A Mind Controlled Life: Recent Episodes
Elaine Blidgeon
Whether you’re sometimes anxious, or suffer from anxiety, anxiety makes you underachieve in life. In A Mind Controlled Life Podcast, I will share my self-coaching journey out of anxiety to inspire and encourage you to do the same. So if you’re a coach, people helper or a serious self-helper, listen as I and my guests share tips and strategies that will level the playing field and make you a happier achiever.
Self care- the buzz word of our time. We know we 'should' have a self care routine but we don't. or at best we do but we're inconsistent with it. So in today's episode I want to motivate you by revealing what your self care routine really says about you, and it's not all good. When we know we should look out for ourselves and we don't, why not? And what will it take to get us to do what's good for us. I talk about my own self care routine, ask myself some revealing questions and share with you what I really believe about myself, and I get you to follow along too. In the end we either care enough about ourselves to do what's necessary, or we don't. So let me chiddy you along to set your intention so you get to experience what it's like to put you first for a change.
When you get laid off from your job 3 times and put pressure on yourself to succeed- it's no wonder it can all lead to burnout. In this frank interview, Coach Paola Urteaga shares how she went from burnout to now coaching women to avoid what she failed to avoid, and why your childhood has no room in a business setting. Informative, funny, shocking and honest, I really enjoyed interviewing Paola. Her refreshing stance on business, burnout and why women seem to burnout the most will help you. To find out more about Paola, go here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/paola-m-urteaga-0493a1125/
If I said to you that you should be treated differently than everyone else, would you agree? Most people want to be treated the same and that's where I once was, no longer. I believe you and I should be treated differently, we should because we have skills, gifts and talents that others do not have and yet are either profiting by or benefiting from. So in this episode I go through a 4 step plan to help you identify your hidden talents and why you should. I talk about me and what I've discovered about this and what this has meant to me in my everyday life and business. Keep an open mind and let me know what you think about championing being treated differently.
Motivation is a burden- at least this is what I've come to believe. In this episode I explore the idea that we should motivate our team, our spouse our children and even ourselves. We shouldn't- at least we should only motivate ourselves. Our mindset is the only way we can have control in our life so why would we spend that time trying to burden it with taking the responsibility for other people? My answer is we shouldn't. Listen to understand why, it just might save you years of people pleasing that I've had to go through and the consequences of that. Let me know what you think
Goleman Sachs is one of the premier investment banking houses to be employed in and yet Vishad Doshi, left to the shock and dismay of those around him. In this podcast we delve deep into the realities of working for a firm with a high reputation, what it can do to your mental health, and why, even if you want to leave, you feel you can't. But Vishad did and he shares how and why. Vishad Doshi is an inner peace walker, he repairs low self worth of individuals through mindset work. He understands what pressure can do to your mindset and your soul and has set out to help those of us who suffer under pressure of both work and life. You can find out more about Vishad by going here: https://innerpeacewalker.com/ and https://www.facebook.com/vishad.doshiLet me know what you think.
If you feel anxious taking time out for yourself, or you struggle to say No - then you might be suffering under the justification trap, a way of living that makes you justify other people's treatment of you that works for them but doesn't for you, or it stops you having healthy boundaries because you feel guilt. So in this episode I share 3 tell tale signs you're in justification mode and 3 steps you can take to help you get out of it. And of course I'll share my own experiences of this, and where I am now with justifying poor behaviour.
Have you ever made a bad or poor decision? And do you know why? We all have, but there is one thing you can do to avoid making more poor decisions and it's not something other people talk about - so in this podcast I go through an example to show you what a poor decision looks like and why they did what they did- this is so you don't make the same mistakes. And of course I'll go through my own personal example too!. Let me know if this helps
If you thought you knew anything about the power of storytelling, then you are in for a big surprise. In this podcast I interview Devangini Mahapatra Chauhan- a book writer, and storyteller. She uses stories to transform you from the inside out. After going through her process you will change how you see yourself and your team, indeed even your family. The process takes the person from no story to finding their voice and crafting a story that can transform. Truly inspiring process. To find out more about Devangini - go here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/devangini-mahapatra-chauhan-a1b20281/ https://studioandall.com/ and let me know how you get on.
Have you ever been in a situation where people won't take NO for an answer- And do you think the push back you get is because of you? In this podcast I rant about how annoying it is to have people push back on my no's. Even when I say No in a tactful way, people feel it's okay to try and change my mind. So I explore what this means, what you should do and of course how I feel about this and what I'm going to do going forward.
If you've ever wondered why you aren't further ahead, why you're not as successful as your efforts should dictate, then in this podcast I spill why. It is no secret, but if you don't do this one thing, no matter how deserving you are, no matter how hard you work, you can't be successful, you'll always be held back. How do I know? Because that's exactly what has been happening to me and I only made incremental steps forward, until now. Want help- Got questions- then contact me - looking forward to chatting with you https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
Vicky Regina is a proud introvert, who busts myths and shows us just what introverts are capable of - hint hint- everything anyone else is capable of- But if you're not convinced that being an introvert doesn't have to hold you back, then today's podcast is for you. As usual I delve deep into what makes her tick, how did she overcome her initial shyness and quietness, why is she self employed and what's the result of putting herself out there? For more about Vicky and how she could potentially help you regain your introvert power go here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/vickyregina/ go to Vicky Regina.com
Though I didn't know it, I've had imposter syndrome pretty much all my teenage and young adult life. The 'what if' mind chatter is part of imposter syndrome and in today's episode I talk about how bad this got for me, what I had to do to overcome it, and how you can identify if you have what if's in your mindset. I also share 3 tips for getting to grips with your 'what if's' but if you find that your mood changes and you can't get it back, then contact me here: https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact and if you would like me to talk on a particular topic then tell me that also.
What if I told you that I deliberately avoid stuff I don't want to face, moan about things I don't want to handle, and fluff stuff I could learn how to do? Would you think less of me as a mindset and achievement coach? Or should I feel badly about myself because I know I'm doing it? In this episode I share my confession with you, and what I do as a result, how this started and what you can do if you want to understand your behaviour more too. Let me know your views on this, and if you would like the life pressure point assessment that I mention in this episode then contact me: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elaineblidgeon/ or https://www.facebook.com/elaine.yblidgeon/ or https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact- and ask for ' The life pressure point assessment' or ' the leadership pressure point assessment'
Why do some people succeed, take risks and try new things? Equally why don't others? In this interview with Thomas Tsangaras-A recruitment specialist, you'll get a sneak peak into what a 'go for it' mindset really is like. To find out more about Thomas visit: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thomastsangaras/ This episode is one not to be missed.
If you've ever asked or wondered, how can I change other people- those annoying people that you work or live with, then this podcast is for you. I talk about a recent conversation with a friend who is not as happy at work as they would like, and their throw away remark was 'pity we can't change others' - to which I said, well, you can. I explain how you can - not what you would think, but it works with all but the narcissistic terrible types of people- so your everyday irrigating, annoying and controlling boss, colleague or friend. If you find that you are not able to do what I suggest in this episode and someone is really getting to you, contact me- always open to talking to you about it. Let me know what you think.
