Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself: Recent Episodes
Minessa Konecky
We spend way too much of our time as business owners feeling guilty for the things we feel like we should be doing. But where did those ideas come from anyway? And who says you should be doing it? Join Minessa Konecky each week as she challenges a commonly held business belief and replaces it with something better, and more effective. Get ready to stop feeling guilty for not doing the things you don't want to do anyway!
Join us on this empowering episode of our podcast where we sit down with Maybe Burke, an acclaimed artist and educator deeply involved in advocating for transgender and non-binary communities. Maybe shares her journey through the arts and how it carved a path toward impactful activism. Dive into a thought-provoking discussion that explores the intersection of identity, representation, and the transformative power of storytelling in advocacy. Whether you're familiar with the nuances of gender discussions or seeking to broaden your understanding, this episode offers valuable insights into creating inclusive spaces and the importance of visibility in the fight for equality. Tune in to be inspired by Maybe’s dedication to education and change, and learn how we can all contribute to a more inclusive society.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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In Episode 88 of "Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself," Minessa Konecky sits down with workplace culture expert Robyn Garrett to dissect the oppressive dynamics often hidden within corporate environments. They explore the profound insights from Robyn's latest book, discussing strategies for employees and leaders alike to recognize and reform toxic workplace practices. Tune in for an enlightening conversation that could redefine your views on work and leadership, and empower you to contribute to a healthier, more respectful professional world.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Join Minessa Konecky in this episode of "Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself," featuring an engaging conversation with Sherry Dindal, a viral content creator and a loud voice for Gen X. Known for her TikTok and Instagram handle, "The Real Slim Sherri," she discusses the brutal experience of unbecoming yourself to rediscover the joy of living in authenticity.
In this candid talk, Minessa and Sherri explore deep topics such as personal empowerment, overcoming societal conditioning, and embracing one’s true self after decades of conformity. They delve into how Sherri's humorous yet insightful content on social media has become a beacon for many navigating midlife, menopause, and beyond.
We recorded this podcast for GenXers who are healing from past traumas, and understanding the impact of social media on self-expression. Whether you're a Gen Xer feeling the weight of societal expectations or a younger listener seeking wisdom from those who've tread the path before, or want to get an idea of what it's like to be us, there's something in this conversation for you.
Stay tuned for part two of this profound discussion and explore more content that resonates with issues of authenticity and community. Don't forget to subscribe to our channel and hit the bell icon to get notified about new episodes and join a community committed to genuine self-discovery and empowerment.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Have you ever felt like you're living in a cycle of unhealed wounds and generational trauma? Our special guest Tracy Robin joins us to discuss how a holistic approach to healing can liberate us from such patterns. Her wisdom, drawn from the practices of yoga and self-study, offers a fresh perspective on confronting the deep-seated truths within ourselves and our lineage. Together, we examine how addressing the somatic and physiological experiences can lead to profound transformation, including the role psychedelics can play in this process.
Settling for 'good enough' can be a subtle trap that snares many aspects of our lives, from relationships to personal health. I open up about my own confrontation with mediocrity and how the insidious acceptance of discomfort as the norm can prevent us from reaching our true potential. We delve into the importance of listening to our bodies, interpreting signals like fatigue and chronic pain not as mere nuisances but as calls to action towards a more balanced and fulfilling life.
As we wrap up our enriching discussion, the thread of self-empowerment and community support weaves through our narrative. I share a turning point in my life that underscores the continuous nature of healing and the importance of never walking that path alone. Tracy's vibrant presence leaves us with insights on how to connect further, fostering a sense of empowerment and community. Tune in for an episode filled with heartfelt exchanges that will inspire you to embrace self-awareness and embark on a more connected and empowered healing journey.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Discover how Liz August, the virtual assistant with a trophy shelf, unveils the secrets behind a powerful user journey that's more than just skin deep for any business. We'll traverse the misconception that flashy websites and social media tweaks are the magic bullets for sales slumps. Instead, Liz and I dissect the transformative power of a meticulously structured customer journey—because it's the strategic trail of breadcrumbs that really leads to the golden egg of client conversion.
Strap in as we unveil the financial tightrope act that entrepreneurs often find themselves performing. I recount a story that turns the 'more hours equals more success' equation on its head, sharing how a client managed to multiply her income with a fraction of her previous working hours. We'll also tackle the temptation to throw money at overpriced solutions, advocating instead for smart, stage-appropriate investments. It's a bit like finding the perfect pair of jeans—why splurge on a designer label when the perfect fit can be found without breaking the bank?
Finally, we stir the pot on creativity, finances, and finding the right blend for a fulfilling professional journey. I'll take you through my own realizations about aligning missions with actions, revealing how it’s akin to crafting the perfect marinara sauce of work life. We also talk about the symbiotic dance between the dreamers and the doers in any thriving business. Plus, we'll share the recipe for maintaining authenticity while stirring up success. So, if you're ready to transform your business approach from a sketchy doodle to a masterpiece, Liz and I have the canvas, brushes, and colors all set for you.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
In this conversation, Sarah Jane Wellock discusses the importance of using different modalities to heal trauma and the power of listening to our bodies. She shares her experiences with various practices, such as the Living Blog and caress, which involve writing, movement, and self-stimulation. Sarah Jane emphasizes the need to lower our walls and barriers, trust our bodies, and release judgment. She also highlights the significance of creating a safe space for ourselves and others. Overall, the conversation explores the messy and nonlinear nature of healing and the importance of self-care.
TAKEAWAYS
- Using different modalities can help individuals work through trauma and experiences.
- Listening to our bodies and trusting their wisdom is essential for healing.
- Creating a safe space for ourselves and others is important for personal growth.
- Lowering our walls and barriers can reduce judgment and increase awareness.
- Healing is a messy and nonlinear process that requires self-care and self-compassion.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Have you ever felt the weight of a 'suit-and-tie' expectation on your shoulders? Dr. Sheva Guy joins me to unravel the tightly stitched seams of traditional professionalism, revealing how this standard can serve as a tool of oppression, perpetuating systemic barriers like racism and classism. As we share our personal narratives – her journey through the expectations of an Eastern European Jewish family to a champion of diversity and inclusion, and our candid discussion of mental health challenges – we lay bare the profound impact of these standards on those who dare to deviate from the norm.
The invisible walls within corporate hallways don't just define spaces; they often delineate who belongs and who does not. This episode peels back those layers, highlighting the importance of amplifying the often overlooked voices in change management, from Oracle implementations to higher education consulting. We tackle the perils of tokenism and the critical need for true inclusivity, where diversity isn't just present but is actively valued and engaged. As we recount tales of tattoos as symbols of defiance and academia as a haven for authentic self-expression, we underscore the importance of challenging stifling professional identities.
As we navigate the transformative currents of change management, our discussion turns to the paradox of organizations that profess a love for change yet resist it when it knocks on their door. Drawing parallels between parenting strategies and fostering agency in professional transformations, we advocate for understanding the 'why' behind change to mitigate natural resistance. And just as a free-flowing conversation can lead to unexpected depths, so too does our dialogue wander through topics like research administration, emphasizing the organic power of authenticity, and the potential for collaborative growth in our professional journeys with Dr. Sheva Guy.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Discover networking strategies that transform apprehension into achievement with Allison Guido, CEO of Almar Building and Remodeling, in a remarkable narration of her leap from the wings to center stage within the South Shore Women's Business Network. This episode isn't just about making connections; it's a deep dive into the psychology of networking, overcoming self-doubt, and the structured approach that turns potential anxiety into business prowess. I'll share my own stories of hiding in bathrooms at networking events, and having panic attacks in parking lots!
As we unravel the intricacies of networking, Allison and I shed light on balancing the act between real-world engagements and the digital realm's networking norms. You'll grasp not only how to gear up for events with goals and talking points but also the assurance that others are just as self-engaged, often oblivious to the tiny missteps we fear. We navigate through the digital evolution of networking, emphasizing the undying need for personal connections and trust, regardless of the platform.
To cap off, we confront the challenges faced by industries like construction and remodeling, which are on the cusp of a generational cliff. Allison's strategies for injecting new life into her field are as innovative as they are necessary, combining vocational training advocacy with a fresh narrative around manual labor careers. This episode is more than just a guide; it's a celebration of building businesses anchored in community, craft, and collaboration. Join us for an enlightening discussion on how the right networking approach can lead to success and fulfillment in both your professional and personal lives.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Ever felt trapped between being your true self and fitting into a professional mold? Miranda VonFricken joins us to shatter that mold, advocating for the power of personal branding that's as unique as you are. Our candid conversation with this LinkedIn luminary and entrepreneur will inspire you to infuse your career with authenticity. From managing the tightrope walk of corporate conformity to embracing your quirks, we promise you'll find actionable advice to create a brand that's both genuine and professionally savvy.
In this episode, we share our own personal branding journeys, reflecting on those moments when we've felt the pressure to suppress our individuality for the sake of a job. We discuss the delicate balance of adapting without losing the essence of who we are, and how leaning into our true selves can attract the opportunities and connections that resonate most. You'll hear real-life stories illustrating how embracing one's whole self can lead to growth and unexpected career paths—because who says you can't have blue hair and be a powerhouse in your field?
Concluding with a deep dive into LinkedIn strategy, we provide insider tips on how to leverage the platform for career advancement. Whether you're eyeing that next promotion or seeking to redefine your professional persona, this episode is packed with wisdom on fostering a personal brand that stands out and aligns with your aspirations. So plug in, as Miranda and I guide you through embracing your unique professional identity, and watch as the right doors begin to open just for you.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Have you ever felt the sting of being undervalued? Ashley Robyn, the acclaimed author of "Maybe We're All Diamonds," joins us to share her courageous tale of self-advocacy in the face of injustice. We wade through the murky waters of workplace boundaries and the art of claiming your worth. Ashley's personal triumph over a slashed salary and increased workload, set against the backdrop of her powerful book on toxic relationships, is nothing short of inspiring. Her experiences shine a beacon on the subtle, yet damaging discrepancies between company slogans and their actual treatment of employees.
