A Guy Called Wes: Recent Episodes
Wesley J. Tucker
A weekly podcast based on a man and the lessons/philosophies that he encounters throughout life. Laugh, learn, and even cry as you embark on this journey with Wesley, and you open your mind to new and seasoned concepts of life.
If there’s anything I want you to take away from this episode, it’s that I love my mom.
Accept what you can’t change, have the courage to change what you can, and have the wisdom to know the difference. The past is the past and you can’t do anything about it. You can’t get that opportunity back, you can’t get the relationship back, you can’t do what you use to do because if you do you will only continue to stunt your growth and block the blessings that the future has for you. That chapter of your life is over, and it is time to open up a new chapter and live in the present. You truly don’t know what the future has for you, you can set as many expectations as you want but if you don’t accept what you have and make the best of it you will never truly be happy.
We all have our thing. Some people do makeup, some read, and some play video games. Whether if it’s your way to connect with friends, cope with life, or just your way to enjoy your free time, there is nothing wrong with sitting down and immersing yourself into a world created by storytellers and designers with a character you may or may not have created. Video games were my way to escape from the real world as a kid, and guess what: it still is. So no matter what your thing is, the concern shouldn’t be that you’re doing it, it should be how often you do it and how to regulate it so it doesn’t become an addiction.
Do you wear long sleeves and pants everyday(even on hot days) because you don’t want anyone looking at your arms or legs? Do you avoid speaking in public because you think everyone’s judging the sound of your voice? Fellas, do you avoid dating women taller than you? Do you wear your face mask EVERYWHERE YOU GO, not because you respect the mandate but because deep down you feel more comfortable covering up 70% of your face? If you can relate to any of these then guess what, you’re not the only one
- We’ve all had negative things done to us. People who did us wrong, jobs that laid us off, and relationships that took more than you gave. It’s very easy to take that anger and sadness that those people and circumstances gave you, and carry it on through life. Many of us become consumed in that negative feeling, and a lot of us choose to use that feeling as a motivator. Whoever you admire or see as successful traces their story back to some pain they’ve experienced at a young age that they’ve used as motivation. In U.S. society, the stigma of using your pain to fuel you and to keep pushing forward and never look back has been passed around for so many years. Why do we do this? Well as my therapist likes to say, “Let’s unpack this”.
A Guy Called Wes caught a Virus Called COVID. So instead of the Christmas Special that was scheduled to be recorded and released by Christmas, enjoy a special year wrap up episode with songs and more.
DISCLAIMER: These are my experiences with these corporations. These corporations may have changed since I last worked for them, and they were specific locations. This is in no way a slander towards these corporations.
We all have a type that we’re attracted to, not just physically, but personality wise too. And that’s what I want to focus on in this episode because although we are attracted to a certain body shape, scent, or sound of their voice, that only accounts for a small percentage reason of why you’re attracted to a person.
When it comes to the black experience it’s not hard to tell that it is a journey that comes with trials and tribulations. Don’t get me wrong, being black will always be a privilege and power in my eyes, but with this skin comes its struggles and setbacks. Struggles and setbacks, set by a system set on keeping down the people who have built this country. It’s hard enough to deal with the prejudices, stereotypes, racism, and micro-aggressions because of our skintone from other races, but when we feel these same forms of disrespect form our own brothers and sisters brings a whole different pain.
Life is like a loooong drive, and along the way we pick up travelers who make the drive a little bearable. No matter how tough life can be, friends make it bearable. Every laugh, hug, and handshake we share is medicine for the wounds that this world deals to our hearts. Unfortunately, along this road called life, some of these travelers will need to get off at their stop. There are some cases where you’ll see them again in the future, but 9 times out of 10, you probably won’t.
Saving money isn’t easy and no one has all the answers…. Allow Wesley to try and find them in this episode.
In this new age of social media where we’re so use to sharing our highlights and accomplishments, it can be hard to share moments that made us feel like we weren’t on top of the world. Listen to Wesley dig deep and share the biggest moments that humbled him.
As we get older the world takes more and more from us and we feel obligated to give ourselves to our jobs, careers, and relationships. By doing this we forget to dedicate time to take care of ourselves, and although it is easy to say “Love yourself!”, the question remains: How do we love ourselves?
It’s easy to be inspired by celebrities and athletes on our TV screens, but rarely do we take the opportunity to tell the people closest to us how big of a role they’ve played in our lives. Wesley and Anthony are two great friends from college who understand that it’s best to give people their flowers while they can still smell them.
In a world where it is so difficult for men to show their emotions and vulnerability, Wesley breaks down the concept of “Being a man” and how it has evolved and even hurts us in some cases over the years.
Wesley tackles the word “Toxic” and how it relates to our everyday life. It’s very easy to label people and circumstances as “Toxic”, but we rarely take the time to acknowledge where it stems from.
School can be hard, especially when you’re constantly reminded how every grade will determine your future and success. It’s very easy to feel suppressed by the pressure and feel the weight of your future on your shoulders. If you can relate, then this episode is for you.
As a former church kid and life-long Christian, Wesley breaks down the the history, stigma, and teachings of the church and bible.
You Need To Know Before Starting College(7:45 - 21:31). Interview(21:31 - 43:40). Story time(44:00 - 52:00). Final Word(52:23 - 53:31).
Listing and Explaining Platforms(1:30 -6:54). Monetization(6:55-8:15). Benefits of Social Media(8:15- 10:34). Negatives of Social Media(10:34- 19:32). My Story(20:50- 23:31). Final Word(23:31- 24:18)……P.S. I apologize for the mad audio.
Along this journey of life we all run into bumps in the road and stumble across paths that effect our mental health in a negative way. In this episode, Wesley tackles the negative stigma around therapy with statistics and help from therapist, Crystal Clark. If you would like to hear the full interview with Crystal Clark, click on “You Need Therapy(full interview)”…. P.S. Excuse the nasally voice, I was sick. Book: “It Didn’t Start With You” by Mark Wolynn; Movie: “Good Will Hunting”; Song: “DR.WHOEVER” by Amine
Full interview with Crystal Clark on therapy. You can find Crystal Clark on: https://crystalclarktherapy.com/ ; https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/crystal-clark-glendale-ca/929584 ; https://www.inclusivetherapists.com/california/glendale/crystal-clark ; https://providers.therapyforblackgirls.com/listing/crystal-clark/
A weekly podcast based on a man and the lessons/philosophies that he encounters throughout life. Laugh, learn, and even cry as you embark on this journey with Wesley, and you open your mind to new and seasoned concepts of life. 2-episode premiere August 4th on all streaming platforms.