We all procrastinate- but why? I share my most limiting belief and the realisation that got me out of years of not being able to make a decision and follow through. I share 4 or so insights that I realised that could help you too if you have developed a fear of taking action, a fear of committing, or a fear of failing. And of course throughout I give you the steps you need to take to not have this be a problem to you. As always, contact me if you want to explore letting go of your limiting beliefs. Let me know what you think. You can contact me here: https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact or here https://www.linkedin.com/in/elaineblidgeon/ or here https://www.facebook.com/elaine.yblidgeon/
Background and Experience
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Emily Granholm has been in leadership roles for about 14-16 years, primarily in human resources.
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She started her career in dancing and choreography but transitioned to HR for job stability and benefits.
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Emily built an HR department from the ground up at a startup, growing it from 19 to over 100 employees worldwide.
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She pursued an MBA in human resources management and nonprofit leadership.
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Emily believes in empowering others and helping them succeed.
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She emphasizes the importance of building relationships and networking.
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Her approach involves inspiring people to reach for the next level and find their potential.
Dealing with Different Types of Leaders
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Emily discusses the challenges of working with different types of CEOs, including those who rose through traditional corporate paths and those who became CEOs as startup founders
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The interview revolves around the quote: "The most meaningful way to succeed is to help others succeed."
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Emily discusses how this philosophy ties into her approach to HR and leadership development.
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She emphasizes the interconnectedness of personal success and helping others grow.
Challenges with Difficult Leaders
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Some organizations are described as "toxic" due to poor leadership practices.
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Emily believes most organizations can be turned around with the right approach.
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Change needs to resonate from the top down, starting with the leadership team.
The discussion touches on how the context of a leadership role may not suit every individual's personality or skills.
- It's suggested that some leadership issues may stem from a mismatch between the leader and their role or environment, rather than solely from poor leadership practices.
Steps for Improvement Without HR
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Increase self-awareness and understand motivations.
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Identify areas for improvement.
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Create and implement an action plan.
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Use metrics and data to track progress and demonstrate outcomes.
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Engage in role-playing to practice new behaviours and responses.
Have you ever been conned? In this episode I talk about how a con man got me to say yes. He was a builder and he used some very interesting tactics on me that revealed my weak and vulnerable areas. So I discuss what he did and the effect on me so that you can avoid this happening to you . Plus I tell you what you need to do if you are to get through life without too many incidents like this. Got questions, or just want to say - love your podcast Elaine- then contact me https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact ( I'd love to hear from you)
I got seriously negatively triggered - it was bad so in this episode I delve into the 5 triggers that made me feel bad. These triggers are the thoughts I had at the time, that we all have, that if we think them we'll always feel bad, and what you can do to stop this.
BRAND NEW!! Welcome to A Mind Controlled Life - Leadership Edition for leaders and managers everywhere. This is a twice monthly podcast ( every first and third Monday in the month) I will be interviewing leaders and managers in both the business and corporate sectors who will give us the benefit of their success helping you to become a better leader and manager. If you have any questions or have a dilemma that you'd like us to answer, then send them to https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact or https://www.facebook.com/elaine.yblidgeon/ or https://www.linkedin.com/in/elaineblidgeon/
In this episode, I cover:An update on Past Issues:Recounting a past difficult time in a group that led to an investigation.Sharing the investigation's findings which I hope prompts people to treat others nicer.Healing and Triggers:Discussing the importance of healing from negative triggers.Explaining how unresolved issues can skew one's perspective and hold one back.Friend's Repeated Complaints:Describing a friend's repetitive complaints and my frustration with their lack of change despite my advice.Sharing my realisation about the definition of insanity.Discovery of a Detachment Technique:Explaining how I found a way to detach emotionally from others' problems.Describing the process of visualising the friend behind a glass window to remain neutral.Practical Application:Providing a scenario from youth about a friend who repeatedly falls for the wrong people.Suggesting how to listen without getting emotionally involved.Using the Technique:Detailing a phone call where I practiced detachment, resulting in a more nonchalant response.Advising you to try imagining people as characters in a boring film to detach emotionally.Impact and Benefits:Explaining how this technique saves brain space and reduces emotional turmoil.Encouraging practice of detachment with frustrating individuals, including at work.Personal Experiences:Sharing a personal example of detaching from a long-time friend who often rants.Mentioning using the technique in a singing class with complaining participants.So, listeners try the technique and share your experiences, and start to have control over your mindset to remain unaffected by others.Let me know how you get on.
In this episode, I cover:Introduction and Struggles:Welcoming listeners and sharing my difficult week and ongoing struggles.Dreams and Reality:Discussing my desire to be online despite social anxiety.Creating the mindset recalibration method (amnesia method).Gaining confidence but receiving minimal YouTube engagement.YouTube Disappointments:My initial excitement with a few subscribers.Struggling to increase viewership beyond a few subscribers.Experiencing a temporary spike in views with one video interview, but not sustaining it.Questions and Reflections:Wondering about the point of giving up.Facing discouraging feedback and lack of engagement.Questioning the validity of persistence clichés.Personal Efforts:Attempting daily videos with little improvement.Stopping and restarting due to ongoing internal motivation.Feeling worse with minimal likes and comments.Analytical Mindset:Considering different approaches and methods.Debating the decision to quit or continue.Seeking clarity on whether persistence will eventually pay off.Impact of Social Anxiety:How social anxiety made an online presence challenging.Believing that overcoming it would lead to success, but facing more challenges.LinkedIn and Popularity Observations:Noticing better traction on LinkedIn.Observing popular figures getting more engagement with similar content.Questioning if online success is a popularity contest.Seeking Advice and Feedback:Asking listeners for opinions on persistence versus giving up.Seeking feedback on my YouTube channel and content.Reflecting on personal efforts and the struggle of facing continued disappointment.Let me know what you think- how do you deal with disappointment?
In this episode: Discover how self-reflection can reveal hidden fears of criticism.Uncover how childhood experiences shape your response to criticism.Learn how trying to please everyone can lead to burnout and loss of integrity.Equip yourself to handle potential online criticism without fear.See criticism from family members as a rejection of ideas, not of you personally.Use awareness to reframe negative feedback and boost self-esteem.Change how you view others' opinions to improve your relationships and self-worth.Understand how childhood conditioning affects your reactions to criticism.Discover the power of self-awareness and personal growth in altering your response to criticism.Challenge yourself to see real-life criticism through a new, empowering lens.Apply these insights to transform how you perceive and handle criticism for a more positive mental state.Want my help with anything mentioned in this podcast then reach out to to me : elaine@makemefearless.com
Have you ever been upset because a friend let you down? Did you expect that just because they were your friend that they would treat you 'better'? In this episode I talk about a friend of mine who ad lent their friend money in the tune of low thousands of pounds and got angry when they didn't repay BUT still lent them more money. The question is why? Why would you repeat a behaviour that doesn't work for you? So in this episode I tell you why they behaved like that, why we are all like that in some areas of our life and what we really need to do to stop behaving like that towards others. Let me know your thoughts
If you want to do something in life and you can't get yourself to do it, have you ever asked yourself why not? In this episode I talk about how I was feeling guilt for making my breakfast before I started work, and how that mindset came from other people's idea of what commitment means when you're working for yourself. So I explore how this can be and post the question, is your mindset rented? If you've ever wondered why you like and dislike the things you do then this episode will shed some light on that.
