Feminine Energy Feminist: Recent Episodes
SaraEllen Hutchison
Feminine Energy Feminist is the podcast for soul-centered professional women who don't want to have to choose between their personal and professional goals. The problem today is many high-achieving women have pushed aside so much of themselves in order to get where they are in their careers. And it’s impacted them physically, emotionally and spiritually.
Join SaraEllen Hutchison, Life Coach & Practicing Lawyer as she shares the exact tools, strategies and practices she used to embrace her feminine energy to have a successful career and fulfilling personal life, and redefine what it means to be a highly successful female professional.
Each episode will feature tools, practices, and strategies that will show you how to create more balance, improve your relationship with yourself and others, and manage time and stress in a radically different way. If you are ready to make your career and life work for you by using your innate gifts as a woman, this is the show for you.
Be sure to visit lawyergoddess.com for more info.
Lawyers, solopreneurs, coaches, and all other professional service providers, listen up!
I've been getting clients for 12 years in my solo law practice with an ad budget of $0 most years. It keeps my overhead low, is distraction-free, and enables me to focus on the parts of the work I truly love.
How do I do it?
It's definitely not effortless, but it is simple, elegant, and preserves my integrity.
Before you can march to the beat of a different drummer like me, the most important first question to ask yourself is...
...what does an Oscar-winning Jessica Chastain movie have to do with you and your approach to marketing?
The answer to this question could save you a ton of money, icky feelings, and time.
For more information, go to https://lawyergoddess.com/23-how-to-get-clients-without-marketing
Leslie McWilliam Duffy, RN is a Functional Medicine Health Coach.
Functional medicine aims to treat the whole person, and in this interview, Leslie and I get very personal about our own women's health challenges.
Leslie's thyroid issues led her out of mainstream nursing and into Functional Medicine and Health Coaching, where she found her own answers and now helps others find theirs too.
My own female hormone issues led me to everything alternative medicine and deeper into personal development -- to create a career that allows me to maintain my health instead of draining it.
Mainstream healthcare does some awesome things, but...
...it can't force the lifestyle changes that are necessary to stop burnout.
And, it doesn't address the whole person in ways that are necessary to really heal from chronic health issues and create genuine work-life balance.
Listen now, and discover:
- The deeper reasons why women's chronic health and hormone issues are tied to work burnout.
- The steps you can take to get yourself back in balance.
For more resources from the show, go to
https://lawyergoddess.com/22-womens-health-hormonal-balance/
Soul contracts are akin to a verbal, unwritten contract.
They’re promises we make to other people to do or not do certain things, or behave in certain ways.
Such promises that are often not in our best interest.
They can set us up for a lifetime of unfulfillment in our personal lives while we exhaust ourselves trying to people-please in our careers.
Reclaiming your Feminine Sovereignty is key to breaking soul contracts that aren't good for you.
A sovereign woman is one who has agency over her body, mind and spirit.
What other people think of her or what they might do is simply not the number one variable in her decisions.
If you’re wondering why you’re afraid to say no, or can’t get what you want, listen to this episode and learn:
- How to recognize if you have soul contracts that should be broken.
- Why breaking soul contracts is essential to being the boss of you.
- Why feminine sovereignty is key to having the confidence to say no to people-pleasing, and yes to yourself.
- Why all this matters to smart, successful women.
- How to reclaim your feminine sovereignty.
- The three steps to break unhelpful soul contracts so you can get what you actually want in your life, and not just what others want you to have, do or be.
For more information and resources from the show, go to: https://lawyergoddess.com/21-soul-contracts-and-feminine-sovereignty
Do you want real intimacy in your relationship -- and authentic feminine power? Then it's time to listen to this wonderful and juicy interview with Sophia Le Page.
Sophia Le Page is a Feminine Embodiment and Leadership coach, originally from Australia and now living in Bali.
Sophia let go of the false "good girl" mask and traded up for a spiritually real, authentically powerful rebel queen life.
Sophia, like her goddess namesake, is a veritable fountain of wisdom about the feminine experience, what real feminine power is, and how to tap into your embodied feminine now, even if you have a stuffy, patriarchal day job!
The embodied feminine is the key to having an authentically powerful life, and real intimacy in your relationships. No matter what your current situation is, trust in your body, and let your desire lead the way.
This interview with Sophia Le Page contains SO many gems to help you start or continue on the path to fully embodying your divine feminine power.
Listen now and let the juiciness sink in!
To get the resources from the show, go to
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The raffle has been extended to March 31, 2022.
I want your honest feedback so I can create an awesome show that provides tons of value. Click here to learn more about the contest and how to enter.
Flower Essences are a form of energy healing. They are powerful tool to help you heal emotional and spiritual issues.
They can be especially effective when you are dealing with a lot of uncomfortable thoughts and emotions about your career choice or the job you are in.
They can even support us when we are troubled by challenging personal or world circumstances.
Flower essences are an excellent complement to any thought work or coaching you might be doing to deal with stress, because they support you in understanding and moving through difficult emotions.
Listen to this episode to learn what all this flower power is about, and meet about a dozen specific individual flower remedies that address work-related and stress-related issues.
To learn more, go to Episode 19
Are you using the famous quote "we can do hard things" to be hard on yourself for not working hard all the time?
That's not what it really means. In the spirit of everyone deserving a vacation, this Podcast will be on break and return March 17, 2022. In the meantime, I have a free class called the Manifestation Atelier, which starts March 15, 2022. For more information, go to lawyergoddess.com/manifestation-atelier
Why are so many professional women so unhappy?
There are four not-so-obvious reasons why.
When you understand how western culture really lets women down when it comes to career and mental health, you're well on your way to reclaiming your happiness.
