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Everyone is talking about sex...except for Christians. And if they do, it's some version of "sex is for marriage", sex creates "soul ties" or... the progressive church who talks about sex for married people, pretty much has some underlying version of "sex is for your husband." ...Which is not only problematic, but doesn't help you actually wait or know what to do when you are married. So it's time to flip the script. Because who created sex? God. And it's time we take it back for the kingdom.
Hey Freaky Friend Fam!
We got dragged a bit in our review section about this season's opener - "Ep 74 Is Bussin It Before Marriage A Sin Fr Fr?"
We wanted to share our raw thoughts, pick up where we left off, and continue the conversation.
Come listen in as we share our hearts with yall.
Our 80th episode is a real candid conversation about relationships with sex as parents. We brought back a favorite guest for this one - Jamika Carter from the Prayer Plug and MillMom Podcast.
Get into girl talk with us!
I mean... the topic is in the title. Lol.
IF this topic is discussed in the church, it's debated on both ends of the spectrum.
We discuss how our thoughts have evolved on the topic.
Listen in and join in on the coversation!
We're continuing this season doing what we've been doing - challenging the norm!
We've all heard about "accountability" in the church, especially in terms of sexuality.
But is this even biblical? Are we supposed to each other accountable or participate in mind your business ministries?
We discuss!
Listen in and join in the conversation.
Engage with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast.
If you've grown up in church, you've likely heard this:
"Men NEED sex."
But do they really though? Like, what does this even mean? How is this a thing? Where did this even come from?
Join us as we discuss!
Have you ever had a wild, crazy, and just inappropriate sexual thought?
Be honest.
It's ok.
We won't judge.
Well, we have.
We share ours and how to navigate these as a Christian woman.
Listen in.
With so many new podcasts out there, this new season is the perfect time to reflect.... Why a Christian sex podcast?
This episode we break down the true purpose behind GNTD podcast - taking sex back for the Kingdom and what that truly means.
Check it out!
We're back, Freaky Friends!
We're so grateful for the time we had to get rest and handle life. We got some major life updates for y'all. And in true, GNTD fashion, we got a hot topic right off jump.
Purity culture preaches that sex before marriage is a sin. Is that bible though? Like is it REALLY a sin?? We got part 1 discussing our thoughts.
Welcome back and dive in with us!
Hi Freaky Friends!
Can you believe it's the season 5 finale already?!
Don't worry, we're leaving you with a banger!
We've been wanting to do this episode for a while. You can't have a Womanhood series without learning about the woman's body!
Enter Kavya Davuluri - MD/MBA student at the University of Michigan training to be an ObGyn. She breaks down all we need to know about the female reproductive system and breaks down the most common vagina myths.
So, grab your headphones and mirror (yes, your mirror) and get into it!
Hey Freaky Friends!
With soon-to-be 5 kids between the two of us, we know a little something about being pregnant. But, you know what's not talked about enough? Doing the thing that got you pregnant while pregnant!
That's right.
Pregnant P***y.
Pregnant sex.
We got all the info, tips, and juicy details (no pun intended) on it.
Tap in to hear more and share with a pregnant or want-to-be pregnant friend!
Guess who's back, Freaky Friends!
Ever wondered how far is too far sexually? Or how many times do you need to try something before getting more comfortable with exploring new sexual things? Or why your spouse might love something sexually that you're just not that into?
We brought back guest favorite - Certified Sex Therapist De-Andrea Blaylock-Johnson to help us answer those questions. The last time when she was on, she mentioned sexual ethics. This time, she got real and answered all our questions about it.
Tap into Episode 71 to hear all about it!
Hi Freaky Friends!
We're back in our Womanhood series, and this episode is one we can all relate to.
Who hasn't heard about submission as a woman?
Well, we're sharing our thoughts on it as well as how it connects to the intersectionality of black, woman, and sexuality.
Some great think pieces in this one forsure!
Tap in to listen!
Freaky Friends... You know what it is!
We made it to episode 69, so you know we had to do something special to celebrate.
We have licensed, credentialed sexpert Goody Howard on with us to answer some of our most asked questions about all things oral.
This is a don't miss episode with some free gems guaranteed to have you enjoying pleasure in ways you wouldn't expect.
Get into it and listen!
Welcome back Freaky Friends!
We're in our Women's Series and this week, it's all about the sex talk.
As women, a lot of what we hear and learn a lot about sex that shapes our sexuality our entire lives.
But how does God handle this type of convo with us? I'm sure it's very different from the talk our parents (if we even had one!).
Get into this latest drop as we dive into the talk... but make it like God tho!
We've all heard of the virtuous qualities of the woman in Proverbs 31. But is a Proverbs 31 woman sexual?
We've NEVER heard that narrative preached before, but we have some thoughts...
Tap in as we dive into another week of our Womanhood series.
Welcome back, Freaky Friends!
This is for the ladiessss.......
This season is all about womanhood. So, we're kicking off this series talking about our journey as women in regards to our sexuality and the intersectionality that intertwines it all.
Y'all, it's a good season and a good episode.
Get into it!
We're baccckkkkk!!!!!
Can you believe we're in the 5th season?! Some things have changed since we first launched. So, we're kicking off Season 5 with some real talk about sexual evolution.
Tap in to check it out!
It's the most wonderful time of the year.... and the last episode of 2021!
Freaky Friends, thank y'all for rocking with us through a rocky 2021. We made it THO!
So, we're gonna close out the last episode of the year with another edition of the Undefiled Series: Peace on Earth.
