YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship with Jodi Carlton: Recent Episodes
Jodi Carlton, M.Ed.
Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert in adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. Her personal, but direct, style of educating and coaching is a favorite of both neurodiverse and neurotypical partners around the globe.
Her unique blend of personal experience in her own autism relationships, as well as her professional expertise, positions her to understand both autistic and non-autistic individuals. She bridges the communication gap for couples with a blame-free mind-set, and a goal of clarity.
If you're in a neurodiverse relationship — whether you're ADHD, autistic, or both — intimacy can be one of the most complicated things to navigate. In this episode, Mona Kay & I get real about routines, spontaneity, physical intimacy, and the hidden pattern that quietly undermines intimacy for neurodiverse couples: fawning.
From date night strategies that actually work, to what happens when one partner has learned to tolerate instead of communicate — this conversation goes places most podcasts won't.
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Teaser 0:42 Intro
1:28 Routines, Structure & the ADHD/Autistic Couples
3:27 Date Night Strategies That Work for Both Partners
7:17 Communicating About Sex — When, How & Why Not During
8:42 Physical Intimacy & Predictable Patterns
10:43 Codependency, Fawning & People-Pleasing in the Bedroom 11:28 Sex & Vulnerability
18:16 The Resentment Cycle & When Sex Comes to a Halt
18:19 To Be Continued...
18:26 Outro
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👩💼 About Jodi Carlton, MEd
I’m Jodi Carlton, MEd, a neurodiversity educator, relationship expert, author, and coach with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, families, and professionals better understand autism, ADHD, and the realities of neurodiverse relationships.
As a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I combine professional expertise with lived experience. My own family includes multiple neurotypes, and after spending nearly two decades in a neurodiverse marriage, I understand both the challenges and the opportunities that can emerge when different minds meet.
My work also explores the important distinction between neurodivergent differences and harmful relationship dynamics, including narcissistic abuse and personality pathology. My goal is not to tell people what to think, but to help them better understand what they are experiencing so they can make informed decisions about their relationships.
On this channel, you’ll find episodes of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast, interviews with leading experts, educational videos, and practical conversations designed to help you better understand yourself, the people you love, and the misunderstood mind.
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Whether you are neurodivergent, love someone who is, or work with neurodiverse individuals and couples, you’re welcome here.
Are you neurodivergent and trying to navigate dating? Especially after a divorce? We can relate!
In this episode, my co-host, Mona Kay, and I get real about our personal dating experiences after divorce, the patterns we've learned to recognize in neurodiverse partners, and how to spot toxic, narcissistic behavior.
From info dumping on first dates to sensory quirks in the bedroom, we share candid, sometimes funny, always insightful stories that will help you navigate neurodiverse dating with more clarity, compassion — and better boundaries. Be sure to tune in for Episode 7 to catch the second half of our conversation.
Topics covered:
- Spotting neurodivergence (and narcissism) on dating apps
- Info dumping on dates — and what to do about it
- When autism and narcissism overlap
- Alcohol, self-medication & neurodivergence
- Sensory sensitivities in romantic and physical intimacy
- How to adapt without losing yourself
Timestamps:
0:00 – Teaser: When autism masks toxic behavior
1:24 – Welcome & intro: Meet Jodi & Mona
1:46 – Today's topic: dating, sex & neurodiverse relationships
2:16 – Dating in your 50s and 60s as a neurodivergent person
9:01 – Mona becomes a dating coach for her friends
9:18 – The guy with a strict 2-hour bandwidth for dates
10:35 – Real talk: there was one man who info dumped for 3 hours
11:42 – Tips for autistic daters: giving your partner space to talk
13:57 – Jodi's story: dating someone autistic AND narcissistic
17:24 – Love bombing, triangulation & the "harem"
19:13 – Don't assume it's just autism — key warning signs
20:16 – When you're constantly dysregulated in a relationship
20:49 – Mona's experience: dating an autistic man for almost a year
21:18 – Alcohol & neurodivergence: self-medicating to socialize
21:55 – Needing 6 beers just to go to a restaurant
24:10 – Sensory & intimacy differences: holding hands, kissing
28:10 – Eye contact during intimacy — an honest conversation
29:38 – The cold water toothbrush moment
30:52 – When sensory reactions feel like rejection
32:07 – Where to find Jodi & Mona
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Find Mona: neurodiverselove.com
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👩💼 About Jodi Carlton, MEd
I’m Jodi Carlton, MEd, a neurodiversity educator, relationship expert, author, and coach with more than 20 years of experience helping individuals, couples, families, and professionals better understand autism, ADHD, and the realities of neurodiverse relationships.
As a late-diagnosed ADHDer, I combine professional expertise with lived experience. My own family includes multiple neurotypes, and after spending nearly two decades in a neurodiverse marriage, I understand both the challenges and the opportunities that can emerge when different minds meet.
My work also explores the important distinction between neurodivergent differences and harmful relationship dynamics, including narcissistic abuse and personality pathology. My goal is not to tell people what to think, but to help them better understand what they are experiencing so they can make informed decisions about their relationships.
On this channel you’ll find episodes of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast, interviews with leading experts, educational videos, and practical conversations designed to help you better understand yourself, the people you love, and the misunderstood mind.
Watch on Youtube: https://youtu.be/0olYTzv_BQ0
📖 Subscribe to The Misunderstood Mind on Substack: https://inside.themisunderstoodmind.com
📅 Book a consultation: https://jodicarlton.com/private-consultation/
🧠 Explore articles, courses, quizzes & resources: https://jodicarlton.com
👋🏼 Join our Neurodiverse Relationships community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships
New here?
Subscribe for thoughtful conversations about:
Autism and ADHD
Neurodiverse relationships
Communication and conflict
Alexithymia and executive functioning
Narcissistic abuse and personality pathology
Boundaries, healing, and healthier relationships
Is your relationship struggling because of neurodivergence — or because you're just not compatible? In this episode of Navigating Neurodiverse Love and Life, Jodi Carlton and Mona Kay get honest about one of the hardest questions neurodiverse couples face.
In this episode:* The two extremes of autistic commitment: the revolving door and staying forever in a toxic marriage * Why blaming the diagnosis is unfair to your partner AND the neurodivergent community * How compatibility changes when you move in together, get married, or have children * Why traditional marriage therapy often makes things worse for neurodiverse couples * Nesting — the alternative living arrangement helping neurodiverse families find peace * Jodi's personal story of neurodivergent burnout after her kids left for college * How ADHD and autism create opposite conflict styles in the same household * How to ask genuinely curious questions — and why most questions are actually setups
Whether you're in a neurodiverse relationship, raising a neurodiverse family, or just trying to understand yourself better — this episode will help you stop blaming the diagnosis and start building real understanding.🔔 Subscribe for new episodes💬 Send us your questions: podcast@jodicarlton.com ⏱ Chapters0:00 Intro — Meet Jodi & Mona1:33 Episode Begins — Commitment Extremes in Autistic Relationships2:23 Mona's Story: He Would Have Stayed Forever2:51 Loyalty, Aversion to Change & Letting Go4:46 Mona's Coaching Philosophy: Compatibility Over Neurotype5:49 You Can't Blame It on the Diagnosis7:05 Compatibility Changes — Moving In, Marriage & Kids7:53 Nesting: A New Container for the Relationship9:10 Jodi's Story: Dating After Divorce9:35 Neurodivergent Family Burnout14:04 Key Lesson: Understand Yourself & Your Partner15:00 Jodi's Tip: How to Ask Curious Questions16:13 Mona's Experience: Check Yourself17:52 Wrap-Up & Closing
Have you ever felt like your emotions were wrong — or like your partner simply couldn't understand why you were upset? You might be experiencing the impact of alexithymia in your neurodiverse relationship.
In this episode of Navigating Neurodiverse Love and Life, Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton open up about their own long marriages to neurodivergent partners — and the years of unintentional hurt that came from not understanding why they felt so misunderstood.
In this episode:
-What alexithymia is and why it's so common in neurodiverse relationships
- interoception challenges affect emotional communication.
-Why your autistic partner may logicalize your emotions — and what they actually mean by it.
-The difference between not caring and not knowing
-A beautiful listener story about loving an autistic partner with awareness
-Whether you're in a neurodiverse relationship, recently discovered your partner is autistic or ADHD, or are neurodivergent yourself — this conversation will help you feel less alone.
⏱ Chapters
0:00 Intro — Meet Mona & Jodi / About the Show
1:28 Episode 2 Begins — Our Neurodiverse Marriages
2:36 Mona's Story: 30 Years of Unintentional Hurt
3:03 Communication Breakdown: Logicalizing Emotions
4:21 What Is Alexithymia?
5:11 Interoception & the Body-Brain Disconnect
6:18 The Bewildering Reality of Feeling Wrong
7:34 Jodi's Story: Alexithymia Wasn't Our Issue — But...
15:20 Emotional Flooding & Communication Differences
16:45 Writing Novels He Wouldn't Read
18:13 Listener Comment: "He Was the Best Partner I've Ever Had" 19:46 Unintentional Hurt & Looking Through Different Lenses
21:30 Outro — Find Us & Closing
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Have you ever felt like your emotions were wrong — or that your partner just couldn't connect with what you were feeling? In this episode, Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton share candidly about their decades-long marriages to neurodivergent partners and the years of confusion, shame, and unintentional hurt that came from not having a name for what was happening.
They break down alexithymia — one of the most overlooked challenges in neurodiverse relationships — along with interoception, emotional flooding, and the communication differences that left both partners feeling unseen. They also share a touching listener comment about what it looks like when understanding finally arrives.
If you've ever wondered why your partner seems to logicalize your emotions, dismiss your feelings, or simply not register your pain — this episode is for you.
Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton introduce their new podcast, “Navigating Neurodiverse Love and Life,” sharing their backgrounds and why they partnered to create a more personal, casual show about neurodiverse romantic relationships, families, and life as a neurodivergent person or parent. Mona, host of the Neurodiverse Love podcast since 2020, describes discovering her marriage was neurodiverse late in a 30-year relationship, her divorce in 2018, and her related projects, including conferences, a docuseries, conversation cards, coaching, and support groups. Jodi shares how understanding neurodivergence began with her 23-year-old daughter’s autism diagnosis, discovering that her own marriage was neurodiverse after 19 years and a divorce, her work coaching neurodiverse couples worldwide, and her upcoming book, The Misunderstood Mind. They invite viewers to send questions to shape future episodes and note the show will be published on both of their podcast platforms and YouTube channels.
00:00 Meet Mona and Jodi
00:35 New Podcast Launch
01:10 Send Questions In
01:28 Why We Teamed Up
02:30 Mona’s Story and Mission
04:55 Jodi’s Journey and New Book
08:37 Show Topics and Healing
11:53 Community and Networks
13:37 Family Patterns and Narcissism
18:47 Bodies Hormones and Health
22:39 Coaching vs Therapy
30:57 Wrap Up and Where to Find Us
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Navigating Neurodiverse Life and Love is a casual show about neurodiverse romantic relationships, families, and life as a neurodivergent person or parent, hosted by Mona Kay and Jodi Carlton, two leading voices in the area of neurodiverse life and love.
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neurodiverselove.com
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Autism is not a childhood disease. It's not something we catch, acquire in childhood, or grow out of — and the science on this has been clear for decades. In this episode I'm responding directly to the current conversation about what autism is and isn't, and setting the record straight with research, personal experience, and 20+ years of working in this field.
I cover what autism actually looks like across the lifespan, what the DSM-5 levels mean in real terms, and why the push to find a "cure" fundamentally misunderstands what autism is. I also speak honestly to families who are struggling at the more profound end of the spectrum — because their experience is real and deserves to be part of this conversation too.
Autism is a lifelong, hereditary, natural variation of the human brain. And our world wouldn't be where it is without it.
Follow the show so you never miss an episode.
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Neurodivergence has been framed as something to fix for far too long—and that framing is doing real harm. In this bonus episode, I'm talking about the neurodiversity paradigm shift: moving away from a deficit-based model and toward understanding neurological differences as natural variations in the human brain, not personal failures.
I share the research, the language that's holding us back, and the personal moment that started my own journey: sitting in a workshop and realizing—with chills—that the speaker was describing my daughter.
When we stop trying to fix neurodiversity and start understanding it, everything changes: our relationships, our communities, and how we see ourselves.
👉 Watch this episode on YouTube
👉 Read the blog:A New Perspective on Neurodiversity: Understanding Differences Without Judgment
👉 Free assessments and resources
Neurodivergent parenting comes with a kind of exhaustion that's hard to explain—and even harder to admit. As an ADHD mom with an autistic daughter and an ADHD son, I've lived every stage of it: the sensory overwhelm and specialist appointments in the early years, IEP battles and school advocacy in the middle years, and the delicate push toward independence as your kids grow into adulthood.
If you've ever felt like you're running on empty, or wondered if any of this gets easier, this one is for you. Part personal story, part permission slip.
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👉 Read the blog: Hey Mama, I See You — Navigating The Exhaustion of Parenting a Neurodivergent Child
Autism microaggressions are everywhere. And most people delivering them have no idea they're causing harm.
"You don't look autistic."
"We're all a little autistic."
"You're too articulate to be autistic."
These comments feel like compliments. For autistic individuals, their partners, and their families, they land like paper cuts—small, accumulating, and quietly damaging over time.
In this bonus episode, I unpack why these well-meaning comments are so harmful, how confirmation bias and outdated stereotypes lead even professionals to dismiss autistic people, and what masking is really costing the people we love. I also share something my daughter—diagnosed autistic at five, and told repeatedly that she doesn't look it—asked me to read on her behalf.
Autism doesn't have a look, but it does deserve to be seen. 💙
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➔ Read the blog: Autism Microaggressions: Why "You Don't Look Autistic" Does More Harm Than You Think
➔ Free assessments and resources
ADHD relationships don't come with a manual—but Part 2 of my conversation with Jana and Matt gets as close as anything I've recorded. We zoom in on what actually helps neurodiverse couples move from "you're doing it wrong" to clear, workable requests, and why old scripts keep running even after real growth.
Jana shares two practical accommodations that changed everything for them: adjusting seasoning so everyone can eat comfortably, and normalizing separate sleep spaces to protect deep rest. Matt explains why requests land so differently than criticism—and how problem-solving as a team builds connection, trust, and day-to-day ease.
Missed Part 1? Start there first 🎧
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ADHD / neurotypical relationships come with a specific kind of friction—and nervous system dysregulation is often at the center of it. In Part 1 of my conversation with Jana, an ADHD resilience coach, and her husband Matt, a neurotypical engineer, we unpack the "thinker/feeler" dynamic, the pursuer–retreater cycle, and what it looks like when dysregulation hijacks a hard conversation.
We get into the practical tools that helped them shift the pattern: active listening, pausing for your "best self," and one surprisingly effective strategy—recording tough conversations to spot misunderstandings and reset the narrative.
Ready for Part 2? Listen here.
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When emotions run high, meltdowns happen, and communication breaks down, what helps neurodiverse couples stay connected? In Part 2 of this conversation, Randall and Ashley share how they’ve learned to manage overload, communicate through shutdowns, and rebuild calm after conflict.
Ashley explains how Jodi’s “I’m okay” mantra helps her separate Randall’s emotions from her own, while Randall describes the tools that help him prevent meltdowns—like weighted blankets, routines, and clear recovery time. Together, they reveal how empathy, preparation, and boundaries create safer connection and a stronger marriage.
Watch this episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/LR3i_mUUiPQ
Join the Neurodiverse Relationship Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships
Holidays, routines, and even dishwashers can test any couple—but for neurodiverse partners, those differences can feel magnified. In this episode, Jodi talks with Randall and Ashley about what they’ve learned since discovering Randall’s autism and how it’s changed their relationship for the better.
They share simple but powerful tools—like Jodi’s “2-or-10” scale for deciding what’s worth energy, and the “I’m okay” mantra that helps calm emotional overload. Together, they show how curiosity, communication, and empathy can make all the difference in a neurodiverse relationship.
Watch this episode on YouTube:
https://youtu.be/aGgmicw8wu4
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The holidays can be stressful for any couple—but for neurodiverse partners, surprises, travel, and changes in routine can make the season especially tough. In this short bonus episode, Jodi shares a sneak peek from her upcoming interview with Randall and Ashley Rowland, who open up about what makes holidays challenging for them and the “plan B” strategies that keep things calm and connected. It’s just 9 minutes long, and it might make your holidays a little easier too.
Watch this bonus episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/8AztxuKAFjQ
Join the Neurodiverse Relationship Facebook Community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/neurodiverserelationships
Get access to Jodi's Holiday Stress Buster Toolkit for Neurodiverse Couples and learn practical tools to help your holidays run smoothly.