And the antidote to these problems is available to you right now, wherever you are.
Listen now, and reclaim the happiness that's rightfully yours.
Geraldine Carter teaches you how to work less and earn more. Geraldine Carter is an environmental engineer who took a world tour, literally (you have to listen to the podcast!) and turned her knack for reading a profit & loss statement into a successful coaching and consulting business helping CPAs get off of the tax hamster wheel.
Work less and make more money; what's not to love? I had a blast doing this interview with Geraldine.
Any woman who can help anyone work less so they can ski more is a kindred spirit.
I am also excited to have my first science and math badass on the show.
Even if you're not a CPA or not self-employed, Geraldine shares pure gold for how anyone working at a firm (of any kind....) can summon their own entrepreneurial spirit so they can put more of the control of their career back into their own hands. And that's something we all need, no matter where we work or what stage of our career we're in!
What You Will Discover: * Why being very specific with your niche helps you make more money in less time and with less chaos. * Why you should get out of "time for money" thinking about your services and focus on value. * Why high-achieving women are more prone to self-doubt, and how to reframe that. * Why it's not your fault if all your years of education didn't prepare you for whatever challenge you're facing in your career or business! * Why it's often better to throw away the "script" for a "conventionally successful" life -- and forge your own path instead.
Are you ready to throw away the b.s. script that others handed you, so you can think bigger about your own life and career/business? Listen now! For resources from the show, go to: https://lawyergoddess.com/16-thinking-big-with-geraldine-carter/
Tired of being unable to control your own time? Wish you could see your family more often? Want to have the ultimate say on which clients you take on? You might be a great candidate for self-employment.
But you might also be scared about how to pull it off, when you have a family and/or student loans.
Join me for this inspiring interview with Gina Occhipinti Borasi, a personal injury attorney in Santa Cruz. Gina and I discuss our different paths to self-employment, and even though some of our circumstances were different in the beginning, the emotions, fears, hopes, dreams and ultimately the improved lifestyle are so similar. No matter what your circumstances are, if you have a calling in your heart and soul to work for yourself, and long for all the joys and advantages that can bring, you have it in you to do it. Listen to this episode and fan the flames of your inspiration -- and your resolve!
For more resources from the show, go to https://lawyergoddess.com/15-the-joys-of-self-employment/
Sara Williams, Esq. is a wise and powerful woman trial lawyer on a mission to uplift other women You absolutely have to drop what you're doing right now and listen to this interview I did with Sara Williams, Esq. Sara Williams is a trial lawyer representing our fellow humans injured by careless trucking companies. On top of that, she is a wife, mom, feminist, professor, coach, and mentor for other lawyers. In one word, Sara Williams is a badass. Sara and I met on Instagram. I was looking for some other women lawyers out there with inspiring stuff to say, and I am so glad I found her, because I know that what she shares here will inspire you too, whether or not you're an attorney!
In this candid conversation about life as a woman trial lawyer, Sara shares a wealth of wisdom from her 16 years of practicing law. Highlights include:
- What to do if you're unhappy at your current job, but dream of more or different
- How to better manage your difficult emotions when people are disrespectful
- How to show up as your authentic self even when others might not like it
- Her inspiring vision for what "a seat at the table" for women REALLY should be (this is SO GOOD)
Seriously, folks. Listen to this and take notes!
This episode contains adult language....But this isn't my worst. LOL.
The Enneagram isn't just a personality test. It's actually a powerful personal development tool!
Join me for this powerful interview with Life and Enneagram Coach Dominique Vandal, and learn:
- The right way to learn your Enneagram type
- Why you might mis-type yourself during a period of stress
- What your perfectionist tendencies might really indicate
If you have ever wondered how to reconcile your basic personality with those aspects of you that are movable -- you know, your thoughts and feelings -- this episode is a must-listen!
Some rules are common sense. But many "rules" in society are just cultural nonsense designed to keep women "seen and not heard."
Such "rules" -- or as Brooke Castillo would term, "manuals" that society has for our behavior -- drive smart women to second-guess themselves and worry about making people mad or disappointed if said rules are broken.
Why is it important to sometimes break certain rules? The cost of remaining silent can be greater than just our own integrity.
In today's episode, come with me as we break some rules and have a few laughs about it.
This episode contains adult language.
Are you shoulding yourself? Telling yourself all the time that you should do XYZ or shouldn't do XYZ?
When we "should ourselves," part of us has very noble intentions. We have goals, areas we want to improve or grow, or personal standards or a protocol (like with food).
But when we find ourselves feeling bad and continuing to engage in unwanted behavior, or create undesirable circumstances in our personal or professional lives, "shoulding" could be the culprit.
In this episode, learn how to recognize "shoulding," understand why we do it, and learn my somewhat unconventional alternative approach to personal improvement.
It's time to chuck the "I should..." strategy in favor of something much kinder and more efficient.
You are ready to think about all of your relationships in a wholly different way -- personal and professional.
This week's episode is an excerpt of a class I taught going into depth on several key concepts I live by and use when working with my coaching and mentoring clients:
- Feminine and masculine energy
- Brooke Castillo's Self-Coaching Model
- Brooke Castillo's concept of the "manual," which is what it sounds like -- our personal list of rules for how we wish other people (and ourselves...) would behave.
And the coolest part of this episode is that we apply these concepts to a very important topic -- relationships.
I cover a lot of advanced material in this episode, but I wouldn't be publishing it if I didn't intuit that you are ready for and thirsting for these concepts.
For more information and resources from the episode, go to https://lawyergoddess.com/10
Burnout. It might manifest as waking up at 3am worrying about work, and then dragging oneself through the work day, feeling overwhelmed and overworked while not getting anything actually done.
