Men You Are Not Alone: Recent Episodes
Justin O'Quinn
Episode 187: Tucker's House. Helping Disabled Children. Something That's Still GREAT in This World. Helping Disabled Children in HUGE Ways with Very Little Budget. Interview with Director Graham Honeycutt, Formerly "Rory Uhtredson" on This Podcast.
If you want to see something that is still GREAT in this world, where passionate people who instill hope, encouragement, and practical life-long solutions to disabled children and their families through personal sacrifice, check out the Tucker's House website at: Tucker's House - Making Homes Accessible - Franklin, TN
To watch episodes of their new show "House to Home" on Youtube, here's the link to that: Tucker's House - YouTube
Graham's personal journey to Tucker's House during and after the death of his disabled daughter in Episode 110 of this podcast: Episode 110: No One Would Gue - It All Ties Together - Apple Podcasts
Graham's second interview on this podcast on Episode 147: Episode 147: Rory Uhtredson R - It All Ties Together - Apple Podcasts
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Episode 186: This Was Not an Easy Episode for Me to Post. I'll Leave It at That.
Toward the end of this episode, I made a reference to a dark presence that has been coming against one of my kids. I incorrectly stated that I explained this in Episode 186, but it actually became Episode 185 by the time I posted it.
I also referenced an interview with Graham Honeycutt, who has been on this podcast a couple times under the alias "Rory Uhtredson", but that interview has now become Episode 187, which I'll be posting in the next several days.
God is jumbling up my own personal plans for the trajectory of content for this podcast, which is fine with me, but it does require me to clarify the errors in the course I have plotted at the time of recording each episode.
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Episode 185: Bizarre Recurring Dream In What Feels Like a Real Location Here In the Human Realm, Possibly Switzerland. The Building In this Dream is Full of Evil, Occupied by Underworld Beings and Bizarre Hybrids. The Wicked Being Running the Show is Hiding from Me in a Room on One of the Two Upper Floors of the Building in the Dream. This Being Was Intending to Hunt Me, But I'm Now Hunting It.
This sounds bat-crap crazy, but I have reason to suspect that something about this dream is causing an auditory echo in my small corner of the human realm rather quickly after I'm awakened from it, but I don't know yet the source of the two things I hear. And I'm not the only one who's hearing them.
My working theory at the moment is that, for whatever reason, at this time, something is violating a cosmic law that God put into place at Creation and that violation is possibly altering, distorting, or momentarily erasing the boundary between the human and non-human realms. Maybe something similar to when the mutinous bene elohim of Genesis 6 crossed into our human realm. I don't know. Working on trying to make sense of a host of things that have been occurring. This recurring dream, I believe only the second in my life, is one of those things.
(Correction: In this episode, I mentioned two episodes in which I discussed the large, white angel with a sword who stands guard over me and my household. I incorrectly stated these were Episodes 127 and 163. The correct episode numbers are Episode 145, beginning at the 5:20 mark, and Episode 163.)
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Episode 184: Nine Days by Groom Lake Inside Area 51 on a Wildfire.
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Episode 183: Alternative Explanation of Tech Boom Since 1800
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Episode 182: The Impact of Self-Evaluation on Perspective and Position. This episode began as one kind of episode and turned into something completely different the more I typed out the content. It was certainly not what I expected to happen. Not at all. I thought I understood where I was at, but I didn't.
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Episode 181: Memory Wipe, Fatigue, Deja-Vu, Headaches. These are ever-increasing symptoms that I've been observing in higher frequency and in greater numbers of people over roughly the past year. It could be caused by something introduced to the air, food, or water we consume, but I suspect that some form of tech is at the root of its cause. Two months ago, I saw a significant uptick in the symptoms. Two weeks ago, I saw a dramatic increase in these symptoms in people around the world in which I interact. So I began asking people about these symptoms and their answers surprised me...
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This episode is about the detrimental effects of a boiled egg, traveling at super-sonic speed, colliding with the driver's door of an average Fiat. Not really, but that would be cool to test.
