play in dispelling confusion…but logic and reason can’t heal an angry, disillusioned, broken heart.
The good news is that you can partner with God to walk through a process of healing your heart AND kicking your spiritual enemy out of the equation.
Throughout this week Wendy and I are going to introduce you to the steps of this process.
It’s not a difficult process to learn or experience but it certainly is life changing!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Just getting away from the narcissist doesn’t make things all better.
Sure it’s TONS better to be away from that constant toxicity but that’s not enough.
We’ve talked with so many women who initially feel such relief that they think they’re fine and can move on.
But it doesn’t take long for the novelty of that to wear off and they’re caught off guard with a tangle of negative emotions tying their wrists and wrapping around their ankles, tripping them up as they try with all their will to act normal again.
What’s sad is that I’ve seen women get caught in a state like this for a long, long time, not realizing that trying to shelve all those broken emotions and painful memories didn’t make them go away.
What they need is heart healing - emotional healing.
This is very different from trying to apply logic and reason to what’s going on.
Logic and reason have an important role to play in dispelling confusion…but logic and reason can’t heal an angry, disillusioned, broken heart.
The good news is that you can partner with God to walk through a process of healing your heart AND kicking your spiritual enemy out of the equation.
Throughout this week Wendy and I are going to introduce you to the steps of this process.
It’s not a difficult process to learn or experience but it certainly is life changing!
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Most of my adult life I’ve been in a leadership role in one form or another.
But then came the narcissist in my life. More than one of them actually.
With every hit from the narcissist I fought to get back on my feet again. I had enough strength and determination to stand against the onslaught of verbal and emotional abuse and keep going…until I didn’t.
I felt that I had gotten myself into a pickle and it was my job to get myself out of it.
So I limped forward, determined not to be beaten.
I was exhausted and disheartened.
The longer it went on the more my confidence eroded.
The longer it went on the more I felt unfit for leadership.
As a matter of fact, I didn’t even want to lead. I was too worn down to rise to the occasion.
When the time came that I knew the Lord was calling me to step up and step out again, I knew I needed to rebuild my confidence and belief in my ability to set goals, to win, and to lead well.
That’s what we’re going to be talking about this week.
Each day this week I’m going to share 5 “seeds of confidence” that you’ll need to replant and nurture as you rebuild your confidence to lead again after narcissistic abuse.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Most of my adult life I’ve been in a leadership role in one form or another.
But then came the narcissist in my life. More than one of them actually.
With every hit from the narcissist I fought to get back on my feet again. I had enough strength and determination to stand against the onslaught of verbal and emotional abuse and keep going…until I didn’t.
I felt that I had gotten myself into a pickle and it was my job to get myself out of it.
So I limped forward, determined not to be beaten.
I was exhausted and disheartened.
The longer it went on the more my confidence eroded.
The longer it went on the more I felt unfit for leadership.
As a matter of fact, I didn’t even want to lead. I was too worn down to rise to the occasion.
When the time came that I knew the Lord was calling me to step up and step out again, I knew I needed to rebuild my confidence and belief in my ability to set goals, to win, and to lead well.
That’s what we’re going to be talking about this week.
Each day this week I’m going to share 5 “seeds of confidence” that you’ll need to replant and nurture as you rebuild your confidence to lead again after narcissistic abuse.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Most of my adult life I’ve been in a leadership role in one form or another.
But then came the narcissist in my life. More than one of them actually.
With every hit from the narcissist I fought to get back on my feet again. I had enough strength and determination to stand against the onslaught of verbal and emotional abuse and keep going…until I didn’t.
I felt that I had gotten myself into a pickle and it was my job to get myself out of it.
So I limped forward, determined not to be beaten.
I was exhausted and disheartened.
The longer it went on the more my confidence eroded.
The longer it went on the more I felt unfit for leadership.
As a matter of fact, I didn’t even want to lead. I was too worn down to rise to the occasion.
When the time came that I knew the Lord was calling me to step up and step out again, I knew I needed to rebuild my confidence and belief in my ability to set goals, to win, and to lead well.
That’s what we’re going to be talking about this week.
Each day this week I’m going to share 5 “seeds of confidence” that you’ll need to replant and nurture as you rebuild your confidence to lead again after narcissistic abuse.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Most of my adult life I’ve been in a leadership role in one form or another.
But then came the narcissist in my life. More than one of them actually.
With every hit from the narcissist I fought to get back on my feet again. I had enough strength and determination to stand against the onslaught of verbal and emotional abuse and keep going…until I didn’t.
I felt that I had gotten myself into a pickle and it was my job to get myself out of it.
So I limped forward, determined not to be beaten.
I was exhausted and disheartened.
The longer it went on the more my confidence eroded.
The longer it went on the more I felt unfit for leadership.
As a matter of fact, I didn’t even want to lead. I was too worn down to rise to the occasion.
When the time came that I knew the Lord was calling me to step up and step out again, I knew I needed to rebuild my confidence and belief in my ability to set goals, to win, and to lead well.
That’s what we’re going to be talking about this week.
Each day this week I’m going to share 5 “seeds of confidence” that you’ll need to replant and nurture.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Most of my adult life I’ve been in a leadership role in one form or another.
But then came the narcissist in my life. More than one of them actually.
With every hit from the narcissist I fought to get back on my feet again. I had enough strength and determination to stand against the onslaught of verbal and emotional abuse and keep going…until I didn’t.
I felt that I had gotten myself into a pickle and it was my job to get myself out of it.
So I limped forward, determined not to be beaten.
I was exhausted and disheartened.
The longer it went on the more my confidence eroded.
The longer it went on the more I felt unfit for leadership.
As a matter of fact, I didn’t even want to lead. I was too worn down to rise to the occasion.
When the time came that I knew the Lord was calling me to step up and step out again, I knew I needed to rebuild my confidence and belief in my ability to set goals, to win, and to lead well.
That’s what we’re going to be talking about this week.
Each day this week I’m going to share 5 “seeds of confidence” that you’ll need to replant and nurture.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
There’s a common outcome I’ve observed in professional women after they’ve experienced narcissistic abuse.
Where once they were bold and confident when tackling challenging goals now even though they no longer have a narcissist in their face on a regular basis it seems like their…
...go get ‘em,
...take that hill,
...raise the bar,
...give me a good challenge,
...go after big goals
mojo has run dry.
There’s part of them that remembers when chasing after goals was fun. They laughed at the possibility of failure.
But now, post narcissist, not so much.
In a moment of boldness they’ll set a challenging goal but the inspiration and conviction that used to carry them through the messy middle and across the finish line now disappears early in the game, leaving them feeling frustrated, disheartened, and even embarrassed.
What’s going on here?
This week we’re going to tackle the question we’ve heard so many times,
“Why Do I Start Strong Then Shrink Back In Anxiety?”
Mon through Thurs of this week we’re going to unpack the contributing factors to this problem to demystify what’s going on.
Then on Friday we’ll give you 3 helpful steps to get you back on track and moving forward as you learn to believe in yourself and enjoy the process again.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
There’s a common outcome I’ve observed in professional women after they’ve experienced narcissistic abuse.
Where once they were bold and confident when tackling challenging goals now even though they no longer have a narcissist in their face on a regular basis it seems like their…
...go get ‘em,
...take that hill,
...raise the bar,
...give me a good challenge,
...go after big goals
mojo has run dry.
There’s part of them that remembers when chasing after goals was fun. They laughed at the possibility of failure.
But now, post narcissist, not so much.
In a moment of boldness they’ll set a challenging goal but the inspiration and conviction that used to carry them through the messy middle and across the finish line now disappears early in the game, leaving them feeling frustrated, disheartened, and even embarrassed.
What’s going on here?
This week we’re going to tackle the question we’ve heard so many times,
“Why Do I Start Strong Then Shrink Back In Anxiety?”
Mon through Thurs of this week we’re going to unpack the contributing factors to this problem to demystify what’s going on.
Then on Friday we’ll give you 3 helpful steps to get you back on track and moving forward as you learn to believe in yourself and enjoy the process again.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
There’s a common outcome I’ve observed in professional women after they’ve experienced narcissistic abuse.
Where once they were bold and confident when tackling challenging goals now even though they no longer have a narcissist in their face on a regular basis it seems like their…
...go get ‘em,
...take that hill,
...raise the bar,
...give me a good challenge,
...go after big goals
mojo has run dry.
There’s part of them that remembers when chasing after goals was fun. They laughed at the possibility of failure.
But now, post narcissist, not so much.
In a moment of boldness they’ll set a challenging goal but the inspiration and conviction that used to carry them through the messy middle and across the finish line now disappears early in the game, leaving them feeling frustrated, disheartened, and even embarrassed.
What’s going on here?
This week we’re going to tackle the question we’ve heard so many times,
“Why Do I Start Strong Then Shrink Back In Anxiety?”
Mon through Thurs of this week we’re going to unpack the contributing factors to this problem to demystify what’s going on.
Then on Friday we’ll give you 3 helpful steps to get you back on track and moving forward as you learn to believe in yourself and enjoy the process again.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
There’s a common outcome I’ve observed in professional women after they’ve experienced narcissistic abuse.
Where once they were bold and confident when tackling challenging goals now even though they no longer have a narcissist in their face on a regular basis it seems like their…
...go get ‘em,
...take that hill,
...raise the bar,
...give me a good challenge,
...go after big goals
mojo has run dry.
There’s part of them that remembers when chasing after goals was fun. They laughed at the possibility of failure.
But now, post narcissist, not so much.
In a moment of boldness they’ll set a challenging goal but the inspiration and conviction that used to carry them through the messy middle and across the finish line now disappears early in the game, leaving them feeling frustrated, disheartened, and even embarrassed.
What’s going on here?
This week we’re going to tackle the question we’ve heard so many times,
“Why Do I Start Strong Then Shrink Back In Anxiety?”
Mon through Thurs of this week we’re going to unpack the contributing factors to this problem to demystify what’s going on.
Then on Friday we’ll give you 3 helpful steps to get you back on track and moving forward as you learn to believe in yourself and enjoy the process again.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
There’s a common outcome I’ve observed in professional women after they’ve experienced narcissistic abuse.