We know the holiday times can be full of joy, but not always void of stress. What's the best way to handle conflict around the holidays? How do you make sure you and your boo stay "TEAM US"? How do you and your spouse stay getting freaky in a house full of people?
Tap in to listen to our thoughts on all this and more!
Resources mentioned: yandy.com, Ultimate Intimacy App
In our Undefiled marriage series, we're talked a lot about sex-ploration.
But in our journey, it's normal to wonder.... how far is too far?
If you've wondered about boundaries to set or find yourself in too deep with your spouse, check out this great episode with our girl Kim Miller from the Hey, Girl Hey podcast!
It's a must listen!
Get into it!
A mom? A wife? A Christian? An influencer/marriage social media specialist? A full time lawyer? A woman?
Doing it all isn't easy. But doing it all and still being intentional with sex with your husband?
Our girl, Lachauna (IG: @mrsmommyesquire), wears all these hats, and comes through and gives us the tips she's learned through her marriage journey that makes her the expert at Sex as a Supermom!
If you have any of these titles, this latest episode is a must hear!
Tap in to check it out!
Freaky Friends,
You know we can't do our Marriage Series, Undefiled, without talking about Sex Toys!
We brought in a toy and gift expert, Ese, to break it down for us.
And yall..... she broke it ALLL the way down!
Everything you wanted to know about sex toys - from where to start to how to convince your partner to level up - is all in this episode!
Get into it!
Friends.... How many of us have them?
Ok, that may be a stretch. But, we all have heard the advice that when it comes to friends, you should keep your marriage bed details to yourself.
But, I mean, what about YOUR friends?
We discuss if it's really ok to talk about your sex life with your friends. Can they really be trusted? Can it actually be good for your relationship?
Tap in to listen and hear our thoughts!
Sex is usually something painted as you either have the juice, or you don't. But can it change? How does sex evolve in marriage and with age?
5 years married and almost 2 years from starting the podcast, we've learned this saying to be true:
" It's about the journey... not the destination."
Tap in to learn more!
Szn 4 and we're backkkkk!
In the season 4 opener, we're kicking off our Marriage Series with HOW to get in the mood.
I mean, sometimes, you want to.... but you don't WANT to.
Kids, work, hormones, just being tired... it can take a toll on your sexual desire. So, we got you covered.
Tap in to get all the tips (slight pun intended!)
Another episode, another month, another season!
As we reflect on the Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You series, we share our favorite moments from the season, what we learned and what we're looking forward to ahead!
Get into this finale, y'all, and enjoy whatever kind of summer you're planning to have!
Connect with us over the break and let us know your favorite moments from this season!!
Email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com or hit us up on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast.
We've all heard you have to give your man sex to keep him from cheating, but is it true?
This week in the Sex Talk Your Mama Gave You, we're finding out if this age-old saying is true as it relates to our experience.
Get into it!
Connect with us via IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or via email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Ok, so we know this is usually a part of the sex talk your Mama did give you, but we're taking it a step further...
What's the best birth control?
How should you handle it if you're struggling to get pregnant?
Does God tell you when to have babies?
Get into it to hear this version of the making babies talk your Mama never gave you!
Like what you hear?
Connect with us via IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or by email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
It's one of the oldest questions....
Can men and women really be friends?
Well, we're talking about it this week in our Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You series.
We share our experiences and what we've learned with our male friends.
Tap in to listen!
Connect with us! Let us know your thoughts and join the converstaion via IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or via email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
It's no surprise that we're advocates of foreplay on this podcast... but a whole episode thought?
Yes sis.
It's necessary. lol.
We discuss why it's important and the different variation of ways to get into it (pun intended ;-).
Get into it.
Engage with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or via email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Freaky Friends, raise your hand if you've ever been talked to about how to ride.
No hands?
No worries, Waka. We got you covered.
This week in the Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You, we're reviewing riding basics. Tap in for the lesson.
Got other tips you want to share? Got topic ideas you want us to cover?
Connect with us!
Email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com or on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast.
Happy Hump Day Freaky Friends!
Today in the Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You, we're having Sex Therapy!
No, not the Robin Thicke kind.... but we're talking with a REAL, CREDENTIALED Sex Therapist y'all. Because who better to school you on the realities of sex than someone licensed to talk about it every day!
Our Sexpert DeAndrea shares what she sees as common reasons that put people hire her as their Sex Therapist, how to navigate being sex positive as a Christian, ways to maximize your sex life, and how to live your life more sensually.
It's a JUICY episode!
Get into it!
To connect with DeAndrea, follow her on IG @sankofasex. To connect with us, follow us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on IG or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Resources from this episode:
@sexpositive_families
@revlesexandfaith
Freaky Friends!
We're 50 episodes in!
Can you believe it?!
And what better to commemorate episode 50 than to talk about the first time!
We've got everything you need to know about getting it poppin for the first time. Whether it's you and hubby's first time after a long time, your first time with your spouse or your first time ever, these tips have you covered!
So, get into it!
Connect with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast ir by email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
This week's Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You includes what you see.... Holy Spirit and Heaux.
After we fan girl in an extended Get This Off My Chest (per usual), we discuss if every girl really should have a hoe phase. Somehow, the two tie in together. lol.
It's the episode we never knew we needed.
Get into it!
Like what your hear?
Engage with us!
Follow us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
There are a lot of stereotypes out about sex, but what's "normal"?
How long does it last?
What's an average "size"?
How many people are actually doing it?
Well, Men's Health came through with some answers in an old article.... and we had to talk about it.
Get ready y'all.... this episode holds nothing back!
Connect with us! Email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com or on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast.
In an unsuspected twist, we took a break from our Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You (STYMNGY) series to discuss a lil DMX and Jesus.
