Seeing Other People: Recent Episodes
Ilana Dunn
Modern dating sucks, but it shouldn't have to. That's why Ilana Dunn is here to help you feel less alone and more empowered in your dating life. On Tuesdays, Ilana interviews expert guests to answer your biggest questions about dating and relationships. On Thursday’s "Unfiltered" episodes, anonymous guests share what they have been through, how they got through it, and what they wish they knew when going through their experience.
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I'm joined by Tonya Carter, Marriage/Relationship Exit Strategist, host of Purposely Thriving, and author of Divorce Your Story, to talk about how to effectively heal from a breakup. We discuss why your ex is a non-factor in your healing, the importance of acknowledging that the "what ifs" did not happen, and how to make peace with the closure you received. We answer listener questions about whether or not someone's reason for wanting to end things is genuine or an excuse, getting over a situationship when they're in your friend group, and more.
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Erica Shea is back on the pod to catch up with us about taking time off from dating and finding the strength to end her most recent situationship. We talk about how it's normal (and sometimes beneficial) to be in a dating drought, how she knew it was time to end the situationship instead of continuing in discomfort, as many of us do. Later we discuss mindset shifts and laugh off some hilarious bad date stories. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I’m joined by Iris Jardiel to chat about why she broke off her engagement to her longtime partner, Luke, who proposed on Temptation Island Season 4. We hear why they decided to go on the show, what it was like having their relationship tested, and how she felt when he proposed. She shares how she caught him cheating and wanted to believe he could change, but after repeatedly being proven wrong, she eventually found the courage to walk away. Finally, we hear how her life has changed for the better since leaving him. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I’m joined by an anonymous 27-year-old woman who opens up about starting to date someone and suddenly not hearing from him for days. She shares how she thought she was getting ghosted and assumed he blocked her, only to find out via Instagram that he was hit by a car and was in a coma. We hear how she processed this news, how she was not in a position to get updates on his condition because of how recently they had met, and how what led them to getting back in touch, and how they navigated their new friendship turned relationship. Finally, we discuss inter-abled dating, and how we’re so quick to judge people and often have limitations in our mind about who we can and can’t date. Please consider donating to Cody’s GoFundMe or sharing it with your network. Anything helps! https://www.gofundme.com/f/donate-to-codys-recovery Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I’m joined by Evan Marc Katz, the world’s first dating coach (2003!), four-time author, and host of the Love U Podcast. Evan and I chat about where women are going wrong in dating when it comes to taking breaks from dating, going on dates, and getting into relationships. We learn which dealbreakers matter, ways to figure out if a relationship is right and how to know if it’s time to leave. Evan helps answer listener questions about getting over someone, whether or not you’re wasting your time, and more.
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I’m joined by Liz Mina to talk about approaching dating from a place of security and curiosity rather than the fear of being alone. We chat about dating as an adult after never having romantic interests in high school, why society should stop putting pressure on people to find partners at a certain age, how being an only child has impacted her dating life, and the importance of having vulnerable conversations on early dates. Finally, Liz shares what it’s like dating as a Middle Eastern woman and how religion and family values have played a role in her relationships.
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In honor of my 29th birthday, I spent time reflecting on some of the most meaningful moments, the biggest turning points, and the hardest lessons learned in my 28 years. I put together a list and I'm so excited to share them with you in this special episode. We cover life, love, friendship, career, family, and everything in between. Thanks for being on this journey with me and cheers to 29! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I'm joined by Rachel @justbecauseitspretty, to discuss what her dating life was like before meeting her person and how she ended up getting engaged to her first ever Hinge date. She shares how she felt going into her first date with her now-fiancé, whether or not she was anxious after it, why she's glad they talked about exes on their third date, and when/how they DTRd. We hear how they navigated long distance while he was also a full time medical student and how they communicated their needs. Finally we discuss instagram vs. reality of getting engaged! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
TW: Eating disorders & body image struggles. Julie Griggs and Danielle Dietzek, my friends and the cofounders of Fourplay Social, are back on Seeing Other People. We discuss why the question "Why are you still single?" is so problematic and how society perpetuates the belief that we aren't complete until we find our partner. Danielle opens up about her struggle with body image and weight gain, sharing how it's held her back in her dating life along with ways she's worked to overcome her insecurities. We talk about do's and don'ts for getting your personality across on your profiles, why you should not write people off too soon, and what we've all learned from each other. Follow Fourplay on Instagram and TikTok! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I'm joined by a 36-year-old woman who opens up about the relationship she found herself in shortly after getting divorced from her ex-husband of 11 years (and the father of her two children). We hear how she and this man met, what their relationship started out like, and how they soon developed a dominant/submissive relationship. She shares how she later found out he was still married and that she was not the only "other woman." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I'm joined by Laura Belgray, author of the book "Tough Titties: On Living Your Best Life When You’re the F-ing Worst" to discuss how to let go of what other people and society expect of you. We chat about embracing your flaws, owning your timeline, not comparing yourself to others, how your worth doesn't need to be attached to someone else liking you, and more. Laura shares her dating mishaps and adventures from when she was in her 20s, the pressure she felt to want to have children when she wasn't sure what she wanted, and the beautifully uncommon story of how she and her now-husband met. Learn more about Laura at talkingshrimp.com, get the book at toughtittiesbook.com, and follow her on IG @laurabelgray Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I'm joined by my friend Carly, aka @kicksbycarly, to talk about the most frustrating aspects of modern dating. We chat about matching with someone you're excited about and then the convo never going anywhere, multi-yearlong situationships, dating someone who lives too close to you, whether or not athletes are looking for something serious, seeing your friends get into relationships and feeling left behind, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sam Panitch and Joey Lane are back for another round of Ask The Guys Anything! We chat do's and don'ts for profile photos, prompts, and starting conversations. We debate whether or not you should send roses, slide into someone's DMs after seeing them on an app, whose responsibility it is to send the first message, and more.
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I’m joined by a 31-year-old woman who shares a series of relatable dating sagas that she’s experienced over the last few years including a drawn out situationship, developing feelings for a best guy friend, dating someone who is always working, and more. We hear how she wished she cut things off sooner in many of these situations and how she’s finally learned to ask for what she needs and speak up when something isn’t right. Plus, we dive into her dating stats from the past few years as she’s kept track of how many dates she’s been on. Spoiler alert: 2022 included 70 dates with a breakdown of 26 guys, 2+ dates with 12 guys and 3+ dates with 5 guys. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Thanks for sending in your questions for today’s solo episode! We’re chatting: moving in before or after getting married, insecurities around dating someone a similar size, whether or not the relationship is doomed if he changed his mind about moving in together, how long I was on dating apps before I met Jake, when should you trust your gut vs. give someone the benefit of the doubt, how to navigate being single when your friends are all in relationships or getting married, and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I'm joined by a 29-year-old divorceé and mother of three who opens up about the emotionally and financially abusive realtionship. We hear what their relationship was like as high school sweethearts and how it evolved overtime and once kids were involved. She shares how he made her think she was always at fault, but how she stayed because she was so blindly in love with him and wanted to make it work. Finally, we hear what led them to ultimately call it quits, and how coparenting has been. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this week’s episode, I’m answering your questions about navigating the free versions of dating apps, what questions o ask when checking in with your partner, if it’s a good idea to reach out to someone who you regret hurting, what to do when you meet someone great who doesn’t want to take things further, getting over a breakup when you can’t avoid the person, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I’m joined by a 28 year old woman from Miami, FL. We chat about how to not feel down on yourself for being the only single one in the friend group, and how to instead embrace it and use it as a time to learn from the relationships your friends are in. We discuss feeling confident going into first dates, whether or not it matters when you sleep with someone, and ways to stay positive when you’re feeling behind. Finally, we hear about how she met her now-boyfriend and how she knew they could build a healthy relationship together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
In this episode, we're breaking down how to approach dating in a less anxiety-producing way. We discuss mindset shifts and reframes for dating app usage, going on first dates, texting, and assessing feelings. We end on a well-needed reminder that yes, dating is hard and no, you're not crazy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sarah Taplin, formelly known as Sarah Sasson, is making her comeback to Seeing Other People after a two-year hiatus. She last joined us on the episode "Learning to Love Your Single Self" shortly before meeting her now-husband, Ben. We hear how her self-discovery allowed her to grow into the preson she was when she and Ben met, and she shares what felt different this time around that indicated this was a healthy potential relationship. We discuss how her journey to explore her Judaism impacted her dating life, how she found someone who accepted her exactly where she was at, and the importance of discussing non-negotiables in the early stages of dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Brianne Helfrich, host of Welcome to the Collective and Founder/CEO of Helfrich Collective, is on the pod today! We chat about the definition of a relationship, how her breakup fueled her to start her own clothing brand, and how we've never "gone with grace" after being broken up with. We hear how she approached her phase of being single and going on a ton of dates, how she met her boyfriend of 2+ years right before making a big move, and how they created a strong foundation based on open communication and vulnerability. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
My friend Jamie is here! Jamie recaps what the the beginning stages of her now 4 1/2 year relationship were like. We hear how she navigated her fiancé's mixed messages and we discuss why it's important to give people the benefit of the doubt if it feels right in your gut. Jamie and I open up about a friendship breakup that we went through 4 years ago as a result of her new relationship, which was with my exes best friend. We hash out what happened, why it happened, and how we both could have approached the situation differently. Finally, we reminsce on our single years and share hilarious dating stories and things we wish we knew when we were single. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Victoria Aron and Paulina Siegel, Licensed Therapists and hosts of Shit Talking Shrinks, join the show today. First, we hear about how Paulina went from planning her engagement to healing from a blindsided breakup. Then, we discuss the art or giving and getting advice. We chat about how who you get your advice from and what you do with it matters. Finally, we answer listener questions about texting cadence, porn consumption, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by an anonymous woman who lives in Dallas, Texas. She opens up about meeting someone on a dating app who she gets to know over the course of a few months. We discuss how he seemed smart, mature, trusting and put together, but she ended up finding herself in a dangerous and horrifying situation, drugged and left stranded in the middle of the street with no phone and nowhere to go in the middle of the night. We discuss dating safety tips, why it's important to have these conversations, and how she took a terrifying situaiton and used it to fuel a period of growth and self-love in her life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I'm joined by Sierra Michelle Green, former cohost of Fingers Crossed Podcast and bride-to-be! We shoot the shit about her seemingly epic bachelorette party and my breaking news decision to not have one. Later, Sierra opens up about how she met her fiancé shortly after going through a traumatic, emotionally abusive relationship. We talk about healing, reclaiming who you are, expressing how you feel to someone early on, learning your worth, and so much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I'm joined by an anonymous woman who opens up about her 2+ year long, on and off, friends with benefits situationship with her coworker. We hear how things started, what boundaries and rules they laid down in order to make it work, and if they really set themselves up for success. She shares how feelings started to complicate things, how they prioritzed their friendship, and if they ended up turning things into a relationship or cutting it off completely. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
I'm joined by Lillian Rishty, LCSW and Therapist at NYC Therapy Group, to discuss how to navigate your dating anxiety at every step of the dating process. We talk about ways to self-sooth your anxiety on the apps, before the date, after the date, as feelings get involved, when facing rejection, and everything in between.
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I'm joined by an anonymous woman who shares the story of a two year long situationship turned relationship filled with anxiety, manipulation, and infidelity. She opens up about why she gave him so many chances, why it was easier to stay in a broken relationship than it was to leave, and what finally pushed her to her breaking point. We hear about her healing process, how it impacted her mental health, and what advice she would give to anyone going through something similar.
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Mady Maio, founder of Camber app and host of Okay Sis, joins the show today. We answer some of the 36 Questions that Lead to Love in honor of Mady’s new video podcast “36 Questions Later,” and deep dive into discussions about the concept of fame, how you can’t make everybody happy, and our desire to not care what others think. Mady shares how she and her long-term boyfriend started out as friends and transitioned to more, and we hear how they’ve grown as individuals and partners throughout their twenties. We chat about dating mistakes we made in college, how to meet people in a new city, what Mady has learned from romance novels, and more.
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My fiancé Jake (AH!) joins me to recap our proposal week! We answer your questions about when we knew we wanted to marry each other, if/when we talked about a timeline for getting engaged, and if he asked my parents’ permission. We dive into our ring-making process, what “ring shopping” was like, how far in advance he got the ring, and more. Finally, we talk about our proposal day, whether or not I knew, and how the proposal unfolded. Jake shares his thoughts going into popping the question, and I open up about how it felt in the moment when he got down on one knee. Thanks to everyone who has been a part of our love story and shoutout to our families for making this such a magical week.
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I’m joined by Ariella Azaraf, LCSW, to talk about expressing your needs, setting boundaries, and managing your dating anxiety. We discuss the language to use when you want to communicate about your needs (or your needs not being met) to someone new, when and how to trust your gut and intuition, coping with being blindsided, and what to do when you’re fresh out of a breakup and are afraid to go to the places that remind you of them. Ariella shares her expertise on where your anxiety comes from, what to do in moments of high anxiety, and how you can work towards healing your anxious attachment.