Navigating the treacherous terrain of toxic workplace cultures can be a solitary endeavor, but with the right insights, one can emerge stronger and more aware. Ashley and I dissect the warning signs of such environments, from the dreaded 'golden handcuffs' to the gaslighting that corrodes professional growth. She also offers a sneak peek into her upcoming book, a guide designed to illuminate the early indicators of a harmful company atmosphere. Moreover, we celebrate the cathartic journey of storytelling, both personal and communal, and how it can foster deep connections and healing.
Topping off this heart-to-heart, we dig into the significance of honoring personal victories and the empowerment found in self-validation. Listeners are invited to relish the transformative impacts of such milestones, as I reflect on the liberating shift from a turbulent marriage to the fulfilling world of freelance writing. We wrap up with a heartfelt discussion on the promise of collaboration and the enduring value of friendships carved from shared struggles. This episode is a treasure trove of wisdom for those seeking to fortify their professional lives and personal narratives with authenticity and conviction.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Imagine mustering the courage to demand the salary you truly deserve—Dorothy Mashburn, the negotiation virtuoso, and I, Minessa Konecky, unravel the complexities behind this daunting task. This episode is a treasure trove of insights, empowering you to peel away the layers of societal conditioning and self-doubt that have long dictated our worth in the workplace. Together, we dissect the systemic ideologies and gender-specific hurdles that often handcuff our confidence, providing you with the strategies needed to assert your value and secure the compensation that reflects your true worth.
Swaying in the gravity of societal expectations can paralyze us from climbing the ladder to financial empowerment. Join us as we shed light on the psychological tactics of anchoring in salary discussions and the transformative power of having a strong 'Option B'. Dorothy Mashburn's wisdom is a beacon, guiding you through the nuances of workplace dynamics and teaching you how to flip the power balance in your favor. Our conversation is a masterclass in crafting leverage and the fine art of transforming negotiations into partnerships, instilling a bold confidence that radiates through every aspect of your professional and personal life.
This episode isn't just about asking for that raise; it's a playbook for approaching all of life's negotiations with clarity, confidence, and the joy of knowing you're stepping into your power.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Embracing the ebb and flow of life's relentless pace, bestselling author and speaker Nancy Medoff joins me, Minessa Konecky, for an insightful conversation that's sure to reframe your perception of resilience. You'll feel the tension ease from your shoulders as we navigate the landscape of self-care, sharing stories of how the art of recovery is not just a counterbalance to burnout but a foundation for thriving in both personal and professional spheres. Our exchange extends an invitation to you, the listener, to redefine the way you approach rest and productivity.
This episode invites you into the heart of our reflections, where memories walk hand in hand with mindfulness. Discover the transformative power of regular walks, quality sleep, and setting boundaries, not as mere strategies for enhanced output, but as cornerstones of a fulfilling life. Nancy and I ponder on how these small, yet intentional choices ripple out to create a richer, more vibrant existence.
Finally, step behind the curtain to see how setting clear boundaries with clients and partners is crucial in maintaining not just our sanity, but our creative integrity. I'll reveal strategies from my professional playbook on managing expectations and upholding the sacred space where our best work comes alive. Wrapping up with the successes and inspirations drawn from Nancy's Cape Cod retreat, we underscore the continued journey of growth and the importance of staying connected with mentors who champion our evolution. Join us for an episode that not only illuminates these vital themes but also emboldens you to take the actions that return you to your best self.
CONNECT WITH NANCY
- Website
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Where does fear reside, and how can we conquer it, especially in the pursuit of new opportunities? These are the questions we grapple with as we examine the unique experiences of women of color in the workplace, guided by the wisdom of our guest, Duly Orozco, a licensed mental health counselor. We delve into the power of relationships, the potential for greatness, and the challenges that inhibit us from forging meaningful connections.
Much like an expedition, we set out to explore the vast landscape of diversity, equity, and inclusion.We take a critical look at assimilation in the United States and the alarming implications of anti-Arabic violence. We unfold the importance of representation in leadership roles and expose the inadequacies of a 'one size fits all' approach to diversity initiatives. This journey compels us to understand the individual stories and experiences that shape our identities, both in and out of the workplace.
Finally, we wrestle with our own biases and the discomfort they stir within us. It's a confrontation that invites us to exercise self-compassion and empathy. We explore how to cultivate relationships, the power of vulnerability, and the growth that comes from recognizing and confronting our biases. Join us, as we open the door to these exciting conversations and more with Duly Sierosco. We guarantee it's a conversation that will challenge, enlighten and empower you.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Ever wondered how to transform a setback into a force for change? Our latest conversation with Jen Maseda, the woman behind She's Local, is proof that passion can fuel reinvention. She's Local is all about creating hyperlocal experiences, fostering connections between women in the same communities through affordable and relevant conferences. Jen opens up about her own journey, turning job loss into an opportunity to create this empowering platform.
During our conversation, we discuss the first hyper-local conference, Metro West, and Jen shares her commitment to curate experiences that empower women. We delve into the shift in energy when attendees transform from mere spectators to ardent supporters of the speakers, emphasizing the potential impact of such setups. We also explore the challenges and rewards of organizing such events and the power of resilience in this journey.
The episode rounds off with an enlightening discourse on brand control, networking, and mission-driven risk-taking. We reflect on the challenges of maintaining control while scaling a brand, the perks of local networking, and the audacity required to be a purpose-driven risk-taker. We even touch on how anger can serve as a potent motivator and the struggles of maintaining control as a business scales up. So tune into this power-packed episode, and get ready to be inspired as we explore the entrepreneurial journey through the lens of this inspiring community creator, Jen Maseda.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Can retirement be the most exciting chapter in your life? Lisa, a business owner and retired Fidelity , thinks so and she's eager to tell you why. We kick off with a refreshing chat about retirement, shaking off the outdated notion that it signals the end of one's working or even living and experiential journey. Instead, Lisa provides valuable insights into how this phase can be a delightful transition, filled with opportunities to fulfil personal dreams and goals.
Ever wonder how to build a balanced 'life portfolio'? We join Lisa as she demystifies this concept and shares practical guidance on how to create one that suits your unique needs. We delve into the idea of using retirement as a stage for freedom and flexibility, encouraging you to dust off past dreams and utilize resources to build a vision for your future. This is a conversation that prompts you to look beyond the societal norms that place undue emphasis on productivity and to understand that rest and leisure hold their own value.
We wrap up with an enlightening discussion on retirement planning not just as a financial necessity but also as a route to finding and living with purpose. Lisa speaks to us about the power of retirement workshops as a safe space to explore, the importance of perpetual learning, and the sheer joy of a purpose-driven life. It's not often you encounter a conversation that could change your perspective on something as significant as retirement, but this episode promises to do just that. Join us, and let's redefine retirement together.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Have you ever questioned your happiness? Ever felt as though, despite seemingly having it all, something was still missing? Join us and our open-hearted guest, Pascale Cook Fernandes, as we examine a heartfelt journey from the surface of perceived perfection to the depths of authentic self-discovery.
Pascale's experience as a stay-at-home mom with an idyllic lifestyle, yet experiencing a profound sense of lacking, evokes a universal conundrum. We dive deep into discussions around the influence of masculine and feminine energy on our lives, the societal stigmas and labels that can often hold us back, and the significance of embracing our unique blueprint. With topics ranging from gender and energetics to muscle testing as a tool for decision-making, we navigate the complexities and joys of self-understanding, all while sharing our personal encounters.
Embark on this exploration of personal expression, supportive friendships, overcoming fear, and embracing authenticity. Pascale gives us an inside look into her business, Women Finding Clarity, and shares about her podcast, The Happiness Workshop. Through the power of conversation and sincerity, we hope to inspire you to connect with your own authentic self. Join us as we ignite a spark for true happiness, one that starts from within and radiates out into the world around you.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Ever wondered how therapy could impact your day-to-day life, not just during the session, but long after? Our special guest, Sherri Damon, founder of Fly and a renowned psychotherapist, joins us to shed light on this critical aspect of therapeutic healing. We delve into her innovative Coper model, designed specifically to assist those combating eating disorders, and the transformative role of her wellness retreats in this journey of recovery.
In this episode, we take a deep dive into the correlation between our nervous systems and stress, exposing the hidden triggers of burnout. Sherri walks us through the often neglected connection between our sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous systems, and how understanding them can help us handle stress better. We also embark on an enlightening exploration of Sherri's innovative models: COPER and TheraFarm. These models hinge on connection, optimism, play, empowerment, and resilience as the cornerstones of health and healing.
Sherri’s commitment to making wellness accessible to all, regardless of income or insurance, is truly inspiring. We learn about the treatments, wellness retreats, workshops, and therapies available at Fly and Butterfly Farm, and how they are breaking barriers to make healing accessible. From the benefits of retreat spaces to the importance of work-life balance, we discuss it all. So tune in, learn and embark on a journey towards optimal health with us.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Have you ever found yourself doubting your skills or talents, even when you're great at what you do? You're not alone. I had the privilege of sitting down with the incredible Beth Knaus, a brilliant editor, podcast host, speaker, and confident female entrepreneur who knows the struggle of self-doubt all too well. Beth has spent years intentionally building a foundation that allows her to communicate confidently. Together, we explored the labyrinth of self-doubt and the importance of confidence in our personal and professional lives.
