Conscious Conversations with Kelly M. Madera: Recent Episodes
Kelly M. Madera
This podcast will help people of all ages and backgrounds amp up their motivation, business acumen, and inner work. With content aimed at obliterating limitations, providing a roadmap for various ventures, and sparking profound contemplation, each episode will help you up level into the most conscious version of yourself.
Farewell, my beautiful flowers! I hope you enjoyed all of Season 1! I've shared with you my most vulnerable stories of growth, experience and offered concrete ways that you too, can find more peace and clarity in everyday life. As I step away from all things digital I want you to know that I am always here to support you on your journey of becoming a more conscious version of yourself. For more information about my coaching, writing or speaking services please email me at km@kellymadera.com or visit my website www.kellymadera.com. Until next time, keep on blooming!
How do you know that decisions, actions or thoughts you're having are in alignment with who you really are? With your deeper purpose? With your highest self? What does it really mean to be in alignment with the universe?Being aligned means that you're in tune with your life; you know which direction to go in and make all of your choices with confidence and certainty. You feel comfortable with who you are and everything (yes, I mean EVERYTHING!) falls into place easily. When you’re out of alignment with the universe, things feel hard, you might experience physical illness symptoms, fatigue or just a general feeling of "off." When you're truly aligned, you're open to all the ideas and possibilities life has to offer. Every single one of us is capable of aligning with the universe, we just need to put effort forth in order to reap the benefits. Listen to this episode to understand ways you can shift into alignment or realize immediately when you've fallen out of it.
Do you struggle to know whether you're making the best decision for yourself? Give this episode a listen.
Many of my clients (and upon a time: myself included) experience burnout because they’re giving from a place of lack, instead of abundance. Do any of these sound familiar to you? 1. Giving from a place of lack. Are you giving even though you don’t really have the energy? 😅 2. Giving to get. Are you giving with an unspoken set of expectations? (pssst. This is often subconscious!) 😒 3. Giving because you think that you should. The ONLY and YES ONLY time you should be giving anything whether it’s time, money, energy is because you WANT to. Are you giving because you think that you “should?” 🤭
I know…I know! It’s tough to say no when we’re so used to freely giving ourselves. But guess what? THIS IS ALL FIXABLE. A tweak there, an adjustment here and you’ll be in an entirely different energetic space. People do this all the time and we don’t think less of them, we admire them because they have something we all secretly want….CLEAR BOUNDARIES!
A continuation of last week’s episode, this week I dive deeper on how in my mid + late 20’s I cycled through my final, emotionally violent relationship. I explain how in leaving this relationship I learned to value myself in ways I’d never been able to before. The hardest part? Accepting that I didn’t know myself very well. I didn’t know what I wanted or needed in a relationship. I didn’t know what I wanted or needed in life. My story is proof that unclear intentions and fuzzy boundaries attract others with that same energy. Want to change your life? Start with you.
Maybe you’re reading this and thinking, that’s too simple, it has to be more complicated.
It’s not.
However, it might mean that you’re not ready yet. It took me !5! years and 3 abusive relationships to be ready. Everyone moves at their own pace, be kind and patient with yourself. Believe me, once you’re ready, you’ll know.
Maybe this episode will help you leave the relationship you're in now, or maybe it will help you be more understanding of someone in your life.
I promise you, this relationship (yes that one that’s coming to your mind right now) isn’t “it,” for you. You’re “it,” for you. I’m so proud of you and I love the person that you are.
Your friend always, Kelly
Are you or someone you know experiencing domestic violence? If you’ve ever asked yourself the question,
“Is what I’m experiencing REALLY that big of a deal?”
The answer is yes. Yes, it is and help is ALWAYS available.
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National Domestic Violence 24-Hour Hotline
1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY for Deaf/Hard of Hearing) (24-hour hotline, 7 days a week, 365 days a year)
The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available to anyone who has been affected by relationship abuse, including those who are currently in abusive relationships, those who are working to heal, friends or family of victims and survivors and anyone in the community who has questions about domestic violence. Phone services are provided in more than 200 languages.