Where once they were bold and confident when tackling challenging goals now even though they no longer have a narcissist in their face on a regular basis it seems like their…
...go get ‘em,
...take that hill,
...raise the bar,
...give me a good challenge,
...go after big goals
mojo has run dry.
There’s part of them that remembers when chasing after goals was fun. They laughed at the possibility of failure.
But now, post narcissist, not so much.
In a moment of boldness they’ll set a challenging goal but the inspiration and conviction that used to carry them through the messy middle and across the finish line now disappears early in the game, leaving them feeling frustrated, disheartened, and even embarrassed.
What’s going on here?
This week we’re going to tackle the question we’ve heard so many times,
“Why Do I Start Strong Then Shrink Back In Anxiety?”
Mon through Thurs of this week we’re going to unpack the contributing factors to this problem to demystify what’s going on.
Then on Friday we’ll give you 3 helpful steps to get you back on track and moving forward as you learn to believe in yourself and enjoy the process again.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
It’s the nature of a narcissist to drain your sense of power from you. They feel more powerful themselves when they know they’ve robbed you of yours.
Even when you’ve made it out of that narcissistic relationship, the sense of powerlessness you feel or can be triggered into doesn’t just reverse itself.
Those feelings of being weak, drained, less than, insecure, and like damaged goods can linger with us for a long time.
No doubt we fight against it. But the very fact that we’re constantly fighting against this is in of itself something that reinforces our belief that we really have lost our power.
Be aware that our spiritual enemy lurks around the edges of our life looking for ways to reinforce the message conditioned into you that you are lacking in real power.
But this week we want to challenge you to consider if that belief is really nothing but a straw man using the echoes of the past narcissist to intimidate you.
What if you’re far, far more powerful than you know?
I spent a little time brainstorming on this topic. In a matter of minutes I came up with 20 ways we can wield our power.
This week we’re going to look at 5 of those ways and how you can begin exercising power in each.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
It’s the nature of a narcissist to drain your sense of power from you. They feel more powerful themselves when they know they’ve robbed you of yours.
Even when you’ve made it out of that narcissistic relationship, the sense of powerlessness you feel or can be triggered into doesn’t just reverse itself.
Those feelings of being weak, drained, less than, insecure, and like damaged goods can linger with us for a long time.
No doubt we fight against it. But the very fact that we’re constantly fighting against this is in of itself something that reinforces our belief that we really have lost our power.
Be aware that our spiritual enemy lurks around the edges of our life looking for ways to reinforce the message conditioned into you that you are lacking in real power.
But this week we want to challenge you to consider if that belief is really nothing but a straw man using the echoes of the past narcissist to intimidate you.
What if you’re far, far more powerful than you know?
I spent a little time brainstorming on this topic. In a matter of minutes I came up with 20 ways we can wield our power.
This week we’re going to look at 5 of those ways and how you can begin exercising power in each.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
It’s the nature of a narcissist to drain your sense of power from you. They feel more powerful themselves when they know they’ve robbed you of yours.
Even when you’ve made it out of that narcissistic relationship, the sense of powerlessness you feel or can be triggered into doesn’t just reverse itself.
Those feelings of being weak, drained, less than, insecure, and like damaged goods can linger with us for a long time.
No doubt we fight against it. But the very fact that we’re constantly fighting against this is in of itself something that reinforces our belief that we really have lost our power.
Be aware that our spiritual enemy lurks around the edges of our life looking for ways to reinforce the message conditioned into you that you are lacking in real power.
But this week we want to challenge you to consider if that belief is really nothing but a straw man using the echoes of the past narcissist to intimidate you.
What if you’re far, far more powerful than you know?
I spent a little time brainstorming on this topic. In a matter of minutes I came up with 20 ways we can wield our power.
This week we’re going to look at 5 of those ways and how you can begin exercising power in each.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
It’s the nature of a narcissist to drain your sense of power from you. They feel more powerful themselves when they know they’ve robbed you of yours.
Even when you’ve made it out of that narcissistic relationship, the sense of powerlessness you feel or can be triggered into doesn’t just reverse itself.
Those feelings of being weak, drained, less than, insecure, and like damaged goods can linger with us for a long time.
No doubt we fight against it. But the very fact that we’re constantly fighting against this is in of itself something that reinforces our belief that we really have lost our power.
Be aware that our spiritual enemy lurks around the edges of our life looking for ways to reinforce the message conditioned into you that you are lacking in real power.
But this week we want to challenge you to consider if that belief is really nothing but a straw man using the echoes of the past narcissist to intimidate you.
What if you’re far, far more powerful than you know?
I spent a little time brainstorming on this topic. In a matter of minutes I came up with 20 ways we can wield our power.
This week we’re going to look at 5 of those ways and how you can begin exercising power in each.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
It’s the nature of a narcissist to drain your sense of power from you. They feel more powerful themselves when they know they’ve robbed you of yours.
Even when you’ve made it out of that narcissistic relationship, the sense of powerlessness you feel or can be triggered into doesn’t just reverse itself.
Those feelings of being weak, drained, less than, insecure, and like damaged goods can linger with us for a long time.
No doubt we fight against it. But the very fact that we’re constantly fighting against this is in of itself something that reinforces our belief that we really have lost our power.
Be aware that our spiritual enemy lurks around the edges of our life looking for ways to reinforce the message conditioned into you that you are lacking in real power.
But this week we want to challenge you to consider if that belief is really nothing but a straw man using the echoes of the past narcissist to intimidate you.
What if you’re far, far more powerful than you know?
I spent a little time brainstorming on this topic. In a matter of minutes I came up with 20 ways we can wield our power.
This week we’re going to look at 5 of those ways and how you can begin exercising power in each.
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We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
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“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” –Eleanor Roosevelt
Experiencing narcissistic abuse over a period of time can certainly change you. Whether those changes are empowering or disempowering is up to you.
In Episodes 68-72 we posed the question, “Are You As Recovered As You Need To Be?”
We looked at 5 negative ways of living that can still be present even years after you left that toxic relationship.
Those 5 negative ways of living are symptoms that point to areas of your heart and mind that need some healing and a reset so you’re free to be and do all that God has for you.
The following week in Episodes 73-77 we looked at the assumptions or agreements we’ve embraced within ourselves that show up as those negative symptoms.
This week we’re going to unpack things another layer deeper and look at the fears driving those assumptions so we can explore How To Face Leftover Fears Still Lurking In Your Mind.
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We'd love to hear from you! Email us: hello@annettechesney.com
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” –Eleanor Roosevelt
Experiencing narcissistic abuse over a period of time can certainly change you. Whether those changes are empowering or disempowering is up to you.
In Episodes 68-72 we posed the question, “Are You As Recovered As You Need To Be?”
We looked at 5 negative ways of living that can still be present even years after you left that toxic relationship.
Those 5 negative ways of living are symptoms that point to areas of your heart and mind that need some healing and a reset so you’re free to be and do all that God has for you.
The following week in Episodes 73-77 we looked at the assumptions or agreements we’ve embraced within ourselves that show up as those negative symptoms.
This week we’re going to unpack things another layer deeper and look at the fears driving those assumptions so we can explore How To Face Leftover Fears Still Lurking In Your Mind.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” –Eleanor Roosevelt
Experiencing narcissistic abuse over a period of time can certainly change you. Whether those changes are empowering or disempowering is up to you.
In Episodes 68-72 we posed the question, “Are You As Recovered As You Need To Be?”
We looked at 5 negative ways of living that can still be present even years after you left that toxic relationship.
Those 5 negative ways of living are symptoms that point to areas of your heart and mind that need some healing and a reset so you’re free to be and do all that God has for you.
The following week in Episodes 73-77 we looked at the assumptions or agreements we’ve embraced within ourselves that show up as those negative symptoms.
This week we’re going to unpack things another layer deeper and look at the fears driving those assumptions so we can explore How To Face Leftover Fears Still Lurking In Your Mind.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” –Eleanor Roosevelt
Experiencing narcissistic abuse over a period of time can certainly change you. Whether those changes are empowering or disempowering is up to you.
In Episodes 68-72 we posed the question, “Are You As Recovered As You Need To Be?”
We looked at 5 negative ways of living that can still be present even years after you left that toxic relationship.
Those 5 negative ways of living are symptoms that point to areas of your heart and mind that need some healing and a reset so you’re free to be and do all that God has for you.
The following week in Episodes 73-77 we looked at the assumptions or agreements we’ve embraced within ourselves that show up as those negative symptoms.
This week we’re going to unpack things another layer deeper and look at the fears driving those assumptions so we can explore How To Face Leftover Fears Still Lurking In Your Mind.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.” –Eleanor Roosevelt
Experiencing narcissistic abuse over a period of time can certainly change you. Whether those changes are empowering or disempowering is up to you.
In Episodes 68-72 we posed the question, “Are You As Recovered As You Need To Be?”
We looked at 5 negative ways of living that can still be present even years after you left that toxic relationship.
Those 5 negative ways of living are symptoms that point to areas of your heart and mind that need some healing and a reset so you’re free to be and do all that God has for you.
The following week in Episodes 73-77 we looked at the assumptions or agreements we’ve embraced within ourselves that show up as those negative symptoms.
This week we’re going to unpack things another layer deeper and look at the fears driving those assumptions so we can explore How To Face Leftover Fears Still Lurking In Your Mind.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Last week I shared the story of women who came to me for help with their business because they realized they were stuck but didn’t know how to get out of the self-sabotaging loop they were in.
We looked at 5 symptoms that were giveaways that you might not be as recovered from narcissistic abuse as you would like to be.
- Imposter syndrome
- Distrusting yourself
- Lackluster & Trudging
- Wound Too Tight
- Distrusting God
This week we’re going to unpack how to begin the process of breaking the self-sabotaging loop under those 5 symptoms by examining 5 Assumptions You Need To Question So You Can Get Better.
These assumptions are the result of trying to make sense of what we’ve been through.
The problem is we lacked complete and accurate information so the conclusion we drew was flawed, leading us assume certain "truths" that are in reality falsehoods.
