Secrets for an Awesome Life: Recent Episodes
Joey Mascio
Have you ever seen someone completely enjoying life? Living to their fullest, not brought down by anyone or anything, totally having their stuff together? It's almost like they know secrets you don't.
This show is about those secrets.
Don't worry. Not very many people know these secrets. Or if they do, they don't apply them. These secrets are skills and mindsets not taught in any college or high school course. We may have heard of them, but no one taught us how to actually apply them to our lives. Which is a shame, because when you apply them, your life becomes more awesome.
That's why I created this podcast, for young adults who are looking to up the awesome level in their lives.
I am Joey Mascio and I’m a Teen & Young Adult Life Coach. I was certified at the Life Coach School where I was trained by Master Life Coach Brooke Castillo. I've also gone through Jody Moore's Advanced Certification. I take the strategies and tools I’ve learned from these two powerful women, and lots of my own, and adapt them for teenagers and young adults. I am also a middle school teacher and counselor, a proud father of three, and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.
This was one of my favorite episodes from a few years ago. The idea that there is an elixir, or formula, that teens can use to become a type of "Super" man has always fascinated me. About 100 years ago someone figured out what it was. Spoiler alert: it's owning your own mind. If a teen can do that, then they will be unstoppable, a Super Man or Woman.
Want affordable, private coaching for your teen? Then check out my new coaching format, Drop-In Coaching. Teens get casual, quick coaching with me up to 12 times this semester. Go to www.joeymascio.com to register today. Spots are limited.
My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is available on desktop now! Go to www.sidekicktohero.com on a laptop or computer to sign up now (it’s not live on mobile yet)
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Teens can use artificial intelligence to help them rock their homework. AI shouldn't be something parents and teachers are afraid of, and I have a great conversation with Transformative Principal Jethro Jones on how teens to can use AI to TERMINATE their homework! And by terminate, I mean complete it. Obviously.
See what Jethro is up to at www.jethrojones.com
Register for my new Drop-In Coaching offer for this fall semester by going to www.joeymascio.com/drop-in-coaching
Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
I have a special guest on today, so the episode is longer than usual. But it's all so good! Starting with a great story about a teen who is nervous about a big speech coming up. Then, Dr. Dudek-Brannan and I talk about what executive functioning is and tools you can use to perform better in your life.
Adults and educators! Listen to Dr. Karen Dudek-Brannan's podcast, De Facto Leaders https://drkarendudekbrannan.com/blog
Get her free Executive Functioning Implementation guide here: https://drkarendudekbrannan.com/efschools
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My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is available on desktop now! Go to www.sidekicktohero.com on a laptop or computer to sign up now (it’s not live on mobile yet)
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
Summer is coming to an end and teens across the country are all mourning the loss of their "free time." But, teens might have said goodbye to their freedom long ago if they were missing responsibility. Free time isn't freedom FROM responsibility, it's actually freedom BECAUSE OF responsibility. I talk about two type of responsibility that teens need to have in order to truly be free. Without them, you're just in a different kind of prison.
Check out my free Live Your Own Live Challenge, designed to inspire teens to put down their screens and start living their own life. Available now at www.joeymascio.com/challenge
My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is available on desktop now! Go to www.sidekicktohero.com on a laptop or computer to sign up now (it’s not live on mobile yet)
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
If you don't know what type of game you're playing, you can get discouraged and lose your faith and focus in your goals. But the truth is, most everything we want in life is part of an infinite game. A game that never ends. You don't just win the trophy for being happy. Or cross the finish line of confidence. Congrats, you've made it! The game of success, relationships, achievements, just doesn't end. So learn how to enjoy the game.
My Live Your Own Life Challenge is next week! Teens gets $25 for completing the whole thing. Register now at www.joeymascio.com/challenge
My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is available on desktop now! Go to www.sidekicktohero.com on a laptop or computer to sign up now (it’s not live on mobile yet)
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
Sometimes things just suck. No amount of changing your thoughts is going to help it not to suck. So, what do you do? You suck it up! No, I'm not saying to "get over it," that's not helpful. I'm saying to suck up the suck, or in other words, choose an empowering attitude toward your unavoidable sufferings that will allow you to choose who this trials makes you become.
I'll pay teens $25 to attend and complete my upcoming Live Your Own Life Challenge! For registration and details, go to www.joeymascio.com/challenge
My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is available on desktop now! Go to www.sidekicktohero.com on a laptop or computer to sign up now (it’s not live on mobile yet)
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
Want to connect with important people? We all do! That's why we spend time following social media influencers, watching YouTube stars, and playing video games where the main character is the most important person in the story. But there is just one problem... we're connecting with the wrong people!! The real important people are the real life people right around us. Family, friends, peers, and others who need us to notice them. Let's stop spending so much time building fake connections and start spending more time building real, meaningful ones.
My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is available on desktop now! Go to www.sidekicktohero.com on a laptop or computer to sign up now (it’s not live on mobile yet)
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
Doing something worthwhile is key to living a happy, successful, and fulfilled life. But teens often spend their time doing something worth-less. Something that wastes time. Wasting time isn't always bad, but when done too much it can lead teens to feeling down, disconnected, and always looking for distractions. Doing something worthwhile first can help avoid that.
My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is available now! Go to www.sidekicktohero.com on a desktop computer to sign up now (it’s not live on mobile yet)
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
Finding meaning in our lives is awesome! It helps us avoid loneliness, depression, lack of motivation, procrastination, and more. It gives us purpose. But, what do we do when someone poops on our purpose? It can ruin everything!! But it doesn't have to.
