Can You Relate with Effie Grant: Recent Episodes
Effie Grant
Can You Relate with Effie Grant is exactly what it says on the can. I'll be talking about family, relationships, faith, politics, women's issues, diversity and inclusion (race), mental health, you name it. Whatever life can hit us with, I'm willing to talk about it. So tune and let me know if you can relate. I'll be super pleased to hear your story too.
In this week’s final episode, I reflect on the year personally and on the podcast. ✅ Personal goals and achievements ✅ Parenting: finding grace to forgive and move on✅ Girlfriends: letting go and wishing them well✅ Fertility: one child only? Infertility. IVF. Now it’s time to take a decent break so have a great time learning and growing. See you in September! Enjoy. Remember to Love, Comment, and Share.Let me know if you can relate by leaving a comment or emailing me at effiescoatofmanycolours@gmail.com.Available on Apple Podcast, Anchor, Google and more.
In this week’s episode I attempt to condense the 4-part conversation on parenting with Papa. It was brilliant to sit with him and learn so much, not just about our family but gaining a better perspective of why he was the kind of father he was. I certainly wanted more growing up but I have a deeper understanding he simply didn’t know how. Let’s give our parents a little break, talk to them and hopefully some of the scars may heal. I also briefly touch on the kind of summer I think I’m going to have with my teenager.I cannot implore you enough to check out Better Parenting Practitioner Britta who I think you’ll all love. Enjoy. Remember to Love, Comment, and Share.Let me know if you can relate by leaving a comment or emailing me at effiescoatofmanycolours@gmail.com.Available on Apple Podcast, Anchor, Google and more.
In this final part episode, I posed the question of the impact on our mental health from all of that harsh and corporal discipline. To be honest, Papa threw me on this one and I still haven’t gotten my head around it. That is because he had a very different take on it and you’ll see from my reaction, I honestly wasn’t expecting that!! I’m uncertain I can wholeheartedly say I can relate to it but I can understand, accept and learn fromhis lived experience and point of view.✔️ looking at the positives of discipline and its impactShould one hold on to what we may refer to as scars? It’s difficult to contend with when you’re left with scars from some of the discipline but should we hold on to them for life? If we do, should they spur us on, require us o do differently as largely suggested by Papa or hold us back?Are we overthinking mental health and perhaps aiding a generation of cocky, inhumane and indisciplined children? These are just some of the questions I’m left with and had me thinking deeply about lived experiences and parenting. In the next season, we will broach it with an up-and-coming Better Parenting Practitioner whom I think you’ll all love. Enjoy. Remember to Love, Comment, and Share.Let me know if you can relate by leaving a comment or emailing me at effiescoatofmanycolours@gmail.com.Available on Apple Podcast, Anchor, Google and more.
In this episode Papa and I go into some dreaded stuff:
✔️ the impact of screaming and shouting. Corporal punishment was hurtful and not as helpful as they thought.
✔️ how the short list of professions came about and was furiously protected - back in the day it was doctor, lawyer, engineer and anything else short of these and in this category of professions was a shame to the family. Status and maintaining a family tradition was a strong driver. How has that changed?
Why we should keep today's focus on individual strengths and nurture children to be at their best.
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In this episode Papa and I touched on:
✔️ the impact of single parenting homes
✔️ how one’s upbringing has influence on their parenting style and life’s choices
✔️ regrets and what things could be changed
✔️ the impact of change and technological advancement in today’s parenting
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We continue on the art of parenting and have a lengthy conversation with my Papa on his own journey. He reveals in this episode:
✔️ The first experience
✔️ Roles and sharing duties
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In this episode, I reflect on the last two episodes in conversation with Eyram. The messages and conversations received in the last two weeks around this topic of infertility and IVF have deeply troubled my soul. Women out there are struggling. Don’t do it alone.
I needed that time to reflect, make the ‘altar call’ for other women to share and hope we all find the courage to end the stigma around IVF, keep the faith and hope for that joy in the end.
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In this episode, I am joined for the final part of my time with Eyram who shares her lived experience of going through the IVF process. From 22 fertilised eggs to 17, to 4 then 2 viable, her daughter indeed is glory to God. We touch on pain, bedside manners of health professionals and again on the stress and mental agility required to go to the next step of In Vitro Fertilisation (IVF).
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In this episode, I am joined by Eyram who shares her lived experience of infertility. In her case, she found after trying for a year without success, she had Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS). We touch on faith, stigma, moral and financial support from family, and the stress and mental agility required to go to the next step of In Vitro Fertilisation (IVF).
We conclude that couples do need to have a conversation about the inability to have children prior to marriage and how they intend to manage that instance. It should be a natural part of today's marriage counselling.
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The wedding fanfare is over. I find the next common question is “when are the children coming?”.
