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Do you ever feel overwhelmed by the constantnews cycle, the pressure to achieve, or the general anxieties of daily life? Ifso, you're not alone. In today's fast-paced world, it's easy to lose sight ofwhat truly matters and get swept away by negativity.
That's where Stoicism comes in. This ancientphilosophy, founded in Greece around 300 BC, offers a practical framework forliving a virtuous and fulfilling life.
Marcus Aurelius and Seneca both encourage us to slow down and just take a walk. Lets try it!!
This moment I talk about a very true and very real experience about a suicide attempt. Please there is a warning of that and please ta
This is my first attempt at actual life advice 😅. Please listen with grace I do love yall
I know I know you think this is soooooo you. Its not haha. Take a listen and find out why
You know Harry Potter is Avoidant? Me too so tune in to the girl who lived and lets learn something!!
Our first video chat!!! We will give our takes on women's clothing, the Keke Palmer Debate and just give our little fun opinions.
Ever make a deal with yourself to be better? do better? live better? Well here are 4 agreements you can make and live a richer live. I shall be reviewing a book and hopefully you'll give it a read too!
Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde centers upon a conception of humanity as dual in nature,we confront the theory of a dual human nature explicitly only after having witnessed all of the events of the novel, including Hyde’s crimes and his ultimate eclipsing of Jekyll. This episode will discuss our need to accept the duality of human nature as its central to being self aware.
In order to understand ourselves we need to put in a lot of hard work. A good way is to find out what other people see when they see us. Perception needs to be multifaceted .
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Sigma Males, Cancel Culture and Men are so weird. Join me and my newest consult Chilli Chanda as a real man he’s here to give me insight and just have good banter. He’s British so forgive his accent. Follow me on Instagram!!--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
As all things should go in sequence I thought I would talk about love bombing. I hinted at it in the last episode but I decided to go into it. You see the toxic side of it really well in Frozen and we end up with an exciting conversation. Love bombing is an emotional manipulation technique. It's not great. You basically love someone so much they are unable to see your more toxic traits. You are emotionally gaslit usually early in a relationship so you can manipulate them later.While an overflow of love sounds idyllic, this behavior can be a huge red flag as it is a pattern that can be associated with underlying abuse and a potentially toxic relationship. --- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
So Andrew Tate got taken down by Greta Thumberg twice in one week and y'all thought I was just gonna stay quiet. Nope!! More importantly guys we really need to stop and start thinking about who we are following we are starting to look very blind.
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“Breadcrumbing” literally refers to leaving bread crumbs so that someone can follow the trail. Are you being led on a trail that leads nowhere? How to spot the signs and how to protect yourself!--- This episode is sponsored by · Anchor: The easiest way to make a podcast. https://anchor.fm/app
This week took me to a kind of low place but with friends and help from people around me I felt lifted up. I would also like to explore a fun new phenomenon.
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Radical self focus forbids us from being one with the community. Denying ourselves communal input as well as our own ability to pour out. Walk with me on this journey and get some juicy tea too!!
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The tale of Icarus is one repeated often as a warning against hubris but what if there's a lot more to the story?....Here in lies my poddy
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In a world begging to be more tolerant we have gone to far extremes to make sure no one is offended. But we will offend people, constantly so why soften words or hold back distinct meanings. We will be touching on the Euphemism treadmill and the evolution of language.
I got Covid and came to a life reckoning. This episode may be a little scattered but it is so important to me, I may not be spitting hot facts but I am telling my life's truths so take that as you will. More resources for COVID-19 below
www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/more/index.html
www.benefits.gov/help/faq/Coronavirus-resources
www.usa.gov/coronavirus
www.who.int/emergencies/diseases/novel-coronavirus-2019
It's always dangerous to the collective group when you are ready to pursue individual gains at the expense of the collective. The "pick-me" person seeks acceptance from another group and often their individual actions are used to demonize the collective. I am taking on the challenge of discussing the bizarre and possibly the more complicated conversation of the "pick-me" trope.
