The Gemma Hanley Podcast: Recent Episodes
Gemma Hanley
Welcome to The Gemma Hanley Podcast where you can expect honest conversations about how to overcome Anxiety and Overwhelm to calm your nervous system and become confident, happy and free. Along the way I’ll be sharing my own story of holistically healing 23 years of Anxiety & Depression. If you’re a woman seeking answers to perfectionism, people pleasing, burn out and resistance - you’re in the right place beauty, let’s begin!
If you already know what you want — the kind of love and lifestyle you're here for — but fear still gets loud when you move toward it, this episode is for you. When doubt whispers that it's risky to trust what you know, that living your truth might cost too much or has you questioning whether you're capable — this is how you come home to self-trust, no matter what you're feeling. Together we explore:
- The permission to be fully with your experience — and why that creates more ease, not chaos
- How to tell when discomfort is old wiring vs. your intuition asking for a truer next step
- The energetic shift that happens when your "yes" is rooted in desire, not obligation
- A pocket tool for in-the-moment support (so you can steady your nervous system and choose what's real for you)
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Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Ever felt like your self-awareness is backfiring and leaving you as the only one carrying the weight of disconnect in your relationships? What if that heaviness was never yours alone to solve — and there’s a way to turn it into deeper mutual connection? Here’s what you’ll uncover in this episode:
- Beyond the basics: the advanced layer your inner work has been missing
- The hidden cost of assuming you care more — and what it keeps you blind to
- How shifting one perspective can dissolve resentment before it takes root
- The doorway into deeper connection that’s been waiting right in front of you
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Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
When you’re highly sensitive, it can feel like other people’s emotions live in your body. This episode unpacks why that happens and how to reclaim your center—so you can stay loving and present without becoming dysregulated. Together we explore:
- What’s really going on when you “take on” someone else’s feelings
- The hidden cost of “put yourself in their shoes” (and how childhood wiring teaches you to try their experience on as your own).
- Emotional intelligence in practice: relating to discomfort as information, not an emergency (for you and for them).
- Two shifts that change everything: boundaries that begin inside your body, and action that anchors your clarity before the overthinking returns.
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and book your clarity call here5 final spaces available at the time of recording this episode
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
It’s tempting to want quick fixes — to rush to the new belief or the next step. But real change doesn’t come from skipping ahead. It comes from being guided deep enough to see the truth of your own patterns, so you can create transformation that actually lasts.
This episode explores why exceptional coaching isn’t about assumptions or surface-level advice — it’s about meeting you as the individual you are, and guiding you into clarity that changes everything.
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Together we explore:
- The power of slowing down before rushing to “fix”
- How the right questions unlock breakthroughs your mind couldn’t reach
- The role of a coach in directing you toward deeper self-inquiry and faster, more sustainable change
- The freedom and energy that return when you finally see the pattern clearly
Learn more about Reveal & Rise here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
If you’ve ever worried that setting boundaries will push people away, this episode is here to remind you of the opposite.. boundaries expand love, deepen connection, and make more room for what matters.
Your brave “no” is what clears space for the richest “yes.”
Together we explore:
- The flow and functionality that enters your life when you honour your true capacity
- How boundaries create deeper intimacy instead of distance
- The relief of shifting guilt, overthinking, and resentment
- The energetic shift when your “yes” is rooted in desire, not obligation
Plus more!
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply hereEarly-bird pricing and bonuses end Aug 31st
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re getting motherhood “right” — this episode is for you. What if your self-doubt is not a flaw, but a sign of how deeply you care? This is a love note to the mother in you — a reminder that your challenges don’t mean you’re off track. They mean you’re awakening. And the soul of your child chose you for a reason. Together we explore:
- Why emotional discomfort in motherhood doesn’t mean something’s wrong — it means something’s awakening
- The quiet, powerful work of breaking generational patterns
- Motherhood as a co-creation between your soul and your child’s
- A perspective shift that helps dissolve shame and self-judgment — so you can meet yourself with awe
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
When open, honest communication leads to shutdown, deflection, or passive-aggression - what do you do next?
In this episode, we explore the emotional reality of relationships where someone says they want connection but lacks the capacity to hold your truth.
You’ll learn a compassionate and self-honoring approach to boundary setting that protects your energy, keeps you honest, and helps you stay grounded in your own worth.
Together we explore:
- How to tell the truth without it blowing up in your face
- How to reposition a relationship when it consistently leaves you feeling unheard, let down or drained
- A word-for-word example of how to maintain a relationship without sacrificing your own needs
- The subconscious pattern that has a woman over-explain or overshare in the hope of being understood (and how to shift it)
Plus more!
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
When I left the wrong relationship at age 34 (despite wanting to become a mother) I wanted a guarantee that I wouldn’t attract or re-create the same lesson again. To state the obvious, I felt that time was running out. In this episode I share with you:
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How to learn from difficult experiences so that we don’t continue the same pattern
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The importance of giving your mind body the key that opens a new door
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The focus that changed everything for me
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The exact lessons I needed to embrace so that I attracted an aligned relationship
Watch my free masterclass: Reprogramming Your Subconscious To Calm Your Nervous System here
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Been immersing yourself in your inner work for years but still feel like something's missing? I’ve recorded this episode for you! I’m sharing some of the exact tweaks that may change the healing & growth game for you:
- Why your body might be holding onto illness as protection
- How to tell if you’re using a bandaid for your nervous system, or actually reprogramming it
- Identifying your comfort zone of inner work, and what you need to focus on instead
- Practical steps forward for working with emotional eating (scrolling, staying up late, procrastination)
- Building inner certainty that can’t be shaken
Get your hands on the replay for my masterclass: Reprogram Your Subconscious to Calm Your Nervous System here
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
This week I share my own dating and relationship journey as an example of how the love we witnessed in childhood directly shapes the love we create as adults. This is the subconscious ‘data’ that empowers us to write a new love story - not only for ourselves, but for generations to come.
In this episode, we'll cover:
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Different ways that anxious and avoidant attachments express through our nervous systems
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Examples of how my own childhood conditioning showed up in my dating & relationships at different stages of healing
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How to uncover your own love and relationship patterns
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Why we repeat the same patterns despite wishing we could “stop” them
Plus more!
Register for me free masterclass here: Reprogram Your Subconscious to Calm Your Nervous System (July 2nd)
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
When we take our self awareness and judge ourselves (for being too slow, lazy or stupid) we can no longer take action on it.
That nasty, mean judgemental story we’re telling about ourself feels horrible - so the opportunity to take the awareness and put it into action is lost.
In this week’s episode, I talk about an empowering approach instead:
- The subconscious reason we know better but don’t do better
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2 changes every woman must make before she can put her awareness into fulfilling action
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Real life examples of how I’ve been stuck in my mind instead of connecting to my body soul
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The practical tool I teach my clients for identifying aligned action steps forward
Plus more!
Register for my new masterclass: Reprogram Your Subconscious to Calm Your Nervous System here
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Feel like you're constantly racing against an invisible clock - rushing to heal, forcing outcomes, and always needing to get ahead?
When we understand that rushing is a survival strategy learnt in childhood, we can finally breathe into a different way of being.
In this episode, I share:
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The link between "good girl" childhood conditioning and why slowing down feels so threatening to your nervous system
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How your mind body soul is using discomfort as an invitation to discover your true self (not an inconvenience to rush through)
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The life-changing shift from asking "how fast can I fix this?" to "what is this teaching me about who I really am?"
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Why patience is the fast route to transformation (do it right, do it once)
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
You’ve drawn a line in the sand and followed through on a boundary that is right for you… only inner peace hasn’t followed Rather, you’re having dreams about the situation (if you can get to sleep), it’s consuming your thoughts, and you’re left questioning why there’s still discomfort when you’ve shown up as the real you. This is exactly what I dive into in this episode of The Gemma Hanley Podcast, including:
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How your body speaks to you about your boundaries
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What to do when we feel as if the other person is the problem
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Accurately identifying the subconscious pattern at the root of this boundary setting discomfort
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The next step forward to let go of the ruminating (including practical question prompts)
Plus more!
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
You know exactly what's holding you back, you've had all the "aha moments" about your patterns, and yet... you find ways to prolong or talk yourself out of needing to take action.
In this episode, I share a powerful conversation inspired by a courageous client who recognized this exact pattern in herself - the gap between awareness and action.
Together we explore:
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How you can stay connected to yourself and the change you desire
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Three practical questions to bring you back into your body when your mind tries to distract you from the truth
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How to create the subconscious reprogramming road-map that is right for you (because there is no one-size fits all)
Watch my free masterclass: Emotion & Symptom Mastery here
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Are you a woman who is always wanting to get more done, be liked by everyone, and extends a helping hand even when your plate is already full?
In this episode, I'm sharing a simple yet profound exercise to help you uncover what might be driving these patterns.
What you'll discover: * Why your definition of "success" impacts everything from your health to your relationships * How to identify when you're following someone else's rules versus your own inner truth * A journaling exercise to uncover what's really driving your helper/pleaser/fixer tendencies * How your body's symptoms and emotions reveal when you're living from someone else's definition of success * My personal journey from achievement-based validation to deep internal success criteria
To learn more about your subconscious and how to reprogram it, watch my free masterclass Emotion & Symptom Mastery here
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Ever feel confused about what you actually need in moments of stress or overwhelm? In this episode, I share the exact self-coaching tool I use every single day (and with all my clients inside Reveal & Rise) to move from nervous system dysregulation to calm confidence. In this episode, you’ll discover how to:
- Connect to your body's wisdom instead of pushing through discomfort (which only creates more physical symptoms and emotional turbulence)
- Bridge the gap between awareness and action - because knowing you're stressed isn't the same as knowing what you need to resolve it
- Name the "productivity trap" that has us discount rest, pleasure and self-care as "unproductive luxuries" rather than essential nervous system necessities
Watch my free masterclass: Emotion & Symptom Mastery here
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Feel as if you’ve hit a brick wall with your inner work? You can see the subconscious pattern and you’re trying everything you know to change it… only to be left with the same question: “why isn’t this working!?” You’re not alone and this pep talk is for you. I cover:
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Why asking "what am I doing wrong?" is the wrong question
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How to drop the rigidity and find flow in your healing
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The sneaky ways your inner work can become another way to control and perfect yourself (and what to do instead)
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What you need to start prioritising to break through
Plus more!