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I’m sharing one of my favorite podcast interviews I’ve experienced to date! Elevation Nation’s Sam Pantich and Parker Yablon invited me onto their show to discuss how I got to where I am today. We discuss my career path, including my struggle in the music industry post-college, my time at Hinge, and how I made the decision to go full time with Seeing Other People. I open up about the challenges I faced, my internal struggles, and what led me to start podcasting and opening up about mid dating life. We discuss the power of vulnerability, dating app tips, and more.
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I’m joined by Brianna Apple, a 23 year old Tiktoker navigating the NYC dating scene. We discuss the nuances of why she’s dating for fun and not for love right now, and how she navigates getting to know people without being misleading about her intentions. She shares why she has her heart guarded, her biggest dating pet peeves, and hilarious dating fails. We discuss red flags we give off, the best and worst parts of dating in your 20s, and more.
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I’m joined by a 40 year old woman who shares the story of how she developed a relationship with an old friend after he became her white knight during her divorce. We hear how they went from being friends (and roommates) to partners, and how their relationship went from happy and healthy to toxic, manipulative, and emotionally abusive. She shares red flags she missed, why she didn’t end it even though she was unhappy, and how they finally parted ways. We hear what has helped her get through the breakup and what she learned from the situation.
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I’m joined by Sabrina Bendory, Author of “You’re Overthinking It” and “10 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Men.” Sabrina shares insight into what men really want, red flags that you should never ignore, and how we can stop overthinking. We discuss how to stop obsessing over someone early on, whether or not you should date multiple people at a time, mistakes we made in our dating lives, and whether or not men marry the woman in front of them when they’re ready.
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I’m joined by Laurina Sachetti, host of Funny Girl podcast to talk about her experience embracing her sexuality. We learned what led her to become pansexual (and what that means), what signs she saw and may have ignored, and how she began to experiment dating people of different genders and sexual orientations. Laurina shares how the queer community has embraced her, how she navigates telling someone she’s queer when on a date, and what differences she’s noticed between dating men and dating other genders.
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I’m joined by Orly Israel, founder of Orly’s Listening Table, to discuss all things listening and communication. We hear about why he started Orly’s listening table, what he’s learned from it, and the impact it’s had. We discuss how to practice being a better listener, when should you just listen vs offer advice, what to do when you disagree with someone who is venting to you, tips for spicing up communication in your daily lives, the craziest stories he’s heard while doing Orly’s listening table, and more.
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I’m joined by Julia Mazur, host of Pretty Much Done and former Tinder employee, to discuss her journey learning to love herself, what she’s learned from her recent breakup, and how she overcame the societal and internal pressure to get married and start a family, and more. We hear how her she ended her previous relationship on good terms, what it was like working at Tinder, and more.
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Erica Shea (previously on the episode “Do You Really Find Love When You Least Expect It?” is back to update us on what happened with the guy she met…when she least expected it. We hear why it didn’t work out, how things ended, how her healing process has been, and what she’s learned from the breakup. We chat about RSB, AKA “Recent Single Behavior,” and if Erica still believes you find love when you least expect it, even after getting her heart broken. We answer listener questions about reaching back out to exes, how to flirt, making the first move, and more.
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On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by Kyla who shares her experiences dating people from all around the world during her solo travels. We hear what led her to start traveling on her own, how she went about meeting people, the differences in her dating experiences abroad vs in America, what she learned from dating in different countries, and more.
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I’m joined by Hilary Weinstein, LCSW, founder of HLW therapy to discuss what she has learned while going through the most difficult time of her life. Hilary opens up about getting engaged as her mother’s four year battle with ovarian cancer was coming to a devastating end. We discuss the lack of transparency on social media, how we compare ourselves and our lives to others based on what we see online, and how everyone’s high highs are on display while the low lows are kept behind closed doors. We chat about our fears surrounding being more transparent online, our individual struggles with social media, her advice to anyone going through a similar situation, and more.
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I'm joined by a woman who tells the story of meeting a man from Bumble, developing a relationship with him, and then learning that he's a member of a Nationalist organization. We hear how he told her this, what her reaction was, and why she decided to continue seeing him. She shares the internal struggle she faced because of this, her experience going to his Nationalist chapter Christmas party, whether or not she told her friends, why she continued to date him despite his beliefs, and what happened when she finally called it quits.
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I’m joined by Morgan Raum, Lox Club’s Head of Membership and creator of @tooomuchfoood. Morgan opens up about taking it slow at the start of a new relationship, the pressure of being their +1 at weddings in the early stages of dating, and the blindsided breakup she recently went through. We chat about the biggest mistakes people are making on dating apps and how to improve your profile. Finally, we discuss Morgan’s viral “I’m Single” series where she became known as the girl who walked around parks, concerts, and parties with a sign on her phone that said “I’m Single” as a method of meeting people IRL.
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I'm joined by a woman who tells the story of how she accidentally ended up in a long distance relationship with a man she met on Bumble while he was visiting NYC from Australia. We hear about their rom-com worthy first date, why they decided to keep in touch, and how deep their connection got despite the distance. She shares how spotted some red flags along the way, but was easily able to justify them and continue forward, until she received a message from his girlfriend of over a decade.
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I'm joined by Rudy A, TikToker and host of the Rude Advice podcast. We discuss how he went from being happily married to having an affair, why he and his ex-wife decided to finally call it quits, and what going through his divorce was like. Rudy shares his advice for healing after a breakup or divorce, rediscovering yourself / rebuilding your life, and getting back out there. We answer listener questions about dating someone who isn't on the same page about wanting to get married, why someone would be cuddly after sex if they aren't planning to see you again, what to do after hooking up with your coworker, and more.
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I’m joined by a man who tells the story of how his 14-year marriage ended because his wife realized she was a lesbian. We hear how he reacted to the news, and how he and his ex-wife created a wonderful co-parenting situation filled with gratitude, empathy, and flexibility. He opens up about falling in love, with a woman we refer to as “A,” soon after he dipped his toe back in the dating pool. He shares how this relationship was the best six months of his life, while also being filled with anxiety, guilt, and pain because she wasn’t okay with him remaining friends with his ex-wife.
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I’m joined by Olivia Landau, Founder & CEO of The Clear Cut, the insanely popular bespoke diamond and fine jewelry company. We hear Olivia she made the first move with her now-husband Kyle, their emotional rollercoaster of a proposal story, why they ended up starting The Clear Cut together despite their families telling them not to go into business together, and what it’s like working with your spouse. We discuss how social media has completely changed the proposal process and led to fewer suprises and more collaboration on ring shopping. We answer listener questions about how to start the process of looking for an engagement ring, what to do if you hate the ring that your fiancé picked out, how to navigate being on different timelines than your partner, and more. Check out www.theclearcut.co and follow along on Instgram & Tiktok @theclearcut.
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On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by a man who went through a painful breakup in Mid-August. We hear how the situation spawned a lot of self-discovery and growth in the past four months as he's been healing, learning, and reflecting. We discuss how to read mixed signals, what to do when someone isn't ready to commit but you are, and how to process the feedback that "you did everything right," but it didn't work out anyway.
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I’m joined by Tatiana Fogt, sexuality educator and host of Bedside, a podcast series & activist platform, where she explores sexual health & wellness in the digital age. We discuss having non awkward dialogues surrounding sex, setting clear boundaries, and assessing someone’s intentions. Tatiana answers listener questions about porn consumption, whether you should discuss how you would handle an unplanned pregnancy before having sex with someone, what to do if your sex drive and your partner’s sex drive don’t match up, and more.
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I'm joined by a 30 year old woman who shares the story of her two year long toxic relationship involving cheating, manipulation, and emotional abuse. She shares how the relationship started off like a fairytale, but then became an endless cycle of explosive fights, and silent treatments followed by outpours of affection and apologies for his behavior. We discuss if the bad times were worth the good times, the red flags she now sees in hindsight, and what advice she would give to anyone going through something similar.
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On this episode, I’m joined by Carly Silverman and Dani Katowitz, two of my good friends who I met via social media in 2022. We discuss all things navigating your twenties from career to friendship to dating to mental health and social media. We open up about getting let go from our “dream jobs,” the pressure we put on ourselves to find boyfriends, how we realized that some of our friendship weren’t serving us, why we feel like we need to people please, what advice we would give to our younger selves and more.
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I’m joined by my associate producer, Camila Vola, to reflect back on 2022 and look ahead to 2023. We discuss my highs and lows, what lessons I learned, who had the biggest impact on my year, challenges I overcame, and goals I accomplished (plus goals I did not). I open up about my fears, what I’m self-conscious about, and what my struggles are with this career path. We chat about favorite episodes, the best pieces of advice, what I want to accomplish in the new year, and more.
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I'm joined by South Asian Therapist Fatema Jivanjee-Shakir, LMSW, to discuss the nuances of South Asian dating culture and how much emphasis our society places on marriage. We discuss the shame and secrecy around dating in South Asian culture, how individuals are expected to not date in their teenage years and get married in their early twenties, the intersection of food and body image with dating and relationships, and more. Fatema shares advice on how to become more confident in your own skin and identify your own values so you can live the life that feels most right for you.
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On this Unfiltered, a previous guest comes back to share the story of the relationship she was in over the last year where she caught her boyfriend cheating on her. We hear how the relationship began, when and how she found out he was being unfaithful, if she confronted him about it, and why she decided to take him back. She shares if she was able to truly forgive him, if the relationship was able to progress forward, how her loved ones felt about the situation, and how it impacted her mental health and self worth.
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I'm joined by Zac Stern, Founder, and CEO of Official, the app for enhancing your relationships. We discuss why dating apps aren’t setting us up for relationship success, the biggest challenges that couples are facing right now, and why we’re so afraid to communicate with our crushes and partners. Zac walks us through what led him to start Official and why we’re more comfortable on our phones than IRL. We answer listener questions about date ideas, how to identify someone’s intentions, are they not interested if they didn’t ask for your number, can a girl can fix an fboy, are men honest when writing what they’re looking for on the apps, and more.
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I'm joined by Kristen and Sam, my friends who are getting married in 2023 who – you guessed it – met at work. We hear how Kristen was crushing on Sam from afar and what steps she took to assess if there was mutual interest and make her move. They share Sam's initial hesitations, how they navigated the early stages of figuring out what was between them while keeping things professional, and if they told their colleagues that they were together. We discuss getting over your work crush who isn't interested in you, handling breakups in the workplace, differentiating between work spouse feelings vs. romantic feelings, and more.
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I'm joined by narcissism expert and licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Jamie Zuckerman. We discuss the difference between a toxic relationship and a narcissistic relationship, early signs someone might be a narcissist, the difference between love bombing vs. someone being really interested in you, if a narcissist can ever change, and what causes someone to become a narcissist. We discuss how to spot narcissistic characteristics in friends and family members, what to do if your friend is dating a narcissist, why it takes on average 7 attempts to leave a narcissistic or abusive relationship, and what to do if you realize you're in a narcissistic relationship.
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On this unfiltered, I’m joined by Hannah, a 28-year-old woman who shares her experience living and dating with ADHD. We hear when and how she got her diagnosis and in what ways her ADHD impacts her day-to-day life and her dating life. Hannah helps answer listener ADHD-related questions including dealing with a lack of texts, how your non-ADHD partner can best support you, when to mention your ADHD to someone new, how to avoid overpowering the conversation and interrupting someone, what to do when someone tells you ADHD isn’t real, and more.
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I'm joined by Maria Avgitidis, aka Matchmaker Maria, founder of Agape Match to chat all things chemistry and compatibility. We discuss if singles are looking for the wrong things, how we should assess first dates, how to meet people IRL, and what you should look for when setting friends up. Maria shares advice on how to approach important conversations like wanting children, finances, and cultural differences. We answer listener questions about seeking intellectual connections, what to do when someone asks you to be official or says "I love you" before you're on the same page, and more.
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I’m joined by Jamie Stone, blogger at honestlyjamie.com and host of the “A Little Too Much” podcast. Jamie opens up about losing her younger sister in 2016 and her dad in 2019 and how it’s impacted her life, dating journey, relationships, and friendships. We discuss why we’re afraid to talk about death, how you lose friends during the grieving process, how her losses amplified her fear of abandonment, bonding with someone else who has experienced loss like this, what to say when it comes up on dates, and how you should respond if someone tells you they’ve lost a loved one.
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I’m joined by Tripp Kramer, world-renowned dating men’s dating coach and host of the “How to Talk to Girls” podcast. Tripp and I discuss the biggest misconceptions that men and women have about each other and what men wish women did differently in dating. We answer listener questions from women about assessing interest, paying for dates, friend zoning, bringing up exclusivity, and nerves going into your first trip with a new significant other. We answer questions from guys about when to make a move, sending the post-date follow-up text, staying motivated when you’re having no luck, showing interest while still taking it slow, and relaxing through the process of finding love.
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Happy Thanksgiving! In this episode I answer listener questions about how to enjoy the holidays when you're single, how to get over a situationship when you're in the same friend group, what to do if the idea of going on a date causes so much anxiety, tips for bonding with your significant other's family, advice for believing your healthy relatioship is real, what to do when things ended but you see them every time you go to the gym, and more.