When you first realize that autism or ADHD is part of your relationship, it’s so common to encounter “doomsday” narratives online—stories that make neurodiverse couples feel destined for disconnection.
In this episode, Mike and Amy are back for Part 2 to share what actually happens after the discovery and how they’ve stayed connected through burnout, resentment, emotional differences, and communication challenges.
Mike was identified as autistic in adulthood, long after their relationship began. Together, they talk honestly about the shifts they had to make, the misunderstandings that once felt overwhelming, and the unexpected strengths autism brings into their home and partnership.
If you missed Part 1, I encourage you to listen to that episode first. It covers how they discovered Mike is autistic and the early strategies that helped them build a more workable, sustainable rhythm together.
In this episode, we talk about:
- Why so much advice about autistic–neurotypical couples feels negative
- The strengths, focus, and “superpowers” autism brings into daily life
- How Mike recognizes autistic burnout earlier and what helps prevent shutdowns
- The difference between being angry at your partner vs. angry about the situation
- How gender roles and emotional labor shape hetero neurodiverse relationships
- Communication tools that have made a difference—soft startups, scripting, and meta-messages
- What both autistic and allistic partners need when they’re at different stages of awareness or acceptance
We also speak directly to therapists and coaches about the importance of understanding neurodiversity as its own specialty and how easily it’s misidentified without the right training.
About Today's Guests
Mike and Amy have been together for 18 years. Mike discovered he is autistic four years ago, which opened up a completely new understanding of their relationship dynamic. Today, he advocates for autistic adults and is currently writing a forthcoming memoir on late-diagnosed autism.
Amy is a licensed therapist in Illinois and a coach for clients in other states. She specializes in supporting autistic adults, partners in neurodiverse relationships, and parents raising neurodivergent children. She also trains other clinicians in recognizing adult autism and working effectively with neurodiverse couples.
Connect with Amy: amatthews@prairiewellness.org
Learn more: prairiewellness.org
About Your Host
I’m Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship coach with more than 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, educator, and author. As a neurodivergent woman who spent 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raised neurodivergent children, I bring both professional expertise and lived experience to this work. I help individuals, couples, and families around the world find clarity, confidence, and connection in their neurodiverse relationships.
Explore resources, quizzes, and courses: jodicarlton.com
Questions? Contact me: gethelp@jodicarlton.com
When autism or ADHD first shows up in a relationship—especially through a late diagnosis—it can feel confusing, overwhelming, or even destabilizing. Many couples begin searching for answers only to find negative, discouraging narratives about neurodiverse partnerships.
In this episode, I talk with Mike and Amy, a couple who discovered as adults that Mike is autistic. Their story is deeply relatable for anyone navigating a new understanding of neurodiversity in themselves or their partner. They share openly about the early misunderstandings, mismatched expectations, and emotional tensions that shaped their marriage—and the strategies they put in place to protect their connection instead of slipping into resentment.
This conversation offers a grounded, human look at what really happens when a diagnosis reframes your entire relationship dynamic.
In this episode, we talk about:
- How Mike’s late autism discovery reshaped their understanding of past conflicts
- The early signs and communication patterns they didn’t recognize at the time
- Why so many couples feel “blindsided” before diagnosis
- How masking, missed cues, and emotional differences created tension
- What helped them shift from frustration to clarity
- The early strategies that made life more workable and reduced resentment
- How they built trust and safety while adjusting to a major identity shift
Mike and Amy’s honesty brings so much relief to listeners who feel alone, confused, or stuck in patterns they can’t explain. Their story also sets the foundation for Part 2, where we explore burnout, emotional labor, and more advanced communication tools.
About Mike & Amy
Mike and Amy have been together for 18 years. Mike discovered he is autistic four years ago, which provided language and clarity for years of misunderstandings neither of them knew how to name. Today, Mike advocates for autistic adults through writing and organizational leadership. Amy is a licensed therapist and coach who specializes in supporting autistic adults, their partners, and parents raising neurodivergent children.
📧 Connect with Amy: amatthews@prairiewellness.org
🌐 Learn more: prairiewellness.org
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About Your Host
I’m Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship coach with more than 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, educator, and author. I’m also neurodivergent myself, diagnosed with ADHD as an adult. My work is rooted in both clinical expertise and lived experience—19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children. I help neurodiverse couples and families gain clarity, communication skills, and emotional confidence so their relationships can genuinely thrive.
Explore resources, quizzes, and courses: jodicarlton.com
Questions? Contact my team: gethelp@jodicarlton.com
Can a neurodiverse relationship thrive long-term—even when the work feels messy, nonlinear, and hard?
In Part 3, the final episode of this roundtable series, Jodi and the panel of neurodiversity experts explore the skills that make progress possible: forgiveness, repair after conflict, and practical tools that help partners bridge intent and impact. This conversation digs into what progress actually looks like (hint: it’s not linear), why discomfort is part of the process, and how couples build something that works for them—not just what’s “supposed to” work.
💬 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
- How forgiveness can support healing without minimizing real pain
- What effective repair looks like when most problems are ongoing, not “fixed”
- Why tools and strategies matter more than “it should be natural” thinking
- How to tolerate uncertainty and stay connected through discomfort
- Key markers that show a couple is moving forward together
Whether you’re navigating a neurodiverse relationship yourself, supporting someone you love, or working with couples in this space, this conversation is packed with real insight and practical strategies you can start using right away.
👉 Missed Part 1? Watch here: https://youtu.be/rXeUypJeQX4?si=yz0jiOYVdGy007-J
👉 Missed Part 2? Watch here: https://youtu.be/rqW5GRhu5Fs
📍 Episode Timestamps:
00:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work?
01:56 – Progress Looks Messy: Awareness, Micro-steps, and Tolerance
07:26 – Forgiveness, Healing, and Real Repair (Gottman Lens)
11:35 – Lived Experience + A Daily “Autism Moment” Journal Tool
18:03 – Stop “It Should Be Natural”: Tools That Fit Neurotypes
22:46 – Intent vs. Impact, Acceptance, and Calling Out Toxic Dynamics
27:20 – Forgiveness for You, Acceptance ≠ Approval, “Space Between Stories”
31:14 – Markers of Progress: Impact Over Intent, Build Your Own Tools
👋🏼 Meet the Experts:
This episode features insights from:
Laura Schreiner – Licensed counselor (IL) specializing in neurodivergent individuals & couples. https://www.laurasnc.com
Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D. – Host of Neurodiverse Love Podcast, creator of Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards & Workbook, and organizer of the Neurodiverse Love Conference. https://www.neurodiverselove.com
Heidi Hackney – ICF-certified coach, mentor, & co-founder of Autistic Voiceover Artists (AVA), supporting autistic adults in the voiceover industry. https://thecan-docoach.com
Natalie Roberts – Award-winning neurodiverse relationship coach, co-founder of Loving Difference, and co-host of Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://natalieroberts.com
Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes – Autism researcher, ordained minister, author of Uniquely Us, and host of Neurodiverse Christian Couples Podcast. https://www.holmesasr.com
Debbie King – Counselor specializing in neurodiverse relationships, trauma, & toxic family dynamics, offering global support via Zoom.
Robin Tate, M.A., M.S., BCC, ACC, CAS – Neurodiverse couples coach, certified autism specialist, and founder of Robin Tate LLC. https://www.robintatellc.com
Jana Smith – Resilience and nervous system coach; expert in chronic illness and Cassandra Syndrome recovery. https://www.janamsmith.com
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👩💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
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https://jodicarlton.com
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Accommodating neurodiversity doesn’t have to mean resentment or burnout. In this episode, we explore how a neurodiverse relationship can thrive when both partners learn to balance self-accommodation and mutual respect.
Coaches Jeremy & Charity Rochford show how neurodivergent partners can self-accommodate (not outsource to neurotypical spouses) and how neurotypical partners can set boundaries that protect their own bandwidth. You’ll learn concrete tools—transition buffers, noise strategies, visual timers—and how a shared relationship system replaces score-keeping with reciprocity.
If you’ve been told to “just run” from a neurodiverse relationship, this episode offers a smarter path. Jeremy (autistic) & Charity (neurotypical) (hosts of the NeuroFam podcast) join Jodi to show how reframing autism/ADHD from problem to predictable pattern unlocks real solutions. We dig into practical rituals that improve connection without enmeshment, plus we explore why “effort is invisible” and how accommodations can increase connection instead of being sacrifices for either partner.
Jeremy explains his “software upgrade” mindset (strengthening theory of mind/executive function like training a muscle), while Charity shares how compassion + structure reduce resentment. You’ll leave with scripts, rituals, and a way to accommodate needs without erasing yourself.
00:00 – Welcome to Season Five
01:00 – Meet Jeremy & Charity
04:45 – Autism isn’t the problem: Updating the ‘80s narrative
09:40 – How kid diagnoses led to adult discoveries (and relief)
14:20 – Compassion shifts: Seeing sensory overload vs. “too much”
18:30 – “Software upgrades”: Building empathy & executive function
22:10 – Accommodations that work: Earbuds, car rules, visual timers
29:10 – Resentment vs reciprocity: Why effort is invisible
33:00 – Build a marriage system: Make expectations explicit
35:20 – Accommodate without erasing yourself (Disney example)
👥 Meet Jeremy & Charity Rochford
Jeremy and Charity Rochford—known as Team Rochford—are certified life coaches and co-founders of NeuroFam, where they specialize in coaching for neurodiverse couples, parents, and families. Married for 25 years and raising two autistic children, they blend professional expertise (Jeremy has a BA in Communication Studies; Charity a BA in Psychology) with lived experience to deliver a truly balanced perspective.
NeuroFam’s coaching is forward-focused and results-based—helping families create practical systems, reduce resentment, and build relationships that thrive. Jeremy works primarily with autistic/ADHD men, fathers, and young adults, while Charity supports neurotypical partners, mothers, and women navigating ND/NT family dynamics.
🔗 Resources Mentioned in This Episode
- NeuroFam website
https://www.neurofam.com - NeuroFM Podcast
https://www.ourneurofam.com/neuro-fm-podcast - Book: Thanks for the Feedback by Douglas Stone & Sheila Heen https://www.stoneandheen.com/thanks-feedback
- Course: How to Communicate in Your Neurodiverse Relationship
https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/ - Tony Attwood
https://www.attwoodandgarnettevents.com/
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👩💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
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NeurodiverseRelationship #AutismInMarriage #ADHD
Autistic + ADHD partners often collide around regulation. Here’s how to stop the clashes and build connection with real-world scripts, rituals, and repeatable practices.
If you need clear, practical tools to make a neurodiverse relationship feel calmer and more connected, this episode delivers! Jodi and licensed counselor Greg Fuqua (late-identified autistic) break down exactly how autistic self-regulators and ADHD co-regulators can stop clashing and start syncing up—so both partners feel seen, safe, and respected.
Greg shares the exact rituals he and his wife use after 30+ years together—like a 20–30 minute transition buffer before reconnecting after time apart, a simple “commute-call” habit that creates connection without pressure, and a prepare → attune → debrief framework for handling events like parties or family gatherings.
You’ll hear why effort often feels invisible, why “fair” doesn’t always mean equal, and how shifting from content fights to process check-ins changes everything. We also dig into scripts for setting capacity limits, what shutdowns and alexithymia look like, and a quick connect → ground rhythm you can try today.
If you missed Part 1, circle back for the mindset shifts that make these tools stick.
💡 This episode is especially helpful for:
- Autistic–ADHD couples who keep clashing over how they calm down or connect
- Partners who want closeness without losing themselves (empathy + boundaries)
- Late-identified adults looking for simple scripts and daily rituals to cut conflict and feel safer together
00:00 – Welcome to Season Five01:48 – When couples therapy backfires (“the wrongness trap”)03:02 – Self-regulation vs. co-regulation in ASD and ADHD06:43 – The 20–30 minute transition ritual that prevents conflict09:10 – Why effort is invisible and scorekeeping fails17:14 – The commute-call ritual for daily attunement20:26 – Two rules for safety in communication26:53 – The couple’s event game plan: Prepare → Attune → Debrief31:24 – Reflection over rehashing: how growth really happens About Greg Fuqua:
Greg Fuqua, MA, LMHC, is a late-identified autistic therapist specializing in neurodiverse counseling and couples therapy. With over 30 years of personal experience in a neurodiverse marriage, Greg brings rare insight to his clinical work, blending lived experience with professional expertise.
Formerly a professional artist and art professor for 23 years, Greg integrates creativity and empathy into his strength-based, person-centered approach. He is an Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinical Specialist (ASDCS) and Level 2 AANE-trained neurodiverse couples therapist, as well as co-host of the Neurodiverse Love podcast with Mona Kay.
Greg leads Divergent Counseling in West Des Moines, IA, where he supports individuals, couples, families, and organizations in building healthier, more authentic relationships.
Resources:
- Greg’s website: https://www.gregfuqua.com/
- Neurodiverse Connections Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/@NeurodivergentConnections/featured
- More from Jodi: Visit jodicarlton.com (free resources, assessments, and courses)
• Watch Part 2 of my conversation with Greg: Coming Soon: October 1! - Questions? Email: gethelp@jodicarlton.com
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👩💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
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Why do neurodiverse couples clash so often? Licensed counselor Greg Fuqua shares the hidden patterns—and how to finally break them.
If your neurodiverse relationship feels like a boxing ring—or you keep looping the same arguments—this episode gives you a new playbook. Jodi sits down with licensed counselor Greg Fuqua (late-identified autistic) to talk about what really changes things: shifting from blame to inner work, breaking the cycle of “negative assumptions of wrongness,” and why individual therapy often helps autistic/ADHD couples more than traditional couples counseling.
Greg also shares the turning point in his own 30-year marriage: a career collapse, intrusive suicidal thoughts, and the affect-based therapy that cracked open his emotions and rebuilt his capacity for connection.
You’ll come away with practical language you can use today, a clearer map of autistic–neurotypical differences as strengths (not flaws), and a preview of Part 2, where we dive into specific co-regulation and attunement tools you can practice at home.
💡 This episode is especially helpful for:
- Autistic/ADHD–NT couples who keep circling the same argument
- Late-identified adults reframing a lifetime of “why am I like this?”
- Partners tired of score-keeping who want practical, non-pathologizing tools
00:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work?
01:06 – Meet Greg Fuqua: Late-Identified Autistic Therapist
01:51 – Why Neurodivergent Therapists See Things Differently
02:30 – Inside AANE’s Level 2 Couples Training
07:21 – Relational Trauma & the “Assumption of Wrongness”
12:33 – Greg’s 30-Year Marriage: Struggles, Turn-Taking & Survival
17:46 – From Suicidal Thoughts to Healing & Authenticity
29:21 – The Secret to Making Neurodiverse Relationships Work
About Greg Fuqua:
Greg Fuqua, MA, LMHC, is a late-identified autistic therapist specializing in neurodiverse counseling and couples therapy. With over 30 years of personal experience in a neurodiverse marriage, Greg brings rare insight to his clinical work, blending lived experience with professional expertise.
Formerly a professional artist and art professor for 23 years, Greg integrates creativity and empathy into his strength-based, person-centered approach. He is an Autism Spectrum Disorder Clinical Specialist (ASDCS) and Level 2 AANE-trained neurodiverse couples therapist, as well as co-host of the Neurodiverse Love podcast with Mona Kay.
Greg leads Divergent Counseling in West Des Moines, IA, where he supports individuals, couples, families, and organizations in building healthier, more authentic relationships.
Resources
- Greg’s website: https://www.gregfuqua.com/
- More from Jodi: Visit jodicarlton.com (free resources, assessments, and courses)
- Questions? Email: gethelp@jodicarlton.com
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👩💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
What It’s Like to Be Face Blind in a Neurodiverse Relationship
Ever mistaken a stranger for your spouse? Journalist and author Sadie Dingfelder has—because she’s face blind. In this episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship, Sadie and her husband Steve share what it’s like to navigate marriage when both partners are neurodivergent in different ways.
From ADHD to prosopagnosia (face blindness), this conversation is filled with relatable moments, honest insights, and laugh-out-loud stories. Sadie discusses how discovering her own neurodivergence led to writing her debut book, “Do I Know You?”, while Steve reflects on living with ADHD since childhood and what finally helped him understand how his brain works. Together, they talk with host Jodi Carlton about cognitive empathy, relationship conflict, and what it really takes to make a neurodiverse marriage thrive.
If you're in a neurodiverse relationship—or love someone who is—this episode offers validation, wisdom, and the reminder that being “on the same team” is everything.