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Is this a valid question?
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Does society need to alter its notion?
Can we offer a more responsive approach to the question?
Marriage is work and diving straight into having children isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. Having the added pressure of this question can pose problems for couples. Let’s explore an idea on how we can support couples better in this goal.
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Marriage is Work and in this episode, I talk about the bliss of relationships and marriage and how much work is involved for longevity. It is a journey that begins with love and transitions into parenting.
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In this episode, I reflect briefly on some of the wins, challenges, and clarity gained in 2022, and establish continuity for 2023.
Life is hard but we can choose to live it simply. A day at a time.
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In this episode I talk about going to battle with my father on my desire to change my name. I had to carefully consider what’s in a name and I the battle was worth picking then or waiting it out?
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In this episode I talk about our victory in Jesus while relating to the possibility of finding new siblings when a parent dies. Do we need to fight it? Do we focus on the victories that there are like what we have in the Easter story?
I share a song cover by one of my dearest sisters Jacqueline Mpare and what a poignant way to celebrate and end the episode. Be sure to follow and subscribe to her channel. Watch the cover in full here:
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In this episode I talk about two relationship dilemmas and what I felt the priority should be by offering some other perspective. We need to pick our battles.
Two stories of Roberta and Alexa. Let me know if you can relate and what would you tell these two ladies were you in these conversations. Enjoy.
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In this episode I just try to catch up on a few things I got up to in the last couple of months. Let me know what you got up to as well. Enjoy.
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In this final episode of the New Years' Resolution of getting more intentional on relationships, I talk about girlfriends. While reflecting on 2021 I realised how deep the little times we shared being intentional were and I want more. I want to deepen my bond with the Spartans in the coming year. Keeping things simple is important and I can't stress how less is more. No need to overthink nor overdo but getting it just right. Enjoy.
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Still on the New Years' Resolution of getting more intentional on relationships. In this episode I look at how to get more intentional with my husband and partner in crazy. I believe in nurturing greatness in relationships and marriage. Listening is an art we need to be patient and humble as women to learn to embrace. Gary Chapman's five love languages have been a part of our relationship for years and it is one of those things I feel one shouldn't underestimate if you want to have a great marriage.
I have watched my husband engage with his mother in a very special way that left him with little regrets when she passed and my father with my grandmother in a way that gave him peace and granted him an ally where he found conflict with mom. Both men were intentional with these women and in turn received great love and respect.
Our men may not wear their emotions on their sleeves like we do, but if we watch, we have so much to emulate and more to give.
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In this episode I look at how to get more intentional with my teenager. After a difficult couple of years navigating the pandemic, I feel I'm not the only one who may feel out of touch with our children. How do we get back to building a stronger and deeper connection? A few things I want to explore in spending quality time and doing better, not overwhelming but just right.
if you find that you're struggling and could do with some help, please ask Britta. She a brilliant expert who has created a safe space for just that. Join her group here to get useful tips on being a better parent.
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It's Season 2!! Welcome back to the show! It's New Year's Eve and as usual we have and are taking stock of the year. Often we tend to very much reflect on all the stones that have been thrown at us and feel thankful for the ability to still be standing. What will you do with these stones in the coming year? I talk about about being intentional with them in the bid for greater thankfulness at the end of 2022. Enjoy!
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Be well!!
In this final episode of the series, "Women in Politics", what is the reasoning behind engaging and encouraging more women into politics?
I take a quick view on:
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Challenging the status quo
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What is the bigger picture
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Following on in the new series, this third episode on "Women in Politics", I take a quick view on the history of women in politics.
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When did they gain the rights to vote?
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Allies in achieving these rights and considering taking the role.
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A world overview of current state of women in politics.
"As of 1 January 2021, the global share of women in national parliaments is 25.5 per cent, a slight increase from 24.9 per cent the year before.
Political will plays a role in advancing gender equality, particularly when it comes to appointing ministers. As a result, some countries saw dramatic increases in their share of women ministers in 2021.
Europe experienced the two biggest jumps in women’s political representation at the executive level in 2021. The share of women in government went from 8 per cent to 43 per cent in Lithuania, and more than doubled in Belgium, from 25 per cent to 57 per cent.
Namibia made the biggest leap forward in Sub-Saharan Africa, increasing its overall share of women ministers from 15 per cent to 39 per cent. Rwanda still leads the region, maintaining the largest share of women ministers at 54.8 per cent as well as topping the global charts again in the share of women parliamentarians.
In the Americas, the newly appointed government in the United States is shaping up to be the most gender-balanced in the country’s history: women in charge of ministerial portfolios rose from 17 per cent in 2020 to 46 per cent in 2021. The clear leader, however, both globally and in the region, is Nicaragua, with 58.82 per cent of ministries led by women."