Like sex, death is never really talked about until it happens, and by then, we're usually not prepared to deal. Check out our thoughts surrounding Earl "DMX" Simmons' legacy and how it's impacted us and our relationship with Jesus.
We'd love to connect with you!
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This week in the Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You series, we're talking sex and technology.
It's no surprise that technology has changed the rules of the game.
From sliding in the DMs to sending nudes and everything in between, we discuss how to navigate these new norms while being true to yourself, your sexuality, and your spirituality.
Check it out!
In this week's episode, we reference our podcast friends - the Mill Mom Podcast with Elena Bless the Body and Jamika the Plug. Make sure to check them out here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-mill-mom/id1501902625
We'd love to engage more with you! Follow us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com to see more!
This week, in our Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You, we go there....
Have you ever woke up to one of THOSE dreams? Yep.
The ones may have you waking up feeling a bit "relieved"... Or maybe you wake up feeling guilty. It's hard to know what to feel when no one talks about it.... So this episode, we do!
Are sex dreams sinful?
Can women have wet dreams?
What does it all mean?
Is it bad or of God?
Listen to this week's episode to hear our discussion!
Follow us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com to engage with us and join our Freaky Friend Family!
Another week, another sex talk!
This week in the Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You series, we're diving into sexploration.
How do you explore sexual things without going "too far"?
We share our thoughts!
Connect with us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on IG or through email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Also, if this episode has you "'bout that life" download the Ultimate Intimacy app on your iPhone or Android.
Let's be real, freaky friends....
Sometimes sex can create regret, tears, guilt, shame.... heartbreak.
On this week in our The Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You series, we discuss bouncing back and how to move on after a sexual experience leaves you with a broken heart.
Connect with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or via email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Part of being a woman is owning your sexiness. This week, we continue The Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You" as we discuss sexiness. Is it wrong to be sexy? How can you be sexy and saved? How do you feel sexy and what does it mean for your sexuality?
This is something unique to us women, so let's discuss!
Want to engage with us more?
Follow us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on IG or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Ok, first things first....
We know Pt. 1 was rough (definitely a reflection of last week).
But, thank yall for rocking with us, and this week, call us Ciara because we leveled up!
So, if last week was a bit too much (we get it, sis), listen to this week! We recap some of the best points from Pt. 1, and continue the conversation on desire... like how to create it and get it back.
So, get into it y'all.
This is the Remix.
Like what you hear?
Engage with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
After a week of not power, no heat, and no cell service, we cranked out the first episode of our new series - The Sex Talk Your Mama Never Gave You.
To kick it off, we discuss the first thing that makes you realize your sexuality is real - Desire. We've all experienced it, but where does it really come from? And what's it really mean? And how are you supposed to handle it? Or handle a lack of it?
Get into this new series with us as we kick it off with something that's been around forever - fire & desire.
(Please bear with us. We had some audio issues this episode.)
Want to know more about our podcast? Follow us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on Instagram or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
This has been one of our most asked questions since we've started...
Owning your sexuality can sometime mean taking charge.
We're talking initiation.
It may not be Valentines Day anymore, but it's always a good time to learn about ways to initiate with your spouse.
Listen in to hear our spectrum of "soft" and "hard" ways to initiate intimacy.
Want to know more about our podcast? Follow us @goingnottoodeep on Instagram or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Someone cue up Tony! Toni! Toné! because it's our Anniversary!
Y'all, it's been 1 year since we launched this podcast. Can you believe it?!
We're kicking off Season 3 with some catch up and reflection...as well as our thoughts on the show that had the whole Internet talking during our sabbatical.
Get into it and celebrate with us!
References:
Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski - Book and Workbook
Want to know more about our podcast? Follow us @goingnottoodeep on Instagram or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
We have one more bonus during our Season 2 Sabbatical - real, unplugged conversation with our first male (non related) guest of the series - Phillip. Listen in to our raw convo with him after the original recording stopped, and get even more insight into what the dating world is like when you think like a man.
This bonus is an unreleased snippet from our last guest, Martina, who shares some tips on how to avoid repeating olds cycles and raising sexually healthy kids.
It's the last episode of 2020, Freaky Friends - and we wanted to leave y'all with one of our most requested topics for the Single Series: maturbation. We go where the church usually won't and answer all the questions they usually don't, like...Is it wrong? Will I go to hell if I do it? Is it ok if it's keeping me from having sex? How can I explore my body/sexuality without going too far? We address the "elephant in the room" (insider for our long term Freaky Friends) in this last episode of the year!Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to our listener family. Thank you for making us a part of this memorable 2020!! Continue to engage with us during this holiday break on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
It's been 84 years...We brought back our girl Fredrica to talk more about how to cope when your single season is going longer than you ever imagined. If you recall, Fredrica waited until she was in her 40s to get married and, subsequently, have sex for the first time. In this episode, we tackle how to handle feeling some type of way when it's not your turn and when you get to the point of either trust God or settle. Contact our guest Fredrica at fccudjoe@hotmail.com. Want to know more about our podcast? Follow us @goingnottoodeep on Instagram or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Freaky Friends!Y'all asked, and we answered! Cue our first male guest of our single series - Phillip. We got real as we probed into the mind of a single, celibate Christian man to ask all your questions - from dating a virgin, to shooting your shot, to when to bring up celibacy, to how to navigate a relationship while doing it God's way.Get into it!Connect with our guest Phillip on IG @dj.couragous on IG. And connect with us on our social media! Follow us @goingnottoodeeppodcast and email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
We've been talking about abstaining from sex all throughout out Single Series. But, that's impossible without boundaries. In the last episode before the Thanksgiving holiday, Trece and Ash kick it solo to discuss boundaries as it relates to singleness and life.Connect with us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on IG or by email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com,
I know y'all didn't think we were going to have a Single Series and NOT talk about this... This week, our guest is Shanacee Dunn has an incredible story about how wjen she let God into her relationship she and her now-husband went from having sex for 3 years to NOT having sex for the next 4 years until they got married. It's basically a guide on how to stop having sex with your boyfriend...Let's get into it!Connect with Shancee on her Youtube Channel (search 'Shanacee') or on IG @_shanacee. And connect with us @goingnottoodeeppodcast or via email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Last week in our Single Series we talked about if it's worth the wait - and we determined it definitely is! But, let's be real - a lot of times, we don't want to! This week we have a special guest, Jasmine, who's blog post about what she's learned when she didn't have sex in 5 years went viral back in 2017. Since then, Jasmine has had sex and shares what she continues to learn on her journey and how to handle if you DON'T want to wait!Engage with Jasmine at on her website https://www.dreamsofjasmine.com/ and on IG @dreamsofjasmine. And don't forget to engage with us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on IG or through email at goingnottoodeep@gmail.com.
