Voice Notes to Self: Recent Episodes
Helen
Welcome to Voice Notes to Self! I’m Helen :)
Each episode is like a journal entry in the internet void, meant for my future self to listen back on when I need comfort, motivation, or advice. If that sounds interesting to you, then feel free to stick around and listen!
Healthy breaks are like healthy meals that will provide sustenance and good health in the long run. Unhealthy breaks are like junk food and can drain you even more. Also, how you act and what you do everyday defines who you are. A teacher always said: Everyday is an audition.
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Float above the thunderstorm.
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I talk to myself without editing or filler words just to hear what it sounds like and practice confident speaking.
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Just trying to understand my emotions and get it all out. My thoughts after taking a GWSS class in college.
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You don't have to take your hobbies so seriously, just enjoy them. Don't be afraid of judgement from others. As long as you're having fun, it's all that matters.
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Dump of my thoughts 1:
Gorgeous Gorgeous Girls are confident, compassionate, and don't need others' judgments Handling Expectations: manage your expectations to manage your emotions Capture the Moment: for yourself bc you find beauty in the present, not bc you think it'll look cool to others on social media
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- Write a letter to your 35 year old self. What are your hopes and dreams for that person? What would you like to say to him or her?
- Now, have your 35 yr old self write a letter to who you are now. What do you think they’d like to say to you in the present?
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Forward Thinking
What is your reaction to the fact that your brain is still wiring up in your twenties? Does that information feel more like an explanation, an excuse, or an opportunity? Is there anything about your life now that you would like not to be doing in five years? If so, why are you doing it now?
Social Experiment
Measure your screen time for a week. On average, how many hours do you spend? What might you do with that time instead? Do you imagine these activities would make you happier or healthier than screen time? How has screen time and social media affected your relationships with family, friends, and lovers? What are the lessons to be learned here?
Calm Yourself
Reflect on a time when life was uncertain for you. What did you expect to happen? What actually ended up happening? What did you do that was helpful or not during that time? Are there lessons there for life in your twenties? How do you calm yourself when you feel anxious or upset? Do you consider your ways of coping healthy or problematic?
Outside In
The author states whether we are talking about love or work, the confidence that overrides insecurity comes from experience. What experiences have you had at work or in love that have built confidence? It takes about ten thousand hours to be truly good at something. What this means is that there is a lot you can still master or make a part of who you are, by thirty and beyond. If you had ten thousand hours to develop a habit, or to gain an area of expertise, what would it be?
Getting along and Getting Ahead
Describe one thing you would like to change about your current self by the age of 30.Say something about how you plan to do it and what might (but won’t) get in the way Social investment theory suggests that growth and maturity come from the experiences we have rather than just through time. What are your thoughts on this and what experiences, if any, are helping grow in your twenties?
Every Body
The author takes a knowledge is power approach to talking to men and women about fertility. What are your thoughts on thinking about and learning about your own fertility in your twenties? Do you think you would like to have children? If so, how many, in what way (e.g. pregnancy, adoption, surrogacy) and at what ages? What might this mean about the relationships you have in your twenties?
Do the Math
Leonard Bernstein said: To achieve great things, two things are needed. A plan, and not quite enough time. In fact, when we plan things out we often realize we have less time than we think. Using whatever format that works for you, make a rough plan for your life over the next ten years. Include what you might like to accomplish in terms of work, love, travel, money, friends, family, health, habits, you name it. Now, reflect on the process. What did you discover by putting your hopes and dreams on a timeline? Was sketching out your plan scary or exciting or organizing or all of the above and more? What does this plan mean for your twenties?
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Upmarket Convo
- What do you think about the notion that who you partner with is the most important decision you will ever make? Do you agree or disagree?
- Do you take your love life as seriously as work or school? Why or why not? Is this something you’d like to change? If so, how?
Picking Your Family
- What sort of family do you imagine having one day? Is this different or similar to the one in which you grew up?
- Does the notion of “picking your family” set up unrealistic expectations for your partner’s family and the role they need to play?
Dating Down
- Is there a way that you sometimes date down or have dated down in the past? How do you think this has affected you? Why do you think this happened and how might you change this or have changed this already? You know what they say: “Practice makes perfect” So be careful what you’re practicing
- What is your “perceived mate value” or how likable or loveable or desirable do you think you are and why? Does the notion of a perceived mate value even make sense or is it too rooted in comparisons to cultural ideals?
