The Counsellor's Podcast: Recent Episodes
The Gap Counselling
Gary Napier as an accredited Counsellor and Life Coach, with over 10 years experience, interviews and chats candidly with his guests, about life's greatest issues. Gary's main areas of expertise are, Relationships, Anger Management and Anxiety. With his genuine warmth and empathetic attitude, you will find yourself listening with intent, as he dives into explore the subjects others like to avoid. We hope you will enjoy the podcasts and more importantly find them helpful. If you would like to get in touch with Gary, you can contact him directly gnapier@thegapcounselling.com
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This week we have been running one of our crew awareness weeks, this time our focus on anger management. Anger is an emotion that can affect us all at some point in our lives and is perfectly normal, but when it is expressed in a harmful or aggressive way, it can become problematic, especially when working in a close environment.
It's important that we understand the reasons for our anger and learn how to manage it, and to help us understand how we do this, we are really thrilled to welcome back Counselling Psychologist Gary Napier for this episode. In our chat, we explore the nature of anger, identify common triggers, and discuss effective strategies for managing our emotions.
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Has a family member or friend suggested you go to counselling? You are reluctant or feel it is not necessary, believing you can work things out yourself,
Meet Karen Astle, who after going through cancer treatment was left with anxiety. Her husband although supportive, could not help her any further and suggested she get some additional support. For Karen, this was a turning point in her life and opened a doorway which she envisaged. Hear her full story from counselling to counsellor.
If you would like to get in touch with either Gary or Karen, please contact Rachael from The Gap Counselling:
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Psychologist and Counsellor Gary Napier speaks with Sue Wild, a Cancer survivor, who came through her medication by having a positive mindset. During her time in treatment, she defied the doctors' prognosis and overcame the disease.
Gary and Sue discuss whether being positive was one of the major factors in the healing journey and how a clear mindset can get people through the hardest times.
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Counsellor Gary Napier speaks with Life Coach Roland Pakkiri, about how he felt as a first-time father 7 years ago when his daughter was born. With the long-awaited excitement of a new baby, what began as a happy occasion soon turned into a great deal of tension during the early days of parenthood.
Roland speaks honestly about the pressures men feel during this time and how if left unspoken it can cause a rift between the couple and even a breakdown in the relationship.
Whilst everyone knows that newborn babies are hard work with the lack of sleep and the constant change of nappies, little is spoken about the strain it puts on the couple, especially when they are first-time parents.
Roland's wisdom is very profound and should be shared with anyone who is expecting a baby. Perhaps if more men spoke with each other, some relationships could be saved.
To contact Roland on LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/roland-pakkiri-a04a1b74/
https://dunamiscoaching.co.uk/
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In this episode, counsellor and therapist, Gary Napier talks with Charlie Payten, who at only 22 years old, has a rather dramatic journey into self-discovery.
Charlie sometimes struggled at school with her peers and quickly realised that it is better to have fewer friendships that were deeper, rather than being popular. She made a bold decision during her travels in Asia, that she would only make 'ride or die' friendships and not settle for the shallow relationships we sometimes make to fit in.
Her maturity and wisdom at such a young age are refreshing and encouraging, to not only her counterparts but a wider community. Hear her unique story of how she rejected the 'right of passage' to find a more meaningful life.
If you would like to get in touch with Gary, please email him:
gnapier@thegapcounselling.com
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If you have had any conflicts in family life, then this podcast is for you!
Gary talks to Griff Akai about growing up in a family that didn't necessarily express love in the way western culture portrays parental affection. Griff's candid and honest approach regarding his relationship with his father opens up a topic that can sometimes be painful to discuss. However, Griff's knowledge and wisdom encourages us to see how love can be conveyed in different ways,
If you would like to get in touch with Gary then please contact him via email:
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The world will tell us who we are if we don't find it out for ourselves. We are told by society, that men need to 'man up' or be tough when things are hard. We are told that it is weak to be vulnerable or to speak to someone when we are facing issues.
Finding out our true identity can really set us free because we no longer need to conform to what others say about us.