We're still in our Single Series, and this week we're asking a question that we've allllllll had before: Is it possible to ACTUALLY wait to have sex...and it is worth it? We have a very special guest, Fredrica, who tells her story about waiting over 40 years to have sex for the first time with her husband. Y'all get ready to the the beauty and realness of her journey. It's one you won't want to miss, forsure!Contact our guest Fredrica at fccudjoe@hotmail.com. Want to know more about our podcast? Follow us @goingnottoodeep on Instagram or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Now y'all know we couldn't do the Single Series without doing a continuation of what sparked it in the first place - and of course with the same guest to do it justice! We got Demy back, and guess what y'all - it's still single and still horny over here.No, but really, this part 2 is everything you need. Demy gives us the real on how she's keeping her vow to God during quarantine and what to do AFTER you invite God to your bedroom. Words can't do it justice to say it's all the fire you need for the week. So, let's get into it. Make sure you follow our girl Demy on IG @demyanderson and follow us @goingnottoodeepodcast. Also, feel free to email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com
This week in our single series, we are talking about accountability. Accountability in any season also be the make or break to getting you to your goals. So, we brought on Janae Mason (aka @Nae2Curly) to talk about how accountability works for dating, sex, and achieving your goals. We also tackle accountability at the age of "20-something-I'm grown" years old. Get ready for another gem filled episode!Follow us @goingnottoodeeppodcast on IG to stay connected or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com!
We're back with a classic Trece and Ash episode!It's Week 3 of our Single Series and, you know, sometimes hindsight is 20/20.... So, this week we're running down what we wish WE knew when we were in our single season regarding self love, sex, dating, marriage, and more. The ki though? The lessons are applicable for all seasons!So, get into it!What are some things you learned during your singleness and dating journey? Let us know on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com
It's the second week of our Single Series and you KNOW we had to talk about this - virginity. We have a special guest - Ashley Renee - who shares her story about being a 31.5 year old virgin and how she refrains from bussin' it open while navigating the dating scene. Trust us, this episode is straight fire! No matter if you're single, married, engaged, contently waiting, or just trying to make it through - you won't want to miss it!You can find Ashley Renee on IG at @fashionsweetheart and support her business @covetedclaws.Want to connect with the podcast more? Follow us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
What is a "holy" woman? There has been a debate on a woman's holiness, modesty, and femininity for centuries. But it's 2020, chile. Does holy have to mean homely? In the words of Rosa Parks, we say, "or nah."It's the kick off for our Single series, so you KNOW we had to bring it in with some fire. Listen and welcome our first season's guest - Lauren Webster - as she shares her first hand experience with holiness and body shaming in the church.Connect with our guest Lauren Webster on IG @the_blackwonderwoman and connect with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
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Resources Mentioned in the Episode:
Uncovering Intimacy Website - https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/
Introduction into Talking Dirty - https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/introduction-talking-dirty/
Connect with us through email or social media!
Email - goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com
IG - @goingnottoodeeppodcast
Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
We are nearing the end of our sabbatical, but not without dropping the highly anticipated throw-it-in-the-bag, let's-talk-about-it, fun and freaky episode that we promised all season 1.
Trece and Ash recorded this episode a while back (pre-quarantine), but the laughs, topics, and gems are still just as relevant.
- Get This Off My Chest - Motivation Tips (This is so relevant now that it's scary!)
- Topic of the Day - Trece and Ash give their thoughts on everything freaky: from oral to anal, from sex furniture to sex toys, from role play to making a movie... and everything in between.
- Talk Dirty to Me - One of our freaky friends wants to know, "Is it ok for a married couple to watch porn?"
- Throw It Back - Fun and Traffic Lights
Enjoy this last drop before the new season. And get ready freaky friends! We're coming just as raw in Season 2 - pun slightly intended!
Resources with this episode: https://marrieddance.com/pillow-talk/
Stay connected with us on our sabbatical! Follow us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast and email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
We hope everyone is safely enjoying their summer. Even though Going (not too) Deep is on sabbatical, you KNOW we wouldn't leave y'all all this time without SOMETHING!
Starting this Christian sex podcast has been A JOURNEY, so this episode we're throwing it all the way back to where we first started.
Listen to the different lessons Trece and Ash learned over the last 21 episode in this bonus episode - Throw it Back: 21 Lessons and Blessings.
Get into it!