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Episode 178: Fatigue From Dehydration Makes No Sense. Several of Us Battling Fatigue Lately. Pinned One Cause Down to Unnatural Dehydration. I Attribute It to 5G Frequencies and Solar Simulator Depleting Water and Oxygen From Our Bodies.
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Episode 177: Surge in Portal Imagery in Pop Culture. Portals, CERN, Nephilim, All of It...Since When Does a Being from a Non-Human Realm Require a Tear in Space-Time, Blowing a Hole Into Another Dimension, or a Glowing Portal to Cross Into Our Human Realm? Keep Your Guard Up for Deception.
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Episode 176: Cain. Something About Him Ties Many Other Things Together. Trying to Get My Arms Around It.
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Episode 174: The Powers That Be Are Illegally Flooding Tens of Millions of Fighting-Aged Men Into Our Nation. Is Their Goal to Leave Both Us and the Illegal Migrants Facing Hobson's Choice In Order to Collapse the United States of America Without The Powers That Be Having to Fight Our Heavily Armed Citizenry? I Believe It Quite Possible.
Episode 173: Odd Sun, Odd Sunlight, and Sunflowers No Longer Tracking the Sun.
My voice is hoarse and weak, but I just finished battling a cold for nine days. I didn't want to wait any longer to get this episode out.
Episode 172: Eve's Punishment was Increased Birth Pains. Is There a Detail Missing to Explain WHY Yahweh Would Assign that Punishment. Did Moses Leave that Detail Out or Was It Removed Because It Was Culturally Reprehensible? IDK.
Apple podcasts recently changed its formatting of podcasts. The new formatting greatly shortened and chopped off most existing titles of podcast episodes and that stinks because it limits peoples' ability to scan through titles to get a hint of the content of each episode to decide if it might be of interest to them without having to click on every episode to see a summary of the episode.
A ways back, while I was hiding in a coffee shop to shut the world down for a bit, Emma and one of her co-workers approached me and asked me if they could pray for me because they felt led to. And then they prayed specifically for some difficult circumstances that had happened to me earlier that morning without me having ever met or spoken with them before. What they were praying for made no real sense to them, but their prayer was so specific to the precise details of what had transpired earlier that morning I knew that God was all over them as they prayed.
Emma's co-worker moved on to other things, but Emma was still around when I went back to look for her to ask if she would be willing to come on the podcast, which she was. I knew when I first met Emma I was in the presence of one of the finest younger women I've met in my life.
Emma agreed to come onto the podcast to speak more directly and clearly to other women than I ever could. She brought a friend, Emily, to join her and we recorded what turned out to be one of my most enjoyable and informative interviews to date.
Emma and Emily are definitely two of the finest younger women I have ever been blessed to meet and interviewing them for this episode left me with a greater sense of encouragement about the future of our culture.
If you have not already listened to it, I showcased my first "chance" meeting with Emma and her former co-worker in Episode 130 and I highly recommend listening to it before or after this one.
This interview was a lot of fun. As we moved along through the interview, I began throwing bigger and more difficult off-script questions to these three wonderful young ladies and, before we finished, they had helped me immensely in understanding the "how" of putting at least some portion of our culture back together and to prevent it from breaking more than it already has.
As is typical of most occasions when I turn on the mic, every imaginable obnoxious background noise congregated in the vicinity so I had to heavily filter this recording. The three young ladies I am interviewing have relatively small voices so it took tremendous effort amplify their voices while filtering out background noise at the same time without making them sound like we were all sitting in a tin can. I ask you, the listener, as it gets closer to the end of this episode, to ignore the background of the mower I could not fully remove without removing the voices of those in this interview. I was amazed by some of the depth and maturity in the content of much of what these three young ladies offered for their opinions and thoughts on some very serious matters pertaining to the health of our national culture, church, parenting, and life in general, and I strongly believe that every person who hears this interview will be better for having listened to it.
I wrapped up this interview with more hope for the future of our culture than I did when we started. I hope you walk away with the same.
