A Year To Change My Life: Recent Episodes
Rebecca McQueen-O'Neill
I am 40 and Flagging! I lost My Dad 2 years ago and at that Point I also lost myself. Drawing on my years as a coach, working with incredible people suffering trauma and tough times and still showing up for the game we call life. I‘m inspired to start at my new rock bottom. I have already had a few mountains to climb myself and I want to take you along with me. There is roadmap to not staying stuck, many of us have travelled it and all of us deserve the best in life. Here I share my way home, remembering who I am, how powerful we are individually and collectively, doing if for myself, my 6 children, my awesome husband, and of course you and the human collective. Lets level up together and live the dream
In this episode I take us through the run down of the last 12 months, how deciding and declaring to the universe you are ready to change, will take you in to the eye of the storm of your own life. As you fight releasing what you know to arrive in a new land of possibilities, at a new doorway waiting for you to open it and walk through.
Where I was at the beginning of the year and where I found myself at the end was an incredible journey through my own personal hell. I made it through.
I am stronger than I was, more intentional than I was and looking forward to all life has to offer me when lived.
Top lessons from 2022 for me were as follows that I think are some good points for all of us.
1, Identify the feeling you are after when you are setting your goals and intentions on your personal growth journey
2, Be clear that what you want is what you want to experience, not what your conditioned beliefs or society tell you you should want.
3, I choose how I feel and react to everything that happens around me. I alone have the power to make my life one to love or one to loathe, survive or thrive, it is all down to me.
4, Count your blessings not your struggles. When times are hard, gratitude takes you closer to more positive emotions (=energy in motion) Gratitude brings you to peace
5, Be open to accept who you have been or what you thought you was may not be true anymore, and that is not just ok, that is exciting, it's a rebirth waiting for you to step through the next door to your next chapter.
6, Losing someone you love will never leave you. There is no getting over it, there is only getting on with it.
7, No one is coming to save you! Be your own hero and retire the victim. Be true to you and your power.
8, Trust your gut instincts. To do this you have to look after it. Stop consuming toxic processed food and drinks. Help yourself to Help yourself.
9, Your boundaries are your responsibility. Set them, speak them and maintain them, it is a key element to self care.
10, Follow your joy. If it doesn't make you excited, if it doesn't make you smile, if it isn't contagiously or infectiously enjoyable, then don't give it your time and energy. Above all things we are here to love the life we live, not tolerate it and not to die trying, but to come to the point when we die that we can say we lived and died thriving
On those learnings, 2023 will see me doing 2 things I discovered in 2022 that deliver me all these things. I will be teaching Burlesque dancing :-) SO FUN, and growing my own food, nurturing and caring for my environment and loving my friends and family lots.
I enjoyed recording this podcast and I am sure you can take some nuggets from it that can help you on your own journey.
I am mainly going to be on my buy me a coffee page where you can listen to the podcasts, read blogs, benefit from freebies and discounts for a £5 membership a month or just a one off £5 support for content that has helped you.
For those of you that are still reading and still listening, Thank you so much :-) I appreciate you x
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Following on from season 1 A year to change my life. My greatest lesson was living a life out of alignment with love of self is a recipe for disaster.
Through my journaling, I connected with my highest self or my guardian angel, whatever you want to call it and I have learnt that the reason there is so much anxiety, overwhelm and frustration in our daily and collective lives is because we are playing the game of life living, loving and decision making from FEAR not LOVE and nothing good can come from this.
Fear weakens every part of us, Love literally powers us up and makes anything possible.
This is my belief and I am confident my experience.
This season helps us unlearn what we have been told love is and really understand not just what it REALLY is, but how thinking it, feeling it and speaking it will change not just our lives as individuals but our whole collective experience.
My starting point is at the beginning of the realization that I am just a girl, lost in my own story, trying to find my way home.
This is the part of our story when we Retire the victim and we Rebirth the hero, we remember who we truly are and we take our power back!
Season 2 will be released on Monday 6th March.
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Looking forward to the journey on some serious transformational growth :-)
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In this delayed release I share how becoming physically ill and having surgery, has really changed my perspective and my speed of life.
Our body is the indicator of what emotional imbalances are still present and still having an effect on us even if we think it is forgotten, the body remembers and until you an transform the lower vibratory feelings rooted in fear to Love we risk suffering.
The body is keeping score and showing us where we need to regain balance, we just have to honour our internal journey as much as our external, remembering the external journey outcome is always a reflection of the internal conditions.
Love Vibrations from me to you
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Honestly, this one is mental!