Stay connected with us on our sabbatical! Follow us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast and email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
Can you believe we're at the end of Season 1?!
To close out the season, Trece and Ash wanted to celebrate by doing a full show of the Q&A segment, Talk Dirty to Me, LIVE on Instagram with their Freaky Friends.
They answered questions about relationships, sex, and even personal questions. It's just the right mix of soul care, sex, and laughs that will keep us until Season 2!
Stay engaged with us during the season break!
Connect with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or by email at goingnottoodeep@gmail.com.
Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
We're ending our Intimacy Series this week with a topic that ties everything together - physical touch. Because, let's face it, it's hard to have maximum intimacy (or sex) with the physical. So, let's get into it!
- Get This Off My Chest - Seeing things in black and white v. seeing them in shades of grey... and jury duty chronicles.
- Topic of the Day - Physical Touch
- Today, we talk about the differences between sensuality and sexuality and discuss how to live everyday sensually. This ties into this week's challenge which is to discover something new that feels good to you, and (if applicable) share it with your spouse. Then, in true Going (not too) Deep fashion, we take it back to the basics of physical touch and give tips on how heightening your senses can improve your sex life. Finally, we have some real life advice on what to do when physical touch becomes an afterthought in your relationship.
- Throw It Back - It comes down to: Intentionality and Awareness
Got a question for the Talk Dirty to Me LIVE on Sunday, June 28th at 8 pm CST?
Email us your questions at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com or DM us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast.
Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
Trece and Ash are doing a full episode of Get This Off My Chest because, sis, there's A LOT to get off.
They talk everything from the history of suppressing women's power through sex, to waiting seasons, to corporate America's failure for black people, to generational education and trauma, to the importance of self care and checking in, and so much in between.
Enjoy this full episode of getting all this off their chest!
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Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
We got another takeover episode this week; this time with Ash and J. We're in week 2 on relationships as we wrap up our Intimacy Series, and this week's topic is one that anyone can relate to - conflict.
Let's get into it:
- Get This Off My Chest - With the world's ears finally open to the black narrative, it can be exhausting to keep having to relive black trauma. So, J and Ash give their thoughts on how they can be a part of the solution moving forward and for future generations.
- Topic of the Day - Conflict
- J and Ash discuss how they have grown to handle conflict, and discuss different examples of overcoming it during dating, engagement, marriage, sex, and parenthood.
- Throw It Back - Honesty, Direct Communication, and Reciprocity will go a long way, and prayer is always the answer.
What are some examples of conflict with your partner during your current season of life?
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Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
It's been a week....
We could all use a mental break, so here we go. We're getting to the tail end of our Intimacy Series, and our last topic is relationships.
So, in a fun twist, James & Trece took over the podcast to talk about one of the key foundational items needed for a healthy relationship.
Let's get into it:
- Get This Off My Chest - The year of our Lord 2020 is shaping up to be real ghetto... but God is still undefeated.
- Topic of the Day - Communication
- Trece and James break down the ins and outs of communication. They share with us the healthy habits they learned through the different seasons of their relationship (from dating to marriage to parenthood), and share how great communication and great sex go hand in hand.
- Throw It Back - In regards to marriage, prioritize communication in the first year, and be intentional with time spent with your spouse.
- Challenge for the Week: Find mutual ground with your spouse (This means no screen time!).
What questions do you have for the podcast? Send them to us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Trece and Ash are dropping a special, lighthearted bonus episode this week because 1. Let's be real - we need it, and 2. We all love Auntie Tab and Uncle Chance. Hear their takeaways from last week's Love Hour episode where Tabitha and Chance Brown were guests and shared their love story & most recent notoriety during this pandemic.
Happy Tuesday Freaky Friends!
This week we're going to the next level in the Intimacy Series and talking about the mind - more specifically, mental health. It's the perfect way to close out Mental Health Awareness Month. So, let's get into it!
- Get This Off My Chest [6:06] - Trece out here in these Quarantine streets, and Ash is letting go of her false sense of obligation.
- Topic of the Day [28:01] - Ash gets vulnerable as she shares her mental health story - from her family's history to her own journey. This begins a discussion about the importance of addressing mental health in regards to your spirituality, personality, and sexuality.
- Throw It Back [1:13:59] - Take Ownership of your story and it's ok to not be ok. That's it. Period.
What are your thoughts on this week's episode?
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Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
We have another body episode in our intimacy series, and this one is all about the mechanics of sex.
- Get This Odd My Chest - Ash's 'Spiritual Lesson Plan' has been asking her, aren't you tired?
- Topic of the Day - Going Inside Intimacy
- Trece shares more of her sex story and her journey as one of the 70% of women who have difficulty climaxing from penetration alone.
- Before we start, we have to remind you, sis - PLEASURE IS YOUR BIRTHRIGHT! We're talking about why pleasure is important and what it takes to enjoy it even more entering the bedroom.
- We give practical tips on how to get the most pleasure sexually. (Hint: Tilt & Squeeze)
- Our Issa Moment - We discuss giving voice to sex moments that are uncomfortable.
- What do you do when sex is painful?
- We talk about the biggest trick in mastering sex mechanics: to s unlearning previous mechanics and mindsets
- What do you do when sex mechanics with your spouse is different than with past sex partners? Trece and Ash share their experiences.
- Who's The biggest blocker and hater of our sex life? It's the enemy, sis.
- Talk Dirty To Me - One of our Freaky Friends wants to know, "Let's say that there is a Godly man, but you're not attracted to him physically. What do you do?" Trece and Ash have some thoughts
- Throw It Back - 3 Things: Self advocating, self awareness, and Recognizing your real opposition.