My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is available now! Go to www.sidekicktohero.com on a desktop computer to sign up now (it’s not live on mobile yet)
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
I have a conversation with Leslie Josel who coaches families of children and teens with ADD and we talk about how to create some order out of the chaos that ADD/ADHD brings.
Check out Leslie's company at https://www.orderoochaos.com/
My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is available now! Go to app.sidekicktohero.com on a desktop computer to sign up now (it’s not live on mobile yet)
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
A cross-posting of a guest appearance I did on Pivot Parenting with Heather Frazier.
"In today's episode, I chat with teen coach, Joey Mascio about how we can help our teens succeed. We talk about apathy, encouraging our kids, and heros vs. villains when it comes to our parental approach. Joey shares the four distinct arenas that our kids can conquer in their lives, headspace, emotions, relationships, objectives, and how we can best support them while they do it."
Heather is an amazing parent coach! Check her out at the following places:
www.heatherfrazier.com
https://www.instagram.com/heatherfraziercoaching/
Listen to her podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pivot-parenting/id1509267338
Sometimes we feel empty. We're not motivated or excited for things. When this happens, there is nothing wrong with us. We have just entered a vacuum where we can't answer the question, "What is the point?" There's three things you can do to get yourself out of that vacuum of emptiness.
My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is available now! Go to app.sidekicktohero.com on a desktop computer to sign up now (it’s not live on mobile yet)
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
Why do we do what we do?? Sometimes it's for pleasure, sometimes it's for power, but the best times are when it's for something meaningful. Knowing this allows us to choose to find meaningful meaning and purpose and reason in the things that we do. It helps us get motivated, get through tough times, and enjoy life more.
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My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is launching to the public soon. Get on the interest list for discounts and updates at www.sidekicktohero.com
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
Social media is a circus. Teens are expected to jump through hoops and look a certain way to get the applaus and admiration from others. That's crap! In this episode Stephanie Valdez from Empowerful Girls and I talk about how influencers and brands are making us jump through hoops so they can make money and how that needs to stop. And it can stop with you.
Listen to Stephanie's podcast Ten for Teens & Tweens https://empowerfulgirls.com/blog/
Check out her website for more from her! https://empowerfulgirls.com/
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My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is launching to the public soon. Get on the interest list for discounts and updates at www.sidekicktohero.com
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! https://www.instagram.com/sidekicktohero
This month I am talking about how teens can make money. I've mentioned how you can make money as a teen entrepreneur so I figured I might as well bring one on the show to talk about how he did it and how you can do it, too. Evan Paventy joins me on this episode to talk about how he started his own business as a teen.
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My new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is launching to the public soon. Get on the interest list for discounts and updates at www.sidekicktohero.com
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I have a YouTube channel now! Subscribe for shorter, video versions of my podcast episodes https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
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Follow me on Instagram! instagram.com/sidekicktohero
Teens, there is PLENTY of money out there for you to get. You just have to believe it's there for you to find. This is called having an abundant mindset. Most teens have a scarcity mindset, which is the opposite. Money is hard. It's not easy to get. That mindset will keep you from finding the stacks of cash that are out there for you to earn.
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My app for teens is coming out soon! Go to www.sidekicktohero.com to get on the interest list today for announcements and a special discount at launch!
Thanks for the orchestral and inspirational composition by Savfk
Teen Entrepreneurs make more money than teen employees. That's a fact. Why? Because entrepreneur's get a bigger slice of the pie! Creating your own business is totally doable as a teen, it's also more fun and builds resilience and experience that will help you run your own business one day as an adult.
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Check out my new gamified mindset training app for teens, Sidekick to Hero! It's launching to the public soon. Get on the interest list for discounts and announcements at www.sidekicktohero.com
Procrastination is the WORST! And don't give me that "I work better under pressure" nonsense, I use that excuse to avoid doing stuff, too. Once teens understand WHY you procrastinate, you can take counter measurements to help you stop.
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Check out my new YouTube channel with my Message 4 Monday, series. It's a useful message four teens in four minutes or less! It covers all the same topics I cover in this podcast, including confidence, anxiety, social skills, mindset, and more!
Watch at https://www.youtube.com/@sidekicktohero
Also, don't forget to get on my interest list for my upcoming new gamified mindset training app for teens! Visit www.sidekicktohero.com to sign up.
You do NOT get enough sleep. You know it. I know it. Everbody knows it!! That's why you're tired all the time! Teens need 8-10 hours of sleep EVERY NIGHT. In this episode, I go over three things you can do to get more sleep.
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New new app for teens, Sidekick to Hero, is being released to the public soon! It's a web-based app, so teens do not need a smart phone to access it. Get on my interest list now to be notified when it's ready and to get a special deal at launch only for subscribers. Sign up at www.sidekicktohero.com
We all experience dark times. The worst thing to do when that happens is to let our brain assume it's going to last forever. It won't. Trust me. The light always comes, that's the natural flow of things. Plus, there are thing you can do to make the sun rise a little early.
Sometimes bullies attack all at once in a coordinate effort to tear you down. What do you do then? Today's guest is someone who has been through that exact thing, Nate Webb. He shares some powerful advice to help any teen going through intense bullying.