00:00 – Welcome to Season Five
01:00 – “I Thought I Was Neurotypical”: Meet Sadie & Steve
04:40 – Mistaking a Stranger for Your Spouse?! Discovering Face Blindness
09:15 – How COVID Changed Everything in Their Marriage
13:50 – “We’re Living in Different Realities”: Cognitive Empathy Explained
19:10 – ADHD Meds, Creativity & Finding What Actually Works
25:00 – The Secret to Making Neurodiverse Relationships Work
✨ About Sadie Dingfelder & Steve Hay:
Sadie Dingfelder is a science journalist with a sharp wit and a deep curiosity about hidden neurodiversity. In her debut book, “Do I Know You? A Faceblind Reporter’s Journey into the Science of Sight, Memory, and Imagination”, she unpacks what it’s like to live with prosopagnosia (face blindness) while taking readers on a fascinating tour of the brain’s inner workings. A former reporter for the Washington Post Express, Sadie is known for blending humor and insight—whether she’s reviewing every bathroom on the National Mall or playing a priceless Stradivarius at the Smithsonian. Her writing has appeared in The New Yorker, National Geographic, Washingtonian, and other major publications.
Steve Hay is an engineer and aspiring scientist who is currently developing an augmented reality art project that simulates prosopagnosia by using AI to subtly distort faces in real time. Before turning his focus to brain and perception research, Steve worked as a Navy nuclear engineer and later in the green energy sector, applying AI and machine learning to grid-scale energy storage. His work blends scientific insight, creative experimentation, and a knack for making the invisible visible.
📚 Check out Sadie’s book “Do I Know you? A Faceblind Reporter’s Journey into the Science of Sight, Memory and Imagination.” https://www.amazon.com/Know-You-Faceblind-Reporters-Imagination/dp/0316545147
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👩💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses:
https://jodicarlton.com
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In a Neurodiverse Relationship, what happens after you fall in love—but still have to figure out how to live, love, and parent?
In Part 2 of this Season 5 episode with Jodi, Adam and Becca James go even deeper into the realities of a neurodiverse marriage. Becca is autistic and ADHD (AuDHD). Adam is neurotypical. Together, they’ve reached millions on TikTok with raw, relatable content about neurodivergent relationships.
Together, they open up about the day-to-day realities of a neurodiverse relationship—from miscommunication and parenting stress to intimacy challenges, sensory overload, and the emotional friction that comes with constantly decoding each other’s world. With their signature mix of honesty and humor, they explore what it really means to stay connected when love languages clash and nothing feels simple.
💬 You’ll hear about:
- Why physical intimacy can feel impossible—and how they rebuilt it from scratch
- What happens when emotional cues are misread (and how they recover)
- The invisible mental load of affection, communication, and “showing up”
- The challenges of parenting as a neurodivergent mom
- How some people misunderstand their viral videos—and why they keep posting anyway
- Why understanding each other isn’t a goal—it’s a practice
- What keeps them committed, even on the hardest days
Whether you're married to someone with autism, parenting through sensory stress, or just trying to better understand your neurodivergent partner, this episode is a heartfelt continuation of a conversation that’s making thousands feel seen.
📍 Episode Timestamps:
00:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work?
00:57 – Meet Adam & Becca: Viral TikTok Couple
01:36 – Misunderstandings, Meltdowns & Missed Signals
03:12 – Using Humor to Survive Neurodivergent Life
10:29 – Family Expectations vs. Neurodivergent Needs
14:42 – When Physical Affection Feels Overwhelming
17:22 – Autism, Intimacy & Rebuilding a Sexual Connection
20:20 – The Gap Between Neurotypical & Neurodivergent Brains
21:46 – Rethinking How Relationships “Should” Work
23:44 – Why Intentional Understanding Keeps Us Together
26:05 – Miscommunication in Marriage: It's Not What You Think
33:29 – Parenting With Limited Bandwidth
37:14 – The Poisoner’s Almanac: Becca’s Special Interest
38:55 – Final Thoughts + Resources for Neurodiverse Couples
✨ About Adam & Becca:
Adam and Becca James are a neurodiverse couple living in Georgia who’ve built a community of over 205K followers on TikTok (@studiesshow) by sharing the everyday realities of their relationship—equal parts insightful, awkward, and hilarious.
Their content went viral after one clip, now with over 32 million views, showing the wildly different ways they wind down at night. Since then, they’ve continued to open up about the challenges and gifts of navigating life, love, and parenthood with ADHD and autism in the mix.
Adam is a home health physical therapist, musician, and lifelong Braves fan. Becca, a nurse with experience in both hospital and home healthcare, brings her dry wit and deeply self-aware reflections to their videos, offering a perspective that resonates with both neurodivergent and neurotypical viewers alike.
Together, they use their TikTok platform to normalize neurodivergence, dismantle stigma, and remind their audience that even opposites can thrive—with the right mix of humor, honesty, and headphones.
Adam and Becca also co-host The Poisoner’s Almanac, a podcast exploring poisons (one of Becca's special interests) through history, culture, and modern science.
Mentioned in this episode:
🎧 Adam & Becca’s podcast: The Poisoner’s Almanac – a true crime-meets-science deep dive into historical and modern poisons, created around Becca’s special interest.
👩💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses:
https://jodicarlton.com
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❓ What happens when two people fall in love and one is neurodivergent? They go viral on social media! 📈
In this episode, Jodi chats with Adam and Becca, a neurodiverse couple whose viral TikToks have racked up millions of views. Their videos offer an unfiltered look into the realities of a neurodiverse relationship—and their honest, often hilarious conversations have helped hundreds of thousands of viewers feel less alone.
Together, they share what it’s really like navigating marriage with autism and ADHD in the mix: from sensory overload and autistic burnout to faith deconstruction, parenting struggles, emotional disconnects, and wildly mismatched love languages.
Becca opens up about her late autism diagnosis, how masking nearly broke her, and why even small moments of affection can feel overwhelming. Adam reflects on how being a neurotypical husband has challenged him to rethink communication, connection, and what support truly looks like.
💬 You’ll hear about:
-How they met and fell in love despite major differences
-Becca’s late autism diagnosis and what finally made everything click
-How masking, meltdowns, and burnout shaped their early years of marriage
-The tension between physical touch and sensory boundaries
-Why Adam’s humor is more than just comic relief—it’s a lifeline
-The role faith and religious deconstruction played in reshaping their connection -What it means to truly be seen—and chosen—by someone wired differently
If you've ever wondered what "opposites attract" looks like in a neurodiverse relationship, this episode is a must-listen!
📍 Episode Timestamps:
0:00 – Season 5 Intro: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work?
01:00 – Meet Adam & Becca: A Quirky First Encounter
03:00 – Burnout, Meltdowns & the Cost of Masking
06:00 – Autism, Sensory Overload & the Need for Space
10:40 – Parenthood, Shutdowns & Surviving the Early Years
18:55 – Late Diagnosis, Big Realizations
20:45 – From Toxic Church Culture to Mental Clarity
25:00 – How Opposites Communicate (and Miscommunicate)
28:50 – Choosing Each Other, Every Day
34:25 – Why Laughter Helps More Than You Think
✨ About Adam & Becca: Adam and Becca James are a neurodiverse couple living in Georgia who’ve built a community of over 205K followers on TikTok (@studiesshow) by sharing the everyday realities of their relationship—equal parts insightful, awkward, and hilarious.
Their content went viral after one clip, now with over 32 million views, showing the wildly different ways they wind down at night. Since then, they’ve continued to open up about the challenges and gifts of navigating life, love, and parenthood with ADHD and autism in the mix. Adam is a home health physical therapist, musician, and lifelong Braves fan. Becca, a nurse with experience in both hospital and home healthcare, brings her dry wit and deeply self-aware reflections to their videos, offering a perspective that resonates with both neurodivergent and neurotypical viewers alike.
Together, they use their TikTok platform to normalize neurodivergence, dismantle stigma, and remind their audience that even opposites can thrive—with the right mix of humor, honesty, and headphones. Adam and Becca also co-host The Poisoner’s Almanac, a podcast exploring poisons (one of Becca's special interests) through history, culture, and modern science.
💬 NEW! Try the NeuroTranslator App Want help understanding each other’s neurotypes in everyday situations? The NeuroTranslator app offers on-demand explanations to help reduce conflict and increase connection. Built by an autistic husband to bridge communication gaps between neurotypes. Save 30% with promo code JODI.
🔗 https://www.neurotranslator.ai
👩💼 About Your Host:
Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com
🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
Can a neurodiverse relationship still see change when only one partner works on it? What if you’ve tried everything, but nothing seems to stick?
In Part 2 of this roundtable discussion, Jodi and the panel of leading neurodiversity professionals return to explore how coaching (versus therapy), nervous system regulation, and identifying options can help couples shift out of stuck patterns—even when one partner isn’t engaged in the work. If you’re trying to decide whether to stay, leave, or redefine what being together looks like, this conversation offers real-life strategies, hope, and clarity.
💬 What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The difference between coaching and traditional therapy—and when each is most effective Why regulating your nervous system is key to better communication Practical tools for rewiring the brain and shifting harmful patterns How to navigate decision-making, boundaries, and even separation with clarity and self-trust What to look for in a therapist or coach to determine who actually understands neurodiversity - versus someone who “knows someone that was neurodivergent” How healing is possible even if only one partner is doing the work
Whether you're in a neurodiverse relationship, supporting a loved one, or working as a professional in this space, this episode offers real tools, compassionate insight, and hopeful next steps.
👉 Missed Part 1? Watch here: https://youtu.be/rXeUypJeQX4?si=1GiWaeRK5PhrWS59
00:00 Welcome Back: Season 5 & this Expert Panel Episode
00:57 Real-Life Experience from Neurodiverse Professionals
03:15 Why Traditional Couples Therapy Often Falls Short
04:49 Coaching vs. Counseling: What Works for Neurodiverse Couples
06:05 Nervous System Regulation & Expanding Capacity
08:52 When Only One Partner Is Willing to Do the Work
13:02 Discernment: Stay, Go, or Redefine the Relationship
21:42 How to Know If a Therapist Really Gets Neurodiversity
27:45 Red Flags, Abuse, and Boundaries in Neurodiverse Marriages
28:25 Closing Thoughts & Resources
👋🏼 Meet the Experts: This episode features insights from:
Barbara Grant, MMFT, CAS, NDCC – Neurodiverse couples coach, co-host of Neurodiverse Couples Coaches Corner, and co-author of Uniquely Us. https://bg-hc.com
Jana Smith – Resilience and nervous system coach; expert in chronic illness and Cassandra Syndrome recovery. https://www.janamsmith.com
Natalie Roberts – Award-winning neurodiverse relationship coach, co-founder of Loving Difference, and co-host of Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://natalieroberts.com
Heather Parks – Somatic coach specializing in neurodiverse families; co-host of Loving Difference and Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://heatherparks.co.uk
Robin Tate, M.A., M.S., BCC, ACC, CAS – Neurodiverse couples coach, certified autism specialist, and founder of Robin Tate LLC. https://www.robintatellc.com
👩💼 About Your Host:
Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
👉 Find resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com
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How do you stay in a neurodiverse marriage for the long haul?
In Part 2 of this honest and hope-filled conversation, counselor Laura Schreiner returns to share what she and her autistic husband have learned in over 20 years together—especially after discovering neurodivergence mid-marriage. With warmth and wisdom, Laura and host Jodi Carlton explore what real growth looks like in neurodiverse marriages—from learning to set emotional boundaries to releasing the pressure to “fix” each other.
💬 You’ll hear Laura unpack:
Why setting boundaries with your kids is just as important as with your partner
How her husband’s communication “black belt” surprised her
What changed when she detached from emotional outcomes
Why understanding your own expectations is essential—especially if you're the one doing all the work Her husband’s take: “We’re not opposites. We’re complementary puzzle pieces.”
This conversation is packed with real insight for #neurotypical and #neurodivergent partners alike—plus a lot of humor and humanity!
📍 Episode Timestamps:
00:00 Intro & Why You Shouldn’t Miss Part 1
01:24 Setting Boundaries as a Neurodivergent Parent
03:50 “Fixing Autism” vs. Doing the Personal Work
06:02 Her Communication “Black Belt” Analogy
07:07 How Feelings are Impacted by What We Choose to Believe
09:19 Somatic Tools for Regulating Relationship Tension
11:39 Doing the Inner Work—Even If the Relationship Doesn’t Last
14:37 How One Breakthrough Shifted Their Marriage
17:06 Codependency, Expectations & the Myth of the “Perfect Partner”
19:16 What If Leaving Isn’t So Simple?
24:24 How We Define Progress in Neurodiverse Relationships
29:01 Letting Go of Expectations & Receiving What’s Given
34:00 We Both Still Like Chicken
35:00 “We’re Complementary Puzzle Pieces” (Her Husband’s Final Insight)
✨ About Laura Schreiner:
Laura Schreiner is a licensed professional counselor in Illinois who specializes in working with neurodivergent adults and couples. Her expertise is deeply personal—Laura discovered in 2017 that her husband is autistic, a revelation that reshaped both her personal and professional life.
Certified in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy through the Asperger/Autism Network (AANE), Laura combines over 15 years of clinical experience with firsthand insight into the unique dynamics of neurodiverse relationships. She is currently developing new ways to educate and support the neurodiverse community on how brain wiring differences shape communication, connection, and partnership.
To follow Laura’s work or get in touch, visit www.laurasnc.com
👉 Real stories. Tangible strategies. Watch more honest conversations from Season 5: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29
💬 NEW! Try the NeuroTranslator App
Want help understanding each other’s neurotypes in everyday situations? The NeuroTranslator app offers on-demand explanations to help reduce conflict and increase connection. Built by an autistic husband to bridge communication gaps between neurotypes. Save 30% with promo code JODI.
🔗 https://www.neurotranslator.ai
neurodiversemarriage #communicationchallenges #codependencyrecovery #neurodivergentlove #emotionalboundaries #relationshipadvice
👩💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com
🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
Counselor Laura Schreiner opens up about her own 20-year neurodiverse marriage—sharing expert insights, hard truths, and what makes love last.
In this episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, sits down with returning guest Laura Schreiner, a seasoned counselor who specializes in working with #neurodivergent adults and couples. Laura shares insights from her own 20-year #neurodiversemarriage, offering a rare and compassionate look at how communication struggles, #masking, #emotionalburnout, and unmet expectations play out in real life—and what it looks like when couples decide to stay in it and do the work.
💬 You’ll hear Laura break down:
- Why communication isn’t linear in neurodiverse partnerships
- How she and her #autistichusband navigate misunderstandings with humor and empathy
- The surprising shift that helped her let go of “fixing” and focus on her own growth
- What really makes or breaks these relationships in the long run
Whether you’re the #autisticpartner, the #neurotypical one, or somewhere in between—this episode is packed with wisdom, warmth, and hard-earned truth.
00:00 Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work Long-Term?
01:23 Meet Laura Schreiner: Counselor & Neurodiverse Partner
02:45 Why Laura Speaks for Both Partners in This Episode (Respecting Privacy in Neurodiverse Relationships)
05:52 What Makes Neurodiverse Relationships So Challenging? And What Are Some Solutions
06:12 Communication Is Not Linear
08:02 Her Husband’s Powerful Quote on Communication Challenges
09:35 Jodi and Laura Talk About the Shame, Embarrassment, and Self-Criticism Neurodivergent Partners Often Experience
13:13 Pulling the Thread: A Real-Life Example of a Communication Breakthrough
20:58 Responding to “Why Should I Be the One Doing All the Work?”
24:14 Believing in Yourself & Doing the Inner Work: What Makes a Neurodiverse Relationship Work
26:58 Her Husband’s Self-Awareness Breakthrough
28:53 Letting Go of Codependency in Neurodiverse Relationships
33:04 Coming Up Next: More Wisdom from Laura in Part 2
✨ About Laura Schreiner:
Laura Schreiner is a licensed professional counselor in Illinois who specializes in working with neurodivergent adults and couples. Her expertise is deeply personal—Laura discovered in 2017 that her husband is autistic, a revelation that reshaped both her personal and professional life.
Certified in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy through the Asperger/Autism Network (AANE), Laura combines over 15 years of clinical experience with firsthand insight into the unique dynamics of neurodiverse relationships. She is currently developing new ways to educate and support the neurodiverse community on how brain wiring differences shape communication, connection, and partnership.
To follow Laura’s work or get in touch, visit laurasnc.com.
👉 Real stories. Tangible strategies. Watch more honest conversations from Season 5: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29
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👩💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses:
https://jodicarlton.com
🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share!
Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
From masking to neurodiverse marriage, bestselling author J.D. Barker gets real about life as an autistic adult.
In this podcast episode, neurodiverse relationship coach Jodi Carlton talks with New York Times bestselling author JDBarker, who shares what was like for him to navigate life, love, and fatherhood - and autism. From high-stakes careers in finance and IT to ghostwriting blockbusters and becoming a full-time novelist, J.D. reflects on how autism has shaped his relationships, routines, and creative process.