Burnout is actually something we often bring on ourselves, through how we are thinking and feeling about our work. And it can take a physical toll.
When we are burned out, it usually takes a well-rounded approach utilizing body, mind and spirit strategies, to bring us back.
Listen to this episode to gain critical insight into the origins of burnout, plus a wealth of ideas on how to recover from burnout.
Many of us struggle to make decisions. We might take hours to pick out what to wear, months to decide what color to paint the house, and years to decide whether to leave a job and hang out our own shingle. (For the record, it took me five YEARS to decide to go solo!)
All this indecision can be exhausting. We've all heard of decision fatigue.
But why do we put ourselves through such drama?
There are a lot of systems and practical advice about how to make better decisions. You know, writing out a list of pros and cons. Putting a deadline on a calendar and just doing it. Etc. Common-sense crap we already know.
But if you already KNOW that stuff, and it still feels bad and you're avoiding a big decision, or saying yes to too many different things and not deciding that anything is a "no," some insight into why it's hard to make decisions is in order.
FOMO -- the fear of missing out -- is one version of placing excessive importance on the outcome. It's one major reason why otherwise smart and capable women struggle so much with making decisions. Inside, we are afraid we will be mad at ourselves for the "wrong" decision, or fear we will be sad about the thing we passed up.
And people-pleasing is another reason. Many of us actually have decided on what we really, really want in our heart of hearts, but don't do it because we are afraid someone else will be mad or sad. And sometimes we go years without even telling our own selves the truth about what we really, really want.
This stems from our "good little student" syndrome again -- we want people to be happy with us and this strategy has been largely effective. Sometimes the smarter and more capable we are, the more seems to be at stake, which brings us back to the first point -- placing too much importance on the consequences.
It's human to want to grow and expand, try all the things, taste everything that life has to offer. I'm not here to suppress that impulse. But there is something incredibly sweet about really savoring just a few select things.
In this Episode, I give you permission to say no and embrace constraint to strengthen your decisionmaking muscle, so that each successive decision you make is easier and faster and with less drama.
And I recommend an awesome article (linked in the show notes) that will have you re-thinking whether a multitude of options is a net positive for your happiness.
Learn more and get episode resources at https://lawyergoddess.com/8
Should women "lean in" to have it all? The title of a 2013 book by Sheryl Sandberg, "lean in" has become synonymous with women being fiercely independent and working hard to get ahead.
Criticisms of the "lean in" concept have flagged the differences in the life circumstances women have starting out, and widespread inequities in our culture that can make it more difficult for some women to realize all of their ambitions just from working hard and showing up as their best.
Proponents of leaning in would counter that what works for men should work for women, and that they are working to level the playing field by demonstrating that a woman can be as dedicated as a man despite other priorities in life or at home that compete for her attention.
What about "leaning back?" The linguistic opposite of leaning in (at least on the surface), "lean back" is widely-disseminated advice to women who want a man to take the lead in their relationship, or no longer want the stress of having to go out and do everything for themselves. After all that hard work and leaning in, it's nice to lean back and let the world come to you. And in work or business, there is some kind of relief in thinking about just letting things happen and show up in synchronistic ways.
Critics of the lean back concept believe that this behavior (in relationships) takes us back to the 1950s, or is un-feminist. And in career and business, they explain that this is a form of magical thinking.
Proponents of leaning back would counter that they really just encourage you to be your real feminine self, aligned with the Universe, and not have to act like a man to get what you want.
Maybe it's both: The proponents of "lean in" and "lean back" have a lot of valuable things to add to the discourse about how women can further their interests.
Maybe it's neither: With all the advice to "lean in" at work, and "lean back" in your personal life, you might feel quite off-center, never quite getting it "right" anywhere. That's because with all this leaning to and fro, you might not be taking the best advice there is, which is your own wisdom.
Listen to this episode to learn how you may be obscuring the real voice of what you "should" do in any given situation.
This episode also shares two very simple but powerful exercises to re-center you amidst all the "shoulds" and polarizing advice.
If you want more information or resources from the show, go to https://lawyergoddess.com/podcast/
Are you conflict-averse? Do you go for days, weeks, or years avoiding difficult conversations you know you need to have?
Many smart, educated women struggle with difficult conversations, simply because they are in the habit of discounting their emotions and are afraid what the other person will do, think or say.
Here is an exercise adapted from bits and pieces of the work of Chris Voss, author of Never Split the Difference, Kasia Urbaniak, author of Unbound, a Woman's Guide to Power, and Master Coach Brooke Castillo of the Life Coach School. (If you want to go deeper with tools and teachings on negotiation and power dynamics, I encourage you to read the excellent source material from those three authors/teachers or sign up for my Power Bootcamp that starts in mid-January 2022.)
I massaged those fine teachers' methods into something that would work for my clients. I came up with this, designed specifically for conflict-avoidant feminine energy women.
Learn more at lawyergoddess.com
By now, you probably have heard quite a bit about manifestation, law of attraction, visualization and meditation.
Some of you aren't meditating as consistently as you'd like, and when you work on your manifestations doing this or that mindset tool or technique, you're not sure you see a benefit.
Or for some of you, meditation is already a daily habit and you think of yourself as a good manifester, but certain areas of life still seem blocked, like a last frontier.
If you're an otherwise high-achieving, successful woman puzzled by this, take heart.
Today's episode demystifies how to manifest, by breaking down what actually happens in our brains and in our lives when we are manifesting, according to The Model -- and lightly touching on science.
I'll also explain why high-achieving women often have a really hard time figuring out how to manifest.
And finally, today's episode also will convince you that meditation is key, and thought work or mindset work alone is not enough for you to manifest your desires.