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I’m joined by Eli Rallo, writer, content creator, host of the podcast Miss Congeniality, and Author of “I Didn’t Know I Needed This” coming out next Fall, 2023. Eli and I discuss how to create your own rules that work for you in dating, what to do if you get ghosted, and combatting loneliness and seasonal depression. Eli shares how she manifested her boyfriend and teaches us a Manifestation 101 lesson. We answer listener questions about making new friends in a new city, moving in with your partner, accepting that you went off on someone and said things you regret, and more.
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I’m joined by my college professor, Keith Giglio, and his wife, Juliet Giglio, a husband-wife screenwriting duo who met cute in an elevator while attending NYU Grad Film school (and have produced films including A Cinderella Story, Return to Halloweentown, Disney’s Tarzan & more). We chat about their first novel and my personal favorite book ever, THE SUMMER OF CHRISTMAS, a holiday romcom that so many love stories can relate to. We hear about how they got married while still in school, how they supported each other in their careers, what led them to team up, and how they’ve navigated working together and raising a family all while maintaining a healthy and loving relationship. Keith and Juliet share their secret to staying together, early signs they’ve noticed that someone’s relationship won’t work out, what’s led to some of their friends getting divorced, and more.
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I’m joined by Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu, hosts of Dateable podcast. We’re chatting all about why dating sucks and how we each can make it better. We discuss the biggest mistakes singles are making in their dating lives, the importance of focusing on the positives when dating, how we can turn each date into a learning experience, what we’ve learned from our past, and more.
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I’m joined by a 29-year-old woman who tells us how got ghosted after dating someone for months whom she met through her parents. We talk about the red flags she noticed retrospectively, when things shifted, and how he went about ghosting her. We hear what getting back into dating after this experience was like, and how it ultimately led her to reconnect with her now partner and the love of her life, who she had previously written off because of distance.
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I’m joined by my friend Jake Tuff who opens up about a breakup that he just went through. We hear what he’s learned from going through it, what his breakup recovery looks like, and if he has any regrets about how everything went down. He talks about moving to a new place and starting over when you don’t know many people, learning his love language, and how he navigates his many female friendships when he’s in a relationship. Jake answers listener questions about what guys think of the phrase “If he wanted to, he would,” if guys are generally bad at texting, for sure signs that a guy is interested in you, if sleeping with a guy too early on makes them less interested in dating longterm, what it means if he’s suddenly avoiding your stories, and more.
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I’m joined by a 29 year old woman who opens up about her eight year relationship that ultimately ended because of her partner’s addiction to alcohol. She shares how his struggle with alcohol use went unnoticed during college as heavy drinking is common in greek life culture, but how it became more noticible post-grad, once they lived together, and when covid hit. She shares how she tried to support him and encourage him to be sober, how his alcohol use impacted her, and what it finally took took for him to get sober. If you know someone struggling with addiction, you don’t have to go through this alone. Resources and community are available through Al-Anon.org.
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I’m joined by Leslie Grant, host of Interstates and Heartbreak, to discuss taking breaks & staying in touch with exes. We chat about whether or not taking a break can work, what situations would allow for it to work, and when a break is just a precursor to a breakup. We discuss giving someone a second chance, criteria for being friends with an ex, whether or not you should text your ex on their birthday, and tips for dating in LA.
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My childhood best friend Cristina joins me to answer listener-submitted questions about my past dating experiences. We cover all of my firsts, from my first crush to my first date to my first time being cheated on and everything in between. We discuss mistakes I made in the past, times I put boys before my friendships, how I handle rejection, ways I've grown in my dating life, whether or not I take my own advice, if there is a guy from my past she was rooting for, and so much more.
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I’m joined by Michael Kaye, Global Head of Communications at OkCupid, to discuss all things dating apps, cuffing season, and Taylor Swift. Michael shares the insider scoop into the biggest mistakes people are making in their dating app profiles, the best icebreakers for first opening lines, and how to best prepare for this year’s cuffing season. Michael opens up about how he was still in the closet when he and his partner Parker connected on Tinder, and what he has learned about love from OkCupid and Taylor Swift.
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I’m joined by Sarah and Audrey, cohosts of the podcast Completely Fucking Clueless. Sarah and Audrey open up about when they knew they were queer, how they explored it, whether or not they suppressed their sexuality, and what helped them fully embrace who they are. Sarah shares how she and her current partner first met at summer camp when they were 12, and Audrey shares what it’s like being bisexual on dating apps in NYC. We chat about the importance of surrounding yourself with people who have shared experiences, dating when your career isn’t where you want it to be, and comparing yourself to those around you who seem to have things more figured out.
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I'm joined by singer/songwriter Maryon King to chat all about fboys and situationships. We discuss fboy tendencies, how to spot an fboy, and whether or not we're all capable of being fboys. We dissect why we end up in so many situationships, if it's possible to go from a situationship to a relationship, how to combat the feeling of someone making you feel unworthy, how she turned her frustration with modern dating into her hit song "Boys Will Be Boys."
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I’m joined by Erica Shea, San Diego radio star on The Geena the Latina And Frankie V. Morning Show, and host of the podcast “Oversharing with Erica Shea.” Erica and I chat about dating while moving to a new city, meeting people IRL, and accepting the bare minimum. Erica tells us the crazy story of how she met her current partner (IRL!), why her mindset was different when she met him, and how they’ve made their long-distance relationship work. We discuss asking for your needs and whether or not there’s a difference between being exclusive and being in a relationship.
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TW: Suicidal thoughts
I’m joined by a man who opens up about the longterm relationship he was in where his partner knew she wanted a child and he knew that he did not. We hear how they tried to work through this, how difficult it was to try and change their mind for the other, and how it ultimately lead to them breaking up. He shares what factors went into his decision to get a vasectomy, how his childfree lifestyle has impacted his friendships, and what navigating the dating world is like when you don’t want children.
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I’m joined by Mariann Yip, host of the podcast The City Confessions and Author of “UN-HINGED what I Learned from Saying It’s You, It’s Not Me in the NYC Dating Scene.”
Mariann and I discuss how therapy helped us navigate our dating challenges, why we should stop asking our friends to show us photos of their date/crush, the importance of looking for a growth-oriented relationship, and how much we have changed throughout our twenties. Mariann shares how she learned to set boundaries when dating, what kinds of boundaries she set, and how her boundaries have helped her filter through potential partners.
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*This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around eating disorders.
I’m joined by Jackie Shames, a woman who opens up about her long-term struggle with her body image and an eating disorder. We hear how her ED impacted her dating life and made her feel like she wouldn’t find love if she didn’t look a certain way. She shares how she’s worked through it, how therapy has helped her, and why she no longer feels like she needs to lose weight to be loved. We discuss whether or not you should date with an ED, if, when and how you should communicate about it to someone you’re dating, tips for feeling confident when going on dates, and much more.
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I’m joined by Ali Jackson AKA Finding Mr. Height to chat all about her egg freezing experience. Ali walks us through what egg freezing is, what factors went into her decision to freeze her eggs, and what the process is like. She shares how she felt throughout the process, what side effects she experienced, whether or not it’s changed how she feels about her timeline, and how she communicates about this with potential partners.
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I'm joined by Livia, a 23-year-old who shares her story of starting a relationship while knowing there was an end date. We discuss what it's like to countdown to the relationship ending, sticking with your gut decision to pursue something independently, being open-minded about dealbreakers, and more.
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I’m joined by Kirstie Taylor, a dating, relationships, and self-love writer & author of “What I Wish I Knew About Love.” Kirstie and I chat about practicing self-love when navigating modern dating, forgiving yourself when your actions caused things to go awry, and setting and enforcing healthy boundaries. We discuss what to do when going through a breakup including building back your self-worth, rediscovering yourself, and working towards getting back out there.
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My best friend Sara Curwin and I sit down to answer your questions! We discuss what to do when he invites you to his party but his other hookup is there and they are flirting, how to handle bad manners on a first date, whether or not there's a difference between being exclusive and being in a relationship, how to have conversations about longterm plans with your significant other, age gaps, breaking the ice when you match with someone you kind of know, when to let go of someone who seemed promising but can't commit, and more.
In this episode, I’m joined by world-renowned author, counselor, lecturer, and philosopher Rabbi Manis Friedman to discuss why people get married, what makes a marriage last, what intimacy really means, and what it means to be a husband or a wife. He explains why we shouldn’t date if we have no intentions of getting married within the next five years and why we need to be selfish when we date.
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Get ready for the most jaw dropping, hilarious, and heartwarming Unfiltered episode yet! This week’s guest shares three wild dating scenarios she found herself in. No spoilers here!
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I’m joined by Hilary Weinstein, LCSW and Founder of HLW Therapy, a therapy practice that is currently accepting new clients. We discuss the importance of taking time to reflect on your dating experiences, the most common mistakes women are making in dating, getting back out there after going through a traumatic relationship experience, and how to have a “Who do I want to pick?” mindset instead of a “Pick me!” mindset. We answer listener questions about early signs a relationship won’t work, if relationships should be easy for a certain amount of time, and what to do when you feel demoralized about dating because of your past experiences.
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I’m joined by Stella Stephanopolous, host of the Everyday Endorphins podcast to discuss dating intentionally. We chat about focusing on how the person makes you feel, staying present on the date, why it doesn’t matter if someone has never been in a relationship before, how to stop comparing your timeline to those around you, forgiving yourself for not being where you want to be, how to end a bad date, and whether to reject someone at the end of the date or wait until the next day.
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I’m joined by Maya and Hunter, high school sweethearts turned married couple who are breaking the internet by breaking gender norms. We discuss how Hunter became a “Stay-At-Home Husband” and why their reversal of gender roles is so important for our society to see. Maya and Hunter share how they navigated their most transformative years as they grew and changed both individually and as a couple. We chat about what goes into a successful partnership, the realities of taking a break, how social media portrays unrealistic standards of relationships, and the magical moment that recently happened as they were celebrating their first wedding anniversary.
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I’m joined by a 23-year-old man who shares his dating experiences over the past year. He opens up about putting too much pressure on himself to make potential relationships work out, misreading signs because of how much he wanted the connection to be there, and how overanalyzing and obsessing over someone fuels our anxiety.
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I’m joined by Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick, PhD, LPC to discuss how our upbringing impacts our relationships. Elizabeth teaches us all about relational programming, how the way we grew up impacts who we choose as a partner, how we can move past our traumas to end up in healthy relationships, reprograming negative core beliefs, learning to differentiate what feels like a threat vs. what actually is a threat, understanding your triggers and more.
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I’m joined by a woman from Canada who shares the story of the LDR she was in during COVID while the America/Canada border was semi-closed. We discuss meeting someone who restores your hope in dating, the added pressure that comes with texting someone for a while before meeting, keeping communication strong when you aren’t seeing each other for a while, whether or not it means something when the cadence of texting changes, how the stakes are raised when you’re traveling for dates, and the stress of not knowing when you’ll see them again next, and more.
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I’m joined by writer, producer, actress & model, Emily Ruhl. We discuss sharing your fears and anxieties with the people you’re dating, learning from each heartbreak, loving and hating someone at the same time, and how the length of a relationship does not equal the emotional impact of the relationship. Emily shares her experience dating after addiction, being friends with multiple exes, and how she prioritizes maintaining her independence when in relationships. Check out Emily’s short film Blue Moon here or at publicschoolpictures.com.
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I'm joined by a 23 year old woman in NYC who shares her experience dating within the Jewish community. We discuss being raised Jewish, deciding to pursue relationships with other Jews, and filtering within the community for what we're looking for. She shares date fails and hilarious dating stories, which apps worked and didn't work for her, why she opted to go on shorter first dates, and how she met her current partner.
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I’m joined by Justina and Slavo from the LA-based indie pop duo, Fly By Midnight. They share how they’ve supported each other through different stages of their dating lives, how where they were in their career at different times impacted their ability and desire to pursue serious relationships, and how they’ve made it work with their partners through various stages of their lives and careers. We discuss how everyone has different communication needs, the importance of having difficult conversations, how their personal lives inspire their music, what music has impacted us, and more.
Check out their new music on Spotify!
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I’m joined by Mackenzie (24) who hosts the podcast Taste of Blonde. We discuss her breakup from a healthy long-term relationship, how she handled seeing him move on so quickly, getting back out there too soon, self-sabotaging new connections, how her disorganized attachment style plays into her dating life, how family matters can complicate relationships and breakups, and more.
On this episode, I'm joined by my ex Jordan who I dated for six months in the beginning of the pandemic until he ended things, seemingly out of the blue. After not speaking for two years, we recently reconnected when I saw his Instagram post announcing and celebrating that he came out. Jordan and I sit down to discuss his coming out journey, including years of experimenting, moving to a new city where he could fully explore his sexuality, and finally coming out to his friends and family after keeping it a secret for so long. We chat about our relationship and our breakup, how dating me helped him realize that he liked men, the differences in dating men and women on apps, and how it feels to finally be his most authentic self.
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On this Unfiltered, I’m joined by a woman who thought things were going well with the guy she was seeing until she when saw a Bumble notification pop up on his phone, after establishing they had both deleted the apps. She shares how she approached confronting him, what his explanation was, whether or not she believed him and could trust him, and unfolded from there.