This is a grinds my gears episode, for the treatment of Castor Semenya. There are so many harmful stereotypes perpetrated against Black women and Black sexuality. I face them all the time I live in constant fear of voicing rage for example as I know that there's rage stereotypes. Often black women are treated with less gentleness for the assumption of strength. In this episode we see how terribly a beautiful woman was treated and why it was wrong.
The primary role of dominance hierarchies, is the formation of order and stability within those groups. So where does the Beta male stand? There is a perception over the actual definition I would like to explore that and see what's going on there.
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Just wanted to share a life experience. Nothing profound. Just kindness.
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What does it mean to be an Alpha Male? Are you a healthy Alpha? Am I an Alpha? Journey on with me as we try and solve this puzzle.
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I am making the argument that Cinderella is actually a feminist tale. This episode is me explaining my journey to understanding feminism. https://www.humanrightscareers.com/issues/types-of-feminism-the-four-waves/ https://thelifeofscience.com/2019/05/14/4-reasons-anti-feminist-women-hate-feminism-and-what-theyre-missing/ Wikipedia https://dailytitan.com/opinion/cinderella-embodies-feminism-through-kindness-and-strength/article_092b0733-250d-5d3c-9882-7db9175dfeb8.html#:~:text=Modern%20Disney%20princesses%20are%20considered,a%20man%20to%20rescue%20them.&text=Cinderella%20challenges%20that%20by%20embodying,means%20to%20be%20a%20feminist. https://sites.pitt.edu/~dash/perrault06.html
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Second Deep dive into the dark parts of the dating world and how people can be so misguided. Hopefully thing gains you some good conversations or at least an awareness to what others are going through
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Dating Series: What is the red pill movement? why is it good? Why is it bad? What can be done
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Often the why behind our mannerisms is lost on us as a modern culture. We take things that seem cute and apply them to our lifestyles without a moments thought to their origin. I was recently wound up about the idea of people doing things I have always known to have strong meaning haphazardly. Here's my take on all this.
Sources:
https://archives.history.ac.uk/makinghistory/resources/articles/why_history_matters.html
https://madpipe.medium.com/what-we-mean-by-traditional-values-c2cded99c584
https://bento.cdn.pbs.org/hostedbento-prod/filer_public/whatihear/9-Cultural_Approp-Viewing_Guide.pdf
https://www.ceeceesclosetnyc.com/blogs/news/the-history-behind-african-waistbeads-and-their-colorful-meanings
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According to wikipedia lol. Knowledge sharing is an activity through which knowledge is exchanged among people, friends, peers, families, communities, or within or between organizations. Knowledge sharing is so important. I want to dive into it and see what we can learn over the next few weeks.
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I have touched on this idea before that the more selfish you are the more you actually act in the interest of other. We talked about this in the episode Kindness is not natural. I believe acting in your self interest is participating in the voting process. Here's my pitch hope you love it!!
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After every Kanye album comes out we wonder what is art lol. I think many things are art and what isn't. I have a lot of artsy friends but this does not make them artists. I think this was a fun one but probably a silly question to ask because the grey area is sooo big.
Hope you enjoy let me know what you think is art!!
Sources:
Avital. T. (2003). Art versus Nonart : Art out of Mind. Cambridge University Press, Cambridge.
https://christopherwillardauthor.medium.com/distinguishing-art-from-non-art-discussion-2-part-1-fec2feaa36b4
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/art_vs_non-art#:~:text=When%20we%20talk%20about%20intention,produce%20some%20specific%20emotional%20response.&text=But%20in%20art%2C%20the%20intention,their%20own%20thoughts%20and%20emotions.
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BLM is now a popular movement. But though it makes perfect sense to me it may not to others. So I want to make a case for the cause and break down why saying all lives matter doesn't make sense
BeThe1To is the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline’s message for National Suicide Prevention Month and beyond, which helps spread the word about actions we can all take to prevent suicide. The Lifeline network and its partners are working to change the conversation from suicide to suicide prevention, to actions that can promote healing, help and give hope. I hope these tools can be helpful to you!!