I had a gap between episodes bigger than expected due to hitting a wall or a hole of overwhelm and despair.
I have been unwell emotionally and physically and I recognise these as signs that the environment is not what feeds my healthy mind, body or spirit.
Key points
I had a birthday 42 years old, reflecting on my decades and how this one has been so far
Health, how do we only really think about it when we don't have it anymore?
Being in the eye of the storm and trying to play the game of life with the out dated rule book
Stop trying to manipulate the outcome and go with faith in the flow.
I am not on social media for this month but you can always follow and sign up to the email list to stay in the loop
Love Becky
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In this episode we look at a different way and perception of how and why we must use the pivot point of peace that lies between love and fear to transcend our thinking from fear or ego to love and spirit.
I share how this growth is showing me ways where I am not high vibing and how my low vibe is affecting my life experience.
Everything is vibration, everything is creative all the time. Creation never has a day off and it creates from vibration and thought.
I have been messing up big time, not in my habits but in my daily thoughts!! Time to realign with love!
I couldn't stay on track without Brendon's Growth Day app and I highly recommend you all check out this affiliate link for a 2 week trial, it really helps you look at yourself and your goals , it is incredible value.
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Big Love
Becca x
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Hello my lovelies
Well this is a 6 month review, I have touched on the key things needed to carry on. My own issues with self criticism , confidence and fear of being seen and how I use the following tools to get through them.
External and Internal support resources
Acknowledge and appreciate everything up to this point
What do you do well? What could you do better? Assess and Review
Don't be attached to the way, be attached to the feeling your wanting.
* What is my challenge
I also over share a couple of mental things about drum circles and ecstatic dance just for giggles and clarity about the points I raise here.
My inner child story still festers, awareness around it enables me to use my personal power to rewrite my new story script.
I reference a tool I would be lost without Brendon Buchard's Growth Day, this is an affiliate link. I highly recommend the platform it is out of this world and has everything you need to up level.
Also you can support my channel on the buy me a coffee page and have access to some more personal details of what it is to be a Mum, a step Mum an ADHD Mum who has to constantly work on staying on top, Link is in this bio already or you can find it on my Instagram profile.
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Much Love
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This episode comes at a timely .. time... with a big full super moon there to facilitate our emotional release.
I share here I think this is the last level I currently have to unpeel with my resetting of my mind so I can move on to addressing the physical parts of me for healing.
I realised I have been hiding from and holding on to past traumas where I blame myself and feel guilt and shame and this is the reason my heart energy has been blocked and I have been a notorious people pleaser, as well as lacking compassion for myself and my past experiences and mistakes.
I believe forgiveness of self is so necessary to release us from the low vibrational emotions of guilt, shame and self-abuse.
Only when we know better can we do better and that is the spirit of this podcast
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Love yourself like your life depends on it because it does
Peace out Loads of Love
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In this episode we discuss MONEY matters or more specifically Money as matter as energy, as a vibration.
We reframe what wealth is so you can feel it, be it, experience it.
I share about my experiences with different mindsets in a similar financial situation and how it differs, when you determine your security, your value, your worth by the numbers in your bank account and that reduces your feelings of peace and happiness diminish overnight, as does your life experience, but if you live in the vibration of gratitude and you see wealth as people, friends, family, health, experiences past and present and the fact that we live in the realm of possibility where nothing is permanent and everything is changing then money will match that vibration and prove you right.
I use the E.T.A framework for a solution to money matters
E= Emotions
T=Thought
A=Actions
What we feel around money, drives the thoughts, our thoughts sway the direction of our actions to either be empowered or disempowered.
You are not a victim of circumstance, every second of life offers you the opportunity to change what you don't like.
I also now have a way you can support my channel through Buy Me A Coffee, the link is below. You can buy a coffee as a thank you for any content in the podcasts you have found helpful as well as join the membership which is being released any day now. Sign up as a supporter or subscriber to be notified of when this is available.
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One Love x
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Oh my god I love this episode so much!
I have had a gap but sometimes that is necessary that we say no to obligations and outside commitments to say yes to ourselves and to care for our selves
In this episode I share what I have been doing to change my life in a year, it is not all about the grind, the status the dreams, it is about being at peace with yourself and in yourself and taking that energy to all the other things that matter to you.
In this episode I talk about how I was floundering and my friend Victoria reminded me it was 1/4 way through the year which meant it was something people experience. I gave my time to realign and remember my truth and what my intentions were at the beginning of the year and to check in and see if I was taking action towards it or away from it.