Join us as we shine the light on these 5 assumptions that really need to be challenged if we want to be free.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Last week I shared the story of women who came to me for help with their business because they realized they were stuck but didn’t know how to get out of the self-sabotaging loop they were in.
We looked at 5 symptoms that were giveaways that you might not be as recovered from narcissistic abuse as you would like to be.
- Imposter syndrome
- Distrusting yourself
- Lackluster & Trudging
- Wound Too Tight
- Distrusting God
This week we’re going to unpack how to begin the process of breaking the self-sabotaging loop under those 5 symptoms by examining 5 Assumptions You Need To Question So You Can Get Better.
These assumptions are the result of trying to make sense of what we’ve been through.
The problem is we lacked complete and accurate information so the conclusion we drew was flawed, leading us assume certain "truths" that are in reality falsehoods.
Join us as we shine the light on these 5 assumptions that really need to be challenged if we want to be free.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Last week I shared the story of women who came to me for help with their business because they realized they were stuck but didn’t know how to get out of the self-sabotaging loop they were in.
We looked at 5 symptoms that were giveaways that you might not be as recovered from narcissistic abuse as you would like to be.
- Imposter syndrome
- Distrusting yourself
- Lackluster & Trudging
- Wound Too Tight
- Distrusting God
This week we’re going to unpack how to begin the process of breaking the self-sabotaging loop under those 5 symptoms by examining 5 Assumptions You Need To Question So You Can Get Better.
These assumptions are the result of trying to make sense of what we’ve been through.
The problem is we lacked complete and accurate information so the conclusion we drew was flawed, leading us assume certain "truths" that are in reality falsehoods.
Join us as we shine the light on these 5 assumptions that really need to be challenged if we want to be free.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Last week I shared the story of women who came to me for help with their business because they realized they were stuck but didn’t know how to get out of the self-sabotaging loop they were in.
We looked at 5 symptoms that were giveaways that you might not be as recovered from narcissistic abuse as you would like to be.
- Imposter syndrome
- Distrusting yourself
- Lackluster & Trudging
- Wound Too Tight
- Distrusting God
This week we’re going to unpack how to begin the process of breaking the self-sabotaging loop under those 5 symptoms by examining 5 Assumptions You Need To Question So You Can Get Better.
These assumptions are the result of trying to make sense of what we’ve been through.
The problem is we lacked complete and accurate information so the conclusion we drew was flawed, leading us assume certain "truths" that are in reality falsehoods.
Join us as we shine the light on these 5 assumptions that really need to be challenged if we want to be free.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
Last week I shared the story of women who came to me for help w/their business because they realized they were stuck but didn’t know how to get out of the self-sabotaging loop they were in.
We looked at 5 symptoms that were giveaways that you might not be as recovered from narcissistic abuse as you would like to be.
- Imposter syndrome
- Distrusting yourself
- Lackluster & Trudging
- Wound Too Tight
- Distrusting God
This week we’re going to unpack how to begin the process of breaking the self-sabotaging loop under those 5 symptoms by examining 5 Assumptions You Need To Question So You Can Get Better.
These assumptions are the result of trying to make sense of what we’ve been through.
The problem is we lacked complete and accurate information so the conclusion we drew was flawed, leading us assume certain "truths" that are in reality falsehoods.
Join us as we shine the light on these 5 assumptions that really need to be challenged if we want to be free.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
We know you've been through a lot but you've been pressing forward.
However, your commitment to move on may be getting in the way of the fullness of soul healing you need to be truly free and whole.
This week we'll be looking at 5 symptoms you may be experiencing that say you may not yet be as recovered as you really need to be at your best.
Each day this week we'll discuss one of the symptoms and challenge you to a first super simple next step that will move you in the right direction.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
We know you've been through a lot but you've been pressing forward.
However, your commitment to move on may be getting in the way of the fullness of soul healing you need to be truly free and whole.
This week we'll be looking at 5 symptoms you may be experiencing that say you may not yet be as recovered as you really need to be at your best.
Each day this week we'll discuss one of the symptoms and challenge you to a first super simple next step that will move you in the right direction.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
We know you've been through a lot but you've been pressing forward.
However, your commitment to move on may be getting in the way of the fullness of soul healing you need to be truly free and whole.
This week we'll be looking at 5 symptoms you may be experiencing that say you may not yet be as recovered as you really need to be at your best.
Each day this week we'll discuss one of the symptoms and challenge you to a first super simple next step that will move you in the right direction.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
We know you've been through a lot but you've been pressing forward.
However, your commitment to move on may be getting in the way of the fullness of soul healing you need to be truly free and whole.
This week we'll be looking at 5 symptoms you may be experiencing that say you may not yet be as recovered as you really need to be at your best.
Each day this week we'll discuss one of the symptoms and challenge you to a first super simple next step that will move you in the right direction.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
Click here to text us!
We know you've been through a lot but you've been pressing forward.
However, your commitment to move on may be getting in the way of the fullness of soul healing you need to be truly free and whole.
This week we'll be looking at 5 symptoms you may be experiencing that say you may not yet be as recovered as you really need to be at your best.
Each day this week we'll discuss one of the symptoms and challenge you to a first super simple next step that will move you in the right direction.
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You may find Annette's complimentary, on-demand Masterclass - Make It Make Sense helpful:
For info go to: annettechesney.com/make-sense
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Questions? Want to share something with us?You can email us at: hello@annettechesney.com
You’ve worked so hard to pull yourself and your life back together again.
You deserve to feel proud of yourself for all you’ve overcome!
Truly it shows how much strength and resilience you have and how incredible you truly are.
What we’ve noticed though is that sometimes we’ll allow our strength to work against us by powering through when what we really need is to invest time and energy - on a regular basis - focusing on our own healing and growth.
If you don’t prioritize this in your life you may seem fully functional.
But often there’s some gaps in your heart and mind that a person with selfish or even nefarious intent can slip in and get a foothold.
You know who specializes in doing that and is highly skilled in finding the gaps to leverage?
Narcissists.
The last thing you want is to go from the frying pan into the fire.
Sadly, it happens. A lot.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join our conversation today as we take a look at 5 personal issues we hide away in our hearts that can make us vulnerable to another narcissist slipping into a gap and gaining a foothold in your life.
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CinderElla No More Coaching Program
Become your best self, living your best life after narcissistic abuse!For info go to: annettechesney.com/cinderella
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Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview
For info go to: annettechesney.com/overview
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Questions? Email: annette@annettechesney.com
It’s not healthy to live in hiding, isolating from others, or always in a vigilant mode,
in fear of getting involved with a toxic person.
We want you to be proactive about your life - moving forward, building the kind of life you want, feeling hopeful and confident in who you are, having so much to look forward to.
But as you move forward in life you’re going to pass through seasons and stages that by their very nature can cause you to be more vulnerable or even targeted by a narcissist.
When you’re aware that you’re in a life season like this you can put some guard rails in place that not only protect you but even help you grow.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and join our conversation today as we
consider 5 life seasons that can make you vulnerable to another narcissist worming their way into your life.
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CinderElla No More Coaching Program
Become your best self, living your best life after narcissistic abuse!For info go to: annettechesney.com/cinderella
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Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview
For info go to: annettechesney.com/overview
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Questions? Email: annette@annettechesney.com
Being in a significant relationship with a toxic narcissist guarantees you’ve experienced life altering woundedness of the soul.
Even though it may have been months or even years since you extracted the narcissist from your life, the survival mode mechanisms can remain in the way you live out your days.
You may be functional but you’re not truly free.
This is Part 3 of a 3-part series bringing to light signs and symptoms pointing to
dimensions of yourself that still need proactive help to heal, repair, rediscover, and restore important aspects of you and your life.
In Part 3 we’re going to shine a light on symptoms indicating your sense of purpose and future self is still struggling.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and join our conversation today as we
discuss recognizing when you’re free from the narcissist but not the fallout of what you’ve been through.
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CinderElla No More Coaching Program
Become your best self, living your best life after narcissistic abuse!For info go to: annettechesney.com/cinderella
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview
For info go to: annettechesney.com/overview
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Questions? Email: annette@annettechesney.com
Being in a significant relationship with a toxic narcissist guarantees you’ve experienced life altering woundedness of the soul.
Even though it may have been months or even years since you extracted the narcissist from your life, the survival mode mechanisms can remain in the way you live out your days.
You may be functional but you’re not truly free.
This is Part 2 of a 3-part series bringing to light signs and symptoms pointing to
dimensions of yourself that still need proactive help to heal, repair, rediscover, and restore important aspects of you and your life.
In Part 2 we’re going to shine a light on symptoms indicating your self-concept is still struggling.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join our conversation today as we
discuss recognizing when you’re free from the narcissist but not the fallout of what you’ve been through.
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CinderElla No More Coaching Program
Become your best self, living your best life after narcissistic abuse!For info go to: annettechesney.com/cinderella
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview
For info go to: annettechesney.com/overview
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Questions? Email: annette@annettechesney.com
Being in a significant relationship with a toxic narcissist guarantees you’ve experienced life altering woundedness of the soul.
It’s great that you’ve disengaged yourself from that narcissistic relationship but just because you don’t have the narc in your face every day doesn’t mean you’re truly free.
There’s been too much water under the bridge to assume you’ll bounce back to who you were before.
Just because you’re functional going about your day doesn’t mean you’re truly free either.
You’ve made it through the worst part.
Now’s the time to focus on proactively healing you.
Today is the start of a 3-part series during which we’ll bring to light the signs and symptoms pointing to areas of yourself that still need proactive help to heal, repair, rediscover, and restore important aspects of you and your life.
In this episode we’ll unpack symptoms that point to how much your heart is still hurting no matter how “okay” you try to be.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join our conversation today as we share our thoughts about recognizing when you’re free from the narcissist but not the fallout of what you’ve been through.
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CinderElla No More Coaching Program
Become your best self, living your best life after narcissistic abuse!For info go to: annettechesney.com/cinderella
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Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview
For info go to: annettechesney.com/overview
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Questions? Email: annette@annettechesney.com
It’s a really good thing that more and more people in the general population are becoming familiar with the concept of narcissism.
