pivot parenting: Recent Episodes
Heather Frazier
If you have teenage children and you’ve noticed that your parental skill set is no longer as effective as it once was, it is time to pivot. When running down the path of life, we need to be able and ready to, PIVOT! As life (and hormones) come flying at us. As a certified life coach and mother of four children- two teens and two tweens, I am your perfect parental pivot trail guide. Let me teach you how to communicate, understand, and connect with your teenager like you never thought possible.
In this special 9-episode series, I’m reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You’ll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around.
Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!
To book a free 45 Peaceful Parent strategy call, click HERE and lets chat. xoxo
In this special 9-episode series, I’m reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You’ll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around.
Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!
In this special 9-episode series, I’m reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You’ll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around.
Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!
To book a free 45 Peaceful Parent strategy call, click HERE and lets chat. xoxo
In this special 9-episode series, I’m reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You’ll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around.
Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!
In this special 9-episode series, I’m reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You’ll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around.
Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!
In this special 9-episode series, I’m reading chapters straight from my first best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen. You’ll hear my raw, real stories and practical tools that helped me turn my relationship with my teen around.
Plus, get an exclusive sneak peek at my upcoming book, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah!—where I dig into healing from harmful religious patterns and show you how to reclaim a faith that truly loves. If you're liking my first book, you'll love my second- preorder HERE!
What does it really mean to raise powerful daughters in today’s world? In this episode of Pivot Parenting, I sit down with Aubin Palmer, author of Power Women, to explore how mothers can model strength, confidence, and resilience in ways that empower the next generation. Aubin shares her transformative acronym P.O.W.E.R., breaking down how each element can be lived out and passed on—not by lectures, but by example.
Together, we talk about the subtle ways moms accidentally give away their power, how to reclaim it with intention, and why embodying self-love, faith, and courage creates a legacy that daughters naturally inherit. If you’ve ever wondered how to guide your teen girl toward confidence without pushing or preaching, this conversation will give you both clarity and encouragement.
Don’t miss this empowering episode—and while you’re at it, grab Aubin’s book Power Women and my book Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah! so you can keep building the tools, perspective, and love your family needs.
About my guest: Aubin is a life and business coach devoted to lighting the fire within power women to step into their full potential. Based in utah she is the proud mother of 3 girls- the next generation of power women. With deep intuition, real world experience and unshakable belief, she guides women to claim their power and build the lives they truly want. She believes in the strength women mind through collaboration and leads groups and retreats to help women rise in power everywhere.
Instagram: @aubinpalmercoaching Amazon link for book www.aubinpalmercoaching.com
We've all been there. You limit screen time, cook healthy meals, set boundaries... and your kid still finds garbage to watch, makes terrible choices, maybe even walks away from everything you've tried to teach them. So you throw your hands up and think: Why do I even bother?
I get it. My oldest loves telling people they couldn't watch SpongeBob growing up because I didn't want them seeing parents portrayed as idiots. And guess what? They found trash media anyway. A lot of good that did me, right?
You'll learn:
- The 3 ways we mess this up (spoiler: we're all guilty)
- Why trying to "fix" your kid always backfires
- The one thing we get wrong that creates this exhausting cycle
- How to parent without losing your mind or your relationship
- Why your kid's choices aren't about you (even when it feels personal)
This episode is for you if: * You're tired of feeling like a failure when your teen makes bad choices * You've tried everything and nothing seems to work * Your kid has walked away from church, family values, or just basic respect * You're ready to stop the micromanaging madness * You want to love your kid without enabling them
Look, this isn't about giving up or becoming a pushover. It's about getting honest about what you can actually control (hint: it's not them) and focusing your energy where it actually makes a difference.
Ready to stop spinning your wheels? Let's talk about why we parent in the first place. Schedule a call HERE
and if you're ready to take your spiritual parenting to the next level, HERE is my book you need to preorder.
Most parents dread “those” moments — the heated arguments, the eye rolls, the slammed doors. But what if you could handle those situations so well that your teen actually thanks you afterward? In this episode, I’m sharing my five-step process for turning any blow-up into a breakthrough. You’ll learn exactly how to diffuse the tension, communicate so your teen feels valued and understood, and still hold your boundaries — without walking away frustrated or full of regret.
Whether it’s curfew drama, messy rooms, or an attitude that’s pushing every button you have, this framework works. You’ll feel seen and respected as a parent, and your teen will feel safe and heard. The best part? Everyone leaves the conversation feeling closer, not further apart.
To get your template: “How to Tell Your Teen Off So Well They Thank You” email me @ heather@heatherfrazier.com, subject line: "Template"
Lets start transforming tough moments into connection ASAP
Let’s be honest—most of us feel a little panicked when our teen says, “I’m bored.” It triggers something, right? We start signing them up for more, pushing them to be productive, filling every gap… but why?
In this episode, I’m sharing why boredom is actually a gift—and how our discomfort with it says more about us than them. You’ll learn:
- The real reasons we try to keep our teens busy (spoiler: it’s not all about them)
- What chronic activity and distraction actually creates in your teen
- A simple 3-step process to allow boredom in a way that builds connection, resilience, and creativity
If you’re ready to stop managing your teen’s schedule like a cruise director and start raising a grounded, thoughtful human, this one’s for you.
And if you'd like to join the Senior parent group for Septemeber 2025-2026, click HERE to learn more. xoxo
Ever think to yourself: “It’s too late.” “Why even bother?” “Nothing I do makes a difference.”
You’re not alone—but you are believing a lie.
In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most heartbreaking ways I see good parents unintentionally give up: they fail ahead of time. Out of fear. Out of burnout. Out of guilt. Out of believing their situation won’t change.
We’ll talk about how to recognize this quiet kind of surrender, why it happens to even the best parents, and the three mindset shifts that reignite hope and healing in your relationship—no matter how late in the game it feels.
If your teen is heading into senior year and you’re silently spiraling about the countdown, their future, or how disconnected you feel—this episode is your sign.
🟡 I have 11 spots in my 2025–26 Senior Year Parent Group. One of them has your name on it. Let’s make this final year one you’re proud of.
When your teen makes a big mistake—like coming home high—it’s easy to spiral into shame, blame, or panic. In this raw coaching session, I sit down with two parents navigating that exact moment with their daughter. Together, we unpack what good parenting really looks like when the stakes are high.
We explore how to lead with love and follow through with consequences, how to grow into the 2.0 version of your parenting self, and the crucial shift in understanding which emotions and responsibilities belong to you—and which are your teen’s to carry.
If you've ever asked yourself, “Did I screw this up?” or “What else could I have done?”—this episode is for you.
Plus, if you're parenting a high school senior, now is the time to prepare for the most emotionally complex year of their life—and yours.
🎓 Join Navigating the Launch—my 9-month group for senior-year parents—where we walk through this wild season together with support, strategy, and sanity.
👉🏼 Click here to learn more + save your seat
In today's episode, I sit down with Cora, a mom navigating the complex world of launching her 18-year-old daughter. We dive deep into the three non-negotiable steps every parent needs for a successful launch, the dangerous difference between control and love, and the one thing that happens right before launch that catches parents completely off-guard.
What You'll Learn:
- The 3 essential steps for successful teen launch (most parents skip #2)
- How to tell if you're parenting from control vs. love, fear vs. confidence—and why it matters more than you think
- The secret pre-launch phase that determines your long-term success
- Real strategies from a mom in the trenches
Ready to master your child's launch year?
If you're parenting a high school senior (or soon-to-be senior), you don't have to navigate this alone. Join my Navigating the Launch: 2025-26 Senior Parent Group Coaching Program—a 9-month journey designed specifically for parents like you.
Over 18 sessions from September through May, you'll master every stage of launch so your child flies confidently into their future while maintaining the loving relationship you've built. Because the goal isn't just launching them—it's launching them so well they choose to come home for the holidays.
Program starts September 2025. Limited spots available.
[Learn more and secure your spot HERE
Don't let this pivotal year happen to you—make it work for your family.
If your teen struggles to wake up, follow through, or seems totally oblivious to your family’s priorities—you’ll feel seen in this one. In this live coaching session with Kat, we dig into the frustration of having a teen who won’t just get it together… and what’s really happening beneath the surface.
We unpack:
- Why your teen’s “irresponsible” behavior might actually be age-appropriate
- How well-meaning expectations can backfire (and make mornings miserable)
- Why it’s okay for both of you to be human and imperfect
- Practical ways to build better communication without constant battles
If you’ve been telling yourself, “She just needs to care more / try harder / be more responsible,” this episode will shift how you see things—and bring way more peace to your mornings.
✨ Ready to parent with more clarity and calm (even when your teen’s a mess)? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. Let’s make this easier—for both of you.
Ever find yourself thinking, “If my kid would just get their act together, life would be so much easier”? Yeah… you’re not alone.
In this live coaching session, we dig into what’s really going on when we get stuck in that headspace—whether it’s schoolwork, bedtime routines, or the everyday grind. You love your kid. You’re trying your best. But when their struggles drag on (and on), it’s SO tempting to believe that if they would just change, everything would fall into place.
Here’s the hard truth: Sometimes the real shift has to start with us.
In this episode, we unpack:
- Why telling your teen “how to fix it” often backfires
- How to spot the sneaky ways we (yep, even us) get stuck in old patterns
- What to do when your routines stop working and everyone’s frustrated
- The pivot that helps you AND your teen move forward without power struggles
If you’re exhausted from circling the same problems—and starting to think nothing works—this is for you. Spoiler: it’s not about doing more. It’s about seeing it differently.
Ready to break the cycle and actually enjoy parenting again? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here.
Let’s make this easier on everyone.
Let’s be real—courage usually feels awful. It’s uncomfortable, risky, and it often costs us something. But if we’re not showing our kids what it looks like to stand up for truth and love people well (especially the hard ones), then we’re teaching them to stay silent. And silence is complicity.
In this episode, I’m getting bold about the values we need to be modeling at home. From passive-aggressive parenting to political name-calling to the subtle ways we teach our teens to judge instead of love—we’re digging into all of it.
We’ll cover:
- How we accuse others of being un-Christlike while doing the same ourselves
- What it looks like to be provoked and kind
- Why love isn’t a reward for good behavior—it’s a calling
- How to help our teens move beyond stereotypes and lead with compassion
- And the hard truth: You might be smarter than someone, but that doesn’t make you better
If you want to raise a kid who tells the truth, loves their neighbor (yes, even that one), and doesn’t lose themselves in the noise of the world—this episode is for you.
And if this message hits home, my book Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah is packed with lessons on what real Christlike love looks like when religion, parenting, and pain collide. 👉 Preorder here and give your family a better legacy to live out.
Is your parenting actually keeping your teen safe—or just an attempt to keep you comfortable? In this episode, we unpack the hidden fears that drive so many of our rules, reactions, and routines as parents. From fear of physical harm to fear of emotional disconnection, we all create “safety systems” that can backfire—leading to control, resentment, and emotional distance.
You’ll learn:
- The 2 main types of fear that shape parenting (and the one question that will tell you the difference)
- How “safe” parenting can actually feel unsafe to your teen
- Why overprotection and overreaction erode trust—and what builds it instead
If you’ve ever said, “I just want to keep them safe,” but still feel anxious, disconnected, or constantly in conflict, this episode will give you a fresh lens—and real tools—to parent from clarity instead of fear.
Book your free Peaceful Parenting Coaching Call today and start creating a safer, stronger connection with your teen.
To pre order, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah! click HERE and then don't forget to go back and enter in your purchase info to claim bonuses. xoxo
What if healing your own body image could help your daughter avoid the years of shame, obsession, and insecurity so many of us grew up with?
In this powerful episode, we talk about how to build a healthy, connected relationship with your body—and how to model that for your kids (without even saying a word). Whether you're raising daughters, sons, or anyone in between, this one’s for you.
You’ll learn:
- 3 myths that keep parents stuck in body shame
- The subtle (but damaging) things we say around food and bodies—and what to say instead
- 3 practical ways to create a more respectful, loving relationship with your body
- How to raise body-confident kids without passing down your own insecurities
This isn’t about perfect eating or loving every inch of yourself—it’s about creating safety, respect, and honesty around the bodies we live in. For you and your kids.
Ready to pre-order your copy of, Mom Got Jesus Wrong, Hallelujah! Click HERE and cash in on all the presale bonuses. xoxo
About my guest:
Certified Life and Nutrition Coach, mother of six, and “Freedom with Body & Food” (FBF) program creator, Kerrie Nygard helps faith-based women connect deeply with their bodies, ending food and body struggles. Her proven method has supported over 1000 women and inspired thousands more through workshops on achieving peace with food and their bodies, without restriction. You can find Kerrie here: www.kerrienygard.com @kerrie.a.nygard https://www.facebook.com/Kerrie.Nygard/
It’s one of the most heartbreaking things a parent can face—when your grown child cuts off communication. In this episode, we explore why this happens, what parents can do about it, and how perfectionism and performance-based love often push the very people we want to keep close... away. I’ll share the surprising truth about what God never asked parents to carry, how to untangle what’s yours from what’s theirs, and how to shift from “being a good parent” to being a safe one.
If you’re grieving a fractured relationship or walking on eggshells, this is your invitation to heal—for your sake and theirs.
Book a free Peaceful Parenting call and let’s change the future of your family, starting today.
The presentation I reference by Adam Miller in this episode can be found HERE
Ever find yourself spiraling about your teen’s future—wondering if they’ll ever graduate, get a job, or not end up living in your basement forever? In this powerful episode with Casie Fariello, we get real about what happens when our fears blow things out of proportion. Casie shares her raw, honest parenting journey—navigating everything from school refusal and addiction to unconventional paths that still led her kids to success (on their own terms).
We talk about:
- Why “normal” milestones aren’t the only markers of success
- How fear and embarrassment isolate parents (and what to do instead)
- The reality of parenting teens who struggle—and why it’s okay not to have all the answers
- How to find hope even when everything looks off-track
If you’re exhausted from trying to “fix” your teen’s future—or terrified you’re missing something big—this conversation will remind you: it’s not too late, and you’re not alone.
✨ Ready for a parenting approach that brings more peace (even in the messy middle)? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here.
About my guest: Casie Fariello, a visionary leader and co-founder of Other Parents Like Me, Inc. (OPLM), brings over 26 years of dedicated experience in the airline industry and a commitment to mental health advocacy to her role. Casie oversees the organization's strategic mission to provide supportive resources, education, and community for parents whose children face mental health challenges. Driven by her personal journey and extensive background, Casie has shaped OPLM into a transformative platform offering daily support sessions, expert speaker talks, and resources to families nationwide. You can find Casie here: https://oplm.com/ https://www.instagram.com/otherparentslikeme/ https://www.facebook.com/otherparentslikeme/
We all know screens are a huge part of teen life—but how much is too much? In this episode, I’m joined by coach and teen expert Will Kirsop to tackle one of parents’ biggest concerns: device dependency. We unpack the real stats (brace yourself), the brain science behind why tech is so addictive, and how screens are impacting your teen emotionally, socially, and physically.
But don’t worry—this isn’t your typical doom-and-gloom chat. We explore practical strategies to help your teen build a healthier relationship with tech, model better habits yourself (gulp), and navigate the pushback when you set boundaries. Whether your teen is glued to TikTok or gaming till midnight, this episode will leave you feeling informed, empowered, and ready to reset the balance at home.
Need personalized help with screen time (or any other parenting battle)? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call HERE.
About my guest: Will Kirsop is an education leader and the founder of Many Roads, where he coaches teenagers to discover their purpose and thrive. With a background spanning education, psychology, and business, Will saw a gap in how young people are supported in discovering their unique path. His coaching blends evidence-based methodologies, behavioural and cognitive psychology, appreciative inquiry, and real-world strategy to help teens build confidence and direction for their future. Will has worked with teens from a dozen countries across a broad spectrum—from neurodiverse students to top performers competing on the world stage. Will holds a Commerce degree from the University of Sydney and a Psychology degree from Swinburne University, where he was awarded the 2024 University Medal as the top undergraduate student across the entire university. He also completed Executive Education at UC Berkeley. An avid surfer, meditator, and lifelong learner, he is passionate about leveraging his professional and life experiences to help students navigate purpose, career planning and wellbeing.
You can find WIll at: manyroads.co
Ever catch yourself thinking, “I’m either a good parent or a bad one”... or, “My teen is either respectful or totally out of control”?* That’s black-and-white thinking—and it sneaks into parenting more than we realize.
In this episode, we dig into how rigid, all-or-nothing thoughts keep us stuck in guilt, frustration, and power struggles. You’ll learn:
- How black-and-white thinking shows up (even when you don’t realize it)
- Why it makes parenting feel so much harder
- The simple mindset shift that opens the door to peace, patience, and real progress
If you’re exhausted from the pressure to be “perfect” or feeling like you always mess it up—this one’s for you.
Want personalized help shifting out of black-and-white traps? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. Let’s get you out of the extremes—and into a parenting style that actually works.
Your teen is moody, dramatic, needy, and constantly fishing for validation. One minute they want you to help… the next, they’re shutting you out. They’re one person at home, someone else at school, and you're just trying to figure out who the heck they actually are.
If you’ve ever felt like your teen is a walking tornado of insecurity, pressure, and mixed signals—and you're the one stuck holding it all together—this episode is for you.
We talk about:
- Why your teen’s “crazy” behavior isn’t about being broken
- The hidden needs behind their outbursts, shifts, and social shape-shifting
- The one thing they really want from you—even when they act like they don’t
Because your teen doesn’t need to be fixed. They need to feel safe. Seen. Loved as they are.
If you’re tired of second-guessing every response and walking on emotional landmines, let’s change that. Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. Let’s rebuild trust—and your sanity—one conversation at a time.
If your teen is sad, bored, heartbroken, or frustrated—and you instantly shift into problem-solving mode—this episode is for you.
In today’s conversation, we’re talking about a trap so many loving parents fall into: believing it’s our job to keep our teens happy. Whether it’s emailing teachers, calling their friend’s mom after a disagreement, offering shopping trips to soothe a breakup, or trying to fix boredom with entertainment—many parents overfunction emotionally, thinking they’re being helpful. But here’s the truth: trying to manage your teen’s emotions not only burns you out, it also sends them the message that they can’t handle life on their own.
You’ll learn:
- Why your teen’s hard emotions aren’t a sign you’ve failed
- How to stop rescuing and start strengthening their emotional resilience
- The surprising way your love and guilt might be enabling helplessness
- And how to hold space without trying to “make it better”
✨ Ready to parent with calm, clarity, and real connection—even when your teen is struggling? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. You don’t have to do this alone—and your teen doesn’t need you to fix everything to thrive.
Every parent has been there—those infuriating moments when your teen’s response is a flat, dismissive “I don’t care.” In this episode, we dig into why that statement pops up and what it really means, so you can handle your frustration and reconnect with your teen.
This one’s brought to you by a real-life grocery store moment with my son… and a stranger who felt compelled to weigh in on his "I don't care" response to me. (Yep, it was that wild.)
I’ll share three powerful strategies:
- understanding the deeper situation behind that “I don’t care.”
- The secret shift that will stop the cycle of conflict and confusion
- How to respond in a way that builds trust, not distance
If you’re ready to transform those hurtful exchanges into opportunities for growth and connection, let’s talk. Book a free Peaceful Parenting Call today, and in just a few minutes, we’ll create a personalized plan to build trust, ease your stress, and help your teen thrive.
If you want your teen to speak up for themselves—and for others—but find they shut down, go along to get along, or avoid conflict at all costs, this episode is for you.
We’re breaking down how to raise teens who know how to set boundaries, communicate clearly, and stand up to injustice—without being rude, reactive, or overwhelmed. And here’s the key: it starts with us.
In this episode, I’ll share:
- Why modeling is the most powerful way to teach advocacy
- The difference between being nice and being kind—and why being nice at your own expense teaches all the wrong things
- How enabling bad behavior (from your teen or others) often starts with avoiding discomfort
- Practical phrases and tools to use when your teen encounters racism, sexism, homophobia, or peer pressure
- How to show them that saying no, asking for what they need, and holding boundaries isn’t “too much”—it’s the foundation of real happiness
Whether your teen is staying silent to keep the peace or lashing out when they finally hit their limit, this episode will help you guide them toward confident, respectful self-advocacy and social awareness.
✨ Ready to raise a teen who knows how to use their voice without losing themselves? Book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call and let’s talk through how to make that happen in your home.