Cohabitation Effect
- When it comes to living with someone, the author warns against what cohabitation researcher Scott Stanley calles sliding, not deciding. To make cohabitation a more conscious process, what are some questions you might like to ask a partner before and after you move in together?
- Lock-in can occur in relationships or at work. How do you know when you’re experiencing lock-in in a relationship or in a job that has run its course? And how do you get yourself out?
Being in Like
- Have you ever been in love or in lust but not in “like”? How could you tell and how did this play out over time?
- The author mentions traveling as one way to find out how compatible you and your partner are. Name five other activities or experiences you could try
29 Convos
- The author shared 29 conversations she suggests readers should be asking their partners and themselves about their relationships. How many topics can you and your partner disagree on before it's too many?
- When is the right time to have these sorts of conversations? Is it ever too early or too late to have such talks? Is it ever too soon to be thinking of these scenarios yourself?
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Identity Capital
- What are 10 pieces of identity capital you have right now? What are 3 you’d like to earn?
- Must every job add to identity capital? When is it ever all right to work a Starbucks-type job?
Weak Ties
- List 5 weak ties and how they might help you with where you’d like to go next. How can you reach out to them when the time is right? What’s keeping you from doing this?
- Think of three times when weak ties helped you learn or gain something new or pivotal. Why do you think they helped you in this way?
Unthought Known
- What might you tell yourself or do when you feel like you don’t know what to do with your life? How would you advise a friend?
- When you were younger, what did you want to be when you grew up? What were you good at both in and out of school? Did what you want overlap with what you were good at? Why or why not?
My Life Should Look Better on IG
- What effect does social media seem to have on your mood, self-esteem, or mental health? Do you think they have an influence on what you think you should be doing in your twenties or with your life? Do you think they motivate you to do better or strive for more?
Search for Glory
- Imagine your life after graduation or over the next 5 years is a table with three jars of jam. What are those 3 jars and why? What does comparing them tell you about which jar to choose first?
Customized Life
- If a career is like a customized bike or something you build as you go along, what are components that you think you’d want to start with? And some you’d like to aspire to?
- How do you create a story about yourself that is told during interviews if you don’t feel like you have one? Think about identity capital and how the pieces fit. Think about how you grew up and how that relates to who you are and who you want to be. Think about something that makes you different from your best friend. Last but not least, consider asking a friend to tell you your story
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- On average, adults now settle down later. What are some benefits and risks of this? How will you use this to better your life? What are pitfalls you want to avoid?
- What do your parents/those around you expect of you in your twenties? Is this at odds with what you want for yourself?
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- 80% of life’s most defining moments take place by age thirty five
- Consequential experiences aren’t all that grand or exciting
- They're usually people, jobs, or conversations that provided little immediate dramatic effect
- It’s never too late to be intentional about taking charge of your life. Don’t let it be an excuse. The good place quote: It’s not about being good or bad. What’s important is being better than you were yesterday.
- What are some defining moments you hope will happen for yourself by 35?
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Basically I finished this book and would highly recommend cuz it was a great read that provides some guidance to lost people like me. TLDR: episode = chapter + thoughts + guided questions.
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There’s no ugly person, only one who undervalues themselves.
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- media. - Aging. - cult
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- health. - makes women weak.
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- a woman’s body isn’t her own. - turns women against each other. - capitalism
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Part 0 of notes on this book.
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Notes from drivers Ed just because.
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Interaction 101: Basically just some of my insights from my brain that kinda processes things differently about how social interaction works.
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Today, I read & respond to a letter that I wrote to myself exactly 1 yr ago!
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Part 14: Become One with the Universe
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Spiritual growth comes from experience, not theorizing or learning philosophies
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You’ll have merged into universal consciousness
- By letting negative energy pass, you’ll drift above it
- Like an individual ray becoming one with the light of the sun
- Seeing the world through universal consciousness
- no longer judge, only respect, honor, cherish, and appreciate
- You’ll see beauty in everything
- The world becomes a garden, ea. flower beautiful in its own ways
- Love like a mother: selfless, passionate & forgiving
- The sun doesn’t shine more on one than another
- The fruit gives to anyone willing to accept
- nature gives and gives to anyone willing to receive
- You only punish yourself by turning away from the universe’s beautiful creations
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Part 13: The Middle Path of Balance
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The middle path
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balance between opposites
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Some call it Dao
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It’s not good for a person to starve, nor is it good for a person to binge.