However, the term “narcissist” is being thrown around a bit too loosely and it waters down the understanding of what that really is. Just because someone can be self-absorbed, insensitive, arrogant or act like a jerk a lot doesn’t make them a narcissist.
It’s important you learn to recognize the differences between them otherwise you may make seriously wrong decisions concerning your relationship and interactions with them.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join our conversation today as we share our thoughts about how to discern a plain jerk from a toxic narcissist.
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CinderElla No More Coaching Program
Become your best self, living your best life after narcissistic abuse!For info go to: annettechesney.com/cinderella
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Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview
For info go to: annettechesney.com/overview
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Questions? Email: annette@annettechesney.com
We view the start of a new year like the start of a new chapter in life. It’s exciting to think of the possibilities, isn’t it?
Our tendency is to go straight into making resolutions and setting goals.
But before you get too far into that thought process, wouldn’t it make sense to clarify the big picture foundation so when you do set goals you know they’re aligned with what you want your life characterized by?
Whether we realize it or not, we all operate by a sort of "Constitution".
The problem is, if you haven't been deliberate about identifying and enforcing your Constitution you wind up living in default mode, reacting to people and situations.
Your days become filled with to-do's and demands from all sides and can feel like you've lost sight of your autonomy regarding how you allocate your time and energy
week after week.
This week I have another bonus workbook for you that offers a starting point to get back on track with who you are and what kind of life you want to have - a life that you absolutely love,
one that’s deeply fulfilling to you and
makes a difference in the lives of others.
In today’s episode Wendy, Carol and I share the answers and insights we gained from walking through the exercises in my Beautiful Life Personal Constitution Workbook.
You can download your complimentary copy of the Beautiful Life Constitution Workbook by going to:
https://annettechesney.com/beautiful-life-constitution
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CinderElla No More Coaching Program
Become your best self, living your best life after narcissistic abuse!For info go to: annettechesney.com/cinderella
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview
For info go to: annettechesney.com/overview
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Questions? Email: annette@annettechesney.com
You invested a whole year of your life into 2023! It had its ups and downs, successes, failures, joys, and heartbreaks.
Along the way you learned a lot about what to do and what not to do.
You learned more about who you are and who you want to be.
You gained a lot of insights, but may also have gained some unwanted baggage along
that won't serve you well moving forward.
In today’s episode we’re going to get a bit creative as Carol, Wendy, and I walk you through our personal insights from using my workbook, “Creative Exercises For Year End Reflection.”
This episode is a replay from the beginning of 2023, but still holds true moving into 2024. You can download your complimentary copy of Creative Exercises For Year End Reflection by going to:
https://annettechesney.com/year-end-reflectionI think you’ll find this workbook provides a simple and interesting way to evaluate your year,
identify and affirm insights, then prepare yourself for a wiser, more successful 2024.
I’d be willing to bet you’ll be surprised at what you learn about yourself and the perspective you gain as you complete each exercise.
So now, pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us as we share our insights about what we’ll unload and what we’ll pack with us moving into the new year.
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CinderElla No More Coaching Program
Become your best self, living your best life after narcissistic abuse!For info go to: annettechesney.com/cinderella
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Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview
For info go to: annettechesney.com/overview
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Questions? Email: annette@annettechesney.com
In our previous 2 episodes we kicked off the holiday season with a 3-part Christmas series by revisiting the classic Dickens story, A Christmas Carol, and 3 ghosts come to visit Ebeneezer Scrooge throughout the night on Christmas Eve -
The Ghost of Christmas Past
The Ghost of Christmas Present
The Ghost of Christmas Future
As you might imagine, the appearance of each ghost person was rather unnerving for Ebeneezer.
The most unnerving part though was realizing that each ghost was there to show him something about his life.
Today we’re going to we’re going to invite The Ghost of Christmas Future to provide a foreshadowing of what our future will look like, depending on which path we select in the present.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join our conversation today as share some ideas about how to deal with Christmas Carol Ghosts of the Future.
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CinderElla No More Coaching Program
Become your best self, living your best life after narcissistic abuse!For info go to: annettechesney.com/cinderella
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview
For info go to: annettechesney.com/overview
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Questions? Email: annette@annettechesney.com
In our previous episode we kicked off the holiday season with a 3-part Christmas series by revisiting the classic Dickens story, A Christmas Carol and the 3 ghosts who come to visit Ebeneezer Scrooge throughout the night on Christmas Eve -
The Ghost of Christmas Past
The Ghost of Christmas Present
The Ghost of Christmas Future
As you might imagine, the appearance of each ghost person was rather unnerving for Ebeneezer.
The most unnerving part though was realizing that each ghost was there to show him something about his life.
Today we’re going to we’re going to invite The Ghost of Christmas Present to reveal default perspectives we may be operating from that are impacting our ability to enjoy this season and our daily lives overall.
Don’t worry - we’re not here to judge.
We’ll be doing the same evaluation for our own lives too in these conversations.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and join our conversation today as share some ideas about how to deal with Christmas Carol Ghosts of the Present.
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CinderElla No More Coaching Program
Become your best self, living your best life after narcissistic abuse!For info go to: annettechesney.com/cinderella
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview
For info go to: annettechesney.com/overview
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Questions? Email: annette@annettechesney.com
In the classic Dickens story, A Christmas Carol, 3 ghosts come to visit Ebeneezer Scrooge throughout the night on Christmas Eve -
The Ghost of Christmas Past
The Ghost of Christmas Present
The Ghost of Christmas Future
As you might imagine, the appearance of each ghost person was rather unnerving for Ebeneezer.
The most unnerving part though was realizing that each ghost was there to show him something about his life…
…decisions he had made that brought him to where he was today
…how his attitude and perspective were impacting him and others around him
…and the outcomes the current trajectory of his life would lead to
Spoiler Alert! These 3 ghosts did Ebeneezer a huge favor because they helped him to see things in a new light, and make changes before it was too late.
As a result, Ebeneezer Scrooge made some changes.
By making those changes he wound up living a much happier life, rich with relationships and blessings.
In this 3 part series, you can consider us the ghosts that will help you evaluate the same in your life.
Don’t worry - we’re not here to judge. We’ll be doing the same evaluation for our own lives too in these conversations.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join our conversation today as we share some ideas about how to deal with Christmas Carol Ghosts of the Past.
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Even though stores started putting up Christmas decorations about 2 months ago, we’re now officially on the other side of Thanksgiving here in the States and the Christmas season is in full swing!
Depending on where you’re at in your healing journey embracing the spirit of the season may come with some mixed emotions - for good reasons.
It’s crucial that you understand how and why the holiday season can impact the areas of your heart where you’re most vulnerable.
Don’t put it past the narcissist to attempt to hoover you back in with various strategies. It’s more common than you think & strategic for the narcissist to leverage the season.
We want to help you be wise in how you handle your heart and proactive in positioning yourself to have a truly beautiful holiday season.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join our conversation today as we talk about how to protect your heart at the holidays and enjoy the spirit of the season.
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In our previous 2 episodes we shared 10 tactics narcissists use against you to create
a really twisted version of a carnival Fun House that is meant to keep you off balance, distort your self-concept, and train you not to trust your own judgment.
In Part 3 of this series we’re going to look at another 5 tactics that were used against you:
Hoovering
Baiting
Ghosting
Intermittent Reinforcement
Idealize, Devalue, Discard
We’re going to share our thoughts about…
- What each tactic is
- Why that tactic was used & how it may have been executed against you
- How it may have impacted you back then and why those impacts may be lingering
even today
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join our conversation today as we talk about head games that narcissists play to make you feel crazy and why it may still be impacting you more than you realize.
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In our previous episode we shared with you how narcissists create a really twisted version of a carnival Fun House that is meant to keep you off balance, distort your self-concept, and train you not to trust your own judgment.
We shared 5 head games they play and discussed why they did it, how they did it, and why you may still be living in a reactive posture to what was conditioned into you.
In Part 2 of this 3 part series we’re going to look at 5 more tactics that were used against you:
- Triangulation
- Mirroring
- Fish On A Stringer
- Intimacy Avoidance
- Flying Monkeys
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join our conversation today as we talk about head games that narcissists play to make you feel crazy and why it may still be impacting you more than you realize.
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Have you ever been in a Fun House at a carnival when you were growing up?
You never knew what to expect as you moved from one section to the next.
There’s mirrors all around that show wildly distorted images and make it hard to tell where to move forward.
When you look in the mirror you see a bizarrely distorted image you barely recognize gazing back at you.
In the next section the floor splits and starts moving and tilting in crazy angles
under your feet. All your attention and energy is focused on not falling down.
Next you’re sent through a maze where freaky looking clowns unexpectedly jump out at you until you’re gunshy to turn the next corner.
Being in a long term relationship with a narcissist can leave you feeling like you’re fighting your way out of a Fun House that’s no fun at all. It’s a nightmare.
Even after you’re out of the narcissists version of the Fun House you can still be struggling.
You look in the mirror and don’t recognize yourself anymore.
Something good happens and you can’t enjoy it because you’re on guard in anticipation of something bad popping out from around the next corner.
Instead of creating your new beautiful life after you’re free from the narcissist's grip,
you’re still feeling off balance and disoriented, stuck in survival mode…maybe even for years.
What’s going on here?
This is the first of 3 episodes where we’ll walk you through 15 tactics narcissists employ to make you feel this way and try to keep you feeling this way.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join our conversation today as we talk about head games that narcissists play to make you feel crazy and why it may still be impacting you more than you realize.
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When you’ve lived through narcissistic abuse it’s common to come out of that struggling with issues surrounding boundaries.
Narcissists are skillful at systematically eroding even strong boundaries. As a matter of fact, especially when it comes to a Category 3 type of narcissist, they look at your boundary and say to themselves, “I’ll take that challenge”.
To them it’s entertaining and a mark of superiority to manipulate you bit by bit into giving up ground until the boundary you used to have doesn’t exist anymore.
They’re so good at this that often you’re not even aware it’s happening until you wake up and realize you’ve been the frog in the kettle and now you’ve lost so much ground that you feel like a shadow of yourself and you’re not sure how to turn things around.
Just because you’re no longer dealing with that narcissist on a daily basis doesn’t mean your boundary issues have been resolved.