For more from Nate, follow him on Instragram @bulliesbe.gone
Get him to speak at your school, church, or youth event by emaling him at bullies.speaker@gmail.com
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My new Sidekick to Hero app will be launching to the public soon! It's a gamified mindset training program to help teens become the hero of their own stoy. Get on the interest list for a special offer at launch. Go to www.sidekicktohero.com.
The third and final tool every hero needs is the reins. The reins represent taming your emotions! Every hero experiences pleasant and unpleasant emotions, so learning how to tame them is crucial.
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Get on the interest list to get a special discount for my new gamified mindset training app for teens releasing soon! Sign up at www.sidekicktohero.com
To be the hero of your story, teens need to take up the pen and start writing their narrative purposefully. In this episode, I talk to teens about how to do that and what happens when we don't.
Get on the interest list for my new gamified mindset training app for teens launching soon at www.sidekicktohero.com
Also, check out the BE Podcast Network of shows at www.bepodcast.network
Every hero needs three important tools. Today, I talk about the first one: the Flag (Own Your Results).
The flag is what teens can use to stake a claim over their own results. Whether it's crappy or happy, if we take responsibility for it then we are more in control.
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Make sure you check out my new app, Sidekick to Hero! It's gamified mindset training for teens and it's about to launch soon. Go to www.sidekicktohero.com to get on the interest list.
Sometimes it feels that life achieving happiness is an endless trek up a down escalator. But never fear! That's actually true. And that's a good thing, if you know how to use it.
Sometimes life seems crappy. However, the truth of the matter is life is just life. Neutral. And we are spraying fart spray on it and calling it crap. Here's a tip: STOP THE FART SPRAY!!
My 100th Episode!! I promised a big announcement and I am delivering this episode. Or, you can go straight to the goods at www.sidekicktohero.com
Talking to other people can be tough. I talk to teens this episode about a method I use to eliminate awkwardness from my conversations and make talking to someone new a whole lot easier. Every social skills toolbox needs the CAPE!
I teach teens the recipe for being brave in this episode. You can't face your fears, worries, and anxieties without the confidence that comes from brewing up some bravery! There are four simple ingredients: resilience, purpose, hope, and energy.
There is nothing more free than being emotionally independent. It allows you to manage relationships, make powerful choices, and keep striving for success despite failure. But, how the heck do you become emotionally independent?? Well, let me tell ya...
"I only respect those who respect me!" is a terrible way to view respect. It's a guaranteed way to give your power to other people. Plus, it's a recipe for a world without respect. For me, I live by this secret for an awesome life: "Respect everyone, no matter if they respect me or not."
Just because a thought is true, doesn't mean it's useful to think. How many thoughts are you holding on to because they are "just true" even though they are stopping you from being the person you want to be? Today I talk about the option you didn't know you had to stop thinking true thoughts (and even ones that you think are true but probably aren't).
Join me and the other Firmly Founded coaches for our live event Monday, October 10th, 2022 at 6pm Mountain Time "Taming Your Emotional Monsters!" It will help teens and parents better face difficult and unpleasant emotions. Register Here: https://us06web.zoom.us/webinar/register/2016649315226/WN_ifiQPmJuSMmn5fW-AtY5qQ
We all have anchored biases, or thoughts that we grabbed onto first and have stuck around. Some may be keeping us from getting to the destination we desire. Others may be keeping us safe from the storms out in the sea. Today, I talk about how to identify which is which.
We all have anchored biases, or thoughts that we grabbed onto first and have stuck around. Some may be keeping us from getting to the destination we desire. Others may be keeping us safe from the storms out in the sea. Today, I talk about how to identify which is which.
If we mess up in a social situation, our first instinct is to hide our failures from others. Hope nobody saw it. Guess what, they probably did. So, rather than hiding it, I have a better option for you. Put it on display. This is called "Failing BIG!" and it can help eliminate awkward moments and increase your self-confidence.
If we mess up in a social situation, our first instinct is to hide our failures from others. Hope nobody saw it. Guess what, they probably did. So, rather than hiding it, I have a better option for you. Put it on display. This is called "Failing BIG!" and it can help eliminate awkward moments and increase your self-confidence.
There is LOADS of power in your brain that you are not using. If you could access it, you could do amazing things. There are 4 levels of metacognition, which level are you??
There is LOADS of power in your brain that you are not using. If you could access it, you could do amazing things. There are 4 levels of metacognition, which level are you??
Sometimes life serves us up some grief gruel. It's not the tastiest thing on the menu, but it's on the table anyway. Someone we love dies, we get broken up with, or we don't get that scholarship we wanted. What can we do? We have to choke it down, right? In this episode I talk with fellow life coach Annabelle Sorensen about some ways we can approach grief that doesn't make it as disgusting to swallow.
Sometimes life serves us up some grief gruel. It's not the tastiest thing on the menu, but it's on the table anyway. Someone we love dies, we get broken up with, or we don't get that scholarship we wanted. What can we do? We have to choke it down, right? In this episode I talk with fellow life coach Annabelle Sorensen about some ways we can approach grief that doesn't make it as disgusting to swallow.
If fragile is something that breaks easily under pressure, then what is Antifragile? (Hint: it's NOT simple something that doesn't break easily). I talk about that today and how teens can become antifragile in their lives.
There are performances throughout our lives, whether they are auditioning for the Jazz Band, taking the ACT, or talking to someone we're crushing on. How do you manage the anxiety that comes with it?? I talk to psychologist and performance coach Jon Skidmore about tools that teens can use to take the power away from performance anxiety.