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I’m joined by the anonymous founder of @couplesconfessional, an online safe space for relationships, dating, and singles to share stories, ask questions and start related conversations with other followers – anonymously. We discuss what led her to start Couples Confessional, the benefits of getting advice from strangers, what people are struggling with the most in modern dating, and the most relatable and memorable confessions. We hear confessions about struggling to get over someone you never actually dated, feeling like you’re “too much,” and seeing someone who cuts off communication and then comes back, over and over.
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In this episode, I'm joined by a male in his late twenties to discuss the differences in the dating advice that men and women get. We discuss mixed messages, playing games, shooting your shot, commitment, rejection, and everything in between. He shares what he wishes girls did differently in dating, what conversations girls should be less afraid to bring up, the importance of saying what you mean and meaning what you say, and more.
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I’m joined by dating coach Erika Ettin aka @alittlenudge to break down everything you need to know about texting when it comes to dating. From messaging on the apps, to planning the date, following up after the date, and communicating between dates, we’re giving you the full Texting 101 college course in this episode. We answer listener questions about texting for a month before meeting up, determining whether or not someone is starting to slow fade you and what you should do, and how to handle when someone overshares and is a little too comfortable opening up before meeting IRL.
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I’m joined by fitness entrepreneur Kyle Axman who shares the story of getting back out there and finding love after breaking up with his partner of five years just a few months after getting engaged. We hear how they originally met, how their relationship progressed, what led to them calling it quits, and what it was like starting over. He shares how he got back out there and dated without using dating apps, how he determined what he was looking for, when and how he brought up his previous engagement, and how he and his now-girlfriend never would have matched on a dating app.
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On this hilarious episode, I’m joined by John Franklin, comedian, musician, and star of Netflix’s “The Circle.” We hear how his time on The Circle changed his life, his history of being a “relationship guy,” absurdly funny date stories, epic date fails, do’s and don’ts for one night stands, and more.
Check out John’s live shows on his website https://www.johnfranklincomedy.com/.
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On this Unfiltered, I’m joined by Jenna, a 26-year-old living in Austin, Texas. Jenna opens up about being one of the only single people in her friend group, what it’s like being on different timelines than her friends, the pressure singles often face of getting unsolicited dating advice from everyone in their lives, trying not to be the bitter single person, letting go of people who weren’t meant to be, and more.
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On this episode, I’m joined by Carly Silverman, TikTok star and Lox Club’s Senior Growth Manager. We hear how she went from feeling lost and heartbroken while living and working with her ex boyfriend to having her faith restored in modern dating through her role at Lox Club. We discuss how to make dating more fun, the bold first moves she made with her now-boyfriend, FaceTime dates, transparency around healing from an unhealthy relationship, what you don’t know about your partner until you move in together, being on the same page about your timeline, and more.
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The majority of this episode was originally recorded with an anonymous guest in February, 2021. After hearing the devastating news of SCOTUS overturning Roe v. Wade, she and I jumped back on the mic to share how we are feeling, how this impacts someone who has previously gotten an abortion, what we can do to help, and how it feels to be a woman in 2022. Then, we replay the original episode where she shares the story of her unplanned pregnancy her senior year of college. She shares the moment she found out, how her friends and family helped her through it, why she decided to not tell the guy she had slept with, the trauma she's dealt with as a result of the unplanned pregnancy, how you can support your friends who are going through something similar, and more.
I'm joined by Alyssa Ljub, Sex & Relationship Coach and recent star on Netflix's 'The Circle.' Alyssa shares how and why she became a sex coach, tips for creating genuine connections over text, when and how to have conversations around condoms and STI testing before having sex, how to communicate about sexual needs, fears and previous traumas with a new partner, and more.
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On this episode I'm joined by a 40 year old woman who shares the pressure she's felt over the last twenty years to find her person, get married, and settle down. We discuss how our society makes us feel like we're running out of time and have to meet someone by a certain age, what it's like to see your friends get into relationships and move forward with their partners while you're not, and how to accept that some relationships aren't right, no matter how much we sometimes wish they were. We hear how she's learned to get comfortable with the idea of being alone and appreciate the amazing life she's built for herself.
I’m joined by Helena Rosen (Former SOP Guest “27 Years Single”) and Laurina Sachetti, hosts of Funny Girls podcast. Helena reflects on being in her first relationship at 28 years old, how she met someone shortly after accepting that being single, and how the conversation went when she told her now-boyfriend that she had never been in a relationship. We hear about Laurina’s bizarre dating experiences including learning her date had a kid from his phone background, and being taken to a funeral on a date. She shares how she wen from being the bitter single person to embracing her singlehood, and we hear about her experience being guarded after an unhealthy relationship and how she’s turned that experience around to help her filter out who isn’t right for her.
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I'm joined by a woman who tells us about her partner asking to remove the "boyfriend/girlfriend" label just weeks after he asked her to be his girlfriend. We hear how his request fueled her insecurities, left her feeling confused, led her to feel like she had to play games to win him back, and ultimately resulted in a painful breakup.
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I’m joined by Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham, hosts of Betches’ U Up? Podcast', or as I like to call them, the mom and dad of modern dating. We discuss whether or not there’s truth to the most common dating phrases we hear including “you’ll find someone when you stop looking,” “there’s someone out there for everyone,” “you have to love yourself before you can be loved by someone else,” and more. Later, we answer listener questions about vulnerability, overcoming nervousness and date anxiety, determining your dealbreakers (and sticking to them), if women wrongly read into situations like meeting the friends, and how to make sure you’re on the same page as the person you’re dating.
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I’m joined by a 30-year-old man from Washington, D.C. who shares what his dating journey has been like since it began when around 27 years old. We hear about how being bullied in school ultimately led to anxiety and self-confidence issues that held him back from putting himself out there in the dating world. He shares what he learned from working with a dating coach and a matchmaker, the feedback he received from his dates that helped him improve, how he navigates not being able to use his phone during the day due to his government job, and how he’s developed a growth mindset and tries to be upfront and work on his issues head-on.
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I’m joined by Molly Fedick, my former Hinge colleague and the founder of Buzzkill Wines, an Alcohol-Removed Sauvignon Blanc. Molly shares sober dating tips and reads a hilariously relatable excerpt from her high school journal. Later, Molly opens up about how going to rehab helped her rediscover herself and reevaluate her values, how therapy helped her realize she had been going for the wrong types of people, why we’re way too quick to judge someone, how she approaches meeting people IRL instead of on dating apps, and how she’s setting herself up to live the life she wants and have children even if she doesn’t meet someone to do it with.
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On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by a woman who was raised Mormon. She shares how she lived by the rules, was extremely obedient and felt promised that if she did everything right and married a "good guy," she would be blessed. After 11 years of marriage, she learned that her husband had been unfaithful nearly their entire marriage and was a sex addict. Fast forward and she's exploring the dating world for the first time while reevaluating her faith, her values, and her beliefs about sex.
On this episode I’m joined by Sam Panitch and Parker Yablon, the men of Elevation Nation. We hear about what problems guys face in dating that women don’t realize, where they get their dating and relationship advice from, why more men should be in therapy, the key to building a healthy relationships from the start, what a perfect date looks like, and their thoughts on playing games and following dating rules. Later we answer listener questions about why he texts you after the first date but doesn’t ask you out again, catching your boyfriend in a lie about exclusivity, being friends first, and more.
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On this Unfiltered episode, I'm joined by a 28-year-old man from Scotland who is dating for the first time in 12 years due to the chronic illness diagnosis he received when he was a teenager, accompanied by a cancer diagnosis shortly after. We hear what his journey has been like and how it's impacted his relationships, friendships, and mental health. He shares his fears surrounding putting himself out there and we hear how his 31-year-old brother who recently passed away helped give him the push he needed to get back into the dating world.
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Ali AKA Finding Mr. Height is back on the show for the most requested episode yet. We’re giving you a Dating Apps 101 course covering everything you need to know about dating apps. We discuss which dating apps you should be on, mistakes you’re probably making, do’s and don’ts for prompts, photos, conversation starters, how long you should chat for, getting from the app to the date, and everything in between.
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I'm joined by a 33-year-old woman who shares her dating experiences. We discuss her dating app profile and conversation pain points, how she's maintained a healthy friend with benefits situation for over a year, why and how she investigated the pool of daters out there through a fake dating app profile, being the only single one in the friend group, balancing talking to multiple people at once, worst and best date stories.
I kick off this solo episode by opening up about career growing pains, feeling sad about the dating world, and the pressure I put on myself to succeed. After concluding my vent session, I answer listener questions about when and how to say "I love you," whether or not I think guys and girls can be just friends, how to handle If someone treats you like a boyfriend or girlfriend but won't call you that, maintaining your independence when you start talking to someone new and being newly single when your friends are in relationships.
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I'm joined by a man who shares his experience fighting cancer throughout his 20s. He discusses how it's impacted his dating life and his social life, how he navigated ending things with someone he started dating in remission as his cancer came back, how he feels about the possibility of putting himself out there to date again, when and how he would approach discussing his medical history with a potential partner, and more.
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I’m Joined by Katie Gatti, AKA Money with Katie, to discuss the most common money issues that singles and couples face. We discuss who should get the check and what it means if you split it, when and how you should talk about how much money you make, having a different financial situation than your friends, dealing with families and money when wedding planning, and how to navigate when your partner makes more than you.
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I'm joined by a girl who shares her experience with a "Classy Fckboy," someone who knows how to win you over with their words, but is a professional at making empty promises. We hear about how each time she was ready to give up and move on, he reeled her back in by convincing her he was looking for something serious, too. She shares the red flags she identified in hindsight, why she gave him the benefit of the doubt, how she tried to communicate openly with him, and what her dating life looks like now.
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I'm joined by Jeff Guenther, LPC, to discuss how we can overcome our dating anxiety, make better decisions, and approach the early stages of dating in a healthier way. We discuss what to do when your anxiety is holding you back from dating, tips for staying calm when going on a first date, why we go for people who send us mixed messages and don't treat us well, how to choose better people, why you should take it slow in the beginning, and if attraction can build over time.
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I’m joined by a man who shares the the ups and downs he experienced in his hyper-active pursuit of love, which ultimately led him to meet his fiance. We hear how he fit so many dates into his schedule, what he was looking for, how he balanced dating multiple women at the same time, what he learned from all of his dates, how he kept track of them, and how it felt to finally meet the person he was searching for. At the end of the episode, he shares his movie-worthy proposal story.
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Mariah Grippo, TikTok’s dating queen and founding member of Little Words Project, joins the show to talk about the struggles she and many other women face in their dating lives. We discuss how draining it feels to continue to form connections and relationships with people only to be told they’re “not ready,” questioning if there’s something wrong with us when it keeps not working out, staying with people for too long, making purpose out of the situations that break us, and finding a partner who unconditionally supports your passions.
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I’m joined by a listener who shares the story of the relationship and breakup that changed her and set her years back on the timeline she had imagined for herself. We discuss going from that high of being so in love with someone who loves you back to breaking up and feeling the lowest you’ve ever felt in your life, what it felt like to see her ex in a relationship with someone new shortly after their breakup and the fear and anxiety surrounding falling for the wrong person again that is holding her back in her dating life.
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In this episode, I’m joined by Whitney Goodman, LMFT, author of Toxic Positivity, and the brains behind the popular account @sitwithwhit. We discuss how our culture doesn’t allow for negativity and has become a competition for who can seem happiest and most positive, how toxic positivity invalidates people struggling with relationship problems, how we can better support our friends and loved ones who are unhappy with their timelines and their singlehood, the overuse of the term “gaslighting,” and how we can learn to accept our negative emotions.
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I sit down with my friend Sammy who shares her highest highs and lowest lows throughout her dating journey. We hear about a six-year relationship that ended because he was having doubts, going through her “hoe phase” in her mid-twenties, how she’s managed to stay friends with most of her exes, finding out her most recent relationship ex was in a relationship with someone else weeks after they called it quits, and what she says when someone says they feel more of a friend vibe after a date.
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Jake and I answer listener questions about our relationship and reflect on how we got to where we are now as a couple. We discuss what Jake thinks of dating rules, the honeymoon phase and if we’re still in it, the biggest challenges we've faced together, how we knew we wanted to commit to each other, who said “I love you” first, if we ever run out of things to talk about, the surprising perks of dating someone who’s never been in a relationship before and more.
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On this episode, I sit down with a woman who is navigating dating while knowing she doesn’t want kids. We hear when she decided this, why she stands by her decision, and how it impacts her dating life. We also discuss her personal preference for dating nonamericans and how their dating behavior appears drastically different from the Americans she’s dated.
On this episode I’m joined by Kate Steinberg, the internet’s early 2000s queen who met her fiancé Chad on HBO Max’s “12 Dates of Christmas.” Kate shares how she remained calm and confident while knowing Chad was going on dates with other women and the benefits of not sharing every detail of your dating life with friends. We discuss how you know if someone’s the one, the importance of being your truest self when dating, and how everything is not what it seems on reality TV.