Few things hurt more than watching your teen struggle—and knowing they don’t feel safe enough to come to you with it.
You try to connect, ask how they’re doing, offer help… and all you get is a shoulder shrug, an eye roll, or a slammed door. And it leaves you wondering—What happened to us? Why won’t they talk to me? Am I failing?
In this episode, we’re digging into what it really takes to become a safe person for your teen to open up to. I’ll walk you through the do’s and don’ts that shift the energy from shut down and distance to trust and connection. You’ll learn simple skills that make a big impact—so your teen actually wants to talk to you again. And when that safety is there, it doesn’t just help your teen—it transforms the tone of your whole home.
If you’re tired of feeling shut out or unsure how to reconnect, let’s talk. Book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call here. You don’t have to guess your way through this—I’ve got you.
Parenting teens today can feel like trying to hold back a tidal wave. We want to protect them, guide them, and set them up for success—but how do we do that without burning out or pushing them away? In this episode, we’re tackling three crucial parenting strategies:
- Setting Boundaries with Technology—How to create limits that actually stick, without constant battles.
- Why Kids Don’t Always Need Therapy, Parents Need to Learn Tools—Understanding when their struggles are really a reflection of their environment.
- Raising Independent Teens—How to help them take responsibility for their own lives instead of constantly relying on you to manage everything.
If parenting feels like an uphill battle, there’s a better way. Let’s make it easier. Book a free Peaceful Parenting Call, and in 45 minutes, we’ll create a plan that actually works for your family.
About my guest: Nicole Runyon, LMSW, is an esteemed psychotherapist specializing in parenting, author, and keynote speaker renowned for her expertise in child and adolescent mental health, backed by an extensive 21-year career in the field. Nicole is also the mother of 2 children. You can find her book, Free to Fly right HERE
Instagram and FB- @igenerationmentalhealth LinkedIn- Nicole Runyon
No parent wants to hear that their child is being mistreated. Unfortunately, bullying is a common challenge many kids face. In this episode, I'm joined by teen confidence expert Joey Mascio to share the most effective strategy for helping your child become less of a target and break free from bullying. Joey offers a fresh, empowering perspective—including why he says "there’s no such thing as a bully", key questions that build confidence, and how to effectively approach school administration when necessary. If your teen is struggling, this episode will give you immediate relief and real solutions.
Tune in now for expert insights that will transform the way you and your teen handle bullying!
To learn more about how to work with Joey, visit him at sidekicktohero.com
When your teen dramatically declares their life is “over”, it can feel impossible to know what to say or do. Should you fix it? Downplay it? Toughen them up?
In this episode, we’re diving into what’s really happening developmentally when your teen spirals, why their emotions feel so intense, and how your response plays a powerful role in shaping their mental resilience. You’ll learn practical tools to soothe their big emotions, model emotional regulation, and shift from “You just don’t get it” eye-rolls to deeper connection and understanding.
You’ll walk away equipped to comfort your teen without rescuing, teach resilience without lecturing, and influence their perspective in a way that builds trust and strengthens your bond—no matter how big their drama feels in the moment.
Because their life isn’t actually over—but your opportunity to guide and empower them is just beginning.
Ready to feel more confident and connected in your parenting? Book a free call and let’s talk about what’s possible for your family.
If the thought of talking to your teen about dating makes you cringe, you’re not alone—but it doesn’t have to be that way. In this episode, I’m sharing what actually works when it comes to having meaningful, non-awkward conversations with your teen about relationships, boundaries, and emotional safety.
We’ll cover two key points:
- The conversation strategies that actually work—but only once you’ve learned the foundational skill I teach first.
- Why the awkwardness isn’t really about your teen at all—it’s about the brain wiring, parenting paradigms, and habits you’ve unknowingly picked up (and how to shift them for more connection and ease).
Your teen is learning about love, connection, and relationships, whether you're part of the conversation or not. Let’s make sure they’re getting the right guidance. Book a free 45-minute Peaceful Parenting Call, and we’ll create a custom plan to strengthen your relationship and help you navigate these important talks with confidence. Schedule your call here.
Parenting a teen can feel like riding a roller coaster—especially when they’re hungry, tired, or stressed. In this episode, we dive into the unpredictable world of teen mood swings and how they impact not only your teen, but your entire family’s atmosphere. I share three powerful takeaways that will help you transform chaos into calm:
• Why It Happens: Understand the driving forces behind teen mood swings and what they really mean. • What It Means: Discover how these ups and downs affect your family dynamics and your teen’s emotional world. • Creating Peace: Learn simple strategies to maintain your cool and build a peaceful, connected home, no matter how wild the ride gets.
Ready to turn turbulent moments into opportunities for growth and connection? Book a free Peaceful Parenting Call today and let’s create a personalized plan that helps you handle these challenges with grace and confidence.
If you’ve ever felt like every interaction with your teen turns into a battle, you’re not alone. Oppositional Defiant Disorder (O.D.D.) can make parenting feel like an exhausting, never-ending power struggle. In this episode, I’m joined by a seasoned therapist who specializes in working with teens and their families to navigate the challenges of O.D.D. We’ll dive into what’s really going on beneath the defiance, how to shift the dynamic, and practical strategies to restore peace in your home. If you’re ready for real solutions and a path forward, let’s talk—book a Peaceful Parenting call with me today!
About my guest: Ashley Hudson is a mother of 3 boys, licensed teen therapist, and parent coach, with over 12 years of experience. Her group private practice, Ashley Hudson Therapy, is based in Orange County, CA, focusing on empowering adolescents and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, sport performance anxiety, grief, and parent-child relational conflicts. Drawing from her extensive experience working with thousands of teenagers, Ashley loves working with parents of teenagers and helping them reconnect with their teens. Ashley has created online parenting courses: The Connected Parent and Social Media & Your Teen designed to help parents establish open communication and build meaningful connections with their teens. You can follow her on instagram @ashleyhudsontherapy or the links below.
https://www.illuminateyourconnection.co/connectedparent
https://www.illuminateyourconnection.co/social-media-and-your-teen
It’s easy to get caught up in the daily battles—unfinished homework, messy rooms, and getting your teen to just do what they’re supposed to do. But if we’re only chasing short-term compliance, we risk infantilizing our teens, missing what they’re actually struggling with, and losing opportunities to teach emotional skills that last a lifetime.
In this episode, we’re talking about how to shift your focus from daily control to long-term connection—so your teen actually wants to come to you for support. We’ll break down the sneaky ways parents sabotage their long-term goals, what to do instead, and how to create a home where trust and emotional resilience thrive.
You’ll walk away with: - The biggest mistake parents make when trying to “win” daily battles with their teens - How to stop micromanaging and infantilizing your teen (without chaos breaking loose) - What your teen is actually struggling with—and how to support them without enabling - A simple mindset shift to build trust and connection for the long run
If you’re ready to parent with the big picture in mind, book a Peaceful Parenting call today. In just 30 minutes, we’ll create a personalized plan to help you ditch the power struggles and build a lifelong relationship with your teen. Schedule your call HERE.
Ever feel stuck? Maybe it’s in your emotions, your habits, your relationships—or the way you and your teen communicate (or don’t). In this episode, I’m unpacking a powerful insight I had while talking with friends about midlife dating, parenting teens, and why we all struggle to make changes—even when we want to. It all comes down to sensation chasing—why we do what we do (or don’t). Understanding this can shift everything in your parenting and your connection with your teen. And I break it all down for you to be able to apply and pivot for a deeper connection with self and teen.
Listen in now, and if you’re ready to break free from these patterns and truly transform your relationship with your teen, book a Peaceful Parenting call with me today!
Are you tired of feeling like every conversation with your teen turns into a battle of wills? In this episode, I’m diving into why telling teens what to do is a recipe for power struggles—and what you can do instead. I’ll break down the three key dynamics at play that most parents overlook and share practical ways to step out of the tug-of-war while strengthening your connection. The result? More trust, real conversations, and the peace of mind you’ve been craving.
If you’re ready to shift the dynamic in your home and parent with more confidence, book a free Peaceful Parenting call today. Let’s create a plan that works for your family!
Parenting is challenging enough on its own, but when you're navigating the complexities of a chronic illness, it adds an entirely new layer of difficulty. In this episode, we’ll explore how living with a chronic condition can shape the lens through which you parent and the expectations you hold for yourself and your kids.
We’ll discuss practical ways to adjust your parenting approach to honor your health while fostering a strong, loving family dynamic. You’ll also learn how to manage feelings of guilt, communicate with your kids about your illness, and prioritize what truly matters—without sacrificing connection or joy in your family life.
If you’ve ever felt like your chronic illness is holding you back from being the parent you want to be, this episode is for you. For personalized strategies and support, book a Peaceful Parenting Call today to create a plan that works for your unique situation. Your health, your family, and your peace of mind are worth it.
It’s heartbreaking to watch your teen engage in self-destructive habits—whether it’s neglecting sleep, eating poorly, avoiding exercise, surrounding themselves with unhealthy friendships, or letting their schoolwork slide. You’ve tried giving them advice and guiding them toward a healthier, happier life, but they keep making choices that hurt them. Their grades may be dropping, their sleep worsening, and their well-being declining, and as a parent, it feels overwhelming and frustrating.
In today’s episode, we’re diving into how you can effectively support your teen in recognizing and changing harmful habits. You’ll learn how to approach these situations with compassion, communicate in ways that resonate with your teen, and empower both of you to build a healthy relstionship they’ll carry into adulthood. Parenting through this isn’t easy—but there are tools and strategies to help.
If you’re ready to take the next step and get personalized guidance, book a free Peaceful Parenting call HERE to create a game plan for helping your teen thrive.
As parents, it’s natural to worry about the impact you’re having on your kids. Thoughts like, “I just don’t want to damage my kids,” or, “My parents messed me up, and I don’t want to repeat that cycle,” are incredibly common. But what does this fear of “damaging” your child actually mean? How does it affect the way we parent, and what can we do to minimize harm while fostering connection and growth?
In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the fears and beliefs around parenting “damage.” We’ll explore how these thoughts manifest in everyday parenting decisions, why they might be holding you back, and actionable steps to focus on what your child truly needs instead. Parenting doesn’t have to be perfect—progress, awareness, and intention matter far more.
If you’d like personalized support in parenting with more peace and less fear, book a free Peaceful Parenting call HERE to start creating the family dynamic you’ve been striving for.
Parenting teens can feel like a constant push and pull. They want freedom, you want safety. They crave independence, you crave reassurance they’re ready. So how much freedom do teens actually need—and how do you know if you’re giving too much or too little?
In this episode, I break down what’s really happening when teens push for independence and how to guide them without shutting them down. We’ll explore how to build trust, set boundaries that make sense for your family, and equip your teen with the skills they need to make good choices. Spoiler: It’s not about being the “fun” or “strict” parent—it’s about fostering growth and connection.
If you’re tired of second-guessing yourself or feeling stuck in battles over freedom, let’s tackle it together. Book a Peaceful Parenting Call today, and let’s create a plan that works for your family. Your peace—and your teen’s future—are worth it.
Does it feel like your teen has a knack for dodging responsibility? Whether they're blaming siblings, friends, or even you for their mistakes, it can leave you frustrated, concerned, and questioning if they'll ever learn accountability. The blame game can trigger fears about their future, making you wonder if you're raising someone who won't grow into a responsible adult.
In this episode, we uncover why teens deflect responsibility and how parents can respond in ways that foster growth and emotional maturity. Learn actionable strategies to teach your teen the value of accountability without nagging, lecturing, or constant conflict.
Need personalized support to handle this and other parenting challenges? Schedule a Peaceful Parenting Consult Call and gain the tools to parent with confidence and peace. Let's raise capable, accountable teens together—book your call now.
The holiday season is meant to bring joy, but for many families, it comes with its fair share of stress, strife, and unmet expectations. In this episode, we tackle the emotional and practical challenges of the season head-on. Discover helpful phrasing for navigating touchy conversations and how the timeless Christmas story can provide profound parenting lessons for modern families.
Learn simple yet powerful tools to manage your expectations, reduce stress, and create meaningful, joyful moments—no matter the circumstances. We'll also reveal one top-tier strategy that has the power to transform your holiday experience and help you find joy, even in the most unpredictable of times.
If you're ready to make this holiday season your most peaceful and fulfilling one yet, listen in and start creating memories you'll cherish.
For more personalized guidance, book your Peaceful Parenting Call today. Joy is waiting—you just have to claim it!
About my Guest: Amy Armstrong is a pioneer in the arena of conflict resolution for families, businesses, and schools. She founded of The Center for Family Resolution (CFR) in Columbus, Ohio, and uses coaching to break through entrenched polarization, power imbalances and divisiveness. Her vision expanded to coach education to inspire coaches everywhere to use their coach skills to make a huge impact for Good.
https://www.linkedin.com/in/coachamyarmstrong/ Tik Tok: amyarmstrongconflictfree IG: amyarmstrong_conflict_free
It’s gut-wrenching to watch your teen navigate friendships with kids who gossip, exclude, or treat them with passive-aggressive behavior. You’re heartbroken and frustrated as you wonder why they continue to seek validation and connection from people who hurt them. Why can’t they just walk away?
In this episode, we dive into the complex emotions and dynamics behind toxic teenage friendships and how to support your child without overstepping. Learn strategies to help your teen build confidence, recognize their worth, and navigate these challenging relationships while staying true to themselves.
If you’ve ever felt powerless watching your teen cling to mean friends, this episode offers the tools and insight you need to guide them toward healthier, more fulfilling connections. Tune in to understand the psychology behind teen friendships and how you can empower your child to make choices that align with their happiness and values.
Key Takeaways:
- Why teens tolerate toxic behavior from friends and how to address it with empathy.
- Practical ways to help your child set boundaries while maintaining their social confidence.
- How to encourage self-worth and resilience so they can make healthier friendship choices.
Don’t miss this impactful conversation—it’s the guidance every parent needs to navigate the murky waters of teenage friendships.
And for effective efficiency in applying what you'll learn, please book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy call to discuss your situation and how to streamline helping your teen HERE.
Is your teen stuck in a cycle of apathy, showing little motivation for school, hobbies, or life in general? This episode takes a deeper dive into what’s going on beneath the surface and how you, as a parent, can help. Building on Episode 100, Apathetic Teens, this conversation explores deeper insights, new perspectives, and actionable strategies to address your teen’s lack of drive. If apathy is a recurring challenge in your home, listening to both episodes will give you a comprehensive toolkit to support your teen effectively.
For personalized support, don’t forget to book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Session today! It’s the perfect opportunity to learn how to tailor these strategies to your family.
Ready for more support? Book your free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Session today and start creating positive change.
Every parent wants to feel more connected with their teen—sharing more, laughing together, and even enjoying those rare, peaceful silences. Connection and peace go hand-in-hand, and they’re often at the top of every family’s wish list.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing three simple yet powerful strategies to strengthen your bond with your teen. These easy-to-apply tips will help you create more connection and bring lasting peace to your home.
Need help implementing what you learn or tackling deeper challenges? Book your free 30-minute Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call HERE and take the first step toward transforming your family dynamic.
Feeling overwhelmed by the need to control your teen’s grades, friends, and future? This episode is for you. Discover a simple 3-step process to let go of control and foster a loving, connected relationship with your teenager.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- How to recognize if your need for control is damaging your relationship.
- The ripple effects of this control dynamic on your family.
- Practical strategies to create trust and connection instead.
Want to fast-track peace in your parenting? Book a free Peaceful Parent Strategy Call and gain actionable insights to transform your home. It’s 30 minutes that will change how you show up as a parent. Book your call HERE
I hear it all the time with clients and friends: One parent is the liaison between the kids and their spouse. They soften the blow of bad news, buffer the emotions of struggle, keep their teens secrets from the other parent because they both fear that parent's reaction, and generally act as a go-between to help manage their partner's emotions.
This can feel necessary to keep the peace. This can feel like an act of betrayal. This can feel like a last ditch effort to support everyone as best you can, being the glue that holds. And usually it’s a little of all of it with some resentment sprinkled on top because you don’t want this role but have no idea how to shift it.
In today's episode I’ll teach you:
- Why we do this
- How and when to stop this behavior
- What it is really creating
To book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy call with me, click HERE and book the best spent 30 minutes you can take as a parent.
In Episode 241, "The Art (and Benefits) of Listening to Your Teenager," we dive deep into one of the most crucial, yet challenging, skills for parents: truly listening. You’ll learn about the two types of listening that can make or break your connection with your teen and get a practical guide on the dos and don’ts to use when they open up. Whether you're struggling to understand their world or just want to build a stronger relationship, this episode is packed with tips to transform how you listen and connect with your teenager. Tune in to discover the real power of being heard and give your teen the gift of understanding.
Ready to bring more peace into your parenting journey? Book a free Peaceful Parenting Strategy Call with me, where we’ll tackle your biggest family challenges and create a clear plan for a calmer, happier home. Let’s work together to turn chaos into connection and stress into peace—starting now!
From Christmas gifts to college applications, choosing friends, picking classes, applying for jobs, finding roommates, how to respond to a text, and even what to wear on any given Tuesday—life is full of decisions that can feel overwhelming. Add in the mental drain of decision fatigue, and it’s no wonder our teens (and even we) feel worn out by lunch!
But what if regret over decisions could be a teachable moment for your teens? Imagine the confidence they could build in making choices that align with the life they want, and the relief that could bring to your household. Decision-making is a learnable skill, and in today’s episode, I’m going to show you exactly how to help your teen master it.
What You’ll Learn:
- The hidden reason why decision-making is so difficult—and how to overcome it.
- Step-by-step strategies to guide your teen in making decisions they’ll feel good about.
- How to handle it when the 'wrong decision' is made, and turn it into a growth opportunity.
Want to go deeper and help your teen tackle life’s big decisions with ease? Book a free 30-minute consultation with me, and together we’ll work through your family’s biggest challenges.
Ever find yourself staring at your teen, wondering why they keep making choices that seem baffling? They may look like adults, but they're not acting like one. They struggle with impulse control, long-term planning, and prioritizing wisdom over their friend’s opinion. In this episode, I’m diving into the science behind those head-scratching decisions and how you, as a parent, can stop spinning your wheels and start supporting them in the most helpful ways possible.
We’ll break down why they’re wired to be influenced by their peers, can’t see past tomorrow, are ruled by emotions, and—let’s face it—think your advice is “outdated.” Knowing what’s going on in their brains helps you guide them more effectively and allows them to learn from their own mistakes while keeping your sanity intact.
In today's episode you'll learn:
- The 4 driving reasons your teen is making the choices they are
- What you can do to mentor and support them without going crazy
Want more support navigating these parenting hurdles? Let’s chat. Book a free consultation with me, and together we’ll work to make your family dynamic stronger than ever.
We’ve all heard the word "objectify" in the context of sexualizing women, reducing them to something that exists to gratify others. But this same concept shows up in parenting more often than we realize. When we label our teens, we’re unconsciously treating them as objects—means to an end for our own validation, appearance, or pride. In this sister episode to #144 episode, I explore how labeling our teens strips them of their individuality, dreams, and struggles, and how this egocentric mindset creates a toxic cycle in our homes.
It’s easy to fall into this trap, expecting our teens to represent the family weel, soothe our wounds, and validate our parenting. But this comes at a great cost: the diminishing of our teens' humanity. Together, we’ll unpack why this happens, how it affects our relationships, and most importantly, how to break the cycle for more genuine and respectful connections with our teens.
Key Takeaways:
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How labeling teens objectifies them and harms their self-worth.
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Recognizing the ego-based patterns that create this dynamic.
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Steps to stop the cycle of objectification and foster a healthier parent-teen relationship.
Ready to make this shift and build a stronger connection with your teen? Book a consultation with me today, and let’s dive deeper into transforming your family dynamics.
In this episode, we dive deep into one of the most common struggles parents face—tying their self-worth to their teen's choices and behaviors. It’s easy to feel like a "good" parent when things are going smoothly, but what happens when your teen starts acting out or making decisions you don't agree with? Does that make you a failure?
Join me as we explore how to detach your self-esteem from your teen’s actions and focus on your own emotional well-being. By letting go of the need to control every outcome, you can show up as a more confident, supportive parent while allowing your teen the space to grow, learn, and make their own decisions.