Our conversation ranged from professionalism and brand messaging to the power of clear communication. Beth narrated her professional journey, which took her from the beauty industry to being a renowned copywriter and brand messaging consultant. She emphasized the key to being a professional is not in the superficial details but in your ability to solve a client's problem. We reflected on our experiences with career transitions, the importance of finding a career that fits our strengths, and the challenges of overcoming self-doubt. Beth offered insightful advice on how to navigate these transitions while maintaining your confidence.
We also delved into brand messaging, exploring the importance of clarity in your message to bolster online confidence. We touched upon the dangers of perfectionism and how to tackle naysayers when pursuing your goals. Beth shared her experiences of achieving dreams through setting goals and the importance of community support in our pursuit of success. Her journey is a testament to the power of confidence and perseverance, a story that is sure to inspire and motivate you to push past self-doubt and achieve your goals. Don't miss out on this enlightening discussion with Beth Knaus. It's time to overcome self-doubt, embrace your strengths and confidently step into your success.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
In this week’s podcast, join me as I share my personal journey of building connections and creating a sense of community, even in the face of challenges like social anxiety, neurodivergence, and constant pain. Throughout my life, from moving countries to navigating various towns within Massachusetts, I've developed a unique system that allows me to thrive socially while respecting my own boundaries and needs.
Check out the entire podcast and video here: https://stopshoulding.me/2023/08/23/ep-71-making-friends-as-a-grown-up/
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Ever feel like you're simply surviving, not thriving? Health consultant Tanesa Shears, who specializes in helping entrepreneurs, has a powerful answer to this predicament - biohacking for optimal performance. Our intimate chat unpacks how using wearable technology to fine-tune our brains & bodies can lead to improvements in our sleep, diet, and overall resilience to stress. Tanesa's mantra, progressing 1% at a time, emphasizes the power of small, consistent changes and how they can significantly modify our lives, both professionally and personally.
We then shift gears to discuss the ever-present challenge of balancing work and leisure. Tanesa shares her unique journey, from launching her business in 2014 to becoming a new mom in 2020, and how she creates boundaries to safeguard her own mental health. We examine how systems and optimization are crucial in managing mental load, particularly in business and marketing. Are constant notifications draining your energy? We tackle this common issue head-on and explore methods of creating a middle ground that respects your need for downtime.
Finally, we dive headfirst into the topic of combating self-doubt and limiting beliefs. Our conversation covers the power of language in decision-making, the necessity of carving out guilt-free time for ourselves, and how small decisions can have major ramifications. Ready for a shock? Tanesa's personal commitment to a daily cold shower for 10 days makes a compelling case for how minor habits can drastically improve our lives. Join our conversation to not just learn about, but truly understand how to optimize your life for maximum performance.
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
Ever faced the heartbreak of life's transitions, from divorce to the loss of a parent, and come out on the other side stronger? Faced with my own trials, I dig deep into the raw experiences of navigating challenges while maintaining your internal peace, and staying true to yourself. Come join Judi and I as we go on a journey where we explore the emotional toll of a loss and how writing became a formative part of the healing process.
One of the more poignant segments of the conversation was recognizing the legacy of COVID in our lives and our privacy. As the world evolves post-pandemic, so do our perspectives on personal privacy and boundaries. We often feel like we owe people explanations for our choices - Judi and I delve into the question, "Are we not entitled to our own spaces and freedom from owing explanations?"
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🎵 Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
👉 Check it out: https://karacter.bandcamp.com/album/karacter
In this solo episode, tune in as I reflect on my entrepreneurial journey and share the constant messages I received about success and failure. I talk through my initial resistance to change and the realization that it was time for a new path. Despite the fear and concerns about what others might think, I discovered the importance of making choices based on what felt right for ME.
Join me on the journey of self-discovery, empowerment, and joy as we break free from the "shoulds" that hold us back. By embracing change, trusting ourselves, and writing our own blueprints, we can create lives that align with our authentic selves. Remember, there is no greater act of self-love than embracing who you truly are.
Key Takeaways:
- The prevailing wisdom often presents only two options: succeed or be a quitter. However, there is a third option, which defies prevailing norms and allows for personal growth without the fear of failure.
- Women are conditioned to be modest, reserved, and deferential, leading to self-doubt and a constant feeling of not measuring up. Breaking free from these societal expectations is essential for personal growth and fulfillment.
- Creating a life that aligns with one's authentic self involves questioning societal norms and determining what feels true and right in the present moment.
- Trusting oneself and listening to the inner voice is crucial in making choices that bring joy and empowerment.
- Writing one's own blueprint means breaking free from prescribed paths and exploring what truly brings fulfillment and happiness, even if it deviates from societal norms.
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Meet Molly MacCartney, an insightful and passionate intuitive guide whose mission is to help others uncover and nurture their own intuitive gifts. Having faced her own challenges with finding inner peace and happiness throughout her life, Molly has developed a unique understanding of spiritual awakening and growth.
She is known for her ability to convey complex spiritual concepts in an easily digestible manner and deeply empathizes with her clients, making her sessions engaging, insightful, and transformative. Molly possesses a profound spiritual intelligence that she shares with her clients, empowering them to foster fulfilling relationships with their higher selves and lead their lives with confidence.
Tune into our conversation about:
- Exploring the impact of trusting your intuition on personal and professional success.
- Gaining insights into managing stress hormones for lasting health and stability.
- Delving into the power of commitment and patience when pursuing long-term goals.
- Mastering the art of blending logic and spirituality for the ultimate life balance.
CONNECT WITH MOLLY:
IG - @mollymaccartney
FB - @empoweryourwisdom
https://mollymaccartney.com/
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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Say hello to Jen Potter, an entrepreneur and neurodiversity advocate with a powerful story to tell. Living with ADHD herself, Jen understands the importance of embracing one's unique abilities and has channeled her experiences into advocating for the neurodivergent community.
Drawing from her personal journey, she has developed a range of productivity and organization strategies designed specifically for those with ADHD and other neurodivergent traits. Jen's dedication to promoting diverse and inclusive workplaces makes her an invaluable voice in the growing conversation around neurodiversity.
Tune into our conversation as we talk about:
- Living authentically and following your true desires.
- Making self-care and mental health a priority in your life.
- Breaking free from societal norms and setting yourself on a path of personal growth.
- Exploring the world of neurodiversity and its impact on productivity, organization, and workplace culture.
CONNECT WITH JEN:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jennifer-potter-bbc-16a17b89/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jen_liveyourbestlife/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jen.liveyourbestlife
YouTube: @jen_liveyourbestlife
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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Introducing Maria Milagros, a dynamic transformational coach, speaker, and author who has dedicated her life to helping others overcome trauma and find true joy. Maria's own experiences with anger and trauma have shaped her approach to healing, leading her to develop a unique blend of self-care practices and personal growth techniques that she shares with her clients.
With a love for all things sparkly, Maria brings a sense of playfulness and light-heartedness to her work, helping her clients identify triggers, embrace their authentic selves, and find happiness in their lives.
In this episode, you chat through:
- Uncovering the secret to experiencing joy even during traumatic times by recognizing triggers and practicing self-care.
- Incorporating hands-on learning to significantly boost your personal development journey.
- Establishing the importance of self-care by syncing your thoughts, deeds, and bodily response.
- Enhancing inner dialogue, nurture divine relationships, and surmount life's obstacles.
- Broadening your horizons with insightful talks, dedicated coaching, and complimentary digital content.
CONNECT WITH MARIA
Instagram @mariamilavazquez
LinkedIn linkedin.com/in/maria-milagros-speaker
YouTube www.youtube.com/@mariamilavazquez
To inquire about her speaking availability, one-on-one coaching, or book "Super Sparkly Everything", or to sign up to get the free weekly email, please visit her website at www.mariamilagros.net.
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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In this episode of The Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself podcast, I am joined by Laure Porche, a fascinating individual who has discovered the healing power of thread work. Laure has spent years exploring the benefits of slowing down and focusing on the intricacies of crafting to manage difficult emotions and navigate through life's challenges.
With a background in crano-sacral polarity training, she combines her knowledge of the nervous system with her passion for textile arts to create a unique approach to self-care. Get to know Laure as she shares her journey and personal insights on finding peace and calm in the midst of our fast-paced world.
Listen in to this episode as we discuss:
- How textile work can aid in healing trauma and balancing your nervous system.
- How taking small but consistent steps can lead to genuinely sustainable transformation.
- Recognizing the significance of experiencing guilt and learn techniques to increase your capacity for empathy.
- Understanding the benefits of seeking assistance when dealing with challenging emotions.
- The pivotal role therapists play in offering support and guidance through life's obstacles.
CONNECT WITH LAURE
Instagram:
@laureporche
@moonlitpathchannel
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/moonlitpathchannel
Youtube: @laureporche-themoonlitpath
Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-moonlit-path-podcast/id1584831848
https://open.spotify.com/show/3vle3moXFNJK6LXmsTASqs
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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Do you want to experience the freedom of living without guilt and the joy of true belonging? As a woman who understands the struggle with guilt and indulgence, I want to share with you my special guest Saira Valley who spills the solution to achieving ultimate happiness and connection.
In this episode, you will be able to:
- Discover methods to overcome guilt associated with indulgence, especially for women.
- Realize the significance of altering expectations and embracing assistance to decrease stress.
- Investigate the role workplaces play in perpetuating guilt and the necessity for cultural shifts.
- Learn to recognize the underlying motives for feeling guilty and the importance of self-care.
- Unearth the art of finding joy, belonging, and fostering inclusivity through hygge and intersectionality
Meet Saira Valley, a brilliant thinker who's no stranger to the challenges many women face when it comes to feelings of guilt and indulgence. With a keen understanding of the societal expectations placed on women, Saira has navigated her own journey of overcoming guilt associated with non-essential purchases and self-care. She's passionate about helping others find their own balance and redefine what it means to prioritize themselves without the weight of guilt.
