The Self Set: Recent Episodes
Laura Maloney
On The Self Set, get ready to re-think traditional self-help advice. We're cutting out the shame and adding self-compassion to self-improvement. This podcast offers unique perspectives and psychology strategies designed to help us be a little kinder to ourselves and learn to be our own best friend. We'll uncover how to work through insecurities and embrace who we are. This is not about fixing yourself, this is about meeting yourself and learning to love yourself now as you become who you want to be.
Feeling guilty for losing your routine or for not working towards your goal can cause you to avoid it even more. Here are a few ways you can be kind to yourself when you are feeling guilty and how you can redirect your attention and take action moving forward.
Episode Mentioned: 3 Reminders When You Feel SELF-CONSCIOUS Trying Something New
I'm challenging myself to find ways to be kinder to myself every day... and I want you to try it too. In this episode, I describe the first three days of this challenge - what I've been doing, and what I've learned. what I've taken away from this experience. Hopefully this episode inspires you to take compassionate action in your own life. Imagine how bein intentional about the way you treat yourself can impact the person you are longterm.
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Here's a simple question to help you practice self-awareness and take action toward being kinder to yourself on the days when you feel off. This reframe can help you gain control and take action on your bad days.
Here's one way to reframe your thoughts around who you are and what you're doing. This question will help you be a little kinder to yourself on your bad days and help you believe more positive things about yourself.
Episode mentioned: This Psychology Strategy Will Help You Let Go of Insecurities
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Here's a simple reminder when you have insecure thoughts cross your mind. Remember this simple statement when you're dealing with self-doubt.
In this episode, we're talking about seeking validation. We're addressing those moments where you rely on reassurance from friends, partners, and coworkers. You'll uncover why you tend to seek validation and what you can do the next time it shows up again. This is such a necessary part of learning to love yourself and letting go of self-doubt.
Some days you just feel... off. On those days, it can be difficult to be kind to yourself. The self-doubt can creep back in and doing anything about it feels exhausting. If you're having a bad day, this episode is here to give a little encouragement and a perspective that could help you reflect on what you need. Try this self-compassion practice on the days you feel like poo.
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In this episode, I'm sharing one simple-yet-powerful way to help you get out of your own head and get unstuck when you're moving on autopilot. Get a personal take on one easy self-compassion practice you can implement today to brighten your week and change your outlook.
When it comes to insecurities, you might've gotten yours from your mama. When certain beliefs and behaviors get passed on from generation to generation, it can be difficult to address these generational patterns and put an end to the cycle. In this episode, social worker and author, Lindsey Konchar, shares how we can break generational cycles and how to communicate with our parents about this topic effectively.
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Lindsey Konchar's book: I Got 99 Coping Skills and Being a B*** Ain't One.
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Here's a self-compassionate approach to New Years' Resolutions. In this episode, we're recognizing how shame tends to play a role around our "new year, new me" mindset. The start of a new year can bring up a lot of different emotions and can cause you to feel like you need to "fix" your life. Here's one strategy to set goals in 2023 with self-compassion.
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Here's one simple way you can practice self-compassion in the new year. In this episode, you'll discover one strategy to become aware of the ways you're unintentionally being unkind to yourself and uncover ways you can make changes to be kinder to yourself on a daily basis in 2023.
Rejection can be painful, scary, and disappointing. Keep these three statements in mind when you are worried about being rejected. Each of these reframes will help you move forward and practice self-compassion despite being judged or denied.
Listen through to the end of the episode for three effective self-reflection questions to help you apply the advice to your life.
In this episode, we'll uncover how you can take action towards your new years resolutions while also practicing self-compassion. The self-reflection prompts shared in this episode will help you get clear on how you can be kinder to yourself each day while taking purposeful action toward your goals. You'll find how to be mindful of what you need during difficult times in your life AND move forward on things that will light you up.