Should you fake it until you make it? There is a lot of advice telling us that if we don't feel confident then we should fake it and somehow that will make us feel confident. Trouble it, that's not true. In this episode I talk about real confidence vs fake confidence, how you can't hide your lack of confidence and what to do to develop real self confidence, the longer and effective way, the slightly harder but quicker way. I've done both and they both work.
The 100% model is a way of living as if we 'should' be perfect, and is harder for those of us who read self help books and swear by the teachings in them. What the books don't tell you is that you can experience more emotional pain when trying to live up the the self help book ideal. So in this episode I talk about my attitude, why it wasn't working for me, what I had to do, and where I am now. So if you're struggling to feel good no matter how much you 'work' on yourself then this podcast will give you some insights. Got questions- Contact me at my site- Make Me Fearless.com
If more than 3 people told you the same or similar thing about what they think you should do, and you've not asked for this advice, would you be wrong for not listening? In this podcast episode I give my thoughts on my dilemma, should I listen or not? My fears, to be dependent on others, but should I forgo what's most important to me when so many think I 'should' change what I am doing? Let me know what you think.
Thinning hair, sags and bags of aging, is annoying, irritating and making me unhappy. Well that's what I believe anyway. So with all that is happening as I age, can I really still be happy? In this episode I get personal and talk about topics that most women would not want to reveal, but it begged the question is it possible for me to be happy. So as is me I took myself through my processing and the answer that came back really surprised me, and that's where I need your help. Listen and reach out to me, and tell me what my next steps should be because truly in this instance I do not know. Looking forward to hearing your replies.
Barka Ettarfass is a self love coach, adventurer and uncomfortable staying in her comfort zone. In this interview I ask, how does she upsticks move to another country and create her life to suit when so many of us want change but we are stuck or scared and so stay within our comfort zone. Her main message is be yourself and love yourself no matter what the world says. Do this and magical changes happen. Find out more about Barka and her self love coaching here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/barka-e/
In this very interesting interview with Natalie Lopez, I dive into the mind of a goal success coach. Natalie reveals her strong mindset that gets her to take action where most of us would shy away. Listen out for the questions she asks herself as this is the clue to her success. You can find out more about Natalie in the links below https://www.lifecoachjourney.info/ Instagram and Tiktok @goal_crusher_natalie
Elaine Blidgeon hosts a podcast exploring the challenge of comparing oneself to others, which can lead to inadequacy and stress. She questions the possibility and benefits of completely halting comparison. Despite acknowledging that comparison can fuel ambition, it also triggers negative emotions. Elaine draws from her experiences with curb envy, demonstrating how external influences affect goals and motivation. She suggests reviewing goals driven by comparisons ("curb envy goals") to discern their true value and avoid pursuing unfulfilling objectives. By comprehending these triggers, individuals can take charge of their mindset for a more purposeful life journey through her Mind Controlled Life podcast.Chapter 1: The Impact of Comparison (00:22 - 03:00)Discussion on the effects of comparison on mindset and motivation.Internal struggle with comparison and its relation to ambition.Questioning the possibility and necessity of stopping comparison.Chapter 2: Motivation Strategies (08:02 - 09:03)Exploring motivation techniques focusing on avoiding pain.Internal quandary on maintaining drive and determination.Chapter 3: Stress and Comparison (09:46 - 11:53)Stress triggers related to comparison in work scenarios.Recognizing the negative impact of comparison on stress levels.Chapter 4: Setting and Achieving Goals (13:11 - 16:21)Reflecting on setting and achieving goals.Understanding the underlying triggers for unmet goals and procrastination.Chapter 5: Mindset Control and Goal Alignment (19:14 - 20:30)Importance of identifying triggers for goals.Emphasizing the need for aligning goals with personal motivations for sustained motivation and control over mindset.Elaine BlidgeonFind a way to make what you're doing enough (03:59)Accept that comparing yourself and being driven is okay (13:11)Evaluate goals triggered by "curb envy" and determine if they are still desired without the trigger (19:48)
How different do you have to be to trigger 'you're not okay' in other people? In this episode I explore when being me, being 'too different' triggered such a reaction. That reaction has little to do with my race, sex, height, weight or anything like that, it's just a personality thing. And it will be the same for you, there will be people who criticise, complain and condemn you for being different - question is, how do we cope with that reality? Listen to how I frame things. Any questions or queries about how I can help you live a mind controlled life, then reach out to me -elaine@elaineblidgeon.com
If you've ever said ' life is so unfair' then this podcast is for you. Recently I've had some not very nice things happen- nothing serious, but annoying as heck. So it was to my surprise that I got triggered again and ended up thinking - life's not fair. With this kind of belief there would be no way for me to feel good about myself so I recalibrated my mindset - and that's what I wanted to talk to you about--- how to handle 'life is not fair' mentality, how to get rid of it, how to know you haven't really gotten rid of that belief and what to do instead Reach out to me if you want to have a clearer more supportive mindset, you'll love it.
We've all had to deal with loss, or will the older we get, but what do you do when you are mourning the loss of something bad. In this episode I talk about how I realised I was mourning the loss of a bad situation that I recently got out of, why this could even be so, what it means and what we should do if we are not to be stuck in negative triggers for years. So if you've ever felt 'off' and you can't seem to get yourself out of it, then it might be that you are holding onto something bad that you think it would be worse to admit to. THE NOISE ON THIS PODCAST IS ANNOYING- but listen and learn it's an eye opener.
Burnout is rife and yet few people decide to build a coaching business from scratch as a result. In today's very special episode, I interview Jean-Francois Lappas co founder of WABYA to find out how he got from burnout in a successful career to wanting to coach the world. We delve deep into what mindset drives him, how early events shaped the person he became and his passion for elevating the world through self realisation that is synonymous with his brand WABYA. I loved finding out what make him tick and was impacted by his passion and focus, his love for humanity and his belief that the world needs a reawakening and he and his business partner are set out to do just that. To find out more VISIT: https://wabya.comhttps://www.linkedin.com/in/jflappas/https://www.youtube.com/@wearebecauseyouareLet me know what you think
Are you happy ? Satisfied? or fulfilled in your life? If not then you need to create your own personal blueprint for a more meaningful life. Your own personal blueprints works in aligning with what you want and how to get it. I've outlined the steps you need to take and how to know what kind of mindset you need to make your dream your reality. I've been using my own personal blueprint to get me what I want in life and it's worked for years. So if you know you want more and you've tried various ways of trying to get it, then maybe you didn't get it because you didn't have a personal blueprint for your life. Listen to this podcast and learn how and change your day to day life starting now.
The amount of awareness you have can either make your life better or have devastating effects, in this video I share with you the negative effects of my lack of awareness that has had family members not talk to me for years, me upsetting others - unintentionally, and even missing out on business. There are areas where my lack or low awareness has affected meMy personality quirks and how that impacted my life My skills and talents and the effect on my business life And my self esteem Message to you, become more aware because it's this that is working against you in the areas you wish to change. Change your awareness and your life, business and career will thank you.