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On today's episode I talk to a woman who reached out to me after listening to the unfiltered episode called "Married at 25, Divorced at 26, Dating at 27". She wanted to share her story of being on the other side of that situation, dating someone who was married at 25 and divorced at 27. She shares how their relationship unfolded, what her initial reaction was to him sharing that he was divorced and how his previous marriage has impacted their current relationship. She gives advice for anyone dating a divorcee and for divorcees getting back in the dating world
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On this episode, I’m joined by Rikki Cloos (@anxiousheartsguide) to discuss the basics of attachment theory. We learn how our attachment styles are shaped, if we can change attachment styles, how our style shows up in our dating lives and our relationships, how to navigate your partner’s attachment style, and more.
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On this solo Q&A I answer listener questions about what makes a good date, rekindling an old situationship, being friends with an ex after ending on good terms, not hearing back from someone after telling them how you feel, what to do if you're always texting first, if they're still active on dating apps after telling you they like you, when to follow up, and how to know if you should stay or go.
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On this episode, I sit down with Kelly McKenna (@sitwithkelly), a therapist for anxious millennials. We discuss the difference between overthinking and anxiety, how dating rules and games can make you more anxious, boundaries you should be setting, identifying the source of your anxiety, and in-the-moment tools for dealing with your dating anxiety. Kelly shares tips for communicating your anxieties to a new partner and supporting a partner with anxiety.
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On today’s episode I sit down with Kayla Moran, host of the Let’s Get Candid podcast. Kayla opens up about relationship and intimacy trauma, her relationship with sex and her body, and how her childhood and her relationship with her mother impacted her dating life.
On this episode, I’m joined by @yourbreakupbestie Kendra Allen to discuss how to get through a breakup. Kendra walks us through the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup, if getting back together is ever a good idea, what to do if it’s been a while since the breakup but you still think about them, when and how to get back out there, if you should ever text your ex on their birthday, how to stop watching their Instagram stories, and everything in between.
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TW: Sexual assault. On this Unfiltered, I sit down with a woman who shares the story of the toxic relationship she didn’t realize she was in, despite all of the warning signs. We hear about gaslighting, manipulation, lying, and other unhealthy behaviors her partner brought to their relationship. We discuss why she was in denial of what was really happening, why she ignored the early red flags, what she wishes she would have done differently, and how she learned from this experience and moved forward to find a healthy relationship with a loving partner.
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On this episode, I sit down with Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT, owners and founders of the Therapy Group. We hear about early red flags you can look out for to identify if someone might be toxic, manipulative, or abusive, how to realize you’re in an unhealthy situation, and how you can get out of it. We discuss why we want what we can’t have and push away what we can have, dating a narcissist, what to do if our friend is in a toxic situation and more. We close out the episode by hearing how to find the right kind of therapist for you and how to break up with a therapist who isn’t the right fit.
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On today’s episode, I sit down with a 27-year-old woman who recently went through a divorce from her high school sweetheart who she had been with for nine years. We hear about what her life was like before the divorce, why they got divorced, and what it’s been like getting out in the dating world for the first time as a 27-year-old divorcee.
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On this episode I sit down with Talia Goldstein, Founder and CEO of Three Day Rule Matchmaking. We discuss the biggest flaws in dating apps and modern dating, the most common mistakes daters are making, what questions you should be asking on dates, how to determine your dealbreakers vs. “nice to haves,” and whether or not you’re correct about your “type.” Talia shares how the matchmaking process works from getting to know you, to pre-screening dates, setting you up with people who are truly looking for something serious, post-date chats, and more.
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In this solo episode, I answer listener questions about ghosting, unfollowing, and taking things slow. At 15 minutes in, I open up about the constant pressure I feel to be at a certain place in my relationship and how social media leads us down a dangerous path of comparing ourselves to others, no matter what life stage we’re in. At 28 minutes I discuss the precautions you should take when considering dating a close friend. I share a past dating experience where I approached this situation in a way that I regret. I close out the episode with my thoughts on The Tinder Swindler and this week’s Bachelor episode.
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In today’s episode, I’m joined by Elizabeth Earnshaw (aka @lizlistens), Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, owner of A Better Life Therapy, and author of “I Want This to Work.” We discuss the different types of couples therapy, the most common issues couples face, how to ask your partner to go to couples therapy, and early signs of relationship success or failure. Liz gives us tips for starting hard conversations, fighting well, and building healthy relationships from the start.
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On this Unfiltered episode, I sit down with a man whose infidelity and the guilt surrounding it led to him and his wife getting divorced. We hear what his life was like before he cheated, why he decided to do it, how the truth came out, and what happened next. He shares how this impacted his self-worth and his personal relationships, and whether or not he’s been able to forgive himself and move forward. We discuss if the statement “Once a cheater, always a cheater” is true or false.
I kick off this Valentine’s Day special by sharing tips for making the most out of the holiday if you’re single. At 10 minutes, I’m joined by Fran Mariano from Barstool’s Chicks in the Office to chat celebrity couples, on-screen romances, and public breakups. We share our favorite tv, movie and music couples, celebrity couples we admire, and couples we wish lasted. We discuss the pressure and stress of relationships in the spotlight, PR relationships, and how difficult it must be to continue working together after breaking up. Finally, Fran shares how she feels about having met her long-term boyfriend prior to her rise to fame at Barstool.
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On today's episode, I sit down with Diana, a 37-year-old woman who is happily single. Diana opens up about growing up as a Jehovah’s Witness, how her views on marriage changed as she got older, and how she’s navigated different dating phases of her life. Diana shares how she’s learned to embrace singlehood, love herself, enjoy her timeline, and not let societal pressures force her to settle.
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On this episode, I’m joined by Candice Horbacz aka Eva Lovia. We hear about Candice’s rise to fame in the adult film industry and what her career taught her about intimacy and relationships. Candice shares how she and her now-husband navigated their open relationship, worked through moments of jealousy and made it work despite the unique challenges they faced. We discuss what it takes to have a healthy open relationship, why you shouldn’t feel jealous that your partner enjoys porn, and how to communicate with a new partner about what you want in your sex life.
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In this episode, I'm joined by a 27-year-old woman who has never had sex before. We hear about why she’s never had sex, what it’s like to date as a virgin, how dates react when she tells them about it, how others judge her and how she judges her self because of it. She shares her fears around losing her virginity and how our sex-obsessed culture causes her to feel isolated.
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On this episode I’m joined by Jen Lauren, host of Dare to Self Care. We discuss the importance of balancing your relationship and friendships, maintaining your independence and sense of self throughout your relationship, and continuing to practice self-care when you're in a relationship. Jen shares how she and her boyfriend went from “high school sweethearts” to serious partners in the real world, how they’ve changed as individuals and as partners over the course of their 10 year relationship, and the realities of moving in with your significant other.
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On todays episode, I sit down with Aliana Michals who shares her story of how her happy and healthy relationship was directly affected by the national dialogue surrounding the pandemic, vaccine efficacy and hesitancy. Aliana’s upcoming poetry collection, In Defense of Science, is a direct reflection on her how despite how in love she and her partner were, they ultimately chose their values over each other, in the end, they were better off for it.
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On this episode, I’m joined by Jonny Lazarus and Justin Kapelmaster from The Latke Room. We discuss why your date or partner probably doesn’t know what you’re thinking, what an Instagram story view really means, how to slide into the DMs, why gender roles shouldn’t matter but social cues should, and why some people think they have to prioritize their career over their relationships. We answer listener emails about being ghosted after dating for four months and being unsure whether or not to close the door on a situationship.
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On today's episode I'm joined by a 25 year old man who recently went through a breakup when his ex-girlfriend's parents found out that he has Aspergers Syndrome. He shares what having Aspergers is like, how it does and doesn’t impact his daily life and relationships, and what common misconceptions are of those with this disability. We hear about what his relationship was like, how the breakup unfolded, and how painful it is to be discriminated against because of a disability.
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On today’s episode, I’m joined by Blaine Anderson, aka Dating by Blaine, who is a dating coach for men. We hear about the biggest challenges men face in modern dating, ways men are misunderstood in dating, and how Blaine ended up helping men with their dating lives. Blaine shares tips for dating apps profiles, approaching a woman IRL, sliding into her DMs, and texting etiquette. We answer listener questions about exclusivity, having needs vs. being needy, burnout, and sifting through matches.
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On this episode of Unfiltered, I sit down with two individuals who recently took 'Date Smarter' – Logan Ury's six-week interactive bootcamp designed to transform your love life. We discuss the stigma surrounding "learning" how to date, even though dating is a relatively new concept. They share their hesitations about signing up for the class, what they thought the other students would be like vs. what they were actually like, how it felt to learn about dating with a group of strangers, what what surprised them and challenged them throughout the process, what they learned from Logan, what they learned from each other, and how their dating lives are going now that they've completed the course.
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On Today’s episode I’m joined by behavioral scientist, dating coach, author, and Hinge’s Director of Relationship Science, Logan Ury. We discuss how Logan helped me change my bad dating habits, how she initially friendzoned her now-husband for years until a dating coach helped her realize he was what she was looking for, why you need accountability partners to achieve your dating goals, the importance of having “Other Significant Others," and why our partner can’t be our go-to person for everything. Logan shares her advice for people who feel like they’ve tried everything, but it’s just not working out for them.
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On this Unfiltered episode, I sit down with Zoe Scurletis, host of the podcast Solace and the City, to talk about how our traumatic experiences impact who we are and how we date. Zoe walks us through what it was like developing an eating disorder, losing a friend to suicide, and spiraling into depression. We discuss if, when and how to communicate your past traumas when seeing someone new, if you should date while battling an eating disorder, finding the balance between vulnerability and oversharing, why The Bachelor franchise is wrongfully encouraging trauma bonding, and more.
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In this episode, I sit down with Mia and Carleigh, hosts of Mostly Balanced. We discuss healthier dating habits we should develop, our predictions for dating trends this year, red flags you should avoid, and how to prioritize dating. Mia shares the important conversations that she and her fiancé are having to ensure their marriage will have a strong foundation, and Carleigh opens up about is embracing singlehood and navigating dating burnout. Finally, we discuss how we stay mentally and physically healthy so we can be our best selves in our dating life and relationships.
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On this year’s final episode, I sit down with my producer, Camila Vola, to celebrate Seeing Other People's 1st birthday by reflecting on everything that happened in 2021. I open up about how this was one of the hardest years of my life, my fears and hesitations around losing my co host and doing the show solo, the biggest accomplishments and the scariest challenges I faced, where I am in my career vs. where I want to be, what the future of Seeing Other People looks like, and the biggest takeaways and dating lessons from all of this year’s expert and Unfiltered guests.
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On todays episode I sit down with a 26 year old man from London. We hear about his recent transcontinental whirlwind romance, what it's been like dating during covid, dating while living at home with his parents, the struggles of being a hopeless romantic in today’s dating world, and more.
I’m joined by the amazing Katie Dombrowski and Victoria Bruno, hosts of The Moral Hangover Podcast, to break down everything that happened in dating in 2021.
We dive into how the pandemic changed our dating lives for the better, what really happened with #shotgirlsummer, and our biggest red flags and green flags when going on dates. We look back on the many surprising celebrity couples and dating trends that have consumed our year. Finally, we discuss how the pandemic changed our dating lives for the better, and what we think we’ll see in 2022.
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This episode may be triggering for those who sensitive to suicidal thoughts.
On today’s episode, I sit down with a man who shares his story of being blindsided with a breakup six years into a relationship with his girlfriend who he lived with. This happened during covid while he was already going through a challenging time in his life. He shares had a break up impacted his mental health and what his recovery journey has been like, including seeking therapy and psychiatry for the first time, experimenting with different mental health professionals to find the right one, contacting the suicide hotline, creating a routine, discovering new hobbies and passions, and more.
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Therapist Jamie Genatt, and boyfriend, Taylor Adwar, join us to talk about how they built a successful partnership and healthy relationship over the last six years. We hear about how their movie-worthy meet-cute, the challenges they’ve overcome in their relationship, and the pros and cons of dating a therapist. They share how they navigate big life transitions, how they support each other, how they ask for space when they need it, and how they have learned to communicate effectively.
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On today's episode, I sat down with a woman who recently experienced being ghosted for the first time by a man who lived a few doors down from her. We hear how she processed being ghosted, how she didn’t feel the way social media and people in her life were telling her she should feel and how she used this experience to go down a path of self healing and self discovery. Later we find out what happened when they reconnected, and where they are now, and how the way she handled this experience changed her for the better.
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This episode is for the boys who want to be gentlemen, and for the girls who want to get inside a gentleman’s brain. I chat with James (Levon The Gent) Nichols II, founder of The Gent Code, who helps men become the best version of themselves in life, in dating, and in relationships. We discuss what it means to be a gentleman, the biggest dating pain points that men face (and how to overcome them), why genders react to breakups differently, why men seem to be afraid of commitment, and more.
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On today’s episode I sit down with a woman who shares her experiences being cheated on, later meeting the other women, and realizing they were not the ones to blame. We discuss how she found out she was cheated on, what it was like learning to trust again, and how she and these women helped support each other. We discuss why being cheated on has nothing to do with you, whether or not you should let someone know if you know they’re being cheated on, and more.