Mindset is important, if your heart isn't open the mind is left open to the bully brain, so for me I have been working on healing and helping my heart energy, listening to it and honouring it.
In this episode I tell you about how my exploration with ancient amazon medicine has helped me .
I am not an expert in any of these areas, I am sharing some facts about them and my personal experience
We talk about Hape
Grandfather medicine from the tobacco plant
Benefits include
- opens 3rd eye to enhance communication with your highest self
- decalcifies pineal glad which naturally hardens over the years
- purifies and cleanses sinus and respiratory tract
- supports digestive system, moves bowels
- offers energetic protection that comes from tobacco a plant that embodies strength, clarity and focus.
- connects you to the earth, it is grounding and enhances clarity
- clears negativity and stills the mind
I am using it as a daily meditation and rebalancing aid and it is changing my life.
Kambo - warrior medicine.
Benefits include
- Peptides which penetrate blood brain barrier initiating a deep cleanse within the body and results in a much improved immune system.
- complete detox
- Increase physical healing and wellbeing
- antibiotic properties
- strengthens immunity
- eliminates pathogens from the body
- anti inflammatory
- alleviates pain in the body and rejuvenates energy
- feel whole from the inside out
- improves stamina
- improves physical strength
- eliminates emotional blocks
- flushes out toxins
- improves chakra energy
- boosts self esteem
- stress relief
- releases negative energy
- Been documented in treatment of Parkinson's, Alzheimer's, migraines, depression, blood circulation and heart problems and female fertility
This has changed me on every level and my partner his chronic fatigue vanished after one session, his life changed so much he now is a practitioner and a ceremonial space holder for kambo you can follow him on insta @theonlywayiskambo
This has cleared some serious negative emotions from my life and I am grateful every day for this incredible manifestation of healing from the amazon forest, which we just must protect!
Cacoa Ceremonial
I am in love with this and because of it I am in love with everything!
Benefits
- great source of serotonin, dopamine, PEA
- Theobromaine - food of the gods, energy uplift
- rich in magnesium, tryptophan, serotonin which help you sleep better
- no chemicals
- increases/enhances creativity, health benefits, productivity and stamina
- feel more grounded, focused and connected
- prebiotic feeds gut microbiome
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Here I share 3 tips from the essential 'Toolkit of Transformation'
Personal Growth is not all sunshine's and rainbows. The brain does not like change, it does not feel safe so it signals signs of panic, it signals thoughts of overwhelm, such as I am not enough, it is too hard, I can not do this.
This narrative is a sign you are growing, you are transforming in to something different. It does not always feel easy but it is always worth it.
There are 3 tools that are essential to get through it and these are the 3 points we cover in this podcast
1, Reflect and Review - Look at how far you have already come. You are closer now than when you started you know and can do things now you could not do before. You are growing, evolving and transforming in to your next chapter. Keep Going, keep pushing through.
Imagine where you can be in another 3 months with how far you have come now? Don't rush the process, roll with it. Set the intention for the next 3 months of the year and create the plan, the schedule and take the action.
2, Gratitude and Appreciation - Your brain naturally wants to protect you, it is wired to seek out danger to keep you safe, this is the reason you get these disempowering thoughts and the way through them is gratitude and appreciation for all you are and all you do, all you have been and done has bought you to this place. What else can you be grateful for? Do you have food every day ? A roof over your head? Transport? Freedom? Be grateful and spend your time and your talk with people that vibrate this same energy. Do not get pulled in to negative conversations, bitching and moaning it serves no purpose and has never made anybody feel happier or more content.
3, Break the big task, the big dream in to tiny chunks. Make it achievable, schedule what is possible not what is demanded of you either by your own weak boundaries or those put on you from others.
When you complete small steps for a big task you release dopamine one of your feel good transmitters which not only boosts your mood, it triggers more motivation and inspiration meaning you are ready and fired up to complete the next small chunk towards the big goal
If you would like more tips, to share our journey of transformation together then please do these 4 things
1, Share, Review and Subscribe this episode, it is super simple in the app and I really appreciate all of you that already have. So much love and gratitude for you
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So much love, encouragement and gratitude from me to you x
Continuing down the path of changing my life. I started a morning ritual which led me to see how my actions and daily habits and thoughts are sabotaging me and how I intend to get out of it with action.
To get any big result we need to give attention and affection to the little things.
If you would like to follow on from the podcast and enjoy challenges and benefits all in line with changing your life then please join me in my facebook group
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Here I talk about the importance of the little things, the small habits and thoughts that are essential to not just making it to your destination, but enjoying and embracing the journey there.