To learn more and connect with Saira, go to https://sairavalley.com/
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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When Michelle Moris, a registered nurse, was struggling with chronic pain and relentless stress, the last thing she expected to find was relief - but relief is exactly what she found in the form of CBD. With newfound purpose, she has become a cannabis coach, determined to help others navigate the exciting and sometimes daunting world of cannabis. What will come of Michelle's mission?
In this episode, you will be able to:
- Discover the role of cannabis in reducing dependence on opioids for chronic pain management.
- Realize the significance of educating patients about cannabis and providing product guidance.
- Shift your perspective towards cannabis use as a proactive wellness strategy instead of a reactive one.
- Delve into the calming and anxiety-relieving properties of CBD.
- Recognize the value of creating personalized cannabis treatment plans for better results.
Meet Michelle Moris, a registered nurse who discovered the power of cannabis in her own life, leading her to become a cannabis coach. With a focus on educating patients on how the plant works within the body, Michelle guides individuals in choosing safe products and using them responsibly. Her journey began when she sought a natural alternative to cope with chronic pain and avoid opioids. Michelle's expertise now extends to helping those dealing with anxiety, sleep issues, and various chronic conditions who are in search of a more holistic approach to their well-being.
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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After a life of traditional success and family responsibilities, Lisa Dooley is determined to break free and find the true purpose of her life despite the pressures of perfectionism and social media, creating a compelling central conflict of "control versus chaos".
Lisa Dooley is an experienced organizer, coach and former president of the South Shore Women's Business Network. She is an expert in helping people find balance and achieve their goals through her books, workshops and coaching.
Lisa Dooley has always lived her life in stages. From her corporate job to raising a family, she was finally at a stage in life where she had the time to focus on herself. After a lot of hard work, Lisa had learned to let go of her perfectionism and control the chaos in her life. Through her organizing business, she helps her clients find the motivation to get organized and let go of the stress that comes with not being able to find things when they need them. With her new book Growing Your Business OFF Social Media, Lisa hopes to help others make the most of their time, and live the life they want to live.
In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. How to Balance Multiple Life Stages
2. The Power of Embracing Imperfection
3. Strategies for Letting Go of Perfectionism to Achieve Goals.
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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When Nancy, a VP of Corporate Sales, is interrupted in a meeting one too many times, she leaves her job to fight for women to be heard which lead to her creating a powerful playbook to help them speak up and stand out with confidence. I'm so glad she's coming on the podcast to have an impactful conversation to talk about getting your voice heard & claiming your seat at the table.
Nancy Medoff is a confidence coach and author of Unmute Yourself, Speak Up to Stand Out. She has spent many years in corporate America and has operationalized the activities needed to demonstrate confidence in the workplace. Nancy has dedicated her life to helping others learn to stand up for themselves, so they can be heard and spread their own personal message.
"Don't mistake my passion for anger. People want to hear what you have to say. Speak up, stand out and step up. Never underestimate the impact you have on a person. If you want to be persuasive and be heard, the best way to disarm someone is to smile."
Tune in to this conversation as we discuss:
1. How to neutralize a person and be heard in a potentially volatile situation.
2. The impact of women overusing 'please' in emails.
3. The role of nurture vs. nature in developing confidence.
You can connect with Nancy on her website at www.nancymedoff.com. There is where you can buy her book, listen to her podcast, sign up for her email list or apply for 1:1 coaching.
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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Posture isn’t the sexiest thing I’ve ever talked about on this podcast, but it is one of the most impactful on my day to day life. In this episode I welcome Graeson Harris and he unpacks the layers of shame and misconceptions about posture and will help us discover a new gateway to being kinder to yourself.
Grae is an online embodiment coach that helps people with chronic pain, tension, and other mind-body stuff get along better with their bodies. Living with chronic pain himself, he became the professional that he needed, and as it turns out, that other people need too. Grae teaches easeful posture, mindful movement, and pain management skills. He is an AmSAT-certified Alexander Technique teacher and, in addition to working with hundreds of people in private practice, he has taught at over a dozen universities and conservatories. Grae is also a father, queer and very neurodivergent.
Here's what I cover with Graeson Harris in this episode:
1. How can posture be used as a gateway to being kinder to yourself?
2. How do our internalized beliefs and stories about our bodies shape our posture?
3. What is the emotional risk involved in opening up to new possibilities for managing chronic pain?
You can connect with Graeson at https://thismighthelp.us/ and grab his free Posture Detox course.
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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Bara was an engineer in corporate America until a fateful epiphany in 2020. After leaving their job, they felt a sense of fear and uncertainty so they started on a to explore their inner self and the journey of self-discovery.
Bara found that the key to connecting with their intuition was to nurture their inner voice and practice self-reflection without judgement.
Through therapy, life coaching, and journaling, Bara learned to see their struggles as an opportunity for growth, and now helps their clients do the same.
In this episode, join in on our conversation as we discuss:
1. What led to Bara’s decision to leave and what were the triggers?
2. How can one become comfortable with the idea of taking risks and choosing a different path?
3. Exploring the Relationship with the Inner Self: How can one navigate the relationship with the inner self without judgment? How can one use journaling and other methods to explore their inner world?
You can connect with Bara on Instagram @baracobara or on her website at BaraCo.org
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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This week on the podcast I had a chance to sit down with Michelle Woerderman, a life and wellness coach in Massachusetts. She started her career as a Financial Planner and advisor, but then after years of growth realized that she was no longer happy in that position.
Like many of us, she didn’t really know where she was going to go or what she wanted to do next – so she sought out the counsel of a life coach – which completely changed the course of her life.
I wanted you to hear her story because it resonated so much with me. I am constantly hearing stories from people at various stages of their careers wondering if they really want to stay in this job until they retire or die. But then suddenly find themselves unsure of what to do next.
If you’re in that position now, listen in on our conversation and you’ll find that before the hour is up – you’ll have some great ideas for how to find your next big thing.
You can connect with Michelle at https://mbwliving.com/ or on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/mbwliving/
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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Elaine and I are back for another Star Trek episode where we talk all about unusual Star Trek pairings. It lead us to some deep personal conversations as well.
The last few years have been a time of incredible growth for me, I’ve been relearning so many things, I feel like I rebuilt myself inside out in so many ways. And though I didn’t know it was happening, I was shaped by many of the lessons I learned from various episodes of the show and watching the relationships between characters develop. I finally understood why people became so obsessed with this show – like Elaine!
Her branding is on point – she has been a passionate Star Trek fan her whole life, and when I met her, even though I wasn’t a fan at the time, I was infected with her love for the characters, the people, and the community. We had a blast on Episode 47 so I brought her back!
Join us in our conversation as we touch on a handful of relationships that affected us like when Guinan took Ro Laren under her wing to when Riker and Deanna Troi had ended their relationship. Through these episodes, we both realized the power and importance of platonic relationships, such as the one between Kirk, Spock, and McCoy.
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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In this week's episode I am continuing the conversation with matrascence coach and doula, Christie Donn. If you don’t know what a matrascence coach is, and you’re a mom, then get ready to have your mind BLOWN about motherhood. I’m not a mother of human children, but as you know part of my life mission is to help make life easier for you – because you work your ass off, and I respect the shit out of that.
Christie has been such an incredible guide for me over the last few years to learn and understand about the experience of motherhood, transitions, and so much more related to how women are seen in the world, how we show up, and how we are systemically diminished. She also showed me how much power we have in our bodies and souls just by existing, and helped me release myself of the need for validation from the outside. I want to share some of her wisdom with you. This conversation went on for much longer than we expected, so we broke it into 2 pieces, here’s part 2.
To connect with Christie, you can email her at christie@modernmothergoddess.com or follow her on Instagram @modernmothergoddess
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This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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This week I had the great privilege of talking to one of my dearest friends – matrascence coach and doula, Christie Donn. If you don’t know what a matrascence coach is, and you’re a mom, then get ready to have your mind BLOWN about motherhood. I’m not a mother of human children, but as you know part of my life mission is to help make life easier for you – because you work your ass off, and I respect the shit out of that.
Christie has been such an incredible guide for me over the last few years to learn and understand about the experience of motherhood, transitions, and so much more related to how women are seen in the world, how we show up, and how we are systemically diminished. She also showed me how much power we have in our bodies and souls just by existing, and helped me release myself of the need for validation from the outside. I want to share some of her wisdom with you. This conversation went on for much longer than we expected, so we broke it into 2 pieces, here’s part 1.
To connect with Christie, you can email her at christie@modernmothergoddess.com or follow her on Instagram @modernmothergoddess
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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There are just too many things that can make an individual person feel weird, and its all based on our own life experiences, so what one person thinks is weird, another person can find totally normal. But despite how subjective weird can be, for many of us, it’s something we spent a lifetime trying to get away from.
This episode of Stop Shutting All Over Yourself is about perspective shifts you can make and how I learned about how being different from the status quo can be a superpower. Through my own personal stories and stories from others, I learned that we often feel the need to hide our true selves in order to fit in. This fear of being rejected by the collective creates a sense of insecurity and can cause us to mask our true selves and be less productive at work.
However, I also learned that if we can shift our perspective on these issues on an individual level and create a safe work environment, we can be more productive and successful in our careers and our lives.
In this episode, I'm talking about:
1. Embracing your weirdness as your superpower
2. What it looks like to work with chronic illness and how that can be used as a superpower
3. How to embrace the superpowers of others to create inclusion
Resources/articles mentioned in the show:
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/invisible-disability-work-hiding_n_61f6ecc2e4b094ce54ac1c67
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/disability-superpower-paul-scantlebury/https://www.rtulshyan.com/inclusion-on-purpose
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This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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This episode is about entrepreneurship and embracing your own uniqueness. Jill Salzman joins the show and shares her path to learning how to embrace her personal branding to stand out from the crowd.