He also gets candid about building a neurodiverse marriage with his neurotypical wife, parenting a neurodivergent daughter, and the personal growth that came with learning to embrace—not mask—his autistic traits.
💬 What you’ll hear in this episode:
The surprising way J.D. was diagnosed with autism at 22 Why masking often feels like “playing a part” in social settings How he and his wife created emotional safety and mutual respect in their marriage What it looks like to be a team—not adversaries—as neurodiverse partners The “loop-closing” need in autistic brains—and how it affects everyday routines Why creativity is often misunderstood in autism (and how it became his superpower) What he tells parents of autistic children about what’s possible for their future.
Whether you’re autistic, in a neurodiverse relationship, or parenting a neurodivergent child, this conversation is full of practical insights, encouragement, and inspiration for anyone navigating the complexities of autism in adulthood and family life.
00:00 Welcome to Season 5
00:57 Meet J.D. Barker
01:37 J.D.’s Diagnosis Story
03:12 Life as an Autistic Adult
06:02 Autism & Parenting a Neurodivergent Child
08:23 Understanding ND Traits in Relationships
10:25 From Corporate Burnout to Bestselling Author: How J.D.’s Wife Helped Him Reclaim His Life
19:52 Creativity, Career & the Autistic Brain
22:24 J.D.’s Superpower: Mimicking Author Voices
23:04 Becoming a Bestselling Author
24:25 Breaking the Creativity Myth in Autism
26:14 The Writing Process & Pattern Recognition
28:29 Researching Characters & Emotional Nuance
30:32 Emotional Differences in a Neurodiverse Marriage
32:24 Communication, Trust & Mutual Respect
36:06 Advice for Autistic Creatives
37:21 Final Reflections
🎥 Keep watching to explore more episodes in Season 5 and discover how other neurodiverse couples are navigating life, love, and everything in between. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29
📚 About J.D. Barker:
J.D. Barker is a New York Times and international bestselling author known for gripping, genre-blending thrillers that weave suspense, horror, mystery, and science fiction into unforgettable stories. His acclaimed novels include Dracul (co-authored with Dacre Stoker), the 4MK series, and multiple collaborations with James Patterson, such as The Coast-to-Coast Murders and The Noise.
Explore his books and learn more: www.jdbarker.com
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👩💼 About Your Host:
Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses: https://jodicarlton.com
🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share!
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What keeps neurodiverse marriages from falling apart—and what helps them grow stronger over time? In Part 2 of this honest and hope-filled conversation, Stephanie & Dan Holmes return to share deeper insights on what makes neurodiverse relationships work—and what often makes them break down.
From emotional triggers to unspoken resentments, rigid belief systems to religious conditioning, they dive into the patterns that can quietly erode a relationship—and how curiosity, boundaries, and a growth mindset can bring real repair.
💬 You’ll hear real-life insights about:
- Navigating conflict when there’s no “right” answer
- Reframing triggers and rewriting your relationship narrative
- The impact of faith and religious systems on neurodiverse couples
- Identifying deal-breakers: when unintentional harm becomes a pattern
- Why being teachable is non-negotiable
- Embracing differences instead of fighting them
- How long-term growth happens in stages—and why you’re never “done”
This is a must-watch/must-listen for anyone wondering how to stay connected when perspectives clash, progress feels slow, or your relationship feels stuck in a loop.
00:00 – Welcome to Season Five
00:57 – Introducing Dan and Stephanie Holmes
01:24 – Navigating Triggers & Setting Boundaries That Work
03:50 – How Conflict Shows Up in Neurodiverse Relationships
08:32 – Faith & Friction: When Religion Complicates Your Marriage
18:10 – Reconstructing Faith & Rethinking Marriage Roles
20:26 – Deal Breakers That Derail Neurodiverse Relationships
24:00 – Why Being Teachable Matters More Than Being Right
27:41 – About the Book: Research, Real Stories & Practical Help
29:07 – What the Research Reveals About ND Couples
29:57 – Unintentional Abuse: Where the Line Gets Crossed
33:48 – Embracing Differences Instead of Fighting Them
35:05 – Why Growth Mindset Is Non-Negotiable in ND Marriage
36:56 – Final Thoughts: Learning, Changing & Staying Curious
37:37 – Wrap-Up + Where to Learn More
✨ About Stephanie & Dan Holmes:
Rev. Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes, Ed.D, MA, BCCC is a Certified Autism Specialist, neurodiverse marriage therapist, ordained minister, and former licensed professional counselor. When her daughter was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome, Stephanie’s professional focus shifted to serving neurodiverse families and couples. She is the founder of Autism Spectrum Resources for Marriage & Family and co-founder (with Dan) of The International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage. She co-hosts the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast and coaches couples worldwide.
Rev. Dan Holmes, MCS is a seasoned systems architect, ordained minister, and Master Life Coach who specializes in coaching neurodivergent men. He blends technical expertise with coaching and ministry. Dan received his autism diagnosis later in life in 2019, which deeply informs his perspective and work.
📚 Explore Stephanie’s and Dan’s books:
“Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage, Autism and Faith”
https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/uniquely-us-stephanie-c-holmes/1146104450?ean=9781636985435
“Embracing the Autism Spectrum: Finding Hope & Joy Navigating the NeuroDiverse Family Journey”
https://www.holmesasr.com/embracing-the-autism-spectrum
🎧 Listen to the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/neurodiverse-christian-couples--4992356
📩 Connect with Stephanie: dr.stephanie@holmesASR.com
📩 Connect with Dan: dan@holmesASR.com
👉 Want to hear more real stories and strategies? Watch the rest of Season 5: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7qLvkJFwE-KcG73-Fzuzu29
👩💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd
Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and lived experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner and raising neurodivergent children, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work—and the pitfalls that can derail them. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
👉 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses:
https://jodicarlton.com
🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share!
Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
Can a neurodiverse marriage actually work when communication constantly breaks down? If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner are speaking two different languages—especially in an autism or ADHD relationship—this episode is for you. Stephanie & Dan Holmes share how they redefined their roles at home, and used coaching to rebuild connection, reduce resentment, and finally feel like a team again.
💬 You’ll hear real-life insights about: Why they left using a therapy model and started coaching instead The power of building individual skills before focusing on teamwork as a couple How Dan taking over cooking reduced Stephanie’s mental load Bridging different emotional processing styles Learning to “sit with each other’s emotions” instead of fixing them Why sometimes you need to “put it in the unsolved mystery file” This episode is part of Season 5 of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast, exploring the question: “Can neurodiverse relationships work?” The answer? Yes—with the right tools, support, and a willingness to learn what actually works for YOU as a couple.
Stephanie and Dan open up about what it really takes to navigate marriage as a neurodiverse couple—and how their faith, coaching, and intentional communication helped them overcome communication breakdowns and challenges related to autism and ADHD.
00:00 – Can Neurodiverse Relationships Really Work?
01:44 – Meet Stephanie & Dan Holmes
03:39 – Why Coaching Helped When Therapy Didn’t
08:03 – What We Mean by Neurodiverse: ADHD, Autism & More
11:05 – Rethinking Gender Roles: A System That Worked for Them
13:20 – The Mental Load & How Cooking Changed Everything
17:57 – “I Don’t Need You to Fix It—I Need You to Be Irrational With Me”
20:00 – Emotions as Data: Why Logic Isn’t Always the Answer
22:08 – The “Delta” Fight: How Literal vs. Emotional Thinking Clashes
25:14 – The Hospital Story: Why Being Present Mattered Most
32:27 – Revisiting Old Conflicts Without Re-Traumatizing
37:52 – What They’ve Learned & What’s Coming in Part 2
✨ About Stephanie & Dan Holmes:
Rev. Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes, Ed.D, MA, BCCC is a Certified Autism Specialist, neurodiverse marriage therapist, ordained minister, and former licensed professional counselor. When their daughter was diagnosed with Asperger’s Syndrome, Stephanie’s professional focus shifted to serving neurodiverse families and couples. Stephanie is the founder of Autism Spectrum Resources for Marriage & Family and co-founder (with Dan) of The International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriage. She co-hosts the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast and coaches couples around the world navigating the complexities of faith and neurodiversity in marriage.
Rev. Dan Holmes, MCS is a seasoned systems architect, ordained minister, and Master Life Coach who specializes in working with neurodivergent men. Dan blends technical expertise with coaching and ministry experience. He received his autism diagnosis later in life in 2019, which deeply informs his work and perspective.
📚 Explore Stephanie’s and Dan’s books:
“Uniquely Us: Gracefully Navigating the Maze of Neurodiverse Marriage, Autism and Faith” https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/uniquely-us-stephanie-c-holmes/1146104450?ean=9781636985435
“Embracing the Autism Spectrum: Finding Hope & Joy Navigating the NeuroDiverse Family Journey” https://www.holmesasr.com/embracing-the-autism-spectrum
🎧 Listen to the NeuroDiverse Christian Couples podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/neurodiverse-christian-couples--4992356
📩 Connect with Stephanie: dr.stephanie@holmesASR.com
📩 Connect with Dan: dan@holmesASR.com
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👩💼 About Your Host: Jodi Carlton, MEd Jodi Carlton is a neurodiverse relationship coach with over 20 years of experience as a therapist, coach, author, and educator. She’s also neurodivergent herself—diagnosed with ADHD as an adult—and brings both professional expertise and personal experience to her work. After 19 years in a marriage with an autistic partner, raising neurodivergent children, and discovering that nearly her entire extended family is neurodiverse, Jodi developed a deeply personal understanding of what it takes for relationships like yours to work - and she understands the devastating pitfalls that threaten neurodiverse couples. She now coaches individuals, couples, and families around the world using a solution-focused approach that delivers real clarity and lasting change.
🎧 Explore more episodes, free resources, quizzes, and courses at: 👉 https://jodicarlton.com
🔔 Don’t Forget to Like, Subscribe & Share! Your support helps us reach more people navigating life in neurodiverse relationships.
In this powerful Part 2 episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast (Season 5), neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton continues her candid conversation with married couple Luke and Lauren Smallcomb.
Together, they open up about: - Navigating ADHD and demand avoidance in marriage - Overcoming anxious and avoidant attachment styles - What happens when one partner is an overfunctioner - Burnout, masking, and learning to communicate better - The difference between acceptance and accommodation - Red flags vs. recoverable challenges in neurodiverse relationships.
👉 Here's Part 1 in case you missed it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LVdE9-xbzKI
🔹 Timestamps:
00:00 – Introduction to Season Five
00:57 – Welcome to Part 2 with Luke & Lauren
01:11 – Challenges and Realizations in Marriage
01:42 – Understanding ADHD and Attachment Styles
03:54 – The Role of Communication
06:55 – Personality Differences and the Enneagram
11:41 – Shifting Roles and Responsibilities
14:47 – Facing Trauma Together
18:36 – Balancing Support and Independence
22:50 – Navigating Demand Avoidance in Relationships
24:07 – Understanding Overfunctioning and Burnout
26:27 – Addressing Imbalance in Effort and Insight
28:09 – Recognizing Abusive Patterns and Seeking Help
32:02 – The Importance of Acceptance and Safety
37:39 – Final Thoughts and Relationship Advice
44:42 – Conclusion and Neurodiversity Resources
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
In this powerful episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast Season 5, host Jodi Carlton sits down with trauma healing experts and married neurodiverse couple Luke and Lauren Smallcomb, who live in Thailand and run a worldwide trauma-healing practice called Flourish Therapy.
Together, they open up about their own marriage, healing past trauma, working through attachment styles, and what it really takes to make a neurodiverser elationship not only work—but thrive. They also share their professional insights into neuroplasticity, rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), attachment wounds, and how their personal growth journey empowered them to help other couples navigate similar challenges.
👉 This is Part 1 of a 2-part conversation, so be sure to subscribe and stay tuned for Part 2!
🔹 Timestamps: 00:00 – Welcome to Season 5: Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work?
00:57 – Meet Luke & Lauren Smallcomb: Trauma coaches living in Thailand 02:58 – Lauren’s journey from nursing to trauma & brain healing through neuroplasticity
04:08 – What is neuroplasticity & how does trauma impact the brain?
05:50 – Luke’s path to counseling & the impact of neuroscience on his practice
09:54 – Starting their own practice, Flourish Therapy
13:29 – How lived experience changes how you show up professionally 14:04 – Having a better understanding of neurodiversity. Moving away from a disease model
15:37 – Lauren and Luke open up about their own marriage
16:42 – Understanding capacity in a neurodiverse relationship
17:40 – Luke shares early misunderstandings from masking and social fatigue 18:18 – How rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD) affected their communication
22:05 – Attachment styles & the over-/under-functioning dynamic
27:12 – Stay tuned for Part 2 in the next episode!
More About Luke & Lauren
Luke is a Mental Health Practitioner, and Lauren is a Mind-Body Practitioner. The heart of their work is guiding folks who have experienced trauma out of dysregulation and chronic symptoms into joy, connection, and whole-body abundance. Their work is neuro-affirming and abuse-informed. Together, they cohost the Filled to Flourish podcast, where they explore the complex journey of healing and wholeness, especially for those whose lives haven’t been what they expected. Luke and Lauren live with their kids and dogs in Chiang Mai, Thailand.
https://flourishtherapy.co/
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP!
Use Code "JODI" to Save 30% https://neurotranslator.ai
A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work? 💙 In this episode, a panel of neurodiverse relationship experts—therapists, coaches, and authors—share real insights and proven strategies to help neurodiverse couples thrive.
What You’ll Learn:
👉 Success stories from neurodiverse couples
👉 How nervous system regulation impacts relationships
👉 The role of language, expectations & teamwork
👉 Key strategies for overcoming challenges
Meet the Experts in This Episode:
🔹 Laura Schreiner – Licensed counselor (IL) specializing in neurodivergent individuals & couples. https://www.laurasnc.com/
🔹 Jana Smith – Resilience & nervous system coach, expert in chronic illness & Cassandra Syndrome recovery. https://www.janamsmith.com/
🔹 Natalie Roberts – Award-winning neurodiverse relationship coach, co-founder of Loving Difference & co-host of Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://natalieroberts.com/
🔹 Heather Parks – Somatic coach specializing in neurodiverse families, co-host of Loving Difference & Myth Busting Neurodiverse Relationships. https://heatherparks.co.uk/
🔹 Mona Kay, MSW, Ph.D. – Host of Neurodiverse Love Podcast, creator of Neurodiverse Love Conversation Cards & Workbook, and organizer of the Neurodiverse Love Conference. https://www.neurodiverselove.com/
🔹 Heidi Hackney – ICF-certified coach, mentor, & co-founder of Autistic Voiceover Artists (AVA), supporting autistic adults in the voiceover industry. https://thecan-docoach.com/
🔹 Dr. Stephanie C. Holmes – Autism researcher, ordained minister, author of Uniquely Us, and host of Neurodiverse Christian Couples Podcast. https://www.holmesasr.com/
🔹 Robin Tate, M.A., M.S., BCC, ACC, CAS – Neurodiverse couples coach, certified autism specialist, and founder of Robin Tate LLC. https://www.robintatellc.com/
🔹 Barbara Grant, MMFT, CAS, NDCC – Neurodiverse couples coach, co-host of Neurodiverse Couples Coaches Corner, and co-author of Uniquely Us. https://bg-hc.com/
🔹 Debbie King – Counselor specializing in neurodiverse relationships, trauma, & toxic family dynamics, offering global support via Zoom. https://www.facebook.com/WellingboroughCounsellor/
🔹 David Glick – Founder of Triad Psych in Marietta, GA, a clinic specializing in neurodiversity, learning disabilities, and ADHD. Former special education teacher with a Master's in Special Ed and Social Work, he has worked in the mental health field for over 20 years. https://triadpsych.org/
🔔 Subscribe & Follow for expert insights, personal stories, and actionable relationship advice.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! https://neurotranslator.ai A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
In part two of this inspiring episode, we continue our conversation with Michael & Elise Daniel and special guest Mona Kay, host of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast 🎙️, about an incredible AI-powered tool transforming neurodiverse relationships: NeuroTranslator 🧠💬
Michael, the creator of the NeuroTranslator Tool (formerly The Autistic Translator), shares how he developed this tool to help neurodiverse couples bridge communication gaps. We dive deep into how the NeuroTranslator Tool can translate misunderstandings, reduce conflict, and foster empathy in relationships where one or both partners are #autistic, #ADHD, or #neurotypical—turning frustration into connection.