Join my free masterclass Emotion & Symptom Mastery here
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
This week we’re celebrating 100 episodes !!! so I'm sharing something extra special - a raw and honest Q&A with my partner Harri. Whilst I’ve shared snippets of our relationship in past episodes, you'll finally hear from the man himself about how we navigate love, growth, and building a life together.
Together, Harri and I answer:
- How long have you been together?
- Are you similar ages? And both into healthy eating and mindset?
- How deep in conversation did you go on the first date?
- Did you have any doubts about each other?
- Who raised the idea of a future together first and how?
- What were you afraid to let go of before moving forward together?
- When you live together, how will you navigate bills and house chores?
- Do doubts ever come? Are they real or is it fear?
- How do you approach conflicts where you each have a different truth/version of an events?
- How do you repair after a conflict?
- How much time is enough together to feel good in a relationship?
- What compromises have you had to make?
- What are 3 things you love about each other?
For 50% off my short course ‘Responding to Overwhelm Fear & Anxiety’ use the code: “EPISODE100”
Learn more about ‘Responding to Overwhelm, Fear & Anxiety’ here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
The line between “authenticity” and “emotional dumping” can be difficult to decipher in intimate relationships.
In this episode I share two stories about my own emotions from the past week.
If you've ever wondered "am I being too sensitive?" or "is this oversharing?" - you’ll love listening in.
You’ll hear me share:
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Two stories about how I sat with and felt my emotions
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The reason I was feeling fear, worry, panic and anger
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The role my partner can and can’t play in my own emotional regulation
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The different ways I take ownership of my emotions
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Lets dissect the role a client must play in the coaching relationship should they want to see results. This follows on from last week's episode where I did the same for the role of your coach. In this episode, we’ll cover:
- How your honesty directly determines your results
- The common 'safety nets' that keep you stuck in the safe & familiar
- How to know if it's the 'right time' to hire a coach
- The importance of disagreeing with your coach
Plus more!
Book your free clarity call here Learn more about Reveal & Rise here
Connect with Gemma daily here on instagram For more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Ever wondered why some women get incredible results from coaching while others stay stuck? Over the next two episodes I am (passionately) explaining why. These episodes will cover the integral roles that both a coach and a client must play so that coaching works.
Part 1 is all about the role a coach must play:
- How a coach's own inner work directly impacts their client's results
- What most coaches miss about the nervous system
- How to know if your coach can actually guide you where you want to go
- The difference between strategic coaching versus deep transformation
Plus more!
Book your free clarity call here Learn more about Reveal & Rise here
Connect with Gemma daily here on instagram For more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Want proof that loving your body AND being the real you is possible? In this episode, I'm joined by past client Charlie who vulnerably shares her journey from perfectionism and judging her body to genuine self-acceptance. We explore:
- How she broke free from "needing" to be perfect
- The shifts she experienced in relationship to her body
- How and why she has "come to love an uncomfortable conversation"
- The unexpected way her family relationships transformed through this work
Plus Charlie's raw and honest advice for women ready to make this change themselves.
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and book your free clairity call here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Ready to capture the fresh new year energy and follow through on your inner wisdom more honestly than ever before?
In this episode I'm sharing vulnerable insights about how I'm already following my intuitive nudges this year (even when they feel scary!)
I also cover:
- What to do when intuition defies logic
- Why you can’t hear your intuition
- My favourite approach for trusting yourself when others doubt your choices
Plus more!
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Watch my free and on demand training ‘Emotion & Symptom Mastery’ here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Want to set inspiring goals for 2025 that actually feel true to YOU (not what you think you "should" do or what others expect of you)?
In this episode (part 2 of a goal setting series) I share a fresh approach to creating goals that light you up inside, while being realistic about your time, energy and resources!
You'll learn:
- How to identify your desired "state of being" for 2025 (beyond just tangible outcomes)
- Choosing the best goal setting timeline that works for YOU
- 2 questions for checking your goals are true to you (not to please or meet the expectations of somebody else)
- A practical tip for making aligned compromises so you avoid burning out
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Feel as if you "know better but don't do better" when it comes to taking the actions steps that would see you achieve your goals? In this episode (the first of two goal setting workshops) I take you through powerful question and reflection prompts to uncover the hidden patterns that stop you from confidently progressing forwards in life.. AND empower you to build upon the incredible results you've already created! You'll learn:
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Ways to make goal setting suit your individual situation
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How to use recent behaviour patterns (good and bad) to your advantage
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A guided subconscious practice to find the root of self sabotage
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The link between self celebration and achieving more of your goals
Watch my free masterclass: BRAVE BOUNDARIES here (expires December 10th)
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Setting boundaries in dating isn't about walls - it's about creating space to let the right love in (because you're no longer entertaining less than what you desire).
In this episode I share some examples of how that played out for me:
- How I overcame fear of male anger (and why this was crucial)
- My strategic (and successful!) approach I took to dating apps
- The boundaries I set with myself that changed everything
- Key questions to uncover your own dating blocks (so you can shift them)
Get the replay for my masterclass: Brave Boundaries here
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Think you have to choose between being kind and having boundaries? Think again!
In this episode I dive into the science and psychology of delivering strong boundaries that are drenched in kindness.
Learn about:
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Mindset shifts so that your boundaries no longer feel selfish or too sensitive
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Hear me demonstrate loving but firm boundary examples
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Eliminating the opportunity for someone to use your boundary against you
- 2 practical tips you can use in real time when someone has a reaction to your boundary
Plus more!
Register for my masterclass: BRAVE BOUNDARIES: Speaking up when you fear rejection
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Want to set healthy boundaries without second guessing yourself, feeling riddled with guilt or dealing with dramatic reactions from others? It's possible! In this episode I break down the common mistakes we make when setting boundaries that lead us to feeling overwhelmed instead of empowered, and exactly how to shift this.
Here's what you'll learn:
- The first step to rock solid boundaries that stick (that almost everyone skips)
- How to identify the right boundary and communicate it with clarity and confidence
- Subtle signs you're using control instead of an empowered boundary
- Practical tips for selecting the best time to speak up
Plus an invitation to join my last masterclass for 2024 - Brave Boundaries: Speaking your truth when you fear rejection
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Feeling defeated and disheartened by the dating process? What about being filled with hope for a promising first date (or even third or fourth date) only to be let down and disappointed?
I’ll be honest - throughout my own 21 years of dating, there were times where it was extremely difficult to remain optimistic and keep trusting I’d meet “the one”
In this episode I share 3 changes I made to turn this around. Including:
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The mindset I took with me to every single first date
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The exact questions I asked early on in dating (and the way I asked them - this is SO important!)
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The number 1 thing I kept reminding myself of when first dating Harri
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How to stop ‘losing yourself’ and forgetting who you are in new relationships
Plus more!
Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Rushing through each day with the feeling that there’s never enough time - it might be the ultimate stressor to our nervous system (resulting in overthinking, fear and chronic illness).
It means that even if a woman “gets there” (to the relationship, motherhood, business etc) she’s probably burnt out, second guessing her choices, and is unlikely to be enjoying it as much as she’d imagined she would.
Thank goodness we can change this - regardless of your age!
In this episode:
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A powerful question to ask yourself when feeling that time is running out or that you don’t have enough
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How to audit your time and energy output so that you won’t feel you’re missing out or being left behind
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The psychology of self sabotage, procrastination and why you don’t put your goals first
Plus more!
Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Have you ever felt as if life is harder than it should be?
That no matter how hard you try to grow your business, enjoy motherhood, attract like minded relationships or stay consistent with healthy foods... you’re not really progressing forwards in a way that feels satisfying?
In this week's episode I introduce you to a strategy that helps you answer the question: “how do I get there?” (so that you can feel confident that you’re truly on the path to doing it right)
Together we explore:
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A common trap: gaining self awareness only to shame and judge yourself for what you’ve discovered
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Breaking down your powerful role as the creator of everything in your life and how to use this to your advantage
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Examples of my own subconscious patterns in dating, business and chronic illness that I got to transform
Plus more!
Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
What if you could attract better dates and create more connection in your relationship without waiting for the other person to change?! It’s possible my love! (I know because I watched it play out in my own life) Without even realising it, we constantly send subconscious cues to our date/partner about how they should act and what we desire from them. When your subconscious cues match your relationship goals - BOOM - the qualities you’ve been craving in a partner begin to appear.. To get there, we begin by accurately identify any discrepancies.
In this week’s episode, we’re exploring:
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The biggest reason women attract dating/relationship scenarios they don’t want
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How to tell if the “I have to take what I can get” subconscious pattern is part of your conditioning
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Healing jealousy and trust issues
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How to attract an amazing aligned relationship
Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
This week you’re meeting one of my inspiring clients, Claire! She’s here to generously share her story and wisdom with you of how since working together, she has learnt how to fully process emotions, show herself love and free herself from limiting beliefs that held her back.
In this extremely open hearted chat, Claire opens up about:
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Subconscious blinds spots in the relationships with her parents (and the change that helped her get better from chronic fatigue)
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Her recent experience of extreme grief and loss
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How believing she ‘should have it all figured out on her own’ nearly stopped her from getting the help she needed
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The things that made the biggest difference in letting go of uncomfortable emotions and building her confidence
Plus wayyyyyyyy more!
Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
The most important thing about your inner work? That you actually get results - your life is changing for the better!
However it’s almost a given that along your healing journey, there will be times where you feel confused, lost and like you’re pushing shit uphill and getting nowhere!
In this podcast episode, I will
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Remind you why your answers can’t be found outside of you
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Share two limiting beliefs that hold women back from healing their nervous system for good
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Highlight the exact 3 things (that if you commit to consistently implementing) will create a naturally confident mindset and ease in your body.
Plus more!
Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with me here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
For a long time, I believed that uncomfortable emotions and chronic symptoms were the problem… and for a long time, I stayed stuck. In this podcast episode, I explain why the real problem behind recurring discomfort in the mind body is this: Not knowing how to retrieve the intelligent message or answer that an emotion or symptom is trying to show you.
I’ll explain:
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The internal alarm bell system that can be switched off
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The exact reasons emotions or symptoms will keep coming back
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The two ways I teach women to connect with their subconscious and retrieve the answers they need to heal
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How to know if you’re making progress forwards
Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
A fixation on being in a ‘high vibrational state’ might just be as disempowering as using a victim mentality.
Often, being ‘high vibe’ requires a woman to reject past pain that is surfacing so it can be let go of - it wants to come up and out of her body.
When she is taught to actively bypass and “stop” anything other than positive emotions, she continues to store that past pain, keeping it stuck in her body (which in turn, means she rejects her inner child’s pleads for love)
In this episode I cover:
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The unnecessary shame women can feel when they aren’t able to “get over” an emotion and instantly feel happy or content
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Proactively addressing emotions & symptoms so that they heal and there is no longer something uncomfortable to “stop” or “be positive” about
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Thinking you’re doing the inner work VS actually getting it done
Plus more!
Watch my free and on demand masterclass here: Emotion & Symptom Mastery
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
I nearly canceled the first date with my (now) partner. In the end, the only reason I followed through and went on the date was because of a promise I’d made myself. Months earlier I’d realised that I was subconsciously ‘rolling my eyes’ at parts of the dating process.. (the parts that felt annoying, disappointing or a waste of my time)
And that so long as I kept up this mindset and attitude, I would actually have one foot in and one foot out when it came to dating.. unrealistically hoping for a “perfect”, “seamless”, and “get it done right first go” experience.
The promise I made to myself was that I would show up to the ENTIRE dating process more fully than ever before. In this week’s episode I share candidly about how I got that done:
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The exact way perfectionism showed up for me in dating (and the hurdle I had to overcome)
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The ‘bullshit free’ coaching conversation I had with myself
- 4 things I had to be crystal clear about before I could attract my partner
Plus more!
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
I was recently reminded, while experiencing the worst flu of my life, of the very first lesson I had to learn before I could heal chronic fatigue, anxiety and depression (a whole lot more physical symptoms too but those were the headliners) and it’s this…
In the most challenging moments of our life (both emotionally and physically) there comes a fork in the road, and the path we choose to go down will determine whether we heal subconscious triggers that overstimulate our nervous system OR stay stuck in the same subconscious patterns that feel safe and familiar. At this fork in the road we can choose to give ourselves what we NEED (listen to our body and intuition to then make choices that support our real self) or we can cave into a moment of immediate gratification by choosing an impulse behavior (which is when we maintain a coping mechanism that feels like self sabotage) Sounds simple, but it’s not, because the coping mechanism is an automated subconscious pattern that has likely been there since childhood and may even take multiple forms. It also serves the purpose of distracting away from discomfort. An enormous part of being able to change this is increasing your emotional intelligence, and that’s what we I walk you through in this episode:
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Where I’ve been for the last 4 weeks
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The difference between your intuition and moments of immediate gratification
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The fastest route to achieving the “big picture” in life we want most
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How to stop self sabotaging and make the choice that has you progress forwards
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3 journaling questions for increasing your emotional intelligence
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
This week I’m excited to be brining Hillary McVeigh back to the poddy, she’s a Human Design Teacher, IFS Practitioner and Intuitive Certified Coach.
Once a family lawyer, she is now passionate in helping women transform their inner rumblings into reality so they too can create their dream life and business.
This episode with Hillary covers:
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Making choices from your monkey mind VS connecting to your intuitive knowing & body
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Key signs (for each Human Design energy type) that you are pretending to be someone you’re not
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Hillary guiding you through an exercise to strengthen your intuition and get clearer on what is right for the real you
Plus more!
Connect with Hillary on Instagram here
Listen to Hillary’s podcast here
Visit Hillary’s website here
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
The answers to your success are not only found in a positive mindset & visualisation of your goals, they are found from intelligently exploring your resistance, self doubt and emotional/physical discomfort too. I’m seeing a common theme that is keeping women confused & stuck when it comes to their inner work… Toxic positivity coaching - which forces a woman to only look at half of her reality (the “positive” half which is easy to love, get excited about and celebrate), and reject the other 50% (being the “negative” which includes her vulnerabilities and fears).
Strap in my love, together we cover:
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How incessant positivity is harmful & the delusional beliefs we have about emotions
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Nervous system stress responses in your body that you’re probably not even be noticing
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Thinking you’re doing the inner work but accidentally abandoning yourself instead
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5 journaling questions to get to the bottom of procrastination
Plus more!
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
I spent more than 15 thousand dollars on my emotional and physical health before I found the solutions that actually started to help me - so I know what it’s like to shudder or shrink at the idea of investing in yourself. In this episode I bring you behind closed doors and into my personal experiences (and major success I’ve created in my life) from working with the high quality and expert coaches. I share with you:
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My exact mindset when it comes to investing in a coach
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Insight into 3 very precise problems I’ve worked with coaches to solve over recent years
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Why I’ve invested when I felt I couldn’t afford it and it didn’t make logical sense
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How I made my finances work for me at the time
Plus more!
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Listen to EP 74: Throwing away your power and accidently playing victim? (4 key signs) here
Listen to EP 72: The question I ask every woman before she hires me as a coach here
Recently on one of our Reveal & Rise coaching calls, two of my clients were super honest & told me how a boundary I had set in my personal life (and shared about) triggered them.
Given I used to be an A+ grade people pleaser, I knew exactly how they were feeling. Listen in as I explain what my boundary was, 4 teachable moments from the reaction my clients experienced, and the coaching advice I gave to help them move forwards.
In this episode, I cover:
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How I made a commitment to a friend, realised it wasn’t right for me and then changed my mind
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The exact (word for word) dialogue I used to lovingly change my boundary
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A question that helps you choose the boundary that is right for you
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Easy ways you can use more connection based communication (instead of creating fear and conflict)
Plus more!
Learn more about Reveal & Rise and how you can apply here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Perfectionism runs deep. It’s hard wired into our neurology and nervous system as an automated behavior that gets us love, approval and validation. When we do things perfectly, things feel more certain, predictable and controlled. When we let go of this exhausting behavior it feels exposing.. that we could be seen as ‘not good enough’, ‘lazy’, or letting others down (which ramps up our fears of rejection or being misunderstood).
In this episode, we talk about how you can change it:
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Doing a proper honest audit of how perfectionism is showing up for you
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A brain retraining conversation
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Using perfectionism as a coping mechanism to keep yourself calm and safe
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Sneaky ways perfectionism is still ruling your choices and behaviors (in your health, relationships and work)
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3 clear non negotiables for progressing forwards beyond perfectionism
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A weekly ritual for you to implement so that you can start healing perfectionism and controlling behaviors
Plus more!
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
This is a conversation that has completely transformed the trajectory of my life - MULTIPLE times! Here’s the thing my love: when we are stuck in procrastination, uncomfortable emotions or confusing symptoms (and we’ve been unsuccessful in changing it) it’s important to acknowledge that we’re overlooking something. It’s not that we are purposely ignoring something or sweeping things under the rug - but IT IS happening (at a subconscious level) and it’s also keeping you stuck. So it’s absolutely an area we need to take an honest look at.
In this episode we dive into:
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4 signs you’re accidentally using victim mode
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Uncovering your big ‘AHA’ moments
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How to become more empowered, confident and capable
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Different ways that fear will hold you back by keeping you “safe”
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What is personal power and how to develop your ‘Queen energy’
Plus more!
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
What attitude do you bring to your morning routine? Does it have you jumping for joy and feeling alive in your body? Or is it more of a “have to get this done” vibe with a sprinkle of fear about what will happen if you don’t?
Here’s a common pattern I’m observing in women (and saw in myself in the past too): the use of the same morning routine regardless of what her mind and body are communicating to her. A pattern that works against her inner work.
Here’s what we’ll cover together in this episode:
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When a morning routine is actually just a perfectionism and self abandonment pattern dressed up differently
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The problem with having every inch of your day organised and planned
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Strengthening your feminine qualities of: intuition, emotional intelligence, nurturing, creativity and flow
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Dating yourself: how and why you would bother
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Healing codependent patterns so that you can increase self worth, confidence and boundary setting skills
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3 questions to use for more confidence and self trust (instead of your rigid and predetermined morning routine)
Plus more!
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Here’s the thing: quick fixes and magic pills would be amazing.. IF they actually existed. When it comes to finding a plan for your inner work that actually.. works, you’re going to have to dig deeper. Women who get results from coaching have done their research. They’ve gotten clear on what they (as an individual) need from a coach and program. In today’s episode, I’m going to help you gain this clarity too. You’ll discover:
- The question I ask every single woman before they hire me as a coach
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Signs a woman is holding back from doing her inner work
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2 reasons women struggle to accurately identify subconscious patterns that are keeping them stuck
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How I strategically use accountability in my coaching spaces
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What women tend to want from a coach VS what they actually need from a coach
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6 questions you should know the answer to before paying a coach to help you
Plus more!