Andy, who formerly went by the alias "Anonymous" on this podcast, comes back to discuss with me the cultural relevance of Jesus and the Bible in our modern world. I have talked with a lot of people about two of my greatest passions in life - Jesus and the Bible - over the decades, but in the past month an unusually significant number of people have approached me with a lot of serious life questions about both, seemingly out of the blue. And since I can't ignore patterns or breaks in typical patterns, which I have shared in many episodes of this podcast, I went to a trusted friend who leads a large Christian congregation, a man whom I have grown to deeply trust over the years, to have a discussion about this very matter to see if perhaps this anomaly is isolated with me or if I am witnessing a cultural shift.
Andy is an interesting pastor, namely in the fact that he doesn't pass judgment upon those whom he meets, he rarely meets a stranger, loves the Bible, loves people, and has had the patience to not only believe in me when seemingly almost no one else did and when I was near the end of myself, but to have my back and remain my friend for 11 years now, which is no small feat unto itself because I can be a major unintentional PITA because of the jagged edge that life has carved into me through an exceedingly painful road I would never have chosen for myself to travel, but would travel again in a heartbeat. He is a man who has earned my sincere respect and there are not a lot of men about whom I can state that.
I did a timelapse with Andy in episodes 122 and 123 that, while only two episodes in length, spanned almost a year of his life through an exceedingly difficult period of his life and leadership of a rapidly growing church. I strongly recommend you jump back and listen to a Christian leader handling hardship in an entirely vulnerable and admirable manner in these two episodes.
Rory Uhtredson is one of the best men I know. No one would guess that this man of infectious encouragement buried his young daughter only five years ago. His story is one of triumph and how to face adversity with courage and faith. Rory has the receipts to prove it. His story was the topic for episode 110.
After devoting the past decade to being a voice for men and recording most of the 150+ episodes of this podcast to try to bring attention to men's issues, I am shifting gears to run down the road of seeming randomness that isn't random, the road for which I was made to run down. Culture is complex. I'm not ditching what keeps us grounded and I am not in pursuit of the fantastic or dramatic. I am going to be reaching out to do my best to collect it all. Because somehow it all ties together.
I will likely be unpublishing a lot of previous content and changing course dramatically mid-stream, which will be a mess, it will be confusing to new listeners because the numbering of the episodes and content will not make a lot of sense once I change the name of the podcast, and any sane person would say I should simply start from scratch again. But I don't care. Previous content is part of this journey and I'm not abandoning where I came from.
I'll let listeners know when the name change will take place. It'll be soon. Stay tuned.
At about the 9:08 mark, I misspoke and said "elected experts," but I meant to say "UNelected experts." I don't have the energy or the time to go back and re-record this to correct my mistake. The context of the episode, both before and after that mark, should make it readily apparent to the listener that I intended to say "unelected experts."
I haven't posted a link to my latest book recently. Here it is.
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This is more of a summary and a little bit of expansion on Episode 51. To get a fuller context for this one, you may consider listening to Episode 51 before or after this one.
As of the posting of Episode 136, I still have not heard anyone posit this notion that came to me about three years ago. Based on the reactions I have received the few times I have floated this out as a subject of discussion, the very premise of my notion is like a framing hammer to the egg shell of modern Christian's views on eschatology, probably because we all have it denominationally figured out, even though we have a host of conflicting opinions. It's a fun grenade to toss out into a room of normal, safe, and denominationally standardized conversation.
If anyone listening has contact info to send link to this to Jon Levi, one of the OG's of the mudflood discussion, please send it to him. He's one of the exceedingly few people I will set aside time to watch what he posts because I respect the journey he is on.
The episode I make reference to in this one regarding my long-term observations and studies of aerial spraying since 2006 is Episode 120. I fumbled around and found it this morning, but had already made this episode live. Episode 120 will provide some context for Episode 134.
