The Fig Bang: Recent Episodes
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Human experiences of a person finding her way back to herself. Expanding and stretching to grow into what she is now—and still growing! Take what you need, leave what you don’t, all are welcomed✨
Anything in front of your BUT is negated, it no longer exists. There is power in duality. Replace your but with Yet or And.
My tiny cactus has grown exponentially since I transplanted it to a bigger pot. Our environment is either conducive or constricting to our grown. Move yourself to larger pots.
As winter comes to an end, so does my hibernation. I am shedding versions of me so that the highest version of me can bloom.
You will only have to rely on your Will Power and inner strength for as long as it takes to re-build the neural network. Remember to be tough, it’s only temporary.
Failing at a first attempt does not mean failure. It simply means you are working on your rough draft. Every attempt thereafter will build until you have the entire dissertation.
Silence creates space for creativity, processing and reflection. Fillers steal this from you. Embrace the opportunity silence provides.
Take stock. Think of yourself a year ago and reflect on the habits you have gained since. Take stock and celebrate how far you have come.
I believe humans are self serving and every behavior is a self-regulating survival attempt. No one is intentionally trying to hurt us.
We get to run. Running is a privilege. Every run is a celebration of that. You are a runner, we all are.
Life will be intimidating, it will be exciting, you will cry and want to call your mom, you will be uncomfortable, you will need to be mentally strong and you will be able to do it. Sounds just like 26.2.
Changing your identity does not need to be linear. As a runner, I did not need to become a swimmer first then become a cyclist to become a triathlete. I get to just become that.
In order to quantum leap you must release concepts of following a certain number of steps or order. Know you are worthy now, believe you are going to have it, you get to skip steps. Hold the pose.
When you try something new you may experience a First timer Fail. Be okay with being really bad. Continue to show up; growth is inevitable.
There may be hesitation and intimidation when something we have wanted becomes available. Validate your fears and feelings, then coach you.
The value of our money is dwindling by the day. Take your power back and improve your financial literacy. Time stops for none.
Our thoughts have weight. The load is only heavy until you decide to empty it’s content. What thoughts you are choosing to carry? The choice is yours.
There are common misconceptions on the definition of a strength and a personal weaknesses. Knowing your strengths allows you to better allot your energy and efforts, bringing you closer to your true purpose in life. ✨
The human experience includes emotions. All of them. Welcome them and greet them lovingly. We have the capacity to host many at a time.
Ever heard the saying “time heals all wounds”? What if I told you that this statement is not true. Time is passive, healing is intentional.
Presence is the greatest gift we can give to another. Presence is healing and contributes to another’s well being. This is unforgettable.
Imposter syndrome is the feeling that we are not as competent as others perceive us to be and we are going to be “found out”. This is a normal response to a new challenge. The beliefs we don’t overcome become our limits.
You don’t have to be an “Alcoholic” to recognize there is a problematic relationship with alcohol. It is scary to think about a life without alcohol when it is so normalized and embedded in society and we don’t know an alternative reality. Your relationship with alcohol doesn’t need to be all or nothing; sober curious? ;)
No is a complete sentence. You do not owe anyone an explanation for your no. It is okay to say no after saying yes. You have the right to change your mind.
It is easy to get caught up in the stories of our limiting beliefs. It is easy to forget that we are powerful beyond measure. This is your reminder.
There is a current version of you and a quantum version of you, the version of you that you want to be. Cognitive dissonance is created when your habits and behaviors do not match the version of you that you are trying to become. Set yourself up for success, remove things, people, situations, habits that wear out your will power, you only have a limited amount of it.
Food trauma is created when we are taught to bypass our hunger and fullness cues. There is no such thing as “good” food or “bad” food. Food is neutral. You do not need to earn your food. Eat like you love yourself.
There is a price we pay for convenience. Convenience is a luxury. Are you living a life of luxuries you can’t afford? These and “auto pilot” expenses ie buying coffee everyday that does not elevate your vibration but is instead on auto pilot are leaks in your financial bucket.
Our body talks to us and it is our job to listen. I share some ways that I have learned to listen to my body when it talks to me.
An older version of me believed that giving advice and “saving” others was helpful. What I was actually doing was robbing others of a natural consequence, a lesson, good or bad that they need to learn. This version of me believes everyone is fully competent to figure things out on their own.
It’s Men’s Health Awareness Month and yes, this includes mental health. I share my thoughts on Male Masculinity, where I believe men have lost their sense of purpose in our modern society and how we can help re-integrate our men.
I attended an event for the La Jolla Bachelor in a beautiful ocean front La Jolla Property. I share my experience.
It can be really scary to get what we want sometimes. There is fear of potentially losing or not being able to maintain what you worked so hard to get. Sometimes, we don’t really feel that we deserve that thing or sometimes, the more we have, the more we have to lose. Do it anyway, do it scared. It will morph you.
It’s Friday night and I’m feeling so grateful for the life that I live. This is how to multiply blessings. Positively reinforce the universe.