In this episode, you’ll learn: * How tying your self-worth looks in real time, so that you can recognize how we all do this. * Why tying your self-worth to your teen's behavior is harmful to both you and your child. * Practical steps to emotionally detach from your teen's choices without losing connection. * How to feel like a successful parent, no matter what your teen is doing. * Ways to maintain your emotional balance, even when your teen is struggling or rebelling.
If you're ready to stop riding the emotional rollercoaster and create a more peaceful, fulfilling parenting experience, this episode is for you!
Don't forget to grab my free resource to help navigate these challenges with ease: 30+ Phrases to Turn Any Argument Around—because every parent could use a little extra help in tough conversations!
And if you want the fastest progress with the least amount of hang-ups and pain, grab a free 30 minute consultation with me where we'll discuss a custom strategy to get your relationships right where you want them Schedule HERE.
Why won’t your teen confide in you, give you a straight answer, or do anything more than grunt or nod? I know it can feel frustrating when you’re trying to connect, and it just isn’t happening.
Short answer: They don’t want to.
Long answer: They have a really good reason that's unique to them but not unique for human psychology. In this episode, I’m diving into the logical and predicatable ‘why’ behind your teen’s silence. From their perspective to common roadblocks we may unknowingly create, I’ll break down what’s going on and how you can start making shifts to open up communication again.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
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The main reasons your teen pulls away and stops talking
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How to spot (and remove) the communication barriers that keep them from opening up
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Simple, effective ways to rebuild trust and get your teen talking without forcing it
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The common mistakes parents make when trying to get their teens to talk—and how to avoid them.
If you’re done with the one-word answers and ready for real conversations, this episode is for you. Let’s get to the heart of what’s holding your teen back and take steps to bring connection back into your relationship.
If you'd like the free "What to Say Instead Cheat Sheet" I mentioned in this episode, click HERE
Want some extra help figuring out what’s going on with your teen? Book a free 30-minute consultation with me, and we’ll create a plan that works for your family. Book your call HERE.
If you’ve been asking yourself, “Why won’t my teen just go to bed?”—trust me, you’re not alone! The nightly struggle over bedtime is real for so many parents. But here’s the thing: it’s not just about stubbornness or screen time. In this episode, we’ll explore why teens naturally want to stay up late and what you can do to help them wind down and get the rest they need (without turning bedtime into a war zone).
In this episode, you’ll learn: * The biological reasons why teens’ bodies are wired to stay up later (it’s science, not attitude). * How stress and social pressures can be affecting their sleep schedule and what you can do about it. * Simple, practical strategies to encourage better sleep habits—without constant nagging or frustration. * How to talk about bedtime in a way that respects their autonomy but still helps them make healthier choices.
Tired of the endless bedtime battles? Tune in and learn how to shift the dynamic, so both you and your teen can enjoy more peaceful nights.
And if you want some extra support on this or other parenting challenges, let’s chat! Book a free 30-minute consultation with me, and we’ll create a personalized plan to get you and your teen back on track. Book your call HERE.
Ever wonder what sets the most successful teens apart? It’s not luck or perfect behavior—it’s the way their parents show up! In this episode, I’ll share four key things that parents of thriving teens do consistently to build strong, healthy relationships and help their teens grow into confident, resilient adults. The best part? You can start implementing these strategies today, no matter where you’re at in your parenting journey!
In this episode, you’ll learn: * How to create quality communication that strengthens your connection and trust with your teen. * Why it’s crucial to release your own expectations and dreams and let your teen follow their unique path. * The game-changing impact of unconditional love and how it sets the foundation for your teen’s emotional security. * How to view mistakes as learning opportunities, so you can encourage growth instead of getting stuck in frustration.
By doing these four things, you’ll not only help your teen succeed, you’ll also feel more at peace and happy in your role as a parent.
If you want personalized support on how to make these shifts, let’s talk! Book a free 30-minute consultation with me, and we’ll dive into your specific situation to create a strategy that works for your family. Book your call HERE.
Feeling like your teen "hates" you? You're not alone. One of the most frequently Googled questions by parents is: Why does my teenager hate me? From eye rolls to harsh words, lies, and disrespect, it can seem like your teen is constantly at odds with you—and even their siblings. But why do teens sometimes act so mean, and how can parents respond in a way that fosters love, respect, and kindness?
In today’s episode, we break down the reasons behind your teen's behavior and provide actionable strategies to rebuild a more loving and harmonious relationship.
In This Episode, You'll Learn: * Why Your Teen “Hates” You: Common reasons within your control, stemming from your actions, reactions, or unspoken expectations. * Your Teen’s Perspective: What’s going on in their mind that makes them act out, and why it often has nothing to do with you. * How to Respond with Love: Practical ways to address negative behavior and guide your teen towards kindness and mutual respect.
Actionable Steps You’ll Walk Away With: 1. Identify Root Causes: Determine whether your teen’s frustrations are linked to something within your control or their own internal struggles. 2. Shift the Dynamic: Learn how to stop the cycle of disrespect and frustration with specific communication strategies. 3. Create a Positive Home Environment: Implement proven techniques to transform conflict into connection and restore a sense of harmony in your household.
Ready to take immediate, effective action? Book a FREE 30-minute consultation where we’ll address your specific situation and create a personalized roadmap to improve your relationship with your teen. Click here to book your call.
Would you like the free PDF “Cheatsheet” with over 30+ responses and questions to turn every potential argument into a connected interaction that can better your relationship? Click HERE and it’s yours. xoxo
Today we delve into a difficult yet essential topic: Why do teens cut? Self-harm can be a frightening and confusing issue for parents, but understanding the underlying reasons is key to offering the most helpful support. This episode will explore the emotional and psychological triggers that lead teens to cut, shedding light on the often hidden pain behind their actions.
In this episode you’ll learn:
- A better understanding of their reasons and how it makes sense to them. (It’s not to manipulate or seek attention.)
- Practical strategies for approaching this sensitive subject with your teen.
- How to foster open communication when emotions are so difficult, to best provide the help they need to heal.
- How to create a supportive environment that promotes your teen’s emotional well-being.
- Confidence that you haven’t failed and your teens future isn’t doomed.
If you’re dealing with self harm in your home, both you and your teen need support. To schedule a free consultation, click HERE and we can discuss how you can best help your child and if I’m a good fit to be part of your professional support team.
In this episode of Pivot Parenting, we tackle a tough but crucial question: Why do teens do drugs? You might think there are countless reasons, but it all boils down to one clear core reason. By understanding this reason, you'll gain clarity on your teen's behavior and learn how to better address substance use with empathy and effectiveness.
Join me as I reveal powerful parenting techniques to support your teen without pushing them away, offering the tools you need to build a stronger relationship and guide them towards healthier choices. Don’t miss this essential episode for parents looking to understand and help their teens in the face of substance challenges.
What You’ll learn in this episode:
- Why teens use substances: there is only one reason, and when you know it you can better understand the situation for greater peace and clarity amidst the storm.
- How parents can best help their teens struggling with substance abuse. (And what isn't helpful.)
To book a free call and troubleshoot your specific situation, click HERE. In 30 minutes you’ll walk away knowing your next best step and the exact process to get you to your parenting and family goals. xoxo
In this episode, I'm diving into the five common misunderstandings about trust that can trap parents and harm their relationships with their teens. Trust is a big issue, especially when teens engage in risky behaviors like lying, sneaking out, using substances, and other reckless actions. But what if we’re looking at trust all wrong? Here’s what we’ll cover:
- Why teens break our trust: Understanding the reasons behind lies, sneaking, and other unwanted behaviors.
- What trust really is (and isn't): Clarifying misconceptions about trust in parenting.
- What builds trust and what breaks it: Key actions that can either strengthen or damage your relationship.
- Why trust and love are separate—and why this is great news: How separating trust from love can change your perspective and improve all of your parenting interactions.
- How trust isn’t necessary to parent well: Discover why trust isn’t the foundation of effective parenting you might think, and what to focus on instead for best results.
Join me as we unpack these points and learn how to navigate trust issues with confidence, keeping your relationship with your teen strong and resilient.
In this high-value episode of Pivot Parenting, we explore the concept of "Pick Me" parenting and its impact on your relationship with your teen. Are you unknowingly seeking your teen's approval by trying to be the "cool parent" or competing for their attention? While it might seem like a way to connect, this approach can lead to common parenting pitfalls and undermine your authority.
Join host, Heather Frazier as she uncovers the signs of "Pick Me" parenting and offers practical strategies to avoid it. Learn how to set clear boundaries, maintain your parental authority, and build genuine respect with your teen. Discover effective communication techniques and parenting strategies to foster a healthy, balanced relationship.
We’ll explore how these dynamics play out, the long-term impact on both you and your teen, and provide actionable strategies to shift from approval-seeking to fostering a truly connected relationship. Learn how to stop seeking validation from your child and start building a bond based on mutual respect and understanding. Don’t let the need to be liked get in the way of being the parent your teen truly needs.
What you’ll learn in this episode:
- How to identify harmful parenting habits of seeking validation from your kids
- Recognize the harm these habits are causing
- Learn what to do instead to have an authentic, healthy relationship with your teen
To implement what you learn with more efficiency and effectiveness, book a free 30 minute consultation HERE and we can discuss your situation and your next best step in building the relationship you want with them. xoxo
In this episode of Pivot Parenting, we tackle the pervasive "always right" parenting trap. Are you finding yourself interrupting, being impatient, and insisting on things being done your way? Do you feel judged while also judging others, struggle to understand your teen, or face challenges with authentic engagement from your kids and spouse?
The need to always "be right" can disrupt your happiness and hinder your ability to connect with your kids and partner. It’s a common issue, yet many don’t realize how their need to be right negatively affects their family dynamics. It creates angry, apathetic and stubbornly silent teens. It promotes lying and arguing. It kills necessary vulnerability to connect on more than a surface level, and keeps the “right” parent on everyone's “wrong” side.
In today’s episode, I delve into:
- Understanding "Always Right" Parenting: What it truly means and why it’s problematic.
- Identifying the Signs: How to recognize "always right" behaviors in yourself. (this doesn’t make you bad or wrong, just human like the rest of us)
- Effective Solutions: Practical steps to overcome this mindset and improve your relationships.
- Gain REAL control: No more nagging and micromanaging your teens to feel good. We both know they don’t like to play along. I’ll show you control in the best way that you and your family will love.
By mastering these key points, you can foster more peace and fun within your family. Be prepared to discover surprising insights that could transform your parenting approach and enhance your family's well-being.
To book a free 30 minute call with me where we discover your next best parenting move, book at heatherfrazier.com
Divorce is a common pain point for many parents. It can feel like your life is out of your control, your kids are suffering, and everything is turned upside down. Divorce expert, Karin Nelson and I will discuss the guilt portion of that today. Whether you're divorced, in the process, or are happily married, you'll get valuable info from the conversation. We cover being unable to protect your kids from harmful parents, blaming yourself for their suffering, if you made the right decision, "broken home" sigmas, and sneaky, unseen ways that guilt plays out that you probably aren't even aware of but it's negatively impacting your family.
To book a free 30 minute call with me, come to Heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Karin Nelson is a mom, a Taylor Swift enthusiast, and a trauma-informed divorce grief specialist, that specializes in helping women move through the grief and pain of their divorce by reconnecting with themselves, create lasting emotional resilience and stepping into their power as an independent woman to live a life even better than when they were married. You can find out more about Karin and the work she does through her podcast ‘Becoming You Again’.
Here are the links you can find Karin at:
Website Becoming You Again Podcast Instagram
You’d think they’re kept top secret… but nobody is gatekeeping the ways parents of teens sabotage connection without ever knowing it. In today's episode of Pivot Parenting, I outline the three most effective parenting tips for improving family relationships. We’ll overcome regret, discuss how to build connection with your teen, and find parenting peace. You’ve never met parenting solutions more effective and simple to implement before. The often unseen mistakes parents make that we’ll discuss are the key to reversing disappointment and heartache, even if mental health issues, discipline struggles, or undesired behavior issues are at play. Teens are wonderful and fun. They just need a very specific approach to bring out their best and forge bonds that are unbreakable.
In this episode:
-You’ll gain actionable tips for effective teen discipline, improving communication, and building trust.
-You’ll understand 3 hidden mistakes for more clarity and confidence in your role as a parent.
-You’ll know simple and clear ways to stop behaviors you don’t want happening any more.
-Fear will dissipate and you’ll gain peace around your teens future.
-You’ll know how to best approach any situation with control of your emotions and love for all.
-You'll feel so confident that regret and disappointment will be a thing of the past.
And... Is your specific family situation stressing you out? I would love to help you with your struggles ASAP. I'll give you peace of mind and your next best step to resolve the issue. Book your free 30 minute strategy call at heatherfrazier.com
Peace of mind is 30 minutes away, my friend. xoxo
Julia is worn out from meeting the emotional and physical needs of her kids and even her husband. She feels lonely and sad because her husband is so unavailable and parents in such a "black and white" manner, that there is little room for understanding and connection. Parenting her teen and dealing with a spouse who isn't showing up how she needs is taking a toll. Listen in as she's coached to discover what's holding her back from having the parenting relationship she wants- it's not what you might guess it is.
Being able to be on the same page as coparents can be a struggle, and I often coach on it. Once you see things clearly, how to bridge the gap becomes clear.
To learn more about parenting your teen and joining "drop-in" coaching, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Paul and his wife have 3 kids. Their middle child is playing too much Fortnite and it's not going well... Tech is a huge issue for most parents, and with good reason. You've got a teen brain that loves the high which games provide and parents who want their kids to see the wisdom in playing less, while feeling good about it all.
In this episode we discuss how parents that want their teens to like them are disempowering themselves and not helping their teen as well as they could. Paul needs to mange his "worry freeze" and the need for a teenager to agree with him. Listen in to hear how it all plays out.
To learn more about parenting your teen and join "drop-in" coaching, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Kat is experiencing a very common parenting struggle: She wants to keep her daughter happy. And so she apologizes when she's not done anything wrong, does more than she wants to to keep the house running, and generally walks on eggshells to manage a 13 yr olds emotions. As you can imagine, she isn't very successful at this, because we've all been in her shoes.
"Fix it" energy feels like the solution to a grumpy teen but is often fuel to the fire. Listen in as we discover what the real cure to a grumpy teen is and how much relief it can provide to you, right now. (And no, it's not getting a new mom. You and Kat are the perfect parents for your teens.)
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
In today's Pivot Parenting episode I coach Madeleine. She has two daughters that fight and she just wants it to stop. We all get this- and we are often times in the same trap that she's in. Listen to learn how she can find the peace of mind she wants even though nothing has worked to stop them from arguing. There is more that can be done than either joining in the argument or withdrawing altogether.
To learn more about parenting and get your copy of, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
This episode of Pivot Parenting is dedicated to that parent who is second guessing all of their life decisions: Marriage, career, having all the kids, giving their whole life to something and someone all for nothing.
Having teens who act like they don't care, a partner who never appreciates us, a career that isn't what we'd thought, and a list of to-do's that breeds overnight with no help in site can drive anyone to wishing for another path.... many, many decisions ago.
If you're in the middle of a "throw my hands up and quit" kinda moment, you're not alone (I see lots of clients in this predicament) and this one's for you. xoxo
To book a free 30 minute strategy call with me or get my best selling book, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
All talk (or complain) and nothing changes. We might get louder, we might be more miserable and frustrated, but the teens are still teening and the parents are still parenting... as the months pass but the unbearable moments we want to avoid are just on repeat.
WHY!? It can be maddening when you don't understand the reason behind the chaos. Listen in, because I'm going to make sense of the madness and then explain what actually fixes the issue so that when you see something that needs improvement, you're all set.
(Spoiler: It's only a couple of steps and they aren't what you think.)
For a free 30 minute "best next step" conversation about your situation, book at HeatherFrazier.com
Mental health is on the forefront of most parents brains. Anxiety being a frontrunner. Did you know that negative self-talk plays into anxiety and other mental health struggles? Listen in as Monica and I discuss:
1- What role self-awareness plays in managing anxiety, and how to help teens develop this skill.
2- Common negative self-talk patterns among teens and how these patterns contribute to their anxiety.
3- What strategies are recommended for parents to help their teens become more aware of and challenge their negative self-talk.
4- Positive changes can parents expect to see as teens improve their inner dialogue.
5- Practical tips and strategies parents can engage with to foster a positive and supportive environment at home.
To learn more about parenting your teen and to grab a strategy call with me, visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest:
Monica is a Certified Life & Wellness Coach who helps teens overcome feelings of overwhelm and anxiety that interfere with their daily life. Whether they’re drowning in schoolwork, having difficulty overcoming a break-up or are unsure of their career path, Monica ensures teens receive the support they need to create visionary change.
Drawing from her personal journey, she understands the crippling effects of anxiety and the overwhelming challenges it presents. Motivated by her desire to break free from this mindset, she has utilized her educational background and ongoing self-growth journey to acquire a wealth of tools and resources, to support teens in navigating and alleviating the stressors of anxiety.
Social Media Links -
IG - @__consciouscoach Website - www.consciouscoach.biz Email - monica@consciouscoach.biz
We all want the instant solution, "magic wand" kind of get-what-I-want-quick resolution. Parents try to come at this in so many directions... perhaps you've tried a few?
Coulda, woulda, shoulda: "If I had known", "if I had said that differently", "if they hadn't been dating that person", "if their dad wouldn't have lost his temper... THEN we wouldn't be here." That's the "magic wand" we missed out on perspective.
Be everywhere, know everything, do all the things right: This one feels ultra productive, in control, and frenzied! We run around, chasing fires and putting them out, until we realize that we can't be/do/know everything and our pipe dream comes to an abrupt end that leaves us exhausted with very little to show except an angry teen. This is the, after all I've done, I deserve a "magic wand" approach.
Bookworm approach: Read books, listen to podcasts, learn, learn, learn and nothing seems to provide the big shift that's so desperately needed. It can feel like so much knowledge is gained but there's not much to show for it, kinda "magic wand".
Avoid approach: We blame someone like our spouse, their friends or even our kid. We stay busy, hoping that the issue will take care of itself. We might talk about it, but can't think of any step to take towards resolution. This is the "too confused, burnt out, and busy to deal" kind of "magic wand". We simply hope it will disappear with time.
These are only a few examples of ineffective "magic wands" that parents wave around, hoping to feel better, ease the household tension, and help their kid feel happy and respond more favorably to them. If you've tried any, you know that they don't work so well.
Listen in to this week's Pivot Parenting episode to learn why they don't work and what to do instead.
To grab a free strategy call with me, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com
One of the most common points of contention parents and teens have: Screens.
Video games, phones, vegging out for hours... while chores, school work and people are neglected. Listen in as I explain the simple two step process of prying your teen off their device and back into the real word. Psychologically founded and sure to be "do-able" for all families, my process is one that feels good for everyone and fosters emotional health and love.
It's not impossible and it's not too late.
To grab 30 minutes of fine-tuning what you learn on this episode, book a free consult. xoxo
While I'm not saying parents have complete control over what their teens do (they don't), they DO have influence- and age old psychology does a pretty good job of predicting how the human brain will respond to certain parenting behaviors.
Knowing what I teach in this Pivot Parenting episode will better help you understand and utilize proven psychology methods while interacting with your kids to give you the best odds for their behaviors you're hoping for, and the ones you really don't want. You could be self sabotaging and not even know it.
To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
When our kids know who they are, independent from accomplishment, others opinions, and other external details, they have more confidence, happiness and success. So how do we help them work this out during the typically hardest 'identity' years they'll have? Listen in as Traci and I go over all the details you need to know!
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Traci Peterson is an international speaker, highly sought after trainer, has spoken to over 23,000 people, performed in front of 100,000 in sports audiences. She's been a board-certified family nurse practitioner, founder/CEO of Elevate Wellness & Aesthetics, she's treated over 6,000 female patients, is co-founder of The Butterfly Campaign and the #1 Top Team Builder in 50 Countries with Amare, for outstanding leadership and long-term team retention. Her latest project is BE: A Mother Daughter Movement grounded in connection and protection. She cites that her greatest accomplishment is being a mother to 3 very active children!
She prides herself in mastering her roles as a mother, wife and woman of faith and leading by example in all of her leadership roles. With collective medical, wellness, aesthetics and leadership experience of 15+ years, Traci is widely regarded by her male and female peers, patients, clients, entrepreneurs and mom’s alike. She helps high-performing women and their daughters conquer self-criticism and comparison through identifying your unique and divine gifts. And finding validation is learning to love yourself and lean on God. She helps people practically, remember who they are so they can confidently raise the next generation of leaders.