Watch my free masterclass: Emotion & Symptom Mastery here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
A very sensitive and extremely important topic for us to have a transparent conversation about - WITH COMPASSION! Let’s start by saying, the fact that you are a mother reading this right now - is so extremely impressive. Your heart is so big, and I am in awe of your desire to lead by example for your children.
Here’s what you can expect from this episode:
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A massive acknowledgement and celebration of all the mumma’s consistently doing the best they know how
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Why I see difficult and uncomfortable conversations as a non negotiable in coaching
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Generational trauma & subconscious patterns - how it’s not all your “fault”
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The unknown fact about communication that will transform your perspective on parenting
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People pleasing, emotional eating, body shaming, perfectionism and boundaries - getting clear on the subconscious patterns of your inner world, and taking ownership for what this is teaching the next generation
Watch the replay to my free masterclass: Emotion & Symptom Mastery here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Uncomfortable emotions used to control my day and how I viewed myself. The most frustrating part was that I really was doing my best to feel them and let them go - but any progress was either minimal or short lived. I’d tried self help books, journaling and letting myself cry, so I was extremely confused about what I was doing wrong. Today is a completely different story. Solving uncomfortable emotions has become my comfort zone!
In this episode I’ll share with you:
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How to tell if you’re doing surface level inner work or getting to the root
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3 steps you must be covering when doing your emotional release work
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What emotional “intelligence” actually means
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Key signs you’ll notice in your body when you’re rewiring your neurology and nervous system
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The subconscious reason a client felt stuck in her emotions recently
Plus more!
Register for the free masterclass >>> EMOTION & SYMPTOM MASTERY here to learn my framework to go from overwhelmed, afraid and lost, to confidently solving uncomfortable emotions and confusing symptoms.
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
The more flexibility and adaptability we can bring to our life, the greater the chances of us achieving our goals and experiencing more joy! This week I bring you behind the scenes of my personal life and business - showing you in real time how I am walking the talk - giving myself permission to change my mind and do things differently so I can show up as THE REAL ME and progress forwards in a way that feels good.
You’ll hear me share:
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What isn’t working in my life right now and how that feels
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My approach when situations like this show up
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The importance of self accountability and ownership of our personal results
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3 questions I used to help myself move forwards
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How to be flexible and adaptable WITHOUT self sacrificing
Plus more!
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
People pleaser to boundary queen can feel like such an unrealistic leap … and to be honest - it is! So in episode, I talk you through some ‘in between’ options that will support you in healing the subconscious pattern of wanting to avoid conflict by keeping everyone around you happy.
You’ll learn:
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The 6 ingredients to connection based communication
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I talk you through examples of each
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Ways we overcomplicate boundaries
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Perfectionism and boundary setting
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2 simple sentences you can use to say ‘no’ with confidence
And a whole lot more!
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
I’ve never met anyone who feels better for it - AND YET - almost all of us do it. So how can we understand why mindless scrolling is happening, and how to change our behaviours around it?
This is the exact conversation I bring to this week’s episode:
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A current client example of how we’re working on this
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A new decision that has totally transformed my screen time (for the better!)
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8 habits I personally use when it comes to social media
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Mindless scrolling to calm a stress response in your nervous system
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5 high quality questions for understanding the subconscious reasons behind your scrolling
Plus more!
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Your mind, body and soul are always speaking to you..
Delivering intelligent messages about where you’re accidently living against yourself and how to stop doing that
When we miss these intelligent messages, they will get louder.
A slightly “off” mood can manifest into extreme overwhelm, fear or depression..
Feeling a little run down can manifest into migraines, painful periods or fatigue.
This week on the podcast I cover:
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Using the mind body connection to heal
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How I did this (4 major messages anxiety and chronic fatigue had for me)
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How to decipher the message underneath your own uncomfortable emotions
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Finding the subconscious reason for ongoing symptoms/illness
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Multiple examples for body image and body weight
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A step by step guide to being connection with your subconscious to find your answers
Plus more!
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Come BTS of my own mind body healing with the parasite I experienced earlier this year in both a personal share AND educational episode
In this episode I teach:
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How holistic healing sees the mind & body as one (not separate!!)
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The deeper meaning of physical symptoms and illness in the body (especially if they are chronic or ongoing)
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Confirmation: It is NOT all in your head
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My 3 unresolved emotional events contributing to the parasite I was healing
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The role of genetics and emotional intelligence in healing physical symptoms and illness
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Generational trauma and your emotional lineage
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
The basics on empowered psychic readings .. that’s what you can expect from this week's episode.
Adriana is a Psychic Business & Mindset Mentor who helps soul led entrepreneurs scale to multiple 6 figures with psychic guidance & soulful strategies.
Only a year or so back, I had an extremely limited understanding of what value a psychic could add to my life
Basically, I understood that they ‘had a go’ at predicting my future
Then I came to understand Adriana’s work more deeply, and realised that empowered psychic readings held WAY MORE forward momentum than I could have ever imagined, and are actually focused on the NOW and require the client to be a very active participant.
Together, Adriana and I explore:
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What is an empowered psychic reading?
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What Adriana does when she reads for a client, and why you’d bother with this work
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The energetic body - we all have it!
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Where most people feel “stuck” in their energetic body
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When and how Adriana discovered she had psychic abilities
Plus more!
Connect with Adriana on Instagram here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Feeling depressed, numb, hopeless, uninspired or as if you’re in a dark hole are common
What is not so common, is being taught how the subconscious plays a role in that, and how the subconscious is also part of an self empowered plan out of the pain.
My goal in this episode is to begin changing that
Here’s what you’ll gain from listening:
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The choices and behaviours that see depression and numbness thrive
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The importance of this in realising that not only are you NOT broken, you’re functioning perfectly
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How to remove the confusion and helplessness around depression and numbness
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The role of the subconscious mind and how I’ve used this with a client recently
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The cause of extreme loneliness and isolation
And truly.. a whole lot more
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
The quality of your neurotransmitters (serotonin, gabba etc) are determined by the quality of your gut health.
This week on the podcast I interview Heather Famularo who is a mum, wife, nutritionist and certified GAPS practitioner. She’s passionate about seeing food intolerances reversed by healing the gut. She knows that simply removing foods and living on a restricted diet forever is not the answer, and that 90% of healing in the gut happens in the kitchen - and anyone can do it!
Together we explore:
- The role of Heather’s own health (and her husband’s) in guiding her to her career as a nutritionist and GAPS practitioner
- How to tell if you have a histamine intolerance and what a holistic approach to healing it looks like
- The link between stress/anxiety and the gut
- How to tackle perfectionism and fear around foods and “getting it right”
- Easy mistakes to make when using the GAPS protocol or healing your gut
- Supporting your body as it detoxes
- Important considerations when your experiencing chronic illness
Plus more!
Discount code for Heather’s courses: GEMMA50
Connect with Heather on YouTube here
Connect with Heather on Instagram here
Details for working with Heather here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Here’s the thing about quick fixes and surface level approaches to your inner work..
When you’ve tried enough of them, they no longer feel like the quick or easy
They start to pile up and compound - leaving you feeling as if you’ve tried everything but nothing has worked (despite being at it for months or even years!!)
The fastest way forwards becomes the way that gets you real results that stick.
In this episode, I share:
- Why a lot of my listeners won’t be ready for this message (and I wasn’t for a long time either)
- How talk therapy and conversational coaching might shift your mindset, but isn’t enough to heal your nervous system
- The function of the subconscious in triggering a stress response in the nervous system
- The importance of somatic tools that give you a direct line of communication to the subconscious
- The characteristics of a woman who is prioritising nervous system healing
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
In this episode I share a communication technique that will eliminate hours upon hours of unnecessary conflict in your relationships. The best part - it’s incredibly simple, fast and easy to use!
You’ll hear me break down:
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3 questions to ask before you have a sensitive and vulnerable conversation
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Unsolicited advice - the problem with receiving it and how to make sure you’re not giving it
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What to do when someone's words and actions don’t match
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How to set a boundary if you feel that someone is consistently venting or dumping on you
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3 ways you can lovingly help a people pleaser
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What the behavior of others can teach you about yourself
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
I’m progressing some pretty big goals in my life right now. It has taken me way out of my comfort zone and the result of that recently were some serious feelings of comparison!
So in this episode - I use myself as an example of what to do if you find you’re battling self doubt, wondering if you’re good enough or feeling “less than”.
In this episode I reveal:
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Three ways I was comparing myself to another woman (she’s phenomenal by the way - and my coach!!)
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Ways that perfectionism, jealousy and pedestalling another show up with comparison
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What is actually happening in the nervous system
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How the root trigger is found in your subconscious, NOT your current day life
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Why so many women stay stuck in comparison
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What I found as my own root trigger and how I’m healing it
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Come behind the scenes of my personal life! This week I’m sharing the boundaries and non-negotiables I have in the relationship with myself so that distractions (self sabotage, avoidance etc) are kept to a minimum.
I cover:
- How I responded to anger and frustration in my body immediately before hitting record on this episode
- Then VS Now (how distractions showed up in my past VS in my present)
- How I keep my mind sharp and my body energised
- 11 things I do to eliminate tiredness
- How I access more creativity, ease and flow states
- 2 tips for how you can do the same
Enjoy beautiful!
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
I have an absolute gift of an episode for you this week lady love, where I interview Natarsha Bamblett and we learn more about her personal story and evolution
Nartarsha Bamblett’s work is in Cultural and Indigenous education, and a key part of this is her acknowledgements of country which extend beyond just empty words, that are too often tokenised.
She amplifies the true meaning of an acknowledgement, incorporating dance, song and soul - her acknowledgements serve as a true representation of indigenous culture, country and ancestry
Beyond these acknowledgements she is a power mother & storyteller, authentic speaker, facilitator, educator who has developed workshops and healing programs aimed at connecting to mind, body and soul through culture, history and country.