In this deeply personal story, I share how in my early-20s, I found myself in a physically and emotionally violent relationship. I explain how the volatile, never-ending back-and-forth yo-yo of emotions entirely depleted my sense of self and the pain and shame that went along with it. Once this relationship ended, I cycled through two more extreme versions of abusive relationships before I was able to break the cycle in my late-20s (episode on THIS coming NEXT week!) Before these experiences I often questioned, "Why would someone stay? Why wouldn't they just leave?"
If you've been there, or you're there now - you know it's not that simple. Maybe this episode will help you leave the relationship you're in now, or maybe it will help you be more understanding of someone in your life.
Are you or someone you know experiencing domestic violence? If you’ve ever asked yourself the question,
“Is what I’m experiencing REALLY that big of a deal?”
The answer is yes. Yes, it is and help is ALWAYS available.
National Domestic Violence 24-Hour Hotline
1-800-799-7233 or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY for Deaf/Hard of Hearing) (24-hour hotline, 7 days a week, 365 days a year)
The National Domestic Violence Hotline is available to anyone who has been affected by relationship abuse, including those who are currently in abusive relationships, those who are working to heal, friends or family of victims and survivors and anyone in the community who has questions about domestic violence. Phone services are provided in more than 200 languages.
INTRO MODULE INFO What can you expect from PTB? 1️⃣TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE. I know that sounds like a big outlandish statement but I mean it. I’ve spent 31 YEARS in 6 cities, 4 industries, 3 degrees, 2 countries which all lead me to the same conclusion: 2️⃣YOUR ENERGY CREATES YOUR REALITY. Yes, you REALLY are that powerful. Still don’t believe me? In keeping with a flower motif, look for a “sign” AKA a flower over the next 24-hours. When it appears, don’t brush it off, don’t call it nothing, recognize you, yes you, MADE that happen. Once you begin to own how powerful you are at creating smaller things you’ll see that: 3️⃣KEEPING YOURSELF ACCOUNTABLE is a ~major~ key 🔑(yes a DJ KHALED type MAJOR KEY 🔑) in creating lasting motivation and change. However we all, myself included, lose our focus and for that I created: 4️⃣THE PERMISSION TO BLOOM COMMUNITY. This community is FREE to access for ALL enrolled flowers and is a bountiful garden of gorgeous buds vying to bloom, just like you. Let’s water 💦 each other with sunlight and the human version of photosynthesis. 🦋Additional ~immaculate vibes~ you receive by investing in yourself: 💜My Morning Motivation Routine 💜Permission to Bloom, For A Highly Energized and Self-Motivated Life Workbook Ready to enroll? https://kmm-coaching.teachable.com/p/permission-to-bloom
The thing about OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder) is that sometimes it's this textbook version: over-washing hands or repeatedly checking appliances - but there are other versions of it that the media, film and people generally don't talk about. Like mine, and maybe, like yours. If you're reading this and thinking that you've never had OCD, keep reading. Once upon a place, in a time called 2021, I believed that I lived my life: OCD free. I overlooked the performance of complex, daily rituals (upwards of 2 hours) and refused to look at the incredible power they had over me. In fact, I thought that my robust morning self-care routine was empowering me to live my best life. But, as you'll hear throughout this episode, I was very, very wrong. This is what all OCD has in common: You do things because you want to avoid feeling some type of way. What you feel when you don't perform your rituals is exactly why you do it. I reveal what pausing my rituals allowed me to unearth, the healing that resulted and how it clearly illuminated my path forward. I'm hoping my story will do the same for you. Too much self-discipline = OCD. _______________ THE PERMISSION TO BLOOM PRE-SALE IS CURRENTLY OPEN! 💓FLOWER BOMB BONUS💓If you enroll before March 4th, you receive a PTB sticker [the design is ~high vibe af~] AND a personalized note 📝 from me. 🦋Additional ~immaculate vibes~ you receive by investing in yourself: 💜My Morning Motivation Routine 💜Permission to Bloom, For A Highly Energized and Self-Motivated Life Workbook Ready to enroll?: https://kmm-coaching.teachable.com/p/permission-to-bloom
I'm back with this season's second #DearKelly episode, answering all your burning questions! In this episode I discuss what priorities ACTUALLY are, how to harness self motivation consistently and the rewiring of negative thought patterns! Grab a cup of matcha and get ready to DIVE IN. This episode is jam packed with goodness.