The single woman is a powerful being capable of transforming the dating pool and gene pool. It feels so powerful to harness that energy in this stage of my life.
Leveling up things in our life raises the standard. We then only allow that standard or above. Level up as many things in your life as possible. Attract that next level. I share some personal up-leveling tips.
Within the first fifteen minutes of meeting a stranger they recognized my true intentions.
One of the keys to success in leadership and business is people understanding what they are supposed to do and then doing it well. It is your responsibility to draft your job description.
Manifestation requires us to have a vivid picture of what it feels like to already have that item, relationship/s, situation, or job. The key however is to without a singular doubt believe that it is something we get to have and deserve to have. Believe it with all your heart.
The quickest change happens when we learn to get tired of our own Sh*t quicker. Decide that you want your life to look differently, get tired of the part in the dynamic that you play in holding yourself back from reaching that and use that energy to propel you.
When we “slip up” it’s easy to fall into spirals of shame. We must remind ourselves that this does not mean we are not growing. Growth is not linear and slip ups are part of the process. Meet yourself with grace and compassion when slip ups happen.
Being approachable opens us up to receive opportunities life presents to us. I share a few of my personal tips to be approachable.
Self-esteem is our own responsibility that is why it is called SELF esteem. Affirmations are a rewiring exercise. Time to do your homework.
Knowing when to quit things is important. It’s okay to release things, people, and situations that no longer serve us.
I bought a hat, but before I bought this hat; I had to get really clear about what it was that I was looking for in a hat. How having a clear picture of what you want applies to dating and relationships.
Ever wonder how people stay motivated? How discipline comes into the picture and how it relates to motivation.
Summer is here and so is my bawdy. This is the body the beach is getting. The very same one the rest of the year gets. 🙂
I chose to invest in myself recently because I’m worth it. Invest in yourself because you are worth it.
Self care goes beyond getting your nails done and taking baths. It is protecting your soul energy. Setting boundaries is self care, I share some of my personal self care habits.
The things that others do have absolutely nothing to do with us. Sometimes people do things that hurt others without the intention of hurting others, their only intention was to protect themselves. Assume everyone is just protecting themselves.
A doctor’s note forces me to be physically still and I am overcome by guilt. I remind myself my worth is not determined by my output. It is okay to be still.
A seemingly harmless compliment from a stranger prompts reflection on personal growth and racism that exists in society. Google: “Why exotic is problematic”
Cleaning out my closet prompts thoughts about clothes and the purpose they serve in my life. Letting go of things that no longer serve me creates space for things that do.
There are many things that prevent us from starting something, from “Crossing a starting line”. Fear of failing, feeling unworthy, or not starting something because we haven’t done things “perfectly”. Leaning into our fears and starting something that scares us is already a win. Celebrate crossing a starting line.
I set aside intentional time at the end of my day to pause and process the day’s happenings. Quick update on my pursuit to become a leader at my company.
A mundane interaction with a stranger at a fast food restaurant prompts my reflection on The Girlfriend Situation.
There are apparent disparities in the Eastern Coachella Valley. Being grateful for the “small” things in life E.g. clean running water, humbles me.
Join me on my car ride to my parents’. I reflect on my relationship with my parents and explain why I choose to give them empathy.
Returned to my hotel room after an enriching social interaction with my leadership and colleagues on a work trip. Asking higher quality questions allows for deeper and more meaningful interactions anywhere you go. You are your only advocate.
Today is the most special day. Yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not promised. Cherish the current phase in your life, it’s not going to last forever. Today is a special occasion.
Accept the opportunity of a challenge. Remain vulnerable. Give it your best. Reap the rewards. ✨
Detaching from people, events, and outcomes is a practice that contributes to standing firmly in yourself. When you are grounded and firm in you and your being, the outcome of situations really doesn’t matter.
Taking time for yourself is not selfish. Ensure that your cup is full first and then you can freely and fully overflow onto others.
Do you consume social media or does it consume you? Social media safety; something people don’t take seriously until something scary happens.
Fear can be paralyzing if we allow it to be. Learn to recognize what your behavioral defaults are when you are afraid. When you learn to recognize them, you can practice self compassion then find better strategies to emotionally regulate.
When we experience a “failure” it can be easy to feel that we are the failure. Instead, I invite you to pause and reflect on why this “failure” happened. Where could you have set yourself up for success better? Where could you have checked in with yourself better before starting something?
Growing pains are real. I’m feeling curious to know if this is what caterpillars feel when they are morphing into their ultimate form. I’m tired of playing small and it’s time to get out of my own way.
Thinking “no one really cares” or “why be a burden” are protective measures that no longer serve us and it is time to let them go. Opening up allows for the building of community. I invite you to open yourself up to receiving support today. That is a choice you have today.
Challenge yourself to be aware of what you’re really asking when you ask someone “How are you?” Do you have the capacity to actually listen to another person if they decide they want to share something other than “good”? Do you share how you’re ACTUALLY doing when someone asks you? 💭