What do we do when we are going through our 'negative stuff' what's our 'go to'? and does it work? In this episode I share my down days, the support I got and how you can get yourself out of your funk. I also show my shocking revelation of how judgemental I can be, and how that contributes to our negativity around new situations. I also talk about how you can let go of other people's judgements of you and what you do, and what you can do about that.
Peace of mind is what most if not all of us want but while we try and achieve this, if we have any angst in our lives it's almost impossible to achieve. In this podcast I outline my shock and surprise of just how much brain space I have now I have stopped volunteering at a place that was not at all enjoyable and was stressful to me. I was shocked because I hadn't really made the connection between the amount that is on my mind and the amount of work I can get done. My trigger for this was boredom. Boredom signified that I have nothing negative on my mind so now's the time to fill it with 'stuff' I actually want to achieve. Listen and learn from my lesson just what you need to do if you want to be more successful in any part of your life and you're struggling to achieve it at this moment in time. Want help and or support, then contact me https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
Everyone thinks that mindset work is just knowing you should think positively but that is only one tenth of what real mindset work is about. Real mindset work shifts how you think permanently so that you do not react in the same way you've always reacted. In this episode I get you to do a short exercise to test out how important your mindset is to everything you do in life. When you realise that how you think is everything, you'll understand that you should protect your mindset at all costs and do what you can to make it work for you in your life and not against you. Contact me if you have any questions or want to say how wonderful I am LOL
How do you navigate other people's bad behaviour without getting angry, sulking or withdrawing? In this episode I explore my last few months of being in the sticky end of other people's bad behaviour and what I did to handle it. I also talk about your mindset techniques and give you the criteria for an effective mindset technique. if you want to more bullet proof when people are heavy handed, critical or uncaring in their communication towards you, then this podcast is for you.
How do you handle down days and what do you do if you run out of zip and just want to quit. This was me only a week or so ago until a friend stepped in and offered much needed support. You never really know who your friends are until you are in need but when we are down it can feel like we are alone. I talk about my surprise in being judgemental, the question to really ask yourself when you find yourself being down and how to be successful going forward.
If you've ever held yourself back, dismissed a project, thought you couldn't or shouldn't do, then it's because of one major belief. In this episode I tell you what that belief was for me and how getting rid of it changed my mind. I give you the formula for finding your limiting beliefs and then you know what you are working with and you can change them.
I faced one of my biggest fears and this is what happened.... spoiler alert -it wasn't good. In this episode I share with you what my biggest fear is, and why I even thought I should do it, and then what happened next. Part of why I did this was to get different results, with that being said, sometimes this entrepreneurial stuff isn't easy but I wanted to inspire you to take action and keep going no matter what.
If you want to be successful in life then you need a success mindset. In this episode I expand on the three factors 1. You need to be optimistic, and a positive thinking flair 2. You need to be resilient and adaptable, and 3 you need to be clear about what you want and go for it. I talk about my present mindset, (which isn't perfect) and why the kind of mindset you have is crucial for your success.
Taking action is not as simple as knowing what to do, we all have fears that hold us back and we have to first recognise which fears those are and then overcome them before we can take action. In this episode I talk about the 5 fears that everyone has, name my number 1 fear and give you my tactic and mindset to best handle it. If you are not achieving what you want out of life, then you have some fears and so this episode is for you.
We all overreact- but if you do it more than you want, it's having a negative effect on your relationships. In this episode I reveal my own embarrassment of overreacting and what I did to stop it, why we overreact and what you can do to stop your overreaction. If you want better personal and interpersonal relationships then this podcast episode is for you. Remember to share, subscribe and download- thanks.
You are going to attract haters, are you prepared for that? In life you would think that being 'nice' or kind or helpful would make people like you more, compared to people who are mean, who moan who back bite- but not always, in fact, I've found that the nicer I've become the more I polarise people. In this episode I explore what you need to be prepared for and why.
I got the shock of my life when I realised that people like me, have always liked me but because my focus was only on those few who didn't I has limiting beliefs around likeability. In this episode I explore why I realised this, what it now means and give you warnings so that you don't fall into the same trap as me and live a life feeling that no one really likes you, when they do.
If I said to you that you are putting up with 'stuff' that isn't doing you any good just to be happier, would you believe me? Well after years of my own personal development I wouldn't until recently, when I realised that the changes I've made, which make me more immune to other people's nastiness, has made me put up with poor behaviour more than I would before. So in this episode I explore why this happened and how you can stop it happening to you.
This is different from my usual episode in so much as I take you through a process of how to really set and achieve goals. When you achieve a goal it's because you have worked on it at the right place, I take you though the entire process so you know whether your change work is helping you or not.
If you've ever struggled with keeping your feelings to yourself when faced with working around someone you don't like, then in this podcast I go over what you really need to do so that it's calmer for you. There is no magic answer except to know what you should be working on to make changes so that they do not affect you any more.
Manipulators come in all shapes and sizes but the worst ones are the 'nice'' 'helpful' kind or at least that's how they portray themselves. In this episode I talk about my brush with such a manipulator and the signs to watch out for if it happens to you.
The positive movement doesn't stop us from being triggered. A trigger is something that happens regularly and there is a pattern - from that pattern you know what you can work on to change that pattern. When you work on your triggers it helps you to be your authentic self. I explore how my pattern was chronic people pleaser and how it negatively affected all of my life, and even when I was 'pleasing' others all they wanted was more. Now I am not a people pleaser but could only be this way by working on my mindset, so if you feel that you are reacting badly to people and you want it to stop, then this podcast is for you.
In everyday mindfulness you'll understand what it really means to be present. If you are triggered regularly or you feel 'off' regularly, then it means you are not present, so in this podcast episode I give you the mindfulness practice that 100% will show you whether you are present or not and is the best way to train you to be more mindful.
In this podcast, ask the question around what you do if you are not acknowledged, praised or recognised in any area of your life. I also cover my attitude towards this, my blind spots in this area and how to tell if you are accepting things about yourself that limit you, just because you've always felt that way. In the end once you are aware then you can change things
When we try new things, we can find ourselves doubting ourselves which is normal. But did you notice that self doubt is constant, but we ignore it, and the question is what effect is this having on that area of your life. Because self doubt makes us limit ourselves, and it not at all good, so in this podcast I go through some things you can do to reduce or even eliminate self doubt.
Why you still get angry, irritated and annoyed, with other people or situations is because your mindset has not been calibrated. which means you are still getting triggered by the same things that irritated you months and even for years. The way to know that your mindset needs recalibrating is that you react to the same thing said or done by different people in different ways. So if a friend says something and you react to it as it being a nice thing to say, but someone you dislike says the same thing and you think them rude, then your mindset is faulty, and needs recalibrating. So in this episode I help you understand what level your awareness is at, what you can do, and what you cannot do to change other people's reactions.
If you are not in control of your mindsets then you won't be able to have the success you so deserve. In this episode I talk about how the life coaching industry is pulling the wool over the eyes of would be life coaches who think that all they need to be successful is to be a great listener.... Their mindset is not going to help them get clients if they don't have the one essential thing a business mindset. And this is pertinent to you because it's about understanding that to be successful it takes more than just one mindset, it takes many, but if you don't know that you'll stay stuck.