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You can’t survive on extremes
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In physics, there’s equal and opposite force
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When pendulum swings 30 degrees right from center, it swings back 30 degrees left from center
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Things are most efficient when centered and maintaining equilibrium; use little energy
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Trying to balance extremes would thus require the equal and opposite energy aka more energy which is inefficient & wasteful
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Quit smoking must take extreme because pendulum is swung already to outer edge
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Events last just as long as they’re taking place when energy isn’t taken out of extreme.
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Life will unfold on its own in the balance.
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Finding the balance point
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Like sailing, there’s a sweet spot with the wind, ropes, sail, water, and all forces in harmony.
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Balance point is dynamic and constantly changing. You can’t control it and make it fit your mental model; don't expect to remain stagnant
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Take notice like how a blind person using cane to feel for edges to avoid
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Examine the extreme to see effects
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How to reach balance?
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Just let go. Don’t touch it or contribute energy to it. Don’t participate
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Part 12: Reflect on Death
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Death is the best teacher, embrace it.
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It puts things in perspective (big picture)
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Why bother with small grudges?
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Scarcity makes life precious
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A dying person would envy your present. Would envy your normalcy
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Death shows that everything can be changed in an instant. It is a promise that all good or bad will come to an end
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Death can come at any moment. At any moment, what you’re doing right now is how someone died.
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Live life like every moment is the last b/c it very well could be
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How are you living right now? Is that how you want to live? What priorities, thoughts, actions would change?
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There’s no warning for death. You had all that time. Don’t ask for an extension. Why didn’t you use the time you were already given wisely?
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You can’t change life, only how you live your life
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The ultimate gift from life is the growth from experiencing it. Willingness to experience life events is what gives life meaning
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Don’t be mistaken, doesn’t mean YOLO recklessness. Your desire to get special experiences is just you making up for missing out on life’s regular special moments.
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Part 11: Don’t Resist
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Resistance creates stress
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Life is just an eternal sequence of events happening one after another. That’s the reality of life. It’s a gift of a flow of events that are presented in front of you
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Resistance stops you from noticing this sequence; stops you from living life
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Will power makes the body move, makes things happen.
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You have control, the power to affect things
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yet resistance to reality is resisting things that already took place; can't change those
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only resists energy from passing through -- simple terms. Hold a grudge
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Will power drains when struggling to resist
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You waste energy b/c what happened already passed
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You are only struggling w/yourself
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When you have fear/stress/anxiety over things that haven’t happened yet
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you’re throwing energy away b/c the chances of happening are slim
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It uses energy that could be used to deal with current awareness events & affects clarity
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No reason to stress or burn out when you don’t let willpower resist or build up negative energy
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Sometimes these things you resist aren’t even big, just build up big over time bc you didn’t let go soon enough
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Let it through you, view with objectivity
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Why did you decide to resist this one? Dig deep on preconceived notions & core issues
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Being present makes events clearer to see, less likely to get blocked
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Relax and release
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Part 10: Unconditional Happiness, No Matter What
- You only have one choice in life: do you want to be happy or not?
- It’s all under your control when you are aware
- If the answer’s really yes, don’t qualify
- remain happy no matter what life throws at you
- There'll be things that threaten your commitment to happiness but endure no matter what
- Think: are you really willing to let such little things break your life vow? Is that really worth closing your heart for?