Don't miss this one, because I share a powerful and personal manifestation story from my own life that I have never before widely shared, and the exciting knowledge that makes my manifestations even more powerful now.
Are you tired of hearing that "women are too emotional?" Yet on the other hand, do you secretly wish that you could manage your own, powerful emotions better so that you can keep your cool?
This is understandable. For eons, women have been hearing that they are too emotional. And not too long ago, our foremothers fought hard to gain respect in historically male-dominated jobs like law, medicine, engineering, business, and executive leadership when few thought they could keep up.
The problem occurs when we suppress our emotions, and put enormous energy into pretending like things don't make us angry or sad, when in fact they do.
Aren't you tired of hearing that "women are too emotional?" But then so many of us chide ourselves for not being levelheaded enough, and we judge our strong feelings.
When we mansplain and gaslight ourselves that we shouldn't be so emotional, we often unintentionally create the very impressions that we do not want to create.
The truth is, our emotions are important, valuable, and wholly for us. When we believe this, and we have the tools to take better care of ourselves in the heat of the moment of an uncomfortable emotion, they become our powerful allies.
In this Episode, I invite you to stop internalizing these destructive messages that "women are too emotional," and I give you three powerful steps to manage difficult emotions so that you can show up the way you want without being fake.
Feel like "positive thinking" never seems to stick for you, because of the serious nature of your work or some insurmountable aspect of your personality?
It's because trying to "do positive thinking" actually does not work when treated as a "technique" or strategy. The essence of it is well-intentioned, and much of the spiritual and personal growth advice out there has a lot of value; indeed, positive thoughts will help you create desired results.
But most of what's out there misses the mark when it comes to what to do with the so-called "negative" thoughts and feelings human beings necessarily have. What do you do with those buggers, anyway?
Most of western culture would like us to think it's all happy-happy, joy-joy all the time. Look happy. Look busy. Don't let them see you sweat. If you have a bad day, maybe there's something wrong with you. Maybe God doesn't love you or you need a pill for that.
When you go deeper than the internet-meme inspirational-quote level of spirituality, you get to some really interesting stuff. Perhaps the best thing Abraham-Hicks teaches is the value of contrast -- the value of the full spectrum of experiences, both desired and not.
It's our negative thoughts that can help us manifest faster -- because we start where we really are, not the super-curated version of where we think we "should" be.
In this Episode, I share a powerful secret about the myth of positive thinking that is going to give you great relief. I'll give you full permission to wallow in your negative thoughts like a pig in the mud, but only so long as you go into it knowing that mud is fertile soil for creating what you really want. That's radical self-awareness, and in this Episode, I share why.
Overworked, overwhelmed, and feeling like you have to do it all? Then you need to reclaim your Feminine Energy to get your life back into balance, so that you are receiving at least as much as you are giving to others.
Given the demands of your work and life, developing intangible positive qualities like Feminine Energy is something you tend to push to the bottom of your to-do list.
But when you understand how reclaiming your Feminine Energy is the game-changer to bring balance back into your life, you'll want to make it a priority. You can make this powerful shift even if it currently seems like you don't have time.
In this episode, I share the four steps to reclaim your Feminine Energy so you no longer have to be the only one doing everything.
For additional details, visit https://lawyergoddess.com/2
In this episode, discover how it is possible and beneficial for women to tap into their feminine energy at work. I share why so many of us are passionate about our careers and still fantasize about quitting. There are two radical shifts in your thinking that I’ll teach you which will allow you to overcome the frustrations and disappointments in your career so you can feel calmer and more confident.
For full show notes and more information: https://lawyergoddess.com/1
Hi, I’m SaraEllen Hutchison, I’m a life coach and a practicing lawyer on a mission to help professional women embrace our feminine energy. If you’ve been listening to me, you might have noticed that this used to be the Inner Peace for Busy Lawyers podcast. Well, things are changing around here. The mission is bigger – to help all professional women working in what, for lack of a better phrase, we might call the “male dominated” fields. This podcast is designed to help you embrace what makes you uniquely powerful as a woman. It’s time to reclaim and redefine what a professional woman is. Be sure to subscribe/follow so you don’t miss an episode.
Sometimes in life and in our careers we have to change. In today’s episode, I share how I have changed my solo law practice through the years. I also share how this podcast is changing, and why. Change can be dramatic without being filled with “mind drama.” When you think about change as pivoting, rather than something cataclysmic or abrupt, you can avoid a lot of the pain people associate with change. Inner Peace for Busy Lawyers is about to emerge from the chrysalis and become a butterfly: Feminine Energy Feminist. Listen and learn the motivations behind this pivot, and my audacious vision for professional women in all fields. Subscribe — and stay subscribed so you automatically are subscribed to Feminine Energy Feminist!
People tend to think confidence comes from doing things or achieving things. While that can help, it's not the whole story. Once you understand these three reasons, you will be primed to start to build your confidence from within. To help you anchor in this process and celebrate Episode 50, I created a free workbook for you that you can access here: https://lawyergoddess.com/confidenceworkbook/ Enjoy!