Jill found success when she stopped trying to fit in with the professional world and started to lean into her own brand of weird. Through her journey, she realized that the more she was herself, the more money she made, and that the more she embraced her own energy and vibrance, the more people wanted to buy in.
By leaning into her own authenticity, she developed a community of people who felt the same way and could relate to her. Jill realized that being a zany person in a professional world often feels hard to fit in and that it's important to go out and find your people and embrace them.
Tune into this episode as we discuss:
1. How to cultivate a unique and successful personal brand
2. The power of leaning into authenticity in business
3. How to find the confidence and courage to be yourself despite fear of judgment
To learn more about Jill, check out this episodes full shownotes:
https://www.minessa.com/blog/ep-52-marching-to-the-beat-of-your-own-drummer-with-jill-salzman
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This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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Creating an inclusive workspace isn’t just about having a DEI committee and making sure that your employees are a certain percentage white, brown, black, neurodivergent, chronically ill, etc. We aren’t trying to create a rainbow for the sake of having a rainbow or to fill a quota. The purpose of these initiatives is to bring more ideas into the workplace and create better solutions for people, make work easier because of a chorus of voices with multiple viewpoints.
Unmute yourself! Speak up and stand out and get your seat at the table! By Nancy Medoff has to be one of the best blueprints for professionals that I’ve ever read to help voices that have trouble being heard due to systemic issues or unconscious biases, or their own lack of confidence. Regardless of WHY you don’t speak up – this book can help you overcome those challenges and grab your seat at the table.
In today’s podcast, we’re going to:
- Do a deep dive into a TACTIC for not shoulding all over yourself
- Cover steps for building an infrastructure of confidence
- Discuss why the Unmute yourself book is so important
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Thank you to Karacter for allowing me to use Telepathy (2005) in my intro.
This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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What does FAITH have to do with success in life and business??
I’m not talking about the faith that comes from God or your belief religiously or spiritually, that has it’s own value and is incredibly important, but that’s also deeply personal to each person.
I’m talking about faith as a concept. The dictionary has a 2nd definition of faith, beyond the god stuff - complete trust or confidence in someone or something.
Join me today to:
1. Break down how a lack of trust and faith is causing you to struggle at home, at work, or in your business
2. Learn what does having faith and trust FEEL like
3. Talk through the four types of trust
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This is one of my favorite albums of all time.
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I do not like the word should but I wasn’t always like this. SHOULD is a big word, full of meaning – when I say should it means I know what the RIGHT way is to do something, and I am dictating it to myself or to others to remind us all about the things we aren’t doing that we SHOULD be. It’s a word loaded with judgement and righteousness. And even when it’s used with the best of intentions, rarely has it ever been used to reinforce self esteem or boost someone’s confidence.
So why do we keep using it? And what can we do instead – come join me today and start shedding a lifetime of shame and shoulds, and embrace the possibilities of what you can accomplish when you aren’t consistently sending yourself on a guilt trip!
In this episode, you will learn:
1. The word 'should' and its negative impact
2. How our choices are individual and based off of our life experience and framework
3. The idea that some things that we 'should' do no longer have a place in our lives
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Sharifa Hardie is a business owner, political candidate, and activist who is passionate about supporting black businesses and eradicating homelessness and unemployment. She has experienced firsthand the challenges of being laid off multiple times and has made it her mission to help others in similar situations. Hardie is a strong advocate for equal access to opportunities and resources, and she is working to make a difference in her community and beyond. She is currently running for California State Senate in 2024.
Listen in as we discuss:
- How black single mothers are disproportionately affected by a lack of access to resources like heat in their homes.
- How businesses who take advantage of government loans and programs often don't include black-owned businesses.
- The importance of recognizing and addressing the trauma experienced by people who are unemployed.
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Have you ever found yourself wanting to make a massive change in your life or career? Maybe you want to leave your dead-end job. Maybe you want to take some prolonged time off. Or maybe it’s time to start that business you’ve been dreaming about. Whatever it is, your body is begging you for a change.
This week on the show Taryn Sowa joins me and talks about how she went from beginning constantly anxious and unhappy working as a physical therapist to running her own 6-figure online service based business and finally feels a sense of peace and relief. She talks about how she followed your intuition and learned there is always more than one option.
Listen in as we discuss:
- How Taryn Sowa left her 9-5 job and found success in the digital business space
- How to make decisions when you're feeling lost or uncertain
- What to do when you feel like you're stuck in a rut
Connect with Taryn:
www.tarynsowa.com
www.instagram.com/taryn.sowa
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Do you find yourself embarrassed about your mental health struggles? Worrying about how you could be perceived by others? You “should” be able to juggle it all and don’t want to be seen as crazy or weak. I’ve been there and so has today’s guest Jordan Cocoran.
Jordan is an entrepreneur and mental health advocate who is passionate about helping others overcome challenges and achieve their goals. She’s the founder of two businesses: Lisa Lucy, an anti-bullying and mental health organization, and The Corporate Collective, a marketing agency. Jordan is also a public speaker, sharing her story and insights in order to help others who may be struggling with similar issues.
Listen in as we discuss:
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Jordan’s story and struggle with anxiety
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How talking about your own mental health can be powerful in your growth and connection with others
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How Jordan turned her experience with anxiety and mental health struggles into two successful businesses
You can connect with Jordan at http://listenlucy.org/ For full show notes to today's episode, head to https://www.minessa.com/blog/46-finding-strength-with-jordan-cocoran
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I’ll be honest with you, I find the idea of time management nauseating. I am so sick of talking about it and being disappointed by planners and systems that don’t work. By the time I got to my 40s, I expected to have figured this out - even if it was just a little bit! It took a massive shift in perspective for me to truly understand why none of the planners and schedulers worked for me. Why I struggled so much - and it was probably the reason you do too. Because most time management systems aren’t set up for you, and they’re all designed to remind you of the things you “should” be doing. And no one wants to do those things.
Productivity coach Megan Sumrell has a whole new take on time management. She’s not interested in what we’ve done befo
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About Meghan
BUSY: **The word is overused – it’s a buzzword, it doesn’t mean anything because it’s so generic, we use it as a catch all.
It means different things to different people. It generally is negative.**
But at the same time, also a positive because it makes us feel important to be busy. To be going somewhere, to have something to do. SOMEONE NEEDS ME, I have a purpose.
It reinforces the lack of purpose in things that you do. When you’re busy, there’s no intention. It’s kind of literally sounds like noise.
Lets start with your catchphrase, your line that everyone knows: You are not ahead.
You are not behind.
You are exactly where you are supposed to be! – where did that come from, and tell me why accepting that as your truth not just saying the words is so important to you
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When someone says that someone is uncoachable or lazy, it makes me want to stab my ears out – and fast. Calling someone uncoachable is not only mean and really fucking judgmental, but it also serves no purpose. Never has anyone been called that and then immediately done self reflection work to understand why they are the problem.
It’s not helpful.
On today’s episode of Stop Shoulding all Over Yourself we’re going to talk about what it means to be COACHABLE and what it means to be UNCOACHABLE.
We’ll tease out why you may have heard that from a boss, leader, or a coach and how you can set yourself up to find the RIGHT coaches for you, so that you feel good about the money you invest in them, and happy about the results.
Remember, you’re paying someone to help you grow, not to make you feel like shit. And the two are NOT mutually exclusive.
This week is still live as I migrate over to Patreon.
We’ve already got it up and running – and you’re welcome to join us at http://www.patreon.com/minessa where we will continue the conversation!
👉 Should I be on Facebook or not?
I’ve been asked this question a thousand times. And I have given similar answers for the past several years because honestly, I believed that you did need to be on Facebook to be a successful business owner.
Over the last year I’ve been proved wrong enough to where I’ve changed my position. No - you do NOT need to be on Facebook to be a successful business owner, but you do need to understand the decision you’re making to dump the platform and what you’re going to need to do instead.
❓ Have you ever found yourself with something that you need to do on your action item list? And it looks so simple, and you know it's easy, but you simply cannot bring yourself to do it?
It feels like there’s some sort of inner compulsion holding you back. You can’t explain it, but you know what it feels like. It’s the feeling of, “I simply can’t get myself to do this thing.”
And you probably say something like,
😭 “I don’t know why I can’t just send that email, it will take me 2 seconds to write!” or,
⌛ “I’m getting really close to being ready to launch, just a few more things.”
Chances are, you’re wondering WHY you feel this way. In which case, you probably want to be on the 🔮 Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself Podcast today🔮 , where we’ll dig into the reasons you feel this way, and what you can do about it.
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💰 What is the Price of Success?
When you think about your goals when you first started your business did you consider the price you would have to pay to achieve them?
Until about 5 years ago I never had. All I knew was that I wanted to achieve goals, and the price didn't matter - I never thought about it. Neither did any of my clients or my peers. We knew we had GOALS, but when it came time to talk about paying for what it would take to achieve them - it was always about the dollar amount.
💸 How much to pay for a course or a new piece of software?
💸 Do you need to hire contractors, a VA or someone to help you?
💸 How much are you making/spending, and what’s your profit margin?
These are all WICKED important questions, and critical for a successful business. But they all focus on ONE type of payment. The CASH kind.
What none of them address are the hidden costs to running a business:
😭 The incredible loneliness and fear of failing that consumes your thoughts.
⌚ The time not spent with friends, family, and engaging in the life you’re working so hard for
💊 The physical and mental toll it takes on your person
Now I realize the time with my family, the general self care days, hobbies, the things that I love doing in addition to my job - those things are important too.
The problem is I wanted to be able to do ALL OF THESE THINGS at 100% capacity, I wasn't interested in prioritizing, 👉🏽 simply figuring out how to push through it all and achieve.