Fact: you will die
- so just live a happy life
- There’s no reason not to be happy b/c
- Things are insignificant in comparison to the broader scope of things
- You gain nothing by being bothered
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You win the game of life if you continue being unbothered and happy
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Open your heart no matter what happens
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Part 9: Breaking Down Your Concept of Self
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Imagine you're locked in concrete house w/ protective shutters in an open field w/ sunshine
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House = mental confines
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walls of psyche = past emotions, experiences, hopes, dreams, memories-- thoughts
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you build controllable fake world inside
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your mind's walls breaks infinite uncontrollable universe into finite pieces you can wrap your head around
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The fact that you are president, athlete, etc. is only memory
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Thoughts are fake; don’t exist anymore
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more concentration = slower object passes & stops after long enough you cling to on building fixed sense of self
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time is infinite yet divided it into tomorrow, next week, month, to fit into mental model
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personalities/persona, values, consistent thoughts, emotions, definitions = secure & predictable behaviors/ world
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Expectations: try to alter others when they don’t act according to our expected behaviors ingrained by society
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When defensive/rationalize, you defend self concept/walls you built b/c your existence is at stake
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There is no winning though
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When foundation is shaken, you patch the cracks in the walls with more thoughts (excuses, reasoning)
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This model is very fragile and shatters easily by things out of your control
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natural to avoid running into the walls that are the boundary, like a tiger in a cage
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comfort zone = walls
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You’ll know you’ve met them when you feel resistance, discomfort, & insecurity
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You cling to consistency to build conceptual self
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Events that happened to the moment happened already. Let them come and go instead of clinging
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The center you watch disturbances from can’t get disturbed b/c awareness transcends all
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Only way out of walls is being aware that you’re aware; You do have control
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break mental model/Question self concept: observe when it shakes or collapses
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Your mind can’t make up reality because it exists outside of you
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you won’t live stressed out over everything
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See why you do things by not doing them (b/c you’re comfortable w/ routine, expectations & comfort)
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When you know why, dig down to next layer & ask why again
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can’t actually hurt you when on the edge; shows path to freedom
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Be willing to endure pain to push through the wall, go beyond
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commit to go beyond; once & for all to always let go (don't feed it energy); never back to comfort zone
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You’ll be at peace with the expansiveness of the universe because you won’t need to cling to stability
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Part 8 -- Pay the Price of Pain
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Pain is just a temporary shift in energy
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Embarrassment, jealousy, anger, hatred, are all just passing feelings
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It can’t touch you if you don’t touch it
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you're deep within your consciousness
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When you avoid confronting the pain, you are avoiding things that aren’t actually happening/hurting you
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What has hurt you has passed already
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Your mind thinks of the associated event/memory as painful & doesn't want to let it go
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On the other side of pain is freedom.
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Only when you let it pass can you reach freedom
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That tremendous heat/ burning energy you feel inside you when you feel pain (embarrassment, jealousy, anger, hatred etc.) is just the purification process of the energy
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Give it room to pass
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Stay open and receptive
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The worst the world can do to you is hurt you
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No need to be fearful; you know how to deal with the pain
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Part 7: Ultimate Freedom (of Your Soul)
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We don’t know we’re suffering b/c we’ve never known what it’s like not to suffer
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Thinking about self all the time is suffering b/c you’re trying to fix what’s wrong with you
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You only notice your body when it is not okay
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When functioning perfectly, you don’t notice
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Non suffering means never needing to think about or devote your life trying to fix what’s wrong w/you
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Your psyche isn’t okay b/c it has to do the impossible task of figuring out how to avoid fear and situations that will trigger your fears
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Your mind is therefore untrustworthy and can mislead you
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E.g. Trying to appease the problem by blaming the external world, finding external things to cover up the root problem/ outer solutions
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Don’t listen, don’t buy into it
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Stop expecting the mind to fix everything wrong with you
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E.g. how to make everyone like me, how to get everything I want
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You'll only have a never-ending stream of worries & problems
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Identify root problem & watch the mind think
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Thinking mind stops when you draw away your attention
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The mind follows after the heart
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When you let go from the heart 1st, the mind naturally will not follow through
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Part 6: Remove the Inner Thorn
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Imagine a thorn stuck in your skin
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Do you remove it now or leave it & don’t touch it?