If you’re concerned about yourself or someone else, please call the Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. They’re available 24/7, they're free and confidential.
https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/promote-national-suicide-prevention-month/
https://www.bethe1to.com/
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I decided to continue my kindness motif. I asked what is kindness and use more of a scientific basis . I consider circumstances as a reason for the genetic or innate idea of human kindness. Deeper I shall Dive. So to google I go and there Kindness is defined as the quality of being friendly, generous, and considerate. https://www.accountingtools.com/articles/basic-accounting-concepts.html https://neurosciencenews.com/negative-emotion-help-6777/ https://rekenekt.org/uncategorized/character-no-one-watching/ https://www.academia.edu/5423479/Breaking_Bad_and_the_Moral_Limits_of_Human_Nature
Are we becoming increasingly cruel because the very meaning of kindness is lost on us? Why on earth should we be kind? Where does the whole concept come from? this is the question that haunts me today.
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My Journey on Finding out more about this topic that i have run away from and not had a firm opinion on. So I played devil's advocate and I think I'll have to revisit this one but I wanted the conversation out there. https://www.self.com/story/14-abortion-facts https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/abortion/risks/ https://www.amnesty.org/en/what-we-do/sexual-and-reproductive-rights/abortion-facts/ https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/abortion/considering-abortion/what-facts-about-abortion-do-i-need-know#:~:text=Abortion%20is%20safe.,depression%20or%20mental%20health%20issues. https://medlineplus.gov/abortion.html#:~:text=An%20abortion%20is%20a%20procedure,and%20placenta%20from%20the%20uterus.
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Often what is important to us is only a thread in the grand tapestry that is life and community. How do we navigate the discrepancy between the big picture and the minutia? Materiality, we need to know how to treat what is immaterial in the grand scheme o things but is still important to us. These are my thoughts.
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This episode is my opinion and findings on the personality test the enneagram. I'm just starting a conversation rather than spitting straight facts. Enjoy and let me know your thoughts. https://www.truity.com/enneagram/what-is-enneagram https://youtu.be/ziiblW0Sv8g. https://youtu.be/aerFihalHxs
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In school I remember getting in trouble for my clothes and sometimes they were even taken away. So I'm looking at why we are so fixated on women and the trouble it's gotten us into. Here are some helpful links too. https://www.insider.com/school-dress-code-rules-controversy-2018-8#a-seventh-grade-girl-was-allegedly-asked-to-cover-up-a-t-shirt-that-a-teacher-found-offensive-her-parents-say-the-shirt-sends-an-anti-discriminatory-message-1
https://scholarship.law.umn.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1412&context=lawineq
https://www.marieclaire.co.uk/reports/timeline-of-dress-codes-men-telling-women-what-to-wear-295043
http://www.lynnettesheppard.com/reasons-for-dressing-modestly/#:~:text=Researchers%20discovered%20that%20feelings%20of,opposed%20to%20more%20modest%20dress.&text=Some%20well%2Dmeaning%20individuals%20say,or%20boys%20in%20their%20lives.