This Movember, we are encouraging men to talk to each other. We can all help one another and you may not realise what someone else is going through until you open up yourself.
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Movember is a campaign that brings awareness about men's health. Males are less likely to get checkups at the doctors, which can lead to health issues later on. This Movember, The Gap Counselling is doing short videos to encourage men to keep on top of their health. There is still a stigma attached to men who battle with their health and feel it is weak to ask for help.
In this video, Thomas speaks about the fact that it is OK to speak to someone you trust.
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Movember Talk: Why we need to take the first step.
In our second video short. Greig chats to Gary about why men don't come forward to get the help they need.
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We are promoting the Movember campaign for Men's Mental Health this November. So, Gary challenged himself to interview 30 men this month to talk about the battles that they face. These are short insightful podcasts, called Movember Talk, Here is the first one!
In this talk, Roland talks about why he got help.
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Gary speaks to Karen a cancer survivor who, after 5 years of living cancer free, has a remarkable story to tell. Her extraordinary strength and determined attitude pushed Karen through some of the most intensive treatments on her journey to healing. She was not going to let cancer win but would come out victorious.
Although she came face to face with her enemy and beat it, that was just the beginning of the fight. Karen talks openly about the real battle that she was left with which was arguably equal to the disease itself.
If you would like to get in contact with Karen, please email Gary at:
gnapier@thegapcounselling.com
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Gary interviews Maia a 16-year-old who brings insight and great awareness of the battles that teenagers face. When at school, she recalls the strong desire to fit in but feels the need to change so that she can be accepted by her friends. She later discovers that this is not the best policy, since she becomes a version of herself that she did not like. In her self-discovery journey, she finds out that not everyone is going to like her and that learns that being authentic is the only way forward.
We are privileged to hear such a story from a young person who has promised to love and protect herself, just as much as she does for others. Her courage to speak up and highlight her flaws in order to find her own identity is nothing short of heroic.
If you would like to get in touch with Gary, please email him:
gnapier@thegapcounselling.com
www.thegapcounselling.com
Nick Thiel, dad, life-coach and good friend of Gary's, speaks openly about the battle to be a part of his children's lives, after a relationship breakdown. Nick shares that his whole world shattered, one father's day, when he found out his ex-wife had moved his children, 200 miles away. His shear determination, made sure that he would continue to be their dad, even if it meant years of long distant journeys and weekend visits. Nick's story is about fighting for his children and how love wins in the end.
If you would like to get in touch with Nick, please visit:
www.nickthielcoaching.com/
If you would like to contact Gary, please email:
gnapier@thegapcounselling.com
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DO NOT MISS THIS PODCAST! This week, Gary talks with Alex Williams, a mental health nurse for over 16 years and a motivational speaker. Alex hit 'rock bottom' several years ago, from a childhood trauma that triggered his depression and ultimately ended up with him planning his suicide. Hear how he dramatically turned his life around, after reading a line from a book, which gave him the hope to not only carry on but to find his purpose and redefine his life.
If you would like to get in touch with Alex:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/thealexjwilliams/
https://www.instagram.com/thealexjwilliams/
If you would like to get in touch with Gary:
gnapier@thegapcounselling.com
www.thegapcounselling.com
Matt has worked in the sailing business for over 16 years. The yachting industry is often displayed as being glamourous; working with millionaires, traveling the world, and having a 'carefree' lifestyle. In this podcast, Matt shares the other side of the coin, where 18-hour days are not uncommon, working alongside a crew in confined spaces for months on end and having to cope with high demands from boat owners. All of these pressures inevitably affect people's mental health, with stories of drinking as a coping mechanism and the onset of depression, anxiety, and fatigue regularly hitting staff. Whilst the rewards are incredibly high, with excellent salaries and exciting venues; Matt explains that the role can be a bit like being given 'golden handcuffs', where you cannot leave because the benefits drastically outweigh the cost.
Matt is a big advocate of men needing to talk, believing that if stress and pressure are not spoken about and left to fester, the outcome is imminent - illness and even death. So, men we need to talk!