Everything became a priority. And when that's how you approach business, nothing gets done, and you don't hit any of your goals. And perhaps you find yourself in a place where you aren’t hitting your goals, but you’re still paying the price. And you’re not sure how to fix it.
In this week’s episode we’ll cover the approach I’ve used with my students and clients to help them create real clarity around their goals and the identify their price - so they can move forward with a confident plan, instead of worrying about what happens next.
There’s one more big reason why you may struggle with charging what you’re worth, and this is the hardest one to overcome. It manifests itself in 2 ways:
💔 When you don’t believe in your product, your company, your brand
💔 Or, You’ve fallen out of love with what you do or how you do it
This is often the hardest one to recognize, because it’s like a relationship. You don’t realize how it’s slowly deteriorating, until you just know you feel sad, unhappy, and nothing you’re trying is making you feel better.
In today’s podcast we’re going to talk about how that lack of passion impacts your livelihood, and how to decide when it’s time for you to hang up your skates and do something else.
👉 Do you cringe when sharing how much you’re worth?
👉 Do you word vomit everything you do when trying to share your value because you’re afraid of missing something important?
👉 Speaking of which how do you feel about tooting your own horn?
If you’re like most people, your stomach is already in knots. The idea of sharing your personal value is terrifying, so it’s easier to focus on the stuff you DO or SELL than who you ARE.
Lets talk about how to overcome that - on the live stream of the Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself podcast! This week we’re back to YouTube and Facebook, I was NOT a fan of my last stream! Back to the old drawing board!
There WILL be a Q&A after, so stick around and we can help you work through the knots in your stomach about money! See you soon!
How hard is it to decide how to price your services? It’s agonizing, right?
You’re putting a dollar value on your blood sweat and tears. YOU KNOW what you offer is priceless, but you can’t help feeling like you sound like you’re begging for every sale.
It’s bad enough when you’re asking for the sale, but it’s sometimes even worse when you’re figuring out HOW to price what you do. And THAT is why you spend more time working than resting. You’re undercharging.
And chances are - you know it. But if you can’t get people to buy for less, how will you get them to buy for more?
Believe me, it is possible, and we’re gonna talk about that on this week’s episode of Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself.
Lifestyle and business coaches who started by charging $50 an hour and bought HOURS in her week simply by raising her prices persession.
The website developer who charges $3000 to design a website, but then included building out an entire course system, importing, it was white glove - she was probably coming out to $10 an hour for the level of service she offers - now makes 4 times that and can take less clients.
The boutique owner who was giving so much product away to incentivise purchases, that she wasn’t making any profit at all, increased her profit margin simply by looking at the dollars.
The crafter who kept undercutting herself before she EVEN posted her products online, now booked up 8 months into the future, who barely uses social media for her business.
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Do you struggle with talking about your value?
Are you afraid to ask for what you're worth?
Do you automatically feel like you need to discount anytime someone asks you your prices?
Are you giving things away as incentives?
If so, then this live is for you!
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Have you ever found yourself saying,
I used to be able to remember so much more
Once I’ve gotten back to where I was 3 years ago, then we’ll be in good shape
I feel like I need to reset, get back to the person I was when I first started
I have so much less energy now, once I can get back to myself
This is the plight of us all. Looking back to the idealized version of ourselves from the past, and asserting that as soon as we get back to that spot, we will feel like we have a firm foundation and can use that as a springboard.
I said those same things for 10 years. 10 years I spent looking to the past. Until Alex pointed out that I really seemed to have a love affair going on with the past that made it very hard to look forward to the future.
That stopped me short.
Could it be possible that the very steps I was taking to grow were the ones holding me back? You’ve been listening to this podcast long enough to know that the answer to that question was YES. And much to my surprise, I discovered that I wasn’t alone.
There are an ARMY of people (you among them) who feel a sense of loss about:
👉 Who they were before their illness
👉 How much time they had before
👉 Their sense of identity from before they had kids
👉 The energy/vision/idea of their past selves
And created a story around which their future begins AFTER they get back to a baseline from the past.
What if you don’t have to wait? What if your future is LITERALLY right in front of you waiting to happen, and all it takes is ONE SMALL HEAD TURN?
Don’t believe me? Come check out the podcast today and put it to the test!
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We clearly have a theme going on this month - and that theme is CHANGE!
We’re undergoing a MASSIVE metamorphosis at Team Minessa, not the least of is that I am OWNING the shit out of my name now - we’re going to be rebranding to Minessa Ink over the next month or so - keep an eye out!
BUT dude, change is HARD, and it’s worse when you feel like you’re going to be judged for it. It’s why so many people DON’T adapt or pivot even when their businesses are making them miserable.
Because they don’t think that’s an option available to them. Maybe you don’t think that’s an option available to you.
If you feel trapped and want to make a change.
If you’re excited to make a change, but are scared to because of what others may think
Or if you simply aren’t sure why you feel so tired and icky in your biz
Then join me today for a shot of dopamine and a perspective change that I PROMISE will get you excited about your very next step!
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LinksAmylee Westervelt: https://www.amyleewestervelt.com
Social Strategy Squad: https://www.minessa.com/squad
- https://www.instagram.com/simone.grace.seol/
Episode 10: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1845673/9608505-you-should-be-able-to-make-money-just-doing-the-one-thing-in-your-business.mp3?download=true
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Episode 19: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1845673/10037155-perfectionism-is-bad-for-business.mp3?download=true
Episode 30: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1845673/10549462-you-have-to-have-it-all-figured-out.mp3?download=true
The other day in office hours we had a powerful discussion about how my clients approach doing new things.
Almost every single one said that they needed to know what they needed to do, they needed to understand the lay of the land, have the plan mapped out before they start.
Whereas this is super important in brain surgery, large scale construction, and flight planning - this technique will not serve you as an entrepreneur.
In fact, the whole idea that we need to figure it out before we do the thing is business KRYPTONITE and impacts women in far greater numbers than it does men. We as women are more likely to not succeed in business because of our APPROACH to change and growth.
That sounds disheartening for sure, but it’s SO straightforward to resolve and get around. Not easy, but definitely doable. Join me today and lets talk about how you can make a couple of small shifts to your approach to trying new things that will get you right back on track to making the impact you dreamed of when you started your biz!
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If you’re in my audience then chances are you have a chronic illness of some kind. Maybe:
🤕 You’re sick and tired of being sick and tired all the time
🤕 You have a physical illness that limits your mobility and uptime
🤕 You have a mental illness that limits your mobility and uptime
🤕 You are a caregiver for one of the above
You have a life outside of your business that you want to prioritize, but it’s tough when you feel like you always have to work. And what if you simply can’t ge tout of bed? How do you deal with the anxiety, guilt, and shame that comes with it?
Join me today as we examine where some of these feelings come from, and how you can take control of your life back from your illness.
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Several years ago I literally almost worked myself to death. My body had been shouting at me for months that I was working too much - I needed a break. But I didn’t know HOW to make progress in my business, stay present, AND ALSO make sure I had time to take care of myself.
If I’m being honest - I felt like I had to make the choice. Either it was self care or feeding myself.
Turns out, I was creating a choice where there didn’t need to be one. The only reason I felt that way was because I had coaches screaming in my ears all the time telling me that
- My dedication to my business was determined by how long I worked
- Success is dependent upon your hours, and you’d have time to rest later
- That there was a “right way” of doing things, and I had to fit into that mold
Turns out - they knew how to be successful only ONE way. But there was another way - one that didn’t kill me. Today I live a life of what I call luxury (maybe other people don’t but this is my version of it)
- I have my dream house and I get up whenever I want to every morning and have time to meditate, eat, and slowly greet the day
- I work when I want to, and have a steady stream of clients who are making their own version of luxury come true
- I am doing work that fulfills me, and lets me create meaningful connections with others around me
All of this came from NOT hustling. It came when I stopped doing the things other coaches were telling me to do and started listening to my intuition.
I took that intuition, combined it with years of experience and scientific research and created the HustleProof Your Life guide. This is the first tool designed to make you work LESS to create the life of your dreams.
https://www.minessa.com/guide
https://www.minessa.com/quiz
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Comparison is the thief of joy.
Aint that the truth. OncI became a business owner, comparison trapping became like a 2nd job for me. I was always worried about:
👉 What other people were doing that was working so I could do the same thing
👉 The people who copied me, because that was MY hard work!
No Doubt, You’ve been there yourself at some point. When you’re first starting out and not sure what to do, this is where the attention goes.
The problem is - that this kind of tactic can appear to work well (caring about what other people are doing), but it doesn’t take long before it backfires, and ultimately wears you and your business down.
Join me today as we break down the myths surrounding copycats (regardless of who the copier actually is) and go over some killer solutions for comparison trapping.
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How the Algorithm Works: https://www.facebook.com/minessa.konecky/videos/528428537770384/ **
This week I went to the Boutique Hub Summit in Dallas Texas, and I feel like my mind was blown to the stratosphere. I went to train, but I feel like I learned just as much as I taught.
On this very special episode of Stop Shoulding, we’re going to talk about how you can make the most out of these events, even if you have social anxiety or aren’t sure you belong.
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“I feel like I’m doing a lot of things, but they aren’t getting me anywhere.”
That’s what one of my clients said to me during our discovery session. She echoed what many business owners struggle with - the feeling that they’re spinning their wheels
❌ They’re always looking to that next big event that they do as the one that will “click” and start the path to less anxious business ownership
❌ They’re tired, overworked, brain fog is taking over their days, and they feel guilty whether their working their business or not
This feeling of being stuck can be paralyzing, and its tough to figure out what you need to do next - join me today as we talk about how you may be locking yourself into a miserable present in the hopes of a great life at some undetermined time in the future.
