Live life, Love life.: Recent Episodes
Judy Pinto
Life is beautiful. It depends on oneself how I look at life.. myself, my relationships,my achievements along with mistakes and failures.
In today's episode we learn about love between a husband and a wife. We love one another by showing love through action. Love is support, understanding, forgiveness, tolerance, respect and many such things.
Here is a incident where a small kid of age 4 helps reunite his parents in love and forgiveness.
I'm sharing my happiness today on Good Friday that I'm born as a Christian. Jesus died for me but He also is Risen. This is my faith, my belief in Holy Trinity.
We get to read about people's plight on social media. This is about a woman suffering in her marriage. What's the situation?
As human beings we experience ups and downs in our lives. But if we feel grateful for the good things we can stay positive. How about writing a " Gratitude journal" everyday?
Overthinking happens in every one's life sometime or the other. But if that happens always could lead to trouble. Let's face it: 1. Let's practice wider perspective of things. 2. Let's think " are every problems under my control?"
We focus on wrong things too often through out the day right? Other people's opinions, other people's choices, emotional reactions, or government policies or small incidents like traffic jams,bad weather or illnesses, accident... These are not in our control.. are they? So why worry? Let's pay attention to what went right, be positive and grateful. Life is beautiful 🌹🏵️
Life throws at us troubles, difficulties. There are ups and downs. Let's learn to manage.
Today one of my students called me to express her distress on being treated badly by her own dear friend. Why? That's just because her friend was #jealous of her. Let's work on this emotion 😊
Today I read about Vismaya. She committed suicide because her husband tortured her. Couldn't she find a solution? Why choose death. Let's choose life dear friends.
Have you anytime thought " if this person would be able to hear my thoughts what would happen? We think so many thoughts, sometimes good and sometimes not so good. When we think I'll about someone who's right in front of us? We are lucky, people can't hear what we think..
Talking about any problem to many people will not help us solve it. "Sometimes the easiest way to solve a problem is to stop participating in it". Let's pay attention towards solving it, not sharing it. When surrounded by difficulties keep low, speak less,till the storm passes.
A 2nd puc girl from Karwar, Karnataka Committed suicide because of the cancellation of exams. She was preparing to get a rank. This pandemic, lockdown has caused many changes in our lives. People are working from home, students are schooling from home, exams are cancelled, no travel etc. But friends, this is 'change'. Let's accept it and remain peaceful.
Patience is the ability to wait, keeping good attitude while waiting. "Patience is the best remedy for every trouble" says Plautus. Mother Theresa wants us to be patient in our relationships.. she says " if you judge people,you have no time to love them' It is said that ' one minute of patience can lead to 10 years of happiness"
We do so much for others and then we expect too. Let's take care of ourselves so that we can take care of others. Healing begins when you shed the victim mentality.
Since March 2020 till date( it may probably extend) people having a job are compelled to work from home. Though there are advantages, continuously working from home has caused stress. Mainly: there are no distinct boundaries and caring for young children has a toll on working men and women. Keep a separate place of work.. finish the house hold chores , cooking etc before you start the work. Engage children in some activities. Friends, change is the only constant thing. Be positive, this too will pass.
Just observe your " self talk" when you are anxious,troubled.. we talk negative, and in turn we feel more miserable. For our well being we have to practice positive self talk. Brene Brown says " Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love" Let's take care of ourselves.
When we keep#positive thoughts, we have positive #words which lead to positive #action. Positive actions lead us to positive#habits. Positive habits build positive#character. Finally we reach out #destiny.
We are born peaceful and joyful. On the way of life's journey we forget this. Let's come back. Listen to songs, hum along with or listen to music. Remember your fav song.. hum it just now. See how happy you feel # instantly.
We women take responsibility for everyone. When it comes to household chores we do it most of the time. When there's an emergency, we rush. We think we are most important and could deal with everything connected to our families. But dear friends, this causes tension, anxiety. So, let's learn to be peaceful.. let's listen to this ..
Present scenario of covid, pandemic or lockdown is causing stress right? Working from home is becoming a drudgery. Today a simple breathing practice that would bring energy into you and you renew yourself. Try this friends.
Even if normally you are not a happy person due to problems,concerns or worries, we must know that thinking happy thoughts is a skill and anyone can learn it.
Look at a child. Do you notice #innocence?# curiosity? Children are by nature curious about everything around them. But as adults we lack this quality. Anne Lamott said" Don't look at your feet to see if you are doing it right. Just dance"
Is there a #perfect relationship? Do you get angry, frustrated or irritated with your loved ones? It's normal right? Answer a #few questions positively and take action. Afterall relationship matters for your happiness and theirs.
Does encouraging others can create happiness? Sure 'yes'. #story of Archana and Anitha. " Be an encourager,the world has enough critics already" unknown author.