In this episode you can expect:
- A stunning acknowledgement of country and her own roots as a Yorta Yorta, Walpiri Aboriginal woman
- Tarsh flips the script & asks me about my own stereotypes, projections, privilege and biases as a non Indigenous Australian
- Early experiences of losing people she loved
- A childhood experience that shaped her path
- How Tarsh found connection to her real self in her roles as mother, partner, speaker, and business woman
- A real and raw insight into the balance of motherhood and business woman as we’re recording
- The hurdles that have come with standing in her au authentic version of success
Connect with Natarsha: Here on instagram
Here on Facebook
Here on her website
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
In this episode I give you the insider scoop on coaching that works and gets results (and that which doesn’t)
Reveal & Rise is 4 years old, so when I pair the performance data I’ve collected over that time with the $50K+ I’ve invested in my own experiences as a client to other coaches.. it’s a conversation I feel overly qualified to bring you
Here’s what this episode covers my love:
- How a coach’s values directly impact a client
- Why crowded coaching groups are a big NO for me
- How I have my eyes on my clients life outside of our coaching calls
- The importance of ‘walking the talk’ as a coach
- How the nervous system experiencing the problem, is not the same nervous system that knows how to solve the problem
- The tremendous healing effect of a like hearted women’s circle (this one makes me emotional !!!)
- Trust and safety as a non negotiable (and what creates this)
Plus more!
Send me an email or DM to let me know your biggest takeaway! You can apply for Reveal & Rise here
You can visit gemmahanley.com here You can find me on Instagram here
A deeply loving and bullshit free chat about 4 sentences that hold women back most:
“it’s not possible for me”, “I don’t have time”, “I don’t know how”, and “I’m not good enough”
I share with you:
- Where these limiting beliefs might be true, and how to get yourself unstuck from them
- Why we need to look at this negative self talk to be able to progress
- How to take control of what is showing up in your mind
- 2 questions for moving forwards
- A pep talk about why your dream life IS possible
Plus more!
Find all the details about Reveal & Rise here (enrollments close Feb 29)
Connect with me more on Instagram here where I share new things daily
Another requested topic on the podcast this week beautiful, and here’s what we cover:
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The cost of pretending to be someone you’re not
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My own journey of self rejection, and where it all started
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The changes I made to become a confident woman
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Trusting your intuition
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An easy way to check how authentic you’re really being
Plus more!
Watch the replay to Solving Self Sabotage training here
Find all the details for Reveal & Rise here
Connect with me more on Instagram here where I share new things daily
If you have two feet and a heartbeat this conversation is for you lady love! As I’m yet to meet a woman who hasn’t experienced the frustration of the start, stop, start again, only to stop again cycle when they are trying to implement a new habit or goal
Whether it’s an exercise or nutrition plan, setting new boundaries, starting a business, creating new money habits, it could even be making sure you take a lunch break each day!
When we wear our heart on our sleeve and commit to something that’s important to us … only to feel like we’re failing to progress or move forwards
It’s straight up disheartening!
So in this episode, I cover:
- How to go from start-stop to start-and-stay-consistent
- Where our motivation to start comes from
- The reasons we give up or stop
- How the fight / flight / flee / fawn reaction in the nervous system contributes
- The 4 non negotiables for starting and staying consistent
Plus more!
Register for my Solving Self Sabotage training here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
I can honestly say my spending and money habits used to be one of my biggest triggers to feeling shame. It felt like I just couldn’t get it right - even that I must be stupid.
Fast forward to today, and I can just as honestly say it’s something I am most proud of.
So when one of you in my audience reached out and asked me to talk about it on the podcast - of course it was a big YES!
Here’s some of what I cover lady love:
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The exact reasons why I actually needed to overspend and be a shopaholic
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What my life looked like outside of my money habits
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How I began changing my relationship with spending and money
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Find the link between spending habits and your subconscious programming
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4 practical tips for changing how you spend and save money
Register for my Solving Self Sabotage training here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Q: When you keep getting sucked into a narrative/drama in your mind or with a person, how can you best just stop playing into it or is it something deeper?
This is the question I answer on this week’s episode of the podcast.
Together we cover:
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How to feel more calm and peaceful when your mind is spiraling or fixated on something uncomfortable
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Two questions to accurately pinpoint the trigger that is sucking you in
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What your nervous system needs so your mind can stop obsessing and you don’t have to live in your head
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Some strategies to reduce the chances of being sucked in again in the future
Plus more!
Register for my Solving Self Sabotage training here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Lady love, whether you describe it as self sabotage, resistance, procrastination, avoidance or feeling straight up stuck … it’s something every single human being deals with at some point in their life.
In this conversation, you can expect to learn:
- What is actually happening beneath the surface when sabotage behaviours are showing up
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Why old habit reappear during times of increased stress (emotional eating, going back on a boundary or overfilling you ‘to do’ list)
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How we mistake self sabotage as a villain and miss the essential data for growth
- Steps for moving forwards and making progress
- Where I’ve struggled most with self sabotage and how that looks today
Plus more!
Here’s the link to the second half of this episode where I answer your Self Sabotage questions: https://open.spotify.com/episode/3ZmMljrmf6bpsJYPGmzL5a?si=955782a5ee594e96
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
This episode comes with a FREE mini course include downloadable workbooks that step you through everything I cover in this episode - click here to join Ready to set goals that actually mean something to YOU!? Not the ones that society or your family expect of you .. but ones that are TRUE TO YOU ... That's where we go in this episode lady love, where I will ask you questions like: How do you describe the woman you want to become more of? What does your heart and soul want? This time next year, what do you want to have experienced and created? We'll also look at how you can tweak your language so it is sharp and specific instead of broad and non commital, as well as what might need to be let go of so that there truly is space for your biggest desires to be bought to life in 2024. Click here to access my free mini course: True To You - 2024 Goal & Vision Setting Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
A step by step guide to complete your ‘2023 year in review’ - something I see as MORE important than setting goals for a new year
Here’s why ..
When we dig into our behaviours and choices of the last 12 months we:
- Learn and leverage lessons, rather than repeating them
- Can clearly name what we want to keep and what we want to let go of
- Validate and celebrate how far we have come
This not only informs the most meaningful goals we could set for next year, it also shows us where we might need to acquire new skills or deeper self connection to achieve them.
This episode comes with a downloadable PDF workbook that includes all the questions covered.
Click here to access it via the full ‘True to You Goal & Vision Setting’ Mini Course for FREE
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
This week I bring you behind the scenes of what I have recently moved though in my own healing and growth
You’ll often hear me say … “Healing and growth is not a tick box or a course that is completed with a certificate you hang on the wall. It’s a lifestyle choice, it’s a way of being” In this episode (easily the most vulnerable one I’ve ever recorded) you’re invited into a greater understanding of what that means
You’ll hear me vulnerably share:
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The emotional and energetic piece that showed up and asked for my attention
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How I recognised this within my body
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The link to a past relationship of emotional abuse
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Where my ego tried to “keep me safe” and stop me from exploring the unknown
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How I tuned into my intuition and higher self
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What I found when I showed up fully and decided to understand the fear
Plus more!
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
The Festive Season.. it’s the time where a lot of women find themselves overcommitted, under-rested and exposed to more ‘button pushing’ moments than any other time of year
For a woman experiencing anxiety, this can take the fear of judgment, awkwardness of social settings and need to keep everyone else happy to a whole other level
So in this episode, I walk you through the below journaling prompts (including examples) that guide you toward more inner calm, and to understand what is triggering discomfort in your body and mind:
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This interaction, event or experience has left me feeling?
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When I feel a layer deeper beneath that, what I find is …
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What is this interaction, event or experience showing me?
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What do I want instead?
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Where can I recognise my power and capability in creating that for myself?
Listen along to this episode as I walk you through example answers to each of these high quality questions.
Enjoy my love!
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Lady love, if you find yourself asking…
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Should my healing be taking this long?
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Is it working?
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Am I getting anywhere?
You’re not alone! I’ve been there too - many times.
So I designed this episode to give you 5 helpful signs and measures to get clear on where you’re at ..
As I do, we’ll also cover:
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The energetic you’re bringing to your healing and growth
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How to supercharge your self awareness
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The most transformative conversations you can be having
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Changing the people and environments around you
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What to do if you really aren’t moving forwards
Plus more!
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The difference between doing self care when it’s convenient VS fiercely loving yourself.. that’s the topic we’re diving into this week my love.
I share my recent personal examples, as well as what has been showing up with clients of late..
Here’s the rundown of what you’ll receive:
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A life update on what my intuition is showing me
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Fiercely loving yourself VS convenient self love
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Recent examples from my personal life
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Common misconceptions about self love and care
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The Lioness and her cub
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The internal battle of obligation: “should”, “have to”, “need to”
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The problem with always wanting more
And (as always) a whole lot more!
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Do you react or respond, beauty? It’s a trick question 😜
As human beings on a forever healing and growth path, there will always be instances that trigger a reactive state - especially if you have inspired goals
A better question is this - do you spend more of your time in a reactive state or responsive one?
In this podcast episode I walk you through
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The differences between reacting VS responding to a trigger
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Signs to look for in yourself and others
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Why we get stuck in reactive patterns of fight, flight, flee, fawn
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3 ways to begin healing triggers
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How to create a healthy pause amidst conflict
Find all the details for my coaching program: Responding to Overwhelm, Fear & Anxiety here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
This episode is an essential listen for any woman experiencing ongoing overwhelm, fear or anxiety - understanding these two categories was life changing for me in healing chronic anxiety.