📌 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
👉 The inspiration behind the NeuroTranslator Tool
👉 How the tool helps neurodiverse couples overcome misunderstandings
👉 Real-life success stories of how it’s used in Michael and Elise’s marriage
👉 Insights from Mona Kay on how tools like this can support neurodiverse love
Whether you’re in a neurodiverse relationship or simply interested in how technology can enhance emotional connection, this episode is packed with actionable takeaways and inspiration.
🌟 Try NeuroTranslator today and save 30% with promo code "JODI": https://neurotranslator.ai
Did you miss Episode 1 of the Podcast? Watch it here: https://youtu.be/F9FgwHSSgcA?feature=shared
Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more episodes! 🔔
autismandlove #adhdrelationships #communicationtools #relationshipadvice #neurodiversitytools ___________________
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent.
My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! https://neurotranslator.ai
A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
Season 5 - Episode 1, Part 1: In this exciting premiere episode (part 1 of 2), I’m joined by Michael and Elise Daniel, a neurodiverse couple who’ve faced significant challenges in their marriage due to miscommunication. Michael, a late-diagnosed autistic database analyst with a special interest in AI 🤖, shares how misunderstandings between him and Elise led to feelings of hurt for both partners. But rather than letting these challenges pull them apart, they used them as fuel to create a unique solution—a translator tool that transformed the way they communicate. 🛠️✨
I’m also joined by the incredible Mona Kay, host of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast 🎙️, to discuss the deeper dynamics of communication in neurodiverse relationships. Together, we explore how tools like Michael’s can bridge the gap between partners, fostering understanding, empathy, and connection. 💕
If you’ve ever felt like you and your partner are “speaking different languages,” this episode is for you! 🙌 Learn how small changes and creative solutions can lead to big breakthroughs. 🌟
Topics We Cover:
👉 The impact of miscommunication in neurodiverse relationships
👉 Michael’s journey to a late autism diagnosis and how it shaped their marriage
👉 How their translator tool works and how it’s helped their relationship thrive
👉 Insights from myself, #JodiCarlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert and Mona Kay on navigating neurodiverse love
🎥 Listen now and discover how neurodiverse couples can turn challenges into opportunities for deeper connection! Don’t forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more inspiring episodes. 🔔✨
More on Michael & Elise: Michael and Elise know first hand the challenges of neurodiverse communication. Michael is autistic, Elise is neurotypical, and they are parents to neurodivergent children - making their home a blend of different ways of thinking and communicating. As Michael began to unmask later in adulthood, he and Elise regularly found themselves misunderstanding each other, despite their best intentions. Small miscommunications led to painful frustrations, highlighting the invisible language barrier between their different neurotypes.
Determined to bridge this gap, Michael combined his expertise in AI with his personal experience at home to create "NeuroTranslator", an AI powered app designed to help autistic, ADHD, AuDHD and neurotypical individuals communicate more clearly with each other. What began as a personal project quickly went viral, resonating with thousands and gaining recognition from large media outlets like Reuters and The Washington Post. NeuroTranslator is now on a mission to help others navigate neurodiverse relationships, proving that true connection isn’t about speaking the same way, but about understanding each other.
Try NeuroTranslator today and save 30% with promo code "JODI": https://neurotranslator.ai
♥️ Check out the latest blog "What Makes Neurodiverse Last?" featuring Michael and Elise: https://jodicarlton.com/what-makes-neurodiverse-love-last/
AutismAndLove #ADHDRelationships #CommunicationTools #LateDiagnosisAutism #RelationshipAdvice ____________________________
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. Below are some of the neurodivergent resources
I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR: 🎉 Use Code JODI for 30% Off! A client once told me, "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. https://www.neurotranslator.ai/
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity!
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
This is Part 2 of my two-part series on #codependency in #neurodiverserelationships. In this video, I dive into why codependency tends to develop in these relationships and how you can start breaking the cycle.
If you haven't watched Part 1, where I discuss the 6 signs of codependency, be sure to check it out first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BlcRXJG3Uck
💡 Topics Covered in This Video:
00:30 Executive dysfunction and imbalance in shared responsibilities
01:57 Hyperfocus on harmony and avoiding conflict
02:25 Childhood conditioning and the role of peacemaking behaviors
04:05 Societal pressure to "fix" or normalize a partner’s behaviors
05:09 The two-way dynamic of taking on too much vs. avoiding responsibility
05:45 How to set healthy boundaries and encourage shared responsibility
07:52 Prioritizing self-care, open communication, and relationship balance
🛠️ Want to improve communication and reduce codependent behaviors? Check out my communication course at https://jodicarlton.com/courses/
🔔 Comment below with your thoughts and experiences—I’d love to hear from you! And if this video helps, like, subscribe, and hit the notification bell so you don’t miss future content.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
Codependency is a common yet often misunderstood pattern in neurodiverse relationships. In this video, Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert, explores six key signs of codependency in neurodiverse couples, how these dynamics develop, and why recognizing them is the first step toward building a healthier, more balanced relationship.
💡 Key Topics Covered:
01:30 Overcompensating for Executive Dysfunction
02:18 Emotional Over-Responsibility
02:55 Avoiding Personal Needs
03:36 Caretaking Instead of Partnership
04:00 The Cycle of Resentment and Guilt
04:54 Overexplaining in Relationships
06:40 Check Out Part 2: Why Codependency Happens in Neurodiverse Relationships
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tsx3y8Jhhpc
Whether one or both partners are #autistic, #ADHD, or otherwise neurodivergent, understanding these dynamics can help partners establish better boundaries, healthier communication, and mutual respect.
🔔 Watch Part 2 to dive deeper into why codependency develops in neurodiverse relationships and how to break the cycle: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tsx3y8Jhhpc Don't forget to like, subscribe, and turn on notifications so you don’t miss future insights! ____________________________
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts 💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
Valentine’s Day can bring excitement, pressure, or even confusion—especially in a neurodiverse relationship!
Whether you’re neurotypical, autistic, or have ADHD, understanding and communicating expectations for this day can make all the difference.
In this episode, I’ll walk you through:
✅ How neurodivergent and neurotypical partners may approach Valentine’s Day differently
✅ Common misunderstandings and emotional triggers
✅ Practical strategies for clear, pressure-free communication
✅ How to create a celebration (or skip it!) in a way that works for both of you
🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe for more insights into neurodiverse relationships!
NeurodiverseRelationships #ValentinesDay #CommunicationTips #Autism #ADHD #Relationships #JodiCarlton
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform . You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 Connect with me: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
Are you tired of traditional New Year’s resolutions that feel overwhelming or unrealistic? In this video, I’ll guide you through creating neurodiversity-friendly resolutions tailored to your unique strengths, challenges, and goals. Whether you’re neurodivergent yourself or supporting someone who is, these strategies will help you design resolutions that are achievable, empowering, and sustainable.
We’ll cover:
✔️ Breaking big goals into manageable steps
✔️ Using visual aids and reminders to stay on track
✔️ Prioritizing self-compassion over perfection
✔️ Embracing your strengths and working with your brain, not against it 💬 What are your goals for 2025? Share them in the comments below!
📺 Don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and hit the 🔔 for more tips on thriving in neurodiverse relationships and daily life. Let’s make 2025 your most authentic and fulfilling year yet! 🌟
Neurodiversity #NewYearsResolutions #Neurodivergent #ADHD #Autism #GoalSetting #selfgrowth
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
TRY THE NEW NEUROTRANSLATOR APP! A client once told me "I need JodiGPT." Well, this is as close as you're gonna get. This app provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you're in. Use it in your relationships to minimize conflict and understand each other better! Developed by Michael Daniel who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse marriage.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most. 🤩
CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity! Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
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The holidays can be challenging, especially in neurodiverse relationships. ☃️🎄🎅 In this sneak peek from my upcoming podcast season, Your Neurodiverse Relationship, I sit down with Ashley and Randall, a #neurodiversecouple, to talk about how they navigate #holidaystress
✨ From managing routines and avoiding surprises to creating backup plans and recovery days, Ashley and Randall share life-changing tips that have transformed their holidays and strengthened their relationship. Whether it’s using a code word like “mistletoe” to signal overwhelm or planning ahead for the unexpected, their insights are sure to inspire you.
🌟 Key Takeaways:
0:00 – Introduction: Sneak Peek of Podcast Season 5
1:01 – Meet Ashley and Randall: Tackling Holiday Challenges
1:22 – Why Surprises Are Stressful for Autistic Partners
2:33 – Gifts and Uncertainty: Finding Solutions 🎁
3:30 – The Importance of Routine During the Holidays
4:30 – Life Hack: Plan A, Plan B, Plan C for Social Events
5:30 – Using Code Words to Manage Overwhelm (e.g., "Mistletoe") 6:10 – Recovery Days: Essential for Managing Post-Holiday Stress 🛋️
7:12 – Jodi’s Holiday Course and Resources
👉 Don’t forget to subscribe to my channel and follow my podcast to catch the full episode when it airs next year! Need help navigating the holidays now? Check out my ‘Pay What You Can Afford’ Holiday Stress Buster Toolkit at https://jodicarlton.com/courses/
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an #autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
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Neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses how #CassandraSyndrome affects autistic partners in #neurodiverserelationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding both neurotypical and autistic experiences, highlighting that trauma can impact either partner. Learn about the double empathy problem, emotional isolation, and how these challenges can shape relationships.
00:00 Introduction: Cassandra Syndrome in Neurodiverse Relationships 01:03 Purpose of the Channel: Uniting, Not Dividing
02:28 Overview of Cassandra Syndrome
04:24 Addressing First Comment - "I'm a late diagnosed autistic woman married to a non-autistic man..."
04:44 Affirming the Autistic Experience of Trauma
05:36 Not All Partners (ND or NT) Experience Trauma
06:02 Addressing Second Comment - "Yeah. I definitely see this happening infinitely more for the autistic than the neurotypical..."
06:36 Us vs. Them
07:20 Let's Understand Each Other. Both Partners Can Experience Trauma 08:30 Addressing Last Comment - "In my experience, it not only depends on the cognitive empathy or the theory of mind and general emotional intelligence of the autistic partner but also the level..."
11:12 Final Thoughts: Cassandra Syndrome and Autistic Trauma
11:55 Share Your Experience in the Comments
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
In this solo podcast episode, #JodiCarlton delves into the intricacies of dating for both #autistic individuals and #neurotypicals dating someone on the spectrum. Drawing from my experiences with long-term couples, she emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags early on in relationships. Key topics include the dangers of not being your authentic self, patterns of harmful behavior, boundary issues, and intimacy misalignments. She also addresses the concept of capacity and developmental stunting in autistic partners and how these can manifest in relationships.
Additionally, she explores common justifications for staying in unhealthy relationships and the critical mistake of falling for someone's potential rather than their current reality. This episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the dating world, particularly in neurodiverse contexts, and provides valuable insights for setting up future generations for success in their relationships.
00:00 Introduction to Dating and Relationships
00:58 Recognizing Red Flags in Relationships
01:40 You've Become a Different Person
02:25 Understanding Codependency
04:03 Behavioral Patterns and Apologies
05:54 Communicating Boundaries Effectively
07:45 Intimacy and Alignment in Relationships
10:52 Emotional Availability and Capacity
12:49 Adolescent Development and Responsibility
18:27 Justifying Staying in a Relationship
28:00 Concluding Thoughts and Advice
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton
CassandraSyndrome is not an official diagnosis but is a descriptive term that refers to emotional pain and isolation experienced by a partner in an autistic-neurotypical relationship when their concerns, wishes, and experiences are overlooked or dismissed. Whether you're seeking clarity or looking for ways to strengthen your #neurodiverse relationship, this video provides valuable insights and support.
Check out our recent blog: https://jodicarlton.com/understanding-cassandra-syndrome-neurotypical-autistic-relationships/
00:00 Introduction to Cassandra Syndrome
00:08 Understanding Cassandra Syndrome
00:37 Neurodivergent Relationships and Brain Differences
03:03 Communication Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships
03:57 The Impact of Miscommunication
04:20 Cassandra Syndrome - Rooted in Greek Mythology
04:54 Emotional and Physical Effects on Neurotypical Partners
07:29 Why Autism Can Seem Like Narcissism
08:03 Impact Over Time
13:37 Healing from Cassandra Syndrome
13:44 Learn About Autism
14:43 Self-Care
16:13 Codependency in Your Relationship
18:06 Communication Skills Training
19:10 5 Ways to Heal from Cassandra Syndrome
20:52 Conclusion and Resources
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/ I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe. 📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more. Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
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Join Jodi Carlton, a #neurodiverse relationship expert, as she delves into the complexities of relationships where one or both partners experience life differently due to neurodiversity. Discover whether these relationships can work, the importance of understanding neurodiversity, and the key characteristics that help #neurodiverserelationships thrive.
Jodi shares insights on common misunderstandings and the crucial role of communication, offering guidance for couples to navigate their unique dynamics.
00:00 Introduction to Neurodiverse Relationships01:12 Understanding Neurodiversity in Relationships01:37 Common Challenges in Neurodiverse Relationships02:05 Examples of Misunderstandings03:29 Can Neurodiverse Relationships Work?04:36 Seeking Professional Help Check out our recent blog on this topic: https://jodicarlton.com/can-neurodiverse-relationships-work/
Here are a few neurodiverse couples who share their lives to help others learn more about neurodiversity and how to make neurodiverse relationships work 😊
https://www.youtube.com/@UCpwzLXW_VSfmKX3SuYXVDLg
https://www.youtube.com/@UCerYpTmasyCOuy9WH2qEeCg
https://www.youtube.com/@UCEcsiiGYa-LWV6GN48fSynQ
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are some of the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💬 TRY THE NEW AUTISTIC TRANSLATOR TOOL! https://autistictranslator.com/?via=jodi
Provides a detailed explanation of each neurotype's expectations and perspectives on any situation you enter at the prompt. Developed by Michael Daniel, who is autistic and wanted help in his own neurodiverse relationships.
💻 QUIZZES: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/
Take free quizzes about neurodivergence, autism, and toxic relationship dynamics, and learn which resources will benefit you the most.
🤩 CONSULTATIONS/COACHING: https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/
I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙️ PODCAST: https://jodicarlton.com/podcast
Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform.
You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COURSES: https://jodicarlton.com/courses
Work at your own pace in my self-study courses. Gain access to the world's first communication model that facilitates life-altering clarity and change. Discover if your partner or relationship is toxic and unsafe.
📖 BLOG: https://jodicarlton.com/blog
Browse through articles about executive functioning, masking, narcissism, communication, and so much more.
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
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Burnout is a common challenge faced by many, but it can manifest differently depending on whether you're living with #ADHD or #autism. In this video, we dive deep into the key differences between #autisticburnout and #ADHDburnout, exploring how they affect individuals, what recovery looks like, and the unique symptoms of each. Whether you're seeking to understand your own experiences or support a loved one, this video provides valuable insights to help you navigate these distinct forms of burnout 🧠❤️
00:00 Burnout Can Look Different Depending on Whether You're ADHD or Autistic
00:23 Overview of What is Burnout
00:37 What is Autistic Burnout
02:17 What is ADHD Burnout
03:18 What are the Key Differences Between Autistic Burnout and ADHD Burnout
03:30 Recovery Time for Autistic Burnout and ADHD Burnout
03:44 Burnout Symptoms
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit https://jodicarlton.com . . . 👩💼
Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships. I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/
🤩 COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/ Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
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Jodi Carlton discusses #executivefunctioning disorder, its impact on relationships, and how to recognize signs of #executivedysfunction in a partner. While not an official clinical diagnosis, executive dysfunction can cause a variety of challenges 😰
Jodi offers advice on paying attention to reactions, understanding the role of neurotransmitters like dopamine, and investigating underlying reasons behind behaviors. Practical relationship insights include managing expectations, recognizing emotional dysregulation, and addressing memory and organizational issues 🧠 The focus is on promoting understanding and finding coping strategies to improve relationships.
00:00 Introduction to Executive Functioning Disorder
00:31 Identifying Executive Dysfunction in Your Partner
02:58 Understanding the Role of Dopamine
05:12 Emotional Dysregulation and Misdiagnosis
06:49 Memory Problems and Impulsivity
08:11 Organizational Challenges
10:13 Coping Strategies and Conclusion
0:00 How Do I Know if My Spouse is Struggling with Executive Functioning
To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:
https://jodicarlton.com/executive-functioning-in-neurodiverse-relationships/
https://jodicarlton.com/how-types-of-executive-functioning-impact-neurodiverse-relationships/
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit https://jodicarlton.com
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent.
My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/take-a-quiz/ 🤩 COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it here on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/ Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thejodicarlton/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejodicarlton/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejodicarlton LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jodicarlton/
In this bonus episode, Jodi Carlton explains how social connections can improve mental health, reduce stress, and offer different perspectives that benefit both partners in a relationship.