What are some topics you want to hear the Going(not too)Deep Podcast discuss? Let us know through email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com or on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast
One of our freaky friends wants to know,
"Has your openness on the podcast affected our marriage?"
Check out our answers, and also get a quick preview into next week's topic.
Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
We're deep into the Intimacy Series (no pun intended) and this week we're still giving love to our bodies. What better way to love to love your body than to show it the exercise it craves!
This week, we brought on Elena - founder of Bless the Body. Bless the Body is a host of workouts and communities designed to edify women from the inside out. Bless the Body is also home to Elena's 'The Millennial Mompreneur' community and podcast consisting of a community of women committed to their growth as CEO’s of their bodies, babies, and businesses.
So, let's get into it:
- Get This Off My Chest - Shortly after hearing about the senseless murder of Ahmaud Arbery, we have a mental health check in and remind ourselves that it's not only ok to not be ok, but it's also ok to try to be ok in order to make it through another day.
- Topic of the Day - Elena talks Fitness, Confidence & Sex Drive
- Elena shares her Sex Story!
- We Share the Key to Sustainable Exercise & Discuss the Importance of Finding Something that Speaks to Your Soul
- Elena gives us the Real Deal on Building You Dream Body & Waist Trainers
- Meanwhile, we Discovered the Most Hidden Gem of Exercise - Kegels
- How working out can be spiritual
- We get Elena's take on Maintaining Confidence as Discussed in her Podcast Episode "From Hot Girl to Wifey: 3 Ways to Own your Evolution"
- And then somehow, we end up on a 10 minute rant about the clitoris - thank You again God!
- This Week's Challenge: Do your Kegels and Find an Exercise you enjoy
- Throw It Back - Summed up simply? Own who you are; Make Exercise a Lifestyle; and Kegel, sis. Kegel!
What's your favorite form of fitness?
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Happy Tuesday Freaky Friends!
We're continuing our Intimacy Series for a second week still focusing on the body. This time, we're talking about how to be more confident and being authentic. By the end, you're guaranteed to be Feeling Yourself for sure! So, let's get into it:
- Get This Off My Chest - We're talking about embracing who you are and your authentic self as believers, women, and people.
- Topic of the Day - All About Confidence
- FF's, how'd y'all do on last week's challenge? Let's have an accountability moment.
- What's the first steps to confidence? Not Criticizing. Then, Contentment.
- We discuss the importance of Loving Yourself before you can be anything to anyone else.
- How can Mindfulness impact Confidence?
- Exploring who we really are and evolving - these are available through Christ's consistency.
- The Keys to Body & Overall Confidence
- This Week's Challenge: Finding your strong voice & Advocating for yourself
- Talk Dirty to Me - One of our freaky friends wanted some oral sex tips. You may want to put the kids in another room for this one. It gets raw...
- Throw It Back - We threw a lot back but it boils down to hype yourself up in the mirror like Issa and girls love Beyonce. Oh, and give yourself grace**
What tips do you have on confidence?
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Happy Tuesday, Freak Friends!
We're back with a fire new series called The Intimacy Series!
Before you can embrace your sexuality, you have to feel good about your whole self. That's true intimacy and it starts with you! Typically, a series like this starts from the inside out, but since it's sex we're talking about, we're going from the outside in!
This episode is all about the body and the feelings we as women have towards our bodies.
Let's get into it:
- Get This Off My Chest - What in the 2020 Pandemic?! Is quarantine time really coming to an end already, y'all? It's too much!
- Topic of the Day - Body Image - Trece and Ash get REAL real and are vulnerable like never before. The ladies discuss:
- Their body stories - from weight management, to colorism, to hair type envy, to body hair, to post baby bodies, and everything in between
- How becoming girl moms forced them to question their own subconscious biases
- Creating a better, more inclusive definition of beauty for their daughters and other generations
- Embracing the beauty of who we really are in a world that mostly pushes only one standard of beauty
- The importance of loving and showing gratitude to your body
- Throw It Back - We're challenging our freaky friends to do 2 things this week: express daily gratitude to your body and just ask for what you want. It's bound to be a good week!
Engage with us!
What's your body story? Are you down for the challenge this week? Let us know through IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com.
Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
We have such a great episode today. Loyal, freaky friend of the podcast, Evie Hampton, joined us to share her story, " Sex (Almost) Ruined My Marriage."
Evie is an entrepreneur/co-owner of Pretty Tast-E Bakery and Catering, LLC with her husband Devon, an author, a wife of 10 years, and a mother to 1 son and 2 bonus daughters. She hopes that by sharing stories of her life, she can help to inspire others and let people know that with God you can make it through no matter what situations life brings.
Let's get into it:
- Get This Off My Chest - First off, can we retire from being moms and be dads, because.... life.
- Topic of the Day - Sex Almost Ruined My Marriage
- Evie shares her sex story and how sex complicated things in her marriage: from guilt and shame to a sexless marriage for 2 years to rebuilding and recovering after infidelity
- We discuss:
- Getting over sexual guilt and shame in marriage
- An affair's impact on a marriage, the decision to stay or leave, and how to start over
- The road to recovery in marriage - Rebuilding trust and how to practice forgiveness
- Withholding sex as a punishment
- Contract v. Covenant - Renewing your mind for marriage
- Talk Dirty to Me - One of our freaky friends want to know.... How has quarantine affected our sex lives?
- Throw It Back - Trust God, the Word and your spouse; and sex always helps
You can find Evie's Book Blessings to Lessons: Reflections of a church girl on Amazon.