Resources mentioned:
- Keep Moving Forward Podcast: Closing Out 2022 with Compassion with Laura Maloney
- "I Thought It Was Just Me But It Isn't" - Book by Brene Brown
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Ever done something new and felt very uncomfortable? Maybe you started going to the gym for the first time and you feel self-conscious trying equipment you've never used before or you've started a new job and you're worried your coworkers notice you falling behind. Here are three specific things to keep in mind when discomfort comes. These three tips will help you practice self-compassion and allow you to be kind to yourself in those difficult moments when you tend to beat yourself up.
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Have you ever wondered if your friends ACTUALLY like you? Have you wondered if they're just "being nice" and low-key think you're annoying? We're going to dive into this common fear around friendships to understand the two main reasons we feel this way and discover one psychology-backed strategy to work through this fear.
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Episode mentioned:
Ask Yourself THIS QUESTION When You're Feeling Insecure
This 3-part, short daily practice can help you start your day with more positivity and help you build a habit of being kind to yourself every day. If you're feeling very "blah" or low energy recently, this journal exercise can definitely help.
Episode mentioned:
THIS Psychology Strategy Will Help You Let Go of Insecurities
Do you feel like you're not where you're supposed to be? When we're aiming to become a better version of ourselves, it's easy to set high expectations on who that person is. When we set these unobtainable standards for ourselves, we end up overlooking the small signs of our growth and the evidence of the progress we're making. This mindset shift will remind you to celebrate all the little ways you're improving on a daily basis.
In this episode, we're sharing why it's so difficult for us to be kind to ourselves and practice self-compassion. We're uncovering why you tend to show more compassion to people around you than you do yourself. The first step to being kind to yourself is understanding why you haven't been kind to yourself in the first place.
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In this mini-episode, we're going to uncover the biggest thing that often gets in the way of us feeling comfortable being completely ourselves around other people. Plus you'll hear a helpful self-reflection prompt that can help you let go of other people's expectations and assumptions.
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An impromptu episode recorded after Kacia Ghetmiri's EmpowerHer Live Event. I'm trying to share more of myself to you, to my friends, and to myself. If you're someone who doesn't like talking about themselves, you may identify with this episode.
As Jamie Kern Lima said, stop "hiding in plain sight."
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In this episode, I challenge you to ask yourself "am I making how I feel mean something about who I am?" Let's get personal as I share how labels we give ourselves can impact our self-esteem long-term and one simple way to let go of those labels.
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Do you get overwhelmed when someone asks you "what do you want in your life?" or "what's your five-year plan?" In this episode, we'll dive into WHY it can be difficult for us to know what we want or to ask for it. You'll also discover an exercise that will help you gain clarity on what matters to you and motivate you when you need it.
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Do you ever feel like you're ready to do something a little different? What if you challenged yourself to do things outside your comfort zone throughout the month? Consider all the fun, exciting, interesting things that could happen. Think about the confidence you could build and the people you could meet.
We're excited to announce the "Outside My Comfort Zone Challenge" for the month of June, Each week, we'll be sharing honest accounts of what it's like for a reserved, anxious 20-something doing things that scare her. In this episode, we're sharing what you can expect and how you can plan ahead if you choose to participate in this challenge.
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They're your best friend but you feel like you might not be theirs. You've grown apart a little and now you worry you feel you care more about them than they do about you. A few universal fears we feel in our friendships. In this episode, we'll be diving into where these fears come from and one specific trick to ease the uncomfortable feeling of being a friend's second choice.
Do you ever experience periods of time where you don't feel like yourself? Maybe your energy is down, your head is in the past, or your insecure thoughts are a little louder than usual. You might notice that something is off by the pile of clothes on your floor or the unanswered text messages on your phone. This episode is a bit of encouragement for those of us who aren't feeling 100%. You are okay exactly where you are - as uncomfortable as it may feel.
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Frustrated that you're not where (or who) you thought you'd be by now? Here's a simple reminder for when your expectations don't line up with where you are now. You are human. Change takes time. You'll get there.
Episode mentioned:
What to Do When You Don't Feel "Enough"
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This one specific strategy has had a huge impact on how I treat myself. As someone who has struggled with insecurities and self-doubt, this daily practice has helped me think kinder thoughts about myself and has helped me notice more good in my life.