This is, hands down, the "noisiest" interview I have ever conducted. It took me 7 hours to edit out the majority of the nervous taps, fidgeting, struggling for words, etc. that, to me, showcase the long-term impacts of sustained hypervigilance in any career or life. While I devoted great effort to editing out the majority of this noise, I also devoted great care to not completely erase it, for this "noise" demonstrates the tremendously destructive impact upon a man who, for whatever reason, maintains a state of sustained hypervigilance for far too many years without giving his mind, body, and spirit a sustained rest.
This is the first part of a two-part interview. This first interview takes place as this pastor is roughly a month into a 90-day sabbatical, trying to assess the damage to his mind, body, and spirit, after almost 20 years of caring for others far more than caring for himself.
Part two of this time-lapse will be next, an interview 9 months after the first, intended to afford the listener some reflection on how a lengthy sabbatical helped this pastor to start identifying the road to his own healing. The contrast between the two interviews is as stark as it is insightful to anyone who lives a life of sustained hypervigilance.
I need to correct the passage of the Bible I was referencing at 20:45. I said I was referencing Matthew 22, but intended to state Matthew 24. My mind had already spooled ahead to 2 Peter 2 and it threw me off and I accidentally grabbed the wrong chapter of Matthew in my head.
If you would like to hear some of my thoughts on 2 Peter 2 and the letter of Jude, I would defer you back to episode 111.
Humor me. This episode is for only one young man who has been assigned recording a podcast episode and is a bit anxious about doing so. There is little more in my life about which I have a passion than showing young people what they are capable of doing. This episode is for Cullen. Because he matters a great deal.
Lloyd Brawn is a man whom I have had the fortune to get to know over the past 9 years and am a far better man for having met him. As a 26-year veteran (now retired) of one of the largest sheriff's departments in the U.S., Lloyd shares a glimpse of an exceedingly dark period of his life and his road out of that pit with listeners of the MYANA podcast.
You will notice a fair amount of knuckle tapping and other fidgeting in this episode, which I have been unable to edit out and, in a way, don't want to because, having spent about 20 years of my life in career positions that kept me in a state of hyper-vigilance, I understand the fidgeting and don't want to dismiss what sustained hyper-vigilance does to a man's nervous system. Plus, this is Lloyd's first time on the podcast and it takes a while to get used to talking to a microphone.
I have been earnestly wanting to bring law enforcement officers onto the podcast, but this has proven to be a tall task. Having stood in their shoes, I understand their reticence to be on the podcast. Lloyd has graciously and courageously stepped to the plate to discuss the fragility of his own humanity as he endured the emotional and physical beatings of a high-stress career and his long-term marriage to a physically violent woman.
I keep intending to put a link to my book in the description and have finally remembered. In case you are interested.
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Feminism has run its course, right off the cliff, and men are checking out of dating relationships in large and increasing numbers. Feminists are noticing this because as the months pass, there are fewer and fewer well-grounded men who have any interest in a dating relationship with women. The pendulum is swinging back away from the gynocentric world model. As men, we need to stand on the walls of our cultures and stop the pendulum when it comes back into the center. If we let it swing past center, we will simply enter another divisive cultural cycle that will allow those who do not have our best interests at heart to continue their work to keep us from doing the one thing that will prevent them from creating chaos in our lives and families - unify as a people within our cultures. A world full of people unified and standing together in their respective cultures is impossible to control and enslave because there are too many of us to do it, but only if we are standing together within our cultures.
"Louden," a 51-year-old ex-military man who walked away from a successful 20-year corporate career after one of his daughters, while riding her bicycle, was struck and killed by a vehicle, refuses to let tragedy rule his life. Like all men who come on this podcast, "Louden's" story does not end when tragedy shows up. Not by a long shot.
Presently, "Louden" and his partner are transforming tragedy into a beautiful vessel of healing for people who, like "Louden," exited the military, struggling to assimilate back into civilian life.
This is part 3 of 3 of the first roundtable on the MYANA podcast.