Also, get a free gift from Jon! Listen to the episode to see how you can get a free digital copy of his book "Conquer Anxiety."
We should be the authors of our thoughts and our opinions, especially since they create the world we live in. But how many times do you let OTHER people write your stories about yourself, others, or the world around you? Take up the pen yourself and don't let other people write your story!
We were all born to be the hero of our own life, but sometimes we feel like a sidekick. If you want to be able to go from sidekick to hero whenever you want to, you need to do two things: 1) recognize your sidekick thoughts and 2) create powerful hero thoughts. Today, I walk you through how to do that.
I'm at a conference this week with my mentor, my Yoda, Jody Moore. So this episode I broadcast live from my minivan with a special guest and friend, Tyson Bradley, and we talk about our dreams and how our self-perceived identity can help us or stop us from achieving them.
Ready for something that is trippy yet true? We live inside a world we build with our mind. Our brain takes the facts around it and connects them together with stories and viola! The world we live in. If you don't like the world you live in, you can always change it. After all, you are the one who built it.
The greatest tragedy ever told isn't about someone who had it all and lost it all, or someone who tried hard to get the thing they wanted and never did, and it's not even about two star-crossed lovers. The greatest tragedy ever told is much, much more tragic...
Teens, you are wealthier than most adults in one particular area: TIME. When you're young, you have time wealth and as you get older (generally) you trade time for money. But time is FAR more valuable than money. Because you can never get more of it. How are you spending your time?
The ability to separate out signals from noise is uber useful. Take your thoughts for example, there are a lot of them bouncing around in there. All negative thoughts are noise and we shouldn't give any attention to them. Some thoughts are signals, things we could address and focus on to help us become who we want to be. Are you spending too much energy on the noise of negative thoughts?
We can't stand to be bored!! But, what if we could? What if awesome things like creation, inspiration, and connection were all achieved by being able to be bored. Today, fellow Firmly Founded coach Ali Terry and I talk about tips and the benefits of being good at being bored.
I also start the Boredom Challenge!! Listen to the episode for the instructions on how to complete the boredom challenge, then send me an email at joey@firmlyfounded.com or message me on Instagram at @firmlyfoundedcoaching to let me know how the challenge went for you and you will be entered in for a chance to win a $50 Amazon gift card. The Challenge ends July 15th, 2022!
I know you know that social media isn't real life... but how often do you forget that? How often to do make decisions or choose thoughts based on something you saw on social media? Special guest Sami Halvorsen of the Teen Life Coach Podcast is on today and we talk about how to not be duped by pictures and likes on social media.
Join Sami's summer classes that start next week:
Connected and In Control- Social Media Program: Starts June 23rd
https://KnowingUPscheduling.as.me/social
Self Confidence Program: Starts June 22nd
https://KnowingUPscheduling.as.me/summersc
Have any villains in your life? You know, people who are just the worst and make your day miserable? Or maybe just people who you dislike a lot? Well, that person isn't actually a villain, you're just labeling them as one. You created them. And I'd wager a guess that the villain you created is probably one dimensional. If you've seen any bad movies you'd know that one dimensional villains are the WORST!
Working more and working harder is not always the recipe for doing well in school. There are tricks we can do to be more efficient when it comes to being successful, not just in school, but in life in general. This means making the choice to know your goals are available to you to achieve. You can decide that your goals are possible, just like you can decide that they are not possible.
In this episode, Camille Roney joins the show to talk about this secret. She explains how we can make the decision that will help make our goals become more attainable, and also how we can find the most efficient path - so we aren’t working harder and working more, which ultimately can lead to burnout.
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SPECIAL EPISODE! I have a conversation with Jill Freestone and Cheryl Cardall about the different "levels" of anxiety and what you could do to help with each.
Emotions can seem like wild animals. But shooting a wild animal because you don't have control of it isn't a good option. Instead of trying to eliminate it, tame it. The secret for an awesome life today is "Domesticate your emotions, don't eliminate them."
Sometimes it's hard to get the things you want. It's almost like they are running away from you as you chase after them. Friends, dating, grades, and even faith. There is a reason why this happens. What we chase will run. So how do we get these things we want? That's today's secret for an awesome life.
Feeling pressure can often feel like you’re in an invisible prison. Pressures from other people, or sometimes even from your own expectations can cause us to freeze up. But it’s important to take a step back and ask “does the source of this pressure actually matter?”. In many cases, you’ll realize that no, it does not matter.
Escaping this invisible prison called pressure will help us succeed and focus on the things that matter in life, the things we need to achieve our goals and to make ourselves happy!
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Divorce can be tough for everyone involved, especially the kids. Today I have on a special guest, author and 11-year-old Daisy Freestone who wrote a book called "A Kid's Guide to Divorce and Life After." We talk about her book and today's secret for an awesome life: your parent's divorce is NOT YOUR FAULT. Also, I will be giving away three copies of her book that comes out today! To enter, find my post on Instagram (@firmlyfoundedcoaching) featuring today's episode and share or tag people in the comments who could benefit from this book! For every share and person you tag, you will get an entry into the drawing to get a hardcopy of Daisy's book. Three winners will be selected. Contest ends Monday, May 2nd. Winners will be notified Monday, May 9th.
We all know failure is okay, even though we still hate it. But did you know that failure is not just okay, but IMPORTANT?? Ali joins Joey in this episode as they talk about three reasons why failure is super important.