00:00 Introduction to Neurodiverse Relationships
00:0 The Importance of Social Life for Neurodivergent Individuals
00:29 Benefits of Social Connections
02:54 Practical Tips for Neurotypical Partners
03:31 Balancing Time Together and Apart
04:22 Respecting Boundaries and Open Communication
05:38 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com
Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on neurodiversity!
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/
🤩 COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coaching/
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it here on YouTube https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
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LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Executive dysfunction creates many challenges in household management for neurodiverse couples. In this bonus episode, neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, provides some useful tips and strategies that she uses in her own neurodivergent household.
To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:
https://jodicarlton.com/how-types-of-executive-functioning-impact-neurodiverse-relationships/
https://jodicarlton.com/executive-functioning-in-neurodiverse-relationships/
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM #NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ 🤩
COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coach...
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
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Let's understand the 8 types of #executivefunctioning in #neurodiverse relationships. Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert, explains what executive functioning is and how it impacts #neurodiversecouples when one or both partners experience executive function challenges 🧠👫👬👭
0:00 What is Executive Functioning?
01:11 1. Planning and Organizing
03:30 2. Time Management
07:32 3. Working Memory
12:44 4. Self-Monitoring
16:28 5. Emotional Regulation
19:40 6. Cognitive Flexibility
24:41 7. Task Initiation
26:55 8. Inhibition Control (Impulsivity)
30:58 Dealing with Executive Dysfunction
To learn more about executive functioning in neurodiverse relationships, check out our latest blogs:
https://jodicarlton.com/how-types-of-executive-functioning-impact-neurodiverse-relationships/
https://jodicarlton.com/executive-functioning-in-neurodiverse-relationships/
For more resources like articles, podcasts, and online courses, visit me at https://jodicarlton.com Don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe for more insights on #neurodiversity!
👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM #NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
Below are the neurodivergent resources I offer:
💻 QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: https://jodicarlton.com/courses/ 🤩
COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. https://jodicarlton.com/private-coach...
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast. It's been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform https://jodicarlton.com/podcast/. You can also watch it on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@JodiCarlton/podcasts
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. https://jodicarlton.com/courses/relationship-2-0-crack-the-communication-code/
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
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In this bonus episode, Neurodiversity Nuggets, Jodi Carlton, an expert in neurodiverse relationships, discusses a personal story shared by a listener about weight loss surgery and the emotional impact of her husband's comments. Jodi provides insight into the literal thinking often found in neurodiverse relationships and emphasizes the importance of self-confidence and not placing the responsibility of our insecurities on others.
00:00 Welcome to Neurodiversity Nuggets with Jodi Carlton
00:39 Q & A: Neurodiverse Relationships
01:17 Understanding and Managing Insecurities in Relationships
02:16 The Importance of Self-Confidence and Ownership in Personal Security
03:43 Embracing Individual Responsibility for Emotional Well-being
Visit me online to access my course, Crack the Communication Code, which was designed specifically for neurodiverse partners and couples.
http://crackthecommunicationcode.com
neurodiverserelationships #neurodiversecommunication #autisticrelationshipproblems #autisticwife #autistichusband #neurodiverserelationshipcounseling #jodicarlton
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am ADHD and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I have also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships, and have an autistic daughter and ADHD son. Through the years I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
NARCISSISTIC ABUSE: I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood. Narcissism and autism are completely different, but can often have similar confusion characteristics. A relationship with an autistic partner often has potential for fulfillment with coaching and guidance whereas a relationship with a narcissist is a dead end of toxic abuse. My subspecialty is helping men and women who need help figuring out their own partners.
QUIZZES: Take free quizzes at: http://jodicarlton.com
COACHING: I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
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Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Are you asking yourself, "How do I tell my wife she's autistic?" People regularly book consultation with me asking this question - I get it in the comments too.
In this video I share what I tell my clients.
Neurodiversity in relationships can be confusing, and if you think your wife or your partner is autistic (some still use the term Aspergers), then you need an informed strategy for how to bring this up to her!
00:00 In troduction to Neurodiverse Relationship Advice
00:04 Suspecting Autism in a Partner
00:51 Why Directly Suggesting Autism Can Be Problematic
03:47 Approaching Differences with Sensitivity and Understanding
05:00 Conclusion: Embracing Neurodiversity in Relationships
Does your marriage have the common traits of couples that end up in divorce? In this video, Jodi Carlton, neurodiverse relationship expert, emphasizes how an antagonistic dynamic within a relationship, where one partner must win and the other lose, is a red flag. She stresses the importance of addressing underlying issues and misunderstandings, particularly in autism spectrum relationships. Jodi also discusses the problem of trying to control your partner or the relationship.
00:00 A Harsh Reality
00:21 Understanding Antagonism in Relationships
01:03 The Cycle of Conflict and Control
01:58 Navigating Autism Spectrum Relationships
02:20 Tools for Communication and Rebuilding
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Everyone, whether neurodiverse or neurotypical, uses some form of masking or filter as a part of their social interactions. In this bonus episode, I share a personal story about my autistic daughter's masking strategy, called 'inside face and outside face', which she uses to manage her social interactions.
00:00 Introduction to Masking in Neurodiverse Relationships
00:45 Understanding Masking: A Personal Story
02:30 Masking as a Filter: A Deeper Dive
03:48 Masking in Different Contexts: Professional vs Personal
04:37 Unmasking at Home: The Safe Zone
08:15 The Impact of Masking on Relationships
08:33 The Role of Scripts in Masking
11:10 The Importance of Authenticity in Relationships
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Let’s talk about the significance of openly discussing sexuality and intimacy with our partners, particularly in neurodiverse relationships. In this video, I address common hurdles such as misunderstandings, unfounded assumptions, and the way past traumas can cloud our interactions. I stress the importance of reflective listening, nurturing curiosity, and recognizing our partner's unique perspective to foster a stronger connection and enhance sexual satisfaction.
00:00 Introduction to Intimacy Conversations
00:34 Understanding Personal Perspectives on Sexuality
01:33 Cultural and Social Influences on Sexuality
02:29 Challenges of Modern Sexuality and Media Influence
04:02 Navigating Expectations and Roles in Intimacy
06:07 The Importance of Communication and Understanding in Relationships
09:34 Addressing Personal Trauma and Misunderstandings
11:24 Taking Responsibility and Making Positive Changes
12:44 Clarifying Definitions and Expectations in Sexual Relationships
13:45 Conclusion: Hope for Improvement and Change
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
This bonus clip highlights a personal story of someone struggling in their relationship with a boyfriend who has Asperger's. Despite receiving counseling, the relationship faces recurring issues such as explosive behavior and silent treatments from the autistic partner.
00:00 Introduction: Meet Jodi Carlton, Neuro Diverse Relationship Expert
00:08 A Viewer's Struggle: Reconnecting with an Asperger's Ex-Partner
00:31 The Cycle of Hope and Disappointment
01:09 Understanding Codependency in Relationships
02:15 The Challenge of Change and Communication
03:33 Educational Advice: Learning About Autism and Improving Communication
04:19 The Importance of Self-Reflection in Neurodiverse Relationships
This is the final episode in a five-part series, Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships, where my co-host, Mona Kay, talks with me about steps for addressing relationship challenges to find a path forward. We share personal stories and insights into the challenges we faced in our own marriages.
In this episode, we specifically discuss how inappropriate hope is such a common problem for partners and couples, and how other obstacles like low self-worth and chasing dead-ends lead to increasing distress and antagonism in neurodiverse relationships.
The final step navigating your neurodiverse relationship involves evaluating all of your choices and options and implementing changes for yourself. No more staying stuck.
Let us help you get out of the quicksand to determine a real path forward!
00:00 Season 4:: Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships
00:28 The Five Key Step
01:37 The Final Episode: Step Five - Figuring Out a Path Forward
04:03 Inappropriate Hope
12:17 Healing and Moving Forward
20:52 Finding Happiness and Peace
26:12 Concluding Thoughts and Resources for Neurodiverse Couples
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
In the 5th episode or a 5-part series, Jodi Carlton and her co-host, Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, delve into the personal experiences and critical insights into Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships. They provide a retrospective look at their marriages, both of which ended after two decades, and clarify that their mission is not to advocate for divorce but to assist individuals in understanding their relationships and exploring options for moving forward. This episode covers various unconventional solutions they considered in their attempts to save their marriages. The episode underscores the importance of identifying and evaluating options within neurodiverse relationships and the necessity of making informed decisions that are best for all parties involved. Jodi and Mona share their processes of coming to terms with the reality of their situations and the steps they took towards healthier futures for themselves and their families.
00:00 Exploring Neurodiverse Relationships
01:06 Power of Personal Journeys
02:16 The Support Group: Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship
02:49 The Impact of Hearing from Different Neurotypes
06:54 Exploring Options in Neurodiverse Relationships
09:25 Discovering Creative Solutions
14:01 The Challenges of Traditional Marriage Expectations
18:46 The Role of External Changes in Relationship Dynamics
23:30 Understanding Individual and Collective Needs in a Relationship
25:20 Navigating External Pressures and Internal Choices
28:01 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Relationships
31:13 The Journey to Self-Discovery and Healing
36:03 Healing, Regulation, and Moving Forward
41:16 Reflecting on Parenting, Mistakes, and Growth
45:52 Concluding Thoughts on Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Relationship challenges are like icebergs; what you see on the surface is just a fraction of what lies beneath. If you don’t look underneath the surface to uncover all of what is contributing to the problems, your chances aren’t good for navigating your way to a fulfilling relationship.
In this episode of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship,” Mona and I share our own mistakes that ultimately contributed to sinking our relationship.
Our goal is to help you figure out the root issues that are well beneath the surface of your problems as a couple. Otherwise, you’ll just keep putting that temporary fix on things. Your relationship and your quality of life will slowly deteriorate, and your ship will sink.
00:00 Episode 3 of “Navigating Your Neurodiverse Relationship”
02:17 Reflections and Realizations
03:21 Identifying Problems and Non-Negotiables in Your Relationship
05:47 The Power of Support Groups
07:56 Our Personal Stories of Growth and Healing
10:48 The Challenges of Communication and Understanding in Neurodiverse Couples
20:04 Learning from the Past: Identifying and Addressing Relationship Problems
26:20 Navigating Differences in Values in Relationships
31:31 Recognizing and Addressing Unhealthy Relationship Dynamics
33:21 Exploring Apology Languages and Relationship Dynamics
34:45 The Impact of Neurodiversity on Apologies and Understanding
36:13 Therapy Experiences and the Quest for Solutions
39:54 Unpacking the Emotional Baggage from Family Histories
44:25 Learning from Past Relationships and Moving Forward
53:15 Identifying Deal Breakers
01:04:59 Looking Ahead: Determining Choices and Options
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Mona and I delve into the necessity of 'stopping the bleed' when your relationship is stuck and has become hopeless. We address the most damaging issues in relationships by sharing our own personal stories and insights from being in neurodiverse marriages for over two decades. Mona and I discuss the importance of recognizing and stopping toxic cycles, the benefits of both individual and couple's therapy, and the transformative impact of setting boundaries on personal health and relationship dynamics.
Featuring co-host Mona Kay from the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, this is Episode 2 (Season 4) of the YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship podcast. This 5-part series is about navigating relationship challenges to figure out a path forward.
00:00 Welcome to Episode 2: Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships
00:28 The Five Key Steps for Relationship Challenges
01:35 Episode Overview: Stopping the Bleed
03:59 The Support Group
04:49 Exploring Personal Stories and Insights
15:57 Exploring Boundaries and Codependency
26:00 The Impact of Communication Styles and Trust Issues
26:57 Understanding Neurodiversity in Relationships
27:41 The Importance of Individual Therapy
36:00 Setting Boundaries for Safety and Emotional Well-being
46:23 The Physical and Mental Health Consequences of Relationship Stress
48:24 Looking Ahead: Making Difficult Decisions
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
In this 5-episode podcast series, I (Jodi Carlton, a neurodiverse relationship expert), and Mona Kay of the Neurodiverse Love Podcast, share very personal experiences from our own marriages to neurodiverse partners. We share a five-step approach for assessing relationship challenges and navigating a path forward. The podcast covers toxic dynamics, the importance of understanding neurodiversity in relationships, and offers support and strategies for communication, connection, and making difficult relationship choices. By sharing our journeys and insights, Mona and I aim to help you feel seen, understood, and less alone in your own neurodiverse relationships, but also to give you a framework for navigating your own neurodiverse relationship.
00:00 Welcome to Season Four: Navigating YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship
01:46 Introducing the Support Group: A Safe Space for All Neurotypes
04:41 Decision Making in Neurodiverse Relationships
06:22 Understanding the Stages of Assessing Relationship Challenges
11:14 Triage: Assessing the Risk in Your Relationship
16:41 Reflecting on Personal Experiences with Neurodiversity and Relationships
26:36 The Importance of Assessing Needs and Risks in Relationships
29:39 Unpacking the Past: Stories of Miscommunication and Conflict
30:17 The Christmas Eve Incident: A Tale of Family Dynamics
32:27 Navigating Neurodivergence and Codependency
33:47 The Shift from Romance to Reality
35:30 Unveiling Incompatibilities
40:19 Recognizing Red Flags and Toxicity
52:08 The Journey to Self-Recognition and Healing
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
In season four of 'YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship' podcast, Jodi Carlton teams up with Mona Kay from the “Neurodiverse Love” podcast to dive deep into personal experiences and professional insights on managing neurodiverse relationships. They discuss five key steps for assessing relationship challenges, whether it involves working together with a partner for a better connection or realizing it's time to part ways. With over two decades of experience in neurodiverse marriages, they share their own stories of navigating love, making tough decisions, and finding strategies that might be non-traditional but effective. This season aims to make listeners feel seen, understood, and less alone in their experiences. The first episode airs on Wednesday, March 20th.
00:00 Welcome to Season Four: Exploring Neurodiverse Relationships
00:14 Introducing the Co-Host and Our Mission
00:31 Five Key Steps for Navigating Relationship Challenges
00:58 Personal Journeys: Learning from Our Own Relationships
01:15 The Importance of Sharing Vulnerable Experiences
01:35 Join Us for the Journey
Debunking the Myth that Everyone is Narcissistic
Jodi Carlton, a neurodiversity expert and relationship coach who also specializes in personality disorders, addresses a dangerous myth that everyone has narcissistic traits. She emphasizes the distinction between common human behaviors and the destructive characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder. Jodi highlights specific traits exclusive to narcissism, such as enjoying others' pain for personal gain and manipulating others by playing the victim. Her message clarifies how this myth minimizes the impact on individuals who are abused by narcissists, and aims to educate listeners on the true nature of narcissistic behavior versus normal human flaws and dysfunction.
00:00 Introduction
00:10 Debunking the Myth: Everyone is Narcissistic
00:42 Understanding Human Traits vs Narcissistic Traits
01:02 Identifying Narcissistic Traits
01:36 The Narcissist's Use of Victimhood
01:58 Power and Control in Narcissism
02:15 Conclusion: We're Not All a Little Bit Narcissistic
Autism, Narcissism, and Dangerous Myths
In this episode, neurodiversity expert and relationship coach Jodi Carlton explains the distinctions and potential comorbidity between autism and narcissistic personality disorder. She emphasizes that while both conditions can exist in the same individual, they are fundamentally unrelated, with autism being neurodevelopmental and genetic, and narcissism being potentially linked to genetics and social learning. Jodi dispels dangerous myths suggesting that narcissistic traits are universal, pointing out the unique and harmful characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder that differentiate it from common human behaviors. She highlights the risks posed by individuals who exhibit both autism and extreme narcissism, including their potentially destructive actions and lack of regard for others' wellbeing.
00:00 Introduction
00:10 Understanding Autism and Narcissism: A Comparative Analysis
00:38 The Dangers of Autistic Narcissists
01:12 Human Traits vs Narcissistic Traits
01:35 The Myth of Universal Narcissism
01:46 The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse
02:27 Identifying Narcissistic Traits
03:23 The Power Dynamics of Narcissism
03:40 Conclusion
Neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses the issue of lying within autism, particularly in relationships. She explains that most people will tell 'little white lies' to avoid confrontation in an antagonistic relationship, and highlights the need for communication and resolving conflicts that can lead to lying. Jodi distinguishes between 'manipulative lying' and lying to avoid conflict, noting that the latter is more common amongst individuals on the spectrum. She suggests addressing any existing parental dynamic in which one partner might feel like they need to lie to avoid trouble.