And how to get out of it
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I’ve had and spent millions of dollars over the course of my life, and it’s taught me a couple of things about myself:
👉 First, I am really really good at finding opportunities to make money
👉 Second, If I don’t learn how to use the money I make responsibly, then it doesn’t matter how many customers or sales I have, I’ll always be and feel behind.
🤯 This was sobering for me. But also insanely freeing.
It was the moment I realized that maybe I didn’t have to work as much as I thought I did. It was the beginning of a new way of creating freedom in my life I hadn’t considered before.
You’ll learn how to do the same thing for yourself in this week’s podcast. And once you’ve had a chance to listen, I’d love to know -
❓ Has your perception of success impacted how you spend money?
❓ What would you like to do differently moving forward?
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I used to hate asking for help. ESPECIALLY in my business. I have ADHD and as a kid I was always told I’d do so much better in school if I just “applied myself.” They made me feel stupid and incompetent.
Asking for help only reminded me of feeling weak and small and incapable. And for years I let that story KEEP me from having the life that I desired.
❌ I hesitated to ask for help because I was afraid people would think I didn’t know what I was doing
❌ Since I wasn’t entirely sure HOW to ask for what I needed, I was terrified I’d look stupid or incompetent
❌ Other people are busy with their own lives and their own businesses, I don’t want to bother them
So I lived in my own little bubble. I was lonely and isolated even though I was SURROUNDED by other business owners who also weren’t talking to each other for similar reasons.
We’re all alone. But we’re all together.
It wasn’t until I started TALKING to these women that I discovered that the ones who were doing really well understood something fundamental about business and life.
YOU CANNOT DO IT ALONE. TO BE SUCCESSFUL, YOU NEED A TEAM OF PEOPLE AROUND YOU. AND IT DOESN’T HAVE TO COST YOU A PENNY.
Come join me today as we talk about how to stop feeling like we’re business owners on an island and create a powerhouse community of women who TALK to each other!
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Have you ever tried to mimic what someone else is doing in their business to achieve their results?
I have, at least 3 times. And all 3 were an abysmal failure.
The first time I was copying a boutique owner. I copied everything she did meticulously. CRICKETS. The next couple of times didn’t do much better. It was soul crushing.
I was convinced that because it worked for her, it should work for me. And if it wasn’t then that was a sign that there was something REALLY REALLY wrong on a fundamental level.
It made me wonder if my deepest fears were true. That I really wasn’t cut out for this.
As it turns out, there was nothing wrong with me, my product, or my ability to make money. The only thing I was doing wrong was copying someone else’s business plan.
The same is true for you. If you’re out there looking for people you can mimic so you can achieve their level of success - you’ll be waiting forever and you’ll feel like shit the whole time.
Join us today as we discuss why things work for some people and not for others, and how you can zero in on what works for YOU and YOUR business, so you CAN get the results you want.
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Hey y'all - fun fact.
There are 3 stages to any business…
👉 Stage 1: Friends and Family LOVE you, you’re on top of the world
👉 Stage 2: Moving into a bigger pond, trying to find new people outside of F&F
👉 Stage 3: Scaling up and making the big bucks and big impact
🤯 What you need to run a successful business is DIFFERENT in each stage.
Most of the challenges we face as business owners come from us using tools from prior stages as we grow. We don’t realize how far we’ve come! 🦸♀️
In today’s podcast, we’re going to break down the 3 stages of business. You’ll know immediately which one you’re in, there’s no wait to figure it out.
AND THEN 🎉
I’ll tell you what your next steps are depending on which stage of business you’re in. So you know you’re using the right tools for the right stage!
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Ask any coach or marketer and they’ll tell you that the number 1 question they get from entrepreneurs is, “How can I find more customers?”
One of the best ways that we’ve heard of is paid advertising. It’s the magic sauce. Once you put money behind your business, it’s going to start rolling. Because that’s how it works, right?
Anyone who’s pressed that little blue BOOST button on Facebook knows that’s not how it plays out. What really happens is that you spend money on ads, you get some results. You spend more. You get limited results. A few months and thousands of dollars later, your sales aren’t any higher than they were before the ads.
Except now, the magic bullet you thought you had - isn’t working.
What NOW?
Good news. The solution to your problem is not, and was never going to be ads. It’s actually something else, something much easier, that you can do yourself, and it’s FREE. Join me today to learn what it is.
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“I’m a perfectionist!” I declared to my coach, “I can’t get going until I have everything planned out and I’m ready to go.”
My coach looked at me and said, OK then. “How long are you willing to wait until you make money?”
I didn’t understand what she was asking. Doing the thing perfectly is HOW I was going to make money, didn’t she understand what I was trying to say. If it’s not perfect, it won’t be successful.
I had to sit with that idea for a while, but what I realized was that perfectionism is just code for procrastination, and that it is the DEATH KNELL for any business.
If you proudly declare yourself as a perfectionist as a reason for why you haven’t started doing something yet - then join me today for the TRUE secret to success. One that will free you from the shackles of perfectionism forever.
The secret to success is that you figure it out as you go.
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How I made best friends with myself while cutting onions.
We all have that voice that lives in our head that rears its head whenever we least expect it, and often when we least desire it.
Some people call her the mean girl that lives in your head, its the inner voice that reminds you that you really are a loser and you don’t know anything and that one day people are going to find out the truth about you.
Though it may seem like that isn’t relevant to business - she’s the most IMPORTANT business partner you’ll ever have. For almost 30 years this voice in my head was a constant abuser, berating me and beating me up - reminding me of my smallness.
NO MORE. Now, we’re best friends. She’s my biggest cheerleader, and my most trusted confidant. She knows all, and is wise beyond measure. She helps me when I’m confused, supports me when I’m lonely, and is the ONLY source of validation that I need in my life now.
It didn’t take any major changes, but one small step I took one day while cutting onions changed my life forever. I’ve shared it with thousands of people since then - and I really would love to help you love yourself more - cause then YOU’LL LOVE YOUR BUSINESS MORE!
Join me to find out how!
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Facebook is constantly changing, and as business owners it can be frustrating to figure out what applies to you and what doesn’t - and you don’t have time to comb through thousands of podcasts, articles, and videos to figure out what you need to know.
Good News! You Don’t have to!
Today we are joined by a very special guest - The Squad Facebook Expert, Christie Donn! She did all the homework for you so YOU DON’T HAVE TO! Join us today to learn details about:
👉 What do to now that organic reach is basically in the toilet?
👉 Is Facebook really pay to play? Is it worth your effort if you aren’t buying Ads?
👉 Does scheduling your posts REALLY hurt your reach?
👉 And what da F are we supposed to do about Hashtags (I really want to know this one!)
And a whole lot more. Bring your burning questions to our special broadcast of Stop Shoulding All Over Yourself and lets create some social clarity in your life!
Running a business with a chronic illness is no joke. Whether you suffer from a physical illness like Fibroyalgia or MS or a mental condition like PTSD or anxiety, these conditions add an entirely new set of challenges to the aspiring business owner.
And though I separated mental and physical above, the truth is that they often go hand in hand.
Throughout the years we’ve experienced:
👉Doctors, friends, and family members believing that whatever we’re feeling is in our head
👉The impression that most people aren’t struggling with these issues, so we are a burden asking for special treatment
👉The persistent feeling that if we could just get everything sorted and order in our business, we could finally rest cause everything would be under control
And so we push through. Some days we ignore the pain and just try to get as much work done as possible. Others we cry in bed or in the bathroom wishing we could just get it together to do one thing on your list.
Here’s the thing. Feeling this way as a business owner blows, but it also can be a thing of the past. The reason we struggle this way is because almost ALL of the content you read out there about running a successful business is written for the able bodied world. Not unusual that we get left out.
BUT that also means that there’s an alternative. Join me today as we talk about what it means to be a badass business owner with a chronic illness, and how you can reclaim that feeling of confidence with a small shift in perspective.
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This is the time of year when we usually reflect upon our accomplishments, look back on our businesses and our lives and consider what we are grateful for, and what we may want to do for the next year.
If you’re an empath, it’s also a tough time to focus - you’re likely impacted with seasonal depression, and motivation is hard to come by. Managing both the excitement of the new year and the dullness of the season is challenging, but not impossible.
Today’s podcast is going to be a bit different - today I want to talk about how you might want to approach planning next year in a less INTENSE way, that will still keep you going.
As a BONUS - We will also be talking about Facebook in the coming year, and what you can expect from it.
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The holiday season is a time of enormous pressure for all of us. Your business, your family, and your health are competing priorities, each one vying for 100% of your attention all the time. It’s enough to make you pull your hair out.
On top of that, this is the time of year where peoples wallets are open and they are primed for spending money. You don’t want to miss the opportunity to take advantage of that momentum, but at the same time, you’re not sure if you
👉 Have the time to set something up without tapping out
👉 Know what kind of event to run that will get people’s attention
👉 Have the stamina for another big event that may or may not disappoint you
Today we’ll talk about why these big events work during the holiday season, and why it’s a GREAT idea to take advantage of the momentum. We’ll also cover the reason why I don’t do big holiday events anymore and why you don’t have to either - if you don’t want to.
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From time immemorial we’ve used lists to keep track of the things we need to do. As children we used crayons and scraps of paper, as we get older - we use pens and still scraps of paper, receipts, backs of envelopes - you name it. Some of us try to keep our to do list in our heads and just work our way down the mental list.
We think its the way to get things done, and consider it a critical part of creating progress in our businesses, so we follow it.
But what if this tool is the reason WHY you have trouble making progress. What if your To Do list is the very thing that locks you in place, generates analysis paralysis, creates the feeling of overwhelm, and STOPS you from getting things done.