You can find Traci at:
www.tracipeterson.com info@tracipeterson.com @motherdaughtermovement @tpete
The role of mother can be very lonely. We don't want to blab our teen's struggles to our friends, we are pulled in every direction, trying to be there for everyone, all while the list of things to do grows by the day. Why is it important to have friends amidst the chaos and how does one go about fostering meaningful friendships amongst everything else?
This is exactly what Jody and I discuss today in Pivot Parenting. Women need each other and this isn't a selfish thing. Listen in as we break it down and Jody gives us the one hack to remember in friendly interactions.
To learn more about parenting your teen and order my best seller, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About my guest:
After having her first two kids, Jody Moore struggled with work/life balance, embracing motherhood, and liking herself. As an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints she felt guilty for not loving the role of mother and wife, and turned to life coaching for help. The transformation she experienced not only helped her at work and at home, it strengthened her testimony of Christ leading her to dive into learning the tools of coaching and to leave her position as a corporate leadership coach to launch her own coaching practice. Jody is certified through The Life Coach School and completed Master Coach Certification in 2018. Today, as an LDS Life Coach, Jody has helped tens of thousands of people through her top-rated podcast Better Than Happy as well as her coaching membership program Be Bold. She has 4 children ages 7 – 17 and resides in Spokane, Washington with them, her husband, and their French bulldog Finn, mini cavapoo Milo, and cat Oscar.
Website: https://jodymoore.com/masterclass/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jodymoorecoaching/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jodymoorecoaching/
Today I have Jennifer on to talk about all things consent, self- abandonment, teaching healthy sexuality, and advocacy. I get that talking about such topics can feel awkward, intimidating, and confusing as to how to go about it. Stress no more! One of my favorite things Jennifer said was, "if you want someone's approval it puts you at a disadvantage." She was referencing the story of my first kiss, which I tell in my book, How I Fixed My Teen, and how I really wanted him to like me and how I let things go too far in an effort to win his approval... and also because I totally froze. We talk about that as well. You don't want to miss listening in as we spill all the tea in the best of ways.
To order the book that we reference, and learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About Jennifer: I am a relationship and sexuality educator and coach, as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois with a Ph.D in Counseling Psychology from Boston College. I wrote my dissertation on LDS women and sexuality, and have taught college-level courses on human sexuality. I currently teach online courses and live workshops to individuals and couples seeking to develop their capacity for deeper emotional and sexual intimacy. Additionally, I offer limited private and group coaching services to individuals and couples who have benefitted from my podcasts and courses and are looking for more direct input on improving their lives and relationships.
I am a frequent contributor on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, and spirituality to LDS-themed blogs, magazines, and podcasts, including the “Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist” podcast series. My husband and I are the parents of three children and are active members of the LDS church.
You can find Jennifer at: finlayson-fife.com
Many parenting issues boil down to one specific struggle: Confidence.
Advocating for our kid, standing up to them, following through with consequences, loving unconditionally, having peace, and so many other things all have this common root struggle. Today, Tony and I discuss the details and help you find more confidence and therefore less struggle and more joy.
To learn more about parenting and order best seller, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About my guest, Tony: So, you may be asking yourself…How did this guy become so interested in Women’s Confidence?
My path to standing here, in front of you right now, is 100% because of my daughter…my amiga…my best buddy…Rachel.
Our story begins when she was about one. That’s when Rachel’s mom and I parted ways and circumstances led to me being a single dad at the age of 27. Here I was raising a daughter on my own.
A daughter…a gender of the human species that I thought I knew about, but in reality, had absolutely no clue! Although I didn’t know it at the time, it was the beginning of ‘girl’s world’ bootcamp for this guy and it changed my life. For the better. That epiphany led me to lean into my passion for helping others through therapy and coaching. I went back to grad school at 30 to get my Psych degree. Then my doctorate.
In 2011, I opened my own counseling and coaching company, which in turn led to the “She Talks Confidence” podcast, YouTube channel (Tony Dufresne, PhD), and the book (Surrounded by Idiots).
My podcast, speaking engagements, and online True Confidence program are labors of love that have come from three decades of success, failure, setbacks, challenges, breakthroughs, and comebacks. Find all things Tony at tonydufresne.com
There are a few specific key ingredients to effectively correcting and guiding our kids and they may not be what you think they are. Discipline is a necessary part of parenting and greatly influences the trajectory of their self-esteem, confidence, emotional skill level and general life satisfaction. Too little talked about, but a giant portion of parental responsibility, I'm taking the bull by the horns in showing you that discipline is not scary, impossible or even has to be a negative experience. Listen in as I share the "why", "what" and "how" of discipline.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Routine is shown to help manage stress and anxiety, help in productivity and make life feel generally better. Enter, a parents morning routine. Helping teens get out the door each day, fitting in time for ourselves while doing all of the other things on the list can feel daunting. In todays Pivot Parenting episode, I chat with morning routine expert, Ahna Fulmer.
We discuss all of the things: why it can be helpful, how it can work for everyone, when one should begin a routine and everything in between.
To learn more about parenting your teen, and ordering my best seller, How I Fixed my Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About my Ahna Fulmer: am passionate about helping women Rise Well A dual-certified nurse practitioner with 10 years of emergency medicine experience, I want to empower you with practical, data-driven strategies to rise emotionally, mentally, physically, socially, and spiritually well, fulfilling your God-given purpose with more confidence and joy – one imperfect day at a time.
Whether you join me in the Early Morning Habit™, a premier virtual program helping busy women rise well with a morning routine that starts each day with God’s Word and a workout while offering hope to a child waiting to be adopted into a forever family, on my top-rated health & fitness podcast, imPERFECTly emPOWERed™, or on the blog here at ahnafulmer.com, you will be inspired to embrace imperfection as perfectly beautiful and mistakes as part of your unmistakable uniqueness. Because your story matters and YOU ARE LOVED.
Get Ahna's free guide: Busy Woman's Morning Guide
"Time heals all wounds." "If Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!" "Blood is thicker than water."
We've all heard antidotal phrases that sound nice but may not feel as good. The truth is, within families we wound each other. Sometimes unknowingly, sometimes with the best of intentions to be helpful, and sometimes out of our own anger and emotions to hurt another.
Maybe time alone isn't going to heal what we said. Perhaps our teen doesn't think their painful family ties are thicker than friend ties. Maybe mom's feelings shouldn't be the object of everyones efforts...
In todays Pivot Parenting episode I break down the pain caused within family relationships and how we can work to repair them better than ignoring, spending time and money to win favor back, or otherwise manipulating them into forgiveness.
The good news is, you don't need to be perfect- never upsetting them or getting it wrong. (Even when it's out of anger and we meant to lash out in the moment.) Listen in as I explain the very simple, one step process of how to effectively repair relationship wounds.
To learn more about parenting your teen, or to order my Amazon best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
It's common that our kid's teen years intersect with loss. The passing of our parents (their grandparents), their peers, pets, and even loss that isn't death- loss of friendships, anticipated futures (like making the team or getting the part) and other hoped for expectations that never become realized. Grief is a hard time for us and our kids. It can feel awkward and we may not know how to approach it or help them, so we often do nothing. There is a better way to help our kids and ourselves through inevitable dark times.
Tune in as I talk with grief expert, @lifecoachkrista about grief myths, what is helpful, what isn't, and what is normal for grief as a family.
To learm more about parenting your teen and ordering my best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Krista St-Germain is a Master Certified Life Coach, grief expert, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista’s life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. After therapy helped her unfurl from the fetal position, Krista discovered Life Coaching, Post Traumatic Growth and learned the tools she needed to move forward and create a future she could get excited about. Now she coaches and teaches other widows so they can love life again, too. Krista’s website: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com
The Widowed Mom Podcast: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/podcast/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachingwithkrista
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lifecoachkrista/
When they say... "I know, I know" "Thats not what you said..." "It wasn't because of me, they caused it" "WHY ARE YOU SO MAD! you hate me, I can never do anything right!"
There are many ways our teens justify, deny and avoid being wrong. Why? This drives parents crazy and then it just gets worse. Fighting, us refusing to be wrong, nit-picking details, and causing strain on our relationship.
But did you know, that when we approach our never-in-the-wrong teen properly, we can foster connection and strengthen our love? Tune-in to find out how. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen or order my best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
It can feel like our teens are a shrouded mystery of hormones and hoodies... until now! Today I have a teen therapist, Ashley Hudson, on Pivot Parenting to discuss how their behavior makes sense and what they mean when they say things like, "I Hate you!", give you the silent treatment, lie, or coddle your feelings. You don't want to miss our informative conversation!
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Ashley Hudson is a mother of 3 boys, licensed teen therapist, and parent coach, with over 12 years of experience. Her group private practice, Ashley Hudson Therapy, is based in Orange County, CA, focusing on empowering adolescents and young adults dealing with anxiety, depression, sport performance anxiety, grief, and parent-child relational conflicts. Drawing from her extensive experience working with thousands of teenagers, Ashley loves working with parents of teenagers and helping them reconnect with their teens. Ashley has created online parenting courses: The Connected Parent and Social Media & Your Teen designed to help parents establish open communication and build meaningful connections with their teens. You can follow her on instagram @ashleyhudsontherapy or the links below.
https://www.illuminateyourconnection.co/connectedparent https://www.illuminateyourconnection.co/social-media-and-your-teen
When you're stuck and feel like it's never enough, you try and try, but end up exhausted with little to show for it. When you feel like you're holding on sooo tight but still feel unstable. When everything is so obiviously one thing or another but also nothing will conform to your way of seeing it... You may be getting in your own way of parental happiness with a "check-the-box" parenting approach.
Listen in as I describe how and why we have boxes and what to do when they're pretty in theory but causing a huge problem in reality. xoxo
To learn more about parenting and order my best selling book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
It's infuriating when our teens yell, swear, rant, take it out on us and their siblings... Having an angry teen is one of the common complaints I hear from parents.
Listen to this weeks episode of Pivot Parenting as I break it down: Why this happens and what to do about it. There are better solutions then yelling back, cowering from them, or jumping through hoops trying to avert their wrath and win their favor. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen and to order my book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
We invest in real-estate, the stock market, cryptocurrency, NFT's and other forms of business.. but what about our kids? Parenting isn’t a vending machine, its a charity, and education, and in invitation to evolve. Listen in as I break down some unexpected returns when we think of our kids as something we deserve a return on.
To learn more about parenting your teen and order my book, How I Fixed My Teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Tune in as I highlight 10 common tricks our brains pull on us that sabotage our best parenting. We all do them, but don't worry, once you learn to recognize them you'll never unwittingly fall victim to them again. Knowing whats what is the biggest hurdle to overcome in being your best parenting self. I've got you. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Being wrong is bad, right? nope, it's magic.
Come with me on a journey of finding peace and freedom in the simple embrace of one basic truth. It will immediately and forever positively effect the way you interact with your children and self. If things aren't shifting and you're about to throw in the towel when it comes to your teens, this could be exactly what's missing. I've got you. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com
Feeling triggered? Life and teens have a way of lighting up our nervous systems. Our brains are very complex beautiful helps to life- until they aren't. In today's episode I break down how we can use our brain's instincts to help us rather than leave us in the, post-yelling (or passive aggressive, or totally avoiding them and everyone) slump of shame.
If you've ever thought: "why did I just do that? Why couldn't I have responded better, what's going on that I can't be the parent I want to be?!" Then this episode is your key to understanding so that you can feel like you're back in the drivers seat of how you behave, see things, and parent. I've got you. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen, and check out my book, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
All of the things we don't want our teens doing: Drugs, sex, porn, suicidal ideation, cheating, lying, vaping.... there's a common thing parents tend to say. Repeatedly. "How did I NOT know!??"
There are specific reasons parents do this and effects this has. Tune in to understand and therefore have more power and peace in your parenting.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
With kids, a spouse, a household to run, work, friends and family, it's easy to feel like there isn't enough of us to go around.
We want to be there for our teens, we also have so much going on that we don't want to drop the ball on. We're falling into bed, dead on our feet, not having done it all, feeling defeated.
Tune in to todays Pivot Parenting episode as I talk about coaching so many parents on this tired, lonely spot that we all find ourselves in. There's a two step fix to the issue, and I'm here to help you with it.
To preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, and check out all of my parenting resources, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Is modesty a key player in your home? Is it what they're wearing? Is it how they act? Are modesty and sexuality linked together? Let's discuss all things teens, modesty, sexuality, appearance, and how to parent through all of it.
It can be tricky, as many adults are uncomfortable around these topics, but they're important to help our teens navigate. I never shy away from an awkward discussion, so lets go!
To preorder, How I Fixed My Teen, and learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Parents like to help. Sometimes it's helpful and sometimes it's not. Want to know what makes the difference? Listen to this weeks episode to find out. It's the deciding factor for if the help will actually help or hinder.
To learn more about parenting your teen and to preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com xoxo
We say we want one thing- Love, kindness, quality relationships... But sometimes our behaviors give us away. It's easy to prioritize chores, grades, and obedience above what we think we want. There's an easy explanation as to why we do this. There's also a simple fix.
I've got a simple exercise for you that will expose if your parenting actions align with your values. Want to make 2024 your best year? The one where you feel calm, in control and at peace? Let me show you how.
Ready to align your values and your parenting? Tune in to this weeks Pivot Parenting episode to learn how. xoxo
To preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, and learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
We want them there. It won't be the same, plus it's awful to have to tell Grandma that they didn't want to come. But they didn't and now there's contention.
Nobody wins in this situation, but it doesn't have to be like this. Today I'll walk you through other options, offer you better understanding around this common phenomenon, and generally help make the holidays a little better when it comes to herding our families everywhere.
To preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, or learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
We all know that our money has limits, so why do we think we should have limitless emotional strength and spending? Today I want to teach you a new way of looking at budgets. It's got nothing to do with money and everything to do with having reasonable expectations for yourself.
Lost your cool? Have no emotional bandwidth by the end of the day? Feeling drained and hating yourself for not being at your best ALL. THE. TIME...?
Good news in this episode. I love you, and want to share with you this most powerful secret.
If you'd like to preorder my book, How I Fixed my Teen, or learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Family life is wonderful, and that includes times where we want to cry, scream, and throw in the towel. Mental health, physical health, and tough situations can happen to everyone. In Today's episode I'll walk you through the three most common mistakes parents add needless pain and suffering on top of a hard situation. I will also talk you through the only two places you need to be in for maximum relief and progress through whatever rough waters you're navigating.
Life can be a challenge. Parenting can be a wild time, and I'm here to help you with all of it.
To preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen, learn more about parenting your teen, or search by topic exactly what you're struggling with, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Parent's find out what I do and ask me how to get their teen to: like cleaning their room, turn in homework, help out, be nice, stop lying... they want to know how to fix the problem that is their teen's choices. I get it. I was that parent several years ago.
When we see our teen's as something to be fixed, we parent in a very specific way, and it's not so helpful. Tune in to learn more and how to help your teen in a more powerful way.
To preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen and learn more about parenting, please visit me at Heatherfrazier.com
The holidays are wonderful and also we're so glad when the busy, chaotic hum is over. But what if we could enjoy them at a more measured pace so that we didn't have to take that exhausted sigh of relief when they're over?
It's possible, and Kristen is here to tell us exactly how! If you're feeling the holiday overwhelm, this episode is for you. No more snipping at the kids because they don't want to play along. No more forcing family traditions that you think you should keep. Let's create the perfect family holiday season together.
To check out Family Connection Design Course (discount code: 100off valid until 12/1/23) and preorder my book, How I Fixed My Teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Kristen Mattison is founder of the blog This Routine Life. Kristen is passionate about spreading the word that motherhood doesn’t have to feel so hard and daunting, and it IS possible to enjoy the years with your kids without feeling overwhelmed and like you’re always behind. When she’s avoiding her To-Do list, you’ll find her watching Bravo TV, reading, or working on her latest cross-stitch project. She has her master’s in counseling and is a Certified Life Coach through The Life Coach School.
You can find her at thisroutinelife.com
A special surprise for you, today! I'm writing a book, How I FIxed My Teen, and this is the trailer!
I'm so excited to introduce you to my baby that I've been working on this past year. We're set to publish in early 2024 and you'll want to preorder. Visit me at heatherfrazier.com to get on the list.
I'll be mailing out signed copies from my website, and even giving you a book club deal if you get +8 books. Also, if you're in the area, or I'm in yours, I'd love to come to your book club! All the details are at heatherfrazier.com so I'll see you there. xoxo
Is it a sneaky hack like, the magic words that get them to like chores? Could it be how to never be ruffled by their harsh words? Perhaps we're missing the key to understanding teen behavior? What if it's a secret consequence that they actually respond favorably to? A way of saying it that they don't get mad at?
So many confused, exhausted parents ask me what they're missing, why it's so exhausting, and how they can get their teen to: turn homework in, get up on time, stop lying, start liking family time, stop yelling and swearing at them, help out without the drama, and everything else...
Well- Here's the magic episode that helps you see it all more clearly- after all, seeing is believing, right?
To learn more about parenting, and check out Family Connection Design Course, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
In today's episode I speak with marriage expert, Aimée Gianni. We discuss how to be on the same side of the table with your partner on several pointed struggles parents often face:
- how to see eye to eye when you disagree on phone/video game/curfew/dating rules
-how to 'fight' in front of your kids (show them healthy ways of disagreeing)
-how to be a unified force in your parenting when you don't agree
-how to deal with a spouse who doesn't support your rules, goes around your consequences, undermining behaviors
It all boils down to one simple truth, and it may surprise you...
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com To join my 2 week, Stop Arguing with Your Teen challenge, click HERE
About my guest: Aimée Gianni, MS, is a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Master Coach Instructor specializing in Love Relationships. She teaches her clients The Art of Intimate Connection and helps them create strong, loving, joyful relationships and meaningful lives that they love, full of authenticity, connection, passion, fulfillment, and physical well-being. It’s her favorite thing to do! As a Master Coach Instructor she trains relationship coaches how to do this important work with their clients. You can learn more about her work at AimeeGianni.com and follow her on Instagram @aimeegiannims
To sign up for Aimée's love notes, click HERE
"And the truth shall set you free..." It's applicable to parenting as well.
I've got two formulas that teach us how truth in parenting is the best way forward to where we want to be. Having a poker face for your family isn't the best approach if you want a close relationship.
Vulnerability + Truth = Intimacy/connection
Knowledge + Skilled application = Wisdom
I'm going to walk you through 4 points to help you navigate exactly how honesty will guide you to be the best, most loving parent possible.
To join my two week challenge, How to Stop Arguing With Your Teen, click HERE.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
"I'm over it." "I give up!" "I have no idea what I'm doing, so I make it worse." "I can't keep doing this." "They're killing me." "I'm just avoiding them until they move out." "I just want to run away/disappear/hide all day..."
Its burnout, and there's a logical explanation and fix for it.
Raising kids is so wonderful and terrible and the best opportunity to grow ourselves. And sometimes we're ready for it to be over. Listen in as I shed some light on what's going on. You're not alone and it's not a lost cause. Things can get better... and before they move out.
To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
We've heard words like enmeshment or codependency within a peer to peer relationship, but did you know that they can also be at play with us and our teens? It messes with us when they don't want to play along with our ideas of what the family should be like, or how they should lead their lives.
When we misattribute who's responsible for creating our feelings and who needs to change before they can be resolved, what can already be difficulties get 10x bigger. Add fuel to the fire, no more!
In today's episode I talk about a couple of key ways to be a cohesive, interdependent family. One that's emotionally intelligent. So that you can deescalate situations with love, rather than melting down. xoxo
Here's the course I mention, Family Connection Design Course, in this episode.
To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at Heatherfrazier.comhttps://heatherfrazier.com/
"You can have it all", we're told, as if it were the best prize ever. So we shoot for it and try to hold all the balls in the air and beat ourselves up when we discover that it's hard to live up to society's standards. Today, Monica and I talk about perfectionism in our parenting, how it affects our kids, how to identify unhealthy tendencies in our kids, and when they point out our mistakes. (Sometimes in very harsh ways).