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Not touching it avoids dealing with the pain but you end up with a whole lifetime of temporary solutions to work around the thorn & spend too much energy trying to not touch it
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Consciousness is drawn to most distracting object which only feeds it; not dealing right away wastes energy
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you let it run your life & become the center of your universe
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pain is minimized but doesn't go away
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Taking the thorn out may be painful but it’ll heal over time until you don't feel pain
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Resisting will only make you struggle more
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Attempting to avoid problems only creates more problems
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Having weakness only creates more weaknesses
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b/c anyone/thing at any moment can cause great disturbance/ fear to you
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To hide your weakness you try to keep things from happening or focus on things that already happened
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Not letting go will distort/ cloud emotions, consciousness, & objectivity. Kick survival instinct into action
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You become defensive & justify - You have expectation for how things should be & when they don’t go accordingly, you feel like things aren’t ok
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Accept that how life unfolds is out of your control. Don’t fight it or be afraid of it
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Life is actually trying to stimulate growth when you feel discomfort from fear
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When that point resurfaces, let it go right away b/c it'll not get any easier later
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embrace problems as an agent for growth instead of being defensive
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embrace change at all times
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To live life without fear:
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Remember that fear is a blockage in the heart; inner pain is always there just hidden deep inside
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Fear, insecurity, weakness, are just another thing we’re capable of experiencing
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The discomfort you feel is often concealed by shallower problems
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Remove the thorn by finding yourself
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Dig to the deep root thorn below
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Ask yourself why that pain is happening and peel back the layers to dig deep to the core issue
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When the feelings come up, just watch it; ultimately let it pass
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Part 5: The Key is Letting Go
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Why do you close your heart?
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originally primal instinct to defend yourself physically, now defend self concept & ego
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Everything little thing can trigger fear & insecurity & throw self concept out of balance
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You’re just a small speck passing through the universe on a rock spinning around a sun in the middle of space
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Don’t let meaningless things cause pain
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When every little thing can cause pain, you create rules for things that can/can't happen in the external world (which is out of your control) to protect yourself
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Everything now becomes a threat. You have so much vulnerabilities
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You are no longer free to be yourself b/c you don't have control
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To become liberated is simple: stop caring/protecting
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Start by noticing disturbances to your heart
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be conscious & recognize that you have ability to disengage
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Don’t change, judge, or fight it
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Concentrating on it only feed it and make it grow
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The moment you feel a change in energy or pull drawing you in, relax
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These energies will always be there so overcome them by learning to center yourself
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Part 4 -- Tap into Your Infinite Energy
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Every thought & emotion uses energy
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Pushing away, holding on, controlling, recalling, generating, & disciplining thoughts & emotions all require energy
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You have infinite supply you can draw from at any time
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Energy != the kind from food or sleep
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Letting energy in = rush of joy, love, & enthusiasm
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you can feel this all the time
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Heart is the center of this energy
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can allow energy in or restrict/push energy away
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Flow of energy = sun that keeps shining no matter what
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you could sit in the sun & embrace it or sit in the shade
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Closing off = letting love waste away
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Being open = letting energy pass in then out; taking notice, letting go
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Thus, life = experiencing the present moment then the next one & the next
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Energy not let go doesn’t disappear
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Unfinished energy blocks the heart
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When you feel salty, you’re fixated on the past; think abt. it constantly
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Taking away focus from the present
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It’s all inside of you still, kept in w/ nowhere to go until they can be released
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They will come back up whenever triggered by anything in the neighborhood of that snapshot/memory
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When stored energy is stimulated, it’s the best chance to finally let it pass instead of pushing it down again
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Smile b/c you know the energy will be released now like purging toxins
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When it’s painful coming in, it will be painful out but it’s only be temporary
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ask yourself why you're not letting it go
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Train to keep your heart open
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Closing is a habit that you’ve developed because past experiences have programed us
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Simply watch; Be aware & conscious
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When you see yourself closing/tensing, choose consciously not to close; relax & open
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Let everything pass through to be free, just let go, don’t trap energy
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Nothing is ever worth closing for
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Life can always be exciting
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you can always feel inspired & enthusiastic
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Part 3 — Train Your Awareness
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Real awareness is being absorbed mentally, emotionally, and physically while taking notice of the world around you
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Like watching a movie: you’re so engrossed you forget that you’re sitting in the dark with strangers
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Concentrating means committing your senses, emotions, and thoughts
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Full dimensional experience requires sound, sight, taste, smell, touch, thoughts, and feelings
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When preoccupied with trying to control thoughts, feelings, & senses, you lose consciousness of present
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True meditation means aware of being aware
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pull back to see the big picture
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the whole room from the finite to the infinite
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on a floating rock in space moving around a star in the vast universe
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remain aware that you can create thoughts
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The world becomes something you just watch pass by -- like a movie
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Use meditation to train & re-center yourself
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Be aware you’re sitting there & say hello
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Don’t think or talk to yourself
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Take note in consciousness of what's happening on the inside & outside
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Create a habit of stopping to notice
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before opening the door, picking up the phone-- act as points to center consciousness so that it’ll train to be consistent/persistent consciousness all the time
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Consciousness is a dynamic field of awareness, able to capture all or very little
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You can concentrate on one finger or all thoughts and sensations, like capturing all details w/a single glance vs focus on one thing
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Part 2 -- Free Yourself from the Voice Inside (& Reach Pure Awareness)
Your consciousness != the voice inside
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Voice inside constantly talks/ never shuts up
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Just sit still & listen: you’ll hear it very quickly
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Listen when you shower or any free time
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Think of it as your inner roommate
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Start by watching as if someone was in there with you
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Externalize that voice as another person
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view it objectively w/o letting emotions interfere
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It’s not you talking (b/c you’re the one listening)
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Thus, you can’t silence thoughts you don’t like
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Make them your best friend instead
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If they’re a real person, wouldn’t they be so annoying?