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Following on in the new series, "Women in Politics", this week, I take a brief look at some iconic women in politics we can draw lessons from. Some of these women mentioned are Hillary Clinton and Theresa May.
However, my main focus to draw on lessons were on:
Winne Mandela
Angela Merkel
Margaret Thatcher
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This June I will taking up a new series: "Women in Politics". What are some of their challenges of today including the patriarchy, sexism, ageism, confidence building and how we can encourage more women into politics.
In this first episode I reflect on my own journey so far on how being the child of a politician influenced my initial decision not to get involved.
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In this final part to the series, I introduce you to one of my Inner Circles, the Spartans. We have a short conversation on a handful of how we influence each other. You'll find traces of the elements of trust, respect and honesty we have talked about. Also the need for mentors, teachers, cheering you on and holding to account. All of the these, we've established are key to maintaining a strong inner circle.
My guests; Selasi Adotevi and Maxine Ansah inspire me so much. They're candid go-getters who don't compromise of some fun too. Life is too short. Selasi shares a success story and we share times from holidaying and investing.
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This June I will taking up a anew series: "Women in Politics". What are some of their challenges of today including the patriarchy, sexism, confidence building and how we can encourage more women into politics.
Life is hard enough and during those hard times, nothing feels better than having someone or a group you can share your fears and doubts with. In this third episode of the 4-part series I explore how we spot the signs that we may have outgrown the circle, its become toxic and when to run. Sometimes its a case of drifting apart for no seeming reason but digging deeper can be enlightening. Should you feel guilty when you have to move on? That's the final big question. Remember to subscribe, comment, share and review. Email at: effiescoatofmanycolours@gmail.com
Life is hard enough and during those hard times, nothing feels better than having someone or a group you can share your fears and doubts with.
In this second episode of the 4-part series I explore how we build a great inner circle. I talk about some key elements like trust, respect and honestly. the fact is that we need to be true to ourselves and own it. I also talk about the need to ensure you have mentors, peers and students within the circle to augment your overall growth and well-being.
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Life is hard enough and during those hard times, nothing feels better than having someone or a group you can share your fears and doubts with.
In the first episode of this 4-part series I begin to explore why we need an inner circle, what is a shared purpose and how they serve us and finally look at some common types of circles.
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This episode is all about that sisterhood, brotherhood or networks we form to help us as we navigate our way through this life.
The question I pose is if these networks are serving us well and if not, is it time to say goodbye to some?
It's to help you reassess you own network and as aways tell me if you can relate.
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NEW MONTH - NEW SERIES
This May I will be exploring deeper into these networks. Join me for some more stories to encourage you.
How many times growing up did you think your parents or elders were talking rubbish? I often did and so this week I reflect on some of these things and coming to realise sometimes the hard way what they meant.
I also appreciate my mother for the patience and resilience she showed as a step-mother.
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Last week Friday, 9th April 2021 HRH Prince Philip Duke of Edinburgh as we all know died. I have been fascinated by him for years and admired him greatly. The man 2 paces behind Her Majesty The Queen or beside her but 2000 ahead and shone like a diamond.
Tomorrow we bid a final farewell and I also remember 3 years on the passing of my sister Jacqui from colorectal cancer.
This episode is a tribute to the incredible people they were.
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If you've had a miscarriage you know how difficult it can be to talk about the pain and the journey. Well, I share mine.
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Grief to Grit by Claris Angafor
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Tommys - Learning more about miscarriage
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This episode is short and sweet and I’m talking about using our platforms to show love and kindness. I talk about faith, loss and how people have reached out online. Let me know if you can relate. Happy Easter.
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This follows on from the story that a young boy was sent packing away from secondary school because of his hair. He has dreadlocks, a Rasta, which is not acceptable in public schools because of the rules. The hypocrisy stinks and I try to draw down on different angles of the argument that I can relate to. The GES issued a directive to admit the boy and later withdrew. Let me add that according to new reports Tyrone and his triplet sisters have had other institutions offer them admission with some going further by offering full scholarships including meals.
It takes one to spark new conversations and to make change. Could this be it?
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Ruby Williams Hair Story
World Afro Day
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In this episode my guest is Caleb and he shares with me a journey of love, life, ill health and death. We learn about values and the an opening into the cracks of our healthcare system. A much loved grandmother in very way.
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In this episode I talk about a moment of utter madness when I killed a spider and realised the impact of years of bad teachings from the pulpit.
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It just felt right to begin by paying homage to a great woman, my grandmother. She was a funny woman who always saw the humour, loved us deeply and ensured we never missed out on good discipline. I'm sure you have many stories of life with your grandmother. Share them with me.
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Be well.
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