If you would like to get in touch with Matt, contact him at: https://linktr.ee/anchor.property
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Hear Karen's story; a mother who struggled to connect to her eldest son and the impact it still has on her life today. Karen candidly talks about the pain of rejection and the regret she has, for not confronting the issues earlier. Karen's account is incredibly moving and powerful; we believe many people will be able to relate to her story.
If you have been affected by this podcast and would like to get in touch with Gary, please contact him via:
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Thank you for listening.
By the time Washington Ali was 16, was addicted to drugs and had left home, Now in his twenties, after coming through those turbulent years, Washington is a Personal Freedom Guide, where he helps people who suffer with low self-esteem, anxiety and anger issues, to become braver and happier.
Gary and Washington talk through those teenage years, in which he describes them as being 'curious' and 'lost'. Washington leads us to his most pivotal moments, that helped him see himself for who he truly was and who he wanted to become. After years of wrong turns, he decided to return home, but it wasn't without challenge and the struggle to 'slot' back in. With the help from his family, he was able to become open and vulnerable, and using that vulnerability as his 'super power'. Hear his amazing story and the journey of his healing.
To get in touch with Washington Ali:
https://www.instagram.com/becomealive.washington/
washington@becomealive.co.uk
www.becomealive.co.uk
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This week, Gary Napier speaks with Maria Berghs, a lecturer at De Montfort University, Leicester. She currently works with Masters students and has gained great insight into how the stresses and worries of today are effecting our young people.
Maria explains how she has personally had to deal with students that have suffered sexual abuse and rape, and highlights how, even now in the 21st century, the onus is still on girls and women to make sure they are safe in social situations. She discusses the sexualisation of society, where pornography is readily available at the touch of a button, and how it distorts the way men and women relate to each other.
Maria's parents were foundational in her upbringing and that the messages of love, helped her stay grounded throughout life. Maria gives great practical and emotional advice, which will really speak to anyone who has suffered from sexual abuse and feelings of loss or loneliness.
Covid-19 has not only disrupted our living experience, but has placed one big magnifying glass onto our relationships. Many couples have found during the lockdown, an intensifying pressure, being forced to stay in and learning to find ways of getting along together. Whereas even couples who considered their relationship status as good, have now found themselves questioning whether they should stay together. So, if a relationship needs to end, how can we get it right?
Counsellor Gary Napier, speaks openly with Carel Mouton, a Clinical Social Worker and Gestalt Therapist. Carel's extensive wisdom and therapeutic experience of over 30 years, has enabled us to see the process of what happens to a person, after the breakdown of a relationship and how we can have hope to start again. He speaks specifically about the 5 stages of grief that occur during loss, which are:
- Denial - avoidance, confusion, elation, shock, fear
- Anger - frustration, irritation, anxiety
- Bargaining - struggling to find meaning, reaching out to others, telling one's story
- Depression - overwhelmed, helplessness, hostility, flight
- Acceptance - exploring new options, new plan in place, moving on
Carel Mouton, currently lives in South Africa and specialises in relationships, trauma and addiction. If you would like to contact him directly, please email:
carelpjmouton@gmail.com
If you would like to contact Gary Napier please email:
gnapier@thegapcounselling.com
https://thegapcounselling.com/
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https://www.instagram.com/thegapcounselling/
Join counsellor Gary Napier as he interviews Nick Thiel a relationship coach, to discuss the difficulties within relationships. Nick has a passion for coaching couples and exploring how even the most perceived failed marriages can, with coaching, lead them onto a path of success. Nick has himself, been through a difficult break up with his first marriage and has now remarried, which enabled him to put to the test, what exactly is a successful relationship. In his coaching programme, he focuses is on helping couples re-discover the 'happy place' they once had with each other.
During the podcast, Gary and Nick discuss the pain that surrounds a break up and why we are often attracted to people who are the opposite to us. They also consider the different needs between men and women, which also can add to the tension in a couple relationship.
To find out more or to get in touch with Nick:
https://www.nickthielcoaching.com/
To get in touch with Gary:
gnapier@thegapcounselling.com
wwwthegapcounselling.com