If you are struggling with the goals you set, or you're not working to your optimum, or even you know what to do but can't get yourself to do it, it means you do not have the right mindsets that help you achieve your goals. In this podcast I outline the differences between a corporate mindset and a business mindset and what makes you success in one area won't and can't cross over and make you successful in the other. One type of mindset is responsible for the death of success and if you don't want that, then listen, take notes and implement the new mindsets you need today.
When someone or someone's criticise you, directly or covertly, it can trigger your past wounds. What you do next will dictate how well you continue to handle other people criticising you. In this podcast listen as I walk you through my own event where criticism derailed me for a while and how not to let this happen to you.
I had a major meltdown this week - I got triggered- But the only good thing to come out of it was how different my reaction was this time to the times before. In this episode I talk about how to be okay with not being okay. And how if you're not okay with being not okay, what you can do to sort this out. If you follow this one tip, the next time you spiral the effects of it might not last as long, in fact the effects will ware off quicker and those negative feelings will simply disappear.
Everyone knows how to set a goal and all of us know how to achieve a goal, but not many of us know how to achieve all our goals without the frustrating trail and error. In this podcast I outline the two standard ways of achieving any goal, which works as long as you can get yourself to take the necessary action. But if you want a fool proof way of taking that action, then the third way of achieving your goal is not to be missed.
If you are stuck but you want to be a higher achiever, then it would help if you knew where you were now and how to get to higher levels. So in this podcast I talk you through an achiever level which will show you whether you are at the lower stuck level, or you might be in denial, or higher but not motivated. I give you some ways to tell where you are now and the tell tale behaviour you now need to adopt.
Do you have attitudes of success? People talk about either being a person who sees the glass half empty or half full, I talk about what attitudes do you have about your own skills that you either dismiss or put down or discount? In this podcast I talk about how to recognise your own attitudes that others would envy you for, that you might take for granted, that if you didn't you would find you are more confident in life.
If you are an introvert, or ambivert, or even an extrovert, is your personality stuck in stone? There is a lot of talk about introverts having a different type of brain compared to an extrovert, implying that we are stuck being an introvert. Not sure I believe this given that I've changed from being an introvert to an ambivert over the years. So in this podcast I give you one question to ask yourself that will open up your potential for you and make your career and life bigger with you having more choices in life.
I'm sure you've heard of the power of our inner thoughts, but do you really understand how a little thought said in a particular way can and will stop you succeeding? That same thought said in a different way, can empower you? In this podcast I talk about how this happened to me just two weeks ago and how by changing one word it got me from being down and in a funk to being okay and getting on with my work. Our inner talk is powerful, we need to think with caution.
As an introvert leader you and I will over react to certain stressors, but if we know what they are we can do something to mitigate them. In this podcast I outline the 6 P's that have a dramatic effect on our life that you need to be aware of.
I've been severely triggered so much so I was about to ditch all this online business building in. My history is such that when I get triggered and I spiral, then it's into anxiety. Not been there is years, but that's because of my laser coaching. In this episode I talk through my trigger, and how I knew I was triggered before I felt the negative feelings associated, and give you pointers to find out your indicator that you've been triggered, and what to do then.
If you've ever wondered why you feel uncomfortable charging high fees for your coaching, or you know you have some limiting money beliefs, in this podcast I give you my money mindset mastery audit that I use on myself and my clients. I outline the 4 step model, give you the only question you need to identify the beliefs and how to then get rid of your limiting beliefs. To contact me to go through your own limiting money mindset - go to https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
Do people listen to you? I'm talking about senior management, your own board of directors, or even people in your business on your team- Do they listen to you? In this Podcast I'll share with you the 3 step structure I use when to disarm the automatic no's, the I'll think about it, or the That won't work here, that you get when presenting your ideas. Use it and it will help you to get your ideas listened to.
Your blind spots are derailing your attempts of being successful. Everyone has them but most of us think it's just our personality and it's the way we are if we find we are compelled to keep repeating the same dysfunctional behaviours. In this episode I talk about how to identify your own blind spots, why you should and the benefits to you and your life when you get rid of your blind spots.
If you've ever wondered what really stops you thriving in life or business or even your career, then this podcast will answer that for you. Your shadow emotions really do dictate what you can achieve in life, and also what mood you experience in a day. So many of us get in dark moods even at their own birthday party, and think it's about what happened, it's not, so I give you tips and what to do so that you can live a life without your shadow emotions eclipsing your enjoyment of life.
Do you know what triggers you? And if you do, what do you do to stop them? If you don't know you get triggered by certain people, places or things then you won't be able to fight it. Most people focus on the wrong thing to 'cure' their triggers, and all this does is make you shrink your life to suit how you feel. In this episode I talk about how to unravel your triggers, where to work on them to disarm them, and what that means for your life
What's your anxiety trying to tell you? Do you know? I never used to think that anxiety or the worries I had was anything other than a bad feeling, but if you know how to read your emotions, you'll realise that it's trying to tell you something that really makes you feel scared. I talk about this and give you an example from my life where I felt a particular emotion and this was my trigger. Listen go through the exercise I've given you and see if you can identify your trigger that makes you anxious.
If you find that despite all the self help, coaching, courses, trainings you've been on that you aren't more further along, there is only one reason. In this episode I talk through my major epiphany that has made me see why I am not as successful as I want to be despite my focus on being so. Listen with an open ear because what you'll hear is easy to dismiss, but it's very real and you might be suffering through it too!
If you're still anxious after trying so many different techniques and tactics, then there is only one thing you need to do. It's a thing that I have done that has eliminated my anxieties, and it's the same for anyone else who has experienced real change. So if you're still anxious, or you think something is working but then you get triggered by the same thing again and again, this podcast is for you.
We will all get comeback from someone, and it won't feel good, so do you have the skills to deal with deliberately rude people? Because if you don't then you are at the mercy of everyone being nice to you. In this episode I explore how I dealt with someone who was being rude to me, what happens when your mindset is prepared to handle 'stuff' we all experience in life and how it can feel if you take your mindset under your wing. For any questions or queries, go here, https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
If you lost your memory for being able to feel inappropriately sad, or you lost your memory for being upset and feeling like a victim, what difference would you life be then? The way we make changes is because we forget to do the thing we used to do, it becomes unfamiliar. With my Mindset Recalibration Method, I take you through a process that effectively gets you to forget how to be insecure, or fearful or lacking confidence again, and because of that your life changes. In this episode I give you a way you can start to do this for yourself.
What happens when you create boundaries - Does the other person calmly say, that's okay, I'm your friend and I understand. NO So should we then stop creating boundaries because we get push back? No and I explore why. This episode does come with caveats, if you are in an unsafe situation, then make this your goal to be where I am now, it's taken me years to get here, and I want to give you encouragement and highlight the reality of what you can expect. As usual contact me if you have any questions.
What are you wiling to do to be your authentic you? Are you willing to assert your needs, wishes, wants or desires? Would you still be willing to do so, if you KNOW that the other person will push back, get angry at you, accuse you of being unreasonable? In today's episode, I make my case why you should sack your ego, because it gets in the way of us being authentic and feeling okay with the push back we will invariably get. If you want, help or support contact me here, https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact and if I can help you I will.