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Notice how often they’re wrong yet has so much control over your life
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You often have to convince it & listen to it or else you'll have on edge, doubtful, & anxious
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Why do you let them control your life? Why do you care so much about what they say?
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The voice inside your head is like backseat driving
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Gives a sense of control & security over the external world that’s out of your control
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Tries to protect you from the unknown
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When that inner voice stops talking, you can take in details (& sensations) of everything all at once w/a single glance
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vs looking while the voice in your head pointing things out
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When you feel that all the time, you'll be truly independent from the inner roommate
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Reclaim your life to live it how you want it, not driven by this voice
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By no longer identifying with this voice -- recognize that’s it’s not you
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You != thoughts, only aware; You != emotions, only feel; You !=your body, only experience through it
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This is one part in a series of episodes on "The Untethered Soul". Part 1 -- Who are you? You are Your Consciousness.
- Not label or collection of experiences.
- Those change easily. Would you not be you if you hadn’t gone to that school? Joined that sport? Done that thing?
- Not your physical traits either.
- Those change easily too. Were you 5’4 when you were 4? Wasn’t that still you? You can easily change your appearance over time through growing, aging, or cosmetic procedures.
- Then who are you? Well we know...
- You’re not the objects you’re looking at or the outside world b/c you’re the subject perceiving said objects of the outside world.
- The outside world and inner emotions that compete for your attention come and go but the you that is aware (taking notice of the world around you) doesn’t
- Hence, without awareness of being, of perceiving, you don’t exist.
Thus, you live in a state of consciousness.
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The one that is aware is therefore “the self”.
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You are you. You are your consciousness.
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This is the start of a new series of episodes on "The Untethered Soul".
Part 0 -- Prologue - TUS captures philosophical & religious ideas
- Don’t expect it to solve all your problems (not a self-help book)
- Can’t change immediately; it’s the work of a lifetime
- Apply concepts in life & discover/learn for yourself
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Series = notes simplified based on my understanding/interpretation
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Ea. episode is made up of 1) Concepts & 2) How To (if applicable)
- General outline of content available in each episode's description
- Don’t need to master these concepts right now, just work towards them
- If you live accordingly, you’ll live happily
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We have a limited amount of energy, so be purposeful with how you use it. If you live life barely able to keep your head above water, it requires a tremendous amount of energy and is highly inefficient. Instead, take a deep breath and relax. When you focus on your energy on the present, things will become drastically easier. You’ll FLOAT.
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Afraid of what the future holds? Stressing about things like your future career, family, and life in general? Sad to let this stage of your life pass? These feelings are valid. Life is full of both the good and the bad, so who’s to say that the future only holds the bad? Seeing change positively will allow more good to enter your life too because letting go frees space both in your life and consciousness to allow more people? experiences? opportunities? to enter.
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Things are only as complicated as you make them.
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Is the afternoon slump really affecting your productivity? Do you wish you had the energy to work through the afternoon instead of giving up and taking naps? I don't know about you, but I certainly do. That's why this episode I list some things you should and shouldn't do to overcome the afternoon slump.