How environment matters and being Spring is a perfect time to give it all a bit of va va voom and Revibe..... well your VIBE
Thank you as always, for a 2 way conversation I would love you to join us in our growing community 'A year to change my life' here is the facebook linkhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/4881949141912718
The website will be relaunching shortly so find me on socials, I love to hear from you.
Immense Love and Gratitude to you
Here is another episode on how to keep grilling down on the vision to make it a reality.
How it is essential we take our power back from conditioned, limiting beliefs and step in to our power and bring the vision in despite the doubters that kill dreams
Here is a link to the private facebook group if you would like to have a 2 way conversation
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Here is a little snippet of my own personal musings on what it really is to love yourself, it is a bonus episode as opposed to the journal of the journey :-)
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High Vibes from me to you x
Here I share how I am hitting a few familiar road bumps but by understanding where my negative beliefs were formed, for knowing what my vision is and my why I can form new beliefs and act in line with them.
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High Vibes from me to you x
Here I interrupt the flow to share what we can do to identify and swerve our power pot holes.
Power pot holes are habits and emotions that prevent us moving forward.
We touch on chakras, food as medicine, values.
Most importantly for you your rescue pack which is using the HIGH VIBE HABITS
Appreciation - Gratitude
Aspiration - Checking in and living in line with your vision and values as well as your heroes.
Achievements - Celebrating your journey so far and realise just how much you have done.
Affirmations - Affirmative statements in line with progressing you forward
Acceleration - What is my next bold move and my next small step
A free gift from me to you is a smoothie for your sacral chakra and a juice for your roots.
Sacral smoothie
Coconut milk, 1 x banana, passion fruit, mango, 1 x tbsp flax seed, fresh orange juice and optional extras to super boost is 1 x tbsp of maca (awesome apoptogenic herb) and 1 x medjool date.
Remember orange is the colour so balance the chakra of joy and possibility with some nice belly breathing to balance.
Juicy Roots for the root chakra
2 x beetroot, 2 x carrots, 2 x sticks of celery, ginger and juice of 2 oranges
*Root vegetables and red vegetables ground your energy, we need strong foundations to move forward and the energy of food can help you.
Top tip walk barefoot on the earth to feel it instantly feel calmer and better*
Here I share how identifying what your core values are help you see why your life experience is either good and bad and helps you say yes to happiness and no to things that take you away from it.
I share the importance of having a vision, how you can begin to create yours, follow what feels good, think about the leap of faith that is needed to put you on track to living a life that actually has 'life' in it instead of living life in shit creak.
I share my first bold move to changing my life and the reasons why I had to take it.
I reference some coaching resources to help you here are some links.... if I had it all together these would obviously be my own ones LOL. Hey, but this is a real life journey we are doing together isn't it. Progressing before Perfecting is where the adventure is.
https://health-coachingacademy.com/health-wheel-tool/
A little twist on it.
https://www.canva.com/design/DAElI2U-Vg0/KsbzH_dmhw36-SdTtwAACg/view?utm_content=DAElI2U-Vg0&utm_campaign=designshare&utm_medium=link&utm_source=shareyourdesignpanel
I also have shared a great article from psychology today that uses an example from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to identify what your core values are and who your heroes are.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/changepower/201811/6-ways-discover-and-choose-your-core-values
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Much Love
In this episode I share another ritual that I have found incredible after losing my Dad and essentially myself.
I wrote a release letter to Becky of 1980 to 2020 the version of myself that left me when I watched my Dad pass over, with compassion and gratitude I released what no longer can work for me in order to welcome in what can.
I share how I did this on the full moon which is the perfect time to release emotions and troubles that no longer serve us or hold us back and how crying is powerful and essential.
It was an emotional part of my story but such a crucial one and if you are drawn to when the time is right when the processing time has led you to the point I encourage you to consider the ritual in a way that will speak to you personally.
If you have any questions or would like to share anything with me in relation to your journey or this podcast you can contact me direct at connect@mamabex.com
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Remembering that together we rise, together we are strong, each one reach one to teach one.
Here is a link about the different appearance of tears depending on the emotion. The body is an incredible thing.
https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/the-microscopic-structures-of-dried-human-tears-180947766/
Life hits hard or sometimes just consistently.
In this episode I share a little about myself to get to know each other and to reach out to offer a helping hand to come with me through struggles to strengths to creating and being the change you want and need to see in the world.
I have lost many a time, but the rebirth makes everything worth it