Boundaries have to do with what you have predetermined is acceptable or not acceptable, and what you’re doing to protect who you are, how you live, and what you have.
Being in a long term relationship with a narcissist means all those lines have been deliberately blurred AND you’ve been made to feel guilty if you even try to reset any type of boundary to reclaim yourself.
This means we’ve got some work to do!
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join our conversation today as we talk about how godly people build and repair good boundaries.
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If you’re a regular listener to the podcast you know that usually Carol Pavlik and Wendy Ockers join me as cohosts for our conversation.
Today is something a bit different.
I recently recorded an interview featuring Carol for Comfy Conversations, which is one of the features in my membership, Beautiful Life Academy.
This episode showcases Carol's expertise and experience helping women put their lives back together again.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us as we share some thoughts about how to create your own custom designed life do-over.
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Sometimes you hear something from the perspective of another person that just jumps out and smacks you between the eyes.
I stumbled across a quote that caught my attention and made me ponder the point the author was making.
Since this marks NeverNarc Podcast’s 50th episode, I thought it would be fun and maybe yield some great insights to gather a few thought provoking quotes and talk about whether we agree or disagree and why.
Plus we may discover some helpful insights, validating truths, and principles to apply along the way.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us as we share some thoughts about
3 provocative quotes from others pertaining to healing and growth after narcissistic abuse.
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There’s no doubt that being in a long term relationship with a narcissist is trauma inducing.
Your assumptions about who you are and what’s possible for you have been shattered.
You were robbed of your relational innocence and blissful optimism.
Your total viewpoint has experienced a radical paradigm shift that isn’t pleasant or pretty.
Whether you realize it or not, you’re standing at a crossroad.
You’re faced with important decisions about what attitude and perspective you’ll embrace, which impacts the story you tell yourself about yourself and your future.
You have 3 general paths to choose from.
Path #1 - Unconsciously live your life with the perspective of a beaten puppy - assuming danger is all around, acquiescing your power, living stressed out and fixated on finding security rather than exploring opportunities.
Path #2 - You can adopt a defensive posture stemming from the mindset that it’s you against the world and nobody is coming to save you.
The outcome down this path is you turn into a jaded, snarling, suspicious caricature
of who you once were or could be.
Then there’s Path #3 - You can willfully choose the viewpoint of an overcomer, the head not the tail, a joyful, powerful warrior Daughter of the Most High.
Going down either of the first two paths is effortless. They’re practically default settings after narcissistic abuse.
The problem is that you’ll be miserable for years to come, and Satan will be laughing because he won.
The third path will require a lot of you to traverse it. Especially in the early stages because you’ll feel like you’re fighting to clear the path of rocks and overgrown vegetation.
It’s hard work, but if you stick with it your life will become better than you ever dreamed possible.This path will also transform how you view everything, but in really good ways.
There’s a lot riding on the path you select and which viewpoint you adopt, so we need to talk about it!
Pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and join us as we discuss why trauma changes
how you view everything and how to find the balanced, healthy perspective you need to write the beautiful next chapter of your story .
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It might surprise you to hear that although we haven’t yet met, I already know some things about you.
I’d be willing to bet that no matter what you’ve been through in the past or what kind of day you’re having in the present, you do your best to always think of the wellbeing of others.
You’re a good friend.
You’re respectful to others.
You show kindness to your family and friends when they’re struggling and grace when they blow it.
You’re quick to forgive them.
You encourage their efforts, cheer them on, and celebrate their wins.
You’re there for others when they need you.
You’ll quickly put others first and do thoughtful things for them.
You genuinely like your friends and enjoy who they are, quirks and all.
That’s the kind of person you are toward others, whether strangers or close friends.
The big question is, why aren’t you being that kind of person to yourself?We think it’s time to call out this issue in love, because you deserve better.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us as we discuss the need to start
doing unto yourself like you graciously do unto others.
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The movie “Groundhog Day” starring Bill Murray tells the story of a TV weatherman who found himself trapped living the same day over and over again.
No matter what he tried he’d find himself right back in that same loop repeating the day.
In the same way, after the traumatizing, crazy-making experiences we had dealing with a narcissist, we too can be caught in a loop.
A loop of habitual thinking that keeps us fixated and stuck.
That loop will trap you in a negative cycle that robs you of today’s beauty and productivity, and sabotages your opportunities in the future.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us as we discuss why you got stuck in a loop, what looping does to you, and how to stop looping once and for all.
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There’s something truly baffling about the radical personality shifts of narcissists.
On one hand, they can be kind, compassionate, thoughtful, intelligent, funny, and truly helpful.
They can be there in multiple ways when you need them and you feel so grateful for that. On the other hand, they can be selfish, insensitive, mean, manipulative, demeaning, and even sadistic.
For a while you felt like a Princess who had finally found her Prince. You were so happy and felt there was a bright future ahead.
Then something shifted.
Trying to figure out what was happening felt like trying to catch a shadow.
In exasperation you confided in a friend you felt like you were dealing with Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, but you never knew which one you were going to get.
What you didn’t realize was that you really were dealing with Dr Jekyll and Mr. Hyde.
Except it was the reverse. Mr. Hyde was his true nature. Dr. Jekyll was who he brought out to keep you in the game with him.
This is SO unlike the way normal people think or behave that it’s truly baffling to understand.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us in our conversation today because we’re going to unpack this baffling back and forth of the Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde phenomenon common to narcissists and help you make sense of it all.
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When we look back over what we’ve experienced at the hands of that narcissist too often we kick ourselves.
We ask ourselves -
“How could I have been so blind?”
“Why did I trust him/her?”
“Where did it all go wrong?”
“How could I have been so foolish?”
“Why did I make excuses when the cracks in the veneer started to appear?
“Why did I hang in there so long?”
Trust me, you’re not weak or weird. You’re not a fool.
You were targeted and taken in by a skilled charlatan who leveraged every asset against you.
You experienced a “bait and switch” situation designed to hook you then exploit you.
The question though is why you allowed yourself to keep accepting and adapting like a frog in the kettle as it’s being turned up to boil?
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us in our conversation today because we’re going to unpack what happened, why it happened, & why you were blind to all the signs at the beginning.
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Once you break free from having to deal with that narcissist on a daily basis it’s such a relief!
But at the same time there’s a restlessness in your soul, an uneasiness that you can’t quite put your finger on.
No, you’re not weird.
That tangle of conflicting and irrational thoughts and emotions were planted in you on purpose.
It was part of how the narc controlled you.
Their goal was always to control you at a soul level.
Now your job is to unpack all that, bring it into the light so it’s no longer lying in wait for the right trigger to send you spinning into self-doubt or choices that will hurt you as you move forward.
You had tactics used on you like:
- Wasted Days & Wasted Nights
- Dangling the Carrot
- You Complete Me
- I Know You Are But What Am I
- Glitch In the Matrix
- Good Girl! Now Sit
Don’t worry. We’re here to help you understand what's going on.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us in our conversation today as we talk about why we feel mixed up - one one hand utterly thrilled the narc is gone,
yet confused about why your emotions still feel tangled.
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The narcissist targeted you because you truly are an amazing person.
You have the kind of qualities that people truly admire.
You’re kind and considerate to others.
You’re generous, resourceful, and super sharp.
You love the Lord and are always focused on growing in Christlikeness.
The narcissist is counting on leveraging those qualities, plus tapping the hooks they planted in you to lure you back into their control after you’ve broken free.
Why is this so important to the narcissist and how does the narc pull your strings from a distance?
What do we do when we can’t make a clean break from the narcissist for various reasons?
If you’re wrestling with this, you’re not alone. It’s important to get to the bottom of these questions.
We invite you to pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us in our conversation today as we talk about why cutting contact is so powerful and what to do when you can’t.
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There’s a lot of messages we pick up from our parents, authority figures in our life - and especially from that long term narcissistic relationship.
Some messages are helpful.
Some messages distort our self-concept, our sense of worth, and the value of what we have to offer the world.
That can make all the difference between stepping into the spiritual power and authority we’ve been given in Christ so we can make a difference in this world…or whether we play small, make excuses, just go through the motions each day.
You may not realize it yet, but even the horribly negative life events you’ve experienced can be used for good.
You have far more wisdom, strength, and power than you realize.
We invite you to pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and join us in our conversation today as we discuss 6 ways to rediscover the value you have to share with others.
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Even though you’re free from daily interaction with that narcissist, it doesn’t mean your thought process and relational defaults are free.
You may not even realize you’ve acquired multiple default settings about how you relate to others.
You may think that fixing problems for others is a wonderful, Christlike thing to do.
Maybe, but maybe not.
Besides, it’s pretty exhausting to be the “go-to” for everybody and everything.
What would happen if you stopped being a fixer?
We invite you to pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and let’s talk about how to change your mindset so you can break free from being a compulsive fixer.
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It doesn't matter if it's been 10 months or 10 years since you escaped the grip of the narcissist, your heart can still be weighed down and hurting. You may be functional now as you go about your days, but that doesn't mean you're free!
It's entirely possible that you're the walking wounded. That's not the life God intended for you!
When you're truly free you'll feel light-hearted, you'll laugh a lot, love easily, and experience true peace as a way of life. Days of heaviness will be the exception, not the norm.
So pour yourself a cup of tea (or coffee), get comfy, and let’s talk about how to invite God to partner with you to heal your heart in a biblical way so you can experience true peace.
BTW, we've changed things up a little bit for this episode. Enjoy! 😉
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We’re all familiar with the phrase, “Fight, Flight, or Freeze”, and likely may have personally experienced it. But what’s really going on with this?
Our brains are naturally wired to be continually on the lookout, working in the background to protect us, picking up on things we often aren’t even consciously aware of. That’s incredibly important and useful!
However, when we’ve been in relationship with a narcissist, by necessity our brain’s protective capacity went into overdrive…and stayed in hyper-vigilant overdrive.
Our brains are still looking for & expecting danger - whether real or imagined.
After a being with a narcissist it doesn’t take much to live triggered in a fight, flight, or freeze mode, which has a markedly negative impact on our quality of life.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy, and let’s talk about how to regain control of our brain when it’s been hijacked by fight, flight, or freeze so we can be back in the driver’s seat experiencing peace, and having fun.