In this part, Gus delivers what may be the best insight yet on this podcast, no doubt born of his many years of being on the front line of damaged relationships. The ONE question that couples should seriously contemplate before tying the knot, a single question capable of helping a healthy marriage stay focused and, potentially, take one that is in the ditch and put it back up on the road.
Solo episode about the power of distraction to make a man wander off the path before him. An old man gave me a piece of advice many years ago that I have found to be true. It went something like this - "Opportunities tend to be abundant around the man who is on the move in his life. A fool believes that every opportunity that looks good or innocent has to be from God and ignores the reality that satan is also throwing opportunity in front of us. The trick to staying on course is learning to discern who put each particular opportunity before us. Satan doesn't have to send a hurricane when a gentle breeze across our path is sufficient to make us wander off it."
Distraction is something I watch for in my life because it is subtle and has been the most effective means of derailing me from the path I want to walk in my life. Even though I am constantly examining my life for it, I still fall prey to it time and again.
First roundtable episode on the MYANA podcast. Hopefully widens the dynamic of the discussion of men healing men so that those men can help heal a culture.
In this roundtable, we discuss the issues of men's strengths, obstacles, fears, and responsibilities, as well as some components of healthy marriage relationships.
"Shelby," aged 51, father of six, married for 29 years, entered my life five years ago. I have been helping men stand back up for about eight years now and, just when you think you've heard it all, a man like "Shelby," a man you thought you knew, collapses that notion with merely a PORTION of his journey through life with a story so heartbreaking and triumphant that you consider dropping the mic and officially decide to stop feeling like your walk through life has been tough.
If you want to hear what a man truly is...if you want to hear what love truly is...if you want to know whether God exists or is real...listen to this episode. This is the most powerful episode yet of the MYANA Podcast.
"Shelby" suddenly lost his father at the age of 10, beat a man to within an inch of his life at 18, served a lengthy stint in prison because of it, lost one of his two-year-old daughters who was shaken to death by a family member, to then watch his wife triumph over internal decapitation from an accident and meet God in the coma that precipitated after the accident.
"Shelby" is one of the kindest, most patient, and gentlest men I have ever met. He is a bright spot in my life. I thought I knew him. I had know idea of how deep his story goes. All I can say is you need to hear this episode.
"Hollywood," age 43, gives a glimpse of his story, which includes a failed marriage, life as a single father, dealing with the aftermath of his own father being convicted of murder and subsequently executed for his crime, with a large scoop of a collapsed marriage engagement as a cherry on the top. In spite of all of it, this interview showcases why I believe in and am so committed to helping men. "Hollywood" has as much potential as any man I have met, but his getting lost in the trees, while it seems daunting to him, is merely one stepping stone along a path I see leading him to a very promising future. I see it as my role to help men realize that the trying parts of the journey are what builds us into stronger and better men.
"Andrew," Age 46, now (finally) in a healthy and happy marriage, recounts his past couple decades of journey through the drug-addicted mother of one of his daughters and the ripple this has sent through his life. While the mother of his daughter died from the drug addiction she would not let go, "Andrew" has been living the repercussions of the impact of her choices from his early adult life. He has not only gone on to survive, but to now be thriving as a business owner who is in a healthy and happy marriage. "Andrew" is very much an introvert and this was a difficult interview for him, not only in summoning the courage to talk openly, but to re-live so many painful years of his past. I had to threaten to hit him with a mallet to get him in front of the mic, but he finally did it. And his story is one that will hopefully put some scale to your own circumstances and help you realize that, just like him, you are not only not alone, but also that every storm does pass.
"Gus," age 35, new to the MYANA Podcast, relates his story of growing up with divorced parents who remained bitter toward each other throughout his raising and the impact that had upon his life. "Gus," now a family law attorney (one of the few I would allow on this podcast), also discusses how this has led him to where he is now and how it has impacted his chosen profession. This episode lets you listen in as a man who lives in the grind of a broken culture reflects upon several aspects of the impact of how our broken but "liberated" culture expresses itself.