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I’m joined by the hilarious Erica Spera and Molly DeMellier, hosts of Shooters Gotta Shoot. We’re diving into the results of the Instagram polls you’ve voted on, debating the winners, and sharing our own opinions on each. We break down what happens at the end of a date, being a guest or bringing a guest to the holidays, first date deal breakers, how much someone’s relationship history matters, if you need closure to move on, if "the one" is out there, and more.
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Krista St-Germain is a mom, grief expert and life coach for widowed moms and host of the Widowed Moms Podcast. She joins the show today to discuss sex, dating, and love after experiencing the traumatic loss of a partner or any individual in your life. We discuss the grieving process and why it isn’t linear, knowing when to start dating again, navigating the guilt around searching for a new partner, keeping their memory alive while moving on, rediscovering yourself, learning your triggers, and more.
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Lindsay and Emily Stetzer are sisters living with obsessive-compulsive disorder and anxiety, which led them to create Presently, a mindfulness jewelry company that helps you redirect your thoughts and return to the beauty of the present moment, wherever you are. Lindsay and Emily walk us through the different types of OCD, how their diagnoses impacted them, and how their OCD does and doesn’t affect their daily lives. They open up about how their OCD has impacted their past relationships and their current dating lives, as well as the tools they have learned to not let their mental health hold them back. Follow @thinkpresently and treat yourself or a friend to an anxiety-soothing bracelet from Presently this holiday season at thinkpresently.com. Use code "seeingotherpeople" for 20% off your purchase.
Tis the season for Friendsgiving and Batter That Matters's Fall Collection of cookies is the perfect thing to bring. Head to www.ourbattermatters.com and use code "seeingotherpeople" for 10% off your purchase!
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We're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay healthy and feel balanced. Grab yours today at and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping!
Kate Anthony, certified divorce coach and host of The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, joins the show. We discuss how to decide if you should stay or leave your relationship, what factors lead to a divorce being amicable vs messy, and how to actually go about getting a divorce. We chat about prenups, couples therapy, the US litigation system, children of divorce, co-parenting, dating after divorce and more. Nobody goes into a relationship or marriage planning on getting divorced, which is why this episode is a must-listen even if you’re single or in the beginning stages of a relationship.
I'm so excited to be partnering with Batter That Matters! Shop the Fall Collection and treat someone in your life (or yourself) to a box of the best cookies out there. Head to www.ourbattermatters.com and use code "seeingotherpeople" for 10% off your purchase!
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We're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay healthy and feel balanced. Grab yours today at and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping!
On Unfiltered, I sit down with a 26 year old social worker and therapist who practices in New York City. We hear about her dating experience in her late teens and early twenties that led to the heartbreak that shaped who she is today. She shares what it’s like to date as a therapist, what she learns from her patients, what it’s like to hear her patients be vulnerable all day long while she struggles being vulnerable and more.
Im so excited to be partnering with Batter That Matters! Shop the Fall Collection and treat someone in your life (or yourself) to a box of the best cookies out there. Head to www.ourbattermatters.com and use code "seeingotherpeople" for 10% off your purchase!
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We're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay healthy and feel balanced. Grab yours today at and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping!
On today’s episode I’m joined by Jen Glantz, founder of Bridesmaid For Hire, 3x author, and host of You’re Not Getting Younger. Jen and I discuss how to cope with being the only one of your friends who isn’t engaged, going to weddings solo while feeling depressed about your own love life, and what you should expect if you have never been a bridesmaid before. We learn how we can best support our bride and groom friends, if/when we should offer our opinions on their wedding planning, common mistakes people make when it comes to wedding planning, and more. She shares her own love story and gives us an inside look at wedding horror stories, love stories, and everything in between that she has witnessed since she founded Bridesmaid For Hire.
I'm so excited to be partnering with Batter That Matters! Shop the Fall Collection and treat someone in your life (or yourself) to a box of the best cookies out there. Head to www.ourbattermatters.com and use code "seeingotherpeople" for 10% off your purchase!
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We're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay healthy and feel balanced. Grab yours today at and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping!
On today's episode of Unfiltered, I sit down with a woman who shares what she went through when she caught her boyfriend hooking up with a stripper. She tells us what it was like finding this out, how she reacted to it, and how it impacted her dating life for years to come. We discuss wanting to change people, not having our needs met in situationships, and lying to ourselves about what kind of relationships we’re really ready for.
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Laura Behnke joins the Seeing Other People family today to explain why you need to throw out your timeline. After 16 years of success as an award-winning television journalist, Laura still couldn’t help but feel like she was “behind” as she was in her 30s and had never been in a relationship. We discuss how to stop worrying about where you “should” be in your life, how to not feel like there’s something wrong with you for being single for a long period of time, what to say when someone asks why you’ve never been in a relationship, how friendships change as people’s lives go down different paths at different times, what to say to your friend who has never been in a relationship or feels left behind, and more.
The holidays are right around the corner, the sun is setting earlier, and it's getting cold out, so we're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can still be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay healthy and feel balanced. Grab yours today at www.mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping!
On today’s episode of Unfiltered, I sit down with Romeo, who shares the story about his on again, off again relationship that began in college.
We hear about the highs and lows of the relationship, the pressure he faced from his peers as a college athlete to have a get girls mentality, the breakups, the makeups, cheating, anxiety and more. Romeo explains how he overcame his heartbreak and worked through all of these things in order to end up in the healthy relationship that he is now in.
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On today's episode, I sit down with Kevin Nahai, a personal coach who focuses on helping people with anxiety, low self esteem, and finding a healthy relationship. We dive into the ins and outs of dating anxiety including: how to know if your anxiety is coming from you or from them, how to stop attracting unhealthy partners, how to not get anxious when someone doesn’t text back, why you should focus on whether or not you like them, why you should make sure your values align, when and how to share your anxieties with a new potential partner, and more.
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On this episode of unfiltered I sit down with a woman from Canada who shares her story of booking a flight to New York City to meet somebody who she matched with on bumble a few months earlier. We hear what their conversations were like leading up to the trip, what happened when she finally got there, and how everything was not at all what she thought it was going to be like.
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On this episode I’m joined by Jordan and Zac Stenmark, twins, international models and entrepreneurs. We discuss their dating and relationship experiences as twins, world travelers, and businessmen. We hear about Dreamers, the company they founded to help people sleep better and stay mentally healthy so we can be our best selves in work, dating, and daily life. They share their personal dating struggles and hilarious date fails, and we discuss how looks, success and fame don’t actually lead to an easier dating life.
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On today’s episode of Unfiltered, I talk to Jillian about dating as a little person. She shares what it’s like to live and date in a world that’s not designed for you. We discuss dating apps, common misconceptions, what she wishes people knew, and more. Jillian hosts a podcast called Always Looking Up – check it out if you want to hear honest and real stories about being a little person in an average-sized world.
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David Sauvage is an empath, an expert on empathy, and a teacher of empathy and emotional intelligence. He joins us today to help us learn how to communicate more honestly, openly, and empathetically. We discuss healthy vs. unhealthy communication, how to learn healthy communication if you did not grow up witnessing it, how to encourage your partner to communicate in a healthier way, the process of shifting the way you communicate, how to be more open and honest in an empathetic way, why men are more reserved with their feelings, and more. Learn more about David and his work at empath.nyc.
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Seeing Other People and host Ilana Dunn are here to help you feel less alone in your dating struggles.
Real people, real stories, real life.
TW: Eating disorder thoughts and behaviors.
On today’s episode I sit down with Sam, a woman who is in recovery from her eating disorder. She shares how her eating disorder impacted her dating life prior to seeking treatment and how she’s been navigating it while in recovery.
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Sami Wunder is a leading international relationship and dating expert who specializes in working with ambitious, high-achieving women, helping them attract lasting romantic love. Sami joins us to discuss breaking toxic relationship patterns, how to identify why you’re still single, why rotational dating might be the key to finding love, making time for dating, having both career and relationship success, and more.
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On today's Unfiltered episode, I sit down with a 28 year old guy from New York City named Sam. Sam walks us through his complicated relationship with Taylor that began right before covid started, resulting in an unexpected Long distance relationship. Sam shares the struggles that he and Taylor faced including lack of communication, internal mental health issues, external pressures, family members adding their opinions in, and breaking up and getting back together multiple times.
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Gigi Robinson, Gen Z thought leader, chronic illness and mental health advocate, and the host of Spotify Greenroom's "Everything You Need Is Within" joins the show today. We discuss how social media makes us feel more single and isolated than we are, what it feels to not have gone on a date since 2019, dating during covid when you are immune compromised, how quarantine impacted friendships, navigating dating when you are chronically ill, and why you shouldn’t making snap judgments about potential dates based on their social media.
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Caitlin Kelley, host of What The Fuck’s Up podcast, joins us for a deep dive into all things cheating. We analyze your responses to a series of cheating-focused IG story question boxes and polls, and discuss why people cheat, if they get caught if they come clean, the long term impacts of cheating and being cheated on, and how cheaters feel in the moment.
Caitlin shares her own story of being cheated on, why she initially chose to give him the benefit of the doubt, and what finally pushed her over the edge and caused her to end it for good. Finally, we debate the age old question, “Once a cheater, always a cheater?”
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On this episode I sit down with the woman who shares a story about being diagnosed with vaginismus. Vaginismus is a condition in which the vaginal muscles contract involuntarily during any form of vaginal penetration. Depending on the woman, the effects of vaginismus can vary from mild discomfort to severe pain. She shares what it was like to receive her diagnosis and how it’s impacted her dating life and daily life ever since.
We’re staying calm this month so we can be our best selves. Whether you’re dealing with dating burnout, debating getting back out there after a break over the summer, or fresh out of a toxic situationship, there’s nothing that Mindset Wellness CBD’s Calm Gummies can’t help you get through. What are you waiting for? Try them today at www.mindsetwellness.com
Artist and songwriter Gayle joins the show today to talk about what it’s like transforming her dating experiences into music and lyrics. We talk about the breakup that led to her new single "abcdefu," what it’s like putting her raw emotions out there for the world to hear, turning heartbreak into music, dating within the industry, writing revenge songs, the fear of never being good enough, and more.
Check out the song "abcdefu" here and follow Gayle on Instagram.
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TW: the following content may be sensitive for those who have experienced any form of sexual assault.
On today’s episode, I’m joined by a woman who had a nonconsensual sexual experience when she was a college student. We hear about the events leading up to this, what actually happened in the moment, and how it’s impacted her long term. We discuss guilt, trust, consent, communication, safe dating and more.
We’re focusing on staying calm this month so we can be our best selves in our daily lives and our dating lives. Whether you’re dealing with dating burnout, debating getting back out there after a break over the summer, or fresh out of a toxic situationship, there’s nothing that Mindset Wellness CBD’s Calm Gummies can’t help you get through. What are you waiting for? Try them today at www.mindsetwellness.com
Tinah (with an H) Ogalo, host of the In Your Twentys podcast, joins us today for a deep dive into the most controversial and shocking poll results from the @seeingotherpeople Instagram Story that you’ve all been voting on. Get ready to hear about politics, cheating, family involvement, social media stalking, commitment issues, exclusivity and more.
We’re focusing on staying calm this month so we can be our best selves in our daily lives and our dating lives. Whether you’re dealing with dating burnout, debating getting back out there after a break over the summer, or fresh out of a toxic situationship, there’s nothing that Mindset Wellness CBD’s Calm Gummies can’t help you get through. What are you waiting for? Try them today at www.mindsetwellness.com
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TW: the following content may be sensitive for those with an eating disorder.
On today’s episode, we hear from a 25 year old male who has struggled with body image issues and an eating disorder. He shares what it’s been like to date and use dating apps when you aren’t comfortable in your own skin.
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Today we’re joined by Dr. Abby Medcalf, psychologist, best-selling author of "Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won't Do a Thing Kindle" and host of the "Relationships Made Easy" podcast. We’re sitting down to discuss everything that you need to know about moving on, leaving the past in the past and not letting previous dating and relationship experiences impact present and future ones. Abby walks us through getting closure with yourself, learning how to live in the moment and not in the past, having high standards and low expectations, learning to trust yourself, setting boundaries, and more.
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On today’s episode, Ilana sits down with Daniela, a 27 year old female living in Toronto, Canada. Daniela shares the story of the breakup she went through due to her partner's parents not supporting their relationship because of factors including her ethnicity, immigration status, age, career, and appearance. We discuss how this impacted her relationship, her self worth, and her values when it comes to dating and searching for a life partner.
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LDR (Long Distance Relationship) survivors Jamie and Max walk us through the highs and lows of the four year long distance span of their relationship. We discuss their decision to pursue a long distance relationship during college, how they involved each other in their lives from afar, what visiting each other was like, how important it was to trust one another and practice straightforward communication, the shift that occurred when Max graduated and was starting his career in NYC during Jamie’s senior year of college, what aspects of their LDR made their now in person relationship stronger, how their LDR helped shape them into the independent and self sufficient people that they are today, and more.