Stress, mindfulness and work-life balance. These are buzzwords: words that people use so often that they don't really mean anything anymore. When we use these words or consider these topics in an unexamined way, we make ourselves powerless to counteract stress, stick to a mindfulness practice, or create work-life balance. We're basically letting other people define and shape these concepts for us, and then our life doesn't change. Listen and get the inspiration you need to reframe your life and your work, even when you'd describe it as stressful or out of balance and you think you can't stick to a mindfulness routine. And please subscribe/follow and leave a 5-star rating or review! Interested in a powerful conversation that will get you unstuck? Learn about coaching here. https://lawyergoddess.com/coaching/ And reach out if you want to discuss how we can help you. https://lawyergoddess.com/contact
Care passionately about your work, to the point of burnout? The world has problems, yes. But solving them is easier with a full night of sleep, and the three steps I outline here. Need help? Coaching might be just what you need right now. Reach out at https://lawyergoddess.com/coaching/
What does a mythological creature from folklore have to teach us about how to be comfortable in our own skin, even when we feel like we don't fit in at the office -- or in a family -- or any other setting? Quite a bit, actually! And if you like creative writing, you'll love the homework! Book mentioned in the episode: If Women Rose Rooted by Sharon Blackie
When we're impatient and react by overworking or overdoing, it can be just as problematic as procrastination and undergoing. Today's episode will help you recognize this pattern and soften the edges of your impatience!
A lot of us live for years with unnecessary pain because we aren't going for what we want, or tell ourselves that we don't know what we want. If that sounds like you, this episode is a timely message. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saraellen_hutchison/ Contact me here: lawyergoddess.com
Struggling to figure out if coaching is worth the investment? This special bonus episode will shed light on that. Resources mentioned in the episode: Women Lawyers: Therapy vs. Coaching Coaching Success Story www.lawyergoddess.com
This episode introduces you to a powerful tool to deal with your 3am anxiety thoughts, and any other negative thoughts you just can't seem to stop thinking. Resources discussed in the episode: Lawyer coaching: https://lawyergoddess.com/lawyer-coaching/ NLP: John Grinder and Richard Bandler https://www.amazon.com/Books-John-Grinder-Richard-Bandler/s?rh=n%3A283155%2Cp_27%3AJohn+Grinder+Richard+Bandler Krishnamurti's On Fear: https://www.amazon.com/Fear-Jiddu-Krishnamurti/dp/0062510142/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=krishnamurti+on+fear&qid=1630533818&s=books&sr=1-1
Sarah Bernlohr ran her first marathon ever just about a year ago, and now she's training for a 50-mile race. And she does this all while being a solo lawyer practicing in the area of dependency and neglect. How is she able to do it? She shares how in this episode. Even if you have no interest in running, I bet you have something you're interested in doing outside of your professional day job life. A big goal in your life or career. A fitness goal. A hobby or other passion. It might be something that might feel impossible for you sitting here today. But that feeling impossible doesn't matter. If you need inspiration today, this episode is a MUST-listen! You can follow Sarah on Instagram @bravelittlerunner
Today's episode dismantles some of that old mental wiring that causes us to feel disconnected from the other women in our office, or struggle with feeling anxious, competitive or jealous when we think of them. It's one of the dynamics that leads us to the people-pleasing that derails us from our best intentions in our relationships with people, and getting things done. At the end of the episode, I give you some powerful coaching homework that can go a long way to help you dismantle this old wiring without dramatically turning your life upside down. If you're listening to this podcast before 8/31/21, you have an amazing opportunity to score an Inner Peace for Busy Lawyers Podcast tank featuring the podcast logo! To get your very own tank, please leave me a 5-star review, and contact me through the website at: https://lawyergoddess.com/contact/. Let me know in your message that you left a review. I'll respond and then you can provide a screen shot of your review with your desired shirt size. (This process is a little clunky, but helps me to prevent spam.)
Feeling unmotivated to get your billables done? You're not alone. If you're waiting for the feeling of motivation, you might be waiting for a long time. That's why you need this episode. It will give you other emotions from the buffet of options that can help you get sh!t done. Did you miss the Free Coaching Open House? Do you want to hear about the latest, greatest free stuff? Join my email list: https://lawyergoddess.com/contact/ And, if you're ready to put what you are learning in this podcast into action in your life and practice and transform from the inside out, join the Lawyergoddess Workshop. Learn more here: https://lawyergoddess.com/lawyer-coaching/
Today's episode is an excerpt from a recent masterclass I did, Lawyergoddess Power. I share what I believe is the missing piece for many women lawyers who struggle to balance the demands of their work with the desires (and demands) of their personal lives. Want me to coach you live and for free? On August 11, 2021 at 2:00pm Pacific Time I will be holding a Coaching Open House for women lawyers. It will be very similar to the group coaching call we have in the Lawyergoddess Workshop. To join, you can sign up at this link: https://mailchi.mp/saraellenhutchison/21811-lawyergoddess-free-group-coaching-open-house-this-one Or you can DM me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/saraellen_hutchison See you at the Open House!
Several world-class women athletes have declined to compete in certain events, citing mental health needs, or simply a desire to conserve their energy for other events. But we women lawyers don't always give ourselves the same grace. We think we have to get the gold medal at lawyering (and everything else....) day in and day out, without a break. This approach is unsustainable. It leads to emotional and physical burnout. We need to normalize taking a break as not just something you do when you are physically ill or experiencing an acute mental health issue. It should not require a doctor's note. Balance is a human right. You need a full night of sleep if you want to go get the gold medal tomorrow (and five or 10 years from now). Need help bouncing back from burnout? Listen to this episode, and then jump into the Lawyergoddess Workshop, the three-month transformation for all things life and law. Want to learn more? I'm taking applications now: https://lawyergoddess.com/lawyer-coaching/
Fear, anxiety, and losing cases. All lawyers deal with this stuff, but high-achieving women can take it especially hard. Here's what I do, and what I recommend you try. Listen now! * * * Today's episode is sponsored by the Lawyergoddess Workshop. The Lawyergoddess Workshop is a one-of-a-kind experience for women lawyers. This is where you can transform your relationship with time, your thoughts, and your emotions, so you can create a fulfilling career and a fulfilling life outside of work. If you like what's on this podcast, you will love the Lawyergoddess Workshop. This is a unique opportunity to be personally coached by me and get tailored strategies to solve your work-life balance and other personal and professional challenges in a supportive, fun small group of other women lawyers. The Workshop runs for 3 months. Want to get into the next round that starts August 2? Go to https://saraellen.net/contact.html and mention that you heard about it on Inner Peace for Busy Lawyers!