An affirmation is the act of confirming something to be true. Eg: reminding a child that she's smart. #pandemic and covid has made us fearful about health. While we take all the safety measures, let's also learn some #healthaffirmations to keep us healthy always with the creation of #immunity. Eg: " I restore and maintain my body at optimum health" 2. " I'm at peace with the body, mind,heart and soul"
"Radical acceptance"was first' coined by Marsha M Linehan. Although we can't control- for the most part- how life unfolds,we can control how we perceive or react to life's unfolding. Fighting against reality causes more pain. Radical acceptance has it's roots in Buddhism. Through radical acceptance we create non attachment to anything other than the present. Would we not be peaceful# when we practice# radical acceptance?!!!
Is mobile a boon or a bane is a debatable issue. How often and how much we use our phone is an important one. In this episode# a few tips are given to use our phone in a useful way.
When are we more happy?#while receiving or #while giving? Ann Frank says" No one has ever become poor by giving" We don't have to give only ' money' . There are many ways we can give: a smile, appreciation, encouragement,kind words,helping hand, time the list is endless. We have to always remember that the happiest people are not those getting more but those giving more .
A smile creates inner happiness.Douglas Horton says" Smile, it's free therapy". We use 43 muscles to create a smile, whereas only 12 muscles screw our 😈 face into a frown. While listening to this podcast smile,see how the face relaxes,how happy you feel. Then use this inner smile through out the day. A smiling face is a beautiful face, a smiling heart is a happy ❤️
We are creating happiness these days. In our day today life, there will be many small issues. How we manage with them decide whether we are creating Happiness. If someone cuts you in a traffic, how do you take it? You sweat it out or let go? # Story of 2 monks
How to convert a ' sour' Relationship into a ' beautiful' one!?? Follow #3day action plan Day #1: Focus on atleast 3good qualities of him/ her. Day#2: Identify 3 things that irritate you a ' forgive' . Day#3: Speak kindly, appreciatively to this person through out the day. DONE. Happy living
Is it selfish to #put yourself above everything else? If it is, that's okay. Jane Fonda " The more you treat yourself positively, the less you'll want or need to be negative" set the standards for how you'll be treated. People will treat you the exact way you treat yourself. Treat yourself atleast as well as you treat other people.
The fact that I'm still #alive itself is a # blessing. Olivia Culpo " Everyday is a blessing" My experience with#RA We experience so many blessings during the day, let's acknowledge them. You never know where a blessing can come from.
We are learning to create happiness. " If you put off everything till you're sure of it, you'll never get anything done" Let's start stating our happiness in the form of oral expression or written form. We can start writing a# journal, putting down our little #achievement. What we have once enjoyed we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.
All of us want happiness and we usually think that happiness is a mirage. We have to work hard inorder to be #happy. But, I think #differently. Today's tip is # Happiness is liking what we get. Simple..but effective tip# Omar Khayyam said " Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life"
Friends, happiness is a state of being. We usually wait for that one positive comment to feel or rather create happiness in us. But trust me, happiness comes from within us. Mandy Hale says" Happiness is an inside job. Don't assign anyone else that power over your life" Robert Tew said" Once you learn to create your own happiness, noone can take it away from you" In the following episodes we will discuss on small tips for creating our Hapiness.
Do you feel good when you compare yourself with others? How many of us were compared with our siblings or anyone else in our childhood? How did it feel? Theodore Roosevelt says" Comparison is a thief of Joy" Hapiness is found,when you stop comparing to other people. If you are a parent plz take care of your child, don't do this crime while bringing them up. Instead build them with appreciation, encouragement and such positive qualities.
Are you worried about what other people think of you? Let's see what great personalities say about it... Steve jobs: Don't let the noise of other's opinions drown out your own inner voice". Elisabeth kubler- Ross " The opinion which other people have of you is their problem, not yours" if you bother about " log kya kahenge" you will end up being restless. Your peace will disappear..
Overthinking could be one of our difficulties which destroys our peace. Any problem arises and we think and think about it. Albert Einstein says " we cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them" how true... Too much thinking cannot help us solve problems .right? In fact I agree with Great writer William Shakespeare. He said" There's nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so" So friends, let's not ' overthink'
We generally think others make us happy,sad, angry etc right? But the fact is we ourselves are in charge of our own happiness. Mother Theresa says" spread love everywhere you go. Let noone ever come to you without leaving happier" This exactly mean that happiness is in giving,in caring, in listening. Mahatma Gandhi said" Happiness is when, what you think,what you say and what you do are in harmony" Let's think beautiful thoughts,feel good and act compassionately.
We are humans and being human means we will make mistakes. How do we deal with our imperfections? Gerard way says" Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections" The word " imperfect" actually spells ' I'm perfect" Let's accept our flaws, mistakes, imperfections..
It's said" Silence isn't empty, it's full of answers" When someone speaks to you,if you keep silent as a response it may mean many things. Eg: " I don't care what you just said". One's silent response will not create good feeling. Especially in important Relationships like husband wife, parent child or friends.. let us speak as soon as possible. After all all we need is ... Peace Joy and Tranquillity.