Social media, and media in general often portray some of the people we look up to as living a “perfect life”. We see the highlights of their life that often show an unrealistic lifestyle that that person is living. This is not quite the case, everybody is imperfect.
That’s what today’s secret is, everyone is imperfect and there is nothing wrong with that. In fact, to be human is to be imperfect. So something to remember when you see someone living their best life, they are living an imperfect life.
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That's right, I said it. Grades. Don't. Matter. Does a part of you want to flip over a table because I said that? Why? I share two lists of the top things employers want in who they hire and you know what? Grades aren't on either. So, I'll say it again: Grades don't matter! Not as much as this...
Do you believe that you are valuable? Just as you are? Some people don't believe that. But today's secret for an awesome life is this: you are valuable. I talk about the two reasons people have a hard time with this.
Influence is powerful. It can make you friends and money. But the best way to create it is counter-intuitive... that's means it doesn't make sense at first. But, if you follow this secret you will be able to create more friends AND money.
The first step to creating money, which is this month's theme, is creating VALUE. Many people have it backwards when it comes to the value they provide and the payment they receive. It limits them. But, as taught in the fabulous book "The Go Giver," the first Law of Stratospheric Success is the Law of Value. Ben and I go into that in detail in this episode and tell teens and young adults how they can apply it to multiple areas of their lives.
Don’t you wish you could create money and have it appear out of thin air? Well, we can’t do that, but what we can do is switch our mindset to allow us to find more money in our lives. That’s what the secret is this week, switching our mindset so that we can see the money that is available to us, to allow us to obtain it.
This is the first part of an ongoing series where we will be talking about finances. I’ll be joined by other Firmly Founded coaches and we are going to break down how you can “create money” with your brain.
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Ben and I are thinking about doing a live event in the Utah area this summer, 2022, for teens and their parents. This is what it would be...
Sometimes relationships with friends or the person you're dating can feel crushing, especially when they are doing something that you don't like. Setting boundaries is crucial to maintaining healthy relationships or ending ones that aren't meant to be.
Some relationships crush our souls. You know the kind. A needy friend. An annoying coworker. A messy roommate. A controlling parent. BUT, did you know that you can even rock those relationships? We call it crushing crushing relationships.
You are crushing on someone hard but don't know how to ask them out. I've been there. Let's be honest, we've all been there. So, how do you ask them out?? In this episode I have a special guest on to help me tell teens and young adults the best way to ask out their crush.
I crush five relationship myths that are holding teens and young adults back from having healthy, amazing relationships with friends, family, and the people they date. Ali Terry, one of the coaches with me in Firmly Founded, makes her debut appearance.
This week we continue the “Teenage Carol” story with Part Three: The Ghost of Teenage Present. Eben goes to visit some recent events in his life, to get a better look at what others’ true perception of him was - which is much different than what Eben had thought.
This brings us to today’s secret, we often assume what other people think of us. Often when we think they dislike us or something similar, it’s an untrue perception based on a few key events that we don’t actually have the full context of. If we truly knew the full story, it may change the way we saw them.
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This week we continue the “Teenage Carol” story with Part Three: The Ghost of Teenage Present. Eben goes to visit some recent events in his life, to get a better look at what others’ true perception of him was - which is much different than what Eben had thought.
This brings us to today’s secret, we often assume what other people think of us. Often when we think they dislike us or something similar, it’s an untrue perception based on a few key events that we don’t actually have the full context of. If we truly knew the full story, it may change the way we saw them.
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Part two of the story “A Teenage Carol”, where Eben gets brought back to events in his past to see how it affected the way he thought of himself - whether he remembered the event or not.
Ben Pugh joins us today to discuss how events in our past can consciously or subconsciously cause shifts in the way we think of ourselves years down the road. Sometimes these events are much more insignificant than we remember because the way we interpreted at the time caused us to blow it out of proportion in our heads - something that sticks to us, sometimes our entire life.
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Today's episode is part 1 of a multi-part story leading up to Christmas! This week we talk about how the way you think about a social situation can cause the social situation to change, for better or for worse! Todays’ secret is.. It is easy to get stuck when we mistake certain thoughts for facts.
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Today Zach Spafford joins the show to share a personal experience of his. At some point in his life, he decided he needed to quit watching porn. He comes on the show to talk about how we can stop unwanted behavior in ourselves. Personal growth is a constant in our lives, and sometimes we can find ourselves feeling powerless to unwanted behavior. In this episode, Zach shares the secret of how we can eliminate unwanted desires within ourselves.
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Life would be so much easier if we had a book of cheat codes for it, right? In this episode, Brooke Romney comes on the show to share some of her “cheat codes for life”. She’s the author of the book “52 Moderns Manners for Teens!” which can act as a book of cheats when navigating life.
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We all deal with anxiety in one way or another. Some people feel anxiety is just a constant that we need to deal with - but the problem with this thought process is it removes any control you have over it. While we all do deal with anxiety, there are elements we can control to reduce how it impacts our everyday lives. More often than not, our thoughts blow things out of proportion, and being able to manage your thoughts to prevent anxiety levels from rising is one of the secrets to living an awesome life.
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Using humor as a shield against bullying is very effective! Penn State saw that using humor when being bullied is the 3rd best way in preventing further bullying. The best way to be able to use humor is loving who you are and accepting the parts of you, you might not like - but not believing any part of you is actually bad. Being you is the best thing ever, and once you know that, it makes using humor that much more easy and effective.