PRE-ORDER Permission to Bloom today and receive a FREE sticker and handwritten note by yours truly: https://kmm-coaching.teachable.com/p/permission-to-bloom
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In this episode, I share a story of one of my deepest wounds, which was also one of my biggest blocks. The larger the barrier, the more unaware of it we are, because we're so used to it being there. As incredible as humans are, we can get used to anything, especially suffering. Here's how I processed, worked through it and discovered the grace in forgiving oneself and the humbleness in asking it from others. Join the wait-list for Permission to Bloom: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfAm-YcRwKRgZokn9WuZGokr0OBYM65etnDPUag3KAA6ucPzA/viewform
This is by far the most vulnerable episode I’ve recorded. In early 2021, I was passively listening to an interview Machine Gun Kelly was giving to EXTRA TV while emptying my dishwasher. I’ve found that when my mind is doing something it’s used to doing: laundry, dishes, showering, walking - my subconscious has the alertness of a hair-trigger race horse. MGK spoke about how his love for Megan Fox had saved him from Adderall addiction. Adderall addiction? The words stung, but I didn’t know why. First I felt confused, then I felt panic: “You can be addicted to Adderall?" I empower you to recognize that you (and you alone) have THE POWER to excise ANY negative influences in your life (because we all have addictions of our own!) Maybe it's a relationship that you know in your heart isn't right. Maybe you watch excessive amounts of Hulu because you don’t have many close friendships. Maybe you over do it with alcohol because just below the surface lurk emotions you aren’t ready to face. Nothing is bigger, powerful or more capable THAN YOU. And in case nobody has told you yet today I LOVE YOU. Even if you’re not ready. Even if you’re not aware of why this caption stings as you read it. I hope my story of healing allows you to see what’s also possible for you. Love, Your Adderall-Free-Friend Join the wait-list for Permission to Bloom: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfAm-YcRwKRgZokn9WuZGokr0OBYM65etnDPUag3KAA6ucPzA/viewform
Rebecca Sonuga, a mindset coach and travel entrepreneur from the UK, sits down to chat with me about her inspiring story. From a successful sales career, to an unexpected pregnancy, to being a single parent going after a business degree AND starting her own businesses in January of 2020 and carrying it through to TODAY. Only listen if you want to feel like you too, CAN DO ANYTHING!
Book referenced: "Ultimate Sales Machine," by Chet Holmes
To connect more with Rebecca, find her on Instagram: @rebeccasonuga
In this episode, I talk with high school friend of mine, Jackie Ko about her experiences working with incarcerated teens to underserved communities like Hunter's Point in San Francisco. Jackie shares her personal journey to becoming a therapist and gives tips and resources for how ANYONE, ANYWHERE in America can get help for FREE.
Resources: WARM LINE (SF Bay Area Only) https://www.mentalhealthsf.org/peer-run-warmline/
Jackie's Work Email: jko.mft.lpcc@gmail.com
In this highly requested episode, we dive deep on ancestral trauma. Who is vulnerable to experiencing this? How does this present in everyday life? How do you know if you have it? What is the treatment for it? Resources: https://www.verywellhealth.com/intergenerational-trauma-5191638 https://www.health.com/condition/ptsd/generational-trauma
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/real-healing/201907/ancestral-trauma-eating-disorders-and-addictions
Covid-19 (Omicron) is still ravaging the world and we continue to live under unprecedented stress. In this timely (and timeless) episode on how to alleviate stress. I walk you through a grounding meditation to assist in helping you stabilize, then share a tool that has helped me: -EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). Learn more at https://www.thetappingsolution.com/, and look up Brad Yates videos on Youtube.