Communication- the human connection- is the key to personal and career success says Paul J Meyer. Let's learn to communicate in a simple, easy way. William Yeats says " Think as a Wiseman but communicate in the language of the people"
The book "The 5 second rule" by Mel Robbins gives an idea how to transform our life making it more fruitful. Are you a procrastinator? Are you stressed? Do you want to be productive? Do you want to quit any addiction? This is for us.
All of us wish to be peaceful and joyful right? Worry is our enemy. In today's episode I'm helping you with one tip, how to avoid worrying through out the whole day.. let's follow yet and get rid of the habit.
Friends, hardworking is good. But relaxation makes us peaceful and joyful. Are you one of those who feels guilty when you just rest on your couch and watch your favourite movie? Think about it. Relax
Women's day is celebrated all over the world today. Am I happy and joyful to be a woman? In today's episode I speak about basic difference in the very nature of both gender.
As human beings we need to make smaller or bigger decisions in our life through out. Let me explain how to take decisions with the following 5 steps.
Anything in excess is not healthy. Hippocrates says" everything in excess is opposed to nature". If we want peace, we have to live in moderation.
Living in the present moment is " mindfulness". Past is gone and the future yet to come. Why we waste our energy on past or future and give away our peace and joy?
Worrying about keeping relationship with wrong people rob us of our peace and joy. Yes, we have to try to keep some relationships like parent- child, husband - wife, siblings etc trying hard enough. But, if any relationship becomes toxic, why do we have to cling to that person.. heart ache, heart break, sulkiness... Is it worth?
A few decades ago the word stress was used only in science. Now even kids say "I'm stressed". To face challenges of life we have to grow our inner strength. This happens when we have fruitful thoughts.
We are aiming at peace joy and tranquility. In today's podcast we will see who causes anger in me.. is it my spouse? My kids? My colleagues? Neibourers? Or Me.. myself?
We never like to hear ' no'. It's a negative response. In today's podcast we learn why do we find it difficult to say no, how can we day no...
Gratitude is so satisfying for both, the giver and the receiver. There are millions of things we ought to be grateful for. Let's make a habit of expressing our gratefulness.
Donot let the behaviour of others destroy your inner peace" Dalai Lama We have to make an effort to remain peaceful.. agree? Most of the time our peace is lost just because of someone's criticism.
Parents find it difficult to deal with their teenagers. Do you know, they themselves find it difficult during this stage? This episode explained another characteristics of Adolescence: Adolescence is a problem age
Parenting Teenagers is not an easy task right? But, e can make it worthwhile by understanding our teenagers. These episodes may help even the teachers. Rapid changes happen during adolescence. Let's know about them.
Parents are often confused with the behaviour of their teenagers. What we have to learn is, they are going through transition...
In this episode we discuss the first characteristics of adolescence. " Adolescence is an important stage"
Parents often find it difficult to deal with their teenage children. In this and the following episodes we will discuss about the characteristics of adolescence, and the way to understand them.
We parents sometimes feel that we are solely responsible for our child's well-being. This leads to overprotective behaviour. In this episode we will see the effect of it with an example.
Parents will observe different stages of growth in their child's life. One such thing is ' teenage'. Children will have their behavioral changes now. Today's episode helps us to understand one such behaviour.
The well being of a mother during Pregnancy plays an important role in a child's life. Both parents are equally responsible for the the well-being of their kid. Let's speak about it 😊
Our children have beautiful qualities.. We parents must recognise them. When we recognise and express their qualities, they feel enormously happy 😊
Joyful families are made by all the members of the family. More responsibility lies with us parents. 5tips are added to the previous episode.
As parents we sure wish to have Joyous families. We have to cultivate this in our families. Here are 5 tips for joyful families.
Parents play a responsible role in the lives of their children. Among different needs " need for praise" is another important one. Children need to be appreciated,encouraged, praised, complimented for their well-being. In this segment we discuss about This.
Parenting is a beautiful but daunting task. Every parent tries to be a good parent if not the ' best'. Here are a few tips how parents could helf their children to achieve " need for acceptance" Happy parenting....
Parenting involves disciplining the children. In this episode we are discussing about 3types of discipline and the most suitable among them.
Dorothy Law Nolte has beautifully summarised the " action- reaction" in parents dealing with the children. Let's listen.
All of us have a need for Security. This need has to be satisfied from one's childhood. In this podcast we speak about what hinders secure feeling in our kids and factors that contribute building secure feelings.
Among various needs of the children, Self worth stands out. We as parents have to stand with them in building Self esteem, self worth by treating them as significant individuals.
All of us having the need for Love and to be loved. But our children express their love easily and they need our love too. In this episode we find out how best We can express our love to our children
Parents often say " I treat both or all my children equally" is it true.. this can't be.... Let's find out why?!!
All of us have families. We wish that our life with our family is a happy one. My wish is to accompany u in this journey.