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Penn State did a study that looked at different tactics used against bullies. Some of these were more effective than others, some were even harmful and ended up with more bullying in the end. The tactics that weren’t very helpful were usually focused on the bully and changing, and trying to control their behavior.
What tactics specifically tend to be the most effective? We take a look at Penn State’s list to see what showed to work the most.
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Bullies rarely ever see themselves, or their actions as being a bully. They often don’t even realize what they are doing is negatively impacting someone. What if the bully actually needs help? Sometimes all it takes is for the bully to realize they are, in fact, a bully. Bullies don’t want to think of themselves as a bully, and sometimes that is all it takes to change a bully’s ways.
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Being bullied sucks, it really does. It’s hard to find a way to deal with it - but I learned a way to counter the things bullies would say about me. I learned to own it. This didn’t stop them from saying it, but it stopped it from having a major negative impact on the way I felt and thought about myself. I accepted it, but what made this effective was that I also accepted myself and I still loved myself for who I was. Being called moon head wasn’t fun, but it never caused me to feel less than, it never made me hate the size of my head.
Bullies will make fun of people for anything. The things we enjoy, the way we look, the way we act, these are all things a bully might pick on someone for. If we can own it, and accept ourselves we give people permission to accept who we are.
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October is National Bullying Prevention Month, this means we will be diving into the secrets that will help all of us become Bully Proof.
The war against bullying is a very positive movement. There are a lot of things being done - but at the same time, it doesn’t feel like it’s quite hitting the mark. The message towards bullies to.. stop bullying is not very effective - usually the bully doesn’t even consider what they are doing to be bullying!
And then there is the message for bi-standards to stand up and speak out against the bully. This is also very positive, but what happens if the bi-standard is not there?
The problem with both of these messages is that they rely on other parties to do something, it does not allow you as an individual to have control of the situation. Today we talk about the 3rd message, how to empower yourself with confidence and make yourself become Bully Proof.
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It takes two people to escalate an argument to a full-blown fight. Which means, the secret for this week is….to step off the anger ladder. It takes two people to build each other up for a fight to start. Don’t let yourself climb up, and help the other party climb to the top of the anger ladder which can lead to saying things we don’t mean and things we may regret.
Firmly Founded is hosting the Firmly Founded Family Fall Festival located in Alpine Utah, at Burgess Orchards on Saturday, October 9th, 2021.
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Nobody fits in perfectly all the time. Being able to adapt to each situation is a life skill that will take you far. It will allow you to assess different social situations and get a sense of what is needed from you. This doesn’t mean not being yourself, but instead being authentically adaptable. This means knowing what personal values you have and knowing when and how to apply them, and being secure in who you are as a person. But that doesn’t mean fitting in 100% of the time, it means knowing when we can or can’t fit in - that’s being adaptable. When we can’t adapt, we get left behind.
Firmly Founded is hosting the Firmly Founded Family Fall Festival located in Alpine Utah, at Burgess Orchards on Saturday, October 9th, 2021.
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Look up in the sky! It’s a bird! It’s a plane! No wait, it’s… a mom and her teen fighting?
This week, Ben Pugh joins the show and we’re looking at how we can become the relationship hero and how we can prevent arguments from happening (and how we can win more!). It’s not about saving the other person in the relationship, it’s about choosing how you feel and being in control of your emotions within the relationship, and preventing us from feeling like the victim.
Firmly Founded is hosting the Firmly Founded Family Fall Festival located in Alpine Utah, at Burgess Orchards on Saturday, October 9th, 2021.
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The ‘straw man fallacy’ is everywhere! We encounter this type of argument all the time in life, even between teens and parents! But what exactly is the straw man fallacy? Understanding why someone might be using the straw man fallacy can help us know how to react to it. It will also help us identify when and why we might be using a straw man argument in our lives!
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While many of us have been focusing on staying physically healthy throughout the pandemic, a lot of us are neglecting our mental health. Similar to viruses, thoughts are contagious. It is important we surround ourselves with positive thoughts and protect ourselves from negative thoughts. So how can we protect ourselves, vaccinate ourselves against bad thoughts? This episode will share that very secret with you!
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Teens, what do you do when you’re dealing with ‘helicopter parents’? It’s hard when you’re ready to find your way in the world, but you have a parent hovering over you, monitoring your every action and looking out for you. It comes from a place of love and a place of fear. In this episode, I am joined by Heather Frazier to discuss what teens and parents can do about helicopter parenting.
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The “back to school dread” is starting to set in for many. It’s easy to let the anxieties of the school year take over and take away the fun and relaxation of the last few weeks of summer. Today Ben Pugh joins the show and we discuss tips on how you can prepare mentally for the upcoming school year.
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We tend to view unpleasant emotions like a monster from a horror movie. When we encounter these emotion monsters, we want to run away or hide from them. Fighting against them instead of accepting them, causes these monsters to grow. So, what can we do to prevent these unpleasant emotions from growing? How can we feel these emotions without letting them prevent us from achieving our goals?
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Where is your timeline heading? If you kept doing the same thing every day for the rest of your life, would you accomplish all your goals and dreams? If not, you need to create a Nexus event. Today.
We all go through trials. We don't get to choose that. But, we do get to choose how we respond. In this episode, I tell the story of Paul, someone who spent a life changing day with three kids with a rare disease.
You'll never believe what happens...