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Pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and let’s talk about what you need to know when you reach the healing and affirmation stage when working through the unique grieving process after narcissistic abuse.
You’ll know you’re moving into this stage when the novelty of the narc being gone has worn off and you’re beyond seeing yourself as offended and victimized.
When you’re ready - hungry even to feel light-hearted and free, and realize it’s time to work on you, then you’ve entered the healing and affirmation stage.
This stage takes energy and a willingness to self-examine, but it’s also a stage of discovery and delight.
On the other side of this stage is freedom and light-heartedness, a new sense of self, and a calm, confident strength.
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As Christians we often hear how God would have us forgive those who have offended us. There’s truth in this and it is important.
But when it comes to the deep wounds of narcissistic abuse, trying to forgive feels impossible - even insulting!
At best we feel like a guilty failure because we just can’t do it. At worst it stirs tremendous anger & resentment in us - even anger toward God.
We understand the struggle associated with this. You’ll find no self-righteous judgment from us because we’ve experienced it too.
The problem is that holding onto the righteous indignation associated with deep offenses committed against us isn’t protecting us, hurting the narcissist or bringing about justice.
It’s holding us in bondage so we need to do something about it.
There’s another way to approach this whole subject that I think you’ll find refreshing and freeing.
So pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and let’s talk about how to feel safe giving offenses to God when justice hasn’t been served.
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As you start piecing your life back together and move beyond the initial anger stage, inevitably you hit a wall and find yourself stuck in regret, kicking yourself with the shoulda, woulda, coulda’s.
Just trying to press on with your days doesn’t fix things.
You can be free of the narcissist for years, yet still be mired in regret, anger, and unforgiveness with yourself that sabotages your future.
Pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and let’s talk about the action steps you need to practice to release regret, forgive yourself instead of kicking yourself and move into your beautiful future.
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We’ve all heard about the 5 stages of grief, but it’s very different when it comes to grief involved with narcissistic abuse.
Initially, there’s that sense of shock and dissonance when we’re putting 2+2 together,
followed by feeling driven to uncover the truth. Then the outrage hits as we realize how badly we were lied to and manipulated. So what naturally follows is depression and anxiety.
Although it’s normal to experience depression and anxiety at this stage of the journey, you really want to avoid getting stuck in that stage because it can suck all the color out of your days and control your life.
It’s no way to live.
After what you’ve been through you deserve the victory of feeling light-hearted and hopeful!
Pour yourself a cup of tea, get comfy and let’s talk about what’s going on in this stage and how to get to the other side of it with a renewed sense of hopeful expectation of good things to come in your life.
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We know while the narcissistic relationship was in full swing it had its claws in every aspect of your life.
Now that it’s over you may still wrestle, occasionally or even a lot reconciling what happened and it’s casting a shadow over you and your future.
The problem is that you’re still caught up with aspects of the past, and how you see yourself now, which means the narc is still influencing you from afar.
As a result you’re stuck in some areas and unable to make peace with your past so you’re free to experience authentic joy.
It’s entirely possible for you to kick the narc out of your head so you feel free, so you like who you are now and feel the world is your oyster, not in spite of what you’ve been through, but because of what you’ve been through.
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Once you’ve come to terms with the fact that you were dealing with a narcissist, that you were deliberately and knowingly gasli ghted and emotionally abused, among other travesties, the normal and natural response is outrage.
As a matter of fact, I’d be worried if you weren’t outraged.
You’ll find yourself dealing with a righteous indignation and demand for justice, especially in the first year.
If you’ve got minor children with the narcissist and are dealing with prolonged legal battles you mind find that outrage triggered over and over again.
It isn’t easy, but there are practical and spiritual strategies that can help you clear your head and feel calm again, without stuffing the emotions in a box in the closet of your mind.
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Congratulations for breaking free from that narcissistic relationship! Now what?
Like it or not, you’ve been forever changed. What kind of change (good or bad) depends on your next move.
It doesn’t matter if it’s been 10 months or 10 years since you left that narcissistic relationship.
The pain and distortions can still linger and subconsciously hold you back from being who you’re meant to be and accomplishing what you’re called to do.
You may not even realize that the issues you see within yourself are connected to what you went through in the past.
Let’s take a look at some common traits that can indicate echoes of narcissistic abuse are still holding you back.
The good news is, once you connect the dots you can do something about it.
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Did you know that expert studies indicate 6% of the population can be classified with narcissistic personality disorder?
That means out of every 1,000 people, approximately 60 of them are destructive narcissists!
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview to unmask toxic narcissists and protect yourself from being duped in the future.
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You may have lived for years trying to fix what you were told was wrong with youso the relationship would be better.
You probably poured just as much effort into trying to get your loved one to see reason, to work with you to resolve the problems but nothing ever changed.
Around and around the mountain you went for what felt like an eternity yet all you got for your efforts were sleepless nights, exhaustion, loneliness, and deteriorating self-esteem.
FINALLY something shifted and the relationship was forced to end one way or another.
You may have stumbled upon the truth toward the end of the relationship, or perhaps it took months or even years to connect the dots.
Yes, that person was a narcissist.
You didn’t want to believe it at first.
But as the denial crumbles and the light dawns, a sense of shock and dissonance settles in.
Join us as we discuss what this is all about how you can work through it an care for your heart in the process.
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Did you know that expert studies indicate 6% of the population can be classified with narcissistic personality disorder?
That means out of every 1,000 people, approximately 60 of them are destructive narcissists!
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview to unmask toxic narcissists and protect yourself from being duped in the future.
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Ideally, once you’ve extracted yourself from a narcissistic relationship you never have to see or deal with that person again.
However the ideal doesn’t always match our reality.
There’s times that encountering or even communicating with the narcissist is unavoidable and leaves us feeling shaken and triggered for the rest of the day…or even several days.
The last thing you want to do is subject yourself to further injury or give the narcissist an opening they can leverage again!
So let’s have a conversation today about how to protect your heart and emerge from the encounter relatively unscathed.
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Did you know that expert studies indicate 6% of the population can be classified with narcissistic personality disorder?
That means out of every 1,000 people, approximately 60 of them are destructive narcissists!
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview to unmask toxic narcissists and protect yourself from being duped in the future.
annettechesney.com/overview
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To truly feel whole, light-hearted and free so you can create an incredible personal and professional life moving forward after narcissistic abuse, it’s important to invest in YOU.
Part of this investment involves allocating the time and energy you need to really detoxify your mindset and repair your heart.
So many women force themselves to pull up their bootstraps and just trudge forward because they think that’s what they need to do.
You can manage like that for a while, but you’re not really free and whole. Continuing in that mode means it’s just a matter of time before you crash.
Because in that mode you’re...
…you’re making do operating on 4 cylinders when you really have 8 cylinders of power meant to build your life and make an impact
…you’re just getting by each day rather than passionately chasing your dreams
…you’re exhausted from trying to appear normal while feeling heavy-hearted and overwhelmed rather than being light-hearted, full of laughter and enjoying some adventures.
To become the YOU you could be, and are meant to be it’s crucial to make space in your life for resting and doing the work of healing your heart and mind.
The life you’ll make for yourself on the other side of that work will be so worth it!
Let’s have a conversation today about 3 ways you can simplify your life - for now -
to help you regain the margin and peace you need to do this healing work.
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Repair your heart, refresh your best self, and revolutionize your future because your best is yet to come!
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Did you know that expert studies indicate 6% of the population can be classified with narcissistic personality disorder?
That means out of every 1,000 people, approximately 60 of them are destructive narcissists!
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview to unmask toxic narcissists and protect yourself from being duped in the future.
annettechesney.com/overview
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After walking through the fires of narcissistic abuse we’re usually left feeling depleted.
Somehow the relationship morphed to the point that we were made to feel responsible for the narcissist's needs, while our needs were ignored.
Now that we’re free from that toxic relationship things are in many ways so much better.
Yet we may still be facing the pain of multiple legitimate, yet still unmet emotional needs.
This is a real danger point because unmet needs don’t just go away.
It can feel like an ache inside that becomes louder and more demanding until it drives us like a craving.
If we’re not careful, unmet emotional needs can lead us to make poor decisions, disrespect ourselves, and even dishonor our values.
Your emotional needs are 100% legitimate.
Let’s talk about 5 healthy steps you can take to honor your unmet needs in wholesome ways so you feel stronger, more fulfilled, and much happier.
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Did you know that expert studies indicate 6% of the population can be classified with narcissistic personality disorder?
That means out of every 1,000 people, approximately 60 of them are destructive narcissists!
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview to unmask toxic narcissists and protect yourself from being duped in the future.
annettechesney.com/overview
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After experiencing narcissistic abuse we often struggle to wrap our heads around how this happened.
How could we have allowed ourselves to be so used, so duped?
We believed that if we hung in there, looked for the good, prayed for the best, showed love, tried to resolve issues, and remained committed that somehow it would get better.
But it didn’t.
Often we invested years of our lives trying to hang in there.
Being lied to and manipulated for so long rattled our sense of security and caused us to be overly cautious and distrustful when meeting new people.
We’ve chided ourselves over and over for being taken in by the narcissist.
Now we have a difficult time feeling we can trust our own judgment to discern truth and make wise decisions.
The fact is, we’ve grown a lot from what we’ve experienced. We’re much wiser now.
It’s time to rebuild and reclaim our ability to feel safe trusting our own judgment again.
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Repair your heart, refresh your best self, and revolutionize your future because your best is yet to come!
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Did you know that expert studies indicate 6% of the population can be classified with narcissistic personality disorder?
That means out of every 1,000 people, approximately 60 of them are destructive narcissists!
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview to unmask toxic narcissists and protect yourself from being duped in the future.
annettechesney.com/overview
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We’ve all had times in our life where we felt like we were not seen, heard, or cared about.
When we’ve experienced long term narcissistic abuse, being rejected is commonplace and can leave deep scars that place an anxiety button in our hearts.
It doesn’t take much, maybe even just a hint of potential rejection to make the anxiety pop up.