Our approach to such struggles makes all the difference in our level of parenting happiness, and today's episode will help you pivot where you may not have even seen needs. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: My name is Monica Packer. I'm a recovering perfectionist, podcaster, and Progress Coach. I save women from themselves, by helping them ditch perfectionism, step into their gifts, and move towards real progress. Welcome to a community who knows life is about progress, not perfection!
To get Monica's free value exercise, click HERE
You can also find Monica at her website and instagram @aboutprogress
Okay, in today's episode I keep it real with the fact that sometimes we just want to be on vaca, far from everyone... including our kids. (Ohh! I said it. And without feeling any mom guilt or shame, to boot.)
We all have human monents, and I'm here to normalize that fact. So sit back, push play, and prepare to feel better about not loving parenting your kids every second of every day- no guilt attached. It's possible, and even ideal, as the end result is being a better parent.
To get my 4 simple strategies on how to negotiate phone rules, curfews, chores, cars, etc.. with your teen, click HERE.
To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Lying, vaping, cussing, fighting, and being obnoxious in class. Parents get a call or email from their teens' teachers and the shame sets in. Gossiping, bullying, and causing neighborhood backlash and you want to hide under a rock.
Our teens do stuff that we don't appreciate and we try everything to get them to knock it off. Yet they persist. Good news, your kid isn't bad and you aren't a terrible parent. Listen in as I teach you what to focus on that will make the difference, break down the three reasons why our kids do the things they do, and the best perspective to love and teach them.
If your kid is the one causing the problems, I love you and this episode is for you. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Having heard it all- a few times over, there are repeat parenting offenders that never end well when you're trying to parent your teens. Listen in as I outline ten of the most popular such as contempt, control, and power struggles.
Also, these ten common pain points often come up when trying to negotiate things like phone rules, curfews, dating, and other points which parents and teens need some kind of understanding... and so I've got the perfect cheat sheet to easily navigate these rough waters. You can get the PDF here.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Do you have a hard time knowing what is true? You're not alone. We tend to not want to see what IS, our brains spin tails about future truths, and others project thier judgments on us like truths. All the while, we parents are trying to love and teach our kids the best we can. With so much confusion, it's easy to not know which end is up when it comes to truth, even when we are interenested in knowing what it is.
Listen in as I teach about the two kinds of truths, how to use truth to benefit your parenting, and why knowing the difference matters. xoxo
To learn how to better neogiate with your teen, click here for a free PDF on 4 pratical strategies.
To learn more about parenting your teen, come visit me at heatherfrazier.com
What do you think about being selfish? In todays episode, I outline the two ways we can be a selfish parent and where each one leads. I also outline five key pieces of how "selfish" plays out in ideal parenting.
Don't worry, you're not going to feel bad about about the time you spend sitting in your car or needing a break every once in awhile- I've got a fresh persepective for you that will help your good parenting be easier to sustain and understanding that will foster emotional maturity in all directions. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
"shhhhh. Don't talk aobut what is difficult for your family right now." (Except that this is my favorite thing to talk about.)
Far too many parents believe the misconception that it's a bad thing to show your struggles. We've been handed down the unhelpful tradition of silence through our family or culture. While updating social media on your teen vaping may not be the answer, neither is keeping all your struggles to yourself.
Our parenting pain needs to see the light of day to heal. This means getting the proper help, love and support in safe circles. So why do so many parents think it's an act of betrayal or weakness to so? Listen in as I outline the two most common reasons. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Anxiety is currently a buzzword, and for good reason. It wreaks havoc for our kids, thus for us as their parents. We often experience it as well.
It’s easy to feel helpless against the crush of anxiety, but that doesn’t have to be the case any longer. In todays episode of Pivot Parenting, I talk with the anxiety coaching expert, Jill Freestone
We talk about the kinds of anxiety, how they present, how we can help our kids through it and every other question on anxiety that you’ve been worrying about. You don’t have to watch your teen reeling while you sit helpless any longer. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: As a life coach, Jill Freestone focuses on helping teens and adults handle anxiety and big emotions. Jill has additional training in anxiety, emotions, relationships, mindfulness, meditation, trauma, somatic processing and much more. She loves her work, but her happy place is in the outdoors. She is an avid hiker, biker, and outdoor adventurer. She is the mother of three amazing daughters and wife to an incredibly smart and handsome husband, whom she adores especially because he was willing to write this bio.
You can find Jill here:
- Website: https://jillfreestone.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillfreestonecoaching/
- 5 Lies of Anxiety PDF to help you stop suffering from Anxiety: https://jillfreestone.com/anxiety-five-lies/
- podcasts: https://jillfreestone.com/podcasts/
In today's episode, I outline three ways that parents self sabotage by not letting go. Perfectionism and expectations are key players, and can sneak up on us in unexpected ways. How do you know if you're holding on? I will run you through a series of questions to help you self confront, and I even teach you want you DO want to hold onto.
To learn more about parenting your teen, check out Family Connection Design Course, and sign up for my email list to be the first to order my upcoming books, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
It can be an uncomfortable conversation with our teens- sex, porn, and the shame that purity culture creates around them. Sara and I discuss the finer points of how to approach our own discomfort and talk to our kids about what is inevitably part of the world we live in. Sara shares misconceptions around porn use, and teaches us the number one best way to porn proof your teen. It's definitely not what you might think. This is a not-to-be-missed episode!
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Sara Brewer is a certified life and trauma informed coach. She has helped hunderds of peple quit porn through her coaching programs and helped thousands of people through her podcast. You can find her at sarabrewer.com and follow her on Instagram @sarabrewercoaching
The fourth and final episode of coaching Bill and Anne. Today we talk about teens doing as the please and what happens when one makes the lack of controlling them mean that they're a bad parent. Bill has an imposibble time getting their son to stop annoying everyone in the car. He eventually gets close enough to home to make him walk. What happened, and what could have happened?
It's easy to react poorly right back at them and then beat yourself up, but there is a better way. Listen in as we discuss the nuance of wanting to control your teen.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Part three of Bill and Anne. Today we discuss their thirteen year olds' poor self-talk. He thinks he's the worst and Bill and Anne feel terrible. We discuss their reactions, ways they can help him, and how they are unintentionally creating more of what they don't want. We also discuss the struggle of other kids wanting to parent their siblings, how Anne is affected by this, and how she is buying into the lie that she isn't doing it right. It doesn't play out well for her, but fortunately she sees it and is empowered to move past the lie.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Parents can mimic their teens without even realizing it. I coach Anne and Bill for a second time as we discuss how their son disgusts and annoys them with his rude behavior and self importance. They want him to start seeing things like they do. They want him to make progress, which is creating the exact opposite experience than they want.
Getting stuck on what he's doing wrong is leading them to similar behavior that they don't even see until today. Maybe you're invalidating yourself like they are? Come listen and find out.
To learn more about parenting your teen, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Todays episode is the beginning of a series. You will meet Bill and Anne. Their exuberant son, Gilbert, is too much for the whole family to handle and they struggle to see eye to eye on how to help him best while keeping their cool and managing the other children's frustration towards him.
Parenting your teen can be a stress to the marriage, but it doesnt have to be. Both Bill and Anne want the same thing- to feel good and successful and to help their son feel the same. Listen in as I show them how they can both solve for the frustration that is daily.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
In todays episode, Katie Parker and I discuss the struggles that our tween ladies are experiencing and how we can encourage, love and support them better. Adolescence is hard but we can educate ourselves to be more supportive. We can also give our girls an opportunity to engage in meaningful emotional education. This is Katie's life work. I loved hearing about her tween program and all of the skills she offers young ladies and I know that you will, too.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Katie is the President/CEO of Bloomfully, LLC and has a passion for building the confidence of young girls, tweens and women. Her mission is to help them grow above the comparing, the criticism, and the self-doubt that are plaguing girls. She honestly believes EVERY girl and EVERY woman is remarkably unique and needed in this world. Katie is married to Matt Parker of Album Surfboards and they live in Orange County, CA with their six children. In the Summer they surf and in the Winter they snowboard. Family and faith are at her core and the blooming businesses are an extension of that foundation. She is the creator of Singers Company, I Believe in Me, Bloomfully and Tavi’s Fairy Festival. She received her BA degree in Communications/Public Relations from Brigham Young University. As she watches the world become ever more complex to navigate for girls, she longs to create programs that help them stay grounded/rooted yet willing and able to bloom wherever they may be in the world. After participating in a Bloomfully program she wants women and girls to feel happy and excited about life and empowered to create! She hopes Bloomfully will help girls believe in their gifts, encourage them to grow and motivate them to share with the world. The world needs strong minds, and strong hearts in strong girls. You can find Katie at www.bloomfully.com
Guesting on Pivot Parenting for a fourth visit, Jennifer Finlayson-fife and I discuss triangulation in families. What is this, how it plays out, its relationship to codependency, and the role that our parental anxiety plays in all of it.
There are 3 typical roles in triangulation: victim, perpetrator and rescuer. We can play all three roles in parenting and none of them are good for us or our teens.
Listen in as Jennifer describes how we.. "can allow our problem to teach us." She breaks down what triangulation looks like so that we can identify if and how we are participating in an unhealthy dynamic and what to do if we are.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
About my guest:
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. Her teaching and coaching focus on helping LDS individuals and couples achieve greater satisfaction and passion in their emotional and sexual relationships. In addition to her private practice, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has created five empowering and highly-reviewed online urses. Each course was designed to give LDS individuals and couples the tools requisite to creating healthier lives and stronger intimate relationships. Dr. Finlayson-Fife also offers many workshops and retreats where she teaches these life-changing principles in person. Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a frequent guest on LDS-themed podcasts on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, mental health, and faith. She is also the creator and host of Room for Two, a popular sex and intimacy coaching podcast.
Learn more about Dr. Finlayson-FIfe and her work by clicking HERE. or visit her at Finlayson-fife.com
Every parent's worst nightmare: Realizing that they are the worst parent ever. Our teens are happy to tell us the reasons why, their choices are ample evidence, our world is crushed as reality washes over us.
But what if it's not true? Listen in as I discuss how the fear of failing as a parent plays out it real time and what to do about it. The good news is, you haven't failed and the future is yet to be decided.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
You might not think this applies to you. That you're super open minded and easy going. This can be true and you can also be wanting to be right to the detriment of your relationship. In todays episode I outline 8 sneaky ways that our brain kills connection with the desire to be right, and most of us do at least a few of them.
In parenting, the details matter. This was the one thing that I needed to change before I could have a quality connection with one of my kids. The desire to be right can be sneaky and hard to see if you don't know what to look for.
To learn more about parenting, visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Put more than one human in a room and what do you get?
Annoyed.
At least eventually. It's really common for my clients to be upset with themselves, their teen, for the human experience of annoyance. They think they're a terrible person. They think their teen is awful and doomed. Which makes them feel worse. It's a vicious downward spiral that doesn't need to happen. Listen in as I break down what is happening and help you to know what to do instead. If you get bugged at your teen, this episode is for you. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Pretty much every single client I have has some form of: I'm not good enough, I don't deserve goodness, I deserve distain, I have to do it all perfect to be valuable, if only me or my kid would be more ....then they'd be good enough for me to know I've done a good job.
Then I could feel okay with myself, my family, and be happy.
If you feel like you're chasing a pipe dream of happiness, thinking it's just after one more task is done, a couple of accomplishments made by your teen, but the satisfaction is fleeting if at all, this episode is for you!
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Envy can be described as one of the deadly sins, the thief of joy, something really bad to be avoided at all cost. Sure, when used improperly, but when we recognize it and consciously consider it, the affect can be quite the opposite.
Many of my clients look around and wish their spouse was more helpful, their teen was more responsible/honest/driven/tidy/friendly, their life to be filled with health and travel and quality looking relationships... because they see other families that they want to be like. You know, the ones who have it all?
In today's episode of Pivot Parenting I break envy down for you in a way that will forever change how you choose to keep up with the Jones'.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
In honor of Mothers Day and our little chickens that we are trying to raise up right, I bring you todays episode. One of the most heartbreaking aspects of family is when our kids walk away from what we hold most dear. Often times this is the family faith. Listen in as I help you navigate being a hen who loves her babies and the little chick who loves the Lord. Peace, happiness, connection and even FUN can still be the familial experience for everyone when the proper approach is taken. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Do you think it bad to sing your child's praises? Wouldn't want to make other parents feel bad? Don't want your kid to get a big head? Pride is a bad thing, right? Maybe but maybe you're looking at it wrong. Tune in to this week's episode of #pivotparenting to hear a different take on praise, pride, and how we view our teen's accomplishments.
To learn more about helping your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
In all of our relationships we play a role. Sometimes it's authentic and good, sometimes it's graspy and destructive. In today's episode of #pivotparenting I talk about a common dynamic of validation and control. It leads to disaster. Listen in to see how to identify this unhealthy relationship dynamic and change course.
To learn more about raising your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
One second they're laughing with you, the next, they are yelling, "WHY DON'T YOU LIKE ME?!" as they run out of the kitchen, slamming their bedroom door.
One day they are organized and have a 5 year plan, the next day they sleep all Saturday and can't remember to get to work on time.
Sometimes they love you and sometimes you get the stink eye. Literally nothing has changed between the two of you.
Teens send wack messages to parents when you don't understand how it all makes sense- and it does. Tune in to this week's episode as I decode the seemingly nonsensical behavior that your teenager is presenting with.
You might not think this is you. You might feel like you're good to go. But wanting to know the answer to this question is a sneaky trick our subconscious can pull on us without us even realizing, and it can wreak havoc in our relationships.
Do you: -Worry about the choices your teen makes, and lay awake at night trying to figure out a way to get them to change? -Care about how others view your family? -Buy into the latest/trending parenting fear, freak out, and try to make lots of changes from your intense emotion? -Second guess yourself when parenting through tough times? -Default to the "expert" opinion when it isn't in agreement with your parental intuition?
These are just a few ways that we subconsciously are NOT in agreement that our parenting is stellar. Tune in and I'll tell you how to recognize this and what to do about it. xoxo
It seems like our first is either the golden child, or the one we ruined because we didn't know what we were doing as their parent. Steep learning curves, all the experts, plus our own insecurities play into a disaster in the making. What if it weren't so complicated? Tune in as I break it all down for you and help you get our from under the unhelpful beliefs that may be keeping you trapped form loming them as well as you want. xoxo
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The other day I ran a pole on my insta. I asked if moms felt guilty for being unhappy. YES was the resounding response to one of my more answered poles- and so here I am, showing up for the wonderful mothers who think that because they have so much they can't be human. I love you.
To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Is it my fault that they are making terrible choices? Are they doomed because of what I've done as a parent? If you go the rounds, trying to make sense of their choices and your parenting, and how you coulda woulda shoulda been better so that they wouldn't be where they are, then this episode is for you. xoxo
To learn more about parenting your teen, please come visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Nothing hurts worse than when your child rejects or hates you. Your world crashes down and nothing else matters. You become frantic, numb, angry, desperate, a ball of tears, and this cycle repeats over and over... In today's episode, I break it all down for you so that you can see what is really going on, how it makes perfect sense, and what to do about it.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
In honor of my oldest daughter graduating college with a strategic communications degree this spring, and to everyone who asks me what that even means- I'm teaching you all about strategic communication, coaching style! After all, sometimes it does feel like we have to market to our teen, handle PR and HR complaints and issues. Some training would be helpful! So buckle up, I am giving you a crash course in how to be strategic in how you communicate with your teen. It might just be as helpful as a degree...
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Sending our babies out into the mission field can be hard. It can get complicated when they return before expected. We can want them to have a specific experience. Parents can have so many thoughts and feelings that keep us from helping our missionaries as well as is possible. LIsten in to today's episode with Jennie, the LDS mission coach, to hear all about everything!
About my guest: Jennie Dildine is the mother of five children and two lovely daughters-in-law. She loves Amazon, Disney, Taylor Swift, Crumbl Cookies, and music of all kinds. Jennie has a Bachelor's Degree from Brigham Young University in Recreation Management and Youth Leadership, and became a Certified Life Coach in 2019. She has advanced coach training in Faith-based Coaching Tools and Trauma Informed Coaching. Jennie hosts The LDS Mission Podcast and owns her own coaching practice where she is known as: The LDS Mission Coach. Jennie has helped 100's of missionaries in all stages overcome perfectionism and anxiety, create unwavering confidence and never question their purpose again. You can find her on Instagram @jennie.theldsmissioncoach
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
In today's episode Robert Singleton II, MD and I talk about the merger between physical health and mental health, and how we model this for our kids. Robert talks about a new model for fatherhood, how resilience is key to a successful life, and how to spot drug use.
Click the link in my bio to tune in as we discuss how your home can be one where both physical, mental, and spiritual health are alive and well.
About my guest: Robert Singleton II MD is a board certified anesthesiologist practicing outside of Chicago. You can find him on YouTube, Tik-Tok, and Instagram as @robertsecond53
Ask a parent if they love their kid, and they will most likely say, yes. But are we loving our kids as well as possible?
When I ask my clients what they want most in their relationships with their kids, a common desire is that their children know they love them. They often believe that their teens think otherwise, despite the love they feel, and want to know how to get their teen to feel their love.
I get this desire, and while we can't ever MAKE someone feel our love, we can certainly create an ideal environment to invite them to feel our love. I break it all down in today's episode.
To learn more, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Betrayal is hard in marriage, and it can mess with how we see ourselves as parents, our relationships with our kids and self. Today I speak with my friend Jessica, who shares her story of betrayal, how she found peace again, and how she showed up as a mother during and after. It is possible to be a great parent amidst the worst part of your life, and Jessica explains exactly how to do it.
About my guest: Jessica Frew is a wife, ex-wife, mom, stepmom, and BOLD action taker. She has a successful podcast called “Husband in Law” that she records with her husband, Matt, and her ex-husband, Steve. Together they are sharing their stories of love, marriage, coming out, divorce, remarriage and co-parenting to help others know they are not alone. She owns The BOLD Logic, a company devoted to helping people figure out the “What NOW?!” after betrayal or having a partner come out. Jessica is a firm believer that by knowing and understanding what it is you really want in life you can BOLDly create a life you love, no matter what your circumstances. You can find me on instagram, facebook, Tiktok, and Pinterest @heyjessicafrew. And Husband In Law on any podcasting platform
Links: https://theboldlogic.com/whatnowworkshop https://theboldlogic.com/freeworkbook To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
In todays episode, I chat with teen coach, Joey Mascio about how we can help our teens succeed. We talk about apathy, encouraging our kids, and heros vs. villains when it comes to our parental approach. Joey shares the four distinct arenas that our kids can conquer in their lives, headspace, emotions, relationships, objectives, and how we can best support them while they do it.
You can find Joey at www.joeymascio.com and on Instagram @joey_sidekicktohero
You can visit Heather at www.heatherfrazier.com and on Instagram @heatherfraziercoaching
In today's episode I discuss the nuance of one of the most frequent concerns of parents- Failure. Because this is such a pervasive fear, I run you through a self coaching exercise with these questions:
-Where is your parenting focus? -Do you believe that the things outside of you, that are beyond your control, dictate if you are failing or succeeding? What things do you credit? -How do you know, or by what standards are you measuring your level of failure/success? -What is your current belief about your parental success? -How does that belief feel when you think of it? -What does that feeling drive you to do or avoid while parenting your teen? -Do you like the result that your actions are creating in your relationship? -What patterns do you recognize upon seeing your answers to these questions? -Do you see how, good or bad, you are the one responsible for your current relationship? Why?
If you're wallowing in fear of failure, please take the time to listen in and write down all your answers.
What we focus on, we create more of. Staying in a belief of failure causes parents to be easily agitated, withdraw from their child, try to control their child (which never ends well) and behave in ways they don't like.
There is no downside to believing that you are an amazing parent, and in this episode I will teach you how to embrace that belief so that you create more of the good stuff. xoxo
It's common to want to know if your family or something specific happening is normal. In today's episode I'll go over what to think about "normal", why one would ask this question, and how to answer it for yourself.
If you catch yourself looking around to see how you and your teens are measuring up, this episode is for you!
To learn more, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
A common struggle that parents come to me with is fighting in their home. "Why does everything have to be an argument?!?"
It's a great question, and In this episode of Pivot Parenting I explain why there is so much fighting and what you can do about it. I'll give you specific tools to diffuse situations before they get out of hand, and how to de-escalate the fighting if it's already blown up. If you're wanting a less contentious home, this episode is a must listen.