It's a myth that the high-achieving woman has to sacrifice her freedom and her interests outside of work in order to remain high-achieving. That freedom starts with deciding to lead with your own energy, even if your current circumstances seem bureaucratic and stiff, or chaotic and dysfunctional. Today's special guest is my coaching colleague Sarah Shiozawa, whose career in politics and government has evolved into coaching high-achieving women to become better leaders and happier in their lives. I know you will learn so much from Sarah, so I let this be a long episode covering all the things! Many, many gems!! If you resonate with Sarah and want to learn more about her coaching, you can reach her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarah.shiozawa / @sarah.shiozawa
Lawyers are more than just warriors. There are other soul paths and other archetypes we might embody, even if we are working in litigation and the surface-level job we have is to be the "fighter." If you want some new, good reasons to be a lawyer that align with your soul, this is a must-listen. Resources mentioned in the episode: The Four-Fold Way by Angeles Arrien https://amzn.to/3hLzkB1 (Amazon affiliate link; I may receive a commission if you purchase after clicking this link). Lawyergoddess Power is my upcoming free masterclass, which will be live at noon Pacific time on July 13 via Zoom. To save your seat, go to https://saraellen.net/contact.html and indicate that you want to attend the masterclass! See you there! P.s. you can also save your seat by messaging me on IG .
If you feel like you don't quite fit into the law because you're sensitive, or free-spirited, or just not as bossy and cutthroat as some of the other people around you, or if you are longing for your office and career to feel more supportive, this episode could be the beginning of a profound shift for you. I see you. I hear you. I pick up on your vibe. And today, I am here to validate all of how you are thinking and feeling, and give you a glimpse into a new way. There's also a special announcement at the end about a free masterclass I'm going to be teaching, so listen until the end for details. http://saraellen.net/contact
Sometimes we have to eat the proverbial sh!t sandwich. Sometimes law and life are hard. But too often, when we are going through it, the way we are going about it in our mind makes it feel worse than it has to. Today's episode will help reorient your attitude toward the hard times. Have questions about coaching? I have answers at https://saraellen.net
A lot of lawyers have an issue with what I call "Protestant Work Ethic on Crack." That's the pressure to get ahead, and the fear that if we aren't achieving enough success, it means we are not worthy of more money. Good intentions can lead to some real scarcity-driven decisions. Today's episode discusses how we are indoctrinated to believe "work hard and you'll get ahead" and how we turn that against ourselves in a negative way. It goes into the innocuous thoughts we think that are actually causing us to have negative feelings and drive us to overwork, yet underperform. And finally, it goes into some powerful questions to ask yourself -- and some powerful ideas to consider -- to help you close the gap between where you are, and where you think you "should" be. Grab some avocado toast and listen.
The title says it all. When you feel overwhelmed by deadlines, it doesn't feel good. Duh. Here's how to make that feeling of too much to do in too little time....suck less. This is intended to be a pick-me-up when love and light and gratitude are 100 miles from how you are feeling. Hang in there. And, if you enjoy the podcast, please share with a colleague and leave me a good review!
Lawyers do a lot of things that they don't always feel like doing. You know -- responding to or drafting discovery, or motions, or discovery motions.... And a lot of us procrastinate those things because we don't want to feel the unpleasant emotions we associate with doing the task. That onerous, drudgery, scared, whiny feeling....yes, that. So how do I get myself to do stuff anyway? As a coach, I have a lot of mental tricks up my sleeve, and one of them is the power of desire. Listen to find out how to harness the power of desire for yourself, and do the damn things you told yourself you were going to do!
Are you curious about the benefits of coaching for your practice and your life? Today we have a very special guest, Leah Scott, who is one of my coaching clients. We cover a wealth of topics in this episode -- from mental health to time management! Leah shares how she has been able to grow her practice and improve her self-belief since joining the Lawyergoddess Workshop last October. The phone is ringing off the hook with clients wanting her services -- and she's much better able to handle the increased workload (and popularity). And, she answers the question, "what's next?" after you've addressed an underlying mental health or medical condition but don't know how to take action. If you can relate, this is a must-listen! Learn more about the Lawyergoddess Workshop and other coaching options here: https://saraellen.net/coaching.html
One of the biggest low-grade anxieties for women lawyers is student loan debt. Whether you just got out of law school, or you're ten years into your career and are still dutifully paying on them, I have some helpful perspectives today to help you raise your consciousness about this subject. Want help with all the various stressors? I coach on life, law and all the stuff. Reach out to me at http://saraellen.net!
Many women lawyers end up in therapy, but therapy isn't the right solution for everyone. Many women lawyers think that there's something wrong with them because they are at odds with, or stressed about, their work. I discuss what I personally think are the times when you should consider therapy, and when you should consider coaching. And sometimes it is appropriate to do both. I am not knocking therapy for medically significant issues such as trauma, grief, disabling anxiety or depression, and serious substance abuse. If you are dealing with such an issue or even have an inkling you may be, call your doctor. If you are thinking of hurting yourself, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255. But if you don't have a clinically significant mental health issue and are just feeling out of place, stressed out, have "garden variety emotional distress" or have thoughts about quitting your job, or not getting the results you want in your career from what you've done in therapy, coaching may be the solution for you for these kinds of issues. I explain why in this episode. Interested in learning more? go to saraellen.net.