Has sex complicated things in your marriage? Engage with us on IG @goingnottoodeeppodcast or email us at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com to let us know!
Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
We've had a lot of amazing guests lately, but this week Trece and Ash are kickin it solo to bring a lighthearted, but low key inspirational episode about nothing.
Check the breakdown:
- Get This Off My Chest - First off, we have an announcement NEW NAME ALERT! 'cause truth is we're tired of the sex spam
- Topic of the Day - It's an episode about nothing... but it being everything we need right now. Topic highlights:
- Consistency
- Celebrating Ourselves
- Showing Up & Betting on Yourself
- Preparation Time Never Being Time Lost
- Importance of Baby Steps
- Glow Up v. Grind
- And, finally... We celebrate our first 10 episodes/1000 downloads by sharing our favorite episodes, favorite feedback, and what we've gotten from the podcast
- Talk Dirty to Me - One of our freaky friends want to know... "When you have overnight guests, do you have to have silent sex or do they just hear what they hear? What about when you're the guest?"
- Throw It Back - It comes down to showing up for yourself - in and out of the bedroom
What was your favorite episode so far? How do you show up for yourself?
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Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
You know we're all about women empowerment on this podcast.... so, we HAD to talk about submission - in and out of the bedroom.
We got a special guest to help us - Prayer Plug Founder and CEO, Jamika Carter! Jamika keeps it 100 as she shares her sex story and how her journey through submission as a wife and mother of 2 under 2 taught her how to ride for her husband - in these streets and in the sheets.
Here's the breakdown:
- Get This Off My Chest - Is birth control stopping God's plan or is that too deep?
- Topic of the Day - Submission is not a cuss word, but we got questions that need answers...
- Where did Submission come from?
- What does it look like in your marriage?
- Does submission leave you without a "voice"?
- Can submission really benefit your sex life?
- What about submitting sexually? Do you have to give it to him every time when he wants it ALL the time?
- Jamika, what's a "bussit" prayer and how do you pray it?
- Talk Dirty to Me - How do you deal with an insecure partner?
- Throw It Back - Alexa, play Floetry, cause "All you gotta do is say yesssss...."
What does submission look like to you?
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Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
We got another WTDW episode for your quarantined listening pleasure. What to Do When: He Gets You Pregnant... and it's lit!
Basically, a physical manifestation of struggle with sex still means no shame in Christ.
Let's get into it:
- Get This Off My Chest - Spreading some light -hearted positivity in the midst of all this chaos
- Topic of the Day - What to Do When...He Got You Pregnant
- We got a special guest to help us with this one. Meet Laisha - Mother, Wife, and CEO of Blessed Women United!
- Laisha shares her sex story and how getting pregnant as a single woman in ministry school pushed her further into her purpose.
- Now married and CEO of a 501(c)(3) nonprofit, Laisha also gives good advice in co-parenting and blended families.
- Basically, a pregnancy may be unplanned to you, but it's no surprise to God.
- Talk Dirty to Me - No Dirty Talk this week
- Throw It Back - A slow roll through our key takeaways
Did you have an unexpected pregnancy? Let us know how you handled it! Reach out to us on IG: @goingnottoodeeppodcast or through email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com
Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
Our What to Do When Series continues with the problem we all have dealt with at some point... you're single and horny.
And we know what you're thinking... Trece and Ash aren't there.
That's why we brought in someone who is... Demy - a freaky friend of the podcast. She's a Houston Baptist University student who embraces her sexuality in her singleness... while still managing to remain celibate for the last 3 years!
It's a lot of honest tips here, and we keep it real. Let's get into it:
- Get This Off My Chest - 'Rona got us on grown up punishment y'all...And it's ghetto here... How y'all making it? It's ok. We feel like this downtime is setting us up for a come up.
- Topic of the Day - What to Do When... You're Single and Horny
- Demy shares her sex story about how she went from using sex as a go-to to remaining abstinent for 3 years and gives advice on how to stop having/not have sex.
- Talk Dirty to Me - Is it wrong to watch porn in your marriage for tips/tricks?
- Throw It Back - We throw it back a bit slow cause these quarantine squats got our legs sore.
Are you single and horny?
How do you handle it? Message us and let us know on IG: @goingnottoodeeppodcast or through email at goingnottoodeeppodcast@gmail.com
Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
We got another installment of our What to Do When series, and this time... we're talking to the parents!
When you think of sex after kids, what comes to mind? Chances are, you think it sucks... and not the good kind of suck! But it doesn't have to!
We got practical advice to help get the juices flowing again after a kid... but don't at us if you end up pregnant again!
Check the breakdown:
- Get This Off My Chest - Are you as forgiving of yourself as you are for others? We're learning to chill & mother ourselves, chile!
- Topic of the Day - What to Do When.... You Have Kids
- Check your thoughts - Self fulfilling prophecy is real, y'all!
- It's All About You - How do you start feeling like yourself again?
- You're Not Alone - What role does your partner play in sex after kids?
- Communication - It's more important than ever!
- "My Body Ain't the Same!" - We say that's a beautiful thing! How can you adjust to the new you?
- Get It Poppin' In the Pantry - Sex after kids is about creativity and intentionality
- List them Resources, Sis! - You know we're all about resources here. We give tips for new moms and name some books that helped make childbirth and parenting a bit easier for us
- Dealing with PPD - Signs to look out for and tips on how to deal
- Talk Dirty to Me - No Dirty Talk this week. We pick back up next week!
- Throw It Back - Pray and Prioritizing Self
Resources Mention in the Episode:
Supernatural Childbirth by Jackie Mize
Supernatural Childbirth Prayer by Jackie Mize
Moms on Call Basic Baby Care (0-6 months) by Laura Hunter
Shein Lingerie
Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
Trece and Ash are back with another What to Do When episode and this one is DEFINITELY needed.