Here’s what you can expect lady love:
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The two types of overwhelm, fear and anxiety
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Examples of each
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How to know which one you’re experiencing
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The function of anxiety
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The 4 stages of stepping outside your comfort zone
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How to approach anxiety to find more fulfillment, inner peace and calm
Plus more lady love!
Find all the details for my coaching program: Responding to Overwhelm, Fear & Anxiety here
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
If you’re feeling disheartened, resentful, frustrated or at a total loss for how hard it is to make an important change in your life..
Then this conversation is for you lady love
In this episode I share the biggest mindset hurdle EVERY SINGLE CLIENT of mine has to overcome before they can get the change or goal their heart desires
I cover:
- Why fear, resistance and self doubt are an inherent part of making a big change in your life
- What you need to know when you feel like giving up on your goal
- The obvious and subtle ways this mindset hurdle shows up
- How letting your pain and fear show YOU how to heal, creates momentum and progress in your healing
- The problem with minimising your sensitivity & intuition
With a ripper metaphor along the way ;)
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As well as an accredited Clinical Nutritionist, Functional Medicine Practitioner, Coach & Trauma Therapist, Filipa Bellette is Co-Founder of the multi award-winning health practice Chris & Filly Functional Medicine - and author of Ending Body Burnout. She is also a PhD Scholar & regularly featured in the media, such as nine.com.au, Forbes and Body+Soul.
And in today’s episode we delve into:
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What is body burn out and how Filly uses this term
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Filly’s own story of burn out, energy, mood and gut issues
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How she turned it all around and became the mum, wife, practitioner and business owner she wanted to be
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The 4 keys to thriving health and the book she has written around these
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Why “traditional functional medicine” is failing busy, ambitious and driven women
Plus more!
Check out your bonus gifts and Filly’s upcoming book ‘Ending Body Burnout’ here
Connect with Filly here on Instagram
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A shower thought turned into a conversation for the poddy!
Here’s what we cover lady love:
- The advantage of using labels like Narcissist, Anxiety & Chronic Fatigue
- The problems that can follow
- What to do if you feel stuck in the pain of these labels
- My own personal shares with each of these along the way
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We're back for part 2 lady love! A vulnerable, fun and reflective chat where I share 8 of my top life lessons from my 36 years of life.
Here’s what we’ll cover together over two episodes lady love:
- Loneliness & isolation as we shift towards values aligned community
- My personal experiences of grief and letting go of relationships
- When life looks different to what we planned
- The pain of success when there is no partner to share it with
- Immediate gratification VS my long term life vision
- How to live an easy life
- Trusting my gut and intuition
- The parts of life we can’t make sense of yet
- Rest, play & pleasure to increase productivity and money
- Frustration and resentment of others
- Reparenting my inner child
Be sure to check out both episodes!
Other episodes referenced in this one:
Episode 14: How To Stop Blaming Your Parents For Your Problems
Episode 32: Why Your Parents Don't Need To Change Before You Can Heal
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A vulnerable, fun and reflective chat where I share 8 of my top life lessons from my 36 years of life.
Here’s what we’ll cover together over two episodes lady love:
- Loneliness & isolation as we shift towards values aligned community
- My personal experiences of grief and letting go of relationships
- When life looks different to what we planned
- The pain of success when there is no partner to share it with
- Immediate gratification VS my long term life vision
- How to live an easy life
- Trusting my gut and intuition
- The parts of life we can’t make sense of yet
- Rest, play & pleasure to increase productivity and money
- Frustration and resentment of others
- Reparenting my inner child
Be sure to check out both episodes!
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Seeing the “missing puzzle pieces” to your growth is an incredible relieving and empowering experience
It’s one that fuels the belief of “change is possible for me”
Especially if you’re a woman who is showing up, giving it your all, and still feeling stuck
In this episode I walk you through some basic exercises so that you can begin finding these “missing puzzle pieces” and blind spots yourself
Together we will cover:
- What is a blind spot and how do you start seeing yours?
- What role do your values play?
- Knowing the difference between your current values VS your aspiring values
- A practical exercise to guide and help you
- A high quality question you can ask to gain more awareness
- The importance of subtle misalignments and disembodiment to your goals
Plus more!
Click here for information about Reveal & Rise
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Fear and procrastination; two experiences that have many women feeling defeated, frustrated and extremely confused
How is it that you can desire something so deeply and passionately, and yet it feels so unobtainable?
How is it that an emotion can stand in the way - month after month - of you reaching your full potential and living as your true authentic self?
In this episode, I bring a practical conversation that not only answers these questions, but also delivers a solution
Together we cover:
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The importance of accurately naming the true fear and trigger
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The 3 most common fears that create an anxious or avoidant fight / flight / flee / fawn response
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10 direct questions for understanding your subconscious programming
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Why you need more than a strategic plan to achieve your goals
Plus more!
Click here for information about Reveal & Rise
Connect with Gemma here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Gut & Hormone Nutritionist - Sheradyn Dekker - joins us this week to talk about IBS, bloating, constipation, food sensitivities and how she helps women to get to the ROOT cause of these symptoms so they can finally heal!
Sheradyn is a Qualified Gut Health Nutritionist, with a Masters in Nutrition and Postgraduate studies in Functional Diagnostic Nutrition
She not only has the “head” knowledge but has also experienced gut symptoms first-hand,having spent years battling chronic gut pain (IBS), bloating, missing periods & food intolerances herself.
In this episode, we passionately explore:
- Sheradyn’s own journey in healing her gut, menstrual cycle and hormones
- How IBS is a bullshit diagnosis that keeps women stuck
- Remembering your power in a healing journey
- Seeing food as the “enemy” or something to be feared
- Using food to heal
- Causes of constipation and bloating
- First steps for healing constipation and bloating
You can find Sheradyn on Instagram here
You can listen to Sheradyn’s podcast here
Join the waitlist for Reveal & Rise here
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My intuitive dance and movement practice is one that has changed my life - it’s also one of the most common topics women DM me about on Instagram
This week, I dive into:
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What is intuitive dance and movement
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The two important reasons I do it
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The benefits
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How you can start doing it too
And as promised lady love, here’s some playlists you can use to get yourself started:
Playlist Option 1
Playlist Option 2
Playlist Option 3
Join the waitlist for Reveal & Rise here
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This is a conversation for the women who are no longer toe dipping, they’ve fully decided they are ready to emotionally heal
And it might just hold the (frustrating) missing puzzle piece you need to hear my love
Here’s what you can expect from this episode:
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“Turning point” moments from my own healing of anxiety, depression & chronic illness
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Codependency and how a boundary isn’t enough to break this pattern
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Fight, flight, flee, fawn responses in the nervous system
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Feeling unloved and misunderstood by our parents
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How every adult has an inner child that fears rejection (including your parents)
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The truth about the power within you to heal, grow and change
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What it takes to fully own and create the life you want to live
AND A WHOLE LOT MORE LADY LOVE!
Join the waitlist for Reveal & Rise here
Connect with me here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
This week we have the gift of Hillary McVeigh joining us with an engaging and expansive conversation on Human Design and what it looks like to live in tune with your intuition.
Here’s what we bounce through:
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What Human Design is and how it works
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The different ways to understand our intuition based on our unique Human Design
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Insights into what it means to be a Generator, Manifesting Generator and a Projector
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Using tools like Human Design from a place of fear and desperation
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Hillary’s personal story of misery, burnout and inauthenticity
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3 starting tips for any woman struggling with burn out or feeling stuck
PLUS wayyyyyyy more goodness!
Discover your own Human Design via Hillary’s website here
Find Hillary here on Instagram
Join the Reveal & Rise WAITLIST here for the final 2023 intake
Connect with me here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
In this episode I share my personal stories and learnings from starting my coaching business, and answer your questions along the way!
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My own inner healing work around business right now
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How do I get clear on my WHY?
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How did you make the jump to go from employed to self employed?
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How do I stay motivated so there’s less start and stop?
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How do I deal with fear of expressing myself fully (imposter syndrome)?
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Where on earth do I start and what do I need to start?
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How do I know what to offer?
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Why do symptoms like brain fog and tiredness show up?
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How much time is required?
This was a fun and fiery conversation - come across to Instagram and let me know in the DM’s how you found it
Book your free Clarity Call here to find out more about 1:1 Private Coaching
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In this episode I welcome Ghislain from Maydn to the podcast!
Ghislain is a multi-faceted facilitator, healer, trauma-informed coach and international speaker, she is also the founder + CEO of Maydn.
Having spent 1000’s of hours studying both Eastern + Western modalities, Ghislain weaves her diverse range of skills, and knowledge into deeply healing, transformative experiences.
As a survivor now thriver of domestic violence and being hit by a car, Ghislain suffered a range of stress and trauma-related health issues, after healing and transforming her own life, she is on a mission to help others do the same.
In our conversation we cover:
- What are ‘energetics’ of healing?
- What does stagnation or movement in the body show us?
- Ghislain’s personal story of trauma, domestic violence and being hit by a car
- The purpose and empowerment we can tap into from life’s pain
- Spinal energetics - what is happening when a body moves involuntarily?
- How our life experiences are energetically stored in the body
- What is our wild woman and why is it important to connect with her?
Plus many LOL’s along the way my love!
Connect with Ghislain here on Instagram
Connect with Ghislain here to find out more about her Wild Woman Immersion in Bali
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Do you tell the truth?
Are you honest in your relationships?
Do you communicate these messages with love and kindness, or does it come out blunt and abrupt?
These questions and topics are the centrepoint of this week’s episode.
Together we cover:
- How you can share your truth and honest experiences in your relationships
- Ways to avoid unnecessary conflict and hurt
- Example dialogue of how to start honest conversations
- Why speaking your truth is the highest form of love and kindness
- The reasons we struggle with being completely honest
- A first step to become a more honest woman
- Questions for you to journal and self enquire with
- Two examples of where this showed up in my own life last week
And even more along the way!