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Do you think you're only fit to be a side character like the token POC best friend? Well guess what, you're the director of this movie called "[insert your name]'s Life" and if you don't cast yourself as the main character, who else is going to be the main character? This episode, I talk about my ~realizations~ because this is my podcast and you can't do anything about what I post.
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“The love you take is equal to the love you make”. Today is the day of love, so let's learn to love ourselves a little bit more. In fact, let's make every day self-love day because we all deserve to be happy :)
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I talk about things I've realized and learned while accumulating experience doing interviews. This episode might be helpful as a reminder on things to do when you are so nervous for an interview that your mind just goes blank. Relax and take deep breaths. May the force be with you.
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My own personal takeaways from reading Lucius Seneca's writing: On the Shortness of Life. Basically main points of things I want to remember and how I want to live my life from now on. Definitely not qualified to talk about philosophy. Cannot tell you the difference between Stoicism and Epicureanism. If you want to learn more about philosophy like I am doing right now, then Google is your friend. Be sure to also check out books from the library (digitally of course), and listen to philosophy podcasts from people who know what they're talking about! (I recommend Stephen West's "Philosophize This!").
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THE 5x5 RULE (that I made up, combining different productivity methods):
1) Wake up at 5am
2) Choose only the top 5 things to do (using Eisenhower Box)
3) 5 second rule (by Mel Robbins)
4) Commit for 5 minutes
5) 50 minutes work/ 15 minutes rest ("Animedoro" on Youtube by Josh Chen)
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Whatever perfect moment you're waiting for, it doesn't exist. Telling yourself that is only an excuse to procrastinate. Take this as a sign to pursue whatever it is that you've been pushing off. If you feel like life has been dragging you along and feel powerless to do anything, then this is the reminder that you have the power to take back control of your life. You have everything you need right now, right here, in front of you. There is no better time than the present to start.
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Slightly chaotic (mildly. could honestly be worse). Just reflections on what I've learned making a podcast and the things that I want to improve on, namely: STOP FEARING JUDGEMENT.
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This episode, I document my current level of Spanish by talking about things that are going on in my life, things that interest me, and my future goals (all in Spanish of course). I improved my Spanish a lot in one year, so I'm curious as to how much it'll improve by next year! Note to future Helen: If it's shoulder scrunching and grimace inducing to listen back on this recording, it means your Spanish has improved! Yay! Fantástico! Please do me a favor as I am currently stuck in quarantine to go out and practice your Spanish with real people and eat some good food.
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We all have those days when time just flies by and we have accomplished nothing. nada. zilch. It can feel pretty discouraging and so you end up not even trying to get things done or become productive again. If you're in that situation, then join me as I try to provide some advice on what to do and changes to make to your mindset.
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Fun fact: did you know I'm a morning and a night person? That's because I'm a sometimes-no-sleep-at-all person. If you're like me (or should I say you ARE ME), then join me this episode as I explain why sleep is important and give tips on how you can help yourself get those full 8 hours.
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Is your New Year's resolution every year to get in shape but that ultimately never ends up working out? Join me this episode as I discuss ways you can change your mindset around exercise so that you can get those reps and sets done.
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Do you feel like the length your to-do list can probably rival Santa's naughty list this year? Does trying to complete your tasks feel never-ending, just like this quarantine? If so, this is the episode for you. Join me as I outline steps you can take to increase productivity and finally reach the end of your to-do list.
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To quote Frances Ha, one of my favorite movies, “Sometimes it's good to do what you're supposed to do when you're supposed to do it.” That includes listening to this episode. Join me as I reveal changes to make to your mindset so that you can overcome procrastination easier.
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hEy yOU! That's right, YOU. Don't forget to stan hydration for clear skin! While K-pop YouTube videos (especially the meme compilations) are fun to watch, spending your whole day down the internet rabbit hole isn't as fun when responsibilities and deadlines stack up. Join me this episode as I give tips on how you can balance screen time and productivity.
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Pobody’s nerfect, am I right? From the choppy audio editing to the filler words, this podcast is far from perfect. However, its imperfections don’t make its contents any less valuable. Join me this episode as I dive deeper into the reasons why we are hung up on perfection and how to overcome it.
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