Once this happens we have a difficult time separating who we truly are from the perceived negative messages.
These messages wind up dominating our emotions, our thoughts, and our responses.
Let’s talk about what’s going on here and some steps we can take to disable that button.
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Did you know that expert studies indicate 6% of the population can be classified with narcissistic personality disorder?
That means out of every 1,000 people, approximately 60 of them are destructive narcissists!
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview to unmask toxic narcissists and protect yourself from being duped in the future.
annettechesney.com/overview
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How long has it been since you got out of that narcissistic relationship?
Do you feel like yourself yet?
Are there times when you’ve been doing really well but something touches a button in you and things go south in your own head?
It doesn’t matter if it’s been 10 months or 10 years since you left that narcissistic relationship.
The pain and distortions can still linger and subconsciously hold you back from being who you’re meant to be and accomplishing what you’re called to do.
Today we’re going to talk about some typical struggles that could indicate you’ve got echoes of old narcissistic abuse that are still haunting you and holding you back.
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Did you know that expert studies indicate 6% of the population can be classified with narcissistic personality disorder?
That means out of every 1,000 people, approximately 60 of them are destructive narcissists!
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview to unmask toxic narcissists and protect yourself from being duped in the future.
annettechesney.com/overview
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Do you live to make people happy?
Are you more concerned with the well being of others even when it’s to your own detriment?
Are you in a lot of lop-sided relationships - always giving but rarely receiving?
You’re not alone! This is not only common, but encouraged, especially for women.
While it’s a wonderful, Christlike quality to serve and support others, to find joy in helping them, we can unintentionally be causing harm to others and ourselves.
If you feel you’re helping others but resentments are creeping in, or you feel anxiety rising at the thought of saying “No” to somebody, that's a red flag waving in the breeze!
Let’s talk about how you can maintain the good aspects of helping people without hurting yourself in the process.
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Did you know that expert studies indicate 6% of the population can be classified with narcissistic personality disorder?
That means out of every 1,000 people, approximately 60 of them are destructive narcissists!
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview to unmask toxic narcissists and protect yourself from being duped in the future.
annettechesney.com/overview
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Have you ever experienced this…
You start the day in a great mood.
You’re moving through the day, being productive, smile on your face, feeling positive….but then someone makes a comment or does something that instantly shifts your mood.
You feel your defenses rising on the inside as you bite your tongue - or not.
What’s going on?
Have you really given away that much power to what just happened?
Maybe you feel justified in thinking and feeling this way because it feels familiar enough that we don’t think, we just shoot straight into a negative mental pattern.
For the previous couple of episodes we’ve examined 6 thinking habits that if left unchecked, can and WILL sabotage us on a daily basis.
Today we’re going to talk about 3 more habits of mind that instantly sends us straight into a self-protective, defensive mode that may not be so much about what the other person said or did but rather a reflection of what’s going on between our own ears!
That means it’s our responsibility to deal first with ourselves before we can evaluate
if or how much of the issue we need to confront with the other person.
Join us for a gracious challenge that will be a paradigm shifting approach to help you regain your personal power, starting with what's going on between your ears.
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Did you know that expert studies indicate 6% of the population can be classified with narcissistic personality disorder?
That means out of every 1,000 people, approximately 60 of them are destructive narcissists!
Download the free Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview to unmask toxic narcissists and protect yourself from being duped in the future.
annettechesney.com/overview
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It doesn’t come naturally to most of us to be self-aware enough all day so we’re able to
catch ourselves in the act of allowing our thinking habits to sabotage us.
Sabotage is a pretty strong word, but when it comes to habits of mind, it’s an accurate word.
When we slip into any of the 3 negative thinking habits we’re going to be discussing today, it will absolutely trip you up.
It will distort how you view and interact with others and even cause you to drive yourself out of guilt, as we’ll see with the 3rd thinking habit especially.
Let’s start gaining victory over these 3 harmful habits of thought that sabotage our perspective and hold us hostage.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We all have positive and negative thought habits.
Sometimes we train our minds to think well and it helps us.
For example: Creative problem solving, embracing change, expecting positive outcomes, looking for the good in others
When we have healthy thinking habits a good domino effect is put in motion in every dimension of life.
However, by virtue of being born a human surrounded by other humans in a fallen world means that good thinking habits don’t automatically happen.
Developing good thinking habits takes deliberate and consistent effort.
On the other hand, bad thinking habits are super easy to come by.
This becomes exponential when you’ve been conditioned into faulty thinking habits stemming from being with a narcissist.
Even though you’ve free from that toxic relationship, it doesn’t mean you’re free of the conditioning of negative thinking habits.
Too often it’s just become “normal” to us to think this way. In a split second we go straight to that habit of mind.
Let’s talk about 3 categories of thinking habits that create a cascading negative effect on every aspect of your life and how to start making positive changes.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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You’ve probably already reflected over the narcissistic relationship and asked yourself, “How did I wind up so duped?”
When I look back over the multiple narc encounters I’ve had, I realized that I projected my qualities and assumptions onto the narc.
It would never cross my mind to manipulate, to be a pathological liar, to use people, or knowingly cause them pain.
I knew that hurting people hurt people…But my projected assumption was that they didn’t mean to.
Once they came to awareness that their words or actions were hurtful
they felt bad and tried to make things right, including making changes within themselves.
The paradigm shift for me happened with an epiphany that when it comes to narcissists, they DO mean to be hurtful and have zero intention to self-reflect and/or make any authentic attempt to change.
We blew off the early red flags with the narcissist because it never occurred to us that we were being deliberately deceived and used.
That’s just the stuff that occurs in movies, right?
Since you’re past the crisis stage of breaking free from a significant narcissistic relationship, the last thing you want is to slip into another one - or even a relationship with a non-narcissist that isn’t good for you for one reason or another.
In this episode we’ll look at those red flags as a point of reflection then talk about 3 wise ways we can not only protect ourselves in the future but beyond that - proactively quantify who the quality relationships are that we really want to invest our time and energy into.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We invite you to activate your membership in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe. Inside the Cafe you'll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc Podcasts, download each episode's worksheet, and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
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After being involved in a significant relationship with a narcissist, it’s way too easy to continue accepting being devalued in other relationships as you move forward.
In some cases, you may have been devalued in profound ways for so long that being devalued in lesser ways feels better so you accept it.
Or perhaps you grew up experiencing situations in which you were negatively compared with others for example.
Then along came the narcissist and after a while, it just seemed normal to be moderately devalued and disrespected by others.
You know what the real issue is though?
It’s a tendency to come into AGREEMENT with being treated as lesser than.
That’s what accepting this is all about.
It’s a distortion of who you are and it opens the door to your spiritual enemy because you’re in agreement with it, allowing it.
So basically you’re giving the enemy permission to torment you in this manner, in your own mind, and by using other people.
The worst part though is that you’re disrespecting and devaluing yourself in more ways than one, and may not even recognize you’re doing it.
There’s a famous quote attributed to Eleanor Roosevelt that says, "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
There’s so much truth in that!
Let’s unpack this issue a bit in our conversation today, along with some steps in the right direction so you can start the process of taking your power back.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We invite you to activate your membership in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe. Inside the Cafe you'll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc Podcasts, download each episode's worksheet, and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
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Even though you’re free from daily interaction with that narcissist, it doesn’t mean your thought process and relational defaults are free.
You can carry around a “supply mentality” even years later without realizing it.
This mentality can become a default setting you kick into even when dealing with normal people.
In the big picture it doesn’t really serve them, serve you, or honor God either.
In reality, it’s a type of bondage.
Are you ready to gain your freedom in this area?
Let’s start by breaking down what narcissistic supply is, how you were “trained” by the narcissist to automatically kick into this mode as a foundation for our conversation today.
Then let’s chat about how a narcissistic supply mentality shows up when dealing with others and 3 strategies we can begin exercising to become much healthier and relationally free to be who we really are.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We invite you to activate your membership in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe. Inside the Cafe you'll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc Podcasts, download each episode's worksheet, and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
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Having been through a narcissistic relationship you’ve probably wondered, “Why me?”
There’s a spiritual component to this as well as a fleshly component and they work hand-in-hand.
Contrary to what many people think, narcs don’t necessarily target people who are weak and pitiful.
In a weird sort of way, if you were targeted by a narcissist it confirms that you’re an incredible person.
You have a lot of amazing, Christ-like qualities, but many of those very qualities were weaponized against you for the narcissist's agenda of control.
Let's talk about WHY and HOW so many of your wonderful qualities were leveraged by the narcissist, along with some weaknesses narcissists can spot and exploit for their agenda.
This is a really important area for you to become savvy in. Otherwise, you may be a sitting duck for the next narc who spots you.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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Depending on the messages you grew up with and your relational experiences with God and others, you may not have a full picture of what healthy relationships really look like.
Add to that possibly skewed foundation, being in a significant relationship with a narcissist and you have a recipe for trouble in future relationships!
When you’ve been in the ugly pit of relationships, anything even slightly better seems wonderful.
But is that enough?
It’s not if your standard of what a healthy relationship is has been lowered.
So let’s talk about what an authentically healthy relationship looks like in real life and how to move to a more wholesome and fulfilling standard of relationships as you’re working to rebuild a beautiful life.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We all have quite a number of falsehoods we’ve believed about ourselves, about relationships, about life, and even about God.
Sometimes these falsehoods have a fragment of truth that makes it feel believable and sometimes we’ve embraced outright lies without challenging their validity.
Today we’re going to take it to the next step and think about what’s underlying the falsehood to see why it SEEMS true and what it’s doing for us.
That’s right - sometimes we embrace outright lies because it’s working for us in some twisted way.
Let’s look at the underlying basis of 4 categories of lies we tell ourselves so we can start wrapping our heads around what’s REALLY going on here.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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Even though you’ve ended the narcissistic relationship you may still be carrying some distortions about who you really are.
Whether the narcissist in your former relationship managed to drill these distortions into your psyche, or you entered the relationship with some version of these distortions already that the narcissist exploited.
It can make a world of difference for you to question the validity of some assumptions about yourself.
You may discover that you’ve come into agreement with distortions that are absolutely wrong and nothing but flat out lies holding you hostage without even realizing it!