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Save this episode for a bad day. When you feel like you're falling behind or you feel like you screwed up, these three reminders will help you shift your perspective. Consider these three tips to reframe failure and help you be kinder to yourself.
Episode mentioned:
THIS Psychology Strategy Will Help You Let Go of Insecurities
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When you find yourself cringing at an embarrassing thing you said or ashamed of how you may have hurt someone in your past, here are three things you can do to reframe your mistake and move forward from it. This is how you get over a mistake that is eating at you.
Podcast Episode Mentioned: Ask Yourself THIS QUESTION When You're Feeling Insecure
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You don't have to love your body every day. You don't have to meet a standard. It's okay to not like the way you look sometimes. Body Image Coach, Renae Saager, shared her insight on how to practice self-acceptance and how to re-think the way you approach self-love.
TW: The word "binge" is mentioned twice but is NOT explicitly discussed.
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Do you feel.. blah? Do you feel off? Do you not feel like yourself? Do you feel disconnected or distant? We're getting really honest about this feeling and simple, practical things we can do about it.
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In this episode, we uncover WHY New Year's tend to bring up a lot of different emotions for us. Plus we discover 3 practical things we can do to prepare for the new year and ensure we're kind to ourselves in 2022.
Podcast episode mentioned:
When You Feel Like You're The Only One: https://theselfset.buzzsprout.com/1885634/9716245-when-you-feel-like-you-re-the-only-one
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I'm sharing a psychology concept that can help you re-wire your brain to build confidence and let go of insecurities. In this episode, you'll understand why you're more likely to remember criticism rather than compliments from other people. I share one practice way you can learn to love yourself and embrace who you want to be.
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Do you ever feel like you're the ONLY who feels the way you do? You think you're the only one falling behind, failing, feeling anxious, feeling lost. You're not. There are so many other people who feel the way you do. The best way to remove the shame and to know that you're not alone is by sharing your honest struggles and getting real about how you feel. In this episode, we're getting real about how we feel, reminding ourselves that we're not alone, and breaking down HOW to be honest with others about our experiences and how to encourage others to do the same.
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When you're stressed or upset, what do you tend to automatically do to comfort yourself? Maybe eating greasy food or scrolling IG for a couple of hours. In this episode, we're going to get honest about our go-to ways to cope with our emotions. We're also going to learn about the psychology of coping mechanisms and why we get hooked on habits that we know are negatively impacting us down the road. Plus we'll find a psychology-backed strategy that may help us switch to healthier coping mechanisms.
Book Mentioned:
The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
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Introducing Jacqui Acree, an EFT Tapping Practitioner and self-compassion advocate. In this episode, Jacqui teaches us how to use EFT to cope with emotions, how to stay present, and practice mindfulness. Her empathetic approach to emotional regulation is such a relief to listen to. This episode is great for those of us who tend to avoid uncomfortable feelings or who bottle up our emotions.
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Have you ever felt like you weren't "enough?" Pretty enough, hot enough, fun enough, smart enough, successful enough? Here's a new way to look at those standards we set on ourselves. You'll also discover how to quit falling into the "not ___ enough" trap and what to do when you feel shame on your self-improvement journey.
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Here are four words my therapist said that changed my perspective around my negative or insecure thoughts. This question allows us to reframe our fears, question our thoughts and take back control over our mindset and emotions. Thoughts can be convincing, but thoughts aren't facts.
Self-Reflection Journal Prompt: Consider a recent insecure thought you've had (ie. "my coworker doesn't like me") Now question that thought and ask yourself "what if that's not true?" Find the evidence to support the opposite.
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In this episode, I'm sharing why I'm not a fan of traditional self-help advice - especially simple advice like "just love yourself" or "follow your passion." This perspective shift may remind you that there's a different way to look at the advice you've heard so many times before.
I'll also share what you can expect in upcoming episodes of The Self Set. Unique perspectives, psychology strategies, and self-reflection journal prompts.
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Intro song: Balearic Paradox by Keep Calm and Podcast (Royalty-Free)
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