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Ilana sits down with a 28 heterosexual woman who currently lives in New York. She opens up about her first dating app experiences in 2019, which included somebody who ghosted her out of nowhere followed by a situation that had a tremendous negative impact on her mental and physical health. We discuss how she overcame these traumatizing experiences in order to get back out there and end up in a healthy relationship.
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Damona Hoffman is the Host of the podcast Dates & Mates, the official Dating Coach for OkCupid, a Love Expert on The Drew Barrymore Show, an Advice Columnist and more. Damona joins us to discuss the way dating has changed overtime, how we give dating apps too much power, why having a phone call before a date can be a game changer, what exclusivity really means and how to know if you’re exclusive with someone, and what happens if you actually express what you want.
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Ilana sits down with a 32 year old who called off her marriage just two months before the wedding. We hear what led to this decision, how she went about ending the engagement, what she’s learned from this experience, and what advice she has for anyone who is going through something similar or questioning whether or not their relationship is built to last.
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Serena Kerrigan, the Queen of Confidence and the creator of the show and card game Let’s Fcking Date and the new card game Let’s Fcking F*ck, joins us today to give us the scoop on how we can be more confident in our dating lives. We chat about how to portray yourself on dating apps, why texting isn’t real and you should get to the date before stalking and talking too much, whether or not they always come back, how it’s tough to see an ex move on, prioritizing work and relationships at the same time, getting back out there after heartbreak, and why you need to talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend.
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A 27-year-old woman takes over the Unfiltered mic to share her experience exploring her sexuality and coming out as bisexual.
She explains what led to this exploration, what her first dating experience with a woman was like, and how she came out to the people in her life.
Anonymous opens up about the ups and downs of dating each gender, why dating apps don’t make bisexual dating easy, common misconceptions of bisexuality, and advice she has for anyone else who is considering exploring their sexuality.
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Backed by popular demand, Ilana’s boyfriend Jake is joining the show for a tell all about their relationship. Ilana and Jake open up about how everything unfolded, starting with their Hinge meet-cute where Ilana didn’t respond, and followed by a “just fine” first date where the sparks were MIA.
They share how things progressed, why Ilana wasn’t anxious for the first time, and when and how they became official. We also hear their first fight go down as they debate some of these details.
Ilana and Jake answer listener questions about pre-date nerves, timing, communication, what it’s like dating a "dating expert," how long it took to feel comfortable with each other, what Jake likes and doesn’t like about Ilana and more. Jake closes out the episode by begging you to please support his girlfriend by following @seeingotherpeople on IG, signing up for the Patreon, leaving 5 star reviews, and sending the podcast to your friends.
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On this episode of Unfiltered I sit down with Austin (30M) who lives in Australia. When Austin was 15, he met someone who he ended up dating and marrying when he was 21. By the time he was 25, they got divorced, leaving him to enter the dating world for the first time as a single divorcee. He shares why his childhood experiences made him value love and relationships, and how his journey to really finding his person has been very difficult. We discuss what it was like for him to tell people that he was divorced, and we hear about the similarities and differences between dating in the US and dating in Australia.
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Love, Communication and Intimacy Coach Shaun Galanos aka @thelovedrive joins us on Seeing Other People to share his expertise on how to be a better communicator, and all things DTR (defining the relationship). We discuss how to practice vulnerability and learn how to openly communicate, why you should explore the edges of your comfort zone, what to disclose and what not to disclose prior to meeting someone, how to navigate you or your date having a fear of commitment, what to do when someone says they’re not looking for something serious, when and how to have the DTR convo, what to do if they’re not on the same page, and more. We close out the episode by answering listener questions.
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On this Unfiltered episode we’re joined by a 26 year old female who was diagnosed with herpes. She shares what it was like receiving her diagnosis, communicating it to the person who transmitted it to her and what it’s been like to date with herpes. We hear how her diagnosis impacted her mental health and self worth and she walks us through the steps she took to get herself back to a good place. We learn about the common misconceptions about herpes, the resources that are available for those who find out they have herpes and how we can better communicate about sexually transmitted infections in order to reduce the stigma.
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Ilana’s older brother Andrew (31) is joining us on the podcast today to reassure us that once a fckboy, not always a fckboy. After years of immersing himself in a fuckboy bro-y culture (including being his fraternity’s social chair, promoting parties, and working for a nightlife startup), he turned a corner and began to learn that human connection and vulnerability was more valuable and fulfilling than partying and sex. Andrew walks us through what sparked his transformation, including taking a break from alcohol and dating while spending time in India, his move to the San Francisco Bay Area which allowed him to explore the spectrums of sex, gender, identity, etc., studying attachment styles, spirituality, and researching how childhood and ancestral trauma prevent us from showing up fully in life, and are often present major challenges in relationships of all types.
Check out a piece by Andrew on his womanizing past: https://link.medium.com/65gcweVc2hb
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On this Unfiltered episode, we’re joined by a 26 year old straight male in the New York City area to hear about his recent relationship that led him to experience anxiety the first time in his life. He shares what caused the anxiety – including the red flags that he ignored, what it felt like, and how he seeks out help by communicating to friends and family and starting therapy.
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Kim Murstein and Grandma Gail from the Excuse My Grandma podcast join the show this week to discuss the generational differences of what dating is like now vs when Grandma Gail was searching for love. We talk about how dating has changed over time, when and how “dating” began, social media’s role in dating, the ability to stalk a potential date or an ex, having too many options, the most surprising things about dating in the 50s and dating now, and more.
Follow along at @excusemygrandma, @seeingotherpeople and @ilana.dunn.
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On this episode of Unfiltered, I’m joined by Caroline, a 27 year old living in New York City who is navigating dating after losing her older brother. She shares what it’s like to communicate her loss to a date, what people’s reactions have been, and how each individual has their own personal preference on the grieving process and on how and when to have these conversations with a potential partner. Caroline and I discuss how people can have more thoughtful and empathetic conversations surrounding loss and grief in order to destigmatize and reduce the overall awkwardness.
Follow along on Instagram @seeingotherpeople and @ilana.dunn.
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Ilana sits down with Julie and Danielle, the founders of Fourplay Social, a double dating app where friends team up and match with other pairs. We hear about why the duo decided to create a new dating app, the benefits of double dating are, how you can be a good wing-person for your single friends, and how to make dating fun when you feel burnt out. We also discuss why first dates shouldn’t be longer than an hour, how important the little things in dating are.
Follow @fourplaysocial, visit Fourplay Social’s website at https://www.fourplaysocial.com/
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Twenty-seven year old NYC resident, listener and friend Helena joins the Unfiltered family today to discuss the challenges of dating when you’ve never been in a relationship before. She opens up about the pressure she feels from her family, society, and herself to find love. Helena shares what she feels like she’s missing out on, how she discusses her “relationship history” with potential partners, and what her fears are for the future.
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Smiley Poswolsky, author of Friendship in the Age of Loneliness, joins Ilana on Seeing Other People to discuss human connection in today’s society and culture. Smiley shares his research and knowledge on opening your world up to new people, digging deeper with the people that you know, using technology to foster more meaningful connections, and more. He gives advice on maintaining friendships when you or a friend gets into a new relationship, what to do when your friend’s new significant other is bringing them down, and how to be a good friend to someone going through heartbreak or a difficult time.
Follow Smiley @whatsupsmiley, visit Smiley’s website at https://smileyposwolsky.com/ and head to Amazon to buy the book!
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On this episode of unfiltered, I’m joined by a 24 year old female who has been grappling with religious sexual shame while trying to date. From a young age, she was taught that dating and sexual experiences were for marriage only. She has spent years reflecting on her religious upbringing and is now committed to starting over and dictating her own values as she beings to explore how she feels about casual dating, relationships, and the entire world of modern dating.
Follow along on Instagram @seeingotherpeople and @ilana.dunn.
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Ilana sits down with Matthew Wurnig, the creator and dater behind 50 Dates in 50 States. Matthew shares how he got the idea to do a date in every state during the pandemic, first virtually, and then IRL. We discuss what it’s like meeting and dating people from all different backgrounds, how the place you grow up can impact your dating life, and how dating culture differs from state to state. We also learn what Matthew has learned about himself and about human connection throughout his journey.
Check out Matthew’s journey on tiktok @50datesin50states and on IG @matthewwurnig.
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I discuss:
-My thoughts on the last two episodes,
- What if we never find our person?
-My experience with medication for my anxiety and depression associated with dating and relationships
-Q&A
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Real people. Real stories. Real life. Anonymous listeners join the show to have vulnerable and open conversations about what they’ve struggled with in their dating lives, what they wish they knew when going through their experience, and how they came out stronger. Topics to expect include dating after experiencing loss, STIs, eating disorders, abortions, mental health, trauma and more. No matter what you’re going through, you’re not alone. This is Seeing Other People UNFILTERED. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD.
On the first episode of UNFILTERED, Ilana is joined by Anonymous who is currently struggling to get over her ex after a difficult breakup. We hear about the events that unfolded leading to the breakup, how she feels addicted to checking his social media, and why we often stay in unhealthy relationships even when we know we deserve more.
7:18 How Ilana and our Anonymous guest met
10:36 A letter from Anonymous to her ex
20:08 The relationship – what went down?
36:30 Walking away isn't easy
38:56 Ilana shares her breakup story
44:53 Feeling unworthy of the person you’re with
48:02 How Ilana and Anonymous have been working together
54:01 What you’re mourning with heartbreak
1:00:09 Regrets
1:06:38 Listener questions
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On this episode of Seeing Other people, Ilana is joined by Sarah Sasson, her best friend and the co-host of the It’s Fine, I’m Fine podcast. Ilana and Sarah discuss overcoming the loneliness that comes with singlehood, how to make the most of being the only single one in the friend group, and why the more you know yourself the harder (but more rewarding) dating can be.
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On this special episode of Seeing Other People, we’re parting ways with one of our beloved hosts. We’re bad at goodbyes, but we did our best. Plus, it’s not goodbye, it’s see you later (worldwide…on a big screen…or a small screen…lots of screens…ok just listen). Tune in to hear the breaking news.
Follow along and keep in touch www.instagram.com/jonahfeingold and make sure to check out Jonah’s new film Dating and New York!
We’re diving into the ins and outs of being vulnerable in your dating life. When do you start opening up and being vulnerable? How can you be vulnerable without putting yourself at risk of over sharing? If someone’s not opening up to you, how can you encourage them to? What do you do if you feel closed off and afraid to be vulnerable after a heartbreak? Later in the episode, we practice vulnerability by playing the We’re Not Really Strangers card game and learn more about each other and ourselves in the process.
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We’re back with another full Q&A episode! How can you close the door on someone once and for all? How many dates in should you delete your dating apps? How do you tell your ex you want to give it another chance? How should you handle a crush on a coworker? What if you don't feel physically attracted to someone? All of this and more.
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Jeremy Jacobowitz aka Brunch Boys chats with Jonah and Ilana about all things going out on dates. Who should pay? Should it be drinks or dinner? What food is okay to order on a first date? How to maintain the same drinking speed as your partner - and more in this hilarious episode that pokes fun and brings awareness to the nuances of modern dating. The episode wraps with some listener questions
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Jenna Langbaum, author of “Me in Search of You,” joins us on this episode of Seeing Other People. Jenna’s writing beautifully dissects the nuances of modern dating, ghosting, and dating apps and helps to remind us that we’re not alone in what we’re facing, as we’re all connected by shared dating struggles. We discuss how the concept of ghosting is actually insane and how painful and confusing getting ghosted can really be. We explore how dating apps have led us to consider potential partners based on their basic credentials. We debate if dating is really just a numbers game. Finally, Jenna helps us answer listener questions about whether or not to text a guy after meeting at a party and spending the night, what to do when your friend’s SO is toxic, and how to navigate simply not liking your friend’s partner.
“Me in Search of You” is available everywhere books are sold. Follow Jenna @jennalangbaum for more!
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Situationships? More like situationshits. We’re diving into the ins and outs of situationships with Ali and Roark of Finding Mr. Height: The Podcast. What exactly is a situationship and how do you know if you’re in one? Can you turn a situationship into a relationship? How do you know when it’s time to leave? We’re discussing all of this, answering listener questions, and so much more.
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We go on a date with Alexis Wolfe AKA @nycdatenite to talk all about post-pandemic dating. From getting back out there and going on that first in-person date in over a year, to determining what the best and worst types of places to go on a first date are, we’re covering all of the bases for you to shoot your shot at love (after getting that #vax shot).
-How to choose a first date spot
-What not to talk about on your date
-Why you shouldn’t have a regular “first date spot”
-What to do if you’re not yet comfortable with indoor dining
-How to tell someone you don’t want to go to the place they suggested
-What to do if you think you’re getting ghosted
-Bachelor & Bachelorette of the week
Follow Alexis at @nycdatenite and check out her website www.nycdatenite.com.
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hey fam, here's a sneak preview of TWISOP, our weekly patreon episode where we talk all inner-canon SOP things, personal lives, and overall just a fun convo.
In this episode, when was the last time we cried? Did you know Ilana owned birds growing up? And let's talk about Jonah's summer romance with ____ from Starbucks.
have a great week and enjoy!