Encouragement- how much do you really need? So many successful people talk about the support and encouragement they got that helped them, but if you're surrounded by encouraging people but you still don't take that first mini step, then what? In today's episode I explore what bugs me about this, what you can do to take action anyway, and some cues that tell you you're off track. It's okay to like being encouraged, but when you are a slave to it, how much can you really change? To contact me go to https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
When you are in a new situation, what do you do? Do you cling to others to support you? Do you tough it out and go for it anyway? We all have ways of coping with new stressful situations, some avoid, some confront and some get clingy and needy on others. In today's episode I talk you through a situation at my speakers club and the reaction from two people new to it. Hint: though standing in front of others can be scary, this is not the real reason why you are scared. Listen to what is and what you can do to stop the fear.
When you think about what you want, and all the things you've tried, would you agree with me in saying that there is still something holding you back, that if that were not there, you'd be doing more of what you want in your life? I agree, me too! And that's why I advocate being a rule breaker. I have been one all my life, only thing is, I got so much negative feedback that I stopped and played by their rules, just for an easy life. But what I also noticed is when I play by my own rules, my life works better for me. So join me as I share with you my plan for living more authentically me, and becoming a rule breaker for a better and happier existence.
If I say to you be more selfish, you're either going to guess why you should be or shocked at the idea of being so. So what if by NOT being selfish you can't be as happy as you want to be, now what would you say? Only when I learnt how to be selfish did I go from a anxiety ridden, paranoid unhappy person, to a happy, centred and want to spread happiness wherever I go type of person. Be selfish, and listen to this episode, you'll be so glad you did. Got questions, contact me here https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
Apparently it's never too late to have a happy childhood, but if this is true how do we do this? In today's episode I talk about whether you can have a happy childhood and what you need to do to live so. Nothing hard to do here, just shift your mindset and you're all set on having your past experiences stop negatively affecting your present and future.
We go to a coach or therapist because we want more clarity on our 'stuff' but what would you say if when you said you couldn't do something, they said , of course you can just do this... and basically they discount your experience and your feelings, apart from feeling justifiably annoyed, what else can you do instead? In today's episode I discuss how I got triggered and what you can do to stop feeling the negative effects of being discounted/dismissed. For any queries, go to https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
There's one thing that we all need that will make us continue to struggle. I only found out that it was a good thing to have this thing, from comments on FB and wanted to talk to you about this today. It's easy to use, it's already within you, and your present thinking style and habits will tell you whether you need more of it or not. As usual if you have any queries, you can contract me here- https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
If you believe x you can only get x, but what if you want y? Replace x and y with what you most want from getting rid of your anxiety, and you'll see that your belief in what you can do is the only thing that will show up in your life. So today I explore beliefs and how they got me to here and what you need to believe if you are to make progress.
If you think that success is yours just because you work hard or you're a nice person, then think again. There is only one thing that guarantees success and that's what I talk about today. Today's episode is to empower you and inspire you to take the necessary action and why you should. Any questions contact me at https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
What does cleaning your teeth, drinking and eating have to do with your mindset? And what happens if you don't clean your mindset? In this episode I link how mindfulness and your daily practice are the key to you being free of anxiety. I talk about why I'm a few steps ahead of you and what you need to do to be where I am now. Plus I give you three major tips on what kind of process will help you manage or eliminate your anxious reactions which can help you when you are choosing what to use next. As always contact me at my site https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact or DM me on facebook https://www.facebook.com/elaine.yblidgeon/ with questions or queries.
Your attitude shows in what you say or do not say, but what do you do when your attitude is getting in the way? In today's episode I explore how to change your attitude and why you should. So if you want your choice back in how you feel everyday, then listen to this episode.
Everyone agrees that having a positive mindset is a good thing, but do you really know how to have one? If you thought that it was about saying positive thoughts then you'd be mistaken, there is more to positive thinking than just that. So in today's episode I explore what it really takes to have a positive mindset and the one thing you can do tonight that will make your life that much more positive. If you want to have a positive mindset - but permanently- then contact me here, https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
If you have a resistant mindset then you'll be missing out on things you want in your life. But how do you tell if your mindset is resistant and does it really matter? Join me as I discuss 4 ways to tell if you have a resistant mindset, and why it matters. For questions or to find out more about how to get your mindset under your control visit https://elaineblidgeon.com/
If I asked you how did you feel this week, would you say great? If you didn't feel great then why not? Is it because you don't like to feel good, unlikely, it's more that you don't know how to feel good on tap. I discuss why this is so and what you can do about it. I also touch on the sequence of how we get anything we want in life that you might not realise and the link between how we feel and what we get to achieve.
It may surprise you to know that having boundaries will sometimes bring out the worst in people. Those people who love to trample over your boundaries will not think well of you if you call them on it. So what do you do? What would you really like to do if this happens to you? In today's episode I tell you my side of things and give you some questions to help you prepare for when this happens to you.
Have you ever wondered why people say, "It's just the way I am"? They say it because for them who they were at the age of 18 is who they are at the age of 30 and beyond. They don't know how to change and be any different. In this episode I explore whether your insecurities are your life sentence , one where you cannot progress far in life because they weigh you down. If you don't want your insecurities to be a life sentence for you then, you need to listen to today's podcast. Any questions contact me at https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
Have you been diligently working on your fears and insecurities only to find that you're always feeling the same and you have to psych yourself up in order to take action? In today's episode I tell you the tell tale sign that you are really still in fear, why it can be decades of working on yourself and you still might not be changing. And the number 1 must that we all want and why we do what we do. If you're not getting the results you want, if challenges flaw you and leave you in your comfort zone then today's episode is just what you need. You can always contact me on my site https://elaineblidgeon.com/contactt if you have any questions or queries.
Do you have your everyday be a good day for you? In this episode I reveal my client mindset retraining process that I use with myself which has helped me overcome my own anxiety and I use this process with my clients too. You can grab the entire process with tips about what to do to make it work for you. When you use a process that changes you from the inside out, you get to have your everyday be as good as you want. If you have any questions or you would like to work with me, contact me at https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
They say change is difficult, inevitable and exhausting. In fact in one post I found 14 different perspective on change and none of them were positive. But if change is so hard then what do we do if we want to change? Should we just give up and live with our insecurities and emotional trauma I say no and discuss what you can do to reverse your own prejudices to change.
How long do you think it's okay to remain annoyed by something? 5 minutes, 5 hours, 5 days, or 5 months? And is is possible then to remain in a positive mood no matter what is going on? And if it was possible would you want to get over an annoyance in the quickest time possible? In today's episode I explore this and challenge you to think about annoyances in a different way and give you a way to shorten the effects. For more info about me and what I offer visist elaineblidgeon.com
Do you know why you haven't been getting the changes you are working for? Do you even know whether what you are doing is designed to give you the changes you seek? In today's episode I'll be exploring the ladder of personal growth which highlights the 4 levels of personal growth that you should be aiming for. I talk about signs and symptoms that you are in the wrong place, what not to use if you want real change, and what's in store for you if you want to become the kind of person who doesn't overreact any more.