When you hear the word, objectification, it's usually interpreted in a sexual way, and generally pertaining to women. Surely this happens, but it's not the only way that one human can objectify another. I see objectification happen all the time in parenting. Parents often see their children as an extension of themselves, with little regard for their child as an autonomous individual. Once objectification is happening, it is easy to justify further unkind behavior, and it snow balls from there.
Listen in, and you may be surprised by sneaky ways that your brain is objectifying your child. Often times, awareness is all that it takes to never repeat something, but never fear, I'll walk you through the whole process of how to pivot your beliefs and actions so that if you are objectifying your teen in some way, it won't ever happen again.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
A most beloved Christmas story is that of the Grinch stealing Christmas. He makes some extreme changes in a very short amount of time, and they can be applied to parenting, yay! So of course I had to do a Christmas episode on it. Listen in as I break down where the Grinch missed the mark and how he so gracefully self corrected. I've got a simple 4 step process for you to be able to do the same if you are feeling a bit "grinchy" in your relationship with your teen.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
There are two kinds of silent treatment: One, where it's intentional and a response to another person, the second is a person's natural disposition. It's common for me to have mothers complaining that their teen gives them one word responses, doesn't share details about themselves, and avoids conversations.
Knowing why your teen is doing this, and what it means about you is essential to you finding peace around something you can't control- your teen. Listen in as I go over all of the details that you need to know to find peace of mind.
As a parent, your parents, friends and peers ask about your teen. What they're up to, who they're dating, what will happen after college. It's all fine until it's not. Everyone has that family member, every neighborhood has that person. The one that you don't want to find out whatever is happening because you don't want to have that conversation. I get it, and I am here to help.
Listen in as I explain why this happens and what to do about it. You don't ever have to face the impertinent questions again, if you don't want to!
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
"You are not broken." Britt wants this tattooed to her forehead. Listen in as she and I discuss how it's possible to not only overcome lifelong depression and anxiety, but turn them into superpowers. Britt keeps it real as she shares her experiences as both a mother with mental health challenges, and as the teen who overcame dark headspaces, what she has found helpful in her journey, and hope for you and your family if you're experiencing depression and anxiety in your home.
A message from my guest, Britt Larsen: As a communications executive, I know what it takes to build a career you love and are proud of. I love being a career coach because my years of management experience are put to good use as I help others enjoy their jobs!
We're redefining what it means to be a career woman, together. We focus on the work and don't get caught up in unimportant gossip... because girls gossip, women work.
You can find Britt at her website, www.livlyhood.com Instagram and FB, @livlyhood LinkedIn, Brittany Larsen
We hold our babies in our arms and picture teaching them all of our favorite things... and they love it! We imagine having deep conversations, fun adventures, and holding the same views of religion, politics, and movies.
Some parents get this fantasy, others do not. Many parents I meet have broken hearts over the lack of similarity with their kids. Here's the truth: I can't make your kid like what you like. If anyone had the best chance of that, it would be you, and I'm guessing you've already tried everything with little to no success. The good news is, there is another approach! Listen in, as I break down how to connect and have fun with your teen and their unfamiliar interests.
To learn more, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
It's easy to think of things we like that we're grateful for, but what about everything else? This Thanksgiving episode is all about being grateful for the things that we may dislike at first glance. Listen in and see if you can find more to be grateful for in your parenting and life.
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Not all parenting is created equal. No parent is completely one way or another. Listen in as I explain my findings on how most parenting presents in any given situation. Awareness is the first step in creating change. Are you ready?
A common self judgement that I hear from parents is their lack of being present with the family. They can't tune in when their kid is talking, they withdraw from social settings, they see their brain off in the weeds and get really frustrated. It happens too often, they don't know what is happening or how to make it stop, and it's taking a toll. In this episode, Lindsay and I break down the what, why, and how to change this pattern and connect with your teens like never before.
About my guest: Lindsay Poelman trains coaches to become trauma informed. After going through her own betrayal trauma 7 years ago--while simultaneously supporting her husband through his recovery from non-functioning anxiety and depression, betrayal trauma, and in his recovery as a victim of childhood sexual abuse, she became so passionate about the resources she found to support herself that she left her career in public and derivative accounting to become a life coach.
After seeking additional training and working with women in trauma for over 4 years, she now trains coaches to do the same—so that they too can provide the deep and safe healing possible for clients across the board who have experienced trauma.
She is currently running a Relationship Trauma Certification Program for Coaches with a fellow trauma therapist. She has a vision of the whole world being trauma-informed in order to better support personal healing, clients, and courageous people who reach out to families, clergy, and friends for help after being victimized.
She also created an online group program for "Women whose husbands look at pornography and want to find peace and safety whether he has stopped, is stopping, or not stopping looking." Her most recent online group program is one for women seeking to lessen the dissonance between women, feminism, and religion.
Lindsay currently lives in the south of France with her husband and three children. Her husband used to work as a dentist, and is now a life coach for men who want to stop looking at porn. She loves the sun, the sea, French cuisine, being outside in nature, Mary Magdalene, traveling, and more. She sometimes says that if she came back in another life she'd be a tour guide because she loves exploring with people she loves. You can find her at lindsaypoelmancoaching.com and on instagram @lindsaypoelmancoaching
If you're doing your best, but fear is never far from you-
If you are nit-picking yourself and your kids-
If you know that something's got to give, but can't seem to get there-
...then this episode is for you, and with so much love!
To learn more about parenting your teen, please visit heatherfrazier.com
If you know, you know. Parenting and divorce come with their own specific set of struggles. Tune in as I break it down for those going through a divorce, or those who want to support a loved one going through divorce.
To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
In today's episode, I chat with my mentor, coach, and friend, Tyson Bradley. We discuss self concept as a parent, how to gain desirable qualities with ease and efficiency, and how to tell the difference between what is relevant to that process and what you can let go of. If you're looking to become a better version of yourself, this episode is for you!
About my guest: Tyson Bradley is a father, husband, author, and life coach. He believes in Christ and our ability to see ourselves through His eyes to become our true, inherent self. You can find Tyson on Instagram @tysonbradleycoaching, get his inherent identity process at https://www.inherentidentity.com/ii and you can find his podcast, Inherent Identity, on your favorite podcast platform.
To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
The other day I was meeting with a prospective client for the first time. The issue at hand was readily apparent. I know this because I suffered from the same issue years ago, and many of my current clients have the same struggles. It is most basic and human. Listen in to learn how you might be part of the majority, and what to do about it if you are.
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It's easy to get upset when your teen turns to other adults with their listening ears, while discounting all of your wisdom. This doesn't have to be a problem and you haven't failed. Let's talk it out.
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We get what we get, but we can throw a fit! Or avoid, or talk it out, or go for a run, or turn to food, alcohol, instagram, shopping, porn, etc. In parenting, things happen. Some of these things are around us, like school and jobs. Some are people we have relationships with, like our spouse, kids, our parents and siblings… they sometimes like to have opinions and desires that don't align with our own.
It is almost certain that there are times when we might want to throw a fit… so now what? How you deal with it directly impacts what you get. Listen in as I break it down for you.
To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
In today's episode, Glenn and I discuss all things husbands and coaching. Glenn gives practical advice for wives who have found coaching and love it, but they can't get their husbands on board. There's a lot more nuance than you'd think, and we go over all of it. If you're loving the skills you're learning, but your spouse isn't so sure, this is a must listen episode.
About my guest: Glenn coaches men whose wives have transformed from coaching. You can find him at his website, glennlovelace.com and instagram @itsyourwingman Glenn wants to share with you the first 5 tips and strategies to help your husband be more open to coaching, you can text him "gals only" at 385-269-8011 for the free download.
"Just tell me what to do." I hear it all the time. You read the books, listen to the experts, ask your mom and friends, and are still confused, frustrated and nothing is changing. What is missing?! Your ability to recognize and follow your intuition. Mother does know best, let me show you how...
To learn more about parenting, please visit me at heatherfrazier.com
Between you and your kids, you and your partner, you and yourself... who has the last say, who is right, and how do you get people to see your point and change their ways!? Let's talk about all of the power struggles that present while raising teens.
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In this episode, Heidi and I talk about having children with ADHD and being a mom with ADHD. What it's like to receive this diagnosis, and how to best handle it, for you and your child.
About my guest: Heidi is a master certified coach, ADHD expert, mother of 7, who was diagnosed with ADHD in her 40's. She helps adult-diagnosed ADHD women get unstuck and create systems that actually help them get out of chaos and take the next step. You can find Heidi on Instagram @i.heart.our.ADHD and FaceBook, Heidi Dunkley
This one came to me as I was laying in bed, implementing tools to fall and stay asleep. I thought of you. I thought, I bet there are parents who can't sleep because of the hum in their brains about their kids, the house, the family, the endless list of things to stress over that only seems to grow, no matter how efficiently we slay our day. Rest easy, my friend. I've got you.
To learn more about parenting, please visit me at www.heatherfrazier.com
There are sneaky little things that parents sometimes do to protect their teen that end up harming themselves. (Thus, eventually harming their teen) While you don't just want to throw them to the wolves, you want to help them in the best way possible for everyone. Listen in to find out how.
To learn more about parenting, please visit me at www.heatherfrazier.com
Sometimes we just can't help ourselves. Other times, we know better so we do better. If you're reading this, chances are good that you love your teen. You also may be looking for ways to improve, and you are the only thing that you can dictate, so in this episode I go over common ways I see parents creating more harm than good.
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If you keep replaying the same thing in your head and your conversations.
When you can't see an end to a difficult situation.
If you're ready to throw in the towel because it's been going on far too long, and they refuse to change.
Basically, if you're feeling stuck with no hope of change, this episode is for you. It can be in a marital impasse, with your teen who refuses to change their ways, or within your own headspace, struggling to move through past hurts, current habits, or nothing but a sense of doom for the future can feel impossible. I've got you. xoxo
To learn more about parenting, please visit me at www.heatherfrazier.com
In today's episode, blended family expert, MIndy Neal and I discuss the nuance specific to the combining of multiple families to create a new one: How to deal with the crazy ex, what happens when your new spouse doesn't want you to parent their kids, and when your own kids complain about the unfairness of the situation. This is a must listen for those in a blended family and those looking to support loved ones who are trying to blend.
About my guest: Mindy Neal is a Master Certified Life Coach and Blended Family Expert with over 10,000 coaching sessions worth of experience. She is passionate about helping women have the kinds of marriages and families they always dreamed of and brings light and fun to her work with her clients. Mindy’s clients get results — Period. If you want to fix what’s not working in your blended family so you can stay happily married forever, you have come to the right place. You can find her at www.blendedfamilyfix.com and Instagram @mindynealcoaching
The eighteen year old has one foot out the door, and the thirteen year old has started to hide in their room with zero interest in anything family related. How to tie everyone together for a meal, let alone a long standing goal can feel impossible. Tune in to hear from the experts how to go about it.
About my guest: Hey, I'm Carrie and I believe in high heels and big dreams! My clients are go getters. Their friends can't believe what they have accomplished, so the fact my clients want more is crazy to most people. Not to me. I get it.
I have always been a person that has had big dreams. I have wanted to be an author, speak on stage, and make a ton of money! Goals and dreams have always come easy for me. Now it is my goal to make your impossible dreams come true. Find me at www.driveyourthoughts.com and instagram @drive_your_thoughts_coaching
Sometimes harmless, sometimes catastrophic, but always worth paying attention to: when we compare our kids. Let me break it down for you so that you can pivot where needed. xoxo
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A big struggle in parenting: Knowing when and how to let our babies grow up. Today I speak with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about how this can play out years later in marriage, and how we can prevent ourselves now, from creating those struggles in the future.
About Jennifer: I am a relationship and sexuality educator and coach, as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois with a Ph.D in Counseling Psychology from Boston College. I wrote my dissertation on LDS women and sexuality, and have taught college-level courses on human sexuality. I currently teach online courses and live workshops to individuals and couples seeking to develop their capacity for deeper emotional and sexual intimacy. Additionally, I offer limited private and group coaching services to individuals and couples who have benefitted from my podcasts and courses and are looking for more direct input on improving their lives and relationships.
I am a frequent contributor on the subjects of sexuality, relationships, and spirituality to LDS-themed blogs, magazines, and podcasts, including the “Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist” podcast series. My husband and I are the parents of three children and are active members of the LDS church.
You can find Jennifer at: finlayson-fife.com
You can find Heather at: heatherfrazier.com
Ashley has a daughter that is making out with everyone. Sadness, guilt and judgement are preventing her from always loving her daughter how she wants to- unconditionally. Tune in to hear how to deal with a child who rejects your teachings.
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Ali is a busy mom who has a struggling teen. She blames herself for her daughter's struggles. She thinks that if she were doing a better job, her daughter would be different. It's a classic error. Listen in as we unravel the truth.
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I'm coaching Amelia in this episode. Her son is not behaving like himself and she believes that this is his girlfriends doing. Amelia fears for his future and has even tried breaking them up, without success. She wants to feel compassion and grace, and while she can at times, it still feels elusive most of the time.
If you are scared for your child because of their current choices, your mind will be blown when you listen to this episode.
To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
The first of a series, this episode is an actual coaching session. Ann is struggling to get her blended family to comply with her view of how things should be. She is worn down and feeling defeated. "My efforts don't change the circumstance", she tells me. Peace is what she wants, but she is creating more divide, burn out, and exhaustion through her approach.
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Back by popular demand! Tina Gosney and I chat about when things aren't the way we'd anticipated with our teen and young adult kids, particularly when they share with us that they identify as LGBTQ. This can knock parents off their balance, and we are here to help you out.
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About my guest: Tina Gosney is a family relationship coach and a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She specializes in coaching LDS parents who have a child that has left the church or a child that is LGBTQ. She has experienced both of these circumstances in her own family, with a daughter who has left the church, and a gay son who married another man. As a certified coach through The Life Coach School, Tina has been able to help countless parents navigate and thrive in their relationships with their children and spouse as they adapt to a new normal and find love and acceptance within their families and with their faith. Tina also has advanced coaching certifications in family relationships and relationship trauma. You can find Tina at www.tinagosney.com
All things teens and sex. In this episode, Robyn and I discuss how to talk about safety in preventing assault, the in's and out of assault, how to offer support when something has happened, and everything in between. It is a must listen for parents, because even if you don't know about it, our kids are thinking, talking, and even acting on their sexuality. Talking about it doesn't make it exist, it makes us better able to help our kids.
About my guest: Robyn Warner is a serial entrepreneur whose passion is helping girls and women stay safe. She is a cohost on The Brave Talk show, and a mother of four. You can find her safety course here: www.safebyrobyn.com/SAFECourse and use discount code PIVOT PARENTING to get 30% off! you can learn more about her on Instagram @aflyonmywall and her talk show @thebravetalkshow
Today I am talking about something I see all the time with my clients: They think it's not working or they aren't doing it right if the process doesn't feel good all of the time. Listen in as I dispel this myth and explain why change doesn't always feel good and what to do about it.
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Biblical reference, current application. And it's not just about the men. Come listen in on how this under considered concept plays out in our day to day parenting, and how to remedy the habit if you're in it.
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References:
Matthew 7:21-23
1 Kings 16:2
Doctrine & Covenants 121:39-43
Book of Mormon, 2 Nephi 26:29
For all of the moms feeling lost and confused, not knowing who they are anymore, or why- after all they've sacrificed for their teen- still feel hated by them, this one's for you. I love you, and this is my Mother's Day gift to you. xoxo
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Your daughter is the mean girl, your son is the bully. You know they lie like a rug and they deserve the punishment they get. None of us want our kid to be the one talked about in hushed tones, the one every other parent doesn't want their child to be friends with, but what happens when they are? In this episode I break it down for you and show you how there is hope. xoxo
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Spinning in circles? Trying whatever tactic comes to mind, then second guessing it, then ending up even more confused and doubtful of your parenting? Talking to your sister, mother and bestie, but still coming up with a whole lot of nothing at the end of the day?
"I don't know what I'm doing." Is a common phrase I get from my clients, Good news: I know exactly what you're doing. More importantly, I know how to stop doing it and start doing something that works, and that you can feel good about.
To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
Our mind and body are connected. In this episode, Betsy and I discuss physical and emotional pain and how they are similar and can both be helped through our belief systems around the pain. If you have chronic physical pain caused by injury, or chronic emotional pain that you are attributing to your child's choices, this is for you.
To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Betsy is life coach and a former physical therapist. She helps people to understand their nervous system and how our beliefs can affect physical sensations, such as pain. She works with those who have chronic pain.
Podcast: Unstoppable Body and Mind
Instagram: @bodyandmindlifecoach
Email: info@bodyandmindlifecoach.com
To learn more about the nervous system and how to regulate it, watch my nervous system modules: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/620ffa96e0eda1a0d870b5a6
The book referenced was, “The Way Out” by Alan Gordon.
You scratch your head and wonder what on earth was going through their mind. You may even consider that their head is full of rocks. It doesn't add up, and even their 5 year old sister can tell as much, so why did they do it?! I know why, and in this episode I will not only tell you their why, but teach you how to respond to what seems completely ridiculous.
To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
We all have wants, and that's not a problem. We also all want very certain things from our kids, and that's also not necessarily a problem... until it is. In this episode I will teach you how to identify what you want from your kid, if those wants are helping your relationship or harming it, and how to create a hierarchy of wants that serves you best.
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Depression, anxiety, OCD, bipolar, borderline, the list goes on... I don't think that there is a person alive that isn't somehow affected by mental health. When it's a family member, the reality of the illness is a daily thing. In this episode, Jessica and I explore the first steps to take when a diagnosis is received. If your spouse is suffering, and you are suffering because of their suffering, you are not alone, and there is hope.
To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Jessica Farmer is a certified life and marriage coaching helping women who have husbands with a mental illness. Helping women create confidence and connection with themselves and in their relationships, even with all the challenges that come up when there is a mental illness, is her passion. She is a mom to 4 kiddos and a puppy, loves hiking, running and biking around her home in Washington state, and loves traveling with her husband. You can find her at jessicafarmercoaching.com
We've all got expectations for our kids. We do so much for them, and ask for so little in return. It can't be that hard to do what you're supposed to, right? Keep up on homework, do chores when asked, be tidy....
In this episode I discuss the in's and out's of wanting our kids to be a certain way and what that actually creates for us.
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Why do they do it? They shouldn't lie.
Why can't they tell me the truth? They're making poor choices.
How do I get them to stop lying? I need to fix this.
Any of this sound familiar? You catch them in a lie and your brain spins out. It eventually lands on the hard truth that they can't be trusted and you've failed to teach them right from wrong. Then we attempt to parent them from this head space. Yikes.
Buckle up, because in this episode I will be dropping all kinds of truth bombs and you will never look at your kids lying-McLie-mouth the same... in a very good way.
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You care about it. They don't. This is a recipe for certain disaster regardless of where the caring is mismatched, unless you know how to approach the situation. Good news! In this episode I will teach you exactly how to find the peace of mind you desire, regardless of their apathy.
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In this episode, Steve and I discuss how to best handle challenging religious conversations with our kids, specifically polygamy and racism in the history of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As parents, we want to help our kids understand both their religion, and how to talk about it in a healthy, open way. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Steven C. Harper is a professor of Church history and doctrine at Brigham Young University. In 2012 Steve was appointed as the managing historian and a general editor of Saints: The Story of the Church of Jesus Christ in the Latter Days. He was named editor in chief of BYU Studies Quarterly in September 2018. He served in the Canada Winnipeg Mission (1990-1991) and married Jennifer Sebring (1992). They graduated from BYU (1994). He earned an MA in American history from Utah State University, where his thesis analyzed determinants of conversion to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the 1830s. Chapters were published in the Journal of Mormon History and Religion and American Culture and awarded by the Mormon History Association with the T. Edgar Lyon Award for best article of the year and the Juanita Brooks Award for the best graduate student paper. Steve earned a PhD in early American history from Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. He began teaching courses in religion and history at BYU Hawaii in 2000 and joined the Religious Education faculty at BYU in 2002. That year he also became a volume editor of The Joseph Smith Papers and the document editor for BYU Studies. He taught at the BYU Jerusalem Center for Near Eastern Studies in 2011–2012. His first book was Promised Land (Lehigh University Press, 2006), a study of Lenape or Delaware Indians’ responses to a fraudulent 1737 land deal in colonial Pennsylvania. He also authored Making Sense of the Doctrine and Covenants (Deseret Book, 2008), Joseph Smith’s First Vision (Deseret Book, 2012), and First Vision: Memory and Mormon Origins (Oxford University Press, 2019), along with dozens of articles.