Ever see that meme that goes, "practicing law is like riding a bike...except the bike is on fire, the road is on fire, and you are on fire? etc. etc." It often feels that way, doesn't it? That meme is funny, but when we think everything is on fire and equally mission-critical, it can paralyze us from taking action. And then, we usually end up with a much bigger fire to put out. Today I share a recent Instagram Live where I shared a new way you can look at the fires you have to put out that will help you get you back on task, no matter how bad it seems. This is a quick episode -- so, even YOU have time for it today! Wondering if you have lawyer burnout? Learn more here: https://saraellen.net/lawyerburnout.html
Are you too hard on yourself? Many women lawyers are. I don't know one who hasn't struggled with this from time to time. Women lawyers unfortunately have a unique "trifecta" of attributes that are a setup for self-criticism and doubt. And often, our valiant self-improvement efforts are counterproductive. Today I share a useful exercise that you should do today to pull some of the crap out of your head and start seeing the evidence that you are just fine, just as you are, right now, today. And if you want additional help with this, go to http://saraellen.net, take a look around, and reach out when you're ready!
Some women lawyers feel like they have two parts to them. One is that logical part that is trained to think like a lawyer, in a linear, just-the-facts-ma'am way. That other part is creative. Spiritual. Wants to rely on God/Universe to help her manifest some stuff in ways logic can't explain. Today I share a recent Instagram live where I clear up the confusion that these are wholly separate ways of thinking. They're not! If you are feeling any kind of inner conflict about your life or your practice, that's precisely what I help you clear up! Check out all the many ways I help women lawyers at my website, https://saraellen.net/index.html.
What makes you feel like you don't fit in at your firm, in your practice area, or in the law itself may be exactly what makes you amazing, right now, today, just as you are. Today's episode is full of practical exercises for you to figure out how to care less about "fitting in," or "getting more experience," or constantly thinking you need to improve. This is designed to get you focused on why you rock. For anyone who has struggled with impostor syndrome, self doubt, or frustration that your job is not giving you the validation you expected, this episode will help you feel better. You can make the law your own! And, I'd love to hear from you and what happened for you when you did these exercises. https://saraellen.net/contact.html
Ever feel like you don't fit in? There are a number of external factors that can make one feel at odds with your office, your practice area, or the profession itself. But the internal factors at play are the ones most within your immediate control. If you want to find -- or deepen -- your purpose and place in this profession, listen to this and start asking yourself some powerful new questions. This one is hands-on!
Have you ever looked at your to-do list or calendar and said to yourself, "I have too much I have to do! And I don't feel like doing it!" If you have, today's episode is for you. In reality, when we think we "have to" do something, we're making it so much harder for ourselves. And then we usually beat ourselves up to make ourselves do it. Today I give you a simple, but powerful process that takes the onerousness and self-judgment off the table. Listen and find out how yes, even you can get yourself to do things that you don't want to do, even when you have "too much" of it to do! And if you need help sorting out how to plow through your to-do list or your calendar, go to saraellen.net/lawyergoddesscall to talk to me for free, and get some relief and new perspectives on being busy!
How many times have you thought things like: "I have to do this thing or else." "I don't know how to do this." "I have no idea how this is going to get done on time." "It's not fair!" "The world is going to end!" Such thoughts lead to some really unhelpful emotions. And that makes the day-to-day of practicing law a grind, or a nightmare. When you catch yourself thinking thoughts like these, there are ways you can tinker with your self-talk so that you can access the most useful, helpful emotions for lawyers. I share what these emotions are, and how you can ease into them, in this episode. And if the law is too much of a grind or a nightmare for you, but you still want to keep at it, I can help you! Go to saraellen.net to learn more about what I do, and get a little free help too.
The most challenging times in the life of a lawyer can cause many to want to quit -- but for those who keep going, it can reignite your passion for your work, and what you love outside of work. In today's episode, I interview Yaida Ford, a dedicated civil rights lawyer based in Washington, D.C. Not only is she trying cases on the front lines and advocating for justice, she makes music about it. Listen to this frank and inspiring episode, and then check out Yaida's music video, Boss King, and check out her petition to end sovereign immunity for Washington D.C. transit authority officers. There is some adult language in this episode.
Do you wish you had more passion for your work? Do you dream of serving clients you love, who share your values and interests? Well, then today's episode is for you! Jessica is an equine lawyer. She has combined her lifelong passion for horses with her skills as a lawyer to serve the myriad needs of clients in the horse industry. And, she overcame doubt about her career choice and the fears of the unknown to go solo three years ago. She runs her practice primarily from the cloud, so she can go riding on a nice day, and work from her laptop at horse shows. If you're curious about going solo and/or want more passion in your work life, you must listen to this -- there's lots of inspiration here. Check out Jessica at https://www.jessicaejohnsonpllc.com If you're solo curious, ready to change practice areas, or just want more time for what is important to you outside of law, I can help you! Go to saraellen.net/lawyergoddesscall to schedule a time to talk.
Wondering why you can't get things done the way you'd like, or why you're unhappy with your work? Your emotions you bring to the table are the key. And, you can change the ones that aren't helping you. Listen now to find out how! And, if you need help, go to saraellen.net/lawyergoddesscall and we'll get to the heart of it, for free!