"Budge Banrammel" makes his intro to the MYANA Podcast in the "What Has Happened to Men" series. "Budge" discusses how he has travelled through two previous marriages, a present marriage, step-parent issues, and his general view of life itself. This is a stellar interview in this series and "Budge" has a lot to offer to men as he thinks out loud about life.
"Junior" is a 47 year-old father of four who is happily remarried after an ugly divorce. Junior talks about how he managed to deal with an alcoholic mother and abusive alcoholic step-father in his childhood, the death of both his mother and father, gratitude for his biological father, with a nice, ugly divorce on top of it all. Junior is a happy father in a solid marriage now. Both he and his wife run a carpentry business, which they enjoy doing together.
A solo episode. I have been working too many hours at work and the kids and I are building a fence now so this episode, while recorded in a timely fashion, it was not uploaded in a timely fashion. It is, hopefully, better late than never.
"Dash Riprock" returns to the MYANA podcast to talk about how he has pushed through the storms of losing his father, losing his mother, alcohol and drug addictions, chasing skirts, and coming out on the other end as a better father and husband as a result of learning how to cope with these storms in a progressively more responsible way. "Dash's" past is a montage of many of the plagues that ail the modern man. He's going to tell you exactly how a man should and should not cope with pain via his journey through many storms in life. Worth the listen.
A solo episode of me wanting a break from interviews, which I have been recording back-to-back and am now a couple months out. I decided to take a break, stick my neck out, and discuss a subject I have been thinking about for years, but have never fleshed out or voiced. I may later retract what I say in this one, but what the heck...why not have the mind and manner of a child and simply ask the simple questions about our existence and place in life?
"Pooky," age 41, married father of 2, jumps into the "What Has Happened to Men" series to discuss how he has made it to the other side of storms that include a foolish marriage in his youth, the tragic loss of his infant son, and the passing of his father. "Pooky" lives his life and looks forward to it. Perhaps he can help some men see that their particular storm will not destroy them.
In the midst of an insane past couple weeks at work, a man steps forward and intrudes into my life to tell me about how he has been reunited with his daughter who was alienated from him 14 years ago by her mother. That, spazmodically and illogically, gets tied to how we, The People, have the power to overcome those who seek to divide and enslave us. If you can make sense of it, more power to you.
"Joey," age 50, married father of 3 adult children, talks about weathering a stormy period when his wife was in a serious car crash, he walked away from a 15-year career to take on an entirely different one, while straddling two house notes. All at the same time.
This is the second half of my "Off the Rails" discussion about the spiritual realm with Dash Riprock. I have included a minute or two of the tail-end of Part 1 to let this segment pick up where Part 1 left off. Listening to Part 1 of this discussion will certainly help provide context for where this segment picks up.
This is the back half of my interview with "Maxwell Smart" in the What Has Happened to Men series. The conversation branches out from the first half into some subjects that will become topics on future episodes.
If for nothing other than the sake of variety, I will be periodically uploading episodes of "Off The Rails." This is a new addition to the MYANA podcast lineup and affords both the listeners and myself the opportunity for something different than the solo and interview format. I will be inviting men who have a passion for and at least some measure of experience with random subjects to go off the rails and have an uncontrolled discussion about that particular subject.
"Maxwell Smart," aged 38, divorced with no children, returns to discuss how he has managed to make it to the other side of storms involving losing a career, a ministry, and his recent divorce. "Maxwell" is always an interesting interview and I ran this one longer than usual because I want other men to hear some of the beneficial things he has learned along his path in life. Part 2 of this interview will post a week after this one.
"Maverick," age 48, father of 5, discusses how he made it through the storms of his father's sudden death, the closing of a business, the loss of a ministry, and the subsequent strain these storms brought into his marriage.
"Bruce Banner," age 38, single father of 4 children, returns to discuss a little more in-depth how he made it through losing his career during the financial downturn in the U.S. in 2007-2008 and a very difficult divorce with a cheating wife several years later.
The first interview in what I hope to be a lengthy series of hearing what men think. This interview is with a man who will be known, for now, as Maverick.
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