In this episode, Steve and I discuss how to best handle challenging religious conversations with our kids, specifically polygamy and racism in the history of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As parents, we want to help our kids understand both their religion, and how to talk about it in a healthy, open way. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Steven C. Harper is a professor of Church history and doctrine at Brigham Young University. In 2012 Steve was appointed as the managing historian and a general editor of Saints: The Story of the Church of Jesus Christ in the Latter Days. He was named editor in chief of BYU Studies Quarterly in September 2018. He served in the Canada Winnipeg Mission (1990-1991) and married Jennifer Sebring (1992). They graduated from BYU (1994). He earned an MA in American history from Utah State University, where his thesis analyzed determinants of conversion to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the 1830s. Chapters were published in the Journal of Mormon History and Religion and American Culture and awarded by the Mormon History Association with the T. Edgar Lyon Award for best article of the year and the Juanita Brooks Award for the best graduate student paper. Steve earned a PhD in early American history from Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. He began teaching courses in religion and history at BYU Hawaii in 2000 and joined the Religious Education faculty at BYU in 2002. That year he also became a volume editor of The Joseph Smith Papers and the document editor for BYU Studies. He taught at the BYU Jerusalem Center for Near Eastern Studies in 2011–2012. His first book was Promised Land (Lehigh University Press, 2006), a study of Lenape or Delaware Indians’ responses to a fraudulent 1737 land deal in colonial Pennsylvania. He also authored Making Sense of the Doctrine and Covenants (Deseret Book, 2008), Joseph Smith’s First Vision (Deseret Book, 2012), and First Vision: Memory and Mormon Origins (Oxford University Press, 2019), along with dozens of articles.
In this episode, Steve and I discuss how to best handle challenging religious conversations with our kids, specifically polygamy and racism in the history of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As parents, we want to help our kids understand both their religion, and how to talk about it in a healthy, open way. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Steven C. Harper is a professor of Church history and doctrine at Brigham Young University. In 2012 Steve was appointed as the managing historian and a general editor of Saints: The Story of the Church of Jesus Christ in the Latter Days. He was named editor in chief of BYU Studies Quarterly in September 2018. He served in the Canada Winnipeg Mission (1990-1991) and married Jennifer Sebring (1992). They graduated from BYU (1994). He earned an MA in American history from Utah State University, where his thesis analyzed determinants of conversion to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the 1830s. Chapters were published in the Journal of Mormon History and Religion and American Culture and awarded by the Mormon History Association with the T. Edgar Lyon Award for best article of the year and the Juanita Brooks Award for the best graduate student paper. Steve earned a PhD in early American history from Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. He began teaching courses in religion and history at BYU Hawaii in 2000 and joined the Religious Education faculty at BYU in 2002. That year he also became a volume editor of The Joseph Smith Papers and the document editor for BYU Studies. He taught at the BYU Jerusalem Center for Near Eastern Studies in 2011–2012. His first book was Promised Land (Lehigh University Press, 2006), a study of Lenape or Delaware Indians’ responses to a fraudulent 1737 land deal in colonial Pennsylvania. He also authored Making Sense of the Doctrine and Covenants (Deseret Book, 2008), Joseph Smith’s First Vision (Deseret Book, 2012), and First Vision: Memory and Mormon Origins (Oxford University Press, 2019), along with dozens of articles.
In this episode, Steve and I discuss how to best handle challenging religious conversations with our kids, specifically polygamy and racism in the history of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As parents, we want to help our kids understand both their religion, and how to talk about it in a healthy, open way. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Steven C. Harper is a professor of Church history and doctrine at Brigham Young University. In 2012 Steve was appointed as the managing historian and a general editor of Saints: The Story of the Church of Jesus Christ in the Latter Days. He was named editor in chief of BYU Studies Quarterly in September 2018. He served in the Canada Winnipeg Mission (1990-1991) and married Jennifer Sebring (1992). They graduated from BYU (1994). He earned an MA in American history from Utah State University, where his thesis analyzed determinants of conversion to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the 1830s. Chapters were published in the Journal of Mormon History and Religion and American Culture and awarded by the Mormon History Association with the T. Edgar Lyon Award for best article of the year and the Juanita Brooks Award for the best graduate student paper. Steve earned a PhD in early American history from Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. He began teaching courses in religion and history at BYU Hawaii in 2000 and joined the Religious Education faculty at BYU in 2002. That year he also became a volume editor of The Joseph Smith Papers and the document editor for BYU Studies. He taught at the BYU Jerusalem Center for Near Eastern Studies in 2011–2012. His first book was Promised Land (Lehigh University Press, 2006), a study of Lenape or Delaware Indians’ responses to a fraudulent 1737 land deal in colonial Pennsylvania. He also authored Making Sense of the Doctrine and Covenants (Deseret Book, 2008), Joseph Smith’s First Vision (Deseret Book, 2012), and First Vision: Memory and Mormon Origins (Oxford University Press, 2019), along with dozens of articles.
In this episode, Steve and I discuss how to best handle challenging religious conversations with our kids, specifically polygamy and racism in the history of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As parents, we want to help our kids understand both their religion, and how to talk about it in a healthy, open way. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Steven C. Harper is a professor of Church history and doctrine at Brigham Young University. In 2012 Steve was appointed as the managing historian and a general editor of Saints: The Story of the Church of Jesus Christ in the Latter Days. He was named editor in chief of BYU Studies Quarterly in September 2018. He served in the Canada Winnipeg Mission (1990-1991) and married Jennifer Sebring (1992). They graduated from BYU (1994). He earned an MA in American history from Utah State University, where his thesis analyzed determinants of conversion to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the 1830s. Chapters were published in the Journal of Mormon History and Religion and American Culture and awarded by the Mormon History Association with the T. Edgar Lyon Award for best article of the year and the Juanita Brooks Award for the best graduate student paper. Steve earned a PhD in early American history from Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. He began teaching courses in religion and history at BYU Hawaii in 2000 and joined the Religious Education faculty at BYU in 2002. That year he also became a volume editor of The Joseph Smith Papers and the document editor for BYU Studies. He taught at the BYU Jerusalem Center for Near Eastern Studies in 2011–2012. His first book was Promised Land (Lehigh University Press, 2006), a study of Lenape or Delaware Indians’ responses to a fraudulent 1737 land deal in colonial Pennsylvania. He also authored Making Sense of the Doctrine and Covenants (Deseret Book, 2008), Joseph Smith’s First Vision (Deseret Book, 2012), and First Vision: Memory and Mormon Origins (Oxford University Press, 2019), along with dozens of articles.
In this episode, Steve and I discuss how to best handle challenging religious conversations with our kids, specifically polygamy and racism in the history of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As parents, we want to help our kids understand both their religion, and how to talk about it in a healthy, open way. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Steven C. Harper is a professor of Church history and doctrine at Brigham Young University. In 2012 Steve was appointed as the managing historian and a general editor of Saints: The Story of the Church of Jesus Christ in the Latter Days. He was named editor in chief of BYU Studies Quarterly in September 2018. He served in the Canada Winnipeg Mission (1990-1991) and married Jennifer Sebring (1992). They graduated from BYU (1994). He earned an MA in American history from Utah State University, where his thesis analyzed determinants of conversion to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the 1830s. Chapters were published in the Journal of Mormon History and Religion and American Culture and awarded by the Mormon History Association with the T. Edgar Lyon Award for best article of the year and the Juanita Brooks Award for the best graduate student paper. Steve earned a PhD in early American history from Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. He began teaching courses in religion and history at BYU Hawaii in 2000 and joined the Religious Education faculty at BYU in 2002. That year he also became a volume editor of The Joseph Smith Papers and the document editor for BYU Studies. He taught at the BYU Jerusalem Center for Near Eastern Studies in 2011–2012. His first book was Promised Land (Lehigh University Press, 2006), a study of Lenape or Delaware Indians’ responses to a fraudulent 1737 land deal in colonial Pennsylvania. He also authored Making Sense of the Doctrine and Covenants (Deseret Book, 2008), Joseph Smith’s First Vision (Deseret Book, 2012), and First Vision: Memory and Mormon Origins (Oxford University Press, 2019), along with dozens of articles.
In this episode, Steve and I discuss how to best handle challenging religious conversations with our kids, specifically polygamy and racism in the history of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As parents, we want to help our kids understand both their religion, and how to talk about it in a healthy, open way. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Steven C. Harper is a professor of Church history and doctrine at Brigham Young University. In 2012 Steve was appointed as the managing historian and a general editor of Saints: The Story of the Church of Jesus Christ in the Latter Days. He was named editor in chief of BYU Studies Quarterly in September 2018. He served in the Canada Winnipeg Mission (1990-1991) and married Jennifer Sebring (1992). They graduated from BYU (1994). He earned an MA in American history from Utah State University, where his thesis analyzed determinants of conversion to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the 1830s. Chapters were published in the Journal of Mormon History and Religion and American Culture and awarded by the Mormon History Association with the T. Edgar Lyon Award for best article of the year and the Juanita Brooks Award for the best graduate student paper. Steve earned a PhD in early American history from Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. He began teaching courses in religion and history at BYU Hawaii in 2000 and joined the Religious Education faculty at BYU in 2002. That year he also became a volume editor of The Joseph Smith Papers and the document editor for BYU Studies. He taught at the BYU Jerusalem Center for Near Eastern Studies in 2011–2012. His first book was Promised Land (Lehigh University Press, 2006), a study of Lenape or Delaware Indians’ responses to a fraudulent 1737 land deal in colonial Pennsylvania. He also authored Making Sense of the Doctrine and Covenants (Deseret Book, 2008), Joseph Smith’s First Vision (Deseret Book, 2012), and First Vision: Memory and Mormon Origins (Oxford University Press, 2019), along with dozens of articles.
In this episode, Steve and I discuss how to best handle challenging religious conversations with our kids, specifically polygamy and racism in the history of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As parents, we want to help our kids understand both their religion, and how to talk about it in a healthy, open way. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Steven C. Harper is a professor of Church history and doctrine at Brigham Young University. In 2012 Steve was appointed as the managing historian and a general editor of Saints: The Story of the Church of Jesus Christ in the Latter Days. He was named editor in chief of BYU Studies Quarterly in September 2018. He served in the Canada Winnipeg Mission (1990-1991) and married Jennifer Sebring (1992). They graduated from BYU (1994). He earned an MA in American history from Utah State University, where his thesis analyzed determinants of conversion to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the 1830s. Chapters were published in the Journal of Mormon History and Religion and American Culture and awarded by the Mormon History Association with the T. Edgar Lyon Award for best article of the year and the Juanita Brooks Award for the best graduate student paper. Steve earned a PhD in early American history from Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. He began teaching courses in religion and history at BYU Hawaii in 2000 and joined the Religious Education faculty at BYU in 2002. That year he also became a volume editor of The Joseph Smith Papers and the document editor for BYU Studies. He taught at the BYU Jerusalem Center for Near Eastern Studies in 2011–2012. His first book was Promised Land (Lehigh University Press, 2006), a study of Lenape or Delaware Indians’ responses to a fraudulent 1737 land deal in colonial Pennsylvania. He also authored Making Sense of the Doctrine and Covenants (Deseret Book, 2008), Joseph Smith’s First Vision (Deseret Book, 2012), and First Vision: Memory and Mormon Origins (Oxford University Press, 2019), along with dozens of articles.
In this episode, Steve and I discuss how to best handle challenging religious conversations with our kids, specifically polygamy and racism in the history of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. As parents, we want to help our kids understand both their religion, and how to talk about it in a healthy, open way. To learn more about working with me, please visit heatherfrazier.com
About my guest: Steven C. Harper is a professor of Church history and doctrine at Brigham Young University. In 2012 Steve was appointed as the managing historian and a general editor of Saints: The Story of the Church of Jesus Christ in the Latter Days. He was named editor in chief of BYU Studies Quarterly in September 2018. He served in the Canada Winnipeg Mission (1990-1991) and married Jennifer Sebring (1992). They graduated from BYU (1994). He earned an MA in American history from Utah State University, where his thesis analyzed determinants of conversion to The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in the 1830s. Chapters were published in the Journal of Mormon History and Religion and American Culture and awarded by the Mormon History Association with the T. Edgar Lyon Award for best article of the year and the Juanita Brooks Award for the best graduate student paper. Steve earned a PhD in early American history from Lehigh University in Bethlehem, Pennsylvania. He began teaching courses in religion and history at BYU Hawaii in 2000 and joined the Religious Education faculty at BYU in 2002. That year he also became a volume editor of The Joseph Smith Papers and the document editor for BYU Studies. He taught at the BYU Jerusalem Center for Near Eastern Studies in 2011–2012. His first book was Promised Land (Lehigh University Press, 2006), a study of Lenape or Delaware Indians’ responses to a fraudulent 1737 land deal in colonial Pennsylvania. He also authored Making Sense of the Doctrine and Covenants (Deseret Book, 2008), Joseph Smith’s First Vision (Deseret Book, 2012), and First Vision: Memory and Mormon Origins (Oxford University Press, 2019), along with dozens of articles.
Today I will discuss the skill of connecting with peers, and what friendship does and doesn't mean for us as parents. As a coach, clients come to me each week with their struggles. Friendship is a common one, and I want to share how this works with you, my amazing listener.
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Let's go down the rabbit hole of all the things that we hate about our life, our kids, and everything else. Are you ready? Hold on, this episode is a wild ride that might just rock your world.
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In this episode, I will dispel the myth that love is the foundation of a good relationship. I will teach you what the actual foundation is that we all need in order to build love, trust, and connection on. It probably isn't what you'd think, but it makes perfect sense, and it will unlock your ability to more deeply connect with your teen.
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"I am broken." This phrase has been popping up all over the place for me, and I thought perhaps you might be hearing it right now as well. Whether you're the one saying it, your teen is, or someone else that you love, I am here to help you move through this unavoidable part of our human experience.
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There is a pattern within us, all around us, and we even think with it. Our subconscious is attracted to it and we are mesmerized by its beauty. It is the structure that our Heavenly Parents use to create all things. We even mimic it in our creations. In this episode I will teach you how to intentionally use this godly pattern to create all that you want in yourself and in your parenting.
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As mentioned in the episode, scriptural references can be found at https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures
Sometimes we want to keep our belief or we can't stop thinking a thought, so I like to turn it on its head. In this episode I teach you a coaching trick that is helpful with specific situations.
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Common enough amongst parents, is the question- "Am I good enough, if I'm doing a good enough job as a parent, partner, family member," etc. With the new year upon us, many turn to new years resolutions, and I feel like this concern is compounded. I've got a few thoughts I'd like to share on this topic.
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"I see the problem, but how do I change it?" Is a common question I get in session, and I thought you might have the same one.
We all have stories about our past, ourselves, and our family members, and these stories create the lens in which we view everyone... and then we act accordingly. Can you see what you are creating? Would you like to change it?
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A nod to the classic Dickens, A Christmas Carol, in this episode I explore how our past, present, and future affect our parenting.
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Setting rules for your family got your head in a mess? In this episode I not only go over how to create rules and stick to them, but why your teens push so hard against them- and why that's a beautiful thing.
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A difference of opinion can be a beautiful thing when certain principles are applied. If you can't see eye to eye with your partner in how to parent, this one's for you.
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Always wanting more of something before you can feel better? Tired of chasing the proverbial carrot that always dangles just out of reach? Like you need to hurry to get your fair share?
"If only she'd be nice to me once in awhile..."
"Why doesn't my spouse have my back?!"
"I never have enough time."
Want to feel better right now? Stick around, because I've got the shortcut to loving your child, spouse, self, and life!
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All or nothing thinking can be tricky, and today I will explore how this shows up in what we believe about ourselves and our kids. It's probably not what you think...
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Even in the rockiest of spots, we are meant to grow and thrive. Join me in this episode as I go through the exact process that helps you reach your full parenting potential in any situation.
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Alexis and Chanté are two of my favorite voices on Instagram! Racism is an issue that affects all of us, and having conversations around it is a fantastic way to uplevel our parenting. Come and listen to our candid conversation around how to best help our families become anti-racist.
About my guests: Vivacious sisters in Utah, Alexis and Chantè help to make our community a better place through education on race, diversity, and human connection. You can find them on Instagram @letstalk_sis
"What should I do?" is a common question that I am asked. The answer is the same every time. All roads lead to Christ. He is the perfect example and pure charity. We cannot go wrong when we pattern ourselves after HIm. In this episode we look to Him as parenting decisions are discussed.
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In this episode Gail and I have a fun conversation about how we both have come to a better understanding with who our children are and how little that actually has to do with us. Come and listen in as we both share how our different coaching approaches help in this lifelong endeavor.
About my guest: Gail Swift is fiercely committed to guiding students and families to take action in their natural abilities. As a proven professional who can guide you to address how your child solves problems, the questions to motivate them, and their ideal career you’ve come to the right place. Gail’s work has impacted lives, such as Brittany, a 15 yr. old with anxiety who believed that she was “not normal” when in fact, the way she worked was normal for her. And Taylor, who Gail worked with as a Senior to make sure she was spot on with her electives and internships in the zip code her school was in.
What really excites Gail Swift about her work is knowing that every single student is created with a pattern of taking action that does not change over time. That pattern predicts their Path which leads to their purpose.
Her expertise has been honored by being in the first group of Kolbe Youth Advocates in the world, appearances on Podcasts, Television segments, Educational stages and College open houses.
Three unique things about Gail that might surprise you include: she loves watching her kids dance in the rain, takes a hike with her husband most Saturday mornings and will be at Everest Base Camp November of 2021! You can reach Gail via email, gail@planstoprospercoaching.com
The most common way to solve for our feelings is to take action. We try to change the situation or our child. We make calls, have conversations, and can even get all mama bear... but is taking action the best way to solve for how we are feeling? Let's chat it over.
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Despite the fact that nobody likes pain, it's one of my most popular talking points in sessions, the subject of my most liked and shared posts, and responded to email subjects. Per a very special client's direct request, I present to you an episode all about pain.
Pain has many facets. When we understand them, we can better control our emotional pain. This doesn't mean that we will never be in pain again, but rather we can recognize when it's healing and when we are suffering needlessly. From this point, we can make conscious decisions about how to best help ourselves and our children.
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We think we know how they feel because we know how we would feel. We think we know what they'd do, because we know what we'd do. We think we know our kids next best move, because we know what our next best move would be in their situation. But the truth is, humans aren't great at mind reading and when we make assumptions it's not always helpful... so listen in, and let's talk about how we project onto our kids.
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Having been the traditional stay at home mom for two decades, I know that being a mom is a full time job... and then I started my own business while going back to college part time. Next level stuff! If you can relate or want to understand, come and listen in as Aubin and I chat about all things working mom.
About my guest: Aubin Palmer a life coach specifically for working mothers! She is passionate about helping women be amazing mothers and have the successful career they desire, too. She loves to help you be your authentic self in both, balancing your time for your individual schedule, and to know how to connect with your kids and family so the mom guilt can be gone for good.
She has two little girls of her own and a third girl on the way. She worked for 8 years as a nurse before becoming a life coach and has experienced being a working mom both on the corporate level and entrepreneur side as well. She is certified at The Life Coach School.
She offers 1:1 coaching and group programs. Contact her at website www.aubinpalmercoaching.com or on Instagram @aubinpalmercoaching
Of all the contradictions out there, the ones that make us the most crazy are the ones that are in our heads. Keeping our kids safe, but letting them learn. Loving them and disliking their choices. In this episode we deep dive into how this can not only be possible, but also amazing.
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It happens to the best of us. Mother-in-law makes a comment about our teen's attitude, husband doesn't like it when the house is a mess, bestie tells us why we're wrong... and then our brains begin to spin out of control.
In this episode I will break down the mystery around this phenomenon and teach you how to let go of what others think.
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When life throws us a curveball, it can knock us off our feet. In this episode, Jeanette and I talk about her cancer diagnosis and how she navigated not only her thoughts and feelings, but was also a mother, publisher, and wife.