00:00 Neurodiverse Relationships and Lying
00:50 Understanding White Lies in Relationships
01:32 When Couples Have a Parental-Child Dynamic
01:46 An Example of Lying to Avoid Conflict
02:17 Differentiating Between Types of Lies
02:46 Recognizing and Addressing Lying in Relationships
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube.
https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares a tip about improving communication with your autistic partner. Autistic individuals think in images more than in words, so using images like photos instead of texting words can be much more effective in communicating requests to an autistic partner or family member.
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
AUTISM QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Neurodiverse Relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares a tip about improving communication with your autistic partner. Autistic individuals think in images more than in words, so using images like photos instead of texting words can be much more effective in communicating requests to an autistic partner or family member.
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Neurodiverse relationship expert, Jodi Carlton, shares advice on handling emotional responses in neurodiverse relationships. Jodi emphasizes the importance of acknowledging the validity of emotions from both partners, and discusses the problems that arise when fight or flight responses overwhelm the conversation and issues are not resolved. She suggests ways to manage interactions that are triggering in order to have safe conversations. Jodi highlights the key roles of reflective listening, avoiding judgment, and understanding that differing opinions and perspectives do not alter the value or feelings of each partner.
00:00 A YouTube Comment
00:52 Validity of Emotions in Relationships
01:12 The Problem of Unresolved Conflict
02:23 The Importance of Safe Conversations
03:20 The Solution: How To Handle Emotional Triggers
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙
PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
In the bonus episode, explore the crucial aspects of setting boundaries and recognizing deal-breakers in neurodiverse relationships. Discover the importance of conveying both physical and emotional limits to your partner and learn strategies for explaining your responses to specific actions without trying to control your partner. Hear about the importance of teaching children about setting boundaries and feeling safe within their boundaries.
00:00 Introduction
00:17 Understanding Boundaries in Relationships
01:12 The Difference Between Boundaries and Control
01:46 Setting Boundaries in Response to Negative Behavior
02:00 Teaching Boundaries to Children
02:46 Challenges of Setting Boundaries with Smart Kids
03:06 Conclusion: Modeling Boundary Setting
Recently, someone reached out to me on my YouTube channel and asked for more videos about autistic gay men. So, I want to shed some light on the topic.
It's important to understand that when it comes to neurodiversity and neurodiverse relationships, sexuality is not a determining factor. Regardless of whether someone is gay, heterosexual, or identifies with any other sexual orientation, their autistic traits remain the same. Autism is a part of who they are, and it doesn't change based on their sexual orientation.
In fact, the insights and advice I provide apply to all kinds of neurodiverse relationships. Whether it's a friendship, a coworker relationship, or a parent-child relationship, the principles of understanding and supporting neurodiversity remain relevant. The key is to apply what you learn here to your own relationships because at the core, autism is autism, irrespective of sexual orientation.
In this bonus episode, #neurodiverserelationship expert Jodi Carlton discusses a YouTube viewer's comment that details severe abuse in a past relationship with an 'undiagnosed autistic man'. Jodi empathizes with the viewer but stresses the importance of distinguishing between autism and narcissistic, abusive behavior. She explains that individuals with autism are not inherently abusive, whereas those with a #personalitydisorder can be. Jodi points out that the difficulty of autistic
individuals to recognize their partners’ distress does not make them abusive although it can feel like it to partners. She also highlights the importance of listening to gut instincts about personal safety if you are in a questionable relationship.
To watch the video on YouTube, visit: https://youtu.be/vZjDrNXDaoA
00:01 Introduction and Viewer's Comment
00:12 The Commenter's Relationship Experience
01:44 Jodi Carlton's Response and Clarification
02:25 Understanding Autism vs Narcissism
03:39 The Traits of Autistic Individuals
04:31 The Pattern of Abusive Behaviors
05:03 Advice for Those in Similar Situations
05:53 Conclusion and Resources
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙
PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁♀️
COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
BONUS Episode: Neurodiversity Nugget
What happens in some relationships is in the beginning, there was this chemistry, there was this connection, and it was great. There is often a lot happening there physically.
Some of that greatness, though, was your own perception of greatness that was influenced by what you hoped for and wanted. When you are looking for confirmation that the relationship is good, you are more likely to perceive it as a good experience.
You may actually miss how your partner is perceiving it, and have totally different memories and narratives about your sex life.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
❤️ My ground-breaking communication program facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity.
🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME:
Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
This clip is from a Q & A where a neurotypical partner asked how to handle social outings with friends when you each have different preferences about socializing. I share a tip for how to manage this so both of you are satisfied.
👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
❤️ My ground-breaking communication program facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity.
🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Men and women often have very different #neurodivergent traits and the criteria for #autism was originally developed based on men. In this video, I discuss some of the unique differences in men and women.
autism #neurodivergent #autisticwomen #autisticmen #neurodiverserelationships
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
❤️ My ground-breaking communication program facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity.
🗣 CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME:
Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
In this video, originally recorded for an audience of women in relationships with #autistic men on the spectrum, I discuss SOME of the main characteristics of being in a #NeurodiverseRelationship. Women on the spectrum may also have some of these characteristics, but this video is specifically for neurotypical partners in relationships with men.
Take my autism assessment at jodicarlton.com
autismsigns #neurodivergent #signsofautism #asd #autismtest #jodicarlton #aspergers #aspergersinmen
Getting blindsided in any kind of relationship is horrible, whether it's a dating relationship, well into a marriage, a friendship, or A working relationship. It never feels good to feel blindsided.
In actuality, we oftentimes get in our own way in being able to see who people really are.
Sometimes it's hard to know how to make decisions about the people we meet - friendships, dating relationships - and we don't know how to keep ourselves safe. We don't know how to identify a healthy relationship.
I'm Jodi Carlton, and I'm an adult neurodiversity expert, but I also specialize in working with people to recognize when they're in abusive relationships.
I'm going to give you three tips to help you keep yourself safe and avoid getting blindsided.
For more resources or to work with me, visit me online at: jodicarlton.com
When neurodiverse partners have different thresholds for household tasks and even relationship involvement, it is common for a "parent-child" dynamic to emerge. One partner takes on an authoritative role that issues directives, and the other becomes more child-like waiting on tasks to be assigned (and sometimes resisting to follow through). This type of dynamic does NOT work in any relationship. In this BONUS clip, I discuss why, and how to address it in your relationship. For more comprehensive guidance with your relationship difficulties, access my communication course: Crack The Communication Code at JodiCarlton.com
A #traumatic accident turned this #neurodiverse relationship completely around. Tune in to this final episode of Season 3 to hear how Kristen's marriage has changed thanks to hard work and a complete mindset shift.
autistic #neurodivergent #trauma #therapy #jodicarlton #podcast
YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast; Season 3 - Episode 13
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. • Podcast: YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Being in #toxicrelationship that never improve is like making a lifelong commitment to #dysfunction. In a #neurodiverserelationship, each partner can be a #toxicpartner.
In part 2 of this episode of "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, Barbara Grant a neurodiverse relationship coach talks with me about the pitfalls that block success for couples. Today is part two of my discussion with Barbara Grant, who is also a #neurodiversity coach and a relationship therapist. If you missed part one, be sure and go back and listen to it. Our conversation has been really great from the perspective of therapists who also have had neurodiverse marriages and other relationships with people who are neurodiverse. We talk about being in those relationships, but also the challenges of therapy and coaching for couples and also for therapists.
Find Barbara at: https://hopeforcouples.net
If you are a therapist or coach who works with neurodiverse individuals and couples, email me at gethelp@jodicarlton.com to inquire about joining my Neurodiverse Professional Peer Support and Referral Network
divorce #neurodivergent #autistic #marriagecounseling #therapist
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, anxiety, depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my autistic daughter and ADHD son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
In this episode of the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, my guest, Barbara Grant, and I discuss insights about #counseling and #therapy for that will benefit both therapists and couples.
Part 2 of this podcast episodes airs on Wed, Aug 16, 2023.
Season 3, Episode 11 airs Wed, Aug 2nd here on YouTube and on your favorite podcast platform! https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
Barbara Grant is a Certified Autism Specialist, ADHD and Neurodiverse Couples Coach, finishing her Masters in MFT (Marriage and Family Therapy.) She has been a therapeutic and spiritual coach since 2005, working with individuals, couples, and groups. Her current neurodiverse neurotypical couples coaching practice also focuses on individuals and families, as well as on offering neurotypical partners and family members support through online therapeutic groups. While she is neurotypical, but has 64+ years of experience with close family members who are neurodiverse. She utilizes her experience to provide clients with compassion, understanding and HOPE. As part of the neurodiverse professional community, she is excited about participating in the ongoing dialog about how to best support and strengthen neurodiverse people and their relationships. Visit Barbara online: https://bg-hc.com/
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, anxiety, depression, and abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my autistic daughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more.
COACHING: Get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change.
🎙 PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it here on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR 💁♀️
COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Melissa, #ADHD wife to an #autistic husband gets raw and vulnerable about her faith and how her traditional Christian background has affected them as adults and in their own relationship. Season 3, Episode 10: "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast" #neurodivergent #christianfaith #faith #religious #jodicarlton #aspie #aspergers
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Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton, a leading world expert on adult #neurodiverserelationship dynamics and interpersonal #communication. I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a #therapist and #relationshipcoach specializing in #autism, #ADHD, #anxiety, #depression, and #abuse. I am #trauma certified and trained in Accelerated Resolution Therapy and hypnosis.
MY PERSONAL STORY: Although I have professional counselor education and training, my life experiences in my own neurodiverse marriage, as a parent to my #autisticdaughter and #adhd son, and my relationships with other neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground. I am also a survivor of narcissistic abuse and have experienced the narc abuse cycle in multiple relationships. I have battled and healed from the codependency that results from having an abusive childhood.
QUIZZES: I have developed customized quizzes for you to identify traits of neurodiversity as well as toxic personality traits in partners. Take a free quiz at: http://jodicarlton.com
COMPREHENSIVE RELATIONSHIP EVALUATION: Assesses both partners to highlight unique traits and characteristics in areas such as personality, sensory processing, logic & reasoning, empathy, memory, problem-solving, and more. This data reveals how a couple's differences are affecting their relationship. The purpose is not to identify one partner as "abnormal," but to understand how partners are different from one another.
COACHING: My mission is to help you get clarity about yourself and your relationships to make informed choices, heal from your own pain, and improve your overall quality of life. I coach individuals, couples, and families worldwide using a solution-focused approach that results in life-altering answers and real change. 🎙
PODCAST: Listen to the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship" podcast, which has been downloaded in over 70 countries on your favorite podcast platform or watch it on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
💁♀️ COMMUNICATION COURSE: The world's first program that facilitates life-altering clarity and change for neurodiverse partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. http://CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more and for more resources.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE: YouTube: @jodicarlton Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
ADHD wife and mom to a #neurodivergent husband and daughter, Melissa shares how she struggled for years with considering leaving her marriage. After becoming educated about neurodiversity, and developing tools and skills for #communication, she realized that it's worth it to stay. She shared with me her #relationshipproblems, but also the joys and wonderful moments, as well as her personal growth that has resulted in happiness and freedom! Watch the full episode on YouTube (@jodicarlton) or listen on your favorite podcast platform.
neurodiverserelationship #communicationskills #therapist #autismdiagnosis #adhdmom #autismfamily #jodicarlton
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
💁♀️ My ground-breaking program for neurodiverse relationships, facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
❤️️ Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME and SUBSCRIBE:
YouTube: @jodicarlton
Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Neurodivergent wife and coach, Christie Ellis shared with me her own journey through tremendous pain and suffering and how her life has been enriched because of her experiences. Christie has incredible insights about how emotions inform us, and how #neurodiverserelationship partners can improve #communication and connection.
This is episode 8, part 2 of my chat with Christie, on Season 3 of the "YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship."
Watch all episodes at: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLSyXJdjUav7pSwpq7nmSdEQZMwiI3eqHR
neurodiverserelationship #suicidalthought #autismsigns #autisticwoman #adhd #neurodiversewoman #communicationskills #relationshipproblems #jodicarlton
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
💁♀️ My ground-breaking program for neurodiverse relationships, facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
❤️️ Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
My guest today is Christie Ellis. Christie is neurodivergent herself. She's a wife, a friend, and a daughter and she's killing it in the business sector. She's created five businesses, including Phoenix Story Coaching, where she provides science-grounded coaching for individuals and businesses. She figures out repetitive thought and behavior patterns that aren't working for people and works with her clients to build new patterns and achieve goals. Christie is certified in positive psychology, behavior change, mindfulness-based stress reduction, and coaching.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about #yourneurodiverserelationship dynamics.
💁♀️ My ground-breaking program for neurodiverse relationships, facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown.
❤️️ Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. 🌐
Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
This week's episode's guest is Laura Schreiner. Laura has a Master of Science degree in Clinical Psychology, is a Nationally Certified Licensed Professional Counselor, and holds certification in Neurodiverse Couples Therapy with the Asperger/Autism Network (AANE).
Laura shares with me about her journey as a neurotypical wife, and the discovery of neurodivergence in her marriage. Visit her online at: www.laurasnc.com
If you're really enjoying this podcast, please don't forget to leave us a review because it really matters in how these podcast platforms deliver podcasts to people like you. Be sure to subscribe if you're watching on YouTube to make sure you get updates on all the latest videos that I publish there.___________________👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. 📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment. 🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarltonYouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
This week's episode is part two of my conversation with Gwen Janssen. So if you missed part one, go back and listen to the last episode that was aired two weeks ago. Gwen and I had so much to talk about it was too much to put into one episode. Today, she really gets personal about her own relationships and how being neurodiverse has affected her relationships in dating, but also family relationships and friendships. Also, if you're really enjoying this podcast, please don't forget to leave us a review because it really matters in how these podcast platforms deliver podcasts to people like you. Be sure to subscribe if you're watching on YouTube to make sure you get updates on all the latest videos that I publish there.___________________👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. 📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment. 🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarltonYouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
My guest today is Gwen Janssen. She's a nurse and an adjunct professor, and a long time leader with over 16 years in healthcare. Gwen was diagnosed with ADHD in her early thirties. She has two master's degrees and a doctorate in progress. Leadership is her passion. She founded the END Institute, Excellence In Neurodiversity after her diagnosis as a way to help educate and advocate for other neurodiverse professionals and leaders. Gwen focuses heavily on creating spaces for psychological safety and development based on the unique strengths and support needs of the neurodiverse community. She's also the author of "ADHD, How To Go From Powerless Professional to Powerhouse Leader," which is due out in May of 2023.___________________ 👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. 📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment. 🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarltonYouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Did you know that April is autism awareness month? So in honor of all of you that are listeners here, I'm hosting my first ever "Pick Your Price" event. If you've been listening to this podcast or watching my videos for any time at all, you've heard me talk about the communication program that I developed for my own neurodiverse relationships. It's been life-altering for so many people, and I really want to make it available to you even if money is kind of tight. It's called " Crack the Communication Code."
This program is normally $175, but I'm offering it to you right now for whatever you want to pay. So, that means you can get it for free or pay whatever you feel like you can afford. Or if you've really been benefiting from this podcast, you can make a generous contribution that will help me to continue producing podcasts and courses to continue helping you and so many others.
So to access it today. Go to JodiCarlton.com
My guest in episode 3 today is David Glick, a neurodivergent therapist, and coach who has decades of experience working with autistic individuals, couples, and families. David is a highly respected professional here in the Atlanta area where I am based, and I am thrilled that he is moving into the coaching space where people worldwide can access his help.
You can reach out to David and Triad Psych at https://triadpsych.org/.
My special guest today is Dr. Kerry Magro. Kerry is an award-winning autistic professional speaker and a bestselling author. 📍 He was recently an autism consultant to the HBO series, "Mrs. Fletcher" which aired in the fall of 2019, and a consultant to the latest season of Netflix's, Emmy award-winning series, "Love On the Spectrum." Kerry has spoken at over 1200 events, including two Ted talks and a "Talks at Google" presentation. In addition, Kerry is CEO and president of KFM Making a Difference, a nonprofit organization that hosts inclusion events and has provided a hundred scholarships for students with autism for college since 2011. As if he's not busy enough, Kerry also hosts a Facebook page, Kerry's Autism Journey, that has over 200,000 followers. Kerry works with a wide range of individuals and a wide range of therapists, educators, and parents who are serving the disability community or have a child who has a disability. His best-selling books have reached Amazon bestseller lists for special needs parenting and I'm very grateful that he decided to join us on the show today. Get a copy of Kerry's book, Autism and Falling In Love: The One That Got Away on Amazon: bit.ly/407LWHF Follow Kerry on social media:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kerry.magroInstagram: @autisticprofessionalspeakerTikTok: @kerrymagroLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kerrymagro/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@KerrysAutismJourney
Let's talk about masking! Episode #1 of Season 3 features Wendy, a neurodivergent wife to a neurodivergent husband, and mom to neurodivergent kiddos. She is a moderator in my Mixed Neurotype Facebook Group (search Jodi Carlton on Facebook) and follower of the podcast. Wendy asked me to have a conversation with her about masking, which is a topic that comes up frequently in conversations about neurodiversity. Wendy shares her own personal experiences and insights about masking, and the strategies she uses in social interactions. Wendy has lived most of her adult life without knowing about her neurodiversity. Watch the full episode on YouTube at YouTube.com/@JodiCarlton.