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Don't feed the trolls. I can't stand people being bullied, it always makes my blood boil but having grown up in the beginning stages of computers mass distribution I never fully understood online bullying. Here's my take on what I found. Also here is the link for the movie I talked about as well as an anti-bullying site . https://youtu.be/Bm81NWZNdpw https://www.stopbullying.gov/prevention/how-to-prevent-bullying
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I have two special guest professionals. Esther who is a child prep therapist In Pittsburgh Pennsylvania and Ellen who is a social worker that works in a inpatient crisis unit at a hospital( She's actually super legit)in Baltimore Maryland. They will be answering some hard questions and helping us tackle the matter. Remember:You matter, its simple and not much to ask from anyone. I swear its true you matter and I want you to know that to me and those around you you still matter. No one deserves to be sidelined or made to feel like their absence would not be noticed. We noticed and are here for you. Much love and many virtual hugs. Also thank you crazyhead comics for the artwork!!!!!!!! If you live in the US and are having suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255 for free and confidential support. It's open 24 hours a day, seven days a week. For crisis support in Spanish, call 888-628-9454. TrevorLifeline, a suicide prevention counseling service for the LGBTQ community, can be reached at 866-488-7386. Get CNN Health's weekly newsletter Crisis Text Line provides a live, trained crisis counselor via a simple text for help. The first few responses will be automated until they get a counselor on the line -- which typically takes less than five minutes. If you are in the US or Canada, text 741741. If you are in the UK, text 85258 and those in Ireland can text 50808. The National Health Service also lists a variety of resources on its website. Befrienders Worldwide has created a help app that connects users to the nearest emotional support center for the part of the world they live in -- it will run on a PC desktop or mobile phon
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Here are some personal encounters that I have had with suicide. Also a beginning of a breaking of the stigma on suicide. You matter, its simple and not much to ask from anyone. I swear its true you matter and I want you to know that to me and those around you you still matter. No one deserves to be sidelined or made to feel like their absence would not be noticed. We noticed and are here for you. Much love and many virtual hugs.
Also thank you crazyhead comics for the artwork!!!!!!!!
If you live in the US and are having suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255 for free and confidential support. It's open 24 hours a day, seven days a week. For crisis support in Spanish, call 888-628-9454. TrevorLifeline, a suicide prevention counseling service for the LGBTQ community, can be reached at 866-488-7386. Get CNN Health's weekly newsletter Crisis Text Line provides a live, trained crisis counselor via a simple text for help. The first few responses will be automated until they get a counselor on the line -- which typically takes less than five minutes. If you are in the US or Canada, text 741741. If you are in the UK, text 85258 and those in Ireland can text 50808. The National Health Service also lists a variety of resources on its website. Befrienders Worldwide has created a help app that connects users to the nearest emotional support center for the part of the world they live in -- it will run on a PC desktop or mobile phon
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Here are some personal encounters that I have had with suicide. Also a beginning of a breaking of the stigma on suicide. You matter, its simple and not much to ask from anyone. I swear its true you matter and I want you to know that to me and those around you you still matter. No one deserves to be sidelined or made to feel like their absence would not be noticed. We noticed and are here for you. Much love and many virtual hugs. If you live in the US and are having suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255 for free and confidential support. It's open 24 hours a day, seven days a week. For crisis support in Spanish, call 888-628-9454. TrevorLifeline, a suicide prevention counseling service for the LGBTQ community, can be reached at 866-488-7386. Get CNN Health's weekly newsletter Crisis Text Line provides a live, trained crisis counselor via a simple text for help. The first few responses will be automated until they get a counselor on the line -- which typically takes less than five minutes. If you are in the US or Canada, text 741741. If you are in the UK, text 85258 and those in Ireland can text 50808. The National Health Service also lists a variety of resources on its website. Befrienders Worldwide has created a help app that connects users to the nearest emotional support center for the part of the world they live in -- it will run on a PC desktop or mobile phone.
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We often dive blindly into humourous news reports. Sharing them or giving our take on how ridiculous they are. But, how ridiculous are they? I did some research on Florida man to find out . https://www.treatmentadvocacycenter.org/fixing-the-system/features-and-news/2782-five-priorities-for-addressing-mental-illness-guest-column.... Another good one is https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-families/helping-a-loved-one-cope-with-a-mental-illness
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Just like Uncle Ben I believe that with great power comes great responsibility. So I am taking a look into social responsibility and the role celebs should not be playing in our society. I look up to many famous people, but I don't believe they made me the way I am.
However, I do feel their opinions and commentary helped guide a lot of my conversations which in turn helped me formulate opinions. As they are doing more of that(It's currently Corona time it's all we do), I now feel maybe what they say should be filtered a little more or at least we should take it with a bit more salt. Enjoy my podcast and let me know what you think about all this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :D
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