We have all had difficult bosses and managers so what should you do if their behaviour is getting you down. In this episode I talk about the symptoms that tell you need to rethink your relationship at work. But should you stay or should you go? And if you stayed what are the consequences? There are no easy answers but I tell you what you should always be aware of when it comes to working with difficult bosses. For my help contact me here https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
Can you change your automatic reactions to change, even if they aren't good for you? Most of us like change if we initiate it but not if others impose it on us, so we tend to react badly to it. So why is it then that we repeat our poor behaviour when we vow not to? Or how is it that some people react well to the very changes that we don't like? Do they know something we don't? In today's episode I explore change and what you can do instead of over reacting. If you want to find out how your mindset is holding you back in your career and what to do to change this then schedule a 30 minute Mindset At Work Clarity Call -COMPLETELY FREE https://calendly.com/eblidgeon/mindset-at-work-clarity-call
There is only one thing that determines your happiness at work and it's not where you work, or even who you work with. It's not how much you get paid or the benefits of the job you do. It's not having great colleagues to work with or even having a great manager to report to. All of these things are important, but there is only one thing that we all have to be able to do otherwise we can't be happy at work. In today's episode I explore what this is and tell you what you need to ensure your own happiness at work. If this has been useful for you, and you would like to discuss your own situation, And If you would like to find out how your mindset is holding you back at work, then schedule a 30 minute Mindset At Work Clarity Call- FREE https://calendly.com/eblidgeon/mindset-at-work-clarity-call
The state of your success in life is determined by your daily habits but what happens if you have known habits that are getting in your way at work? In today's episode I explore habits and whether it's really possible to eliminate those that you've had for years over the newer formed habits. This was originally a facebook live. If you want some help in eliminating habits that slow your progress contact me at elainebldigeon.com
Yes they are to blame for your angst, but does it serve you to think this way? In this episode I talk about how blaming is natural but not productive and leaves you feeling like a victim. And I talk about even if it is there fault, what you can do about that. I touch on what would trigger your pettiness and how to stop that. I confess about my own pettiness that lead to feelings of revenge and how that turned out and I also touch on what excuses do to keep you stuck. If you want to contact me or have questions go to my site http://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
Have you ever wondered why people don't change even when they are bugging you? And why you are the one with the angst because of other people's behaviour? Well in today's episode I explore why you're still stuck and what to do about it. The sad fact is, we can't change other people there is only one thing we can do. And if you are stuck in the blaming and moaning phase then you need to listen to this podcast episode because I'll tell you how to get your personal power back, what makes you lose your personal power and become a victim and you'll hear my confession as to why I really go into this self help thing - and it's shocking. To have me coach you to become the kind of person who doesn't get riled by others, contact me at elaineblidgeon.com
There is only one reason you don't do what you want to do and it's a secret that marketers know and use to their advantage. In this episode I explore how we can get control of our own mindset and why it's the best thing for you to do if you want to feel happier and do more. To contact me for an exploratory call then contact me at elaineblidgeon.com/contact
Do you have the embarrassment factor or are other emotions the bane of your life? In this episode I explore why embarrassment has stopped me achieving, but no more and how you too can stop negative emotions from dictating what you do. I talk about whether negative emotions are telling you about your thinking. What happens when you have been triggered and where to find what you truly believe.. why you feel bad and why having your why to motivate you doesn't matter. To contact me for an initial consultation or to ask me any questions, go to elaineblidgeon.com/contact
Everything is neutral until we give it meaning and shows in how we react to things happening to us. We think that external things dictate how we should feel when it doesn't. This episode is about opening up to the possibility that meaning is created by us and not external events. Truth is we all have more control over our mindset and when you take that control everything gets better.
When your mindset is acting up what do you do to bring it back into control? Or do you try and avoid doing anything? In this episode I talk about what you can do if you do not have a strategy to get your mindset under your control. Also, what stops you taking action and the one thing that would always make you take that action. Contact me at elaineblidgeon.com when you're ready to stop the angst from taking over your life.
Use this NLP language pattern to rethink your thinking that has you triggered. This episode features how to do it and why and even the benefits to you both in the sort term and long term from redefining your thinking. I even go into why forgiveness works, and how to let go of those things that truly annoy you. The language pattern is Maybe it's not that ____________ maybe it's ______ Or It's not that _____________ it's that ______________
Most people think that toughing it out is the way to go when you are feeling anxious or nervous etc in life. They believe that once you have anxiety or you feel anxious than that's it, you'll feel like that forever and it's about just getting used to feeling that way. In this episode I try very hard to bust that myth and give you a better alternative to toughing anything out. As always you can reach me at elaineblidgeon.com/contact.
Analysis of Shweta Chheda's interview. Radical rethinking can and does bust limiting beliefs. In this episode I explore all the beliefs that Shweta lives by and how we can parallel that to us. Why what you say about yourself becomes who you are and what you do, and how to change that. Why your past does not equal your future, and I list out some limiting beliefs which you may have and can help you to identify what you really think. And The most empowering thing you can do will change your beliefs even without an intervention.
Shweta Chheda, Self empowerment coach, home maker to an 18 year old, and is currently studying her masters degree, shares with us her Bulletproof confidence formula, that had her go from being a quitter to someone who knows she will never quit on a goal, even when her confidence sometimes dips. Full of tips such as why do you get your thoughts, how to drown out your inner critic and even some of the inner beliefs that drive her success and keep her succeeding. For more about Shweta visit https://www.facebook.com/shweta.chheda.9404 - on Facebook. To find out more about her on Instagram, visit: instagram.com/beaflaunta
How to get control of your mindset so you can have an easier time of it at work or in your business.
Have you tried everything to feel better but nothing’s worked? When your feeling good doesn’t manifest what negative consequences come next? Which other avoidant strategies you could have What denial looks like in this case study of my client What happens if you hate confrontation? How the first step to any change guarantees you’ll change. How to change your repeated behavioural patterns Where your self image comes from and how it fits in with your beliefs that keep you stuck
What a Success Mindset Looks Like
Ben is a coach who helps other coaches make £10K a month- no mean feat. And after a few ‘failures’ he finally found his thing and is now helping others make their business successful online. We talk about mindset and how Ben got started in this whole be your own boss Why everyone can be successful today And what makes it an even playing field to be successful What opened Ben’s eyes to be motivated to work on himself and have big goals to achieve Which book started him on his journey after only two chapters! The question Ben asked himself at 16 years old that made Ben want to be successful self employed What kept Ben going despite ‘failing’ to achieve his goals What makes us successful and what makes the people who succeed, succeed The biggest lesson Ben learned that stopped him going down the wrong path Why Ben takes a step back to recharge How Ben gets himself to do things when he doesn’t feel like it What is the most important thing when having a trajectory towards achieving goals. What made Ben keep taking action despite some failures How he reframes failure so it makes it easier to keep on going What you should be willing to do if you want to be successful What’s Ben’s superpower What he learnt from other successful people and how it gave him courage to keep on going What will stop you making progress What you should be willing to do to ensure success What Ben thinks about his mental health and what helps him able to take on the world What understanding helps him take on the world. What Bill Gates said that Ben uses as a motivator factor
You can find Ben here on facebook and youtube. If you want to build a business Ben will help you create that.
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Do you find it easier to keep as you are and not change? What if that change is good for you? I talk about how surprising it has been for me to be on Facebook and what I had to do to be okay with how it works.