Holiday Stressbuster Toolkit for Mixed Neurotype Couples: jodicarlton.com/holidays Holiday gatherings and traditions can create some of the most memorable moments for couples to cherish for a lifetime, but this time of year can also be full of anxiety and stress, especially for mixed neurotype couples. If you feel stressed just reading this list, then I have something for you! * Changes in Work and Kid Routines * Social Gatherings * Family Gatherings * Work Gatherings * Travel * Gift Expectations * Blended Families * Sounds, Smells, Foods, Crowds
With the right tools and preparation, you can enjoy the festivities while keeping your relationship and sanity intact. In this course, I am going to get you ready for the most common struggles that neurodiverse couples face and give you FIVE specific tools for how to strategically manage them — so everyone can have a happier holiday season. Get your toolkit today and have happy holiday season this year!
BONUS podcast: Let's talk about lying. There are a lot of reasons why everybody lies. Neurodivergent partners have specific reasons why they lie, and sometimes it's different from the reasons why neurotypical partners lie. It's important to look for toxic types of lies that are strategic and intended to harm or that inflate one's ego at the expense of others. These are different from the avoidant types of lies that range from "little white lies" to fear and avoidance of consequences or a partner's response or reaction. If there is a lot of lying in your relationship and you need some help figuring it out, you can book a consultation to speak with me directly to get some answers. My coaching program is designed to help you get clarity and solutions for a better life.
___________________ 👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on mixed neurotype relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own neurodivergent family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.
❤️️ Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a the world's FIRST Relationship Rescue method designed specifically for mixed neurotype couples to break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
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When a person's faith and spiritual values are used to coerce, convince, or control and manipulate, devastating harm is done. Weaponized faith is all too common, and I see the trauma it causes in so many of the men and women who contact me for help. "Scripts" about the roles of men and women, and husbands and wives, are often conveyed by well-meaning religious leaders, but then, in the neurodivergent community, applied rigidly in a relationship. Both partners often participate in reinforcing a coercive and controlling dynamic that utilizes shame, guilt, and obligation to get one or both partner's needs met - both believing they are following the beliefs of their faith. This relationship is ultimately highly dysfunctional, and can become toxic and abusive. Take a moment to listen to my conversation with Dan and Stephanie Holmes, who are Christian neurodiverse relationship specialists. This concept applies to people of all faiths and value-systems because these same dynamics occur in any relationship where beliefs and values are used to manipulate.
___________________ 👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on mixed neurotype relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own neurodivergent family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.
❤️️ Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
I am frequently asked the question "How do I stay committed to my Christian values of being compassionate and selfless without losing myself and my identity - especially when my autistic partner doesn't believe my needs are valid?"
I recently had a Q & A with Dan and Stephanie Holmes where we talk about this and so much more. Dan and Stephanie founded the International Association of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriages, LLC to bring hope, help, and possible healing to NeuroDiverse Christian Marriages. Their ministry also includes educating and equipping helping professionals, clinicians, and ministers with effective coaching and counseling strategies by first understanding and accepting the complexities of NeuroDiverse Christian Marriages. Visit Dan and Stephanie online at: https://www.christianneurodiversemarriage.com
___________________ 👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on mixed neurotype relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own neurodivergent family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.
❤️️ Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
S2E9 In today's episode, part two with my best friend, Kathy, we have a really important conversation about toxic traits and how that's a very different thing from neurodiversity. Kathy and I both have experienced toxic personalities in our marriages and our relationships.
This the last episode of my summer series on communication and of sharing my personal neurodiverse relationships with you. If you missed any of the previous episodes, go back and through Season 2 and meet my autistic daughter, Abby, and her brother, Aidan, as well as my mother. I'm so glad they all agreed to be on the show and share our neurodiverse relationships with all of you! It's not just about marriages - neurodiverse relationships are of all kinds!
Also, I'm taking a short break before we bring Season 3 to you (in about a month), but we will be dropping some neurodiverse relationship Q & A, and tips here for you, so stay tuned!
Be sure to contact us if you'd like to be a guest on the podcast - this podcast is about YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship. I want to talk to you!
___________________ 👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. 📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment. 🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
I am really, really excited today to have my best friend Kathy, on the show. She is the last of the mini series this summer on communication and of me sharing my neurodiverse family and friends with you.
This two-part episode is one of my favorite yet because Kathy and I talk about so much! There's so much packed into these two episodes. Kathy and I talk about our own friendship, which is a neurodiverse relationship. We talk about her family of very different neurodiverse personalities...and as best friends do she even calls me out on something that's actually really important! We have a very good conversation about it that's going to be very relatable to so, so many of you. You're going to want to listen up to hear what we have to say about that.
Kathy also has some amazing insight as well about being neurodiverse, herself, and the mother of two neurodiverse children who are practically grown now themselves. She shares the strategies that she's used to parent them and help them in their lives even as she's realized later in life that she's neurodiverse herself.
___________________ 👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. 📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment. 🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
In last week's show, during my chat with my mother, I mentioned how those of us who are neurotypical and neurodiverse speak different languages. We have many different kinds of language...emotion, logic, social, relationship, love...and we all speak them in different kinds of ways, and with different levels of fluency.
I also told you in the last show that my next guest is my best friend Kathy, who has her own neurodiverse family and who has her own neurodiverse traits, herself. In that chat she and I talk about our own friendship and how we've dealt with our differences through the years....BUT...I've decided to wait until next week to air part one of our conversation.
This week I'm going to share with you the audio from a "live" I did in my private Facebook group where I talked about these different languages we speak. It seemed so relevant! So here you go and tune in next week for my chat with Kathy.
___________________ 👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. 📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment. 🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. CracktheCommunicationCode.com 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
In part two of my conversation with my mom. We talk about how we discovered neurodiversity in my own family. It's a narrative that is so similar to many of yours.
Neurodiverse relationships are not just about domestic partnerships...the person that you married or that you're dating...it spills over into the whole family. It's part of the entire life experience that you're having with so many people.
___________________ 👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙 My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.
🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking program for my OWN relationships and it will help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. CracktheCommunicationCode.com
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱 FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton
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As we continue our summer series on communication, I took a moment to talk with my mom, Jean, about this neurodiverse family of ours. Her perspective and her observations about discovering autism in our family is going to be so relatable to so many of you. As a retired teacher (and she was held in high regard in our community), she thinks back to students she had who she now realizes were neurodiverse - and how she didn't understand their needs or how to communicate with them.
Next week, in part 2, we talk more about our own family, and how we've realized through the years that autism has been right here in our own world for generations. You don't want to miss it...because it's your story, too.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and interpersonal communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain. 🎙My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics. 💁♀️ My ground-breaking program for neurodiverse relationships, facilitates life-altering clarity and change for partners and couples who are stuck in a cycle of rehashing confusing and painful conflict and shutdown. 🗣Communication is the bridge that connects us and is critical for connection and clarity. Finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict. 🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more. 📱FOLLOW ME: Youtube: Jodi Carlton (Neurodiverse Relationship Coach) Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Communication is the bridge that connects us and this week we continue my summer communication series. Today in part two of my conversation with two of the very most important people in my life, my daughter, Abby, who is autistic, and my son, Aidan, who is neurotypical, we talk about what it's been like for them as siblings in a neurodiverse relationship, but also with me as their neurotypical mom navigating parenting in a neurodiverse family. I invite you to hear what they have to say, because I think you're going to really relate to so much of it!
___________________ 👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.
💁♀️ Enroll in my unique coaching program, specifically designed for neurodiverse couples, to facilitate life-altering clarity and change. This is not just another round of counseling.
🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking "CracktheCOMMUNICATIONCode.com" program for my OWN relationships and it will now help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
Today I invite you to meet MY neurodiverse family. We have relationships with many different people in our lives...our partners, our friends, our siblings, our co-workers. Today a colleague asked me how many people I estimate are around us every day who are neurodiverse. I told her that number is high! Today...I'd like you to meet two of my own favorite people.
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👩💼 Hi, I'm Jodi Carlton and I'm a leading world expert on adult autistic relationship dynamics and communication. My life experiences with my own autistic family and friends have been my personal training ground and my goal is to help you finally make sense of the confusion and pain.
🎙My educational podcast and YouTube videos, webinars, and workshops are the place to start learning about your neurodiverse relationship dynamics.
📆 Consult with me personally for feedback and guidance about your relationship's potential for growth and repair. Get in-depth insight through relationship evaluation and neurodiversity assessment.
💁♀️ Enroll in my unique coaching program, specifically designed for neurodiverse couples, to facilitate life-altering clarity and change. This is not just another round of counseling.
🗣Communication is critical for connection and clarity. I developed a ground-breaking "CracktheCOMMUNICATIONCode.com" program for my OWN relationships and it will now help you finally understand your partner and break the endless cycle of confusion and conflict.
🌐 Visit me online at JodiCarlton.com to learn more.
📱FOLLOW ME: Facebook, Instagram and TikTok: @thejodicarlton YouTube and LinkedIn: Jodi Carlton
In episode 2 of Jodi's summer communication series, she shares more of her interview with Michele, who emphasizes specific strategies from Jodi's "Crack the Communication Code" program that have been a game changer in her marriage to Dave.
Michele talks about a sexual intimacy series which can be found in Jodi's private member library at: www.spectrumrelationships.com/spectrum-straight-talk-library
In introductory video for this sexuality series can be found on Jodi's YouTube channel at: https://youtu.be/gc88vT3IhJ4
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In the Season 2 Premiere of YOUR Neurodiverse Relationship, Jodi kicks off a summer series about communication in neurodiverse relationships. This season she brings to you guest interviews as well as the tips and strategies she teaches that are working for couples around the world to bridge the gap between conflict and connection.
You don't want to miss this summer series!
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another.
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In this episode (Part 2) of a chat with a neurodiverse couple, Jodi gives concrete strategies for eliminating conversations that get stuck in a cycle of painful triggers and avoidant retreats that never reach resolution.
If you missed Part 1 (Ep. 12 "I Call It His Murderous Face") listen here.
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another.
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In this episode, a couple married 30 years in an arranged marriage, shares how the discovery of neurodiversity was a wake-up call and also a life-saver for their relationship. Both of them openly talk with me about their own self-discoveries and what they are doing to help repair old wounds, but also improve current and future interactions.
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another.
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In Part 2 of my talk with Bo, who identifies as an "Aspie," or as having Asperger's, we chat about how words and expressions can mean really different things, especially in neurodiverse relationships. Bo also shares with me how social interactions have often created confusion for him and the people in his life because of the different understandings and expectations in social exchanges.
If you missed Part 1, "Childhood Memories Make Sense Now," be sure to tune in to hear Bo discuss his memories from childhood and how he now recognizes the many sensory challenges he experienced as a child.
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another.
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Ep. 10 - Bo B. (Neurodiverse) (Pt. 1) Childhood Memories Make Sense Now; Sensory Aversion in Relationships Ep. 10 In this episode, Jodi talks to Bo, a neurodiverse man, who recounts his experience as a neurodiverse child in school and being distracted by pretty much everything. Jodi and Bo talk about how food preferences, and how sensory aversions can sometimes feel like a deal breaker in relationships.
Bo also shares how different communication styles have created challenges for him in relationships- for example, he notes struggling to understand hints or implied meaning
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another.
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Ep. 9 - Neurodiverse Dating Coach, Jeremy Hamburgh helps autistic individuals unlock the mystery of dating Neurodiverse relationships begin with dating....which can be such a challenge for autistic individuals of all ages. Jeremy Hamburgh is a professional dating coach who works specifically with the neurodiverse community. In this episode, he talks with Jodi about how he guides his clients through determining the best type of person to date, where to meet that person, how to flirt, and then so much more.
Download free training and connect with Jeremy at MyBestSocialLife.com.
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another.
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Ep. 8 Matt & Jen (Pt 2) ”I don’t remember our last argument…” In Part 1 (Ep 5) of Jodi's talk with Matt and Jen, this couple shared how they struggled to understand each other, and how miscommunication & misunderstanding led to confusion, heartbreak, and talk of divorce. Here in Part 2, they talk about the insights they gained, and the communication tools and skills they use from their private intensive coaching with Jodi that have completely changed their lives. Jen (non-autistic) says "You know, what's funny? I don't remember our last argument." Matt and Jen's story is an example of the real transformation that is possible in neurodiverse relationship and is a beacon of hope for so many people.
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Jodi Carlton is a leading world expert on adult autism relationships and communication. Her private coaching, and ground-breaking "Crack the COMMUNICATION Code" program, is helping partners and couples avoid relationship failure and finally understand one another.
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Ep. 7: Rob, 51, autistic -”I would go to meetups where I knew no one & I would be social with people I never met before - that’s like the Super Bowl of social practice” In today's episode Rob shares with Jodi how his ex-wife's family didn't like him and he didn't understand why until two of his son's were diagnosed as autistic. He shares his perspective on smiling and learning to use tone of voice as well as his personal strategies for being intentional with practicing social skills, all of which has resulted in new friendships. In this episode, Jodi mentions research about how autistic individuals don't use facial expressions and eye contact for information in the same way as non-autistic individuals. One study notes:
"Direct eye contact elicits a heightened physiological response as indicated by heightened skin conductance and increased amygdala activity. For individuals with autism, avoiding the eyes is an adaptive strategy, however, this approach interferes with the ability to process facial cues of identity, expressions and intentions, The “eye avoidance” strategy has negative effects on the ability to decode facial information about identity, expression, and intentions, exacerbating the social challenges for persons with ASD."
Tanaka, J. W., & Sung, A. (2016). The "Eye Avoidance" Hypothesis of Autism Face Processing. Journal of autism and developmental disorders, 46(5), 1538–1552. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10803-013-1976-7 __________________________
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Ep. 6 Current Therapy Models Harm Neurodiverse Relationships (Pt. 2) In this episode, part 2 of Jodi's chat with Mona and Manecia, all three professionals share how counseling made things worse in their own neurodiverse relationships, and how new models that are specific to neurodiverse couples are critical. Listen to part 1 in Episode 3, "Jodi Gets Personal With Two Other Professionals About Their Own Relationships." Listen to Mona and Manecia's podcast.
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Ep. 5 Matt and Jen (Pt 1), a Neurodiverse Couple: From Contemplating Divorce to Thriving On today's episode, Jodi talks with Matt and Jen, a neurodiverse couple who were contemplating divorce when Jen first found Jodi's coaching program and reached out for help. They share how they discovered Matt is autistic, and the challenges they each experienced in their relationship, but also how the new framework and new skills have totally changed their lives and their marriage.
Part 1 of 2 (Part 2 will broadcast on April 12th, 2022)
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Ep. 4 Clara (Pt 2) Sensory Overwhelm & How It Results in Others Feeling Rejected Episode 4: In this episode Jodi talks with returning autistic guest Clara about sensory processing dysfunction. Clara, a music teacher, and performer, compares how the brain receives sound to a music mixing board that raises and lowers volume. Jodi and Clara also chat about how neurotypical partners often misinterpret autistic sensory overwhelm as rejection.
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Ep. 3 Jodi, Mona, and Manecia, two neurodiversity professionals get personal about their own relationships. (Pt 1)
In this episode, Jodi talks with Mona and Manecia, hosts of the Neurodiverse Love podcast. All three are professionals committed to helping neurodiverse couples navigate relationships, but who have also been in (or are currently in) their own autism relationships. Listen in as they share their own very personal experiences.
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Ep. 2 - A wife from the U.K. talks about painful misunderstandings and confusion & learning to bridge the communication gap. On today's episode, Jodi discusses the question of how long it usually takes for partners and couples to suspect that one of them is autistic. She shares about her own experience in her marriage.
Jodi's guest today is an ADHD wife with and mother from the U.K. who's husband and daughter are autistic. She talks with Jodi about painful misunderstandings that have created years of confusion and a widening gap between herself and her husband - both of whom care about their relationship but haven't known how to bridge that gap.
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Ep. 1 Clara (Pt 1) , an Autistic Partner, Shares a Life-Altering Communication Strategy On today's episode, Jodi Carlton chats with Clara, who discovered she is autistic in her 30's. Clara shares valuable insight from her neurodiverse perspective, and also how she is using a specific new strategy for bridging communication with her neurotypical partner and other important people in her life.
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