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About my guest: Jeanette Bennett is a magazine publisher, entrepreneur, community activist, mother and cancer survivor. Jeanette founded Utah Valley Magazine in 2000 and has added other magazine titles since then, including BusinessQ Magazine and Utah Valley Bride. Jeanette was named a Top Woman Entrepreneur in Media in 2018, alongside Martha Stewart who won the Lifetime Achievement Award. Jeanette has a master’s and bachelor’s degree in journalism and an Honorary Doctorate in Business. Jeanette is on the Board of Trustees for Utah Valley University and is the chair of Utah Philanthropy Day. Jeanette is a mother to five, mother-in-law to two, and a wife to one. She has fought thyroid cancer and is an ongoing patient at Huntsman Cancer Institute. She loves long walks and short lines at Swig. You can learn more at utahvalley360.com
The term "cookie-cutter" exists because our brains notice patterns and similarities. We like this, it comforts us with predictability. But what happens when our child doesn't "fit" the norm? In this episode, Minda and I have an honest and eye opening conversation about this very thing. Minda is stepping into the unknown and parenting radically.
About my guest: Minda spent her entire twenties and thirties trying to change people, but in the end she realized she was miserable and needed a nap.
That's when she witnessed the magic of hiring a life coach. Someone who could help her recognize her blind spots, as well as help her reshape
every relationship in her life. As a relationship expert, Minda loves to teach women how to transform their toughest relationships with the females
they're related to. To learn more, please visit minda at www.allinlifecoach.com
By request, here are some practical tips and tricks for all of the back to school feels. I love you, my listener, and am so excited to support you and your teens going into the next school year. xoxo
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So much fun to chat with Joey all about launching our kids out into the great wide open. Come check it out.
You can find Joey on instagram @joey_firmlyfoundedcoaching
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We humans like to tell other people (like or kids, spouse, friends) that they make us feel all the feels- love, acceptance, shame, fear, overwhelm.... But this line of thinking is false and even destructive at times. In this episode I'll explain all of the nuance around emotional blame.
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Sometimes talking to them can seem like talking to a brick wall... but what is really going on?
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Ah, that special feeling when your brain tells you that you bombed because of something you did or didn't do. Enter, mom guilt. In this episode, Lisa and I break down what mom guilt is, common reasons we experience it, and how to overcome it. If you've ever felt like a failure as a parent, this one's for you.
About my guest:
Hi, I am Lisa Richards. I have been an esthetician for over 20 years. I believe good skincare is for everybody. I started SkinBoss in 2016, working out of a salon in Orem, Utah. In November 2019, I opened the SkinBoss Skin Spa in Provo, Utah.
My husband and I have four children ranging in ages from 7 to 17. Needless to say, every day brings a range of emotions, both from kids AND parents.
In my spare time, I like to read, shop online and get away from it all in nature… or a hotel pool. You can find me at www.SkinBoss.care
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We've all felt it, it's no better when watch our kids experience it. let's discuss.
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With possibly multiple children and many responsibilities, we may often feel like we are running from fire to fire, putting them out as quickly as possible. This can be exhausting. As parents, we might feel that this is our job... let's take a closer look at what this creates for us, and if that is actually what we want to do.
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As our children grow, we get a new set of choices to make, and with some decisions, we just get to watch: Where to consider attending college, what their curfew should be, who they're dating, jobs, sports, friends, what age is appropriate for phones, the list goes on and on... It's on a whole new level from when they were little.
In this episode I break down the art of decision making so that you can more clearly navigate what is yours to decide and help your teen navigate what is for them to decide.
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Words and thoughts shift meaning through our definitions of them. Often times we subconsciously define them to our own detriment. In this episode I will go over some common sources of pain and how to redefine what isn't working in our parenting.
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Our attitudes towards physical beauty, sex appeal, modesty, and how we both unconsciously and consciously teach our kids about it is the discussion in this episode. So much wisdom is discovered in our conversation- you don't want to miss this one!
About my guest: Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a relationship and sexuality educator and coach, as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Illinois with a PhD in Counseling Psychology from Boston College. To learn more, please visit www.finlayson-fife.com
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In this episode, Tina and I have an honest conversation about when our children grow up and it doesn't play out how we thought it would. If you are struggling to accept the life your young adult children are living, this one's for you.
About Tina: Tina Gosney is an active member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. She specializes in coaching LDS parents who have a child that has left the church or a child that is LGBTQ. She has experienced both these circumstances in her own family, with a daughter who has left the church, and a gay son who married another man. As a certified coach through The Life Coach School, Tina has been able to help countless parents navigate and thrive in their relationships with their children and spouse as they adapt to a new normal. You can find Tina at Tinagosney.com
While working with my clients, disrespect and teens often go hand in hand. But focusing on what we think of their actions is not helpful. In this episode, I go over all the nitty gritty of disrespect, and It's not what you think it is.
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You know that nagging voice in the back of your head...? The one that leaves you feeling like a terrible parent? In this episode I will highlight some common beliefs that you're probably buying into that only cause pain.
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Someone asks you about your child, your parenting, your home... What are the first thoughts that come to mind? How do you paint the picture of your life to yourself and others? Let's chat about what we choose to focus on, what that creates for us, and if we want to keep that point of view.
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As a mother, we often want to give everything we have to our child- leaves, branches, all. In this episode I look at parenting from this paradigm and how it plays out for the family.
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Ever walk away from a conversation with your teen, scratching your head and wondering how that went so wrong? In this episode, I go over some of the most common mistakes we make when we talk with our kids.
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Meet Mark, my bookkeeper, coach, and friend. I love my conversations with Mark because of his fresh perspective and ability to think outside of the box. In this episode we will chat about all things money, teens, and college.
To learn more about Mark's money philosophy, you can find him at moneyschool.works
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Loss, grief, pain, and sadness are unavoidable as a human. When life does it's thing and we find ourselves mourning what was or what we wanted it to be, we don't usually want to be super upbeat and happy about it... and that's okay.
My teens, my clients teens, and pretty much all teens, will cause parents to mourn. whether that's from decision making, illness, accident, or the impact of another's actions towards them. Let's talk about the process of mourning.
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When we make our teen's words and actions mean something about us, we suffer. Not only do we suffer, but then we parent from that unhappy place and that doesn't usually turn out so well for anyone....
Want help getting off of the hamster wheel of pain? In this episode I mix it up by guesting on another podcast. It was so much fun to talk to Nate and I think you'll love it, too.
Nate Web is a speaker and professional school counselor who specializes in bullying and resiliency. From his own experiences being bullied as a kid, and from his studies as a professional school counselor, Nate founded Bullies Be Gone, a media platform to help empower kids to get over bullies, get off social media, and to love their lives. Nate is PASSIONATE about helping kids see their worth, and speaks all around to help save the kids. To learn more about Nate, you can visit him at Bulliebgone.com or on Instagram @bulliesbe.gone
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We all know that you can "be in the red" with money, but did you know that we all have emotional bank accounts, too? In this episode I will talk about how to know when you're parenting in the "red", and how to become net positive when that's the case.
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You don't want to be happy that they're vaping (or insert anything that isn't what you'd call a "great choice"), and I get that... But you also don't need to be in a severe place of emotional suffering. Enter, peace. In this episode I teach you a four step process to access peace while in the storm. I've got you.
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You don't like where you're at, and you've caught the vision of where you could be... You see how much better things would be when you're parenting from 'that' place, but how do you get there? This is a common occurrence with parents as they learn information but are unsure of how that looks to implement and change old habits and old thoughts. I am here to help.
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Socially, we are taught to believe certain things about parenting. Some of these things are helpful, others are not. In this episode I will expose a few of the unhelpful, yet subconsciously agreed upon lies that we all buy into.
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Humans naturally look for enemies. When parenting, this isn't the most helpful approach. In this episode I will give you practical tips and tricks to overcome this habit and grow closer to your teen. Go teamwork!
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Hard things are a catalyst. They are unavoidable and a key player in creating both our home and our ideal self. How can we teach our kids to overcome challenges and come off as victor? Let's break it down.
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Your teen makes a comment... and the hair on your neck stands up... You can feel the fight coming. What does this mean? Why do we do this? Why do we pick fights when that's not what we'd wanted? I go over all the fine details in this episode.
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I'm feeling kinda feisty right now, and so in this episode I will be sharing some of the things that society generally agrees upon and why I disagree. And guess what, it's okay if you disagree with me about disagreeing, I will still love you. xoxo
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"I'm so stupid! I know better than that!" We've all thought something similar, yeah? Beating ourselves up for making a human mistake seems like it would prevent future mishap, but is that true? And what is the cost?
In this episode I breakdown why we paint ourselves as the troll and the effect that this can have on ourselves and our kids.
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If you put dough into a pasta maker, you get noodles on the other side. Plant a tomato seed, and you can expect to harvest tomatoes. When parents apply the principle of "input = output" to their kids, like thinking that if we teach our kids to be honest and then expect them to always be honest, disappointment is never far behind.
In this episode I cameo a few of my client's situations to show you how this line of thinking is not helpful, and I'll give you practical tools to drop the unnecessary suffering.
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Substance abuse is a topic that affects many families. In this episode I will talk with Claire about her story of addiction and recovery, what to do when you discover substance abuse in your home, common misconceptions around this topic, and what teens wish their parents knew.
About my Guest: Claire is an addiction specialist with a B.S. in psychology and has spent years working within family systems dealing with addiction. She can be found at clarityintervention.com or on instagram as Clarity Intervention. Direct contact can be made through Claire@clarityintervention.com or (801)735-5755
As parents, one could easily assume that we have a part time job as worry warts. From stressing that they have never had a first date, to being worried that they go out too much, and then what about the friends that they are with?!? Are they learning everything that they need to before they move out, and will they actually ever move out? Will I survive without them?
As they get closer to launching the fear tends to increase. In this episode I will address why this happens and how you can stop spinning out in confusion, fear, and overwhelm.
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If you feel like you're in constant opposition to your child, this episode is for you. I'll teach you how to play on the same team so that it's a win for everyone. Amazing.
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Let's be honest.... Have you ever felt relief when they aren't in the room? Family vacations couldn't end soon enough? You feel super guilty when you run out of the house for an "errand" just to escape them?
I have done all of these things and then some. In this episode I'll explain this phenomenon and the reasons for it. Once you know, the guilt can drop away and you can begin to find love for yourself and them once more.
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Different kinds of questions will yield different kinds of answers. Teens can be flighty creatures, so it's important that parents know how to best approach their child when they've got questions. In this episode I will teach you everything you need to know about the art of posing a question.
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Ah, the magical time of year where we review how we've done the previous year and look forward to changes we'd like to make. New Year's resolutions rarely stick for longer than a few weeks, but I've got a few tricks to teach that will help to sustain your parenting goals for lifelong improvement.
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So many of us find joy to be elusive- a goal we always talk about obtaining, but never more than, "it's what Christ offers us." While this is true, I am going to offer you specifics to how joy works and how to create it in your parenting. (Spoiler: once you can create joy one area of your life, you can create it in every area of your life. Brilliant.)
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Want to gift yourself with amazing insights to make 2021 your best parenting year yet? Monique and I keep it real. In this episode you will see parenting differently as we ask frank questions and reveal so much awesomeness.
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About my guest: Monique is a leadership coach and business mentor. She is passionate about helping people become their best. Those who have worked with her come away having overcome fear and feel empowered and equipped with the tools she teaches in her Elevate program. To learn more, visit moniquescrip.com
Are you one of those people who always needs to be busy?
Who feel better the more that they get done?
Do you define your parental success by your progress, and that of your teen?
If it's a yes, I feel you. This is the work that I am doing in my life and see so many of my clients dealing with similar habits. There is a specific reason for this and I break it all down for you in this episode.
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Love feels amazing, so why do we as parents so often deny ourselves of that feeling? Too often we are waiting for our teen to behave how we want them to. Our Savior, Jesus Christ, teaches differently. In honor of His birth, I want to explore His way of loving- unconditionally.
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If your teen opens up to you, what next? In this episode I will teach you how to be a good listener, what questions to both ask and avoid, and how to best guide your teen in those sensitive moments.
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Have you ever felt 'so much' that you couldn't even say what emotions you were feeling? Or how about going from frustrated to furious in seconds? As humans, we tend to layer, mix, and judge our feelings. In this episode I will discuss emotions on top of emotions and all the juicy details of it.
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"Yeah, but..." It's a common phrase that we use. In this episode, I'll explain the "why we do," and "why we shouldn't," take this route of communication. I'll also provide you with a much more powerful alternative.
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In today's episode I will breakdown for you the "why" and "what now" of your teen deciding that church isn't for them anymore. Having experienced this myself, I know how much pain this can cause, and the collateral damage that can occur after they walk away. I want to give you new information and a fresh perspective- one that will work for everyone.
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John Donne taught that, “No man is an island”. In this episode, I share my personal story of this concept. I will teach you how you can leave a family legacy with intention. One that will not only bless your present family, but continuing for generations to come.
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A common occurrence, but not a common conversation. When our child, or someone that we know and love comes out as LGBTQ, where do we go from there?
Jenie and I talk about all of the thoughts and feelings that come up as she shares her journey. This is a must listen to better support the LGBTQ people you know and love.
Jenie Hunter is a LCS Certified Life Coach and is currently working on an advanced certification in Faith based coaching with Jody Moore. She specializes in helping LDS parents and families who have an LGBTQ family member. Jenie helps them navigate from fear to understanding. She has six children (1 son and 5 daughters) Her son, Nicholas, came out as gay 8 years ago. She feels that the privilege of being Nicholas’s mother has made her a better mom, disciple of Christ, and basically just a better a human being!
You can contact her at JenieHunterCoaching.com
Happy fall! With the crisp air and caramel apples come midterms for our kids. Full disclosure: All of my kids at home have cried about school this week. I'm guessing that this might be happening in your house as well, so I'm going to teach you some awesome skills to use when the storm hits.
And never fear- If you don't have midterm drama, you can use these techniques with anyone you love who is struggling.
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I remember seventh grade as being awful.
I have seen three of my children also struggle as a new school, major friend changes, and puberty all collide. I feel for them, because I get it. Chatting with Kelly, she told me about how me and all the other mom's start going through changes that are like a second puberty. Throw that in with the fact that you've got kids going through puberty as well, and you've got the makings of a potential hormonal disaster.
In our interview we unpack and explain it all. Knowledge is power, and this is powerful stuff that you don't want to miss.
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About my guest: Kelly Keelan knows first-hand the frustration that comes with trying to lose weight, especially as we get older. For the past 15 years, she has helped countless women over the age of 40 to reach their goal weight despite their hormonal imbalances, metabolic dysfunction, and overeating habits that often accompany perimenopause. She combines her nursing experience, life coach certification, as well as her own personal struggle with weight loss resistance, to help women shed pounds.
Kelly owns her online coaching business, Kelly Keelan, RN, where she works one on one with clients. She believes that weight-loss during midlife requires a different approach that no one else is talking about. You can find out more about Kelly's weight loss program and how she helps clients by visiting www.kellykeelan.com
This episode's title could easily be my job description. As a coach, I see the stories my clients are buying into and point it out to them. We all hold on so tightly to our tale's, despite the pain that they can cause.
Stories are what separate us from animals, and that's a good thing. In this episode, I break it all down for you, so that you can see more clearly your own stories and decide if you want to keep them.
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My oldest can give a death stare that will wither the tallest tree into oblivion. It used to crush me. I remember the exact moment when I heard confidence defined in a new and remarkable way. My mind was blown, and I haven't looked back since.
Now, I find her most concerted stares adorable. I even laugh and tell her how cute she is... I found confidence. In this episode I break it down for you, so that you can also find your parental confidence.
Are you ready to have your world rocked? If so, this episode is for you.
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We've all been taught that everything has an equal and opposite reaction, but did you know that this doesn't just apply to Newton's 3rd law of motion? This is also true in parenting, feelings, and every other aspect of our existence.
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When our kids struggle we try to resolve their discomfort for them. If you can't stand to see your child, spouse, or neighbor struggle, then this episode is for you. I break down the why's and how's so that you can see yourself clearly. Parenting with this information will pivot your home in an exceptional way.
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We can categorize all of the things in our life down to three "buckets". When we don't understand the bucket system, we create a great deal of unnecessary pain and suffering for ourselves. In this episode, I will discuss what the buckets are, and how you can use them to parent.
It all starts with one thing- knowing what your responsibility is.
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Have you ever noticed that in the heat of the moment you may say or do things that you didn't mean? In this episode we will discuss this phenomenon in detail. This concept blew my mind when I learned it, and I never saw things the same again. Are you ready to pivot?
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In this episode I will discuss three sneaky ways that criticism appears towards self and family, what it's effects are, and the results it creates in your life.
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As a human, we are always trying to figure out if we are good enough. Parenting is a common place that we judge ourselves, and it's usually too harshly. Let's make sure that you're using the right metrics to measure your success. In this episode I will clear up some misconceptions and give you the perfect way to know how you are doing with your teens.
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We all have them. How are they created, how can they be controlled, and how can we help our teens out with theirs? Lets talk it out.
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As a parent of teens, we can't leave the topic of pornography unaddressed. In this episode, I will introduce you to Zach Spafford, a certified life coach that specializes in overcoming pornography. We discuss common misconceptions, how to educate and help your teen, and what not to do. To learn more about Zach, you can visit his website, https://www.zachspafford.com/
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Society often tells us to, "be tough". But in this episode, I am here to tell you that there are some pretty amazing advantages (both personally and as a parent) to opening up and exposing our shortcomings, weaknesses, and flaws. Spoiler: my favorite reason is because it actually feels amazing once you let go...
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Boundaries + Unconditional love = The perfect combo to successfully navigate the world.
There are a lot of misconceptions about how boundaries work and their role in our various relationships. In this episode I will teach you how to separate out where one person's responsibility ends and another begins. Ready to draw your boundaries? Let's go.
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Faith in our Creator and His plan for us is more than just a little seed, that will sprout when planted. In this episode I will discuss how faith is both thought and action driven, who creates our faith, and what direction it works in, plus so much more. Come and give it a listen.
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If you're anything like the rest of us, there are at least a few people in your life that you have a hard time managing your emotions around. If you can't relate, then skip this episode. Otherwise, listen up, I've got a few ways to help you navigate those rough waters.
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We all expect things of ourselves, others, and our children. How is this helpful, and can it be harmful? What do our expectations mean? Let's dive deep and discuss all of it!
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Would you like to know the secret to feeling however you want, regardless of what others do? In this episode I will teach you how to master your emotions. This tool is helpful in every situation that you might find yourself in.
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You know that fantastic feeling when you get something new? How about when your child wins an award or you lose a few pounds? That hit of validation is what we will discuss in this episode. Is it harmful? Is it helpful? Come and learn with me, as Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife breaks it all down for us.
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The human brain has an average of 60,000 thoughts a day. This is a huge daily occurrence that is worth some reflection. In this episode I will break thoughts down and discuss how they can be a problem or a solution.
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There is only one set of perfect parents to have ever existed. In this episode we will discuss what this means for us and how we can use their example in a practical way.
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Are you a helicopter mom? How about a snowplow dad? In this episode I will discuss why our kids need hard stuff in their life, and what we as parents may be doing to sabotage them in the long run.
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So often parents take both the credit and blame for decisions that their teen makes. I will explain how this is harmful to your relationship and what to do to fix it.
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In this episode, you will learn what emotional blackmail looks like in parenting. We will discuss why we all have rule books, or manuals, how they hold us back, and what to do about them.
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Often times we feel as though there is a great emotional expanse between us and our children. As our teens develop, we need to pivot our relationships with them to maintain a sense of connection. This is what we explore, as I share with you the one secret of relationship success in this podcast.
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How are you and your teens doing with our current global situation? I am here for you. In this episode I'll explain about the teen brain, why they do what they do, and how you can make sense of it.
"Why Do They Act That Way? - Revised and Updated: A Survival Guide to the Adolescent Brain for You and Your Teen" by Dr. David Walsh Ph.D. is used as a reference.
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Conflict is one of the most important elements of life. In this episode I will teach you how to be a master of conflict. Come and learn how to be a conflict artist.
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Do you ever think, "I wish that they would stop doing that." Or maybe, "They should know better!" Perhaps, "Why does every conversation have to be an argument?" If these, or similar phrases often come to mind, then this episode is for you.
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In this episode i will introduce myself and explain the title of this podcast. It might just surprise you.
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