I've had the pleasure of watching many people change their lives by investing in themselves. While each and every one of my coaching flowers are SPECIAL, Claudia Vadillo is a client that's been through extraordinary circumstances in order to achieve her transformation. From 0 to ALIGNED, in just over five sessions, educator Claudia Vadillo has built a meditation practice and integrated it into her classroom. Listen here to be inspired and for ways you can help ALL teachers by donating to one this holiday season. See Claudia's Amazon wish-list https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2XH1QD28T65VV?ref_=wl_share (here.) Or here: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2XH1QD28T65VV?ref_=wl_share *Please note that Claudia's descriptions of every day life as an educator do not reflect a specific school, but a combination of her experiences in over a decade+ of teaching.
Personal brand and editorial photographer, Aliah Husain and I sit down to talk photography, transitions and how to build a creative community wherever you are. Aliah is a talented photographer (she's actually mine!) and also a QUEEN of marketing and business. We discuss how she pivoted from a corporate sales role to personal brand photography and what to expect when you're first getting started! Follow Aliah on Instagram: @rawportraiture Aliah's Website: https://rawportraiture.com/
Spirituality can be such a taboo and uncomfortable topic - and yet, we're all participating in it - consciously or not! I dive deep in this episode into how rituals can be an empowering way to live your life. You'll learn how to structure your mornings, evenings, and weekly tips, all crucial to developing a more substantial relationship with yourself.
I'm back this week with first ever #DearKelly episode, answering all your burning questions! In this episode I discuss how to harness the powers of manifestation, re-framing painful break-ups, karma and your third eye! Grab a cup of matcha and get ready to DIVE IN. This episode is jam packed with goodness.
We all have that one thing we REALLY want to do, but we're terrified of it. Whether it's quitting our jobs, applying to grad school, moving - you name it. So, how do we consciously accept the fear so we can go after it anyway? This episode lays out step by step instructions for how to bring fear into the light and nip it in the bud. Get ready to feel free and empowered to take your next conscious step. Referenced: YouTube [Yoga with Kassandra).
Let's talk moving to another country: How to achieve residency WITHOUT a corporate job, marriage or school enrollment. At the time of recording I've lived in Berlin, New York, Los Angeles and San Francisco. This means I know A LOT about moving and starting over somewhere new. If you dream of living in another country, this podcast is for you!
What you'll learn: -What to focus on when choosing a country to live in -Specific step-by-step details to achieve residency in Berlin -How to make new friends and surrender to the experience!
A few years ago I began meditating and it was anything but easy. But through the process, I learned the key principles of what it meant to be truly mindful. And it healed my anxiety. Beyond my wildest dreams.
Some principles on how to meditate that I explain in this episode include releasing judgment, learning to prioritize your well-being, and the affirmation, "Everything is always working out for me." For more information on meditating, check out @yogawithkassandra and @headspace. You too can use meditation to naturally heal your anxiety.
Freelance writer and yoga teacher Vianna Mabanag and I sit down to talk freelance writing, balance and how to stay true to yourself. Vianna is a talented essayist but she's also a QUEEN of yoga and adventure.
We discuss how to pitch outlets: What to expect and how to get paid for sharing your personal stories!
Follow Vianna on Instagram: @viannaventures
Link to Vianna's Huff Post article: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/tinder-date-harassed-me_n_6116a74de4b0f7bc26a54a0a
Some people are born motivated.
Others become motivated over time.
In my case, I became motivated...overnight!
In this episode, I share a story about my first day at community college. This was a day that changed everything for me. I get deep on how and why I believe anyone can step into a more Conscious version of themselves.
If your motivation wavers, keep reading. If you're yet to feel the thrill of being called to do something more CONSCIOUS that alters your brain chemistry and life course, this episode is for you. All it takes is an epiphany and shift in perspective.
We're hitting the ground running with my first ever episode answering a question I'm often asked:
"How did you become a writer?"
I started writing professionally for dozens of brands including Levi's, Postmates, Ms. Magazine, and more. In this episode, I break down how I did it and share tips so that YOU can do the same thing.