Enjoy lady love ❤️🔥✌🏽
Book your free Clarity Call here to find out more about 1:1 Private Coaching
Connect with me here daily on instagram, and for more resources head to gemmahanley.com
Come with me BTS of what’s been happening for me in business and personal life this year, how I recently felt stuck, stagnant and as if my motivation had “gone missing”, AND I’ll also be sharing with you how I respond to these inevitable moments in life…
- An unexpected 6 months in business
- My transition to new life on the Sunshine Coast
- What I learnt from visiting family and my home town
- The problem with my goals
- Why motivation or zest for life can feel “lost”
- A blind spot I discovered recently
- The importance of creating interruptions to the everyday patterns of life
- What I’ve changed to be feeling f*cking ALIVE again
Plus more along the way!
Enjoy lady love ❤️🔥✌🏽
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Topics I could talk about endlessly! The more I've developed my communication and boundary setting skills, the higher the quality of relationships I have found myself experiencing - it's a very beautiful thing :)
In this episode my love...
- Understanding the fear behind saying NO
- Where the “good girl” pattern shows up and impacts our ability to set boundaries
- Messages from the body
- The impact of being raised by emotionally unavailable parents
- Communication tips for speaking up in your relationships
- Examples of boundaries that create conflict VS connection
- The difference between suppression anxiety and growth anxiety
- Artfully balancing advice from others and hearing our own truth
Plus more!
Here’s the link to apply for Reveal & Rise: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScoAaN_ZVrzL5tqMKDqXhmGKlFScxrJ5fvh7vHQrrVA-V3-iQ/viewform
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We’re half way through 2023 - and it’s as brilliant marker as ever to check in on the goals, theme words and vision you set back in January
In this episode my love, I guide you through an empowering exercise that helps you to get more of what you want in the second half of this year - regardless of where you’re starting from!
Together we explore:
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The importance of checking in on how you’re tracking - regardless of which end of the scale you feel your progress is at
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The deeper meaning behind your goals and vision
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How to review, tweak and change your goals if they no longer feel relevant
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How to practice self celebration to build self worth and confidence
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How changing your mind or taking a new direction can be the most intelligent and successful choice
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Feeling as if your goals “aren’t working” or “are taking too long”
Here’s the link to the original goal and vision setting episode on the podcast if you’re wanting to do a reset: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0hmuZgKQuEvIGUuo2Jpfic?si=-ZvVe1pcRHiZxR4h3dtjqA
Here’s the link to apply for Reveal & Rise: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScoAaN_ZVrzL5tqMKDqXhmGKlFScxrJ5fvh7vHQrrVA-V3-iQ/viewform
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Beautiful woman - this special episode is a BTS of a bonus Q&A I did for the women inside a
recent LIVE round of my short course ‘Responding to Overwhelm, Fear & Anxiety’
In this session, I answer:
● Why do I punish myself to work harder, and how do I change it?
● Can you provide some tips on emotional eating?
● Can you talk about replacing worry with self trust?
● I hate my job, do I have to give it up to be happy?
● What are your suggestions for when I feel challenged or stuck?
● When I think about dating myself, I have an inner voice that says “why would I want to
spend time with you!?” - what can I ask myself to go deeper here?
● What brings people into a flow state?
Enjoy my love!
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Here is part 2 of the perfectionism conversation my love!
In this episode I’m answering the questions that came through via Instagram..
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How can I get rid of perfectionism?
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How to not stress about making the perfect decision?
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How do I know if it’s perfectionism or a justified standard?
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How do I change ingrained habits of perfectionism?
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What can I do when I’m feeling overwhelmed by perfectionism?
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What steps can I take to be okay with uncertainty when I’m wanting to feel in control?
With lots of little extra bits along the way, beauty!
Connect with me on instagram (gemmaehanley) or on www.gemmahanley.com
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There was a time where perfectionism ruled my life..
My work, my relationships, my health, money, and my inability to slow down, rest and gift myself pleasure
There were so many rules about what I had to do and how I needed to behave - if I wasn’t meeting these perfectionist rules, I felt unworthy, insignificant and extremely insecure
It was a low reward high exhaustion way to meet my needs of safety, security and certainty from a fear based state
And that’s the conversation I bring to this podcast episode:
- My own stories of struggle with perfectionism
- What’s really behind standards of perfectionism?
- Where does perfectionism come from?
- The psychology beneath this common pattern
- Why we keep choosing it, even when we wish we could “go with the flow”
- The hidden conflict it creates in relationships
Plus more! Enjoy my love x
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Fear, self sabotage, procrastination and holding yourself back from doing the things that will get you more of what you want…
That’s the conversation I’m here to have this week, with a practical exercise to help move you forwards!
Emotional eating, overspending and shopping addictions, scrolling on screens, overcommitted schedules of busy-ness … these are just some examples of these patterns..
The first thing you need to know: these “self sabotage” or resistance patterns are the surface level “problem”, covering up something deeper
In this conversation, I teach you some basic steps to find out what that “something deeper” might be.
🔥Here’s the questions I walk you through:
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What was the memory, feeling or thought right before this pattern?
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What am I running from?
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What do I get to avoid?
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What would I have time and energy for if I wasn’t using this pattern?
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What feels hard or uncomfortable about each of those things?
Connect with me on instagram (gemmaehanley) or on www.gemmahanley.com
Women’s Wellness Coach, Sig Fisher joins me for this conversation about body image and confidence We cover:
- Sigi’s own story with body image and yo-yo dieting
- What is body image and where does it shows up
- How you can respond to the harder body image days
- How to tune in and find comfort within your body
- The link between body image and food
- The flow on effect of yo-yo dieting to your moods
- The balance of loving your body as it is AND desiring to change it
- The importance of patience & flexibility when it comes to training & exercise
Sig is passionate about educating women to shape sustainable living - mind and body - that is based on science and not trends.
Her coaching is your one stop health solution to ending yo-yo dieting, build body confidence and empower you to achieve what's possible in life.
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Self trust is THE foundational topic to amplify your happiness, confidence and feeling calm from within beauty - and an absolute favorite of mine to jam on!
Here’s where we go my love:
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What it looks like to be a woman who is trusting herself
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Examples of breaking trust with yourself
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Learning to identify your authentic truth (what’s right for you) so you can trust it
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The difference between intuition and a trauma pattern
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Top reasons we break trust with ourself
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How to start building trust with yourself
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Dating yourself 101
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Common points of confusion when it comes to trusting yourself
PLUS MORE!
Connect with me on instagram (gemmaehanley) or on www.gemmahanley.com
This is one of the most vulnerable episodes I’ve created my love! This week it’s a combination of self reflections from overwhelm I experienced recently, as well as coaching you through how I personally approach (and lead my clients) to move through these moments.
In this conversation we dive into…
- My biggest healing & growth theme over the last 12 months
- Vulnerable BTS of what that’s included
- My experience with overwhelm last week
- How I moved through it
- What I learnt
- The two questions that will help you do the same
Soak it up my love - and let me know if you like this style of episode and would like more!
Connect with me on instagram (gemmaehanley) or on www.gemmahanley.com
This topic is right at the top of “most asked” in my 5 years as an anxiety and mindset coach, so this week we dive into understanding how a busy mind comes about and what to do about it
Together we explore:
- Ways your day to day life might be stimulating a busy mind
- Fixer, helper and people pleasing patterns
- Questioning what your true and authentic approach to life might look like
- Loosing yourself in relationships
- The difference between anxious and avoidant attachment style responses in painful and challenging moments
- What’s actually sitting underneath a busy mind
- Rewiring the immediate response to negative thoughts
- The difference between a curious and conclusive mindset
- How to identify when and where you are being conclusive
Plus more!
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This week’s guest is Meg O'Sullivan: Relationship, sxx and business coach.
I first met Meg 2 years ago, and ever since she has had a deep influence on my own healing & growth practices.
In this conversation we weave through:
- Meg’s background & personal story
- The problem with trying to put yourself in a box
- The difference between msturbtion & self pleasure
- Intimacy as more than a tool to simply “get off”
- Partnered sxx VS self pleasure
- Using sxx to heal past trauma & pain
- Societal categories of women
- Welcoming your full feminine expression
- Where you can begin
Plus more!
Meg is a coach to full spectrum women. She holds space for women ready to experience LIBERATION in relationships, business & their entire LIFE!
She is here for the Queens aching to uncage their full expression. The one’s ready to let go of the belief that they’re ‘too much’. And truly serve & Live with their hearts cracked open.
You can connect with Meg on Instagram hereYou can listen to Meg & Jacob’s podcast here
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A conversation JAM PACKED with practical tips and thought provoking content lady love, here’s the journey of what it covers..
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What are your daily and weekly conversations confirming?
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The impact of content and environments on your beliefs
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The role of triggers in becoming a confident decision maker
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The difference between trauma or your truth driving a decision
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Why it’s important to embrace mis-takes and f*ck ups
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How you can leverage the learnings from past decisions
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How to speed up decision making in the 6 key areas of your life
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Two common mistakes I see women make
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Examples of challenging decisions in my own growth
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How confusion might be a convenient place to stay stuck
Plus more! Connect with me here on Instagram or at gemmahanley.com
This is not a conversation for everyone my love.
In fact, unless you are truly ready to have this conversation, it is probably going to p*ss you right off!
In this chat, I bring:
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Measures for knowing where you’re at in the relationship with your parents/primary caregivers
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What might be motivating blame and finger pointing
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Full acknowledgement and validation of your childhood experience
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The weight & stories behind labels of mum and dad
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Reparenting yourself - what is it and how to do it
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Your distressed inner child
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Some anonymous stories of how this is playing out for clients right now
Plus more!