Pour a cup of your favorite brew and join us as we look at 6 sneaky distortions you may have accepted as true about yourself.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We’ve all experienced many forms of grief arising from loss;
loss of a job, of a beloved pet, of a hope or dream, loss of a loved one.
It’s generally accepted from researchers, psychologists, and cultural experiences that when we have a big loss in life we’ll walk through generally a 5 stage process before we come to grips with the loss and feel we’re moving on.
Completely ending a long term and deeply meaningful narcissistic relationship such as a narcissistic parent, maybe an adult sibling, adult child, best friend, a boyfriend, and especially a spouse is a deep loss but with some significant additional twists and turns in the grieving process.Grab a cup of tea and join us as we discuss the 5 stages of grief that are unique to narcissistic abuse survivors and how to move through the stages in a healthy way so you're free to enjoy life again.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We invite you to activate your membership in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe. Inside the Cafe you'll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc Podcasts, download each episode's worksheet, and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
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In our previous episode we talked about the first two big fat unhealthy mistakes, both of which have to do with another person.
The 2 detrimental mistakes we’re going to discuss today involve only what’s going on within ourselves.
The real danger zone of slipping up with these 2 big mistakes is highest in the first year after ending a relationship with a narc, but can happen any time you have unhealed issues in your soul.
Buckle up because we're going to get real ( in love!) in this episode.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We invite you to activate your membership in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe. Inside the Cafe you'll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc Podcasts, download each episode's worksheet, and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
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When your heart’s broken and your identity has endured a beating from the narcissist you were connected with, it’s all too easy to willingly, but blindly, walk into these 2 traps we’re looking at today .
It doesn’t look or feel like a trap….at first.
It feels really comforting…at first.
It feels really affirming…at first.
It feels like a reversal of all the hurt…at first.
But look out, because in no time at all it could boomerang your heart, your identity, and your life backwards into a pit that’s even harder to climb out of than it was before.
Let’s talk about why these traps show up gift-wrapped and are so very alluring.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We invite you to activate your membership in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe. Inside the Cafe you'll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc Podcasts, download each episode's worksheet, and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
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Denis Waitley, a well known motivational speaker for decades once said that a good life is a collection of happy moments.
In the early stages of rebuilding your life after narcissistic abuse, life feels more like a series of traumas, disappointments, failures, and hurts, rather than a collection of happy moments.
The good news is you can change all that from this point forward.
You get to design your life - bit by bit.
A beautiful life doesn’t happen accidentally.
You must be intentional about it.
Pull up a chair and join us as we discuss 3 important attributes that we all benefit from intentionally building into our lifestyle.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We invite you to activate your membership in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe. Inside the Cafe you'll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc Podcasts, download each episode's worksheet, and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
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After being with a narc, often it feels like everything meaningful was stripped away and you’re just trudging, just trying to get through the day.
As we step into this new year, it can be what we choose to make it.
We start not by setting goals, but by clearly choosing and articulating - to ourselves - what’s meaningful and why.
Then we write our simple Constitution Statement that we’re willing to take a stand for.
We NEED a Personal Constitution because it gives us a foundation from which we draw our goals and guides what we focus on that’s important to us.
It helps us more readily recognize when we’re drifting away from our values and shines a spotlight to recognize when someone is trying to violate what we hold dear.
You may find it helpful to download my free workbook:
Beautiful Life Constitution at https://annettechesney.com/beautiful-life-constitution
Pour yourself a cup of tea and join us today as we discuss this process and the insights we discovered.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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It’s that time of year - the lull between Christmas and the kick off of a new year!
For many people this is the time where we relax and reflect a bit.
Sometimes we’re thinking of goals for the next year, but often, for those dealing with the fallout of narcissistic abuse, we’re just trying to catch our breath. The thought of surging forward with shiny new goals into the new year is a bit overwhelming.
Here’s the thing though…
With all we’ve been through over the last year, it’s not helpful or even healthy to just stuff everything in a box, try to forget it and get on with the next year.
So today we’re going to talk about 5 exercises that are interesting to work through, will yield useful insights and help us find some resolution to the mental and emotional ragged loose ends flapping in the breeze.
BTW, I have a special workbook you can download for free.You may find it helpful to print out that workbook at:
https://annettechesney.com/year-end
Let's dive into these exercises and what we discovered. Hopefully it will inspire you too.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We invite you to activate your membership in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe. Inside the Cafe you'll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc Podcasts, download each episode's worksheet, and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
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We have unspoken expectations of Christmas…it's time of year when relatives gather, our home is full of peace and harmoney as we reflect on the joy and wonder of the season, right?
While that’s what we strive for because our heart so longs to experience that,
not go so great if your heart is still recovering from narcissistic abuse.
Even if our extended family is super supportive our personal margin has been depleted so we can only take just so much of being “on” with everyone.
Join us as we share 3 simple but deeply meaningful strategies we can apply that will set the stage to experience the peace our hearts long for - especially at Christmas.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We invite you to activate your membership in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe. Inside the Cafe you'll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc Podcasts, download each episode's worksheet, and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
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There’s something about Christmas that opens our hearts - by design, but yet this time of year can also be incredibly painful.
Whether the trials you’ve been through are still fresh or it’s just that Christmas reopens some wounds, there’s no doubt that the Christmas season as a whole can evoke a range of mixed memories/emotions.
Join us to address 3 common sources of Santa Blahs and how to make this Christmas delightful and memorable for you.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We invite you to activate your membership in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe. Inside the Cafe you'll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc Podcasts, download each episode's worksheet, and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
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We want this Christmas to be something to look forward to, not dread, so let’s talk about creating new Grinch-Narc-free holiday traditions for a truly memorable Christmas.
Even in non-narc families, Christmas can be a mixed bag of nuts. There’s a reason why the Chevy Chase Christmas Family Vacation movie is a classic.
You can enjoy a perfectly imperfect holiday and redeem meaningful traditions the Grinch Narc tried to ruin plus discover new and beautiful opportunities to enjoy the season in fresh ways.
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How can you recognize toxic relational traits and patterns before a narcissist reels you in and starts spinning you in circles?
Narcissists are masters of disguise so I’ve created a free guide that will provide some great insights and markers.
TheNarc Encounter Spectrum Overviewwill help you unmask the typical traits of 10 different types of narcissists and show you where they land on the spectrum.
It also provides a mental, emotional, spiritual, physical, and financial safety ranking
for each type of narcissist so you’re better able to protect yourself.
🤗 We want you to stay safe, so be sure to download this FREE guide at: annettechesney.com/overview
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We invite you to activate your membership in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe. Inside the Cafe you'll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc Podcasts, download each episode's worksheet, and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
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It takes a lot of courage and energy to break free from the entanglement of a toxic relationship.
We all know from personal experience that breaking free is only half of the mission though.
Once you’re free, it’s on you to rebuild your life.
It’s not about going back to how life was before because you are forever changed by what you’ve experienced.
The task before you now is to lay a NEW foundation that sets you up to create an intentional life.
YOU get to decide what your “new normal” will be.
Join Wendy, Carol, and Annette as we discuss the foundational elements you'll need to think about and quickly put in place in your new life, especially as it pertains to the practical aspects of your finances.
We invite you to join us in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe.
Activate your free membership at AnnetteChesney.com/Cafe and join amazing Christian women professionals - like you - who are intentional about rising above personal trials to start winning again in business and life.
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You’ll also enjoy access to additional free training, downloadable workbooks and resources, and a supportive community.
We’ll see you in the Cafe!
Pour a cup of your favorite brew, pull up a chair, and get comfy as we chat about how bad people squeeze through your boundary fence.
To be clear, not everyone who squeezes through your boundary fence does it deliberately, with ill-intent.
Regardless if it’s deliberate or unintentional, the outcome can be the same for you.
We invite you to join us in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe.
Activate your free membership at AnnetteChesney.com/Cafe and join amazing Christian women professionals - like you - who are intentional about rising above personal trials to start winning again in business and life.
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Pull up a chair with your favorite brew and get comfy because we’re going to chat about how to recognize 10 different types of narcissists.
You found the courage and strength to escape a narcissistic relationship, but that's not the only narc out there. It's all too easy to fall into the trap again with another narcissistic of a different variety.
In this episode we discuss the key traits that unmask them, and give a safety ranking for each type so you can better protect yourself in the future.
You'll find it very helpful to follow along using the free downloadable Narc Encounter Spectrum Overview.
We invite you to join us in the Beautiful Life Virtual Cafe.
Activate your free membership at AnnetteChesney.com/Cafe and join amazing Christian women professionals - like you - who are intentional about rising above personal trials to start winning again in business and life.
Inside the Cafe you’ll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc podcasts and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
You’ll also enjoy access to additional free training, downloadable workbooks and resources, and a supportive community.
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Congratulations on extracting yourself from the crazy-making tangle of a narcissistic relationship!
You may be starting to realize that just because you're free it doesn't mean you'll automatically bounce back to "normal".
Newsflash - you've been permanently changed by what you've been through.
Though you may feel like a hot mess right now - emotions all over the place, sad, furious, discouraged, embarrassed, disoriented, and absolutely exhausted all at the same time, that doesn't mean you'll stay in that spot.
Being permanently changed can be a really positive thing! If you want to be changed in positive rather than negative, life-limiting ways you must be intentional about how you treat your heart and what your next steps are.
Grab a cup of tea, pull up a chair and get comfy as Annette, Wendy, and Carol help you feel heard and understood and affirm that you're definitely not crazy even though you've been through some crazy-making circumstances.
In this episode we'll share some simple next steps you can put into action for those inevitable times you feel like a hot mess along with this week's Beautiful Life Growth Challenge.
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Activate your free membership at AnnetteChesney.com/Cafe and join amazing Christian women professionals - like you - who are intentional about rising above personal trials to start winning again in business and life.
Inside the Cafe you’ll be able to view the video versions of all the NeverNarc podcasts and chat with Annette, Wendy, and Carol about each topic.
You’ll also enjoy access to additional free training, downloadable workbooks and resources, and a supportive community.
We’ll see you in the Cafe!