Why Facebook has been very good for me and you can hear my surprise at finding that the thing I hated and refused to be part of is actually good for me.
The irony of being on Facebook How I question if we really know who we are until we do things we ‘know’ we will not like. What changes your identity What limits you and why you self-limit Where we get our world view, our perception and identity How we get stuck in rut and the internal conversation that makes you stay stuck What will free you from your ‘stuckness’
Before we can eliminate anxiety we have to understand 1. What is anxiety as an experience. 2. What is this experience really about? 3. When does the anxiety trigger? 4. What sorts of questions make you experience anxiety and 5. Why does anxiety persist in some people and not others? We spend our time asking why did I get anxiety but we end up asking how so AJ talks about all of this to help us understand where we are going wrong when we try to eliminate anxiety, and what we should do instead. . To find out more go to: https://www.askawareliving.in https://ace.awarebeing.space https://mind.awarebeing.space https://retreat.awarebeing.space Ajinkya Shaurya https://your.awarebeing.space
Can you give 100% focus to your daily actions? Whether internal distractions or external do you happen, can you say you're going to do something and then do it. If you have an anxious mind, negative thoughts get in the way and make focusing difficult, which makes achievement difficult. Learn why and how to focus better and the right way to do this.
There are 2 ways to set and achieve goals- the quick way or the slow, but still effective way. How do others get to where they are now? We could look at their behaviour but what makes them do what they want is their thinking. We all reveal why we do what we do from our thinking but if you don't have supporting beliefs then you won't take the action, but it's a slow way. The quicker way will be revealed in today's episode.
Your reactions if they aren't making you feel good, can only come from one place, and that's within you. Bad habits of thinking and your behaviour can only be taken up if you have a positive association to it. Even if you don't like doing something and you do it regularly, it's because of your thinking. When you change how you view anything, you will feel different. Today's episode tells you why you will do what you don't really want to do.
Anxiety means you've taken on board a legacy that doesn't suit. If you want to change, then you have to outrun your legacy passed down from society, your parenting, and your culture. Some of your legacy means you feel anxious when you don't have to. Learn how to outrun it in today's episode.
Analysis of the success strategies of Coley Lane Bouschet. In my last episode with Coley, she shared how she manages social media that can be brutal if you don't have the right mindset to handle it. She shares 7 steps to her success which I reveal in this episode. If you would like me to analyse your mindset and map out your anxiety triggers and success triggers, then contact me here https://elaineblidgeon.com/contact
Coley Lane Bouschet - from Life Goals in Progress Podcast and Playground To Purpose shares with us how she managed to get over the build up and tear down culture of social media to continue on and continue to create a successful business and life. You can find out more from her here https://lifegoalsmag.com/
Are you dogged by anxiety? Learn the art of self leadership to put an end to the amount of angst you feel on a daily basis. If you go to bed with angst, and wake up with angst, then coach yourself out of this anxiety, by focusing on what is going on in your insides. If you have any internal angst then it affects your leadership at work, in your business and in all your relationships. Learn how to stop this from happening.
The greatest gift if someone who is successful being able to share why and how they can and do take action in life, when as anxiety sufferers, we find that the most difficult. In today's episode, I analyse Kate Moryoussef's previous interview to identify 25 of the key beliefs that makes Kate do what she does and become as successful as she is now. I share her most important driver and one of her identity beliefs to motivate you to work with me, or find what drives you and what is stopping you from taking the necessary action, it's all in your head.
Interview special. Kate Moryoussef, host of The women's ADHD wellbeing podcast, was diagnosed with ADHD later on in life (usually this is diagnosed when we're children) and this has had a profound effect on Kate and her continued success as wife, mother, podcast host. In this episode Kate shares with me what drives her to success when so many women would become overwhelmed by their own mental health issues and find it hard to achieve what they want for their life. I learn some of Kates secret drivers, which I reveal one for you, and highlight some of the beliefs that has made Kate the success she is.
Why is confidence really important to someone with anxiety? Is it because everyone says it's important? If you know why it's important to you, then you will start to make changes so that you feel more confident. In this podcast I explore the benefits of being more confident no matter how anxious you may feel and how you can have more confidence today, tomorrow and every day.
How easy is it for you to get yourself to take action. Do you have to enact an elaborate plan or strategy just to get yourself to act? Or can you just simply get on with things? You will find that though it can be good to use an external source to 'get us to act' in the end you become dependent on them, and that is not freeing. In this episode I want you to think through the best way for you to achieve which is sustainable and easy.
Below are some links to the Mindset Coach- Paul Sheppard and how you can connect with him.
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In this episode I explore the question of are there beliefs that can indicate success of failure? If you can take on board an affirmation it will change your life, but mostly we can't do this but they are great for giving you one thing that we all want. What mantra I have used for years and the effect it has had on my life, that if you do the same could make you more successful.
In this episode, I explore the question- Is there such a thing as a negative belief? Why we all have very different reactions to the same situation and how this relates to how much anxiety you experience. Where most people put their focus and how this either increases your anxiety or your happiness.
In this episode I explore how to identify your own beliefs. The one question that identifies beliefs that if used will help you identify your beliefs. The three areas you look into to identify beliefs that you are affecting you every day. The number 1 issue that I've always found difficult to manage and what keeps this aversion in place.
In this episode we explore the three types of beliefs, and which one causes your anxiety. If you don't know why you do what you do, then your beliefs are out of whack. What stops you from seeing life in a way that doesn't cause you anxiety, and what anxiety does to your perception. The trigger word that tells you, you are giving your power away and how that causes you anxiety.
In this episode I explore the concept of state control and how are feelings are being perceived by others. What anchors anxiety in place and why we need to control it. Why do we get into a state and how we can't ever help how we automatically feel unless we change one thing. What causes all of your moods and why this happens.
In this episode I explore how anxiety sufferers invariably shrink their life to accommodate their anxiety. The number one thing that is missing that makes you have to shrink your life and how if you get this, your life will be better. The top 3 reactions that you may experience if your anxiety if out of control, two of which are disempowering. What props up your anxiety?
In this episode I explore how what stops you from feeling able to choose what you feel. The common belief based around how someone with anxiety feels and how that limits what you will or will not do. The relationship between how other people feel and you. The biggest issue anxiety sufferers have but the catch 22 that all anxiety sufferers end up having.
If you don't want to take years and years of your life trying to overcome your own anxiety, then this episode is for you. There are two types of anxiety sufferer, the anxiously passive and the emotionally self supporting. If you see a therapist which one you're more likely to be and how to avoid that. Why you should be wary of seeing a therapist, and what can happen if you don't.
What causes you to have anxiety in the first place? And what behaviour causes you to deepen your anxiety? In this episode I outline the symptoms of anxiety behaviours and why it simply doesn't go away no matter what you do unless you do this one thing. Why you should eliminate your anxiety triggers and the effect of this on your life, if you do or don't.
Hello and welcome to A Mind Controlled Life. On today's trailer episode I outline why I started this podcast, how anxiety ruined my life, and despite finding a way to live anxiety free, what problem it left me with then. If anxiety has stunted your life and you're looking for a way out of this trap then listen as I share with you my journey and inspire you to start your own.