We'd love your support
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We chat with Sandro D’Abruzzo, author of “So You Think You Can Date?” We hear what led Sandro to write about how to find success in dating and his experiences dating around the world. We discuss the importance of being yourself from the start in any dating situation, and get into the nitty gritty of how to actually practice being yourself. Sandro shares what the process of writing his book was like, and we dive into topics like spontaneity, self perception, and whether or not guys are complicated or overly simple.
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We love when you ask us questions, so we're taking up a whole episode to answer as many of them as we can! We're answering questions including:
Do people deserve second chances? How soon is too soon to have sex?
If we didn't kiss on the first date, is it doomed?
How do I ask someone to put effort into planning dates?
Why do people lose interest?Do guys still ask to be official?
Plus long distance, pandemicships, DTR, and more!
Have a question that you need answered? Email us seeingotherpeoplepodcast@gmail.com or check out our Instagram Story AMAs every Friday and Sunday @seeingotherpeople.
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hey fam, here's a sneak preview of TWISOP, our weekly patreon episode where we talk all inner-canon SOP things, personal lives, and overall just a fun convo.
in this episode, how a double message on Hinge led to romance, Jonah in need of new things to talk about besides dating, and much more!
have a great weekend and enjoy!
We'd love your support
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Today's guest is Noa Porten who hosts the Spooning with Spoonies podcast where she chats about dating and relationships with experts, singles, and couples from the chronic illness community. We learn how chronic illness can impact someone’s dating life and daily life, and how tools like setting boundaries and practicing open communication are crucial in the search for a lasting romantic partnership. For those who are chronically ill, Noa shares advice on how and when to comfortably communicate information about your chronic illness to someone you’re seeing. For listeners who do not have a chronic illness, we learn more about what it means to have chornic illness and how we can best support someone if and when they inform us of theirs.
Check out @spooningwithspoonies and listen to the show on your favorite podcast platform!
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The episode you probably knew you needed is finally here. Are your texting habits holding you back from finding what you’re looking for? Are they not into you if they don’t text you back right away? Can it work if you’re a “bad” texter? Are you rightfully stressing over your crush’s response time or are you expecting too much? Does lack of texting mean the relationship is doomed before it even started? We’re breaking down everything about texting when it comes to dating so you can have the tools to text for success. Towards the end of the episode, we shift gears and answer your questions about paying for dating apps, when is the right time to make things official, and how to ask friends and family to set you up with people without coming off as desperate.
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hey fam, here's a sneak preview of TWISOP, our weekly patreon episode where we talk all inner-canon SOP things, personal lives, and overall just a fun convo.
have a great weekend and enjoy!
We'd love your support
https://www.patreon.com/seeingotherpeople
xo
Jonah and Ilana
Nicole Pellegrino, cohost of the Betches Brides podcast joins us to prep you all for this year’s wedding season. Nicole spills the secrets to what has kept her eight year relationship going strong how we can work towards keeping that relationship (once we all find it). She shares the important of enjoying your independence when you’re single and carrying that independence with you into a relationship. Nicole gives us the scoop on what brides and grooms are doing to help their single friends out at weddings, and we discuss how we can all turn weddings into opportunities to spark your own love story by putting yourself out there to meet someone new at a wedding. Finally, we debate how soon is too soon to start planning your wedding. Hear more from Nicole on @betchesbrides and @nicolepellegrin0!
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Not having the best luck meeting people on dating apps? This episode is all about other ways you can put yourself out there and find love. Whether it be the comment section of a post on any platform, through TikTok (Jonah’s favorite dating app), sliding into the DMs, or finding love on Club Penguin (Ilana’s pick), it’s not all about dating apps. Our listeners chime in to tell us about their experiences meeting people via email, Instagram DM, and from a TikTok video. We discuss the right ways to approach people on all different platforms so you can set yourself up for success. Later, we change gears to meeting someone IRL– in an elevator to be specific, as we sit down with Ilana’s good friend and former FWB, Alex. Ilana and Alex share their story of their transition from friends, to friends with benefits, to a situationship that took them on a European "honeymoon," all the way to a potential relationship, and finally to a friendship-ruining spiral. We dive into the nuances of friends with benefits, whether or not it’s possible to go from FWB to a relationship, and if you can be FWB without ruining the friendship.
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Welcome to a new segment - This Week In Seeing Other People aka TWISOP - a Patreon only weekly segment where we discuss the episode of the week, what's happening on the internet, our dating lives, and any and all things related to the Seeing Other People universe.
In this episode we talk whether booty calls can turn into relationships or friendships, the 48 hour rule on creative decision making, and more!
Support us on Patreon to listen, get discounts on merch, a dating profile re-vamp, and more!
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We’re kicking off our Thursday episode series by catching up with Bachelor Nation’s Ed Weisbrot. We hear about Ed’s dating life since his time on Clare/Tayshia’s season and he shares how being on the show reinforced the importance of authenticity, vulnerability and communication. Ed talks about why he has chosen to stay off of dating apps, how he’s been meeting people IRL, and why Whole Foods is the best spot to find your soulmate. We discuss whether or not all dates should end with a rose ceremony, what the audience saw vs. what really went down throughout, and what really happened on that infamous night when he knocked on Chris Harrison's door. Finally, Ilana shoots her shot with Ed.
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We're joined by comedian Rishi Mather who kicks off the episode by sharing how he’s been navigating his parents’ disapproval of his engagement. We discuss how some couples stay together even while being unhappy because of what society would think of them if they split up, especially in Indian culture. Rishi tells us how he met his now fiancé on Tinder (we love a dating app success story!) and spent four days building up the courage to send that opening message. What started out as a booty call ended up slowly developing into a long-term situation ship, and after months of unpacking each other’s pasts and learning everything about each other, they finally made things official. We close the episode out with a few rounds of ‘Save The Date’ to determine how you can bounce back from date-ruining scenarios including screenshooting their text and accidentally sending it back to them, unexpectedly blurting out “I love you,” and the unfortunate but classic stomach-issues-at-their-place debacle.
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Welcome to a new segment - This Week In Seeing Other People aka TWISOP - a Patreon only weekly segment where we discuss the episode of the week, what's happening on the internet, our dating lives, and any and all things related to the Seeing Other People universe.
In this episode we talk about a popular dating trend amongst listeners, how to tell if someone is single from their IG grid, and the behind the scenes look at Ilana's smash hit IG post.
Support us on Patreon to listen, get discounts on merch, a dating profile re-vamp, and more!
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New Yorker and friend of the show, Derek Lindsey, joins us today to share his experience coming out in his late twenties. Derek opens up about his fears about coming out and shares what finally pushed him to do so. We dive into the differences between straight and gay dating on dating apps as well as specific nuances of gay vs straight relationships. Derek gives his advice for anyone who might be struggling with their sexuality or debating whether or not to come out. Later, we discuss how Derek’s family and friends reacted to the news, and Derek provides his insight on what he wishes people knew about how to navigate that conversation with a friend or loved one who is coming out. Finally, we answer listener questions about the spark disappearing, how long you should wait for someone to be ready to date after getting out of a relationship, and how to choose between wanting something fun and wanting something longterm.
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A preview from our monthly Patreon only episode. Jonah tells us about his love at first date moment, and Ilana shares why she’s afraid to develop feelings for someone. The two discuss a few more intimate topics about their personal lives, including the anxiety that comes from finally liking someone.
To listen to the full episode, and get a handful of bonus perks, join us on Patreon at the link below!
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We’re hanging (socially distanced…of course) it with Jared Freid on this episode of Seeing Other People! We kick things off with a friendly reminder that social media relationships aren’t what they seem. We chat about how communication is easier said than done, because we all have different definitions of what each step of the modern dating process means to us. Jared shares what he would do to fix modern dating if he was cupid. Later, we play a game of “Save The Date” where we dissect potential date fail scenarios and come up with game plans to help you save the date in the moment if this ever happens to you. Jared helps us answer listener questions including: what to do if you don’t like your friend’s girlfriend, why guys bring up future plans while on the first date, and how to slide into the DMs.
Check out Jared’s comedy special ‘Socially Distanced…Of Course’ on Youtube and take a listen to The Jtrain Podcast and U Up?
We’re sitting down (virtually) with Jon and Rene Shapiro, husband and wife and founders Mixology and Mindset Wellness CBD. The Shapiros open up about the highs and lows of building a life, a family and a business together. They share how Rene supported Jon through his battle with anxiety and depression, how they struggled to separate not bringing work home with them, and why they decided to leave the fashion industry behind to build a CBD company together. Finally, we answer listener questions about what to do if you know someone might be cheating, how to navigate being stuck in the penpal zone, and whether or not you should let your new significant other know which friend(s) you have history with.
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We're traveling back in time with Francesca Beauman, writer, historian, and the world’s leading expert in Personal Ads, to learn about how people “dated” throughout history. We discuss how we got to where we are in dating culture, and how society transitioned from arranged marriages and courting to the casual hookup culture of today’s modern dating world. We learn how advancements like transportation and technology impacted the way people date, and finally we chat about what dating might look like 100 years from now (and what people then think of how we dated in 2021.)
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"Get an abortion" was not on her college bucket list. She never thought she would have to call her parents and say, "I'm pregnant." Our guest opens up about her experience getting an abortion her senior year of college. She shares everything from moment she found out, to the aftermath and trauma she's dealt with as a result. We learn how her friends and family helped her get through it, and we hear about what was going through her mind as she made important decisions including not telling the guy she had been sleeping with that she was pregnant. Whether or not this has or will happen to you or someone you know, we encourage you to listen and learn with an open mind and an open heart.
For more information about pregnancy, birth control, women's health, and more, please visit www.plannedparenthood.com.
We’re joined by Amy Chan, Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of Breakup Bootcamp -The Science of Rewiring Your Heart. In this episode, we learn how to navigate what happens in your brain and your body when you go through a breakup. We discuss what steps you should take if you’re struggling to get over someone, how to identify when you’re ready to get back out there, and why you shouldn’t spend your time in bed with chocolate, ice cream, wine and rom-coms. Finally, we chat about the importance of friendship in getting over someone and how you can support a friend who is going through a breakup.
Happy almost February 14th! AKA, the day that comes after February 13th and before February 15th. If this day makes you anxious, nervous, or sad, have no fear. We are here to walk you through being single AND happy on V****tine's Day. We chat about our past Feb 14th experiences, what to do and what not to do on the day, and we treat you to some hilarious listener-submitted date fails.
We’re going head to head with Lindsey Metselaar, host of We Met at Acme, to debate some of the most common "rules" of dating, including girls shouldn't text first and whether or not you should send a "thank you" text after a date. We discuss what went down when we first met and went on a date back in 2019, and Lindsey gives us the low down on whether or not we're are astrologically compatible. Finally, Lindsey spills the tea on the time she crafted all of her friend's texts to a guy...for three months...
Repeat after us: being thirty and single is OKAY. We're joined by Zahra Sahebzada who is here to discuss her experiences dating in New York City as an Afghan Muslim. Zahra breaks down what it's like to be the first in her family to not have an arranged marriage, how to not feel like there's something wrong with you if you haven't found your person by the age you hoped to, how stalking someone on social media before you get the chance to know them IRL can be misguiding, and more. We close out the episode by answering listener-submitted questions about intentions, communication, and at what point to give up hope on a conversation progressing. Follow @zahrasahebzada and @seeingotherpeople for more!
Why am I not getting any matches? Why are my conversations not turning into dates? What is the deal with all of the fish photos? If you've ever asked yourself any of these questions, we promise you're not alone. This episode is the ultimate guide to setting yourself up for success on dating apps starting with choosing the right photos and prompt answers, to having productive conversations, and getting out on dates.
On this week's episode, we're sharing our listener's responses to what they wish the people they were dating knew. It's the tell-all that you didn't know you desperately needed to hear.
Ladies, buckle up and get ready to find out what the guys out there are begging you to realize. Gentleman, tune in to hear what the ladies are really thinking and what "it's fine" actually means!
We're breaking down what it really means to be a fkperson with the help of @dfarella, everyone’s favorite internet boyfriend. What are a f*y's true intentions? What do you do if you start sending fy behavior from someone you're interested in? Are fy misunderstood? Is there a little f***y in all of us? We answer all of these questions, and more.
Follow us on Instagram @seeingotherpeople Twitter @seeingotherppls, TikTok @seeingotherpeople and email your dating questions to us seeingotherpeoplepodcast@gmail.com.
New year, new podcast! Hey guys, it’s Ilana and Jonah and we are back and better than ever! Today is Dating Sunday, the busiest online dating day of the year, and the perfect day to kick off Episode 1 of our brand new podcast, Seeing Other People. We’re catching up the status of our relationship, the current state of dating, what it’s been like to be single during quarantine, and SO MUCH MORE. Episodes will come out weekly on Tuesdays. Follow us on Twitter @seeingotherppls, TikTok @seeingotherpeople, Ilana's Instagram @ilana.dunn, Jonah's Instagram @jonahfeingold and email your dating questions to us seeingotherpeoplepodcast@gmail.com. TEXT & CALL US (929) 400-7104.
Intro and Outro Music By: Grant Fonda