Creating new friendships as an adult is something I see so many women crave and yet not know where to begin
It was a desire I began exploring 10 years back now when I chose to make significant lifestyle changes to support my health and happiness
And present day - creating new friendships has become so natural that I am barely ever “trying”, it just happens!
In this episode, I flow with you on:
- Where to begin
- Clarifying the characteristics and qualities you desire in your friendships
- The mantra I live by to creating the relationships I want
- My personal story of letting go of friendships
- How I made space for new friendships to enter my world
- The origin stories to some of my most treasured friendships
- Benefits and expectations in long distance/online friendships
Plus more!
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Hold your fire my love! 😂 This is NOT an episode about bypassing, toxic positivity or “lightening” yourself into health and happiness
Quite the opposite.
In this episode I walk you through the philosophy I have built my business and life upon (and continue to do so)
That all emotions have their place.
That painful emotions play an integral role in us getting more of what we want in life and deeply understanding our most authentic and true self
In this episode, we explore:
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What I learnt from 23 years of extreme Anxiety & Depression
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My past relationship with emotions
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The difference between “painful” emotions and “negative” ones
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The role of painful emotions in you expressing authentically
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The top 5 blocks I see women struggle with
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Why we have such a poor relationship with feeling emotions
Connect with me here on Instagram or at gemmahanley.com
This episode is perfect for the woman who is having trouble falling asleep or staying asleep - or is experiencing unpleasant dreams/nightmares whilst asleep
Here's what you can expect from this episode beauty:
- The role our subconscious plays in a good nights sleep
- Why our quality of sleep will often be different whilst healing - and why this is okay!
- Lifestyle considerations for sleeping well
- How our daytime mindset choices directly effect our nighttime sleep
- 2 questions for overcoming insomnia and poor sleep
Plus more my love!
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In this episode we are joined by the brilliant Dr Olivia Lesslar...
Liv is an Australian medical doctor who has expertise in psycho-neuro-immun-ology, complex chronic conditions, mystery illnesses, and emerging diseases. Olivia practices across a broad spectrum of medicine, with an interest in prevention, personalised medicine and bio-hacking for longevity.
Liv believes we are coming into the age of personalised medicine. She does her best to stay away from the politics of dogma, and instead asks .. What works for you? How do YOU feel? and encourages a reconnection with your food, mind and emotions.
Here's what we covered in this episode:
- What can a supportive and empowering experience of anxiety diagnosis look like?
- Dr Liv's personal experience with anxiety and depression
- How much of a role do genetics play?
- What needs to be added in VS taken out for healing to occur?
- Can fixation on a healing protocol work against healing?
- The burdensome feeling of a healing journey
- How do I explain to loved ones that conventional medicine isn't my truth?
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We're back for round 2 on this powerful topic my love! In this episode I answer YOUR questions - as submitted by my beautiful audience, and provide some practical steps forwards... ❤️🔥 I know what I want to do, but I don't do it - help!!
❤️🔥 Procrastination, what to do about it?
❤️🔥 How to move the energy of "I can't do it, I'm not good enough"
❤️🔥 How do I know if it's self sabotage or if it's okay?
❤️🔥 Self sabotage in love & friendships - I hold back or I leave
❤️🔥 Doing things because they are the latest trend, but they're not right for me
❤️🔥 How do I stop overthinking? And talking myself out of doing things PLUS more lady love!
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This is a deep dive in one of the most powerful healing & growth topics I've come across in my 5 years as a women's Anxiety & Mindset Coach
Here's what you can expect my love..
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The function and purpose of self sabotage
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The psychology behind resistance and procrastination - The 2 key focuses to move beyond resistance - Why I believe "brain" retraining bypasses true holistic healing
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My personal struggles with self sabotage & resistance Plus so much more! (with part 2 to follow, where I answer listeners specific questions on this topic) Applications are open for the next intake of my intimate group coaching experience; Reveal & Rise. Find out more and apply here. Connect with me here on Instagram or at gemmahanley.com
Could showing up imperfectly actually be the real “perfect”?
This conversation is for the woman struggling with perfectionism, who has sourced her value and worth from the role of perfectionist
It's a podcast epsisode that is an example of imperfection in action!
Let’s talk about coming back in touch with reality and the true human capacity..
How this allows us to let go of the story that we’re failing, not good enough, don’t have enough time, or can’t catch a break..
Some questions posed at the end of this conversation:
Where are you living to a standard, that is actually creating so much stress and unhappiness, that the standard is not even worth it?
Where are you living in a way that is so stimulating that you are jammed in the sympathetic nervous system?
Where are you making choices out of fear?
Where can you allow yourself to be imperfect?
You can connect with me here on Instagram or at gemmahanley.com
This episode continues on from the prior my love! Here's where we go... Getting your hands on my free ebook: Setting Your 2023 Goals & Vision How reviewing your 2022 is the most important step to actualising your goals in 2023 The role of language Clarifying how you want to: be, feel, create in 2023 Exploring what will need to be let go of, to make room for more of what you want My take on: morning routine, motivation, and manifestation
Remember to reach out to me on Instagram @gemmaehanley and send me a DM if you'd like a copy of my free ebook that steps you through this entire process beauty!
You can connect with me here on Instagram or at gemmahanley.com
In this podcast episode I break down the TWO integral pieces that are required for us to achieve a goal / happiness / success ..
The first is STRATEGY - the piece that I find is heavily overrated
The second is the PSYCHOLOGY or energetic a woman is creating her life from - the piece that I find is heavily underrated and not looked at any where near enough
In this episode, I guide you through -Why we set goals that are important to us, but can't seem to achieve them -The role of your neurology and nervous system in achieving your goals / life vision -What can be controlled, and what can't -The attitudes that will keep you stuck -Examples from my 2022 where my goals did NOT go to plan HIGH QUALITY QUESTION PROMPTS: 1. Where are you sensing or feeling that growth is required for you - even if you don’t like it? 2. If you're really honest with yourself - what destructive pattern keeps showing up? 3. If you step back and observe the patterns/pain in your life, what is it trying to show you? Trevor Hall song: https://open.spotify.com/track/0yjJg8qTkgYuD2bvt4kKZl?si=3ee91daf53f14c51 You can connect with me here on Instagram or at gemmahanley.com
This episode was inspired by a post I saw on instagram … “Only a few more mental breakdowns before Christmas. We’ve got this guys”
Bringing humour and lightheartedness to life’s struggles is cool. AND actually working through those life struggles so you can heal and grow - WAY COOLER!
And so that’s what I am offering up in this weeks episode my love.
My intention behind this episode is to gift you practical tools and self understanding to make the “silly season” that little bit easier.
Here’s what you can expect:
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Reasons the “festive” and “holiday” season can feel so overwhelming
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How the most social time of year can feel lonelier than ever
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My past experiences with finding the Christmas/New Year break hard
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Where your inner child might be showing up
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Owning our internal triggers and acknowledging the external stimulus
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The 3 most common triggers that are showing up beneath the surface
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4 clear steps to understanding and overcoming a triggering experience
You can connect with me here on Instagram or at gemmahanley.com
Beauty - if you are (or have been) on a healing journey AND you use social media - this episode is for you!
It's a topic that organically pops up in mine and Adriana's personal chit chat and when I decided to hit go on the podcast we both felt it was a really important one to bring to this space,
We see both our audiences and women in general getting caught up in this...
Becoming fixated on an "on trend" message or solution and forgetting to check in with themselves
Meaning you begin following a message to a tee - because it makes sense to you - but you forget to reference what your individual needs are, what parts of the message you want to take, leave behind or tweak - you forget no one is the same as you!
In this conversation, we delve into:
- The menstrual cycle and it’s role in how we show up in business and life
- ‘Work/Life Balance’, does it exist?
- How to work hard, love your business AND thrive energetically
- Distinguishing between avoidance/bypassing in your business VS nurturing self care
- Honest reflections on what it takes to grow a successful business
- Taking responsibility for where we are getting our information
- The problem with focusing only focusing on the feminine, or only focusing on the masculine
You can connect with Adriana here on Instagram
You can connect with Gemma here on Instagram or at gemmahanley.com
My love… how easy do you find it to fully receive help, support and love?
How often are you telling the story that you should be able to do it all yourself?
Or that you’re being an “inconvenience" or “too much” if you ask for what you need?
This conversation topic of receiving is more important than what most realise.
Your beliefs, energetics and rules around receiving is not only impacting your ability to experience love, it’s directly impacting the amount of love circulating in the world.
In this episode I walk you through:
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The 3 different ways we can block ourselves from receiving
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A coaching question & answer that came up inside Reveal & Rise recently
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What it feels like when someone allows us to “give”
- How hyper independence is a protective behaviour to avoid vulnerability
- Receiving love, money, s.x and intimacy
- Some personal stories of my recent experiences in receiving Plus sahhhh much more!
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@gemmaehanley
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A massive WELCOME beauty! We're kicking off with a conversation that goes back in time and invites you inside my own healing & growth journey.
With gorgeous guest host Adriana Andelkovic, I share:
- My painful lessons into self awareness
- The darkest and hardest moment
- The truth about happiness & confidence
- The difference between women who heal & grow, and those who do not
- The things that helped me most, both physically and emotionally
- Why I do this mindset & inner work with women
Annoyingly the audio for this episode is not to my normal standard, but the message is potent - so I've decided to share it regardless.
Drop in on Instagram to let me know your biggest takeaway my love: @gemmaehanley https://www.instagram.com/gemmaehanley/
And if you'd like to apply for the last round of my intimate group coaching experience Reveal & Rise (beginning on November 17th), click here to apply
Clarity Call for Reveal & Rise Coaching Program You can find out more about our beautiful guest host Adriana on Instagram: @adrianaloves_ https://www.instagram.com/adrianaloves_/
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