It’s more common than you’d think, but with a small shift in perspective, you can eliminate the dark side of To Do lists and make them work for you again. Join me on the podcast today to find out how.
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“Whatever I’m doing is enough, my value isn’t determined by how many things I cross off a list”
From the time I started my social media business I was told you need more people, more numbers, the higher the numbers the better chance of you getting engagement and reach.
I bet you heard the same things.
And initially, it worked. More people. More engagement. More money. More better.
Until. It stopped working. And then everything changes and getting back on track feels like you’re fighting an uphill battle in the snow - NAKED. It blows.
So you do the best you can to increase your numbers the way you learned how
Asking your current customers for likes and shares
Running ads on social media for page likes
Doing like for like posts in business networking groups you’re in
But yet - it still feels like a battle. So what changed? What happened between AWESOME and OMG I’M LOSING PEOPLE? And what can you do differently to get your customer engine flowing again so you can get back to business!
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It’s so weird to think how I simultaneously used to feel like I had to stand out from the competition, and ALSO used to feel like I needed to copy what other people who were successful were doing.
😕 To be successful you need to stand out and be different.
😕 To be successful, copy what other people are doing.
Like you - I’ve heard both these messages as I grew my business. And I’ve …
❌ tried copying word for word action for action what someone else does
❌ Tried to be unique by deliberately picking things I didn’t like but stood out
❌ Felt frustrated because there were people copying things I was doing that did work
And all the while, my business struggled. I felt like I was FIGHTING for every inch of success.
Until one day. Clarity hit. Sometimes my realizations are subtle. Not this one. This realization was like a semi truck hitting me in the face at full speed. It was the realization that none of those things mattered.
The things I had been focusing on as my “path to success” were really just a tide pool of things I was trapped in. There was no path to success with that perspective - only marinating in the same water for eternity. 🌊
So if it’s not about being original, and it’s not about copying what other people do - then WHAT IS IT? Join me on today’s live podcast recording and we’ll talk about the real reason people buy from other people, and you can pick your power tool before 11AM EST!
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Do you have an opportunity to make money that you’re missing out on?
If you’re like most other women business owners, then the answer to that is most likely a resounding YES.
And it’s because of an antiquated belief that if you have to do anything other than the one thing you set your business up for, then you’ve failed.
This perspective is keeping you feeling poor.
It’s preventing you from creating wealth and freedom.
And You WILL be working non stop for the rest of your life if you don’t work it out
Am I being melodramatic?
In this case - not really. Most of my clients miss out on enormous opportunities to make money because they don’t see them as opportunities - they see them as obstructions, challenges, or proof of failure.
Let's turn that around and turn them into money generating machines, shall we?
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When it comes time to post about your life on social media, how do you feel?
🤩 Excited? Like you can’t wait to tell the world about your day, life, opinion?
😟 Worried? People will/wont agree with you? You’ll lose people?
😭Unsure? Your life isn’t super interesting, what will you talk about?
Maybe it depends on the day? 🤷
Working through those emotions takes time, and often by the time you’re done frantically searching for something interesting to talk about, carefully trying to decide on the right words, and dealing with the emotional shit, you either post something really quick, or don’t post at all.
If I had a dollar for every time I faced that challenge, I wouldn’t need a business, I’d be rich on that income alone.
But what if getting people’s attention on social media and inspiring them to engage has nothing to do with being interesting, or exciting, or the best dancer or most entertaining.
What if it’s something else altogether? (Spoiler Alert: It is. It’s something else altogether)
Wanna know what it is? Listen to this week’s LIVE recording of the Stop Shoulding all Over Yourself podcast and find out. Then stick around at the end for a Q&A where we’ll talk about YOUR specific issues!
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I don’t know about you, but there was a point in my life where I was tired of feeling like I was always ON MY WAY to succeeding.
👉 At some point I asked myself - am I ever going to feel like I’m there?
👉 Will I feel like it’s enough?
👉 Or is this my life - will I just always feel like I’m chasing money, sales, customers, freedom, etc.
I did not want to feel like I was on a treadmill going to fast for me for the rest of my life. But if I was being really honest, that’s all my business felt like for a couple of years.
That’s when I had a real heart to heart with myself - and I realized
- I LOVE being a business owner, and I want to keep doing i
- I didn’t want to do it if I felt like this all the time
So that left only one solution. Find a way to feel differently while running my business. I figured it out, and now most days are full of fun and joy - exactly how I imagined it.
I taught my clients how to do the same thing - and now their businesses are happy and hopping too.
And today, I want to share that with you! Let get going!
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Facebookpocalypse has everyone talking. Is it time to get off the platform?
There are tons of other options out there: Clubhouse, Snapchat, E-mail, Telegram, WeMe, etc. Maybe you have an app or want to switch to Google Ads or Google my Business to grow, but you’re not sure.
Is this the right choice for you? What if you make a mistake?
You’re right to wonder this. Moving your business off the platform is no small feat, and diversifying your attention could be a business killer. It’s a smart business move to be cautious about such a big step.
But HOW do you decide? THIS is the entire purpose of my business - neutralizing Facebook - because it IS a thorn in our sides. So join me today to answer your burning questions like:
👉 Do I have to be on Facebook? What are my other options?
👉 How can I keep Facebook from destroying my business whenever it has an outage? What do I do to protect myself?
👉 I really hate this platform, and no one’s paying attention anyway, or I’m shadowbanned - what do I do?
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Do you feel like you need to be likeable in business? Lets talk about it!
Are you worried that you don’t have enough reach because you’re boring?
The truth is, both of these things don’t matter as much as you think they do. In fact, they really don’t matter at all. And as long as you’re trying to be interesting and likeable, you’re solving the WRONG problem in your business. Which means you’ll waste a LOT of time before you realize it, reset and start making progress.
OR, you can watch this live, identify the issue, solve it, and then get started making progress now.
Doesn’t that sound awesome? Let’s do it!
⌛ Do you feel like you need to work all the time to be able to make traction in your business?
💸 Are you afraid to stop working because you feel like you can’t risk losing the potential sales?
This is so common among women entrepreneurs these days. The pressures of running a business are high, and there always seems to be something else to do. When you started your business you imagined freedom and abundance, but you feel mostly tied to your phone and like you never have enough.
🤩 What if you didn’t have to feel that way?
🎉 What if you could run your business, make money, see success, all without killing yourself and ignoring your family.
You can do it. It’s free, and I’m going to show you how on today’s podcast!
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Then you want to be here for this conversation. Join me and Roxanne Wilson in a conversation about our time in Direct Sales, lessons learned, and what we can all do to make DS a safer, mentally healthier and more lucrative option for everyone!
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One of the biggest lies I was ever told was that everyone is my customer.
I remember it vividly. It was a lie I perpetuated for a long time myself, in direct sales, independent business ownership, etc. I thought that because everyone wore clothes - everyone was my customer.
That kind of thinking trapped me in a tiny little business with no potential for freedom - EVER.
I didn’t know it then - but the very FOUNDATION upon which I had built my business was the reason I was struggling. I had no idea! It wasn’t until I really started to embrace that EVERYONE was not my customer that I started to see REAL progress towards my dreams.
If you’re feeling like your dream life is farther away now than when you started, you want to be on this live - with one fell swoop - you can change that.
Problem
- We’re always looking for the “right way” to do something
- The problem is we’re doing our due diligence, so we look around for the right way
- We check google, the internet, social media, etc. We ask people we know, our parents, everyone’s opinions.
- We don’t trust our decision making process, so we’re worried we’ll pick the wrong one.
- Wait, if they are all right for other people, then which one is right for me?
- And it creates chaos, and indecision. Analysis paralysis doesn’t just happen
- YOU CREATE IT
Solution There is only one right step. I kid you not - one. It’s taking any step. It doesn’t matter what you do, just do something. * You can look at that something, see what worked and what didn’t and then test again to see if your results changed, or it worked better, or you liked it better * You can’t think your way out of these problems. * Think about making any recipe. Let's start with making a steak. * Would we have known the right temperature if we simply spent all our time looking at videos and reading articles? * Nope, we had to COOK the fucking steak, eat it. And then say, um, not so much - too rare, too well done, not seared enough, etc. And then let's try it again for next time. But you don’t think your way around 150 degrees and then say nah, I don’t like that. You don’t know because you haven’t tried. * Stop trying to think your way out of problems and start taking action.*
HomeworkHere’s what I want you to do. I want you to post in the thread of the live on this page (for those of you who are listening to the podcast this is on Minessa Konecky on Direct to Success, and I want you to declare something that you’ve been going back and forth on the details on.
I want you to declare what it is, and declare ONE action you’re going to take. I promise you, it doesn’t matter what the action is, you just have to take one!
Then, come back and share how you felt after you did the thing - what did you learn? What are you going to try next?
We are so good at manipulating ourselves into feeling horrible and not taking action, its a human skill that we can convince ourselves of anything. Since we have that control, why not capture that power and use to create progress and momentum? I hope that this resonated with you and shined a light on opportunities that ALREADY exist in your business. If you liked this podcast, please leave us a review and let other business owners know how it helped. Our mission at DTS is to help as many women as we can to feel joy and confidence in their business again, and your referrals help us get the message out. Your friends and colleagues will thank you later!
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👉 I used to spend so much of my day agonizing over the things I should be doing but wasn’t
👉 The things I was told to do but didn’t want to
👉 The stuff I saw others doing but didn’t feel right for me
I agonized and felt guilty. I was failing because I wasn’t doing these things. I told myself that story for years. It wasn’t until the last few that I realized that the key to a successful business isn’t found in any of those things. I would find it when I stopped shoulding all over myself.
Join me on this live today where we’ll begin our journey of deconstructing all the things we feel ike we SHOULD be doing, so we can get back to doing the things that we WANT to do!
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