Have you ever broken an arm trying something new? Yeah? Well that ain't NOTHING compared to my guest's story today. Hers is at least TWICE as bad as your story.
Erica Rood, Life Coach for teen girls, allows me to fictionalize her crazy story and we talk about not letting fear stop you from trying something a second time, whether it's public speaking, dating, or anything else that broke you the first time you tried it.
What is your summer going to look like? Do you have plans? Are you going to follow a schedule? Will you have weekly numbers to strive for? If you have goals you want to reach, I hope you do. Because if you're not intentional with your Summer, Fall will come around and you'll be the same person you are now. Goals don't happen on accident.
How many assignments have you fallen behind before? 2? 3? 10?? It's not always easy to do the work to catch up. In this episode, I talk about why that is and how you can get the motivation to stop yourself from falling... behind.
You are living smaller than you can be. What's holding you back? What's stopping you from living a bigger life, one where you are more free to be who you want to be? The answer? Mental fences.
In this episode, we talk about how to plow through those mental fences that are holding you back.
You have a super power that helps you hyperfocus on things. What are you using yours for? Focusing on the bad? On the good? On the annoying?
In this episode, we hear a poem in the style of Shel Silverstein about a girl named Kimmy Caroline Crustaecia Cred based off of the life of my guest, Kim Lukens, teen life coach.
You can connect with Kim at www.kimlukens.com or find her on TikTok on @kimlukens
Have you ever been stuck in indecision? What would happen if you were stuck there forever? The time it takes for you to decide to take action directly correlates to the likelihood that you'll stick with the action you're taking, so once you have all the information in front of you, make a choice and take some action!
Are you letting your past determine your future? You don't have to. Even if you did something pretty bad, like setting school property on fire...
In this episode I have on my first guest! Fellow Firmly Founded coach Ben Pugh (Parents, totally check out his awesome podcast "Impact: Parenting With Perspective")
What if there was a magic potion, an elixir, you could take that would turn you into a super-powered human?? Guess what, there IS! And it'll give you the best kind of superpowers... the REAL kind.
In this bonus episode I not only tell you how to accomplish your biggest hopes, dreams, and goals for 2021, but I also tell you how to win a $50, $100, or a $150 Amazon gift card!
Double prizes!!
Are you staying comfortable or are you pushing yourself to go a little further. Do a little more? That is the only place you find growth in your life. In the zone between the comfort of doing what you're capable of and the frustration of trying to do too much.
How much time do you spend in the zone?
What is your most prized possession? Mine is my Obol. It's a cereal bowl that stops soggy cereal from happening! It's amazing. But, what is the human race's most prized possession? I would say it's our prefrontal cortex. It stops us from eating soggy thoughts. Are you using yours??
Life changing experiences are awesome and I suggest having as many of them as possible. But, have you ever noticed that not long after the experience, life usually doesn't seem all that changed anymore? In this episode I talk about how to get the most out of life changing experiences and I share one of my favorite parables of all time, the Parable of the Crow.
I found a new lesson from this old story. There are actually two versions of the wise and the foolish man building their houses on varying levels of stable ground. The lesson I pulled from the slightly lesser-known version blew my mind. Maybe it will blow your mind, too. Maybe not. Depends if you're wise or foolish...
Life is often compared to a race. If life is a race, then the pit stops are the key to success in life. In this episode, I talk about the many types of pit stops and crew chiefs teens and young adults have in their life. Coming in for a pit stop with the right people can help them run at top speed when they get back out on the track of life.
If it's taking you longer to get to where you want to go, or you're struggling with the journey, then you might have some stowaway beliefs in your brain. A stowaway belief is a thought that makes reaching your goal more difficult, and is oftentimes the source of the most pressing problems in your life. This episode goes over how to find them and how to throw them overboard.
I coach lots of teens and young adults who say they get distracted easily. Whether it's because of something diagnosable, like ADHD, or whether they're just simply prone to distraction like the majority of people these days, the main issue with not being able to focus is not having enough interest in whatever it is you are needing to focus on.
What if you could create interest and therefore create focus?
Do you have a passion, a hobby, a dream that you want to pursue but for some reason you're not? Maybe it was something that someone said. Maybe it's how you are afraid other people might view you. Maybe it's because you think you won't be any good at it. Whatever the reason, this episode drops three truths that will help you stop stopping yourself from being the person you were born to be.
Can you have a peaceful panic attack? Be calm about how angry you are? Be satisfied with your frustration? I submit to you that you can. Not only is it possible, but not stacking negative emotions is the secret for an awesome life that will keep you feeling in control when your emotions seem out of control.
We all start something new at some point. A new grade, a new job, or a new relationship, for example. How you go into it has a big effect on how you come out of it. In this episode I go over the five mindsets to have at the start of any new endeavor.
They say successful people do things unsuccessful people don't want to do. One of those things is failing. The ability to fail and not have it stop you, debilitate you, cause you to give up on your dreams, is the true secret of success. When people fail to succeed it's because they do not know how to successfully fail. You heard me, there is a right way and a wrong way to fail.
Are you failing at failing?
Our brains are amazing and they want to help us out. So they will see things the way we want to see it, find the things we want to find. Whether we are aware that we "want" to find it or not. What are you looking for in the world? Hate? Danger? Doubt? You'll find it. What about love? Safety? Faith? You'll find that, too. It's all there to be found. The question is, what are you looking for?