You might have tried everything to overcome procrastination, self doubt, stress and a lack of work-life balance. But you haven't tried this: do the opposite of what most lawyers do. The key to solving these seemingly insurmountable lawyer problems is to buck the cultural norms of the freaked-out, procrastinating, overworked lawyer answering emails at 3am. Listen to this episode for some mind-opening suggestions on how you can be happier and healthier by doing the opposite of what most other lawyers are doing. And if you want help creating time (spoiler alert, that's one of the tips) please go to www.saraellen.net/lawyergoddesscall and I'll help you find an hour in your day that you can use to be home in time for dinner. The call is free, and the hour is yours to keep. ;-)
Emotional self-sufficiency is the key to being a calmer, less reactive lawyer, who can get sht done even when everyone else is acting like their hair is on fire. Unfortunately, most lawyers haven't had the opportunity to develop emotional self-sufficiency beyond that of an average person. Today I give you four quick, simple steps to develop your emotional self-sufficiency. If you'd like to stop feeling like your hair's on fire every day practicing law, I can help you! go to www.saraellen.net/lawyergoddesscall and we'll get you on track to better peace of mind and self-control. There is one mention of "sht" in this episode, so listen with headphones or outside the earshot of young, impressionable minds.
What lawyer hasn't at one time or another wanted to quit practicing law? The long hours, the difficult situations, the deadlines, the demanding people...all are cited as reasons to quit. But before you go making a big move, there are four things you should consider. And if you really give these things some thought, you will feel better no matter what you ultimately decide to do. And, if you want to talk to someone who really understands, that's me. I'll give you 45 minutes of my time for free. Click this link and you will be taken to my calendar. Pick a time slot that works for you, and I'll help you sort out whatever you're facing. saraellen.net/lawyergoddesscall
Tired of trying really, really hard? Feel like they're never happy with your work performance? Burning out? Totally perplexed by this, because you've historically been a high achiever? Today I'm going to open your eyes to where burnout often comes from. If you're burned out and have tried everything to fix it, that's where I come in. In my life, I bounced back from burnout when I finally understood why I was burned out and unhappy. If you want help, go to saraellen.net/lawyergoddesscall and we can talk about your situation and how you can bounce back too. P.S. there is one F-bomb in this episode, so listen with earbuds or when there aren't young ones around.
For many, 2020 and the first few months of 2021 have been a struggle. And for many of us, struggle is as familiar as a favorite pair of jeans or an old pair of shoes. Many good lawyers want to stay humble by never forgetting how they struggled to get to where they are, but if you're not yet where you want to be in your life or career, could your past be dragging you down? Today's quick episode will have you thinking about your past struggles in a new light.
Hasn’t every lawyer from time to time thought that if other people would just respect their boundaries, life would be easier? It’s understandable. We can beg, plead, and scream all we want, but some people just keep annoying the ever-loving crap out of us, doing dumb stuff against our advice, and disrespecting us. Today I dispel a common misconception about what "good boundaries" are, and how to set an effective boundary. This is a must-listen. If you'd like help with dealing with a difficult person or setting a boundary, go to saraellen.net/lawyergoddesscall for help. My goal with all of this is to help lawyers feel better about the challenges we face. Schedule a call!
"I don't know how" is something all lawyers think from time to time...perhaps daily. Many young lawyers and even experienced lawyers doubt themselves, and hope that a mentor will help. I have a slightly different perspective on how lawyers should be raised, but despite the problems in our industry, you still have a lot more power and wisdom within you than you may be giving yourself credit for. Today I share a personal story, and invite you to question whether "I don't know how" is true, and get really clear on what you are looking for in a mentor.
Do you feel like your boss hates you, or is impossible to please? Do you fear that nothing you do is ever good enough? When we look at our employment relationship as needing to please the employer instead of delivering value to the employer, it can sabotage us, and make us feel like scared little kids! Today's episode invites you to reflect on the ways you might not be helping yourself, and the powerful shift you can make starting right now that takes your power back.
"No" experience? Interviews feel like hazing or like an interrogation? Not sure how your experience translates into the jobs you're applying for? When we focus on what we lack, it keeps our brain from seeing and creating opportunity. When we ask ourselves better questions, we ultimately get better results. Today I answer a question from a listener you might all be able to relate to. I share some powerful questions you can ask yourself too if you're in the job market, dealing with people of a different background or generation who don't seem to appreciate you, or solo and wondering where all the clients are. Got a question? I'd love to answer it on the podcast. Please contact me through my website at saraellen.net!
Listen to this episode to learn the primary underlying reason why lawyers procrastinate, and the first thing you can do to stop. Prepare to be a little surprised....
The law is supposed to be all about logic and reason, right? Wrong. The emotional life of a lawyer is not something to suppress or shun, because how you handle your emotions can make or break your career. Tuning into your feelings is vital to managing yourself in the high-intensity legal profession. Avoiding emotions gets lawyers into trouble -- and unnecessary suffering. Listen to this episode for a simple, but powerful tool to make your emotions work for, instead of against you.
Lawyers are trained to think analytically, but that can be counterproductive to being good at handling the ups and downs of the job. Along the way, many of us are trained out of the self-awareness we need in order to manage stress. Today I share how simply you can begin to rekindle your self-awareness as a path to relief from worrisome thoughts and stress.
Lawyer wellness, mindfulness, and work-life balance are finally getting more respect in our profession, but if you treat it like just a garnish on the edge of a very full plate, you're missing the point. Your wellbeing is essential to a sustainable career! In today's podcast, I share what I call the Wellness Orientation, and the simple way you can begin to incorporate this, even if you are busy.
Want to be less stressed? To help, let's dust off our old friend, the IRAC. No, this is not intended to give you unpleasant flashbacks from law school and the bar exam! You can use the IRAC you know and love (all right, maybe love is a bit much...) to take the edge off a stressful work situation.
Today I visit several sections of Washington State's Oath of Attorney and invite you to ponder how shifting your thoughts and feelings about challenging situations in your work can make you a better lawyer and better professional who serves from joy.
Welcome to Inner Peace for Busy Lawyers. It is the end of 2020, and a time for hope. Lawyers play an important role in keeping a just and sane society, but we can't do it without taking better care of ourselves....