Let's face it, things can get a little stale every so often (remember the HGTV or sex scenario?). And even if it's hotter than a Texas August in your bedroom right now, girl, you can always level up, right?
We got resources, techniques, and even some Jesus to help us out.
Check the Breakdown:
- Get this off My Chest - Is there a difference between having sex and making love?
- Topic of the Day - What to Do When.... You're Bored With Your Sex Life
- Is this even normal?
- List them resources, sis.
- What's your inbox looking like?
- How do you level up foreplay?
- What does mindfulness and affirmations have to do with anything?
- How'd Ayesha Curry get involved in this? She's innocent.
- Praying for your sex life?! Nah, fr.... Can you really do that?
- And, what's a Christian Sex Store?
- Talk Dirty to Me - What are reasons people struggle with emotional intimacy?
- Throw It Back - The arch game is strong on this one. We throw it all the way to a full circle.
Click on the links for the resources mentioned In the show:
Ultimate Intimacy App
Love Nudge App
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Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friends!
Ya'll, we're kicking off a new series today called "What to Do When..." and this is one everyone can relate to.... What to Do When You Have a Past.... cause, let's face it - we all have a past.
And we brought in some specials guests to help us out with this one - The Williams' Guys!
Check the breakdown:
- Get This Off My Chest - How do the Williams Guys feel about their wives doing a sex podcast?
- Topic of the Day - What to Do When....You Have a Past?
- The Williams Guys share their sex stories
- How soon into dating should you bring up your sexual past?
- Is there a such thing as being too honest about your past sexual encounters?
- How do you deal with the feeling of competition against your partner's past relationships and lovers?
- How do you deal with repressed sexual memories?
- Talk Dirty to Me - A special submission from one of our male listeners!
- Does love truly make a difference in how sex feels to a woman?
- What makes sex amazing to a woman?
- Throw It Back - We let the Guys catch it, but we all throw it back.
Got any questions for the Williams' Guys? Send them to us!
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Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friend!
Today, Trece and Ash are talking about using sex. Some ways are good. Some are not so good.
Here's the breakdown:
Get This Off My Chest - It's the last week of Black History Month! How unapologetically black were you today? Do you feel you have a safe space at work where you can be your full authentic self? Well, we have thoughts.
Topic of the Day - There are some good ways to use sex. There are some not so good ways to use sex. We breakdown a few of each.
NEW SEGMENT ALERT! Talk Dirty to Me - FIRST Q&A segment - and we're kicking it off with two good ones!
- How do you tell your partner you're not being satisfied without putting them down?
- How freaky is too freaky with your spouse? Are there sexual limits in marriage?
Throw It Back - You got to have the right mind, body, and soul to use sex properly. And use sex to lubricate your marriage.
Have you used sex in any of the ways we talked about? Let us know!
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Happy Tuesday, Freaky Friend!
A famous quote says, "If you don't know the purpose of a thing, abuse is inevitable."
So, today's episode is all about the purpose of sex!
Why was it created?
What is a soul tie? Is it real?
How do you get the most out of sex?
We talk about all these things in today's episode!
Here's the breakdown:
Get This Off My Chest - If women can't have it all, why can men? We say... NAH.
Topic of the Day - The purpose of sex can cover A LOT of things. We're using books, resources, and the Bible to understand. Once it's broken down though, we give tips on how to get the most out of it - including how to deal with sexual memories of the past.
Throw It Back - It all boils down to 2 things, sis: Exploration and Ownership
Church can make the purpose of sex too deep, sometimes. So we promise to talk about it but not go TOO deep!
What are some questions or tips you have for the podcast?
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Hey Freaky Friend!
Welcome back! We basically go together now...
Today's episode is EVERYTHING.... No, really.... It's everything this podcast is about. God is not mad at you!
Here's the breakdown:
~ This week's "Get This Off My Chest" involves a question from a freaky friend about music in the bedroom. Is getting turned out to some Tank too secular...or is that just too deep?
~ Topic of the Day - God ain't mad at you, sis. So no one else has the right to be...not even yourself. Hold your head high because there is no guilt or shame in Christ.
~ Throw It Back - We didn't throw it back this week, but we dropped it and left it all on the floor. When you listen you'll understand.
Get ready to go deep on this one, sis...but not TOO deep!
What's was your Throw It Back for this episode? Let us know! Engage with us on IG: @goingnottoodeeppodcast and let us know!
Hey Freaky Friend!
Welcome to the first episode of Sex Talk: Going (Not Too Deep) Podcast!
We're about to have an honest and candid conversation about sex from a Christian perspective...but first, we gotta lay some ground work!
Today, Trece and Ash talk about how and when they were first introduced to sex, the impact it had on them, and how it's gotten them to where they are today.
This episode is broken down into 3 segments:
~Get This Off My Chest
~Topic of the Day
~Throw It Back
So, come get naked with them as they share their sex story!
They about to go deep...but not TOO deep!
What's your sex story? Let us know! Engage with us on IG: @goingnottoodeeppodcast and let us know!
How can you love Jesus and love sex?
How are you supposed to wait until you're married to have sex when you want it all the time?
How can you be freaky with your husband when you're brainwashed to think sex is bad?
How come when it comes to sex The Church doesn't talk about it...and when they do, they make it too deep?
Well, Trece and Ash are gonna talk about it ALL and more on Sex Talk: Going (Not Too Deep) Podcast every Tuesday starting 2/11.
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