We all have things we don't want to give up. Even if we know we should. Video games. Too many hours on Netflix TikTok or YouTube. Attitudes. Hatred. The person you might be dating. I get it. It's hard to give up some things that we enjoy, even if it's bad for us in the long run. But what if something is waiting to replace it. Something better. Something lasting. Something...real?
We are all in a transition period right now: SUMMER! Schools are closed, even though they've been closed for about four months now, and young adults are transitioning to the next chapter of their lives. What can you do to make this transition a transformation? To not just move on to the next level of school, but to move up to the next level of you?
I'm just going to say it: most people are viewing relationships wrong. It's not your fault, it's the way movies and TV portray them. BUT, all that is about to change today. Right now. In this podcast. I will present to you a life-changing, mind-altering, power-inducing way to look at relationships. Be warned, once you hear this, you'll never look at relationships the same again...and that will probably be for the best.
Nancy ends up trapped in her car at the bottom of the ocean floor. What she does to get out will astound you.
There are two types of action you can be taking toward your goals and dreams: massive action and passive action. In this episode, I talk about what the difference is and what that might look like for teens. I also go over the unpleasant feelings that stop us from taking action.
Our brain wants to separate things into simple, clear containers. So, oftentimes when there is a complicated issue (or even a not-so-complicated one) our brain will paint an "Us vs. Them" picture. In this episode Joey talks to teens about what that perception might be doing in their lives and how to change it, if they want to.
I process the world around me by writing. I wrote this in response to the civil unrest and chaos going on in America right now.
My next episode will go into the symbolism and meaning of the poem. Though, hopefully like any good literary work, you can derive your own meanings from it.
Going from high school to whatever is next is the craziest, most drastic transition of anyone's life. In this episode, I talk to teens who have just graduated. I tell them the most important thing to realize and 5 things to keep in mind as they go forward to college, career, or wherever their journey takes them.
Life is rarely a clear cut story with all the details neatly filled in. Our brains naturally bridge the gaps of what isn't clear with narrative about other people's motives, our position in the world, and what the future will be. Teens' brains, along with the rest of us, sometimes choose to write negative narrative to fill in those blank pages. That negative narrative changes the way we feel and ultimately show up in the world.
No teen wants to be walked all over or taken advantage of. We don't want to feel weak or like we're a push over. But, we are afraid if we try to be kind or give people the benefit of the doubt, then they'll step all over us.
However, in order to stop feeling like we are being walked on, other people don't have to do anything. We have to do something. Two things, actually. Change our view and enact boundaries. Doing those two things is the difference between being a door and a doormat.
Having been trained in improv comedy, I realized that many of the rules of the art of making up stuff on the spot can be used in everyday conversations.
The 6 Improv rules I talk about in this episode are:
- Yes, And
- Choose to Know
- Someone’s gotta lose
- Make the other person look good
- First, second, and third on
- End with a Button
I explain how teens can apply these tips in social settings to make talking with other people go a whole lot smoother.
Many teens are feeling trapped inside their house right now. Like a prisoner of war. So, I thought I'd tell the story of an actual POW and see what we can learn from how he dealt with a really bad situation while being held as a prisoner if Vietnam.
What we think about becomes reality. Every time.
So, if you are thinking about your dreams often they are more likely to come true. But, if you are thinking about your nightmares often, those will become reality. Which will be horrible if your worst nightmare is being chased by a giant spider!
But, for realsies, your thoughts show up in your results. If you are constantly thinking you can't do something then you won't. If you are thinking you'll fail at something then you will.
In this episode, I tell a story from my high school experience that changed my life forever.
Forget about making friends, I want to teach you how to make enemies. Because once you learn how to do that, you can stop. If you want.
This episode covers how teens can dissolve the enemies in their lives and feel happier and safer in social settings.
Got a case of insecurity? There's a cure for that. And it's not what you think.
Many people think if you want to be more secure you have to be more successful. Wrong-o!
That's like treating a broken leg by giving the person a pair of crutches. That might help them get around, but unless you treat that broken leg they are going to need those crutches for a looong time.
In times of stress, anger, sadness or depression, many teens have asked, "What's wrong with me?"
Nothing is wrong with you. You just have feelings. And if you don't know what feelings are, where they come from, or what to do with them, then it can seem like something has gone horribly wrong when you feel them.
But it hasn't.
In this episode I explore the mystery that are emotions and how all of them, even the bad ones, are a normal part of life.
Your power in life–your ability to show up as the person you want to be at all times–is directly connected to your self-worth. If you think you have lots of worth, then your power goes up. If you think you ain't worth two nickels in a pile of dirt, then your power flutters away.
What if you could find the source of absolute worth? Then you find the source of absolute power. And you'd pretty much be an unstoppable force. I clue you in to the source of unlimited power in this episode.
Pretty much all teens everywhere have been grounded for a month or two due to the COVID-19 pandemic. This much time at home alone without the ability to socialize can get boring and depressing.
In this episode I give some tips on controlling your thoughts and creating some structure to your days so that you won't go stark, raving mad.
Do you view yourself as the hero or the sidekick in your life? If you're not sure, consider the following:
Heroes have the power to change their fate. Sidekicks do not.
A hero knowns that every failure or setback will eventually lead to their victory. Sidekicks do not.
Heroes save themselves. Sidekicks need to be saved by someone else.
Heroes put themselves front and center in their lives. Sidekicks take the back seat to others.
How do you view yourself?
If you don't currently view yourself as the hero of your own story, that's okay. The good news is you can become your own hero whenever you're ready.